Hey Brad it's me venki who visited your relationship last year after the breakup its is 100% possible to get your ex back I followed the ways and tips you gave me I worked on myself and achieve my goals one by goal im happy alone now I dont want her but she is coming back to me....
It seems like you played your cards right! Anyway, like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
I'm aproaching winning her back in a more positive way thanks to this video.I doubted her love for me before the breakup until the social media memories started popping up recently.Through teared eyes I can say that she has shown me more true love than I had ever received in my entire relationship history.Neither of us are used to this kind of love,but I believe we can navigate our journey together again someday.
Good. Make sure you don't brush issues under the rug, those that brought that relationship down to its knees need to be addressed when the right time comes. Get my 2.0 version of the Ex Factor Guide if you're not sure what to do next, at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy and/or refer to my other vids for more tips. Good luck!
It all depends on what difficulty setting you're living on. If you're on Easy mode, of course you can get her back. Hell, they're probably still reaching out to you, checking in on you, finding excuses to see you etc. But if you're living on Nightmare mode... there isn't a chance in hell. On Nightmare mode, not only did she leave you for someone else, but she immediately became cold and emotionless when replying to you. Notice I said "replying" to you, because she never messages you first. That's because she lost all interest, attraction and feelings for you the moment she met her new man, no matter how many years you spent building a level of trust, love and caring that you thought was infallible. In the end, no matter how much you trusted her or how strong you thought your bond was, all it took for her to completely lose interest in you and discard your relationship was a hot guy she met 3 days ago.
Hey, Brad! I have been watching a lot of your videos, and it really helped me to see things more clearly while giving me a plan how to win my ex-girlfriend back. I have been doing over one month of no contact after i ended it with my first text message. I got a positive respond so far! I am excited for the possible future and i will keep watching your videos! Thank you for everything and greetings from Germany!
I broke no contact she said she moved on in had her new boyfriend text me from her phone in that we will never be together ever again in I haven’t reach out since plus I’m blocked on everything she told me in October she only been with him for two months but she don’t want me at all
Sorry to hear that but since it's been many months, then I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it may be over for good. It's one of the things I've discussed here: ua-cam.com/video/FP8YmErEOW8/v-deo.html and I know how tough that is to hear but I suggest you use this time as an opportunity for you to know yourself better and be strong and eventually happy being alone for a while, yeah? If you're having a hard time and need some support, consider getting my latest e-book "Beat the Breakup" at www.beatmybreakup.com
12:36 Friendzone Moment. This is true to some degree. Especially if your ex thinks that you probably moved on and accepted such fate, this is situational dependent tho. Hopefully ya'll don't get this. It's the worst. ;-;
This is also why when a breakup happens, I always suggest to go straight to the no contact rule to avoid that trap. Cutting off contact will also let the one that's left behind time to accept what has happened and heal, albeit slowly... which is necessary before you'll be able to be truly ready to be in talking terms again in the future.
Taking credibility for your own actions is a good feat, just be careful not to overdo it. One sincere apology is usually enough, two max if the offense was grave. However, it's best done before you give space so it won't seem like the apology came out of nowhere or that you didn't care, assuming this was all your fault to begin with. Just try to chill, yeah? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/7PRx8XXmgrU/v-deo.html
I'm in a similar situation, and have been many times before. The most important thing is knowing the difficulty setting you're living life on. If you're on Easy or Normal mode, there's a good chance she'll reach out or want to come back to you. But if you're on Hard or Nightmare difficulty, she's gone man, and nothing will bring her back. So if she's reaching out, talking to you, or talking in the same way that she used to, you're on Easy/Normal mode. But if she left you for another guy and is cold and callous, never texts first, and seems to care whatsoever about you, then you're on Hard/Nightmare mode and she's gone.
Hi Brad My ex and I still live together. He ended things just over 2 months ago. At first, he said he was confused a week later said he was done..He works nights so during the week we see each other maybe 1 hour a day. At the beginning he said that he would sleep out on a Friday and a Saturday. He didn’t want to be in the house. So he stays at a friends on Friday, and then on Saturday, he goes to rugby and stays over. He hasn't told any of his friends that we have broken up. Since then, he has stayed at home on a few Fridays.He even had a week off work and stayed at home every night. The reason he ended things were I was too controlling, he felt that he wasn't allowed an opinion and that I put him down..Recently, he has agreed to think about the situation/us and will talk. This will be after Christmas. His job is super stressful during December and I know that I have to give him time..He has gone back to saying he feels confused. He can see the changes I have made both physically and mentally. He doesn't want to sell the house, we have worked out paying the bills jointly. Any advice on what I can do to get him back. To come to the right decision
Seems like you're going through tumultuous times! A difference in sleep schedules sometimes affect couples but it's not something you can't resolve by talking but you do need to communicate with each other effectively for this to work. How long have you two been in a relationship and living together before this change on his end? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@BradBrowning we have been together 27yrs. He has worked evenings for 22 years. The reasons he gave for wanting to end things were me being too controlling, that I put him down etc. He never once said he didn't love me anymore.
@BradBrowning I can't afford coaching. We used to make time for each other at the weekend. Goung out for a meal or drinks. Sometimes, due to my lack of self-confidence, I would push him away. I used to think that he would want someone better than me. Like I mentioned, the issues were that he felt as if his opinion didn't count, that I put him down. He even felt like he couldn't spend his own money. We had a joint bank account. So since the split he has opened a new account. He transfers money towards the bills. I have said that maybe we should have had separate bank accounts a long time ago. That moving forward, it's a new chapter that we keep things as they are now. Do you think that him agreeing to think about us is a positive step? He could have said NO.. He just says he's confused
My ex is unwilling to start a dating relationship again because she felt betrayed when I chose to prioritize the woman I was dating at the time over her at Easter. We weren't married nor were we dating at the time. We were good friends and she knew I was seeing someone else. While I don't believe I acted inappropriately, I do recognize that I took her love for me for granted. I don't see how its possible to change her feelings of betrayal so she'd be willing to give us a second chance.
Yes, there shouldn't be any feelings of betrayal if you two weren't even dating. Let her recognize that on her own. But if you wanted to give it a try, then do your best to show affection back and see if she softens up. Be direct with your intentions and see how she responds and do your best to earn her trust back. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning we didn't really stop doing "dating" type activities until I entered this new relationship. In her heart she felt like we had been "together" the whole time even though I had communicated what I needed to do. I can understand why she feels the way she does. That was 8 months ago and she still gets upset and emotional because of it. She says she's forgiven but she hasn't let it go. 😔
Its weird shes been in a rebound for a few weeks but constantly checks up on my social media even though we no longer follow each other, im still in no contact of course but its just strange to me
It is, but not really. Best to not overthink as she could be doing that out of habit. But if you really want to, I suggest you let her wonder or give her something to wonder about by enjoying your life fully without this ex, yeah? You can leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
That sucks. Sorry to hear that. The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
I am on day 4 of no contact with my ex that said she wanted space and a break. She text me at 4 am saying she just hoped my therapy session the previous night went well. Should I respond??
It's too soon to be back in communication with each other again. You can make a quick response such as "thank you." and continue to give her space. Anyway that's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ua-cam.com/video/tev2-lrJq7o/v-deo.html
hi, my boyfriend i broke up a month ago and we are still friends. we broke up due to alot of arguments, i still love him and we dated for an year. we were long distance for a bit but we are meeting next month. do u think i still have a chance? he wasnt just my boyfriend but also my best friend.
Hi there! Right off the spot, I usually say to cut off contact for at least a month following the breakup but your case seems to be a little different. Was this meeting pre-planned (before the breakup happened)? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I am in the process of purchasing the Mend the marriage series. But I need someones input on this first. My husband told me that he is done with me and doesnt love me anymore. But this is where it gets a little interesting. He is in the process of purchasing a property with 2 houses on it. He asked me to come with him. I will live in the one house and he in the other. He will cover all expenses for me and the children, whatever we need. I also get 40% of the business. He can't stand this problem but his taking the problem with him. I can't help giggling about this a bit. But yes I do want to save my marriage. I will only go as his wife and nothing else. Can this marriage be safed.
It looks like he does care, to an extent, at least, despite the current state of your marriage, which is always a good thing. What were the issues in your marriage though? Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
I haven't cheated on him but he said that u don't have to make male frds.....but then also I go out with my frds grp....but I haven't told him but I haven't cheated....or done anything on his back....i really love him and he also love me i hope he will come back ....
What's wrong with having male friends? Have you cheated on him with a friend? Trust is an essential component in a relationship and without it, the relationship is pretty much over anyways. This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/plgoMW6GrM8/v-deo.html
Hey Brad, I want to hear your personal opinion about this. We broke up on bad terms because the relationship started being toxic - push/pull, silent treatment and words thrown around. She was the one that initiated the breakup and that made me plead and beg, which at the time I didn't know would have the opposite effect of what I wanted. It's been 3 months since the breakup and she has been in a new relationship for 2 months now. I did initiate no contact but I was blocked everywhere anyways. We did have a conversation recently about what went wrong and she told me that I'm just not her person even though she did really love me, that she used to feel anger towards me, but now it's loathing and hatred, that I should find someone else and move on, and she hopes I find happiness, that my love suffocated and ruined her. Based on this is it remotely possible to get her back and is it possible that her perspective of the relationship is twisted in a way?
What was she so angry with you about? You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
@@BradBrowningThanks for the reply! She has BPD so there's that but I feel like it's more inclined towards NPD. I broke my promise to heal faster from my previous abandonment trauma that's accompanied by trust issues. Became pushy, clingy, obsessive and angrier when I was met with silent treatment, cold shoulders and push/pull. I became someone that I don't know while trying to get another chance and tried some extreme things to do so.
Brad i need advice. She cheated on me once and we broke up. Now 2 years later she told me her father died and so many bad things happened in her life and now she regret cheating on me. Now she's begging for second chance. Should I give her second chance or she'll cheat again. What does your experience say in this?
give her chance if you still see being with her. the trick for you to not be hurt for the second time is that don't put too much expectation on her. just love her just like how you love her on the first try but more on guard. just go with flow, if the second time didn't work atleast you already have set youtself in a way that make the second time with her meaningless and painless.
It's a case-to-case basis. Try to observe if she truly regretted her behaviour and if the trust between you two can be rebuilt. Also try to see why the relationship crumbled in the first place. Was one or both of you became complacent during your time together? For some, the relationship comes out stronger while in other cases, it repeats the same pattern especially if the known issues were not addressed the next time around.
Hello Brad. I have beed with my ex for almost 3 years. My mistake was to think that i will never lose her, and i treated her badly and inmaturely. Then she broke up with me and said thst we both need time to grow up and focus only on us personally, but we can still be friends. She said that she had to change as well. I asked if i were different we could still be together and she said yes. She also said that if time wants we can back again, but its not certain. Do you think it is possible?
This really depends on the issue/s that broke you two up in the first place. Sometimes these differences are too big and you two are simply put, incompatible. So if you do have to make some changes, then do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. On the other hand, if these are changes that you know within yourself that you need to make, then it's important to take time so be sure you aren’t rushing it because permanent, lasting changes don't happen overnight and your ex can actually see through it. Also, pain (that's why your ex dumped you) is a very good teacher and motivator not to mention a huge catalyst, so making these changes within yourself in order for the possibility to come back together stronger and better is what you can expect and you will be able to use this progress if not for your ex, then with someone new. Does that make sense? With that in mind, watch this vid to subtly show these changes to your ex: ua-cam.com/video/bZ1KetALZrc/v-deo.html
Hello Brad ! I m trying to get help to get my husband not to break up ,but he does not want me back ,he says its over between us and currently living with someone else .. we have two kids and i want him back coz i love him so much.. He is not responding to any of my calls or text msgs ! Plz help its been almost 5 months now ..
Really sorry to hear that. How long have you two been married and what were the issues? To be honest, it will be quite tough since he's off with someone else and the process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated and in fact, does NOT make use of the "no contact" rule... but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. But while I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/v-deo.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
Great video, I know each situation is unique, but she broke up with me because I hurt her feelings twice in 1 week. I hid from 2 people while I was next to her. Poor decisions but I had good reasons but I told her it would never happen again but she doesn't care . She still talks to me at work and sometimes sits next to me. Doesn't show any anger. Is no contact the best way or try and have a grown up conversation which she doesn't want to do, she just says I don't want to talk about it
You ought to describe your dynamic and what the issue was. Are you saying you've never discussed the issue with her while she was still your girlfriend? If it's a recurring issue between you two, then chances are she's done talking about it because she has already brought up the same issue in the past and sees nothing changing. Hence, the need to give her space first as much as you can. Do limited contact instead and keep any conversation you have strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Hey Brad we broke up on 14 October and in the 2 weeks after the breakup we spoke a few times,she was saying that she wants to reconnect in the future but not right now so after that I went no contact to give her space to miss me etc and we haven’t spoke since 30 October and I find out that she removed me from her close friends on instagram yesterday what I should do?(sorry for my bad English,your videos are helping me a lot❤)
Once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
I asked my ex if he still loves me and he answered “no, I’m not” but yesterday after we watched movies he said “I love you to me “ what does it mean? 🥺
My ex broke up with me a few days ago, i love her so much even if it hurts, she said she loves me but not as same as before, how can i get her love back?
What you're describing is most likely a significant loss of attraction. But the good news is my channel is exactly about that and how to regain it. Start with this overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html or better yet, get my 2.0 version of the Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
I was in a relationship with a younger woman shes 23 & im 37 we were friends that ended up in a relationship but b4 we got into the relationship i told her i have a new born on the way in like 5months from a past relationship b4 i met her but ounce my child was born she started acting weird & she started cheating on me for assuming i was going to get back with my kids mother what should i do i really seriously loved her & miss her badly even tho she cheated weve been broken up for going on 2 months almost im lost on how to feel & what to do can anyone give me advice or help on what i should do🙄🤦🏾♂️🤔
She's obviously projecting her insecurities and jealousy to you which is a huge red flag. It's important that you two try to rebuild trust if you want to make this work. Unless you're guilty of what she accused you of, it's best you employ the 30-day no contact rule as there's really nothing to say anymore. This vid is for you, too: ua-cam.com/video/plgoMW6GrM8/v-deo.html
Brad please help me my ex and I do everything couples do but we’re not in a relationship!!! She’s even in a rebound..but doesn’t shy away from us getting back together one day what should I do 🤦🏽♂️
Has there been complete time and space apart between you two after the breakup or did you two went straight into doing that? If it's the latter then that's not good as you're clearly your ex's backup plan and based on what I've mentioned, that's one of the pitfalls you should avoid in the first place. Change the dynamic accordingly!
Me and my ex have broken up 3 times. The last time she regretted and said that wanted to work on us, and now she’s in a rebound all of a sudden. It seems as if every time something bad or stressful happened in her life she would react by breaking up. Fortunately I didn’t do or say anything bad to make her break up. We seemed very happy together. Is there any chance that she can come back? I truly feel like we had something special, and I just feel like she just needs time. Every point points to her coming back Thoughts?
Nobody breaks up if you're both happy in the relationship. Truth be told, you may be happy but she may be not, for whatever reason. An on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
@@BradBrowning I see, with her she definitely had some of those underlying issues. I just hope we can get back together and work things out. She just seems like she’s locking herself out. I hope she comes back:( thanks coach
Hey Brad could use some of your advice. I helped my ex and her family purchase a home by co signing. She moved an hour away and I was worried I wouldn’t be able to see her as much because I have two jobs and many other responsibilities. She said she’d help me out and make an effort but she didn’t and I started falling back too and when I gave her the same energy I was the bad person. I would ask for simple favors such as meeting me half way for dates and it became a problem. We would argue a lot and she eventually decided to break up. It was hard and i immediately started begging and asking to reconsider and to give us a chance to work on the issues. I’m worried that I pushed her away with my pleas and I don’t know what to do now.
When did the move happened? Maybe give her time to settle to her new place she recently transferred to. I suggest to stop the begging though, so redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hey brad are these good signs my girlfriend always smiles at me she misses me and my girlfriend and I always hug and hold hands is that a great sign that my girlfriend loves being around me
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB
It is still too much begging and you're invalidating the what would have been positive effects of the no contact rule. And I'm really sorry, but your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/v-deo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
It does not matter if you cheated???? No relationship will or ever be the same!! Move on don’t waste your time?? You will never trust them again!!!!! That’s no way to live!! And another thing if she broke up with you! That means she does not want you!! Why would you want to be with someone that does not want you? So never beg !! Go out and find someone that will appreciate you !!
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
I have to say I agree with you the OP here. Maybe it’s different for guys and girls but how could you get back with a cheater, how could you even look them in the eye or trust them again. On a side note my recent breakup involved a girl who’s lined someone up months in advance of actually chucking me and tbh now I’m into week 3 I’m starting to see this as nearly as bad as cheating. Think they call this an emotional affair. Hoping I can continue to recover and full not want them now 👊
Probably not great, but it totally depends on your situation and how long/serious the relationship was… have you taken my quiz yet? www.BreakupBrad.com/Quiz If you have taken it already, what was your score?
I'm not sure but I find this often happens when UA-cam detects spam / if you wrote too many messages especially if on the same video, it gets automatically labelled as spam.
I broke up with my boyfriend almost 3 month now, and the difficult is we long distance and live difference country. And now bloked me everything in social media. I miss him badly 😢
Sorry, but the circumstances you've described leads to the fact that you may have to move on from this. I suggest you get my Beat the Breakup e-book. I made sure it takes a wholesome approach so everyone can relate to it (including spirituality) and I spent a lot of time writing this and have given it careful thought, so I guarantee you'll find something useful in it to help you out. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
Hey Brad it's me venki who visited your relationship last year after the breakup its is 100% possible to get your ex back
I followed the ways and tips you gave me I worked on myself and achieve my goals one by goal im happy alone now I dont want her but she is coming back to me....
It seems like you played your cards right! Anyway, like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
I'm aproaching winning her back in a more positive way thanks to this video.I doubted her love for me before the breakup until the social media memories started popping up recently.Through teared eyes I can say that she has shown me more true love than I had ever received in my entire relationship history.Neither of us are used to this kind of love,but I believe we can navigate our journey together again someday.
Good. Make sure you don't brush issues under the rug, those that brought that relationship down to its knees need to be addressed when the right time comes. Get my 2.0 version of the Ex Factor Guide if you're not sure what to do next, at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy and/or refer to my other vids for more tips. Good luck!
It all depends on what difficulty setting you're living on. If you're on Easy mode, of course you can get her back. Hell, they're probably still reaching out to you, checking in on you, finding excuses to see you etc. But if you're living on Nightmare mode... there isn't a chance in hell.
On Nightmare mode, not only did she leave you for someone else, but she immediately became cold and emotionless when replying to you.
Notice I said "replying" to you, because she never messages you first. That's because she lost all interest, attraction and feelings for you the moment she met her new man, no matter how many years you spent building a level of trust, love and caring that you thought was infallible.
In the end, no matter how much you trusted her or how strong you thought your bond was, all it took for her to completely lose interest in you and discard your relationship was a hot guy she met 3 days ago.
Hey, Brad! I have been watching a lot of your videos, and it really helped me to see things more clearly while giving me a plan how to win my ex-girlfriend back. I have been doing over one month of no contact after i ended it with my first text message. I got a positive respond so far! I am excited for the possible future and i will keep watching your videos! Thank you for everything and greetings from Germany!
Hey, I'm glad you found it helpful! Thanks for the support… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: ua-cam.com/users/bradbrowning”
I broke no contact she said she moved on in had her new boyfriend text me from her phone in that we will never be together ever again in I haven’t reach out since plus I’m blocked on everything she told me in October she only been with him for two months but she don’t want me at all
Sorry to hear that but since it's been many months, then I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it may be over for good. It's one of the things I've discussed here: ua-cam.com/video/FP8YmErEOW8/v-deo.html and I know how tough that is to hear but I suggest you use this time as an opportunity for you to know yourself better and be strong and eventually happy being alone for a while, yeah? If you're having a hard time and need some support, consider getting my latest e-book "Beat the Breakup" at www.beatmybreakup.com
@@BradBrowning is ok I’ll just move on Brad thanks
@@BradBrowning but you a coach u can’t help at all
@@BradBrowning she just unblocked me today it says I can add her as a friend not going to do that is been months plus she liked my video
12:36 Friendzone Moment. This is true to some degree. Especially if your ex thinks that you probably moved on and accepted such fate, this is situational dependent tho. Hopefully ya'll don't get this. It's the worst. ;-;
This is also why when a breakup happens, I always suggest to go straight to the no contact rule to avoid that trap. Cutting off contact will also let the one that's left behind time to accept what has happened and heal, albeit slowly... which is necessary before you'll be able to be truly ready to be in talking terms again in the future.
I broke NC yesterday after day 8. I apologized for my wrongdoing, and now I'm back to day one. We broke up two weeks ago. Im so/still devastated.
Taking credibility for your own actions is a good feat, just be careful not to overdo it. One sincere apology is usually enough, two max if the offense was grave. However, it's best done before you give space so it won't seem like the apology came out of nowhere or that you didn't care, assuming this was all your fault to begin with. Just try to chill, yeah? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/7PRx8XXmgrU/v-deo.html
I'm in a similar situation, and have been many times before. The most important thing is knowing the difficulty setting you're living life on. If you're on Easy or Normal mode, there's a good chance she'll reach out or want to come back to you. But if you're on Hard or Nightmare difficulty, she's gone man, and nothing will bring her back.
So if she's reaching out, talking to you, or talking in the same way that she used to, you're on Easy/Normal mode. But if she left you for another guy and is cold and callous, never texts first, and seems to care whatsoever about you, then you're on Hard/Nightmare mode and she's gone.
Hi Brad
My ex and I still live together. He ended things just over 2 months ago. At first, he said he was confused a week later said he was done..He works nights so during the week we see each other maybe 1 hour a day. At the beginning he said that he would sleep out on a Friday and a Saturday. He didn’t want to be in the house. So he stays at a friends on Friday, and then on Saturday, he goes to rugby and stays over. He hasn't told any of his friends that we have broken up.
Since then, he has stayed at home on a few Fridays.He even had a week off work and stayed at home every night.
The reason he ended things were I was too controlling, he felt that he wasn't allowed an opinion and that I put him down..Recently, he has agreed to think about the situation/us and will talk. This will be after Christmas. His job is super stressful during December and I know that I have to give him time..He has gone back to saying he feels confused. He can see the changes I have made both physically and mentally.
He doesn't want to sell the house, we have worked out paying the bills jointly.
Any advice on what I can do to get him back. To come to the right decision
Seems like you're going through tumultuous times! A difference in sleep schedules sometimes affect couples but it's not something you can't resolve by talking but you do need to communicate with each other effectively for this to work. How long have you two been in a relationship and living together before this change on his end? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@BradBrowning we have been together 27yrs. He has worked evenings for 22 years.
The reasons he gave for wanting to end things were me being too controlling, that I put him down etc. He never once said he didn't love me anymore.
@BradBrowning I can't afford coaching. We used to make time for each other at the weekend. Goung out for a meal or drinks. Sometimes, due to my lack of self-confidence, I would push him away. I used to think that he would want someone better than me.
Like I mentioned, the issues were that he felt as if his opinion didn't count, that I put him down. He even felt like he couldn't spend his own money. We had a joint bank account. So since the split he has opened a new account. He transfers money towards the bills.
I have said that maybe we should have had separate bank accounts a long time ago.
That moving forward, it's a new chapter that we keep things as they are now.
Do you think that him agreeing to think about us is a positive step? He could have said NO.. He just says he's confused
My ex is unwilling to start a dating relationship again because she felt betrayed when I chose to prioritize the woman I was dating at the time over her at Easter. We weren't married nor were we dating at the time. We were good friends and she knew I was seeing someone else. While I don't believe I acted inappropriately, I do recognize that I took her love for me for granted. I don't see how its possible to change her feelings of betrayal so she'd be willing to give us a second chance.
Yes, there shouldn't be any feelings of betrayal if you two weren't even dating. Let her recognize that on her own. But if you wanted to give it a try, then do your best to show affection back and see if she softens up. Be direct with your intentions and see how she responds and do your best to earn her trust back. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning we didn't really stop doing "dating" type activities until I entered this new relationship. In her heart she felt like we had been "together" the whole time even though I had communicated what I needed to do. I can understand why she feels the way she does. That was 8 months ago and she still gets upset and emotional because of it. She says she's forgiven but she hasn't let it go. 😔
Its weird shes been in a rebound for a few weeks but constantly checks up on my social media even though we no longer follow each other, im still in no contact of course but its just strange to me
It is, but not really. Best to not overthink as she could be doing that out of habit. But if you really want to, I suggest you let her wonder or give her something to wonder about by enjoying your life fully without this ex, yeah? You can leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
My bf of two years was likely having continued relationship with exwife. 3 months no contact- I saw her car at his home.
That sucks. Sorry to hear that. The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
I am on day 4 of no contact with my ex that said she wanted space and a break. She text me at 4 am saying she just hoped my therapy session the previous night went well. Should I respond??
It's too soon to be back in communication with each other again. You can make a quick response such as "thank you." and continue to give her space. Anyway that's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ua-cam.com/video/tev2-lrJq7o/v-deo.html
Update?
hi,
my boyfriend i broke up a month ago and we are still friends. we broke up due to alot of arguments, i still love him and we dated for an year. we were long distance for a bit but we are meeting next month. do u think i still have a chance? he wasnt just my boyfriend but also my best friend.
Hi there! Right off the spot, I usually say to cut off contact for at least a month following the breakup but your case seems to be a little different. Was this meeting pre-planned (before the breakup happened)? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I am in the process of purchasing the Mend the marriage series. But I need someones input on this first. My husband told me that he is done with me and doesnt love me anymore. But this is where it gets a little interesting. He is in the process of purchasing a property with 2 houses on it. He asked me to come with him. I will live in the one house and he in the other. He will cover all expenses for me and the children, whatever we need. I also get 40% of the business. He can't stand this problem but his taking the problem with him. I can't help giggling about this a bit. But yes I do want to save my marriage. I will only go as his wife and nothing else. Can this marriage be safed.
It looks like he does care, to an extent, at least, despite the current state of your marriage, which is always a good thing. What were the issues in your marriage though? Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
I haven't cheated on him but he said that u don't have to make male frds.....but then also I go out with my frds grp....but I haven't told him but I haven't cheated....or done anything on his back....i really love him and he also love me i hope he will come back ....
What's wrong with having male friends? Have you cheated on him with a friend? Trust is an essential component in a relationship and without it, the relationship is pretty much over anyways. This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/plgoMW6GrM8/v-deo.html
Hey Brad, I want to hear your personal opinion about this.
We broke up on bad terms because the relationship started being toxic - push/pull, silent treatment and words thrown around. She was the one that initiated the breakup and that made me plead and beg, which at the time I didn't know would have the opposite effect of what I wanted. It's been 3 months since the breakup and she has been in a new relationship for 2 months now. I did initiate no contact but I was blocked everywhere anyways. We did have a conversation recently about what went wrong and she told me that I'm just not her person even though she did really love me, that she used to feel anger towards me, but now it's loathing and hatred, that I should find someone else and move on, and she hopes I find happiness, that my love suffocated and ruined her.
Based on this is it remotely possible to get her back and is it possible that her perspective of the relationship is twisted in a way?
What was she so angry with you about? You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
@@BradBrowningThanks for the reply!
She has BPD so there's that but I feel like it's more inclined towards NPD. I broke my promise to heal faster from my previous abandonment trauma that's accompanied by trust issues. Became pushy, clingy, obsessive and angrier when I was met with silent treatment, cold shoulders and push/pull. I became someone that I don't know while trying to get another chance and tried some extreme things to do so.
Brad i need advice.
She cheated on me once and we broke up. Now 2 years later she told me her father died and so many bad things happened in her life and now she regret cheating on me. Now she's begging for second chance. Should I give her second chance or she'll cheat again. What does your experience say in this?
give her chance if you still see being with her. the trick for you to not be hurt for the second time is that don't put too much expectation on her. just love her just like how you love her on the first try but more on guard. just go with flow, if the second time didn't work atleast you already have set youtself in a way that make the second time with her meaningless and painless.
It depends on if u can or can't build trust or loyalty with her if u feel like u can pursue it if not move on to the next 🤷🏽♀️🤔
It's a case-to-case basis. Try to observe if she truly regretted her behaviour and if the trust between you two can be rebuilt. Also try to see why the relationship crumbled in the first place. Was one or both of you became complacent during your time together? For some, the relationship comes out stronger while in other cases, it repeats the same pattern especially if the known issues were not addressed the next time around.
Hello Brad.
I have beed with my ex for almost 3 years. My mistake was to think that i will never lose her, and i treated her badly and inmaturely. Then she broke up with me and said thst we both need time to grow up and focus only on us personally, but we can still be friends. She said that she had to change as well. I asked if i were different we could still be together and she said yes. She also said that if time wants we can back again, but its not certain. Do you think it is possible?
This really depends on the issue/s that broke you two up in the first place. Sometimes these differences are too big and you two are simply put, incompatible. So if you do have to make some changes, then do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. On the other hand, if these are changes that you know within yourself that you need to make, then it's important to take time so be sure you aren’t rushing it because permanent, lasting changes don't happen overnight and your ex can actually see through it. Also, pain (that's why your ex dumped you) is a very good teacher and motivator not to mention a huge catalyst, so making these changes within yourself in order for the possibility to come back together stronger and better is what you can expect and you will be able to use this progress if not for your ex, then with someone new. Does that make sense? With that in mind, watch this vid to subtly show these changes to your ex: ua-cam.com/video/bZ1KetALZrc/v-deo.html
Hello Brad ! I m trying to get help to get my husband not to break up ,but he does not want me back ,he says its over between us and currently living with someone else .. we have two kids and i want him back coz i love him so much..
He is not responding to any of my calls or text msgs ! Plz help its been almost 5 months now ..
Really sorry to hear that. How long have you two been married and what were the issues? To be honest, it will be quite tough since he's off with someone else and the process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated and in fact, does NOT make use of the "no contact" rule... but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. But while I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
It's been 3 years now still I cannot forget bout her,thought of getting her back,yeah once she'd call me but where to start
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/v-deo.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
Great video, I know each situation is unique, but she broke up with me because I hurt her feelings twice in 1 week. I hid from 2 people while I was next to her. Poor decisions but I had good reasons but I told her it would never happen again but she doesn't care . She still talks to me at work and sometimes sits next to me. Doesn't show any anger. Is no contact the best way or try and have a grown up conversation which she doesn't want to do, she just says I don't want to talk about it
You ought to describe your dynamic and what the issue was. Are you saying you've never discussed the issue with her while she was still your girlfriend? If it's a recurring issue between you two, then chances are she's done talking about it because she has already brought up the same issue in the past and sees nothing changing. Hence, the need to give her space first as much as you can. Do limited contact instead and keep any conversation you have strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Hey Brad we broke up on 14 October and in the 2 weeks after the breakup we spoke a few times,she was saying that she wants to reconnect in the future but not right now so after that I went no contact to give her space to miss me etc and we haven’t spoke since 30 October and I find out that she removed me from her close friends on instagram yesterday what I should do?(sorry for my bad English,your videos are helping me a lot❤)
Once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
I asked my ex if he still loves me and he answered “no, I’m not” but yesterday after we watched movies he said “I love you to me “ what does it mean? 🥺
This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/DD22EJVvLwY/v-deo.html
It means he's plastered.
My ex broke up with me a few days ago, i love her so much even if it hurts, she said she loves me but not as same as before, how can i get her love back?
What you're describing is most likely a significant loss of attraction. But the good news is my channel is exactly about that and how to regain it. Start with this overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html or better yet, get my 2.0 version of the Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
I was in a relationship with a younger woman shes 23 & im 37 we were friends that ended up in a relationship but b4 we got into the relationship i told her i have a new born on the way in like 5months from a past relationship b4 i met her but ounce my child was born she started acting weird & she started cheating on me for assuming i was going to get back with my kids mother what should i do i really seriously loved her & miss her badly even tho she cheated weve been broken up for going on 2 months almost im lost on how to feel & what to do can anyone give me advice or help on what i should do🙄🤦🏾♂️🤔
She's obviously projecting her insecurities and jealousy to you which is a huge red flag. It's important that you two try to rebuild trust if you want to make this work. Unless you're guilty of what she accused you of, it's best you employ the 30-day no contact rule as there's really nothing to say anymore. This vid is for you, too: ua-cam.com/video/plgoMW6GrM8/v-deo.html
Brad please help me my ex and I do everything couples do but we’re not in a relationship!!! She’s even in a rebound..but doesn’t shy away from us getting back together one day what should I do 🤦🏽♂️
Has there been complete time and space apart between you two after the breakup or did you two went straight into doing that? If it's the latter then that's not good as you're clearly your ex's backup plan and based on what I've mentioned, that's one of the pitfalls you should avoid in the first place. Change the dynamic accordingly!
Me and my ex have broken up 3 times. The last time she regretted and said that wanted to work on us, and now she’s in a rebound all of a sudden. It seems as if every time something bad or stressful happened in her life she would react by breaking up. Fortunately I didn’t do or say anything bad to make her break up. We seemed very happy together. Is there any chance that she can come back? I truly feel like we had something special, and I just feel like she just needs time. Every point points to her coming back
Thoughts?
Nobody breaks up if you're both happy in the relationship. Truth be told, you may be happy but she may be not, for whatever reason. An on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
@@BradBrowning I see, with her she definitely had some of those underlying issues. I just hope we can get back together and work things out. She just seems like she’s locking herself out. I hope she comes back:( thanks coach
Hey Brad could use some of your advice. I helped my ex and her family purchase a home by co signing. She moved an hour away and I was worried I wouldn’t be able to see her as much because I have two jobs and many other responsibilities. She said she’d help me out and make an effort but she didn’t and I started falling back too and when I gave her the same energy I was the bad person. I would ask for simple favors such as meeting me half way for dates and it became a problem. We would argue a lot and she eventually decided to break up. It was hard and i immediately started begging and asking to reconsider and to give us a chance to work on the issues. I’m worried that I pushed her away with my pleas and I don’t know what to do now.
When did the move happened? Maybe give her time to settle to her new place she recently transferred to. I suggest to stop the begging though, so redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning thank you. She moved back in July of this year.
Hey brad are these good signs my girlfriend always smiles at me she misses me and my girlfriend and I always hug and hold hands is that a great sign that my girlfriend loves being around me
You bet!
What if they're in a rebound?
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB
Bro make a video on scrambler technique.
That's something worth considering. Stay tuned! :-)
Is 2 months of begging too much? It wasn’t everyday but every two weeks.
It is still too much begging and you're invalidating the what would have been positive effects of the no contact rule. And I'm really sorry, but your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/v-deo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
nice video Brad
Thanks for the support!
It does not matter if you cheated???? No relationship will or ever be the same!! Move on don’t waste your time?? You will never trust them again!!!!! That’s no way to live!! And another thing if she broke up with you! That means she does not want you!! Why would you want to be with someone that does not want you? So never beg !! Go out and find someone that will appreciate you !!
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
I have to say I agree with you the OP here. Maybe it’s different for guys and girls but how could you get back with a cheater, how could you even look them in the eye or trust them again. On a side note my recent breakup involved a girl who’s lined someone up months in advance of actually chucking me and tbh now I’m into week 3 I’m starting to see this as nearly as bad as cheating. Think they call this an emotional affair. Hoping I can continue to recover and full not want them now
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What are the odds at 7 months?
Probably not great, but it totally depends on your situation and how long/serious the relationship was… have you taken my quiz yet? www.BreakupBrad.com/Quiz
If you have taken it already, what was your score?
why my comment kept getting deleted?
I'm not sure but I find this often happens when UA-cam detects spam / if you wrote too many messages especially if on the same video, it gets automatically labelled as spam.
I broke up with my boyfriend almost 3 month now, and the difficult is we long distance and live difference country. And now bloked me everything in social media. I miss him badly 😢
A long distance relationship most likely never works anyway to b honest that's just my honest opinion 🤷🏽♀️
Sorry, but the circumstances you've described leads to the fact that you may have to move on from this. I suggest you get my Beat the Breakup e-book. I made sure it takes a wholesome approach so everyone can relate to it (including spirituality) and I spent a lot of time writing this and have given it careful thought, so I guarantee you'll find something useful in it to help you out. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com