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КОМЕНТАРІ • 117

  • @Lala_monzz
    @Lala_monzz Місяць тому +87

    if someone ever asks for an open relationship, especially a one-sided one. they want the benefits of a wife and the loyalty of a wife but want to be a disgusting and disloyal husband

  • @JorgeReyes-hq7ch
    @JorgeReyes-hq7ch Місяць тому +353

    It's called a narcissist

    • @damn_hippies
      @damn_hippies Місяць тому +5

      goddamn i’m tired of hearing this word outside of psychologists’ offices. to act narcissistic in a specific instance doesn’t make one a narcissist, just like how being anxious in a specific instance doesn’t mean you have anxiety disorder.

    • @JorgeReyes-hq7ch
      @JorgeReyes-hq7ch Місяць тому

      @@damn_hippies well then you need to do your research before opening your mouth because if you did any kind of research on narcissistic people. You would find out that ALL serial killers are narcissistic AND that narcissism is and always will be the same acts and characteristics that ALL narcissistic people do. And there are people who aren't narcissistic that pick up narcissistic behaviors,but that can be changed because they aren't a full blown narcissist. And oh by the way, I'm in school to become a psychologist. Boom 💥 mic drop. So do your research before opening your big mouth because that just makes you look and sound dumber than you already are. God bless you and your family and best wishes.

    • @bratbaby99
      @bratbaby99 Місяць тому

      ​@damn_hippies OH MY GOD THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS
      narcissist is just another buzzword people say that they have no actual understanding of

    • @MichaelAngeloMedrano
      @MichaelAngeloMedrano Місяць тому +3

      And guess what? She picked him. I don't feel bad for these women anymore.

    • @bratbaby99
      @bratbaby99 Місяць тому +7

      @MichaelAngeloMedrano so you blame the women for picking these men but you dont blame the men for the bad behavior?

  • @Greezly__1
    @Greezly__1 Місяць тому +186

    Unfortunately from experience, the moment someone uses this term of open relationship suddenly - do yourself a favour and leave immediately. Otherwise they will end up dragging you through mud and causes you years of pain. Leave.

    • @karakane9898
      @karakane9898 Місяць тому

      Not to mention endless STDs

    • @serendipidus8482
      @serendipidus8482 Місяць тому +1

      It depends what you want yourself.the rules change all the time because people change. But if you're not into that change or you dont want to go on together then thats the end of that relationship. If both people want to take that path then fine but it has huge risks..you qouldnt move to Alasca without researching the risks involved and going there prepared so you cant just open a closed relationship without huge risks.

  • @AnniK243
    @AnniK243 Місяць тому +204

    Divorce! He's already cheating in his head, it's just a matter of time.

    • @flyandshy00
      @flyandshy00 Місяць тому +23

      If he's asking for permission - he was doing it all the time. He wants her to leave him because he already has a woman he wants to be with.

    • @seanceknowles2911
      @seanceknowles2911 Місяць тому +11

      He’s already cheating. He knows that wife doesn’t want this. But he doesn’t have the balls to end the marriage himself so he’s setting her up this way and put the burden on her. He already has another woman he wants to be with.

  • @blessings2you435
    @blessings2you435 Місяць тому +33

    DUMP THE CREEP.
    DON'T WASTE ANY MORE TIME.
    FIND YOUR HAPPINESS

  • @annabanzon313
    @annabanzon313 Місяць тому +57

    Yes people marry sometimes to hide behind their spouse. Its annoying 😑.

  • @RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose
    @RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose Місяць тому +134

    My reactions to that hubby were like: _(opens the door)_ Go ahead, here's your literally open relationship . _(closes the door)_ So simple as that. 😂

  • @Somethinglikethat2023
    @Somethinglikethat2023 Місяць тому +58

    Time to leave while you are young.

    • @peanut_toast999
      @peanut_toast999 Місяць тому +5

      It's sad we figure this out too late. the young should really listen to the old who have been there, done that. I wish I listened.

  • @El-px6wl
    @El-px6wl Місяць тому +43

    Marriage rules have always been written in stone. you're all in, or you're not !

    • @stupidrules1000
      @stupidrules1000 Місяць тому

      Always? Really? Do you know the history of marriage?

    • @El-px6wl
      @El-px6wl Місяць тому

      @stupidrules1000 it's written in stone for me, marriage is a partnership, man and woman no third party, loyalty respect honesty trust. .

    • @stupidrules1000
      @stupidrules1000 Місяць тому

      @@El-px6wl saying something is always written in stone for YOU is very different than saying is written in stone.
      One implies consistency and some form of objectivity going back to the beginning of human civilization. The other is just your opinion.
      If one beleives the rules/ideas about marriage have been consistent over time...they are just factually wrong.
      If it is just your opinion, then it is as valuable as the other 8 billion opinions on anything.

  • @flowersforme375
    @flowersforme375 Місяць тому +38

    I’ve been a trophy many times and it sucks. Basically you there to bringing more attention to him.

    • @pattygravs6354
      @pattygravs6354 Місяць тому +5

      Yes! That's true.

    • @jacksonbennett84
      @jacksonbennett84 9 днів тому

      It can't be that bad, or it only would have happened to you once. Your choice in men is also the problem.

  • @DoIReallyHaveTo
    @DoIReallyHaveTo Місяць тому +20

    🏃‍♀️ girl, run

  • @Europa1749
    @Europa1749 Місяць тому +11

    Yuck. Leave and dont look back. He'll always want that.

  • @gabak1292
    @gabak1292 Місяць тому +13

    Why even call here? Call a divorce lawyer! That is the only call you should make!

  • @JETTSTACHI
    @JETTSTACHI Місяць тому +3

    It's called patriarchy.

  • @judydoumont7214
    @judydoumont7214 Місяць тому +3

    I would say ""sure hon... you can have your one-sided relationship " as soon as the divorce is finalized!! ...and said with a smile!! 😊😊

  • @SandraWatson-rz5hj
    @SandraWatson-rz5hj Місяць тому +13

    You Said it for REAL ❤. GOD LOVE YOU BABES
    ❤️🙏❤️ LOVE FROM BONNIE SCOTLAND
    🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

  • @ishratjahan8627
    @ishratjahan8627 Місяць тому +2

    If a women don't know self respect she doesn't know what love is . Love will never influence you to loose your self respect the moment it happens it's not love it's shackles

  • @LucyR7131
    @LucyR7131 Місяць тому +4

    An item - Is what he was taught to see ppl to use them to stitch it up and say it’s your fault.
    Dont ever think that !!

  • @user-so5pm7gg1u
    @user-so5pm7gg1u Місяць тому +2

    Pls leave girlfriend. Do yourself a favor. Walk away from this with a piece of mind.

  • @exxtrasweettreats94
    @exxtrasweettreats94 Місяць тому +8

    Im stuck in a relationship like this. It sucks when youre disabled and cant escape

    • @ASMRisnice2020
      @ASMRisnice2020 Місяць тому +8

      You’ve made a lot of comments on this channel that are concerning.

    • @deniseball7764
      @deniseball7764 Місяць тому +8

      Contact different people if the current carers aren't listening - there are always people who can and will help

    • @exxtrasweettreats94
      @exxtrasweettreats94 Місяць тому

      @@deniseball7764 you'd think right ? You'd honestly be amazed at how little resources there really are .. and how difficult it is when you don't have friends or family. I'm doing my best with the plan I have in motion. But it's been rough for sure. I have tried so much it feels hopeless

    • @kathyalex778
      @kathyalex778 Місяць тому +1

      Theres gotta be some organization you can reach out to. Police even, if you really are physically stuck

    • @angel794
      @angel794 Місяць тому +1

      You can always escape. Don't be defeated, think it through & you will find a better way to live

  • @ashleys1655
    @ashleys1655 Місяць тому +1

    I was also a hood ornament… I left! He was cheating also! Probably knew better than to ever say “open relationship” to me but he also thought he was so smooth. 😂 at the end I called out everything correctly, his face said yes while his mouth moved to no. Damn fools!

  • @thrivingexjw2061
    @thrivingexjw2061 Місяць тому +24

    They don’t change the rules.. that person has always been that way. Their spouse just didn’t see the red flags ( or chose not to) BEFORE you marry someone, REALLY get to know them!!

    • @grace52775
      @grace52775 Місяць тому +8

      You never really know anyone. That's why kids get 🍇 by their uncles more than anyone else.

    • @thrivingexjw2061
      @thrivingexjw2061 Місяць тому

      @@grace52775 - That’s right. That’s exactly why I never left my kids to be babysat by friends, relatives or anyone else!! Safe & sound!

    • @kalimbaayinde25
      @kalimbaayinde25 Місяць тому +4

      You will NEVER know everything about someone. EVER

    • @kalimbaayinde25
      @kalimbaayinde25 Місяць тому

      @@grace52775thank you

    • @Mimi-girl
      @Mimi-girl Місяць тому

      Have you heard about deception? Well, guess what, men can be very deceiving.

  • @mygirljoey
    @mygirljoey Місяць тому +6

    See how he can say something that needs to be said yet not have to be a sick about it?

  • @skycutie77
    @skycutie77 Місяць тому +18

    My sons soon yo be ex wife 3 yrs did this yo him he never had others but she did needless to say they no longer together he didn’t deserve it told my son love yourself he thought that traditional marriage way

  • @pamelamays4186
    @pamelamays4186 Місяць тому +6

    My first husband basically gave me permission to mess around if I wanted to. Me, on the other hand, never gave him permission to mess around.

  • @harlan5339
    @harlan5339 Місяць тому +1

    Unity, living life together. He said it best. People so far out of touch with reality

  • @jennieg821
    @jennieg821 Місяць тому +2

    Living a double life tragic and heart breaking 💔

  • @elainekeith8613
    @elainekeith8613 Місяць тому +2

    Narcissist alert..... me me me its all about meeeee...

  • @beaglerescue5281
    @beaglerescue5281 Місяць тому +1

    Open marriage-He wants to behave single but got married to have a cook, housekeeper, and a person to talk to if he’s lonely. Ugh!

  • @jojokeane
    @jojokeane Місяць тому +1

    I was the object that the last bf was proud of. I know I'm pretty and I realized he just wanted me to wear sexy things and charm people around him. He was never going to make a commitment. I ditched him even after he had cancer. I did give him one last chance if he wanted me in his final days. He ended up with someone older and fat. Then he died.

    • @sebastiaanv
      @sebastiaanv Місяць тому

      Weird story and weird way to try to brag😂 but good for u

  • @cheri7054
    @cheri7054 Місяць тому

    My ex never showed me off. He always changed rules of my and my daughter’s relationship. There were red flags before I married him but nothing like this until too far gone.

  • @AmnaNz39
    @AmnaNz39 Місяць тому

    How can someone even not leave asap. No need to call this doctor just divorce him

  • @johndo2627
    @johndo2627 Місяць тому

    This usually backfires the moment the one proposing this sort of arrangement realizes the hard way that his or her partner is actually desirable to other people, too.

  • @normaingram1855
    @normaingram1855 Місяць тому

    That's crazy which is considered as a trophy wife. That's what my ex-husband said to me and I didn't know what it meant in that time in my 20 until I got in my 30s. It sucks when we think we are marrying too on how they see you. I met my ex-husband when I was 18 turning 19 he is 9 1/2 years older then me. I grew out of that relationship and it was hard broken and is still healing when I'd given 17 years of my life in that episode of my life. I was a trophy wife and he told me that before. It's okay to walk away.

  • @MyCleverHandle
    @MyCleverHandle Місяць тому

    Spouses with this particular problem call in to this type of podcast because they want confirmation from someone who doesn't know them or their spouse. Judgement and agreement from a stranger is always less hurtful than judgement from a friend.

  • @cherylanderson1308
    @cherylanderson1308 Місяць тому +2

    Narcissistic person

  • @SaraPerez-ns9gr
    @SaraPerez-ns9gr 29 днів тому

    Almost exactly like my situation 😔

  • @discerningtruth6848
    @discerningtruth6848 Місяць тому

    Oftentimes people misconstrued kindness as weakness and their ability change the other person (spouse's) mind is frivolous. Get out before you have 3 children and a mini van....move on because his mind about staying in the marriage loss cause. 😮

  • @natachamusser
    @natachamusser Місяць тому

    I told my ex I was not a poster wife or a fly on the wall.

  • @HaloHuntress
    @HaloHuntress Місяць тому

    Was me. I had to walk away. It's hard but we deserve better.

  • @CarriWilgers
    @CarriWilgers Місяць тому

    I'm so sorry women go threw this crap. It's a tear breaker and an eye opener. Tell him it's Stops or your out. Your not playing this game. Let him know and let him know fast.

  • @bethhines3527
    @bethhines3527 Місяць тому

    No DO NOT DO IT! Girl Id get a part time job, oh and those never work.

  • @danasmith8390
    @danasmith8390 27 днів тому

    Factz

  • @randi0068
    @randi0068 Місяць тому

    No fixing this

  • @hollyobrien4665
    @hollyobrien4665 Місяць тому

    My darling, I've been there... it's sooo upstanding immediately, however.. if you make plans behind the scenes that you are OK

  • @ritahutton6769
    @ritahutton6769 Місяць тому

    Run kiddo

  • @lisamcgill664
    @lisamcgill664 Місяць тому +1

    Sad

  • @solenamorada4974
    @solenamorada4974 Місяць тому +1

    Isn't that what they call a trophy Wife? He wants to keep her "locked up" with him to show her off but watch what happens when ypu don't play along any longer

  • @mohamadnurshamil4931
    @mohamadnurshamil4931 Місяць тому

    NUMBER 2 ... AND 2 TIMES NO MORE PAIN
    REMEMBER THAT ( MIKE ) ...

  • @williamdacosta9026
    @williamdacosta9026 Місяць тому

    I remember my ex-wife turned around and ask me.What do you think about having a 4 sright?Then and there, I told her you go do what you wanna do but don't come back here.We're done.She changed her mind real fast

  • @jessa9877
    @jessa9877 Місяць тому

    Divorce

  • @ellenmcintyre1247
    @ellenmcintyre1247 Місяць тому

    Sometimes you can be pretty brutal.

  • @user-rm3fk2rj8o
    @user-rm3fk2rj8o Місяць тому

    Divorce x

  • @MrJimmy3459
    @MrJimmy3459 Місяць тому

    This was the my husband watches Andrew Tate videos,

  • @dellahhilburn1891
    @dellahhilburn1891 Місяць тому

    He has been watching all those red pill shows on the internet.

  • @engeladewaal4543
    @engeladewaal4543 Місяць тому

    O m goodness seriously .

  • @Ehreijn2247
    @Ehreijn2247 Місяць тому

    Leave him and have a good laugh because he’s a joke! 🏃‍♀️

  • @minervagalvez4748
    @minervagalvez4748 Місяць тому

    WALK AWAY NOW.

  • @erna6427
    @erna6427 Місяць тому

    😅😅😅😅😅

  • @Ayesha______
    @Ayesha______ Місяць тому

    May Allah protect me from such men. Filthy disgusting ideas.

  • @anitahedgecock1968
    @anitahedgecock1968 Місяць тому

    💜✨💫✨💫✨🦋

  • @williamdacosta9026
    @williamdacosta9026 Місяць тому

    AM SORRY BUT I HERE MORE OPEN MARRIAGE GO TO HELL AND END UP IN DIVORCE SAME THING WITH Married.
    Couples THAT LIKE SWINGERS....

  • @mohamadnurshamil4931
    @mohamadnurshamil4931 Місяць тому

    NO MIKE ... I THINK IAAA OK ... TQ SYNS ...
    NOW SHAMIL GOT 51 ...

  • @David-wo9un
    @David-wo9un Місяць тому

    How did she not understand the “hood ornament” reference? No doubt he is a Chad and she will happily continue to share him rather than risk losing him to monogamy.

  • @nilsalmgren4492
    @nilsalmgren4492 Місяць тому

    Depends, she may also be shutting down the bedroom.

    • @_kikizaman_
      @_kikizaman_ Місяць тому +1

      Then he should leave her. Not demand an open marriage that’s just open on his side🤣

    • @nilsalmgren4492
      @nilsalmgren4492 Місяць тому +1

      @@_kikizaman_ True, but there might be kids to hold the family together. If she shut down sex, why should she care if he cheats on her, short of her liking power and seeing him suffer.

  • @dabd8175
    @dabd8175 Місяць тому +2

    A high-value man is entitled to it

    • @daretodream...898
      @daretodream...898 Місяць тому +19

      Nothing "high value" about a liar and cheat. Quite the opposite.

    • @izzywox8246
      @izzywox8246 Місяць тому +16

      O look it’s dab. The person who thinks a good woman accepts abuse wholeheartedly and with enthusiasm. What pearls of wisdom do you have for us today? 🤓
      It really is simple dab, treat others as you want to be treated. And don’t trick people into psychobabble bullshit relationship dynamics. That goes for men and women.

    • @Ktrussman
      @Ktrussman Місяць тому

      Lol stop😂😂😂 a high value man can then enjoy many weak ass women.

    • @April-p2m
      @April-p2m Місяць тому

      So does a "high value" woman deserve it..?

    • @angel794
      @angel794 Місяць тому

      You must live in Planet Delulu. Your comment is so misogynistic. Nothing high-value about a guy who marries a woman to have a trophy, then wants more trophy women.