@@dabd8175stating that many husbands have a similar issue is in no way saying that “the females” don’t have common issues either… The original commenter never claimed that. You don’t need to get so defensive. Both sides of a relationship have a ton to work through because we are all flawed individuals with selfish desires and past traumas. But again, there’s nothing wrong with pointing out a common husband issue; in fact, you can only control and fix yourself, not another person, so don’t automatically throw the blame onto “the other side”
I'm glad that the caller is seeking help early. Besides the already great advice Dr. John gave him, he could see an anger management counselor, to help give him more tips on coping with his emotions in a healthy way. He sounds like a good guy. I pray for many decades of Joy for the marriage.
Narcissists. He's upset set that he can't provide, yall have to live with her family and h'es mad that now she's the bread winner as a nurse. It's been a month, Get an annulment. Stop dating bum men that are not on your financial level. Stop tolerating abuse from him. He does not love you if he mistreats you.
Yep that’s how my dad was, super sweet then my mom finish college made more money. An that’s when all hell broke. Then he lost his long term job ( he painted houses on the side an he was close to retirement ) that’s when verbal abuse really went up to high gear
Here we go. This will be the next guy labeled a abuser. Maybe this is a way to control your behavior. Groomed into doormat status. I can only imagine this guy raising his voice. She in the military and he's raising his voice well this is like basic training than.
They've been together for 3 years, and she's only just discovering that he has anger problems after they have gotten married? Oh please. She finally got him tied down, now she wants to mold him to shape.
@@megalopolis2015 I'd really like to see a example of this 🐑 being a 🦁. I think this is just her strategy to get him to comply. Hey I don't know maybe he's a big scary psycho. I doubt it. And NCLEX she's a nurse I know how they are.
Obviously he's a narcissist and he's gaslighting her 24/7!!! Seriously dude you are doing well...just crock punch your father in law and you'll feel better. 😂
file for divorce mate.. she had 3 years and now she realizes you have anger issues? she is trying to manipulate you make you a beta and then cheat in you.. classic playbook
I'm sorry but your response makes no sense. The reality is that just like my husband... As men are different.. some men feel super pressured just from the fact they are married. The whole routine changes and the changes are overwhelming. It's literally taken my husband and I over a year to even get a routine of having personal space. Everyone needs personal space and I believe if he isn't taking care of himself and giving himself that time to be refreshed it can bubble up and we tend to take it out on those closets to us
The fact that this guy is taking her feedback and willing to ask for help is a good sign. I think it bodes well for their future.
This is a conversation that so many young husbands need. I wish I had heard this years ago
@@dabd8175stating that many husbands have a similar issue is in no way saying that “the females” don’t have common issues either… The original commenter never claimed that. You don’t need to get so defensive. Both sides of a relationship have a ton to work through because we are all flawed individuals with selfish desires and past traumas. But again, there’s nothing wrong with pointing out a common husband issue; in fact, you can only control and fix yourself, not another person, so don’t automatically throw the blame onto “the other side”
@@dabd8175I agree! Wives are horrible
Yea bro, speak for yourself 😂❤
I'm glad that the caller is seeking help early. Besides the already great advice Dr. John gave him, he could see an anger management counselor, to help give him more tips on coping with his emotions in a healthy way. He sounds like a good guy. I pray for many decades of Joy for the marriage.
This whole interaction restores alot of my faith in men
Thats great,...I one day hope to hear an interaction that would restore my faith in woman,.......not holding my breath
I DON'T HAVE ANGER ISSUES!!!!
He has some codependency/people-pleasing issues. He goes along with things he doesn’t want to and it builds resentment.
Exactly!!! I bet his wife is bossy and horrible
His wife probably is letting all the advancements go to her head tbh and becoming more judges and demanding
Newly-wed but not newly-bed...rocky roads ahead, better late than never left unsaid...
Anger and lust are twins. They always come together. Stop using internet porn and you'll be shocked at the improvement.
Good stuff!! Thank you John. 😊
just because I flipped the table and ran the toaster over with my truck because she burnt my toast doesn't mean I have anger issues god dammit!!!
He's so vague, I wish both were on this call. Can it be that he has been feeling kinda of a loser? John is too nice sometimes lol.
His wife isn’t as “great” as he thinks
Probably not poor guy
Narcissists. He's upset set that he can't provide, yall have to live with her family and h'es mad that now she's the bread winner as a nurse. It's been a month, Get an annulment. Stop dating bum men that are not on your financial level. Stop tolerating abuse from him. He does not love you if he mistreats you.
Don't be so quick to throw out diagnostic language. You're in no position to do so and it reflects poorly on you.
Yep that’s how my dad was, super sweet then my mom finish college made more money. An that’s when all hell broke. Then he lost his long term job ( he painted houses on the side an he was close to retirement ) that’s when verbal abuse really went up to high gear
Took 3 yrs for this to surface? I’ve been married for 1yr and we tell it like it is by 3rd month!
No one said this has been going on for 3 years. Sounds more like a couple of months
You have no idea! Give it 20 years, then you might have something worthy to say!
Damn... This was so hard to listen to... My god. It was like pulling teeth. I comment him for getting help. But this one was hard to listen to!
I laws paying bills and he is being a spoiled brat. Old en to marry... Old enough for own place. Grow up. Be appreciative.
What!? I bet his wife is controlling and it was her idea but this guy isn’t a leader and has no balls… his wife has them in her purse!
Lots of people focusing on the living with in-laws for less than a month while moving to another city 😂
Good morning John. You will never find out about him until you get married with him 😉
You’re the wife?
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So is it ok for a wife to yell at her husband
Are you talkin about a golden shower?
@@5664788 Lol...no I meant yell
No way John just said Hakeem was the GOAT over Jordan
She should have talked about this before she married him !!
Too late now
This guy is way to good for his wife 😪
Wtf is wrong with you?
Here we go. This will be the next guy labeled a abuser. Maybe this is a way to control your behavior. Groomed into doormat status. I can only imagine this guy raising his voice. She in the military and he's raising his voice well this is like basic training than.
Let’s practice labeling abusers as “nice guys” then, shall we?
@@Emptytopfloor You didn't answer my question. Nice straw woman though. 😉 As someone who's trained you should know abuse isn't just physical.
@@djpuplex I don’t see any questions. My straw woman ing is blocking my vision I guess 😉.
@@EmptytopfloorI didn't see a question either. 😶
Its up to him to make a change. He has to learn to manage his emotions better.
They've been together for 3 years, and she's only just discovering that he has anger problems after they have gotten married? Oh please. She finally got him tied down, now she wants to mold him to shape.
Bingo. Now it's time to mold him into a doormat.
Because yelling at someone is normally...good??
@@megalopolis2015 I'd really like to see a example of this 🐑 being a 🦁. I think this is just her strategy to get him to comply. Hey I don't know maybe he's a big scary psycho. I doubt it. And NCLEX she's a nurse I know how they are.
B*llsh!t. His true colors are just coming out.
@@djpuplexnurses aren’t a monolith. No job is. The ppl with the title are different individuals.
Go Cheating Astros!
Obviously he's a narcissist and he's gaslighting her 24/7!!!
Seriously dude you are doing well...just crock punch your father in law and you'll feel better. 😂
Again dont get married. Be in loving relationships for a lifetime without the govt.
He needs to get a backbone and stop letting his wife wear the pants! Get your own place and get out of her family’s house
You have no clue what his wife is doing . Not all men were raised the same. He never once said his wife was wearing the pants
Are you slow or something?
file for divorce mate.. she had 3 years and now she realizes you have anger issues? she is trying to manipulate you make you a beta and then cheat in you.. classic playbook
Wut? Never heard of such a playbook. Did that happen you?
@@Kim-yx2ye know people who it has happened to... I have also heard it from my current partner that women do this..
Bruh didn’t even listen to the episode
I'm sorry but your response makes no sense.
The reality is that just like my husband... As men are different.. some men feel super pressured just from the fact they are married. The whole routine changes and the changes are overwhelming. It's literally taken my husband and I over a year to even get a routine of having personal space. Everyone needs personal space and I believe if he isn't taking care of himself and giving himself that time to be refreshed it can bubble up and we tend to take it out on those closets to us
Incel logic