Dr. Gabor Maté With Dahlia: Best Advice If You Feel Lonely, Depressed, And Think All Hope Is Lost
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- Опубліковано 11 жов 2022
- Dr. Gabor Maté joined me on my podcast to talk about The Myth Of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture. So I asked the world's leading trauma and addictions expert: If you feel so depressed, so lonely, so helpless ... And you don't believe there is any hope, help is too expensive, and you're all alone ... What can you do? Gabor gave the best advice I've heard yet.
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Anyone else feel that every suggestion they get is just futile. I'm so overwhelmed with the pain of loneliness and depression, I just can't bear it. Nobody wants to be around someone so negative.
Sorry, but telling a deeply depressed person to read a book or take a walk is ridiculous. All advice like this does is depress a person further.
Just the tone of his voice calms me down immediately, than I start focusing on the meaning of his words...He is a true gift 🙏
this didn't help me at all
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my husband recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Online groups can be dangerous and often listening to others and their problems can ring you down even more
None of what he said made me feel any less depressed or lonely. Sick of looking back in the past and hearing about the ‘wounded child’. The world is a mess right NOW and it’s a depressing place to live.
If you're lonely and depressed it's because you're not getting your relational needs met. All brokenness is solved in relationship and nurture, feeling accepted, loved, like others care. The disconnection is what's causing it. All mental health issues stem from lack of connection most of the time. If you're depressed and reading this, know that I'm there too. And I wish I could help. Because I feel your pain.
He's deflecting.
There's a part of you inside you that cares about you. ❤ Best thing I ever heard from any psych doc ever
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
My shelter pets have always helped my soul. I rescue them and they rescue me.
People who find a healthy life long partner, who never cheats, nurtures them and brings out the happiness in them are so lucky.
A few years ago, I was unemployed, and people sent me sermons, bible verses, quotes, etc. There was one person that didn't do any of those things. She talked to her boss, got me an interview and a job. The reality is that no one wants to help you. Very few people will move a finger to help you.
The point is to make that little voice who cares about you LOUDER and LOUDER, until it becomes the prominent voice in your life. I destroyed my depression thanks to this mindset, by total perseverance
It's like literally noone cares about me and nobody would care if I died, that's exactly how I feel right now.
"still seeing it through the eyes of that child . . . " He so calmly, simply and gently says it and there it is as it's always been.
I suffered depression most of my life and self medicated with alcohol and drugs. Thank goodness I quit the alcohol and drugs but the depression continued. Finally the solution was a lot of 12 step meetings and working the 12 steps and making friends in the fellowship. Isolating and loneliness and negative thoughts really contributed to the depression. I had to break out of the isolation and negative thoughts. Now I have a lot of friends and keep working on being positive. I also do agree that library books and UA-cam are good things to feed your brain with positive energy
I think moreover it's often important to get the focus off the Self. In other words, losing oneself in creative, artistic flow and/or service of others can be hugely beneficial.
Small steps in the healing direction are better than no steps at all 🙏