I think it's kinda funny when people accuse others of "not being a real mom" because they had a C-section or something, like, do you want them to shove it back in and try again?
@JustAGun_ I watched my friend watch her sleeping daughter for *months*, terrified something bad would happen. She didn't birth her daughter but she's been her Mum since the day they met.
I had a 13 lb fibroid blocking the birth canal. My 6 lb 10 oz baby would've died, and I would've died, if a C-section was not feasible. Modern healthcare is amazing.
I'm up for what I like to call an "assisted free birth". I am autistic and notice that when my body is going through a difficult thing, I prefer to be left alone. As educated about birth as I am (birth doula here), I want to birth at home and have the option of being alone...with midwife on property to spring into action if I need them.
@@treefrog101 as long as someone is ready to jump into action, obviously that's not being alone and is allowing you to have the circumstances you need without endangering you Hope you get an amazing birth
@@emmastilwell759 I think that if you're in an area that's difficult for vehicles to reach, even if it's an easy trail, you shouldn't be alone. Never know what might come up. Will add that a dog can be the one with you, depending on the trail, since in an emergency most dog can be relied upon to help until other assistance can arrive.
@@emmastilwell759 Bad idea unless you hike in a place where there are other people hiking as well. Accidents and/or medical emergencies can happen regardless of the place.
@catalinacaro8183 Yes exactly that 💯 and be sure to get yourself a heating pad, a box of your favorite cookies, and salty chips or snacks, plus a bottle of extra strength Motrin, and a bottle of vodka with a bottle of cranberry juice to make yourself several Cape Cods or a box of your favorite wine, or both! (And if you're really lucky like me, ask your husband or partner to give you a back massage.) Cheers sister! 🥂🍻🍷🍸🧉🍶 (And I sincerely hope you are not suffering with endometriosis like me. It's a whole other level of living hell.)
Some are so lucky that they feel good while on periods, most feel uncomfortable during periods, and too many feel horrible on periods 😔 Hope you find help so periods aren’t torture, that you can have pleasant moments even during periods.
Helping each other give birth and raise kids is one of the main reasons our species thrives. This idea that a woman needs to give birth and raise her children essentially in isolation is not just dangerous but counterproductive to our survival. And they wonder why we don't want to have their babies...
I am very vocal about hating the nuclear family structure because it's not enough support for anyone and many people fall through the cracks with it, parents and children both. We dumped so many evolutionary points into community and cooperation and it's something we still really need.
@@kyradreamer4769 THIS! I’m disabled and would love to have a kid someday, but I CANNOT raise them alone. Especially because I need alone time and would go into sensory overload so fast if it was 24/7…
@@kyradreamer4769I’m one of those people. I have more support than some because at least I have a husband who is an amazing father and supportive but besides that I left my family and moved here for him where his family lives and I have darn near zero other support. Trying to raise 3 kids has taken a serious toll on my mental health. Even just with my second, when he was a baby, I was the only one that could get him to sleep and he wouldn’t sleep longer than an hr at a time. I should’ve been hospitalized. While I was still PP and going through literal sleep deprivation my MiL asked “so when’s the next one??” I almost screamed… I told her straight up “so are you going to come over at 3 in the morning when baby won’t sleep and I’m crying in a corner??”
Firstly, im not a mum and wont ever be. But at no point will i ever pass judgement on any choice anyone makes with their body. I get so annoyed when anyone goes "you're not a real mum if.." no no, you have a child you're a mum. Adoptions too. Parents parent.
"Freebirth" sounds like a romanticisation. It makes it sound like birth is safe and pretty, when everyone should know, that women die every day from giving birth. Birth may be "natural", but there's nothing romantic about dying in pain.
Freebirth sounds a million times more stress-free for me. That said, I am down for 1. Being deeply educated about birth and 2. Have a midwife on property for you to call in case you need. Sounds perfect to me.
I wonder how much of it comes down to stuff like faith, too. If you view birth as a process designed by a creator, you might be more inclined to think it'll "work as intended" or that it'll go smoothly FOR YOU because you conduct yourself in a way that 'earns' it, etc. I have a lot more faith in my OBGYN than I do in any of that lol
Eye roll. The argument "people die from birth everyday" is not good enough. We have over medicalized birth and it has been researched and proven that continuity of care with a midwife and homebirth is a very safe option (sometimes safest) for a low risk pregnancy.
@@clawwestfall8799, several of my friends have needed emergency c-section during childbirth. I doubt a midwife can perform that on the livingroom floor.
Since you joked that the entire video was you saying "I need to make a longer video on that", can I just give a blanket "yes, I'm interested and will watch that" response to all of your suggested topics? I loved your last long form video - you delivered the content in such an informative and compassionate way that has contrasted sharply with the way some others have reported on that same incident. I will watch any content you make, no matter how little or often you post! Glad to see you again!
@@tinkeramma Mostly because there is no way she could do that without injecting some comments of her own that would alleviate the dullness of the material.
The Tea & Toast after giving birth is the best, most delicious I've ever had in my life! I would fight tooth & nail for everyone to have the right & privilege to experience that 😂
I really wish I had someone like you to listen to when I was a teenager. My period was so bad that I could not function. The school nurse would yell at me every month. I thought it was normal and never asked about it. I wish I had.
The pain is so intense that it’s not rare that I throw up, but the doctor just told me it’s the progesterone in my system and take more ibuprofen…. I’d like to see a study on how many women are taking too much ibuprofen to manage pain
@@justsomebabyghostsI'd like to see that study, too. I'm a pain patient now because I wrecked my stomach from taking too much ibuprofen. BTW: I didn't find out why my periods were so ridiculously heavy and painful until 2 weeks before my hysterectomy.
@justsomebabyghosts I was on 800mg ibuprofen in high school. I would go to the school nurse and get yelled at to take meds. I told her I did. My pain was so bad that my thighs would go numb. I actually bled through 4 pairs of pants and underwear in one night. It got to the point in my 40's that I would have to change an ultra tampon every 10 minutes. Work was pretty much impossible. I finally had a hysterectomy in 2016. (Had 3 girls already) Best decision I have ever made. I could actually live my life again...well until menopause got me. I am 49 now, and trying to handle this dumb menopause thing! It sucks but still better than what I dealt with before!
My mom always thought I was just trying to get out of going to school. No one believed me about how bad it was. Turned out I have endometriosis. Thank god my cramps aren't nearly as bad as they were back then. They used to make me scream & throw up. Genuinely the worst pain I've ever had in my life.
Today, I learned about Amber Nicole Thurman & my heart is broken. She is 1st death officially due to the US abortion ban. Please Google & learn about the 20 hrs of agonizing pain & her senseless, preventable death. For those in the US, please think about Amber's motherless son as you cast your vote.
I read an article about her death. It’s so ridiculous how a woman can die like this in one of the most developed countries in the world. Nice greetings from Switzerland
@@JasminMernicathe US used to be amongst the most developed, but starting stagnating some decades ago and is most definitely not on that list anymore. Not just because of healthcare.
Because of your comment, I googled her this afternoon. OMG I cried when I read her story, and not just for her, but also for her mum who was in the waiting room, her partner and her little boy. I'm Australian so I can't vote, and tbh I'm not even in the US, but to those who can vote, please vote compassionately
Love your channel Dr. Jones! Even though I am a dude, it is important to me to learn about these things. I have sisters, a niece, cousins, a mom and past/current partners I care about and I want to make sure they are safe and healthy and that I can support them as a "dumbass man". Your channel helps me understand what I need to support all the beautiful women in my life. Thank you. I am a big fan of the philosophy of, "your body, your choice!"
This is good and thank you for A) doing that and B) saying that publicly. Men should not be ashamed to have this knowledge or to want to have this knowledge. I'm always testing my partners (if they are a man) for such knowledge and not being a dick about it. I'm not on the market for a man who is like "eww, period, I don't need to know". One guy who said that eww-thing, but before he did other things that made me end our relationship, was in a bit of a surprise next time he wanted to have sex and - as per his request - I didn't mention I am on my period. He was "eww, period, why didn't you say that", and I was like, you're dumb. How can a human being be like 'eww period' when they are seeking companionship from a person who has uterus. In majority of the cases, you'll get the whole package, uterus, vagina (this makes people happy when utilised at least), periods and the whole host of woman-related nuances. On the other hand, there are women who also lack this knowledge. In many cases, your knowledge - thanks to listening to MDJ who is top notch resource - might exceed that of your female friends, quite flabbergasting.
I’d say you are no longer a “dumbass man” since you are doing your research. Edit: I say no longer just because there was prob a time you were very ignorant. Had to start somewhere. But in no way do I think you are dumb or really we’re dumb, just ignorant. Thank you for doing this. 💚
Making sure that you are not a "dumbass man" makes a world of difference to the women around you. A man who understands and aren't ashamed to pick up a box of tampax or always at the supermarket makes everything a little better.
It don't matter if the baby came out the window or the sunroof they are still out of the uterus that grew them. The kids were borne. As a 60+ woman I still have much to learn about my body and how my uterus worked (till it malfunctioned). Missed you so glad you are back. Love from 🇬🇧
So my mom (71) is a twin, but her sister was born almost 2 days later then her... My Grandmother lived on a little (back then) remote island, there was no bridges youd have to take a ferry to get to the closest city with a hospital.. She didnt know she had twins, her nurse didn't hear two babies in her stomach, so after a really, really hard and long birth, of my mom, they thought her pain where just, after pains.. There where no doctor on the island and again the nearest hospital where so far away.. She kept having cramps and bleeding, and after a day they started to suspect there where two babies, and some hours later my Aunt was born! My Grandma would have died had it taken them much longer to realize they had twins.. It just speaks volumes about how important medical carr is and acsess to it is! Today if you are dangerously sick you will be flown by a helicopter to the nearest hospital (happened for my grandma a few years ago) but back then... You would most likely die from one small little mistake.. And its not that many years ago even.
To all the people here who are worried about if their period pain is "bad enough" to see a doctor about, I would highly recommend seeing a doctor about it. Getting a gynecological checkup is not a bad thing. I thought I just had bad period pain for the longest time. I let people tell me it wasn't that bad until I kept getting painful ovarian cysts that were bursting constantly and making me very sick from the fluid leaking into my pelvis. Very recently I had another cyst explode and it got infected. I got sent home from the ER while I was in excruciating pain but came back 2 hours later in excruciating pain with sepsis. It's very important to catch issues like this. Ovarian cysts are "common and not that serious" except because I left the issue alone it did become serious. Hopefully this is a rare case but I can't name how many male doctors I saw that dismissed me for this issue. I've been on birth control for years. It might not be something dangerous but it never hurts to check.
And then people wonder why I have a poor opinion of doctors in general. Yes, there are some good ones, but they are an absolute pain to find, and I never have both the time and the money to find them. I hope you manage to find one for yourself.
Yes! ❤ Also about the different IUDs. I have the chemical one and hve been told I should change. But I'm so scared about period pain 😢 it used to be so bad
Yes! I have the mirena and I still have pain, and the doctor says it is "normal" for the first months or even first year. I got mine because of that and chronic migraine and that one hasn't gone away either (I know that migraines are VERY complicated but would still like to hear your opinion)
@@sylvia.s.s. I have the mirena and had pain in the first month and then gone! No periods, no pain 👌 My period pain completely went away with birth control, even pills. But the memory of the pain from before makes me SO scared of changing to copper 😔 I should because of family history of breast cancer. But I am paralised to make that kind of decision......
I'd like to have some more focus on the implant as well. I tried the IUD but for some reason my uterus just didn't want it so after 2 weeks of heavy bleeding and incredible pain I had it removed. I then got the implant, with the same hormone, and it's great!
Welcome back! 🥰 as a healthcare professional we need to take period pain more seriously. As a patient with PCOS and adenomyosis we need to hear that it's not normal when it disrupts your life. I thought it was standard to be in a lot of pain which prevented me getting care. Even when it radiated, I was throwing up or unable to walk it took me and my doctor a long time to realise it was not part of the parcel. Getting docs to take it seriously has been difficult too, I'm so glad your advocating for us to not settle and to seek help 🙌
Idk why I can't comment at ALL, but i was gonna say, in response to your ied comments.... Why is it considered OKAY for your obgyn to LIE to you about the "slight pain or discomfort" with iud insertion, and prescribe ibuprofen, when its been been PROVEN to not be an acceptable pain reliever for that procedure? And part 2 to that question- why aren't there any better, less invasive, and less harmful perform an iud insertion?! Why isn't anesthetic even considered, and why are we still okay just accepting this SUPER harmful, medieval, tenaculum involved method of stabilizing the cervix@MamaDoctorJones
Also, is there any way you could do a video on menopause. I'm not sure if you have yet. I am part of a fb group, and so many women have no clue what to expect. There are so many things that happen mentally and physically, and I wish I had someone to send them to for some insight!
I second this suggestion. As someone who is getting close to that age, I would love a video on different things to expect. I know some things, but not a lot, and MDJ has such a great way of explaining things so that it's easy to understand, and calming.
The concept of "free birth" terrifies me considering with my own experience I tore and needed to be sewn up and also ended up losing a lot of blood and needed a transfusion. If I had a "free birth" I probably would've died.
re health influencers: BIG red flag: if they're trying to scare you into doing something (or stopping something), AND they're not advising you to get personal advice from a professional. People on the internet are NOT a substitute for healthcare (even Doctor Mama Jones, who is amazing. but part of why she's awesome is she's not trying to diagnose or treat on her channel.)
I kinda am thinking she got a divorce, she doesn't have a ring on her left ring finger and the photo in the back is just her and her kids with no husband. I hope if it's that, that she is ok
@@hannahmiller7942 Not to engage in speculation but she had rings on her "right" hand (including her ring finger), so it might be a matter of the filming process inverting the picture (like a mirror)
I'm a lesbian who uses a hormonal IUD because my periods were so heavy that it was basically like having a runny tummy every month. I did not want to go on the pill, because I don't want the hassle of getting a prescription for and taking something daily that makes me feel like I'm 'supposed' to be straight (I get enough of that from people around me saying I'm wasting my body by not getting pregnant). IUD is out of sight, out of mind.
Less opportunity for judgy pharmacists to bother you, too. huh, I never thought of birth control as particularly heteronormative but now that you point it out, I can see the name certainly is. Probably helps that my health teachers and my mom were pretty thorough in explaining that there were lots of reasons besides no-babies to use the stuff, and the first person who I knew for sure took the pill (a college roommate) did it for period control reasons, and had since she was 12 or so.
You’re supposed to be whoever you are, it sucks there are people around you who insist on shoveling that nonsense. I’m never having kids either, and it’s nothing to do with my dating preferences, it’s just because I don’t want kids. If people think that’s a waste they can go back to the 50s. You do whatever makes you happy, but don’t feel you have to do it because other people are judgy. Do it because it’s your choice. ❤❤
Omg I can’t believe people say you’re wasting your body. Like, what?!? I think that might be a contender for “Most Misogynistic Thing I’ve Ever Heard” and I’m so sorry you had it said to you even once.
I don't care if you've forgotten some of your video finesse. You're still funny and informative, honest and genuine, and I am so here for that! I'm glad you're back.
I would love to see you do a video about "free birth." I saw a website about it many years ago when I was pregnant with my first baby. I found it fascinating, but equally disturbing. If I had attempted to give birth to my first baby without any help, she absolutely would have died. She needed immediate care from the NICU. Because I had her in a hospital, she survived and is now a healthy young adult!
Dear Danielle, just in case you don’t know, we love you and we need your videos, we need them every week (at least). We love the long formats and this Q&A formats too. And YES to all the topics you said you could do a longer video about. The way you analyze things is brilliant.
The phrase "let's ask Mama" has become common among myself and my friends when we're researching women's health questions or issues. You're not our only source, but you're definitely one of our stops. You make very complicated issues easier to understand and help take the apprehension and fear out of these procedures and situations. Thank you, Mama!
you raised a really good point about the c-section rate. the first OBGYN i went to bragged about her c-section rate being "only" 25% because it was below the national average. but she not only insisted on inducing me, i had to do everything on her schedule. 5am, get to hospital. 6am, start pitocin. 9am, break waters. by 6pm THAT SAME DAY she told me i needed a c-section because shift change was coming up and "i don't want you delivering on night shift." i had told her from the very beginning i didn't want a c-section and i feel like she not only made no effort to avoid one, i feel like she was actively looking for excuses to give me one. come to find out afterwards the hospital she's at also doesn't do VBACs, so any subsequent pregnancies would mean more c-sections for her. that "below average" c-section rate had nothing to do with her enthusiasm for performing c-sections.
How could someone who hasn't given birth, have the audacity to say that someone who had a c section didn't give birth? I'm suprised people haven't been more called out on it... or maybe that's a good thing if most people don't think like that.
As someone who has had 2, it makes me incredibly mad. I'm still a mom, it doesn't matter that I became a human ziplock bag, I'm a mom. I want to ask them if they say the same thing to those who adopted.
There are also people who shame moms who formula feed regardless of the reason. This happened to me. I was unable to breastfeed due to medical reasons and got shamed for not being a real mom. It didn't matter that I incubated my son inside me for 9 months or that I was able to push him out myself, my inability to breastfeed made me less than to others. It was mind blowing.
I know your channel metrics are struggling but never forget that kids are always growing older and need people like you who will tell them good info when their families, friends, teachers, religious leaders, etc. will not. ❤
Yes! In my experience, women's clinics aka abortion clinics actually numb the cervix and it's virtually pain free but regular clinics do not! Idk why this is a thing but it's messed up that regular clinics wouldn't want you to be as comfortable!
I would like to hear more about that myth that "the cervix has very few nerve endings". Even just accidentally opening a menstrual cup next to the cervix instead of below it can hurt a lot, so it's wild to me that several cervix-related surgeries are often performed without anaestesia.
I got told to get checked for disorders because my exam hurt. While that's a good idea in general, I feel like a lot of people get gaslit that your cervix isn't supposed to feel anything. That if it hurts at all to be poked and scraped, you're the odd one out. I"ve learned that "pinch" is doctor speak for "pain," and I wonder if doctors were more upfront about it instead of downplaying and lying that I'd be better able to tolerate it.
@@ClarissaMcLaughlin amazingly the needle part barely hurts but if you skip that part the pain is FAR worse (as a woman who's never given birth before).
I am so thrilled to have you back, I look forward to your informative and educational videos delivered by your sensible, funny and smart and lovely voice. It's so great to hear how happy you and your family are in your current location.
In Czechia, even though there are groups that try to change that sending petitions, giving birth without a doctor, not in a hospital, is basically illegal. Like, you can do it as a person, but midwives, nurses, etc. are deliberately prohibited and can be put to jail for assisting with birth at home. So if you don't want to give birth in a hospital, even when healthy with no complications, you can only do it without help (or with a help of someone risking jail because of it). So the "free birth" is actually one choice and giving birth in a hospital is another. It's deliberately made like that, so that everybody is too scared to do it at home. Home birth is something very exotic here, something most doctors will be mad at you about (another crazy mother trying to give birth naturally now asking our help!) if you then choose to come to a hospital when complications come and I have no idea what people do with their children, like, for them even to be acknowledged as being born, it's all done only in hospitals, recording and such. And the (male) doctors still have the nerve to state that we have one of the lowest rates of women dying of childbirth thanks to them and we shouldn't complain and be "irresponsible" and just go to the hospital so they can control it. They would rather let you do it the most dangerous way than let you go the middle way and reject THEIR "help". Now, we also have a high rate of procedures like cutting the perineum and most hospitals don't give you the choice of birthing position or any kind of privacy. They opened one birth center next to a hospital where you can give birth with a midwife. One! And that is called a big progress. It's terrible. I'm childfree but I hate that other women don't have a choice in how they bring their children to the world and has to go through so much stress and fight with doctors for being respected while being in pain and GIVING BIRTH. Damn, it makes me so mad.
I'm sorry but that is not *quite* true. Women in Czechia can give birth at home, they can have help from a dula or even some private (paid for) health centers offer the option of their assistants and doctors to come to your home. There's just not an option under current legislation to have a medically trained midwife there. At least not one contracted under state hospital (someone providing free healthcare may I add, so it's likely to do with money as much as it is with control over where people give birth). I do think that part is shitty, but also no one is going to prison unless this midwife's help resulted in the death of the mother or infant. They might get a very expensive fine though.
I’d love for you to talk about the pain when getting IUD fitted. I got an IUD fitted before having children and it was one of the most painful experiences of my life. It was completely downplayed by the medical team I felt like there was something wrong with me. I honestly almost fainted. Since then I’ve spoken to many folk and they had the same experience. It wasn’t just me! I still don’t understand why it was so painful, maybe something you could explain in a video? Love your content and glad to see you back 😊
It was also very painful for me. I'm German and live in Germany and have never given birth. So seems the procedure is painful everywhere. Woman who haven't given birth their cervix is quite tight and to put the IUD in it has to be stretched, opened if you will and that's why it hurts. An acquaintance of mine paid happily for a short sedation to not have to go through that pain again.
In my experience, women's clinics aka abortion clinics actually numb the cervix and it's virtually pain free but regular clinics do not! Idk why this is a thing but it's messed up that regular clinics wouldn't want you to be as comfortable!
@@sarahschouveller1993That is not true. I'm a medical assistant working with a PA who is a gynecologist and we offer ketorolac (an NSAID) as an injection or oral medication, misoprostol to soften the cervix, paracervical blocks (lidocaine injection into the cervix), and/or anxiety medications like lorazepam. We are currently working on figuring out how to get nitrous oxide that is patient administered so they can control their own pain management. I work in a regular OBGYN clinic. This is for all GYN procedures including IUD insertions and colposcopies.
@@sarahschouveller1993 My previous ob/gyn (her practice closed) always number using lidocaine. After hearing so many stories, I know I have been very lucky.
@@sarahschouveller1993 I asked my dr for numbing and they straight up said they didn’t do it. It was so painful I couldn’t complete the procedure and was in tears. I ended up getting the arm implant instead
In regards to free birth - interestingly, in Europe (not sure about other areas of the world) it has always been quite common for women to have some sort of assistance during birth. In fact birthing used to be a social event that was attended by the birthing mothers female family and friends - these people were know as Godsibbs (sibb was the old English word for relative (in modern English its only really used in sibling but in old English it meant any relative)) so they were essentially the equivalent of God parents but because labour can be a long process a lot of these Godsibbs spent most of their time sitting round talking and eating - this is where the word gossip comes from. I think it's interesting that birth has been seen as a social event through history, enough so that it gave us the verb 'to gossip'
Thanks for the lesson! I really can't imagine how scary giving birth alone would be. One of my kids was early, and because my parents lived a couple of hours away, and I wanted my husband to work that day so he could have the next day off, it was just me and the nurses for a little while. I called my grandmother and asked her to distract me with stories from when she was a nurse! I swear, that was my relative's biggest job was to distract me from the pain because the epidural didn't work well on me either time.
To the person who was nervous "not being on birth control" now that they had their tubes removed, I'd like to add that here sterilisation is called "permanent birth control" so while it's not the kind of birth control you're used too, and it might be weird not actively doing something regularly if that's what you're used to, you're very much still on birth control!
I'm loving how much more we are normalizing bad period pain being something worth talking to a doctor about. When I was a teen I had such bad pain I was throwing up and passing out, had to call out of school and then work. And my mom was literally like "Yeah that's how it is" and told me not to go to the doctor. At my 18 year physical I mentioned it and finally got pain medicine and it made a world of difference for me. (It got a lot better after having kids and now I just pop an ibuprofen or two thank God!)
Great to see you back! I got really into your content about 3 years ago because you were the only person I could find giving straight forward (and inclusive!) info on pregnancy. I still can't thank you enough for the answers you gave about epidurals, birth plans, everything! You helped me have a truly wonderful birth experience and my kiddo is now the best toddler I know.
😂 You're still doing a splendid job for someone who "forgot how to make videos". I can very strongly relate to forgetting even the most regular procedure if not done in a while. But thankfully it's a bit like riding a bicycle: You need a good warmup and it'll all come back with some practice. Thank you very very much for being back with us. It's a joy AND incredibly useful. Not only in helping myself but also friends! ❤
I know this is really niche, and probably wouldn't be considered for a long format, but I would love a video about the differences/what to be concerned and focused on in a pregnancy if you are a Type 1 Diabetic (as a T1 who hopes to one day have kids....).
just stopping by to say that although this is my first time commenting, i've always been a huge fan of your videos ever since i first watched the collabs with jammidodger! as a trans guy i'm always grateful to see inclusive language and terms being used to talk about topics such as periods and pregnancy, which has been consistent throughout all mdj videos, and i only hope that more healthcare practitioners can follow in your footsteps too. please keep doing what you do!
I got so exited when i saw the youtube notification! I was so lucky to find you as a younger teenager so i had good education on my body, and therefore was able to help all of my friends have an understanding of their bodies!❤
Danielle, I think you should make a longer video on why you should make a longer video. 😂 Jokes aside, I'm so glad you're back! 😊 Much love from Italy ❤
I'm so glad to see you back here. Lumi is on the wall again! You do know how to UA-cam. Just get PO'd, it works. Obamacare paid with good health insurance program in the US paid for one IVF treatment for my daughter. After that each treatment was more than the value of their house. So they had no children together. Not that IVF would have helped, women in my family tend to go into perimenopause very early. We don't tend to have babies after around 30. My daughter had a hormone that did not kick in to support a pregnancy. She had several very early miscarriages, 4-6 weeks. The longest she carried was about 10 weeks, her first pregnancies post age 30. Is this genetic? It seems to be in my family.
A Midwife’s Tale, by Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, is a really great book that’s an explanation of a diary from a late 18th century midwife in Maine. The culture of birthing attendants was deeply ingrained at that point, and the reasons were made VERY obvious.
I just can’t get over how happy I am that you are back! I’ve missed your videos *so* much! I think the deep dive into Andrea Yates and postpartum psychosis was my favorite video you’ve ever made, so I would love to see more of that documentary style video from you. But really, I’ll watch any video you make 🤍
Please do a video about endometriosis. I know you have previously said it's a difficult topic to cover but I think whatever you can offer would be really helpful and supportive.
Love your videos. Thanks for making this one. Thanks for calling out the lack of common sense and providing ways to spot the scams and those just selling something.
Hi MDJ I just wanna reiterate you're a brilliant, fun and passionate health & science communicator! You're the main reason for how comfortable I feel discussing my health with my GYN, and how simple it was for me to make important decisions about my body. I'm sure loads more people feel the same. Keep up the good work, you make a difference in our lives 💛
You didn't forget how to make videos. I love that you are just you and laugh at yourself. It honestly is why we love your channel. It's like sitting and having a chat with one of our friends.
Had to watch IMMEDIATELY when I saw the new video was up! Your educational and entertaining videos are a treat to watch, even when the subject matter gets a little dark sometimes. MDJ hair and makeup are looking 🔥🔥🔥!
I've noticed that in the past few years long form videos are doing well! I highly recommend making some. It would be nice to have more informational videos to listen to while working.
The toast thing is real in Australia - but not just for new mothers. My mother broke her shoulder a few months ago, and in both the hospital and the rehab hospital she went to afterwards, they do not serve toast. It’s something to do with the smell - because the smell of toast makes patients who cannot eat hungry, whereas the normal hospital food must not. All she wanted was toast after her surgery.
I just wanted to say that watching your videos on birthcontrol convinced me to start taking it (my doctor recomended it but I was too scared) and it changed my life. My depressive episodes, suicidal ideation, period pain, moodswings, irratability, and unpredictable periods have all lessaned significantly. Not having to deal with going into a deep depressive episode every month or so has given me the time and energy to work on myself, I have improved my daily habbits and overal mental health. I am just so much happier now, so I wanted to say thank you. I know you most likley won't read this, but just in case you do, know that your influence and the work you do promoting real knowledge and debunking miths about reproductive healthcare has changed my life. Thank you.
Thank you for talking about this (and in general) like a human talking to another human. I've never had a GYN who wasn't terrifying. You aren't terrifying. Thank you.
Hi MDJ! I'm so happy your videos are back. If you do a freebirth video, we've had some freebirth-related deaths here in Ireland this year that you could include. Having been through a placental abruption with my twins, I can not imagine the fear of not having medical care in the case of a medical emergency during freebirth. On a lighter note, could you bring back 'Obgn reacts to I didn't know I was pregnant?' I miss those episodes. I'm glad you and your family are still doing well in NZ.
I have never heard of free birth but would be interested in a longer video on that! Also glad you’re back on UA-cam - I enjoy learning from your videos
Yes to longer form video on chemicals in tampons and PFAs in menstrual cups! And period underwear! Sometimes as a consumer it just feels like there is no winning and everything comes with some level of danger.
MDJ! I can’t believe you missed the toast scandal. I guess it was bigger in my Wellington bubble than it was in your bubble. Yes to every suggestion for video topics. Your content is so informative, nuanced and considered, and having met you a few years back, I know you are as lovely and considered in person. Glad to have you back
I personally would be very interested in a video all about the IUD and personally want to know ways to combat pain of insertion and removal. It's a very hard to understand topic and as someone who experienced much pain during and months after I want to know more about the options . Love the short hair. Thanks for being here and making videos it really means a lot to me. You've been a great resource of my journey in life about my reproductive health.
Had a relative who was a substance abuser and used BC but wasn't tegular enough taking it so she ended up pregnant 4 times, yes, she terminated twice and those were the lucky ones. The others were still born and one lived a horrific 20 hours. The people most often accused of using abortion AS birth control are the same people who would have the worst outcomes. Why would anyone want that. 😢
Thank you for addressing the c-section stuff. My first was a c/s birth and my next two were VBAC. My weird experience was that when I found out I was pregnant with number 3 at first I had to see a new to me OB instead of my midwife. The nurse tried pre schedule a C-section 30 weeks out even though I had already had a successful vaginal delivery with my previous baby. I told her “but I already did a VBAC, I don’t plan on another c-section unless I really need it for medical reasons” She then told me “ Dr “Smith” doesn’t give any of her c-section her patients permission to do that, not even prior vbacs” 🙄 the tone of her voice was intimidating and I felt very alarmed. The fact that I had already had a VBAC didn’t matter and the term “permission” was used. To me It was a red flag. I set the pregnancy and birth guide binder they had just given me down on the table and walked out. I never returned to that office. Dr Jones brought up a very good point about c-section rates and what impacts them. I went on to have a normal text book perfect un medicated vaginal delivery with a midwife who partnered with an awesome OB
I have been subscribed to this woman for a little under a year now and wow I love her. She has taught me more about... well, literally anything to do with reproduction and the female workings than anyone else. I'm so glad she's here (on UA-cam).
Another way to spot shady influencers is to ask if they make money off of this suggestion. It's not always the case, but if they have a store that sells the same thing that they advertise there is a definite conflict of interest.
Haven't women always had birth attendants unless there was an emergency? Doesn't every culture do this? Can a cultural anthropologist chime in? Long form video please!
ive always said that period cramps can be painful but if it stops you from functioning you should get that checked out and im glad that is basically what you would say as a professional because pain can be normal for you but that pain shouldn't be bad enough that you cant walk or you throw up or whatever else that impacts your functioning (also i usually mention that i have bad cramps but they are normal bc all they really do is make me pause for a bit till it passes)
What role do you think society plays in educating those with periods (and those without!) about when to seek help, what help can be provided, and to create an atmosphere where discussion of these issues is normalized? As a physician, many of the women I speak to have mentioned that women in their surroundings contributed to a sense of acceptance of pain and inconvenience as part and parcel of the female experience. While acceptance of pain and disability (and finding ways to still do what makes you happy) is an important part of finding joy in life, I feel like it can also lead to issues going unadressed.
Add to your list of topics! A more in-depth look at re-usable period products! I just watched your 10-ish minute video about them and I would love more information from an obgyn. If anyone knows of longer videos, I would also appreciate those!
Immiediately saving this in " watch this later " for my daughter ❤ love your work ! P.S. : if you can, or want, would be possible to see a video about menopause? I think that would be interesting , in order to see on how i can support my wife better 🎉
Great video! As far as all subjects you "could do a full video on," am here for every fight against mis/disinformation ❤️🔥 Thank you, as always, for what you do!
So glad you're back! This video was great. I wouldn't say you've forgotten how to make videos. Give yourself grace as you get back into the swing of things. ❤
I came here to nz for a year almost 6 years ago now 😂😂. It is a really common thing to happen that you come here on holiday and stay forever. My husband and I came here together got married had two kids and now happy in our forever home in Christchurch
I think it's kinda funny when people accuse others of "not being a real mom" because they had a C-section or something, like, do you want them to shove it back in and try again?
Also being a mom is not birthing.
It's caring, raising...
Wait until they meet a mom who dared to adopt a child and didn't give birth at all, or the best one... a DAD who gave birth
@JustAGun_ I watched my friend watch her sleeping daughter for *months*, terrified something bad would happen. She didn't birth her daughter but she's been her Mum since the day they met.
If you think about it, c section Moms have it worse - they have to recover from pregnancy *and* major surgery.
I had a 13 lb fibroid blocking the birth canal. My 6 lb 10 oz baby would've died, and I would've died, if a C-section was not feasible. Modern healthcare is amazing.
Freebirth sounds terrifying
Don't hike alone, don't skydive alone, don't birth alone
Also, as a society we really need to normalize asking for help
I'm up for what I like to call an "assisted free birth". I am autistic and notice that when my body is going through a difficult thing, I prefer to be left alone. As educated about birth as I am (birth doula here), I want to birth at home and have the option of being alone...with midwife on property to spring into action if I need them.
You can hike alone, just got to pick the right place.
@@treefrog101 as long as someone is ready to jump into action, obviously that's not being alone and is allowing you to have the circumstances you need without endangering you
Hope you get an amazing birth
@@emmastilwell759 I think that if you're in an area that's difficult for vehicles to reach, even if it's an easy trail, you shouldn't be alone.
Never know what might come up.
Will add that a dog can be the one with you, depending on the trail, since in an emergency most dog can be relied upon to help until other assistance can arrive.
@@emmastilwell759 Bad idea unless you hike in a place where there are other people hiking as well. Accidents and/or medical emergencies can happen regardless of the place.
I often think "how can I live, laugh, love in these conditions?" while on my period.
Naturally. It's what we all think.
😂
More like a "curl up in a ball and hope for the best" time 😂😂😂
@catalinacaro8183
Yes exactly that 💯 and be sure to get yourself a heating pad, a box of your favorite cookies, and salty chips or snacks, plus a bottle of extra strength Motrin, and a bottle of vodka with a bottle of cranberry juice to make yourself several Cape Cods or a box of your favorite wine, or both! (And if you're really lucky like me, ask your husband or partner to give you a back massage.)
Cheers sister! 🥂🍻🍷🍸🧉🍶 (And I sincerely hope you are not suffering with endometriosis like me. It's a whole other level of living hell.)
Some are so lucky that they feel good while on periods, most feel uncomfortable during periods, and too many feel horrible on periods 😔 Hope you find help so periods aren’t torture, that you can have pleasant moments even during periods.
Helping each other give birth and raise kids is one of the main reasons our species thrives. This idea that a woman needs to give birth and raise her children essentially in isolation is not just dangerous but counterproductive to our survival.
And they wonder why we don't want to have their babies...
I am very vocal about hating the nuclear family structure because it's not enough support for anyone and many people fall through the cracks with it, parents and children both. We dumped so many evolutionary points into community and cooperation and it's something we still really need.
@@kyradreamer4769 THIS! I’m disabled and would love to have a kid someday, but I CANNOT raise them alone. Especially because I need alone time and would go into sensory overload so fast if it was 24/7…
@@kyradreamer4769I’m one of those people. I have more support than some because at least I have a husband who is an amazing father and supportive but besides that I left my family and moved here for him where his family lives and I have darn near zero other support. Trying to raise 3 kids has taken a serious toll on my mental health. Even just with my second, when he was a baby, I was the only one that could get him to sleep and he wouldn’t sleep longer than an hr at a time. I should’ve been hospitalized. While I was still PP and going through literal sleep deprivation my MiL asked “so when’s the next one??” I almost screamed… I told her straight up “so are you going to come over at 3 in the morning when baby won’t sleep and I’m crying in a corner??”
Firstly, im not a mum and wont ever be. But at no point will i ever pass judgement on any choice anyone makes with their body.
I get so annoyed when anyone goes "you're not a real mum if.." no no, you have a child you're a mum. Adoptions too.
Parents parent.
You're exactly right.
And I'm like...my mom had to get a c section or else I would have d13d...
Is she still not a mother...
That tends to get them to shut up. 😂
My son would have d13d without a c-section. He's a man now.
"Freebirth" sounds like a romanticisation. It makes it sound like birth is safe and pretty, when everyone should know, that women die every day from giving birth.
Birth may be "natural", but there's nothing romantic about dying in pain.
Freebirth sounds a million times more stress-free for me. That said, I am down for 1. Being deeply educated about birth and 2. Have a midwife on property for you to call in case you need.
Sounds perfect to me.
@@treefrog101midwife doesn't have enough resources to save ppl from certain complications though
I wonder how much of it comes down to stuff like faith, too. If you view birth as a process designed by a creator, you might be more inclined to think it'll "work as intended" or that it'll go smoothly FOR YOU because you conduct yourself in a way that 'earns' it, etc.
I have a lot more faith in my OBGYN than I do in any of that lol
Eye roll. The argument "people die from birth everyday" is not good enough. We have over medicalized birth and it has been researched and proven that continuity of care with a midwife and homebirth is a very safe option (sometimes safest) for a low risk pregnancy.
@@clawwestfall8799, several of my friends have needed emergency c-section during childbirth. I doubt a midwife can perform that on the livingroom floor.
Since you joked that the entire video was you saying "I need to make a longer video on that", can I just give a blanket "yes, I'm interested and will watch that" response to all of your suggested topics? I loved your last long form video - you delivered the content in such an informative and compassionate way that has contrasted sharply with the way some others have reported on that same incident. I will watch any content you make, no matter how little or often you post! Glad to see you again!
MDJ could read straight from an obstetrics and gynecology textbook and still have us watching hour long videos of it.
@@tinkeramma Mostly because there is no way she could do that without injecting some comments of her own that would alleviate the dullness of the material.
This!!!
US pregnancy-related issue -Roe v Wade. NZ pregnancy-related issue -Toast. . I know which one I'm choosing 😅
The Tea & Toast after giving birth is the best, most delicious I've ever had in my life! I would fight tooth & nail for everyone to have the right & privilege to experience that 😂
@@heleninglis9961 the problem is Wellington DHB toast is always cold (this is just a fact)
@@gabriellehitchins9182 my friend in the chemo ward got it but he mum's didn't!
@@gabriellehitchins9182 oh no! That really sucks. X
I gave birth on Thanksgiving morning. I demanded my Thanksgiving feast after my 32 hour hellish labor. Toast wouldn't have cut it for me LOL
I really wish I had someone like you to listen to when I was a teenager. My period was so bad that I could not function. The school nurse would yell at me every month. I thought it was normal and never asked about it. I wish I had.
The pain is so intense that it’s not rare that I throw up, but the doctor just told me it’s the progesterone in my system and take more ibuprofen…. I’d like to see a study on how many women are taking too much ibuprofen to manage pain
@@justsomebabyghosts NSAIDs are bad for kidneys long term, Tylenol for the liver. This is a great comment! I am curious, as well!!
@@justsomebabyghostsI'd like to see that study, too. I'm a pain patient now because I wrecked my stomach from taking too much ibuprofen.
BTW: I didn't find out why my periods were so ridiculously heavy and painful until 2 weeks before my hysterectomy.
@justsomebabyghosts I was on 800mg ibuprofen in high school. I would go to the school nurse and get yelled at to take meds. I told her I did. My pain was so bad that my thighs would go numb. I actually bled through 4 pairs of pants and underwear in one night. It got to the point in my 40's that I would have to change an ultra tampon every 10 minutes. Work was pretty much impossible. I finally had a hysterectomy in 2016. (Had 3 girls already) Best decision I have ever made. I could actually live my life again...well until menopause got me. I am 49 now, and trying to handle this dumb menopause thing! It sucks but still better than what I dealt with before!
My mom always thought I was just trying to get out of going to school. No one believed me about how bad it was. Turned out I have endometriosis. Thank god my cramps aren't nearly as bad as they were back then. They used to make me scream & throw up. Genuinely the worst pain I've ever had in my life.
Today, I learned about Amber Nicole Thurman & my heart is broken. She is 1st death officially due to the US abortion ban. Please Google & learn about the 20 hrs of agonizing pain & her senseless, preventable death. For those in the US, please think about Amber's motherless son as you cast your vote.
I read an article about her death. It’s so ridiculous how a woman can die like this in one of the most developed countries in the world. Nice greetings from Switzerland
@@JasminMernica Even the most developed countries has it's downfalls no country is perfect especially developed countries in the Western World.
@@yesthatmousyiris4887THE ISSUE THAT IT WAS 100 PERCENT PREVENTABLE.
@@JasminMernicathe US used to be amongst the most developed, but starting stagnating some decades ago and is most definitely not on that list anymore. Not just because of healthcare.
Because of your comment, I googled her this afternoon. OMG I cried when I read her story, and not just for her, but also for her mum who was in the waiting room, her partner and her little boy. I'm Australian so I can't vote, and tbh I'm not even in the US, but to those who can vote, please vote compassionately
Love your channel Dr. Jones! Even though I am a dude, it is important to me to learn about these things. I have sisters, a niece, cousins, a mom and past/current partners I care about and I want to make sure they are safe and healthy and that I can support them as a "dumbass man". Your channel helps me understand what I need to support all the beautiful women in my life. Thank you. I am a big fan of the philosophy of, "your body, your choice!"
Bless you.
This is good and thank you for A) doing that and B) saying that publicly. Men should not be ashamed to have this knowledge or to want to have this knowledge. I'm always testing my partners (if they are a man) for such knowledge and not being a dick about it. I'm not on the market for a man who is like "eww, period, I don't need to know". One guy who said that eww-thing, but before he did other things that made me end our relationship, was in a bit of a surprise next time he wanted to have sex and - as per his request - I didn't mention I am on my period. He was "eww, period, why didn't you say that", and I was like, you're dumb. How can a human being be like 'eww period' when they are seeking companionship from a person who has uterus. In majority of the cases, you'll get the whole package, uterus, vagina (this makes people happy when utilised at least), periods and the whole host of woman-related nuances.
On the other hand, there are women who also lack this knowledge. In many cases, your knowledge - thanks to listening to MDJ who is top notch resource - might exceed that of your female friends, quite flabbergasting.
You are far from a dumbass man, just trying to learn what others may go through shows how intelligent you are!!
I’d say you are no longer a “dumbass man” since you are doing your research.
Edit: I say no longer just because there was prob a time you were very ignorant. Had to start somewhere. But in no way do I think you are dumb or really we’re dumb, just ignorant. Thank you for doing this. 💚
Making sure that you are not a "dumbass man" makes a world of difference to the women around you.
A man who understands and aren't ashamed to pick up a box of tampax or always at the supermarket makes everything a little better.
Thank you for coming back MDJ!
Thank you for being here
We all missed you and I was honestly worried something had happened 😬 But it's great to have you back! ❤
It don't matter if the baby came out the window or the sunroof they are still out of the uterus that grew them. The kids were borne. As a 60+ woman I still have much to learn about my body and how my uterus worked (till it malfunctioned). Missed you so glad you are back. Love from 🇬🇧
I love your frankness.
So my mom (71) is a twin, but her sister was born almost 2 days later then her...
My Grandmother lived on a little (back then) remote island, there was no bridges youd have to take a ferry to get to the closest city with a hospital..
She didnt know she had twins, her nurse didn't hear two babies in her stomach, so after a really, really hard and long birth, of my mom, they thought her pain where just, after pains..
There where no doctor on the island and again the nearest hospital where so far away..
She kept having cramps and bleeding, and after a day they started to suspect there where two babies, and some hours later my Aunt was born!
My Grandma would have died had it taken them much longer to realize they had twins..
It just speaks volumes about how important medical carr is and acsess to it is!
Today if you are dangerously sick you will be flown by a helicopter to the nearest hospital (happened for my grandma a few years ago) but back then... You would most likely die from one small little mistake.. And its not that many years ago even.
To all the people here who are worried about if their period pain is "bad enough" to see a doctor about, I would highly recommend seeing a doctor about it. Getting a gynecological checkup is not a bad thing. I thought I just had bad period pain for the longest time. I let people tell me it wasn't that bad until I kept getting painful ovarian cysts that were bursting constantly and making me very sick from the fluid leaking into my pelvis. Very recently I had another cyst explode and it got infected. I got sent home from the ER while I was in excruciating pain but came back 2 hours later in excruciating pain with sepsis. It's very important to catch issues like this. Ovarian cysts are "common and not that serious" except because I left the issue alone it did become serious. Hopefully this is a rare case but I can't name how many male doctors I saw that dismissed me for this issue. I've been on birth control for years. It might not be something dangerous but it never hurts to check.
And then people wonder why I have a poor opinion of doctors in general. Yes, there are some good ones, but they are an absolute pain to find, and I never have both the time and the money to find them.
I hope you manage to find one for yourself.
Related to the idea of IUDs for painful periods, I’d really be interested in a video breaking down all the different ways to deal with period pain
Yes! ❤
Also about the different IUDs. I have the chemical one and hve been told I should change. But I'm so scared about period pain 😢 it used to be so bad
Yes! I have the mirena and I still have pain, and the doctor says it is "normal" for the first months or even first year. I got mine because of that and chronic migraine and that one hasn't gone away either (I know that migraines are VERY complicated but would still like to hear your opinion)
@@sylvia.s.s. I have the mirena and had pain in the first month and then gone! No periods, no pain 👌
My period pain completely went away with birth control, even pills. But the memory of the pain from before makes me SO scared of changing to copper 😔 I should because of family history of breast cancer. But I am paralised to make that kind of decision......
I'd like to have some more focus on the implant as well.
I tried the IUD but for some reason my uterus just didn't want it so after 2 weeks of heavy bleeding and incredible pain I had it removed. I then got the implant, with the same hormone, and it's great!
Welcome back! 🥰 as a healthcare professional we need to take period pain more seriously. As a patient with PCOS and adenomyosis we need to hear that it's not normal when it disrupts your life. I thought it was standard to be in a lot of pain which prevented me getting care. Even when it radiated, I was throwing up or unable to walk it took me and my doctor a long time to realise it was not part of the parcel. Getting docs to take it seriously has been difficult too, I'm so glad your advocating for us to not settle and to seek help 🙌
I'm glad you're back!!
thank you
@@MamaDoctorJones ❤️
Idk why I can't comment at ALL, but i was gonna say, in response to your ied comments.... Why is it considered OKAY for your obgyn to LIE to you about the "slight pain or discomfort" with iud insertion, and prescribe ibuprofen, when its been been PROVEN to not be an acceptable pain reliever for that procedure? And part 2 to that question- why aren't there any better, less invasive, and less harmful perform an iud insertion?! Why isn't anesthetic even considered, and why are we still okay just accepting this SUPER harmful, medieval, tenaculum involved method of stabilizing the cervix@MamaDoctorJones
Also, is there any way you could do a video on menopause. I'm not sure if you have yet. I am part of a fb group, and so many women have no clue what to expect. There are so many things that happen mentally and physically, and I wish I had someone to send them to for some insight!
I second this to the nth degree!!! Please!!!
I second this suggestion. As someone who is getting close to that age, I would love a video on different things to expect. I know some things, but not a lot, and MDJ has such a great way of explaining things so that it's easy to understand, and calming.
Yes please! I would really love MDJ's point of view on (peri)menopause.
The concept of "free birth" terrifies me considering with my own experience I tore and needed to be sewn up and also ended up losing a lot of blood and needed a transfusion. If I had a "free birth" I probably would've died.
re health influencers: BIG red flag: if they're trying to scare you into doing something (or stopping something), AND they're not advising you to get personal advice from a professional. People on the internet are NOT a substitute for healthcare (even Doctor Mama Jones, who is amazing. but part of why she's awesome is she's not trying to diagnose or treat on her channel.)
I LOVE your haircut. Welcome back, and you look GREAT. I hope whatever was going poorly is going better.
I kinda am thinking she got a divorce, she doesn't have a ring on her left ring finger and the photo in the back is just her and her kids with no husband. I hope if it's that, that she is ok
@@hannahmiller7942speculation is not what MDJ needs. Keep opinions to yourself. It’s literally no one’s business.
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Not to engage in speculation but she had rings on her "right" hand (including her ring finger), so it might be a matter of the filming process inverting the picture (like a mirror)
@@fionafiona1146 The hand with her watch didn't have rings on the ring finger. Usually people wear their watch on the left wrist.
I'm a lesbian who uses a hormonal IUD because my periods were so heavy that it was basically like having a runny tummy every month. I did not want to go on the pill, because I don't want the hassle of getting a prescription for and taking something daily that makes me feel like I'm 'supposed' to be straight (I get enough of that from people around me saying I'm wasting my body by not getting pregnant). IUD is out of sight, out of mind.
Less opportunity for judgy pharmacists to bother you, too.
huh, I never thought of birth control as particularly heteronormative but now that you point it out, I can see the name certainly is. Probably helps that my health teachers and my mom were pretty thorough in explaining that there were lots of reasons besides no-babies to use the stuff, and the first person who I knew for sure took the pill (a college roommate) did it for period control reasons, and had since she was 12 or so.
You’re supposed to be whoever you are, it sucks there are people around you who insist on shoveling that nonsense. I’m never having kids either, and it’s nothing to do with my dating preferences, it’s just because I don’t want kids. If people think that’s a waste they can go back to the 50s. You do whatever makes you happy, but don’t feel you have to do it because other people are judgy. Do it because it’s your choice. ❤❤
Omg I can’t believe people say you’re wasting your body. Like, what?!? I think that might be a contender for “Most Misogynistic Thing I’ve Ever Heard” and I’m so sorry you had it said to you even once.
I don't care if you've forgotten some of your video finesse. You're still funny and informative, honest and genuine, and I am so here for that! I'm glad you're back.
It's so Great to have you back!!!
I would love to see you do a video about "free birth." I saw a website about it many years ago when I was pregnant with my first baby. I found it fascinating, but equally disturbing. If I had attempted to give birth to my first baby without any help, she absolutely would have died. She needed immediate care from the NICU. Because I had her in a hospital, she survived and is now a healthy young adult!
Dear Danielle, just in case you don’t know, we love you and we need your videos, we need them every week (at least). We love the long formats and this Q&A formats too. And YES to all the topics you said you could do a longer video about. The way you analyze things is brilliant.
The phrase "let's ask Mama" has become common among myself and my friends when we're researching women's health questions or issues. You're not our only source, but you're definitely one of our stops. You make very complicated issues easier to understand and help take the apprehension and fear out of these procedures and situations. Thank you, Mama!
you raised a really good point about the c-section rate. the first OBGYN i went to bragged about her c-section rate being "only" 25% because it was below the national average. but she not only insisted on inducing me, i had to do everything on her schedule. 5am, get to hospital. 6am, start pitocin. 9am, break waters. by 6pm THAT SAME DAY she told me i needed a c-section because shift change was coming up and "i don't want you delivering on night shift." i had told her from the very beginning i didn't want a c-section and i feel like she not only made no effort to avoid one, i feel like she was actively looking for excuses to give me one. come to find out afterwards the hospital she's at also doesn't do VBACs, so any subsequent pregnancies would mean more c-sections for her. that "below average" c-section rate had nothing to do with her enthusiasm for performing c-sections.
weird. Couldn't she hand you off to a night shift ob if she couldn't stay?
How could someone who hasn't given birth, have the audacity to say that someone who had a c section didn't give birth? I'm suprised people haven't been more called out on it... or maybe that's a good thing if most people don't think like that.
I don't get it either. My mom says her stitches still occasionally itch or hurt and I'm 30 now.
I’ve known people who have had vaginal births say to those who had c senctions that they didn’t give birth
i don't get how people can say that at all. have you had a baby come out of you from any part of your body? congrats. you gave birth
As someone who has had 2, it makes me incredibly mad. I'm still a mom, it doesn't matter that I became a human ziplock bag, I'm a mom. I want to ask them if they say the same thing to those who adopted.
There are also people who shame moms who formula feed regardless of the reason.
This happened to me.
I was unable to breastfeed due to medical reasons and got shamed for not being a real mom. It didn't matter that I incubated my son inside me for 9 months or that I was able to push him out myself, my inability to breastfeed made me less than to others. It was mind blowing.
I know your channel metrics are struggling but never forget that kids are always growing older and need people like you who will tell them good info when their families, friends, teachers, religious leaders, etc. will not. ❤
Don’t worry about being off the grid for a while. Just really glad you’re back ❤
If you do a video on IUDs, I would love to hear you talk about the use (or not) of pain relief during insertion.
Yes! In my experience, women's clinics aka abortion clinics actually numb the cervix and it's virtually pain free but regular clinics do not! Idk why this is a thing but it's messed up that regular clinics wouldn't want you to be as comfortable!
I would like to hear more about that myth that "the cervix has very few nerve endings". Even just accidentally opening a menstrual cup next to the cervix instead of below it can hurt a lot, so it's wild to me that several cervix-related surgeries are often performed without anaestesia.
I got told to get checked for disorders because my exam hurt. While that's a good idea in general, I feel like a lot of people get gaslit that your cervix isn't supposed to feel anything. That if it hurts at all to be poked and scraped, you're the odd one out. I"ve learned that "pinch" is doctor speak for "pain," and I wonder if doctors were more upfront about it instead of downplaying and lying that I'd be better able to tolerate it.
Yes pls, I only ever hear local anasthesia being used, but for me, a needle in there would be just as agonizing and defeat the purpose
@@ClarissaMcLaughlin amazingly the needle part barely hurts but if you skip that part the pain is FAR worse (as a woman who's never given birth before).
I am so thrilled to have you back, I look forward to your informative and educational videos delivered by your sensible, funny and smart and lovely voice. It's so great to hear how happy you and your family are in your current location.
In Czechia, even though there are groups that try to change that sending petitions, giving birth without a doctor, not in a hospital, is basically illegal. Like, you can do it as a person, but midwives, nurses, etc. are deliberately prohibited and can be put to jail for assisting with birth at home. So if you don't want to give birth in a hospital, even when healthy with no complications, you can only do it without help (or with a help of someone risking jail because of it). So the "free birth" is actually one choice and giving birth in a hospital is another. It's deliberately made like that, so that everybody is too scared to do it at home.
Home birth is something very exotic here, something most doctors will be mad at you about (another crazy mother trying to give birth naturally now asking our help!) if you then choose to come to a hospital when complications come and I have no idea what people do with their children, like, for them even to be acknowledged as being born, it's all done only in hospitals, recording and such.
And the (male) doctors still have the nerve to state that we have one of the lowest rates of women dying of childbirth thanks to them and we shouldn't complain and be "irresponsible" and just go to the hospital so they can control it. They would rather let you do it the most dangerous way than let you go the middle way and reject THEIR "help". Now, we also have a high rate of procedures like cutting the perineum and most hospitals don't give you the choice of birthing position or any kind of privacy. They opened one birth center next to a hospital where you can give birth with a midwife. One! And that is called a big progress.
It's terrible. I'm childfree but I hate that other women don't have a choice in how they bring their children to the world and has to go through so much stress and fight with doctors for being respected while being in pain and GIVING BIRTH. Damn, it makes me so mad.
I'm sorry but that is not *quite* true. Women in Czechia can give birth at home, they can have help from a dula or even some private (paid for) health centers offer the option of their assistants and doctors to come to your home.
There's just not an option under current legislation to have a medically trained midwife there. At least not one contracted under state hospital (someone providing free healthcare may I add, so it's likely to do with money as much as it is with control over where people give birth).
I do think that part is shitty, but also no one is going to prison unless this midwife's help resulted in the death of the mother or infant. They might get a very expensive fine though.
I’d love for you to talk about the pain when getting IUD fitted. I got an IUD fitted before having children and it was one of the most painful experiences of my life. It was completely downplayed by the medical team I felt like there was something wrong with me. I honestly almost fainted. Since then I’ve spoken to many folk and they had the same experience. It wasn’t just me! I still don’t understand why it was so painful, maybe something you could explain in a video? Love your content and glad to see you back 😊
It was also very painful for me. I'm German and live in Germany and have never given birth. So seems the procedure is painful everywhere. Woman who haven't given birth their cervix is quite tight and to put the IUD in it has to be stretched, opened if you will and that's why it hurts. An acquaintance of mine paid happily for a short sedation to not have to go through that pain again.
In my experience, women's clinics aka abortion clinics actually numb the cervix and it's virtually pain free but regular clinics do not! Idk why this is a thing but it's messed up that regular clinics wouldn't want you to be as comfortable!
@@sarahschouveller1993That is not true. I'm a medical assistant working with a PA who is a gynecologist and we offer ketorolac (an NSAID) as an injection or oral medication, misoprostol to soften the cervix, paracervical blocks (lidocaine injection into the cervix), and/or anxiety medications like lorazepam. We are currently working on figuring out how to get nitrous oxide that is patient administered so they can control their own pain management. I work in a regular OBGYN clinic. This is for all GYN procedures including IUD insertions and colposcopies.
@@sarahschouveller1993 My previous ob/gyn (her practice closed) always number using lidocaine. After hearing so many stories, I know I have been very lucky.
@@sarahschouveller1993 I asked my dr for numbing and they straight up said they didn’t do it. It was so painful I couldn’t complete the procedure and was in tears. I ended up getting the arm implant instead
In regards to free birth - interestingly, in Europe (not sure about other areas of the world) it has always been quite common for women to have some sort of assistance during birth. In fact birthing used to be a social event that was attended by the birthing mothers female family and friends - these people were know as Godsibbs (sibb was the old English word for relative (in modern English its only really used in sibling but in old English it meant any relative)) so they were essentially the equivalent of God parents but because labour can be a long process a lot of these Godsibbs spent most of their time sitting round talking and eating - this is where the word gossip comes from. I think it's interesting that birth has been seen as a social event through history, enough so that it gave us the verb 'to gossip'
Thanks for the lesson! I really can't imagine how scary giving birth alone would be. One of my kids was early, and because my parents lived a couple of hours away, and I wanted my husband to work that day so he could have the next day off, it was just me and the nurses for a little while. I called my grandmother and asked her to distract me with stories from when she was a nurse! I swear, that was my relative's biggest job was to distract me from the pain because the epidural didn't work well on me either time.
To the person who was nervous "not being on birth control" now that they had their tubes removed, I'd like to add that here sterilisation is called "permanent birth control" so while it's not the kind of birth control you're used too, and it might be weird not actively doing something regularly if that's what you're used to, you're very much still on birth control!
I'm loving how much more we are normalizing bad period pain being something worth talking to a doctor about. When I was a teen I had such bad pain I was throwing up and passing out, had to call out of school and then work. And my mom was literally like "Yeah that's how it is" and told me not to go to the doctor. At my 18 year physical I mentioned it and finally got pain medicine and it made a world of difference for me. (It got a lot better after having kids and now I just pop an ibuprofen or two thank God!)
Great to see you back! I got really into your content about 3 years ago because you were the only person I could find giving straight forward (and inclusive!) info on pregnancy. I still can't thank you enough for the answers you gave about epidurals, birth plans, everything! You helped me have a truly wonderful birth experience and my kiddo is now the best toddler I know.
Hoy cow! I'm here when the video was posted 12 seconds ago.
your new haircut looks fabulous!! 👏🏻
😂 You're still doing a splendid job for someone who "forgot how to make videos". I can very strongly relate to forgetting even the most regular procedure if not done in a while. But thankfully it's a bit like riding a bicycle: You need a good warmup and it'll all come back with some practice.
Thank you very very much for being back with us. It's a joy AND incredibly useful. Not only in helping myself but also friends! ❤
So many of us are so happy to have you back!!
Yes please to all long form videos!
Welcome back!!! Thanks for coming through!!!!
I know this is really niche, and probably wouldn't be considered for a long format, but I would love a video about the differences/what to be concerned and focused on in a pregnancy if you are a Type 1 Diabetic (as a T1 who hopes to one day have kids....).
As a type 1 diabetic that had 3 kids this would be interesting to watch.
just stopping by to say that although this is my first time commenting, i've always been a huge fan of your videos ever since i first watched the collabs with jammidodger! as a trans guy i'm always grateful to see inclusive language and terms being used to talk about topics such as periods and pregnancy, which has been consistent throughout all mdj videos, and i only hope that more healthcare practitioners can follow in your footsteps too. please keep doing what you do!
Seeing MDJ posting again makes me so happy! I have learned so much from her videos, and it has made me a better nurse!
OMG
I'M SO HAPPY TO SEE YOU.
I THOUGHT OF YOU TWO DAYS AGO WHEN SOMEONE ASKED ME ABOUT YEAST INFECTIONS.
MY EDUCATIONAL QUEEN 😍😍😍😍
I got so exited when i saw the youtube notification! I was so lucky to find you as a younger teenager so i had good education on my body, and therefore was able to help all of my friends have an understanding of their bodies!❤
“The facts don’t align with the words coming out of your mouth” 😂
Danielle, I think you should make a longer video on why you should make a longer video. 😂
Jokes aside, I'm so glad you're back! 😊
Much love from Italy ❤
I'm so glad to see you back here. Lumi is on the wall again! You do know how to UA-cam. Just get PO'd, it works. Obamacare paid with good health insurance program in the US paid for one IVF treatment for my daughter. After that each treatment was more than the value of their house. So they had no children together. Not that IVF would have helped, women in my family tend to go into perimenopause very early. We don't tend to have babies after around 30. My daughter had a hormone that did not kick in to support a pregnancy. She had several very early miscarriages, 4-6 weeks. The longest she carried was about 10 weeks, her first pregnancies post age 30. Is this genetic? It seems to be in my family.
A Midwife’s Tale, by Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, is a really great book that’s an explanation of a diary from a late 18th century midwife in Maine. The culture of birthing attendants was deeply ingrained at that point, and the reasons were made VERY obvious.
I too want to say Welcome back MDJ. We missed you.
Would be so helpful if you could make a video about if tampons are harmful or not and if using cups would be better! ❤ It kind of stresses me out!
I just can’t get over how happy I am that you are back! I’ve missed your videos *so* much!
I think the deep dive into Andrea Yates and postpartum psychosis was my favorite video you’ve ever made, so I would love to see more of that documentary style video from you. But really, I’ll watch any video you make 🤍
Please do a video about endometriosis. I know you have previously said it's a difficult topic to cover but I think whatever you can offer would be really helpful and supportive.
I’m just glad you’re back. I hope you and your family are well. Thank you for being a bright, rational light on the internet. ❤
Love your videos. Thanks for making this one. Thanks for calling out the lack of common sense and providing ways to spot the scams and those just selling something.
MDJ video!! Best night ever
Hi MDJ I just wanna reiterate you're a brilliant, fun and passionate health & science communicator! You're the main reason for how comfortable I feel discussing my health with my GYN, and how simple it was for me to make important decisions about my body. I'm sure loads more people feel the same. Keep up the good work, you make a difference in our lives 💛
You didn't forget how to make videos. I love that you are just you and laugh at yourself. It honestly is why we love your channel. It's like sitting and having a chat with one of our friends.
Had to watch IMMEDIATELY when I saw the new video was up! Your educational and entertaining videos are a treat to watch, even when the subject matter gets a little dark sometimes. MDJ hair and makeup are looking 🔥🔥🔥!
I've noticed that in the past few years long form videos are doing well! I highly recommend making some. It would be nice to have more informational videos to listen to while working.
The toast thing is real in Australia - but not just for new mothers. My mother broke her shoulder a few months ago, and in both the hospital and the rehab hospital she went to afterwards, they do not serve toast. It’s something to do with the smell - because the smell of toast makes patients who cannot eat hungry, whereas the normal hospital food must not. All she wanted was toast after her surgery.
Yay. You're back🎉. Hello again. It's great to see mama Dr Jones back on UA-cam.
I just wanted to say that watching your videos on birthcontrol convinced me to start taking it (my doctor recomended it but I was too scared) and it changed my life. My depressive episodes, suicidal ideation, period pain, moodswings, irratability, and unpredictable periods have all lessaned significantly. Not having to deal with going into a deep depressive episode every month or so has given me the time and energy to work on myself, I have improved my daily habbits and overal mental health. I am just so much happier now, so I wanted to say thank you. I know you most likley won't read this, but just in case you do, know that your influence and the work you do promoting real knowledge and debunking miths about reproductive healthcare has changed my life. Thank you.
Thank you for talking about this (and in general) like a human talking to another human. I've never had a GYN who wasn't terrifying. You aren't terrifying. Thank you.
Yesss I will always click on these videos as soon as I see them 💖 happy to have you back
Hi MDJ! I'm so happy your videos are back. If you do a freebirth video, we've had some freebirth-related deaths here in Ireland this year that you could include. Having been through a placental abruption with my twins, I can not imagine the fear of not having medical care in the case of a medical emergency during freebirth. On a lighter note, could you bring back 'Obgn reacts to I didn't know I was pregnant?' I miss those episodes. I'm glad you and your family are still doing well in NZ.
I have never heard of free birth but would be interested in a longer video on that! Also glad you’re back on UA-cam - I enjoy learning from your videos
Yes to longer form video on chemicals in tampons and PFAs in menstrual cups! And period underwear! Sometimes as a consumer it just feels like there is no winning and everything comes with some level of danger.
MDJ!
I can’t believe you missed the toast scandal. I guess it was bigger in my Wellington bubble than it was in your bubble.
Yes to every suggestion for video topics. Your content is so informative, nuanced and considered, and having met you a few years back, I know you are as lovely and considered in person.
Glad to have you back
A video I’ve been waiting for. And you explain things so well!
I personally would be very interested in a video all about the IUD and personally want to know ways to combat pain of insertion and removal. It's a very hard to understand topic and as someone who experienced much pain during and months after I want to know more about the options .
Love the short hair. Thanks for being here and making videos it really means a lot to me. You've been a great resource of my journey in life about my reproductive health.
So exciting to see you back, MDJ! You were missed! ❤
Had a relative who was a substance abuser and used BC but wasn't tegular enough taking it so she ended up pregnant 4 times, yes, she terminated twice and those were the lucky ones. The others were still born and one lived a horrific 20 hours. The people most often accused of using abortion AS birth control are the same people who would have the worst outcomes. Why would anyone want that. 😢
very good point
I love binging your videos, I'm always learning something new and interesting!
Thank you for addressing the c-section stuff. My first was a c/s birth and my next two were VBAC.
My weird experience was that when I found out I was pregnant with number 3 at first I had to see a new to me OB instead of my midwife.
The nurse tried pre schedule a C-section 30 weeks out even though I had already had a successful vaginal delivery with my previous baby. I told her “but I already did a VBAC, I don’t plan on another c-section unless I really need it for medical reasons”
She then told me “ Dr “Smith” doesn’t give any of her c-section her patients permission to do that, not even prior vbacs” 🙄 the tone of her voice was intimidating and I felt very alarmed. The fact that I had already had a VBAC didn’t matter and the term “permission” was used.
To me It was a red flag. I set the pregnancy and birth guide binder they had just given me down on the table and walked out. I never returned to that office.
Dr Jones brought up a very good point about c-section rates and what impacts them.
I went on to have a normal text book perfect un medicated vaginal delivery with a midwife who partnered with an awesome OB
I have been subscribed to this woman for a little under a year now and wow I love her. She has taught me more about... well, literally anything to do with reproduction and the female workings than anyone else. I'm so glad she's here (on UA-cam).
Another way to spot shady influencers is to ask if they make money off of this suggestion. It's not always the case, but if they have a store that sells the same thing that they advertise there is a definite conflict of interest.
We love to see MDJ and we love to see the vintage poster again too!
It's 12:44am right now for me, dear lord, late night upload lol!
Well she's in New Zealand so she uploaded it at 4:45 pm her time. (16 hrs ahead of EDT).
@@Kristinapedia I didn't know it was, interesting. Thanks for saying so!
I’ve never been this early to a video in my life 😂 I got way too excited
Yes, please make a video on all of these topics :) also, I am glad that this Q&A allowed you to jump back in ❤. Welcome back!
My hometown in Georgia local Walmart sells OTC birth control pills. One month is I think $20.00 and a 3 month pack is $30.00.
Haven't women always had birth attendants unless there was an emergency? Doesn't every culture do this? Can a cultural anthropologist chime in? Long form video please!
Excellent timing for your long awaited return! We needed that calm voice of reason. ❤
I feel like you are the Hospice Nurse Julie of OBGYN. At 45 I wish that I had something like UA-cam and doctors like you in my reach at 12 years old.
This came right when i needed it!
ive always said that period cramps can be painful but if it stops you from functioning you should get that checked out and im glad that is basically what you would say as a professional
because pain can be normal for you but that pain shouldn't be bad enough that you cant walk or you throw up or whatever else that impacts your functioning
(also i usually mention that i have bad cramps but they are normal bc all they really do is make me pause for a bit till it passes)
What role do you think society plays in educating those with periods (and those without!) about when to seek help, what help can be provided, and to create an atmosphere where discussion of these issues is normalized? As a physician, many of the women I speak to have mentioned that women in their surroundings contributed to a sense of acceptance of pain and inconvenience as part and parcel of the female experience. While acceptance of pain and disability (and finding ways to still do what makes you happy) is an important part of finding joy in life, I feel like it can also lead to issues going unadressed.
Love your new hair, suits you really well!
Lol MDJ you are a delight. I’m glad you’re back on youtube to entertain and inform us :)
Add to your list of topics! A more in-depth look at re-usable period products! I just watched your 10-ish minute video about them and I would love more information from an obgyn. If anyone knows of longer videos, I would also appreciate those!
Immiediately saving this in " watch this later " for my daughter ❤
love your work !
P.S. : if you can, or want, would be possible to see a video about menopause? I think that would be interesting , in order to see on how i can support my wife better 🎉
Great video!
As far as all subjects you "could do a full video on," am here for every fight against mis/disinformation ❤️🔥
Thank you, as always, for what you do!
So glad you're back! This video was great. I wouldn't say you've forgotten how to make videos. Give yourself grace as you get back into the swing of things. ❤
I came here to nz for a year almost 6 years ago now 😂😂. It is a really common thing to happen that you come here on holiday and stay forever. My husband and I came here together got married had two kids and now happy in our forever home in Christchurch