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For Gay Men Trying To Live Right But At The Same Time Struggling with Desires of the Flesh
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This man is a RACIST.
This video is helping me validate what I have felt so long in corporate America
Sometimes pulling out a big Bible in between breaks, lunch and etc will get them running 🏃 for the hills 😂 I love it
Listen up folks. Put him on a talk show.
thank you
Luis, you really understand and know how to apply the Word of God in the right context. You have a great ministry as i dont know if there are a lot of people who can reach the people that you can reach. I encourage you brother as God increases your territory.
I am curious if you have ever considered that homosexuality is not a sin. If it is a belief you are committed to maintaining, then I wish you peace on the path you have chosen. Serious bible scholars challenge the notion that it is a sin. However, I find many of the arguments in support of gay marriage unconvincing. Most theological treatises asserting that gay marriage is permissible build their cases on dissection of scripture: the etymology of a word, the cultural context of a verse, sociological, traditional, and other considerations. While some arguments supporting gay marriage are persuasive, I have found others unconvincing. Some arguments supporting gay marriage fail, in part, because they start in the wrong place. The starting point is Jesus. I encourage you to consider the meaning of Jesus touching the leper, letting the adulterous go free, celebrating the good Samaritan who touched the unclean and many other examples of Jesus challenging traditional interpretations of scripture. Jesus didn't just bring new wine, he brought new wine skin. There is nothing new about theology that buries people in shame and self-contempt. There is nothing new about theology that drives a majority to discriminate against a minority. There is nothing new about theology that makes it more difficult for people to come to God. If you are interested in considering different points of view, I encourage you to read the book "My Jesus Loves Gays". David Gushee's "Changing Our Mind" is another good book. Whatever your path I wish you strength and a deep belief in God's love for you just as you are - not DESPITE how you are, but as you are.
@07triman The truth is homosexuality is a sin. It is a deviation from God's original purpose for mankind. 1Corinthians 6:9-11 reads: "Or do you not know that unrighteous people will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Do not be misled. Those who are sexually immoral, idolaters, adulterers, men who submit to homosexual acts, men who practice homosexuality, thieves, greedy people, drunkards, revilers, and extortioners will not inherit God’s Kingdom. And yet that is what some of you were. But you have been washed clean; you have been sanctified; you have been declared righteous in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and with the spirit of our God." Truth is many theologians today want to confabulate text and preach false doctrine. They want to support doctrine that is in accord with their desires. They seek out teachings in alignment with their own thinking NOT Gods. The Bible predicts this at 2 Timothy 4:3,4 where it reads: "For there will be a period of time when they will not put up with the wholesome teaching, but according to their own desires, they will surround themselves with teachers to have their ears tickled. They will turn away from listening to the truth and give attention to false stories." Compare 1Timothy 1:3-11. Truth is homosexuality is referred to as a sin in both the old testament and the new. The idea is not to shame gay men and women with this information but rather call them into God's loving care. God loves those loving righteousness. He extends his mercy and grace as invitations to his love but many see these invitations as permission slips, licenses and passes to engage in sin. God set the standard for human relationships and according to his original purpose, he created one man and one woman to be together. He instructed them to "be fruitful and become many. Fill the earth and subdue it." Genesis 1:28. But humans have taken it upon themselves to alter and pervert God's initial intention or human relationships often times with disastrous results! Truth is God is a God of generativity, growth and production. What can two men produce together? What can they produce inside one another except death & cellular stagnation as evidenced by the increasing rates of HIV infection among gay men. This truth is not intended to shame gay men but rather give them a moment of pause to reflect on God's will for their lives. Is Gods will for them to sexualize every aspect of their being? To live embedded in fleshly desire? To forfeit the eternity of their spirit for the temporary enjoyment of sin? Absolutely not! The scriptures mention at 2 Corinthians 10:4,5 that God can assist with "overturning deeply entrenched things". It is with God's help that we are able to control our desires. False teachers will tell us we are born this way and that there is no hope for us. Society will tell us that we can't change, that it is useless for us to try. They will say anything that runs contrary to these beliefs is homophobic and hateful. But the scriptures do not condone homophobia, the irrational fear and hatred of gay men and women. While it recognizes homosexuality as a sin, it does not promote, condone or celebrate the abuse, disrespect or killing of gay men/women. Instead the scriptures say "and yet that is what some of you WERE but you washed your robes and made them white in the blood of the lamb" God dignifies us with His belief in our ability to change. He says "yes come as you are but don't stay there". He loves us enough to want better for us than the tainted cumshots of broken men. When was the last time someone loved you enough to have faith in your transformation and ability to change? Additionally there were times when Jesus went above Jewish law simply as a measure of kindness and grace and way to lead people to God's love. But this wasn't him condoning sin. It was him doing the work of God, not secular work as illustrated in the Bible account at John 5 where Jesus healed a leper on the sabbath. I think there needs to be a discussion on this tendency to reverse-shame people who uphold scriptural truths by using weapons of accusation, character assassination and contempt. It's like Dave Chapelle said "I don't have to compromise my convictions to be compassionate. I think all individuals struggling with same-sex attractions need compassion and not condemnation.
It’s a day by day situation. You can’t think about the past and you can’t think about the future. Just pray and focus on God and live in the moment at hand. Use all spare time praying, focusing on God, keeping busy, reading the word, going to work, exercising, talking to family and friends and BAM the day is over and you made it through. Before you know it your mind isn’t even thinking about any sexual desires/etc. Praying for your strength in the Lord. God will never leave nor forsake his children ❤🙏🏾
be strong
Do you have an IG page ?
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I defend a person's right to abstain, refrain, or criticize. All that I'm saying is that homosexuality, in practice, comes in many many different forms. This is where I see the flaw in the religious right. Why not simply tell people that if, like him, they don't like it then they don't have to. He doesn't "have to" engage in it if it's not for him - and we should all support that. - Or, for others, that a nuanced critique is best. For example, some gay people are monogamous, & others aren't. You can have a discussion on that. All the way to sexual practices i.e. some engage in anal sex, and some do not. There are other forms of safer non-penetrative sex after all right? These people with this preference are called "sides". Mutual maturation, frottage etc. Even oral is safer than anal. And so isn't it a far cry from bathhouses and "hookup" culture if certain gay partners are simply monogamous and snuggle and do hand jobs. Right? Why don't people of faith aim for a middle ground, where hearts above parts is stressed. If you're against anal sex because of STI risk, why not promote marriage and mutual masterbation and fight for that? So that lgbtqia members aren't alienated and can still find a home in faith communities that still require standards such as marriage and dissuading from a certain amount of limited sexual practices. There's a difference there right - from others who may be getting onto grindr and "hooking up" with anonymous strangers = way way more risky. Why no mention of that difference? Why not promote monogamy and marriage for gay couples instead of alienate them so they think that's all that's available to them is the negative aspects of the gay community, so they feel cornered into that instead of offering and open door for healthier relationships and lifestyle? The practice itself is nuanced and very different based on the individual. And some elements really aren't unique to it and overlap with the problems of the larger culture. i.e. body and appearance obsession, social stratification, sex addictions, substance abuse. Those are problems that may be encountered within the gay community as well as other communities right? And so it's about targeting and critiquing the problems without using a broad brush to paint everyone as "the same thing".
Being older than you are I would say, be kind to yourself knowing you are human, and a male. It is hard wanting something your body is craving but you will get stronger. The gay life for me never gave me peace. It just didn't! I struggle and my inclinations may never leave but I do have more peace now, since turning away from the lifestyle. Some might say, your just mad and missable that your not getting what you want and maybe that true. However that still brings no peace. Life is short. Just be at peace no matter what you continue to do.
Even as a single straight man the emptiness is the same so what are you talking about?
Instead of minimizing his experience, perhaps you could try to understand it. Have you ever been told you are an abomination and going to hell? Has anyone told you that God hates you? Did anyone ever blame 9/11 on God's outrage about your sexual sin? Have you ever lost friends because of how you experience your attraction? For a celibate gay man, they aren't just living life alone. Their loneliness is compounded by contempt and shame poured on them for being a way they didn't choose to be.
I met my husband on Grindr and it started off as purely a sexual encounter. Not going to sugar coat it. We hooked up in a Home Depot parking lot. Point is tho, it can happen. It depends on the guy tbh and that’s really all it is. No science to it. We decided to exchange numbers and do it the right way. We went on dates, three to be exact, before we decided to be exclusive. We dated for a year before we got an apt together, now we’re married and have a house. It can happen guys. Best advice, try to find a sweet man, even if they physically are “meh” to you. You can always upgrade their appearance and confidence with some TCL but you can’t upgrade their heart. You’ll grow to become more attractive over time because he’s a sweet man that treats you well.
Ugh...the apps give you an outlet to meet men but they are filled with flakes and time wasters. I hope you find love...everyone is deserving of it
It’s sad that you all have to spend so much energy to fight yourself. And the church taking advantage of you should be ashamed as well.
Gay guy here but i see where youre coming from
I'm a electrician and when I get to sites the only people I see working is white and Mexican and for my company I'm the only black person . I see my brothas on sites when I travel but all they do is pick up trash it just hurt my heart
Jaylin I can only imagine the deep-seated grief that weighs on you seeing this. It's alot to witness.
God sees your heart, but you need to know God's provision made to overcome. (1) He never intended you to battle the flesh, His intentions was for you to rely on the Spirit to overcome the nature fleshy tendencies, but very few teach about the work of the Spirit. We cannot beat sin on our own and we cannot deliver ourselves. He will never leave you to fight and do your best while He watches. No, He made this provision and strength in the Holy Spirt. The more you learn of the role of the Holy Spirit in your life the more victory.
Amen. ❤️
Amen. God is faithful. He knows. You have grace to overcome. We have grace to overcome. Im glad I found this channel. The thorn in Paul's flesh was trials and tribulations by others. Not sin of the flesh. Remember Jesus said how much Paul would have to suffer. The thorn is his infirmities such as reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses. Paul is using the same analogy here - “But if ye will not drive out the inhabitants of the land from before you; then it shall come to pass, that those which ye let remain of them shall be pricks in your eyes, and thorns in your sides, and shall vex you in the land wherein ye dwell.” Numbers 33:55 KJV So its a false doctrine that Paul did not say what his thorn is. Its in the text.
Thank you for your perspective.
@jaronmollice7495 the text does not DEFINITIVELY state what Paul's thorn was. Numbers says "thorns" plural meaning more than one. While it could potentially have been those who threatened Paul's apostleship with their doubts and disbelief, there could also be other possibilities such as poor eyesight ( read Galatians 4:13-15) physical ailments, emotional ailments etc.
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I have experienced what you are talking about firsthand while Serving in the United States Military, and as a U. S. Government Civil Employee when I was employed in Houston, TX where I was the only Black Man vehicle mechanic, and while one black lady was a parts clerk,but mechanicmen ,I was the only black and 2 other employees were white, and the rest were of Mexican American nationality, and I had to stand my ground with the senior Mexican male mechanic who was very aggressive, due to thinking that the head Boss was white, and if I had allowed myself to be provoked with a severe angry as to physically accost him I would receive a greater consequence than just termination, but incarceration as well, and I did verbally but professionally yelled back as when the senior mechanic of Mexican nationality initiated a conversation, and interrigation by yelling at me, and so I returned the disrespect, and eventually he stopped due to my yelling, and he moved to the another work area.
I just turned 26, and I have always been struggling with desire. Being a part of Gen Z, it is seen as normal to live in this type of sin, and the culture, technology, and resources of today make it worse. I know the truth and don't deny it. I have never had penetrative sex before, but I have done sexual things with men. I have always been a hopeless romantic and viewed sex as a fun activity, bu I have been satisfied off a man treating me right. So all of my sexual encounters have been foreplay etc. Men would get upset when I told them I dont want them entering me yet because I know that penetration is something very intimate, and my personal morals do not align with doing that with just anyone. But my faith is very important to me, and I know that God is constantly working on me. I do believe that giving into temptation and looking at men all the time draws you away from your purpose and keeps you from achieving so much more. The devil knows who God has destined us to be and all of the great things he has in store for us. The devil is trying to set us back. It is not easy, but constantly speaking to God about it is what will help. We can olny do our part, and God will do the rest. Just cast all of your cares on him. We can't overcome sin alone. We are in a time of spiritual warfare right now, and we are fighting against principalities.
Agreed 💯
I too struggle with this. Thank you so much for sharing. Your video was very helpful. Keep up the good work!
I am glad it was helpful. ❤️
Definitely love this video
Much appreciation. 💛
Thank you Jesus!!
God richly bless you for your words .I also experience the same thing but God always come through for us. Your message has help me bro
I don't nessecarily agree with you. But have you heard of Rosaria Butterfield, Christopher Yuan, and Becket Cook - I think that watching some of their video could beneficial for you. I think that you might resonate with Jason Hill Testimony on the Becket Hill show.
Try "Spirit & Truth Sanctuary" & D.E. Paulk. Carlton Pearsons books are great too. 🙏
This is very black & white thinking. There is nuance. Some gay men are monogamous. Others are promiscuous and sex addicted. Same goes for straight and bi men, and also some women. And also, this man shouldn't be pressured either way. If he wants to date men, cool. If he wants to try out his bi side, and see how it goes with women, also cool. Its his life, not our business. His right to choose. BUT* painting one way as bad and the other as good is missing the mark. Its nuanced. Whoever you are, no matter who you love, @ the end of the day its about doing your best to be a kind person, help your fellow man, and do what u can do to leave this place better than you found it. Everything else is circumstantial & trivial.
It's not that nuanced or trivial.
@@ChandlerHawkins-qf6sp It is nuanced. Just as being straight comes in a plethora of variations, and as does being a certain race or religion, so does being gay. One can't say it's just "one way". Would it be fair to say that about any other type of people that they're all ___ ? Ya, I don't think so. It's about the heart and not the part. And so certain elements of gay culture DO* deserve criticism. But these are only elements and characteristics of a subset within the gay culture, and not representative of the entire thing. No community, race, religion, gender... is a monolith.
@ Sexual desire and attraction may be nuanced. However, there’s little nuance involved if homosexuality (in practice, at least) is deemed sinful - which is what Luis is getting at. The fact that one’s desires are complex and nuanced is irrelevant to one’s decision to refrain or abstain from behavior they deem sinful.
@@ChandlerHawkins-qf6sp I defend a person's right to abstain, refrain, or criticize. All that I'm saying is that homosexuality, in practice, comes in many many different forms. This is where I see the flaw in the religious right. Why not simply tell people that if, like him, they don't like it then they don't have to. He doesn't "have to" engage in it if it's not for him - and we should all support that. - Or, for others, that a nuanced critique is best. For example, some gay people are monogamous, & others aren't. You can have a discussion on that. All the way to sexual practices i.e. some engage in anal sex, and some do not. There are other forms of safer non-penetrative sex after all right? These people with this preference are called "sides". Mutual maturation, frottage etc. Even oral is safer than anal. And so isn't it a far cry from bathhouses and "hookup" culture if certain gay partners are simply monogamous and snuggle and do hand jobs. Right? Why don't people of faith aim for a middle ground, where hearts above parts is stressed. If you're against anal sex because of STI risk, why not promote marriage and mutual masterbation and fight for that? So that lgbtqia members aren't alienated and can still find a home in faith communities that still require standards such as marriage and dissuading from a certain amount of limited sexual practices. There's a difference there right - from others who may be getting onto grindr and "hooking up" with anonymous strangers = way way more risky. Why no mention of that difference? Why not promote monogamy and marriage for gay couples instead of alienate them so they think that's all that's available to them is the negative aspects of the gay community, so they feel cornered into that instead of offering and open door for healthier relationships and lifestyle? The practice itself is nuanced and very different based on the individual. And some elements really aren't unique to it and overlap with the problems of the larger culture. i.e. body and appearance obsession, social stratification, sex addictions, substance abuse. Those are problems that may be encountered within the gay community as well as other communities right? And so it's about targeting and critiquing the problems without using a broad brush to paint everyone as "the same thing".
Hi and I hope you're well! As a gay man in my late 20s (29), I always remind myself of Galatians 3 which states that if we try to earn God's favor by obeying commandments, we put ourselves under a curse and that those who have faith will live. At the same time, I don't believe in engaging in something just because it's popular among most gay men. I think most of our trauma stems from people around us who didn't understand our gayness resulting in our self hatred.
Well what are you hungry for? Penis? Companionship? Pleasure? It seems like you're looking for the budfet.
dont listen to him there's nothing wrong with you🫶🫶
I am going through the same thing. Been on the road since 2016. I’ve been abstinent for 4 years, fell off, then 3 yrs, and fell of, etc…..A mind of repentance is key. Keep staying busy(idle time is the devils playground), praying, reading the Word, and denying! I love you Bro! 1 Thessalonians 5:24 King James Version 24 Faithful is he that calleth you, who also will do it.
Give yourself grace and love
90% of my friends in my early 20s where already HIV positive. I thank God I was able to dodge that bullet. I believe I only had one person in my life that truly loved me. The rest I was just fulfilling someone’s fantasy . I couldn’t tell you the last time I went out on a date. It’s been almost 10 years. I’m praying I get released from this lifestyle because now at the age of 45 I see it for what it is. We as gay men just use each other up for sexual desires and that’s it.
Thank you my friend for sharing your story. I can only imagine how losing so many friends in your early twenties affected you. I'm glad you are here with us to share your testimony. It is hard to secure love in this community as most men have been socialized to lead with their desires as opposed to their hearts. Our community celebrates indiscriminate sex over committed love. And while many gay men express desires for partnership, oftentimes they struggle with maintaining a partnership and have to resort to opening up their relationships to a host of dangers. I am praying with you my friend I want to say thank you for sharing generously your experience. Much love. ❤️
Very well said. It’s sad but the truth.
I'm sorry, it sounds like you've been through some difficult times. You deserve* more than being used. But personally I've been with my bf for 7 yrs now monogamous. So it's really nuanced and about the type of crowd you run with. Some just want to party and waste away the day. And you do deserve someone who wants deeper meanings. And one doesn't have to have anal sex to be just as validly gay. Look up "sides" i.e. gay without anal - mutual masturbation & frottage etc as way safer. But this isn't to encourage u to do anything. If being abstinence works for you, then great. And if trying to date women sounds fun, then cool. I'm for what YOU want to do. Just don't make it seem like "all" gay relationships are 1 way....
This is all factual
Live your Truth, you're Gay.
his body is created to enter woman. no one is "gay".
I think he wants a meaningful relationship instead of just random hookups with different men. That shit is draining.
@@KnowledgeLender true but there's some nuance of homoerotic romance. Our brains are as natural as our biology. It's not simply just "man + woman = child" but it is the foundation.
@@gachamansama3703 He's an adult man. I think sexuality is an appetite. I dont think anyone wants the same thing their entire life. I really dont think many ppl are actually "gay". Just conditioned to believe so due to habit.
Thank you… 🥹💕
You are truly worth listening to. Deep wisdom extracted from true nonegoic suffering. A vision that I resonate so much with but have a hard time to put into real life. My change has truly begun now. This was a tremendous help 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Julian I am so grateful for your kind words. I know it is hard. Just know that you are worth so much more than empty encounters. God wants you to save souls not snatch them. Much love. ❤️
The only reason why I think its so difficult to find love when you are gay its because these days no one ever gives you a chance unless if you look so called "hot or perfect "looking and when you are feminine or avrrage then you are seen as nothing and its sad but that what it has become these days. If you are an wonderful person then how can you even prove it if no one gives you a chance 😔
the Bible says what afflicted you to cut it of if you can't cut it of numb it freeze it do what ever you can to break it
but how? Do you have any solution?
@nizeyimanavincent5317 I use to struggle with it you have to want to you have to fear hell more than your personal desire
@@lovegodschild1430 it's not about desires my friend, it's more than that.
Thank you
Thank you for being so brutally honest expressing what many men with unwanted same sex attraction, such as myself, feel and experience. 🤜🏽🤛🏽
Much love. Thank you for taking the time to listen. ❤️
Unwanted is an understatement! We are who God created us to be in Jesus name! Stay the course, and remember it is better to be obedient than to sacrifice. 2 Corinthians 5:17 17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
"you were just a story to tell" - that struck a cord.
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
God said it is not good for man to be alone. Donnie Mcclurkin believes he will be alone because he doesn't see himself marrying. I have ED. So I don't have same sex desires anymore. At 73, I have no interest in a relationship with a woman. But I can see myself having a close relationship with another man for companionship mainly. I have seen married gay men happy and fulfilled. I can't imagine God expect me to live the remain alone isolated depressed and unhappy
Thank you for sharing your story. I agree that we were not meant to be alone. At the same time we can definitely find connection with men without eroticizing their company. There are many roads to love and support besides romantic connections. I'm learning how to lean into the love of others outside of a romantic connection. We don't have to be alone. We just have to reconfigure how we relate to other men.
@@l-majesty3287A man that has God is never alone and the aim is not to be straight, it is to be Holy!
@l-majesty3287 Husband's main drive isn't to "erotisize" their wives either. It is to love them. I think this conversation comes very very close to the truth, but misses the mark. It IS* about the deeper meaning, yes absolutely. But do u think that all gay men only erotisize one another? Or is it that in some relationships sex is secondary. That husband's desires for his wife are secondary to his love for her. And in many monogamous gay relationships it is likewise. Now, on the other hand if you're worried about young gay men getting HIV or are against anal. Well, there ARE alternatives : mutual masterbation, frottage, non-penatrative and safer forms of sex. Afterall, it's secondary to love anyways. So why not go that middle path nuanced route and say hey in a monogamous relationship maybe safe mutual masterbation not such a bad thing right
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I often wonder why the 35 year old + queer men just want to keep fucking and fucking.. Who will look after you in your old age?What will be your legacy?
There are places of worship (apostolic/pentecostal/full gospel) in cities across America where gay men can meet likeminded people. If I lived in America, I'd be attending a good affirming apostolic church where the leader has a husband or a wife, and most of their leaders are married or in serious committed relationships. A pastor who is gay and not married or divorced should step aside as it is not safe. A pastor who is closeted and suppressing their feelings for same sex should not be pastoring either, it is very risky .