Oh yeah. I'll never forget there was one other black woman who was a manager (she left). My colleague said to her "I don't understand how you look so young is it plastic surgery?" another time a colleague said to me that she couldn't believe my age...and of course my manager stared me down with a screw face. Pure jealousy they have towards us. All that hate must be what causes them to age so quick.
I just got let go last wk. I knew that wanted me gone when i didn't take the bait when they wanted me to argue with a co-worker. When they saw me handled it professionally, that intimated them more.
@@satin.satsuma when somebody looks like emperor palpatine when they're 30 yeah that is pretty messed up. People need to stop using the dark side of the force and become proper Jedis
@satin.satsuma they are so jealous at how we age. ive seen it with this beautiful and I mean just drop dead gorgeous 52 year black women at My last job. I thought she was no older than 35 until she said she had adult children. She didn't have a wrinkle or line on her face and glowing smooth skin. She had a curvy figure and her and I would always talk about how people assumed she had work done. I would hear co workers talking about BBL. She never had work done. I miss her.
@@jeremyross7939 there are people in this world that will try to apply stereotype to someone and when it doesn't stick they'll keep trying to gaslight you so that they can reaffirm their already messed up beliefs. One of the reasons working from home became a good option for many is because people get tired of the games and psychological warfare in the workplace. There are people that only like you if they view you as being beneath them , but the moment you achieve equal a greater they turn around and hate you immediately.
@@SouthernEmperor I would also add insecure to that list because I can't tell you how many times I've had my grade changed from an A to a F simply because I asked a question or dared to do something more effectively growing up.
I am a black nurse, and I have sadly worked in a predominantly white environment. Hispanics are also there as well, but they were valued over me. I have always had people jealous of my work ethic as a nurse. I was never heard on anything that I said, and someone else's word was always taken over mine. I was never appreciated, and I was always belittled. I have never had a great experience being the only black nurse, sadly. The toxic world that we live in. We black people are so racially profiled. Being Black in America is the hardest thing to be.
Please stay positive and be strong. If you’re a person who believes in God, pray for the Almighty to give you his FULL ARMOR. They will use microagressions. Stay strong and understand that WE know and understand. Be prayerful and grow stronger in your strength! 🙏
Yes, bc I’m sure you’re faultless and did absolutely nothing to cause everyone to distance themselves from you. Playing the victim is repulsive to people believe it or bot
I'm currently dealing with this now. I feel like im being gaslighted about my abilities. They keep saying "you lack confidence" over and over again just because im naturally quiet. Then at the same time, they ignore or shut down any ideas or suggestions I make. How does that make sense?
This!! Couldn’t have put it better. I had performing “at my level” and in some formal feedbacks “above my level” from various managers but one person’s perception of me “lacking confidence” meant they denied my promotion lol.
@@noway1343I am a "code switcher". I am loyal to my people black and the whites who gave me help and opportunity. Don't get multi-lingualism confused with disloyalty - for once - please.
I hate using race as a crutch but I recently accepted an Engineer role at an all white employer. I'm literally the only black/minority here. What this brother is conveying in this video i've found to be 100% its annoying coming to work everyday. All I want to do is pay bills and move through life smmhhhh
Corporation and Plantations are the same thing. Im a rebellious slave and I dont care if Im fired. We must stop looking for support from them and support ourselves. Stop participating in their systems of command, period and create your own businesses
It is critical to keep moving forward when they are trying to “get you out of there” I was in a new job, at a hospital I really wanted to work at in a really fantastic unit. There were only 2 black people, 1 Asian and now I come in as the only Hispanic. The two people training me were white. The undermining, calling out my mistakes publicly, the embarrassment, not giving me information that I needed in a timely manner , The condescending tone, all day, Went on for three solid months. During my final evaluation, they tried to indicate that I was not going to make it at this job. it was a Hispanic educator from another department who said “no, she will be fine, personally go out and work with her on the unit for half a day and let you know” she tweaked a minor few things (which they were targeting) and everything worked out because she advocated for me. I am still here 15 years later.
@@jrod0515 That's because there's a lot of people that love chaos and drama. Some people work to go on vacation other people work to survive. I once had a speech teacher that would only talk to you when an audience was present and nothing regarding his mistakes. The trick is to just be as indifferent and empathetic as humanely possible.
THIS! "From pet to threat" hit home. I'm so confused by all of this...I spent 10 years as the only black working in my department in banking, which outside of the collections or call center environments, is mostly white. But there I was, working hard and getting promoted EVERY. YEAR. in this "good ol' boy" space. I then transition to tech and start coding, and working for a company that shoves DEI down everyone's throats. Been there 4 years and have yet to get a promotions, despite doing the MOST. I finally left that job, even without having anything lined up-I experienced all you spoke of at the "woke" tech company, but hardly any of it at the "good ol' boy bank". Make it make sense?! But yes it's tiring. I'm. only 45 and have spent 20 years in corporate America, oftentimes being the black. At this point I don't even want another job in the US; I will gladly go to Costa Rica and teach surfing or yoga and call it a day.
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I've seen the exact opposite when whites works for predominantly black business, it's like they gets special treatment and are treated differently. I don't know why we are like this, yes I know that we all should be treated equally but that's not the case.
Yes black people need to understand that we are all that we have. We have to work together, protect each other, love each other, buy from each other businesses. We are honestly all that we have. The other races don’t care about us they only care about there own race at the end of that day and preserving there own people.
That’s literally just racist and creates a retarded divide, I was adopted by loving white parents, anyone one of any race can be a loving or loathing individual race doesn’t make u shit it’s just a skin suit
My mental and physical health was almost destroyed by a blue eyed devil. I developed stroke symptoms after 2 years of working under her evil eyes but my guardian angel had a purpose and I survived the ordeal. Thankfully she clashed with so many people that she felt it best in her evil interest to leave. She is a demon sent from Satan and I feel so sorry for the tortured souls who work under her now.
There is a lot of truth to what you describe here. The key is to develop a thick skin and to develop friendships or allies. A lot of black professionals take the bait and file weak EEO complaints or formally grieve before it is justified. Take notes and build cases with histories of incidents before you file complaints. Otherwise you’ll be labeled a troublemaker.
I never seen a video so spot on! The workplace is definitely stressful and toxic! I want a remote job so bad but where I don't have to have much video interaction.
Had a gf that thought she was in.... I tried to explain to her how to move around these people but she wouldn't listen. I told her don't go thinking that she got friends. And sure enough she went and told them her personal business and next thing you know the whole company knew it and made it up to the CEO. And she was literally crying in her sleep by the embarrassment and shame. After I literally advised her not to confide in these people. Talk about booksmart but stupid as a mother f*****....smh she was a micro biologist, degree in forensics but didn't have enough sense not trust these people....smh. get you a spouse with basic commom sense
@@AJthEenigmatic I swear that story reminds me of the countless times I have tried to give advice or instruct people on how to deal with corporate. They often get upset and call me cold and calculating when I explain to them how they're going to be viewed and the way they're going to be treated. If you know what you're doing you're going to be far more hated and despise than someone who doesn't. I feel bad for her but I hope she learned from it. To this day the most hilarious thing I've ever heard when applying for anything is when the employer says "we're like a family here" LOL .
I was the only black employee at a job that I had last year and baby they abused me emotionally to no end. The covert disrespect, undermining your ideas, blatantly counting you out but trying to do it discreetly to make you think you're tripping, acting oblivious when they offend you, saying covertly racist things to see if you pick up on it, making me come into the office while everyone else gets to work from home, it was all too much! My boss would act embarrassed of me when outside white ppl came into the office, it's like she had to make excuses for hiring me. It was very toxic and stressful! However, had the nerve to try to to gaslight and guilt trip me for leaving.
As a teacher and I live in Europe I’m mentally exhausted … it’s very tiring, I was going to stay for one more year but December is my last month. Both the whites in America and Europe are one and the same
@@sunflowerlovesbees is a very simple solution to this and I think a lot of people overlook. Master whatever your craft is and work from home even become your own boss if it's possible. And then if someone tries to play some weird psychological warfare with you smile at them like your Japanese nod and then just do what you're going to do anyway which is your job. I've had many people tell me what I'm going to do for them and I smile nod and I go right back to what I was doing.
VERY HELPFUL! I’m 25, first in my family to graduate, and first to work in corporate America . I really thought I was going crazy & I was mad at my family for not teaching me what being in these spaces would be like before I started working in these companies. Thank you for some clarity
My corporate job gave me a mental breakdown, and it was definitely one of the better ones in comparison to other places, I wish you well in your career 🙏🏽
Hi, I understand but don’t be mad at your family for it. It’s not their fault. The blame is really to those who normalize toxic work environments and discriminate others in the workplace. First generation go through a lot alone in college and in corporate jobs. It’s so sad that we go through this but I hope we all find something better.
I dont have to be the only black person. Most big companies will have black people but they are threatened by a certain type of black personality if u will.
@@missfrancis8175 Wow, so true. There was one other Black female who sat near me where a white colleague and a latino, best friends, just hated me and talked about me and the Latino one particulularly nasty. The Black colleague witnessed everything and I once said to her, 'did you see how she reacted to me?" Her response what that she did not want to get involved and got up and walked away. To this day she no longer speaks to me. The one 1 other Black female on the side where I work not only refuses to speak to me since I requested a seat change, but she's outright unfriendly and won't even hold a door open for me.
@@p.m.2131 treat them like apostles and just ignore them for your own mental health. I know this is mean to say but you have to be completely indifferent to such people.
I’m black and i have to deal with the superiority complex of these people and worse off is i have to deal with an white ass licking black person too. It’s really affecting my spirit… I find it difficult to speak to anyone of any race
brother this video needs to go viral. Working in corporate settings while black is one of the most mentally taxing things we go through. Then have to come home and be emotionally available to your family and loved ones. Racial bias is very real, especially in spaces that are apparently to supposed to help us
So true!!! It is exhausting. This is why I cannot wait until God executes justice upon those who seek to oppress innocent ones. Much appreciation for the engagement. Stay up!
@@Patrickstarrrrr69I really hate this loaded comment because it's not that simple. Besides, if everyone owned their business, someone will have to work for them.
I am a strong confidence black man, and they dont like it at all. Longest I have had a job is 13 months. They do not want black men to rise in the work force. They do not want black men having a retirement plan. They want black men relient on black women for support to keep the community weak. I worked a job at a lumber yard. 3 black men total worked there including myself. The majority was latino, and the administrative staff was white. None of the white men had Degrees. I have a degree in Business Administration. They let me go, (im in an at will state) they did not want me getting past 90 days and applying for an Administrative role. I would have been able to jump ahead of a lot of career workers there. And that didnt sit well with them.
When people see someone that doesn't fit The stereotype it tends to intimidate people. They start to view you as more of a threat than anybody actually doing something bad. They like it that way because then they don't have to think about it. " In other words they might as well be saying how dare you not live up to my messed up expectation of you" The higher you rise you'll quickly find yourself losing a lot of so called friends.
I'm an asian dude and I feel ya man... When I open the teams meeting and everysingle person is white I'm like this is gonna be a loooooooooong ride lol.
Asians will be the majority in CA and already are in Unuv Cal workspaces. They act even worse towards AA people. Hopefully you'll remember what it felt like.
This was the most validating monologue of the truth about being black in corporate America. When you said they will go against you just because they don't vibe with your energy....YES!!! So freaking true. Thank you. I feel like I just had a conversation with my big bro who validated everything I keep to myself about my experience. I'm paid very well so I just play the game back and bid my time until they let me go or until I find something better. This was so therapeutic. Thank you.
I really think a lot of people need to start taking a page from the Japanese handbook and start incorporating a lot of those values if this type of crap treatment is going to continue to be a thing. Seems like the only solution to me.
Everything stated in this video is absolutely true. I am currently experiencing this in my current position and have experienced it in the past. These people are highly repulsive and immature, and there’s nothing that you can do or say to change their hearts. The only thing you can do is find somewhere else to go, or start your own business. We know not all are this way. But from experience where I live the majority of them act this way. It's very sad that we still have a long way to go in this society!💯
I got enough crap experience in college in general to let me know I didn't want to work for nobody but me. I'm sorry that happened to you but you pretty much have to understand that there is no real professionalism in corporate anymore. Just a bunch of repulsive immature kindergarten bulltshit. After a while you can't even take it seriously because it sounds like something out of a bad movie.
Brother I needed your message today. I am dealing with it right now on job. I know I’m good but they don’t want me to talk in meetings. If I do explain how I see the problem They go straight at you with knifes. I was told today not to speak on calls
Brother, let me just say I feel your pain. The silencing and colonization of black and brown voices is nothing new. Colonization is in white blood. The best thing you can do is arm yourself with information. Be knowledgeable. Document all microaggressions and attempts to silence you and REFUSE to be dismissed, infantalized and shoved into a corner. It's time to pushback in a way that elevates you even if that means creating an exit strategy to another agency where your talents, skills and abilities will be appreciated. You have power. You are strong King. Now launch. Your time is always NOW!
Noticed this as well. They can't stand it if you raise concerns to try and fix a problem. Yet if another white colleague raises that same concern they get praised and credited.
As a Chicano man your experience matters too. Just know you are not alone brother. I feel you. Let's continue to support and upbuild each other cuz we are all we got.
Be sure to tell your son to watch out for the emotional and psychological warfare tactics that people play in the workplace. It's not a family it's more like a mental ward. And yes there are people fully prepared for the cost of the company tons of money based on how they feel about somebody , and even when the truth is found out that they got someone injured or almost killed them due to neglect of equipment nobody will do a damn thing. I've had people tell me they are considering moving their business to Japan and other places.
You got it.... micro aggressions. Egonegativity. I can relate. I was the only black designer for 23 years at the firm. My designs always got patented. But certain individuals that i trained thought that they knew more than me about stuff they never even learned. I had to check a few people. They most got straight after that. Its not a game... you are at covert WAR. You better not ever drop your guard. And never slip...and be 10x better than your competitors. 48 laws of power. Never outshine the master. In other words...your covert strategy for excellence must be well protected. Always keep your secret techniques YOUR big secret... keep learning how to be new and Valuable to your industry. Black man we gotta collaborate and make the way that the world will need to have. Lets create systems. It is time now. Hurry up.
This needs to go viral. Everything you said is true. From restaurants to corporate environments. It’s a way to keep them off your back but you gotta tap into that dark side
I recently had a situation happen where a colleague made a comment about my hair (I was wearing passion twists). We are all remote and manager forced us to turn on our cameras without warning one day, so that everyone could “embrace their natural beauty” while the boss was put together. Lol. Anyway, once I turned my camera on, someone made a comment saying “wow your hair got so long!” Mind you I’m the only black person in this meeting and everyone else are caucasian females. No comments were made about anyone else’s hair or appearance so I felt awkward, uncomfortable, put on the spot, and singled out. I did not appreciate that at all. I didn’t even respond. And you’re right. Their superiority level is 20,000 & condescension is very subtle and covert.
I agree but we had our own businesses and own communities but the Boomer and Silent generations let Martin Luther King tell black ppl we need to be integrated and it's been hell ever since. We absolutely never should've integrated with these folks. We should've been focused on building strong communities and families and even a strong black militia. We are paying the price now and it sucks.
@@SheLuvsTheSun Funny part is the reason they are successful is because they never integrated with us lol. They keep their communities and build businesses with themselves. That’s why they still have power even tho they almost lost it all.
Thank you for this video. I really needed it. My last day was yesterday and I was treated unfairly. I was the only Hispanic and when you said that these people are good at acting nice I couldn’t agree more.
That's part of the problem as well. If you happen to be highly good at your job a Target pretty much gets put on your back. I remember I once left a job due to no longer being able to stomach the borderline immature psychotic behavior. Some people go to work to survive other people go to work on vacation and that has been made very clear when it comes to corporate America.
Hey L., Let me first say, Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I've viewed several of your videos but baby this one hit like no other. You have expressed what I've been going through from the moment I began my current job. I now know what I have to do to keep my sanity. I especially enjoyed the part where you described, the gang or mob behavior they exact on people they don't like. It's down right atrocious. They live having the crowd all worked up to see you fall. It's very intentional they way they come for you because they feel threatened by your very existence. This may surprise many, but I endured these behaviors from people who were supposed to love me, my family. Most of my life I've endured the ridicule, the undermining of my opinion or ideas, to the non support of family when I've achieved a goal. Yet they always were demanding my time and services when it benefitted them. Never was I valued or made to feel welcome. The same goes for some relationships I've put up with. I was always the one left with a void to fill after giving them my all. Thank you for giving me the language I'll need to combat this evil and toxic force that is trying to annihilate me and everything about me. It's time for me to leave that plantation mentality behind and begin my entrepreneurship life so that I can create the world I envision. 🕊️
Sherry, I know it is rough. Sounds like you have been considering launching from your present job and rightfully so. We get but so many good years on this earth and they should not be wasted combating the slings and arrows of low-key bigots! You deserve better so if you have not already done so, it's time to begin taking interviews with prospective employers that honor your gifts, talents and abilities. I will keep you lifted up in prayer! ❤️
I have Never commented on a UA-cam video in my life. But I have to say thank thank you thank you for the validation. I watched this after crying on my way to work. You've reminded me that I'm not crazy, I'm not making this up in my head. Thank you. I no longer feel alone in this pain. Whew! I never had my feelings and thoughts articulated so well. You described my experience to the T
They most likely projected their guilt of mistreating black people in the community onto you smh. What is meant for you will never pass you by just keep your head up and something better will open up for you.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤4 Day work week ! I have been saying this for years!! I got spoken to being to nice and smiling all the time. They hate how happy I am despite the misery they try to cause!! ❤ I am up for the fight EVERYDAY!! LOVE conquers all! Thank you for this video much appreciated and needed ❤❤
I went ahead & liked this 16 seconds in lol and I'm gonna go ahead and follow you. Thank you SO much for speaking on THIS. I'm hanging on your every word and I feel you. I've been the "only" for far too long. I'm tired. I'm anxious. I'm enraged. I'm lonely. I'm perplexed by why I'm even the "only" at this point. I've been working in the architectural (construction) field for about 8 years. I can't stand it anymore. Thank you for speaking on this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Much love and happy holidays brother. -Drea in Washington DC (I just moved here from Connecticut to escape predominately YT spaces)
This doesn't just happen to black people. I was the only Asian male in an all-white middle-aged white women's accounting department and I can relate to your experience. It is extremely unpleasant.
I've had a very similar experience when it's coming to HR and now I'm at the point where I just assume it isn't there to really protect anybody who's a guy.
This is very true, I’m in a predominantly white space as a fleet Administrator. Never see any black dudes in this role. I replaced a white dude who didn’t want the job, but somehow the title went from manager to analyst, but the duties are the same and they even added more. When I go to the conventions,they like how you got here? The people over me like to dangle carrots on promotion and raises. It’s down right sickening, but I’ve found away around it. I’ll owe them more than they will ever owe me.😅
You know it's for that very reason I pretty much developed the work ethic and mentality of a Japanese person. When I was younger stuff like that used to bother me now I just completely ignore people and do what I need to do.
I’m going through this now I’m the only Black person at my job and going to lose my job because she’s upset that I’m not friends with her. She complained about me looking at her at the same time complaining that don’t request help from her.
It's because you weren't doing the Mickey mouse smile. You pretty much have to master the art of talking to people for a long period of time without ever saying much about yourself. When people are divisive you pretty much have to act like you're in Disneyland because even though it's not part of the job there are some extremely fake people in this world.
Thank you SO MUCH for making this video. The challenges we face in the corporate world can take a massive toll on our mental well-being. I can feel your pain as if it were my own. Actually, it is my own because I have experienced everything you've mentioned and more. I am a CPA and I recently started a job at a CPA firm where I'm the only black person in the office. I have 11 years of experience and worked with fortune 500 companies. Im very good at what i do and im very confident about it. Because of this, I have faced a lot of conflicts with white people (unprovoked). I have always been the only black one in their spaces for a long time, but I've never felt the racism like this one. I've always been able to manage it for the most part until recently. My manager has been against me since day one. She knows the wealth of knowledge I'm bringing in, and she feels very threatened. Unfortunately for my case, I was let go recently. Ask me why? They said verbatim, "You are too strong for the position. We underestimated your experiences, and you're not a good fit." Racial bias is very real and if you haven't gone through it, you'd never understand. It breaks you down mentally and emotionally. It's very unfair and I feel so sad that we have to go through this knowing we are very qualified. If anyone is going through this, I'm giving you a virtual hug. I know how tough it is. I am currently trying to pick myself back up. Hang in there, and please take care of your mental health.
This is another reason why I started working from home before it became a thing. No office politics in your face and a certain amount of freedom. It's not for everyone but working remotely has worked for me. It was my jump off to starting my own biz.
I strongly promote them more people work from home because office politics are extremely annoying and only the most incompetent people engage in it. The lockdown was bad for some but a blessing for others. After a while the mind games and the constant mood swings of other people can get to you. Let people deal with their office drama and do the best you can do.
This is Facts!!! So many of us have seen this from day one of ever having a job….i have always observed and felt the negative vibes and superiority. Staying on guard, holding in MY TRUTH and watching them speak 🗣️ theirs and get away with pure murder.. Thank you for this!
Exclusion, lie about u, gaslight, think u r unprofessional when u voice your concerns, yeahhhh they see u as a pet they have to train show u how to do things even when u have the same qualifications...
You could have the same qualifications or greater, be the most well-spoken professional in the room and that alone will get you put on a shit list long before anybody who fits the opposite of those qualities would be put on one. I've since then learned to work for myself, consider everyone a potential enemy until proven otherwise and even then still keep an exit plan just in case. That's how corporate works and unfortunately how life kind of works.
This is SO True! It's tiring! To combat workplace bullying successfully, I can only credit my relationship with Jesus Christ. I have a daily devotional time in the mornings that anchors my soul in God's truth of who I am. I repeat daily affirmations - to reaffirm my worth AND I study spiritual warfare to understand the enemies' tactics. This is the only thing that has helped me navigate the toxic work environment and microaggressions.
He dropped knowledge in this video. Worked on a team where the jobs REQUIRED a BS degree. Only 1 out of 6 leaders had a degree, and it showed in their written work. It was a good ol boy system
Yes! Everything so eloquently, deliberately, accurately, and beautifully shared and stated in this presentation is the absolute truth. I can relate!! Blessings to you and wishes for healing.
It’s like this in predominantly black spaces if we really being honest. Black people in leadership take on the white spirit and mentality and do the same things you just talked about.
In his example, you could swap out the black person for any other black person and they would feel what he feels...In your example, I beileve it is specific to the black person.
Unfortunately, it’s not the same but some of the mindset is similar, very much crabs in a bucket. But, overall, I’d still prefer that over breaking bread with them any day. May we fully come together soon. 🙏🏽
@@user-gn8qn5wd6i Great. You must appreciate your own kind, NOT demand appreciation from others. Also, critics is easy, do better is always a problem. When you fully come together soon, don't call it "segregation and it hurts black people badly" and try to do better. Better late than never.
Wow, looking back on my first job after watching this video, so much of it made sense. I was naive back then and I think I just projected my moral on other people, I didn’t want to think anyone was being malicious, but… Wow. I was fortunate enough that I wasn’t the only black person for long, and the Asian people I worked with were all helping too; we jokingly referred to each other as the minority shift, and we always worked together and got shit done. We’re stronger together, it’s a shame people think there’s only enough room for themselves at the top. Too many people want to squeeze their way into a fucked up system in hopes their lives improve instead of trying to fix the system and make room for others. Sure it won’t be easy, but that’s why the work isn’t done yet.
My heart cries out to this post. To be able to sum all of this up is amazing . Sometimes is feels to difficult to explain it all . Great job . Thank you
I agree with everything you said, I worked with all white and Hispanics at my job for 5 years in a nursing home I was the only black one for a long time and I definitely felt like this.
My only addition to this is that it also largely applies to non black people of color as well. They’re just as bad and sometimes worse because they have a chip on their shoulder and feel like they have to solidify their place in the “hierarchy” by lashing out
I have experienced all of these things, as a 'black' employee within a predominately white and black establishment. Even in a mix business environment, I would constantly deal with these toxic types and tactics from both groups because they perceived me as a threat, for one reason or another.... My coping mechanism was/is the power of words and standing on my square. I documented everything and never let the right hand see what the left was doing. It got to the point where most of these insecure toxic people would never come anywhere near me because they already knew that I AM always 10 steps ahead of them. Although, I would always end up being 'black balled' or 'blacklisted' -- I really didn't care because I preferred a piece of mind and OWNING my integrity, OVER a bigger title and paycheck and guess what? All of these years later, I am still standing, as most of those who fought like hell to bury and deny me, have fallen and fallen hard. These people's fear, toxicity and disrespect WILL BE their undoing and they will have no one to blame but themselves. #TheGreatEqualibrium
I have seen people damn near lose a quarter of a million over how they personally felt about other people. And after having someone almost kill me because the equipment was not checked properly which I would have done as I always do I was done and just said screw it. Corporate America is filled with a bunch of insane shenanigans and due to the straight up unprofessionalism it's hard to take it seriously. It's like high school 2.0 all over again.
I feel you. Everything you say is true. I've been there and still am there, to some extent. What it boils down to is that many white Americans are dealing with a lot of suffering, so instead of resolving it, they project it to other people. You would think that they would want to be grounded and whole, but that's impossible to do, since they are using whiteness as a crutch.
This !!! It’s like the idea of I’m poor but atleast I’m not dirt poor . And looking down on the dirt poor people . I feel as though the working class non blacks are more upset at not reaching the so call American dream so it’s easier to pick on those who society says is beneath them.
They are definitely suffering by their standards. They project and I get a kick out of it😂 i make them uncomfortable. And they hate that I get all the company benefits
@@AJthEenigmatic what I failed I understand is how can somebody on one end tell a person to pull themself up by their bootstraps and say that the system isn't broken, then when you actually do succeed at anything or hold a high position then the system is somehow broken and needs to be corrected at all cost lol.
You were preaching! Whew! I’m winded! This was so on point it is scary. I’m currently studying Racial Battle Fatigue and this is that! Working in these spaces is exhausting. Thank you so much for sharing this video!! 🖤🖤🖤
I need this... thank you so much for this. You just don't know how much I needed this pick-me-up. I will not " fall asleep at the wheel". Thank you so much. I will support me.
exactly the video I was searching for, its because they're intimidated by your talent /greatness, this is happening to me, im a black man with good genetics for building a physique, an the white boys in the gym have been giving me rude looks even the women instead of giving credit, they're trying to undermine me !! so there for im gonna work harder, cos if i was doing this to them i would be in prison, ive been bullied insulted repeatedly for years, had a pack of haters gang up on me to try ruin my hard work tell others not to engage in talking to me, to make me feel belittled an pushed out, thats what happens when you level up, or if your blessed with a natural talent.
You know what they say it's lonely at the top of the mountain but it is what it is. Learn total indifference and it will bother people. Lol. There are some people in this world that the only time they could ever feel good about themselves is when somebody is under them even if it's an illusion.
Brother : Salute to you and this message … The fact that I searched for these type videos is enough to know I’m unfortunately experiencing this type environment…
Bro this is the video of all videos in the history of videos on this topic..I been searching and searching and it feels realll good to see that I’m not alone with what we go through in our places of employment/corporate America. I’m in tech as a network engineer and it has taken a toll on my mind and spirit…tech is highly competitive and toxic and I’ve been going through it but I know who I am and where I come from and our history and it has helped me greatly mentally and spiritually. But I’ve decided that this environment isn’t for me long term as I live my life so I need an exit strategy to build something for myself and so I can be around my people. Cause I feel 1,000 times better when I’m with my own people
As a 32 year old black men, you named everything that ive been going through eversince i can remember from 1st grade until now. Peace and Love Brother. Im going to share this video on my Facebook.
Out of curiosity did they ever try to change your grade because that happened to me so many times growing up and even when I got to college it would upset people when I got an A . I've had professors and even other students attempt to try to make me look unknowledgeable at things that I have more knowledge and experience than they do. After years of this happening I decided to start working for myself and never looked back. Ask this question because I'm curious is that the norm because I rarely ever had that problem in other places.
The comments are so heartbreaking. To see so many black professionals who have to endure toxic work environments is not okay. As an HR professional, sadly I too have had to experience the same toxicity in the same workplace where I am dedicated to helping others succeed and feel included, meanwhile on a daily I have to deal with the workplace shenanigans.
You might want to talk to some people who personally remember the 1950s and find out why segregation was not working for them. It boils down to this: Segregation won't work for you unless you _control_ the politics and economics of the larger social environment. If you don't control the politics and economics of the larger social environment, being segregated just makes you the easy target of those who have that control.
@@rdkirk3834that’s BS. As history shows black people progressed at higher rates, had less broken homes, and incarceration . They implemented integration to destroy us.
@@NarutoUzumaki-xg9et That is my point. If we don't have that control, then segregation will put us exactly where we were 60 years ago: Easily targeted. In fact, that still happens where black people are geographically targetable, like south east Dallas and New Orleans.
As well, white women who are Karens are always trying to find my flaws in order to snitch on my supervisor!!! They don’t want me to succeed 😂 I totally get you brother 😂
That's because you haven't worked around me yet. Whenever I catch somebody spying on me I always pick up the phone and then turn and ask they do they know the launch code. That seems to get them to want to leave me alone pretty quickly lol.
This is a great post. Thank you for sharing Brother! I was the one black professional (Psychologist) in an all white setting for 12 years, and yes, I was unsafe psychologically the whole time. As black professionals, we really need to have mechanisms to defeat invisibility syndrome and imposter syndrrome in those moments when our white colleagues gaslight us and play microaggressive games. We need to be what I call "Visible Winners" in the face of passive white oppression in the workplace. Thank you again for sharing this. Well done!
Excellent video. Nothing over exaggerated here. Nobody could have said this any better. This is coming from a 63 year old black man. Every black person should take heed of this video. Good job young brotha, i will be passing this video on to others.❤
You are such a sweet soul. To have my experience put into words is so validating and I feel less isolated. I quit my toxic job working with a bunch of white mormons from Utah. Even working remotely I couldnt escaoe the unfair criticism, being held to a higher standard than my peers, feeling left out during meetings, having any small error blown WAY out of proportion. The last straw was being put back into training after only being there 8 weeks. My mental health took a nosedive so I quit and I think it eas the best decision I could make. Thanks for making this vid. I subscribed too ❤
I'm an educator in a school where I love ALL of my students especially my black and brown. I am literally experiencing everything he has shared here. I could go on forever...
I always find it interesting when I hear other black people advocating for "brown" people and talking about how much they love them because from my experience they don't love us. They are just as racist and hateful as whites but to each his own.
Thank you so much. Everything you said is what I have also experienced. God bless you. I so much resonate with this message. In fact it has helped to calm me down. Thank you
And what’s even worst is the black people who are at the jobs who work in tandem and support these antics
“On one hand they admire you, on the other hand they want you gone, they don’t want you to exist.” Painful but so true.😢
Oh yeah. I'll never forget there was one other black woman who was a manager (she left). My colleague said to her "I don't understand how you look so young is it plastic surgery?" another time a colleague said to me that she couldn't believe my age...and of course my manager stared me down with a screw face. Pure jealousy they have towards us. All that hate must be what causes them to age so quick.
I just got let go last wk. I knew that wanted me gone when i didn't take the bait when they wanted me to argue with a co-worker. When they saw me handled it professionally, that intimated them more.
Oh yes he was preaching 🙏🏾
@@satin.satsuma when somebody looks like emperor palpatine when they're 30 yeah that is pretty messed up. People need to stop using the dark side of the force and become proper Jedis
@satin.satsuma they are so jealous at how we age. ive seen it with this beautiful and I mean just drop dead gorgeous 52 year black women at My last job. I thought she was no older than 35 until she said she had adult children. She didn't have a wrinkle or line on her face and glowing smooth skin. She had a curvy figure and her and I would always talk about how people assumed she had work done. I would hear co workers talking about BBL. She never had work done. I miss her.
They were aggressive for another reason you did not mention. You are an attractive and articulate young man. They are jealous af
Yeah my roommate is Caucasian, and he kinda acts like this. The micro aggression
@@jeremyross7939 there are people in this world that will try to apply stereotype to someone and when it doesn't stick they'll keep trying to gaslight you so that they can reaffirm their already messed up beliefs. One of the reasons working from home became a good option for many is because people get tired of the games and psychological warfare in the workplace.
There are people that only like you if they view you as being beneath them , but the moment you achieve equal a greater they turn around and hate you immediately.
And then god forbid you are an attractive intelligent black woman who doesn’t fit the stereotype or box they want us in 😂
They are VERY jealous.
@@SouthernEmperor I would also add insecure to that list because I can't tell you how many times I've had my grade changed from an A to a F simply because I asked a question or dared to do something more effectively growing up.
Omg, I turned in my resignation letter today and I spoke about this and this just confirmed everything I was dealing with
That’s what they want in the end.
Me too.
This is why many of these places want to get rid of WFH. WFH is a lifesaver for black people.
What's that?
Is WFH, Work Force Hatred?
@@visionentertainment8006work from home.
@@visionentertainment8006work from home
@@visionentertainment8006 Work from home remove yourself from these envious people so they can hate each other
imagine what our ancestors went through....good lawd...
Trust me
and that means what? that we has to accept every bullsht from you people just because "it was worse back than"
@@DerHalbeEuro I wholeheartedly agree
@@DerHalbeEuroanother ignorant probably white guy missing the point lol.
@@DerHalbeEuro Truer words have never been spoken
I am a black nurse, and I have sadly worked in a predominantly white environment. Hispanics are also there as well, but they were valued over me. I have always had people jealous of my work ethic as a nurse. I was never heard on anything that I said, and someone else's word was always taken over mine. I was never appreciated, and I was always belittled. I have never had a great experience being the only black nurse, sadly. The toxic world that we live in. We black people are so racially profiled. Being Black in America is the hardest thing to be.
Please stay positive and be strong. If you’re a person who believes in God, pray for the Almighty to give you his FULL ARMOR. They will use microagressions. Stay strong and understand that WE know and understand. Be prayerful and grow stronger in your strength! 🙏
Yes, bc I’m sure you’re faultless and did absolutely nothing to cause everyone to distance themselves from you. Playing the victim is repulsive to people believe it or bot
@@Patrickstarrrrr69 Get some help for that Wetiko you’re suffering from.
I would hope that you know that whites are 5 times as many. Therefore yes you are probably going to work where their are mostly whites!
@@Patrickstarrrrr69leave
I'm currently dealing with this now. I feel like im being gaslighted about my abilities. They keep saying "you lack confidence" over and over again just because im naturally quiet. Then at the same time, they ignore or shut down any ideas or suggestions I make. How does that make sense?
How is being quiet a lack of confidence ? I’m quiet because I’m quick to say something and if I speak my mind they will say I’m aggressive
@@Moneylovesme672 exactly thats partly why I'm quiet. You can tell most of them haven't been around POC, and clearly have some preconceived ideas.
@@satin.satsumagoing through this now. Someone even pointed out that I don’t participate is gossip like that’s a bad thing lol.
This!! Couldn’t have put it better. I had performing “at my level” and in some formal feedbacks “above my level” from various managers but one person’s perception of me “lacking confidence” meant they denied my promotion lol.
@@fourthquartersports7571 these people are pure evil.
Black people need to stick together at work. It’s not always like that though.
We don't know who the enemy is. I tend to watch my back against everyone for safety.
The codeswitchers won't allow it
@@noway1343I am a "code switcher". I am loyal to my people black and the whites who gave me help and opportunity. Don't get multi-lingualism confused with disloyalty - for once - please.
I hate using race as a crutch but I recently accepted an Engineer role at an all white employer. I'm literally the only black/minority here. What this brother is conveying in this video i've found to be 100% its annoying coming to work everyday. All I want to do is pay bills and move through life smmhhhh
Corporation and Plantations are the same thing. Im a rebellious slave and I dont care if Im fired. We must stop looking for support from them and support ourselves. Stop participating in their systems of command, period and create your own businesses
This! ❤
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Peroittt!
It is critical to keep moving forward when they are trying to “get you out of there” I was in a new job, at a hospital I really wanted to work at in a really fantastic unit. There were only 2 black people, 1 Asian and now I come in as the only Hispanic. The two people training me were white. The undermining, calling out my mistakes publicly, the embarrassment, not giving me information that I needed in a timely manner , The condescending tone, all day, Went on for three solid months. During my final evaluation, they tried to indicate that I was not going to make it at this job. it was a Hispanic educator from another department who said “no, she will be fine, personally go out and work with her on the unit for half a day and let you know” she tweaked a minor few things (which they were targeting) and everything worked out because she advocated for me. I am still here 15 years later.
God Bless that Hispanic educator and more power to you!
man the getting calling called out publicly in a team meeting was crazy for me dawg i was like there’s no way 😂
sounds like racism to me
@@jrod0515 That's because there's a lot of people that love chaos and drama. Some people work to go on vacation other people work to survive. I once had a speech teacher that would only talk to you when an audience was present and nothing regarding his mistakes. The trick is to just be as indifferent and empathetic as humanely possible.
THIS! "From pet to threat" hit home. I'm so confused by all of this...I spent 10 years as the only black working in my department in banking, which outside of the collections or call center environments, is mostly white. But there I was, working hard and getting promoted EVERY. YEAR. in this "good ol' boy" space. I then transition to tech and start coding, and working for a company that shoves DEI down everyone's throats. Been there 4 years and have yet to get a promotions, despite doing the MOST. I finally left that job, even without having anything lined up-I experienced all you spoke of at the "woke" tech company, but hardly any of it at the "good ol' boy bank". Make it make sense?! But yes it's tiring. I'm. only 45 and have spent 20 years in corporate America, oftentimes being the black. At this point I don't even want another job in the US; I will gladly go to Costa Rica and teach surfing or yoga and call it a day.
Jesus loves you, for He created you in His image. You are very special to Him. I want to share this with you: God loves you far more than any other human being on this earth. That is how incredibly precious 💞 you are in His sight ❤
I have gone through abuse, bullying, rejection, and emotional neglect throughout my childhood, yet God rescued me 2 years ago! Even thought there are moments when I went through the fire, God comforts me, and has always protected me. Thank You God.
We live in a fallen sinful world, and we as sinners have transgressed against God's commandments. We are all guilty of punishment. The good news is that Jesus (who is God) manifested in the flesh, came to earth, and took our place of punishment for our sins, even thoufh He is holy, He alone did that for us all - He was crucified amd died on the cross, buried, and rose on the third day defeating sin and death; something we can and would never do/never measure up to...but Jesus did! All you have to do to receive this free gift of eternal salvation is to repent and believe in the good news: who Jesus is and what He did for you, and us all (you are saved the moment you believe - by grace through faith you will be saved). In Jesus name, Amen.
To add on, many believers in the body of Christ were once former yoga practitioners, and know for a fact through their testimony of God's grace that it is a demonic practice that leads many astray from God and onto a path of destruction. Seek the Lord with all of your heart 💝 get to know Him for yourself by asking Him to reveal Himself to you and read His word. He loves you and has created you specifically for His will, He knows your life and has already set it in stone.
Job hopping is the new promotion.
I've seen the exact opposite when whites works for predominantly black business, it's like they gets special treatment and are treated differently. I don't know why we are like this, yes I know that we all should be treated equally but that's not the case.
I have seen it as well. The red carpet. gets pulled out. It’s sickening.
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They see white as a superior still
Because black people have better hearts to our detriment. We’re nice to them because we’re not threatened by them.
Same with the Mexicans now at the white establishment
Yes black people need to understand that we are all that we have. We have to work together, protect each other, love each other, buy from each other businesses. We are honestly all that we have. The other races don’t care about us they only care about there own race at the end of that day and preserving there own people.
That’s literally just racist and creates a retarded divide, I was adopted by loving white parents, anyone one of any race can be a loving or loathing individual race doesn’t make u shit it’s just a skin suit
Hmph 😮💨 Hoes ain't faithful lol
We need to be more discreet. Don’t say you want to support black businesses or specifically hire black people. They use it against us.
Yes, the inconvenient sad truth is we don't get that. We really have no friends so when we do this to each other, it's really a slap in the face
My mental and physical health was almost destroyed by a blue eyed devil. I developed stroke symptoms after 2 years of working under her evil eyes but my guardian angel had a purpose and I survived the ordeal. Thankfully she clashed with so many people that she felt it best in her evil interest to leave. She is a demon sent from Satan and I feel so sorry for the tortured souls who work under her now.
There is a lot of truth to what you describe here. The key is to develop a thick skin and to develop friendships or allies. A lot of black professionals take the bait and file weak EEO complaints or formally grieve before it is justified. Take notes and build cases with histories of incidents before you file complaints. Otherwise you’ll be labeled a troublemaker.
I never seen a video so spot on! The workplace is definitely stressful and toxic! I want a remote job so bad but where I don't have to have much video interaction.
Me too I would love that myself
Had a gf that thought she was in.... I tried to explain to her how to move around these people but she wouldn't listen. I told her don't go thinking that she got friends. And sure enough she went and told them her personal business and next thing you know the whole company knew it and made it up to the CEO. And she was literally crying in her sleep by the embarrassment and shame. After I literally advised her not to confide in these people. Talk about booksmart but stupid as a mother f*****....smh she was a micro biologist, degree in forensics but didn't have enough sense not trust these people....smh. get you a spouse with basic commom sense
@@AJthEenigmatic I swear that story reminds me of the countless times I have tried to give advice or instruct people on how to deal with corporate. They often get upset and call me cold and calculating when I explain to them how they're going to be viewed and the way they're going to be treated. If you know what you're doing you're going to be far more hated and despise than someone who doesn't.
I feel bad for her but I hope she learned from it.
To this day the most hilarious thing I've ever heard when applying for anything is when the employer says "we're like a family here" LOL .
I was the only black employee at a job that I had last year and baby they abused me emotionally to no end. The covert disrespect, undermining your ideas, blatantly counting you out but trying to do it discreetly to make you think you're tripping, acting oblivious when they offend you, saying covertly racist things to see if you pick up on it, making me come into the office while everyone else gets to work from home, it was all too much! My boss would act embarrassed of me when outside white ppl came into the office, it's like she had to make excuses for hiring me. It was very toxic and stressful! However, had the nerve to try to to gaslight and guilt trip me for leaving.
As a teacher and I live in Europe I’m mentally exhausted … it’s very tiring, I was going to stay for one more year but December is my last month. Both the whites in America and Europe are one and the same
A teacher here same they r evil
That’s why I work for myself
@@sunflowerlovesbees is a very simple solution to this and I think a lot of people overlook. Master whatever your craft is and work from home even become your own boss if it's possible. And then if someone tries to play some weird psychological warfare with you smile at them like your Japanese nod and then just do what you're going to do anyway which is your job. I've had many people tell me what I'm going to do for them and I smile nod and I go right back to what I was doing.
@@kozmickitsuneame this is such good advice thank you.
VERY HELPFUL! I’m 25, first in my family to graduate, and first to work in corporate America . I really thought I was going crazy & I was mad at my family for not teaching me what being in these spaces would be like before I started working in these companies. Thank you for some clarity
Hope you’re feeling better brother!
My corporate job gave me a mental breakdown, and it was definitely one of the better ones in comparison to other places, I wish you well in your career 🙏🏽
Hi, I understand but don’t be mad at your family for it. It’s not their fault. The blame is really to those who normalize toxic work environments and discriminate others in the workplace. First generation go through a lot alone in college and in corporate jobs. It’s so sad that we go through this but I hope we all find something better.
I dont have to be the only black person. Most big companies will have black people but they are threatened by a certain type of black personality if u will.
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@@missfrancis8175 Wow, so true. There was one other Black female who sat near me where a white colleague and a latino, best friends, just hated me and talked about me and the Latino one particulularly nasty. The Black colleague witnessed everything and I once said to her, 'did you see how she reacted to me?" Her response what that she did not want to get involved and got up and walked away. To this day she no longer speaks to me. The one 1 other Black female on the side where I work not only refuses to speak to me since I requested a seat change, but she's outright unfriendly and won't even hold a door open for me.
@@p.m.2131 treat them like apostles and just ignore them for your own mental health. I know this is mean to say but you have to be completely indifferent to such people.
And usually they are 🦝 for the yt boss
You are so spot on… I have white woman anxiety because of it
Did you go to St Louis University?
I’m black and i have to deal with the superiority complex of these people and worse off is i have to deal with an white ass licking black person too.
It’s really affecting my spirit… I find it difficult to speak to anyone of any race
Same!
I’m learn to create a mental shield bc they are overly anxious
brother this video needs to go viral. Working in corporate settings while black is one of the most mentally taxing things we go through. Then have to come home and be emotionally available to your family and loved ones. Racial bias is very real, especially in spaces that are apparently to supposed to help us
So TRUE!!
So true!!! It is exhausting. This is why I cannot wait until God executes justice upon those who seek to oppress innocent ones. Much appreciation for the engagement. Stay up!
Then create your own black-only business. No one is stopping you
@@Patrickstarrrrr69 So I guess there is no chance to live in harmony eh?
@@Patrickstarrrrr69I really hate this loaded comment because it's not that simple. Besides, if everyone owned their business, someone will have to work for them.
I am a strong confidence black man, and they dont like it at all. Longest I have had a job is 13 months. They do not want black men to rise in the work force. They do not want black men having a retirement plan. They want black men relient on black women for support to keep the community weak. I worked a job at a lumber yard. 3 black men total worked there including myself. The majority was latino, and the administrative staff was white.
None of the white men had Degrees. I have a degree in Business Administration.
They let me go, (im in an at will state) they did not want me getting past 90 days and applying for an Administrative role. I would have been able to jump ahead of a lot of career workers there. And that didnt sit well with them.
When people see someone that doesn't fit The stereotype it tends to intimidate people. They start to view you as more of a threat than anybody actually doing something bad. They like it that way because then they don't have to think about it. " In other words they might as well be saying how dare you not live up to my messed up expectation of you" The higher you rise you'll quickly find yourself losing a lot of so called friends.
I've experienced this many times and I'm 33% black. One drop rule. 😅
You're not playing the game. Check out The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene.
I'm an asian dude and I feel ya man... When I open the teams meeting and everysingle person is white I'm like this is gonna be a loooooooooong ride lol.
Asians will be the majority in CA and already are in Unuv Cal workspaces. They act even worse towards AA people. Hopefully you'll remember what it felt like.
This was the most validating monologue of the truth about being black in corporate America. When you said they will go against you just because they don't vibe with your energy....YES!!! So freaking true. Thank you. I feel like I just had a conversation with my big bro who validated everything I keep to myself about my experience. I'm paid very well so I just play the game back and bid my time until they let me go or until I find something better. This was so therapeutic. Thank you.
I really think a lot of people need to start taking a page from the Japanese handbook and start incorporating a lot of those values if this type of crap treatment is going to continue to be a thing. Seems like the only solution to me.
@@kozmickitsuneameJapanese handbook ?
@@daisyx1002 ua-cam.com/video/b5t4ceerkhg/v-deo.html
Everything stated in this video is absolutely true. I am currently experiencing this in my current position and have experienced it in the past. These people are highly repulsive and immature, and there’s nothing that you can do or say to change their hearts. The only thing you can do is find somewhere else to go, or start your own business. We know not all are this way. But from experience where I live the majority of them act this way. It's very sad that we still have a long way to go in this society!💯
I got enough crap experience in college in general to let me know I didn't want to work for nobody but me. I'm sorry that happened to you but you pretty much have to understand that there is no real professionalism in corporate anymore. Just a bunch of repulsive immature kindergarten bulltshit. After a while you can't even take it seriously because it sounds like something out of a bad movie.
Brother I needed your message today. I am dealing with it right now on job. I know I’m good but they don’t want me to talk in meetings. If I do explain how I see the problem They go straight at you with knifes. I was told today not to speak on calls
Brother, let me just say I feel your pain. The silencing and colonization of black and brown voices is nothing new. Colonization is in white blood. The best thing you can do is arm yourself with information. Be knowledgeable. Document all microaggressions and attempts to silence you and REFUSE to be dismissed, infantalized and shoved into a corner. It's time to pushback in a way that elevates you even if that means creating an exit strategy to another agency where your talents, skills and abilities will be appreciated. You have power. You are strong King. Now launch. Your time is always NOW!
Noticed this as well. They can't stand it if you raise concerns to try and fix a problem. Yet if another white colleague raises that same concern they get praised and credited.
Damn, I feel this message so hard. Not black, but chicano here and I can't tell you how much they love DEIA
As a Chicano man your experience matters too. Just know you are not alone brother. I feel you. Let's continue to support and upbuild each other cuz we are all we got.
Excellent video. Shared with my son as he starts his first corporate job after college.
Be sure to tell your son to watch out for the emotional and psychological warfare tactics that people play in the workplace. It's not a family it's more like a mental ward. And yes there are people fully prepared for the cost of the company tons of money based on how they feel about somebody , and even when the truth is found out that they got someone injured or almost killed them due to neglect of equipment nobody will do a damn thing. I've had people tell me they are considering moving their business to Japan and other places.
This is one of the best things I've ever seen on UA-cam. You hit the nail on the head with your insight and commentary.
I feel we all were blessed to hear this right now. ✊🏾
You got it.... micro aggressions. Egonegativity. I can relate. I was the only black designer for 23 years at the firm. My designs always got patented. But certain individuals that i trained thought that they knew more than me about stuff they never even learned. I had to check a few people. They most got straight after that. Its not a game... you are at covert WAR.
You better not ever drop your guard. And never slip...and be 10x better than your competitors. 48 laws of power. Never outshine the master. In other words...your covert strategy for excellence must be well protected. Always keep your secret techniques YOUR big secret... keep learning how to be new and Valuable to your industry. Black man we gotta collaborate and make the way that the world will need to have. Lets create systems. It is time now. Hurry up.
This needs to go viral. Everything you said is true. From restaurants to corporate environments. It’s a way to keep them off your back but you gotta tap into that dark side
As someone who's pretty much had to be Darth Vader in his own field at one point I agree.
I recently had a situation happen where a colleague made a comment about my hair (I was wearing passion twists). We are all remote and manager forced us to turn on our cameras without warning one day, so that everyone could “embrace their natural beauty” while the boss was put together. Lol. Anyway, once I turned my camera on, someone made a comment saying “wow your hair got so long!” Mind you I’m the only black person in this meeting and everyone else are caucasian females. No comments were made about anyone else’s hair or appearance so I felt awkward, uncomfortable, put on the spot, and singled out. I did not appreciate that at all. I didn’t even respond. And you’re right. Their superiority level is 20,000 & condescension is very subtle and covert.
Ohh stop being petty 🙄. No matter what you’re going to cry racism. No matter what white people say to you
We gotta stop working for these people. That’s the solution. Come together and build businesses.
I agree but we had our own businesses and own communities but the Boomer and Silent generations let Martin Luther King tell black ppl we need to be integrated and it's been hell ever since. We absolutely never should've integrated with these folks. We should've been focused on building strong communities and families and even a strong black militia. We are paying the price now and it sucks.
@@SheLuvsTheSun Funny part is the reason they are successful is because they never integrated with us lol. They keep their communities and build businesses with themselves. That’s why they still have power even tho they almost lost it all.
Thank you for this video. I really needed it. My last day was yesterday and I was treated unfairly. I was the only Hispanic and when you said that these people are good at acting nice I couldn’t agree more.
That's part of the problem as well. If you happen to be highly good at your job a Target pretty much gets put on your back. I remember I once left a job due to no longer being able to stomach the borderline immature psychotic behavior. Some people go to work to survive other people go to work on vacation and that has been made very clear when it comes to corporate America.
This is spot on and systemic. It happens every organization
Brotha keep making videos. My anxiety has dramatically gone down after watching this
Mine too❤
Hey L.,
Let me first say, Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I've viewed several of your videos but baby this one hit like no other. You have expressed what I've been going through from the moment I began my current job. I now know what I have to do to keep my sanity.
I especially enjoyed the part where you described, the gang or mob behavior they exact on people they don't like. It's down right atrocious. They live having the crowd all worked up to see you fall. It's very intentional they way they come for you because they feel threatened by your very existence.
This may surprise many, but I endured these behaviors from people who were supposed to love me, my family. Most of my life I've endured the ridicule, the undermining of my opinion or ideas, to the non support of family when I've achieved a goal.
Yet they always were demanding my time and services when it benefitted them. Never was I valued or made to feel welcome. The same goes for some relationships I've put up with.
I was always the one left with a void to fill after giving them my all. Thank you for giving me the language I'll need to combat this evil and toxic force that is trying to annihilate me and everything about me. It's time for me to leave that plantation mentality behind and begin my entrepreneurship life so that I can create the world I envision. 🕊️
Sherry, I know it is rough. Sounds like you have been considering launching from your present job and rightfully so. We get but so many good years on this earth and they should not be wasted combating the slings and arrows of low-key bigots! You deserve better so if you have not already done so, it's time to begin taking interviews with prospective employers that honor your gifts, talents and abilities. I will keep you lifted up in prayer! ❤️
I have Never commented on a UA-cam video in my life. But I have to say thank thank you thank you for the validation. I watched this after crying on my way to work. You've reminded me that I'm not crazy, I'm not making this up in my head. Thank you. I no longer feel alone in this pain. Whew! I never had my feelings and thoughts articulated so well. You described my experience to the T
I went through it as the only black police officer for many years until they finally got me out of the job and profession with their evilness 😢
Hopefully you moved onto something better that brings you peace don’t let miserable people bring you down with them
They most likely projected their guilt of mistreating black people in the community onto you smh. What is meant for you will never pass you by just keep your head up and something better will open up for you.
Excellent video, I’m in the Army and I’ve been through so much micro aggressions, offensive “jokes” and other things
Yeeesssss exactly it’s so annoying! Thank you for your service brotha❤✊🏽
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤4 Day work week ! I have been saying this for years!! I got spoken to being to nice and smiling all the time. They hate how happy I am despite the misery they try to cause!! ❤ I am up for the fight EVERYDAY!! LOVE conquers all! Thank you for this video much appreciated and needed ❤❤
I went ahead & liked this 16 seconds in lol and I'm gonna go ahead and follow you. Thank you SO much for speaking on THIS. I'm hanging on your every word and I feel you. I've been the "only" for far too long. I'm tired. I'm anxious. I'm enraged. I'm lonely. I'm perplexed by why I'm even the "only" at this point. I've been working in the architectural (construction) field for about 8 years. I can't stand it anymore. Thank you for speaking on this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Much love and happy holidays brother. -Drea in Washington DC (I just moved here from Connecticut to escape predominately YT spaces)
This doesn't just happen to black people. I was the only Asian male in an all-white middle-aged white women's accounting department and I can relate to your experience. It is extremely unpleasant.
I've had a very similar experience when it's coming to HR and now I'm at the point where I just assume it isn't there to really protect anybody who's a guy.
Thank you for sharing this Brother. Being the 1% in the aircraft industry the message of this video hit my soul. It’s cutthroat out here.
This is very true, I’m in a predominantly white space as a fleet Administrator. Never see any black dudes in this role. I replaced a white dude who didn’t want the job, but somehow the title went from manager to analyst, but the duties are the same and they even added more. When I go to the conventions,they like how you got here? The people over me like to dangle carrots on promotion and raises. It’s down right sickening, but I’ve found away around it. I’ll owe them more than they will ever owe me.😅
You know it's for that very reason I pretty much developed the work ethic and mentality of a Japanese person. When I was younger stuff like that used to bother me now I just completely ignore people and do what I need to do.
I’m going through this now I’m the only Black person at my job and going to lose my job because she’s upset that I’m not friends with her. She complained about me looking at her at the same time complaining that don’t request help from her.
It's because you weren't doing the Mickey mouse smile. You pretty much have to master the art of talking to people for a long period of time without ever saying much about yourself. When people are divisive you pretty much have to act like you're in Disneyland because even though it's not part of the job there are some extremely fake people in this world.
Thank you SO MUCH for making this video. The challenges we face in the corporate world can take a massive toll on our mental well-being. I can feel your pain as if it were my own. Actually, it is my own because I have experienced everything you've mentioned and more.
I am a CPA and I recently started a job at a CPA firm where I'm the only black person in the office. I have 11 years of experience and worked with fortune 500 companies. Im very good at what i do and im very confident about it. Because of this, I have faced a lot of conflicts with white people (unprovoked). I have always been the only black one in their spaces for a long time, but I've never felt the racism like this one. I've always been able to manage it for the most part until recently. My manager has been against me since day one. She knows the wealth of knowledge I'm bringing in, and she feels very threatened. Unfortunately for my case, I was let go recently. Ask me why? They said verbatim, "You are too strong for the position. We underestimated your experiences, and you're not a good fit."
Racial bias is very real and if you haven't gone through it, you'd never understand. It breaks you down mentally and emotionally. It's very unfair and I feel so sad that we have to go through this knowing we are very qualified. If anyone is going through this, I'm giving you a virtual hug. I know how tough it is. I am currently trying to pick myself back up. Hang in there, and please take care of your mental health.
This is another reason why I started working from home before it became a thing. No office politics in your face and a certain
amount of freedom. It's not for everyone but working remotely has worked for me. It was my jump off to starting my own biz.
I strongly promote them more people work from home because office politics are extremely annoying and only the most incompetent people engage in it. The lockdown was bad for some but a blessing for others. After a while the mind games and the constant mood swings of other people can get to you. Let people deal with their office drama and do the best you can do.
This is Facts!!!
So many of us have seen this from day one of ever having a job….i have always observed and felt the negative vibes and superiority. Staying on guard, holding in MY TRUTH and watching them speak 🗣️ theirs and get away with pure murder..
Thank you for this!
Exclusion, lie about u, gaslight, think u r unprofessional when u voice your concerns, yeahhhh they see u as a pet they have to train show u how to do things even when u have the same qualifications...
My issue now. I'm not the angry black man because I'm telling them they're wrong and assuming.
Yup, that be them!
You could have the same qualifications or greater, be the most well-spoken professional in the room and that alone will get you put on a shit list long before anybody who fits the opposite of those qualities would be put on one. I've since then learned to work for myself, consider everyone a potential enemy until proven otherwise and even then still keep an exit plan just in case. That's how corporate works and unfortunately how life kind of works.
Im continuously being fired. Without a degree. I take the L. I need uplifting today as I will be a full time entrepreneur
This is SO True! It's tiring! To combat workplace bullying successfully, I can only credit my relationship with Jesus Christ. I have a daily devotional time in the mornings that anchors my soul in God's truth of who I am. I repeat daily affirmations - to reaffirm my worth AND I study spiritual warfare to understand the enemies' tactics. This is the only thing that has helped me navigate the toxic work environment and microaggressions.
Yep. Never rely on another humans approval, that’s the key. Christ is the one that formed us, he’s the only one that can truly love us
💯
He dropped knowledge in this video. Worked on a team where the jobs REQUIRED a BS degree. Only 1 out of 6 leaders had a degree, and it showed in their written work. It was a good ol boy system
I deal with this so often. This is the most relatable video I have seen thus far, thank you I know I’m not alone
Yes! Everything so eloquently, deliberately, accurately, and beautifully shared and stated in this presentation is the absolute truth. I can relate!! Blessings to you and wishes for healing.
It’s like this in predominantly black spaces if we really being honest. Black people in leadership take on the white spirit and mentality and do the same things you just talked about.
In his example, you could swap out the black person for any other black person and they would feel what he feels...In your example, I beileve it is specific to the black person.
This is facts, Canada is the same.
I’m crying you are putting into words these feelings and emotions I been going through at work, since I’ve been working with these two white women
Salute to this guy
Great, I am waiting for your sequel "Working While Black in Predominantly Black Spaces"
Unfortunately, it’s not the same but some of the mindset is similar, very much crabs in a bucket. But, overall, I’d still prefer that over breaking bread with them any day. May we fully come together soon. 🙏🏽
@@user-gn8qn5wd6i Great. You must appreciate your own kind, NOT demand appreciation from others. Also, critics is easy, do better is always a problem. When you fully come together soon, don't call it "segregation and it hurts black people badly" and try to do better. Better late than never.
Shout out to my Seattle black people, you're not alone. Seattle is one of the most hostile, toxic, anti-black cities.
So why live there
That place is trash anyway lol
Wow, looking back on my first job after watching this video, so much of it made sense. I was naive back then and I think I just projected my moral on other people, I didn’t want to think anyone was being malicious, but… Wow. I was fortunate enough that I wasn’t the only black person for long, and the Asian people I worked with were all helping too; we jokingly referred to each other as the minority shift, and we always worked together and got shit done. We’re stronger together, it’s a shame people think there’s only enough room for themselves at the top. Too many people want to squeeze their way into a fucked up system in hopes their lives improve instead of trying to fix the system and make room for others. Sure it won’t be easy, but that’s why the work isn’t done yet.
My heart cries out to this post. To be able to sum all of this up is amazing . Sometimes is feels to difficult to explain it all . Great job . Thank you
I agree with everything you said, I worked with all white and Hispanics at my job for 5 years in a nursing home I was the only black one for a long time and I definitely felt like this.
My only addition to this is that it also largely applies to non black people of color as well. They’re just as bad and sometimes worse because they have a chip on their shoulder and feel like they have to solidify their place in the “hierarchy” by lashing out
Say this again PLEASE. People don't know this. Anti-black racism is a thing from all races is a real thing!
Especially Indian women, they are soo racist.
Damn never thought that would happen. I mean I can believe it I just didn’t see it
Yup they’re just as bad. All that “POC solidarity” stuff is false. Don’t trust them.
I have experienced all of these things, as a 'black' employee within a predominately white and black establishment. Even in a mix business environment, I would constantly deal with these toxic types and tactics from both groups because they perceived me as a threat, for one reason or another.... My coping mechanism was/is the power of words and standing on my square. I documented everything and never let the right hand see what the left was doing. It got to the point where most of these insecure toxic people would never come anywhere near me because they already knew that I AM always 10 steps ahead of them.
Although, I would always end up being 'black balled' or 'blacklisted' -- I really didn't care because I preferred a piece of mind and OWNING my integrity, OVER a bigger title and paycheck and guess what? All of these years later, I am still standing, as most of those who fought like hell to bury and deny me, have fallen and fallen hard. These people's fear, toxicity and disrespect WILL BE their undoing and they will have no one to blame but themselves. #TheGreatEqualibrium
I have seen people damn near lose a quarter of a million over how they personally felt about other people. And after having someone almost kill me because the equipment was not checked properly which I would have done as I always do I was done and just said screw it. Corporate America is filled with a bunch of insane shenanigans and due to the straight up unprofessionalism it's hard to take it seriously.
It's like high school 2.0 all over again.
@@kozmickitsuneame That last sentence you posted sums it up well. Very true!
You and the original author are exactly right about the pet to threat theory.
I feel you. Everything you say is true. I've been there and still am there, to some extent. What it boils down to is that many white Americans are dealing with a lot of suffering, so instead of resolving it, they project it to other people. You would think that they would want to be grounded and whole, but that's impossible to do, since they are using whiteness as a crutch.
Facts I’ve always felt like racism was a way for these non blacks to take their miserable existence out on somebody else
This !!! It’s like the idea of I’m poor but atleast I’m not dirt poor . And looking down on the dirt poor people . I feel as though the working class non blacks are more upset at not reaching the so call American dream so it’s easier to pick on those who society says is beneath them.
They are definitely suffering by their standards. They project and I get a kick out of it😂 i make them uncomfortable. And they hate that I get all the company benefits
@@AJthEenigmatic what I failed I understand is how can somebody on one end tell a person to pull themself up by their bootstraps and say that the system isn't broken, then when you actually do succeed at anything or hold a high position then the system is somehow broken and needs to be corrected at all cost lol.
You were preaching! Whew! I’m winded! This was so on point it is scary. I’m currently studying Racial Battle Fatigue and this is that! Working in these spaces is exhausting. Thank you so much for sharing this video!! 🖤🖤🖤
I'm going through this s*** now for a couple years at my job.
Me too. Been here 2 years and I'm trying to leave. Haven't had much luck with job hunting over the summer
I need this... thank you so much for this. You just don't know how much I needed this pick-me-up. I will not " fall asleep at the wheel". Thank you so much. I will support me.
exactly the video I was searching for, its because they're intimidated by your talent /greatness, this is happening to me, im a black man with good genetics for building a physique, an the white boys in the gym have been giving me rude looks even the women instead of giving credit, they're trying to undermine me !! so there for im gonna work harder, cos if i was doing this to them i would be in prison, ive been bullied insulted repeatedly for years, had a pack of haters gang up on me to try ruin my hard work tell others not to engage in talking to me, to make me feel belittled an pushed out, thats what happens when you level up, or if your blessed with a natural talent.
You know what they say it's lonely at the top of the mountain but it is what it is. Learn total indifference and it will bother people. Lol. There are some people in this world that the only time they could ever feel good about themselves is when somebody is under them even if it's an illusion.
@@kozmickitsuneameyour absolutely right
This needs to be on Facebook !!!!!!!!!!
Brother : Salute to you and this message … The fact that I searched for these type videos is enough to know I’m unfortunately experiencing this type environment…
Bro this is the video of all videos in the history of videos on this topic..I been searching and searching and it feels realll good to see that I’m not alone with what we go through in our places of employment/corporate America. I’m in tech as a network engineer and it has taken a toll on my mind and spirit…tech is highly competitive and toxic and I’ve been going through it but I know who I am and where I come from and our history and it has helped me greatly mentally and spiritually. But I’ve decided that this environment isn’t for me long term as I live my life so I need an exit strategy to build something for myself and so I can be around my people. Cause I feel 1,000 times better when I’m with my own people
As a 32 year old black men, you named everything that ive been going through eversince i can remember from 1st grade until now. Peace and Love Brother. Im going to share this video on my Facebook.
Out of curiosity did they ever try to change your grade because that happened to me so many times growing up and even when I got to college it would upset people when I got an A . I've had professors and even other students attempt to try to make me look
unknowledgeable at things that I have more knowledge and experience than they do.
After years of this happening I decided to start working for myself and never looked back. Ask this question because I'm curious is that the norm because I rarely ever had that problem in other places.
This needs 1 million likes and shares.
The comments are so heartbreaking. To see so many black professionals who have to endure toxic work environments is not okay. As an HR professional, sadly I too have had to experience the same toxicity in the same workplace where I am dedicated to helping others succeed and feel included, meanwhile on a daily I have to deal with the workplace shenanigans.
The first 1 minute just touched my entire soul!
It's worse if you're black, woman and young. ME, I am.
Us integrating was a horrible idea.
Yep. MLK single handedly ruined our community and I'll never forgive him for it.
You might want to talk to some people who personally remember the 1950s and find out why segregation was not working for them. It boils down to this: Segregation won't work for you unless you _control_ the politics and economics of the larger social environment. If you don't control the politics and economics of the larger social environment, being segregated just makes you the easy target of those who have that control.
@@rdkirk3834that’s BS. As history shows black people progressed at higher rates, had less broken homes, and incarceration . They implemented integration to destroy us.
@@rdkirk3834But…we still don’t have that control though 🧐🤨
@@NarutoUzumaki-xg9et That is my point. If we don't have that control, then segregation will put us exactly where we were 60 years ago: Easily targeted. In fact, that still happens where black people are geographically targetable, like south east Dallas and New Orleans.
As black Canadian working at the government job at Ottawa, I am being all the time spied by white women who are coworkers lool
As well, white women who are Karens are always trying to find my flaws in order to snitch on my supervisor!!! They don’t want me to succeed 😂 I totally get you brother 😂
That's because you haven't worked around me yet. Whenever I catch somebody spying on me I always pick up the phone and then turn and ask they do they know the launch code. That seems to get them to want to leave me alone pretty quickly lol.
Man I wish i knew you in real life , you'd be the perfect guy to vent to 😂😂
This is a great post. Thank you for sharing Brother! I was the one black professional (Psychologist) in an all white setting for 12 years, and yes, I was unsafe psychologically the whole time.
As black professionals, we really need to have mechanisms to defeat invisibility syndrome and imposter syndrrome in those moments when our white colleagues gaslight us and play microaggressive games. We need to be what I call "Visible Winners" in the face of passive white oppression in the workplace.
Thank you again for sharing this. Well done!
any strategies suggestions resources to help equip ourselves?
Please elaborate!
So spot on about breaking you down! They broke me down to my break pads 😢. However, I recovered and on to bigger and better things
Excellent video. Nothing over exaggerated here. Nobody could have said this any better. This is coming from a 63 year old black man. Every black person should take heed of this video. Good job young brotha, i will be passing this video on to others.❤
Thank you so very much for this! Every word you spoke struck me deeply.
You are such a sweet soul. To have my experience put into words is so validating and I feel less isolated. I quit my toxic job working with a bunch of white mormons from Utah. Even working remotely I couldnt escaoe the unfair criticism, being held to a higher standard than my peers, feeling left out during meetings, having any small error blown WAY out of proportion. The last straw was being put back into training after only being there 8 weeks. My mental health took a nosedive so I quit and I think it eas the best decision I could make. Thanks for making this vid. I subscribed too ❤
Thank you SO MUCH for this video and this message. I resonate with it 💯. I needed this word more than you could ever know.
I had to listen to this twice. Word up!
You said a lot of truth in this video. Thank you for sharing and giving a voice to the black person's corporate work experience!
I needed this today. Thank you ❤️
Bobby Hemmit comes 2 mind
“stop small talkin w/ wright ppl” 🙋♀️
I'm an educator in a school where I love ALL of my students especially my black and brown. I am literally experiencing everything he has shared here. I could go on forever...
I always find it interesting when I hear other black people advocating for "brown" people and talking about how much they love them because from my experience they don't love us. They are just as racist and hateful as whites but to each his own.
Thank you so much. Everything you said is what I have also experienced. God bless you. I so much resonate with this message. In fact it has helped to calm me down. Thank you
Thank you for posting this video. I really appreciate it 🙏🏾
We need our own ! Period !
You never had an Empire here. Remember that.