Would be interesting if people could comment saying what jobs they have as an INFP? I think our personality type means we normally look for jobs that are meaningful and where we feel like we can make a difference. I am studying marine biology at the moment and would love to be a research scientist finding ways to help our oceans. What do you guys do? X
I'm a 2D graphic artist right now (for video games), aiming to be a writer! 😊 In the past, I wanted to be a talk therapist, but soon realized the mental/emotional stress would probably be too much for me to handle. Then I'd wanted to get into Human Resources...until I learned that they work for the company and not the employees. (I thought I'd be trained to sort out discrepancies/ unfair treatment, that sort of thing!) So you're definitely onto something about wanting to make a difference! Marine biology sounds so amazing, I love oceans and sea life! I hope you do well! 🌊🐟💙
@@Lynn-ee9hq That's really interesting. I myself was very fascinated with the thought of being a personal therapist/counselor at one point in time, but I also concluded that my own emotional health would likely decline as a result. Currently I work at a restaurant, to challenge my social abilities, and put me in a position where I can serve people (customers and coworkers alike). Although, career-wise, I want to get involved with a graphic design team in the future.
4th-year medical student here, interested in pursuing psychiatry. Very much working on creative endeavors too, though, and would like that side-passion to become how I pay the bills :)
I went to college for pharmacy tech after a life long desire to help people.. I worked for only 5 years in the field and the lack of care in healthcare broke me. 3 years at a methadone clinic was tiresome... 2 years at shoppers drug mart and thats the job that broke me. 191 patients i took care of making blisters packages. I would call them to check up when meds changed and when loved ones passed... Doing this i was reprimanded for making the others look bad.... Thats lame. The field is missing quality and compassion... I had a mental breakdown trying to change people that refuse to change. I am now on disability and i have started on a spiritual journey trying to find a place i belong.
As an INFP, most of the time in my life i dont even know what im doing and i feel like im floating in space with infinite possibilities. I can philosophize about stuff like this all day.
As an INFP I have to remind myself that the way I feel is not how every one else feels/perceives/processes. I tend to be surprised each time discover this!
I love the idea of connecting with lots of people, but find the reality exhausting and overwhelming I love the idea of being perfectly organised, but find the reality tedious and restricting I love the idea of ideas, but find the reality to much. This has been the struggle of my life!
For me as an INFP I don't like to, "show off," but rather, enjoy sharing things I've discovered and am excited about. For me new ideas, or discoveries are better when I can share with someone I can have a deep discussion with.
That's how I feel - for instance, if I notice a connection between something I'm told and some random bit of knowledge kicking around in my noggin, I might find that exciting and want to share that excitement - I suppose someone else might see it as 'showing off', particularly if they have no interest in anything other than, oh, how to make a buck.
Oooh reading your comment and the ones below this comment help me so much! I am always afraid to show off, but my intentions is just to share the things I like/did/discovered, because I am also interested in other people sharing their stuff with me. But they do that less in general and than when I share something it is interpreted as show-off.. But now I know its just my personality type hahaha. i cant help it. Gives a feeling of acceptance I guess..
As an INFP-A, i pretty much stop thinking about if i'm showing off when i share stuff. I say what i wanna say & do what i wanna do when the situation feels right for it. If the other party or someone else thinks i'm showing off, too bad for them. The only thing i keep in mind when doing so is to not go overboard with it.
I think that's a common misconception about us. I've dealt with it a lot. I love sharing what I know or help people by telling them what I've read about their problem. But I have been conceived as a "know it all" so many times which makes me sad and think twice before speaking.
One of my best friends is an ENFP, we connected since day 1. She has the outspoken nature I just don’t possess as an INFP, she makes me laugh so much!❤️
agreed, i'm enxp but an open area of vivid blue is so wonderfully trippy. someplace up in the sky always felt like where my real home would be rather than in smog-concentrated new york city. it reminds me of the word hiraeth- homesickness for a place that may not even have existed
As I relax in my hammock taking pictures of the moon. My nightly ritual that brings me so much happiness and peace before bed. Always late AF every single night when my family sleeps because it’s my time to reflect. I need “me time” and my family never questions my routine. Yet they sense when I’m off because I didn’t have the chance to “disconnect to reconnect”
As an INFP, I've found that it's really difficult to talk to people about what is going on in my head, just because it's lessened by words. Steven King summarizes this really well in the following quote: "The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them - words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out. But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you’ve said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear."
Great quote (I have all his books, organized on the same shelf, by height, near my pile of laundry). I find myself expressing a lot of emotional stuff in a monotone voice, because I know the listener will never really get how debilitating something actually is to me. Little things even. I recently got into an emotional tizzy over coffee grounds on the kitchen counter. There wasn't enough words to express the intensity inside. How could I say "This mess seems like a passive-aggressive attack, which I know may escalate into a fight, also this is showing a total lack of respect for me and my space and hurts my feelings, and I'm afraid to confront the situation because that reminds me of an abusive father figure and raises a lot of fearful feelings inside." How could I possibly say "This spilled coffee causes me intense fear, anxiety, hurts my feelings, and makes me feel disrespected," and ever expect that listener to really understand the turmoil inside? What I said instead of all that? "You have to go."
That quote is so right. I’ve even tried to put my thoughts down in writing but it still doesn’t feel as magical when they were in my head. IMO, music and art are more magical manifestations than words.
Because of our introverted feeling and our extraverted intuition, we constantly feel like we almost don't belong anywhere as we're almost always trying to make sense of our environment and sort through how we actually feel vs how others are feeling
Omgggg i just had a break down crying go my friend about this.. Not understanding why i dont fit in in certain situations with certain ppl including family at times.. N it be so sad when i feel like that because then i get to wondering if im a good person or not only to understand that im a wonderful person kind giving n loving when i want to its just the people i choose to interact is not meant for me
But at the same time, we can talk to anyone (and I do mean anyone...from the beggar, to the theif, to the wealthy, any background, culture, religion, ANYONE) and make them feel comfortable talking to us. I feel like we don't fit in, but we take it all in.
As a INTP this makes me really confused, could you try and explain what feelings are?. I have a theory, could it be that you have so many sensory inputs for feeling sensory that it is your main source of flow rather then anything els, hence it becomes reality rather then something that you can be emotional about. For example your 4th sensory is thinking whitch is extroverted is direct and blunt like feelings appear to be for me, is it because we have less sensory input for them but with much increased sensitivity to compensate?... My theory comes from receptor uptake from eating certain foods contaning different compounds like dopamine, seretonin, glutamine etc these factors also plays a big role how you operate in accordance with your bodily functions, stress levels, feeling relaxed, jittery, calm, etc.. i see a correlation.. sry this got messy fast, I find ISFP very interesting as you are pretty much the opposite to what i'am. Love it 😊
@@franklogrim8510 Gut feelings in short. We develop pretty much a gut feeling to just about everything around us & in us, & sometimes we could get very intense about it. Come to think of it, the feeling is actually more like thoughts that we have no words for, at least at the moment, instead of plain emotions. Everything might be disconnected pieces but somehow, we just kinda be able to tell that the connections are there. What we kinda find frustrating is that these thoughts are often subjective until thoroughly processed, & hell, they might not even appear logical!
Falcon Windblade omg, that was spot on - you described in words how I’ve felt my whole life and have had difficulty identifying the “feeling” or just a plain “knowing” how all the pieces connect and fit together and then on top of that have a very difficult time finding the words to articulate it. So a lot of times I end up sounding like an idiot to people - which I definitely am not, yet, I can understand why they would think that - because if I can’t describe or identify in words how I’m feeling or thinking to them, then they just don’t take me seriously. since their minds aren’t thinking like mine, they definitely don’t understand what’s going on in my head and kinda dismiss me which can be extremely frustrating especially when I KNOW I have a grasp on the situation - usually more so than them
Am I the only INFP that likes complex things but like let’s say you’ve never danced before but you wanna start and you just go to the hard dances straight away instead of the easy dances becasue I like them better and feel like it’s easier to do harder things
You exposed me!! I tried playing the piano yesterday and I tried the hard parts immediately because I was so captivated. But later I realised I should've started with the easier parts lol.
When I'm excited about something I like to dive in the deep end & in the fun and interesting parts. I don't mind if I'm bad at it because I'm having fun and I have confidence that I can learn. I immerse and see the possibilities. Some people need patience until they learn and start having fun. I don't have patience for not having fun and that is how I learn. I have an insecure perfectionist side in me too for sure but I'm bold with my hobbies usually.
one good thing is we understand other people with barely knowing them, and can get along with anyone we want to if we are not stuck in our shyness. One bad thing is we often feel misunderstood ourselves, or even invisible at times!
I love being an INFP and our attention to detail is our superpower we have. We're good at taking someone through a complex process that we've been through because we like complex things so often move towards them and learn from them and have a deep desire to teach others about them after we've been through them.
I’m infp. I had a dream the other day where I saw life through the eyes of a number of people who would be considered terrible by society. I lived there experiences that led to who they became. I don’t think I can ever hate anyone regardless what they have done. It was strange
I’m an infp and I agree with what the general premise of your statement. Unfortunately there is one person I truly hate. Only one. Funny thing is when I let the few people I felt comfortable enough to tell them what he did, which were literally only 3 people ever. I would brag in a way like if this had happened to anyone else they would have serious problems. Little did I know, that, that person, my first stepdad, had in fact effected me greatly. The abuse was from ages 5 through 8. Spent those years moving from apartment to apartment with my mother and older sister. He physically and mentally destroyed all of us many many times. Anyways, my mom ended up marrying someone new, and I moved to upstate New York. Lived pretty normally. Little did I know, all the pain and struggles, anxiety, depression, near death experiences I went through later on in life were because of that one man. Didn’t realize that I had never moved on mentally, I had never moved on in a sense, from an 8 year old boy. I’m now 33. I have much discuss about what it’s like to be an infp and the very complicated struggle of have fi at the top of your stack. I’ve found that a common struggle is that literally every decision you make, both major and minor, are so hard to make because you feel every decision you make is a direct reflection on who you are at the core of your being lol.
Spot on about the mess and organisation. My room more often looks like a tornado has swept through it, but my bookshelf is organised by fiction, non-fiction, genre AND colour, my pillows in my bed are always in the same order and my entire wardrobe is sorted by season and colour.
She definitely was spot on about this! Certain aspects of my life are a mess and others are meticulously organized, alphabetized, color coded, evenly spaced, lined up, facing specific directions for particular reasons, etc. To others something I do may appear to be random but that is almost never the case. There is most certainly a method to my madness...like if I leave something around the house in an odd place it’s not because I’m lazy or forgot about it, it’s because I left it there on purpose for a specific reason that I will tend to/come back to/utilize at a future time in a purposeful, well thought out way.
Great video, you really understand INFPs. I personally don't like to be an INFP, because it is so hard to fit in this world, escpially being a male. Maybe if I lived alone in the hinterland 80% of my time I would be happy, but currently I just feel like almost everyone is crushing my dreams and thinking I am stupid because my weaknesess (lack of focus on mundane tasks, lack of orientation and lack of hard cold logic), not many people is aware of my strengths. Being an INFP is hard.
Im sorry that you struggle like that. I know it’s hard. I hope that you find a place where you can really thrive and your strengths can blossom and be appreciated!
Hi I can fully relate to what you wrote down here. This what you wrote, it is present every day at my work. I'm a software engineer. Even trying to explain it to others are efforts in vain. What's more, because they don't understand, they can't formulate strategies to help you with it. Ultimately, we're expected to resolve these issues ourselves, even though they're consequences of natural personality, which is one of the hardest if not outright impossible to change. I'm a person who tried changing himself to fit the stereotype of unhealthy expectations. I recommend you TRY the same. I have not fully succeeded because the expectations are unsustainable, but some things got better. People at work even regarding their intelligence levels still can't really wrap their heads around it. As such, I'm a threat to them because I seem unpredictable. Enter, Political games. I keep having to disarm myself, which is how I got better. Instead of actually helping to resolve misunderstandings, I'm now only defusing the situation. I wish I could help like a normal human being, but they make it impossible to communicate. That's of course also a decrepit on my side. But that side is only natural! In personal life, I find being patient works best. Other people do want to listen, but they simply don't understand immediately. I realised its impossible to translate a natural point of view (due to personality) to another who has not yet acquired wisdom in that way of reasoning. You HAVE to tell them the fundamentals of your point of view first. You can't do that immediately, because they'll shut down due to information overload. We INFPs like to dream after all. That's just a romantic way of saying that we like to oversee the possibilities that come as a result of correlating our experiences. Fi + Ne. What I'm trying to get at is, I'm not sure why you wrote this, and I'm to tell you that you can resolve ALL these problems by gathering people who are patient enough to keep listening to you. That's also part on you! At some point they'll get it, and you can pick up speed when it comes to conversation. Its a two way street. You adapt yourself too. In my opinion, that is the healthiest way to approach it. I'm open to alternatives though.
I have often thought about this. Being an INFP is challenging already -- other types have a hard time understanding us, our motivations and reactions. But when you add gender into the mix, it takes it to a whole new level. I feel like a lot of INFP traits and behaviors are often viewed as feminine. Especially the traits I align with -- imaginative, sensitive, day-dreamy, etc. Being female myself, I fit into this "mold" and so I'm not rebuked (too many times at least). If I was a guy, I can only imagine the flack I'd get from everyone. I think it would crush my spirit. I feel for you and other male INFPs out there. Stay strong!
@@msc8382 I fully understand what you are saying! I wrote that because I am feeling misunderstood everywhere in my life and feel my pontential is draining to the sewage.
I've been married to an INFP (me*INFJ) FOR 50 years. She has developed into the most tender hearted creature on earth. It took us 25 years to understand how to be useful and good to each other. My 55 year COUNSELING career was built on using TYPE as the platform for every one of my 10,000+ clients and the once of them helped me understand the excellence of my wife's TYPE. We've been able to reach FULLNESS in our relationship and become soulmates! What I did not see in your video was any of the GIGANTIC HEART and DEPTH OF FEELING, and at times GREATER EMPATHY than my INFJ usually has. But that's the advantage of being part of an exclusive 50 year relationship!
How wonderful! My boyfriend (of 5 years) is an INFJ and im ENFP- we still are struggling to understand each other but type has helped us a lot to overcome the barriers. You are so right about the INFPs heart- probably some of the biggest out there!
@@PsychologyandChillwMichi IMHO, your INFJ boyfriend should intuit that he has the inate ability to crush your feelings with a look or a grunt or just failing to engage in seemingly useless conversations and be fully aware that any NFP will "mutter" their thoughts on the way to a solution. INFJ just "SOLVES" things in a snap & has a tendency to not wait for you to get there. I'd love to tell you about a conversation about INFJ & ENFP dynamics we (Mary McCauley [CAPT] and I had in a closed workshop with Dave Krantz [Consulting Psychologists Press] in 1979. It might shed some light on how to help your boyfriend soften his STYLE and save your feelings.
That's really cool misunderstandings can be verydestructive and finding the openness with your partner and reaching the same page creates Harmony and more understanding on a deeper level and of course will increase satisfaction in your life many infps search for this in another
@@redhorse702 Hellooo!! What do you suggest for us ENFPs and INFPs in regards to this muttering, it's annoying for some more, I don't know how to say it, "structural" types aka my boss
As an INTJ I have very strong opinions about things because I have thought them through. Now I understand my daughter, an INFP, has her strong opinions because she feels intensely. When we agree on something we have awesome long discussions. I guess it's sort of endorsing her extroverted thinking. When we disagree, serious fireworks, building collapsing explosions. I am INTJ stubborn. She is INFP emotionally attacked. Thank you for helping me understand my daughter better.
Dread Peter love the way you paint the picture of a heated debate with your daughter 😂. But I’m sure these heated discussions must have helped both of you view things differently
One thing about many INFP's is that we combine our love of humanity and our optimism into something that many people see as a negative thing: advocating for social change. We don't necessarily see it as complaining because we tend to believe that, if you say something about what you notice is wrong, *eventually* things will change. If an INFP stops talking about how we can improve in any way, it's probably because they've gone into a dark place in their minds and have lost hope that the people they are talking to will listen or care.
I was wondering abt this for a while . And u gave the answer that i needed. Finding that people don't really care really makes u lose hope and stop claiming for changes
What sucks is people bring us down for having hope, but it's better than giving up. We seek to help the world and others around us, even if it's small.
INFP here. I'm really ambivalent in my feelings towards humanity. My hope for the humanity is soooo low and I'm so tired of the darkness that live in all of us and what we are doing toward eo but I can't help to love in some way most of the people that I meet.
As an INFP, probably yes. However, that doesn't mean I'm not aware there is darkness and maliciousness. Even with that knowledge, though, I still am going to hope first and hope to not be proven wrong. It's certainly an odd balance to strike!
As an infp I have had a few magical moments in my life that are hard to describe it's like that's almost beyond belief like reaching a state of Nirvana without drugs anyone else experienced this
At the very least, we INFPS are in general, more connected to the better side of the human condition, than we're to any religious dogma. While there'd no doubt be a lot among us who're religious as well, only a handful of us would've ever turned into obnoxious fanatics.
Falcon Windblade and I know what’s up ...Spot on, I agree. I’m an INFP and would say it’s like I’m magnetically aligned with a very strong moral code that really is unshakable
@@thekiwisqu33z34 All types of people, just as everything else in the universe actually, are liable to damage. unfortunately, INFPs are inherently very fragile beings & we know just how frail we actually are. any of us who turn out strong are tempered & hardened the hard way, & the broken ones among us would no doubt become monsters. it'd actually take a lot for INFPs to turn into self-serving turds, but unfortunately, 'a lot' is still relative & in today's society, pushing INFPs over the edge ain't all that difficult to do.
Sylvia Montejano mine aren’t. In fact I was surprised to realize anyone could feel ok with coming out on top if they didn’t more than deserve it. I hate to be on top. I want everything fair and equal for all.
I think most of the statements about INFP in this video are accurate. I am an INFP myself and I do enjoy analyzing others motivations in doing different things as I have always been surprised about how different they are. Also, I take an interest in philosophy and constructing the conceptual world of my own. I am good at writing as well. I am not very good at extrovert thinking indeed, but I am always be attracted to it and sensitive to others' arguments. I maintain a group of intimate friends. I have always been criticized by being too idealism but my talents received many compliments as well. I think most INFPs have to solve the problem of lacking self-confidence. We have to realize that we have the power of our own and everybody has their advantages and defects. It's ok to be ourselves and the world need us!
I've got a shelf of 900 video games, all organized alphabetically and by console but you have to walk over a mountain of random crap and dirty laundry to get to it. You friggen nailed it LMAO
yup! I run cold so I've got a butt ton of blankets and pillows and stuff and you can bet your ass they are always in they're respective places in order of size, colour and shape on my bed....you just...have to climb over the piles of clothes and half finished projects that are covering the entirety of my floor 24/7
100% bed = mess, dresser = mess, video games = zoned and faced and organized (in lil plastic baggies and some still sealed 😅) floor = mess, life = mess, inside of my car = immaculate..... 🤷🏼♂️ 🤣🤣🤣
Yes, we INFPs are highly philosophical, because we aim and need to bring all the aspects of our reality together, the ideals we have and our understanding of present "hard" reality, the what we wish that is possible and what we know is actually the case. The stereotype that INFPs are just in the clouds without any understanding of "pragmatic" truth....no, we know the world sucks, but we also know that things could and should be better! Without the hopeful ideals and wonderful dreams the the INFP inspires, what else would people do but commit suicide! The world needs us! whether they understand this or not...
We know the world sucks, but we know that things could and should get better - this is my personal motto! Just because something sucks doesnt mean we have to just deal with it!!
As an INFP I feel slightly embarrassed to admit that I came here for some validation because most of the world misunderstands us. qwq Edit: Watched the video. It's very accurate. :) One thing I'd like to add is that because of the way we think, constantly generating ideas as you said, we're very creative. My best friend is also INFP and both of us love drawing and writing.
I literally just had a convo with a friend the other day about a shooting that happened down the street. She commented, "I hope they caught the guy. People are crazy." And my response was, "Yeah .... but maybe he was shooting the ring leader of some sex trafficking mafia, Soo..." Seeing that neither of us knew the whole story, there's no saying who's really to blame in that scenario. The convo kinda ended there. It frustrating, though, cuz it means us INFPs can easily spot bias where others refuse to acknowledge it. And on an unrelated note: you're right. I essentially have to pole vault over the mess in my room to get to the door, but my clothes are color coded. XD
Yes! So much yes. "What if" are the two magic words. I feel it's so much easier for most people to just jump to conclusions and be satisfied with them but INFPs tend to question EvEryThiiNG 😂
It happened to me once I was with my group of friends and one of them told us about how most people in the subway started yelling and beating someone caught stealing (I live in a pretty dangerous country ?)). All of them were like: yeah, well done, I would have done the same if I were there, it's unforgivable, and I just shut down. I don't know if it's INFP's tendency to avoid conflict but I just told them like: we don't really know the context o circumstances? So... do we really have a base to judge them like that?
I'm INFP af and used to feel bad about it because it's more often a female type, but as soon as I not only accepted the way I am, but also embraced my strengths, everything changed. Taking pride in my violin playing and studying martial arts has helped me immensely and built my confidence. Now I'm gigging, I'm writing, have a beautiful and supportive girlfriend (who I also suspect is INFP lol), and many more opportunities have opened up to me. If you're an INFP and you're reading this, remember that no matter what anyone says, you're not useless and you're not weak; we have unique strengths others wish they had and we have to capitalize on them to feel happy. You can do it
As an INFP, I have always loved Charles Dickins’ stories and characters. None of the characters are really evil, but have their own trajectory and a reason for who they are. I feel the same for all people and that I can understand what constitutes their unique persona. I’ve discovered that really dark people are also quite tragic and I sense their despair. Maybe, Dickins was an INFP.
Love it! I use the murder analogy in my presentations on Positive Intent and I find that many do not fully grasp this concept. Many people automatically assess that ending someone's life is only done by "bad" people. There are no "bad" people, only bad circumstances and personality disorders that cloud perspectives. Thank you for posting. I'm an INFP and I'm grateful for your perspective and informative video.
I recently watched 'the woman in the window' and was having a conversation with my brother about whether the mother was evil or not (don't want to spoil anything), but I said I don't think she was evil, she went through trauma and her intent was not to kill or hurt, and he gave me that look of 'I am a psychopath' for thinking this, and this happens to me so may time that I have withdrawn within myself, becoming even more introverted than I was because I know I am not crazy, but then I questioned myself because people never understood me. I am so happy to have finally found my INFP community.
Thanks for making this. I don't feel the love sometimes toward my type, and feel they get centered out kind of disproportionately in sketches. They get depicted as being invisible, or not capable of handling much. Well I haven't exactly had an easy life and I'm still standing and have never given up. We are way stronger than people give us credit for. Yes we feel very deeply, and do cry a lot when alone, but that doesn't mean we can't roll with the punches. I agree with a lot of what you said here about our functions. Yeah that 4th slot Te can be blunt in us at times, and doesn't care much for protocol just for the sake of it if it doesn't make sense to us. I tend to get a bit tripped up by hearing, "What if I'm only feeling this because I'm sympathizing with someone else, how do I know if it's really me or not?" I always know the differance due to leading with Fi, so I feel there is a disconnect at times with me and some people. I also tend to run into walls when people favor black and white thinking over subjective circumstances. One size does not fit all, but when I say, "but that doesn't make sense. Why would I do it?" I can end up with a blank stare, or sometimes people thinking I am a T type, but I don't mean "making sense" from that perspective as much as an ethical one, or one of long term sustainability for a community, the environment, or for myself.
I'm also known for saying, this feels "slimy" or "just off" and a lot of people just don't seem to get it because they are flocking to it. When I really struggle is when I get that off feeling, yet really care about the person or situation. I can get into a terrible push/pull between wanting to save them, yet knowing I can't, and knowing I am idealizing and projecting, and I need to cut it out because its... slimy.
I really admire your attention to your feelings and ability to easily distinguish the differences between the feelings. I've noticed that INFPs are very strong, but they don't start unnecessary fights. They speak their mind about how they feel about things. It's helpful for people like me who tend to overlook my feelings. I wish INFPs were held in a higher light. But perceptions wax and wane, hopefully the perceptions will only morph into a better one.
Thank you for writing this, for i've found yet another INFP-A brother. Btw, i'm kinda able to relate to people thinking we're T instead of F, but that actually is because our WEAKEST & least used function, the Te, is more developed than that of the majority of our own out there, who're INFP-Ts. While that's not necessarily to say that we're better than them, we do tend to be more firm & tend to roll with the shit life throws at us better.
"It's not necessarily that [INFPs] are making these moral judgments, it's that they have gut reactions to different things, and [...] they are trying to understand these feelings constantly. [and by 'feelings', mean 'internal cognitive reactions']"
I love being an INFP, and love animals and nature, but humans have spoiled so much of my life. Being society telling us how to be and judging us for questioning it. The silly concept of religion, governments, laws that take away freedom, invisible borders, damage to earth for usual greed motives, as well as poison in foods. It all goes against who i am and against what is good for humans and this earth in general. Sadly people that feel these ways are far too uncommon in society. I just wish I could have an island and live a simple life away from it all.
She said it well. As an INFP a lot of what she said resonates. I always have to explain myself to others and they still dont understand the way I think. So a lot of how I choose to live do not coincide with the people around me.
As an INFP, I struggle to keep up with my two of my besties, who are both ENFPs. We're so similar yet sooo different. Their energy and extroversion is something my brain simple cannot comprehend. Sometimes being around them is pretty tiring, but actually all I need is some alone time to recharge. Don't get me wrong, I love them a lot, but being with introverts makes things easier to be explained -- we all get exhausted from prolonged social interactions. But I appreciate every one of them regardless. ^^
Anyone else an INFP as well as being an HSP? I'm both.. as well as a pisces. It's like a tripple amplified INFP. It's just too much sometimes. The strong empathic and intuitive feelings, the sunshine and rainbows in your head filled with posibilities. And then you exit your door and have to face the reality with structure, loud noises, complaining, jealousy, cursing, bullying, depression, fakes. It's everywhere! And we're extroverts as well as introverts! So we need to be with people! Fuuudge! I just want everyone to have good, innocent and open thoughts like us! If I was Thanos I would snap my fingers and make everyone into Panda's! In. A. Heartbeat.
Forth xx I've always known I was sensitive but I'm only just realising just how much my emotions fluctuate depending on what I'm exposed to :) But on the upside, I think it also amplifies our ability to see patterns. I often find myself knowing what the social consequence of a decision will be, but don't realise that other people aren't seeing the same patterns that I can see - if I voice concerns, others think I sound really left-field; it's only by waiting it out (at least a few months) that people finally process and arrive at the same thing, by which time they've forgotten that I already said that months ago *gahhh* lol.
@@lightawake omg I love that you are the same way! I've had those thoughts in basically every situation, and I've come to rely on my own instincts now. 😄
INFP’s love to note and store every nuanced subtle emotion people feel much like INTPs love to remember every detail of an entire system Our “system” of human understanding will never stop evolving and getting more complex, yet also more precise in our intuitive calls, over our lifetime 💗💗💗
Yes, and over a lifetime these details and understandings develop into a complex intuitive ability. I have developed a daily complex state of profound synchronicity, and an awareness of the synchronistic mathematical fabric that is the source of our reality. I have to remember that not everyone perceives, feels, intuits as an INFP. Others get freaked out.
carefulcarpenter Beautiful 💗 I understand the intuitive path, at this point and the synchronistic seeming miracles, but you are into mathematics? My dad is a physicist, INTJ, and his understanding of the unlikely statistical probability of everything including our existence of now is, blows me away. INFPs are capable of any academia, from what I realized about myself Are you a mathematician? We get super smart as we get older I think because our Ne never stops exploring... And we can become acutely intuitive in reading people by the means of that I described above, but it has taken me years. I was very oblivious and naive when I was younger 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
@@orchidsrising7910 💗 I give love to you in return--- that love that people have for friends, customers and kindred spirits (philia) . I also have named a complex love: Marerophilia. I will likely never write a book about either *synchronistic mathematics* nor *Marerophilia.* The human mind of the collective is just not there, yet. I've attempted to attract a curiousity towards these topics over the past 20 years with little luck. Too complex for the 99.9% apparently. I was a Math major in college. I moved on after to pursue a creative life as a self-employed designer/craftsman before globalization. In the first three decades I worked an excessive number of hours per year. The past decade I can barely pay the bills. A designer depends on the upper 20% having an imagination and the vision to seek authentic, qualified help to create their dream. With enough time on their hands a creative type can go beyond the confines of conventional perception. The past 20 years have granted me plenty of opportunity to write, discover, research, and write more. I find absolutely no audience for authentic research and advanced insight regarding synchronicity, synchronistic mathematics, or Marerophia. My favorite synchronicity was a few years ago at the local coffeehouse. An artist had a show in progress on the walls of this beloved hangout. I loved a piece and I like to support art, so I bought it. It was a few months after that I recognized the synchronistic nature of the show. About 7 years earlier I had mentioned about *marerophilia* in the shop, and had written extensively on a message board that others from our area had joined. The name of the artist was Julie *Marero.* 💗
I agree that this happens. Its just unfortunate you don't get to use it to help others up until you've reached a certain age, have a certain degree or a deeper level of a connection with the person. Where your own understanding improves over time, other people's understanding of the emotions will not. Only 1.5% (male) and 2.5% (female) of the population naturally are INFP. That means over 96% will stay somewhat behind in this understanding. Can you imagine how lonely it would feel if there's nobody to share your insights with? That even if you try to help, people don't understand you due to this mismatch.
@@msc8382 The problem is: people cannot formulate questions, although are certain they know more than they actually do. This limits cognitive development I feel, because *the ability to question* is an INFP's strength. Example of synchronistic mathematics I shared with my wide last night. 2:27:33.4083351718 (hours/minutes/seconds) on December 1, our anniversary. = Day 334.10247 = 2.47 hours into December 1 We were married 247 days after my birthday. = .91534923291952 I was 26.6767231507 at the beginning of December 1, the year we were married. What is my birthday?
You are right about the guttural reactions and the internal cognitive functions. I think this area of how the body communicates to us should be explored more because I get the majority of my instincts (wisdom, guidance) from internal sensate forms of intelligence and it can seem that I’m psychic to some people at times but it’s really just a sensate physiological intelligence at work, observing, studying, organizing, evaluating and then deciding when my body decides to... 😃💗 Happy day 💫💎💗 And there is so much more to Fi, it’s an entire world 🌍
I agree too. As I have gotten older I have sadly realised my parents never viewed me as an individual and my feelings were always denied in place of putting on appearances. I always told myself I was loved as a child because the reality was too painful to process at that age, but the gut feeling something was wrong never went away. I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis and eventually had emergency surgery to remove my colon. I have learned to trust my feelings by now. Sorry to hijack but I really identified with what you wrote.
Thank you for elaborating that we do possess the cognitive function of thinking. A lot of other videos made it seem like we entirely lack it or abandon it in favor of feeling. Thinking is how I have to translate small things to people who don't understand how I feel/why im upset
This was intriguing. I wonder how infp deal in an abusive relationship, since they’re so thoughtful in murders. Would they analyze why the abuser is abusive? Would they consider themselves as victims or what? They seem to be in their own world and resilient.
That would really depend. They would likely analyze exactly as you said, but what they decide as to whether they are victims or not would really depend on the INFP and the situation.
Yeah, I have been abused/wronged many times in my life, but I have never hated anyone because of it. I tend to see the good side/humanity in someone, despite them not showing it to me. I don't think I could ever truly Hate a person and Never forgive what they did, unless it was something extremely bad and had no possible explanation for doing so.
@m. I've been in codependent (optomistic) relationships and I did the same - basically just trying to understand WHY they behaved that way (which I found easy to understand). Then help them. But I think the negative aspect for that for me was that I've never been good at recognising the point when that person no longer wanted to be helped. I did feel a victim when things went badly, but that's because of my own childhood traumas which I hadn't quite resolved - so I had a victim mentality towards life stressors in general. I recognised this in me as well as my partner, so despite being upset I also would quickly go back to trying to make it better for us by solving the underlying trauma for us both, staying in relationships that ended up being unhealthy. I hear that staying in bad relationships too long tends to be an infp trait, and for me, that's probably one big reason why.
I still care for people who have hurt me immensely, I don't know why but I do. I struggle with why I do because I don't know. I always tried to see why would they do this or that, was it my fault or theirs. It very hard to see the toxicity especially in the beginning. I've grown to see and understand what they did wrong or right but sometimes I fall back, and I go under the "hold" they have on me.
(INFP) It takes another type to objectively describe a type that is not their own. This was a superb example of that. Felt that ALL the information was accurate. Great video!
Interesting! Maybe this is the reason why I was a stage actor for many years. I felt like imaginative empathy was the best part of life, plus I loved the feeling of getting to have more than one identity.
3:00 wow. One of the most eye opening experiences as an Infp was when I worked with an ill convicted murderer admitted at a hospital. After a few days of interaction, I remembered him calling me over to thank me. I didn't expect that response, so I asked him what he was thanking me for. The reply "for treating me like a human being, " was really moving. A simple greeting and light conversation go a long way.
HELL YEAH also I find it interesting too tbh because usually there's always a reason that people end up a certitain way! and that is to say I also agree with the simple greetings and light convos they make day wholesome too!
am I the only one that feels like these slowly become self fulfilling prophecies, like if I'm told by someone super confident that i am in fact one way then id be more inclined to act that way. So i may have not actually been like that in the beginning but because you believed me to be that way and verbalised it to me now i am. I only say this because i assume personality types are fixed with only slight differences or changes, if however we can establish that they aren't fixed and that it is possible for a person to go from intj to enfp then completely disregard my argument
I finally understand myself 😭 the explanation of my weak Te I can really see in my own life! I am fastidious and obsessively organised about the things that I care about and I strive to be more organised but a lot of my life is chaos
sometimes people call me unemphatic, because when i try to give advice , its very blunt. And then i fell sad and think im a bad person and i only thought I could relate very good to people, but then i feel i don't understand anyone and nobody understands me.
Thank you so much for this! :) I'm an INFP who's always struggled to understand my personality. (I could easily 'get' anyone around me, but rarely felt as if I was being understood in return.) To this day, I can't really define myself. I can look at my best friend and say she's goofy, short tempered, tomboy-ish, extremely caring, and adventurous. Others could probably picture someone right away! But I could never find words that sounded accurate for me. I'm shy but I don't appear to be (as in, I can smile easily, make small talk, laugh/joke around, and actively listen to whatever is being said.) I'm not an intellectual by any stretch, and yet people always tell me I sound intelligent; plus I love political, metaphysical, and philosophical discussions! ...and already, I've run out words to use lol. The INFP is such a great short-cut to not only learn more about who I am, but also to see these traits come together and actually sound like a person! I adore being creative, (Writing/drawing are my passions. I love meeting and speaking to other creative types as well!) and that bit about not sharing ideas easily or often...10000%! I will sit on a project or book I've been working on for months or even years before telling my BFF about it. Meanwhile, she'll readily share her new stuff with me! (She may be an ENFP now that I think about it...I should have her take the test!) Thank you, again! Where have you been all my life? 😄💛
This video is amazing and I HIGHLY relate to every single thing you said… I only recently figured out that I’m an INFP after testing as an INFJ for years and years… lol I just wasn’t being honest with myself and sometimes the tests ask questions in a way that frustrates confuses me because I tend to always see both sides of things… but this video really put it into perspective for me-I was initially bummed out about the change in type, but learning more about INFPs has been enlightening and I feel like I can now better figure myself out… thank you!!
The beginning also, I loved it, haha! Alright, one more thing as an INFP I would like to share if someone relates, I am usually INERT about things; life and everything around me. Even if it is the best feeling ever. For example: even if something is my habit and gives me joy I can still quit it. Always connected yet not attached. When extroverted thinking works, it really does work, for example, I can be blunt about things and values that I choose and respect. I can listen to you all day but don't tell tell me about my life because I know what I have to do with my life and I am what I am. Although sometimes it can be too much, haha.
Yup... I have a messy desk because I tend not to move objects unnecessarily unless they are in the way (same with other objects in my room) but I keep everything important close and sort of organized so I can quickly start working on something. It seems to me that I don't mind the messiness all that much; probably because of Se trickster.
Same here. And, really, I don't think I lose or find things at a much different rate than 'organized' people - and I'm more likely to have held on to something that proves to be needed later on. Might take me awhile to find it, though .....
Nicely explained, I’m a 50 y.o. womyn & this is by far the best I’ve everrr heard anyone explain “us” & I just love it 👏🏼 I’m sending this to my adult kids (about your age?) & very intrigued with what they’ll think & say. I think they’ll be like 💯 I would like to add for the INFP‘s out there that are maybe 30 & younger… in this a typical country & the world (& many homes) you may feel like you don’t have a place yet, but you do - you really really do, so delve in & learn more about yourself as much as possible & bring that amazing light forward… don’t let anybody change your autonomy or authenticity & if that means looking stubborn about it then so be it! Be you ♥️
Love the music change and pop up on the screen “casual discussion of murder” Definitely had to rewind to make sure I heard it right 😂 Also very true for me the way you described it. I find your video very validating and am subbing. Looking forward to more content from you.
I love being an INFP and finding out about it helped me so much in understanding and sort of... explaining myself. I think you did an amazing job explaining it! The understanding before judging is such an important quality for me that got me many raised eyebrows haha Same with the never being sure... even if I logically think "yes, I know it has to be true. I should be sure of myself." Still, I always think "well, but what if..." Anyways, all of that was so well explained! Thank you 😊 Also, your voice reminds me so much of Cobie Smulders' -- love it! 😊 Edit: wow you got to the example with the messy room and the organized bookshelf and well it is exactly that for me xD
Omg thats the nicest compliment, i love her! INFPs are awesome because they never have solid judgements. They understand the subtleties and grayness of things
I used to have my books neatly arranged from tallest to shortest - which is about the stupidest way imaginable to organize books, but ... you can't say they weren't organized! And, yes, they were the only thing organized in my entire life.
Hi, Michi. Yes, you are awesome. Your F trait is a blessing to humanity. Yes, we need more consideration to others. Thank you for your teachings. I wish you all the best.
You nailed it for this INFP. All of the universe is a vast interconnected system made up of countless subsystems. If I don’t understand the context of an idea or action, it’s meaning is greatly diminished. Thank you for doing these videos!
Not sure if i´m infp or intp but what you said about not immedietly judging people for bad actions really reasonated with me. I mean a bully beating up other kids for fun and a kid beating up the bully are two completely different things in my wiew.
Its really hard to tell between infp and intp a lot of times! And usually that happens when more developed and balanced. ua-cam.com/video/nNd7o5C8I_k/v-deo.html this video may help!
When you started talking about bookshelf being perfectly organized (around 10:00 ish) I turned head back and there it was.. dusty.. not touched for a long time.. but yet, organized (.__.) The scary thing is. I just came to the room where it was right before you started talking about that part .___.
I really appreciate this video! I love how you break down each function and go more into depth then the average stereotype. Sometimes I can get in a low place and feel like my type is perceived as a bad type or annoying self absorbed type. This brought a new good light to myself. Thank you. You seem very sweet.
Wow I'm an INFP and you nailed it. Thanks for explaining so clearly. Even your example of a messy room with an organised book shelf is me right now haha!!
Hey, Michelle--I'm an INFP and gained insight from your video. One minor point re your using the word 'guttural'--I think you meant to say 'gut level.'
I am an INFP myself, and I love how you make it a point to say how we are not fully trusting but we are able to take in the information and determine of something is bad or not. I also love how you talk about everything about INFPs in general! You did a very good job at interpreting the type, everything was very relatable!😊 I am also an unofficial counselor to my friends at school!
Omggggg the thing you said about being contextual is so true. I'm always making a fair theory and I apply that to every thing. I hate cognitive dissonance. This makes me judge things less and and less.
I think you know this infps pretty well. It's a curiosity that probably led us here in the first place. It dose really warm my heart to see others take such an interest in us. Thank you. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤
now that I know what I lack and what I have, I definitely love being an INFP! loved the video, actually it’s one of the mbti videos that isn’t boring that I found on youtube. love your type too!
I'd say that, for me at least, when making a judgement it comes down to "understandable decision vs bad decision" rather than "good vs bad". A minor difference, but hey.
Thats all so true, thats really crazy to hear a description of myself out of your mouth without even knowing me... 🤪🤯 I just know about all this personality type stuff since today, made a few tests and Im definately an INFP... 😅 I know that Im somehow wired since many years, that other people have a different way of thinking, and all this stuff what you just beautifully explained here in the video... starting with always want to understand why people do things, not to judge before knowing whats really going on, to be true to myself, yes even the Messie flat and the bookshelf fits... 🤪 (no its not so bad, but Chaos is my friend 😁) Thats all really mindblowing, seems like there are also some other misswired prototypes like me there around in the world... Thanks for the video, made my day... ☺️
I just watched your video about INTPs and there you said something about watching many episodes of a documentary... I dont know if I understood you right, but was the docu about the INTP/INFP topic? If yes, would be nice if you could tell me the title of it, cause I was just searching the web, but didnt find something... Thanks in advance 😉
I think the documentary I was talking about was called the "History of Maths" -- it's not really about MBTI. But I have thought about going in depth about the differences between INFP and INTP -- my friend Harry at Cognitive Personality did a video on that: ua-cam.com/video/nNd7o5C8I_k/v-deo.html
@@PsychologyandChillwMichi Thanks, have to check it out 😉 Yes that would be also interesting. Im really fascinated by this topic since I got to know about this types today in the morning. Its cause it really fits so precise, and not like with some horoscope, where you read something and think "Sounds good, could fit for me..." Noo, this really describes really ME, in all my deepness... 😋 I figured out, Im not 100% INFP, I also have this logical part from INTP and also a bit ENFP, cause I also can be a wild when I have mood to... 😛 But basically (I would say 91.2%) Im a true INFP... 😌 Which type are you if I may ask? ☺️
Ahh and if you want to go in deep in this topic, and need some authentic info about it, then feel free to ask... You know, its the authentic shit what you get from an INFP and you know too, that we like to help... 😌😋😉
yeah, i'm an ENFP and I feel you, I often feel like an INFP or an ENTP as well -- it's part of getting to know yourself. You realize you aren't always introverted, aren't always a feeler, etc. and yes, MBTI really gets to the heart of things where it feels like astrology just is forcing some archetypes upon us that we will be reminded of forever.
Our system of decision making was very well stated. It was very difficult as a young child to "feel" all these things without the language for it. I wish I could have known how valid all these precise, nuanced "feelings" were when I was 7yo! Hard to have a framework for organizing it all at that age though!
The murder example is so XNFP thing that I definitely say on my mind, this is why I love Enfp. They just voice out what is in my mind. It feels like the Ne is having its own good time and its just flowing awesomely.
Oh goodness, you are spot on about contextualising. People think I'm totally weird because I link things together that they can't see the connection between. They don't see the process behind it and I couldn't explain it if I tried. I see the connection between everything in the universe. I question whether my connections are correct and I spend so much time thinking and rethinking about them. I spend so much time 'doing nothing' because I'm so busy in my head trying to make sense of everything
I've always felt one of my strong points as opposed to other people is- I can empathize more with different people/situations that I would normally disagree with, after understanding the wider big picture or context of the situation.
So I'm a hot mess? Is that the assessment you're making? I can live with that, I'm hot in one way at least. And yes my movie shelf is so easy to find a movie to watch......it's just......well getting to it, is an adventure all it's own. Glass half full.
I like to share - if the sharing is not appreciated, I suppose it looks like 'showing off'. For instance, if you want to share a laugh, and tell a joke, that might be called 'showing off' or 'attention seeking' by someone who thought the joke wasn't funny ....
This was super insightful and very accurate to me! I am INFP and I related to the messy bedroom tidy bookshevles! Even though I am more orderly than average, I keep things tidy for the most part, it's the out of sight stuff I keep messy 🤣.
You get a like just for the opening! I'm an INFP. Spot on outside of one thing that I heard, I ensure that things are done correctly...that's my job. I'd like to think that I do it well...but it's a super uncomfortable process. So I wouldn't disagree with your analysis because that skill was painfully developed and does not play off of my more desired personality traits.
“They are constantly trying to understand how they feel about things, and they are constantly questioning their understanding” “they don’t want to share these ideas unless they are sure they are good ideas” you can’t be calling me out like this
as a infp I love seeing these videos! I think it’s because I like feeling understood and they really help me understand my own feelings haha- I can get overwhelmed and confused really quickly but these are awesome
Would be interesting if people could comment saying what jobs they have as an INFP? I think our personality type means we normally look for jobs that are meaningful and where we feel like we can make a difference. I am studying marine biology at the moment and would love to be a research scientist finding ways to help our oceans. What do you guys do? X
I'm a 2D graphic artist right now (for video games), aiming to be a writer! 😊 In the past, I wanted to be a talk therapist, but soon realized the mental/emotional stress would probably be too much for me to handle. Then I'd wanted to get into Human Resources...until I learned that they work for the company and not the employees. (I thought I'd be trained to sort out discrepancies/ unfair treatment, that sort of thing!) So you're definitely onto something about wanting to make a difference! Marine biology sounds so amazing, I love oceans and sea life! I hope you do well! 🌊🐟💙
@@Lynn-ee9hq That's really interesting. I myself was very fascinated with the thought of being a personal therapist/counselor at one point in time, but I also concluded that my own emotional health would likely decline as a result. Currently I work at a restaurant, to challenge my social abilities, and put me in a position where I can serve people (customers and coworkers alike). Although, career-wise, I want to get involved with a graphic design team in the future.
4th-year medical student here, interested in pursuing psychiatry. Very much working on creative endeavors too, though, and would like that side-passion to become how I pay the bills :)
Hi, MD here :) I'll start my med residency (March 1st, 2020)... Radiation oncology!
I went to college for pharmacy tech after a life long desire to help people.. I worked for only 5 years in the field and the lack of care in healthcare broke me. 3 years at a methadone clinic was tiresome... 2 years at shoppers drug mart and thats the job that broke me. 191 patients i took care of making blisters packages. I would call them to check up when meds changed and when loved ones passed... Doing this i was reprimanded for making the others look bad.... Thats lame. The field is missing quality and compassion... I had a mental breakdown trying to change people that refuse to change. I am now on disability and i have started on a spiritual journey trying to find a place i belong.
As an INFP, most of the time in my life i dont even know what im doing and i feel like im floating in space with infinite possibilities. I can philosophize about stuff like this all day.
Ah yes, the paralysis that comes with seeing all the different, exciting paths before you, unable to choose and stick to one. I feel you ❤️
Oh my gosh yesssss!
Omg same!!!!
Me too!!! It’s wonderful being an INFP but definitely debilitating at times
Well said. And debilitating in one respect because others can find it difficult to understand us--which baffles me.
As an INFP I have to remind myself that the way I feel is not how every one else feels/perceives/processes. I tend to be surprised each time discover this!
Lesley Grant this is true, 100% growing up as a kid
Well put and true for me too
Ikr saaaame
yeah, just figured it out myself.. Should've seen your comment 10 years ago, am i rite??? heh, sorry
As an INFP. I'm always surprised there are others
I love the idea of connecting with lots of people, but find the reality exhausting and overwhelming
I love the idea of being perfectly organised, but find the reality tedious and restricting
I love the idea of ideas, but find the reality to much.
This has been the struggle of my life!
Me 🤦🏽♀️
Holy fuck lol that's me too
Very well written!
We are same.
Me too!!!
For me as an INFP I don't like to, "show off," but rather, enjoy sharing things I've discovered and am excited about. For me new ideas, or discoveries are better when I can share with someone I can have a deep discussion with.
That's how I feel - for instance, if I notice a connection between something I'm told and some random bit of knowledge kicking around in my noggin, I might find that exciting and want to share that excitement - I suppose someone else might see it as 'showing off', particularly if they have no interest in anything other than, oh, how to make a buck.
Oooh reading your comment and the ones below this comment help me so much! I am always afraid to show off, but my intentions is just to share the things I like/did/discovered, because I am also interested in other people sharing their stuff with me. But they do that less in general and than when I share something it is interpreted as show-off.. But now I know its just my personality type hahaha. i cant help it. Gives a feeling of acceptance I guess..
Yaaassss!!! I do not show off and dislike those who do! Eeek it crawls under my skin!
As an INFP-A, i pretty much stop thinking about if i'm showing off when i share stuff. I say what i wanna say & do what i wanna do when the situation feels right for it. If the other party or someone else thinks i'm showing off, too bad for them. The only thing i keep in mind when doing so is to not go overboard with it.
I think that's a common misconception about us. I've dealt with it a lot. I love sharing what I know or help people by telling them what I've read about their problem. But I have been conceived as a "know it all" so many times which makes me sad and think twice before speaking.
when she talked about the messy room and organised bookshelf, i looked at my whole room then compare it to my bookshelf. i feel attacked
zeemaziz my room is relatively clean. Everything is where it needs to be 😂
I did the same thing haha
Messy bedroom but awesomely organized closet and very neat drawers!
I HAVE THE SAME THING. ROOM IS....NO COMMENT AND THE BOOKSHELF WOW
Sorry for the capslock but i had to express!
omggg my room is such a mess but my shelves are so organized😭😭😭
I think I speak for all INFPs when I say that we love ENFPs
The feeling is MUTUAL
One of my best friends is an ENFP, we connected since day 1. She has the outspoken nature I just don’t possess as an INFP, she makes me laugh so much!❤️
Yea it’s so true! I just discovered it after watching some video about reactions of different personalities and I immediately liked ENFPs reactions
I speak as a non-INFP when I say ENFPs are pretty effing chill.
hell yes!! they are so amazing!
We also like pictures of the sky which is pretty groovy
agreed, i'm enxp but an open area of vivid blue is so wonderfully trippy. someplace up in the sky always felt like where my real home would be rather than in smog-concentrated new york city. it reminds me of the word hiraeth- homesickness for a place that may not even have existed
LOL is that a thing? I mean I do but I hadn’t thought of that
@@MrMoarpienao yeah its apparently a very INFP thing. If you go to the subreddit r/infp its all just pictures of the sky
As I relax in my hammock taking pictures of the moon. My nightly ritual that brings me so much happiness and peace before bed. Always late AF every single night when my family sleeps because it’s my time to reflect. I need “me time” and my family never questions my routine. Yet they sense when I’m off because I didn’t have the chance to “disconnect to reconnect”
So true
As an INFP, I've found that it's really difficult to talk to people about what is going on in my head, just because it's lessened by words. Steven King summarizes this really well in the following quote: "The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them - words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out. But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you’ve said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear."
Great quote (I have all his books, organized on the same shelf, by height, near my pile of laundry). I find myself expressing a lot of emotional stuff in a monotone voice, because I know the listener will never really get how debilitating something actually is to me. Little things even. I recently got into an emotional tizzy over coffee grounds on the kitchen counter. There wasn't enough words to express the intensity inside. How could I say "This mess seems like a passive-aggressive attack, which I know may escalate into a fight, also this is showing a total lack of respect for me and my space and hurts my feelings, and I'm afraid to confront the situation because that reminds me of an abusive father figure and raises a lot of fearful feelings inside." How could I possibly say "This spilled coffee causes me intense fear, anxiety, hurts my feelings, and makes me feel disrespected," and ever expect that listener to really understand the turmoil inside? What I said instead of all that? "You have to go."
Wow that quote!!!!!!!
THIS IS TRUE. Grand thoughts and discoveries but they often feel mundane when shared to other people.
Wow, omg I've felt that with my soul.
That quote is so right. I’ve even tried to put my thoughts down in writing but it still doesn’t feel as magical when they were in my head. IMO, music and art are more magical manifestations than words.
Because of our introverted feeling and our extraverted intuition, we constantly feel like we almost don't belong anywhere as we're almost always trying to make sense of our environment and sort through how we actually feel vs how others are feeling
Extraverted intuition, you mean.
Omgggg i just had a break down crying go my friend about this.. Not understanding why i dont fit in in certain situations with certain ppl including family at times.. N it be so sad when i feel like that because then i get to wondering if im a good person or not only to understand that im a wonderful person kind giving n loving when i want to its just the people i choose to interact is not meant for me
But at the same time, we can talk to anyone (and I do mean anyone...from the beggar, to the theif, to the wealthy, any background, culture, religion, ANYONE) and make them feel comfortable talking to us. I feel like we don't fit in, but we take it all in.
Introverted feeling and extroverted sensing? That's ISFP. You guys have extroverted intuition.
We have introverted sensing
"When I say feeling I dont mean emotions."
Thank you. True
I've said this phrase more times than I can remember.
As a INTP this makes me really confused, could you try and explain what feelings are?.
I have a theory, could it be that you have so many sensory inputs for feeling sensory that it is your main source of flow rather then anything els, hence it becomes reality rather then something that you can be emotional about. For example your 4th sensory is thinking whitch is extroverted is direct and blunt like feelings appear to be for me, is it because we have less sensory input for them but with much increased sensitivity to compensate?...
My theory comes from receptor uptake from eating certain foods contaning different compounds like dopamine, seretonin, glutamine etc these factors also plays a big role how you operate in accordance with your bodily functions, stress levels, feeling relaxed, jittery, calm, etc.. i see a correlation.. sry this got messy fast, I find ISFP very interesting as you are pretty much the opposite to what i'am. Love it 😊
@@franklogrim8510 Gut feelings in short. We develop pretty much a gut feeling to just about everything around us & in us, & sometimes we could get very intense about it. Come to think of it, the feeling is actually more like thoughts that we have no words for, at least at the moment, instead of plain emotions. Everything might be disconnected pieces but somehow, we just kinda be able to tell that the connections are there. What we kinda find frustrating is that these thoughts are often subjective until thoroughly processed, & hell, they might not even appear logical!
Falcon Windblade omg, that was spot on - you described in words how I’ve felt my whole life and have had difficulty identifying the “feeling” or just a plain “knowing” how all the pieces connect and fit together and then on top of that have a very difficult time finding the words to articulate it. So a lot of times I end up sounding like an idiot to people
- which I definitely am not, yet, I can understand why they would think that - because if I can’t describe or identify in words how I’m feeling or thinking to them, then they just don’t take me seriously. since their minds aren’t thinking like mine, they definitely don’t understand what’s going on in my head and kinda dismiss me which can be extremely frustrating especially when I KNOW I have a grasp on the situation - usually more so than them
Ok... but that example about the "messy bedroom, and tidy bookshelf". Why you gotta expose me like that? Lol 😏
Me too lol
.... messy bedroom by design
its a form of art... 😂
@@andresumampong2173 haha the swag thou😏😏that is my answer when my friends see my room
And here I am with messy room and untidy bookself
Am I the only INFP that likes complex things but like let’s say you’ve never danced before but you wanna start and you just go to the hard dances straight away instead of the easy dances becasue I like them better and feel like it’s easier to do harder things
Omg! Same! I thought i was the only person that's being "weird"
You exposed me!! I tried playing the piano yesterday and I tried the hard parts immediately because I was so captivated. But later I realised I should've started with the easier parts lol.
I always believe I can do anything if I really try...like all things are possible.
Like we have to learn how to fully run before we even start crawling hahaha
When I'm excited about something I like to dive in the deep end & in the fun and interesting parts. I don't mind if I'm bad at it because I'm having fun and I have confidence that I can learn. I immerse and see the possibilities. Some people need patience until they learn and start having fun. I don't have patience for not having fun and that is how I learn.
I have an insecure perfectionist side in me too for sure but I'm bold with my hobbies usually.
one good thing is we understand other people with barely knowing them, and can get along with anyone we want to if we are not stuck in our shyness. One bad thing is we often feel misunderstood ourselves, or even invisible at times!
I love being an INFP and our attention to detail is our superpower we have. We're good at taking someone through a complex process that we've been through because we like complex things so often move towards them and learn from them and have a deep desire to teach others about them after we've been through them.
That's such a great point, you guys are great at learning from the experiences and passing that on to the rest of us.
This comment made me wonder if I'm really an INFP lol....
@@hoogalaga I've heard that we can change as we go through life. We are fluid beings after all :)
It's great when it is not overwhelming :) It is certainly an adventure!
Coach Andy me with the mbti and enneagram world
I’m an infp and started watching for your humour but stayed for your understanding & acceptance of my inability to judge murderers lol
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I’m infp. I had a dream the other day where I saw life through the eyes of a number of people who would be considered terrible by society. I lived there experiences that led to who they became. I don’t think I can ever hate anyone regardless what they have done. It was strange
Thomas Kim god Ikr! My friends keep cussing a friend of them but I still can’t bring myself on their side
Here's the thing. I don't hate the person, but what the person did.
I can't see myself hating anyone, even if I try to it doesn't feel right.
@@kibbywibby752 same
I’m an infp and I agree with what the general premise of your statement. Unfortunately there is one person I truly hate. Only one. Funny thing is when I let the few people I felt comfortable enough to tell them what he did, which were literally only 3 people ever. I would brag in a way like if this had happened to anyone else they would have serious problems. Little did I know, that, that person, my first stepdad, had in fact effected me greatly. The abuse was from ages 5 through 8. Spent those years moving from apartment to apartment with my mother and older sister. He physically and mentally destroyed all of us many many times. Anyways, my mom ended up marrying someone new, and I moved to upstate New York. Lived pretty normally. Little did I know, all the pain and struggles, anxiety, depression, near death experiences I went through later on in life were because of that one man. Didn’t realize that I had never moved on mentally, I had never moved on in a sense, from an 8 year old boy. I’m now 33. I have much discuss about what it’s like to be an infp and the very complicated struggle of have fi at the top of your stack. I’ve found that a common struggle is that literally every decision you make, both major and minor, are so hard to make because you feel every decision you make is a direct reflection on who you are at the core of your being lol.
Spot on about the mess and organisation. My room more often looks like a tornado has swept through it, but my bookshelf is organised by fiction, non-fiction, genre AND colour, my pillows in my bed are always in the same order and my entire wardrobe is sorted by season and colour.
My room is messy and my clothes are everywhere. But catch my art supplies arranged by function and and purpose lol
My whole house is messy. Except the kitchen, because a good life starts with health and good food.
She definitely was spot on about this! Certain aspects of my life are a mess and others are meticulously organized, alphabetized, color coded, evenly spaced, lined up, facing specific directions for particular reasons, etc. To others something I do may appear to be random but that is almost never the case. There is most certainly a method to my madness...like if I leave something around the house in an odd place it’s not because I’m lazy or forgot about it, it’s because I left it there on purpose for a specific reason that I will tend to/come back to/utilize at a future time in a purposeful, well thought out way.
And by color.. yes
Great video, you really understand INFPs.
I personally don't like to be an INFP, because it is so hard to fit in this world, escpially being a male. Maybe if I lived alone in the hinterland 80% of my time I would be happy, but currently I just feel like almost everyone is crushing my dreams and thinking I am stupid because my weaknesess (lack of focus on mundane tasks, lack of orientation and lack of hard cold logic), not many people is aware of my strengths. Being an INFP is hard.
Im sorry that you struggle like that. I know it’s hard. I hope that you find a place where you can really thrive and your strengths can blossom and be appreciated!
Hi I can fully relate to what you wrote down here. This what you wrote, it is present every day at my work. I'm a software engineer. Even trying to explain it to others are efforts in vain. What's more, because they don't understand, they can't formulate strategies to help you with it. Ultimately, we're expected to resolve these issues ourselves, even though they're consequences of natural personality, which is one of the hardest if not outright impossible to change. I'm a person who tried changing himself to fit the stereotype of unhealthy expectations. I recommend you TRY the same. I have not fully succeeded because the expectations are unsustainable, but some things got better. People at work even regarding their intelligence levels still can't really wrap their heads around it. As such, I'm a threat to them because I seem unpredictable. Enter, Political games. I keep having to disarm myself, which is how I got better. Instead of actually helping to resolve misunderstandings, I'm now only defusing the situation. I wish I could help like a normal human being, but they make it impossible to communicate. That's of course also a decrepit on my side. But that side is only natural!
In personal life, I find being patient works best. Other people do want to listen, but they simply don't understand immediately. I realised its impossible to translate a natural point of view (due to personality) to another who has not yet acquired wisdom in that way of reasoning. You HAVE to tell them the fundamentals of your point of view first. You can't do that immediately, because they'll shut down due to information overload. We INFPs like to dream after all. That's just a romantic way of saying that we like to oversee the possibilities that come as a result of correlating our experiences. Fi + Ne.
What I'm trying to get at is, I'm not sure why you wrote this, and I'm to tell you that you can resolve ALL these problems by gathering people who are patient enough to keep listening to you. That's also part on you! At some point they'll get it, and you can pick up speed when it comes to conversation. Its a two way street. You adapt yourself too. In my opinion, that is the healthiest way to approach it. I'm open to alternatives though.
I have often thought about this. Being an INFP is challenging already -- other types have a hard time understanding us, our motivations and reactions. But when you add gender into the mix, it takes it to a whole new level. I feel like a lot of INFP traits and behaviors are often viewed as feminine. Especially the traits I align with -- imaginative, sensitive, day-dreamy, etc. Being female myself, I fit into this "mold" and so I'm not rebuked (too many times at least). If I was a guy, I can only imagine the flack I'd get from everyone. I think it would crush my spirit.
I feel for you and other male INFPs out there. Stay strong!
@@trumpetqueen963 thank you for understanding :)
@@msc8382 I fully understand what you are saying! I wrote that because I am feeling misunderstood everywhere in my life and feel my pontential is draining to the sewage.
I've been married to an INFP (me*INFJ) FOR 50 years. She has developed into the most tender hearted creature on earth. It took us 25 years to understand how to be useful and good to each other. My 55 year COUNSELING career was built on using TYPE as the platform for every one of my 10,000+ clients and the once of them helped me understand the excellence of my wife's TYPE. We've been able to reach FULLNESS in our relationship and become soulmates! What I did not see in your video was any of the GIGANTIC HEART and DEPTH OF FEELING, and at times GREATER EMPATHY than my INFJ usually has. But that's the advantage of being part of an exclusive 50 year relationship!
How wonderful! My boyfriend (of 5 years) is an INFJ and im ENFP- we still are struggling to understand each other but type has helped us a lot to overcome the barriers. You are so right about the INFPs heart- probably some of the biggest out there!
@@PsychologyandChillwMichi IMHO, your INFJ boyfriend should intuit that he has the inate ability to crush your feelings with a look or a grunt or just failing to engage in seemingly useless conversations and be fully aware that any NFP will "mutter" their thoughts on the way to a solution. INFJ just "SOLVES" things in a snap & has a tendency to not wait for you to get there. I'd love to tell you about a conversation about INFJ & ENFP dynamics we (Mary McCauley [CAPT] and I had in a closed workshop with Dave Krantz [Consulting Psychologists Press] in 1979. It might shed some light on how to help your boyfriend soften his STYLE and save your feelings.
Wow! INFP heart melting, how lovely of you to see your wife that way!
That's really cool misunderstandings can be verydestructive and finding the openness with your partner and reaching the same page creates Harmony and more understanding on a deeper level and of course will increase satisfaction in your life many infps search for this in another
@@redhorse702 Hellooo!! What do you suggest for us ENFPs and INFPs in regards to this muttering, it's annoying for some more, I don't know how to say it, "structural" types aka my boss
As an INTJ I have very strong opinions about things because I have thought them through. Now I understand my daughter, an INFP, has her strong opinions because she feels intensely. When we agree on something we have awesome long discussions. I guess it's sort of endorsing her extroverted thinking. When we disagree, serious fireworks, building collapsing explosions. I am INTJ stubborn. She is INFP emotionally attacked.
Thank you for helping me understand my daughter better.
Dread Peter As a INFP, I feel like you’re a great father to be with :’)
I kinda like your picture though 😅🤣
Dread Peter love the way you paint the picture of a heated debate with your daughter 😂. But I’m sure these heated discussions must have helped both of you view things differently
Dread Peter Infps are strong on their personal beliefs, which is probably why you guys have trouble getting along.
Yessss omgggg when we find people who agree the conversation can never end but when we dont agree.. All hell breaks loose 😭😭🤦
One thing about many INFP's is that we combine our love of humanity and our optimism into something that many people see as a negative thing: advocating for social change. We don't necessarily see it as complaining because we tend to believe that, if you say something about what you notice is wrong, *eventually* things will change. If an INFP stops talking about how we can improve in any way, it's probably because they've gone into a dark place in their minds and have lost hope that the people they are talking to will listen or care.
I was wondering abt this for a while . And u gave the answer that i needed. Finding that people don't really care really makes u lose hope and stop claiming for changes
Literally !!
I don't like people whatsoever and have absolutely zero hope for humanity.
I do that by example rather than just talking, it's much more effective
do yall usually find that INFP's have more hope in humanity than most people?
I do, yes. And have way too much of it myself as an ENFP
What sucks is people bring us down for having hope, but it's better than giving up. We seek to help the world and others around us, even if it's small.
Thats mixed for me. Sometimes I dont have hope and sometimes I do.
INFP here. I'm really ambivalent in my feelings towards humanity. My hope for the humanity is soooo low and I'm so tired of the darkness that live in all of us and what we are doing toward eo but I can't help to love in some way most of the people that I meet.
As an INFP, probably yes. However, that doesn't mean I'm not aware there is darkness and maliciousness. Even with that knowledge, though, I still am going to hope first and hope to not be proven wrong. It's certainly an odd balance to strike!
As an infp I have had a few magical moments in my life that are hard to describe it's like that's almost beyond belief like reaching a state of Nirvana without drugs anyone else experienced this
YES
yeaaah, especially at midnight.
@@meriameoujamaa3497 why midnight?
Yes :)
@@kent3979 Cause that's when ppl are alone, they have nothing to do and no one bothers them?
I like their moral code, they have one that seem stronger then many religious people.
At the very least, we INFPS are in general, more connected to the better side of the human condition, than we're to any religious dogma. While there'd no doubt be a lot among us who're religious as well, only a handful of us would've ever turned into obnoxious fanatics.
Falcon Windblade and I know what’s up ...Spot on, I agree. I’m an INFP and would say it’s like I’m magnetically aligned with a very strong moral code that really is unshakable
@@aja8505 same here. . I have strict moral code too
@@thekiwisqu33z34 All types of people, just as everything else in the universe actually, are liable to damage. unfortunately, INFPs are inherently very fragile beings & we know just how frail we actually are. any of us who turn out strong are tempered & hardened the hard way, & the broken ones among us would no doubt become monsters. it'd actually take a lot for INFPs to turn into self-serving turds, but unfortunately, 'a lot' is still relative & in today's society, pushing INFPs over the edge ain't all that difficult to do.
Sylvia Montejano mine aren’t. In fact I was surprised to realize anyone could feel ok with coming out on top if they didn’t more than deserve it. I hate to be on top. I want everything fair and equal for all.
I think most of the statements about INFP in this video are accurate. I am an INFP myself and I do enjoy analyzing others motivations in doing different things as I have always been surprised about how different they are. Also, I take an interest in philosophy and constructing the conceptual world of my own. I am good at writing as well. I am not very good at extrovert thinking indeed, but I am always be attracted to it and sensitive to others' arguments. I maintain a group of intimate friends. I have always been criticized by being too idealism but my talents received many compliments as well. I think most INFPs have to solve the problem of lacking self-confidence. We have to realize that we have the power of our own and everybody has their advantages and defects. It's ok to be ourselves and the world need us!
I've got a shelf of 900 video games, all organized alphabetically and by console but you have to walk over a mountain of random crap and dirty laundry to get to it.
You friggen nailed it LMAO
😂😂😂 sounds about right!
yup! I run cold so I've got a butt ton of blankets and pillows and stuff and you can bet your ass they are always in they're respective places in order of size, colour and shape on my bed....you just...have to climb over the piles of clothes and half finished projects that are covering the entirety of my floor 24/7
100%
bed = mess, dresser = mess, video games = zoned and faced and organized (in lil plastic baggies and some still sealed 😅) floor = mess, life = mess, inside of my car = immaculate..... 🤷🏼♂️ 🤣🤣🤣
Yes, we INFPs are highly philosophical, because we aim and need to bring all the aspects of our reality together, the ideals we have and our understanding of present "hard" reality, the what we wish that is possible and what we know is actually the case. The stereotype that INFPs are just in the clouds without any understanding of "pragmatic" truth....no, we know the world sucks, but we also know that things could and should be better! Without the hopeful ideals and wonderful dreams the the INFP inspires, what else would people do but commit suicide! The world needs us! whether they understand this or not...
We know the world sucks, but we know that things could and should get better - this is my personal motto! Just because something sucks doesnt mean we have to just deal with it!!
Bound Mystic Love your comment, and as a fellow INFP I entirely agree!
As an INFP I feel slightly embarrassed to admit that I came here for some validation because most of the world misunderstands us. qwq
Edit: Watched the video. It's very accurate. :)
One thing I'd like to add is that because of the way we think, constantly generating ideas as you said, we're very creative. My best friend is also INFP and both of us love drawing and writing.
Dont be embarrassed, the point of this video was to give you validation!!
@@PsychologyandChillwMichi Thank you
it's okay same sometimes I come here after I had arguments or smthn and I just don't feel understood lol SO I GOTCHUUU
I literally just had a convo with a friend the other day about a shooting that happened down the street. She commented, "I hope they caught the guy. People are crazy." And my response was, "Yeah .... but maybe he was shooting the ring leader of some sex trafficking mafia, Soo..." Seeing that neither of us knew the whole story, there's no saying who's really to blame in that scenario. The convo kinda ended there. It frustrating, though, cuz it means us INFPs can easily spot bias where others refuse to acknowledge it.
And on an unrelated note: you're right. I essentially have to pole vault over the mess in my room to get to the door, but my clothes are color coded. XD
I relate a lot to your response. My sister and i have conversations just like that where she gets outraged quickly and im like, well, what if-
Yes! So much yes. "What if" are the two magic words. I feel it's so much easier for most people to just jump to conclusions and be satisfied with them but INFPs tend to question EvEryThiiNG 😂
It happened to me once I was with my group of friends and one of them told us about how most people in the subway started yelling and beating someone caught stealing (I live in a pretty dangerous country ?)). All of them were like: yeah, well done, I would have done the same if I were there, it's unforgivable, and I just shut down. I don't know if it's INFP's tendency to avoid conflict but I just told them like: we don't really know the context o circumstances? So... do we really have a base to judge them like that?
I'm INFP af and used to feel bad about it because it's more often a female type, but as soon as I not only accepted the way I am, but also embraced my strengths, everything changed. Taking pride in my violin playing and studying martial arts has helped me immensely and built my confidence. Now I'm gigging, I'm writing, have a beautiful and supportive girlfriend (who I also suspect is INFP lol), and many more opportunities have opened up to me. If you're an INFP and you're reading this, remember that no matter what anyone says, you're not useless and you're not weak; we have unique strengths others wish they had and we have to capitalize on them to feel happy. You can do it
Absolutely!! some of the best characters in fiction are male INFPs!!
As an INFP, I have always loved Charles Dickins’ stories and characters. None of the characters are really evil, but have their own trajectory and a reason for who they are. I feel the same for all people and that I can understand what constitutes their unique persona. I’ve discovered that really dark people are also quite tragic and I sense their despair. Maybe, Dickins was an INFP.
Love it! I use the murder analogy in my presentations on Positive Intent and I find that many do not fully grasp this concept. Many people automatically assess that ending someone's life is only done by "bad" people. There are no "bad" people, only bad circumstances and personality disorders that cloud perspectives. Thank you for posting. I'm an INFP and I'm grateful for your perspective and informative video.
I recently watched 'the woman in the window' and was having a conversation with my brother about whether the mother was evil or not (don't want to spoil anything), but I said I don't think she was evil, she went through trauma and her intent was not to kill or hurt, and he gave me that look of 'I am a psychopath' for thinking this, and this happens to me so may time that I have withdrawn within myself, becoming even more introverted than I was because I know I am not crazy, but then I questioned myself because people never understood me. I am so happy to have finally found my INFP community.
@@derinbero4469 i feel you
Thanks for making this. I don't feel the love sometimes toward my type, and feel they get centered out kind of disproportionately in sketches. They get depicted as being invisible, or not capable of handling much. Well I haven't exactly had an easy life and I'm still standing and have never given up. We are way stronger than people give us credit for. Yes we feel very deeply, and do cry a lot when alone, but that doesn't mean we can't roll with the punches.
I agree with a lot of what you said here about our functions. Yeah that 4th slot Te can be blunt in us at times, and doesn't care much for protocol just for the sake of it if it doesn't make sense to us.
I tend to get a bit tripped up by hearing, "What if I'm only feeling this because I'm sympathizing with someone else, how do I know if it's really me or not?" I always know the differance due to leading with Fi, so I feel there is a disconnect at times with me and some people.
I also tend to run into walls when people favor black and white thinking over subjective circumstances. One size does not fit all, but when I say, "but that doesn't make sense. Why would I do it?" I can end up with a blank stare, or sometimes people thinking I am a T type, but I don't mean "making sense" from that perspective as much as an ethical one, or one of long term sustainability for a community, the environment, or for myself.
I'm also known for saying, this feels "slimy" or "just off" and a lot of people just don't seem to get it because they are flocking to it. When I really struggle is when I get that off feeling, yet really care about the person or situation. I can get into a terrible push/pull between wanting to save them, yet knowing I can't, and knowing I am idealizing and projecting, and I need to cut it out because its... slimy.
I really admire your attention to your feelings and ability to easily distinguish the differences between the feelings. I've noticed that INFPs are very strong, but they don't start unnecessary fights. They speak their mind about how they feel about things. It's helpful for people like me who tend to overlook my feelings. I wish INFPs were held in a higher light. But perceptions wax and wane, hopefully the perceptions will only morph into a better one.
Thank you for writing this, for i've found yet another INFP-A brother. Btw, i'm kinda able to relate to people thinking we're T instead of F, but that actually is because our WEAKEST & least used function, the Te, is more developed than that of the majority of our own out there, who're INFP-Ts. While that's not necessarily to say that we're better than them, we do tend to be more firm & tend to roll with the shit life throws at us better.
"It's not necessarily that [INFPs] are making these moral judgments, it's that they have gut reactions to different things, and [...] they are trying to understand these feelings constantly. [and by 'feelings', mean 'internal cognitive reactions']"
I don't feel like I judge...though I probably do...I feel its more assessing than judging
I love being an INFP, and love animals and nature, but humans have spoiled so much of my life. Being society telling us how to be and judging us for questioning it. The silly concept of religion, governments, laws that take away freedom, invisible borders, damage to earth for usual greed motives, as well as poison in foods. It all goes against who i am and against what is good for humans and this earth in general. Sadly people that feel these ways are far too uncommon in society. I just wish I could have an island and live a simple life away from it all.
Same
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Me too. Always glad to read comments like this. Even if we're alone, in some weird way we're alone together.
@@dreamwriter8423 alone together is beautiful. Btw thank you for your kind reply. Peace to you.
She said it well. As an INFP a lot of what she said resonates. I always have to explain myself to others and they still dont understand the way I think. So a lot of how I choose to live do not coincide with the people around me.
As an INFP, I struggle to keep up with my two of my besties, who are both ENFPs. We're so similar yet sooo different. Their energy and extroversion is something my brain simple cannot comprehend. Sometimes being around them is pretty tiring, but actually all I need is some alone time to recharge. Don't get me wrong, I love them a lot, but being with introverts makes things easier to be explained -- we all get exhausted from prolonged social interactions. But I appreciate every one of them regardless. ^^
Oh my, that's so me. I keep attracting ENFPs into my life and I love them but sometimes it just gets too much for my introvert batteries xD
Yep. In times where we're drained, we pretty much need little more than hugs from them... & for them to just shut up for a bit…
Me: an INFP
Her: singing "INFP" as the intro
Me: internally screams in excitement even though I read the title
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Same 😂🤣
Anyone else an INFP as well as being an HSP?
I'm both.. as well as a pisces. It's like a tripple amplified INFP. It's just too much sometimes. The strong empathic and intuitive feelings, the sunshine and rainbows in your head filled with posibilities. And then you exit your door and have to face the reality with structure, loud noises, complaining, jealousy, cursing, bullying, depression, fakes. It's everywhere! And we're extroverts as well as introverts! So we need to be with people! Fuuudge! I just want everyone to have good, innocent and open thoughts like us! If I was Thanos I would snap my fingers and make everyone into Panda's! In. A. Heartbeat.
We are twinsies! I am also INFP, HSP and Pisces 🤗
That makes 3 of us. INFP, HSP and pisces. Love to both of you. 🌺💜
Forth xx I've always known I was sensitive but I'm only just realising just how much my emotions fluctuate depending on what I'm exposed to :) But on the upside, I think it also amplifies our ability to see patterns. I often find myself knowing what the social consequence of a decision will be, but don't realise that other people aren't seeing the same patterns that I can see - if I voice concerns, others think I sound really left-field; it's only by waiting it out (at least a few months) that people finally process and arrive at the same thing, by which time they've forgotten that I already said that months ago *gahhh* lol.
Fifth here!
@@lightawake omg I love that you are the same way! I've had those thoughts in basically every situation, and I've come to rely on my own instincts now. 😄
INFP’s love to note and store every nuanced subtle emotion people feel much like INTPs love to remember every detail of an entire system
Our “system” of human understanding will never stop evolving and getting more complex, yet also more precise in our intuitive calls, over our lifetime 💗💗💗
Yes, and over a lifetime these details and understandings develop into a complex intuitive ability.
I have developed a daily complex state of profound synchronicity, and an awareness of the synchronistic mathematical fabric that is the source of our reality. I have to remember that not everyone perceives, feels, intuits as an INFP. Others get freaked out.
carefulcarpenter Beautiful 💗 I understand the intuitive path, at this point and the synchronistic seeming miracles, but you are into mathematics?
My dad is a physicist, INTJ, and his understanding of the unlikely statistical probability of everything including our existence of now is, blows me away. INFPs are capable of any academia, from what I realized about myself
Are you a mathematician? We get super smart as we get older I think because our Ne never stops exploring...
And we can become acutely intuitive in reading people by the means of that I described above, but it has taken me years. I was very oblivious and naive when I was younger 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
@@orchidsrising7910 💗 I give love to you in return--- that love that people have for friends, customers and kindred spirits (philia) . I also have named a complex love: Marerophilia.
I will likely never write a book about either *synchronistic mathematics* nor *Marerophilia.* The human mind of the collective is just not there, yet. I've attempted to attract a curiousity towards these topics over the past 20 years with little luck. Too complex for the 99.9% apparently.
I was a Math major in college. I moved on after to pursue a creative life as a self-employed designer/craftsman before globalization. In the first three decades I worked an excessive number of hours per year. The past decade I can barely pay the bills. A designer depends on the upper 20% having an imagination and the vision to seek authentic, qualified help to create their dream.
With enough time on their hands a creative type can go beyond the confines of conventional perception. The past 20 years have granted me plenty of opportunity to write, discover, research, and write more. I find absolutely no audience for authentic research and advanced insight regarding synchronicity, synchronistic mathematics, or Marerophia.
My favorite synchronicity was a few years ago at the local coffeehouse. An artist had a show in progress on the walls of this beloved hangout. I loved a piece and I like to support art, so I bought it. It was a few months after that I recognized the synchronistic nature of the show. About 7 years earlier I had mentioned about *marerophilia* in the shop, and had written extensively on a message board that others from our area had joined. The name of the artist was Julie *Marero.* 💗
I agree that this happens. Its just unfortunate you don't get to use it to help others up until you've reached a certain age, have a certain degree or a deeper level of a connection with the person. Where your own understanding improves over time, other people's understanding of the emotions will not. Only 1.5% (male) and 2.5% (female) of the population naturally are INFP. That means over 96% will stay somewhat behind in this understanding. Can you imagine how lonely it would feel if there's nobody to share your insights with? That even if you try to help, people don't understand you due to this mismatch.
@@msc8382 The problem is: people cannot formulate questions, although are certain they know more than they actually do. This limits cognitive development I feel, because *the ability to question* is an INFP's strength.
Example of synchronistic mathematics I shared with my wide last night.
2:27:33.4083351718 (hours/minutes/seconds) on December 1, our anniversary.
= Day 334.10247
= 2.47 hours into December 1
We were married 247 days after my birthday.
= .91534923291952
I was 26.6767231507 at the beginning of December 1, the year we were married.
What is my birthday?
You are right about the guttural reactions and the internal cognitive functions. I think this area of how the body communicates to us should be explored more because I get the majority of my instincts (wisdom, guidance) from internal sensate forms of intelligence and it can seem that I’m psychic to some people at times but it’s really just a sensate physiological intelligence at work, observing, studying, organizing, evaluating and then deciding when my body decides to... 😃💗
Happy day 💫💎💗 And there is so much more to Fi, it’s an entire world 🌍
I agree too. As I have gotten older I have sadly realised my parents never viewed me as an individual and my feelings were always denied in place of putting on appearances. I always told myself I was loved as a child because the reality was too painful to process at that age, but the gut feeling something was wrong never went away. I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis and eventually had emergency surgery to remove my colon. I have learned to trust my feelings by now. Sorry to hijack but I really identified with what you wrote.
Seeing so many things from so many sides can make us procrastinate in our perfection of trying to make the perfect decision
I'm so glad that a lot of persons are like me. I thought I was weird. Your video made me more understand about myself. Thank you. 😊
Thank you for elaborating that we do possess the cognitive function of thinking. A lot of other videos made it seem like we entirely lack it or abandon it in favor of feeling. Thinking is how I have to translate small things to people who don't understand how I feel/why im upset
This was intriguing. I wonder how infp deal in an abusive relationship, since they’re so thoughtful in murders. Would they analyze why the abuser is abusive? Would they consider themselves as victims or what? They seem to be in their own world and resilient.
That would really depend. They would likely analyze exactly as you said, but what they decide as to whether they are victims or not would really depend on the INFP and the situation.
Yeah, I have been abused/wronged many times in my life, but I have never hated anyone because of it. I tend to see the good side/humanity in someone, despite them not showing it to me. I don't think I could ever truly Hate a person and Never forgive what they did, unless it was something extremely bad and had no possible explanation for doing so.
@m. I've been in codependent (optomistic) relationships and I did the same - basically just trying to understand WHY they behaved that way (which I found easy to understand). Then help them. But I think the negative aspect for that for me was that I've never been good at recognising the point when that person no longer wanted to be helped. I did feel a victim when things went badly, but that's because of my own childhood traumas which I hadn't quite resolved - so I had a victim mentality towards life stressors in general. I recognised this in me as well as my partner, so despite being upset I also would quickly go back to trying to make it better for us by solving the underlying trauma for us both, staying in relationships that ended up being unhealthy. I hear that staying in bad relationships too long tends to be an infp trait, and for me, that's probably one big reason why.
I am a victim of abuse so I can help with the question
I still care for people who have hurt me immensely, I don't know why but I do. I struggle with why I do because I don't know. I always tried to see why would they do this or that, was it my fault or theirs. It very hard to see the toxicity especially in the beginning. I've grown to see and understand what they did wrong or right but sometimes I fall back, and I go under the "hold" they have on me.
(INFP) It takes another type to objectively describe a type that is not their own. This was a superb example of that. Felt that ALL the information was accurate. Great video!
Interesting! Maybe this is the reason why I was a stage actor for many years. I felt like imaginative empathy was the best part of life, plus I loved the feeling of getting to have more than one identity.
3:00 wow. One of the most eye opening experiences as an Infp was when I worked with an ill convicted murderer admitted at a hospital.
After a few days of interaction, I remembered him calling me over to thank me.
I didn't expect that response, so I asked him what he was thanking me for.
The reply "for treating me like a human being, " was really moving.
A simple greeting and light conversation go a long way.
HELL YEAH also I find it interesting too tbh because usually there's always a reason that people end up a certitain way! and that is to say I also agree with the simple greetings and light convos they make day wholesome too!
am I the only one that feels like these slowly become self fulfilling prophecies, like if I'm told by someone super confident that i am in fact one way then id be more inclined to act that way. So i may have not actually been like that in the beginning but because you believed me to be that way and verbalised it to me now i am. I only say this because i assume personality types are fixed with only slight differences or changes, if however we can establish that they aren't fixed and that it is possible for a person to go from intj to enfp then completely disregard my argument
One of the best video titles ever. Based on that alone, I grant you the INFP Seal of Approval.
Yayyy I found a whole video talking about why I’m great!! I love this so much!
I finally understand myself 😭 the explanation of my weak Te I can really see in my own life! I am fastidious and obsessively organised about the things that I care about and I strive to be more organised but a lot of my life is chaos
sometimes people call me unemphatic, because when i try to give advice , its very blunt. And then i fell sad and think im a bad person and i only thought I could relate very good to people, but then i feel i don't understand anyone and nobody understands me.
You mean unempathetic..?
Thank you so much for this! :) I'm an INFP who's always struggled to understand my personality. (I could easily 'get' anyone around me, but rarely felt as if I was being understood in return.) To this day, I can't really define myself. I can look at my best friend and say she's goofy, short tempered, tomboy-ish, extremely caring, and adventurous. Others could probably picture someone right away! But I could never find words that sounded accurate for me. I'm shy but I don't appear to be (as in, I can smile easily, make small talk, laugh/joke around, and actively listen to whatever is being said.) I'm not an intellectual by any stretch, and yet people always tell me I sound intelligent; plus I love political, metaphysical, and philosophical discussions!
...and already, I've run out words to use lol. The INFP is such a great short-cut to not only learn more about who I am, but also to see these traits come together and actually sound like a person! I adore being creative, (Writing/drawing are my passions. I love meeting and speaking to other creative types as well!) and that bit about not sharing ideas easily or often...10000%! I will sit on a project or book I've been working on for months or even years before telling my BFF about it. Meanwhile, she'll readily share her new stuff with me! (She may be an ENFP now that I think about it...I should have her take the test!)
Thank you, again! Where have you been all my life? 😄💛
Pride is a strong word... maybe confidence?
Either way, with the -T suffix, and a history with anxiety/depression, confidence is a scarce resource.
Me an INFP watching this video: Distracted every 20 seconds by the beautiful Tapestry and room decoration.
As an INTP, let me say that INFPs are just a more emotional version of us. That's how I feel while dealing with them.
This video is amazing and I HIGHLY relate to every single thing you said… I only recently figured out that I’m an INFP after testing as an INFJ for years and years… lol I just wasn’t being honest with myself and sometimes the tests ask questions in a way that frustrates confuses me because I tend to always see both sides of things… but this video really put it into perspective for me-I was initially bummed out about the change in type, but learning more about INFPs has been enlightening and I feel like I can now better figure myself out… thank you!!
The beginning also, I loved it, haha!
Alright, one more thing as an INFP I would like to share if someone relates, I am usually INERT about things; life and everything around me. Even if it is the best feeling ever.
For example: even if something is my habit and gives me joy I can still quit it. Always connected yet not attached.
When extroverted thinking works, it really does work, for example, I can be blunt about things and values that I choose and respect.
I can listen to you all day but don't tell tell me about my life because I know what I have to do with my life and I am what I am. Although sometimes it can be too much, haha.
Yup... I have a messy desk because I tend not to move objects unnecessarily unless they are in the way (same with other objects in my room) but I keep everything important close and sort of organized so I can quickly start working on something. It seems to me that I don't mind the messiness all that much; probably because of Se trickster.
lol me too!
Same here. And, really, I don't think I lose or find things at a much different rate than 'organized' people - and I'm more likely to have held on to something that proves to be needed later on. Might take me awhile to find it, though .....
INFP here. That music is some 🔥🔥
Nicely explained, I’m a 50 y.o. womyn & this is by far the best I’ve everrr heard anyone explain “us” & I just love it 👏🏼
I’m sending this to my adult kids (about your age?) & very intrigued with what they’ll think & say. I think they’ll be like 💯
I would like to add for the INFP‘s out there that are maybe 30 & younger… in this a typical country & the world (& many homes) you may feel like you don’t have a place yet, but you do - you really really do, so delve in & learn more about yourself as much as possible & bring that amazing light forward… don’t let anybody change your autonomy or authenticity & if that means looking stubborn about it then so be it! Be you ♥️
This is the only video I’ve seen explaining INFPs that’s actually accurate :) thank you!
Love the music change and pop up on the screen “casual discussion of murder”
Definitely had to rewind to make sure I heard it right 😂
Also very true for me the way you described it. I find your video very validating and am subbing. Looking forward to more content from you.
I love being an INFP and finding out about it helped me so much in understanding and sort of... explaining myself. I think you did an amazing job explaining it! The understanding before judging is such an important quality for me that got me many raised eyebrows haha Same with the never being sure... even if I logically think "yes, I know it has to be true. I should be sure of myself." Still, I always think "well, but what if..."
Anyways, all of that was so well explained! Thank you 😊
Also, your voice reminds me so much of Cobie Smulders' -- love it! 😊
Edit: wow you got to the example with the messy room and the organized bookshelf and well it is exactly that for me xD
Omg thats the nicest compliment, i love her!
INFPs are awesome because they never have solid judgements. They understand the subtleties and grayness of things
I used to have my books neatly arranged from tallest to shortest - which is about the stupidest way imaginable to organize books, but ... you can't say they weren't organized! And, yes, they were the only thing organized in my entire life.
Hi, Michi. Yes, you are awesome. Your F trait is a blessing to humanity. Yes, we need more consideration to others. Thank you for your teachings. I wish you all the best.
You nailed it for this INFP. All of the universe is a vast interconnected system made up of countless subsystems. If I don’t understand the context of an idea or action, it’s meaning is greatly diminished. Thank you for doing these videos!
Not sure if i´m infp or intp but what you said about not immedietly judging people for bad actions really reasonated with me. I mean a bully beating up other kids for fun and a kid beating up the bully are two completely different things in my wiew.
Its really hard to tell between infp and intp a lot of times! And usually that happens when more developed and balanced. ua-cam.com/video/nNd7o5C8I_k/v-deo.html this video may help!
When you started talking about bookshelf being perfectly organized (around 10:00 ish) I turned head back and there it was.. dusty.. not touched for a long time.. but yet, organized (.__.)
The scary thing is. I just came to the room where it was right before you started talking about that part .___.
I really appreciate this video! I love how you break down each function and go more into depth then the average stereotype. Sometimes I can get in a low place and feel like my type is perceived as a bad type or annoying self absorbed type. This brought a new good light to myself. Thank you. You seem very sweet.
This was a nice confidence boost for me today (especially the serenade at the beginning), thanks Michelle. 🙂👍
I keep just my books and my art supplies organized 😅
Everything else is just a mess
Infj here. My room is so messy but my bookshelves are pristine. Spot on ♡
Past ISTJ bfs: Clean your room or I'm not sleeping in there.
Wow I'm an INFP and you nailed it. Thanks for explaining so clearly. Even your example of a messy room with an organised book shelf is me right now haha!!
Ty for singing to us. We appreciate it! Singing is from the heart, so it is a genuine gift. That makes it special. Ty
This video was published on my 30th birthday. Thanks for telling me I am awesome Michelle!
Hey, Michelle--I'm an INFP and gained insight from your video. One minor point re your using the word 'guttural'--I think you meant to say 'gut level.'
I am an INFP myself, and I love how you make it a point to say how we are not fully trusting but we are able to take in the information and determine of something is bad or not. I also love how you talk about everything about INFPs in general! You did a very good job at interpreting the type, everything was very relatable!😊 I am also an unofficial counselor to my friends at school!
Im glad i did infps justice!!
Omggggg the thing you said about being contextual is so true. I'm always making a fair theory and I apply that to every thing. I hate cognitive dissonance. This makes me judge things less and and less.
The editing... lol. Subscribed
I’m an INFP-T and I really liked this video 👍👍
I think you know this infps pretty well. It's a curiosity that probably led us here in the first place. It dose really warm my heart to see others take such an interest in us. Thank you. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤
now that I know what I lack and what I have, I definitely love being an INFP! loved the video, actually it’s one of the mbti videos that isn’t boring that I found on youtube. love your type too!
That means so much, im so glad i kept your interest!!
I'd say that, for me at least, when making a judgement it comes down to "understandable decision vs bad decision" rather than "good vs bad". A minor difference, but hey.
Don't fret it. We INFPs are all about nuance & minor differences after alk lol.
Thats all so true, thats really crazy to hear a description of myself out of your mouth without even knowing me... 🤪🤯 I just know about all this personality type stuff since today, made a few tests and Im definately an INFP... 😅 I know that Im somehow wired since many years, that other people have a different way of thinking, and all this stuff what you just beautifully explained here in the video... starting with always want to understand why people do things, not to judge before knowing whats really going on, to be true to myself, yes even the Messie flat and the bookshelf fits... 🤪 (no its not so bad, but Chaos is my friend 😁) Thats all really mindblowing, seems like there are also some other misswired prototypes like me there around in the world... Thanks for the video, made my day... ☺️
I just watched your video about INTPs and there you said something about watching many episodes of a documentary... I dont know if I understood you right, but was the docu about the INTP/INFP topic? If yes, would be nice if you could tell me the title of it, cause I was just searching the web, but didnt find something... Thanks in advance 😉
I think the documentary I was talking about was called the "History of Maths" -- it's not really about MBTI. But I have thought about going in depth about the differences between INFP and INTP -- my friend Harry at Cognitive Personality did a video on that: ua-cam.com/video/nNd7o5C8I_k/v-deo.html
@@PsychologyandChillwMichi Thanks, have to check it out 😉 Yes that would be also interesting. Im really fascinated by this topic since I got to know about this types today in the morning. Its cause it really fits so precise, and not like with some horoscope, where you read something and think "Sounds good, could fit for me..." Noo, this really describes really ME, in all my deepness... 😋 I figured out, Im not 100% INFP, I also have this logical part from INTP and also a bit ENFP, cause I also can be a wild when I have mood to... 😛 But basically (I would say 91.2%) Im a true INFP... 😌
Which type are you if I may ask? ☺️
Ahh and if you want to go in deep in this topic, and need some authentic info about it, then feel free to ask... You know, its the authentic shit what you get from an INFP and you know too, that we like to help... 😌😋😉
yeah, i'm an ENFP and I feel you, I often feel like an INFP or an ENTP as well -- it's part of getting to know yourself. You realize you aren't always introverted, aren't always a feeler, etc. and yes, MBTI really gets to the heart of things where it feels like astrology just is forcing some archetypes upon us that we will be reminded of forever.
I feel so called out this was the best video on INFP I have ever seen
Our system of decision making was very well stated. It was very difficult as a young child to "feel" all these things without the language for it. I wish I could have known how valid all these precise, nuanced "feelings" were when I was 7yo! Hard to have a framework for organizing it all at that age though!
The murder example is so XNFP thing that I definitely say on my mind, this is why I love Enfp. They just voice out what is in my mind. It feels like the Ne is having its own good time and its just flowing awesomely.
Thanks girl for the vid! Ne is my fav, and obviously you guys (ENFP) know what’s up there too.
“Organized chaos”... 😂 100%!
Sean
Ne is da bomb, but so is Fi!
Yeah it's all pretty "fun"... Hope you're doing alright girl, and glad to see you sticking with it all - pumping out content! :)
Oh goodness, you are spot on about contextualising. People think I'm totally weird because I link things together that they can't see the connection between. They don't see the process behind it and I couldn't explain it if I tried. I see the connection between everything in the universe. I question whether my connections are correct and I spend so much time thinking and rethinking about them. I spend so much time 'doing nothing' because I'm so busy in my head trying to make sense of everything
I've always felt one of my strong points as opposed to other people is- I can empathize more with different people/situations that I would normally disagree with, after understanding the wider big picture or context of the situation.
So I'm a hot mess? Is that the assessment you're making? I can live with that, I'm hot in one way at least. And yes my movie shelf is so easy to find a movie to watch......it's just......well getting to it, is an adventure all it's own. Glass half full.
When she said we like to show off I was like yup that’s me
I like to share - if the sharing is not appreciated, I suppose it looks like 'showing off'. For instance, if you want to share a laugh, and tell a joke, that might be called 'showing off' or 'attention seeking' by someone who thought the joke wasn't funny ....
This was super insightful and very accurate to me! I am INFP and I related to the messy bedroom tidy bookshevles! Even though I am more orderly than average, I keep things tidy for the most part, it's the out of sight stuff I keep messy 🤣.
You get a like just for the opening!
I'm an INFP. Spot on outside of one thing that I heard, I ensure that things are done correctly...that's my job. I'd like to think that I do it well...but it's a super uncomfortable process. So I wouldn't disagree with your analysis because that skill was painfully developed and does not play off of my more desired personality traits.
💜 thats a great point - it is not easy or fun to develop the lower functions on the stack
I’m a INFP, and all my dreams are about me eating a steak sub from subway. Am I a actual INFP?
😂 well, not vegan so infp is out 😂😂
You're probably hungry - go down to your local soup kitchen, then get back to us.
Don‘t get it twisted, INFPs love steak!
Solving problems🍻
“They are constantly trying to understand how they feel about things, and they are constantly questioning their understanding” “they don’t want to share these ideas unless they are sure they are good ideas” you can’t be calling me out like this
as a infp I love seeing these videos! I think it’s because I like feeling understood and they really help me understand my own feelings haha- I can get overwhelmed and confused really quickly but these are awesome