As an INFP, I feel like no one really understood me throughout my childhood either. I was so quiet and introverted, so people at school tended to want to fix me to make me a "normal" extroverted person.
Same except I actually don't like the rain because it can sound like someone tapping over my shoulder and remind me of stuff I don't like. It doesn't mean my favourite weather is sunny and stuff, I just don't like the rain but grey clouds with rays of light through and all the nuances... NOW THAT is my favourite weather. My favourite tea is red berries/fruit of the forest black tea with a tiny bit of lemon and a lot of sugar to balance it. I'm passionate about computer technologies so that's where I spend most of my time, most people would just end up thinking that I'm just a nerf/no life etc but in the end I'm just trying to be myself. Blankets are cool but I like duvets more. Books are great I'm more into fantasy because I'm deep into world building and magic and it allows me to explore how I would build a world to fit my vision to bring me peace and if not for myself then for others who might need/want it.
For me, I adore anything that is ancient, mystical or mysterious...INFP's, I would recommend visiting areas of the UK particularly Ireland and Scotland is you wish to immerse yourself in an atmospheric place that feels both tranquil and idyllic but also has an 'older than time itself' feel.
Yes, I love those types of things. I loved games such as Zelda because of ancient ruins and I also loved movies such as the Neverending story. I also love music that sounds mystical.
An INFP poem by Emily Dickinson that I discovered was back in junior high school. “She” helped give me meaning to my “outside the box” thinking!!! I'm Nobody! Who are you? Are you-Nobody-Too? Then there's a pair of us! Don't tell! they'd advertise-you know! How dreary-to be-Somebody! How public-like a Frog- To tell one's name-the livelong June- To an admiring Bog!
As an INFP having a so many insecurities in childhood, I always thought I should change myself , so I'll be less alone! and I really tried to do that. But it didn't make me feel any good about myself. I didn't know who I was. Now I know that all of those feelings are just because I'm an INFP and I love myself in every way! I love my loneliness and the fact that I only have a small circle of friends who are so close to my heart. I think all of us should stay our true selves and shine as we are💖
I agree, I'm still kinda insecure infp, but I just accepted who I am, that maybe I'm weak... but in a good way? :3 (I'm male btw and I don't want to even try be more... macho or something, maybe I'm even femboi a bit xD)
That part about needing to be understood literally brought tears to my eyes. As an INFP in high school I've always felt as though that was kind of all that I wanted and I never really found it until seeing the INFP community. Keep up the good work
I so know what you mean. I thought I was so weird, yet I still wanted to remain my weird self even at the cost of being liked. It's so awesome that you've found the INFP community and you're not so alone xx
I relate to all of this. A friendly reminder if you end up going to Norway for the northern lights. Go far north and go in winter/autumn or else you won't see anything. Take care and enjoy your life :)
11:05 The relief of bad weather. Not having to feel bad for not going outside. It's strange how I enjoy nature and the sun, able to completely lose myself lying beneath some trees, and so just cannot wait for spring to come around, only to then spend most of the nice days sitting inside, feeling worse and worse. It starts off with a bad day: "It is such nice weather, you are expected to go out!" - but I cannot, I feel spent. I hear the excited commotion on the streets outside, people invigorated and woken up from their hibernation by the warmth of the sun, and it genuinely makes me angry; not angry towards the people themselves, although their activeness zaps my energy, but towards my seeming lack of desire to partake. Instead of nice weather being a healthy way of recharging your battery, it becomes something that drains it. The unease only grows from there on out. I begin to only go out later in the evening when people have calmed down enough so their verve does not affect me as much. My skin is pale in comparison to everyone else's and I appear unhealthy because I do not go outside as much. It does not matter if _they_ care or even notice that I am truly unwell; it's that _I_ am aware of this issue - creating a vicious cycle. I feel bad for not having gone outside, which stops me from going outside, because I feel bad. It took some time, but I have learned. It's okay to skip a beautiful day or two (or a week if you are feeling depressed). Don't make something that is inherently nice into something that can have a negative effect on you, just because you feel the obligation to appreciate its niceness. You don't owe the weather, or the people that enjoy it, anything. If you are down or drained, it must be *your* decision on how to act or to not act all. If you cannot go outside, so be it! Switch on your favorite show or listen to your favorite music or just lie in bed! Just try to promise yourself to spend some time in nature once you feel more energetic, because it really does help (no matter the weather).
I like authentic, simple, humble people, that's rare I know. Art of every form is what I feel attracted to. I feel so bad if someone keep that stop watch on or give me ultimatums. 🤗 Awesome video 👌
Dear sweetie Lex Morningstar, Everything you said in the video reflects the same way I feel and think on inside. You are absolutely a beautiful creature with a deeply nice soul. Wish you good luck because you deserve it ;)
LOVE the rain-sounds *magical* ... Demand freedom--including freedom of expression for EVERYBODY! ... Love connecting all the dots of this non-linear existence, finding esoteric/existentialmeanings... Like my space ...
So true Lex. Be Proud girl. Don,t EVER CHANGE the way you are. Your honesty is PRECIOUS. I AM Aldo AM INFP and NEVER chsnged the way I AM since ever before. Since I AM older than you, I learned to respect my own being AUTHENTICITY. I HAVE NO CHOICE....can,t live in MANDACITY....IT is Just TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT for my outside world.... Hugz Hans
I have felt so misunderstood many many times in my life.......I'm getting better to not turn in on myself, to think something is wrong with me, because they don't understand. & yes, I am honest...but, so many people in my life have thought I was lying or being fake....when I was being totally sincere. Yes, I'm very sensitive, & I pick up on subtle things, & I feel things deeply at times. Hey, Lex, Thank You for your videos!
wow ! i did not know there were others like me. Watched almost all your videos and i am really taken aback because what you say is almost as if you are reading my mind. All this time i was thinking that i am a weirdo !!!! thanx a ton and way to go girl !!!!
I think that you have tapped into a captive audience as INFP's (like myself) as we are the ultimate listeners!!! 😂😂😂 I also really get listening to the rain or thunderstorm when recharging my batteries as it were. It's like our lives are the rain and the thunder is us rebelling to become ourselves again after we've lost our way. Like most infp's I reckon we love a metaphor (like I just did!!!) BUT we are never a slave to it!!! (This taps into the need for security vs independence).
I have never heard of the term info until today.. I always thought that I was A HSP.. everything that you described in your video describes me perfectly.. thank you..
Your video points are really on target - it is kind of comforting, surprising, and maybe even humorous to realize there are many others out there with these same traits. Glad there is a community. Haven’t reached out to it really - but still thankful to know it’s there. I think it’s good to better understand and to appreciate who we are and to accept that as a “personality type,” we have much to offer. Thanks for the insight.
I could completely relate to all the points you made about your high school experience, I always felt hopelessly quiet and weird and wanted a lot more of my own space to be creative than people deemed ‘normal’
Great video, Lex! I agree with all of your points. I'd say that in addition to being understood, it helps for us to feel validated in terms of our feelings. That's a tough one. You mentioned INFPs and introverted intuition. Yes, all INXX types are very strong in introverted intuition. This only adds to the notion that INFPs and INFJs are "quasi-identical" in intertype relation. Our strong introverted intuition can help us with that great insight into people and events, but I'm not sure how many other people will heed our words.
Z Iquebal Yes I definitely agree with the "validation". I forgot to mention that, it was written in my notes though, so 100% agree. Thanks for your feedback... I love the confirmation and addition to what being an INFP is all about.
I love checking out other INFP videos and listening to other people's stories about their experiences. I notice that there can be shared physical characteristics (namely with the eyes). Anyway, I'd like to take a page off of someone by emphasizing the importance of asking the following questions: "How am I feeling? What are my needs?"; When it comes to other people, it would be "How are you feeling?" and "What are your needs?". With some people, the first question may be tough to answer, but at least the second question could be particularly helpful in clarity. I find that one of the strengths of the INFP is getting to the core of a person to find his/her inner truth, seeing the idiosyncrasies and still have this great sense of love and patience. I believe a fellow UA-camr described us as "quietly fierce".
I love you! Thank you so much for your videos! You are my favorite INFP person on youtube. Love how you explain things. Thanks for sticking up for us fellow INFP's and explaining things. You are awesome! You are doing such a great job! Lots of love to you and your family!
Related to every word and you are such an amazing speaker! Thanks so much these videos help me see myself clearly every once in a while. Hoping that through effort I can become so authentic and be involved in things that make me tick of myself like you are!
Thank you for helping me to understand my INFP boyfriend. I am an ENFP, and a singer in a band so def am the extrovert, but I do find that he and I are so similar in alot of other ways, and I also appreciate his need for his space, but am so happy and content when we can lie in bed and chill together watching tv, too. It's good listening to you. Thanks again and I look forward to more awesome info...
I’m new here lol but I will be going back and watching more from you. I agree with all the points you’ve made and also grew up misunderstood, often times people assume I’m stupid in some way. It makes me so frustrated! I’m glad I’m not alone in these feelings. It’s also fun to meet another infp with a Goku tattoo 😝
Learning about and understanding INFP's, and then making friends with a couple of them, has been one of the greatest honors I've ever had. Being yourself and not caving into the whims of the masses speaks my language. -ENTJ
To any INFP out there, speaking as one, I would say err on the side of seeking independence and what is calling you. We are not good with Extraverted thinking, and so we can't quantify easily the risk vs reward that is part of life (like the size of things in the rear view mirror). But we are excellent at judging people and our goals in life, you just have to trust yourself and ignore what you see in front of you and trust your life references and your Extroverted Intuition because that imo is on a par with Introverted Intuition As a rule of thumb, your best guess is always right.
Most of this is spot on for me except, I have not always stayed on the path of what was right for me, due to self preservation purposes. I know that sounds contradictory, but it is truth. I have found my way back and WOW! I had forgotten who I was and rediscovering is like - indescribably wonderful!
Hello Lex, I think having a cup of tea with you just to talk would be worth flying to NZ from Australia. Mainly, because I also adore connecting with people and talking about the deeper things in life. Confession; Although I want to be authentic 24/7 sometimes I feel that overbearing personalities crush me easily and I’ll be mindlessly agreeing with everything they say to nervous to speak up against their points of view. Mainly because I dodge confrontation as much as possible. Has/does this happened to you?
My son, 13, is an INFP, and he's so funny and sweet and brilliant. But as an INFJ, before I knew mbti, I used my J too much when he was little and tended to look over his shoulder. I'm tempted to ask him if he agrees with this, just to let him know I understand better now and don't want him to change. 🙂
- Good movies, books, stories - animals and plants that are cute to watch (including insects). - Being accepted with my strengths and weaknesses even if I'm not understood. Simply because people get that they might not follow, but "If you say so and that's your conclusion, then it'll be right for you to handle this that way". Indeed, the non-imposing of things that won't work for me. Instead the questions of what it'd take and what is maybe simply not possible for me, even with effort (what a rare joy! But it happened!!). This includes being given the grace of doubt or assuming positive intent when there's a misunderstanding or problem. Cause chances are, the "out of the box thinking" mismatch has me do things for reasons people do not have a chance to safely assume correctly 😅 But if they ask, they get very surprising answers they often then can make sense of and relate to. - My bed. Seriously! The space that safely holds my body while I full-immerse in different realities is like sacred space to me. It can technically be any cozy corner. But yeah as you say, space (even "just" retreat into space in the inside) is essential to the point of being survival related. - Tea. I run on it, air and love (my own, currently)
The idea of discovering an ancient lost and advance civilisation somewhere... Or going into a lost and remote virgen island somewhere halfway Chile and New Zealand with semi tropical vegetation and climate with a stunning view breathing on the top of a mountain fresh and pure deep blue sky... Or to live in a small cabin on the Greek islands relying on fishing and basic agriculture and just get inspired by the turquoise waters, Sun and Mediterranean landscape just like one of the greatest philosophers from the ancient world...
INFP equates to double introvert dominant and secondary being phlegmatic and melancholy 2nd with sanguine 3rd and choleric 4th The most introverted would be phlegmatic 1st melancholy 2nd choleric 3rd and sanguine 4th as we all have all 4 base temperaments in various amounts and order of predominance providing all the diversity in us and a base formula for all supplementary personality studies like Meyers Briggs and all the others must refer to the 4 I have mentioned
It's so weird to hear someone describe what it's like to be me so well. I've only met a few other INFPs irl and we were always like friendly ships passing in the night. That moment of mutual recognition and kinship, then off on our separate paths. ENFPs on the other hand you can't get rid of (not that you'd want to).
Oh that last part... I think i'm an INFP, just did 1 test and some research and it does seem to match up. With how i think, why i feel and act in a certain particular way. Anyway, in short.. got a huge financial debt (NOT MY GODDAMN FAULT! I was being nice.. and did it for my mom... ) Anyway.. it's alright.. the government helps me out.. but now i'm in this thing for 3 years long. working my ass off and not having money because i need to pay it off. So i'm fine right? But that's not what my heart is telling me.. My heart grinches, aches, screams and feels utterly stuck in this godforsaken world. I have a few reasons why i should work.. since i don't care about my work (it's just work... it's just economics, it's bullocks..) so my soul purpose for working is to create time and freedom for myself, to be able to go on holidays and do whatever i want. This to me, feels like it's taken away from me. Allthough i have just 9 months left of the 3 years.. i am slowly breaking... And if my breaking point gets on a certain level, i will call in sick, perform horrible at work.. and then my fear kicks in.. i think i might get fired and if that happens... my government won't support me no more and all the debt collectors will take everything away i own. So afraid that will happen, but i must remain strong.. switch off whatever i'm feeling and just live day by day and pray to whatever fictional god that time just passes quickly.. Like what you said, because you weren't able to see the northern lights.. it made you feel depressed.. that's where i am right now. Help? hehe.. actually made an appointment with a shrink soon.. i need to talk and i feel so alone. Life is just passing by and seeing how other people can do holidays (with the same pay check as what i have!!!).
All the things you said make me tick as well. I have tested as Infp and Infj and I’m now on a quest to find out which I really am. So far, all of the Infps I’ve seen on UA-cam are NOT me. They’re very slow and quiet and I am talkative, passionate and expressive. You are so much like me though that you have me thinking maybe this IS my type. Are we exceptions to the rule? Do you have any advice for me? Thx for your awesome vids!
Bec Wakefield hi! I've tested as multiple types as well and had to soul search to find where I fit. I feel like introversion isn't what people tend to think it is, it doesn't have to be a shy or quiet person. I think to be an introvert is to reflect on yourself to find where to move forward instead of others, in everyday life. Being an introvert means you are highly aware of yourself. I also have heard that it's where you get your energy from, if you tend to feel drained after a long interaction with someone, you might be an introvert. (I'm not an expert by any means, just sharing what I think)
My personal experience when it comes to leadership is this. I am good at it. I do not enjoy it. Hyper capable. Fully miserable. It is an absolute last resort scenario that will rope me into a leadership role that I will happily shed as quickly as possible. Gross.
This reminded me of a time I was reading a book by someone who's very much like me and had a very similar upbringing. I was upset, angry actually, had to keep taking a pause every couple of paragraphs. The author thought the way I thought and lived by the same general philosophy I try to employ; formerly religious, not so much into the literal God anymore but still liked the principles of be good to yourself and others. He followed his path, I was pressured off mine. He was wildly successful, I was not. But what was really making me emotional was that my whole life I'd been pushed to change or (the threat was) I wouldn't become happy or successful. My idiot best friend's first words as he witnessed this unfold; "you get too emotional. You have to change that." FUCK YOU 😂
INFP's need to avoid ENTP's, ISTP's, and ESTP's like the plague. Unless it's a coworker or a boss, have nothing to do with these types, don't let them into your life, they will cause nothing but damage.
#5. Epiphanies and connecting the dots. *synchronistic mathematics* and Sir William Shakespeare. Is anyone interested in knowing more about connecting dots over time/space? 🌾👀🐡
You want to only connect to people you respect. You judge and see little value in everyone else. You don’t tolerate as much as you think. How is that powerful ???
am I the only INFP that doesn't fit in with the stereotype of being the "uinque" "weird" and "from other world" ? I I've struggle my entire life with being accepted in many different social groups, I've always felt that I don't fit in with anyone but not because I'm unique and different... I just feel I don't have enough luck to meet people that really appreciate me as the way I am.
The same thing happened to me I lost my job and it pay 10 a hour got a know job hate that job and left it and old boss call me and gave me a new job that pay 16 hour a hour I love my job
So, if "everyone is different", as you say in the video and these are really just the things that make _you_ tick, why say "this is what makes INFPs tick"?
It's what makes us tick according to the stereotype and/or the INFP description. This is also what personally makes me tick, and what I mean by everyone is different, and it is subjective is just that; some people may identitfy with 4 out of 5 of these points, but as an INFP they may personally have something else they would add to the list, if that makes sense
I see, essentially, what makes you tick, aligns with the INFP type description, therefore, it makes INFPs tick and that is the established rule, which means that we have an objective standard, by which we can judge, whether one is or is not an INFP, which, in turn, means, that it isn't entirely subjective.
You are an isfp..we dont like getting involved..we loved being part of something but at the same time doing things on our own..and also infp's have a scattered mind...they'd go from one topic to another constantly interrupting their sentences...i love isfps btw..they are the most concrete at expressing emotions while us infps just exresses in a way that doesnt make any sense sometimes. And also this is gonna be the last one, infps cannot stand looking at the camera in full 3 sec. and their hand gesture moves from the top of their head to the bottom of their feet..they are like children in a grown up body
If i were going to list things that makes infps tick are 1. LOVE- we just loved to be loved, it makes us feel valid 2. WORDS- we loooove words so much, we find ways to play with words to match with our general feelings instead of straighforwardly telling it 3. Beautiful things- infps loved to be inspired and simple things such as, sunset, sunrise, nature,beaches awaken the dreamers inside us 4. sense of worth- not in a daily basis but worth in this world in general, sometimes we even forget about our daily task because we are so caught up with these things. So that's it if you wanna know more about infps ask a 3 years old child, his dreams would be as vast as infps...but sometimes in a way that doesnt make any sense xD
As an INFP, I feel like no one really understood me throughout my childhood either. I was so quiet and introverted, so people at school tended to want to fix me to make me a "normal" extroverted person.
I love when it rains, and even better when I’m curled up in a blanket with a good cup of tea, and a book. That’s bliss to me. 💗🥰
Same except I actually don't like the rain because it can sound like someone tapping over my shoulder and remind me of stuff I don't like. It doesn't mean my favourite weather is sunny and stuff, I just don't like the rain but grey clouds with rays of light through and all the nuances... NOW THAT is my favourite weather.
My favourite tea is red berries/fruit of the forest black tea with a tiny bit of lemon and a lot of sugar to balance it. I'm passionate about computer technologies so that's where I spend most of my time, most people would just end up thinking that I'm just a nerf/no life etc but in the end I'm just trying to be myself.
Blankets are cool but I like duvets more.
Books are great I'm more into fantasy because I'm deep into world building and magic and it allows me to explore how I would build a world to fit my vision to bring me peace and if not for myself then for others who might need/want it.
Rain is food for the soul . Love just sitting on the porch on a rainy summer evening
i am to prone to daydreaming to read a book xd
For me, I adore anything that is ancient, mystical or mysterious...INFP's, I would recommend visiting areas of the UK particularly Ireland and Scotland is you wish to immerse yourself in an atmospheric place that feels both tranquil and idyllic but also has an 'older than time itself' feel.
Thanks for the idea, love mystical mysterious ancient thing s too
Yes, I love those types of things. I loved games such as Zelda because of ancient ruins and I also loved movies such as the Neverending story. I also love music that sounds mystical.
I feel Himalayas is d real home of INFPs. Mysterious Peaceful Spiritual
Can help us find our purpose
Or New Zealand's nature :)
@@jasonng04 I love Zelda! There is something so comforting and atmospheric about the games...
An INFP poem by Emily Dickinson that I discovered was back in junior high school. “She” helped give me meaning to my “outside the box” thinking!!!
I'm Nobody! Who are you?
Are you-Nobody-Too?
Then there's a pair of us!
Don't tell! they'd advertise-you know!
How dreary-to be-Somebody!
How public-like a Frog-
To tell one's name-the livelong June-
To an admiring Bog!
As an INFP having a so many insecurities in childhood, I always thought I should change myself , so I'll be less alone! and I really tried to do that. But it didn't make me feel any good about myself. I didn't know who I was. Now I know that all of those feelings are just because I'm an INFP and I love myself in every way! I love my loneliness and the fact that I only have a small circle of friends who are so close to my heart. I think all of us should stay our true selves and shine as we are💖
I agree, I'm still kinda insecure infp, but I just accepted who I am, that maybe I'm weak... but in a good way? :3 (I'm male btw and I don't want to even try be more... macho or something, maybe I'm even femboi a bit xD)
That part about needing to be understood literally brought tears to my eyes. As an INFP in high school I've always felt as though that was kind of all that I wanted and I never really found it until seeing the INFP community. Keep up the good work
I so know what you mean. I thought I was so weird, yet I still wanted to remain my weird self even at the cost of being liked. It's so awesome that you've found the INFP community and you're not so alone xx
Same here, felt so lonely n the mocking of fellow class mates...
@@Lexmorningstarnz yep that's what my dp explains ...
"That kind of rhymed!" Me like 24/7 while everyone looks at me funny cuz i made a connection no one sees. Lol
Girl With Her Camera 😂 I get that when people ask "pardon?" And I reply "oh nothing, I was talking to myself".
I relate to all of this. A friendly reminder if you end up going to Norway for the northern lights. Go far north and go in winter/autumn or else you won't see anything. Take care and enjoy your life :)
Video Idea: INFP's in University.
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INFP's don't go to college.
(I'm INFP ...kinda has some truth to it though lol.)
Ariana Heeraman I am an INFP and I have completed a University Degree.
@@Dancestar1981 You go girl!
would love this
You are me exactly. I think we all come from a different planet, am I right..
Vivi33 have always believed this 😂
Omg I feel she she’s my twin ..amazing!!!
Eva Flynn hahahahh yeah my friends and family says I'm from mars or somethin
RoomWithAView honestly I think we do too lol
11:05 The relief of bad weather. Not having to feel bad for not going outside.
It's strange how I enjoy nature and the sun, able to completely lose myself lying beneath some trees, and so just cannot wait for spring to come around, only to then spend most of the nice days sitting inside, feeling worse and worse.
It starts off with a bad day: "It is such nice weather, you are expected to go out!" - but I cannot, I feel spent. I hear the excited commotion on the streets outside, people invigorated and woken up from their hibernation by the warmth of the sun, and it genuinely makes me angry; not angry towards the people themselves, although their activeness zaps my energy, but towards my seeming lack of desire to partake. Instead of nice weather being a healthy way of recharging your battery, it becomes something that drains it.
The unease only grows from there on out. I begin to only go out later in the evening when people have calmed down enough so their verve does not affect me as much. My skin is pale in comparison to everyone else's and I appear unhealthy because I do not go outside as much. It does not matter if _they_ care or even notice that I am truly unwell; it's that _I_ am aware of this issue - creating a vicious cycle. I feel bad for not having gone outside, which stops me from going outside, because I feel bad.
It took some time, but I have learned. It's okay to skip a beautiful day or two (or a week if you are feeling depressed). Don't make something that is inherently nice into something that can have a negative effect on you, just because you feel the obligation to appreciate its niceness. You don't owe the weather, or the people that enjoy it, anything. If you are down or drained, it must be *your* decision on how to act or to not act all. If you cannot go outside, so be it! Switch on your favorite show or listen to your favorite music or just lie in bed! Just try to promise yourself to spend some time in nature once you feel more energetic, because it really does help (no matter the weather).
You're so right, why feel guilty about something that only concerns you? I can always go for a walk when I feel like it.
I feel you deeply, completely relate with everything you just said, I mean it.
I like authentic, simple, humble people, that's rare I know. Art of every form is what I feel attracted to. I feel so bad if someone keep that stop watch on or give me ultimatums. 🤗 Awesome video 👌
Lucky I'm Asian. My parents thought I was perfect. We like introverted children. They are more obedient and easier to deal with it.
I love the sound of this Kiwi girl. I'm an INFP too you really hit the mark on everything you say.
Dear sweetie Lex Morningstar,
Everything you said in the video reflects the same way I feel and think on inside. You are absolutely a beautiful creature with a deeply nice soul. Wish you good luck because you deserve it ;)
Just the sound of your voice is so soothing!
Thanks :)
LOVE the rain-sounds *magical* ... Demand freedom--including freedom of expression for EVERYBODY! ... Love connecting all the dots of this non-linear existence, finding esoteric/existentialmeanings... Like my space ...
So true Lex. Be Proud girl. Don,t EVER CHANGE the way you are. Your honesty is PRECIOUS. I AM Aldo AM INFP and NEVER chsnged the way I AM since ever before. Since I AM older than you, I learned to respect my own being AUTHENTICITY. I HAVE NO CHOICE....can,t live in MANDACITY....IT is Just TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT for my outside world.... Hugz Hans
I have felt so misunderstood many many times in my life.......I'm getting better to not turn in on myself, to think something is wrong with me, because they don't understand. & yes, I am honest...but, so many people in my life have thought I was lying or being fake....when I was being totally sincere. Yes, I'm very sensitive, & I pick up on subtle things, & I feel things deeply at times. Hey, Lex, Thank You for your videos!
wow ! i did not know there were others like me. Watched almost all your videos and i am really taken aback because what you say is almost as if you are reading my mind. All this time i was thinking that i am a weirdo !!!! thanx a ton and way to go girl !!!!
I think that you have tapped into a captive audience as INFP's (like myself) as we are the ultimate listeners!!! 😂😂😂 I also really get listening to the rain or thunderstorm when recharging my batteries as it were. It's like our lives are the rain and the thunder is us rebelling to become ourselves again after we've lost our way. Like most infp's I reckon we love a metaphor (like I just did!!!) BUT we are never a slave to it!!! (This taps into the need for security vs independence).
I have never heard of the term info until today.. I always thought that I was A HSP.. everything that you described in your video describes me perfectly.. thank you..
Your video points are really on target - it is kind of comforting, surprising, and maybe even humorous to realize there are many others out there with these same traits. Glad there is a community. Haven’t reached out to it really - but still thankful to know it’s there. I think it’s good to better understand and to appreciate who we are and to accept that as a “personality type,” we have much to offer. Thanks for the insight.
Yourself is beautiful, Im happy you didn’t change and stayed true to yourself! (:
I could completely relate to all the points you made about your high school experience, I always felt hopelessly quiet and weird and wanted a lot more of my own space to be creative than people deemed ‘normal’
Great video, Lex! I agree with all of your points. I'd say that in addition to being understood, it helps for us to feel validated in terms of our feelings. That's a tough one. You mentioned INFPs and introverted intuition. Yes, all INXX types are very strong in introverted intuition. This only adds to the notion that INFPs and INFJs are "quasi-identical" in intertype relation. Our strong introverted intuition can help us with that great insight into people and events, but I'm not sure how many other people will heed our words.
Z Iquebal Yes I definitely agree with the "validation". I forgot to mention that, it was written in my notes though, so 100% agree. Thanks for your feedback... I love the confirmation and addition to what being an INFP is all about.
I love checking out other INFP videos and listening to other people's stories about their experiences. I notice that there can be shared physical characteristics (namely with the eyes). Anyway, I'd like to take a page off of someone by emphasizing the importance of asking the following questions: "How am I feeling? What are my needs?"; When it comes to other people, it would be "How are you feeling?" and "What are your needs?". With some people, the first question may be tough to answer, but at least the second question could be particularly helpful in clarity.
I find that one of the strengths of the INFP is getting to the core of a person to find his/her inner truth, seeing the idiosyncrasies and still have this great sense of love and patience. I believe a fellow UA-camr described us as "quietly fierce".
As an INFP male, I'd like to say 'thank you' for ALL of your videos!
I love you! Thank you so much for your videos! You are my favorite INFP person on youtube. Love how you explain things. Thanks for sticking up for us fellow INFP's and explaining things. You are awesome! You are doing such a great job! Lots of love to you and your family!
Thank you so much for being like a mirror to me and my own thoughts and things I believe in, you're a lovely person :)
Related to every word and you are such an amazing speaker! Thanks so much these videos help me see myself clearly every once in a while. Hoping that through effort I can become so authentic and be involved in things that make me tick of myself like you are!
Thank you for helping me to understand my INFP boyfriend. I am an ENFP, and a singer in a band so def am the extrovert, but I do find that he and I are so similar in alot of other ways, and I also appreciate his need for his space, but am so happy and content when we can lie in bed and chill together watching tv, too. It's good listening to you. Thanks again and I look forward to more awesome info...
Your Uploads ALWAYS Resonate W/ Me As An INFP!!✨
The feeling when your sister is your manager. And decides to act like your manager 24/7
Me: leave me alone D;
Is your sister an INFJ ? That would make sense to me...
I’m new here lol but I will be going back and watching more from you. I agree with all the points you’ve made and also grew up misunderstood, often times people assume I’m stupid in some way. It makes me so frustrated! I’m glad I’m not alone in these feelings. It’s also fun to meet another infp with a Goku tattoo 😝
This makes my heart full! It’s so hard to find people like that! 🥰
Learning about and understanding INFP's, and then making friends with a couple of them, has been one of the greatest honors I've ever had.
Being yourself and not caving into the whims of the masses speaks my language.
-ENTJ
To any INFP out there, speaking as one, I would say err on the side of seeking independence and what is calling you. We are not good with Extraverted thinking, and so we can't quantify easily the risk vs reward that is part of life (like the size of things in the rear view mirror). But we are excellent at judging people and our goals in life, you just have to trust yourself and ignore what you see in front of you and trust your life references and your Extroverted Intuition because that imo is on a par with Introverted Intuition As a rule of thumb, your best guess is always right.
Most of this is spot on for me except, I have not always stayed on the path of what was right for me, due to self preservation purposes. I know that sounds contradictory, but it is truth. I have found my way back and WOW! I had forgotten who I was and rediscovering is like - indescribably wonderful!
I effing love your accent. Thanks for making this video!
same there absorbed in self creativity - not depressed or in disrespect to other
you took the words right out of my mouth......
I realy love this video. Finaly someone who knows how I feel and dosen't want to tell me what I need to change to be successfull.
Wow, I don't feel so alone now. Everything you described is me too. And I do feel like an island.
Hello Lex, I think having a cup of tea with you just to talk would be worth flying to NZ from Australia. Mainly, because I also adore connecting with people and talking about the deeper things in life. Confession; Although I want to be authentic 24/7 sometimes I feel that overbearing personalities crush me easily and I’ll be mindlessly agreeing with everything they say to nervous to speak up against their points of view. Mainly because I dodge confrontation as much as possible. Has/does this happened to you?
You express yourself very well using your hands when you talk. Literally everything you say has its own sign language lol. Very INFP of you.
What you said!!! Your words mean so much to me.
Damn you nailed everything... get out of my head!
Another on point video! 💕🌈
My son, 13, is an INFP, and he's so funny and sweet and brilliant. But as an INFJ, before I knew mbti, I used my J too much when he was little and tended to look over his shoulder. I'm tempted to ask him if he agrees with this, just to let him know I understand better now and don't want him to change. 🙂
- Good movies, books, stories
- animals and plants that are cute to watch (including insects).
- Being accepted with my strengths and weaknesses even if I'm not understood. Simply because people get that they might not follow, but "If you say so and that's your conclusion, then it'll be right for you to handle this that way". Indeed, the non-imposing of things that won't work for me. Instead the questions of what it'd take and what is maybe simply not possible for me, even with effort (what a rare joy! But it happened!!). This includes being given the grace of doubt or assuming positive intent when there's a misunderstanding or problem. Cause chances are, the "out of the box thinking" mismatch has me do things for reasons people do not have a chance to safely assume correctly 😅 But if they ask, they get very surprising answers they often then can make sense of and relate to.
- My bed. Seriously! The space that safely holds my body while I full-immerse in different realities is like sacred space to me. It can technically be any cozy corner. But yeah as you say, space (even "just" retreat into space in the inside) is essential to the point of being survival related.
- Tea. I run on it, air and love (my own, currently)
The idea of discovering an ancient lost and advance civilisation somewhere... Or going into a lost and remote virgen island somewhere halfway Chile and New Zealand with semi tropical vegetation and climate with a stunning view breathing on the top of a mountain fresh and pure deep blue sky... Or to live in a small cabin on the Greek islands relying on fishing and basic agriculture and just get inspired by the turquoise waters, Sun and Mediterranean landscape just like one of the greatest philosophers from the ancient world...
INFP equates to double introvert dominant and secondary being phlegmatic and melancholy 2nd with sanguine 3rd and choleric 4th
The most introverted would be phlegmatic 1st melancholy 2nd choleric 3rd and sanguine 4th as we all have all 4 base temperaments in various amounts and order of predominance providing all the diversity in us and a base formula for all supplementary personality studies like Meyers Briggs and all the others must refer to the 4 I have mentioned
It's so weird to hear someone describe what it's like to be me so well. I've only met a few other INFPs irl and we were always like friendly ships passing in the night. That moment of mutual recognition and kinship, then off on our separate paths. ENFPs on the other hand you can't get rid of (not that you'd want to).
Reeeally good! Great job!
Oh that last part...
I think i'm an INFP, just did 1 test and some research and it does seem to match up. With how i think, why i feel and act in a certain particular way.
Anyway, in short.. got a huge financial debt (NOT MY GODDAMN FAULT! I was being nice.. and did it for my mom... ) Anyway.. it's alright.. the government helps me out.. but now i'm in this thing for 3 years long. working my ass off and not having money because i need to pay it off. So i'm fine right?
But that's not what my heart is telling me.. My heart grinches, aches, screams and feels utterly stuck in this godforsaken world. I have a few reasons why i should work.. since i don't care about my work (it's just work... it's just economics, it's bullocks..) so my soul purpose for working is to create time and freedom for myself, to be able to go on holidays and do whatever i want. This to me, feels like it's taken away from me. Allthough i have just 9 months left of the 3 years.. i am slowly breaking... And if my breaking point gets on a certain level, i will call in sick, perform horrible at work.. and then my fear kicks in.. i think i might get fired and if that happens... my government won't support me no more and all the debt collectors will take everything away i own. So afraid that will happen, but i must remain strong.. switch off whatever i'm feeling and just live day by day and pray to whatever fictional god that time just passes quickly..
Like what you said, because you weren't able to see the northern lights.. it made you feel depressed.. that's where i am right now. Help? hehe.. actually made an appointment with a shrink soon.. i need to talk and i feel so alone. Life is just passing by and seeing how other people can do holidays (with the same pay check as what i have!!!).
Video idea: infps and addiction
All the things you said make me tick as well. I have tested as Infp and Infj and I’m now on a quest to find out which I really am. So far, all of the Infps I’ve seen on UA-cam are NOT me. They’re very slow and quiet and I am talkative, passionate and expressive. You are so much like me though that you have me thinking maybe this IS my type. Are we exceptions to the rule? Do you have any advice for me? Thx for your awesome vids!
Bec Wakefield hi! I've tested as multiple types as well and had to soul search to find where I fit. I feel like introversion isn't what people tend to think it is, it doesn't have to be a shy or quiet person. I think to be an introvert is to reflect on yourself to find where to move forward instead of others, in everyday life. Being an introvert means you are highly aware of yourself. I also have heard that it's where you get your energy from, if you tend to feel drained after a long interaction with someone, you might be an introvert. (I'm not an expert by any means, just sharing what I think)
Hope Thank you for sharing that with me! I think you’re 100% correct!!! 💕
That kiwi accent. Hard to find in a sea of UA-cam content.
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@@foxik7272 not all Kiwis have extreme kiwi accents, i consider, lazy English cringe worthy :D
Yes!! The last one epiphanies and connecting the dots!! Voila!
Yessss i agree with all of this
I can relate😀
I agree with all of these statements.
And number five! Wow that one is me all over
My personal experience when it comes to leadership is this. I am good at it. I do not enjoy it. Hyper capable. Fully miserable. It is an absolute last resort scenario that will rope me into a leadership role that I will happily shed as quickly as possible. Gross.
I would love to see your poetry
Any other infp's struggle to find someone they feel they would be comfortable with even befour the thoughts of relationship can enter their heads?
This reminded me of a time I was reading a book by someone who's very much like me and had a very similar upbringing. I was upset, angry actually, had to keep taking a pause every couple of paragraphs. The author thought the way I thought and lived by the same general philosophy I try to employ; formerly religious, not so much into the literal God anymore but still liked the principles of be good to yourself and others. He followed his path, I was pressured off mine. He was wildly successful, I was not. But what was really making me emotional was that my whole life I'd been pushed to change or (the threat was) I wouldn't become happy or successful. My idiot best friend's first words as he witnessed this unfold; "you get too emotional. You have to change that." FUCK YOU 😂
You remind me of myself so much it’s scary lol
This is interesting
Nails it flawlessly! Than u
I finally love something about myself know .
No. Two is super true
INFP's need to avoid ENTP's, ISTP's, and ESTP's like the plague. Unless it's a coworker or a boss, have nothing to do with these types, don't let them into your life, they will cause nothing but damage.
I would love you to do a q and a
*_Who heals the healers?_*
~~cc
I love who you are! (Lex) 🌾🌻👀🐡💗
It is so scary listening to you. You sound so much like me, crazy...
So true...
#5. Epiphanies and connecting the dots.
*synchronistic mathematics* and Sir William Shakespeare.
Is anyone interested in knowing more about connecting dots over time/space? 🌾👀🐡
$1500.10769 = $1500.11⤴️
$1500.1111 = $1500.11⤵️
Would you care to go deeper? 🐡
It ain't all subjective
Thank you! ( :
Preach ❤
Tbh. I don't want to make friends. Because i know they will eventually hurt me.
Not that i don't want friends. I am scared to make friends.
You want to only connect to people you respect. You judge and see little value in everyone else. You don’t tolerate as much as you think. How is that powerful ???
am I the only INFP that doesn't fit in with the stereotype of being the "uinque" "weird" and "from other world" ? I I've struggle my entire life with being accepted in many different social groups, I've always felt that I don't fit in with anyone but not because I'm unique and different... I just feel I don't have enough luck to meet people that really appreciate me as the way I am.
The same thing happened to me I lost my job and it pay 10 a hour got a know job hate that job and left it and old boss call me and gave me a new job that pay 16 hour a hour I love my job
So, if "everyone is different", as you say in the video and these are really just the things that make _you_ tick, why say "this is what makes INFPs tick"?
It's what makes us tick according to the stereotype and/or the INFP description. This is also what personally makes me tick, and what I mean by everyone is different, and it is subjective is just that; some people may identitfy with 4 out of 5 of these points, but as an INFP they may personally have something else they would add to the list, if that makes sense
I see, essentially, what makes you tick, aligns with the INFP type description, therefore, it makes INFPs tick and that is the established rule, which means that we have an objective standard, by which we can judge, whether one is or is not an INFP, which, in turn, means, that it isn't entirely subjective.
77Night77Shade77 😂 what's your MBTI type?
Why do you ask?
Lex Morningstar I bet he is a debater
How do INFP have children
any chance you are an isfp?
Hi. I want to know more about you
You are an isfp..we dont like getting involved..we loved being part of something but at the same time doing things on our own..and also infp's have a scattered mind...they'd go from one topic to another constantly interrupting their sentences...i love isfps btw..they are the most concrete at expressing emotions while us infps just exresses in a way that doesnt make any sense sometimes. And also this is gonna be the last one, infps cannot stand looking at the camera in full 3 sec. and their hand gesture moves from the top of their head to the bottom of their feet..they are like children in a grown up body
If i were going to list things that makes infps tick are
1. LOVE- we just loved to be loved, it makes us feel valid
2. WORDS- we loooove words so much, we find ways to play with words to match with our general feelings instead of straighforwardly telling it
3. Beautiful things- infps loved to be inspired and simple things such as, sunset, sunrise, nature,beaches awaken the dreamers inside us
4. sense of worth- not in a daily basis but worth in this world in general, sometimes we even forget about our daily task because we are so caught up with these things.
So that's it if you wanna know more about infps ask a 3 years old child, his dreams would be as vast as infps...but sometimes in a way that doesnt make any sense xD
1:42 - "We are constantly on the 𝘴𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘤𝘩 𝘧𝘺𝘰𝘳" :) cute
Thapelo Kgaje haha... my accent?
Yeah, sounds majestic though.