carrie & big: who was the problem? (sex and the city analysis)
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- Опубліковано 6 сер 2024
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time stamps:
0:00 - introduction
0:52 - 1. Big dating other women
4:03 - 2. Chinese restaurant and more...
5:42 - 3. Big not introducing Carrie to his mom
8:36 - 4. Big looking and flirting with other women
9:30 - 5. Many things
14:17 - 6. Swan bag
16:53 - 7. Not telling Carrie he was moving to Paris
20:14 - conclusion - Фільми й анімація
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Carrie gets physical throughout the show and I do not appreciate that part of the show. She’s always throwing things at people, knocking back peoples hands or straight up, punching someone in the face! She is violent when she is upset. I would call her an abuser and I definitely call her toxic. If you don’t do the work on yourself and love yourself nobody’s going to love you. That was their issue. She didn’t love herself but expected everyone else to validate her when she didn’t validate her own feelings. She didn’t love herself. That is also why she gets physical!
Anxious Insecure meets dumb narcissist,love your analysis qwueeen
More like anxious insecure meets avoidant attachment 😅
Carrie didnt listen to anything he told her. She wanted more from him that he needed to give. That church move, or should have dumped her immediately. That ish was creepy. Carrie was immensly insecure and immature here. This is where the relationship should have ended.
Yea. Creator forgot to mention that he asked her not to go there (she clearly states this in the dialog, which is why they were hiding in the upper section) . She went anyways, stalking them and demanded an introduction after she blew her cover being a klutz; then complained about the introduction she got.
Sorry: 100% Carry in the wrong there.
Demanding keys to a guy's place when he doesn't have keys to yours is weird entitlement.
Throwing food at his wall and then your cap at him is abusive.
Giving ultimatums in exchange for the relationship ship continuing is emotional abuse.
Expecting monogamy when you've only been dating someone for WEEKS and having not discussed it is gullible - even in the late 90s.
Guys will look at other women. They're all going out wearing.... well, you get the point.
Carrie was a narcissist.
@iTrensharo the church stalking was bad enough, but demanding him to tell her she is the one after only 6 months is definitely cringe.
I didn't watch the entire show but both Big and Carrie's relationships are obviously bound to fail. It doesn't matter if it's with each other or other people.
Big has avoidant attachment style. He's very charismatic and charming in the beginning, he can make women feel good about theirselves and feel good about him. Two days later his avoidance kicks in and he gets bored. He stops calling, stops giving attention and actively flirts with multiple women to avoid commitment.
What he doesn't know is that this behavior has consequences. Women eventually get tired and leave him or at least distance theirselves from him. His cheating past is caused by this too. He will always consciously or unconsciously ruin any type of relationship he has with women because his mental state needs to be fixed first.
Carrie has disorganized attachment style. When you chase her, she gets suffocated. When you ignore her, she's obsessed. This is very clear if you take a look at her relationships with Aidan and Big. Aidan was a securely attached man. He was devoted, nice, committed and that scared Carrie shitless.
Big, on the other hand, keeps playing the hot and cold game, leaving Carrie begging for more. When Big and Carrie are actively together, the relationship gets ruined. Big wants freedom and Carrie at the same time. Carrie wants whatever she isn't supposed to want. Her cheating on Aidan is a result of this suffocating feeling. Commitment is scary, but if you refuse to commit she's pissed about that too.
Long in short, there is no point in discussing their relationships because their partners were never the problem. Natasha wasn't the problem. Aidan wasn't the problem. Big's ex wife wasn't the problem. These two are two peas in a pod and I dislike both of them.
very well said!
Carrie made up a lot of their relationship. His actions and his words were always measured and deliberately vague. From that carrie heard and saw what she wanted to until she couldn't pretend anymore.
Let's not forget Carrie broke up with Big the first time. She wanted him to beg her to stay to confess strong feelings for her. It back fired and they actually broke up even though she didn't want to, she just wanted him to change his behavior.
I love your perspective , subbed ❤
I pretty much agree with everything you said in this video. I think Big was more at fault than Carrie. I do acknowledge that Carrie was an adult she could have walked away before it got too deep and she definitely needed to work on her communication skills. Despite her poor communication and not walking away sooner, I put most of the blame on Big. He saw that she was falling for him and instead of just being a grown-up and telling her that he didn’t want to commit to her, he strung her along and played dumb whenever she would get upset. He even went as far as using his job as an excuse for driving them a part. Let’s be honest he just never had the guts to be straight up and tell her he didn’t want what she wanted. I know there’s always a lot of Carrie hate, but Big was more responsible for that relationship not working out the first time around. He does eventually fall for her, but in the beginning, he only saw her as a fling.
*** Also, I know it’s immature but I wanted to throw that McDonald’s at the wall too when Big said that she shouldn’t come to Paris for him, and to not get her hopes up. I think we were all just as fed up as Carrie at that point 😡 lol
I had the same bag incident happen to me. When I was in my 30s and in lust with the wrong guy, he gifted me a loud coach bag, which while expensive was just not me and was a clear sign that he didn’t know me at all but like Carrie I didn’t ay anything at the time. Wish I could get a do over ;)
Big did introduce Carrie to his mother although he was angry that she showed up there. He introduced her as my friend, Carrie. She's hard to please.
She was his girlfriend tho
Girl do the new series AJLT!!
Carrie did the same stuff with Aiden. She was also a broke, in-debt writer living in New York who looking for a man as her economic end game.
I think we can examine her treatment of her friends to see the full picture.
Unfortunate the cultural impact this show had.
Sorry no I disagree on the first issue.. When I start seeing someone and we’re like girlfriend/boyfriend, there’s no need to ask “are we exclusive” .. it’s so stupid. Carrie had all the right to assume, they’re both not seeing anyone else. If someone wants an open relationship or nothing serious.. that’s something that needs to be addressed early on. Exclusivity is something that I take for granted as soon as someone wants to have sex with me and date me. With Carrie&Big .. it wasn’t just a hookup between them, they’ve been seeing each other quite frequently.
It's better to have the talk, as stupid as it seems. Dealing with short term awkwardness is better than being misled for a long time.
So making assumptions is the way to go instead of have open healthy communication on where yall stand.. ur thought process is why women will always hurt themselves because they live in there head
whole show can eb summed up in 10:45 ; TALK ABOUT YOUR ISSUES
i like your comments
I would have just went with the flow and fly to Paris for like trip 😀 he did say its just for a while