Sexual Conflict in Human Mating | David Buss | TEDxVienna

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  • @thomasrichardson5425
    @thomasrichardson5425 7 років тому +527

    David Buss is not just An evolutionary psychologist, he is THE evolutionary psychologist. He is one of the founders of the entire field!

    • @adeldee1689
      @adeldee1689 6 років тому +6

      Best comment here, thank you

    • @mgtowbooboo8530
      @mgtowbooboo8530 6 років тому +1

      yes sir! go mgtow

    • @Canaldefarticles416
      @Canaldefarticles416 6 років тому +2

      Thomas Richardson exactly. Evolutionary Theory!!!

    • @ruthcoetzer4184
      @ruthcoetzer4184 5 років тому +4

      Along with Cosmides and Tooby...

    • @amt318
      @amt318 4 роки тому +6

      He's my professor for one of my classes this semester, one of the best professors I've had so far :D

  • @YouAwakeYet
    @YouAwakeYet 5 років тому +164

    When my girlfriend at the time started college, one of her classes was Evolutionary psychology and David Buss had written the book she had for that class...reading that completely opened my eyes

    • @shishram163
      @shishram163 Рік тому +4

      Is she still with you?

    • @sneakykidugo
      @sneakykidugo 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@shishram163good question 😂😂😂

    • @DJ-fb9cf
      @DJ-fb9cf 6 місяців тому

      @@shishram163 lmao TRU

    • @M-dv1yj
      @M-dv1yj Місяць тому

      @@shishram163did you keep her? Your pro woman bias is palpable bro. And sad

  • @quantummath
    @quantummath 6 років тому +204

    Pragmatic/Realistic psychology is my favorite type of psychology. It invalidates most ideological views over the subject in a heartbeat.

    • @GrubKiller436
      @GrubKiller436 6 років тому +29

      This is actual science. That's why.

    • @M-dv1yj
      @M-dv1yj Місяць тому

      His core views are ideologically influenced. The feminism is already there hissing how he samples and interpreted the data

    • @M-dv1yj
      @M-dv1yj Місяць тому

      He is supposedly a world leader in the subject? For real? That is the sad state of science and what people consider intelligence 😂🫠😳

    • @M-dv1yj
      @M-dv1yj Місяць тому

      @@GrubKiller436dismissing data and coloring the results via bias, is not science at all. It’s an attack on science

  • @watsonwrote
    @watsonwrote 6 років тому +93

    Wow, it's a lot easier to get a stranger to go on a date than I'd have thought!

    • @GrubKiller436
      @GrubKiller436 6 років тому +20

      When they say no, it's hard. When they say yes, it's easy.

    • @kiralight6661
      @kiralight6661 4 роки тому +39

      Because they probably used very physically attractive people to ask those strangers out

    • @Magicisreal66
      @Magicisreal66 3 роки тому +2

      @@kiralight6661 this whole entire study was absolutely manipulated by the human male to feed his ego nothing more than that this guy's nothing but a bullshitter

  • @looopaa9783
    @looopaa9783 3 роки тому +88

    its so funny how the women are constantly laughing and clapping and the men are just staring

  • @mimoso_7773
    @mimoso_7773 4 роки тому +74

    Oh my God! By far one of the very few genuinely beneficial videos among all the TED videos! Absolutely love it!

  • @JOHN----DOE
    @JOHN----DOE Рік тому +11

    Boy, he ain't kiddin'. Men see what they want to see, and they are wrong 90% of the time. This is why women live in fear; they can't even be nice to someone without aggression. Definition of aggression: forcing someone to do what they don't want to, on any level, especially when you have willfully ignored what they are telling you.

    • @DebNKY
      @DebNKY 3 місяці тому +1

      Well said.

  • @Johnny_Savage
    @Johnny_Savage 3 роки тому +42

    One of the very few TED Talks that deserves to have millions of views, and of course it doesn't have them

  • @techdedicated
    @techdedicated 6 років тому +213

    Someone give this guy a beer!

    • @vaimast
      @vaimast 5 років тому

      @@pratiktembhekar1996 true

    • @corysmith3447
      @corysmith3447 5 років тому +6

      @@pratiktembhekar1996 this sems 90% blue pill, 10% red pill to br honest, alot of man bashing here

    • @user_name8147
      @user_name8147 4 роки тому +4

      @@corysmith3447maybe hes a Simp?

    • @seriously1184
      @seriously1184 3 роки тому +2

      @@corysmith3447
      You are right !
      he was very annoying with that !

    • @mgu1N1n1
      @mgu1N1n1 3 роки тому +2

      Why?

  • @marleyofficialmedia
    @marleyofficialmedia 10 місяців тому +10

    I don't hear anything funny, and don't understand why people are laughing like they're at stand up comedy. Very valuable information for us ladies. Be extremely discerning in your mate selection.

    • @DebNKY
      @DebNKY 4 місяці тому

      You must not hear his tone of voice. He's got terrific delivery.

    • @marleyofficialmedia
      @marleyofficialmedia 4 місяці тому +3

      @@DebNKY I had no trouble hearing him. Dont think its humorous subject matter.

    • @DebNKY
      @DebNKY 3 місяці тому

      ​Yes, but it is. Information like statistics is dry. If the speaker presents them in humor, people are more apt to remember.
      @marleyofficialmedia

    • @marleyofficialmedia
      @marleyofficialmedia 3 місяці тому +2

      @@DebNKY i see what you mean, and I do agree. I also do think in this context its kinda like the lion joking about eating the gazelle. The lion thinks it's funny and then is confused that the gazelle does not laugh. You know?

    • @DebNKY
      @DebNKY 2 місяці тому

      It's not though. It's just looking at the differences between men and women. Nobody's getting devoured. ​@marleyofficialmedia

  • @Steelhorsecowboy
    @Steelhorsecowboy 5 років тому +55

    I met my wife when she was 14 yrs old, married 6yrs later. Happily married for 40 yrs.. I guess I am abnormal.

    • @apataye
      @apataye 4 роки тому +9

      Profoundly abnormal, no doubt. And (as long as this society keeps going in the same direction as it does nowadays) you´ll be getting more, and more, abnormal with each passing day.

    • @mrkane64
      @mrkane64 4 роки тому +22

      It depends on how old you were when you met her...🤔

    • @accurategamer7085
      @accurategamer7085 3 роки тому +8

      Check the Dna of your kids.

    • @Steelhorsecowboy
      @Steelhorsecowboy 3 роки тому +10

      @@accurategamer7085 Done, no issues. We are all connected in our family tree.

    • @accurategamer7085
      @accurategamer7085 3 роки тому +2

      @@Steelhorsecowboy noic3

  • @chickwithaguitar6876
    @chickwithaguitar6876 2 роки тому +32

    Dr Buss’s lecture is so interesting and makes logical sense. At the same time, had me laughing as he’s so entertaining.

  • @kristie369
    @kristie369 3 роки тому +16

    “ They think they’re hot, but they’re not” lol

    • @M-dv1yj
      @M-dv1yj Місяць тому

      He made a big mistake There, good you caught that.

    • @M-dv1yj
      @M-dv1yj Місяць тому

      He took a phenomena that women do “think they are hot” and projected it onto men😂. It is more sad than lol. As he is supposedly a representative of the highest level of his subject and its domain

  • @MrCruckles
    @MrCruckles 5 років тому +53

    Someone give this man a medal.

  • @phillconklin382
    @phillconklin382 6 років тому +25

    Men find them in more conflits because they are responsible for the pursuit, often correlated through misunderstanding.

  • @ajeetalbert91
    @ajeetalbert91 6 років тому +116

    Men cheat once or for a short term when they get an opportunity.
    Women have the long term affair.

    • @ТатьянаРохас
      @ТатьянаРохас 6 років тому +19

      with whom? other women? xd

    • @iriselba3027
      @iriselba3027 4 роки тому +4

      He didn't state it as an absolute this was based on statistics of a controlled group

    • @loadishstone
      @loadishstone 7 місяців тому

      Literally a common trope that the man cheats and lives his wife for a new woman and relationship. This trope simply doesn’t exist for women. It’s not solid data but we both know this trope which says enough. You sound silly.

    • @loadishstone
      @loadishstone 7 місяців тому

      @@ТатьянаРохасI should’ve just read your comment because you destroyed their logic so succinctly. Even if you consider only single women this would mean women often have short term relationships too lmao.

  • @peggyharris3815
    @peggyharris3815 5 років тому +34

    "Don't smile at your stalker."
    Yeah...I'm taking notes. Lol

  • @lasimahmed6167
    @lasimahmed6167 Рік тому +2

    Gem of a psychologist great communication and presentation.

  • @a.a.5880
    @a.a.5880 7 років тому +122

    I was there live. By far the most hilarious talk!

    • @mgu1N1n1
      @mgu1N1n1 3 роки тому

      Yawn

    • @cartergomez5390
      @cartergomez5390 3 роки тому +1

      That's awesome! How much were the tickets? I want to attend a TED Talk someday.

    • @ucanleaveyourhaton
      @ucanleaveyourhaton Рік тому +1

      Cool 👍. How much did it cost ?

  • @tearichardson8458
    @tearichardson8458 3 роки тому +19

    This man is just absoultely inspiring, it makes me think about maybe becoming a psychologist one day

  • @SylvEdu
    @SylvEdu 3 роки тому +108

    I've never cheated, but I've been cheated on by at least half of my girlfriends. So either the women are lying about whether they are cheating, or I'm really good at wooing women out of my league who then proceed to realize that fact.

    • @thezerowulf507
      @thezerowulf507 3 роки тому +35

      Definitely lying.

    • @jeffsmith9420
      @jeffsmith9420 3 роки тому +4

      Keep in mind Buss is a sophisticated liar.

    • @jeffsmith9420
      @jeffsmith9420 3 роки тому +6

      @Status DMG Like I said Buss and his followers are just aggrandized teenage boys who push the same "biotruth" narrative to rationalize their immaturity.

    • @sViviftie
      @sViviftie 3 роки тому +8

      Probably the last one, own experience can never be taken as representative for a national or international standard. Sorry that happened to you tho.

    • @agirl2094
      @agirl2094 3 роки тому +3

      I think it’s a personal issue and also cultural.

  • @jean-victorcote5825
    @jean-victorcote5825 2 роки тому +15

    When parents give THE talk to their children, it should be along those lines. It could save their life, or at least their happiness. Mating is a very practical matter, but it is often presented in an useless way.

  • @kchannel5317
    @kchannel5317 6 років тому +51

    Is florida really a good statistical representation?

    • @caucasianafrican1435
      @caucasianafrican1435 6 років тому +10

      Even worse, Floridian college students.

    • @PetersFXfilms
      @PetersFXfilms 5 років тому +15

      I believe this study has been replicated across multiple cultures witch consistent results. If you're interested, do a google search on it.

    • @yasnabodaghi4368
      @yasnabodaghi4368 4 місяці тому

      🤣🤣🤣​@@caucasianafrican1435

    • @TGP109
      @TGP109 2 місяці тому

      College campuses aren't good representations either. Look up the WEIRD theory.

  • @dreamingmusic3299
    @dreamingmusic3299 6 років тому +277

    "She's not "yours", it's just your turn."
    MGTOW

    • @mgtowbooboo8530
      @mgtowbooboo8530 6 років тому +14

      Yes sir

    • @KhemistryIBMOR
      @KhemistryIBMOR 6 років тому +12

      Dreaming Music
      A hard truth.

    • @yoma2977
      @yoma2977 6 років тому +21

      She is yours for as long as you stay a desirable man, if she leaves you it's either because you lucked out with her in the first place or your just not a good man, at least anymore.

    • @dreamingmusic3299
      @dreamingmusic3299 6 років тому +19

      +Create Channel
      pfffft [snort] Let me guess; you're either a woman, or a man under the age of 25 who has never been divorce-ra ped.

    • @godkimseokjin6429
      @godkimseokjin6429 6 років тому +1

      I would another person be yours??

  • @ACruz-kq9di
    @ACruz-kq9di 5 років тому +28

    Smart man. I wish he'd be more blunt about these facts but I realize it's necessary for him to water down the truth to appeal to the audience.

  • @caucasianafrican1435
    @caucasianafrican1435 5 років тому +127

    Makes me never want to get married and have kids.

    • @ikengaspirit3063
      @ikengaspirit3063 3 роки тому +3

      @Language and Programming Channel Marriages are very normal in a society.
      It is basically the way society balances the wants of both sexes inter and intra competition.

    • @emilian7052
      @emilian7052 3 роки тому +8

      @@ikengaspirit3063 he said marriages are not natural not that they’re not normal- which is true

    • @ikengaspirit3063
      @ikengaspirit3063 3 роки тому +5

      @@emilian7052 Even Hunter Gather societies tend to have some sort of pair bonding. The breaks from that tend to be in highly ritualized contexts.
      Maybe Marriage as the West does it now is "unnatural" but the basic thing taht when it appears in other cultures we will call "marriage" is.

    • @awesomenice742
      @awesomenice742 3 роки тому

      @Language and Programming Channel Idk bruv they be jeolousy out there so idk how Harems are normal
      The best way I can describe it is a polyamourus but monogamous society. Monogamous only when humans see a key factor of a beneficial long term partner and polyamourus only on the occasion.

    • @yoooyoyooo
      @yoooyoyooo 3 роки тому +6

      In my mind it's the only right thing to do. It's all too shallow and unreliable. Why would I risk my time and emotional investemnt in a person that can decide to leave at any point? Also why would I do the same to someone else? It's very cruel and I don't feel like participating in the game at all.
      Nature is pretty cruel.

  • @vincinzo9428
    @vincinzo9428 4 роки тому +8

    David Buss is always incredible

  • @crewlj
    @crewlj 6 років тому +13

    Over perception bias I would argue is a natural component of the mating process given the obvious numbers men must pursue in order to achieve what they desire.

  • @zundap100
    @zundap100 5 місяців тому +1

    Thanks for this very intersting video.

  • @kagetsuki23
    @kagetsuki23 6 років тому +61

    That why commitment is a bad strategy for men, short term relationship is the way.

    • @mgtowbooboo8530
      @mgtowbooboo8530 6 років тому

      yes sir

    • @thorsten8790
      @thorsten8790 6 років тому +4

      And how to you want to preserve you culture and create a Family?

    • @kagetsuki23
      @kagetsuki23 6 років тому +9

      Maximus
      You use a surrogate mother of your race, and you raise your children yourself.

    • @thorsten8790
      @thorsten8790 6 років тому +9

      kagetsuki23 Poor children growing up without parents.

    • @shin-ishikiri-no
      @shin-ishikiri-no 6 років тому +3

      Only without mom. No big deal.

  • @judahjeffries6469
    @judahjeffries6469 Рік тому +5

    This guy is my professor!

  • @danielmontealegre566
    @danielmontealegre566 3 роки тому +9

    This was such a useful and insightful video! 🙏

  • @wherebarbarameetstheroad8600
    @wherebarbarameetstheroad8600 Рік тому +6

    Curious...if the threat of violence and death could be removed, how many women would say yes? How about adjusting for social shaming?

    • @TGP109
      @TGP109 2 місяці тому

      Not to mention pregnancy and STD's.

  • @raphael18ify
    @raphael18ify 3 роки тому +11

    Curious, what is this business about someone being an "8" wanting "10's"? Where does Prof. Buss have a list of these rankings and the definition of what constitutes an "8" or a "10" and so forth? Would appreciate help if someone could direct me to a book or essay the Professor has written about this subject.

    • @Johnny_Savage
      @Johnny_Savage 3 роки тому +7

      just a quick informal way to explain the much more complex concept of people having different mate values, he doesn't use it in his research

    • @raphael18ify
      @raphael18ify 3 роки тому +3

      @@Johnny_Savage Well then, your statement begs the question, who is a "10" and who's not. Buss states that "10's" are more likely to cheat on a mate that is not a "10", so it might be helpful to know who you're hooking up with.
      I also have to say that this guy has a unique talent for pointing out the obvious: After reams and reams of research, he concludes that rich men are more attractive to women. Jeeves, quick! My smelling salts! Something a lot of hapless males have known for centuries.

    • @TokioTE
      @TokioTE 3 роки тому +2

      Usually in studies regarding attractiveness, there is one or one group of researchers who assigns these ratings (1-10) to all individuals in the study, following some metric. Dr David Buss' book The Evolution of Desire might be a good place to start.

    • @dirtypickle4080
      @dirtypickle4080 2 роки тому

      it's not that deep bro

    • @catsaresocute650
      @catsaresocute650 2 роки тому +4

      It's impossible to discern that bc people have different predernces. Part of the absurdity of the entire thing. I mean ranking people into numbers like this should make anyone uncompfortable without the point that it's bs in acccuracy but okay

  • @catkeys6911
    @catkeys6911 Рік тому +3

    Well, this was a lot of insightful stuff about mating, and that's very important, but partnering up for life is also about sharing and nurturing. Having some common interests and values. 2 people can *reinforce* each other that way, with each one having the other's happiness at heart.

  • @felixbertoni
    @felixbertoni 4 роки тому +8

    4:57 that dude not applauding in the middle, amazing x)

  • @caucasianafrican1435
    @caucasianafrican1435 6 років тому +12

    Isn't the term Branch-Swinging.

    • @thezerowulf507
      @thezerowulf507 3 роки тому +4

      Princesses that are more Tarzan then Jane

  • @SonoTom
    @SonoTom 7 років тому +45

    too bad that he didn't address mate guarding and paternity uncertainty. that 2-3% false paternity rate sounds dubious, given the large minority of women, per one study, who admitted they would conceal outside paternity from their partner.

    • @includao
      @includao 7 років тому +14

      the 2-6% has been confirmed objectively by large genetic studies on contemporary populations at least.

    • @afafssaf925
      @afafssaf925 7 років тому +5

      Exactly, but what he didn't address is that modern women have the pill, so you wouldn't expect the rate to be big at all. But given the data, it's more likely that his hypothesis is correct.

    • @Jako19800126
      @Jako19800126 6 років тому +11

      David Buss forgot to take into account factors of the civilization, when he talked about that 2-3%. Remove all the constrains civilization puts on women like morality, laws, commonly accepted rules, fear of shaming... and that 2-3% goes up to at least 20-30%.
      Wouldn't be much suprised if it were even more.
      Good genes hypothesis or the dual mating strategy is real.

    • @dreamingmusic3299
      @dreamingmusic3299 6 років тому +9

      Sono Tom -
      A CDC study showed that approx 30% of live births were to fathers who were NOT the genetic parent.

    • @Heliotail
      @Heliotail 4 роки тому +1

      The true rate of paternity fraud on the part of women is at least 30 percent. That's right, one out of three kids are the product of adultery on the part of the wife or paternity fraud.

  • @omkar0lb7
    @omkar0lb7 4 роки тому +18

    One of the best Ted talk i watched! Thanks David Buss😊

  • @salvatoregargiuoli385
    @salvatoregargiuoli385 5 років тому +33

    Sir, your "Evolution of Desire" changed my (vision of) life. It should (not) be studied at school.

  • @pgoughy
    @pgoughy 5 років тому +6

    I'd automatically think I was being pranked.

  • @paulwally9007
    @paulwally9007 3 роки тому +20

    At times the audience looks decidedly uncomfortable. Partially I think this is because he's opening up some home truths that we'd rather not hear, but I think reducing the mating process to some cold, scientific cost/benefit analysis leaves out a crucial, for want of a better word, spiritual component. I think people intuitively feel these theories are incomplete, and in some way demean what it means to be human.

    • @SmilaZ
      @SmilaZ 2 роки тому +7

      Yeah, but that's because humans are not fully awake and aware, nor is there much wisdom, or pure love. Most Humans don't really properly know what love is.

    • @hpe-eo4ce
      @hpe-eo4ce 2 роки тому +5

      I don't see how women being armed with the knowledge of evolutionary theory to help them avoid men with dark triad traits and avoid abuse/stalking is demeaning.

    • @PearlHandle
      @PearlHandle 2 роки тому

      @@BeardLAD wtf?

    • @TGP109
      @TGP109 2 місяці тому

      @@hpe-eo4ce Women don't need ET to know these things, we generally learn them young.

  • @swavnasahoo711
    @swavnasahoo711 4 роки тому +6

    Straight up one the most intriguing talks.

  • @xeflatio93
    @xeflatio93 3 роки тому +24

    notice he just talked about male and female? he didn't take a list of 150 genders

  • @willythebluebear
    @willythebluebear 6 років тому +89

    full red pil content..

    • @JuanTorres-ny9ff
      @JuanTorres-ny9ff 6 років тому +4

      What does "red pill" mean?

    • @Blackzwell
      @Blackzwell 6 років тому +15

      Juan Torres being aware of the truth.

    • @GrubKiller436
      @GrubKiller436 6 років тому +3

      @Hard Truth
      And just as importantly, who yourself are. Not what society tells you to be.

    • @Eminovici
      @Eminovici 3 роки тому

      @@JuanTorres-ny9ff Watch Matrix.

    • @jennykerr9877
      @jennykerr9877 3 роки тому

      You won't learn from the matrix, you gotta go on reddit and look for the red pill.

  • @thezerowulf507
    @thezerowulf507 3 роки тому +39

    Weird he didn't mention woman lose their pair bonding ability when they are promiscuous

    • @rfmmike6096
      @rfmmike6096 3 роки тому +1

      @Stinkmeaner It's definitely a possibility but more so in women cause they retain DNA of every dude they sleep with

    • @rfmmike6096
      @rfmmike6096 3 роки тому +1

      @Marie Baker It's not a lie at all, do your research

    • @rfmmike6096
      @rfmmike6096 3 роки тому

      @Marie Baker Ever heard of pre ejaculation?

    • @agirl2094
      @agirl2094 3 роки тому +3

      No you’re just worried that you won’t measure up to the man she had prior to u. Give me a break

    • @katakuri774
      @katakuri774 3 роки тому

      @@agirl2094 but statistics show that this is true though?

  • @SmilaZ
    @SmilaZ 2 роки тому +1

    WORTH WATCHING! So right on. Very good.

  • @ChrisDragotta
    @ChrisDragotta 2 роки тому +5

    We are basically not compatible at all. Not surprising.

  • @highpeaks3598
    @highpeaks3598 4 роки тому +1

    Best Tedtalk ever!

  • @youssefbakrito
    @youssefbakrito 6 років тому +16

    3:03 dude was not having it

    • @kpjlflsknflksnflknsa
      @kpjlflsknflksnflknsa 3 роки тому +1

      Because he knows he's a 4 out of 10 and the resultant implications are grave.

  • @mihiershandilya2736
    @mihiershandilya2736 2 роки тому +6

    Men in the audience are not really surprised and kind of depressed. Women were laughing and surprised in the beginning but by the end they were shocked to know their own realilty

  • @76shian
    @76shian 3 роки тому +8

    This is precisely why religious courtship is important

    • @catsaresocute650
      @catsaresocute650 2 роки тому

      This talk is: a) hopefully BS b) even if not should be treated as such

    • @HeroinChrist
      @HeroinChrist 2 роки тому

      @@catsaresocute650 delusional. seek help.

    • @catsaresocute650
      @catsaresocute650 2 роки тому

      @@HeroinChrist how is it delusional? For f* sake go out and meet some humans

    • @proudatheist2042
      @proudatheist2042 Рік тому

      Right...believing that Muhammad flew to the moon on a winged horse and that God killed dozens of children for mocking a bald man is a fantastic foundation for a reciprocating relationship. (Sarcasm.)

    • @davidr9589
      @davidr9589 2 місяці тому

      ​@catsaresocute650 it's not BS. This talk is all evidence based.

  • @nacarreira777
    @nacarreira777 5 років тому +5

    Excellent presentation!

  • @MrAlexLowen
    @MrAlexLowen 2 роки тому +4

    I feel that this catches just one small part of the entire man-woman relationship topic. It lacks the psychoanalytic aspect, which is fundamental.

    • @bhastro9959
      @bhastro9959 2 роки тому

      Because there's no scientific basis to psychoanalysis a la Freud.

    • @catsaresocute650
      @catsaresocute650 2 роки тому +3

      It lacks, among other things, the aspect where humans are free thinking and feeling SENTIENT beings, not un-concious beings running a biology programm.

    • @TGP109
      @TGP109 2 місяці тому

      @@catsaresocute650 Yes, it's biological determinism to a high degree.

  • @NRD-tv
    @NRD-tv 4 роки тому +1

    Thank u Dr. David sir giving us such a grt information

  • @Saint_Nicolo
    @Saint_Nicolo Рік тому +1

    This is so interesting.

  • @hbvanengelsdorp
    @hbvanengelsdorp 6 років тому +12

    This was insightful.

  • @stravagantares
    @stravagantares 2 роки тому

    Extra interesting Ted talk! ✨😯👏🏼

  • @124madcow
    @124madcow 6 років тому +128

    If this does not red pill you then nothing will.

    • @corysmith3447
      @corysmith3447 5 років тому +13

      Um this is the most BLUEPILLED (men bad women good) video I've seen, theres nothing red pill about this, accept for vaguely elluding to women's hypergamy

    • @Heliotail
      @Heliotail 4 роки тому +7

      The way women treated me have red pilled me quite enough to no longer want them.

    • @ZedAmadeus
      @ZedAmadeus 7 місяців тому

      Thank god! I'm safe.

    • @elin_
      @elin_ 7 місяців тому +2

      ​@Heliotail With that attitude, women don't want you either, so...

  • @DaaWood998
    @DaaWood998 5 років тому +21

    I don't get people laughing and thinking that is a joke. It's a real life science and biology mechanisms

    • @AgentDearestZ
      @AgentDearestZ Рік тому +4

      Laughing at the pain, breaking down of society.

    • @pkimberlyox02
      @pkimberlyox02 Рік тому

      I think they laugh because it's not a joke and that makes it funny

  • @teresabaptista7016
    @teresabaptista7016 6 років тому +4

    Great talk, Professor David Buss. Thank you.

  • @SigalTifferet
    @SigalTifferet 7 років тому +14

    Great talk!

  • @davidcombest1134
    @davidcombest1134 4 роки тому +2

    Very informative

  • @missMagbeth
    @missMagbeth 3 роки тому +2

    One of the best TED talks!

  • @djrinpoche
    @djrinpoche Рік тому

    Has anyone been keeping track of Mr. 3:03?

  • @delanomcgee2923
    @delanomcgee2923 3 роки тому +5

    Hook up culture is the main culture, dating is not even a thing anymore. So defining a date in the modern atmosphere would be tough at best. I think Netflix and chill is far more prominent today than out on a formal date for dinner

    • @beepbopboop7727
      @beepbopboop7727 10 місяців тому +1

      This is your Overperception Bias talking.

  • @visualbrain5810
    @visualbrain5810 6 років тому +38

    At 17:45..."Guys are creep" OK. , This beta guy gives moral lessons on how a man can remain faithful to his wife, but forgets to talk about women's faithfulness. Same old vision.

    • @vivapatriarchy4541
      @vivapatriarchy4541 6 років тому +14

      even when these blue pill people do studies that contradict their views they have to put a blue pill spin on it to limit the damage such evidence would do to their blue pill world.

    • @Lobishomem
      @Lobishomem 6 років тому +16

      It is amazing how even intelligent men buy into the story that it's always guys who are at fault. It's just not cool to call women out on anything. What would the female equivalent of "creep" be? Whatever it is I'm sure it would be unacceptable to use. Also he ignores advise on how to handle the 20% of stalkers who are women.

    • @saurabhrabha9531
      @saurabhrabha9531 6 років тому +8

      He said " cause the guy is a creep" not " guys are creep".

    • @davidandrews7825
      @davidandrews7825 6 років тому +6

      What you guys don't understand, who are bashing David Buss, he is literally a genius in psychology and one of THE premier academics in evolutionary psychology, only behind the two founders of the evo psy domain. Don't get upset that empirical data brings up some information that is less than flattering.

    • @visualbrain5810
      @visualbrain5810 6 років тому +13

      David Andrews - Why should I be upset ? Are you assuming something about me ? I just pointed out that the fact that if it's certainly true that some information can be " less than flattering" about men, the PC culture will prevent David and you to investigate or point out the negative aspects of women's behavior. Because doing so , today, would mean you are misogynist....it's hilarious

  • @ioanananescu525
    @ioanananescu525 2 роки тому

    So good,so true!!!

  • @con2mms2000
    @con2mms2000 3 роки тому +2

    Even I'm pretty sure the investigation was made by experts, I found really hard to trust women's results. You trust her actions, not her words.

  • @lukasbade5919
    @lukasbade5919 7 місяців тому +4

    less data stability and academical work than my fking bachelors lol

  • @TheGamingg33k
    @TheGamingg33k 5 років тому +10

    I dont know why this audience is laughing so much. Most of what he said was shocking. Its like that person who is getting roasted with truth and cant do anything but laugh at it. Shielding yourself from reality aint gonna fix this ongoing conflict. Things are getting worse with social media and dating apps for both men and women. When everything breaks down, I hope we will go back to normal.

    • @adverteasing
      @adverteasing 3 роки тому +2

      Behold, the truth ↑.

    • @SeniorAdrian
      @SeniorAdrian 3 роки тому +1

      They were laughing because it was true man cmon. Humor.

  • @smilinazzdoggy825
    @smilinazzdoggy825 2 роки тому

    Best in the business

  • @johntindell9591
    @johntindell9591 5 років тому +2

    thank you

  • @ashaya85
    @ashaya85 5 років тому +5

    The big question is: are we born with this characteristics , or is it something we develop? Now men can say: Look, every men look at other womans so it's normal. Is it?

    • @TheGamingg33k
      @TheGamingg33k 5 років тому +12

      It is normal. Our dna is hardwired to mate with the youngest or healthiest looking individual. Which is the same case with women. Women also check out handsome young powerful men. Men check out young, healthy and "motherly" women. Its basically our DNA trying to survive in any way possible.

    • @Chris-T4
      @Chris-T4 5 років тому +9

      QuantumButthole women don’t look for youth in men, they actually prefer older men, specifically 7 years older on average.

    • @hangukhiphop
      @hangukhiphop 4 роки тому +8

      @@Chris-T4 but not because they look old!

    • @Eminovici
      @Eminovici 3 роки тому

      These characteristics are biological but we can control the degree in which we let them influence our lives. There are both polygamous and monogamous cultures for example.

  • @bethannrobison3498
    @bethannrobison3498 Рік тому +2

    the audience laughed at so much stuff that is actually really sad

  • @goldkhw
    @goldkhw 2 роки тому +1

    In my teens I always had two backups. There were always two suitable second choices who would show up if I called. You must have that.

  • @hafer88
    @hafer88 2 роки тому +2

    there isn't the one and only partner. the oneitis is an personality disorder.

  • @orefemetsemfelang7618
    @orefemetsemfelang7618 Рік тому

    How is this only @ 200K views?????

  • @clashofqueen93
    @clashofqueen93 6 років тому +9

    It's like studying a species, the way a scientist would study rats, rabbit etc behavior the types of test done can be endless to come to a complete or near complete conclusion. Can we really say, people are capable of studying their own species knowing that their are boundaries?

    • @GrubKiller436
      @GrubKiller436 6 років тому +5

      Yes. Cold hard information and data is observable. The boundaries you are referring to have to do with philosophy/metaphysics, which is not the same thing as science.

    • @Eminovici
      @Eminovici 3 роки тому

      @@GrubKiller436 It can be done, for sure. But should we really do it (going over ALL boundaries)? And for this we need philosophy. Otherwise pure utilitarianism will turn our scientists into little Dr Mengele, like we see now in China.

  • @shuetomtqasaab
    @shuetomtqasaab 3 роки тому +16

    I must admit, that it indeed is a blessing to be asexual

    • @emiliosnic
      @emiliosnic 2 роки тому +1

      You are not asexual. You are just terrified.

    • @catsaresocute650
      @catsaresocute650 2 роки тому

      I mean I can see why that talk would geberate that expression, but I can assure you the talk is simply bs

    • @Schopenhauer69
      @Schopenhauer69 7 місяців тому

      ​@@catsaresocute650nope

  • @redboy8883
    @redboy8883 2 роки тому +7

    Evo psychology meets comedy lol. Great informative talk

  • @CiMcM135
    @CiMcM135 3 роки тому +1

    Dayum he be Bussin’

  • @GnarledStaff
    @GnarledStaff 6 років тому +15

    I think he might be looking at that “two gene” theory wrong;
    They get physical/financial investment and genes from mate and emotional investment from the affair.
    She wants to marry the count, but court the rogue.

  • @mohammadfarzan230
    @mohammadfarzan230 2 роки тому

    Thanks

  • @ronaldolobatofernandes1730
    @ronaldolobatofernandes1730 2 роки тому

    My Word

  • @dharshana81
    @dharshana81 6 років тому +23

    too bad he didn't have any 'advice' to give women (in his opinion, potentially all women) who do 'mate switching'. maybe he thought it would be a waste of time.

    • @ULTIMATE_FREEDOM_FIGHTER
      @ULTIMATE_FREEDOM_FIGHTER 6 років тому +6

      General rule: Fix the man, and the woman stays. Faulty man, and the woman leaves (or "mate-switches" like you said).

    • @GrubKiller436
      @GrubKiller436 6 років тому +4

      Everything that a woman does is just natural, and it's the guys who are the problem.
      - status quo

    • @milanvoncina7812
      @milanvoncina7812 4 роки тому

      @@GrubKiller436 completely wrong. A man can change his viewpoint, accept the rut he can not reason nor change female nature

  • @fullercorp
    @fullercorp 8 місяців тому +1

    I appreciate his Talk and agree with it all but it isn't really reassuring to women that your partner may be perfectly happy and cheat anyway.

    • @ilovethesmelloffire
      @ilovethesmelloffire 2 місяці тому

      Lots of things make us happy, but we do the opposite to be empathetic.

  • @martiananomaly
    @martiananomaly 2 роки тому +1

    2:57 literally me 💀

  • @AnonymousOmniscience
    @AnonymousOmniscience Рік тому +1

    Who is this supposed long time comedian “Jimi McFarland” referenced at 7:55? I can’t find any information on him at all, is this a made up person?

  • @sabinoluevano7447
    @sabinoluevano7447 3 роки тому +4

    "Mate value", a new concept in my intellectual dictionary that I will exploit to increase my mate value.

  • @kaashkaash8695
    @kaashkaash8695 6 років тому

    What about excitement?

  • @joseamaral2307
    @joseamaral2307 3 роки тому +4

    Lol...He's talking in TEDx...man...He can't say nothing that "sounds bad" about women.... I have a friend from a friend who went to TEDx, and she had to change a lot of her subject because it wasn't must suitable for TEDx... Look how he is only "hitting men"... If someone here, have a "little bit" of life expirience, will know that women stalk men to... Women are very invasive in a man's life...Women are very vindictive in realationships...Women will "investigate" the entire man's life...and so on and so on... Our society likes to hit "men" only...See, it seems that women are perfect, only men behave badly...does it seems normal to you...Only men behaves badly??? Come on ...

  • @SeniorAdrian
    @SeniorAdrian 3 роки тому

    7:53 can please someone find me a clip or a photo of that comedian called "Jimi McFarland"? I didn't find anything on google.

  • @gabrielleheard6366
    @gabrielleheard6366 4 роки тому +3

    Brilliant

  • @paulthepainter2366
    @paulthepainter2366 6 років тому +6

    I didn't know Gary Busey was this smart

  • @in5364
    @in5364 3 роки тому +3

    These people will listen to this talk, go home and forget about it and continue to live their lives in their usual bluepilled ways

    • @bhastro9959
      @bhastro9959 2 роки тому

      Probably because the truth, as Buss outlines, is extremely uncomfortable: the more you love your spouse, the more she/he is likely to abandon you.

  • @oscarm.1417
    @oscarm.1417 6 років тому +11

    Plenty of warnings for women; where are the warnings for men?

  • @lauriss2005
    @lauriss2005 6 років тому +8

    Also, men with higher IQs don’t cheat

    • @Clank-rn1fk
      @Clank-rn1fk 6 років тому +7

      Tell that to Jeff Bezos.

  • @mlaruex
    @mlaruex 6 років тому +21

    seems D. Buss needs to update his "infidelity stats"... women are not catching up, they surpassed men already, they are just better at hiding it, thus, it seems, women cheat less.

    • @lostcause7072
      @lostcause7072 6 років тому

      Celydonn I take it you get cheated on all the time.

    • @mlaruex
      @mlaruex 6 років тому +4

      @Evan J because I said the statistics used in the vid are wrong, you assume I made it up out of thin air just because women are cheating on me as some sort of vengeance? If that is true, I wish I knew what is wrong with you and my suggestion would be, consult some psychiatrist you trust to help you. If not, then I do not understand what you are traying to say.
      There are already enough statistics that show, women cheat more (though it is just a little bit now) than men, of course, you need one that is not PC and made nice to make women look good.

    • @GrubKiller436
      @GrubKiller436 6 років тому

      Thank you. At least one person in the comment section pointed it out.
      I don't understand how anyone should think that the lovey dovey males of modern society would cheat more than the liberaled women of modern society.

    • @Seraphina-r1v
      @Seraphina-r1v 7 місяців тому

      ​@@GrubKiller436lovey dovey? Lol

  • @zephomalunga5251
    @zephomalunga5251 2 роки тому

    Brilliance