Building A Non-Anxious Life with Dr. John Delony - Terri Cole
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- Опубліковано 22 тра 2024
- I am so excited to have my pal Dr. John Delony back on the show to talk about his new (and much-needed) book, Building A Non-Anxious Life.
Since the pandemic, so many of my clients, friends, and family members are anxious in a way they've never been before. I've even noticed it in myself, and I do not consider myself an anxious person!
I love the accessibility of John's work and his ideas. During the episode, he reviews six practical ways we can choose to do things differently to build non-anxious lives.
I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.
*TRIGGER WARNING: John talks about suicide from 26:30 - 27:50. You may want to skip this section if this is a tender topic for you.*
Time Stamps
0:00 - Quote from Dr. John Delony
0:40 - Introduction from Terri
3:18 - Why this book, why now?
5:58 - How John's anxiety presents
12:50 - How Terri's anxiety presents
14:00 - Achievement is a drug
15:07 - Choosing a better life
19:41 - 6 daily choices we have
26:02 - Worthiness & perceived burden
30:00 - Avoiding vulnerability doesn't work
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About Dr. John Delony
Dr. John Delony is a No. 1 national bestselling author, mental health expert and host of The Dr. John Delony Show. He holds two PhDs -one in counselor education and supervision and another in higher education administration. Before joining Ramsey Solutions, John spent two decades working as a senior leader at multiple universities, a professor and researcher, and crisis responder. Now as a Ramsey Personality, he teaches people how to reclaim their lives from the madness of the modern world.
IG: / johndelony
Get John's book here: ter.li/ucjiji
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see www.terricole.com/
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Let me know below: did what Dr. John Delony shared about anxiety resonate with you? What do you think about the six choices we can make to live a non-anxious life? Make sure to check out his book if you liked what you heard!
Wow! What a coincidence! I love you Terri and I am also recently listening to Dr. Deloney and exactly that book and his podcast, now youre together!! Best of the best!! 💜🌈 blessings
Thank youuu 💕 I love John's work!
@@terri_cole me too!! I love how down to Earth and relatable he is!! Thank you!!
I can relate to what John went through with his anxiety where it’s like trying to solve every problem one meltdown at a time. Almost like playing a game that you can’t win. Sometimes we engage in different types of distractions and coping behaviors, just to numb the pain.
I feel you ❤ Thank you for sharing!
Noone is invincible..... I remind myself that we came from the dust and to the dust we will return and what we do in between is all gravy. God bless all!
I agree!
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Absolutely love the honesty, can relate to these feelings, i cannot even watch news and I scroll endlessly on UA-cam to distract myself and self-soothe.
I see you ❤️
I think anxiety is a control issue and chemical issue too. How interesting that God said to be anxious for nothing....., etc. The Lord Jesus said to think on things that are lovely, just, honest, and of good report. He also said to be at peace with all people as much as it's possible with you. He also said do not worry about what you will eat or wear because God knows you need these things. EGO......Easing God Out. Ecclesiastes says....with much knowledge comes much sorrow. It's a tough world.......peace to all!
No wayyyyyy. Dr John ❤
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I love John so much……I needed him 50 years ago….I’m 71 now and have suffered from anxiety since I was 20. I have no idea how I have held on this long. He makes soooo much sense…..I hope that it’s not too late for me. 😢
It's never too late, Denise 💕 I love how John breaks things down, too!
Wow - this was fantastic. I am so grateful for the radical honesty shown here. I feel less alone and now have some hope.
I am so glad to hear you feel less alone and more hopeful 💕
My two favorite people, together!🙌 love John's book!
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Hate socialising anymore ..what's the point? Much happier being by myself
lol me too for the most part
This was really wonderful and refreshing….thank you so much 🧁🧁🍀
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I definitely feel like a burden if I ask for help. If someone offers to help, I accept that help with open arms, because yes, people do enjoy helping others and it gives us purpose. But as a high-functioning codependent, I find myself feeling burdened by other people when I get the sense that they are taking advantage of my giving nature. It seems like the people who ask for help the most are people who take advantage of others, and we see entitlement from people who ask for free things, and we as a culture shame them for being so transparently manipulative. But it makes the rest of us feel like if we ask for anything at all, that people will also perceive us as being manipulative and taking advantage of people. What kind of help are we allowed to ask for without being perceived as a "choosing begger"? It's socially safer not to ask for help at all.
That's a great question to think about. This is why I am a fan of clean agreements (rather than unspoken ones), so everyone is on the same page and there is no lingering feeling of owing someone. I also have a difficult time asking people for help, but when I have, it has made my life so much better. When there is mutual reciprocity, I find there is less judgment.
When we are recovering from high-functioning codependency, I also think it is important to evaluate our relationships for reciprocity. It may be the case we have attracted people in our life who just want to take, and not give- those relationships may no longer serve us, and we may need to let them go to make way for relationships with more mutuality. ❤️ I would say, try making small asks and seeing how folks respond. That may give you the information you need, too.
I've got a lot of anxiety already assuming no one would like me after few people who spoilt my name in a horrible way without me hurting anyone intentionally but it was their pure jealousy. I am constantly anxious someone may know me and may not like me. It's so constant
I see you 💕
Thank you both so much, I was meant to hear this today ❤
I am so glad it resonated with you, Maria ❤️
Great message 🙏🏻
Thanks for watching 🙏