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Please, can you speak about the importance of who one marries, for the long run in life? I wish you´d speak on people who change due to marriage. Especially a lot of women, because they were never really given the space to develop a personality. They were raised to please, please, please and "kill" their own wishes, which ends up making them weak and bitter people (and they are often "chased" for their youth, because aunties feel that they have to be "caught" before they develop a personality). I´ve discovered that most people take on some characteristics of their spouse. For example, women who used to be down to earth, but now care about big houses, cars and money because their spouse grew up with that mindset. So when they come back to visit, you see your sister/brother suddenly not willing to sit in a bus or the subway ("My children don´t sit in a bus..."), expecting people to drive them here and there, and not accepting gifts because they aren´t from the "right" boutique. I´m not talking Pakistan, but siblings that were born and raised right here in the West, but return not wanting to sit in the train despite knowing that their family doesn´t have a car. A snobbery evolved only after marriage to someone who is all about show-sha. Other times, it can be a sibling married with a religious person, who returns and tells their family how embarrassed they are that people don´t wear hijaab or that the brothers aren´t married by a certain age. Simply, people who change and expect their family to also adjust to their marriage (even pressurising the parents that "Look, my marriage is at risk because of you all not aligning with my husband´s wishes"). The worst is sisters who pressure younger sisters to get married, because they want it to happen before their nanand marries. Basically, involving siblings into their fights with their in-laws, and expecting siblings to "show up" by making "points" for the married sister. We talk too much about men-women issues...and too little about how marriage changes people. It´s not a light matter. Of course you´ll take on parts of the person you are so intimate with and whom you live with. This is far too neglected a topic in our community. Some people go crazy after marriage, and it´s just not talked about.

You guys have saved me so much money of therapy 🤣❤️😘 love you guys!

That " do not merge" was loud and clear 😂

i saw a pakistani guy at work who was married acting single at work... and of course it was with a blonde goriii

Hina shocked, cake rusk dropped! 🤣🤣🤣

Not all places were like this. In Toronto there was a huge Muslim Population in the 1990s and now even bigger. At least 10+ kids in each class were Muslim so no problems like mentioned here. I think this was more of a suburb problem. It was really easy being Muslim and growing up in the City.

My mil has never said my two babies look anything like me. It’s always they look like her children and her parents and grandparents. When others say it around her, she disagrees and continues to correct them. She also calls my children (two boys under 2) her babies and tells them she brought them back from the hospital..

If someone disrespects you in your new married family and you decide to speak up make sure your spouse is on your side. If they turn on you or don't back you up its over.

This might be your funniest episode ever. Chamcha Hilaya ta 😂😂

The thing about the compassion is so true, desi girls are so hard on ourselves! I think its because nobody had compassion for us so we never learned how.

Um... I'm doing chores with podcast As I have listened to many recent episodes already I'm now listening that I haven't sooo I was listening and 😅 you guys said welcome safa 😂😂😂 I'm safa too

Let me fix what you cooked! Adding a ton of oil as the fix😂

Very important and sometimes difficult convo to have

Shalini was the best person on the show. Such a nice and genuine person. Like no negativity, no toxicity. Just spending her money doing what loves best. And Seema saw that, she never said anything bad to Shalini, she was really nice to Shalini

The auntie jee moment...when you gave your rice brand recommendations!😊

Queens

Used to love this podcast but just talking about the cake for the first 5 mins is soo jarring. Tuning out x

As a Pakistani girl, I learned not to get married.

After so many dawats and doing everything this year I made 3 4 dishes for my son's birthday and actually assigned the duty of serving to my husband.. i actually was calm and ate with the guests. I was STILL helping, but seeing him running like a headless chicken doing simple things I do at every dawat was crazy and satisfying tbh 😂.. he said that from now on we will order or host outside 😂

Watching this as a 31 y/o with my mama in the room she’s taking care of my pregnant self.. my mum is my treasure Alhamdulillah ❤

Add Urdu subtitles in auto - translate

I just randomly came across this and I wasn’t expecting you both to be Pakistani and then I HAD to stick around to support the podcast! But can’t lie, I also was very very invested in the discussion 😂 Great job guys and wish you both even more success!

After 20 yrs being married i learnt its so important to set boundries the moment you enter the family. Dont do things you cannot keep up for decades .

This morning i woke up and thought its wednesssday just like uruje says it and i couldnt remember where i got this accent from😅 Its you!

I can’t stop laughing whenever I see you guys

Current generation of desi Men when they were boys were catered to and accommodated all the time by their mothers and dadis sometimes sisters too. Dealing with emotion is a learned behaviour which we have to be intentional about teaching it to both our daughters and sons in current point in time. How to deal with anger in a positive way and learn to calm ourselves and activate rational thinking in time of emotional crisis is learned from childhood.

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Great segments, bringing back the foodie/baked goods ones, love the desi snacks one too back in the day, love how chai n chit chat goes with it! 🎉

Congrats Urooj!

Where do you ask the question of the week? D: is it on insta?

Man!!! I was compared to every woman in my husband’s family by my husband.

Daijki

When he basically told me he was illegal in the country outside of a Greggs (the name of a bakery in the uk) of all places.. he was upset with me and called me crazy….. even his Khala of all people said “tu toh bhal bhal Bach gayi” Alhamdulillah Allah was on my side. I’ve been with my now husband for 10 nearly 11 years and we are expecting our 3rd child, In Shaa Allah.

Unfortunately we are raised as people pleaser and inlaws is a breed that still don’t get happy from you and even after doing everything you will be labelled as bad bahu jis sy un ka baita darta lol 😅

Loved this episode!💘

Omg the dp trauma is real 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Well a friend of mine had to call off the wedding a week before because her fiance was still looking for rishtas. Her family supported her in her decision. All weird kind of people exist

Mama roti bana dy!!! Btw im 27😂😂

I don't live in Canada, but I know I need to find @doughit and get my hands on that cake 😍

We need movie and series reviews absolutely loved the Bobby and kiran episode and when you guys talked about fabulous loves of Bollywood wives soooo much fun to watch x

20:53 to 21:03 literally experiencing this right now. rolling in my girlboss era rn

i'm working very hard to catch up to the old episodes :p

I am not able to relate to everything u all discussed but I love both of ur genuine laughter 😂

If I would’ve told my parents my love language is physical touch, my dad would have said, “ aa idhar aa, me batata hu physical touch…”. Do teen thappar araam se mil jate 😂

36:24 I think you picked those names because they are translatable in English 😅. Good strategy 👍

I’m not a mom yet but this was so good! I already see all the pressures but you guys gave me some confidence on getting past the pressures !

Urooj , what does your husband call you by ? 😂

4:08 its not a social event. it is a financial saving product. Keeps you accountable and disciplined and you get a large amount of money at once. many Business people do it in Pakistan. men and women.