This was me 3 years ago. I started pushing back, asserting myself, and things got very uncomfortable until she pulled the final discard. It was the beginning of a new life and a lot of changes. The whole process has been very liberating. ✌️
This time I felt what he was doing. My body reacted too. But what he didn't count on was that I started mirroring him instead. But I managed to get physically sick. Managed to turn it around. Left there. But the way back was painful. But it landed in myself. Even so as never to abandon myself again. My body began to react and began to be ready for fight. I felt like Zorro with my transparent sword. You can not take me from me. Stand back. He disappeared but had time to blurt out how disgusting I am. Earlier I had believed everything people told me in these moments. But no more ever. I got myself. And I will never let myself go again.
It all comes back to self-worth. I vividly remember the moments when I realised that my self-worth wounds went down to a primal level, after a brutal discard. I'd been through discards before but didn't have the language about discards, trauma bonds, narcissistic behaviours and gaslighting etc. I was very successful and thought that I just had low self-esteem, but it wasn't affecting my life. When I realised zero self-worth was EVERYWHERE across my life and had been all along and had been operating unseen, it was a huge shock and a long (ongoing) process to work through and resolve. But I'm getting there! I'm sure society is designed to prevent women from getting at these self-worth wounds, because we discover so much power when we do
Thank you this resonated so deeply! For the longest time I could not make sense of the abrubt discard. Maybe I am not as unhealed as I thought. He came on hot and heavy...love bombing, mirroring and future faking the living crap out of me ( did not know that is what is was at the time). Sex was daily and then one time it took me longer than usual and he got in his head about it and the next day he tried to "ban" me and tried to control the amount we would have it. This alerted me and I kind of pulled back to process (I did not give in and say "ok whatever you want") what the heck was going on and next thing I know I am discarded and the next day he has a new person a kid 24 years younger from work spending 24/7 with them. Sadly he is my neighbor so I see everything. They are still together almost 2 years later. I am still triggered by all this...ugh...although I am in therapy and do my daily spiritual practices to heal.
I've succeeded with 2 discards, both were followed by hoovering attempts, one was ridiculously stretched out for months by her refusing to let me pay her the money I owed her. 🙄🙃 I've still got 3 or 4 of these in my life where I have no desire for them to be. I also sometimes get grabbed on the arm where part of my wounding is, by rando women in the community who want to control me. I've responded in different ways to that depending on what's happening. It's going to be a minute, but the emotional imprint is healing and clearing....one day at a time. :)
You know you sign to some music college and your professor have a speech "" Don't you get it when you sign in to some orientation (A 1)my authority is abpurposal (A 2)?"
“If you are being discarded, it means you’re becoming empowered” 🙌🏾
This was me 3 years ago. I started pushing back, asserting myself, and things got very uncomfortable until she pulled the final discard. It was the beginning of a new life and a lot of changes. The whole process has been very liberating. ✌️
Yes the “terrible 2’s” is actually the initiation of your own free will ✨
This time I felt what he was doing. My body reacted too. But what he didn't count on was that I started mirroring him instead. But I managed to get physically sick. Managed to turn it around. Left there. But the way back was painful. But it landed in myself. Even so as never to abandon myself again. My body began to react and began to be ready for fight. I felt like Zorro with my transparent sword. You can not take me from me. Stand back. He disappeared but had time to blurt out how disgusting I am. Earlier I had believed everything people told me in these moments. But no more ever. I got myself. And I will never let myself go again.
When people leave learn to let them go
Amen 🙏🏻
It all comes back to self-worth. I vividly remember the moments when I realised that my self-worth wounds went down to a primal level, after a brutal discard. I'd been through discards before but didn't have the language about discards, trauma bonds, narcissistic behaviours and gaslighting etc. I was very successful and thought that I just had low self-esteem, but it wasn't affecting my life. When I realised zero self-worth was EVERYWHERE across my life and had been all along and had been operating unseen, it was a huge shock and a long (ongoing) process to work through and resolve. But I'm getting there! I'm sure society is designed to prevent women from getting at these self-worth wounds, because we discover so much power when we do
Yes I have a course called I AM WORTHY that follows it back to the original wound
I am not what i attract i am what i entertain. Whoov that hit home. Coming from you i can hundred percent believe it.
I missed that line! Thank you 🙏🏻 Oof!
Lets stop allowing it and walk off sooner
It comes a point where you can’t stand the bulls* whatever the consequence is going to be.
Thank you this resonated so deeply! For the longest time I could not make sense of the abrubt discard. Maybe I am not as unhealed as I thought. He came on hot and heavy...love bombing, mirroring and future faking the living crap out of me ( did not know that is what is was at the time). Sex was daily and then one time it took me longer than usual and he got in his head about it and the next day he tried to "ban" me and tried to control the amount we would have it. This alerted me and I kind of pulled back to process (I did not give in and say "ok whatever you want") what the heck was going on and next thing I know I am discarded and the next day he has a new person a kid 24 years younger from work spending 24/7 with them. Sadly he is my neighbor so I see everything. They are still together almost 2 years later. I am still triggered by all this...ugh...although I am in therapy and do my daily spiritual practices to heal.
Thank you, perfect timing for this, thank you!
Love it! I’m so glad ✨
Absolutely breathtaking! Your content takes my breath away
I've succeeded with 2 discards, both were followed by hoovering attempts, one was ridiculously stretched out for months by her refusing to let me pay her the money I owed her. 🙄🙃 I've still got 3 or 4 of these in my life where I have no desire for them to be. I also sometimes get grabbed on the arm where part of my wounding is, by rando women in the community who want to control me. I've responded in different ways to that depending on what's happening. It's going to be a minute, but the emotional imprint is healing and clearing....one day at a time. :)
Good for you! Let's heal!
Beautiful!!! ✨
Love your videos, its very educative, and free
Thank you so much! I appreciate it
Brilliant.
You know you sign to some music college and your professor have a speech "" Don't you get it when you sign in to some orientation (A 1)my authority is abpurposal (A 2)?"