The only time there is room for an ex in the relationship is if one of the spouses has a child with said ex, and even then there’s lines that need not be crossed.
Listen to Bill. He’s right on the money. As a man, it kills me listening to this story. Honey, you’re being past nice.... you’re being needy. You’re 30, don’t waste precious time with this guy.
Seriously! I feel bad because she genuinely cares about this scumbag, and I think he seriously manipulated her. And you wanna know what really kills me, knowing that this is only 1 in about 10,000 stories that are happening right this second. That last bit can go with anything really, it's hard not to think about all of that shit.
The guy is being a complete narcissist. Doesn’t respect boundaries, “lets relationships happen” (it’s not his fault he and his ex get along great, right?), guilt trips the gf when her expectations are perfectly reasonable, if they did any form of the nasty or even kissing, gaslighting her. He wants shit his way and it’s never gonna change. Get out while you can.
The fucking gaslighting is the worst part. He knows their friendship is inappropriate because of their history and he knows his girlfriend has a problem with it, but he doesn't care.
My ex did this...he would text his ex regularly "checking on her". He would always say "he wants to make sure she's okay". He always made me feel guilty whenever I presented my boundaries. I should have trusted my gut...
@@kleshayer3751 "checking on their ex" is a trap. That just means they haven't moved on. Don't play the "I was waiting on you to message me first" game. I think this generation is so cool cuz we can find our soulmates faster. Let's just not mess it up for desperation
Mikael Only Idiots let themselves be manipulated. This guy is a waste of space and this girl is in love, she’ll put up with it for a while and get tired eventually. Still most girls wouldn’t put up with it, especially if they’re not that crazy about you, yeah right, they’ll be lining up other guys while you think you’re winning. When they’re finally ready, they’re with another person before you can blink. At least you still have your ex, although she’s probably with someone else too. Only women in love tolerate nonsense, until they get fed up that is. It’s not easy to get a girl to truly love you either.
Tegridy __ Yeah it is, especially if you treat her badly from the get go. Some men treat women badly when they’re already in love with them . Before she has feelings for you, not a chance. There’s always something about a guy that will make a girl love him, you treat her like shit before she sees that thing, you’re just some jerk she talks to her friends about. Also that intensity you talk about, most people don’t feel it when they meet someone. The fit and intensity in a relationship helps in making her love you faster, that I agree with but that strong connection you’re talking about isn’t common, most people grow that connection over time.
If they were so close, then why the hell did they break up? Move on girl, don't waste time that could be spent with someone who really loves you, I've been there, and now found someone who loves me, like I love him
It’s not always so black and white. I broke up with my gf, we are still friends after two years. Text almost every day and I would not even think about having sex with her. Our relationship just felt more like friendship, the love was gone.
I'm married and have a child with my ex. We talk like for 5 min once every 6 months when we pick up / drop off our common child. Seriously this guy is wasting that girls time, tell him it's her or his ex gf.
I bet the guy is not even handsome. He sounds like the type of sweet guy who convinces you he's good and then when you have given him a chance because of his heart of gold, the secrets come out.
I’m in this situation. He told me his best friend is a woman which my first thought was “ok then what do you need me for except sex?” But when I asked, he revealed they had briefly dated years ago, briefly so that makes it ok even though they slept together. And he’ll hang out with her because she has a kid from some other guy and something about being loyal. And he’ll mention how he feels bad that he hasn’t talked to her in a while. She dumped him BTW. He asked if I was jealous when I told him I’m not comfortable with it b/c I think it reveals some underlying issues with both parties. Narcissistic-Codependent maybe.
Damn, this dude is straight playing that poor girl. Just like the ex girl is playing her current man. The bf and the ex belong together and make each other miserable so much that they want to make others miserable.
@@darnellbaird206 nah I wouldn’t call it sweet. Ted is a narcissist that the show masquerades as sweet and touching. Kinda shows how society or media negatively portrays “loving” relationships
Lol They always gaslight and guilt trip you when you bring up that you're uncomfortable with them texting their ex. My ex wanted to start a "book club" with her ex while we were together. The guy who begged for her back and asked her to marry him just a few weeks ago while we were together. The guy who used her and left her. Then she goes on to tell me I'm acting controlling for having a problem with it. Some people fukc up all their relationships and never take responsibility for it.
Personally I agree with Bill 100% on this. My close girlfriend had a similar problem with her boyfriend at the time. They were in a 9 year relationship and he had a best girlfriend and he would tell her that the two of them are only friends and noting more. Fast forward to the present he left here after 9 years and now his so cold BFF and him have 2 kids.
So what does the ex girlfriends new boyfriend think about her texting her ex (your boyfriend) all the time? Is he cool with it? Maybe you should contact him and see how she likes it.
No idea what they're talking about, he's saying the woman should contact her boyfriend's, ex's, boyfriend. Which looks fucking retarted typed out but I get what they meant lol
Even if he stopped talking to his ex, it wouldnt go over well. If his ex is such a close friend, then deleting her from his life for his GF would most definitely bring some resentment towards his GF. Damned if you do, damned if you dont. I love Bill but I know part of why he settled down was because he was scared of being alone (which he himself has mentioned and has said that Nia has used that against him in past arguments). I know Im the oddman out but I would never take advice from someone who fears themselves into anything.
I agree especially that the boundaries are being trashed. The guy almost has a better chance just saying he still has true care for his ex and then trying to create healthy boundaries if those are possible at this point with everyone. It's hard to normatise being more open after it's been exclusive for so long but many people do it. This option wasnt mentioned.
Theres a reason why people aren't a couple anymore. Usually it's because one person isn't interested and wouldn't engage in texts. So yeah there's something going on with those two.
The only reason 2 ex should have a relationship is if they have children other than that there's no reason for it. doesn't matter how close they are what good friends they are.
Yep. I wouldn’t tolerate that for even one day. I would be out the door just on principle that someone even had the desire to stay that close to an ex. The occasional check in with an ex that you’re on good terms with is fine. But that’s it.
Ugh I went through this same situation and it was HELL, it was ok for a bit but then I seen she was still actively flirting with him and confiding in him. It got to the point where he was talking to and see her more than me...giving her rides to and from work, paying for her food, buying her dope..which that's all she was using him for was getting drug money.....she even had a husband but they constantly cheated on each other. I had my 2nd child and like a week later they were telling each other love you. That was the breaking point, it was either her or me and that's that. He chose me and cut all contact with her, it was still rocky for a while but we are doing good now. I soooooo wish I had this video back when this was going on to show him that the majority of people can see WTF is going on.
Why would you even want to stay with that guy? There are plenty of people out there that aren't going to pull that bullshit and you will have a connection with, it sounds like your afraid to be alone.
The guy is acting that way because he can. She is confusing being understanding with having no self respect for herself. The girlfriend knows it's wrong but doesn't want to leave the guy...that's why she wrote in. She's hoping he'll change after he hears Bill's advice. But really the person who needs changing is her. You shouldn't want to have kids or even a serious relationship with a guy like this. But due to your own desperation and lack of self respect, you're looking to hold on and have others change him.
Listen here I have cheated many times on great woman an I used to behave just like this guy. Get ready of him an have NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN. It will destroy him an he’ll realize you were great. It happened to me I learned my lesson. You’ll also be so much happier girl your 30 don’t waste anymore time on him.
I actually get where the girl is coming from, I was once in her shoes. Had a girl who a) was close with her ex, and b) later on broke up with me to sleep with some other guy. She's blind to the magnitude of his stupidity for the same reasons I was blind to my ex's: she can't process that he'd do something so slimy to her and believes he is commited to her (when he isn't), and she simply loves him. She's a pure soul. That said, GET THE HELL AWAY FROM HIM HOLY SHIT HE IS SUCH A FUCKING TOAD.
Most guys don't deserve the benefit of the doubt. Even people I know and love have done things I would tell people run from. There are good guys out there, but when a story begins with a lie and persists with a lack of consideration, it's time to leave.
I know she's trying to look at his good sides but come on... you should know how reality is with men and women being "friends" by 30 years old. I'm 23 and I knew this shit for a few years. EDIT: Forgot to include being friends with EXs while in a relationship isn't a good idea... while single it's fine since it's just you but if you respect your partner and if she respects you... then stop hanging out and talking with EXs.
So if the ex is so amazing and such a good person why did they break up? and who broke up with who? Just seems like the guy got dumped and is trying to stay friends incase he ever has a chance again....Sounds like the current girlfriend is just a fill in.
I never date people with close opposite sex friends. Any type of one on one activity with an opposite sex friend* is a date. Calling it something else doesn't change what it is. Opposite sex friends is my no.1 deal breaker.
F in the chat for the OP in this situation. Also F in the chat for the ex girlfriend’s new boyfriend too. I mean come in, it’s obvious that both OP’s bf and his ex still have feelings for each other and have no problem cheating. 🤷♂️ Maybe in a twist of fate, OP could get together with the new bf while the other two fuck off. 😂
Whenever I'm in monogamous relationships I'm okay with my partner being friends with their ex but one thing I would not allow is letting them go to overnight trips without me. This guy wasn't honest from the beginning that this friend is his ex so he's acting sketchy from day 1. And if my partner is noticeably talking to any other friend a lot more than me ex or not, I'd still be pissed about that too.
Thanks for posting this! Sooo many people put up with this. Good people put up with this and the manipulative nut milks it and tries to make this good person feel like they have the problem. Ok! Where's the dating site for decent folks? 😊 Why I enjoy your stuff
Idk tho. I've had exes that I've remained friends with, but didnt see them that way anymore. Going out and doing stuff, but SHE started to think it was a thing so I ended it.
There is a limit though. You can remain friends without constantly staying in contact. It's weird. I don't do that with my friends. The guy clearly has feelings for his ex lol
Once you are in a serious relationship with someone there is absolutely no reason for you to continue to have friends of the opposite sex, unless your significant other is friends with them too.
Fuck......I wish I saw this a year ago. My ex and his ex texted all the time 😔 he would say he can't let go of her cuz she's sweet and their history....fuck I got played
As someone who has been in these kinds of situations- everybody is fucking everybody and whether you admit it to yourself or not, that's just the reality. It's about being able to fuck someone wherever you are. It's about not letting go of good sex you were having, while being in a relationship that works better in public and on paper, but you can't let go of the sex and the fact that it's illicit and you're openly getting away with it makes it hotter. But it's not right and this girl writing in is willingly getting gas lit.
Depends why they split up I'd say. But being friends with your ex is weird. Super weird. I've tried it, it generally doesn't work, unless it's just a case of "Hey, long time no see." Stay amicable but not friends kinda thing. People need to explain their craziness before a relationship, not let people find it out during. XD I know, I say this, I'm single forever too. XD
She should change the locks for when he gets back from California. Leave his shit on the front porch with a note saying something along the lines of "I hope California was nice, you should have stayed!" or something.
I am still great friends with my ex but I can totally understand wanting to set boundaries. I think as long as those are respected and everything is transparent, it's fine. Ultimately, your relationship needs to come first.
“They have a shared hobby of photography, and liked to take photos of each other”
Yeah I bet they did
Bill, I love this man
Bill: WHY?
why you going to Indianapolis?
nice bra
If Bill remembered the crazy philosophy of his friend, the late great Patrice O Neal, then the answer to his "why?" is quite clear.
😂has me cracking up
Ha! I read this as he said it
The only time there is room for an ex in the relationship is if one of the spouses has a child with said ex, and even then there’s lines that need not be crossed.
Well said.
I love how bill is so sweet to her!!
Ladies deserve respect, not broads,
He’s calming down as he gets older. If this was a couple years ago he would have made a bunch of jokes from reading the title.
@@mathewburr2126 even so he ages nice like a fine wine!!❤
@@smileyattitude6807
I aged like a fine milk.
And I will never go back
Listen to Bill. He’s right on the money. As a man, it kills me listening to this story. Honey, you’re being past nice.... you’re being needy. You’re 30, don’t waste precious time with this guy.
keyword - precious time. absolutely right, sir
yeah, she's being a doormat at this point.
She’s being naive. Needy isn’t correct but yeah you agreeing with bill is the only correct part of this paragraph
Seriously! I feel bad because she genuinely cares about this scumbag, and I think he seriously manipulated her. And you wanna know what really kills me, knowing that this is only 1 in about 10,000 stories that are happening right this second. That last bit can go with anything really, it's hard not to think about all of that shit.
Exactly!!
Guy wants 2 girls for the price of one
Underrated comment. Lets make this hit 1K.
Mr. Man Bun: you won’t get 1k
Don't we all.
Sounds like he is swinging it
@@thereisnosanctuary6184 Tforer23 is your alt profile isnt it?
He's literally fighting with his partner so he could meet his ex. What the fuck. Wake up, this is beyond obvious.
“The boundaries have been obliterated sweetheart”.
The guy is being a complete narcissist. Doesn’t respect boundaries, “lets relationships happen” (it’s not his fault he and his ex get along great, right?), guilt trips the gf when her expectations are perfectly reasonable, if they did any form of the nasty or even kissing, gaslighting her. He wants shit his way and it’s never gonna change. Get out while you can.
Complete nars, yes.
You are wise. I learned the hard way.
Exactly! Get out while you can! No kids, no marriage? That's a clean break! Ditch the loser!
The fucking gaslighting is the worst part. He knows their friendship is inappropriate because of their history and he knows his girlfriend has a problem with it, but he doesn't care.
Listen to Bill! He’s 100% correct. Period. This dude is selfish AF.
Drop that dude. He's a waste of time.
My ex did this...he would text his ex regularly "checking on her". He would always say "he wants to make sure she's okay". He always made me feel guilty whenever I presented my boundaries. I should have trusted my gut...
Ashley Collins I’m about to start dating yo anything I should know beforehand?
@@kleshayer3751 "checking on their ex" is a trap. That just means they haven't moved on. Don't play the "I was waiting on you to message me first" game. I think this generation is so cool cuz we can find our soulmates faster. Let's just not mess it up for desperation
@Moon Shine I'm so sorry this happened with you. I sincerely hope you are happier now that you got out.
Wake up woman, he NOT a good guy when he is manipulative.
@Mikael yeah mate, but there's different levels right?
Mikael Only Idiots let themselves be manipulated. This guy is a waste of space and this girl is in love, she’ll put up with it for a while and get tired eventually. Still most girls wouldn’t put up with it, especially if they’re not that crazy about you, yeah right, they’ll be lining up other guys while you think you’re winning. When they’re finally ready, they’re with another person before you can blink. At least you still have your ex, although she’s probably with someone else too. Only women in love tolerate nonsense, until they get fed up that is. It’s not easy to get a girl to truly love you either.
Tegridy __ Yeah it is, especially if you treat her badly from the get go. Some men treat women badly when they’re already in love with them . Before she has feelings for you, not a chance. There’s always something about a guy that will make a girl love him, you treat her like shit before she sees that thing, you’re just some jerk she talks to her friends about. Also that intensity you talk about, most people don’t feel it when they meet someone. The fit and intensity in a relationship helps in making her love you faster, that I agree with but that strong connection you’re talking about isn’t common, most people grow that connection over time.
I hope he watches this after she breaks up with him!!
If she even breaks up with the douche
If they were so close, then why the hell did they break up? Move on girl, don't waste time that could be spent with someone who really loves you, I've been there, and now found someone who loves me, like I love him
Exactly. I alway think that first sentence which pricks like this. Just get back together you selfish time wasters.
It’s not always so black and white. I broke up with my gf, we are still friends after two years. Text almost every day and I would not even think about having sex with her. Our relationship just felt more like friendship, the love was gone.
@@bottombish9527 yeah, I can understand that. There's always two sides, sorry about your break up, nice to know your still friends
"Dump this guy yesterday"
I love when Bill gets heated about the advice he is giving. It cracks me up.
Bill being undoubtedly correct as always.
"I don't need to read the rest of this... *But I will* ."
Bill is such a nice guy.
I'm married and have a child with my ex. We talk like for 5 min once every 6 months when we pick up / drop off our common child. Seriously this guy is wasting that girls time, tell him it's her or his ex gf.
After 10 minutes of trashing this dude
“He’s an avid listener”
Dump this guy yesterday.
She meant he’s an avid listener of Bill’s podcast.
@@jdm90121 yes, well done.
I bet the guy is not even handsome. He sounds like the type of sweet guy who convinces you he's good and then when you have given him a chance because of his heart of gold, the secrets come out.
I’m in this situation. He told me his best friend is a woman which my first thought was “ok then what do you need me for except sex?” But when I asked, he revealed they had briefly dated years ago, briefly so that makes it ok even though they slept together. And he’ll hang out with her because she has a kid from some other guy and something about being loyal. And he’ll mention how he feels bad that he hasn’t talked to her in a while. She dumped him BTW. He asked if I was jealous when I told him I’m not comfortable with it b/c I think it reveals some underlying issues with both parties. Narcissistic-Codependent maybe.
Yuck. Dump him.
Those last two sentences sound incompatible with your first. I think you know exactly what to do. Hope it goes well for you.
Hope you ended up leaving, cause hell nah
Ugh once they talk about loyalty and shit... Next!
"I'll try, but if we end up alone together you can't be mad.." IF?
bruh SOUNDS like he's preparing to cheat if he hasn't already.
Damn, this dude is straight playing that poor girl. Just like the ex girl is playing her current man. The bf and the ex belong together and make each other miserable so much that they want to make others miserable.
This girls knows what is going on in her relationship. She just needs to hear someone else say it.
How I met your mother is basically about this exact situation. You don't want to be in a relationship with someone like Ted mosby
This comment opened my eyes. The show was sweet but imagine being Ted's wife.
@@darnellbaird206 nah I wouldn’t call it sweet. Ted is a narcissist that the show masquerades as sweet and touching. Kinda shows how society or media negatively portrays “loving” relationships
Ted is a creep for sure. my guy, you just saw someone for two seconds and now you need to marry her?
Break up with him. He's not worth your time lol
Lol They always gaslight and guilt trip you when you bring up that you're uncomfortable with them texting their ex. My ex wanted to start a "book club" with her ex while we were together. The guy who begged for her back and asked her to marry him just a few weeks ago while we were together. The guy who used her and left her. Then she goes on to tell me I'm acting controlling for having a problem with it. Some people fukc up all their relationships and never take responsibility for it.
The fact that the guy is an "avid listener" makes this SO much sweeter
"He's an avid listener" Priceless xd
Personally I agree with Bill 100% on this. My close girlfriend had a similar problem with her boyfriend at the time. They were in a 9 year relationship and he had a best girlfriend and he would tell her that the two of them are only friends and noting more. Fast forward to the present he left here after 9 years and now his so cold BFF and him have 2 kids.
@Tegridy __hahaha you are right I made an error in typing
9 years wasted. Damn what a scumbag
Dude... proofread, omg!
I never said "what" this many times watching a video
So what does the ex girlfriends new boyfriend think about her texting her ex (your boyfriend) all the time? Is he cool with it? Maybe you should contact him and see how she likes it.
That may be the most confusing sentence I've ever read
No idea what they're talking about, he's saying the woman should contact her boyfriend's, ex's, boyfriend. Which looks fucking retarted typed out but I get what they meant lol
He probably doesn't even know.
Even if he stopped talking to his ex, it wouldnt go over well. If his ex is such a close friend, then deleting her from his life for his GF would most definitely bring some resentment towards his GF. Damned if you do, damned if you dont.
I love Bill but I know part of why he settled down was because he was scared of being alone (which he himself has mentioned and has said that Nia has used that against him in past arguments). I know Im the oddman out but I would never take advice from someone who fears themselves into anything.
Yep. Girl just needs to move on
Seriously... you know you need to move on you just someone else to confirm it for you. You know exactly what he's up to.
I agree especially that the boundaries are being trashed. The guy almost has a better chance just saying he still has true care for his ex and then trying to create healthy boundaries if those are possible at this point with everyone. It's hard to normatise being more open after it's been exclusive for so long but many people do it.
This option wasnt mentioned.
Theres a reason why people aren't a couple anymore. Usually it's because one person isn't interested and wouldn't engage in texts. So yeah there's something going on with those two.
They probably don't work as a couple, but maybe the sex was good.
The only reason 2 ex should have a relationship is if they have children other than that there's no reason for it. doesn't matter how close they are what good friends they are.
This Podcast is making me think about other people's relationships for the first time in my life. I think I'm developing empathy and understanding.
3:32 best thing he's ever said
Love all the fired up comments from a 2 yr old clip
Your 20 hour ago comment is so quaint. How ya doing back there in the stone age?
Warning : red flag
Solution : leave now
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Ah, good ol' Billy Burrta-burrta-burrta-burrta-burrta!
Billy bleed bags
I can hear it. Great writing
She has to contact the boyfriend of the ex to check if there is the same thing on the other side.
Basically why risk it? Don't want to waste your life on someone who will potentially leave you or cheat on you.
Yep. I wouldn’t tolerate that for even one day. I would be out the door just on principle that someone even had the desire to stay that close to an ex. The occasional check in with an ex that you’re on good terms with is fine. But that’s it.
That guy don't care about her feelings. She should leave him and completely break it off
Even if he's not cheating he's cheating emotionally on you.
Ugh I went through this same situation and it was HELL, it was ok for a bit but then I seen she was still actively flirting with him and confiding in him. It got to the point where he was talking to and see her more than me...giving her rides to and from work, paying for her food, buying her dope..which that's all she was using him for was getting drug money.....she even had a husband but they constantly cheated on each other. I had my 2nd child and like a week later they were telling each other love you. That was the breaking point, it was either her or me and that's that. He chose me and cut all contact with her, it was still rocky for a while but we are doing good now. I soooooo wish I had this video back when this was going on to show him that the majority of people can see WTF is going on.
Why would you even want to stay with that guy? There are plenty of people out there that aren't going to pull that bullshit and you will have a connection with, it sounds like your afraid to be alone.
@@nicholasmaniccia1005 Alot of the times when you want to be with somebody you cant see the forest for the trees.
@@GRAFFDEMON your comment is the perfect response. Short and sweet, and right to the point.
Or at least you think.
So you stayed? Yeah I hope he ends up going back to her because that is foolish of you to take him back.
The guy is acting that way because he can. She is confusing being understanding with having no self respect for herself. The girlfriend knows it's wrong but doesn't want to leave the guy...that's why she wrote in. She's hoping he'll change after he hears Bill's advice. But really the person who needs changing is her. You shouldn't want to have kids or even a serious relationship with a guy like this. But due to your own desperation and lack of self respect, you're looking to hold on and have others change him.
The level of logic, calmness and consciousness of this lady is amazing. I'd probably merry her.
What logic? Wear a blindfold?
Bill and I said oh fuck this guy at the exact same moment
It’s very interested how we are a bunch of idiots in some relationships.
You can still be friends with an ex but not to an obsession or intrusive level... Boundaries need to be respected
Listen here I have cheated many times on great woman an I used to behave just like this guy. Get ready of him an have NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN. It will destroy him an he’ll realize you were great. It happened to me I learned my lesson. You’ll also be so much happier girl your 30 don’t waste anymore time on him.
It sounds better in Italian 🤣🤣🤣
I actually get where the girl is coming from, I was once in her shoes. Had a girl who a) was close with her ex, and b) later on broke up with me to sleep with some other guy. She's blind to the magnitude of his stupidity for the same reasons I was blind to my ex's: she can't process that he'd do something so slimy to her and believes he is commited to her (when he isn't), and she simply loves him. She's a pure soul.
That said, GET THE HELL AWAY FROM HIM HOLY SHIT HE IS SUCH A FUCKING TOAD.
I hope this guy heard the podcast.
I'll never understand why people do this, waste the time of someone new when still fucking around with the last one
"WHY DON'T YOU NICE YOUR HARRY ASS BACK TO CALIFORNIA"
Most guys don't deserve the benefit of the doubt. Even people I know and love have done things I would tell people run from. There are good guys out there, but when a story begins with a lie and persists with a lack of consideration, it's time to leave.
*most people
@@JM-bg2ts did you read the whole comment, or just the first two words?
We need updates
I know she's trying to look at his good sides but come on... you should know how reality is with men and women being "friends" by 30 years old. I'm 23 and I knew this shit for a few years.
EDIT: Forgot to include being friends with EXs while in a relationship isn't a good idea... while single it's fine since it's just you but if you respect your partner and if she respects you... then stop hanging out and talking with EXs.
Tell him stay California
I had an ex do this to me after her ex did it to her. I would never.
So if the ex is so amazing and such a good person why did they break up? and who broke up with who? Just seems like the guy got dumped and is trying to stay friends incase he ever has a chance again....Sounds like the current girlfriend is just a fill in.
Never thought about it that way but that makes so much sense. What a fucking douche
IT'S CALLED GASLIGHTING
I would have loved to have heard Nia's commentary on this one.
Extremely accommodating, wow, no way man.
2:03 Game over right there.
I agree with bill it's pretty simple.... Not so easy when you're in the situation unfortunately
If you choose to be a doormat, then do NOT make like a victim!
I never date people with close opposite sex friends. Any type of one on one activity with an opposite sex friend* is a date. Calling it something else doesn't change what it is.
Opposite sex friends is my no.1 deal breaker.
“‘She’s not nosey, she’s niiiiccceee!’”
He was probably just friends, but still fine for her to dip. Wonder what happened??
F in the chat for the OP in this situation.
Also F in the chat for the ex girlfriend’s new boyfriend too. I mean come in, it’s obvious that both OP’s bf and his ex still have feelings for each other and have no problem cheating. 🤷♂️
Maybe in a twist of fate, OP could get together with the new bf while the other two fuck off. 😂
End that relationship.. That’s all bad.. You don’t want to marry that...
Boundaries!
Lol dear Abby for the webbies.
I love the TV FOR MEEEEEE
Whenever I'm in monogamous relationships I'm okay with my partner being friends with their ex but one thing I would not allow is letting them go to overnight trips without me.
This guy wasn't honest from the beginning that this friend is his ex so he's acting sketchy from day 1.
And if my partner is noticeably talking to any other friend a lot more than me ex or not, I'd still be pissed about that too.
Thanks for posting this! Sooo many people put up with this. Good people put up with this and the manipulative nut milks it and tries to make this good person feel like they have the problem.
Ok! Where's the dating site for decent folks? 😊
Why I enjoy your stuff
Wonder what the guy was thinking as Bill layed into him..
Idk tho. I've had exes that I've remained friends with, but didnt see them that way anymore. Going out and doing stuff, but SHE started to think it was a thing so I ended it.
There is a limit though. You can remain friends without constantly staying in contact. It's weird. I don't do that with my friends. The guy clearly has feelings for his ex lol
Once you are in a serious relationship with someone there is absolutely no reason for you to continue to have friends of the opposite sex, unless your significant other is friends with them too.
i would say MAYBE and just *MAYBE* coworkers.
Bro, ya gotta scooot you're way outta that one.
Don't call women, Bro...Millennial.
@@thereisnosanctuary6184 thank you for educated me sir.
Bill is right. Ditch.
honestly if youre a woman like this , you cant blame a man for doing this to you. IF YOU DONT PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN , HE WILL WALK OVER YOU
Listen to this with a hiphop beat its crazy
I had a boyfriend like this. What a weird guy. I doubt he’ll amount to anything. He hasn’t yet anyway.
When Bill realizes the BF is also a listener lmaooo
He reads way better now
Fuck......I wish I saw this a year ago. My ex and his ex texted all the time 😔 he would say he can't let go of her cuz she's sweet and their history....fuck I got played
i wish i could see this LAADIES reaction to this vid and then her bfs reaction when she plays it to him
As someone who has been in these kinds of situations- everybody is fucking everybody and whether you admit it to yourself or not, that's just the reality. It's about being able to fuck someone wherever you are. It's about not letting go of good sex you were having, while being in a relationship that works better in public and on paper, but you can't let go of the sex and the fact that it's illicit and you're openly getting away with it makes it hotter. But it's not right and this girl writing in is willingly getting gas lit.
Depends why they split up I'd say. But being friends with your ex is weird. Super weird. I've tried it, it generally doesn't work, unless it's just a case of "Hey, long time no see." Stay amicable but not friends kinda thing.
People need to explain their craziness before a relationship, not let people find it out during. XD
I know, I say this, I'm single forever too. XD
She should change the locks for when he gets back from California. Leave his shit on the front porch with a note saying something along the lines of "I hope California was nice, you should have stayed!" or something.
No guy in a relationship should have a girl best friend no matter what the age let alone keep in contact with any ex
You are so right
I am still great friends with my ex but I can totally understand wanting to set boundaries. I think as long as those are respected and everything is transparent, it's fine. Ultimately, your relationship needs to come first.
Exactly man. You have to set boundaries. There is nothing wrong with being friends with an ex. This is clearly something else haha