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If he sees this, $10 says he considers this "textbook 6 paranoid conspiracy theorist". No, you're just being a petty ass. Now go back and read my comment that you called "a wall of text" even though it's about 1-single spaced page whereas your articles are about 15. The hypocrisy never ends with him and his group (he has a super-tight-knit one, I don't in any part of my life, but he considers my personality type all about group membership, FFS)

Thank you, kindly. That last point in particular is huge; little-to-no accounting for context, just prima facie. And absolute. "A 4 (or any type) would NEVER/ALWAYS do such-and-such". It's as lazy as it is arrogant, and often punctuated with a "lol" to smugly suggest they just showed their skill or advanced knowledge or something. Knee-jerk judgments, even if we assume expertise, tend to be at least partially if not totally wrong, but they/he pride themselves in them. Nuance for me, not for thee! ;) Ah, and your first point. It really seems as though *any* discussion of potential harm is instant 6 (I'm literally living in a FEMA-operating disaster zone, so we're all 6s now! Haha), even though every human being does this every day. I've always thought with 6, it's more obsessive than other types (insert long commentary about my 6-parent and 6-in-law; heck, even my beloved 6w5 friend growing up). And their own text talks about 4 reacting to feeling and expressing being wounded. The contradictions and inconsistencies seem endless. And yet, the haughtiness/arrogance gathers followers. Some of those books reviews are straight-up idolization. I don't have that for any person or system, even though (yet again) his articles/book talk about adherence or rebelling to ideology as a hallmark of 6. I guess we're all rebelling? *shrug* Or maybe just expressing ourselves on this topic. Like you said, it's just a theory. I was big on EI/Riso/Hudson and Ichazo when I did that first video, and JL insisted in rapid-fire comments (and these are mine, in-turn) that I knew absolutely nothing, leading and repeating "4 is an Image Type, you don't have a 4 image" (making the "emotional depth" focus into lookism, whew, the contradiction/irony) a few times. I really feel like he gets "social 4" only in-theory. My spouse in that video (as I know you've seen! Thank you) going through his list was like, "Yep. And yep. And yeah, that too. 6? Well, that point, but not that one, or only if someone didn't know you" etc. But even using their text of choice isn't enough; they seem bent on absolute fealty. The lack of self-awareness is staggering. They don't seem to really think about what they've said/read; it's just "we're right, ha" ego. I mean, we all have insecurities, but taking it out on others is just wretched character, IMO.

Always remember: if I can give any advice: YOU know yourself the best. Only YOU know how you feel. No one else. Don’t give these dummies any power, they’re nothing. There’s nothing more empowering than deleting a disrespectful comment. And telling you that you’re a ‘6 in denial’ is disrespectful. (But wait, I thought you were a flaming 9? Lol.) Even they can’t make up their minds. Ah Lucky Boy, to be so generic that no one outside his little circle-jerk agrees or cares. 😂 Silly, silly boy.

Here we go. Is this BHE in hiding again? Or is the Luckovich text I cited below wrong? In either case, your comment, while potent, is still superficial, narrative-driven slop like your friends/ other lurkers. No one in my personal life agrees with you all. Here, comment on this link to tell my wife, as we read the Luckovich text (I assume you approve of) and her responses, and say you know better based on your minutes of thought vs. her daily interactions for over a decade: ua-cam.com/video/MtVvMNf5nUo/v-deo.html Your response exemplifies extraverted controlling, which DISC correlates with 6. Closed-minded and judgmental, which this study (among others) associates with 6, while 4 correlates with openness, in which I score highly (and negatively with extraversion and stability, also matching me): www.researchgate.net/figure/Average-Z-scores-on-the-Big-5-personality-factors_tbl11_253435630 Please share any studies you have. The healthier 6s in my life all say you're wrong. They have the same response to me each time one of you pops up: "Does this person know you at all?" Your "blame everyone else, also 6"... so not taking responsibility is the sign of a 6? Really? I'm sure every type can have that issue, but as *a defining 6 trait*? Do words mean anything anymore? Besides, that "blaming others for [my] misery" conclusion about those videos (my stats say you didn't actually watch them) was from the algorithm feeding incels here, so enjoy your intellectual kinship with that company. And dunking on depressed people for pointing out systemic issues is just bootlicking, so enjoy their cuisine as well. Also, *this* is your response to someone expressing MDD, PTSD, and just got seriously injured? Doc says I need months of physical therapy. I guess mentioning health at all makes me a SP6. LEARN WHAT CONFIRMATION BIAS IS FOR THE LOVE OF GOD. Or basic empathy. Your response screams unhealthy judgment, projection, and callousness. Yes, I have an ACE Score of 7. I was physically beaten and molested in my childhood, but yes, please tell me how that's wrongfully blaming everyone else. Are you a defense attorney for SA or something? Then again, because I rose above my childhood and adult abuse with my good grades and jobs, that makes me a 6, right? Or if I didn't, it's because I'm blaming everyone else, so 6? Or sad, ergo 6. Or mad, ergo 6. Or anything, ergo 6. If you're that same past guy, you often start with your knee-jerk claim and work your way back to cherry-picked evidence and inconsistent logic, Texas Sharpshooter-style. And comically think that's a strength, bragging about it often. Maybe you're just full of shit and can't stand that I don't fall in line like your sycophants. "Die in denial lmao" right the fuck back at you. *Your methods are garbage. Can you please actually confront that instead of harassing depressed people on the internet?* And where are the "textbook 6: boring group affiliations"? In my bio, I have a handful of interests (I get most views for guitar stuff), job skills for those who work in the field (I guess holding down a job is "textbook 6"), where I'm from, an apt Van Gogh line, and (what probably actually drove this comment) giving the finger to Ennehacks. If you are from that *group*, you're always in your close-knit bunch and I'm almost always alone. But, ah, loneliness, ergo 6, right? Emotions, ergo 6. Artwork, ergo 6. The only thing that confers 4ness (or any other hexad) to you is... APPROVAL FROM AN EXTERNAL AUTHORITY! I.e., your typing services. Damn, the irony. / Contradictions. To say nothing of the woo speak. Rendering it useless and meaningless. Certainly not helping my mental health anymore, and I doubt yours, given this behavior. Great marketing, I guess. You broke the Enneagram and remade it in your image and demand money lest anyone else interested in it face years-long harassment with specious arguments. Another big sticking point with your latest crap case is that some of us ADORE 6s! They're some of the strongest, healthiest people in my life. My best friend growing up who died was a 6. If I had that greatness of character, I'd GLADLY say or sign whatever you want like "YES I AM A 6!!!!" But note the envy. Note it. Note it. I know (if you're the lurker I suspect you are) you have trouble noting anything against your case, but at least try open-mindedness over your proprietary superficial junk for once. Sorry, but you caught me in the wrong fucking mood today. "Patrick's really a 6 in denial! Let's keep beating that drum because he's not down with our Enne-MAGA." You just don't get me at all. ("Actually 4s don't want to be understood" stop, my eyes can only roll so much. Try CAN'T be, and desire is mostly irrelevant, but I am SO.) As Leonard Cohen once said, you don't know me from the wind. You never will. You never did. Keep pointing a finger if you must. Apparently that's your whole shtick. But know that like everyone else with serious projection issues, three point back at you.

Hahah textbook 6w5: paranoid conspiracies: "oh it's BHE, it's my haters again, they're out there to get me. They want to bring me down. Me vs them. Look at these sources, at these data. I can't prove it myself so I rely on outer structures, data, sources. See the truth". PS: I ain't reading all that wall of text. You just proved you're a 6 instead with that rant. 6w5 so/sp , image last.

​@@PatrickAshe41excellent reply. You are NOT a 6. But also, why is this even continuing? Why do these random people care what you are? Move on, people. There are so many more important things in this world to devote your energy to.

​@@user-ib2yv6de7j whew, you are really going for gold on specious arguments. "Paranoid conspiracies" - mfer, you're saying the same crap with the same crap arguments they use. Okay, it's a coincidence, you're not BHE. Who cares? Literally anyone not buying their snake oil can see straight through this. I've seen the Redditors over the past few years. Different people, different views, different threads so they probably don't all see each other, but the same experience. That group and their orbiters give Star Wars toxic fandom a run for their money. "Look at these sources, at these data." Yeah. It's called productive discussion. Want passion? My poetry book's packed with it. But to invoke actual evidence like anyone with a college education can, boom, instant 6. If you are BHE/JL (just fucking out with it, troll), when YOU do that, it's because you're an expert who happens to be Hexad, specifically 4w5. If anyone else does, BOOM, Attachment Type! I'm sorry you failed basic logic, but I guess someone needs to be a 6w5 to pass that class, huh? "I can't prove it myself so I rely on outer structures" You're playing the same stupid game. "I like this guitar." Aha! Looking for validation from the outside! Attachment. 69-something. "I wrote this poem." Aha! Sharing it with anyone means still relying on outside structures. Attachment! 6! When YOU do it, it's because you're just passionate about Enneagram, or Egypt, or whatever. If someone else does, huh, textbook Attachment/6! Psst, neither of these types are better than the other. Just like (using the analogy of my other video) introverts and extraverts aren't inherently better or worse than each other. But repeatedly telling someone who prefers being alone, never parties, expresses little interest in going out (I can count on one hand how many times I have in the past two years) that they're actually an extravert in denial because that controversy buffs your ego and gives you attention, you'd better have rock-solid reasoning, and you rarely do. Oh, but even using "logic/reasoning" means not heart/image, blah blah blah more superficial type policing. "I ain't reading all that wall of text." - Yeah, because you can dish it out on your articles and email, but you can't take it. Always the same with people like you. "You just proved you're a 6 instead with that rant." - Wow, didn't see that line coming from light years away! Glorified trolls have no room to lecture anyone on lack of self-awareness. You're toxic, you know it, everyone outside of your insular clique knows it, and no amount of finger-pointing with smug expertise will change that. Please note that I've never disagreed that BHE/JL/ fanboys don't know Enneagram, it's just that their methods of applying it are as toxic as what's being scooped out of our streets right now. But if I say "yeah, we're still having to figure out where to get water" OMG PARANOID 6!!!! Come on down to Asheville and see how long you last before you ask someone where to find water. Uh-oh, that makes you a 6! It's just laughably bad analysis.

@@user-ib2yv6de7j​​⁠ but fine, if tl;dr, just learn what confirmation bias is. And then ask yourself seriously if your actions do you or me or anyone any good. Sorry if that’s too paranoid/conspiracy or whatever (good King Diamond album, at least)

Damn. I'm glad that it got resolved. And that people were able to figure out that sound travels in mysterious ways. (Pardon the U2 reference, ha)

Thank you so much!

Oh, absolutely. I love that recording. I also really liked Polaris Live and Under Flaming Winter Skies

That is very kind of you to say. Thank you so much!

Agreed, although this video, of all videos, has two commenters hell-bent about making this video about my appearance. Gosh, that's how we fix depression! Go around calling people fat p*ss*es! *eye roll* The internet really is just a 4th grade locker room, FFS

@@PatrickAshe41 I'd almost hope they're just trolls getting off on getting a reaction from you vs people who actually believe that nonsense 🤦🏼‍♀️

Hey, thank you for sharing that idea. I've thought about it a few times, but not seriously. But your comment makes me want to take a closer look. If I do go through it, I'll definitely post about it. Thanks again!

Sorry you're immune to reasoning (as per my other comments), but I can't drag my knuckles low enough to take someone like Andrew Tate seriously. It's a whole cottage industry built on long-debunked "alpha wolf" nonsense. They profit off of you picking shit like this. Get out.

I also address this movement directly at 19:14 and why it's a malignant response to systems-level issues. We can either face those issues or fall right into the trap of factionalism and bigotry, but with the pride of "I'm an alpha male" or some crap. Those in power desperately want you and I to pick the latter.

That's a straw man summary that directly contradicts points I made, stating explicitly at 2:34 "It's individual moral character . . . I mean, there's a modicum of that in life of personal responsibility but like I'm roughly the last person if you pay (attention), if you follow me at all if you know my life story." So here, show me where the lack of responsibility or accountability is: beaten so severely I retained some but lost memory of others, sexually molested twice that I remember, verbal abuse, tried countless medications, some of which permanently ruined my GI tract (according to the surgeon, not me), seen dozens of therapists over the years, raised by alcoholics and PTSD Marine Vietnam Vet, "pulled myself up" COUNTLESS times, but here's a short list: I made Eagle Scout, graduated in top 10% of college class, worked many 2-3 jobs up to 70hr weeks, went to the #1-ranked nonprofit management school and #6 (at the time) policy analysis school (IU-Bloomington) and took the "hard route" of data modeling, cost-benefit analysis, and program evaluation (which became my speciality), unpaid internships which ran up my debt because "it will pay off in the long run" (it didn't; all bait and switch lies from people who used similar arguments you have), averaged 4-5hrs of sleep as I worked 60-70hr work weeks, developed more long-term illnesses the doctors (NOT ME) indicate is due to toxic stress and stretching myself too much ("WORK LESS" I heard several times), and don't even talk to me about my multiple side hustles (I've been doing them since mowing lawns at the age of 12), taught at UNC-Chapel Hill for 4 years with such high rankings my peers would get angry and clutch at the thinnest criticisms (which feels much like this), presented original research at the National Smart Start Conference, got offered to be published by Kellogg Foundation, published two research projects, oh, and four books as well to highly positive reviews, up to 53 in one case, by Kirkus and IndieReader. Published in various smaller state journals. I'm probably forgetting many things. I've written literally thousands of resumes and cover letters. My email is stacked full of data projects. Where's the laziness? Where's the lack of responsibility? Not enough bootstrapping for you? None of this is from lack of trying. And people saying similar things to you spend just a few hours with our special needs child or seeing my doctor's notes, etc. change their tune on a dime, going from, "Oh, it's not that bad" to "Oh. OH. I had no idea. I couldn't do that." It's downright predictable. The bootstrap narrative is demonstratively bunk, not just in my experience, but also in any understanding of econometrics. Disabuse yourself of it. For example: aneconomicsense.org/2015/02/13/why-wages-have-stagnated-while-gdp-has-grown-the-proximate-factors/ And this one is from a conservative think tank: www.aei.org/carpe-diem/chart-of-the-day-or-century-8/

If you’re trying to pin me (and I actually appreciate the thought), I’d say this is the most fitting trope: tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/KnightInSourArmor

Yeah, because it's a shoot-the-shit video blog. I save the time and effort writing for my books. Thanks for checking tho

I really relate to that. ❤

No, it's because of what I said. Not because of feels, but because of basic, and I mean absolutely basic psychology. For every finger you point, three point back at you. I'm sorry you're so miserable that this is what you spend your time doing. I pity you. Edit: and I directly addressed the issue with my diet at 6:33. If you *know* you're going to relapse into a less healthy behavior by cutting out an addiction, just... not? I've tried that many times over decades and have little to show for it. Willpowering myself to a giant list of academic and professional achievements, top 10% of class, taught at elite program, worked many 60-70hr work weeks, etc. etc. isn't enough, I have to be "perfect" in every way to have a hope of beating depression and a stable career/life? That perfectionist mindset is quite common among severely depressed and suicidal people. It hurts more than helps in the aggregate. "That depressed person just hasn't beaten themselves up enough. Here, I'll leave a mocking comment that should do the trick." Really? We really think that's the issue? Or maybe the narrative of "individual moral failings are the problem, not our social systems" is the issue. As Jiddu Krishnamurti said, "It is no sign of health to be well-adjusted to a sick society." And FWIW, if this is the "work on your appearance" angle, getting women has never been an issue for me; I've had many great relationships and have a great spouse (who's been on here before). I've often said here that satisfying intimate relationships is on my "gratitude list".

Bashing appearances is not only a fixture of bullyism, it increases suicidality. Maybe that's your goal. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9313556/ "Rather than being a motivating factor for losing weight, fat shaming actually has the opposite effect. The stress has been linked to a reduction in physical activity and the consumption of more calories. Being the target of weight bias and discrimination can also affect your metabolism, lead to further weight gain, and increase your chances of becoming obese. This in turn can elevate the risk factors for high blood pressure, high cholesterol, heart disease, type-2 diabetes, and other physical health problems." www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/body-shaming.htm

@@PatrickAshe41 I don't know man, I get motivated by haters. Negative comments light a fire under my @ss. An "I'll show you who's great" attitude. Maybe you're different. I also know that when I get fat and have a sh!tty haircut I feel less happy. Let's put it this way - it's hard to feel like a cool protagonist in life when you look sh!tty. It affects your self perception and also people treat you worse, women avoid eye contact etc. It's the exact opposite when you're in shape and well groomed. So, my comment was genuine advice from my personal experience, I just didn't sugarcoat it to make it more palatable for you because I think you need some tough dad love.

Who are you trying to convince of altruistic intentions, me or you? It's junk food for the soul: feels good in the moment, but not over time. I'm sure you won't believe this, but I've been in excellent shape in the past. Most of my life, actually. Hiked thousands of miles, biked from town to town, made Eagle Scout, surpassed all military requirements (childhood illness disqualified me) on exercise (pushups, pullups, situps, 2-mile run time), did MMA for two years, ran regularly, swam regularly, I could go on and on. I barely touch on life events on here for obvious reasons (starting with physical abuse for years), but I don't even wish them on people bashing my appearance (e.g., you). Overeating is the effect, not the cause. I repeat: overeating is the effect, not the cause. And my "haircut" consists of me shaving my head a month ago. I'm not going to spend thousands of dollars I don't have for anyone's approval. Superficiality is a main reason why society can't have nice things, i.e. substance and meaning. Back to Maslow, as stated in the video. "All cruel people describe themselves as paragons of frankness." - Tennessee Williams

@@PatrickAshe41 I believe you, why wouldn't I? A person can be fit, stop working out and get fat, that's fairly common with pro athletes. You think I have something against you, and I've clearly said that I don't. And I also said that it probably won't fix your depression to get fit, but it's better to be depressed and fit than depressed and flabby. Take care!

Anyone who follows me knows I abhor party politics. My respect for any elite of any side can't be measured with a positive integer.

@@PatrickAshe41 you just look like you belong on there with them pussies

@@ScotMayo420 mkay. Do you have a point? Ooh, appearance-based insults that any 4th grader could make up. Adults are talking. If love cultish conmen clownmen, why don't you go back to your echo chamber?

It looks like I have a few songs to check out. Thank you! And I will have to check my messages this weekend. Best wishes to you.

These are some good questions that I ask myself. In better moods, anyways ;) But they weigh on my mind, for sure.

Thank you. And likewise.