2018 Vlog 12: Updates on my Marriage and my Mental Health
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- Опубліковано 18 тра 2018
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Depression affects everything you try to do, forgetting to pay some bills, a lot of things that someone maybe don't understand. I can understand for sure. Your a great person inside and out!
Dee Dee Your hygiene takes a dip too. That was the hardest part for me to deal with.
Yes, when you are depressed it effects everything in your life, like remembering stuff. what a struggle , people just don't understand how it effects every aspect of your life.
Don't know maybe because i'm under gmail?
Dee Dee not their problem???
I absolutely know what you mean. My husband buys me things I shouldn't have, just because he wants to see me smile through my daily pains. And I feed his chip addiction. It's a struggle, but we'll find the strength to change.
I really just want to say thank you for sharing all this because this is some really real stuff and I know it was hard for you to go through all this footage to edit, let alone post. I am glad that you see how many people really love you and care for you. You are such a sweet person and an unbelievably strong person regardless of how weak you feel sometimes.
Just wanted to remind you that you are loved... By me and many many others!! We all want you to have a better life. I am so happy you are getting the help you need. Please stick with it and don't give up. You have many people here for you. We are all ready to what we can for you. 🤗🤗😘😘❤️❤️❤️
Gosh Kandy, I love you so much and I'm so happy you're a part of my life.
You are so loved and you are a beautiful person on the inside and outside. I am so happy you are getting the help you need. My sister suffered from severe depression and didn’t leave the house for years up until her passing in November of 2017 from pneumonia. I miss her everyday and YOU would be so, so missed by your family, loved ones and thousands of subscribers if you were no longer here. We love you, Kandy. I truly hope you feel better soon, as you have so much to live for. God Bless you pretty girl! 💕
My husband and I were over weight. We lost weight together and we had to find other ways outside of food to make each other happy. I learned and my husband learned as well that the food buying really was not about making the other happy. It actually made me happy thinking about how he would feel getting the item. Yeah he would eat it but he was not any happier than when he didn’t have it. I know people are different. But it’s what we learned. Great topic thanks.
Taz Mag my husband And i are going through this together right now! I'm so much stronger with him and his support than if i didn't have it! But i can admit getting both of us on board was tough but Worth it!
Renee Wendland Totally agree👊
Food is such a “hang-up” for so many people. I wonder why? Yeah, yeah I know about comfort food and all. I guess most people are just so uncomfortable. Yes I know this! WOW! Such a sad situation. We were born uncomfortable that’s all there is to it! You just got to know everyone feels awkward in this life, we were made this way. Stop tryin so hard.
Awww....You made me cry. Hugs and Love to you girly. We all appreciate you and the time you take to make your videos. So Thank you!
You are not alone. So many of us struggle with depression that literally effects all aspects of our life. You are so lucky to have a job and friends that love you. You can cry anytime you need. When you said you never knew where you stood it made me well up. Im exact same sistuation but i think he really doesn’t care.
I’ve been a “silent” viewer for about 2 years now, but I have to say I love your videos. And I relate to you so much, and actually you and I are very alike. I too hide my pain 90% of the time, because I don’t want to burden my friends. And sometimes it’s hard to remember how loved you are. But I just wanted you to know how thankful I am that you are still around to share your journey in life. XO!
I'm really glad I came across this video. Really hit home. I have anxiety and I didn't know at first that was my issue. Hearing some of your stories was like a page in my book. I wish you well
No worries Kandy we know that everybody goes through tough times we will be here waiting when you're ready take care of your health that's what's most important we want you around for a long long time I love your videos and I love you
Been watching you for the first time today and love you and am heartbroken at your pain. I hope you're feeling better and always know that you can do anything, anything...you can do it. You are strong, funny, kind, honest and are doing it. Keep going up. God Speed
You both were killing each other with kindness, you need to put yourself first.... the worry,fret and guilt you feel for Rodger and his wellbeing will subside the more you love and care for yourself..... he will see you thriving, and you could inspire him to love and care for himself.
Stupid advice lol, LIGHT BRIGHT.
You've got this girl, you're stronger than you know!!!
NEVER give up, NEVER give in!!!
I'm sending up healing thoughts and prayers. And if you ever need a shoulder or an ear, I'M HERE!!!! ❤🤗
First video I've seen in a LONG time and I've missed you! You look amazing!! Having a big heart like you do can be a downfall. I know from experience. Getting the help you need is so important. Hoping that Roger realizes he's an important person in this world and turns his life around whether you're in it or not. You are both great people and you both deserve to be happy. Much love from NJ!
Love the video, Thank you for letting us into your life, Take care of yourself first and all things will fall into place. You cannot make anyone care enough about themselves to change if they do not want to. Just know we all will be here for you.
I totally relate to your whole realization in the intro about giving people treats as a way of love. I was recently diagnosed with diabetes and I’ve had to QUICKLY rewire my brain and how I think of food. My parents definitely treat food as a reward and that’s how I grew up and now it’s caught on to me. I’m only 30 and weigh 225 and my blood levels were thru the rough. I now realize food is fuel and nothing more. Every little thing I do doesn’t deserve a reward especially not sugar.
An hour long video, my night is set! ❤️ Love you, Kandy!
Kandy, you are amazing 🌺 life is a classroom, we're all learning day by day.
Thank you for sharing your life with us. I love when you open up with us about mental health and personal things. Thank you
Chrissie B diddo...you are a shining light..such a genuine person...so relatable.
The camera quality is sooo good. Great! 👍
yea you and roger enable each other, my mom is like that with me. finally got to finish watching this and have to say is you be you, don't worry about doing what you need to make your life work for you. we'll be here to support you if you need us and we can keep busy in the group if you need time. huggs from alaska
You’re amazingly strong for sharing your story and you just keep your positive attitude up. It’s not going to be easy but eventually you’ll come to find your happy place. I struggle with anxiety most of mine is being around ppl and larger crowds. Other than going to work and work events I like that he comfort of my home but I’m learning to get my ass back out there in the world lol. I’m praying for you ❤️
Kandy your such a lovely kind and genuine person . Mental health is a horrible thing to deal with I have it myself, you smile and are nice to people because your covering you emotions so people don't ask (Are u ok) coz then it would make you burst into tears and your not ready to speak to random public ppl about what's happening. Also being judged about it is a big thing with people with depression . Hugs hun ❤❤❤❤❤
If you guys really care for each other, why don’t you two create plans together to make each other better. Don’t pick a diet be rather a health style that you are going to stick to and when you have rough days you’ll have each other to vent to. I think you’re a very strong person and are incredible. My sister was overweight, got herself on a health style change, and lost all the weight and is now a police officer. If you ever need anything or someone to talk to, I am absolutely here for you. I was your videos religiously and have watched your ups and downs. My husband and I had a really rough relationship and now we are stronger than ever because we made ourselves the priority. Kids, health, careers and ourselves! Wish you the best!
Love you girl. I can relate to so much of what your going through. You can come out on top, your on top does not have to be what someone else's is.
Hi it’s crying Kandy 😉 bless your heart girl! 💜 I can relate to everything you’ve talked about and I promise things will get easier! You are working hard and learning so much about yourself and you will figure everything out and find that groove you’re looking for. I found mine in forties and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been! I’m praying for you. Try to remember that even the lows are important. They teach us more than we realize. one day you will look back and see it all was for something significant. ❤️💜💜
It's good you're both working on it. If it doesn't work out at least you won't have that regret that you didn't try hard enough. Like at least you know you did everything you could do
Leo is adorable and he had so much to say. When kids are that little you can rarely ever tell 100% what they’re trying to say but you know in his mind he made total sense. Too cute.
Kandy your not crazy for having emotions and feeling up one min down the next ! in the context of things I'd say this is normal. Life is a rollercoaster and we live it a moment at a time. Just have to remember you have people who love and support you just as those people have you for love and support. Your friends are world wide I'm from a wee Scottish borders town and there are many other scottish friends watching , listening and supporting you 💕
Sometimes no matter how many reasons we have to be happy, we just can't :( it really sucks and hopefully the therapy will help with that part :) I'm in Tennessee and would love to sit down and drink some tea! Love and hugs always Kandy 😘💕💕💕
You are on track !!!! BIG HUGS !!! That is a great picture of the 2 of you !!! Write a letter to your future you. Where do you want to be in 5 years, 10 years ...... It helps to with focus !!!! LOVE !!!!
I have only come across your channel this week! You are so lovely! I understand about your sister I was in the same position last year and when i told her over breakfast after leaving it a long time to tell her. I said about having planned on putting myself out of misery she got angry and called it a selfish act! It’s so strange! I hope you come out of this. I’m not completely out but it gets better! The whole being able to put on a front and people don’t know whether you are suffering or not :( You seem like such a lovely human being! Sending love 💕
The love is there- you two just need to start pushing eachother to become better! Once you gain momentum and start feeling the positive effects of a healthy lifestyle, things will fall into place naturally❤ don't over-think the situation to death and kill your happiness. Just my two cents!😚 much love to you❤
Kandy you are beautiful inside and out and please know that you brighten our day. 🌸
A book that my spouse and I read about 15 years ago was called, the seven love languages. After he and I read that book, we acted like a couple of little kids again in our marriage. This summer will be our 20th wedding anniversary, God willing! We still act like a young married couple. We have two little girls whom are twins. I am so grateful that our marriage counselor recommended that book, it saved us!
Good luck to you in everything you do. It sounds like you have a plan. You have a great head on your shoulders. You are one person any man would be blessed to be with. Know that, believe that! You are worth it.
I think you are so cool and genuine. Stay strong and positive my friend❤️
I’m living for your nails! That hot pink is so fun, I can’t stop staring. Thanks for sharing your story with us and talking about mental health. I have the same issues hun. Xoxoxo
1 hour ! Awesome!!!!!! I enjoy your videos. Thank you ❤
You are absolutely right-marriage is SO complicated and not easy to explain. I thought I heard you say in the beginning of the Vlog that this was in April at some point. Is this some of the past stuff that you referred to in a recent video? Anyway, back to the subject of marriage-I think you are handling things in a very wise way. When you look back at all of this you can say that, whatever the outcome, you did what you could to make things work. And, what works is what is best for the both of you, whatever that looks like.
I've gotten into the habit of relying on drive thru way too often lately. Leaving your video a thumbs up and started following you on twitter
Yay I love your super long vlogs and when you talk in the car!! Hope you’re enjoying the rest of the weekend kandy xoxo
God bless you, Kandy, & your hubby Roger. I am praying that you stay together and that your marriage works out. Love you both, girlie-girl😊 😊💜💚
I love love that panda shirt!! I can relate to so many things... Don't give up on your marriage. It is so much work!!
Hi Kandy, I'm a clinical psychotherapist. I'm so happy to hear you are going to see a therapist. I obviously can not assess you via UA-cam videos BUT I think a lot of what your dealing with has to do more with negative self schemes and beliefs that affect your mood and behavior. I don't think there is something wrong with you. This can be treated with the appropriate therapies but it takes time. It's ok to cry, feel sad, mad and happy! Please update us on how your therapy is going. If you have any questions you can always reach out. I think your pretty amazing! ❤
YESSSSSSSSS AN HOUR LONG VLOG
When you said warm and then near 60° I about shit! 😂 My warm is 95° and up & if it was 50-60° outside that's jacket weather. Crazy to see the difference from two different states. Love you girl!
First of all your life doesnt suck you are a very brave person and it is ok to show your feelings you can do this keep keeping on ...
Yogi tea is AMAZING! The flavors are soo good!
Kandy. I had a breakdown at work and to make a long story short was hospitalized etc etc. It was the best thing that happened to me. I am bi-polar w/ ptsd, my son has it and my mom had it They put me on medication and it takes a while for them to tweak it and all. But I wish I had had this all my life. My whole life has changed for the better. This as strange as it sounds can be a wonderful thing. You will get the help and meds you need and you will feel so much better. Love and blessings to you Kandy this will all work out.
I'm so happy to hear your sister is working on her marriage with her husband - I was so sad when you announced she might be divorcing. There is always room for mending your marriage .. you loved each other enough to get married.. working on your marriage takes a daily commitment of 100% from both of you without listening from outsiders (including family members & close friends).😊
Finally I got to catch up on your videos :) you are one of my all time favorite UA-camrs ❤
You concentrate on yourself hun and I hope u receive the help and support u need , love and hugs xxx
You are so beautiful inside and out. I have rarely come across such a beautiful soul ♥
Oh kandy your such a lovely person with a kind heart i hope you get yourself sorted out and get the help you need .pls talk to your family they will want to help .take care pls debbie
Don't put to much pressure on yourself for UA-cam. I wouldn't mind seeing less videos if it means you're happier and have a better social life 😘
Girl I feel you 100%. We’ve talked a bit privately but I get it. I always say I’d never hurt myself but when it’s time for me to go, I’m ok with that. I go to bed at night and hope that I don’t wake up. Like you, I feel like something is wrong with me. I think I am the way I am because how I’ve been treated. I hope things get better for you. When you do your tour I hope to get to meet you and give you a big hug! Love you! 💗
⬇️ truth. You are absolutely loved ❤️❤️☺️
I am so ready for this! ❤️
Another thing you both need to remember is you are each only responsible for your own happiness. I've been married and one of my biggest mistakes was thinking it was my job to make my husband happy. No it was my job to be true to myself so that I could be a good partner for him in all we tried to accomplish together.
Kandy, I was SO happy to see this vlog in my notifications last night that I tried to watch it all in bed before going to sleep but there were so many things I wanted to comment on and I thought it'd be best to wait and finish watching this morning. However, after sleeping I can't remember all the things I wanted to comment last night, LOL! Anyway, I wanted to let you know that it makes my heart happy that you and Roger have agreed to keep working on yourselves and your marriage. I think it's great that you realize that marriages don't just automatically work out through life...couples have to work together to make a marriage work. I think a lot of people are too quick to divorce these days without really giving their marriage every opportunity to work and the younger generation has seen so much divorce that I honestly think that some young couples go into a marriage already thinking that if it doesn't work they can just get a divorce...as if it's no big deal. I've been married for almost 33 years and it has taken compromises and work on both our parts on top of lots of love and being each other's best friends to keep it alive. So I admire you and Roger for giving it your best shot and if it doesn't work then at least you'll still have your best friend and know that you both gave it your all. Another thing I wanted to let you know is that when I started having severe anxiety (panic attacks) and depression which for me started together as I remember it, I understand how people do treat you a little differently which is why I didn't want everyone to know at first, but my own behavior and missing work in the beginning made me have to tell people that I was having anxiety and depression and that I was working with a psychiatrist to find a medication that would help me (because I was missing too much work for it not to be noticed). Now I openly talk about it because it is part of me and I believe in being open and honest and I am not ashamed. I truly understand that feeling of "I don't want to", and it's honestly stronger than merely your mind saying "I don't want to". I was able to keep my job for 21 years...and at the 10 year mark was when my depression hit. I was able to keep working for another decade before I had to give it up because I was missing too much work (which made me SO sad because I had a great job with people who were like family to me). Sometimes I'd make it all the way to work and I'd just sit in the parking lot because I couldn't make myself leave the car..."that feeling of I don't want to" had come back so strongly that it was more like "I can't" ...so I'd go back home and call in. Anybody who has not experienced that feeling cannot possibly understand how that feels, so I wanted to be sure to let you know that I understand that feeling of "I don't want to". It can't be cured by people telling you to "grin and bear it" or "put on your big-girl pants" and just do whatever needs to be done...It just doesn't work that way...depression won't let us think normally. If I could turn my depression off (like some people think), of course I would because who wants to feel this way, hahaha!!! This comment is way too long and I hope the message that I wanted to convey came through my rambling. Your videos still brighten my day every time I watch one and I am actually thinking about trying to re-create one of the box meals you made (and I think I've said before that I don't cook, lol!). Don't ever feel that you have no purpose, because you cheer up so many people on UA-cam with your videos...I always leave your video feeling more confident and with a smile on my face which I didn't have before watching your video. Thanks for the update...I really care and hope that you'll keep us updated more often. I wish you a wonderful day! 😊✌👍
Love your sweater. You're an amazing person never forget that
Sounds like a classic enabler..
If that's the case the behavior won't stop with or without Rodger.. speaking from experience 😁
If you have the weather app on your phone you can check the pollen count and take over the counter allergy medicine if you need to during this season. Find out from your doctor what is safe to take with meds you are currently taking.
I lived on the East Coast for 28 years then moved to the West Coast. It’s not as hard as you think once you move. It’s new, and exciting, and an adventure! To do!!!
Your health is way more important than content on here. Please take care of yourself first. ❤
I absolutely love your cooking videos and you!!
I love love you girly thank you so much for this video ❤
Heck yeah we care I would definitely would be lost without you and your content! If you ever come to the east coast, you can stop in for a tour of MI on your way 💜😘😊 I hope you do another live cause I missed it poop 💩💩
Kandy...you need to take care of YOU! So if you have to take a step back then please do it! I love you and will be here for you 💘
I can relate. Thanks for sharing. Wishing you peace and love.💜
YASSSS QUEEN! An hour of Kandy time! I love you girl, and I'm so excited to see how you like the yogi teas. I'm currently trying to find the rosehip tea from yogi, but I may need to order it online. Walmart and Target don't have it. PS. I changed my channel name. I was "Kristie Caroline" before.
Thank for sharing about your husband. That really helps provide context. I can not stand the swell of smoking either.
Hey, if you ever do come to east coast please stop in North Carolina, loved to have ya! 💜
I know this is an old video but I hope things have gotten better for you emotionally. You are important. You have fans (followers) because we like who you are. I wish many blessings in your life.
My boyfriend and I have the same issue. We go out to eat way too much and he doesnt say no to me when i suggest it because he wants me to be happy. Were working on it.
Yogi tea is good. My favorite is a period tea. Its helps cramps and stuff
Kandy ... you are a fabulous person! I have been married for 20 years plus 9 years of previous dating ... not everything has been beautiful but we have achieved it based on something very simple ... love is not conditioned ... you can teach how you want things through example. ..but you love the person as a whole ... with defects and virtues ... you balance your virtues and if they weigh more than your defects ... then you have the right path! If the defects weigh more than the virtues, then retire because the adults value our space and our customs a lot. it is not very difficult to make the decision ... do you see yourself aging with that person being happy or do you feel that you will be happier if you continue your life without him? just use your own emotional balance but do not condition the person you love.
My words I send you with a lot of love and respect.
Yay, an hour of Kandy!!!
You should try McMenamins in Centralia, couches with a theatre plus alcohol or no drinks is super fun! Hugs
I have depressing and acidity and what u talking about in this video I go through the same things and I also ask myself is this is normal or I'm just this crazy person, you being so open about what you going through is so helpful just know I'm here for you as you here for everyone in kandy community love you like crazy gurl! Don't forget new jersey we love you here for sure!🤗🌻🎀🏅🦉🦋🌼🌷🌺⚘
Love you, girl. Keep on keeping on! 🤗🤗🤗
Girl life is fu..ked up there's nothing easy in it everyone has their struggles be you do you and enjoy life it's gone be hard road but it's worth it love from Chicago ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
You’re focusing on all of HIS problems, but what about YOU KANDY? Hhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm?
Amanda Zabala true
That's called a savior complex. Part of her issues.
Yes, so true I love Kandy but, she has a spending problem . And her eating is the main thing she needs to work on
Really love your energy...so bright.
😁 💜 _I soooo enjoyed this video! Thanks for sharing all about Roger with us. I hope things work out well for ya'll if that's what you want. 😁 ❤️ YOU ARE LOVED, GIRL!_
Kandy I Love your posts. I’ve been thinking about you lately. I’m happy to see you doing better and being upbeat. Glad to see your beautiful face and charming bubbly personality. I can relate on so many things you talk about and I’m happy to see you doing well. I love your hauls and all the stuff you do with your nephews. You seem to be in a good place and getting better. I wish you all the best. It’s not easy I know I’m doing the same thing right now. I’ve always taken care of everyone else and I’ve paid the price health wise. Anxiety attacks suck & unless you’ve been through it you don’t know. So I’m trying to take care of me first and it’s not easy but I’m gonna keep trying. You make me laugh your just so Real & I think that resonates in your vids. Your the real deal kid. Keep striving we love you. Just keep being Real!
Loving the tumbler kandy it’s such a beautiful color
I love you, Kandy!!!
They don't have Dutch Brothers on the East Coast. Also A&W Rootbeer resturants are no longer in my area. There used to be 4 A&W resturants in my area but now all of them have closed. There used to be a A&W Resturant drive-in but it closed down and has now been converted to a Enterprise car rentel place.
I 100% understand what you're going through with your depression. I've been sinking into this black hole for the last 20 years and I feel like I'll never find any happiness. Just this morning I was laying in bed and it was soo hard to just get up and go to work, I'm miserable there I'm miserable at home but at least at home I can try to hide as much as possible. Probably the main reason I haven't given up yet is ten years ago I tried to take my life and I remember how people treated me, it was like I had did some horrible crime or that I was psycho or something and being that I don't want to suffer I can see myself failing again and just the thought of being treated that way again has been enough to keep me going, but who know's how long someone can live with this type of pain. That's what people don't understand, it's not feeling blue here and there, it's constantly feeling like your life has no meaning or purpose, yeah you know people care about you, but you either feel guilty if you unload on them about what you're going through or they care but from a distance. I know exactly how you feel, I don't know if it helps, I don't know if it helps me to know others are going through it too, but I just wanted you to know that I do know.
I'm so very glad you got help for your depression. I know what it's like to live with (suicidal thoughts/actions), clinical depression, and to be biPolar with PTSD.. etc. God bless you, sweetie😇
Never give up and belive in yourself u a lovely person and I love to listen u xxx
Hi I'm new to your channel but absolutely love you. So nice to relate to you thank you for sharing your life!
Oh my god your nephew is so cute and reminded me of m niece whom I haven't seen in a month. Definitely wanted to cry a bit 😥
You are a beautiful soul. I wish I had one person to reach out to me that would listen to me. I have been diagnosed as a manic depressive. Bipolar stage1. I have no one. Depression started after my son died and was told I could never have anymore children. I can’t sleep at night, I can’t work and have to force myself out the door. The psychiatrist can’t seem to get my meds under control and therapy did not help. I hope and pray you find the help you need. I have come to adore you and I look forward to your videos. You are a wonderful person and I’m lucky I found your channel cause it makes me feel so happy even it is for and short video. Keep doing what you are doing!! Love and hugs!
you are handling this in a very mature way.
You will always have a place in Scotland too if you ever visit 💕 xxxx
Oh Kandy girl sometimes we just learn from our mistakes. I don't like to see you sad..