Oh yeah. I'll never forget there was one other black woman who was a manager (she left). My colleague said to her "I don't understand how you look so young is it plastic surgery?" another time a colleague said to me that she couldn't believe my age...and of course my manager stared me down with a screw face. Pure jealousy they have towards us. All that hate must be what causes them to age so quick.
I just got let go last wk. I knew that wanted me gone when i didn't take the bait when they wanted me to argue with a co-worker. When they saw me handled it professionally, that intimated them more.
@@satin.satsuma when somebody looks like emperor palpatine when they're 30 yeah that is pretty messed up. People need to stop using the dark side of the force and become proper Jedis
@satin.satsuma they are so jealous at how we age. ive seen it with this beautiful and I mean just drop dead gorgeous 52 year black women at My last job. I thought she was no older than 35 until she said she had adult children. She didn't have a wrinkle or line on her face and glowing smooth skin. She had a curvy figure and her and I would always talk about how people assumed she had work done. I would hear co workers talking about BBL. She never had work done. I miss her.
@jeremyross7939 there are people in this world that will try to apply stereotype to someone and when it doesn't stick they'll keep trying to gaslight you so that they can reaffirm their already messed up beliefs. One of the reasons working from home became a good option for many is because people get tired of the games and psychological warfare in the workplace. There are people that only like you if they view you as being beneath them , but the moment you achieve equal a greater they turn around and hate you immediately.
@@SouthernEmperor I would also add insecure to that list because I can't tell you how many times I've had my grade changed from an A to a F simply because I asked a question or dared to do something more effectively growing up.
That's the price of being held to both the highest and lowest standard at the same time. Eventually people just lose all enthusiasm and just become apathetic.
I am a black nurse, and I have sadly worked in a predominantly white environment. Hispanics are also there as well, but they were valued over me. I have always had people jealous of my work ethic as a nurse. I was never heard on anything that I said, and someone else's word was always taken over mine. I was never appreciated, and I was always belittled. I have never had a great experience being the only black nurse, sadly. The toxic world that we live in. We black people are so racially profiled. Being Black in America is the hardest thing to be.
Please stay positive and be strong. If you’re a person who believes in God, pray for the Almighty to give you his FULL ARMOR. They will use microagressions. Stay strong and understand that WE know and understand. Be prayerful and grow stronger in your strength! 🙏
Yes, bc I’m sure you’re faultless and did absolutely nothing to cause everyone to distance themselves from you. Playing the victim is repulsive to people believe it or bot
I dont have to be the only black person. Most big companies will have black people but they are threatened by a certain type of black personality if u will.
@@missfrancis8175 Wow, so true. There was one other Black female who sat near me where a white colleague and a latino, best friends, just hated me and talked about me and the Latino one particulularly nasty. The Black colleague witnessed everything and I once said to her, 'did you see how she reacted to me?" Her response what that she did not want to get involved and got up and walked away. To this day she no longer speaks to me. The one 1 other Black female on the side where I work not only refuses to speak to me since I requested a seat change, but she's outright unfriendly and won't even hold a door open for me.
@@p.m.2131 treat them like apostles and just ignore them for your own mental health. I know this is mean to say but you have to be completely indifferent to such people.
I hate using race as a crutch but I recently accepted an Engineer role at an all white employer. I'm literally the only black/minority here. What this brother is conveying in this video i've found to be 100% its annoying coming to work everyday. All I want to do is pay bills and move through life smmhhhh
What u mean you hate using race as a crutch. Racism is the crutch that has disabled the black society as a whole. Sure there’s some lazy blk ppl out there but most of us are hustlers and would’ve been surpassed the nation if we were allowed to have a fair shot! I’m sorry you’re dealing with what you’re going through but we have to change the language. EVERYTHING in America boils down to race.
I was the only black employee at a job that I had last year and baby they abused me emotionally to no end. The covert disrespect, undermining your ideas, blatantly counting you out but trying to do it discreetly to make you think you're tripping, acting oblivious when they offend you, saying covertly racist things to see if you pick up on it, making me come into the office while everyone else gets to work from home, it was all too much! My boss would act embarrassed of me when outside white ppl came into the office, it's like she had to make excuses for hiring me. It was very toxic and stressful! However, had the nerve to try to to gaslight and guilt trip me for leaving.
As a teacher and I live in Europe I’m mentally exhausted … it’s very tiring, I was going to stay for one more year but December is my last month. Both the whites in America and Europe are one and the same
@@sunflowerlovesbees is a very simple solution to this and I think a lot of people overlook. Master whatever your craft is and work from home even become your own boss if it's possible. And then if someone tries to play some weird psychological warfare with you smile at them like your Japanese nod and then just do what you're going to do anyway which is your job. I've had many people tell me what I'm going to do for them and I smile nod and I go right back to what I was doing.
I'm currently dealing with this now. I feel like im being gaslighted about my abilities. They keep saying "you lack confidence" over and over again just because im naturally quiet. Then at the same time, they ignore or shut down any ideas or suggestions I make. How does that make sense?
This!! Couldn’t have put it better. I had performing “at my level” and in some formal feedbacks “above my level” from various managers but one person’s perception of me “lacking confidence” meant they denied my promotion lol.
It is critical to keep moving forward when they are trying to “get you out of there” I was in a new job, at a hospital I really wanted to work at in a really fantastic unit. There were only 2 black people, 1 Asian and now I come in as the only Hispanic. The two people training me were white. The undermining, calling out my mistakes publicly, the embarrassment, not giving me information that I needed in a timely manner , The condescending tone, all day, Went on for three solid months. During my final evaluation, they tried to indicate that I was not going to make it at this job. it was a Hispanic educator from another department who said “no, she will be fine, personally go out and work with her on the unit for half a day and let you know” she tweaked a minor few things (which they were targeting) and everything worked out because she advocated for me. I am still here 15 years later.
@@jrod0515 That's because there's a lot of people that love chaos and drama. Some people work to go on vacation other people work to survive. I once had a speech teacher that would only talk to you when an audience was present and nothing regarding his mistakes. The trick is to just be as indifferent and empathetic as humanely possible.
This was the most validating monologue of the truth about being black in corporate America. When you said they will go against you just because they don't vibe with your energy....YES!!! So freaking true. Thank you. I feel like I just had a conversation with my big bro who validated everything I keep to myself about my experience. I'm paid very well so I just play the game back and bid my time until they let me go or until I find something better. This was so therapeutic. Thank you.
I really think a lot of people need to start taking a page from the Japanese handbook and start incorporating a lot of those values if this type of crap treatment is going to continue to be a thing. Seems like the only solution to me.
brother this video needs to go viral. Working in corporate settings while black is one of the most mentally taxing things we go through. Then have to come home and be emotionally available to your family and loved ones. Racial bias is very real, especially in spaces that are apparently to supposed to help us
So true!!! It is exhausting. This is why I cannot wait until God executes justice upon those who seek to oppress innocent ones. Much appreciation for the engagement. Stay up!
@@Patrickstarrrrr69I really hate this loaded comment because it's not that simple. Besides, if everyone owned their business, someone will have to work for them.
You got it.... micro aggressions. Egonegativity. I can relate. I was the only black designer for 23 years at the firm. My designs always got patented. But certain individuals that i trained thought that they knew more than me about stuff they never even learned. I had to check a few people. They most got straight after that. Its not a game... you are at covert WAR. You better not ever drop your guard. And never slip...and be 10x better than your competitors. 48 laws of power. Never outshine the master. In other words...your covert strategy for excellence must be well protected. Always keep your secret techniques YOUR big secret... keep learning how to be new and Valuable to your industry. Black man we gotta collaborate and make the way that the world will need to have. Lets create systems. It is time now. Hurry up.
VERY HELPFUL! I’m 25, first in my family to graduate, and first to work in corporate America . I really thought I was going crazy & I was mad at my family for not teaching me what being in these spaces would be like before I started working in these companies. Thank you for some clarity
My corporate job gave me a mental breakdown, and it was definitely one of the better ones in comparison to other places, I wish you well in your career 🙏🏽
Hi, I understand but don’t be mad at your family for it. It’s not their fault. The blame is really to those who normalize toxic work environments and discriminate others in the workplace. First generation go through a lot alone in college and in corporate jobs. It’s so sad that we go through this but I hope we all find something better.
@tynash9869 When you're the first in your family to reach a certain educational level, or to pursue a certain career, you are going places that nobody else in your family has been. They can't know any more than you do the games you're about to come up against. So don't get mad at family for not warning you about the subtle games that white racists play in the workplace; family has not walked this way and they really don't have a way to know what to tell you about how to protect yourself. Those of us in these spaces have to take it upon ourselves to mentor those are coming along behind us, but also share our experiences with each other so that we can help one another.
I've seen the exact opposite when whites works for predominantly black business, it's like they gets special treatment and are treated differently. I don't know why we are like this, yes I know that we all should be treated equally but that's not the case.
@SheLuvsTheSun Funny part is the reason they are successful is because they never integrated with us lol. They keep their communities and build businesses with themselves. That’s why they still have power even tho they almost lost it all.
@@BriaJordan-p9n You a liar. It’s one thing to deal with people issues. Caucasians deal with all types of bad behavior with their own race but it’s a different thing dealing with another race’s bs. We are all r*cist lowkey. Nobody just wants to admit it but I much rather take orders from a black man than a wm ANYDAY. Even though I rather work for myself and not take orders from anybody but if I had to I would want guys that look like me. I know they won’t take advantage and keep me at a low level in the company. Promotions etc would be judged fairly since skin tone and comfortability wouldn’t be in the equation. Normally all minorities face that invisible glass ceiling where all seniority are Caucasian. Do you really think a Caucasian would take a Darkskin bm over a Caucasian for a management position? With that kind of comfortability within your own race yall could literally talk about stuff like that with the management and it’s more of a friendship within the race. I’ve seen it plenty of times. A lower level whyte employee talking to a higher up like a friend from hs cause they are both the same race. From the Caucasian superior to minorities it’s like manager- employee.
Yes black people need to understand that we are all that we have. We have to work together, protect each other, love each other, buy from each other businesses. We are honestly all that we have. The other races don’t care about us they only care about there own race at the end of that day and preserving there own people.
That’s literally just racist and creates a retarded divide, I was adopted by loving white parents, anyone one of any race can be a loving or loathing individual race doesn’t make u shit it’s just a skin suit
@@come_on_barbie_123- It’s the world at large. Not just black people. We think it’s cutthroat, and undermining for us. But I think many white treat each other just as bad, or even worse.
For a second I thought people like you didn’t exist anymore. Thank you for speaking and validating what I’ve always knew. They make you seem crazy when you advocate for yourself and question the system!
THIS! "From pet to threat" hit home. I'm so confused by all of this...I spent 10 years as the only black working in my department in banking, which outside of the collections or call center environments, is mostly white. But there I was, working hard and getting promoted EVERY. YEAR. in this "good ol' boy" space. I then transition to tech and start coding, and working for a company that shoves DEI down everyone's throats. Been there 4 years and have yet to get a promotions, despite doing the MOST. I finally left that job, even without having anything lined up-I experienced all you spoke of at the "woke" tech company, but hardly any of it at the "good ol' boy bank". Make it make sense?! But yes it's tiring. I'm. only 45 and have spent 20 years in corporate America, oftentimes being the black. At this point I don't even want another job in the US; I will gladly go to Costa Rica and teach surfing or yoga and call it a day.
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There is a lot of truth to what you describe here. The key is to develop a thick skin and to develop friendships or allies. A lot of black professionals take the bait and file weak EEO complaints or formally grieve before it is justified. Take notes and build cases with histories of incidents before you file complaints. Otherwise you’ll be labeled a troublemaker.
This is SO True! It's tiring! To combat workplace bullying successfully, I can only credit my relationship with Jesus Christ. I have a daily devotional time in the mornings that anchors my soul in God's truth of who I am. I repeat daily affirmations - to reaffirm my worth AND I study spiritual warfare to understand the enemies' tactics. This is the only thing that has helped me navigate the toxic work environment and microaggressions.
My mental and physical health was almost destroyed by a blue eyed devil. I developed stroke symptoms after 2 years of working under her evil eyes but my guardian angel had a purpose and I survived the ordeal. Thankfully she clashed with so many people that she felt it best in her evil interest to leave. She is a demon sent from Satan and I feel so sorry for the tortured souls who work under her now.
Everything stated in this video is absolutely true. I am currently experiencing this in my current position and have experienced it in the past. These people are highly repulsive and immature, and there’s nothing that you can do or say to change their hearts. The only thing you can do is find somewhere else to go, or start your own business. We know not all are this way. But from experience where I live the majority of them act this way. It's very sad that we still have a long way to go in this society!💯
I got enough crap experience in college in general to let me know I didn't want to work for nobody but me. I'm sorry that happened to you but you pretty much have to understand that there is no real professionalism in corporate anymore. Just a bunch of repulsive immature kindergarten bulltshit. After a while you can't even take it seriously because it sounds like something out of a bad movie.
Corporation and Plantations are the same thing. Im a rebellious slave and I dont care if Im fired. We must stop looking for support from them and support ourselves. Stop participating in their systems of command, period and create your own businesses
My only addition to this is that it also largely applies to non black people of color as well. They’re just as bad and sometimes worse because they have a chip on their shoulder and feel like they have to solidify their place in the “hierarchy” by lashing out
They are ok with being below white people, so long as they feel above black people. That is my problem now in Australia with Indians,Nepalese and other minorities. I am Nigerian.
I recently had a situation happen where a colleague made a comment about my hair (I was wearing passion twists). We are all remote and manager forced us to turn on our cameras without warning one day, so that everyone could “embrace their natural beauty” while the boss was put together. Lol. Anyway, once I turned my camera on, someone made a comment saying “wow your hair got so long!” Mind you I’m the only black person in this meeting and everyone else are caucasian females. No comments were made about anyone else’s hair or appearance so I felt awkward, uncomfortable, put on the spot, and singled out. I did not appreciate that at all. I didn’t even respond. And you’re right. Their superiority level is 20,000 & condescension is very subtle and covert.
Hey L., Let me first say, Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I've viewed several of your videos but baby this one hit like no other. You have expressed what I've been going through from the moment I began my current job. I now know what I have to do to keep my sanity. I especially enjoyed the part where you described, the gang or mob behavior they exact on people they don't like. It's down right atrocious. They live having the crowd all worked up to see you fall. It's very intentional they way they come for you because they feel threatened by your very existence. This may surprise many, but I endured these behaviors from people who were supposed to love me, my family. Most of my life I've endured the ridicule, the undermining of my opinion or ideas, to the non support of family when I've achieved a goal. Yet they always were demanding my time and services when it benefitted them. Never was I valued or made to feel welcome. The same goes for some relationships I've put up with. I was always the one left with a void to fill after giving them my all. Thank you for giving me the language I'll need to combat this evil and toxic force that is trying to annihilate me and everything about me. It's time for me to leave that plantation mentality behind and begin my entrepreneurship life so that I can create the world I envision. 🕊️
Sherry, I know it is rough. Sounds like you have been considering launching from your present job and rightfully so. We get but so many good years on this earth and they should not be wasted combating the slings and arrows of low-key bigots! You deserve better so if you have not already done so, it's time to begin taking interviews with prospective employers that honor your gifts, talents and abilities. I will keep you lifted up in prayer! ❤️
Exclusion, lie about u, gaslight, think u r unprofessional when u voice your concerns, yeahhhh they see u as a pet they have to train show u how to do things even when u have the same qualifications...
You could have the same qualifications or greater, be the most well-spoken professional in the room and that alone will get you put on a shit list long before anybody who fits the opposite of those qualities would be put on one. I've since then learned to work for myself, consider everyone a potential enemy until proven otherwise and even then still keep an exit plan just in case. That's how corporate works and unfortunately how life kind of works.
As a Chicano man your experience matters too. Just know you are not alone brother. I feel you. Let's continue to support and upbuild each other cuz we are all we got.
I’m black and i have to deal with the superiority complex of these people and worse off is i have to deal with an white ass licking black person too. It’s really affecting my spirit… I find it difficult to speak to anyone of any race
😂😂😂 the crazy part is, when you finally confront them. They will try to make it seem like your delusional OR try to feed you a story about how they had it ruff too. Your struggle is NOT the same. If they woke up Black, they would panic or delete themselves💯
@@TommyVXOLucia I remember I had a situation where a malfunction could have very well ended me. I was gas slit and told to relax after the fact. Lol as soon as I left that job a few weeks later somebody actually did get put in critical condition. I love the I had it rough too comment because if that were actually true you would think the person would make a conscious effort to not put people through unnecessary BS . If the average person in general had to deal with this type of thing everyday deletions would be through the roof lol.
@@noway1343I am a "code switcher". I am loyal to my people black and the whites who gave me help and opportunity. Don't get multi-lingualism confused with disloyalty - for once - please.
I thought sticking Black people together for work purposes was outlawed after the Civil War? Also, wouldn't those shackles make too much noise in quiet working environments?
I never seen a video so spot on! The workplace is definitely stressful and toxic! I want a remote job so bad but where I don't have to have much video interaction.
Had a gf that thought she was in.... I tried to explain to her how to move around these people but she wouldn't listen. I told her don't go thinking that she got friends. And sure enough she went and told them her personal business and next thing you know the whole company knew it and made it up to the CEO. And she was literally crying in her sleep by the embarrassment and shame. After I literally advised her not to confide in these people. Talk about booksmart but stupid as a mother f*****....smh she was a micro biologist, degree in forensics but didn't have enough sense not trust these people....smh. get you a spouse with basic commom sense
@@AJthEenigmatic I swear that story reminds me of the countless times I have tried to give advice or instruct people on how to deal with corporate. They often get upset and call me cold and calculating when I explain to them how they're going to be viewed and the way they're going to be treated. If you know what you're doing you're going to be far more hated and despise than someone who doesn't. I feel bad for her but I hope she learned from it. To this day the most hilarious thing I've ever heard when applying for anything is when the employer says "we're like a family here" LOL .
This needs to go viral. Everything you said is true. From restaurants to corporate environments. It’s a way to keep them off your back but you gotta tap into that dark side
I have Never commented on a UA-cam video in my life. But I have to say thank thank you thank you for the validation. I watched this after crying on my way to work. You've reminded me that I'm not crazy, I'm not making this up in my head. Thank you. I no longer feel alone in this pain. Whew! I never had my feelings and thoughts articulated so well. You described my experience to the T
I agree with everything you said, I worked with all white and Hispanics at my job for 5 years in a nursing home I was the only black one for a long time and I definitely felt like this.
I went ahead & liked this 16 seconds in lol and I'm gonna go ahead and follow you. Thank you SO much for speaking on THIS. I'm hanging on your every word and I feel you. I've been the "only" for far too long. I'm tired. I'm anxious. I'm enraged. I'm lonely. I'm perplexed by why I'm even the "only" at this point. I've been working in the architectural (construction) field for about 8 years. I can't stand it anymore. Thank you for speaking on this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Much love and happy holidays brother. -Drea in Washington DC (I just moved here from Connecticut to escape predominately YT spaces)
I’m going through this now I’m the only Black person at my job and going to lose my job because she’s upset that I’m not friends with her. She complained about me looking at her at the same time complaining that don’t request help from her.
It's because you weren't doing the Mickey mouse smile. You pretty much have to master the art of talking to people for a long period of time without ever saying much about yourself. When people are divisive you pretty much have to act like you're in Disneyland because even though it's not part of the job there are some extremely fake people in this world.
Brother I needed your message today. I am dealing with it right now on job. I know I’m good but they don’t want me to talk in meetings. If I do explain how I see the problem They go straight at you with knifes. I was told today not to speak on calls
Brother, let me just say I feel your pain. The silencing and colonization of black and brown voices is nothing new. Colonization is in white blood. The best thing you can do is arm yourself with information. Be knowledgeable. Document all microaggressions and attempts to silence you and REFUSE to be dismissed, infantalized and shoved into a corner. It's time to pushback in a way that elevates you even if that means creating an exit strategy to another agency where your talents, skills and abilities will be appreciated. You have power. You are strong King. Now launch. Your time is always NOW!
Noticed this as well. They can't stand it if you raise concerns to try and fix a problem. Yet if another white colleague raises that same concern they get praised and credited.
@@l-majesty3287 How can White people colonize the companies they've founded themselves? Colonization is a Black invention. Back in the Stone Ages, Black cavemen colonized most continents. And if you're the first Black person to work in a White company, yet aim to make it to the top there, aren't you technically the colonizer?
This is very true, I’m in a predominantly white space as a fleet Administrator. Never see any black dudes in this role. I replaced a white dude who didn’t want the job, but somehow the title went from manager to analyst, but the duties are the same and they even added more. When I go to the conventions,they like how you got here? The people over me like to dangle carrots on promotion and raises. It’s down right sickening, but I’ve found away around it. I’ll owe them more than they will ever owe me.😅
You know it's for that very reason I pretty much developed the work ethic and mentality of a Japanese person. When I was younger stuff like that used to bother me now I just completely ignore people and do what I need to do.
I feel you. Everything you say is true. I've been there and still am there, to some extent. What it boils down to is that many white Americans are dealing with a lot of suffering, so instead of resolving it, they project it to other people. You would think that they would want to be grounded and whole, but that's impossible to do, since they are using whiteness as a crutch.
This !!! It’s like the idea of I’m poor but atleast I’m not dirt poor . And looking down on the dirt poor people . I feel as though the working class non blacks are more upset at not reaching the so call American dream so it’s easier to pick on those who society says is beneath them.
They are definitely suffering by their standards. They project and I get a kick out of it😂 i make them uncomfortable. And they hate that I get all the company benefits
@@AJthEenigmatic what I failed I understand is how can somebody on one end tell a person to pull themself up by their bootstraps and say that the system isn't broken, then when you actually do succeed at anything or hold a high position then the system is somehow broken and needs to be corrected at all cost lol.
Be sure to tell your son to watch out for the emotional and psychological warfare tactics that people play in the workplace. It's not a family it's more like a mental ward. And yes there are people fully prepared for the cost of the company tons of money based on how they feel about somebody , and even when the truth is found out that they got someone injured or almost killed them due to neglect of equipment nobody will do a damn thing. I've had people tell me they are considering moving their business to Japan and other places.
Bro this is the video of all videos in the history of videos on this topic..I been searching and searching and it feels realll good to see that I’m not alone with what we go through in our places of employment/corporate America. I’m in tech as a network engineer and it has taken a toll on my mind and spirit…tech is highly competitive and toxic and I’ve been going through it but I know who I am and where I come from and our history and it has helped me greatly mentally and spiritually. But I’ve decided that this environment isn’t for me long term as I live my life so I need an exit strategy to build something for myself and so I can be around my people. Cause I feel 1,000 times better when I’m with my own people
He dropped knowledge in this video. Worked on a team where the jobs REQUIRED a BS degree. Only 1 out of 6 leaders had a degree, and it showed in their written work. It was a good ol boy system
My heart cries out to this post. To be able to sum all of this up is amazing . Sometimes is feels to difficult to explain it all . Great job . Thank you
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤4 Day work week ! I have been saying this for years!! I got spoken to being to nice and smiling all the time. They hate how happy I am despite the misery they try to cause!! ❤ I am up for the fight EVERYDAY!! LOVE conquers all! Thank you for this video much appreciated and needed ❤❤
They most likely projected their guilt of mistreating black people in the community onto you smh. What is meant for you will never pass you by just keep your head up and something better will open up for you.
@@jidec3165it's for this reason you have to develop making real friends across the board because you never know who might come at you sideways unfortunately.
Yes! Everything so eloquently, deliberately, accurately, and beautifully shared and stated in this presentation is the absolute truth. I can relate!! Blessings to you and wishes for healing.
I am a strong confidence black man, and they dont like it at all. Longest I have had a job is 13 months. They do not want black men to rise in the work force. They do not want black men having a retirement plan. They want black men relient on black women for support to keep the community weak. I worked a job at a lumber yard. 3 black men total worked there including myself. The majority was latino, and the administrative staff was white. None of the white men had Degrees. I have a degree in Business Administration. They let me go, (im in an at will state) they did not want me getting past 90 days and applying for an Administrative role. I would have been able to jump ahead of a lot of career workers there. And that didnt sit well with them.
When people see someone that doesn't fit The stereotype it tends to intimidate people. They start to view you as more of a threat than anybody actually doing something bad. They like it that way because then they don't have to think about it. " In other words they might as well be saying how dare you not live up to my messed up expectation of you" The higher you rise you'll quickly find yourself losing a lot of so called friends.
@@epaminon6196you also get called racial slurs at work, racially judged on your competence based on your colour, only hired because your race, then fired quickly if the company needed to downsize, assumed your less articulate?? Oh oki I didn't realise
This is Facts!!! So many of us have seen this from day one of ever having a job….i have always observed and felt the negative vibes and superiority. Staying on guard, holding in MY TRUTH and watching them speak 🗣️ theirs and get away with pure murder.. Thank you for this!
Thank you SO MUCH for making this video. The challenges we face in the corporate world can take a massive toll on our mental well-being. I can feel your pain as if it were my own. Actually, it is my own because I have experienced everything you've mentioned and more. I am a CPA and I recently started a job at a CPA firm where I'm the only black person in the office. I have 11 years of experience and worked with fortune 500 companies. Im very good at what i do and im very confident about it. Because of this, I have faced a lot of conflicts with white people (unprovoked). I have always been the only black one in their spaces for a long time, but I've never felt the racism like this one. I've always been able to manage it for the most part until recently. My manager has been against me since day one. She knows the wealth of knowledge I'm bringing in, and she feels very threatened. Unfortunately for my case, I was let go recently. Ask me why? They said verbatim, "You are too strong for the position. We underestimated your experiences, and you're not a good fit." Racial bias is very real and if you haven't gone through it, you'd never understand. It breaks you down mentally and emotionally. It's very unfair and I feel so sad that we have to go through this knowing we are very qualified. If anyone is going through this, I'm giving you a virtual hug. I know how tough it is. I am currently trying to pick myself back up. Hang in there, and please take care of your mental health.
You were preaching! Whew! I’m winded! This was so on point it is scary. I’m currently studying Racial Battle Fatigue and this is that! Working in these spaces is exhausting. Thank you so much for sharing this video!! 🖤🖤🖤
I was saying “mhm” and snapping my fingers throughout this ENTIRE video. Yes Lord. *breaks out into praise dances* I feel so seen. Thank you, so much for this.
I needed to hear this. Got my first “prestigious career job after graduating from a PWI and got into a PWI media agency. I had a weird feeling from the start but that feeling increased as number of black people that worked there dwindled and I was only here for 9 months! After I leave in the next two weeks there will only be one black person left. And (I’m not even being dramatic) everytime we do status calls at the beginning of the week (I’m remote) she looks disheveled and stressed. It all makes sense now. My manger also never liked me (idk why I did deep reflections and I just never came up with anything). she put me on a PIP and is very nice nasty to me and clearly doesn’t respect me as an equal. I could go on but you’ve said it all in this video.
It’s like this in predominantly black spaces if we really being honest. Black people in leadership take on the white spirit and mentality and do the same things you just talked about.
In his example, you could swap out the black person for any other black person and they would feel what he feels...In your example, I beileve it is specific to the black person.
OMG you hit the nail on the head with this video. Thank you for for making this video. These people will have you feeling like you are losing your mind, like you dont hear what you hear and see what you see. I can't thank you enough.❤❤😢
I need this... thank you so much for this. You just don't know how much I needed this pick-me-up. I will not " fall asleep at the wheel". Thank you so much. I will support me.
I really needed to hear this. I had no idea how to combat this. Still don't. But I returned to my African spirituality, voodoo and it really helped psychologically. The Hispanics also take advantage of the situation too. You have a new subscriber. Thank you. You are God sent.
This is another reason why I started working from home before it became a thing. No office politics in your face and a certain amount of freedom. It's not for everyone but working remotely has worked for me. It was my jump off to starting my own biz.
I strongly promote them more people work from home because office politics are extremely annoying and only the most incompetent people engage in it. The lockdown was bad for some but a blessing for others. After a while the mind games and the constant mood swings of other people can get to you. Let people deal with their office drama and do the best you can do.
I’m dealing with it right now. My team is very small with me being the only black person there, but there is one guy who acts exactly like what you’re describing. He’s has been trying to 1up me, undermine me and go out of his way to make me look bad ever since he started. It got to the point where I had to go to management. I feel like I have to move in silence because he’s always looking over my shoulder. He’s more worried about me than himself and he’s actually has the poorest performance on the team. It’s very exhausting, because I worked very hard to get where I’m at with my company. Thank you I needed to watch this video.
You are very right when you say moving silence. It took me a good majority of my twenties to learn that. Don't tell people about your personal life at any point in time and if forced to have an alias that matches their weird stereotype and then just move on. I would rather people think I live like crap than to actually live like crap. Your life is not predicated upon other people's obvious insecurity even though many wish it was..
I work in a auto body shop where I am the one of two black people here. The other black person makes it well known that he is a Uncle Tom. The lead in my department is also white and plays hip hop music only sung by white rappers and always wait until I'm in the area to make some comment about why he doesn't like almost all rap music I can only guess why .... While being married to a black woman smdh and he's not even the worst one. It's increasingly difficult every day to come into work and have to see and be around these people all the time everything you mentioned in your video happens to me on a daily basis. It's not easy finding a morning shift schedule job weekends off at the rate of pay I'm at in Pittsburgh PA so I have to manage and try my hardest to have to deal with this every day until something good comes along
exactly the video I was searching for, its because they're intimidated by your talent /greatness, this is happening to me, im a black man with good genetics for building a physique, an the white boys in the gym have been giving me rude looks even the women instead of giving credit, they're trying to undermine me !! so there for im gonna work harder, cos if i was doing this to them i would be in prison, ive been bullied insulted repeatedly for years, had a pack of haters gang up on me to try ruin my hard work tell others not to engage in talking to me, to make me feel belittled an pushed out, thats what happens when you level up, or if your blessed with a natural talent.
You know what they say it's lonely at the top of the mountain but it is what it is. Learn total indifference and it will bother people. Lol. There are some people in this world that the only time they could ever feel good about themselves is when somebody is under them even if it's an illusion.
@@divinequeen100 on the plus side you were smart enough to leave this is exactly what happened to me when I bothered using any form of common sensor critical thinking skills . ua-cam.com/video/vV30irsal-w/v-deo.htmlsi=6PoY-THgNOHDbue0
You are such a sweet soul. To have my experience put into words is so validating and I feel less isolated. I quit my toxic job working with a bunch of white mormons from Utah. Even working remotely I couldnt escaoe the unfair criticism, being held to a higher standard than my peers, feeling left out during meetings, having any small error blown WAY out of proportion. The last straw was being put back into training after only being there 8 weeks. My mental health took a nosedive so I quit and I think it eas the best decision I could make. Thanks for making this vid. I subscribed too ❤
I've had so-called friends and even one girl that I liked attempting to do this to me over jokes or mistakes that I made years ago. It pretty much got to the point where I didn't think so much of a joke with anybody and learn to keep a real professional with people. There are a lot of people that want to discredit every good thing you did over the most superficial thing in the universe. It sucks when you're hell to the lowest highest standard but that's pretty much the way it is
I have experienced all of these things, as a 'black' employee within a predominately white and black establishment. Even in a mix business environment, I would constantly deal with these toxic types and tactics from both groups because they perceived me as a threat, for one reason or another.... My coping mechanism was/is the power of words and standing on my square. I documented everything and never let the right hand see what the left was doing. It got to the point where most of these insecure toxic people would never come anywhere near me because they already knew that I AM always 10 steps ahead of them. Although, I would always end up being 'black balled' or 'blacklisted' -- I really didn't care because I preferred a piece of mind and OWNING my integrity, OVER a bigger title and paycheck and guess what? All of these years later, I am still standing, as most of those who fought like hell to bury and deny me, have fallen and fallen hard. These people's fear, toxicity and disrespect WILL BE their undoing and they will have no one to blame but themselves. #TheGreatEqualibrium
I have seen people damn near lose a quarter of a million over how they personally felt about other people. And after having someone almost kill me because the equipment was not checked properly which I would have done as I always do I was done and just said screw it. Corporate America is filled with a bunch of insane shenanigans and due to the straight up unprofessionalism it's hard to take it seriously. It's like high school 2.0 all over again.
Wow!!! I’m currently experiencing the same. I’m constantly being fired. It’s not because I can’t do the job but I don’t have the degree. I have 2 years of college. It’s so exhausting. I would love to know what you’re doing now.
Brother : Salute to you and this message … The fact that I searched for these type videos is enough to know I’m unfortunately experiencing this type environment…
After somebody almost got me killed due to them not checking equipment properly I started working for myself. I've been copying the Japanese work etiquette ever since.
You might want to talk to some people who personally remember the 1950s and find out why segregation was not working for them. It boils down to this: Segregation won't work for you unless you _control_ the politics and economics of the larger social environment. If you don't control the politics and economics of the larger social environment, being segregated just makes you the easy target of those who have that control.
@@rdkirk3834that’s BS. As history shows black people progressed at higher rates, had less broken homes, and incarceration . They implemented integration to destroy us.
@@SonDeku-y5x That is my point. If we don't have that control, then segregation will put us exactly where we were 60 years ago: Easily targeted. In fact, that still happens where black people are geographically targetable, like south east Dallas and New Orleans.
Thank you making this video!! I am having the experience right noow and this video is very encouraging, motivating, and validating. Honestly one of the best video's I've ever seen.
Thank you for your courage in sharing this topic. Now retired and living abroad after 42 years (35 being the only black in a broadcast network). Recovering from the toxicity.
This is a great post. Thank you for sharing Brother! I was the one black professional (Psychologist) in an all white setting for 12 years, and yes, I was unsafe psychologically the whole time. As black professionals, we really need to have mechanisms to defeat invisibility syndrome and imposter syndrrome in those moments when our white colleagues gaslight us and play microaggressive games. We need to be what I call "Visible Winners" in the face of passive white oppression in the workplace. Thank you again for sharing this. Well done!
As a 32 year old black men, you named everything that ive been going through eversince i can remember from 1st grade until now. Peace and Love Brother. Im going to share this video on my Facebook.
Out of curiosity did they ever try to change your grade because that happened to me so many times growing up and even when I got to college it would upset people when I got an A . I've had professors and even other students attempt to try to make me look unknowledgeable at things that I have more knowledge and experience than they do. After years of this happening I decided to start working for myself and never looked back. Ask this question because I'm curious is that the norm because I rarely ever had that problem in other places.
Thank you for this video. I really needed it. My last day was yesterday and I was treated unfairly. I was the only Hispanic and when you said that these people are good at acting nice I couldn’t agree more.
That's part of the problem as well. If you happen to be highly good at your job a Target pretty much gets put on your back. I remember I once left a job due to no longer being able to stomach the borderline immature psychotic behavior. Some people go to work to survive other people go to work on vacation and that has been made very clear when it comes to corporate America.
I'm an educator in a school where I love ALL of my students especially my black and brown. I am literally experiencing everything he has shared here. I could go on forever...
Thank you so much. Everything you said is what I have also experienced. God bless you. I so much resonate with this message. In fact it has helped to calm me down. Thank you
As a 58 yr old black man In Arizona Im always the black man in the workplace i know how you feel brother thats why i don't fuck with them outside of work
I’m Mexican but I’m here because this is my 2nd time working with a white women; I would not believe believe it if it wasn’t because I’ve been living it for the past 2 years… NOW I GET IT, the micro aggressions, discrimination, fragility that I have been experiencing is endless, ruthless, and relentless
And you know what’s truly sad, Mexicans (Asians, Indians, middle easterners, even Caribbeans and Africans) are all the same way to blks. Sometimes worse. Please address that in your community. Blks don’t feel safe around you all just like them folks. Sorry not sorry.
You know the worst part about it is they are prepared to lose tons of money over it. The very people who often walk around saying facts don't care about your feelings tend to be some of the most emotional people I have ever encountered. I have had people attack my character and attempt a gas light me over things I have never done, and try to take the tiniest mistakes and blow them way out of proportion. Over time I came to the conclusion that some people work to go on vacation and other people work to survive. Sadly the first one tends to be the most common
“On one hand they admire you, on the other hand they want you gone, they don’t want you to exist.” Painful but so true.😢
Oh yeah. I'll never forget there was one other black woman who was a manager (she left). My colleague said to her "I don't understand how you look so young is it plastic surgery?" another time a colleague said to me that she couldn't believe my age...and of course my manager stared me down with a screw face. Pure jealousy they have towards us. All that hate must be what causes them to age so quick.
I just got let go last wk. I knew that wanted me gone when i didn't take the bait when they wanted me to argue with a co-worker. When they saw me handled it professionally, that intimated them more.
@@satin.satsuma when somebody looks like emperor palpatine when they're 30 yeah that is pretty messed up. People need to stop using the dark side of the force and become proper Jedis
@satin.satsuma they are so jealous at how we age. ive seen it with this beautiful and I mean just drop dead gorgeous 52 year black women at My last job. I thought she was no older than 35 until she said she had adult children. She didn't have a wrinkle or line on her face and glowing smooth skin. She had a curvy figure and her and I would always talk about how people assumed she had work done. I would hear co workers talking about BBL. She never had work done. I miss her.
Its the brain and how you use it that causes us to age. There's an old southern saying , they's quiet of brain and loud of mouth.. @@satin.satsuma
This is why many of these places want to get rid of WFH. WFH is a lifesaver for black people.
What's that?
Is WFH, Work Force Hatred?
@@visionentertainment8006work from home.
@@visionentertainment8006work from home
@@visionentertainment8006 Work from home remove yourself from these envious people so they can hate each other
They were aggressive for another reason you did not mention. You are an attractive and articulate young man. They are jealous af
@jeremyross7939 there are people in this world that will try to apply stereotype to someone and when it doesn't stick they'll keep trying to gaslight you so that they can reaffirm their already messed up beliefs. One of the reasons working from home became a good option for many is because people get tired of the games and psychological warfare in the workplace.
There are people that only like you if they view you as being beneath them , but the moment you achieve equal a greater they turn around and hate you immediately.
And then god forbid you are an attractive intelligent black woman who doesn’t fit the stereotype or box they want us in 😂
They are VERY jealous.
@@SouthernEmperor I would also add insecure to that list because I can't tell you how many times I've had my grade changed from an A to a F simply because I asked a question or dared to do something more effectively growing up.
@@kozmickitsuneame They are very insecure. Very. I agree 1000%.
From my experience they are very comfortable being unprofessional but don’t let them see me be unprofessional
That's the price of being held to both the highest and lowest standard at the same time. Eventually people just lose all enthusiasm and just become apathetic.
Exactly! 💯
Big facts
I am a black nurse, and I have sadly worked in a predominantly white environment. Hispanics are also there as well, but they were valued over me. I have always had people jealous of my work ethic as a nurse. I was never heard on anything that I said, and someone else's word was always taken over mine. I was never appreciated, and I was always belittled. I have never had a great experience being the only black nurse, sadly. The toxic world that we live in. We black people are so racially profiled. Being Black in America is the hardest thing to be.
Please stay positive and be strong. If you’re a person who believes in God, pray for the Almighty to give you his FULL ARMOR. They will use microagressions. Stay strong and understand that WE know and understand. Be prayerful and grow stronger in your strength! 🙏
Yes, bc I’m sure you’re faultless and did absolutely nothing to cause everyone to distance themselves from you. Playing the victim is repulsive to people believe it or bot
@@Patrickstarrrrr69 Get some help for that Wetiko you’re suffering from.
I would hope that you know that whites are 5 times as many. Therefore yes you are probably going to work where their are mostly whites!
@@Patrickstarrrrr69leave
I dont have to be the only black person. Most big companies will have black people but they are threatened by a certain type of black personality if u will.
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@@missfrancis8175 Wow, so true. There was one other Black female who sat near me where a white colleague and a latino, best friends, just hated me and talked about me and the Latino one particulularly nasty. The Black colleague witnessed everything and I once said to her, 'did you see how she reacted to me?" Her response what that she did not want to get involved and got up and walked away. To this day she no longer speaks to me. The one 1 other Black female on the side where I work not only refuses to speak to me since I requested a seat change, but she's outright unfriendly and won't even hold a door open for me.
@@p.m.2131 treat them like apostles and just ignore them for your own mental health. I know this is mean to say but you have to be completely indifferent to such people.
And usually they are 🦝 for the yt boss
That's why most black men acts feminine to be accepted
imagine what our ancestors went through....good lawd...
Trust me
and that means what? that we has to accept every bullsht from you people just because "it was worse back than"
@@Mentis-de I wholeheartedly agree
@@Mentis-deanother ignorant probably white guy missing the point lol.
@@Mentis-de Truer words have never been spoken
Omg, I turned in my resignation letter today and I spoke about this and this just confirmed everything I was dealing with
That’s what they want in the end.
Me too.
Sending prayers for a healthy, joyful, and successful next step.
Exhausting
I hope you’re doing well in your new position love you
I hate using race as a crutch but I recently accepted an Engineer role at an all white employer. I'm literally the only black/minority here. What this brother is conveying in this video i've found to be 100% its annoying coming to work everyday. All I want to do is pay bills and move through life smmhhhh
Switch to a predominantly Non-white employer then. They exchange money for working hours too.
Hang in there. A lot of us know how you feel.
What u mean you hate using race as a crutch. Racism is the crutch that has disabled the black society as a whole. Sure there’s some lazy blk ppl out there but most of us are hustlers and would’ve been surpassed the nation if we were allowed to have a fair shot! I’m sorry you’re dealing with what you’re going through but we have to change the language. EVERYTHING in America boils down to race.
I was the only black employee at a job that I had last year and baby they abused me emotionally to no end. The covert disrespect, undermining your ideas, blatantly counting you out but trying to do it discreetly to make you think you're tripping, acting oblivious when they offend you, saying covertly racist things to see if you pick up on it, making me come into the office while everyone else gets to work from home, it was all too much! My boss would act embarrassed of me when outside white ppl came into the office, it's like she had to make excuses for hiring me. It was very toxic and stressful! However, had the nerve to try to to gaslight and guilt trip me for leaving.
As a teacher and I live in Europe I’m mentally exhausted … it’s very tiring, I was going to stay for one more year but December is my last month. Both the whites in America and Europe are one and the same
A teacher here same they r evil
That’s why I work for myself
@@sunflowerlovesbees is a very simple solution to this and I think a lot of people overlook. Master whatever your craft is and work from home even become your own boss if it's possible. And then if someone tries to play some weird psychological warfare with you smile at them like your Japanese nod and then just do what you're going to do anyway which is your job. I've had many people tell me what I'm going to do for them and I smile nod and I go right back to what I was doing.
@@kozmickitsuneame this is such good advice thank you.
I'm currently dealing with this now. I feel like im being gaslighted about my abilities. They keep saying "you lack confidence" over and over again just because im naturally quiet. Then at the same time, they ignore or shut down any ideas or suggestions I make. How does that make sense?
How is being quiet a lack of confidence ? I’m quiet because I’m quick to say something and if I speak my mind they will say I’m aggressive
@@Moneylovesme672 exactly thats partly why I'm quiet. You can tell most of them haven't been around POC, and clearly have some preconceived ideas.
@@satin.satsumagoing through this now. Someone even pointed out that I don’t participate is gossip like that’s a bad thing lol.
This!! Couldn’t have put it better. I had performing “at my level” and in some formal feedbacks “above my level” from various managers but one person’s perception of me “lacking confidence” meant they denied my promotion lol.
@@fourthquartersports7571 these people are pure evil.
It is critical to keep moving forward when they are trying to “get you out of there” I was in a new job, at a hospital I really wanted to work at in a really fantastic unit. There were only 2 black people, 1 Asian and now I come in as the only Hispanic. The two people training me were white. The undermining, calling out my mistakes publicly, the embarrassment, not giving me information that I needed in a timely manner , The condescending tone, all day, Went on for three solid months. During my final evaluation, they tried to indicate that I was not going to make it at this job. it was a Hispanic educator from another department who said “no, she will be fine, personally go out and work with her on the unit for half a day and let you know” she tweaked a minor few things (which they were targeting) and everything worked out because she advocated for me. I am still here 15 years later.
God Bless that Hispanic educator and more power to you!
man the getting calling called out publicly in a team meeting was crazy for me dawg i was like there’s no way 😂
sounds like racism to me
@@jrod0515 That's because there's a lot of people that love chaos and drama. Some people work to go on vacation other people work to survive. I once had a speech teacher that would only talk to you when an audience was present and nothing regarding his mistakes. The trick is to just be as indifferent and empathetic as humanely possible.
Another reason why Hispanics have to look out for one another when stuff like this happens. That's how you get stronger.
This was the most validating monologue of the truth about being black in corporate America. When you said they will go against you just because they don't vibe with your energy....YES!!! So freaking true. Thank you. I feel like I just had a conversation with my big bro who validated everything I keep to myself about my experience. I'm paid very well so I just play the game back and bid my time until they let me go or until I find something better. This was so therapeutic. Thank you.
I really think a lot of people need to start taking a page from the Japanese handbook and start incorporating a lot of those values if this type of crap treatment is going to continue to be a thing. Seems like the only solution to me.
@@kozmickitsuneameJapanese handbook ?
@@daisyx1002 ua-cam.com/video/b5t4ceerkhg/v-deo.html
brother this video needs to go viral. Working in corporate settings while black is one of the most mentally taxing things we go through. Then have to come home and be emotionally available to your family and loved ones. Racial bias is very real, especially in spaces that are apparently to supposed to help us
So TRUE!!
So true!!! It is exhausting. This is why I cannot wait until God executes justice upon those who seek to oppress innocent ones. Much appreciation for the engagement. Stay up!
Then create your own black-only business. No one is stopping you
@@Patrickstarrrrr69 So I guess there is no chance to live in harmony eh?
@@Patrickstarrrrr69I really hate this loaded comment because it's not that simple. Besides, if everyone owned their business, someone will have to work for them.
Every black person should listen to this. The truth is here
You got it.... micro aggressions. Egonegativity. I can relate. I was the only black designer for 23 years at the firm. My designs always got patented. But certain individuals that i trained thought that they knew more than me about stuff they never even learned. I had to check a few people. They most got straight after that. Its not a game... you are at covert WAR.
You better not ever drop your guard. And never slip...and be 10x better than your competitors. 48 laws of power. Never outshine the master. In other words...your covert strategy for excellence must be well protected. Always keep your secret techniques YOUR big secret... keep learning how to be new and Valuable to your industry. Black man we gotta collaborate and make the way that the world will need to have. Lets create systems. It is time now. Hurry up.
VERY HELPFUL! I’m 25, first in my family to graduate, and first to work in corporate America . I really thought I was going crazy & I was mad at my family for not teaching me what being in these spaces would be like before I started working in these companies. Thank you for some clarity
Hope you’re feeling better brother!
My corporate job gave me a mental breakdown, and it was definitely one of the better ones in comparison to other places, I wish you well in your career 🙏🏽
Hi, I understand but don’t be mad at your family for it. It’s not their fault. The blame is really to those who normalize toxic work environments and discriminate others in the workplace. First generation go through a lot alone in college and in corporate jobs. It’s so sad that we go through this but I hope we all find something better.
How you mad at ur family??
@tynash9869 When you're the first in your family to reach a certain educational level, or to pursue a certain career, you are going places that nobody else in your family has been. They can't know any more than you do the games you're about to come up against. So don't get mad at family for not warning you about the subtle games that white racists play in the workplace; family has not walked this way and they really don't have a way to know what to tell you about how to protect yourself. Those of us in these spaces have to take it upon ourselves to mentor those are coming along behind us, but also share our experiences with each other so that we can help one another.
I've seen the exact opposite when whites works for predominantly black business, it's like they gets special treatment and are treated differently. I don't know why we are like this, yes I know that we all should be treated equally but that's not the case.
I have seen it as well. The red carpet. gets pulled out. It’s sickening.
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They see white as a superior still
Because black people have better hearts to our detriment. We’re nice to them because we’re not threatened by them.
Same with the Mexicans now at the white establishment
We gotta stop working for these people. That’s the solution. Come together and build businesses.
@SheLuvsTheSun Funny part is the reason they are successful is because they never integrated with us lol. They keep their communities and build businesses with themselves. That’s why they still have power even tho they almost lost it all.
@SheLuvsTheSun
#WeWuzKangs n' shiiit.
Our people are NO BETTER !
@@BriaJordan-p9n You a liar. It’s one thing to deal with people issues. Caucasians deal with all types of bad behavior with their own race but it’s a different thing dealing with another race’s bs. We are all r*cist lowkey. Nobody just wants to admit it but I much rather take orders from a black man than a wm ANYDAY. Even though I rather work for myself and not take orders from anybody but if I had to I would want guys that look like me. I know they won’t take advantage and keep me at a low level in the company. Promotions etc would be judged fairly since skin tone and comfortability wouldn’t be in the equation. Normally all minorities face that invisible glass ceiling where all seniority are Caucasian. Do you really think a Caucasian would take a Darkskin bm over a Caucasian for a management position? With that kind of comfortability within your own race yall could literally talk about stuff like that with the management and it’s more of a friendship within the race. I’ve seen it plenty of times. A lower level whyte employee talking to a higher up like a friend from hs cause they are both the same race. From the Caucasian superior to minorities it’s like manager- employee.
Yes black people need to understand that we are all that we have. We have to work together, protect each other, love each other, buy from each other businesses. We are honestly all that we have. The other races don’t care about us they only care about there own race at the end of that day and preserving there own people.
That’s literally just racist and creates a retarded divide, I was adopted by loving white parents, anyone one of any race can be a loving or loathing individual race doesn’t make u shit it’s just a skin suit
Hmph 😮💨 Hoes ain't faithful lol
We need to be more discreet. Don’t say you want to support black businesses or specifically hire black people. They use it against us.
Yes, the inconvenient sad truth is we don't get that. We really have no friends so when we do this to each other, it's really a slap in the face
@@come_on_barbie_123- It’s the world at large. Not just black people. We think it’s cutthroat, and undermining for us. But I think many white treat each other just as bad, or even worse.
For a second I thought people like you didn’t exist anymore. Thank you for speaking and validating what I’ve always knew. They make you seem crazy when you advocate for yourself and question the system!
THIS! "From pet to threat" hit home. I'm so confused by all of this...I spent 10 years as the only black working in my department in banking, which outside of the collections or call center environments, is mostly white. But there I was, working hard and getting promoted EVERY. YEAR. in this "good ol' boy" space. I then transition to tech and start coding, and working for a company that shoves DEI down everyone's throats. Been there 4 years and have yet to get a promotions, despite doing the MOST. I finally left that job, even without having anything lined up-I experienced all you spoke of at the "woke" tech company, but hardly any of it at the "good ol' boy bank". Make it make sense?! But yes it's tiring. I'm. only 45 and have spent 20 years in corporate America, oftentimes being the black. At this point I don't even want another job in the US; I will gladly go to Costa Rica and teach surfing or yoga and call it a day.
Jesus loves you, for He created you in His image. You are very special to Him. I want to share this with you: God loves you far more than any other human being on this earth. That is how incredibly precious 💞 you are in His sight ❤
I have gone through abuse, bullying, rejection, and emotional neglect throughout my childhood, yet God rescued me 2 years ago! Even thought there are moments when I went through the fire, God comforts me, and has always protected me. Thank You God.
We live in a fallen sinful world, and we as sinners have transgressed against God's commandments. We are all guilty of punishment. The good news is that Jesus (who is God) manifested in the flesh, came to earth, and took our place of punishment for our sins, even thoufh He is holy, He alone did that for us all - He was crucified amd died on the cross, buried, and rose on the third day defeating sin and death; something we can and would never do/never measure up to...but Jesus did! All you have to do to receive this free gift of eternal salvation is to repent and believe in the good news: who Jesus is and what He did for you, and us all (you are saved the moment you believe - by grace through faith you will be saved). In Jesus name, Amen.
To add on, many believers in the body of Christ were once former yoga practitioners, and know for a fact through their testimony of God's grace that it is a demonic practice that leads many astray from God and onto a path of destruction. Seek the Lord with all of your heart 💝 get to know Him for yourself by asking Him to reveal Himself to you and read His word. He loves you and has created you specifically for His will, He knows your life and has already set it in stone.
Job hopping is the new promotion.
There is a lot of truth to what you describe here. The key is to develop a thick skin and to develop friendships or allies. A lot of black professionals take the bait and file weak EEO complaints or formally grieve before it is justified. Take notes and build cases with histories of incidents before you file complaints. Otherwise you’ll be labeled a troublemaker.
The EEO is no help at all. Build your case and hire an Employment Attorney.
Shout out to my Seattle black people, you're not alone. Seattle is one of the most hostile, toxic, anti-black cities.
So why live there
That place is trash anyway lol
Portland is too
This is SO True! It's tiring! To combat workplace bullying successfully, I can only credit my relationship with Jesus Christ. I have a daily devotional time in the mornings that anchors my soul in God's truth of who I am. I repeat daily affirmations - to reaffirm my worth AND I study spiritual warfare to understand the enemies' tactics. This is the only thing that has helped me navigate the toxic work environment and microaggressions.
Yep. Never rely on another humans approval, that’s the key. Christ is the one that formed us, he’s the only one that can truly love us
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This is the heart of it. It's a spiritual battle, look beyond the color and you'll see,,,In Christ there is refuge, Amen
My mental and physical health was almost destroyed by a blue eyed devil. I developed stroke symptoms after 2 years of working under her evil eyes but my guardian angel had a purpose and I survived the ordeal. Thankfully she clashed with so many people that she felt it best in her evil interest to leave. She is a demon sent from Satan and I feel so sorry for the tortured souls who work under her now.
Sounds hot. Was she a pretty lady?
Everything stated in this video is absolutely true. I am currently experiencing this in my current position and have experienced it in the past. These people are highly repulsive and immature, and there’s nothing that you can do or say to change their hearts. The only thing you can do is find somewhere else to go, or start your own business. We know not all are this way. But from experience where I live the majority of them act this way. It's very sad that we still have a long way to go in this society!💯
I got enough crap experience in college in general to let me know I didn't want to work for nobody but me. I'm sorry that happened to you but you pretty much have to understand that there is no real professionalism in corporate anymore. Just a bunch of repulsive immature kindergarten bulltshit. After a while you can't even take it seriously because it sounds like something out of a bad movie.
Corporation and Plantations are the same thing. Im a rebellious slave and I dont care if Im fired. We must stop looking for support from them and support ourselves. Stop participating in their systems of command, period and create your own businesses
This! ❤
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Peroittt!
My only addition to this is that it also largely applies to non black people of color as well. They’re just as bad and sometimes worse because they have a chip on their shoulder and feel like they have to solidify their place in the “hierarchy” by lashing out
Especially Indian women, they are soo racist.
Damn never thought that would happen. I mean I can believe it I just didn’t see it
Yup they’re just as bad. All that “POC solidarity” stuff is false. Don’t trust them.
They are ok with being below white people, so long as they feel above black people.
That is my problem now in Australia with Indians,Nepalese and other minorities. I am Nigerian.
@@gueundhrb1702 better believe it.
I recently had a situation happen where a colleague made a comment about my hair (I was wearing passion twists). We are all remote and manager forced us to turn on our cameras without warning one day, so that everyone could “embrace their natural beauty” while the boss was put together. Lol. Anyway, once I turned my camera on, someone made a comment saying “wow your hair got so long!” Mind you I’m the only black person in this meeting and everyone else are caucasian females. No comments were made about anyone else’s hair or appearance so I felt awkward, uncomfortable, put on the spot, and singled out. I did not appreciate that at all. I didn’t even respond. And you’re right. Their superiority level is 20,000 & condescension is very subtle and covert.
Ohh stop being petty 🙄. No matter what you’re going to cry racism. No matter what white people say to you
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This is spot on and systemic. It happens every organization
Hey L.,
Let me first say, Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I've viewed several of your videos but baby this one hit like no other. You have expressed what I've been going through from the moment I began my current job. I now know what I have to do to keep my sanity.
I especially enjoyed the part where you described, the gang or mob behavior they exact on people they don't like. It's down right atrocious. They live having the crowd all worked up to see you fall. It's very intentional they way they come for you because they feel threatened by your very existence.
This may surprise many, but I endured these behaviors from people who were supposed to love me, my family. Most of my life I've endured the ridicule, the undermining of my opinion or ideas, to the non support of family when I've achieved a goal.
Yet they always were demanding my time and services when it benefitted them. Never was I valued or made to feel welcome. The same goes for some relationships I've put up with.
I was always the one left with a void to fill after giving them my all. Thank you for giving me the language I'll need to combat this evil and toxic force that is trying to annihilate me and everything about me. It's time for me to leave that plantation mentality behind and begin my entrepreneurship life so that I can create the world I envision. 🕊️
Sherry, I know it is rough. Sounds like you have been considering launching from your present job and rightfully so. We get but so many good years on this earth and they should not be wasted combating the slings and arrows of low-key bigots! You deserve better so if you have not already done so, it's time to begin taking interviews with prospective employers that honor your gifts, talents and abilities. I will keep you lifted up in prayer! ❤️
Exclusion, lie about u, gaslight, think u r unprofessional when u voice your concerns, yeahhhh they see u as a pet they have to train show u how to do things even when u have the same qualifications...
My issue now. I'm not the angry black man because I'm telling them they're wrong and assuming.
Yup, that be them!
You could have the same qualifications or greater, be the most well-spoken professional in the room and that alone will get you put on a shit list long before anybody who fits the opposite of those qualities would be put on one. I've since then learned to work for myself, consider everyone a potential enemy until proven otherwise and even then still keep an exit plan just in case. That's how corporate works and unfortunately how life kind of works.
Damn, I feel this message so hard. Not black, but chicano here and I can't tell you how much they love DEIA
As a Chicano man your experience matters too. Just know you are not alone brother. I feel you. Let's continue to support and upbuild each other cuz we are all we got.
You are so spot on… I have white woman anxiety because of it
Did you go to St Louis University?
I’m black and i have to deal with the superiority complex of these people and worse off is i have to deal with an white ass licking black person too.
It’s really affecting my spirit… I find it difficult to speak to anyone of any race
Same!
I’m learn to create a mental shield bc they are overly anxious
I have blank woman anxiety
😂😂😂 the crazy part is, when you finally confront them. They will try to make it seem like your delusional OR try to feed you a story about how they had it ruff too. Your struggle is NOT the same. If they woke up Black, they would panic or delete themselves💯
@@TommyVXOLucia I remember I had a situation where a malfunction could have very well ended me. I was gas slit and told to relax after the fact. Lol as soon as I left that job a few weeks later somebody actually did get put in critical condition. I love the I had it rough too comment because if that were actually true you would think the person would make a conscious effort to not put people through unnecessary BS . If the average person in general had to deal with this type of thing everyday deletions would be through the roof lol.
Black people need to stick together at work. It’s not always like that though.
We don't know who the enemy is. I tend to watch my back against everyone for safety.
The codeswitchers won't allow it
@@noway1343I am a "code switcher". I am loyal to my people black and the whites who gave me help and opportunity. Don't get multi-lingualism confused with disloyalty - for once - please.
I thought sticking Black people together for work purposes was outlawed after the Civil War? Also, wouldn't those shackles make too much noise in quiet working environments?
And what if you're so talented that you're in a highly homogeneous workforce... in medical specialities it's crazy! And yes it's very covert!
I never seen a video so spot on! The workplace is definitely stressful and toxic! I want a remote job so bad but where I don't have to have much video interaction.
Me too I would love that myself
Had a gf that thought she was in.... I tried to explain to her how to move around these people but she wouldn't listen. I told her don't go thinking that she got friends. And sure enough she went and told them her personal business and next thing you know the whole company knew it and made it up to the CEO. And she was literally crying in her sleep by the embarrassment and shame. After I literally advised her not to confide in these people. Talk about booksmart but stupid as a mother f*****....smh she was a micro biologist, degree in forensics but didn't have enough sense not trust these people....smh. get you a spouse with basic commom sense
@@AJthEenigmatic I swear that story reminds me of the countless times I have tried to give advice or instruct people on how to deal with corporate. They often get upset and call me cold and calculating when I explain to them how they're going to be viewed and the way they're going to be treated. If you know what you're doing you're going to be far more hated and despise than someone who doesn't.
I feel bad for her but I hope she learned from it.
To this day the most hilarious thing I've ever heard when applying for anything is when the employer says "we're like a family here" LOL .
This needs to go viral. Everything you said is true. From restaurants to corporate environments. It’s a way to keep them off your back but you gotta tap into that dark side
As someone who's pretty much had to be Darth Vader in his own field at one point I agree.
I thought one of the symptoms of being Black is that all of one's sites are dark?
I have Never commented on a UA-cam video in my life. But I have to say thank thank you thank you for the validation. I watched this after crying on my way to work. You've reminded me that I'm not crazy, I'm not making this up in my head. Thank you. I no longer feel alone in this pain. Whew! I never had my feelings and thoughts articulated so well. You described my experience to the T
I agree with everything you said, I worked with all white and Hispanics at my job for 5 years in a nursing home I was the only black one for a long time and I definitely felt like this.
I feel we all were blessed to hear this right now. ✊🏾
Brotha keep making videos. My anxiety has dramatically gone down after watching this
Mine too❤
I went ahead & liked this 16 seconds in lol and I'm gonna go ahead and follow you. Thank you SO much for speaking on THIS. I'm hanging on your every word and I feel you. I've been the "only" for far too long. I'm tired. I'm anxious. I'm enraged. I'm lonely. I'm perplexed by why I'm even the "only" at this point. I've been working in the architectural (construction) field for about 8 years. I can't stand it anymore. Thank you for speaking on this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Much love and happy holidays brother. -Drea in Washington DC (I just moved here from Connecticut to escape predominately YT spaces)
I’m going through this now I’m the only Black person at my job and going to lose my job because she’s upset that I’m not friends with her. She complained about me looking at her at the same time complaining that don’t request help from her.
It's because you weren't doing the Mickey mouse smile. You pretty much have to master the art of talking to people for a long period of time without ever saying much about yourself. When people are divisive you pretty much have to act like you're in Disneyland because even though it's not part of the job there are some extremely fake people in this world.
Brother I needed your message today. I am dealing with it right now on job. I know I’m good but they don’t want me to talk in meetings. If I do explain how I see the problem They go straight at you with knifes. I was told today not to speak on calls
Brother, let me just say I feel your pain. The silencing and colonization of black and brown voices is nothing new. Colonization is in white blood. The best thing you can do is arm yourself with information. Be knowledgeable. Document all microaggressions and attempts to silence you and REFUSE to be dismissed, infantalized and shoved into a corner. It's time to pushback in a way that elevates you even if that means creating an exit strategy to another agency where your talents, skills and abilities will be appreciated. You have power. You are strong King. Now launch. Your time is always NOW!
Noticed this as well. They can't stand it if you raise concerns to try and fix a problem. Yet if another white colleague raises that same concern they get praised and credited.
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How can White people colonize the companies they've founded themselves? Colonization is a Black invention. Back in the Stone Ages, Black cavemen colonized most continents.
And if you're the first Black person to work in a White company, yet aim to make it to the top there, aren't you technically the colonizer?
This is very true, I’m in a predominantly white space as a fleet Administrator. Never see any black dudes in this role. I replaced a white dude who didn’t want the job, but somehow the title went from manager to analyst, but the duties are the same and they even added more. When I go to the conventions,they like how you got here? The people over me like to dangle carrots on promotion and raises. It’s down right sickening, but I’ve found away around it. I’ll owe them more than they will ever owe me.😅
You know it's for that very reason I pretty much developed the work ethic and mentality of a Japanese person. When I was younger stuff like that used to bother me now I just completely ignore people and do what I need to do.
Thank you for sharing this Brother. Being the 1% in the aircraft industry the message of this video hit my soul. It’s cutthroat out here.
I feel you. Everything you say is true. I've been there and still am there, to some extent. What it boils down to is that many white Americans are dealing with a lot of suffering, so instead of resolving it, they project it to other people. You would think that they would want to be grounded and whole, but that's impossible to do, since they are using whiteness as a crutch.
Facts I’ve always felt like racism was a way for these non blacks to take their miserable existence out on somebody else
This !!! It’s like the idea of I’m poor but atleast I’m not dirt poor . And looking down on the dirt poor people . I feel as though the working class non blacks are more upset at not reaching the so call American dream so it’s easier to pick on those who society says is beneath them.
They are definitely suffering by their standards. They project and I get a kick out of it😂 i make them uncomfortable. And they hate that I get all the company benefits
@@AJthEenigmatic what I failed I understand is how can somebody on one end tell a person to pull themself up by their bootstraps and say that the system isn't broken, then when you actually do succeed at anything or hold a high position then the system is somehow broken and needs to be corrected at all cost lol.
Excellent video. Shared with my son as he starts his first corporate job after college.
Be sure to tell your son to watch out for the emotional and psychological warfare tactics that people play in the workplace. It's not a family it's more like a mental ward. And yes there are people fully prepared for the cost of the company tons of money based on how they feel about somebody , and even when the truth is found out that they got someone injured or almost killed them due to neglect of equipment nobody will do a damn thing. I've had people tell me they are considering moving their business to Japan and other places.
Bro this is the video of all videos in the history of videos on this topic..I been searching and searching and it feels realll good to see that I’m not alone with what we go through in our places of employment/corporate America. I’m in tech as a network engineer and it has taken a toll on my mind and spirit…tech is highly competitive and toxic and I’ve been going through it but I know who I am and where I come from and our history and it has helped me greatly mentally and spiritually. But I’ve decided that this environment isn’t for me long term as I live my life so I need an exit strategy to build something for myself and so I can be around my people. Cause I feel 1,000 times better when I’m with my own people
He dropped knowledge in this video. Worked on a team where the jobs REQUIRED a BS degree. Only 1 out of 6 leaders had a degree, and it showed in their written work. It was a good ol boy system
My heart cries out to this post. To be able to sum all of this up is amazing . Sometimes is feels to difficult to explain it all . Great job . Thank you
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤4 Day work week ! I have been saying this for years!! I got spoken to being to nice and smiling all the time. They hate how happy I am despite the misery they try to cause!! ❤ I am up for the fight EVERYDAY!! LOVE conquers all! Thank you for this video much appreciated and needed ❤❤
I went through it as the only black police officer for many years until they finally got me out of the job and profession with their evilness 😢
Hopefully you moved onto something better that brings you peace don’t let miserable people bring you down with them
They most likely projected their guilt of mistreating black people in the community onto you smh. What is meant for you will never pass you by just keep your head up and something better will open up for you.
And what’s even worst is the black people who are at the jobs who work in tandem and support these antics
Had such an experience and it was heartbreaking
@@jidec3165it's for this reason you have to develop making real friends across the board because you never know who might come at you sideways unfortunately.
@@jidec3165it's unfortunate but you have to always be on guard because you never know who might come at you sideways. Better uptight than sorry.
They too are fools.
Yes! Everything so eloquently, deliberately, accurately, and beautifully shared and stated in this presentation is the absolute truth. I can relate!! Blessings to you and wishes for healing.
I am a strong confidence black man, and they dont like it at all. Longest I have had a job is 13 months. They do not want black men to rise in the work force. They do not want black men having a retirement plan. They want black men relient on black women for support to keep the community weak. I worked a job at a lumber yard. 3 black men total worked there including myself. The majority was latino, and the administrative staff was white.
None of the white men had Degrees. I have a degree in Business Administration.
They let me go, (im in an at will state) they did not want me getting past 90 days and applying for an Administrative role. I would have been able to jump ahead of a lot of career workers there. And that didnt sit well with them.
When people see someone that doesn't fit The stereotype it tends to intimidate people. They start to view you as more of a threat than anybody actually doing something bad. They like it that way because then they don't have to think about it. " In other words they might as well be saying how dare you not live up to my messed up expectation of you" The higher you rise you'll quickly find yourself losing a lot of so called friends.
I've experienced this many times and I'm 33% black. One drop rule. 😅
You're not playing the game. Check out The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene.
And that kind of treatmen never happened to White employees?
@@epaminon6196you also get called racial slurs at work, racially judged on your competence based on your colour, only hired because your race, then fired quickly if the company needed to downsize, assumed your less articulate?? Oh oki I didn't realise
This is Facts!!!
So many of us have seen this from day one of ever having a job….i have always observed and felt the negative vibes and superiority. Staying on guard, holding in MY TRUTH and watching them speak 🗣️ theirs and get away with pure murder..
Thank you for this!
I deal with this so often. This is the most relatable video I have seen thus far, thank you I know I’m not alone
Thank you SO MUCH for making this video. The challenges we face in the corporate world can take a massive toll on our mental well-being. I can feel your pain as if it were my own. Actually, it is my own because I have experienced everything you've mentioned and more.
I am a CPA and I recently started a job at a CPA firm where I'm the only black person in the office. I have 11 years of experience and worked with fortune 500 companies. Im very good at what i do and im very confident about it. Because of this, I have faced a lot of conflicts with white people (unprovoked). I have always been the only black one in their spaces for a long time, but I've never felt the racism like this one. I've always been able to manage it for the most part until recently. My manager has been against me since day one. She knows the wealth of knowledge I'm bringing in, and she feels very threatened. Unfortunately for my case, I was let go recently. Ask me why? They said verbatim, "You are too strong for the position. We underestimated your experiences, and you're not a good fit."
Racial bias is very real and if you haven't gone through it, you'd never understand. It breaks you down mentally and emotionally. It's very unfair and I feel so sad that we have to go through this knowing we are very qualified. If anyone is going through this, I'm giving you a virtual hug. I know how tough it is. I am currently trying to pick myself back up. Hang in there, and please take care of your mental health.
You were preaching! Whew! I’m winded! This was so on point it is scary. I’m currently studying Racial Battle Fatigue and this is that! Working in these spaces is exhausting. Thank you so much for sharing this video!! 🖤🖤🖤
This video is helping me validate what I have felt so long in corporate America
I was saying “mhm” and snapping my fingers throughout this ENTIRE video. Yes Lord. *breaks out into praise dances* I feel so seen. Thank you, so much for this.
Sometimes pulling out a big Bible in between breaks, lunch and etc will get them running 🏃 for the hills 😂 I love it
I needed to hear this. Got my first “prestigious career job after graduating from a PWI and got into a PWI media agency. I had a weird feeling from the start but that feeling increased as number of black people that worked there dwindled and I was only here for 9 months! After I leave in the next two weeks there will only be one black person left. And (I’m not even being dramatic) everytime we do status calls at the beginning of the week (I’m remote) she looks disheveled and stressed. It all makes sense now. My manger also never liked me (idk why I did deep reflections and I just never came up with anything). she put me on a PIP and is very nice nasty to me and clearly doesn’t respect me as an equal. I could go on but you’ve said it all in this video.
It’s like this in predominantly black spaces if we really being honest. Black people in leadership take on the white spirit and mentality and do the same things you just talked about.
In his example, you could swap out the black person for any other black person and they would feel what he feels...In your example, I beileve it is specific to the black person.
This is facts, Canada is the same.
OMG you hit the nail on the head with this video. Thank you for for making this video. These people will have you feeling like you are losing your mind, like you dont hear what you hear and see what you see. I can't thank you enough.❤❤😢
I need this... thank you so much for this. You just don't know how much I needed this pick-me-up. I will not " fall asleep at the wheel". Thank you so much. I will support me.
I really needed to hear this. I had no idea how to combat this. Still don't. But I returned to my African spirituality, voodoo and it really helped psychologically.
The Hispanics also take advantage of the situation too. You have a new subscriber. Thank you. You are God sent.
This is another reason why I started working from home before it became a thing. No office politics in your face and a certain
amount of freedom. It's not for everyone but working remotely has worked for me. It was my jump off to starting my own biz.
I strongly promote them more people work from home because office politics are extremely annoying and only the most incompetent people engage in it. The lockdown was bad for some but a blessing for others. After a while the mind games and the constant mood swings of other people can get to you. Let people deal with their office drama and do the best you can do.
This is one of the best things I've ever seen on UA-cam. You hit the nail on the head with your insight and commentary.
Man I wish i knew you in real life , you'd be the perfect guy to vent to 😂😂
I’m dealing with it right now. My team is very small with me being the only black person there, but there is one guy who acts exactly like what you’re describing. He’s has been trying to 1up me, undermine me and go out of his way to make me look bad ever since he started. It got to the point where I had to go to management. I feel like I have to move in silence because he’s always looking over my shoulder. He’s more worried about me than himself and he’s actually has the poorest performance on the team. It’s very exhausting, because I worked very hard to get where I’m at with my company. Thank you I needed to watch this video.
You are very right when you say moving silence. It took me a good majority of my twenties to learn that. Don't tell people about your personal life at any point in time and if forced to have an alias that matches their weird stereotype and then just move on. I would rather people think I live like crap than to actually live like crap.
Your life is not predicated upon other people's obvious insecurity even though many wish it was..
I work in a auto body shop where I am the one of two black people here. The other black person makes it well known that he is a Uncle Tom. The lead in my department is also white and plays hip hop music only sung by white rappers and always wait until I'm in the area to make some comment about why he doesn't like almost all rap music I can only guess why .... While being married to a black woman smdh and he's not even the worst one. It's increasingly difficult every day to come into work and have to see and be around these people all the time everything you mentioned in your video happens to me on a daily basis. It's not easy finding a morning shift schedule job weekends off at the rate of pay I'm at in Pittsburgh PA so I have to manage and try my hardest to have to deal with this every day until something good comes along
I’m crying you are putting into words these feelings and emotions I been going through at work, since I’ve been working with these two white women
exactly the video I was searching for, its because they're intimidated by your talent /greatness, this is happening to me, im a black man with good genetics for building a physique, an the white boys in the gym have been giving me rude looks even the women instead of giving credit, they're trying to undermine me !! so there for im gonna work harder, cos if i was doing this to them i would be in prison, ive been bullied insulted repeatedly for years, had a pack of haters gang up on me to try ruin my hard work tell others not to engage in talking to me, to make me feel belittled an pushed out, thats what happens when you level up, or if your blessed with a natural talent.
You know what they say it's lonely at the top of the mountain but it is what it is. Learn total indifference and it will bother people. Lol. There are some people in this world that the only time they could ever feel good about themselves is when somebody is under them even if it's an illusion.
@@kozmickitsuneameyour absolutely right
So spot on about breaking you down! They broke me down to my break pads 😢. However, I recovered and on to bigger and better things
@@divinequeen100 on the plus side you were smart enough to leave this is exactly what happened to me when I bothered using any form of common sensor critical thinking skills .
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You are such a sweet soul. To have my experience put into words is so validating and I feel less isolated. I quit my toxic job working with a bunch of white mormons from Utah. Even working remotely I couldnt escaoe the unfair criticism, being held to a higher standard than my peers, feeling left out during meetings, having any small error blown WAY out of proportion. The last straw was being put back into training after only being there 8 weeks. My mental health took a nosedive so I quit and I think it eas the best decision I could make. Thanks for making this vid. I subscribed too ❤
I've had so-called friends and even one girl that I liked attempting to do this to me over jokes or mistakes that I made years ago. It pretty much got to the point where I didn't think so much of a joke with anybody and learn to keep a real professional with people. There are a lot of people that want to discredit every good thing you did over the most superficial thing in the universe. It sucks when you're hell to the lowest highest standard but that's pretty much the way it is
I have experienced all of these things, as a 'black' employee within a predominately white and black establishment. Even in a mix business environment, I would constantly deal with these toxic types and tactics from both groups because they perceived me as a threat, for one reason or another.... My coping mechanism was/is the power of words and standing on my square. I documented everything and never let the right hand see what the left was doing. It got to the point where most of these insecure toxic people would never come anywhere near me because they already knew that I AM always 10 steps ahead of them.
Although, I would always end up being 'black balled' or 'blacklisted' -- I really didn't care because I preferred a piece of mind and OWNING my integrity, OVER a bigger title and paycheck and guess what? All of these years later, I am still standing, as most of those who fought like hell to bury and deny me, have fallen and fallen hard. These people's fear, toxicity and disrespect WILL BE their undoing and they will have no one to blame but themselves. #TheGreatEqualibrium
I have seen people damn near lose a quarter of a million over how they personally felt about other people. And after having someone almost kill me because the equipment was not checked properly which I would have done as I always do I was done and just said screw it. Corporate America is filled with a bunch of insane shenanigans and due to the straight up unprofessionalism it's hard to take it seriously.
It's like high school 2.0 all over again.
@@kozmickitsuneame That last sentence you posted sums it up well. Very true!
Im continuously being fired. Without a degree. I take the L. I need uplifting today as I will be a full time entrepreneur
Wow!!! I’m currently experiencing the same. I’m constantly being fired. It’s not because I can’t do the job but I don’t have the degree. I have 2 years of college. It’s so exhausting. I would love to know what you’re doing now.
Self-care is not about vanity. It's about sanity.
Brother : Salute to you and this message … The fact that I searched for these type videos is enough to know I’m unfortunately experiencing this type environment…
It's unfortunate that blacks have to go through this. I've gone through this at a few companies that I've worked for, and it's sad.
After somebody almost got me killed due to them not checking equipment properly I started working for myself. I've been copying the Japanese work etiquette ever since.
Us integrating was a horrible idea.
You might want to talk to some people who personally remember the 1950s and find out why segregation was not working for them. It boils down to this: Segregation won't work for you unless you _control_ the politics and economics of the larger social environment. If you don't control the politics and economics of the larger social environment, being segregated just makes you the easy target of those who have that control.
@@rdkirk3834that’s BS. As history shows black people progressed at higher rates, had less broken homes, and incarceration . They implemented integration to destroy us.
@@rdkirk3834But…we still don’t have that control though 🧐🤨
@@SonDeku-y5x That is my point. If we don't have that control, then segregation will put us exactly where we were 60 years ago: Easily targeted. In fact, that still happens where black people are geographically targetable, like south east Dallas and New Orleans.
I hate to agree but I do😭😭😭
Thank you making this video!! I am having the experience right noow and this video is very encouraging, motivating, and validating. Honestly one of the best video's I've ever seen.
waching this a year later still hits
Thank you for your courage in sharing this topic. Now retired and living abroad after 42 years (35 being the only black in a broadcast network). Recovering from the toxicity.
This is a great post. Thank you for sharing Brother! I was the one black professional (Psychologist) in an all white setting for 12 years, and yes, I was unsafe psychologically the whole time.
As black professionals, we really need to have mechanisms to defeat invisibility syndrome and imposter syndrrome in those moments when our white colleagues gaslight us and play microaggressive games. We need to be what I call "Visible Winners" in the face of passive white oppression in the workplace.
Thank you again for sharing this. Well done!
any strategies suggestions resources to help equip ourselves?
Please elaborate!
As a 32 year old black men, you named everything that ive been going through eversince i can remember from 1st grade until now. Peace and Love Brother. Im going to share this video on my Facebook.
Out of curiosity did they ever try to change your grade because that happened to me so many times growing up and even when I got to college it would upset people when I got an A . I've had professors and even other students attempt to try to make me look
unknowledgeable at things that I have more knowledge and experience than they do.
After years of this happening I decided to start working for myself and never looked back. Ask this question because I'm curious is that the norm because I rarely ever had that problem in other places.
Thank you for this video. I really needed it. My last day was yesterday and I was treated unfairly. I was the only Hispanic and when you said that these people are good at acting nice I couldn’t agree more.
That's part of the problem as well. If you happen to be highly good at your job a Target pretty much gets put on your back. I remember I once left a job due to no longer being able to stomach the borderline immature psychotic behavior. Some people go to work to survive other people go to work on vacation and that has been made very clear when it comes to corporate America.
I'm an educator in a school where I love ALL of my students especially my black and brown. I am literally experiencing everything he has shared here. I could go on forever...
You and the original author are exactly right about the pet to threat theory.
Takes me back to a really traumatic time at a ad agency where the entire room mocked my ideas then stole them a month later.
Thank you so much. Everything you said is what I have also experienced. God bless you. I so much resonate with this message. In fact it has helped to calm me down. Thank you
This video is so clear and affirming. Thank you for speaking it. I'm wishing all of us dealing with this healing, protection and equity.
As a 58 yr old black man In Arizona Im always the black man in the workplace i know how you feel brother thats why i don't fuck with them outside of work
Yoooo brother they always ask me to drink with them after work when I started.... I'm not nawww
You nailed it, and I really think that they're especially threatened by smart, confident black men.
I’m Mexican but I’m here because this is my 2nd time working with a white women; I would not believe believe it if it wasn’t because I’ve been living it for the past 2 years… NOW I GET IT, the micro aggressions, discrimination, fragility that I have been experiencing is endless, ruthless, and relentless
And you know what’s truly sad, Mexicans (Asians, Indians, middle easterners, even Caribbeans and Africans) are all the same way to blks. Sometimes worse. Please address that in your community. Blks don’t feel safe around you all just like them folks. Sorry not sorry.
You know the worst part about it is they are prepared to lose tons of money over it. The very people who often walk around saying facts don't care about your feelings tend to be some of the most emotional people I have ever encountered. I have had people attack my character and attempt a gas light me over things I have never done, and try to take the tiniest mistakes and blow them way out of proportion. Over time I came to the conclusion that some people work to go on vacation and other people work to survive. Sadly the first one tends to be the most common
I swear this is 100% correct...Sadly I have to go through this now....Its so tiring but I will not let anyone stop my $!!!