And in case people still didn't get the memo, aesthetics are subjective. Yes, I've worn suits for work and ceremonies. But I couldn't care less about what's trendy. I think vintage casual (the actual old tees and jeans, not ones made to look that way) tends to look great while most designer stuff looks like crap. Opinions are like assholes, we all have them, etc. Personally, it seems like people who obsess over others' appearances (a form of extraverted controlling, for those of you into personality psych) tend to have high amounts of privilege and are "sitting pretty", so they have time and wherewithal to go around making superficial judgments. But that's just my anecdotal experience and theory. Besides, lookism (beyond preferences, when it becomes judgment of character based on appearance, and arguments for social strata based on superficiality) is bigotry in either direction. "It is amazing how complete is the delusion that beauty is goodness. A handsome woman talks nonsense, you listen and hear not nonsense but cleverness. She says and does horrid things, and you see only charm. And if a handsome woman does not say stupid or horrid things, you at once persuade yourself that she is wonderfully clever and moral." - Leo Tolstoy, The Kreutzer Sonata
I want to point out that the comments here are the exact opposite of this widely beloved scene: instagram.com/reel/C8-pi2msstX/?igsh=MW1wZmhsYnEybWdlYw==
And if anyone hasn't heard of ACE Scores (mine is at least 6, arguably 7), you really need to learn about it. Is Harvard hardcore enough of a source? developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/aces-and-toxic-stress-frequently-asked-questions/ Then again: "It is usually futile to try to talk facts and analysis to people who are enjoying a sense of moral superiority in their ignorance." - Thomas Sowell (a conservative economist, lest anyone come back with something like "you're just a commie liberal blaming the world instead of yourself" etc.)
To summarize this video: "I'm depressed because society sucks, not because I'm doing anything wrong or did anything wrong in the past. I'm not accountable for my depression, other people and circumstances which are outside my control are to blame." It sounds to me like you have a high external locus of control, which is related to depression. If you feel that your life is outside your control then it's hard, if not impossible to fix it. So you go in a roundabout way by focusing on the elites, corrupt institutions etc. Don't get me wrong, there's plenty of wrong with society. But you don't live in North Korea. Opportunities abound. You can go for a jog, or start a side hustle, or complain about the Patriot Act and cookies allowing third parties to cringe at your browser history. Your choice.
That's a straw man summary that directly contradicts points I made, stating explicitly at 2:34 "It's individual moral character . . . I mean, there's a modicum of that in life of personal responsibility but like I'm roughly the last person if you pay (attention), if you follow me at all if you know my life story." So here, show me where the lack of responsibility or accountability is: beaten so severely I retained some but lost memory of others, sexually molested twice that I remember, verbal abuse, tried countless medications, some of which permanently ruined my GI tract (according to the surgeon, not me), seen dozens of therapists over the years, raised by alcoholics and PTSD Marine Vietnam Vet, "pulled myself up" COUNTLESS times, but here's a short list: I made Eagle Scout, graduated in top 10% of college class, worked many 2-3 jobs up to 70hr weeks, went to the #1-ranked nonprofit management school and #6 (at the time) policy analysis school (IU-Bloomington) and took the "hard route" of data modeling, cost-benefit analysis, and program evaluation (which became my speciality), unpaid internships which ran up my debt because "it will pay off in the long run" (it didn't; all bait and switch lies from people who used similar arguments you have), averaged 4-5hrs of sleep as I worked 60-70hr work weeks, developed more long-term illnesses the doctors (NOT ME) indicate is due to toxic stress and stretching myself too much ("WORK LESS" I heard several times), and don't even talk to me about my multiple side hustles (I've been doing them since mowing lawns at the age of 12), taught at UNC-Chapel Hill for 4 years with such high rankings my peers would get angry and clutch at the thinnest criticisms (which feels much like this), presented original research at the National Smart Start Conference, got offered to be published by Kellogg Foundation, published two research projects, oh, and four books as well to highly positive reviews, up to 53 in one case, by Kirkus and IndieReader. Published in various smaller state journals. I'm probably forgetting many things. I've written literally thousands of resumes and cover letters. My email is stacked full of data projects. Where's the laziness? Where's the lack of responsibility? Not enough bootstrapping for you? None of this is from lack of trying. And people saying similar things to you spend just a few hours with our special needs child or seeing my doctor's notes, etc. change their tune on a dime, going from, "Oh, it's not that bad" to "Oh. OH. I had no idea. I couldn't do that." It's downright predictable. The bootstrap narrative is demonstratively bunk, not just in my experience, but also in any understanding of econometrics. Disabuse yourself of it. For example: aneconomicsense.org/2015/02/13/why-wages-have-stagnated-while-gdp-has-grown-the-proximate-factors/ And this one is from a conservative think tank: www.aei.org/carpe-diem/chart-of-the-day-or-century-8/
If you’re trying to pin me (and I actually appreciate the thought), I’d say this is the most fitting trope: tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/KnightInSourArmor
Sorry you're immune to reasoning (as per my other comments), but I can't drag my knuckles low enough to take someone like Andrew Tate seriously. It's a whole cottage industry built on long-debunked "alpha wolf" nonsense. They profit off of you picking shit like this. Get out.
I also address this movement directly at 19:14 and why it's a malignant response to systems-level issues. We can either face those issues or fall right into the trap of factionalism and bigotry, but with the pride of "I'm an alpha male" or some crap. Those in power desperately want you and I to pick the latter.
And in case people still didn't get the memo, aesthetics are subjective. Yes, I've worn suits for work and ceremonies. But I couldn't care less about what's trendy. I think vintage casual (the actual old tees and jeans, not ones made to look that way) tends to look great while most designer stuff looks like crap. Opinions are like assholes, we all have them, etc.
Personally, it seems like people who obsess over others' appearances (a form of extraverted controlling, for those of you into personality psych) tend to have high amounts of privilege and are "sitting pretty", so they have time and wherewithal to go around making superficial judgments. But that's just my anecdotal experience and theory.
Besides, lookism (beyond preferences, when it becomes judgment of character based on appearance, and arguments for social strata based on superficiality) is bigotry in either direction. "It is amazing how complete is the delusion that beauty is goodness. A handsome woman talks nonsense, you listen and hear not nonsense but cleverness. She says and does horrid things, and you see only charm. And if a handsome woman does not say stupid or horrid things, you at once persuade yourself that she is wonderfully clever and moral." - Leo Tolstoy, The Kreutzer Sonata
"Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong | Johann Hari | TED" ua-cam.com/video/PY9DcIMGxMs/v-deo.htmlsi=YM0bbT0V334iYS_9
I want to point out that the comments here are the exact opposite of this widely beloved scene: instagram.com/reel/C8-pi2msstX/?igsh=MW1wZmhsYnEybWdlYw==
And if anyone hasn't heard of ACE Scores (mine is at least 6, arguably 7), you really need to learn about it. Is Harvard hardcore enough of a source? developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/aces-and-toxic-stress-frequently-asked-questions/
Then again: "It is usually futile to try to talk facts and analysis to people who are enjoying a sense of moral superiority in their ignorance." - Thomas Sowell (a conservative economist, lest anyone come back with something like "you're just a commie liberal blaming the world instead of yourself" etc.)
To summarize this video:
"I'm depressed because society sucks, not because I'm doing anything wrong or did anything wrong in the past. I'm not accountable for my depression, other people and circumstances which are outside my control are to blame."
It sounds to me like you have a high external locus of control, which is related to depression. If you feel that your life is outside your control then it's hard, if not impossible to fix it. So you go in a roundabout way by focusing on the elites, corrupt institutions etc. Don't get me wrong, there's plenty of wrong with society. But you don't live in North Korea. Opportunities abound. You can go for a jog, or start a side hustle, or complain about the Patriot Act and cookies allowing third parties to cringe at your browser history. Your choice.
That's a straw man summary that directly contradicts points I made, stating explicitly at 2:34 "It's individual moral character . . . I mean, there's a modicum of that in life of personal responsibility but like I'm roughly the last person if you pay (attention), if you follow me at all if you know my life story."
So here, show me where the lack of responsibility or accountability is: beaten so severely I retained some but lost memory of others, sexually molested twice that I remember, verbal abuse, tried countless medications, some of which permanently ruined my GI tract (according to the surgeon, not me), seen dozens of therapists over the years, raised by alcoholics and PTSD Marine Vietnam Vet, "pulled myself up" COUNTLESS times, but here's a short list: I made Eagle Scout, graduated in top 10% of college class, worked many 2-3 jobs up to 70hr weeks, went to the #1-ranked nonprofit management school and #6 (at the time) policy analysis school (IU-Bloomington) and took the "hard route" of data modeling, cost-benefit analysis, and program evaluation (which became my speciality), unpaid internships which ran up my debt because "it will pay off in the long run" (it didn't; all bait and switch lies from people who used similar arguments you have), averaged 4-5hrs of sleep as I worked 60-70hr work weeks, developed more long-term illnesses the doctors (NOT ME) indicate is due to toxic stress and stretching myself too much ("WORK LESS" I heard several times), and don't even talk to me about my multiple side hustles (I've been doing them since mowing lawns at the age of 12), taught at UNC-Chapel Hill for 4 years with such high rankings my peers would get angry and clutch at the thinnest criticisms (which feels much like this), presented original research at the National Smart Start Conference, got offered to be published by Kellogg Foundation, published two research projects, oh, and four books as well to highly positive reviews, up to 53 in one case, by Kirkus and IndieReader. Published in various smaller state journals.
I'm probably forgetting many things. I've written literally thousands of resumes and cover letters. My email is stacked full of data projects.
Where's the laziness? Where's the lack of responsibility? Not enough bootstrapping for you? None of this is from lack of trying. And people saying similar things to you spend just a few hours with our special needs child or seeing my doctor's notes, etc. change their tune on a dime, going from, "Oh, it's not that bad" to "Oh. OH. I had no idea. I couldn't do that." It's downright predictable.
The bootstrap narrative is demonstratively bunk, not just in my experience, but also in any understanding of econometrics. Disabuse yourself of it. For example: aneconomicsense.org/2015/02/13/why-wages-have-stagnated-while-gdp-has-grown-the-proximate-factors/ And this one is from a conservative think tank: www.aei.org/carpe-diem/chart-of-the-day-or-century-8/
If you’re trying to pin me (and I actually appreciate the thought), I’d say this is the most fitting trope: tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/KnightInSourArmor
Listen to Andrew Tate and stop feeling sorry for yourself
Sorry you're immune to reasoning (as per my other comments), but I can't drag my knuckles low enough to take someone like Andrew Tate seriously. It's a whole cottage industry built on long-debunked "alpha wolf" nonsense. They profit off of you picking shit like this. Get out.
I also address this movement directly at 19:14 and why it's a malignant response to systems-level issues. We can either face those issues or fall right into the trap of factionalism and bigotry, but with the pride of "I'm an alpha male" or some crap. Those in power desperately want you and I to pick the latter.