I’m not sure why I am so anxious about this video going live - perhaps because I’m always wondering if I’m over or under sharing. My heart is to facilitate honest conversation to hopefully help someone else feel less alone in what they’re going through. Thank you for having grace when I’m not the most eloquent, respecting what I’m not yet ready to share + allowing me to process verbally as I come to new realizations. Though I’m eager to close this chapter soon, I’m thankful to be going through each phase w y’all by my side. Love you. 🖤
You’re amazing and your videos are my favorite to watch. I’m currently walking through a separation and working towards reconciliation but it’s hard and there’s so many parallels. I’ve listened to your podcasts with brook and my husband is also a 5 and I see so many similarities with my own husband. I just want you to know that you are so seen and loved and valued. Thank you for being so brave and open
I separated and divorced over thirty years ago. I can see the process I went through as you are going through it now. I do not have any regrets and I am thankful for the life moving forward.
Just came across your channel. UA-cam must know me well. I got married at 20 and divorced at 25, so very same story. I moved to Austin, lived alone for the first time, similar to you. I can say, now I'm 31 - happily married, trying for a family, and thriving. This is a significant chapter, but will be one you look back on fondly for how much you grow. Good luck in this journey!
I know that discussing divorce and separation is hard for you but I do need to say that I appreciate you being so open to it because obviously many people are going through the same thing. You are building a community and an openness for your friends to come together during a difficult time for them and for you. You are creating a safe space
Does anyone think that this divorce was the best thing that happened to her? I feel she is on her way to happier life and more successful career. Much love to you ❤️ I wish you all the love in the world.
My advice for the intimacy question is to not overthink it. Intimacy/sex etc. Is natural and beautiful. Don't let society or people around you determine how you feel about it. It's different for everyone. Wether it's waiting for marriage or having multiple partners just for the fun of it, that's all up to you, nobody else.
Timestamps: 3:06 How is my friendship with Kalyce? 4:05 How do you deal with your ex having been your world and now not even part of it? 5:15 Do you see a therapist and if so, what are your main takeaways? 6:25 What are your tips and tricks to meeting and making plans with new people? 7:18 Would you use dating apps again? Would you consider going on a date? 8:47 What has been the most healing thing you've done for yourself at this time? 9:49 Best way to support someone going through a breakuo/divorce? 10:45 Thoughts on kids? 11:18 How do you deal with betrayal? 12:01 Have your opinions on getting married young changed? 13:05 Will there come a time when you will share the reason for your divorce? 13:43 What do you miss most about CA? 14:13 How do you feel about having old content of you and your ex that people can pick apart? Why have you left your old podcast, etc... up? 17:05 Have you been in touch with your ex at all? 18:28 Is it still your goal to own or buy a house? 19:25 What has been your favorite resto in Austin? 19:55 Specific reason you thought you needed to move out of CA? Why TX? 20:58 Something you are looking forward to in a partner one day? 21:08 Red flags 21:33 Religion and thoughts on LGBTQ+ 22:46 Why Austin and not Boerne? 23:22 Why haven't you filed for divorce yet? 23:55 How do you stay positive? 24:30 Are you scared about your anniversary date? 25:25 Do you and your ex want to reconcile? 25:58 Bee tattoo? 26:11 Piece of advice for Michel 5 yrs ago? 26:18 Tips on living alone? 26:40 Will you get back into podcasting? 27:07 How did you know it was the right decision to split? 28:21 Favorite merit product? 28:39 Do you recomment couple's thewrapy? 29:15 How do you feel about intimacy in a long-term relationship outside of marriage/post-divorce
You're a lifestyle creator, it's only natural to post about what you're feeling or doing every day. We've all been loving your vlogs, so don't feel bad about the influx of content based on your divorce and move. Ii would be so strange for you to act like it didn't happen, when we are aware of it as the audience. Keep being you, keep doing what you're doing because I've seen dozens of lovely people sharing their stories and advice alongside your journey.
It's so empowering to hear a woman say that she's open to having children alone. Thank you for being such an inspiration to me and to this wonderful community that you've created!
If you haven't heard "Tolerate It" by Taylor Swift you should give it a listen. It's sad and might make you cry but I feel like it reflects a lot of the things you've said about your marriage.
Michel, you have no idea how much your videos and vlogs bring me joy. Anytime you’re not posting, I’m going back and watching old vlogs! I’ve built such a connection to you although we don’t know one another. I want to send you love and hugs. Thank you for always being so open, honest and always so genuine. Love you so so much🥺❤️
Girl, I was so alone when I went through my divorce after 14 years of marriage. I didn’t have a support system, so watching your support system brings me great joy. I think it took me 2 years before I felt normal again. You are making great strides to take care of yourself.
I'm in your position. He had addiction problems and isn't working on them. Two years? I was hoping it would be less. I don't know if I have the energy to get through two years like this. Any tips?
I think on your wedding anniversary you should definitely do something really special for yourself. Even if it's just treating yourself to your favorite take-out. Also I'd love to see the video about the best & worst aspects of living alone! Don't ever feel bad about talking about what you're going through. It's the season you're in. People don't have to watch. ❤ You are incredibly brave for sharing & have done it very mindfully & with grace.
A thought that occurred to me while you were answering the last question: anyone who's ok dating a divorcee is also going to be fine knowing you've been intimate before. Even other Christians. It would be ludicrous for them to think you got married and then were never intimate. I don't think you have anything substantial to worry about on that front. And I was raised very much with purity culture and sex outside marriage is wrong. I never personally believed that, but most of the people around me did. And the reality for them, the ones who got divorced later, was that new dating partners later were kind about knowing they'd been divorced. I never personally saw or heard any of them having trouble with a new dating partner having issues with knowing they'd been intimate before.
I got teary so many times during the video because you deserved so much more in your past. BUT you're in a better place now and things will only continue to look up from here. ❤️
For that day, you could change its meaning and do a yearly “Michel celebratory day” where you celebrate yourself and how much you’ve grown by doing everything that brings a smile to your face & a hug to your heart! However big or small the action may be. 🥰
I waited until 22 to have an intimate relationship (outside of marriage), and the most important thing for me was to understand what intimacy means to me. I felt at 22 that I was very secure in myself and was okay with intimacy in a long term relationship even if the relationship didn’t “work out.” When we broke up, I never felt like I “lost” anything or that intimacy made the break up harder. With age and maturity you learn how to navigate physical relationships in a loving and empowering manner. ❤️
You've already proven that you're more than capable of handling multiple projects, running your own business, being self-employed, a full time content creator, blogger, actor, and product designer. But just because you can do all those things, doesn't mean you have to. I'm glad you're taking a step back from all the side hustles to just be with yourself. It's amazing that you're being so mindful and intentional about it all! You're wise beyond your years to be able to recognise the need to slow down. And when or if you're ready, we'll all be here to support wherever you go next 😊💖
Honestly I'm loving your content way more post-separation. I'm sorry you're going through something so painful but I love this vulnerable, freer side of you. You answered the questions so well!
Speaking as parents of three grown children (one older & two younger), we were VERY impressed by how you navigated these questions. We first saw your full video on explaining your divorce, THEN...went back to binge watch most of your Vlogs to this point. Our oldest daughter went through a HORRIBLE marriage/divorce (complicated with two children), so we have been watching your videos to gain knowledge about the world from your lense. You have been vulnerable and honest through this journey, and we are SO supportive of you. We've known about you for three days, but we've watched over a year plus of your videos. Thank you. We know that you are doing this (being open) to help others that are going through this (have gone through this, or possibly just starting that journey), but you are also helping parents who've had one (or more) of their children go through this...and possible ways of navigating this process and that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. SO...we love you and are truly grateful for these videos. Marie and I have gotten to know you...and you've brought us to tears, but also we've laughed WITH you, too. So, even for the parents out there...that watch your videos...thank you.
I love the down to earth and humble honesty you use when being open. None of us are perfect, and I can relate so much to you avoiding conflict, validating others more and not stand up for yourself. I appreciate that the old podcast and videos are still up, we get to know you before and now and see your growth and that’s always great for followers. I agree with loving everyone as a Christian , love the person but not the sin, I also have had friends in that community, but we had an open honest relationship where they knew where I stood on the issue but I still loved them. We aren’t suppose to embrace the sin but we are to embrace the person.
Gosh for a 24 yr old, you most certainly appear very mature. I think you articulate wonderfully at the stage you are at, just share what feels right for you Michel, and don't feel pressured to explain what you don't feel ready xxxx
Michel, I hope you know we really dont expect you to show up as anyone but yourself. Been watching your channel for a while now and feels like we are real life friends! Just be you! We love you back the same no matter what! I appreciate the honesty and raw version so much!
I remember someone telling me during my separation ' when you make someone your world, and they leave, your world collapses!' My hard lesson was learning to know that I too am a priority and worthy, and that when I met my new partner, it felt all the lessons of the break up/ heartache, brought me the place where I could love myself and as such let someone love me ! So you hold on in there ! Stay strong and true to you ! Believe that the storm clouds will pass, and brighter days will come !
Although you can tell you are hurting you genuinely seem so much more confident in yourself - so much more certain in what you are saying. I admire your growth and the way you are challenging yourself, your efforts to be more kind to yourself, acknowledge your emotions, and embrace new beginnings. I think your openness to share and be vulnerable is so impressive and has such a positive impact on all of your viewers. Thank you for being so genuine and for sharing this process with us. You do not owe us, as viewers, anything, but we appreciate you and love you regardless 💛
I love the rapid fire answers, you can tell it's the real you and a real answer. You are going through a hard season but by sharing you will help so many to know they are not alone and that it's okay to not be okay sometimes, and it's okay to be okay too. I hope that makes sense. Love you my sister and I would gladly sit and watch Netflix all day with you. (That makes my introvert heart happy)
Your story is just so encouraging. Like you, I am so afraid of confrontation that I will hurt myself before I hurt someone. I have paid the cost of the mistakes of a lot of people because it is easier than confronting the situation. I can't count how many times I lick my wounds silently because it felt "easier" than the confrontation. And I've been like that my entire life. Although I've been in therapy (still am) I think I have not removed the tapes from my childhood where I was severely abused emotionally and told I was worthless and would not amount to anything. Even though I have proved that to be untrue, I still sell myself short many times. I will get quiet instead of speaking up. I think you opening up about your challenges, you are helping others. It takes a lot of courage to be this vulnerable and open. God bless you for that. You're so much stronger than you think!!!
I’ve been loving how honest and real you have been in this new season of your life! Regarding your anniversary I think you should have a day go for lunch go shopping get your nails done just treat yourself that day you deserve it! Invite your mom or a friend or go yourself!
I don’t usually comment on your videos but I always watch your videos whenever they come out and I just felt like saying this today…. Girl I am so sorry. It hurts to see how hurt you are and I hope you know it is NOT what you deserve. You didn’t deserve this, and better days will come for you. You did the right thing and I am so proud of you. You deserve the world and we love you and appreciate you so much
Right track now...move to Texas with Max + family + friends + finding a church is huge! Breathe & continue to put yourself out there to new experiences. Glad bestie & hubby are headed your way!
I feel so honored that you felt safe sharing more of what is on your heart and mind. Still praying for your sweet lady. You are so strong and so brave. And such a light in our world. Sending you tons of love this week.
One thing I’ve learned coming through a very similar season of life is that there is so much freedom in vulnerability and I’m very proud of you for being so open and honest in regards to your divorce. You are helping so many other women who are going through similar situations even if you don’t fully realize it. Praying for you in this season Michel!! Keep being who you are! You are so loved! ❤️
Im so happy I found you. My husband and I recently decided to divorce and I'm struggling with how to move forward and make life happen on my own. Hearing from others experiences is helping me cope!
I'm so proud of you and how far you've come since this all happened. Your honesty is refreshing but also that you're allowing yourself to heal and giving yourself Grace when sharing these incredibly personal things. Thank you for being vulnerable with us! As far as 2/2, I think that's a great day to celebrate you! Do something you love, spoil yourself a little. Maybe a night at a fancy hotel downtown somewhere where you can do a food tour!
Michel, I am SO proud of you. I’ve been a long time subscriber. I’m going through a divorce right along with you and you give me so much validation to my feelings. You are doing so wonderful, and I am every day praying for you and your heart. Seeing your growth is wonderful and seeing happy, carefree Michel is just wonderful. I love you. Take care hun.
As a fellow daughter of the utmost high🙌🏼, I love & agree wholeheartedly how you answered the LGBTQ question. Christ orders us to love others as he loves us & to treat others w/kindness. I wake up daily & try my best to do that. Your channel has been such a blessing to me😊TY & much love 💕💋
Phewwwwww, thank you for answering the LGBTQIA+ community. I struggled in the Catholic school system being told I’d be going to hell since being a teen. I am a lover of your videos, as a queer woman experiencing divorce with my ex wife which was so hard for my teen and I, I felt really seen. Thank you.
I was literally about to comment the same thing as your prayer! You might not realise, but you are doing a world of good, and creating a little corner on the Internet that is warm, accepting, authentic and welcoming. Whilst I'm not going through what you've been through, I've seen loads of comments, here, Instagram, the community tab, and especially our Online Friend Group on Facebook. Even if you never see the comments or get a chance to respond to everyone, please know that you are doing so many amazing things for people, just by being your lovely, friendly, authentic self
I would love to see a best-and-worst vlog of living alone! I am SOOO proud of your growth and resilience in this season. You are growing stronger each month. You are a beautiful daughter of God, and share his love through all you do. ❤️ I pray for your continued growth.
Michel I'm so heartbroken you've been treated so awfully ❤ You're incredible that you're doing so well despite it all. Sending lots of love and praying for you ❤
Appreciate your honesty and the clear boundaries you set for yourself on what you feel you can share. You don't have to be an open book to demonstrate integrity and genuineness. Lots of love right back to you!
I’m all for podcast with the parents!!!! They are so inspiring and what more rewarding to get all these lovely talks, and inspiration from youre family.
You have always been a graceful, beautiful lady, but lately you have truly impressed me with your real ness. Even when you show us your fragility, your strength shines through. With each video your inner joy seems to be blooming ..Thank you for being you.
I have only been with you on this journey since the video you have announced your divorce, but oh am I so thankful to now be a small part of your life and new beginnings. You are an amazing person and this video has shown me once more that I am here to stay. Thank you for opening up and sharing your heart. It is not an easy thing to do, but I know you are going to appreciate this time going forward. Only love and hugs to you "my friend" (because it has felt that way)
I am nowhere near the situation you are in but you are such a calming presence/person to see experience something so difficult. I know you don’t show the super difficult times but just keep it up girl! So glad your faith has helped you through this. You could always try one of those sip and paint at home things even if it’s just sipping on kombucha or something, like they do at painting parties! Make it a good day for YOU!
You are so so so sweet. You deserve the BEST. I’m going to pray you heal and then find the prince of your dreams with a beautiful relationship dynamic 💜
You are smart to wait until you are ready to share and sharing piece by piece. It’s your info to share or not to share, but I appreciate your perspective because it helps the rest of us gain perspective too!
I was married for 20. I’ve brought up my two daughters on my own. They kept me going. They have grown into two beautiful young women. I’m so proud of them. I said at the time it’s us three now we must look after each other and we did and still do. My daughter calls us The three musketeers 🥰 Thank you for being such a good inspiration to everyone
It’s so hard for me to watch any of the old videos with him. My heart goes out to you. You seem so genuine. I’m a bit frighten for him regarding Karma! Proud of you and setting boundaries. Thanks for being you! Holli from Texas.❤️
Thank you for sharing your feelings. It was very brave of you to answer those questions. I am also going through a separation after 13 years of marriage. It is soothing to know that one is not the only one going through a really tough time. God bless you. I wish you all the best.Stay strong and healthy, you are worth it!
I went through something very similar. I appreciate you sharing and thanks for sharing! I don’t feel as alone. I hope people start giving you some space. I also think people are just genuinely curious. Praying that you find healing where are you need it and that you always know that God is meeting you right where you’re at. ❤️
Hi! I'm not really one to comment literally ever but just in relation to the last question you answered - you can decide not to sleep with anyone again until marriage, or to sleep with someone on date 1, or date 50 or decide you want to go for it and then change your mind halfway through and it's absolutely 100% your business and no one else's! You're in the drivers seat!
Michel, I so wish someone was as open and wonderful as you when I was going through a breakup after a toxic relationship. It would have helped me leave that relationship so much sooner. I’m so happy now but I know you are making the world of a difference to people going through separation. Please know we all love you and are here to listen every step of the way. We are so excited to watch all of your updates because little by little your light has come back and is shining more than ever.
February 2nd I say you book a nice spa day, decked out spa ! You deserve it ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I think doing something for yourself, and going out will be a way to keep your mind off the bad and spoil yourself 🥰
Just want you to know you are loved and so very brave. I lost my husband of 27 years very unexpectedly in October. While our situations are very different, our broken hearts are not. I am so comforted by your sharing. I feel like I am with a friend who cares. Thank you for your willingness to be so vulnerable. God is using you for healing. Feels like a hug here. ❤ 🌺💐
You are a bright light in so many people’s days. Thank you for continuing to be your true authentic self, whether that’s happy or sad. You are enough. But when you choose to let love in again you deserve a loyal, super positive and amazing communicator who will complement you so that you both shine brighter together.
You make in difference in the lives of so many people and I always look forward to your videos. Although you are going through a rough season in your life, you seem genuinely happy about this new chapter in Texas. It's so nice to hear that you are focusing on yourself, your happiness and dividing up your time doing the things you like and spending time with the people you love. You deserve all the good things in life, surrounded by happiness and love! Thank you for being brave and sharing your story. We love you, Michel!
You’ve done such a good job dealing with how your life has changed. Thank you for being so honest and open about your whole process. I can’t relate to what you are going through but I’m studying for the CFP exam and my stress level and anxiety are extreme. I love watching your videos, they give me some sort of peace and calmness that is nice during this time in my life. Thank you soooo much!!
I’m very happy you will spend 2/2 with us even if the day comes and you change your mind that’s okay too. We are here to support you in whatever way we can. ❤️
I appreciate so much how candid and honest you are with what you feel comfortable sharing. I feel that this awesome group of online friends you’ve created is so caring that you could share as much as you want to and we wouldn’t think its oversharing. We so appreciate you!!
For your anniversary, I think find some place that is so beautiful it takes your breath away. A sunrise/sunset hike, river/lake/stream. Anywhere that moves your whole focus to awe. I know grieving the death of a loved one and grieving a breakup isn’t the same, but February 7th will be 12 years without my dad. On the 10 year anniversary I hiked to the top of Stone Mountain (GA) and just sat in the immensity. Very healing
Your young, BEAUTIFUL! and I know you will be fine. Hope you heal your heart. I'm 57 and my husband left after 24 years of marriage. Now my motto is DOGS BEFORE DUDES! GIVING U LOVE FROM OTTAWA 🇨🇦
"Just be held" by casting crowns, please give it a listen. I know your dad likes sending you music and this one really spoke to my heart and kept me up during a very tough time, thought it was worth a listen. It is very inspirational hearing how you've been transforming yourself. Being so vulnerable, yet so graceful about something so private and hurtful is admirable. Praying that God continues to heal you and keeps putting the pieces together. He always has bigger and better plans for us whenever any door closes.
You are lovely, Michel. On the outside...obviously, but you have such a lovely soul. Someone is going to snatch up those broken pieces and show you that true love is out there. Sending you so much love. 💗
I can’t quite verbalize why (but I’m going to try- can’t promise I’ll do this well) but my husband and I separated and came very close to getting a divorce a little over a year ago and while we have managed to salvage our marriage and work together to stay together- I find your videos so incredibly healing to the part of me that felt so lost in that time of separation, when I didn’t know what was going to happen or how I would be able to survive that type of loss and your videos help me feel strong watching you be so strong and adjusting to what life has thrown at you. I hope this makes a bit of sense. Because you are doing it I feel comfort know if I needed to I could too. I told you I didn’t know how to verbalize this well, but just know your videos really have such value and God must be so proud of the love you show this community by opening up and letting others in. Praying for you girl! And thank you for being open and letting us in as your online friends. We love you 💛💛
I’d love a podcast with your parents if they are up for it! Your parents are amazing and so supportive of you ❤️ You should do a spa day on your anniversary, something to make you feel good for yourself. Do it at home, bubble bath, candles, mock-tails, facial 💝 It’s what I did my first year alone. I allowed myself all the feels and felt so much better after. Take care and stay safe 💝
This is a tricky thing. I've never watched the podcast, and the reason is, for the two or three years prior that I'd been a subscriber, I'd been frustrated by your interactions with Brook. You were so lovely and loving, so enthusiastic and vibrant and I felt like Brook barely grunted acknowledgement. I never said anything and I watched so many people comment about couple goals and how adorable he was and the two of you were together, and I wondered, "Is it just me who sees this?" I hope you find someone someday who is as loving and vibrant and enthusiastic as you; you deserve no less. I hope you take this in the way it is meant, which is to encourage you to continue to be the warm open-hearted person you are. And you deserve someone like yourself.
Thank you so so much for sharing your journey through divorce. I am going through one right now and struggled to find a young christian woman who had been through the same thing, so hearing and watching your videos is so so relatable AND refreshing. Your pain is definitely for a purpose, I can say you have definitely already helped ME! I am in London UK, and so so glad to have found you. EVERYTHING you have said has made me feel less alone and I’m just in awe of similar our situation sounds. Sending you love, and grateful positive vibes from the UK. Thank you Michel xxxx
I spend my now former wedding anniversary as my "dark day." Meaning I go dark, no communication with others and I literally do whatever I want, just see what I feel that day and what I want. It's been three years and every year is different but it's just a day to take care of myself and do only what I want and not worry about pleasing or taking care of anyone else. Thanks for all you're sharing, you're not alone.
The constantly playing music living alone tip is so good - I do this (I actually don’t live alone but have a very different schedule to my fiancé so don’t see him most nights) and it helps with lonliness so much
You are so brave. I was in your place several years ago. I see your light and positivity shining through all this, and know you will one day look back and know you are stronger for having this experience. Sending you my prayers and blessings as you learn new things from here forward. Im so glad you have Max to keep you smiling!
I would love to hear a podcast done by you and your parents! They seem to be so successful in many areas of life and I’m sure have a lot of wisdom to share!
Your videos brighten my day so much! I also just want you to know I have already seen so much growth in you over the past few months and it doesn’t go unnoticed! I’m proud of you!❤️
Michel 💕 you don’t have an idea of how much you are helping me right now, I just have a breakup with my long time fiancé, and seen you really gives me hope in the future. You can touch every heart with your videos, I’m not even from the US I’m from Costa Rica, and you have touched my heart ❤️ thank you 😊
Appreciate you for this. I went through a deep betrayal two years ago and still struggle. Even with amazing support and therapy. Trying to survive one day at a time.
As Brene Brown teaches, there is such strength in vulnerability. Thank you for sharing these answers with us. I also wanted to say how supported I feel as a member of the LGBTQ+ community to hear you say that. Makes me proud to have supported you and your channel (by viewing and using your sponsored links) for the past year or so 💕 You are doing great!!!!
I’m not sure why I am so anxious about this video going live - perhaps because I’m always wondering if I’m over or under sharing. My heart is to facilitate honest conversation to hopefully help someone else feel less alone in what they’re going through. Thank you for having grace when I’m not the most eloquent, respecting what I’m not yet ready to share + allowing me to process verbally as I come to new realizations. Though I’m eager to close this chapter soon, I’m thankful to be going through each phase w y’all by my side. Love you. 🖤
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You’re amazing and your videos are my favorite to watch. I’m currently walking through a separation and working towards reconciliation but it’s hard and there’s so many parallels. I’ve listened to your podcasts with brook and my husband is also a 5 and I see so many similarities with my own husband. I just want you to know that you are so seen and loved and valued. Thank you for being so brave and open
I separated and divorced over thirty years ago. I can see the process I went through as you are going through it now. I do not have any regrets and I am thankful for the life moving forward.
Just came across your channel. UA-cam must know me well. I got married at 20 and divorced at 25, so very same story. I moved to Austin, lived alone for the first time, similar to you. I can say, now I'm 31 - happily married, trying for a family, and thriving. This is a significant chapter, but will be one you look back on fondly for how much you grow. Good luck in this journey!
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I know that discussing divorce and separation is hard for you but I do need to say that I appreciate you being so open to it because obviously many people are going through the same thing. You are building a community and an openness for your friends to come together during a difficult time for them and for you. You are creating a safe space
Does anyone think that this divorce was the best thing that happened to her? I feel she is on her way to happier life and more successful career. Much love to you ❤️ I wish you all the love in the world.
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My advice for the intimacy question is to not overthink it. Intimacy/sex etc. Is natural and beautiful. Don't let society or people around you determine how you feel about it. It's different for everyone. Wether it's waiting for marriage or having multiple partners just for the fun of it, that's all up to you, nobody else.
Timestamps:
3:06 How is my friendship with Kalyce?
4:05 How do you deal with your ex having been your world and now not even part of it?
5:15 Do you see a therapist and if so, what are your main takeaways?
6:25 What are your tips and tricks to meeting and making plans with new people?
7:18 Would you use dating apps again? Would you consider going on a date?
8:47 What has been the most healing thing you've done for yourself at this time?
9:49 Best way to support someone going through a breakuo/divorce?
10:45 Thoughts on kids?
11:18 How do you deal with betrayal?
12:01 Have your opinions on getting married young changed?
13:05 Will there come a time when you will share the reason for your divorce?
13:43 What do you miss most about CA?
14:13 How do you feel about having old content of you and your ex that people can pick apart? Why have you left your old podcast, etc... up?
17:05 Have you been in touch with your ex at all?
18:28 Is it still your goal to own or buy a house?
19:25 What has been your favorite resto in Austin?
19:55 Specific reason you thought you needed to move out of CA? Why TX?
20:58 Something you are looking forward to in a partner one day?
21:08 Red flags
21:33 Religion and thoughts on LGBTQ+
22:46 Why Austin and not Boerne?
23:22 Why haven't you filed for divorce yet?
23:55 How do you stay positive?
24:30 Are you scared about your anniversary date?
25:25 Do you and your ex want to reconcile?
25:58 Bee tattoo?
26:11 Piece of advice for Michel 5 yrs ago?
26:18 Tips on living alone?
26:40 Will you get back into podcasting?
27:07 How did you know it was the right decision to split?
28:21 Favorite merit product?
28:39 Do you recomment couple's thewrapy?
29:15 How do you feel about intimacy in a long-term relationship outside of marriage/post-divorce
Thanks!
You're a lifestyle creator, it's only natural to post about what you're feeling or doing every day. We've all been loving your vlogs, so don't feel bad about the influx of content based on your divorce and move. Ii would be so strange for you to act like it didn't happen, when we are aware of it as the audience. Keep being you, keep doing what you're doing because I've seen dozens of lovely people sharing their stories and advice alongside your journey.
I can’t put into words how much I appreciate you, Ele. Thank you for always bringing such eloquent wisdom!🤍
@@MichelJanse I feel the same way, you brighten my day every time I watch your videos. Thank you, friend 💖😊
Thank you for being so vulnerable ❤️ you are impacting so many more lives than you realize! We are all grateful for you!
This means so much. Thank you! I always get so anxious about sharing too much so thus truly means a lot to know 🤍
@@MichelJansehi my name is Mike Horton do you hate my name just asking
It's so empowering to hear a woman say that she's open to having children alone. Thank you for being such an inspiration to me and to this wonderful community that you've created!
If you haven't heard "Tolerate It" by Taylor Swift you should give it a listen. It's sad and might make you cry but I feel like it reflects a lot of the things you've said about your marriage.
Michel, you have no idea how much your videos and vlogs bring me joy. Anytime you’re not posting, I’m going back and watching old vlogs! I’ve built such a connection to you although we don’t know one another. I want to send you love and hugs. Thank you for always being so open, honest and always so genuine. Love you so so much🥺❤️
AWE! Love and hugs right back at you, friend 🥺🤍
Girl, I was so alone when I went through my divorce after 14 years of marriage. I didn’t have a support system, so watching your support system brings me great joy. I think it took me 2 years before I felt normal again. You are making great strides to take care of yourself.
I'm in your position. He had addiction problems and isn't working on them. Two years? I was hoping it would be less. I don't know if I have the energy to get through two years like this. Any tips?
I think on your wedding anniversary you should definitely do something really special for yourself. Even if it's just treating yourself to your favorite take-out. Also I'd love to see the video about the best & worst aspects of living alone! Don't ever feel bad about talking about what you're going through. It's the season you're in. People don't have to watch. ❤ You are incredibly brave for sharing & have done it very mindfully & with grace.
I've adopted the phrase "season of life", it's really refreshing to refer to periods of time this way. Thank you for your vulnerability
A thought that occurred to me while you were answering the last question: anyone who's ok dating a divorcee is also going to be fine knowing you've been intimate before. Even other Christians. It would be ludicrous for them to think you got married and then were never intimate. I don't think you have anything substantial to worry about on that front. And I was raised very much with purity culture and sex outside marriage is wrong. I never personally believed that, but most of the people around me did. And the reality for them, the ones who got divorced later, was that new dating partners later were kind about knowing they'd been divorced. I never personally saw or heard any of them having trouble with a new dating partner having issues with knowing they'd been intimate before.
I got teary so many times during the video because you deserved so much more in your past. BUT you're in a better place now and things will only continue to look up from here. ❤️
For that day, you could change its meaning and do a yearly “Michel celebratory day” where you celebrate yourself and how much you’ve grown by doing everything that brings a smile to your face & a hug to your heart! However big or small the action may be. 🥰
I waited until 22 to have an intimate relationship (outside of marriage), and the most important thing for me was to understand what intimacy means to me. I felt at 22 that I was very secure in myself and was okay with intimacy in a long term relationship even if the relationship didn’t “work out.” When we broke up, I never felt like I “lost” anything or that intimacy made the break up harder. With age and maturity you learn how to navigate physical relationships in a loving and empowering manner. ❤️
You've already proven that you're more than capable of handling multiple projects, running your own business, being self-employed, a full time content creator, blogger, actor, and product designer. But just because you can do all those things, doesn't mean you have to. I'm glad you're taking a step back from all the side hustles to just be with yourself. It's amazing that you're being so mindful and intentional about it all! You're wise beyond your years to be able to recognise the need to slow down. And when or if you're ready, we'll all be here to support wherever you go next 😊💖
Honestly I'm loving your content way more post-separation. I'm sorry you're going through something so painful but I love this vulnerable, freer side of you. You answered the questions so well!
Speaking as parents of three grown children (one older & two younger), we were VERY impressed by how you navigated these questions.
We first saw your full video on explaining your divorce, THEN...went back to binge watch most of your Vlogs to this point. Our oldest daughter went through a HORRIBLE marriage/divorce (complicated with two children), so we have been watching your videos to gain knowledge about the world from your lense. You have been vulnerable and honest through this journey, and we are SO supportive of you. We've known about you for three days, but we've watched over a year plus of your videos. Thank you. We know that you are doing this (being open) to help others that are going through this (have gone through this, or possibly just starting that journey), but you are also helping parents who've had one (or more) of their children go through this...and possible ways of navigating this process and that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. SO...we love you and are truly grateful for these videos. Marie and I have gotten to know you...and you've brought us to tears, but also we've laughed WITH you, too. So, even for the parents out there...that watch your videos...thank you.
I am loving all the content! Such beautiful growth and transitions! You are such a breath of fresh air!
2022 is my year of GROWTH!🥰 thank you, I appreciate you so much 🤍
@@MichelJanse 🌱 🪴 🙏🏻
I love the down to earth and humble honesty you use when being open. None of us are perfect, and I can relate so much to you avoiding conflict, validating others more and not stand up for yourself. I appreciate that the old podcast and videos are still up, we get to know you before and now and see your growth and that’s always great for followers. I agree with loving everyone as a Christian , love the person but not the sin, I also have had friends in that community, but we had an open honest relationship where they knew where I stood on the issue but I still loved them. We aren’t suppose to embrace the sin but we are to embrace the person.
Gosh for a 24 yr old, you most certainly appear very mature. I think you articulate wonderfully at the stage you are at, just share what feels right for you Michel, and don't feel pressured to explain what you don't feel ready xxxx
Michel, I hope you know we really dont expect you to show up as anyone but yourself. Been watching your channel for a while now and feels like we are real life friends! Just be you! We love you back the same no matter what! I appreciate the honesty and raw version so much!
I love when you share about your divorce in your videos! It makes me feel less alone in my own (similar but different) problems.
You seem incredibly genuine & the next person that you choose to share your life with, will actually deserve you❤️
I remember someone telling me during my separation ' when you make someone your world, and they leave, your world collapses!' My hard lesson was learning to know that I too am a priority and worthy, and that when I met my new partner, it felt all the lessons of the break up/ heartache, brought me the place where I could love myself and as such let someone love me ! So you hold on in there ! Stay strong and true to you ! Believe that the storm clouds will pass, and brighter days will come !
Although you can tell you are hurting you genuinely seem so much more confident in yourself - so much more certain in what you are saying. I admire your growth and the way you are challenging yourself, your efforts to be more kind to yourself, acknowledge your emotions, and embrace new beginnings. I think your openness to share and be vulnerable is so impressive and has such a positive impact on all of your viewers. Thank you for being so genuine and for sharing this process with us. You do not owe us, as viewers, anything, but we appreciate you and love you regardless 💛
I love the rapid fire answers, you can tell it's the real you and a real answer. You are going through a hard season but by sharing you will help so many to know they are not alone and that it's okay to not be okay sometimes, and it's okay to be okay too. I hope that makes sense. Love you my sister and I would gladly sit and watch Netflix all day with you. (That makes my introvert heart happy)
Your story is just so encouraging. Like you, I am so afraid of confrontation that I will hurt myself before I hurt someone. I have paid the cost of the mistakes of a lot of people because it is easier than confronting the situation. I can't count how many times I lick my wounds silently because it felt "easier" than the confrontation. And I've been like that my entire life. Although I've been in therapy (still am) I think I have not removed the tapes from my childhood where I was severely abused emotionally and told I was worthless and would not amount to anything. Even though I have proved that to be untrue, I still sell myself short many times. I will get quiet instead of speaking up. I think you opening up about your challenges, you are helping others. It takes a lot of courage to be this vulnerable and open. God bless you for that. You're so much stronger than you think!!!
I’ve been loving how honest and real you have been in this new season of your life! Regarding your anniversary I think you should have a day go for lunch go shopping get your nails done just treat yourself that day you deserve it! Invite your mom or a friend or go yourself!
I don’t usually comment on your videos but I always watch your videos whenever they come out and I just felt like saying this today…. Girl I am so sorry. It hurts to see how hurt you are and I hope you know it is NOT what you deserve. You didn’t deserve this, and better days will come for you. You did the right thing and I am so proud of you. You deserve the world and we love you and appreciate you so much
Right track now...move to Texas with Max + family + friends + finding a church is huge! Breathe & continue to put yourself out there to new experiences. Glad bestie & hubby are headed your way!
I feel so honored that you felt safe sharing more of what is on your heart and mind. Still praying for your sweet lady. You are so strong and so brave. And such a light in our world. Sending you tons of love this week.
One thing I’ve learned coming through a very similar season of life is that there is so much freedom in vulnerability and I’m very proud of you for being so open and honest in regards to your divorce. You are helping so many other women who are going through similar situations even if you don’t fully realize it. Praying for you in this season Michel!! Keep being who you are! You are so loved! ❤️
Im so happy I found you. My husband and I recently decided to divorce and I'm struggling with how to move forward and make life happen on my own. Hearing from others experiences is helping me cope!
I'm so proud of you and how far you've come since this all happened. Your honesty is refreshing but also that you're allowing yourself to heal and giving yourself Grace when sharing these incredibly personal things. Thank you for being vulnerable with us!
As far as 2/2, I think that's a great day to celebrate you! Do something you love, spoil yourself a little. Maybe a night at a fancy hotel downtown somewhere where you can do a food tour!
I can see how confident and sure of yourself you've become through these videos. We appreciate everything that you feel comfortable to share 💛
Michel,
I am SO proud of you. I’ve been a long time subscriber. I’m going through a divorce right along with you and you give me so much validation to my feelings. You are doing so wonderful, and I am every day praying for you and your heart. Seeing your growth is wonderful and seeing happy, carefree Michel is just wonderful. I love you. Take care hun.
As a fellow daughter of the utmost high🙌🏼, I love & agree wholeheartedly how you answered the LGBTQ question. Christ orders us to love others as he loves us & to treat others w/kindness. I wake up daily & try my best to do that. Your channel has been such a blessing to me😊TY & much love 💕💋
Phewwwwww, thank you for answering the LGBTQIA+ community. I struggled in the Catholic school system being told I’d be going to hell since being a teen. I am a lover of your videos, as a queer woman experiencing divorce with my ex wife which was so hard for my teen and I, I felt really seen. Thank you.
I was literally about to comment the same thing as your prayer! You might not realise, but you are doing a world of good, and creating a little corner on the Internet that is warm, accepting, authentic and welcoming. Whilst I'm not going through what you've been through, I've seen loads of comments, here, Instagram, the community tab, and especially our Online Friend Group on Facebook. Even if you never see the comments or get a chance to respond to everyone, please know that you are doing so many amazing things for people, just by being your lovely, friendly, authentic self
I would love to see a best-and-worst vlog of living alone! I am SOOO proud of your growth and resilience in this season. You are growing stronger each month. You are a beautiful daughter of God, and share his love through all you do. ❤️ I pray for your continued growth.
Hi Michel I’m ready for the open conversation and honesty 🤗
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Michel I'm so heartbroken you've been treated so awfully ❤ You're incredible that you're doing so well despite it all. Sending lots of love and praying for you ❤
Appreciate your honesty and the clear boundaries you set for yourself on what you feel you can share. You don't have to be an open book to demonstrate integrity and genuineness. Lots of love right back to you!
I’m all for podcast with the parents!!!! They are so inspiring and what more rewarding to get all these lovely talks, and inspiration from youre family.
I gotta say, I'm new here but the level of maturity I see in you is immensely! Praying for you in this season of life.
A podcast with your parents would be AMAZING! I need that in my life!
Praying for you ❤️ hope this season of life continues to get better x
Thank you Annie🥰
You have always been a graceful, beautiful lady, but lately you have truly impressed me with your real ness. Even when you show us your fragility, your strength shines through. With each video your inner joy seems to be blooming ..Thank you for being you.
I have only been with you on this journey since the video you have announced your divorce, but oh am I so thankful to now be a small part of your life and new beginnings. You are an amazing person and this video has shown me once more that I am here to stay. Thank you for opening up and sharing your heart. It is not an easy thing to do, but I know you are going to appreciate this time going forward. Only love and hugs to you "my friend" (because it has felt that way)
I am nowhere near the situation you are in but you are such a calming presence/person to see experience something so difficult. I know you don’t show the super difficult times but just keep it up girl! So glad your faith has helped you through this.
You could always try one of those sip and paint at home things even if it’s just sipping on kombucha or something, like they do at painting parties! Make it a good day for YOU!
You are so so so sweet. You deserve the BEST. I’m going to pray you heal and then find the prince of your dreams with a beautiful relationship dynamic 💜
You are smart to wait until you are ready to share and sharing piece by piece. It’s your info to share or not to share, but I appreciate your perspective because it helps the rest of us gain perspective too!
I was married for 20. I’ve brought up my two daughters on my own. They kept me going. They have grown into two beautiful young women. I’m so proud of them. I said at the time it’s us three now we must look after each other and we did and still do. My daughter calls us The three musketeers 🥰 Thank you for being such a good inspiration to everyone
It’s so hard for me to watch any of the old videos with him. My heart goes out to you. You seem so genuine. I’m a bit frighten for him regarding Karma! Proud of you and setting boundaries. Thanks for being you! Holli from Texas.❤️
Thank you for sharing your feelings. It was very brave of you to answer those questions. I am also going through a separation after 13 years of marriage. It is soothing to know that one is not the only one going through a really tough time. God bless you. I wish you all the best.Stay strong and healthy, you are worth it!
I went through something very similar. I appreciate you sharing and thanks for sharing! I don’t feel as alone. I hope people start giving you some space. I also think people are just genuinely curious. Praying that you find healing where are you need it and that you always know that God is meeting you right where you’re at. ❤️
Thank you Nicole🤍 I’m so sorry you went through something similar.
Hi! I'm not really one to comment literally ever but just in relation to the last question you answered - you can decide not to sleep with anyone again until marriage, or to sleep with someone on date 1, or date 50 or decide you want to go for it and then change your mind halfway through and it's absolutely 100% your business and no one else's! You're in the drivers seat!
Michel, I so wish someone was as open and wonderful as you when I was going through a breakup after a toxic relationship. It would have helped me leave that relationship so much sooner. I’m so happy now but I know you are making the world of a difference to people going through separation. Please know we all love you and are here to listen every step of the way. We are so excited to watch all of your updates because little by little your light has come back and is shining more than ever.
February 2nd I say you book a nice spa day, decked out spa ! You deserve it ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I think doing something for yourself, and going out will be a way to keep your mind off the bad and spoil yourself 🥰
Just want you to know you are loved and so very brave.
I lost my husband of 27 years very unexpectedly in October. While our situations are very different, our broken hearts are not. I am so comforted by your sharing. I feel like I am with a friend who cares. Thank you for your willingness to be so vulnerable. God is using you for healing. Feels like a hug here. ❤ 🌺💐
You are a bright light in so many people’s days. Thank you for continuing to be your true authentic self, whether that’s happy or sad. You are enough. But when you choose to let love in again you deserve a loyal, super positive and amazing communicator who will complement you so that you both shine brighter together.
You make in difference in the lives of so many people and I always look forward to your videos. Although you are going through a rough season in your life, you seem genuinely happy about this new chapter in Texas. It's so nice to hear that you are focusing on yourself, your happiness and dividing up your time doing the things you like and spending time with the people you love. You deserve all the good things in life, surrounded by happiness and love! Thank you for being brave and sharing your story. We love you, Michel!
You’ve done such a good job dealing with how your life has changed. Thank you for being so honest and open about your whole process. I can’t relate to what you are going through but I’m studying for the CFP exam and my stress level and anxiety are extreme. I love watching your videos, they give me some sort of peace and calmness that is nice during this time in my life. Thank you soooo much!!
I’m very happy you will spend 2/2 with us even if the day comes and you change your mind that’s okay too. We are here to support you in whatever way we can. ❤️
You did a great job answering all of these tough questions. You're so well spoken. Stay strong!
I appreciate so much how candid and honest you are with what you feel comfortable sharing. I feel that this awesome group of online friends you’ve created is so caring that you could share as much as you want to and we wouldn’t think its oversharing. We so appreciate you!!
I wish you could see yourself through my eyes. I have such respect for you and I wish you peace and contentment on this journey of healing.
For your anniversary, I think find some place that is so beautiful it takes your breath away. A sunrise/sunset hike, river/lake/stream. Anywhere that moves your whole focus to awe. I know grieving the death of a loved one and grieving a breakup isn’t the same, but February 7th will be 12 years without my dad. On the 10 year anniversary I hiked to the top of Stone Mountain (GA) and just sat in the immensity. Very healing
Your young, BEAUTIFUL! and I know you will be fine. Hope you heal your heart. I'm 57 and my husband left after 24 years of marriage. Now my motto is DOGS BEFORE DUDES! GIVING U LOVE FROM OTTAWA 🇨🇦
Wow after 24 years. I'm so sorry. Hoping u have peace and joy after the pain.
"Just be held" by casting crowns, please give it a listen. I know your dad likes sending you music and this one really spoke to my heart and kept me up during a very tough time, thought it was worth a listen. It is very inspirational hearing how you've been transforming yourself. Being so vulnerable, yet so graceful about something so private and hurtful is admirable. Praying that God continues to heal you and keeps putting the pieces together. He always has bigger and better plans for us whenever any door closes.
I feel exactly like that! I’m 60 and I have felt that way since my childhood.!
You are lovely, Michel. On the outside...obviously, but you have such a lovely soul. Someone is going to snatch up those broken pieces and show you that true love is out there. Sending you so much love. 💗
I can’t quite verbalize why (but I’m going to try- can’t promise I’ll do this well) but my husband and I separated and came very close to getting a divorce a little over a year ago and while we have managed to salvage our marriage and work together to stay together- I find your videos so incredibly healing to the part of me that felt so lost in that time of separation, when I didn’t know what was going to happen or how I would be able to survive that type of loss and your videos help me feel strong watching you be so strong and adjusting to what life has thrown at you. I hope this makes a bit of sense. Because you are doing it I feel comfort know if I needed to I could too. I told you I didn’t know how to verbalize this well, but just know your videos really have such value and God must be so proud of the love you show this community by opening up and letting others in. Praying for you girl! And thank you for being open and letting us in as your online friends. We love you 💛💛
I’d love a podcast with your parents if they are up for it! Your parents are amazing and so supportive of you ❤️
You should do a spa day on your anniversary, something to make you feel good for yourself. Do it at home, bubble bath, candles, mock-tails, facial 💝 It’s what I did my first year alone. I allowed myself all the feels and felt so much better after.
Take care and stay safe 💝
This is a tricky thing. I've never watched the podcast, and the reason is, for the two or three years prior that I'd been a subscriber, I'd been frustrated by your interactions with Brook. You were so lovely and loving, so enthusiastic and vibrant and I felt like Brook barely grunted acknowledgement. I never said anything and I watched so many people comment about couple goals and how adorable he was and the two of you were together, and I wondered, "Is it just me who sees this?" I hope you find someone someday who is as loving and vibrant and enthusiastic as you; you deserve no less. I hope you take this in the way it is meant, which is to encourage you to continue to be the warm open-hearted person you are. And you deserve someone like yourself.
Family and friends along with your UA-cam family will always be here for you ❤️
Thank you so so much for sharing your journey through divorce. I am going through one right now and struggled to find a young christian woman who had been through the same thing, so hearing and watching your videos is so so relatable AND refreshing. Your pain is definitely for a purpose, I can say you have definitely already helped ME! I am in London UK, and so so glad to have found you. EVERYTHING you have said has made me feel less alone and I’m just in awe of similar our situation sounds. Sending you love, and grateful positive vibes from the UK. Thank you Michel xxxx
I spend my now former wedding anniversary as my "dark day." Meaning I go dark, no communication with others and I literally do whatever I want, just see what I feel that day and what I want. It's been three years and every year is different but it's just a day to take care of myself and do only what I want and not worry about pleasing or taking care of anyone else. Thanks for all you're sharing, you're not alone.
The constantly playing music living alone tip is so good - I do this (I actually don’t live alone but have a very different schedule to my fiancé so don’t see him most nights) and it helps with lonliness so much
I LOVE the idea of a podcast with your parents!! They give the best advice.
You are so brave.
I was in your place several years ago. I see your light and positivity shining through all this, and know you will one day look back and know you are stronger for having this experience. Sending you my prayers and blessings as you learn new things from here forward. Im so glad you have Max to keep you smiling!
I would love to hear a podcast done by you and your parents! They seem to be so successful in many areas of life and I’m sure have a lot of wisdom to share!
You are such a truly beautiful soul 🤍 thank you for continuing to be here and for being vulnerable
Your videos brighten my day so much! I also just want you to know I have already seen so much growth in you over the past few months and it doesn’t go unnoticed! I’m proud of you!❤️
I never searched for this video, but as someone young, christian and going through a divorce... I highly appreciate it! God bless
You are lovely. You will heal completely and have so much joy and a brand new exciting life.
Michel 💕 you don’t have an idea of how much you are helping me right now, I just have a breakup with my long time fiancé, and seen you really gives me hope in the future. You can touch every heart with your videos, I’m not even from the US I’m from Costa Rica, and you have touched my heart ❤️ thank you 😊
You've been so strong and resilient through this. It's truly inspiring and I can't wait to see where this new chapter takes you!
Appreciate you for this. I went through a deep betrayal two years ago and still struggle. Even with amazing support and therapy. Trying to survive one day at a time.
You have grown so much since your first videos! It’s amazing to see!!
As Brene Brown teaches, there is such strength in vulnerability. Thank you for sharing these answers with us. I also wanted to say how supported I feel as a member of the LGBTQ+ community to hear you say that. Makes me proud to have supported you and your channel (by viewing and using your sponsored links) for the past year or so 💕 You are doing great!!!!
Im so proud that you set boundaries for yourself. You deserve love darling 🥰
So much grace and maturity. Thanks for sharing with us and sending you so much love
addressing toxic positivity with yourself/patterns. 👏 👏 I binge watched some of your videos and you’ve grown so much 👏 for that inner work
You are stronger than you think and I hope you are proud of yourself. 💜
Keep pushing forward! You are still young, and this is a great life lesson for you - take this grief and grow. You will be okay!