Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Exercises (FEEL Better!)

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  • @kourosh234
    @kourosh234 Рік тому +73

    Psychology should be thaught at school

  • @Lost_Witness
    @Lost_Witness 2 роки тому +1152

    If you're here, watching this video because you want to better yourself, I'm proud of you and you should be proud of yourself. It's not easy and maybe something pushed you to be here but whatever the reason, you're here and that's something to be proud of.

    • @sm02.04
      @sm02.04 2 роки тому +15

      I just got out of drug/alcohol treatment CBT and DBT were a huge part of the program

    • @Fuzzbuns4552
      @Fuzzbuns4552 2 роки тому +11

      You are truly God sent, thank you so much for your work ❤

    • @thewisdomtherapist
      @thewisdomtherapist Рік тому +8

      Yes!!! All the best to you people searching 4 solutions to your problems! Most wont do it!

    • @kristenmitchell9390
      @kristenmitchell9390 Рік тому +8

      This just made me smile. Thank you

    • @piyush.15
      @piyush.15 Рік тому +2

      thankyou logic!

  • @thewisdomtherapist
    @thewisdomtherapist 3 роки тому +899

    CBT saved my life. After that I became a CBT therapist. This way of living is so much powerful that my mission now is to let the whole world know, how CBT can heal our lives!

    • @Himachaltimes2024
      @Himachaltimes2024 3 роки тому +44

      Please help me.i am dying slowly and slowly.Please help me sir...

    • @artilama9658
      @artilama9658 3 роки тому +19

      @@Himachaltimes2024 same here😭

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      @aaymathebest4705 3 роки тому +4

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    • @vipermad358
      @vipermad358 3 роки тому +9

      Did you start making more money? By my experience, CBT is bullshit, like every other “therapy.”

    • @scotthunt2479
      @scotthunt2479 3 роки тому +30

      Dude, you've posted this same comment on just about every CBT video on YT. Give it a rest, would ya?

  • @karenweber52
    @karenweber52 Рік тому +161

    I got more out of this 12 minute video than I have seeing a therapist for the past 2 years! A million thankyous!!!

  • @karenweeks3941
    @karenweeks3941 3 роки тому +330

    Yes,avoidance was definitely me with anxiety. 💕 I would avoid going places,making phone calls or even going outside.. Now I’m doing them all by working hard on myself.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 роки тому +19

      Awesome! How great you are doing the work❤

    • @taniaconlan3873
      @taniaconlan3873 2 роки тому +6

      @@BarbaraHeffernan I am exactly the same, massive avoider, procrastinator which increases my depression and anxiety . This has given me great understanding of CBT- to get working an into action. Thankyou your presentation is easy to understand and inspiring

    • @marjoriecentore9072
      @marjoriecentore9072 2 роки тому +5

      Just looking at that log is making me anxious... 😫

    • @kevimh4584
      @kevimh4584 Рік тому +3

      Can't wait to I get there..I'm right we're you were

    • @charsm2820
      @charsm2820 Рік тому +1

      Relatable 😢

  • @TheAguevara201
    @TheAguevara201 3 роки тому +72

    Wow the whole loosing job ending up on the street homeless are my exact thoughts. Wow glad I found this.

    • @Akoyn360
      @Akoyn360 3 роки тому

      Literally so relatable

    • @sujatagautam5916
      @sujatagautam5916 3 роки тому

      @@Akoyn360 p pm
      lq

    • @Donna-LookingUp
      @Donna-LookingUp 3 роки тому +3

      Same here. I am 56 and my dad passed when I was 28. I had 2 failed marriages ...2nd one ended right before he passed. I suddenly found myself with 2 little boys and they were 6 years apart in age. I had NO ONE to turn to in the event I dropped one ball I was juggling. Their dad's disappeared and were not part of their lives nor helped with any support. I had to get tough, ON THE OUTSIDE while on the inside I was terrified. I worked hard and worked my way up and up to pretty good money. BUT, I couldn't rest. Always knew I wasn't good enough and all it would take is for those around me to realize it. Always knowing I would be the next one to lose my job. Always, it will be me tge next time. My sons are grown men with their own families. My oldest just retired from 20 years in the Navy. I still say...they layer off 300, I am sure I will be next. Last year I sent my youngest a text and jokingly told him how much my raise was and added another 0 to it. Then I said...oops...that's the raise you get I had too many zeros. He responded with..."congratulations, and so, when are you getting fired...next week? You are tge only person I know who gets raises and bonuses and you always think you will lose your job any day." Yeah...sorta made me really see how sad I am. It's hard to live your life in that kind of fear. Been at this company for 27 years. In 2020, my husband of 18 years left for work on July 2 and sent me a text message he was no longer in love and it's over. Added to my anxiety all over again! 2 weeks will be a year since I have been completely alone in my home and working from home over a year due to cv. I am supposed to return to the office July 12th. I am FREAKING out. I honestly don't know if I will even know how to act around people. I have been in solitude.

    • @FREEDOM-23
      @FREEDOM-23 3 роки тому

      @@Donna-LookingUp there’s a sun to everyone

  • @anthonyrispo1229
    @anthonyrispo1229 4 роки тому +42

    Anybody would be lucky to have you as their therapist!

    • @FatmaYousuf
      @FatmaYousuf 4 роки тому

      Exactly what I was thinking

  • @geraldvaughn8403
    @geraldvaughn8403 4 роки тому +52

    My social anxiety was extreme and my therapist was trained in CBT. She also included exposure therapy and challenging automatic negative thoughts. I was cured in about seven sessions.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому +3

      Awesome!! Thank you for sharing your experience. It is important that people know it is possible to recover!

    • @geraldvaughn8403
      @geraldvaughn8403 4 роки тому +4

      My therapist called the automatic negative thoughts, ANTs, for short. Good name as they are hard to find, but easy to stomp out. I saw them as soap bubbles. Easy to pop as they have no foundation.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому +1

      @@geraldvaughn8403 I love the soap bubble image!

  • @MEGATestberichte
    @MEGATestberichte 7 місяців тому +1

    The cycle absolutely makes sense.

  • @petariovchev1477
    @petariovchev1477 3 роки тому +109

    She is VERY right about how depression works. Behavior -> Thoughts -> Feelings. Sit all day -> Blame yourself all night -> Feel like crap the other day. Repeat for an year and you become emotionally numb AF. I knew i had a problem, but one day i thought "Why my favorite music stopped making me feel good, i get no emotions like before from it (and im fan of Accept, Black Sabbath, Deep Purpple, Pink Floyd - stuff that you just cant feel emotionless towards)". That was the moment i realised that something is VERY VERY dangerously wrong with me. That happened today. Now looking for ways to "fix" that thick emotional "shield" of mine :|

    • @laurab972
      @laurab972 2 роки тому +3

      Petar I hope you are doing better.I am where you were right now. Searching for anything to feel alive again.

    • @Niceworkson
      @Niceworkson Рік тому +5

      Petar and Laura, I hope you both doing better by now. Recognition of a problem is the biggest step you can take towards fighting and curing depression and/or anxiety. Taking action and seeking help (which might be watching UA-cam videos, reading, therapy, talking to a friend/family/stranger in UA-cam comments) is the second biggest step you can take. You both just took two huge steps towards recovery which is a great accomplishment. From now on it will get better. I’m sending a lot of love to you

    • @jimicunningable
      @jimicunningable Рік тому

      LIES. THE ULTIMATE CORRELATION TO DEPRESSION IS POVERTY, MISERY AND A HORRID CHILDHOOD. NOT NOT NOT BEHAVIOR OR ANY OTHER SELF HATING, SELF BLAMING BS. LOOK IT UP. CBT/DBT ARE THE MOST FAILED PROTOCOLS IN THE BUSINESS. ALL THE PATIENTS AND COUNCILORS TEND TO QUIT IT. FACT FROM THE UNIVERSITIES WHO BORE THESE FRAUDULENT COUNCILORS..

    • @Sunflower-rx6tz
      @Sunflower-rx6tz Місяць тому

      Hi, i am in that state right now. Feeling numb. There are things that used to make me happy now it doesn’t. And i knew something was wrong with me. This wasn’t me. So yeah i am also searching for ways to make myself feel better. Peace🌹🌹

  • @calebcole203ccs
    @calebcole203ccs 5 років тому +236

    Great Video! I agree, I hear too much advice on "changing my mindset", but once I started changing a lot of my behaviors, I was able to help control my anxiety much better.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  5 років тому +25

      Thank you! Yes, especially exercise can be extremely helpful in motivating yourself to get out of dangerous anxiety spirals.

    • @amberdavis1514
      @amberdavis1514 3 роки тому +3

      what behaviors did you change? avoidance type?

    • @musiclife-zr1os
      @musiclife-zr1os 3 роки тому +1

      It really is not about the behaviors though the reason your depressed is because of your beliefs

    • @srambrero
      @srambrero 2 роки тому +4

      @@musiclife-zr1os thats the thing isnt it? by changing your behavior you put yourself into situations to expose and face your beliefs instead of avoiding them

  • @901591148kiki
    @901591148kiki 3 роки тому +100

    The cycle you mention makes so much sense. I get anxiety about my day. And then my anxiety immobilises me I get nothing done and I criticise myself. This was very helpful, thank you. I just subscribed to your channel.

  • @youjeltrevo
    @youjeltrevo 4 роки тому +89

    I had never heard “move a muscle, change a thought.” That really makes a lot of sense.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому +2

      So glad that resonated with you!

    • @Tinyteacher1111
      @Tinyteacher1111 4 роки тому +1

      Johnathon Eltrevoog That’s a good quote! I do yoga every morning for an hour, and work in my garden. My back doesn’t allow me much more. I’m going to remember that. Though! 🙏💫💕

    • @victoryscrewattack7433
      @victoryscrewattack7433 3 роки тому

      @@BarbaraHeffernan yeah I completely understand it too I have this a lot

    • @artilama9658
      @artilama9658 3 роки тому

      @@BarbaraHeffernan mam plz help me😭

    • @namsiswamy8692
      @namsiswamy8692 3 роки тому

      Very insightful video I belong to the old school methods like transactional analysis will try cbt

  • @carolgeibe9360
    @carolgeibe9360 2 роки тому +28

    I’ve been through CBT treatment for depression. The skills have helped me so much. I no longer get overwhelmed by emotions frequently.
    Now I am watching my sister go through severe depression with very negative thoughts. Her behavior ends up pushing people away. She feels frightened and alone. I’m sending her this video to encourage her to get into CBT. Thank you so much for the video.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  2 роки тому

      You are very welcome. And thank you for sharing how much CBT helped you! That will give people hope :)

    • @srisatyapriya-w3h
      @srisatyapriya-w3h 3 місяці тому

      What is the process of CBT and ERP

  • @SnakeAndTurtleQigong
    @SnakeAndTurtleQigong Рік тому +13

    Thanks so much!
    Sending love and support to anyone who is having a difficult time right now. Find a good therapist and seek out support from a friend. You can do this!
    💙☀️

  • @virginiaparker9450
    @virginiaparker9450 Рік тому +9

    Yes. Makes complete sense. Here to learn to change. Was in a toxic relationship for a long time and negative thought pattern became habit. I felt trapped. Growing and learning now.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  Рік тому +1

      I truly hope this is helpful. Wishing you health and healing!

  • @donettesis6155
    @donettesis6155 Рік тому +13

    This is EXACTLY me!!! I am going to really work on learning the strategies and techniques of CBT. You explain life so eloquently and it doesn't feel so intimidating.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  Рік тому

      Thank you so much for the lovely compliment! I am so pleased you find it helpful! So great you are going to try - and just give it time, day by day… you can do it!

  • @rudolphsimmonds1382
    @rudolphsimmonds1382 3 роки тому +8

    Your description of the anxiety symptoms are me exactly

  • @thotasrihari
    @thotasrihari 2 роки тому +4

    I can't thank you enough Baraba Heffernan. Thanks a million to you for sharing this treasure of knowledge with us.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  2 роки тому

      You are very welcome. I truly hope my videos are helpful for you!

  • @nancysosa9033
    @nancysosa9033 2 роки тому +1

    i am finding your videos very helpful and thought provoking thank you

  • @robertgnicholson61
    @robertgnicholson61 4 роки тому +57

    Oh happy day! So glad I found you :) Yours may be the clearest explanation and presentation of CBT I’ve ever heard and seen. Thank you!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому +1

      😀 Thanks!! I'm so glad you found it helpful.

    • @bones987123
      @bones987123 4 роки тому

      read or podcast feeling good david burns .. alot of good info there as well also on youtube..

    • @SandeepSingh-xe8cl
      @SandeepSingh-xe8cl 4 роки тому

      @@BarbaraHeffernan need private discussion

    • @pjsmith4369
      @pjsmith4369 3 роки тому

      @@BarbaraHeffernan From what you have presented in a clear and precise manner, I would have to say CBT would probably never have helped me when I was young and suffering from depression, anxiety and severe phobic disorder.
      I also had Post Partum Psychosis after my second child and Post Partum Depression after my third. I was treated for those with older drugs ( only ones available at the time - Nardil for the Psychosis and Anafranil for the PPDepression )
      I have never felt like a failure. I am very disciplined - studied piano for 13 years ( for 6 years - 2 hours practicing every day even if I had a 12 hour nursing shift ) Was an RN.
      I became a lane swimmer at 21 and would swim regularly once my baby was old enough to stay with my husband ( usually after I quit breastfeeding. )
      Exercise never helped my depression, anxiety and phobias.
      I had 4 children and did my very best to be a good mother. There was no time for indulging in sleeping for depression. I faked my way through everything with smiles. No one had a clue that I was suffering so terribly. My phobias began to become more extreme so that I had to even avoid what would seem like normal activities to other people. I could see that I was slowly dying - having been a nurse, I could see where I was headed.
      At 40, I had a psychiatrist put me on medication for depression ( the new SSRIS ) and a benzodiazepine for life for my phobic disorder.
      A miracle for me after 20 years of terrible suffering.
      I am now 68 and am grateful for the help I received. I was given a life.
      I think CBT could be helpful for many people, but my case was severe in the extreme.
      My granddaughter is going for CBT and in her case, I believe it will be very helpful. She has many issues with abandonment and that sort of thing. Thank you for your presentation and I hope many people will find CBT a great help in their lives.

  • @blueblackyellow
    @blueblackyellow 4 роки тому +17

    This is right. I always assess the interconnectedness between thoughts and behaviours and encourage my clients to make efforts in both.

  • @sherazkhan2939
    @sherazkhan2939 4 роки тому +47

    Thanks a lot. I don't have much control over my feelings and thoughts, but I will definitely try to change my behavior. Thanks once again.

  • @korahtan4367
    @korahtan4367 Рік тому +4

    move a muscle, change a feeling. thank you for this very clear explanation

  • @debrahanlon9041
    @debrahanlon9041 Рік тому +1

    Life changing video,practise is needed but I'm sure it will help my negative thoughts..thankyou

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  Рік тому

      Awesome! And yes, practice is needed and it is worth it :)! Wishing you all the best

  • @sheilaprice1942
    @sheilaprice1942 4 роки тому +8

    I thank you for your message and helping us to heal. So many are not able to afford the psychological care we need. Blessings to you 🙏💕

  • @JesusGreenBL
    @JesusGreenBL 2 роки тому +31

    Just wanted to say an immense thank you for this! You've earned a subscriber. You really hit the nail on your head with the point about it sometimes being easier/better to change behaviours than just to always focus on changing thoughts. I'd been banging my head against the wall trying to get rid of my OCD's intrusive thoughts, but after watching this video I decided to change my behaviour by acting in spite of those thoughts and feelings instead.
    Previously I couldn't do simple things like sit on a chair someone else had previously sat on (without putting a clean towel down on them first), or touch door handles or light-switches without immediately washing my hands afterwards. If I dropped my clothes on the floor after laundry for even half a second, they'd have to go straight back in the wash.
    These last few days since I watched this video I've been forcing myself to do all those things regardless of what my thoughts are telling me, and sure enough, the change has been absolutely dramatic. After 6-7 years now of feeling like I'm living in a bubble and can't touch anything, I'm starting to feel like a normal person again.
    I'm also now hopeful that I can apply the same principle to fighting my social anxiety, that's kept me house-bound for years.
    So thank you!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  2 роки тому +7

      Wow. I am so happy to read this (got chills actually!) You are putting into practice the "exposure" part, which is the main way to eventually stop the OCD cycle. I'm so impressed you've been able to make those changes! Keep it up. And, yes, so important for us to know that we do not need to believe our thoughts!

  • @teriengert4849
    @teriengert4849 3 роки тому +23

    This is exactly the type of therapy I need! I believe with the help of your videos I can heal from years of trauma. Thank you!

    • @kittycat1302
      @kittycat1302 2 роки тому

      Wondering how you’re doing, Teri. It’s been nine months. I just discovered this channel And I’m hoping that it will help me as well

  • @Lion-pu4vm
    @Lion-pu4vm 20 годин тому

    Recently diagnosed w ADHD , but as a child I thought I couldn’t learn, then I learned on my own that I just have a different learning style and my brain thinks differently than most children my age. I always has depression and anxiety as young as I remember, and this explanation helps a lot. Thank you, I am now 41 years old and I am still looking for coping skills to help me focus better at work and have a better quality of life in general , I also want to go back to school but it was a struggle when I was younger with having to put triple the effort for a decent passing grade, now I tend to be more forgetful, my pcp didn’t think I’ve had adhd but then I asked my therapist psychologist to help me and test me for some sort of early dementia/alzheimers , he diagnosed with ADHD.

  • @mattmetcalf559
    @mattmetcalf559 3 роки тому +2

    I like that you include behaviors. Thats needed.

  • @ajlepik6272
    @ajlepik6272 4 роки тому +28

    Wow! This was SO good! Thank you for actually giving information on HOW to proceed, not just "about" CBT and "why". Very applicable info!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому +2

      So happy you found it helpful!! Thanks for letting me know - it means a lot to me :)

  • @perkinsdearborn4693
    @perkinsdearborn4693 4 роки тому +16

    Cycle: Thoughts - Behavior - Feelings. "Feelings" seem to be out of direct control. Similarly, "thoughts" tend to be like feelings, but perhaps we have some control. "Behaviors" seem to be under our control. Right? Becoming aware of thoughts, behaviors and feelings through writing them down is a start. What about attitude? Noticing and adjusting our internal judgements or attitudes towards our thoughts, behaviors and feelings seems to be part of the CBT method. Some amount of acceptance and acknowledgment of where we are at currently seems to be a turning point.
    Thank you for the video.

  • @jayimzd
    @jayimzd 4 роки тому +7

    Thank you for making this video. Wish my therapist was as thorough as you.

  • @Barbara-jq2se
    @Barbara-jq2se День тому

    I’m here & YES! This is making tremendous sense to me as you’re explaining it. I’ve been told by many people around me that I talk in such a negative way. Therefore I end up shutting down. Man, are others words really powerful too!

  • @gaaraofthefunk7163
    @gaaraofthefunk7163 9 місяців тому +44

    Someone like this comment for me please, as I need to focus on making food, but I don’t want to forget to come back and watch this afterwards

  • @brengz7663
    @brengz7663 4 роки тому +37

    Excellent video. You gave me that “aha” moment. It’s my behavior that I have to change more so than my mindset. I think that’s why It’s taken me so long to figure things out. I’ve only been focusing in my though process and it’s been so difficult to cope with because most of the negative thoughts are involuntarily. Then guilt sets in because it feels as if I’m the one doing the sabotaging. Then the depression sets in. It’s a vicious cycle.
    CBT is truly a miracle. Subscribed.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому +2

      Yes! So pleased it resonated. LMK how it goes changing behavior - it isn't easy, but it is possible, and then the thoughts and feelings change from there.

  • @nelclark3000
    @nelclark3000 4 роки тому +51

    This is very interesting. I believe your really onto something here. We cant just make our thoughts stop. Get your body moving though, and man what a difference. It doesnt have to be " go big or go home either". Do a 10 minute walk outside in nature if that's all you can do. Do a 5 minute yoga session on u - tube. I try to treat exercise like taking my morning vitamin. I just do it. I dont wait to feel like it. I just say " this is part of my health care" and just do it. 😉

  • @reginabeck6603
    @reginabeck6603 4 роки тому +93

    I went to my first therapy session today for anxiety and CBT is part of my treatment. I was so pleased to find your videos! Thank you !

    • @razakhanofficial6643
      @razakhanofficial6643 4 роки тому +1

      Do you need to take session with psychologist

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому +4

      So pleased they are helpful!

    • @clendonrome6918
      @clendonrome6918 4 роки тому

      @@BarbaraHeffernan uuuiuuiu

    • @lp3850
      @lp3850 3 роки тому

      Psychologist told me to undergo therapy for four consecutive days. One day 40 minutes only. But he charges huge amount for one session. Is it enough to heal long lasted mental problems?

    • @zolisalamon
      @zolisalamon 2 роки тому

      @LP so how did it go?

  • @KP-tx9gq
    @KP-tx9gq 3 роки тому +10

    Great video, I am an LCSW in California and I love using CBT with my clients. It's easy to explain, engaging, and rewarding when you see clients change their way of thinking and behavior as their lives began to improve.

  • @brothabuddha478
    @brothabuddha478 2 роки тому +1

    I love it when I find a new teacher!

  • @aasshh711
    @aasshh711 4 роки тому +34

    thank you so much! so easy to follow and digest. and I love that you're chill and not being all youtube vlogger-y. going to watch more of your videos for sure. thanks for doing what you do

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому +2

      Thank you Ashley! I'm so pleased I'm not vlogger-y also lol!

  • @Bellabc-ki3pe
    @Bellabc-ki3pe 4 роки тому +6

    Thank you so much for the CBT log this will help me a lot. My positive thoughts and constructive behavior only lasts so long until I go back to negative and destructive behavior.

  • @JanelleFraser
    @JanelleFraser 5 років тому +19

    thanks for these simple tips! I love how clear and simple you make this. It is so common when people are struggle that we make it SO much more difficult then it really is!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  5 років тому +1

      Hi @Janelle Fraser: You are super welcome. Us humans sure can complicate things, can't we? Our society contributes to some of these unhelpful ways of thinking... Yet sometimes trauma or difficult childhoods contribute, and then it is not so easy to change 😔, although recovery is definitely possible!

  • @jbc382
    @jbc382 3 місяці тому +2

    As a child, I had zero agency. My folks always dismissed my feelings---I WASN'T EVEN ALLOWED TO HAVE MY OWN FEELINGS! It's taken decades to allow myself to acknowledge and allow my true feelings. It's been a big breakthrough. And CBT is exactly my parents all over again. No, thank you.

  • @alinw-n7t
    @alinw-n7t 3 роки тому +5

    This is the best CBT video I've watched on UA-cam. Simply detailed, helpful. Thank you.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 роки тому +1

      Wow! that is the nicest comment I've ever gotten!!❤ I'm so glad you found it helpful.

  • @yashasgarg9802
    @yashasgarg9802 4 роки тому +10

    I’m feeling better just after watching this video, and I believe it will help me cope with depression and anxiety

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому +1

      So pleased to hear that! I truly hope it helps :)

  • @ShannaRA73
    @ShannaRA73 4 роки тому +34

    This was a great explanation and very easy to understand. Definitely takes effort and practice to change but definitely feasible!!

  • @milachyc88
    @milachyc88 4 роки тому +195

    I believe some people instead of spending money on expensive and material things, they need to pay for therapy. The world is so toxic and unhealthy, the bad apples spoil the good apples. I believe there are so many beautiful, kind souls in this world, that been broken by greedy, selfish, narcissistic people that have no boundaries, know no God, or how to love and are very ungrateful. The good souls instead of expanding their love in this Universe, choose to shut down and learn how to cover and protect themselves from these dark souls. How unfair?? Right. To all beautiful souls who been treated unfair by others, may you know peace and love from the Universe each day. And thank YOU for existing here on Earth. Anxiety and depression is also rooted from the fear that this world contains...we all should work on ourselves to live in Peace, love and understanding.

    • @shumnoor
      @shumnoor 4 роки тому +3

      Very true same happens here

    • @jackiecauthron-schafer9554
      @jackiecauthron-schafer9554 4 роки тому +5

      milachyc88 You don't need a god to be kind, loving, or generous. People who need religion to feel those things are making progress, but it's basically faking it until you make it. Don't confuse being a decent person with religion, or religious people with decency. They are separate things.

    • @milachyc88
      @milachyc88 4 роки тому +12

      Jackie Cauthron-Schafer God was one of the things that it was listed, and not ONLY!! If you read the whole thing, you will understand. Don’t pull only one word out of the context and create your ideas. It was never said, only by believing in God you can become a good person. And by the way, God does not have to do anything with religion. If you are a spiritual person, you understand what I’m talking about . God controls the universe, and you and I and 7 billion people are controlled by the universe. If I would of call Christians, muslims or Jewish, Buddhist, etc., that’s religion. So you don’t get my text mixed up neither. I stated my opinion clearly. Have a good day

    • @milachyc88
      @milachyc88 4 роки тому

      shumnoor ❤️

    • @JudiChristopher
      @JudiChristopher 4 роки тому +2

      "Amen" Sista

  • @thomasdenamahan9846
    @thomasdenamahan9846 2 роки тому +1

    Fake it till you make it...what you teach, explains why that is so important in recovery. Thank you!!

  • @kiirsttx
    @kiirsttx 3 роки тому +30

    Wake up everyday and smile, express gratitude daily. life is a gift and it's beautiful! 🥰🥰💕

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 роки тому +2

      😄👍

    • @frankshbat
      @frankshbat 3 роки тому +2

      You're right, Dear
      Life's a true gift from God.

    • @woodwork8262
      @woodwork8262 3 роки тому

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      @woodwork8262 3 роки тому

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    • @woodwork8262
      @woodwork8262 3 роки тому

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  • @svenkite
    @svenkite 4 роки тому +11

    I just used the log and was able to change my behavior and the result using your log. I am so blessed I found your video.

  • @tamarajohnson8464
    @tamarajohnson8464 4 роки тому +9

    Great job explaining Mrs. Heffernan. I am a LMSW preparing to work full-time as a therapist and prayerfully start my LCSW supervision journey. This has helped me a lot. I plan to check out your video playlist. God bless and enjoy your weekend!

  • @Lucypearla
    @Lucypearla 4 роки тому +23

    This is an incredible resource Barbara, thank you. I think I’ve had a certain amount of CBT via therapy, but I’ve never had it explained so clearly. Thank you ❤️

  • @drmsm1967
    @drmsm1967 5 місяців тому +2

    Dear Barbara: best regards to you from Saudi Arabia: the great effort of you offer mankind a curative way to the problems we create to ourselves due to lack of understanding how balance our thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
    May ALLAH ( GOD) bless you and all your loved ones for the great efforts of yours. 🌺🌺🌺🤲🤲🤲

  • @juj-t1j
    @juj-t1j 9 днів тому

    Thankyou so much, I wish you could live a joyful life too! God bless you, Wish you the best, Wish everyone the best!

  • @kekgaotsengmokgokong2262
    @kekgaotsengmokgokong2262 4 роки тому +4

    Move A Muscle Change A Thought It's What Captured Me Because Once You Start Acting, You Feel Better And In Turn Positive Thoughts Are Stimulated. Thanks Very Much

  • @marywidener1409
    @marywidener1409 4 роки тому +18

    This information was extremely helpful for me!! Thank you for doing this. I’m trying to work on my anxiety and I found this very helpful and insightful!!

  • @Gabeloveyou
    @Gabeloveyou 4 роки тому +4

    Perfect! 100% disabled for PTSD and pri caregiver for screaming demented wife. Will study you. Thanks ❤️❤️❤️.

  • @kahkashankhan9486
    @kahkashankhan9486 3 місяці тому +2

    Hello ma'am I am suffering from schizophrenia, insomnia, depression, anxiety,i am 32 years old girl,i am unmarried, negative thoughts of suicide murders disturbs me a lot that i get headaches,and i feel shameful about all this,i am from India Lucknow Uttar Pradesh,my name is humaira ❤❤ just loved your video ma'am thanks 🙏👍❤❤

  • @justagiggle2603
    @justagiggle2603 2 роки тому +2

    I’ve suffered for years with depression and always refused help, after watching this it makes sense to do it. Thank you

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  2 роки тому

      Wow. I'm so pleased to hear that. Yes, good therapy really can help!

  • @Kaitybardot
    @Kaitybardot 3 роки тому +9

    Thank you! I can only see my therapist twice a month and can’t get into a psychiatrist for weeks, so this is incredibly helpful. 💕

  • @kashkakent3511
    @kashkakent3511 4 роки тому +7

    This work you do is so soooo important... this needs to be in the educative system ... your work is so important/relevant and needed !!!.... Thank you Sharon 🙏🏻from my ♥️🙏🏻♥️🙏🏻

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому

      You are very welcome!! I appreciate your feedback :)

  • @douglassimoes7907
    @douglassimoes7907 4 роки тому +5

    I suffer from depression and two of the most affective methods for me in battling my depression is exercise and changing my thoughts about myself (shutting down negative loops) Watching your video and the phrase "move a muscle, change a thought" reminds me how often I wake up not wanting to exercise that morning... but the moment I have exercised I immediately feel better about myself. It's a two way street. Thoughts changing behaviour and behaviour changing thoughts. Thanks for the video :)

    • @janetpattison8474
      @janetpattison8474 2 роки тому

      I agree! Move a muscle, change a thought is so true, but I kind of don’t get the rest of it. Of exactly what other tools get me from A to B ?

  • @Niceworkson
    @Niceworkson Рік тому

    Thank you for being a great person and for helping people become more loving and understanding to themselves

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  Рік тому +1

      You are so welcome! And thank you for your kind words.

  • @christopherkillgore4129
    @christopherkillgore4129 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for the video. Move a muscle to change your thoughts is gold.

  • @sarahs3970
    @sarahs3970 4 роки тому +11

    This has been spot-on VERY perfect for what I need to keep track of and continue working on. Thank you so much!

  • @schoeyschoey1062
    @schoeyschoey1062 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you for taking the time to create and post this. Clear and concise. I feel inspired to change my behaviours and research CBT more.

  • @shelleymessier1494
    @shelleymessier1494 4 роки тому +33

    Yes, this is helpful. It's encouraging to see how much we affect ourselves by the way we think. I liked the phrase move a muscle change a thought. Great stuff. Things we know but it helps to hear and see from an external source. Thank you 😊

  • @compasstone8640
    @compasstone8640 Рік тому +1

    This is the best psychotherapy channel I have ever found. The most professional, helpful, insightful and well spoken. Thank you so much for sharing with us your videos; they are invaluable!

  • @captkulage
    @captkulage 2 роки тому +2

    You have explained more that I understand in this first 4 minutes and 45 seconds than I seemed to be able to find elsewhere. I am eager to keep watching, but you asked the viewers to leave a comment if that cycle makes sense/relation to what one might encounter. Yes, my life in the last 2 years and 4 months seems to have spiraled backwards into a deep abyss...and I'm still falling. I resigned from a safety sensitive, high income, long term career for this.. alone, unemployed without desire to be employed. I have become what I despised throughout my lifetime.
    I'm frightened and tired.
    I sincerely appreciate your video so far. Thank you

    • @skippy7208
      @skippy7208 2 роки тому +2

      Hey Charles I’m sorry you’re going through this. Reach out for help - do you have a family member or friend you can talk to? Lots of Facebook groups too👍 Andrew Huberman videos, Wim Hof method all will help. Take care of yourself 🙏❤️

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  2 роки тому

      Hi Charles: I truly hope this is helpful. How wonderful you are searching out answers - you are worth it - ! I wish you the best, Barbara

    • @captkulage
      @captkulage 2 роки тому

      @@skippy7208 Thanks for the information, I appreciate you.

    • @captkulage
      @captkulage 2 роки тому

      @@BarbaraHeffernan
      Thank you, that's encouraging. I'm going to be candid with you Barbara because I don't have anything to hide. Up until a few days ago , I'd been teetering and sifting through my options. I have decided not to enter anything inpatient, for now. There have been a few specific issues with regards to aftercare and my finances that for the long-term future I have been researching. This may not be the process of most that seek recovery, but for me, I have come to realize that sometimes my routes to successful pathways are not the same as my neighbor. So for now, I'd like to keep learning and self educate concerning CBT, addiction, triggers or anything else that brings a little more flicker of light to my tunneling end. I don't have what Rona mentioned, a loved one to walk with me, so to speak, through this journey. That factor is one of a few determining factors for me continuing to actively 'Use' while keeping an open mind on my options.
      I appreciate that you took time out for me, thank you Barbara.
      Charlie

  • @nasrinzaboli2718
    @nasrinzaboli2718 4 роки тому +6

    You are the best I have watched on UA-cam thank you so much extremely helpful

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому

      Hi Nasrin: You just made my day!! Thanks! I do appreciate it :)

  • @Grace-mn4fp
    @Grace-mn4fp 3 роки тому +5

    I've been doing avoidant behaviours now that it's really as natural as breathing, I think it comes from trauma, I seem to have to get to a really bad point in order to know I've not been feeling well, but I am going to take control of my life and help myself like I would a friend with these exercises. Thank you, it's very helpful because I love you explain it in a very clear way.

  • @alaynaskylar5494
    @alaynaskylar5494 3 роки тому +3

    I’ve been escaping reality and imagining a different place in my inner world and the visions I’ve created for myself as a refuge. I want to be more in touch with my inner world and not be so out of touch with it.

  • @butterflychaser4538
    @butterflychaser4538 Рік тому +2

    Your content is amazing and life changing, it gives me hope that I can heal ❤

  • @rockylarson7441
    @rockylarson7441 9 місяців тому +1

    As a counseling intern, this video beats all of the CBT books I’ve purchased! Go Barbara for making it easy to explain and understand!!! 🎉

  • @Tinyteacher1111
    @Tinyteacher1111 4 роки тому +6

    This makes total sense, and I’ve changed my own thinking and activities, which, in turn, made good things happen for me. I’m trying to get this through to my grown son who is an addict, has had quite a few brain traumas, and lives with a very negative father. I’ve had health issues for the past 15 years, so I can’t help him as much as I’d like, but he won’t help himself, either. It’s very frustrating because he also lives in a home with a lot of mold, and I know this can mess with your brain. I was there, so I know. 🙏

  • @lovemachinko8573
    @lovemachinko8573 2 роки тому +3

    Thanks so much for this. The love of my life and I are both struggling separately with our own trauma, anxiety and depression, & I feel this will set us on a path that helps us greatly.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  2 роки тому

      I hope it is helpful, and I wish you and your partner health and healing.

  • @chandrasingh7030
    @chandrasingh7030 4 роки тому +5

    God bless you I need this am suffering from anxiety I feel sad lonely and hurt all the time I pray that god heal me and everyone who need help with thanksgiving in Jesus name

    • @bhaskarmunjal1620
      @bhaskarmunjal1620 4 роки тому

      Good morning mam, A Very Easy to Understand and Practical Video on CBT and I am Watching the First Video on CBT.Thank You So Very much for Sharing your Knowledge and helping People in Desperate Need.😊.God bless you n ur family. 😊.Great Regards.

  • @nellier5704
    @nellier5704 3 роки тому +2

    Hi! Im 59 years old. I suffer with depresion for the last 18 years. Childhood unattended traumas, and health issues. While doing research I found your video. I like the way you explained CBT the therapy.

  • @zwgail
    @zwgail 17 днів тому

    11/5/2024 (5 12:36 12:36 1am est)
    Yes, everything you said in this video makes perfect sense. I have PTSD/DID so you can imagine the complexity of my behaviors and how little control I have over them. So, to find a channel such as yours is extremely beneficial for me. After years of therapy you have taught me things that are not only enlightening, informative and psychologically educational but what I love is that this was all done in a short concise way that holds your targeted audience interest. It is my personal opinion that many therapist, psychiatrist, educators and/or any professional who has valuable information for the mental health community should take a lesson from you. I will highlight two:
    1. Your information may contain new ground breaking breakthrough” information that the community needs to hear but if it isn’t short; meaning you don’t get to the main point quickly and make it simple; we already know our illness, so stop wasting our time repeating what we already know about ourselves ;
    2. Using language and/or words that in your own mind makes you sound and feel superior in your field of study.
    If this is your channel we aren’t listening; we’ve pushed the arrow to the right and we’re on to the next channel. 12:36 12:36 12:36
    Thanks Barbara,
    Sorry I’m a late comer 😅

  • @CharlotteLeguy
    @CharlotteLeguy 4 роки тому +7

    Thank you this was very helpful! I was stuck at that point because I thought if I feel bad I just need to heal the wound behind and then I ll feel better and able to move and do stuff; but I felt like I was failing and couldn’t get the joy feeling of doing something. I found sometimes that if I would do something even if I don’t feel like it, I would feel better afterwards. I had trouble to understand it because I was in the whole concept of « following joy », but I realized that sometimes I had to follow discomfort and fear and absence of joy to feel better...

    • @muddassaralishah5458
      @muddassaralishah5458 3 роки тому

      Do I have your permission, may I use your words in psychotherapy, presentations,lectures,speeches and motivational lectures etc?

  • @patriceduval1722
    @patriceduval1722 4 роки тому +9

    This was an interesting video because it explains why feeling's and thoughts that are negative can lead to unacceptable behavior with steps to take responsibility and change.

  • @NicholasJohnFilms
    @NicholasJohnFilms 3 роки тому +3

    This was one of the best videos on CBT that I’ve seen on UA-cam. Loved the added emphasis on the behavioral component. Thank you for sharing!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 роки тому

      Hi @nicholasjohnfilms: Thanks for letting me know! So pleased! And you are very welcome.

  • @mikebrenesell361
    @mikebrenesell361 2 роки тому +1

    What you are presenting makes complete sense.

  • @weobeyjesus4565
    @weobeyjesus4565 Рік тому

    Thanks Barbara. This helps alot. I have been suffering for a few decades and am determined to make a change so I do not waste the rest of my life. Thanks again.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  Рік тому +1

      You are so welcome! I wish you health and healing - and, yes, you are worth it!

  • @LeaFranceTV
    @LeaFranceTV 5 років тому +7

    Love your down to earth examples I can totally relate to. I learned so much about how my behavior could impact how I feel. You are so right about the fact we hear everywhere that how we think is the most important aspect but how we "behave" is underestimated. It was eyes opening!! Thanks

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  5 років тому

      Hi @LeaFranceTV! I am so pleased this was helpful for you!

  • @jetpilot3714
    @jetpilot3714 4 роки тому +4

    Yes, thank you for this video. The cycle makes perfect sense I’m caught up in it right now. Thank you again.

  • @cookingwithramya
    @cookingwithramya 4 роки тому +6

    Thank you for this! I recently started practicing counselling and CBT is one of the interventions I like to try with my clients and for myself. This video was like a refresher Master Class!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 роки тому +2

      Awesome! So glad you found it helpful, and can use it to help many more! :)

    • @cookingwithramya
      @cookingwithramya 4 роки тому

      Especially loved that you packed the whole concept into this single message - "Move the muscle, change the thought!" I am using that for myself too. Don't be mistaken by my UA-cam channel's name Barabara 🙈 I am trained and certified in counselling and also under supervision. I guess am sharing this because I wouldn't want to leave the impression that untrained/unqualified people are allowed to practice counselling in this part of the world. 😃

  • @monikaram17602
    @monikaram17602 Рік тому +1

    World needs more ppl like u ...I need therapy ..but I dont find the intellect ppl like u around me...even many dont know how to give the right therapy for my problem...therapy prices are too high to afford

  • @christianavila9209
    @christianavila9209 4 роки тому +1

    Dr. Heffernan these videos have helped immensely. Thank you so much!!

  • @johngallagher72
    @johngallagher72 4 роки тому +4

    Much thanks for posting. .definitely going to try this log when ever the anxiety or lonliness kicks in . Especially with Covid and these super weird times and changes its brought on. Much thanks .

  • @anasamer7223
    @anasamer7223 3 роки тому +12

    Please keep making these amazing videos! I've watched that one for 2 times to make sure I haven't missed anything. I'm already inspired to start changing my feelings by looking at my cognition s and behaviors. THANK YOU!!

  • @mariedillon1403
    @mariedillon1403 4 роки тому +10

    The cycle makes a lot of sense

  • @FernandoOcumare
    @FernandoOcumare 2 роки тому +2

    It makes so much sense. It describes the way I've felt in many, many moments of the day 🙏

  • @priscillaberkey9863
    @priscillaberkey9863 3 роки тому +3

    This definitely makes all the sense in the world. I need help with these patterns for sure.

  • @navyanarayanan7094
    @navyanarayanan7094 3 роки тому +5

    This video was very helpful!! being an Indian teen with anxiety, these videos are helpful for me who has parents who think that u are fake crying and faking everything abt your mental state. Thank u so much for your help

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 роки тому +1

      You are very welcome. I wish you health and healing.

  • @sarnold1277
    @sarnold1277 4 роки тому +4

    Your description of the cycle is spot on. Great video.

  • @kashkakent3511
    @kashkakent3511 4 роки тому +15

    Yes it definitely makes sense to me... and I desperately need this help with trauma CBT... new subscriber here 👍 and really appreciate your work 👍 thank you 🙏🏻

  • @janecole556
    @janecole556 2 роки тому +1

    Yes this is how I behave & feel!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  2 роки тому +1

      I am sorry to hear that but I hope this is helpful!