Really love how relatable your podcasts are and I sure do get a good laugh when I’m watching u guys but I wanted to say something and I hope u don’t take it an a negative way but you should talk a bit about what’s going on in Palestine even if it’s less then a min like it will add more value and sentiment to ur podcast
You two are fabulous. The people who wrote all the mean comments just ignore them like you guys always say wailayyy they are very wailayy. And nowadays people also has the audacity to hate in person not just on social media. And about the hate on you being Pakistani Canadian I really feel like you both are just like us there are a lot of things in common Lots of love 💕
You guys are amazing! Watching your videos feels like chilling with friends. Although I was born and raised in Pakistan, I've always felt alienated because of certain cultural values. I resonate so much with you guys, it's really comforting
For the people who say you're overacting.. They do not have true friends.. Cuz when you hangout with true friends.. This is how it is.. You laugh, you have fun & you talk about anything n everything.. This is exactly how friends hangout! ❤
I have a theory about why us Desi’s hate on each other. I feel like it comes from how our parents constantly pit us against either our siblings, relatives or other kids our age growing up in the same proximity. Over time it’s grown into this constant need to one up each other or try to prove that we’re better in every aspect of our lives and if that’s not possible, you tear the each other down. Basically, a trauma response. I don’t know how to undo it but the best thing we can do is to not pass it down to our children.
Love listening to you both! I’m now a Nana and see commonalities being raised in Pakistan and an adult in the West. Keep laughing and sending positive vibes to young moms.
54:27 what Parents NEED to do is teach HEALTHY CHOICES ! Affirming and asking your child to clarify why they made such choice. This will allow your child value for your input in their decision making ❤🎉
I'd been getting rude out of line comments that started when I hit puberty (so 11ish) and the comments were usually to my mom. They were usually along the lines "she's getting so chubby control her diet" or "she dresses too out, put her in salwar kameez or long shirts and less jeans." I legit started rebelling and I stopped wearing Desi outfits, I started dressing like a tomboy, and I just started to want to be white and astaghfirullah not Muslim. I eventually came around during 8th grade but I would legit blame myself. The comments never stopped though because I became the opposite and started dressing really really girly, lots of makeup, high heels and everything. Then it was all beta don't wear this wear that, cover up, don't wear short shirts and tight jeans blah blah. No matter what I did I was labeled the bad girl in our family. No one said this stuff to the other girls in my family. It stopped especially when I got married but I saw it pass on to my cousin's daughter. There are so many other girls in the family her age but it's always her. I feel like sometimes in Desi extended families it's like they choose one girl they see as really out and give her taanay for most of her life. I thank God everyday that I finally understood that our religion isn't what these misogynistic aunties are telling us but it's actually so pro female, and we women have rights that they legit won't tell us because it doesn't serve them. Sorry I totally went off on a crazy tangent but I just had to vent after feeling like my childhood and teen years were so hard because of this.
You are right, I agree the overall perspective of the desi community needs to change or atleast refresh. Focus on what is most important the peace and happiness of the individual. Stop paying attention to what others will say. . Let them say. . They don’t matter more than your own self or your children.
For few I am too religious and for few I am too modern thats my struggle with our community. And in general the one thing that I dislike the most about our community is that nobody wants to be friends with you if you’re not carrying your gucci or lv or ysl things around. I distinctly remember once I meet a friends of friends at the desi grocery stores and she looked me up and down and didn’t talk to me at all, cause I wasn’t carrying brands around that day. On another day the same lady was so friendly to me after looking me carrying Chloe bag. I disgust such people.
Hey Girls ❤ Big fan from Melbourne. Know you’re busy with other things but please upload more content. Also do at least one segment in complete Urdu. It will be fun to watch.
19:41 it’s really about catching a vibe…you sound like my sisters and the conversations we have. LATERAL VIOLENCE IS a BIG Pakistani Woman problem!!!!! We chip away at each other with microagressions !
I love this podcast and I shared it with my girl friends! I have a topic idea but it might be too specific, but I think mahr and people's opinions on it are really interesting. I've noticed some desis, especially the religious ones are the ones who try to bargain on mahr are so toxic. They'll be the first ones to say you better do this and that for your hubby if you want to be a good Muslim wife but when it comes to what Islam says about women's rights it's crickets. It makes me so angry.
Pakistani people have a 22:50 complex Land Connection identity because we are a few generations of displaced people. Decolonization! Is a dialogue to have!!!
1:05:03 it’s a COLONIAL IDENTITY!!!!! We have to come to terms with our complex Pakistani existence in Canada 🇨🇦!!! We’re effected by the culture preservation movement within our political system. Urdu is also heirachichal in our diaspora so when we decode where your elders-elders came from we might find our ancestors languages…. It’s work we have to do when academically dissecting this complex language dissing we do yo each other.
48:37 it could Also be out of ETHICAL values! You might grow and learn to unlearn a mistake of your parents and then have to detach yourself from them!!!
Really love how relatable your podcasts are and I sure do get a good laugh when I’m watching u guys but I wanted to say something and I hope u don’t take it an a negative way but you should talk a bit about what’s going on in Palestine even if it’s less then a min like it will add more value and sentiment to ur podcast
I agree! You took the words right out of my mouth!
You two are fabulous. The people who wrote all the mean comments just ignore them like you guys always say wailayyy they are very wailayy. And nowadays people also has the audacity to hate in person not just on social media.
And about the hate on you being Pakistani Canadian I really feel like you both are just like us there are a lot of things in common
Lots of love 💕
❤️❤️🙏
This deserves more views
The crazy part is sometimes the child ends up super happy from their decision. Parents want what’s best, but they don’t always know what’s best.
This is very true
You guys are amazing! Watching your videos feels like chilling with friends. Although I was born and raised in Pakistan, I've always felt alienated because of certain cultural values. I resonate so much with you guys, it's really comforting
Thanks for the love
For the people who say you're overacting.. They do not have true friends.. Cuz when you hangout with true friends.. This is how it is.. You laugh, you have fun & you talk about anything n everything..
This is exactly how friends hangout!
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❤️❤️
27:14 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🫡 shabash bro you are indeed an Ambassador of Human Rights and Dignity! When you go to ANY country you mode that standard!!!
They are not just confident enough to be on our level and be this much creative
I have a theory about why us Desi’s hate on each other.
I feel like it comes from how our parents constantly pit us against either our siblings, relatives or other kids our age growing up in the same proximity. Over time it’s grown into this constant need to one up each other or try to prove that we’re better in every aspect of our lives and if that’s not possible, you tear the each other down. Basically, a trauma response.
I don’t know how to undo it but the best thing we can do is to not pass it down to our children.
Before the internet, it was bullying in person and now it’s bullying behind a keyboard…
32:05 "they don't wanna us laugh, they wanna us cry". Truth 💯
😂😂
Love listening to you both! I’m now a Nana and see commonalities being raised in Pakistan and an adult in the West. Keep laughing and sending positive vibes to young moms.
Thank you so much!
Best thing on the internet is you two laughing lol 😂makes me so happy
54:27 what Parents NEED to do is teach HEALTHY CHOICES ! Affirming and asking your child to clarify why they made such choice. This will allow your child value for your input in their decision making ❤🎉
I'd been getting rude out of line comments that started when I hit puberty (so 11ish) and the comments were usually to my mom. They were usually along the lines "she's getting so chubby control her diet" or "she dresses too out, put her in salwar kameez or long shirts and less jeans." I legit started rebelling and I stopped wearing Desi outfits, I started dressing like a tomboy, and I just started to want to be white and astaghfirullah not Muslim. I eventually came around during 8th grade but I would legit blame myself. The comments never stopped though because I became the opposite and started dressing really really girly, lots of makeup, high heels and everything. Then it was all beta don't wear this wear that, cover up, don't wear short shirts and tight jeans blah blah. No matter what I did I was labeled the bad girl in our family. No one said this stuff to the other girls in my family. It stopped especially when I got married but I saw it pass on to my cousin's daughter. There are so many other girls in the family her age but it's always her. I feel like sometimes in Desi extended families it's like they choose one girl they see as really out and give her taanay for most of her life. I thank God everyday that I finally understood that our religion isn't what these misogynistic aunties are telling us but it's actually so pro female, and we women have rights that they legit won't tell us because it doesn't serve them. Sorry I totally went off on a crazy tangent but I just had to vent after feeling like my childhood and teen years were so hard because of this.
Maria biscuit... "what is that" UMMM I nearly fell off my chair in shock lol!
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You are right, I agree the overall perspective of the desi community needs to change or atleast refresh. Focus on what is most important the peace and happiness of the individual. Stop paying attention to what others will say. . Let them say. . They don’t matter more than your own self or your children.
🙏❤️
My favourite episode so far!
Absolutely love your podcasts
Thank you!
For few I am too religious and for few I am too modern thats my struggle with our community.
And in general the one thing that I dislike the most about our community is that nobody wants to be friends with you if you’re not carrying your gucci or lv or ysl things around. I distinctly remember once I meet a friends of friends at the desi grocery stores and she looked me up and down and didn’t talk to me at all, cause I wasn’t carrying brands around that day. On another day the same lady was so friendly to me after looking me carrying Chloe bag. I disgust such people.
Hey Girls ❤ Big fan from Melbourne. Know you’re busy with other things but please upload more content. Also do at least one segment in complete Urdu. It will be fun to watch.
We will try our best thanks for the love!
19:41 it’s really about catching a vibe…you sound like my sisters and the conversations we have. LATERAL VIOLENCE IS a BIG Pakistani Woman problem!!!!! We chip away at each other with microagressions !
So true
the laughing is the best part LOL you guys have the best laughs
❤️
i look forward to your podcast every week!! much love
Thank you!
I love this podcast and I shared it with my girl friends! I have a topic idea but it might be too specific, but I think mahr and people's opinions on it are really interesting. I've noticed some desis, especially the religious ones are the ones who try to bargain on mahr are so toxic. They'll be the first ones to say you better do this and that for your hubby if you want to be a good Muslim wife but when it comes to what Islam says about women's rights it's crickets. It makes me so angry.
Thanks for sharing
Omg pissed my pants when that last part came ( word pronounciations) damn ...kasme keep this part coming back😂😂😂😂
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The Maria biscuit is so me. They taste really good with chai 10/10 love love love❤(the red package ones)
Is this on the shelf empty mango juice bottles😂😂❤️ these are the best hahahhaa. Yummy. Looks also very nice❤️❤️❤️ 🥭
Yes 😂
Wait where can I send my questions or stories do I send it through y’all’s dms?
yes you can DM us on Instagram @okmompodcast
@@OKMomPodcast ty
Love how the episode is hate in the desi community and the first thing of the episode is hating on speeches and stickers😂😂
6:30 people who complain about the stick figure family are the type of people who say a minivan is too big, but go out and buy a Tahoe.
Love you guys! Ya’ll make my day! Also ask how your parents pronounce the word “career”. They would say “carrier”
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Your laughs are contagious ♥️🧿way to go girlies
Thank you for the support
Love these girls❤ x
Pakistani people have a 22:50 complex Land Connection identity because we are a few generations of displaced people. Decolonization! Is a dialogue to have!!!
Girls loving ur podcast ur laugh is contagious making me laugh😂
❤️❤️ thank you
"What are you fitting at the Back? Another kid! 😂😂😂
Life is so short love everyone to be loved 😮
Omg who are these stupid trolls & haters. I ❤ ur podcast and enjoy it so much. Keep them coming.
Thank you
love you guys ♥♥
I LOVE THIS!!
Omgggg mooli ke parathay made crispy and you have cold yogurt with it ooommggggg 🤤🤤🤤🤤
Blessed! The best thing ever
54:41😮😮NNOOooo! You don’t have to Stay!!!!!!!! There’s places to go!!!! You can do it!!!!!!
Wuhuu new episode😍😍
55:45 also breaking your INTERGENERATIONAL cycle 🔁 of balance humans need!!
Awee 42:41 ❤that’s vulnerability
24:57 this is GREAT!!! Pakistani identity is actually gorafied!!! We’re actually a 😂colonial nation!
👏👏👏👏
1:05:03 it’s a COLONIAL IDENTITY!!!!! We have to come to terms with our complex Pakistani existence in Canada 🇨🇦!!! We’re effected by the culture preservation movement within our political system. Urdu is also heirachichal in our diaspora so when we decode where your elders-elders came from we might find our ancestors languages…. It’s work we have to do when academically dissecting this complex language dissing we do yo each other.
48:37 it could Also be out of ETHICAL values! You might grow and learn to unlearn a mistake of your parents and then have to detach yourself from them!!!
girl be careful with chuck e. cheese. some influencer almost got sued for talking about their pizza 💀
34:19 let’s create a SELF Care group!!!!!
Ummmmmm 57:02 IT’s TOXIC ownership and Entitlement
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Covid came out of Chucky Cheese for real
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Marie biscuit is Pakistani and absolute FIRE!
People are more confused in Pakistan between culture and religion lol. Better to have this cultural confusion over that one any day ✌
40:47 you grow thicker skin as you age ❤
In episode in Urdu plssss Sirf Urdu mai
We will definitely try our best
F4zo0l4lyf 😂 love this podcast ❤
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56:35 🫡🫡🔥🔥 reel worthy quote famm 🤌🏽🤌🏽
😂😂😂😂just revisited my grade 8 trauma with the minivan 🚐 😅exit strategy 😅
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