How do you know you're a lesbian?

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  • @aspen5471
    @aspen5471 5 років тому +4761

    If this popped up in your recommendations...then you’re probably a lesbian
    Edit: sorry to all the bisexuals, I actually didnt think anyone was gonna see this comment tbh.
    Signed,
    A lesbian

    • @ceilingturtles
      @ceilingturtles 5 років тому +105

      I feel attacked

    • @maneitzme
      @maneitzme 5 років тому +15

      Ceiling Turtles right 😂

    • @kacao6561
      @kacao6561 5 років тому +87

      Excuse me, maybe it's just because of the sarah and Adianna vids I watch. Or the Michaeng ship compilation vids....or the hayley Kiyoko music that I like to...oh shit!! I'm gay!!

    • @BeingTiffany
      @BeingTiffany 5 років тому +11

      welp

    • @mariadingh7
      @mariadingh7 5 років тому +23

      Fuck.

  • @bunsnrosies
    @bunsnrosies 5 років тому +5061

    "I changed my gender preference on tinder to women"
    " *T OOT* "

  • @anais3337
    @anais3337 5 років тому +3115

    When she mentioned her friend grabbing her hand to lead her through a crowd...... I felt that

    • @aileenzhao7951
      @aileenzhao7951 5 років тому +91

      And like, when my friend loops an arm around me and I'm just like,,,

    • @shedoesconcerts5762
      @shedoesconcerts5762 5 років тому +35

      first girl i kissed did that... whew

    • @megansalt
      @megansalt 5 років тому +33

      me too, my heart used to sink a bit

    • @itsray1878
      @itsray1878 5 років тому +6

      Same

    • @viragmolly2961
      @viragmolly2961 5 років тому +34

      I love that . Time stops literally and all you feel is those thight fingers and hear your extremely loud heartbeat

  • @itskikoa
    @itskikoa 5 років тому +1087

    When she said she clearly wasn't gay bc she didn't look "like a lesbian" and didn't like girls who did... that's literally why it took me 18 years to realize omfg

    • @ladyofallthingspotterrelat1913
      @ladyofallthingspotterrelat1913 5 років тому +5

      kikosmusic yes!!! Honestly same though

    • @nachonachos2185
      @nachonachos2185 5 років тому +1

      Sammmmmeeee

    • @RandomPerson-vz2wb
      @RandomPerson-vz2wb 4 роки тому +2

      That's me right now

    • @LadyGodiva7460
      @LadyGodiva7460 3 роки тому +11

      Well yeah that and comp het

    • @PianoMeSasha
      @PianoMeSasha 3 роки тому +26

      its sad cuz, like, not all gay men are effeminate, not all straight men are macho, not all straight women are not also "tomboys", and not all lesbians are butch...we gotta root out the binary everywhere..

  • @annalynn870
    @annalynn870 5 років тому +3014

    i’m here because i searched “am i a lesbian”
    oh crap

  • @ted8418
    @ted8418 5 років тому +9031

    I don't. I'm waiting for j.k.rowling to reveal

    • @charlottestephensonart
      @charlottestephensonart 5 років тому +56

      sıla this is the best comment👌🏻

    • @t1234odd5
      @t1234odd5 5 років тому +17

      I screamed 😂

    • @ssh995
      @ssh995 5 років тому +16

      I came here from a jk Rowling video haha

    • @seaofflowers.
      @seaofflowers. 5 років тому +9

      Can't be said enough: amazing comment. 😂👏

    • @ultravioletpisces3666
      @ultravioletpisces3666 5 років тому +23

      Me too. But she keeps writing contradictory scenes for me...

  • @J-Bolt
    @J-Bolt 5 років тому +8529

    Gay panic is the only way to describe my high school experience. edit: I've never gotten so many likes before! XD thank yoooouuuu!!!!!

    • @Inamichan
      @Inamichan 5 років тому +9

      renagade septiceye relatable

    • @beep37
      @beep37 5 років тому +3

      @strxwberri•jxm - He spelt it right though 😂

    • @dezbodz
      @dezbodz 5 років тому +1

      That explains the terrible spelling

    • @trickytreyperfected1482
      @trickytreyperfected1482 5 років тому +4

      @@beep37 expareianece

    • @instantramen3428
      @instantramen3428 5 років тому +11

      Im straight but damn some girls be hawt

  • @trinbee
    @trinbee 5 років тому +1618

    "I was living my life in gray"
    Lol well now she's living her life in GAY lol

    • @defnenote
      @defnenote 5 років тому +10

      tríníty underrated comment

    • @marinamelero5713
      @marinamelero5713 5 років тому +7

      Best comment here

    • @lillicommers147
      @lillicommers147 5 років тому +4

      Hehe

    • @j1sxns897
      @j1sxns897 5 років тому

      trinity okay but Lee IS best boy right?

    • @dmoskha
      @dmoskha 4 роки тому +2

      Nah she knows what she's talking about! In COLOR 🌈🌈

  • @kipperthedog789
    @kipperthedog789 5 років тому +13363

    “How do you know you’re lesbian? When you’re looking up a video about how you know if you’re lesbian.”
    That was so true and made me laugh 😂😂😂

    • @fiorellafior3lla
      @fiorellafior3lla 5 років тому +158

      Taking those buzz feed are you gay tests

    • @missgiroud97
      @missgiroud97 5 років тому +33

      Its 3 in the morning, im bored. I will see everyrhing with sense or medium sense in the interner

    • @missgiroud97
      @missgiroud97 5 років тому +14

      Internet*

    • @belamriliza4109
      @belamriliza4109 5 років тому +37

      I m bi and lost between this

    • @missgiroud97
      @missgiroud97 5 років тому +20

      @@belamriliza4109 Im straigth and was seeing everything that pop out in my youtube feed

  • @taygeller928
    @taygeller928 5 років тому +911

    "love, life, and s*x feels f***ing amazing in color." 🌈

    • @mecryst7013
      @mecryst7013 5 років тому +6

      You should me gay teller by name XD

    • @taygeller928
      @taygeller928 5 років тому +1

      @@mecryst7013 well, my name is tay and i pretty much happen to be gay as well haha

    • @mecryst7013
      @mecryst7013 5 років тому

      @@taygeller928 haha that's sick !

    • @Kei-zx7nf
      @Kei-zx7nf 5 років тому

      Best quote ever

    • @brittanybornnard6985
      @brittanybornnard6985 5 років тому

      Don't it though

  • @lyndseyfox615
    @lyndseyfox615 5 років тому +2920

    slightly shaken. this is my exact life. 31 and just changed my tinder preferences, i wasn't expecting the enormous sense of relief when I did...

    • @danialbrecht2982
      @danialbrecht2982 5 років тому +75

      Good for you Lyndsey!!!! Go be happy!!!! Live your life your way!!! gogoGO

    • @lyndseyfox615
      @lyndseyfox615 5 років тому +8

      Dani Albrecht thankyou 😊 I will x

    • @its_ambs
      @its_ambs 5 років тому +8

      I'm so proud of you x

    • @voyance4elle
      @voyance4elle 5 років тому +12

      Get'em gurl 😉

    • @blo2102
      @blo2102 5 років тому +10

      Welcome to being gayy!!! 🧚

  • @Jsidkfjdjjf
    @Jsidkfjdjjf 5 років тому +6016

    I thought you were american

    • @ayepie
      @ayepie 5 років тому +16

      wait she isn't ?

    • @manoncocagne3612
      @manoncocagne3612 5 років тому +62

      @@ayepie I think it's a joke between lesbian an Lebanese, like I thought you were American not Lebanese.

    • @chrisharrison5505
      @chrisharrison5505 5 років тому +145

      It's a vine reference

    • @charcymarie5804
      @charcymarie5804 5 років тому +20

      No she’s Lebanese duhh

    • @aagantuk7370
      @aagantuk7370 5 років тому +2

      I am india

  • @missstripedsocks
    @missstripedsocks 5 років тому +2445

    I identify as bisexual, but I've felt this way about men my whole life. I do get strong crushes on celebrity men, but not guys in real life. This is making me start to doubt my sexuality again. helppp

    • @acchaladka
      @acchaladka 5 років тому +206

      It’s a gay panic! ;). I also fail to see the problem, and I’m a bi guy. Go with what you’re attracted to.

    • @primus108
      @primus108 5 років тому +292

      Why do labels matter? If you are attracted to someone, what difference does it make what their gender is? It only matters if the label matters to you.

    • @jimbo4589
      @jimbo4589 5 років тому +2

      Maybe check your sanity

    • @ohthelovelypoems
      @ohthelovelypoems 5 років тому +44

      Brooke • So what's the problem, babe, you're a lesbian then. Embrace it!

    • @miguel-h
      @miguel-h 5 років тому +29

      You shouldn’t label yourself. Listen to your heart and feel free to love whoever you want.

  • @callysto_ii
    @callysto_ii 5 років тому +3829

    Well... You don't wear a beanie in summer for no reason, or baseball tee when it's not baseball season... If you check her nails and they're always trim, or if K-Stew is her style twin....

    • @haley6973
      @haley6973 5 років тому +167

      Callysto ALLY

    • @kierabishop8991
      @kierabishop8991 5 років тому +329

      she knows a little bit too much about the L word

    • @emilybooth6277
      @emilybooth6277 5 років тому +108

      Throwback to when I was 14 and confused :') nostalgia, GAYstalgia if you will

    • @hannahhegarty3554
      @hannahhegarty3554 5 років тому +64

      Ally hillssssssss

    • @jenvu9614
      @jenvu9614 5 років тому +126

      Callysto she rolls her sleeves up when she’s wearing pocket tee shirts

  • @avatran3236
    @avatran3236 5 років тому +592

    “How do you know your lesbian? When your looking up a video if your a lesbian”
    True tho

    • @iamdivinelyloved3569
      @iamdivinelyloved3569 5 років тому +1

      AvaTehGamer3 its been like 3 years and im still taking quizzes each year lmaooo

    • @crappyaccount
      @crappyaccount 5 років тому

      What if it got recommended to you? XD

    • @crappyaccount
      @crappyaccount 5 років тому

      @@iamdivinelyloved3569 rip
      and edit: actually wtf I know a lesbian named Stella...

  • @vanessaobrien5801
    @vanessaobrien5801 5 років тому +2514

    This made me cry!! I’m 17 and I realized I was a lesbian and came out to my friends and family about 2 months ago. I’m so glad I was able break down that wall and embrace my inner Ellen
    Edit: Ellen sucks. I think I was alluding to something she said in the video about an inner ellen? Idk I wrote this two years ago

    • @MM-iv4yk
      @MM-iv4yk 5 років тому +14

      Girl bi!

    • @vanessaobrien5801
      @vanessaobrien5801 5 років тому +22

      George Lackey you’re probably right, but not for the reasons you’re thinking of

    • @CT2507
      @CT2507 5 років тому +1

      don't look up to perverted people like Ellen, for fuck's sake. seek out role models who are harmonious and mold yourself after them.

    • @vanessaobrien5801
      @vanessaobrien5801 5 років тому +58

      CT2507 I’m not trying to mold myself after anybody. All I meant was that I have embraced my inner gayness and am now courageous enough to live my truth. The use of Ellen’s name in that context was just another way of saying that I have accepted myself for who I am.

    • @lanamoret429
      @lanamoret429 5 років тому +19

      "embrace my inner Ellen"... Gosh.. I'm gonna cryyyyy XD

  • @SteveGouldinSpain
    @SteveGouldinSpain 5 років тому +7636

    It's not easy being Steve :-(

    • @MissEasyPeasySleasy
      @MissEasyPeasySleasy 5 років тому +176

      Awwww lol it’s so sad but funny because captain America is also a Steve. And ss hot as he is, hes a 70yo Virgin! Hahaha!

    • @evafemme8674
      @evafemme8674 5 років тому +41

      Poor thing ;-)

    • @kaca2903
      @kaca2903 5 років тому +47

      @@MissEasyPeasySleasy ur not helping

    • @MissEasyPeasySleasy
      @MissEasyPeasySleasy 5 років тому +62

      Katarina I’m not here to help. I’m here to laugh!!!

    • @jazzisforpainting4928
      @jazzisforpainting4928 5 років тому +63

      I'd be your friend Steve but you don't have any boobs. Well, we *all* have boobs but yours are not the kind I like.
      Its not your fault Steve...

  • @shelbybuors7736
    @shelbybuors7736 5 років тому +1543

    *taps on video*
    *hears first line of the story*
    Welp. I’m not surprised TBH

    • @Calfea
      @Calfea 5 років тому +3

      Shelby Buors whoever likes this next is the 1k like

  • @bushraduti6780
    @bushraduti6780 5 років тому +2318

    wow, as a straight woman, I finally understand now, how similar gays and straights are in matters of heart... its just different sexual orientation, other than that, feelings are all the same... thank you!

    • @coconat7725
      @coconat7725 5 років тому +212

      We stan an ally 🙌

    • @calisongbird
      @calisongbird 5 років тому +195

      Bushra Monowar you seriously just now realized that? I mean, good for you, I guess, but how hard a realization could that possibly be?? Don’t break your arm patting yourself on the back.

    • @Robodie
      @Robodie 5 років тому +107

      @@calisongbird LMFAO Maybe she's young?
      Either way, now there's one more person who recognizes that we're people too, so *that's* a win!

    • @sjcross8
      @sjcross8 5 років тому +61

      Yeah, it can be really hard to understand if no one has presented it to you in the right way before. :)

    • @bushraduti6780
      @bushraduti6780 5 років тому +63

      @@calisongbird you are a negative energy. Your comment says who you are. I always valued all women equally and men. Regardless different sexual orientation. But I never knew the emotional feelings are the same. It's because we never meet openly LGBTQ people in our part of the world. A.ka. South Asia where these are still taboo to talk about. And both Hinduism and islam (predominant south Asian religion) are very traditional

  • @khawlataieb6585
    @khawlataieb6585 5 років тому +1001

    so now you're just getting your heart broken in gay

    • @aileenzhao7951
      @aileenzhao7951 5 років тому +5

      @mentally disturbed *cries in gay*

  • @idk_gorl
    @idk_gorl 5 років тому +278

    "you met one Steve, you've met them all" Looololol

  • @idgiecarson
    @idgiecarson 5 років тому +1479

    I’m just waiting on J.K. Rowling to decide for me.

    • @frances9975
      @frances9975 5 років тому +6

      😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

    • @justagirl5719
      @justagirl5719 5 років тому +8

      Can you please, explain the “J.K. Rowling” reference?

    • @idgiecarson
      @idgiecarson 5 років тому +40

      Just a girl it was a meme that sprouted about 3 months ago because J.K Rowling stated that Dumbledore was gay and the whole internet blew up about how J.K. Rowling was the only one who could determine your sexuality. It was a pretty great phase, Shame you didn’t hear about it.

    • @Emma-tt9el
      @Emma-tt9el 5 років тому +2

      Lmao

    • @harryrocks44
      @harryrocks44 5 років тому +7

      i don't understand though, because she actually said he was gay way before 2019, it was in 2010 or something.

  • @y2k629
    @y2k629 5 років тому +242

    "Sometimes I wish I was a lesbian"

    • @kjlm4574
      @kjlm4574 5 років тому +27

      -Chandler Bing

    • @y2k629
      @y2k629 5 років тому +12

      @@kjlm4574 i love you for getting that reference

    • @bl9nd3
      @bl9nd3 5 років тому +12

      Did I say that outloud?

    • @bonuto4847
      @bonuto4847 5 років тому +2

      *Like you have so many choices.*

  • @zoram2426
    @zoram2426 5 років тому +268

    She's living her life as a "32-year-old laaaadddddddyyyyyyyyyy"

  • @2kavi
    @2kavi 5 років тому +123

    'aNd hE Is A dOcTor'
    Every Asian parent

  • @gregm17
    @gregm17 5 років тому +83

    This lady is very cool, intelligent, insightful, witty, and pretty! Any lady would be very lucky to have her for a girlfriend, mate, and partner. I wish her lots of love and happiness!

    • @HowDoYouKnow
      @HowDoYouKnow  3 роки тому +2

      100%!! This is so sweet. She is one in a million and I feel immensely lucky every day with her 🥰
      Much love, 🤗 Meli's life partner and co-maker of her new video ❤ check it out and let us know what you think!

  • @lf3862
    @lf3862 3 роки тому +20

    How many times do I have to watch this for me to finally accept I’m a lesbian

  • @loueileen
    @loueileen 5 років тому +303

    So relatable. In every way ! The questioning part, the axiety, the excitment. And well told !

  • @thepurpleempath4219
    @thepurpleempath4219 5 років тому +44

    This was so raw . Love it. How could anyone be against someone living in their authenticity?

  • @huldu
    @huldu Рік тому +10

    Times truly have changed. My mother who was married to my father for 50 years and had 3 children was always a bit "odd". Growing up I would notice this but as I got older I *really* started to notice something was different, my father was oblivious like most men. It was always the little things because being attracted to opposite sex(lesbian) was not acceptable at all and could have dire consequences. It was very hard to talk with her about it and it wasn't until the very end she finally told me. It was such a sad moment, a person who has gone through life, living in the "gray", terrified of revealing themselves. That is no way to live life. I'm so glad that it's different today, at least in "most" parts of the world. You can say what you want and be who you want to be.

  • @Teramis
    @Teramis 5 років тому +317

    This is a really wonderful coming-out-to-self story. Thanks so much for sharing this. :)

  • @punkerratsworld
    @punkerratsworld 5 років тому +276

    Me-questions sexuality
    UA-cam- how do you know your a lesbian
    Me-*sweats proficiently*nah nah this aint it chief
    UA-cam- shows king princess
    Me-damn maybe it is it chief

  • @mariaa6141
    @mariaa6141 5 років тому +55

    "I was never going to meet the perfect Steve unless her name is Stevie"
    This means so much to me

  • @kaz_einhaus85
    @kaz_einhaus85 5 років тому +154

    OMG, I watched your vid and realized that your story is my story. I'm 33 and only found out I'm gay about a year ago. Everything you said you thought, I thought too. Thank you so much for making this vid, now I don't feel so alone and awkward about coming out at a late stage in life. Xoxo

    • @marias7599
      @marias7599 5 років тому +5

      Kaz Einhaus
      Hello Kaz,
      I hope you're doing great. I'm sorry that I feel the curiosity to ask; you said you finally realized being gay a year ago and you're 33.
      What happened at 32 that didn't happen all the years before that?
      I am 35 and for me it was an early discovery.
      I will really appreciate your kindness in responding me.
      Good luck

    • @sadisticgirl_
      @sadisticgirl_ 5 років тому

      .

    • @shedoesconcerts5762
      @shedoesconcerts5762 5 років тому

      congrats on coming out to yourself!

    • @wdlovesthee736
      @wdlovesthee736 Рік тому

      Come out come out whenever you are!

  • @vanadiumoxid3902
    @vanadiumoxid3902 5 років тому +716

    I'm currently identifying as bi, but figuring out my sexuality is an ongoing, confusing process. Like, I've had multiple crushes on guys (as a girl) but have had this intense feeling of "get away from me NOW" whenever I've been closer to them (granted, this has only been, like, twice). Plus, a year ago I developed a strong crush on a female friend of mine (hence bisexuality), and can imagine sleeping with women, but dont feel as immediately attracted to them as I sometimes am with guys. If anyone feels like helping me make sense of this, go ahead 😂
    Edit for clarification: I do think I'm sexually and romantically attracted to guys and was just uncomfortable with those specific guys approaching me

    • @TheElisabethMaria
      @TheElisabethMaria 5 років тому +119

      I feel the same! For myself, I think I'm more romantically into women and sexually into men but I can feel both ways about men and women, if that makes sense?

    • @lovedemusica
      @lovedemusica 5 років тому +51

      I feel as though labels are not necessary, yes some people feel better identifying themselves properly. That's not for everyone, I myself don't follow this "norm of labeling" I'll love who I love. I mean if everything is confusing, that's normal because the world holds so many questions that don't have straight answers.

    • @icantdoanythingwrongever
      @icantdoanythingwrongever 5 років тому +28

      Vanadiumoxid that’s. exactly. how I feel! i hate it when any guy touches me, but I still like looking at them and crushing on them. with girls im way more open and I get crushes on them all the time. for now im content with the bisexual label because only i know how I feel romantically, and that includes both sexes. if anything happens in the future that changes that, then that’s that! as long as you know how you feel and are okay with it, you have nothing to worry about ☺️☺️

    • @allyli1718
      @allyli1718 5 років тому +21

      Vanadiumoxid for me it’s the opposite but same idea. i get crushes on guys and think of them sexually, but I also feel sexually attracted to girls? Like especially if they ping my gaydar if that makes sense. Like sometimes someone will tell me they’re into girls, and then I’ll start crushing a little. But I don’t normally get romantic crushes on them like I do with guys. I am a little clueless about what all of this means and would love to hear any updates

    • @isadorafonseca6920
      @isadorafonseca6920 5 років тому +17

      sexuality is fluid and it's ok to play around with it, maybe you just feel romantic attraction towards men, and not sexual and that's fine! U r still valid and the most important thing to remember is to respect your boundaries and not do anything you don't feel comfortable doing

  • @jordanco7380
    @jordanco7380 5 років тому +663

    What’s going on?
    •I’m in this video and i fukin love it.

  • @mitzimadness4548
    @mitzimadness4548 2 роки тому +5

    When I was in like 8th grade, I watched this video crying, wondering what I was going to do. Now I'm 17, and proud of who I am. Hearing about the feelings in this story were a really big step on the path of understanding myself, and I am so grateful for this.

  • @spencergoth1cgutz205
    @spencergoth1cgutz205 4 роки тому +42

    You see women and you’re just like: wow
    that’s it

  • @soph6622
    @soph6622 5 років тому +145

    Wow, I was supposed to go on a date tomorrow with that guy cause I didn't wanted to admit I was gay but I think I just found the courage ! Thanks

    • @charlycloud8501
      @charlycloud8501 5 років тому

      How was your date?

    • @charlycloud8501
      @charlycloud8501 5 років тому

      How was your date?

    • @soph6622
      @soph6622 5 років тому +18

      @@charlycloud8501 I cancelled because even if he's a really nice guy and a good friend I could never have actual feelings for him..

  • @megansouthward1446
    @megansouthward1446 5 років тому +164

    lowkey was having a breakdown, then the plunger thing make me cackle😂

  • @stephaniecarlin4703
    @stephaniecarlin4703 5 років тому +64

    Almost spit my water out at "And at the end you hope you didn't get any back splash on you."

  • @cinnagummi
    @cinnagummi 3 роки тому +22

    I remember with my first boyfriend everytime he wanted to make out I just thought to myself "ugh, this again??" and would avoid any sort of touchiness if I could. At the time i thought it was just because he was my first boyfriend but after it ended just the thought of being with a man again made me so unbelievably uncomfortable. Then I came out as Lesbian!!! I feel so much happier with women☺️💖

  • @AngelaOfTwo
    @AngelaOfTwo 5 років тому +155

    This is soooo me!!! I was 43 before I was ready for my epiphany! I LOVE WOMEN!!!

    • @blackwidow2134
      @blackwidow2134 5 років тому +13

      Angela Steward OMG!! Thank you for sharing this. I was also 43 before realizing I love women. Though, it’s not been easy. Two years later (almost 45) I’m still adjusting to it but I wanted to say how much I appreciate you sharing this. I feel so invisible as it seems all the focus is on the 30 and under crowd. Sometimes I wonder where do I fit here. So happy to know I’m not the only 40+ out here trying to navigate this new world 😊

    • @AngelaOfTwo
      @AngelaOfTwo 5 років тому +8

      Kemba Brown oh girl there are plenty of us. A group on FB called Lilly (Late In Life Lesbians) where there are many women you will be able to identify with including myself. facebook.com/groups/442125912647958/

    • @blackwidow2134
      @blackwidow2134 5 років тому +3

      Angela Steward Awesome!! Thank you so much

  • @JeffJansen53
    @JeffJansen53 5 років тому +3

    This is such a touching and funny video. Your "I finally understood it" part (5:45+) had me in tears. Congratulations on finding your real self, and for sharing your discovery.

  • @elliotc5040
    @elliotc5040 5 років тому +3

    This is the reason we fight for equality and representation. Not just for our kids growing up, but for the adults who have already grown up in a world that refused to let them be who they are

  • @toddvandell85
    @toddvandell85 5 років тому +115

    I laughed so hard.
    You're so funny.
    What a beautiful story.
    Thank you for sharing.

  • @Sonichelix
    @Sonichelix 5 років тому +126

    Hey I'm back from 2019 I was so confused on my sexuality so here what's new in 2020
    I'm a lesbian

    • @sela6292
      @sela6292 5 років тому +7

      Same for me! 2020 is gonna be a really awesome gay year

    • @courtgodley7789
      @courtgodley7789 5 років тому +3

      Laura Reyes *gay celebration* 2020 is the year fellow lesbiansss

    • @twizzycat2
      @twizzycat2 4 роки тому +3

      2020 everyone: IM GAY

    • @crazycookie294
      @crazycookie294 4 роки тому

      Haha your 2019 is my 2020 I'm so confused rn but i think I'm lebian

    • @pirate4531
      @pirate4531 4 роки тому

      @@sela6292 Well that didn't age well

  • @neocleouscomposer
    @neocleouscomposer 3 роки тому +8

    "I've been living my life in grey, but I can now confirm that sex, love, and life feel fucking amazing in colour." genuinely amazing how clever that line was worded, what a way to end the story!

  • @reme001
    @reme001 5 років тому +3

    Melissa, thanks for a great story. I thought I was a late bloomer at 25. lol. I was even married at the time (UNSATISFIED) when I realized was into women- NOT men. This was way before gay characters on tv, the internet, chat rooms and you tube. Much harder then but I was very fortunate to come out in California so there was a gay community starting.
    YEAH! Hope you are happy.

  • @allyson87
    @allyson87 5 років тому +2

    Relate to this so much. Exact same experience of thinking everyone was exaggerating and also thinking I couldn't be gay because I didn't look like the stereotype. Unfortunately, at 31, I'm experiencing my first real heartbreak. I was supposed to learn how to do this over a decade ago and feel ridiculous for not being able to move on. Thank you for sharing!

  • @KidCity1985
    @KidCity1985 5 років тому +326

    Coming out to yourself.

    • @Olivia-ny6nl
      @Olivia-ny6nl 5 років тому +38

      Yeah that´s the hardest part.

  • @duolingoowo4855
    @duolingoowo4855 5 років тому +305

    THIS IS HOW I KNEW I WAS GAY ASJSJSKSKDJSJSJSKJFHF

    • @hj665
      @hj665 5 років тому +1

      omg congratssssssss

  • @marinaschmidt6599
    @marinaschmidt6599 4 роки тому +5

    This story was my aha-moment of realizing that I AM lesbian in December 2019. I have watched it so often ever since and am so grateful. Thank you!

    • @HowDoYouKnow
      @HowDoYouKnow  3 роки тому

      I'm so glad this was helpful for you and trust me, it only gets better!

  • @SFSMusic
    @SFSMusic 5 років тому +5

    This was amazing... now you are the inner voice to so many! Hope we can be as strong as you to see love and colors in life. It's never too late

  • @justinehirshfeld3671
    @justinehirshfeld3671 3 роки тому +3

    I could watch this over and over and over again!!!!!!! Love

  • @itseemedtoher8053
    @itseemedtoher8053 5 років тому +85

    Great story and I want to know who blew that perfectly timed flute!

    • @nomadiclocust
      @nomadiclocust 5 років тому +11

      The hosts for the Moth Story Slam (which is what this is) toot the flute like that at the five minute mark so the storyteller knows to wrap up

    • @shadowmatrix0101
      @shadowmatrix0101 5 років тому +2

      One time...at band camp...

    • @lanceseaman88
      @lanceseaman88 5 років тому +1

      @@nomadiclocust I think OP knows all that they just think the timing was funny and perfect and are asking specifically who it was. I could be wrong.

  • @smileyface702
    @smileyface702 5 років тому +10

    Thanks for this. I appreciate the late-in-life realisation, and the way you talk about feeling toward guys... Like yeah, he's attractive and kissing is bearable, but no more!

  • @bastylesmonde6140
    @bastylesmonde6140 5 років тому +11

    Wow, you're so pretty and charming. I'm also lesbian and I just wanted to say, you're so much adorable and a great story-teller. The story is so touching, thank you for telling this, it inspires a lot! Good wishes from Russia:-)

  • @melisajabagjorian3556
    @melisajabagjorian3556 3 роки тому +1

    I have saved this for years to watch over the years, like why doesn’t this have more views?!?!?

    • @HowDoYouKnow
      @HowDoYouKnow  3 роки тому

      Thanks so much for the views - also making new videos! Check out the new one on my channel :)

  • @user81928
    @user81928 5 років тому +1

    I searched up just to make sure and I know now that I am straight! Thank you so much! Also, I love all sexualities. I was questioning myself but now I am not. Don’t rush it, let your path go the way you want and need it too. Self-discovery is amazing! Keep going

  • @julietariv
    @julietariv 5 років тому +29

    "the tiny ellen degeneres voice in the back of my head"

  • @lostAstronaut
    @lostAstronaut 5 років тому +31

    This is the most relatable thing ever ♥️

  • @martaminder2716
    @martaminder2716 5 років тому +18

    Yep we all had the moment... well most knew but society and families made choices for us... love the plunger story and congratulations on finding yourself... I did not get to be me until I was almost forty.

  • @daliarri5207
    @daliarri5207 5 років тому +1

    I loved everything about this!
    From the relatable plunger story 🤣 to looking up quizzes to finally living life in color.
    Thank you for sharing! ❤️

  • @Holtube1
    @Holtube1 5 років тому +2

    The similarities between your experience of realization and the one I currently experienced last month is uncanny. It’s like you wrote this about me and put into words everything I was feeling my whole life. I finally came out to my family and now I’m working on getting that wonderful first date you described. Thank you so much for being you!!!! ❤️

    • @HowDoYouKnow
      @HowDoYouKnow  2 роки тому

      Aww so glad this was helpful for you! If you haven't run into it already, I promise it only gets better :) actually started making videos again and posted a part 2 - check it out and let me know what you think!

  • @poeticpringle
    @poeticpringle 5 років тому +4

    This is one of my favorite videos. I recently came out and this right here is so damn relatable.

  • @pearldiver7
    @pearldiver7 5 років тому +5

    So glad you finally found your freedom. Straight, gay, we all need that clarity in our life. Congrats!

  • @soph_2708
    @soph_2708 5 років тому +30

    Why am I watching this video..I came out 7 years ago, I’m engaged to a woman. What am I doing 😂 I know I’m a lesbian

  • @RosaDulanto
    @RosaDulanto 5 років тому +2

    How is it possible that your 'finding out you were lesbian' story and mine are so pretty much the same? Differences: I was 32 (you were 30), I was curious about a show called The L Word whose incredible and giant ad I saw on a trip to Boston, and when I come back to Madrid I look for it on UA-cam and voilà: my head (and something else) exploded that night (needless to say I didn't sleep that night... and the next... and the next). Last difference, the saddest one: Tinder didn't exist by then, so it took me about a year to date someone, and only because my mom introduced us LOL (and I got my heart broken for the first and last time)!!!! Anyway young lady, thanks for sharing such a very funny, touchy, encouraging and honest story.

  • @rowanmiller6035
    @rowanmiller6035 5 років тому +1

    Honestly this is so relatable and so affirming. I don't know if anyone else in the LGBT community also occasionally doubts their identity, but I do sometimes- and then I find videos like this where I can relate to everything and I remember what lead me to realizing I'm gay.

  • @cattychatt718
    @cattychatt718 5 років тому +49

    This described so perfectly what coming out to myself was like! I can't wait to fall in love with a woman and buy matching monogram towels 😂

  • @ipshita154
    @ipshita154 5 років тому +6

    I watch a lot of lesbian comedians, but I don't know why this was so refreshing. Loved it.

  • @adriennkosa238
    @adriennkosa238 5 років тому +423

    How do I got here?Well youtube knows everything,I guess.

  • @cherryskies7487
    @cherryskies7487 5 років тому +1

    I watched this and I laughed. But at the end I cried. I don't know why but the last few sentences hit me harder than expected. Love this video

  • @JessRomeo27
    @JessRomeo27 5 років тому +2

    Lol this made me remember when I started looking up videos titled, "how to know if you're a lesbian". Those days were hell, but I was 15 at the time, and now I'm about to turn 19 in late November and life has never been easier. Sexuality shouldn't be such a terrifying thing, it should be natural, and hopefully someday we get to that point where people fall for who they fall for and don't worry about it. Great video.

  • @taraquinch1256
    @taraquinch1256 5 років тому +3

    This was so freaking awesome, I dont know why I'm crying. I'm still on the fence to whether I'm gay or not..

  • @Nathaliejcr
    @Nathaliejcr 5 років тому +3

    I don't think I've ever related so much to a story in my life. Thank you for sharing

  • @elyalandau-stav333
    @elyalandau-stav333 4 роки тому +4

    I watch this video everytime I have a meltdown about my sexuality and coming out. Thank u so much for thus

    • @HowDoYouKnow
      @HowDoYouKnow  3 роки тому +1

      So glad it's been helpful. From someone who has had meltdowns in the past about their own sexuality, I can assure you it gets way better and fucking magical.

  • @takethewalk19
    @takethewalk19 5 років тому

    Nailed it. So real and brilliantly explained. My experience was basically the same. I wish I were out enough to share this with friends and family.

  • @melaniedey20127
    @melaniedey20127 5 років тому +2

    “I’d just been living my life in grey. & now I’m 32 years old and I can fully say that love, life and sex feels *fucking amazing* in colour.”
    Okay but why did this give me chills?

  • @lu-fh9xw
    @lu-fh9xw 5 років тому +35

    Clicks on video, hears first line: "Nahh"
    keeps listening "Jesus, wtf these are my thoughts"

  • @diamondrobot5279
    @diamondrobot5279 5 років тому +128

    Me right now: "FUUU-"

  • @morheeey1337
    @morheeey1337 5 років тому +5

    This is so inspiring at some point. I'm 25 years old never been to a romantic relationship. And not sure if ever will be.

  • @chrisrw8939
    @chrisrw8939 3 роки тому +2

    Wow; described my situation to T. I’m in my 30’s and just now coming out. Thank you, I don’t feel so alone!

    • @HowDoYouKnow
      @HowDoYouKnow  3 роки тому +2

      You're not! There's actually a lot more of us out there than you think :) P.S. check out my new video to see!

  • @tesshuntington9114
    @tesshuntington9114 5 років тому +2

    this was so incredibly accurate and refreshingly vulnerable. thanks for sharing!

  • @amandahoopes
    @amandahoopes 4 роки тому +3

    i loved this omg she’s so cute i’m happy she found herself

  • @Sloyfa
    @Sloyfa 5 років тому +70

    Great story, and really well told. 💙

  • @MollyMachete
    @MollyMachete 4 роки тому +2

    I always rewatch this video when I’m sad. I love it so much.

  • @amandaramsey9002
    @amandaramsey9002 5 років тому +1

    This is sooooooo relatable! Thank you so much for this. This is exactly where I am at in my life at 25.

  • @lastashiamay4359
    @lastashiamay4359 5 років тому +2

    You’re amazingly relatable. Please make more videos. 💜 hearing your experience definitely helped me to feel less alone.

  • @bvdl5121
    @bvdl5121 5 років тому +290

    4:48 ...... YOOOOOO. STEVIE... THAT stevie.. Purple hair stevie that dated ally hills.. What

    • @favoritelobster
      @favoritelobster 5 років тому +20

      Stevie Boebi she was the first person I thought of

    • @arie3907
      @arie3907 5 років тому

      Favorite Lobster me too 😄

    • @sianthompson8638
      @sianthompson8638 5 років тому +1

      Yes that stevie

    • @icednillatea
      @icednillatea 5 років тому +2

      I immediately thought of that Stevie 😂😂

  • @samjensen392
    @samjensen392 5 років тому +3

    I’m aromantic, and the way you described your lack of attraction to men is so relatable! That’s just how I feel about people of any gender.

  • @nottoday6485
    @nottoday6485 5 років тому +11

    “I went from ohshitimgay :( to IM GAAAAYYY :D “
    loved that!

  • @kennedyelizabd
    @kennedyelizabd 5 років тому +1

    I’ve thought I was bi since I was 11 and am 17 now - after having a few unofficial girlfriends and one boyfriend and breaking up with him and finally doing stuff with women these past few months and feeling that sense of relief and happiness makes things feel so much more right. It just clicks so much more. Discovering I was only into girls was a journey for me but I’m so thankful for this journey. Can’t wait to go to college lmao

  • @corps3punk
    @corps3punk 5 років тому +2

    “Living my life in gray..” I felt that!
    Before coming out to myself I felt like my life was gray as hell. Love was boring, all men were the same to me. And I didn’t care if I had one or not. Then upon realizing that I was gay (after ignoring blatant signs) I now feel like I’m living life in full color.

  • @bsce100
    @bsce100 5 років тому +3

    Why is this the only video on this channel?? I gonna need to see more of this wonderful content!

    • @HowDoYouKnow
      @HowDoYouKnow  2 роки тому +1

      Yas! Love the OG support! Just started making videos again - check them out and let me know what you think :)

  • @mollytucker766
    @mollytucker766 5 років тому +3

    honestly gay panic is *so* much
    better than normal panic

  • @samtully9212
    @samtully9212 5 років тому +20

    I went to an all girl school. Fell in love with my best friend's brother and the cute girl in science class.. Turns out, I'm bisexual.

  • @nachonachos2185
    @nachonachos2185 5 років тому +2

    My friend held my hand on a six flags ride( twisted colossus) and my heart sank.... something about that moment just ugggh makes me melt.

  • @SuperAnge100
    @SuperAnge100 5 років тому +1

    Oh my God! Your words just hit me deep down. It's exactly how I feel, except for the last part where you found true love. I'm stuck in the middle :(