I'm stuck on the borderline bi or lesbian. I don't know! Heeeelp. Edit: I'm bisexual. It's about half and half for my attraction to males and females. Maybe like 55-60% male attraction and 45-40% female attraction. Edit, Nov. 2020: Still bi, still like males and females at about equal lengths. Still single and not ready to mingle.
Elizabeth Esposito Borderline bisexuality? Maybe you are homoromantic bisexual or either predominantly homosexual. Have you considered taking the Kinsey Scale test online to discover your sexuality?
Elizabeth Esposito Cool‼ ^^ 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👌🏻 Looking at your first post and recent comment from now - I am guessing you're a cross between being bisexual and lesbian, you mean? Maybe you're at least a Kinsey 5 which that is _predominantly_ homosexual _but only incidentally heterosexual_ (90% gay) just not quite a Kinsey 6 which is _exclusively_ homosexual with no heterosexual (100% gay).
Thank you for making this video! I have come to the point in my life where I am not sure whether I am Bi or Gay. Now after watching this video, I have come to the conclusion that I am only into females. I do not have anything against males, I have great male friends, but I just can't see myself with any man.
i am often so confused about my past, i identify as a lesbian but growing up i always thought lots of males were attractive looking and therefor i had to be straight... but the total realisation that you can think that a man is attractive looking and not want to be romantically involved with them wooaaahhhh its so simple yet this has so helped my confusion and realise why it took me so long to figure out who i am!! thank you!!!
same here^^ like I remember when I was younger around 7 or 8 I had thought that I liked this boy, turns out I didn’t actually like him in that way. also in 6th grade one of my female friend was trying to get me together with boys most of the time because I couldn’t “keep” one so to say, I’ve tried it but boys aren’t really my thing at all. so that’s when I found out that I was only into girls and I am now proud to identify as a lesbian and I am proud of who I am.
I've been asking myself the "am I gay or bi " question at least once (lets say 5) times a day these few months. When I discovered I was attracted to girls, I automatically assume I was bi. I was overwhelmed with this attention to female and didn't give a damn about boys and I was like "ehh it'll come later I guess" ... and since a guy never made me feel something strong like girls did countless times , Im starting to asking myself if I could be a lesbian instead ... but NOW, Im starting to notice boys more , being like :"oh you find him cute , oh so you're attracted to him, so youre not gay bitch" when I don't have any desire to kiss him/sleep with him really? Basically idk. But hey cool videz
@@Ava-hu4gc I don't know about you but for me, is like as time passes, I just find men less and less attractive. Although I have had crushes on them. But I never really felt happy with them. In that fantasy. Just like that was what was expected of me. But I did felt really into them... I guess? Like I have ALLWAYS liked girls. Like a lot. No doubt. But now, with men... Is like I don't really see myself with a man now. Just girls. And just girls turn me on. Like when I think secually about a man, I have realized that I see myself like if I were the man. Idk. I'm so confused. Because I have had crushes on guys. But now I just don't feel like it. And it feels wrong for me the "bisexual" label. "lesbian" just feels good. More in consonance with my gender and my identity? Idk tbh. If you read this, help hahah
I am a Christian, and it took me months of constant questioning and confusion before I was able to accept that I am bisexual. One of the things I kept coming back to every time I doubted my attraction to girls was asking myself, would I date a girl (especially a girl that I knew I was crushing on)? And the answer was always, yes.
Kaya Lattimore I'm so glad to hear that you've figured yourself out. Unfortunately a lot of people in our (the Christian) community are afraid of asking themselves the hard questions. Thanks for sharing. 😊
Ahh, tysm for making this, I needed this since I thought I was bi, but have since been second-guessing myself 💕💕💕 Just to clarify, I can find boys physically appealing but not want to be involved romantically or sexually with them? Finally, I've been so confused. I thought that because I used to like boys and that they were physically appealing, that I _must_ be bi. But no, I'm only really attracted to girls these days Tysm for this, again, I needed this 💕
Omg this explains why everytime I met a dude and we were close I "liked him". And after a couple days I would get uncomfortable with their affection and break up and I just told myself I just don't like commitment. This makes so much sense oh my gosh.
Your videos have such a positive vibe to them, and I am in the processes of figuring myself out. I am a Christian (female) and I am yet to determine my place in society. One thing I loved that you mentioned, was that the little things aren't really little when you step back and look at the big picture.
I love these comments ✨ and love if this helps someone, you don't have to know your place with society. It's important to know your place with yourself, the you that you know best. God bless🌹
daughter: mom i'm pan ( pan is bread in spanish ) mom: you are bread ? daughter: no i like everyone mom : me too daughter : no i mean i could like a girl mom : and ? so could i daughter : ok ... good talk
I always see sexual orientation as the basis of what a person is looking for if life didn't happen and randomly change the feelings you have. I am solely attracted to women, but I'm not discrediting the possibility of me ending up with a guy. Ideally I wouldn't, but you never know.
This was actually really helpful to hear someone else say it. It’s not just me, it makes sense and it’s a real thing. Dude are cool and can see a guy and be like he’s hot. Doesn’t mean I want to do anything with him
there are a lot of lgbt youtubers but you are the best I know, you say things that are so important and that no one says! This video is amazing , your channel is amazing!
and also, I'm so so so so grateful I finally found a black lesbian woman in the media because, you know, that for us is so! hard! to! feel! represented!
Helena Leite thank you so much. You don't know how much it means to me. ❤️ I absolutely agree about the representation thing. There are soo many of us in the world. I think it's about time we started speaking up. 😊 thank you for watching. =]
this video made me cry because I’ve been struggling with so many realizations of how I am and feel as a person. full disclosure I’m 13. tysm I’ve been having so many feelings I can’t explain so thank you
i always thought I was straight until I had a girlfriend. I never told my parents because we are a Christian family but with some issues. We broke up because it was "for the best". but honestly the only thing holding me back to go after her is my relationship with God. like if I chose her then I chose the world over God. and of course my parents would never support me with my decision. they would won't even hear me out because they are firm in believing that I am doing wrong. And I know I am, but I still want her. I just need help with what to do, because honestly I don't know anymore..
Olga Segura I was honestly in a similar situation with my first girlfriend. At the end of the day I found that there are God honoring ways to pursue a romantic relationship with another female. If you're interested in hearing about that, let me know. I'm sorry this has been a difficult time for you.
Olga Segura my encouragement would be to look closely at the passages that speak about this issue. Even if you do believe In the traditional interpretation, those verses only talk about sexual conduct. Since this is true, you could still have a romantic relationship and a companion for life without violating the scriptures, if you decide to remain celibate in that relationship. I know this may be awkward coming from a stranger, but I do believe having a non sexual companionship relationship can be God honoring and its still better than going through life alone if that's not your calling. Let me know what you think about that?
I'm a Christian girl, and I've asked my priest about if being gay is a sin, he told me God loves you as the beautiful person he made you to be, and God would want you to choose to be true to yourself. He said God loves everyone regardless of their identity.
I relate to this so much, I'm female and have identified as bi since I was 12/13 (now I'm 18) and have dated and been with mostly guys and only 1 girl but I'm wondering if I'm more into girls and not into guys at all anymore and it's so confusing, thank you for making this video.
Exact same situation here, like my relationships with guys were unhealthy and I always dreaded sex. My girlfriend I have now is wonderful and I can't imagine ever dating a guy in the future. I'm not sure where that leaves me
It's kind of like... As time passes, I just feel more into girls and I don't really see myself with a man now. I'm gradually loosing interest in pretty much everything about them. And I've realized that sexually, I was allways imagining myself in the guys place when hooking up with a girl. Like I don't see myself in the girls position hooking up or having sex with a guy. Just not my thing. But I have had crushes on guys when I was younger. So idk tbh
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much. I had been questioning myself because I used to see celebrities and things and because I thought they were good looking, I automatically assumed I was bi because I already know I like girls.
watching LGBTQ+ youtube videos helped me so much when i was coming to terms with my sexuality but i really wish i had people to talk to back then about it. If anyone who reads this is struggling with their identity and needs someone to listen or relate to, please feel free to DM me!! and thank you to all those who make these videos because representation is soo important for feeling like you're not alone!
Ok so... I know I am sort of late, but you did say to comment. Thanks for writing this comment too. It is helpful to be able to talk to someone about this. Uh this is basically going to be an extremely long comment, so I'm going to warn you now. Here it is: I really need advice. I hate wearing dresses and heels. I only wear dresses if I absolutely have to. It's probably been at least two years or so since i've been in a dress. Plus, I've never worn heels in my life and never worn makeup or have any clue how to put it on either. I also always wanted to play outside and run around instead of playing with dolls and dress up games when I was younger. I also still wear baggy clothing, or unisex clothing (camp t-shirts and then shorts but not short-shorts) and I also don't wear pink either. And now my favorite shows are Supergirl (the second season is amazing) and Person of Interest (the second or third season is also amazing.)Those shows have/had a really strong gay couple. Also, I know these are the "stereotypical signs that is not true for everyone" but there are a lot more factors that I'm going to explain. Ok, so here it goes. It's probably going to be extremely long (sort of like an essay) so if you read far, thank you. PLEASE COMMENT BELOW if you have any advice. I really need it. I'm very confused, I'm 17 and I've always thought I was straight... until I became obsessed with Fifth Harmony. I guess the person that made me question my sexuality was Lauren Jauregui. She's really an amazing person overall, but also beautiful /hot?, and I never really thought about more about it until recently. I can tell how a guy might look attractive, but I never really actually had guy celebrity crushes, also in school too. On the other hand, I look at women who are celebrities and usually... i don't know how to describe it... but i just feel different and like them more and can easily tell right away that they are pretty? A really big example is comparing One Direction to Fifth Harmony. I can tell how and why girls have crushes and become obsessed with One Direction, but for me, nothing ever really clicked. But with Fifth Harmony, I feel different. I actually see that they are beautiful and amazing, and the actual thoughts running through my brain are, "wow, Lauren is hot." You can show me a picture of One Direction ask if they are attractive, and my response would be, "yeah, i guess..." but if you show me a picture of Fifth Harmony, and ask the same question, I would definitely say yes right away and actually mean it a lot. At times, I can't even tell if a guy is attractive unless someone actually mentions it. And even then i'm sometimes confused. And now I can't really get the thought out of my mind. Then, I started to look back at all the people I follow/support on youtube and how much I think they are really pretty. Like, Lilly Singh and also Gabbie Hanna are really pretty and amazing people in general. I watch their videos and I smile like an idiot. The kind of smile that hurts because its so big. I've never thought more of it until now. Back in middle school and now high school, I used to be obsessed with basically a bunch of different girl bands and still am. I also looked back at in school, and realized that I might have had crushes on girls there, but never really realized it. I thought they were really cool and funny and pretty, but never actually hung out with them. I was always nervous around them, but didn't really think much about it then. I thought I liked a guy in 7-8th grade, but now i'm not so sure. I might have like the idea of having a crush and convinced myself that I did like him. Also, keep in mind, I've never dated anyone at all. Never. So I don't know if I just haven't found a guy I've liked YET, or just that I don't feel attraction to them. I can't really imagine myself kissing anyone right now, but if i did choose, i might feel more comfortable with a girl, than with a guy? As you can probably tell, I'm extremely confused and I really need advice. I've searched up these kinds of videos and I'm leaning towards not straight, but I don't know if i want to accept that because it's really complicated. If you've read this far, thank you. Hopefully, you semi understand this ramble. Also, this is my first time putting these thoughts into actual words so it's probably going to be really confusing. sorry this is so long. hopefully you read this.
Sarah Walker Hi Sarah! First of all your feelings are valid and normal, so many people experience being confused and don’t know. Your experience ironically sounds extremely similar to mine! I went through pretty much the same things, although I did date guys in high school. I never really felt those “sparks” or anything that other girls talked about though. I didn’t “figure out” my sexuality until I was 21/22 and a senior in college. But what helped me A LOT was watching coming out videos on youtube and other lgbt tv shows (skins UK series 3 and 4, faking it, orange is the new black, orphan black are some I watched). I highly recommend watching lgbt content and just seeing if any stories resonate with you. I️ had seen pretty much every coming out video ever but the one that made it click for me was Ingrid Nielsen’s coming out video. I felt like I related so much. You are still young and there’s no right time to figure things out so just take your time! Watch lgbt content, if you have any gay friends or know any gay people that you would feel comfortable confiding in, talk to them! they would be happy to talk to you im sure. Also I can send you some good videos/articles about being confused i just have to find them first lol. But seriously take your time, there is no timeline and you will figure it out eventually. Experiment (when you are ready/make sure it is legal and consensual) with guys and girls if you have to, there is nothing wrong with kissing someone and then realizing you don’t like kissing someone of that gender. and DONT feel the need to label yourself right now! i️ know that piece of advice can be hard, because sometimes u just want an answer and labels can be comforting for some people (it was for me), but with more time you will definitely start to figure out who you are and what your are comfortable with, and maybe you won’t even want to label yourself ever! So again my advice: take your time, watch lgbt youtubers (rose and rosie, shannon beveridge, cammie scott-look up their videos together they used to be a couple; amy ordman, ingrid nilsen. those are just some but they helped me), take your time, experiment, and don’t feel pressure to label yourself! please comment back with anything else or if you want to talk more in depth/privately, I can give u my instagram name and we can message there (idk how to dm on youtube lol). I hope this was at least a little helpful!
Thanks so much for replying and reading everything I wrote. I really appreciate it. I'm glad I'm not the only one who realized or had questions "later" in life. I've found some lgbt youtubers and couples like Anna Campbell and ElloSteph, BriaandChrissy, and then also Ally Hills. I'll definitely watch more. Thanks for suggesting other people to me. What videos/articles do you recommend I watch/read? Thanks again for responding. This has helped a lot. :)
Sarah Walker glad to help! these are two that someone recommended to me when I had questions and I thought they were great. Also Autostraddle is a great resource in general :) www.autostraddle.com/for-all-the-girls-i-loved-before-i-knew-i-could-232267/ ua-cam.com/video/bGCXJqn6DRg/v-deo.html
Omg I have a lot of trouble with figuring myself out because I have been thinking that just because I think a guy is cute, it must mean I’m bi lol. But as the months passed, the thought of me just being with a guy or kissing on or being romantic with one just grossed me out. Guys are cool and all, but I realized I’m just not attracted to them. I also realized I saw myself as the guy whenever I watch a romantic movie or show 😂 When I think of being with a girl, it feels so much different and I’m not grossed out by it at all. The feeling is very warm and I feel happy when I think about it :) I just have a different connection with girls.
Thank you so much for this video. I would always look at a girl and be like "yea she's pretty. Her face is beautiful and the thought kissing her I guess would be kinda appealing" and that's it. And with a guy I would just take it beyond that and be more attracted to them on an emotional and physical level. So I put myself down as Bi but I lean more to guys. And so now thanks to your video I have a much better realisation of who I am. When all my friends where chatting up girls I wasn't interested. I thought that I was just waiting for "the one" and wasn't going to mess around with other girls. I never found myself checking girls out. I never really got "turned on" by girls except when I started puberty. And even then I got turned on by guys too and I put it down as "I've just started puberty so anything "sexy" turns me on". I've came out to my friend and he's been really supportive since and helped me out a lot. And I recently told my geography teacher who has helped me on so many issues throughout my years at school and was really supportive too. I'm 15 and I'm ok with being gay but I just hope I get to experience relationships to the enjoyment of a straight guy. Again thanks so much for the video.
Watching this video and reading these comments were so helpful and important to me. I’ve been out as bi for a few years but am feeling more and more like I’m a lesbian. It just means a lot to see that there are a lot of other people in the same position and to see someone who has gone through some of the same emotions talk about their process. Thank you!
Fairly new subscriber! I love your videos and this one has actually helped reassure me of who I am. I've tried to force myself to believe one thing because thats what I was "supposed " to be. It's much easier just being yourself and I'm glad I know that now.
After being sexually abused by an elder brother and after mom and sister accusing me of being gay (1973) because they knew that elder brother was gay. They were afraid of that because I did not have a girlfriend and was a sophomore in college. I was indeed confused. I wore out about 2 college counselors and three priests until one gay priest ... ... loaned me his copy of Herman Hesse's __Narcisus and Goldmund__. I could thereafter appreciate that some men were more handsome than others without feeling guilty or gay and I could much more fully appreciate the beauty of women. The damage done to me by my mother and sister was pretty deep but thankfully some of the women I dated helped me find my dignity and self worth. I'm not perfect or a saint but neither am I a puppet of superficial unexamined materialistic values.
I feel the same when it comes to kissing scenes and such (I am a girl FYI) and sometimes I look at a guy and I’m like “that guy looks attractive” but I don’t want to date him and I didn’t know what that meant and I was so confused. Thank you so much, for the video, but also for making me feel like I was not alone because I look around me and everyone is all “oh I know I’m straight!” Or “ I’m totally gay!” And I never know what to say and I felt like it was my fault and that I was doing something wrong. Thank you. So so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
I've been questioning if I'm bi or lesbian for a long time and this has actually really helped me see things in a different perspective. I can now take a step back and actually think, thank you so much for making a video like this its really helped😊
I think one thing that helped me figure out that I’m a lesbian was when I was with my first real boyfriend, he tried to kiss me, but I kept refusing. I said I was shy and nervous so I didn’t want to. Truth be told, I just really didn’t wanna kiss him. I think of him as like my best friend and I took that as attraction. I just wanted to hang out with him, without being all romantic. I remembered it a few nights ago and I started crying cause I’m terrified of telling my nan (a homophobic Mormon) and I’m going to live with her when I turn 18 (in less than a month). At least if I were bi it would give her hope that I might marry a man. My first crush was on a girl, in grade 1. I would follow her around like a lost puppy. She was absolutely gorgeous. Then I started dating a guy a few weeks later cause I thought “that’s what normal people do. Girls date boys and that’s it. Girls aren’t supposed to like girls”. And if I think about anytime I got intimate with a guy, I’d only wanna be touched. I was repulsed by the idea of touching them. But when I kissed a girl for the first time, a few days ago, there was no hesitation, no doubts, it felt so natural and so right. Then it made me question my sexuality. But now I’m like 95% sure: I’m a lesbian.
When I was a kid I found many girls pretty, and I thought I was attracted to them. I was a lot more interested in Romance than other guys at that age and was considered a Ladies Man, but later on as I was 11-12 I started realizing I was attracted to guys. I first thought it was just purely sexual and I couldn’t imagine a romantic relationship with a dude, but after a while I just had to accept it around when I turned 13.
This is a bit of a old video, but was exactly what I’ve been thinking lately. I find out I liked girls when I was 15 and I’m almost 22 and still don’t know how how to label myself. But now I see that I don’t really have to and that’s fine. It is complicated to explain to other people but at the end of the day it only matters to me and the person that I’m kissing so... thanks for this video, really helped me a lot Ps: you’re super cute :3 hugs from Brazil 💕
I’m both physically and sexually attracted to girls but only sometimes I’m kinda attracted to boys physically but I never feel like I want to be sexually involved with them. As time goes by I find myself mostly attracted to girls.
Thank you so much for this video. I was literally confused till now. And now I know for sure I'm a lesbian. I honestly didn't really know till just now. Because I could see a guy and say hes cute but I really don't want to do anything with him. And for the longest time I've just been forcing myself to say yes I like guys and girls when deep down I knew that wasn't the case. Hell it wasnt until 2016 I even realised I liked girls. I was 17 years old then. I'm 21 now.
Thank you for making this video because it helped me realize I was 100% lesbian 🏳️🌈 and not bisexual as I thought I was. I was really questioning whether I was bi or lesbian for months and you helped me realize I'm lesbian. Please don't stop making these videos
I honestly know that you probably won't read this or respond to it, but thank you so very much. thank you for sharing your story and your journey thus far. I see some parallels in our lives, and it makes your story stick with me more. watching your videos has helped me so much and I hope you never stop. these videos give me hope and confidence to b3 who I am, thank you.
Alexa Bray I'm so glad that I was able to help you in some way. That's the whole reason I started doing this. Thank you so much for letting me know and thank you for watching. 😊
OMG OMG I can relate damm, I can see a guy and be like he cute but I would never do anything else with him. But I appreciate your face😂. When I came out to my friends they were like um we knew u were pretty gay. 😂😂 plus I am Mexican and family raised me Catholic which is pretty challenging😩. I've only came out to my mom but I'm scared to like tell anyone else. Ah why is this so hard!?!?😩😩
Hey! As a member of the LGBTQ+ community and a fellow UA-camr, I thought you did a wonderful job with this video! I love that you have the same outlook on labels as me, keep up the great content😊
I'm super confused. I've been questioning since I was about 13 and I'm 19 now. I've gone from identifying as straight, to bi to asexual but now I'm thinking that I might be a lesbian. I've only ever had two crushes in my life (one major one) and they've both been on girls. Should I wait to see if I crush on a guy since I seem to be a late developer?? Help??
this is a very late reply so idk what u feel now but if ur still waiting to see if u have a crush on a guy you might be gay, i thought that i should wait to see if i do but then i realised that that just isnt going to happen
This first bit is off topic but you've been questioning 6 years? I'm 12 and I've questioned about a year. I'm scared it'll last that long as it's so bad it's changed me pls give advice.
I'm 10 ten and I did like a girl but I kinda am starting to like boys so ya I'm kinda young and kinda old in days not years but this is a hard question.
for me it like changes everyday one day i feel rlly sad i dont seem to like guys and hate myself other days im like hm i think im definitely bi theres nothing to worry about
I just changed my label from "bi" to "lesbian" ... And I'm kinda scared about people not accepting it because I've been with guys before (but it doesn't feel as deep or as real as girls) and also know one guy that I'm actually sexually attracted to (oppossed to around every third girl I meet). I defently feel more lesbian than bi, especially because I can't imagine an actual partnership with men anymore at all. But you share some of my observations and opinions. That's really beautiful and helpful right now. Thanks.
Hmm. I'm not sure honestly. You could be straight or Bi-curious/Bisexual maybe? Sexuality is on a spectrum, so it all depends on where you think you fit the best, and who knows it might change over time. You're the only one that can know for sure though. =)
I'm a masculine gay man who doesn't fit into the gay stereotype, so I seem invisible to the world. Some women are attracted to me, but I turn down and the women who came to me are really pretty women, but I just can't fool myself into liking women- they get really upset when i turn them down; they start to ask me if im gay, as if every man supposed to be attracted to them. I hate when men talk to me about women because I can't relate to what is like to be with a woman- I do have lesbian friends though and we have the best of fun
awesome insight! thanks for sharing. i find it easiest to identify as gay/lesbian but i believe that sexuality can be fluid. so i'm using the label that best describes me at the moment, but i'm not closing off the idea of future relationships with men.
Heyyyyy so I like my best friend who is very close with me and she is bi. I never thought I would ever be gay or bi and looked at it from the outside like something that could be changed. I never realized how it felt until I started liking my best friend. At first I thought that maybe it wasn't a crush and I was overthinking it and it was nothing, but I am pretty sure not everyone who is straight wants to kiss their best friend for no reason. I don't know if I am no or gay, but I think I am bi, because I have liked guys in the past even though I don't really like guys right now. I feel like I might have liked guys just because it was what I was supposed to do and it was the only option. So yeah, I really want to kiss her and I told her that I'm not straight and wanted to kiss her and she said that it's not that she doesn't like me, it's just that she thought I was VERY straight, so thought she shouldn't even think about it. I really hope she actually likes me, but I don't know anymore. Again, I REALLY REALLY want to kiss her! Uggghhhhhhhh
I've always thought I was bi or just never ruled out not liking guys because I guess i wanted something to hold on to that won't disappoint people or make them feel uncomfortable if that makes any sense I don't really like guys in that way tho I've tried to force myself into them if I'm friends with a guy but I guess I just can't really picture it.. so yeah. Also I really like your videos 😊
thank you so much for making this video. This has made it a lot more clear for me to see. I can see now that I find guys cute but I'm not attracted to them. Im attracted to girls. I have been questioning my sexuality for years now. But this year I came to the conclusion that I was Bi but now I don't know if I'm Bi or just Gay
Thank you so much for giving us advice and also I'm bi people like u can understand and help people whoever is reading this comment be you don't look at what anybody else say because it's ur option
I have been questioning myself about this since I was 14. I am now 31, lol. And I’m still not entirely sure, and have made some peace with that. What made me "land", is that I’m not questioning if I’m into women. I’m questioning whether I’m into men. And either way, I know that I imagine my future with a woman and only dating women, so I figure it doesn’t matter much what I am. I may meet a guy that I fall for, but if so, we’ll figure that out together when that day comes.
Haha same I’m only 15 and I’m not sure if I like only women or men and women I just want to know lmao but I’m just confused I’m sure I’ll know what I am eventually also my mother always calls me gay because I dress in mostly boy clothes 😂😂I don’t take it to offence but I just find it odd. Like I’m only 15 I always thought I was straight but I mean on the other hand maybe I’m not 😂
I get you so much girl. I really believe I had it in me all my life.. I might get personal but I'm okay with telling others this.. I remember in kindergarten I actually had a little crush on my teacher. I didn't think much on it. I tried to forget about it because of my family's beliefs, and I believed it too then because that's just what happens when you're around people you just kinda be like them. So yeah, at a very young age, I do believe I'm not alone.. There's other times too.. All throughout my years I've had little secret feels for girls even. There was a time I fell in love with my best friend.. We use to be friends, we don't talk anymore now. It's just kinda like all this heat between some of my family and their family. I don't really have a problem with this person, it's just all that drama got to me, it eventually become too much on me so I completely shut them out. I still love them, it's just you know, when something isn't meant to be it won't be. This just proves it.. Anyways, yeah I fell in love with this person... You know when people say you just know when you love someone.. And some will be all like "no I don't know, how will I know that". Well one of the signs I believe you're in love with someone is feeling comfortable with them.. Everytime I'd look this person in the eyes, I felt safe. Not only did I feel protected but I felt protective of them and I've never felt this way with anyone else in my life so far besides them. I'd do anything for them, really if I could that is. I really do believe I loved this person. I still do, you know. Feelings can't always go away. And I'm not going to blame them for being themselves, I don't blame them for me feeling this way. My feeling's and who I am is on me, I live with that and I love that. That's just how you grow as a person. You just got to realize that you really can't blame someone without blaming yourself.., feeling wise.. Would I have dated this person if things worked out?.. Probably, that is if they really felt the same way. It could have worked but I'm not going to stay stuck on this person. My heart belongs to someone who I let have it. I am not letting this person have my heart. Like I said, I have no problem with them, it's nothing personal besides family. It's just not going to work, I know how it would most likely go if I tried to work it out. I'm not going to force anything. This is only best for the both of us. I wish them the best. I still do love them but it's kinda different now.. Yeah, these feelings remain but I'm already gone now. It's just not meant so I won't let it be.. So yeah, here's my little talk about that.. Like I said, I basically knew all my life. I'm still just trying to find myself. I like to take some time to myself often and write in my notes as well. I actually write songs, soon to put my music up. But writing really helps me. My mother tells me that anytime I have something on my mind that's bothering me to write. Best believe I'm always writing. My parents are my inspiration. Though God's always number one. Taking time to find myself also brought me closer with God and I'm blessed to be where I am mindset wise. I believe I'm the happiest I could ever be. But yeah, I get you and I support you 100% love. I'm praying for you and all. God bless loves🙏🌹 P.s. Sorry for spamming your videos in the comments. I'm in a binge watching mood lol. All the love from my heart to yours 🌹😘
I found myself when a scene from a movie or any other thing comes along I am the female in it. I can imagine the guy and all doing what he is doing in the scenes to me. I have been like this since I was 10. I am bi.
I'm sexually attracted to a lot of women and literally one man. It's that one guy that confuses me. There's no way I can be so attracted to a dude (and my body responds to the idea of him) but still be gay. But if I was into dudes, wouldn't I have been attracted to more of them? Ahh it's so weird and confusing. I guess my sexuality is ~fluid~ if I have to pick a label.
Thanks a lot! I was waiting for such video and it's so true in my case too. I am still so confused that if am gay or bi. But, yes sometimes I find man really attractive and good looking but I won't want to get physically close to him. And i too discovered about the movie thing I really fit more in the guy's place. I am a Baptist too and am too scared to come out. I don't know what to do. Homosexuality is still considered illegal in my country. I am really confused. But, your video made me realise that am more to the gay side.
I'm 16 so I don't really have any experience with anyone but I know for sure that I like girls and can imagine dating a girl and being with a girl but not really a guy but I thought I'm probably bi because I get uncomfortable talking to dudes but now I think that's only because I'm used to being around girls so I'm more comfortable talking to them but I'm scared of how official it would be if I knew I was just gay nothing else and I'm just really confused and frustrated
Honestly I dunno ^^’ Sometimes I like the idea of an intimate relationship with a male. However, I can’t see myself with one. When I was dating males, I actually felt uncomfortable with contact and kissing and all that. But at the same time, I catch myself thinking about things like intercourse with a male. But most of the time I lean towards females. I have a girlfriend now and I’ve never felt this way towards any of my exes. We live long distance so I can’t vouch for contact, but I absolutely love who she is. And like you said, I sometimes take the mindset of a male in scenes like kissing in movies. I’ve kissed girls before, but I was a little kid with no concept of anything and I don’t remember how it really felt. But when I think about it, I get giddy and start blushing/smiling. I always considered myself bi, having been in Hetero relationships before and the thoughts I have or had. But lately I’ve been questioning that as I get more and more into my current relationship
I'm so gay and confused that I watched so many "lesbian or bi" videos that I was watching this vid for the second time now and I didn't realize it until I saw it was already liked 👁️👄👁️
The thing that really confirmed that I was bi to me was that it makes so much more sense that people can be attracted to any gender that I can't personally fathom only liking one. (Also I do know that technically makes me pansexual but I'm just more comfortable labelling as bisexual because it's more understood imo)
so I came out Bi back in November and now that I'm watching this video maybe I'm gay. I've dated three girls and I never really felt totally comfortable with them like dating. I do say that hey yeah that girl is pretty or something but when it comes to guys I'm like yeah I would totally date him so maybe I am not Bi maybe I'm just gay. I have barely any guy friends and I have alot of female friends. I just don't feel comfortable enough dating girls anymore but I like guys ain't more.
I was really stuck In the middle of the too and like you said about the movie thing I was really thinking about it and I always thought of the place of the male and I was stuck but thank you so much I think I have come to the conclusion that I am lesbein thank you sis I was stuck for so long this really helped me and I always imagine my self with a women instead of a man I was with a boy a year ago and I just felt love because I found I was bi but then I started thinking about and i just did have a connection to him or attraction thanks again x
You said that pretty well! I realized that not long ago as well. This difference and that I can appreciate the looks of both genders but talking about guys when I think that one looks good it is just his surface and there is so much more needed than that in real life, what is not there. Especially guys on the Internet or in movies I can say they look good but in reality it is not as much like that and it is just not that. And about girls that is just different, on the Internet and in real life, it isjust another layer of attraction. I dont explain that well. - 14.10.17
Can someone help me , I have liked boys for my entire life (15 years) but now my mind is telling me I’m bisexual which I find odd because I have never ever liked a girl in my life and I don’t want to be with a girl
Ik this is a rly old vid but I luv ur vids so so so much as a 12yr old my life absolutely sucks and I hate it I don't let it show but I've been thru some shit!!!
Shay needs to earn my subscription to her channel, good looks and saying she reads my name is not enough but I have to admit her being lesbian is a plus. Look the competition is frerce there are a lot of attractive UA-camr girls out there so shay is just one more attractive girl amongst the many I'm sure shay knows it if she did her homework, So I ask how is shay going to set herself apart from the rest of the pack.....lol damn I am funny
This might be off topic but if somebody doesn't want you talking about liking the same gender and saying its weird are they a homophobe.Im in fourth grade so im not sure
Tiera Washington I honestly can't say for sure. It kind of goes on a case by case basis. Typically in that situation the person is probably carrying some internalized homophobia, but I can't say for sure.
I'm curious , from an insider do most people you know that have "come out" have the desire to stay pure and keep themselves for that "one" until they are married or is it more common that they just want to get engage in intimacy and not wait for some day till they get married. Asking for an honest answer.
I know this vid is from three years ago but i’m having such a hard time figuring out if i’m gay or bi. I feel like in the future i can’t see myself being with a man i just don’t have that desire. However, i’m really confused because sometimes i’ll see guys and point out that they are attractive or i’ll feel awkward and i’ll wonder if that means i like them, but i don’t really have a desire to be with them. I feel like in a way i’m trying to be straight bc i’m scared of what people will think. I’m just not sure. when i was younger i had little crushes on boys but i think it was more of “oh everyone has a crush so i need one”. now that i’m thinking about it, i had some girl crushes that i kept to myself. I know some people come out as bi first and figure it out as they go along and then maybe come out as gay but i don’t want to come out as gay and then realize i still have a little bit of an attraction to men. if that means i am bi, the attraction to girls would be about 90-95%.
I feel confused about what you said about attraction. Because I feel aroused when I see an attractive person. Is it just admiration or attraction if I feel sexually attracted to them. Yet I don't see myself dating someone of the same sex.
Growing up I had a few relationships with girls but they only lasted from a day to a week, I feel that I am gay, nowadays I look at men I like and I bite my lip, just can't really see myself with a women, when I was younger I might have acted liked I was into girls so people don't act weird around me, I hope to meet a good guy one day😇🏳️🌈
I have no idea what i am. I keep changing my label everyday. But for now I'm gonna go with bisexual and 95% into girls and 5% into boys because I've been really really into boys before. But still sexuality is so confusing
- watching a movie of a hot girl - "Hmm not sure if I want to BE her or be ON her ..."
Cat Jay lol 😂
Cat Jay same
Me
Kathy lt
Aren't you bisexual? Or lesbian?
THAT IS ME 😂
"Dudes arnt my thing but it's cool,you guys are still fun humans
Meg Crybaby
Where did she said that?
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’Kay, thx… *(^^)* I totally forgot about my comment on this video.
I'm stuck on the borderline bi or lesbian. I don't know! Heeeelp.
Edit: I'm bisexual. It's about half and half for my attraction to males and females. Maybe like 55-60% male attraction and 45-40% female attraction.
Edit, Nov. 2020: Still bi, still like males and females at about equal lengths. Still single and not ready to mingle.
Elizabeth Esposito
Borderline bisexuality?
Maybe you are homoromantic bisexual or either predominantly homosexual.
Have you considered taking the Kinsey Scale test online to discover your sexuality?
Rosé Hibiscus I haven't. But I will look it up and take it, now.
Elizabeth Esposito
*No prob‼*
How did it go? :-D
Rosé Hibiscus That my sexuality is more fluid than most the first time, then strictly homosexual the second...
Elizabeth Esposito
Cool‼ ^^ 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👌🏻
Looking at your first post and recent comment from now - I am guessing you're a cross between being bisexual and lesbian, you mean?
Maybe you're at least a Kinsey 5 which that is _predominantly_ homosexual _but only incidentally heterosexual_ (90% gay) just not quite a Kinsey 6 which is _exclusively_ homosexual with no heterosexual (100% gay).
Thank you for making this video! I have come to the point in my life where I am not sure whether I am Bi or Gay. Now after watching this video, I have come to the conclusion that I am only into females. I do not have anything against males, I have great male friends, but I just can't see myself with any man.
I understand that completely! :) I am so glad I could be a part of your journey. Thanks for watching. =)
same here ^^
i am often so confused about my past, i identify as a lesbian but growing up i always thought lots of males were attractive looking and therefor i had to be straight... but the total realisation that you can think that a man is attractive looking and not want to be romantically involved with them wooaaahhhh its so simple yet this has so helped my confusion and realise why it took me so long to figure out who i am!! thank you!!!
vicc I am so glad I could help. It's funny how the little things can bring all the pieces together. 😊 thanks for sharing and thanks for watching! 😊
same here^^ like I remember when I was younger around 7 or 8 I had thought that I liked this boy, turns out I didn’t actually like him in that way. also in 6th grade one of my female friend was trying to get me together with boys most of the time because I couldn’t “keep” one so to say, I’ve tried it but boys aren’t really my thing at all. so that’s when I found out that I was only into girls and I am now proud to identify as a lesbian and I am proud of who I am.
I've been asking myself the "am I gay or bi " question at least once (lets say 5) times a day these few months. When I discovered I was attracted to girls, I automatically assume I was bi. I was overwhelmed with this attention to female and didn't give a damn about boys and I was like "ehh it'll come later I guess" ... and since a guy never made me feel something strong like girls did countless times , Im starting to asking myself if I could be a lesbian instead ... but NOW, Im starting to notice boys more , being like :"oh you find him cute , oh so you're attracted to him, so youre not gay bitch" when I don't have any desire to kiss him/sleep with him really? Basically idk. But hey cool videz
SAMEEE
Me to a tee 😅
you can absolutely recognize someone as attractive without wanting to do anything with them!
Same but I’m a gay(bi???) guy.
@@Ava-hu4gc I don't know about you but for me, is like as time passes, I just find men less and less attractive. Although I have had crushes on them. But I never really felt happy with them. In that fantasy. Just like that was what was expected of me. But I did felt really into them... I guess? Like I have ALLWAYS liked girls. Like a lot. No doubt. But now, with men... Is like I don't really see myself with a man now. Just girls. And just girls turn me on. Like when I think secually about a man, I have realized that I see myself like if I were the man. Idk. I'm so confused. Because I have had crushes on guys. But now I just don't feel like it. And it feels wrong for me the "bisexual" label. "lesbian" just feels good. More in consonance with my gender and my identity? Idk tbh. If you read this, help hahah
OMG! When you said about the scenes about the guy and the girl it all made sense to me. I do the same thing!!!!!!! I never realized it.
Fearless Fighter I know right! It's crazy once you realize what's really been going on! 😄 thank you for watching! 😊
I am a Christian, and it took me months of constant questioning and confusion before I was able to accept that I am bisexual. One of the things I kept coming back to every time I doubted my attraction to girls was asking myself, would I date a girl (especially a girl that I knew I was crushing on)? And the answer was always, yes.
Kaya Lattimore I'm so glad to hear that you've figured yourself out. Unfortunately a lot of people in our (the Christian) community are afraid of asking themselves the hard questions. Thanks for sharing. 😊
I'm in the process where I'm sjaksjdj and like have no clue but just go with the flow 😂
That's the best way to do it. =)
Ahh, tysm for making this, I needed this since I thought I was bi, but have since been second-guessing myself 💕💕💕
Just to clarify, I can find boys physically appealing but not want to be involved romantically or sexually with them? Finally, I've been so confused. I thought that because I used to like boys and that they were physically appealing, that I _must_ be bi. But no, I'm only really attracted to girls these days
Tysm for this, again, I needed this 💕
Undertaled my pleasure. Thank you for sharing and thank you for watching. 😊
I feel the same! I’m just not going to ficus on labels (even though it’s so hard😂) and just be open. Great video btw✨
WhySoShayD I'm bisexual
Undertaled same here
Oh my gosh you sound just like me
Omg this explains why everytime I met a dude and we were close I "liked him". And after a couple days I would get uncomfortable with their affection and break up and I just told myself I just don't like commitment. This makes so much sense oh my gosh.
Your comment just help me a lot. Tysm
@@sddg1696 Aw np lol
Your videos have such a positive vibe to them, and I am in the processes of figuring myself out. I am a Christian (female) and I am yet to determine my place in society. One thing I loved that you mentioned, was that the little things aren't really little when you step back and look at the big picture.
Oml so true. Being a christian and struggling with your sexuality is really hard
Thank you so much for the encouragement. =) I wish you the best of luck, and I'd love to stay updated on your Journey. =)
I totally get where you're coming from! I'm Christian as well and I'm trying to figure things out, too.
I love these comments ✨ and love if this helps someone, you don't have to know your place with society. It's important to know your place with yourself, the you that you know best. God bless🌹
in all tv shows I totally did not pay attention to boys what so ever, like is there a boy in any of the Disney movies? I wouldn't knkw tbh
Vilde VE hahaha. Same. Haha. 😂😂
daughter: mom i'm pan
( pan is bread in spanish )
mom: you are bread ?
daughter: no i like everyone
mom : me too
daughter : no i mean i could like a girl
mom : and ? so could i
daughter : ok ... good talk
I always see sexual orientation as the basis of what a person is looking for if life didn't happen and randomly change the feelings you have. I am solely attracted to women, but I'm not discrediting the possibility of me ending up with a guy. Ideally I wouldn't, but you never know.
Angelique Jennings I'm in that same boat! Thank you for sharing. 😊
I’m two years late. But I’m glad I found this now. I really needed this , thanks
I’ve been thinking about this for so long but you’re the first I’ve heard talk about it.
This was actually really helpful to hear someone else say it. It’s not just me, it makes sense and it’s a real thing. Dude are cool and can see a guy and be like he’s hot. Doesn’t mean I want to do anything with him
there are a lot of lgbt youtubers but you are the best I know, you say things that are so important and that no one says! This video is amazing , your channel is amazing!
and also, I'm so so so so grateful I finally found a black lesbian woman in the media because, you know, that for us is so! hard! to! feel! represented!
Helena Leite thank you so much. You don't know how much it means to me. ❤️ I absolutely agree about the representation thing. There are soo many of us in the world. I think it's about time we started speaking up. 😊 thank you for watching. =]
this video made me cry because I’ve been struggling with so many realizations of how I am and feel as a person. full disclosure I’m 13. tysm I’ve been having so many feelings I can’t explain so thank you
awh when u said "😐do?i?like?boys?and?girls?😐?"
😂
i always thought I was straight until I had a girlfriend. I never told my parents because we are a Christian family but with some issues. We broke up because it was "for the best". but honestly the only thing holding me back to go after her is my relationship with God. like if I chose her then I chose the world over God. and of course my parents would never support me with my decision. they would won't even hear me out because they are firm in believing that I am doing wrong. And I know I am, but I still want her. I just need help with what to do, because honestly I don't know anymore..
Olga Segura I was honestly in a similar situation with my first girlfriend. At the end of the day I found that there are God honoring ways to pursue a romantic relationship with another female. If you're interested in hearing about that, let me know. I'm sorry this has been a difficult time for you.
WhySoShayD yes I would like to hear about that. thank you.
Olga Segura my encouragement would be to look closely at the passages that speak about this issue. Even if you do believe In the traditional interpretation, those verses only talk about sexual conduct. Since this is true, you could still have a romantic relationship and a companion for life without violating the scriptures, if you decide to remain celibate in that relationship. I know this may be awkward coming from a stranger, but I do believe having a non sexual companionship relationship can be God honoring and its still better than going through life alone if that's not your calling. Let me know what you think about that?
I'm a Christian girl, and I've asked my priest about if being gay is a sin, he told me God loves you as the beautiful person he made you to be, and God would want you to choose to be true to yourself. He said God loves everyone regardless of their identity.
Olga Segura be true to yourself. You can’t and shouldn’t change yourself for anyone.
I relate to this so much, I'm female and have identified as bi since I was 12/13 (now I'm 18) and have dated and been with mostly guys and only 1 girl but I'm wondering if I'm more into girls and not into guys at all anymore and it's so confusing, thank you for making this video.
Exact same situation here, like my relationships with guys were unhealthy and I always dreaded sex. My girlfriend I have now is wonderful and I can't imagine ever dating a guy in the future. I'm not sure where that leaves me
Saaame
It's kind of like... As time passes, I just feel more into girls and I don't really see myself with a man now. I'm gradually loosing interest in pretty much everything about them. And I've realized that sexually, I was allways imagining myself in the guys place when hooking up with a girl. Like I don't see myself in the girls position hooking up or having sex with a guy. Just not my thing. But I have had crushes on guys when I was younger. So idk tbh
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much. I had been questioning myself because I used to see celebrities and things and because I thought they were good looking, I automatically assumed I was bi because I already know I like girls.
Well said, girl. I was actually thinking the same things you said. I like how positive you are :)
redismylife thank you. 😊
watching LGBTQ+ youtube videos helped me so much when i was coming to terms with my sexuality but i really wish i had people to talk to back then about it. If anyone who reads this is struggling with their identity and needs someone to listen or relate to, please feel free to DM me!! and thank you to all those who make these videos because representation is soo important for feeling like you're not alone!
Ok so... I know I am sort of late, but you did say to comment. Thanks for writing this comment too. It is helpful to be able to talk to someone about this. Uh this is basically going to be an extremely long comment, so I'm going to warn you now. Here it is:
I really need advice. I hate wearing dresses and heels. I only wear dresses if I absolutely have to. It's probably been at least two years or so since i've been in a dress. Plus, I've never worn heels in my life and never worn makeup or have any clue how to put it on either. I also always wanted to play outside and run around instead of playing with dolls and dress up games when I was younger. I also still wear baggy clothing, or unisex clothing (camp t-shirts and then shorts but not short-shorts) and I also don't wear pink either. And now my favorite shows are Supergirl (the second season is amazing) and Person of Interest (the second or third season is also amazing.)Those shows have/had a really strong gay couple. Also, I know these are the "stereotypical signs that is not true for everyone" but there are a lot more factors that I'm going to explain.
Ok, so here it goes. It's probably going to be extremely long (sort of like an essay) so if you read far, thank you. PLEASE COMMENT BELOW if you have any advice. I really need it. I'm very confused, I'm 17 and I've always thought I was straight... until I became obsessed with Fifth Harmony. I guess the person that made me question my sexuality was Lauren Jauregui. She's really an amazing person overall, but also beautiful /hot?, and I never really thought about more about it until recently. I can tell how a guy might look attractive, but I never really actually had guy celebrity crushes, also in school too. On the other hand, I look at women who are celebrities and usually... i don't know how to describe it... but i just feel different and like them more and can easily tell right away that they are pretty? A really big example is comparing One Direction to Fifth Harmony. I can tell how and why girls have crushes and become obsessed with One Direction, but for me, nothing ever really clicked. But with Fifth Harmony, I feel different. I actually see that they are beautiful and amazing, and the actual thoughts running through my brain are, "wow, Lauren is hot." You can show me a picture of One Direction ask if they are attractive, and my response would be, "yeah, i guess..." but if you show me a picture of Fifth Harmony, and ask the same question, I would definitely say yes right away and actually mean it a lot. At times, I can't even tell if a guy is attractive unless someone actually mentions it. And even then i'm sometimes confused. And now I can't really get the thought out of my mind. Then, I started to look back at all the people I follow/support on youtube and how much I think they are really pretty. Like, Lilly Singh and also Gabbie Hanna are really pretty and amazing people in general. I watch their videos and I smile like an idiot. The kind of smile that hurts because its so big. I've never thought more of it until now. Back in middle school and now high school, I used to be obsessed with basically a bunch of different girl bands and still am. I also looked back at in school, and realized that I might have had crushes on girls there, but never really realized it. I thought they were really cool and funny and pretty, but never actually hung out with them. I was always nervous around them, but didn't really think much about it then. I thought I liked a guy in 7-8th grade, but now i'm not so sure. I might have like the idea of having a crush and convinced myself that I did like him. Also, keep in mind, I've never dated anyone at all. Never. So I don't know if I just haven't found a guy I've liked YET, or just that I don't feel attraction to them. I can't really imagine myself kissing anyone right now, but if i did choose, i might feel more comfortable with a girl, than with a guy? As you can probably tell, I'm extremely confused and I really need advice. I've searched up these kinds of videos and I'm leaning towards not straight, but I don't know if i want to accept that because it's really complicated. If you've read this far, thank you. Hopefully, you semi understand this ramble. Also, this is my first time putting these thoughts into actual words so it's probably going to be really confusing.
sorry this is so long. hopefully you read this.
Sarah Walker Hi Sarah! First of all your feelings are valid and normal, so many people experience being confused and don’t know. Your experience ironically sounds extremely similar to mine! I went through pretty much the same things, although I did date guys in high school. I never really felt those “sparks” or anything that other girls talked about though. I didn’t “figure out” my sexuality until I was 21/22 and a senior in college. But what helped me A LOT was watching coming out videos on youtube and other lgbt tv shows (skins UK series 3 and 4, faking it, orange is the new black, orphan black are some I watched). I highly recommend watching lgbt content and just seeing if any stories resonate with you. I️ had seen pretty much every coming out video ever but the one that made it click for me was Ingrid Nielsen’s coming out video. I felt like I related so much. You are still young and there’s no right time to figure things out so just take your time! Watch lgbt content, if you have any gay friends or know any gay people that you would feel comfortable confiding in, talk to them! they would be happy to talk to you im sure. Also I can send you some good videos/articles about being confused i just have to find them first lol. But seriously take your time, there is no timeline and you will figure it out eventually. Experiment (when you are ready/make sure it is legal and consensual) with guys and girls if you have to, there is nothing wrong with kissing someone and then realizing you don’t like kissing someone of that gender. and DONT feel the need to label yourself right now! i️ know that piece of advice can be hard, because sometimes u just want an answer and labels can be comforting for some people (it was for me), but with more time you will definitely start to figure out who you are and what your are comfortable with, and maybe you won’t even want to label yourself ever! So again my advice: take your time, watch lgbt youtubers (rose and rosie, shannon beveridge, cammie scott-look up their videos together they used to be a couple; amy ordman, ingrid nilsen. those are just some but they helped me), take your time, experiment, and don’t feel pressure to label yourself! please comment back with anything else or if you want to talk more in depth/privately, I can give u my instagram name and we can message there (idk how to dm on youtube lol). I hope this was at least a little helpful!
Thanks so much for replying and reading everything I wrote. I really appreciate it. I'm glad I'm not the only one who realized or had questions "later" in life. I've found some lgbt youtubers and couples like Anna Campbell and ElloSteph, BriaandChrissy, and then also Ally Hills. I'll definitely watch more. Thanks for suggesting other people to me. What videos/articles do you recommend I watch/read? Thanks again for responding. This has helped a lot. :)
Sarah Walker glad to help!
these are two that someone recommended to me when I had questions and I thought they were great. Also Autostraddle is a great resource in general :) www.autostraddle.com/for-all-the-girls-i-loved-before-i-knew-i-could-232267/
ua-cam.com/video/bGCXJqn6DRg/v-deo.html
Thanks for finding them. I'll totally check these out. :)
I love your hair!!! Also, your video was very helpful.
Omg I have a lot of trouble with figuring myself out because I have been thinking that just because I think a guy is cute, it must mean I’m bi lol. But as the months passed, the thought of me just being with a guy or kissing on or being romantic with one just grossed me out. Guys are cool and all, but I realized I’m just not attracted to them. I also realized I saw myself as the guy whenever I watch a romantic movie or show 😂
When I think of being with a girl, it feels so much different and I’m not grossed out by it at all. The feeling is very warm and I feel happy when I think about it :) I just have a different connection with girls.
You deserve way more subs =) keep up the good work and effort
Thank you so much! =) I'll do my best! :)
@@WhySoShayD I'm watching this when you're at 15.k 🧚♀️💕
Thank you so much for this video. I would always look at a girl and be like "yea she's pretty. Her face is beautiful and the thought kissing her I guess would be kinda appealing" and that's it. And with a guy I would just take it beyond that and be more attracted to them on an emotional and physical level. So I put myself down as Bi but I lean more to guys. And so now thanks to your video I have a much better realisation of who I am. When all my friends where chatting up girls I wasn't interested. I thought that I was just waiting for "the one" and wasn't going to mess around with other girls. I never found myself checking girls out. I never really got "turned on" by girls except when I started puberty. And even then I got turned on by guys too and I put it down as "I've just started puberty so anything "sexy" turns me on". I've came out to my friend and he's been really supportive since and helped me out a lot. And I recently told my geography teacher who has helped me on so many issues throughout my years at school and was really supportive too. I'm 15 and I'm ok with being gay but I just hope I get to experience relationships to the enjoyment of a straight guy.
Again thanks so much for the video.
Foxy's Sketches I am so glad I could help in some way. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️
WhySoShayD
And thank *you* for sharing yours ❤️
Watching this video and reading these comments were so helpful and important to me. I’ve been out as bi for a few years but am feeling more and more like I’m a lesbian. It just means a lot to see that there are a lot of other people in the same position and to see someone who has gone through some of the same emotions talk about their process. Thank you!
Fairly new subscriber! I love your videos and this one has actually helped reassure me of who I am. I've tried to force myself to believe one thing because thats what I was "supposed " to be. It's much easier just being yourself and I'm glad I know that now.
Thank you so much for subscribing! =) I am so glad that I get the privilege of being a part of your journey. :)
After being sexually abused by an elder brother and after mom and sister accusing me of being gay (1973) because they knew that elder brother was gay. They were afraid of that because I did not have a girlfriend and was a sophomore in college. I was indeed confused. I wore out about 2 college counselors and three priests until one gay priest ...
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loaned me his copy of Herman Hesse's __Narcisus and Goldmund__. I could thereafter appreciate that some men were more handsome than others without feeling guilty or gay and I could much more fully appreciate the beauty of women. The damage done to me by my mother and sister was pretty deep but thankfully some of the women I dated helped me find my dignity and self worth. I'm not perfect or a saint but neither am I a puppet of superficial unexamined materialistic values.
Thank you for sharing your story. =)
You are most welcome.
you just gained a new subscriber! i thought i was straight then i thought i was bi and now i’m starting to feel like i’m lesbian and ahhhhhhhhh
I feel the same when it comes to kissing scenes and such (I am a girl FYI) and sometimes I look at a guy and I’m like “that guy looks attractive” but I don’t want to date him and I didn’t know what that meant and I was so confused. Thank you so much, for the video, but also for making me feel like I was not alone because I look around me and everyone is all “oh I know I’m straight!” Or “ I’m totally gay!” And I never know what to say and I felt like it was my fault and that I was doing something wrong. Thank you. So so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
All I know is that I'm not straight... but that's about it...
I've been questioning if I'm bi or lesbian for a long time and this has actually really helped me see things in a different perspective. I can now take a step back and actually think, thank you so much for making a video like this its really helped😊
I think one thing that helped me figure out that I’m a lesbian was when I was with my first real boyfriend, he tried to kiss me, but I kept refusing. I said I was shy and nervous so I didn’t want to. Truth be told, I just really didn’t wanna kiss him. I think of him as like my best friend and I took that as attraction. I just wanted to hang out with him, without being all romantic.
I remembered it a few nights ago and I started crying cause I’m terrified of telling my nan (a homophobic Mormon) and I’m going to live with her when I turn 18 (in less than a month). At least if I were bi it would give her hope that I might marry a man.
My first crush was on a girl, in grade 1. I would follow her around like a lost puppy. She was absolutely gorgeous. Then I started dating a guy a few weeks later cause I thought “that’s what normal people do. Girls date boys and that’s it. Girls aren’t supposed to like girls”.
And if I think about anytime I got intimate with a guy, I’d only wanna be touched. I was repulsed by the idea of touching them. But when I kissed a girl for the first time, a few days ago, there was no hesitation, no doubts, it felt so natural and so right. Then it made me question my sexuality. But now I’m like 95% sure:
I’m a lesbian.
When I was a kid I found many girls pretty, and I thought I was attracted to them. I was a lot more interested in Romance than other guys at that age and was considered a Ladies Man, but later on as I was 11-12 I started realizing I was attracted to guys. I first thought it was just purely sexual and I couldn’t imagine a romantic relationship with a dude, but after a while I just had to accept it around when I turned 13.
you're so positive. just watching your videos makes me feel happy because you just have such a lovely vibe haha :))
Rhiannon McGovern aww, thank you so much, and Thanks for watching! 😊
This is a bit of a old video, but was exactly what I’ve been thinking lately. I find out I liked girls when I was 15 and I’m almost 22 and still don’t know how how to label myself. But now I see that I don’t really have to and that’s fine. It is complicated to explain to other people but at the end of the day it only matters to me and the person that I’m kissing so...
thanks for this video, really helped me a lot
Ps: you’re super cute :3 hugs from Brazil 💕
I’m both physically and sexually attracted to girls but only sometimes I’m kinda attracted to boys physically but I never feel like I want to be sexually involved with them. As time goes by I find myself mostly attracted to girls.
You are literally so cute 😍 looking forward to another video
Cee TV thank you so much! 😊hopefully I'll get another one up really soon. I'm in the middle of my finals week, so things are kind of crazy. 😅
WhySoShayD I'm low key fangirling 🤗🤗
Thank you so much for this video. I was literally confused till now. And now I know for sure I'm a lesbian. I honestly didn't really know till just now. Because I could see a guy and say hes cute but I really don't want to do anything with him. And for the longest time I've just been forcing myself to say yes I like guys and girls when deep down I knew that wasn't the case. Hell it wasnt until 2016 I even realised I liked girls. I was 17 years old then. I'm 21 now.
Thank you for making this video because it helped me realize I was 100% lesbian 🏳️🌈 and not bisexual as I thought I was. I was really questioning whether I was bi or lesbian for months and you helped me realize I'm lesbian. Please don't stop making these videos
I honestly know that you probably won't read this or respond to it, but thank you so very much. thank you for sharing your story and your journey thus far. I see some parallels in our lives, and it makes your story stick with me more. watching your videos has helped me so much and I hope you never stop. these videos give me hope and confidence to b3 who I am, thank you.
Alexa Bray I'm so glad that I was able to help you in some way. That's the whole reason I started doing this. Thank you so much for letting me know and thank you for watching. 😊
Omg! So helpful yeah religion and societal expectations can confuse things so much! Honestly it’s still confusing me off and on...
OMG OMG I can relate damm, I can see a guy and be like he cute but I would never do anything else with him. But I appreciate your face😂. When I came out to my friends they were like um we knew u were pretty gay. 😂😂 plus I am Mexican and family raised me Catholic which is pretty challenging😩. I've only came out to my mom but I'm scared to like tell anyone else. Ah why is this so hard!?!?😩😩
Hey! As a member of the LGBTQ+ community and a fellow UA-camr, I thought you did a wonderful job with this video! I love that you have the same outlook on labels as me, keep up the great content😊
I'm super confused. I've been questioning since I was about 13 and I'm 19 now. I've gone from identifying as straight, to bi to asexual but now I'm thinking that I might be a lesbian. I've only ever had two crushes in my life (one major one) and they've both been on girls. Should I wait to see if I crush on a guy since I seem to be a late developer?? Help??
this is a very late reply so idk what u feel now but if ur still waiting to see if u have a crush on a guy you might be gay, i thought that i should wait to see if i do but then i realised that that just isnt going to happen
This first bit is off topic but you've been questioning 6 years? I'm 12 and I've questioned about a year. I'm scared it'll last that long as it's so bad it's changed me pls give advice.
I'm 10 ten and I did like a girl but I kinda am starting to like boys so ya I'm kinda young and kinda old in days not years but this is a hard question.
Lol congrats I'm watching at 14.9k subs once again congrats on all these subs
for me it like changes everyday one day i feel rlly sad i dont seem to like guys and hate myself other days im like hm i think im definitely bi theres nothing to worry about
I just changed my label from "bi" to "lesbian" ... And I'm kinda scared about people not accepting it because I've been with guys before (but it doesn't feel as deep or as real as girls) and also know one guy that I'm actually sexually attracted to (oppossed to around every third girl I meet). I defently feel more lesbian than bi, especially because I can't imagine an actual partnership with men anymore at all.
But you share some of my observations and opinions. That's really beautiful and helpful right now. Thanks.
I am straight but I once had a feeling for a girl
what would that make me
Hmm. I'm not sure honestly. You could be straight or Bi-curious/Bisexual maybe? Sexuality is on a spectrum, so it all depends on where you think you fit the best, and who knows it might change over time. You're the only one that can know for sure though. =)
WhySoShayD . thank you for your help
u are helping alot and I think I am bi
Sariah Favors anytime. 😊
I'm a masculine gay man who doesn't fit into the gay stereotype, so I seem invisible to the world. Some women are attracted to me, but I turn down and the women who came to me are really pretty women, but I just can't fool myself into liking women- they get really upset when i turn them down; they start to ask me if im gay, as if every man supposed to be attracted to them. I hate when men talk to me about women because I can't relate to what is like to be with a woman- I do have lesbian friends though and we have the best of fun
awesome insight! thanks for sharing. i find it easiest to identify as gay/lesbian but i believe that sexuality can be fluid. so i'm using the label that best describes me at the moment, but i'm not closing off the idea of future relationships with men.
I am actually in that exact same boat. =) Thank you for sharing your experience. :)
Heyyyyy so I like my best friend who is very close with me and she is bi. I never thought I would ever be gay or bi and looked at it from the outside like something that could be changed. I never realized how it felt until I started liking my best friend. At first I thought that maybe it wasn't a crush and I was overthinking it and it was nothing, but I am pretty sure not everyone who is straight wants to kiss their best friend for no reason. I don't know if I am no or gay, but I think I am bi, because I have liked guys in the past even though I don't really like guys right now. I feel like I might have liked guys just because it was what I was supposed to do and it was the only option. So yeah, I really want to kiss her and I told her that I'm not straight and wanted to kiss her and she said that it's not that she doesn't like me, it's just that she thought I was VERY straight, so thought she shouldn't even think about it. I really hope she actually likes me, but I don't know anymore. Again, I REALLY REALLY want to kiss her! Uggghhhhhhhh
I've always thought I was bi or just never ruled out not liking guys because I guess i wanted something to hold on to that won't disappoint people or make them feel uncomfortable if that makes any sense I don't really like guys in that way tho I've tried to force myself into them if I'm friends with a guy but I guess I just can't really picture it.. so yeah. Also I really like your videos 😊
no but I got cheesewhizzz I totally get that, and thank you for watching. 😊
thank you so much for making this video. This has made it a lot more clear for me to see. I can see now that I find guys cute but I'm not attracted to them. Im attracted to girls. I have been questioning my sexuality for years now. But this year I came to the conclusion that I was Bi but now I don't know if I'm Bi or just Gay
Thank you so much for giving us advice and also I'm bi people like u can understand and help people whoever is reading this comment be you don't look at what anybody else say because it's ur option
I have been questioning myself about this since I was 14. I am now 31, lol. And I’m still not entirely sure, and have made some peace with that. What made me "land", is that I’m not questioning if I’m into women. I’m questioning whether I’m into men. And either way, I know that I imagine my future with a woman and only dating women, so I figure it doesn’t matter much what I am. I may meet a guy that I fall for, but if so, we’ll figure that out together when that day comes.
Haha same I’m only 15 and I’m not sure if I like only women or men and women I just want to know lmao but I’m just confused I’m sure I’ll know what I am eventually also my mother always calls me gay because I dress in mostly boy clothes 😂😂I don’t take it to offence but I just find it odd. Like I’m only 15 I always thought I was straight but I mean on the other hand maybe I’m not 😂
Thank you so very much!! You don't even know how much you've helped me
You’re so right! It’s such a simple thing but so helpful.. thanks for this xxx
I get you so much girl. I really believe I had it in me all my life.. I might get personal but I'm okay with telling others this.. I remember in kindergarten I actually had a little crush on my teacher. I didn't think much on it. I tried to forget about it because of my family's beliefs, and I believed it too then because that's just what happens when you're around people you just kinda be like them. So yeah, at a very young age, I do believe I'm not alone.. There's other times too.. All throughout my years I've had little secret feels for girls even. There was a time I fell in love with my best friend.. We use to be friends, we don't talk anymore now. It's just kinda like all this heat between some of my family and their family. I don't really have a problem with this person, it's just all that drama got to me, it eventually become too much on me so I completely shut them out. I still love them, it's just you know, when something isn't meant to be it won't be. This just proves it.. Anyways, yeah I fell in love with this person... You know when people say you just know when you love someone.. And some will be all like "no I don't know, how will I know that". Well one of the signs I believe you're in love with someone is feeling comfortable with them.. Everytime I'd look this person in the eyes, I felt safe. Not only did I feel protected but I felt protective of them and I've never felt this way with anyone else in my life so far besides them. I'd do anything for them, really if I could that is. I really do believe I loved this person. I still do, you know. Feelings can't always go away. And I'm not going to blame them for being themselves, I don't blame them for me feeling this way. My feeling's and who I am is on me, I live with that and I love that. That's just how you grow as a person. You just got to realize that you really can't blame someone without blaming yourself.., feeling wise.. Would I have dated this person if things worked out?.. Probably, that is if they really felt the same way. It could have worked but I'm not going to stay stuck on this person. My heart belongs to someone who I let have it. I am not letting this person have my heart. Like I said, I have no problem with them, it's nothing personal besides family. It's just not going to work, I know how it would most likely go if I tried to work it out. I'm not going to force anything. This is only best for the both of us. I wish them the best. I still do love them but it's kinda different now.. Yeah, these feelings remain but I'm already gone now. It's just not meant so I won't let it be.. So yeah, here's my little talk about that.. Like I said, I basically knew all my life. I'm still just trying to find myself. I like to take some time to myself often and write in my notes as well. I actually write songs, soon to put my music up. But writing really helps me. My mother tells me that anytime I have something on my mind that's bothering me to write. Best believe I'm always writing. My parents are my inspiration. Though God's always number one. Taking time to find myself also brought me closer with God and I'm blessed to be where I am mindset wise. I believe I'm the happiest I could ever be. But yeah, I get you and I support you 100% love. I'm praying for you and all. God bless loves🙏🌹
P.s. Sorry for spamming your videos in the comments. I'm in a binge watching mood lol. All the love from my heart to yours 🌹😘
I found myself when a scene from a movie or any other thing comes along I am the female in it. I can imagine the guy and all doing what he is doing in the scenes to me. I have been like this since I was 10. I am bi.
and also a ordain minister
I'm sexually attracted to a lot of women and literally one man. It's that one guy that confuses me. There's no way I can be so attracted to a dude (and my body responds to the idea of him) but still be gay. But if I was into dudes, wouldn't I have been attracted to more of them? Ahh it's so weird and confusing. I guess my sexuality is ~fluid~ if I have to pick a label.
I absolutely love your channel! I get such a nice vibe from you every time I watch one of your videos. Please keep it up! (:
bearandrocky1 illl do my best. 😊 thank you so much for watching! 😊
Think about the little details...
Yes!!! That’s a very good advice thank you so much!!!
Your video is great!
Thank u for this video!!! 💗
Thanks a lot! I was waiting for such video and it's so true in my case too. I am still so confused that if am gay or bi. But, yes sometimes I find man really attractive and good looking but I won't want to get physically close to him. And i too discovered about the movie thing I really fit more in the guy's place. I am a Baptist too and am too scared to come out. I don't know what to do. Homosexuality is still considered illegal in my country. I am really confused. But, your video made me realise that am more to the gay side.
I'm 16 so I don't really have any experience with anyone but I know for sure that I like girls and can imagine dating a girl and being with a girl but not really a guy but I thought I'm probably bi because I get uncomfortable talking to dudes but now I think that's only because I'm used to being around girls so I'm more comfortable talking to them but I'm scared of how official it would be if I knew I was just gay nothing else and I'm just really confused and frustrated
I love my boyfriend so much but I’m questioning my sexuality and it’s killing me.
It was like you were reading my mind
I am still trying to figure myself out, soooo hard!
Honestly I dunno ^^’ Sometimes I like the idea of an intimate relationship with a male. However, I can’t see myself with one. When I was dating males, I actually felt uncomfortable with contact and kissing and all that. But at the same time, I catch myself thinking about things like intercourse with a male. But most of the time I lean towards females. I have a girlfriend now and I’ve never felt this way towards any of my exes. We live long distance so I can’t vouch for contact, but I absolutely love who she is. And like you said, I sometimes take the mindset of a male in scenes like kissing in movies. I’ve kissed girls before, but I was a little kid with no concept of anything and I don’t remember how it really felt. But when I think about it, I get giddy and start blushing/smiling. I always considered myself bi, having been in Hetero relationships before and the thoughts I have or had. But lately I’ve been questioning that as I get more and more into my current relationship
I'm so gay and confused that I watched so many "lesbian or bi" videos that I was watching this vid for the second time now and I didn't realize it until I saw it was already liked 👁️👄👁️
this video genuinely has helped me thank u
You are so intelligent! 😁 I loved this video! Thank you! 🥰
The thing that really confirmed that I was bi to me was that it makes so much more sense that people can be attracted to any gender that I can't personally fathom only liking one. (Also I do know that technically makes me pansexual but I'm just more comfortable labelling as bisexual because it's more understood imo)
Love your channel. You definitely deserve more subscribers.
Lumberjack alex thank you so much. 💕
These were such helpful things for me to hear!
so I came out Bi back in November and now that I'm watching this video maybe I'm gay. I've dated three girls and I never really felt totally comfortable with them like dating. I do say that hey yeah that girl is pretty or something but when it comes to guys I'm like yeah I would totally date him so maybe I am not Bi maybe I'm just gay. I have barely any guy friends and I have alot of female friends. I just don't feel comfortable enough dating girls anymore but I like guys ain't more.
I was really stuck In the middle of the too and like you said about the movie thing I was really thinking about it and I always thought of the place of the male and I was stuck but thank you so much I think I have come to the conclusion that I am lesbein thank you sis I was stuck for so long this really helped me and I always imagine my self with a women instead of a man I was with a boy a year ago and I just felt love because I found I was bi but then I started thinking about and i just did have a connection to him or attraction thanks again x
This is so inspirering😊 This really helped a lot! Thanks❤
Elena Gilbert my pleasure. 😊 I’m glad it helped. 💛
44k now 🥳🥳
You said that pretty well! I realized that not long ago as well. This difference and that I can appreciate the looks of both genders but talking about guys when I think that one looks good it is just his surface and there is so much more needed than that in real life, what is not there. Especially guys on the Internet or in movies I can say they look good but in reality it is not as much like that and it is just not that. And about girls that is just different, on the Internet and in real life, it isjust another layer of attraction. I dont explain that well. - 14.10.17
Hidden truth because Joyce A-deg-bo-ye-ga is shy and embarrassed to say but I like woman girls more than male .
I possibly might be bisexual 🤔 i dont know
omfg thank you so much for this I had originally came out as bi now I realized I’m a lesbian 🤩🌈
Can someone help me , I have liked boys for my entire life (15 years) but now my mind is telling me I’m bisexual which I find odd because I have never ever liked a girl in my life and I don’t want to be with a girl
Ik this is a rly old vid but I luv ur vids so so so much as a 12yr old my life absolutely sucks and I hate it I don't let it show but I've been thru some shit!!!
Thank you so much for watching.
Np and I will 💞🏳️🌈
Omg. It's so clear. Holy crap. I'm. Im speechless.
Shay needs to earn my subscription to her channel, good looks and saying she reads my name is not enough but I have to admit her being lesbian is a plus. Look the competition is frerce there are a lot of attractive UA-camr girls out there so shay is just one more attractive girl amongst the many I'm sure shay knows it if she did her homework, So I ask how is shay going to set herself apart from the rest of the pack.....lol damn I am funny
Also: Be sober. I used to drink whenever I went out with a guy because if I wasn't at least a tiny bit tipsy i'd be super uncomfortable lol
This might be off topic but if somebody doesn't want you talking about liking the same gender and saying its weird are they a homophobe.Im in fourth grade so im not sure
Tiera Washington I honestly can't say for sure. It kind of goes on a case by case basis. Typically in that situation the person is probably carrying some internalized homophobia, but I can't say for sure.
I'm curious , from an insider do most people you know that have "come out" have the desire to stay pure and keep themselves for that "one" until they are married or is it more common that they just want to get engage in intimacy and not wait for some day till they get married. Asking for an honest answer.
I know this vid is from three years ago but i’m having such a hard time figuring out if i’m gay or bi. I feel like in the future i can’t see myself being with a man i just don’t have that desire. However, i’m really confused because sometimes i’ll see guys and point out that they are attractive or i’ll feel awkward and i’ll wonder if that means i like them, but i don’t really have a desire to be with them. I feel like in a way i’m trying to be straight bc i’m scared of what people will think. I’m just not sure. when i was younger i had little crushes on boys but i think it was more of “oh everyone has a crush so i need one”. now that i’m thinking about it, i had some girl crushes that i kept to myself. I know some people come out as bi first and figure it out as they go along and then maybe come out as gay but i don’t want to come out as gay and then realize i still have a little bit of an attraction to men. if that means i am bi, the attraction to girls would be about 90-95%.
try looking at the "am I lesbian" masterdoc, it can be very helpful with comphet :)
Emilyia ashtons thank you 💕
I feel confused about what you said about attraction. Because I feel aroused when I see an attractive person. Is it just admiration or attraction if I feel sexually attracted to them. Yet I don't see myself dating someone of the same sex.
Growing up I had a few relationships with girls but they only lasted from a day to a week, I feel that I am gay, nowadays I look at men I like and I bite my lip, just can't really see myself with a women, when I was younger I might have acted liked I was into girls so people don't act weird around me, I hope to meet a good guy one day😇🏳️🌈
I have no idea what i am. I keep changing my label everyday. But for now I'm gonna go with bisexual and 95% into girls and 5% into boys because I've been really really into boys before. But still sexuality is so confusing