Hey guys! Thanks for watching and I hope that was helpful. Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited) 💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass 🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions 🗣 Join the FB Group! -> facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329/
You helped me so much. My boyfriend finally opened up today, after one week of ghosting, and me not knowing what's going on.He complained about a lot of things and I only listened to him without being upset or comment in a negative way. He became calm and said he needs a little bit more of time for himself to calm down and I told him that this is okay.
lots arises in me as I watch this video. mainly this: I'm falling, again, for another unavailable person... because the illusion and fantasy and escape of this person, is all I've got... so I let myself fall. let myself get attached. because I'm old now, and the deepest shame and agony of my life, is that I've never-ever been in an intimate-romantic relationship... and the reality of this anguishes me, consumes me. fills me with: grief, shame, rage, longing, loneliness, despair, wanting, needing, desperation... so I cling, achingly, to anyone that shows me: any attention...
Thank you Geoffrey. 15 days ago I followed above rules and finally today my partner went from ok, to actually chat more about her shitty job and etc... It was so refreshing to hear her giving me more than Okay and move. All I did was listening and she shared more and more.
I really wish I would have found you much sooner. While listening to you, I broke down and started crying. You completely described everything I'm going through. From what I do, to what's being done to me.
What makes you different from the thousands of my clients who like you waited until things were dire? Feel free to show me one of these stories below who didn't wait until the relationships was hopeless. ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
Hey guys! Thanks for watching! If you want to get access to the 5-part training series and learn to communicate more effectively, then leave a comment below with #CommunicateBetter!
Been having trouble communicating or even knowing how or where to start with my partner, I watched this earlier today as to try to figure out what I need to do for my communication, and it helped so much. I managed to have a proper conversation. My issue has been I get overly emotional during important discussions and I break down. I used the effectiveness over efficiency and took a calmer approach. Thank you so much for making these videos.
Method number one is open your mouth and express yourself!! Genius 😮 😃 My ex used to emotionally shut down when there is something come up. Simple went to silence 🤐 so yeah it’s a big deal. Open your mouth and express yourself, SPEAK . How simple is that
Great video! I like how it clearly shows the importance of receiving and sharing in a relationship. Just subbed - I think you are about to hit 100! Woot!
Love your insight Geoffrey, My partner is doing your course and unfortunately is not taking any actions at all, he is full of empty words saying he is learning so much from your course. It is his loss. Im learning heaps and loving your insight, as a woman you are so refreshing and l feel better inside myself... Thank You.
Very helpful video, after the first few minutes, I seen a couple of things that I do, that need correcting in my communication skills. Things I could be better at, things I wasn't even thanking of. Thank you
Hi Geoffrey, it is great you are helping boys transform to men. And l too as a Woman love listening to you as you inturn help me connect also, as all your principles apply to everyone.
Some interesting points here. And although I agree that in principle, it's simple, there are things like culture, values, belief systems and so much more that can make it quite hard for people to "hear" and understand...
I find it hard to communicate with my girlfriend. Sometimes going out for a meal together is uncomfortable because we both just sit there in silence even tho we both just had fun at the water park before hand. I want to hear from actual people who have had bad communication and then managed to turn it around. Need a bit of hope
My wife just prefers to tell everyone except me things. She will talk to them for hours. With me she just doesnt tell me anything. Literally. Even if I ask. When I talk to her she answers with rude comments, doesnt answer at all or is just totally uninterested. I have pretty much given up trying to engage her.
You're amazing!! I love your videos ! I heard your story on Sunny's channel. I am in a similar situation as you have been some months ago. You inspire me ! Bless you
But if your partner is stonewalling you or giving one word replies, how can you even begin to improve on listening well ? Even if you have truly changed or are willing to listen more, they may still not open up and talk
How do you fix communication if your wife doesn't even respond to your phone calls, texts and doesn't wanna see you in person. All because my mother went off on her for throwing stuff in my mother house......
Dude I've always had communication problems and now it's destroying my relationship. We both acknowledge this is our biggest problem but we're both at a loss as to where to start. Or I'm at a loss I should say. We're so happy together and we love eachother but when we get into an Argument it goes way south fast. I need help. I love this woman and her kid's and it would mean the world to get an answer or solution. Thank u
I think most important is to heal your past traumas before you get into new relationships. Otherwise your will bleed from your open wounds on your partner who never put that trauma on you
Ok ok... I think you just hit the nail on the head with this one ;) I believe this might just be one of my issue and need to get better at. Thanks for sharing
So far so good, but you've said there are only really 2 reasons why people can't receive ideas and you haven't said that insecurity is one of them. What happens when sharing a simple idea is felt as an attach by the other person and they get defensive? This doesn't feel like judgement. Edit: Just to clarify, overall I think this is really great advice and am grateful to have come across it.
Blaming it to insecurity is blaming your problems to something outside your control. It's a useless diagnosis. The truth is the more safety you create, the easier you make it for someone to express despite insecurities. It's a counterforce. Blaming this on someone else's insecurity is a diagnosis that leads nowhere. Blaming this to a lack of safety is more useful as it's something within our control. We don't encourage playing victim.
@@GeoffreySetiawan Interesting perspective, thanks for replying. I think increasing that safety would make a lot of difference, but even so there are situations where a person might interpret something unsafe even if you do all you can to increase safety. Insecurities are not unchangeable, and if they're impacting your ability to deal with situations then I think taking responsibility for that is important. I wouldn't think of it as playing the victim.
@@bentleymayes1579 I would recommend watching more of my client stories. These principles that we teach are not new & unproven principles. They have been proven across a sample size of thousands (Much bigger than any studies you will come across). Feel free to watch the resources below for proof: This first video is a walkthrough of our program. ua-cam.com/video/LC4LSAEVNWo/v-deo.html This second video is a response that we made to a fake review thread people have made about us. You will be able to see what this program has done for hundreds of our members in a 6 minute span! www.loom.com/share/5a9021a157624705819960fc966e3ef2 This third and forth videos are two recent client stories with Liam Rose and Andrew Wade, ua-cam.com/video/LSs7y0s0gYg/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/xQqRBZLo3Es/v-deo.html This fifth video is another recent client story of one of my clients, Jason Newman. He quit his high paying job to come work for me, because this program changed his life in ways un-imaginable. ua-cam.com/video/FoxjQ_NCuVo/v-deo.html This final link is to our current collection of client stories: ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
You ask what I judge about? I judge him to be a mister know it all. But the thing is that's just who he is. He knows a whole heck of a lot. However, the way he acts about it or presents it to me makes me feel like I know next to nothing. I feel inferior to him only because of how he presents his knowledge on something. I am sure he could teach me very much if only he would change his tactic about it. And if he did, I would be more receptive to learn from him. How can I get this across to him in a way that would cause him to want to ease up a bit and come across in a more gentle way verses coming at me in irritation and impatience as though he's bothered by my ignorance?
Good question - A few ways you can do this. I don’t know your exact situation, so I might be off-base here, but here’s something you can do: Praise the desired action - Tell him something like “I love it when you speak to me gently. It really helps me to listen to you better” Present your suggestion in an open-ended way - Ask him something like “You know, I listen a lot better when you bring things up gently. What do you think?” With #1, praising the action your desire is a great way to encourage people to slowly change their ways. And with #2, when you end your statements with a simple “what do you think?”, that usually lets people’s guards down enough to consider what you’re saying, and opens up a much better conversation. Let me know if that helps!
Hey guys! Thanks for watching and I hope that was helpful. Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions
🗣 Join the FB Group! -> facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329/
You helped me so much. My boyfriend finally opened up today, after one week of ghosting, and me not knowing what's going on.He complained about a lot of things and I only listened to him without being upset or comment in a negative way.
He became calm and said he needs a little bit more of time for himself to calm down and I told him that this is okay.
lots arises in me
as I watch this video.
mainly this:
I'm falling,
again, for another
unavailable person...
because the illusion and fantasy and escape
of this person, is all I've got...
so I let myself fall.
let myself get attached.
because I'm old now,
and the deepest shame and agony
of my life, is that I've never-ever been
in an intimate-romantic relationship...
and the reality of this anguishes me, consumes me.
fills me with: grief, shame, rage, longing, loneliness, despair,
wanting, needing, desperation...
so I cling, achingly, to anyone
that shows me: any attention...
Are you a men or a woman?
Thank you Geoffrey. 15 days ago I followed above rules and finally today my partner went from ok, to actually chat more about her shitty job and etc... It was so refreshing to hear her giving me more than Okay and move. All I did was listening and she shared more and more.
I really wish I would have found you much sooner. While listening to you, I broke down and started crying. You completely described everything I'm going through. From what I do, to what's being done to me.
What makes you different from the thousands of my clients who like you waited until things were dire?
Feel free to show me one of these stories below who didn't wait until the relationships was hopeless.
ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
Communication can be so challenging in relationships!
It definitely can!
yes but this is not what communication is - ideas is not what is meant by communication in relationships
Hey guys! Thanks for watching! If you want to get access to the 5-part training series and learn to communicate more effectively, then leave a comment below with #CommunicateBetter!
Been having trouble communicating or even knowing how or where to start with my partner, I watched this earlier today as to try to figure out what I need to do for my communication, and it helped so much. I managed to have a proper conversation. My issue has been I get overly emotional during important discussions and I break down. I used the effectiveness over efficiency and took a calmer approach. Thank you so much for making these videos.
Method number one is open your mouth and express yourself!! Genius 😮 😃
My ex used to emotionally shut down when there is something come up. Simple went to silence 🤐 so yeah it’s a big deal. Open your mouth and express yourself, SPEAK . How simple is that
Great video! I like how it clearly shows the importance of receiving and sharing in a relationship. Just subbed - I think you are about to hit 100! Woot!
On we go to 100! :) Glad it resonated with you.
Love your insight Geoffrey,
My partner is doing your course and unfortunately is not taking any actions at all, he is full of empty words saying he is learning so much from your course.
It is his loss.
Im learning heaps and loving your insight, as a woman you are so refreshing and l feel better inside myself... Thank You.
Brilliant advice! I've learnt so much in one week of watching your videos compared to 3 months of being on the net watching other coaches .
Having done your Masterclass now, everything you say makes even more sense :)
Well spoken! Spot on when it comes to emotional safety!
Thank you for tuning in Kathi. I am glad it resonated with you.
Very helpful video, after the first few minutes, I seen a couple of things that I do, that need correcting in my communication skills. Things I could be better at, things I wasn't even thanking of. Thank you
Thank you for this video❤🙏
I actually needed to watch this today.
Glad it was helpful for yah!
Wow that was incredible and accurate information about communication , you really helped me alot
Thanks
Aw this really helped, went up to talk to my partner and explained the things you said and it actually helped, thank you🧘🏼♀️🌝
Hi Julia, I am happy this was helpful🙂
Hi Geoffrey, it is great you are helping boys transform to men. And l too as a Woman love listening to you as you inturn help me connect also, as all your principles apply to everyone.
Thank you for this video really made me realize how i want prioritizing emotional safety for my partner
I just lost my ex for a second time, because I never felt emotionally safe to communicate. I wish she could watch this video
How are you doing now?
Some interesting points here. And although I agree that in principle, it's simple, there are things like culture, values, belief systems and so much more that can make it quite hard for people to "hear" and understand...
Hi Sonia -- Definitely. Are there any of the ones you mentioned that are giving you issues at the moment?
@@GeoffreySetiawan not particularly... at least not ones that I am conscious of
I find it hard to communicate with my girlfriend. Sometimes going out for a meal together is uncomfortable because we both just sit there in silence even tho we both just had fun at the water park before hand. I want to hear from actual people who have had bad communication and then managed to turn it around. Need a bit of hope
Here you go, I am drowning in client stories who once started right where you are.
ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
My wife just prefers to tell everyone except me things. She will talk to them for hours. With me she just doesnt tell me anything. Literally. Even if I ask. When I talk to her she answers with rude comments, doesnt answer at all or is just totally uninterested. I have pretty much given up trying to engage her.
You're amazing!! I love your videos ! I heard your story on Sunny's channel. I am in a similar situation as you have been some months ago. You inspire me ! Bless you
Agreed!!!!
I love this guy
Is it better to learn these skills on people of interest or with everybody I meet?
LMAO, at the "#1, you have shitty listening skills!" While this video is extremely helpful, I couldn't help but laugh when Geoffrey said this.
How to apply this to a long distance relationship?
Thank you 🥰
Very helpful. Thank you.
@Tracy, you are welcome! Happy this video was helpful.🙂
But if your partner is stonewalling you or giving one word replies, how can you even begin to improve on listening well ? Even if you have truly changed or are willing to listen more, they may still not open up and talk
How do you fix communication if your wife doesn't even respond to your phone calls, texts and doesn't wanna see you in person. All because my mother went off on her for throwing stuff in my mother house......
Dude I've always had communication problems and now it's destroying my relationship. We both acknowledge this is our biggest problem but we're both at a loss as to where to start. Or I'm at a loss I should say. We're so happy together and we love eachother but when we get into an Argument it goes way south fast. I need help. I love this woman and her kid's and it would mean the world to get an answer or solution. Thank u
Hi Jesse Cole,
Start here to see how this happens and break down quite naturally.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
I think most important is to heal your past traumas before you get into new relationships. Otherwise your will bleed from your open wounds on your partner who never put that trauma on you
Trying to join the Facebook group but the link isn't working for me
I should watch this looong time ago :(
GREAT CONTENT
Thank you very much Jules! Glad it resonated with you.
Ok ok... I think you just hit the nail on the head with this one ;) I believe this might just be one of my issue and need to get better at. Thanks for sharing
So far so good, but you've said there are only really 2 reasons why people can't receive ideas and you haven't said that insecurity is one of them. What happens when sharing a simple idea is felt as an attach by the other person and they get defensive? This doesn't feel like judgement.
Edit: Just to clarify, overall I think this is really great advice and am grateful to have come across it.
Blaming it to insecurity is blaming your problems to something outside your control. It's a useless diagnosis.
The truth is the more safety you create, the easier you make it for someone to express despite insecurities.
It's a counterforce.
Blaming this on someone else's insecurity is a diagnosis that leads nowhere.
Blaming this to a lack of safety is more useful as it's something within our control.
We don't encourage playing victim.
@@GeoffreySetiawan Interesting perspective, thanks for replying.
I think increasing that safety would make a lot of difference, but even so there are situations where a person might interpret something unsafe even if you do all you can to increase safety. Insecurities are not unchangeable, and if they're impacting your ability to deal with situations then I think taking responsibility for that is important. I wouldn't think of it as playing the victim.
@@bentleymayes1579 I would recommend watching more of my client stories. These principles that we teach are not new & unproven principles.
They have been proven across a sample size of thousands (Much bigger than any studies you will come across).
Feel free to watch the resources below for proof:
This first video is a walkthrough of our program.
ua-cam.com/video/LC4LSAEVNWo/v-deo.html
This second video is a response that we made to a fake review thread people have made about us. You will be able to see what this program has done for hundreds of our members in a 6 minute span!
www.loom.com/share/5a9021a157624705819960fc966e3ef2
This third and forth videos are two recent client stories with Liam Rose and Andrew Wade,
ua-cam.com/video/LSs7y0s0gYg/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/xQqRBZLo3Es/v-deo.html
This fifth video is another recent client story of one of my clients, Jason Newman. He quit his high paying job to come work for me, because this program changed his life in ways un-imaginable.
ua-cam.com/video/FoxjQ_NCuVo/v-deo.html
This final link is to our current collection of client stories:
ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
You ask what I judge about? I judge him to be a mister know it all. But the thing is that's just who he is. He knows a whole heck of a lot.
However, the way he acts about it or presents it to me makes me feel like I know next to nothing. I feel inferior to him only because of how he presents his knowledge on something.
I am sure he could teach me very much if only he would change his tactic about it. And if he did, I would be more receptive to learn from him. How can I get this across to him in a way that would cause him to want to ease up a bit and come across in a more gentle way verses coming at me in irritation and impatience as though he's bothered by my ignorance?
Good question - A few ways you can do this. I don’t know your exact situation, so I might be off-base here, but here’s something you can do:
Praise the desired action - Tell him something like “I love it when you speak to me gently. It really helps me to listen to you better”
Present your suggestion in an open-ended way - Ask him something like “You know, I listen a lot better when you bring things up gently. What do you think?”
With #1, praising the action your desire is a great way to encourage people to slowly change their ways.
And with #2, when you end your statements with a simple “what do you think?”, that usually lets people’s guards down enough to consider what you’re saying, and opens up a much better conversation.
Let me know if that helps!
Facebook page doesn't work
Yes she don't not post my pictures so I get angry at that
shitty ! haaa