I’ve always been an outcast with my family and my cousins. The craziest thing is my parents sponsored all her siblings to Canada . They have so much entitlement. I’ve been through hell and back and my mom still does things for her family.
My mom & dad are only one kids in their family, so I don't have close cousins, only those who are kids of my parents cousins. When me and my sister was younger we always tried to be friends with them but it felt like a competition, i think it was competition between our parents and their cousins 😅 so we also was part of this, but i was always upset because of that. Now i understand, that even if you are trying to be in a good relationship with your cousins, you can't until they want it too. I felt like they judge me and speak in ignorant way kinda, as they are better than me, but now when i am adult I just stop have any contact with them all and stop comparing myself to them, it is easier now tbh
Really enjoyed this podcast- keep up the good work girls. Also just to add to take any talk about you as a compliment- you are obviously important enough for everyone to concern themselves with 🎉🎉🎉 #winning … if it really was a competition lol
My crazy cousin story is that, my family on my mom’s side, the only family I grew up around, replaced me with my step cousin. Reason being that she is as white as snow and I’m dark skinned. I always faced the passive aggressive comments and most of the times it was to my face ever since I was a child. They would blatantly discriminate against me, and literally pull me away all the way to the back when taking family photos during events. It’s ridiculous, but I’ve now cut them off and only see a few of them on social media through my moms facebook, where they are celebrating my step cousins life, milestones and treating her so much like family than I’ve ever known.
So this ties into another great topic. The root cause of these jealousies and it’s the competition between our parents.. sisters, sister in laws etc Maybe one day you guys can discuss how this competition comes into play in our generation between the Bahus or nand vs bahu.. it’s present for sure and I definitely feel it when there is comparison between all of the bahus
15:48 about cousin competition, it’s not only about living abroad or not. In my case, we lived in the capital and most of my cousins lived in the suburbs because of many reasons like their father’s job. I still faced the “competition” like they could get away with murder but me and my siblings couldn’t even be loud at the dawat because “big city ruined manners” 🙄 bro we were just kids! And the shady comments from khalas and fuppus! I was 5 years old ffs! I didn’t even have enough brain cells to understand the shade! 🤣🤣🤣
Hi Uruje, I'm also faisalabadi living in toronto and I also recently got married and then randomly found your channel on instagram lol. I traveled to Pakistan after 12 years to see my family and relatives and within a month I had my Nikkah 😂😂
“Nazins” had me in stitches 🤣 y’all so real for this ! In my experience, it’s the cousins back home be nazar lagaoing more. Like they think money here grows on trees, I do agree we have it a bit easy cause of our parents, they worked hard to make our lives comfortable. But fam what’s the deal, just please be genuinely happy for us! You do you, I do me, it’s not that deep😭 btw I’m fs using nazins from now on !!
Once I had to go to a friends wedding and I was all ready. My cousin took my picture with her and then sent to my brother who was in canada. He called me instantly and asked Itna saj dhaj k kahan jaa rahi ho? 😂 Toxicity at peak. Though my mom was also going with me.
At the risk of getting annihilated by hate comments, can I suggest that maybe this is a Karachi vs. Punjab thing? I can always 100% relate to all your podcast but this one, 0%! I have 39 first cousins back home, and they would NEVER rat me out of nazar lagao. They literally couldn't care less what I'm wearing or doing but we are all very close, so this is not coming from an estrangement angle. And I've never had a Karachi friend who has had any cousin issues either. My husband has cousins in Lahore, and those cousins have un ending drama with their lahori cousins from the other side. I thought it was just their family but maybe not? 😂 Okay now don't kill me.
Well, on the flip side, let me tell you the other side of the story. Overseas cousins always have a bad mouth about the place and the people in Pakistan. "I have no idea how anyone can survive in this place!", "it's so dirty!", "People are weird" and what not. I definitely understand all this, but if you're coming to my place, you don't get to talk (or think, because it does come through in your body language) shit about my country or its people, it's my home. I recently moved to Canada, so I can see the perspectives. Love your podcasts ❤
I’ve always been an outcast with my family and my cousins. The craziest thing is my parents sponsored all her siblings to Canada . They have so much entitlement. I’ve been through hell and back and my mom still does things for her family.
listening to you guys makes me feel SOOOO AT HOMEEEEEE
You two are literally the best!
Fully in control
I'm from Ukraine & I can relate to this! 😂 This cousin stuff is the same all over the world
Thank you for watching! It’s a worldwide collective experience!
My mom & dad are only one kids in their family, so I don't have close cousins, only those who are kids of my parents cousins. When me and my sister was younger we always tried to be friends with them but it felt like a competition, i think it was competition between our parents and their cousins 😅 so we also was part of this, but i was always upset because of that. Now i understand, that even if you are trying to be in a good relationship with your cousins, you can't until they want it too. I felt like they judge me and speak in ignorant way kinda, as they are better than me, but now when i am adult I just stop have any contact with them all and stop comparing myself to them, it is easier now tbh
Already loving this! This podcast is my fave! ❤🎉
Thank you for the support!
Yo that ichi bichi thing is sooooo accurate!!!! Minj kud dendey ney!
So relatable…. You girls are truly fun to watch 👏👏👏👏
Thank you!
The most relatable and my most fav episode so far!!! Laughed so much
Thank you!!!! We appreciate the support!
"Uruje pulling up with the DNA test" killed me
😂 she was READY!!
You guys must do a LIVE CALL in 😂😂😂...just to further understand these stories lol
We should 😂
You guys are hilarious. Love it ! Went through all of that drama. 😅🤣
Yeyyy new episode
Really enjoyed this podcast- keep up the good work girls.
Also just to add to take any talk about you as a compliment- you are obviously important enough for everyone to concern themselves with 🎉🎉🎉 #winning … if it really was a competition lol
Thank you!
My crazy cousin story is that, my family on my mom’s side, the only family I grew up around, replaced me with my step cousin. Reason being that she is as white as snow and I’m dark skinned. I always faced the passive aggressive comments and most of the times it was to my face ever since I was a child. They would blatantly discriminate against me, and literally pull me away all the way to the back when taking family photos during events. It’s ridiculous, but I’ve now cut them off and only see a few of them on social media through my moms facebook, where they are celebrating my step cousins life, milestones and treating her so much like family than I’ve ever known.
That is so horrible! Thank you for sharing and we’re sorry you dealt with that💔
So this ties into another great topic. The root cause of these jealousies and it’s the competition between our parents.. sisters, sister in laws etc
Maybe one day you guys can discuss how this competition comes into play in our generation between the Bahus or nand vs bahu.. it’s present for sure and I definitely feel it when there is comparison between all of the bahus
Great idea
15:48 about cousin competition, it’s not only about living abroad or not. In my case, we lived in the capital and most of my cousins lived in the suburbs because of many reasons like their father’s job. I still faced the “competition” like they could get away with murder but me and my siblings couldn’t even be loud at the dawat because “big city ruined manners” 🙄 bro we were just kids! And the shady comments from khalas and fuppus! I was 5 years old ffs! I didn’t even have enough brain cells to understand the shade! 🤣🤣🤣
Best one ladies ❤️
Thank you for watching 🙏🏼
“Shkanjvi” bro 😂😂😂😂😂
Im just sitting here thinking how are you going to face them after this episode 🤣🤣🤣 it's giving ME anxiety for you 😂😂
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Dad side are most craaaayyyyyyy!!!!!
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Finally new episode !!!
Hi Uruje, I'm also faisalabadi living in toronto and I also recently got married and then randomly found your channel on instagram lol.
I traveled to Pakistan after 12 years to see my family and relatives and within a month I had my Nikkah 😂😂
Love to hear that!!!❤️❤️
I’m excited for part 2 because I have a crazzzzy one I’m still salty about
We will definitely be doing a part 2!
“Nazins” had me in stitches 🤣 y’all so real for this ! In my experience, it’s the cousins back home be nazar lagaoing more. Like they think money here grows on trees, I do agree we have it a bit easy cause of our parents, they worked hard to make our lives comfortable. But fam what’s the deal, just please be genuinely happy for us! You do you, I do me, it’s not that deep😭
btw I’m fs using nazins from now on !!
😂😂 thank you for watching!!!
so relatable!
Cousin drama it’s truly something out of this world lol you girls were on point lol
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The Latin cousins there like that ! So silly
48:18 😂😂😂😂😂
My father in law and husband are from faisalabad! Love you! ❤
Thank you for the love!!!
I feel like the fact that I am 16 and hella agree with it so kinda sad to look for people to trust these things made me lose trust from god knows who
uruj and her expressions im gonna die omg 🤣
😂😂
Once I had to go to a friends wedding and I was all ready. My cousin took my picture with her and then sent to my brother who was in canada. He called me instantly and asked Itna saj dhaj k kahan jaa rahi ho? 😂 Toxicity at peak. Though my mom was also going with me.
😂😂😂 wow the way news travels with cousin like a 🔥
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Oh gosh, Wondering if this UA-cam video is being circulated in family WhatsApp groups by your cousins lol. 😂 Good topic!
😂 there is a strong possibility of this 🤷🏻♀️
At the risk of getting annihilated by hate comments, can I suggest that maybe this is a Karachi vs. Punjab thing?
I can always 100% relate to all your podcast but this one, 0%! I have 39 first cousins back home, and they would NEVER rat me out of nazar lagao. They literally couldn't care less what I'm wearing or doing but we are all very close, so this is not coming from an estrangement angle. And I've never had a Karachi friend who has had any cousin issues either.
My husband has cousins in Lahore, and those cousins have un ending drama with their lahori cousins from the other side. I thought it was just their family but maybe not? 😂
Okay now don't kill me.
😂😂 no judgments! Thanks for sharing
Yaayyy I am first 🎉
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i wish u would upload twice a week
That’s a great idea
Can you make a podcast about desi aunites cuz damn what a species
Hahah we’ve done one it’s called Toxic Aunties😂
Sorry it is “Shikanji” 😂
“She-kan-jeee”
Well, on the flip side, let me tell you the other side of the story. Overseas cousins always have a bad mouth about the place and the people in Pakistan. "I have no idea how anyone can survive in this place!", "it's so dirty!", "People are weird" and what not. I definitely understand all this, but if you're coming to my place, you don't get to talk (or think, because it does come through in your body language) shit about my country or its people, it's my home. I recently moved to Canada, so I can see the perspectives.
Love your podcasts ❤
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!!!
I mean it is true tho.
I mean it is true tho.