Story 2. OP not the AH. She absolutely did the right thing. I am huge believer in No Contact when being abused and taken advantage of. Plus how many under 6?! Are you kidding me 😮
Story Nephew paying rent - NOT the AH. OP is not financially responsible for sisters child. It's not like she's charging a regular rent amout. She's just covering a very small portion for extra bills, and if you have a boy, you know he is probably eating much more than he's paying 😂. OP said she can afford not to have a roommate but said it would make it tight with the extra bills. Mother should be making the payment for son as he's still her financial responsibility. She and stepdad are the real AH's here. They are ignoring their responsibility. If i was OP, I would tell them they HAVE to pay or child service may need to get involved because the boy is going to need more financial help than just housing and food. He needs cloths and possibly stuff for school. Older sister has a problem with nephew paying, she should offer to pay or minimally pay half. It's easy to judge when you have no skin in the game 🙂
Okay, so the dad who says his son will get no girls if he spends his time in the kitchen? That boy is going to get all the ladies, ladies love a guy who can cook, that dad is just insecure as all get out. While you do have to feel bad for the dad's past, did he not see how backwards some of what he said was? And least he understands now what he did was wrong, but I facepalmed so hard when that part was read.
Story 1 - not really all that uncommon. My mom and sister go on trips all the time without me. They plan vacations and never mention it to me. I don’t know about it until after. Or maybe during if they send me pictures of my nephews. Back when my sister had only one child they would plan an annual trip and I was expected to just watch her kiddo. Never asked if I and my husband wanted to go. I have been with my kiddo’s father for almost 20 yrs, we’ve been married for 17 tomorrow and have no issues. Some people are born on ASCON1. Oh and they also took family pictures without me - but maybe I will have to submit that story.
Story 5 - NTA - she said she could cover the rent but didn’t say she could cover double the utilities or food. So if she can’t afford it then of course he will have to pay. Yes the mother should pay it but like said bet the step dad won’t part with any money for his stepson. So NTA
Story #2) Damn these Entitled shiteads would instantly be excommunicated from my life. You can't choose the way the family you were born into behave towards you, but you can choose whether or not to interact with them.
Story 3: Well considering the man was already called petty by Charlie, I'd go all in and remove him from my life and my will. You do not get to treat people like trash and still benefit from it.
Why wasn’t military gramps on his own son’s side when son was being bullied? I can only imagine the dad’s mixed feelings now. Glad things are better now, but the past should be understood and dealt with-those feelings will linger and haunt the future
Maybe he wasn't around or didn't notice? Kids can be sneaky, and cousins can and will utilise family dynamics and distracted adults to be mean for the sake of being mean.
It never made sense to me when people don’t know how to cook or when they shame men for cooking. The restaurant industry is still male dominated and it’s just a basic life skill.
Why not sue mom and step dad for child support. He is still a minor and is the financial responsibility of his mother regardless of whether the new husband likes it or not. If she won't step up and open her mouth the. She needs to open her pocket book to support HER child
On story #5, it would be cool if the “rent ” collected could be saved until he turns 18 Or graduates and moves out and then Given as a gift for the next stage In His life because it sounds like the other grown ups are gonna fail him at every stage. I feel like if it’s such a bad environment at home with his mom and step Dad, it’s likely unsafe for everyone. DCFS should probably be involved as well for the other kids safety and possibly Mom… without more context seems like a plausible circumstance
Story 3. OP not the AH. Step son is Ascon 1 and remove them from the Will. His mother left him her estate. Leave your estate to your children and grandchildren. You would be an AH if you DON'T remove step son and family from the Will. He has made sure you have no contact with any of them, you should respect his wishes 😏
I need links and updates for story one not my mom or grandmother in particular but I have a feeling my family would pull that kind of crap with me ( and story two tbh) and I honestly just want the cathartic release of knowing what happened 8:18
Story 3. Son in the kitchen and cooking with you is creating wonderful memories. Dad is losing out. He is also so wrong! Woman love a man that can cook. Nothing is more attractive than a man who cooks for you on a date 🥰
Girls won’t like a guy who cooks? Right on, it’s nearly as big a turn off as a guy who can play an instrument, dance, or be emotionally vulnerable with us.
Unfortunately, my bf has a lot the same outdated thoughts as the father in story #4. Aside from that, he's a fantastic person, partner & father. Some times, all the good things come with a lil bad. 🤷🏽♀️✌🏽
Story 5: kid is 16, and only being charged 10% of his pay. At 20 hours a week, realistically, this is maybe only $20-30. For someone making the choice to not live at home, he would have to pay way more than that elsewhere to have secure housing.
It doesn't sound like a choice to me. Kids don't permanently leave home as children for no reason. As a 16 year old, (if this is in the US) he's a minor and CPS should get involved. A 16 year old should not be working 20 hours a week (they are in school full time). Honestly, I think the aunt should be trying to take him in.
40:22 I agree to an extent but I don’t think OP is an asshole she is charging him significantly less than she could be. It’s hard to say without knowing more about the situation and the people involved bc I think there is a good way and a bad way to go about it but life is just hard sometimes and he is learning that earlier than he should have to.
For Story #1, I have a strong feeling that some information's being left out. We're only really getting one part of the argument, which really sounds like something OP fixated on and interpreted how she wanted to. Just really feels like there are some missing pieces there, since I don't think it would make sense that she would be excluded for the reasons she's citing. And since her mom was showing her everyone, it doesn't look like they were trying hard to hide it. Story #2, OP's family is a bunch of *extremely entitled* ascons who probably shouldn't have had kids.
Aunt was nta ... when I was 15 I moved back into my mother's after my step father and step mother made an unsafe environment for me, I was giving my mom money for my food and hydro not because she asked for it but because I was on a strict diet at the time and my food cost more then the rest of my brothers it was my choice...... at least there was there was no cake stories.... but wow there where some poopy family's in this video
For Story #5, I think you're being waayyy too harsh on the mom and stepdad. Remember, OP said he was choosing not to live with his mom and stepdad and was free to return at any time. Honestly, it sounds like some bratty teenager crap to me. XD He probably doesn't like some of the rules and expectations being set for him, and has chosen to rebel. In that case, I think OP is being reasonable. She's not asking much or to recoop all her costs, she's just asking for something to offset the expense. Usually, though, I'd say charging a 16-year-old rent is always bad, but as OP said, he *does* have another option, he just chose not to take it. Everything depends on how valid his issues with stepdad are, but since we have no way of knowing for sure, I'd definitely lean on the side that the crazy hormonal teenager is unreasonable rather his the stepdad and mom.
You are and OP is assuming it's a "choice". Things are so bad at home that the kids CAN'T stay at home. Kids usually (no matter how much they say they hate their parents) want to stay at home unless there is abuse going on. If abuse is happening, they try to find somewhere else to live. The kid is probably not bringing up the abuse because he doesn't want his mom to get in trouble.
Story 2. OP not the AH. She absolutely did the right thing. I am huge believer in No Contact when being abused and taken advantage of. Plus how many under 6?! Are you kidding me 😮
Story Nephew paying rent - NOT the AH. OP is not financially responsible for sisters child. It's not like she's charging a regular rent amout. She's just covering a very small portion for extra bills, and if you have a boy, you know he is probably eating much more than he's paying 😂. OP said she can afford not to have a roommate but said it would make it tight with the extra bills. Mother should be making the payment for son as he's still her financial responsibility. She and stepdad are the real AH's here. They are ignoring their responsibility. If i was OP, I would tell them they HAVE to pay or child service may need to get involved because the boy is going to need more financial help than just housing and food. He needs cloths and possibly stuff for school. Older sister has a problem with nephew paying, she should offer to pay or minimally pay half. It's easy to judge when you have no skin in the game 🙂
Story 1. Ascon one for all. Go no contact. What a nasty thing to do. 😢
Oh, I'd remove Charlie's kids from my will.... they are not his grandkids.
Okay, so the dad who says his son will get no girls if he spends his time in the kitchen? That boy is going to get all the ladies, ladies love a guy who can cook, that dad is just insecure as all get out. While you do have to feel bad for the dad's past, did he not see how backwards some of what he said was? And least he understands now what he did was wrong, but I facepalmed so hard when that part was read.
Story 1 - not really all that uncommon. My mom and sister go on trips all the time without me. They plan vacations and never mention it to me. I don’t know about it until after. Or maybe during if they send me pictures of my nephews. Back when my sister had only one child they would plan an annual trip and I was expected to just watch her kiddo. Never asked if I and my husband wanted to go. I have been with my kiddo’s father for almost 20 yrs, we’ve been married for 17 tomorrow and have no issues. Some people are born on ASCON1. Oh and they also took family pictures without me - but maybe I will have to submit that story.
Ohh look my comment applied to Story 2 as well!
Sorry you are going through that 😟. You may want to say no to babysitting, sounds like you are being taken advantage of.
@@susanabler3039 I actually moved out of state so no more babysitting. Now they just ignore me. 🤷🏻♀️
Story 5 - NTA - she said she could cover the rent but didn’t say she could cover double the utilities or food. So if she can’t afford it then of course he will have to pay. Yes the mother should pay it but like said bet the step dad won’t part with any money for his stepson. So NTA
Lol my 2yr old saw your Bluey shirt and went nuts! Bluey is one of his favorites
Story #2) Damn these Entitled shiteads would instantly be excommunicated from my life. You can't choose the way the family you were born into behave towards you, but you can choose whether or not to interact with them.
This is the funniest thing I've ever seen. I love the part was he's like hell Yeah op😂
Story 5-- her nephew's mom needs to be paying child support.
Story 3: Well considering the man was already called petty by Charlie, I'd go all in and remove him from my life and my will. You do not get to treat people like trash and still benefit from it.
Why wasn’t military gramps on his own son’s side when son was being bullied? I can only imagine the dad’s mixed feelings now. Glad things are better now, but the past should be understood and dealt with-those feelings will linger and haunt the future
Maybe he wasn't around or didn't notice? Kids can be sneaky, and cousins can and will utilise family dynamics and distracted adults to be mean for the sake of being mean.
The story about the 16 year old staying with his aunt and paying 10% of his paycheck at least he's not paying much he's probably giving $20-$30 a week
It never made sense to me when people don’t know how to cook or when they shame men for cooking. The restaurant industry is still male dominated and it’s just a basic life skill.
Story - bridesmaid. The bride is NOT your friend, you just thought she was. Friends don't treat friends like that. 😏
Why not sue mom and step dad for child support. He is still a minor and is the financial responsibility of his mother regardless of whether the new husband likes it or not. If she won't step up and open her mouth the. She needs to open her pocket book to support HER child
On story #5, it would be cool if the “rent ” collected could be saved until he turns 18 Or graduates and moves out and then Given as a gift for the next stage In His life because it sounds like the other grown ups are gonna fail him at every stage. I feel like if it’s such a bad environment at home with his mom and step Dad, it’s likely unsafe for everyone. DCFS should probably be involved as well for the other kids safety and possibly Mom… without more context seems like a plausible circumstance
35:13 in all fairness to this OP, 10% of the weekly earning is probably less than $100 so it’s basically paying for groceries
Agree, it's not very much money and if nephew is in some position where he can't work for a couple weeks... 10% of 0 is 0
Story 3. OP not the AH. Step son is Ascon 1 and remove them from the Will. His mother left him her estate. Leave your estate to your children and grandchildren. You would be an AH if you DON'T remove step son and family from the Will. He has made sure you have no contact with any of them, you should respect his wishes 😏
I need links and updates for story one not my mom or grandmother in particular but I have a feeling my family would pull that kind of crap with me ( and story two tbh) and I honestly just want the cathartic release of knowing what happened 8:18
Story 3. Son in the kitchen and cooking with you is creating wonderful memories. Dad is losing out. He is also so wrong! Woman love a man that can cook. Nothing is more attractive than a man who cooks for you on a date 🥰
Nope Charlie’s family I would be like no you wanted nothing to do with me so you have nothing to do with my money
Girls won’t like a guy who cooks? Right on, it’s nearly as big a turn off as a guy who can play an instrument, dance, or be emotionally vulnerable with us.
The ick list is getting out of control, huh?
@@dustythunder absolutely ick. Btw where are they keeping these abominations and do they have visiting hours?
Unfortunately, my bf has a lot the same outdated thoughts as the father in story #4. Aside from that, he's a fantastic person, partner & father. Some times, all the good things come with a lil bad. 🤷🏽♀️✌🏽
That’s pretty sad. Your bf could end up traumatising your future children and you think it’s a “lil bad”.
@@rachaelf5903 Luckily, all of our kids are grown. ✌🏽
Story 5: kid is 16, and only being charged 10% of his pay. At 20 hours a week, realistically, this is maybe only $20-30. For someone making the choice to not live at home, he would have to pay way more than that elsewhere to have secure housing.
It doesn't sound like a choice to me. Kids don't permanently leave home as children for no reason. As a 16 year old, (if this is in the US) he's a minor and CPS should get involved. A 16 year old should not be working 20 hours a week (they are in school full time). Honestly, I think the aunt should be trying to take him in.
40:22 I agree to an extent but I don’t think OP is an asshole she is charging him significantly less than she could be. It’s hard to say without knowing more about the situation and the people involved bc I think there is a good way and a bad way to go about it but life is just hard sometimes and he is learning that earlier than he should have to.
For Story #1, I have a strong feeling that some information's being left out. We're only really getting one part of the argument, which really sounds like something OP fixated on and interpreted how she wanted to. Just really feels like there are some missing pieces there, since I don't think it would make sense that she would be excluded for the reasons she's citing. And since her mom was showing her everyone, it doesn't look like they were trying hard to hide it.
Story #2, OP's family is a bunch of *extremely entitled* ascons who probably shouldn't have had kids.
Aunt was nta ... when I was 15 I moved back into my mother's after my step father and step mother made an unsafe environment for me, I was giving my mom money for my food and hydro not because she asked for it but because I was on a strict diet at the time and my food cost more then the rest of my brothers it was my choice...... at least there was there was no cake stories.... but wow there where some poopy family's in this video
Story 1. I feel like OP is the problem and maybe there is a good reason she wasn’t invited
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For Story #5, I think you're being waayyy too harsh on the mom and stepdad. Remember, OP said he was choosing not to live with his mom and stepdad and was free to return at any time. Honestly, it sounds like some bratty teenager crap to me. XD He probably doesn't like some of the rules and expectations being set for him, and has chosen to rebel. In that case, I think OP is being reasonable. She's not asking much or to recoop all her costs, she's just asking for something to offset the expense. Usually, though, I'd say charging a 16-year-old rent is always bad, but as OP said, he *does* have another option, he just chose not to take it. Everything depends on how valid his issues with stepdad are, but since we have no way of knowing for sure, I'd definitely lean on the side that the crazy hormonal teenager is unreasonable rather his the stepdad and mom.
You are and OP is assuming it's a "choice". Things are so bad at home that the kids CAN'T stay at home. Kids usually (no matter how much they say they hate their parents) want to stay at home unless there is abuse going on. If abuse is happening, they try to find somewhere else to live. The kid is probably not bringing up the abuse because he doesn't want his mom to get in trouble.