20 things we learned in our 20s!
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- Опубліковано 21 лют 2023
- Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, and Paloma Malfavon reflected on lessons they’ve learned so far navigating their twenties.
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Twenty Whatever features Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, and Paloma Malfavon talking candidly about navigating your 20's with your friends through different phases of life. (formerly Sierra Unfiltered)
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Sierra dropping gems at the beginning of the pod: don’t let your boyfriend stop you from finding your husband 😤😂❤️
Facts! Similar thing happened to me too😂😂
Lol! I so wish I heard this sooner 😂
Literally thought of that too
100k idea… Twenty whatever musical but instead of theater it’s all the old iconic music videos we grew up loving but your version! 😂❤ idk I would just love to see a medley mashup of you three re doing things we loved growing up 🫶 (edit as I continued watching, Sierra that message YES YES YES! I feel the exact same and it feels so good to hear someone talk about it. Thank you for speaking on it, I’m right there with you!)
Would love to see a follow up episode of: Things we are still learning in our 20s (or things we want to learn in our 20s)
Yes!!
I know it’s hard to talk about religion on a platform where that isn’t your niche, but I just wanted to say that the conversation that you guys had brought me great comfort as a progressive believer who sometimes feels isolated ❤
Genuine question… what exactly do you mean by progressive believer?
@@kkaayyllaaf I believe in God and am a follower of Jesus and have progressive/lgbt affirming beliefs
@@catherinegonzales9544 How are you a follower of Jesus but believe in things He is explicitly against? I think there are aspects of the Bible that we kind of have to read between the lines, but other topics He is pretty clear on.
@@kkaayyllaaf Do you not realize that what you just said is exactly the conversation that Sierra was talking about?
Cook off!!! With the partners being the judges - would be so funny!! CHOP style where the partners get to go to the store and grab mystery ingredients and you guys have to utilize them!!
Changing your opinion when being presented with new evidence is called having intellectual humility. This is a new topic being researched in psychology right now! Love to hear you guys giving this as good advice 💗💗💗
I teach 2nd grade. When my kids say something hurtful about themselves, I say, "Are you picking on my friend? I don't let ANYBODY talk to my friends like that. Not even if you're the one saying it."
This is really sweet
my biggest lesson in my 20’s so far (as a recovering people pleaser lol): no is a complete sentence. you don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you can’t or won’t do something for them.
The end actually made me really emotional. At this moment I’m in the kitchen of my first house that I bought two months ago. Cooking dinner for my bf and I with the pans my incredibly loving boyfriend bought me for Christmas and my new kitten is weaving between my legs because he wants more cuddles. Definition of you’ll miss this one day.
It's a bigger pizza party request.. but maybe launch twenty whatever merch? :) LOVE THIS PODCAST THOUGH!
Here me out... podcast merch WITH A PIZZA ON IT
Yessssss
Yessssss
Yessss podcast merch
Riayn talking about being your authentic self with your family really resonates with me...I haven't told my parents I'm bisexual yet or that I'm no longer religious
Sierra, PREACH on the religious point!!!! It’s about a relationship. I’m also 27 and learned this after a traumatic pregnancy at 22. So crazy that our experiences are so similar. Love this podcast, wednesdays are my fav ❤️ xoxo
Hearing you girls talk about being grateful for what your bodies can do really touched me today. I am in the process of getting a diagnosis that drastically changes the ways I’m able to do things, but I still CAN do things. This perspective helped remind me to not be mad at my body for what I can’t do right now, but to be thankful for what I can!! Love you ladies and am so hopeful that you reach your goal for the year!! 💕
I listened/watched this while deep cleaning my bathroom because I really didn’t want to do it, but my mom told me too. So thank you for this episode because when I tell you it turned my mood 180 degrees I mean it. I started off irritated and ended the cleaning and the podcast feeling really grateful that I have the mobility in my body and the fortune to be able to HAVE a bathroom to clean! I always feel better after listening to your guys’ podcast love ya!!❤️🧡💗
I think for 100k we should do a random subscriber guest obviously there would be some qualifications or a live would be really cool too. I would fly to San Deigo for a live w/ meet&greet!😍
The part about being on your own timeline hit too hard. I’ve been crying all week about feeling behind in life as a 27 year old. And I needed that 😭❤
Yes take in the moments. I am a mid forties gal and this was so sweet to listen to. I have so many fond memories of my 20's pre kid time, and my 30's with my girlies and early motherhood. Now in my forties as I am nearing the part of motherhood where my oldest leaves is bitter sweet. Hang on to the moments. Friends you love will one day move away or pass away. Your kids will grow up and move away. Things change so much faster than you think. The days are long and the years are short. Hold on to the moments. Take the photos and videos of all of your loved one. Tell them you love them.
I love you guys and this podcast so much! I never comment but I’ve been watching sierra since middle school and she is so much of the reason why I got out of disordered eating habits and learned to love my body. I’m now a senior in high school about to turn 18 and this video in particular meant so much to me. Especially the part talking about cringe, because I have had to let go of a lot of people who used cringe as a way to hurt especially once I found out I was autistic and began to stop masking. All of this to say that you three are really making a difference to people and I’m happy in myself because of the positivity and love you give.
although I watch you guys every week, this was I think my favorite podcast of yours to watch! every one of them spoke out to me so much and are lessons that I am going to try to incorporate in my daily life! Literally about to go share this with all my friends I love it!
I love this podcast so much! It's just so real and genuine. Something that really hit home was appreciating just everyday things. My dog just suffered from a stroke and is unable to move. I hope he recovers in the 6 month period because I took for granted all the normal dog things he could do such as pick is head up or bark.
honestly this video couldn’t have come at a better time. i’m really struggling right now and this felt like the advice i just needed to hear. 💗
The religious talk hit hard! That helped me so much, knowing I’m not alone ❤
Ooooo I have two.
1. Everyone posts the positive high lights of their life on social media. Rarely do they post their lows, insecurities, or set backs. When you feel like everyone is "ahead" just remember that we are all struggling with something and just like you didn't post about not getting into your dream school, someone else may not be posting about their dream internship.
2. Live for you - not for the Gram. Live life to bring you joy, excitement and not for the number of likes you recieve on social media. And remember that it's ok to keep somethings just for you. Actually, undersharing is preferable because then you genuinely have something to talk about the next time you see someone in person.
I love you guys! A meet & greet photo up would be great but, also like a virtual addition for ppl who can’t travel.
Thank you for the reminder to be present! My 10 month old and I are both sick which is literally a nightmare but I’m allowing myself to be thankful that I can still play with her and make memories ❤️
Such an amazing episode! All the lessons were so relevant to me as I navigate my 20s looking forward to using all of them to make the most out of my 20s and beyond!
As I’m listening I’m unpacking boxes in my new home, moving in with my boyfriend and his kids, 6 months pregnant at age 43, starting a new life I wasn’t expecting, grateful for my life and for the wise insights you all had in today’s episode.
I think you should have some subscribers join the podcast via zoom and be included in the conversations when you hit 100,000 subscribers
This ‼️‼️‼️ the retreat podcast was a top tier podcast, would be SO much fun to see it with the community ❤
This was so nice, thanks for sharing ☺️
It was so nice to take it all in, I'm currently quarantining with COVID with my boyfriend in our apartment at home and cooking for him. We are atm both studying abroad in different cities, but "luckily" became sick while we were home. Made me realized how grateful I am and how I am going to remember our first apartment etc. ❤️
Sierra,
I hope this doesn’t come off wrong, but I think a LOT of people would benefit from hearing your opinions on God/religion. I know I would because you sound exactly how I feel. I think us younger people need to speak up about it because we were raised in a time where “religion” was what was followed, but now we just want “relationship”.
Oh my goodness. This episode is absolutely amazing, you guys are amazing. Thank you for sharing your insights. Definitely will be watching this episode again and again 🫶🏼
When Jess said that rest is hard as a people pleaser because it is one of the things you cannot do for anyone else I felt called out but needed to hear that. Being able to put yourself first and listen to your body and mind is definitely a lesson I am still working on in my early 30s. And it is something I will continue to work on for the rest of my life because I deserve to have a day off to recharge and not feel guilty. I deserve to feel worthy enough to take a break. I love these poignant conversations that make you think and make you reevaluate. So looking forward to more here in 2023!
Paloma is so wise and well spoken
She kept hitting and hitting with the words of wisdom
This was amazing! Paloma’s last one i learned in. Therapy and it is a game changer! Also I will take all of these with stride! Thank you ladies!
Listening to the podcast, while doing an essay with a candle and a cup of tea. Loved this episode so much
This was a fantastic episode!! I’m the same age as you all, so it’s a nice moment of reflection to look back at how crazy my 20s have been and how far I’ve come and how far I have to go. My acceptance for my body only came about because of watching Sierra for the last 6 years!!
One of the things I’ve learnt over the years is that life isn’t short - it’s the longest thing you’ll ever do. It helps me to remember that I have time and I don’t have to cram a whole lifetime into my 20s because my life is then over. It’s hard for me because I also catastrophise and say “WELL I COULD DIE TOMORROW”, but life was still the longest thing I ever did 😅 and be okay with yourself because you have to live with yourself the longest (which you guys did talk about). Anyway, off to be sentimental and existential 😂❤
Listening to this was really helpful for me today. I’m currently navigating my 20s and having some extra bits of wisdom on how to do it really helped me feel better :)
I have been trying to understand my own journey with religion over the past couple of months after being diagnosed with cancer at 28. Y’all’s talk really as summarized how I feel ❤ So thank you for that 😊
This episode is particularly giving save and share with all your friends.
*I’m fan of all the podcast episodes but like… life lessons! 💎 🙌🏾💕
Listening to the end of the podcast & taking in this moment. In this moment I am currently watching my new 12 week old puppy wrestle, play and have a grand ol time with the 3-level-ball-tower cat toy thing. It’s the cutest thing ever. And I’m savoring every second 💖 thanks for this safe space yall are creating, truly 🎉
This was such a great episode!! So authentic and refreshing. And thank you for speaking on religion and spirituality in this way, it was so healing for me to hear. ❤
Happy Wednesday happy podcast day! I’ve been sitting in bed all day really tired and with a really bad headache but every Wednesday I’ve made a habit to make lunch while I watch the podcast and I haven’t eaten yet today and I’m making myself get up now cause this is my lunch/ clean the kitchen time. I might eat pasta or make pizza
i absolutely loved sierras segment on religion. as a queer POC who was raised Catholic, i really dislike organized religion. and realizing that i could still have a relationship with God and still have faith in a higher power and also completely disassociate from the capital C Church was world shattering.
How about a live podcast when you hit 100.000? Although I live in Europe and probably could not come that would be nice! :)
Ok, Sierra, what you said about going to therapy consistently...hit hard. Because I almost feel guilty when I'm feeling better and not being desperate for help.
Being 26 almost 27 this hits home. I love this episode or whatever you call it. I can relate to all of these. I’m still “learning” and experiencing life.
So many great moments that I loved and agreed with, but I really want to say that I love that at the end Sierra said “I value you,” which was followed up with I love you. People can say they love you but not value you (because how can you really love someone if you don’t value them?) so find people, friends and partners, who do both!
Thanks for sharing this energy with us
I feel like the time of me and my girls is gone. I use your podcast as a way to get cope with that. I love you guys ❤
So much wisdom in this episode. Thank you ladies
Manifesting 100K for you ladies and more!! You deserve all the opportunities and success!! I'm also in a huge manifestation period for myself. I opened my own business that isn't self sustaining yet so I have to work a night job in addition to working all day at my business and I'm tired. But manifesting success and being able to quit my second job soon! All the positive vibes and abundance to us. 🥰
Totally loved Sierra's comment that something good could be happening outside your control. Hit me like a bus cuz I also try to control everything!
Also Riayn, girl, when you said when you go home and just show a little bit more of yourself every time. 🙌🏽 I am in the situation Sierra mentioned where I'm completely different than the image I present for my family and it SUCKS! I hate it. I've talked about this so much in therapy. But I have started showing little bits and, well it's never well received - my family is extremely judgemental and don't think you should ever change your opinion on things. But I do what I can, acknowledge I can't change them, that's not my responsibility, and just got to another room if they're making me uncomfortable.
And to end my long comment 😅, right now I was listening to this at my 2nd job as a custodian so I'm feeling itchy pants, smelling cleaner, and hearing the keys jingle on my belt. 😆 But soon I'll be able to leave. MANIFESTING!! ❤
I want fan fiction for 100k! And I saw other comments asking for a musical. Also excited for that idea. ☺️
I always say my 20s were like a second puberty! I learned and grew so much as a person, by the time I hit 30 I was so different to who I was when I was 20. But in the best way! I feel more sure of myself now in my early 30s, but I’ll always still be learning new things about myself. And I think it’s great!
I'm feeling very thankful for the friends I have. I've been going through a rough patch with it being the reunion of losing my grandpa and reached out to friends and they have been sending me cute dog photos and making plans to see me soon even though I live hours away from some of them.
So I work in housekeeping in a retirement community so when you guys instructed us to take in our surroundings with touch sight and smell, I was currently gloved up tying nasty kitchen aprons from the night before, so I respectfully did not participate, but I loved this episode, and I will be relistening to take notes!!
Haven’t kept up on the podcast and omg I’d love if you guys did a live show for your 100k goal! I live in Iowa and would make the goal to go!! I’ve watched Sierra for 6 years and I’m 24! And I never have felt like I could relate to another group of friends like I do you guys!! ❤
Sorry ladies, I didn’t hit the subscribe button today… but only because I subscribed from DAY ONE!!! ❤ Love this podcast and you three! 🥰
You are 100% correct when you say that to be a Christian you don't need to be a part of an organized religion... you don't need to go to church... you are still a Christian. That being said, there are also dozens and dozens of different types of organized Christian religion... it's not Catholic or nothing. There are tons of different synods and churches that believe exactly what you're saying.. that all are welcome.. that there aren't "rules"... that we just need to love God and love others. I encourage you to check out another TYPE of church.. non-denominational, Free churches, Lutheran churches, lots of protestant churches believe those things. I've been raised ELCA Lutheran my whole life... woman can be pastors, LGBTQ are openly welcome, ALL are welcome who believe in God no matter who you are. Just remember... it's not Catholic or nothing... there are churches that believe exactly what you're saying you believe...
I know someone else said this too but I would LOVE a part two for this episode❤️❤️
Nothing to add just love you girls and loving the pod!❤😊
You can have a bad moment but doesnt mean its got to be a bad day. / if you can tell something to your mom or bestie you should never tell yourself that thing. / everytime you say something or thing something bad about yourself you have to tell yourself 3 positif thing about yourself to decrease the effect of the negative... ok i thing i am done. It was a really good episode. i am not feeling super good right now, having panick attack everyday in my job but you just make me smile and relax thank you. Having you as online friend that i can listen, cause yeah at this point you dont me but i feel like everyone in this team will be my friend easily cause you are all stunning, incredible, awesome, happy, goofy, and theater kid and adults, thank you so much for being you thanks girls.
honestly needed the message "my relationship with God is just that. MY relationship". seeing family soon and I will definitely be using that
Just entered my 20s last month and I’ve been WAITING for this video!
As a Sierra Unfiltered: Live attendee, I vote another live show… def worth a trip from Indiana again! ❤❤
The control thing reminds me of the Serenity Prayer "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
I love the living in the moment advice, but what I experience during special moments is like the opposite? Like I’m loving the moment so much that I start thinking oh no this is gonna be over soon you better take it all in and then I’m sad before it’s even over!
The mental picture where you say "click" and get to see it in heaven reminds me of the Cam Jensen short kid novels I read as a kid. They were mystery solving novels where the main character was named Cam and her super power was saying "click" and blinking to save a mental photo of clues.
You guys HAVE to get matching tattoos when you hit 100k! But I’d also be down for a live show (maybe in the bay area please??) 😁
A live show would be so fun!!
This conversation was so amazing ❤
Currently taking in Party prepping for my two kiddos who’s party is tomorrow. 7 Year old - Nerf gun party. Two Sweet for our little girl….as exhausted as I am. Listening to you guys has just made me realize I’m creating the magic for them and these will all be sweet memories. No matter how tired I am. ❤ 😊
Y'all will get to 100k!! Share share share! Pizza Party idea: Y'all have a live pizza party where we ask questions that Jess reads to you!
You guys are just my favorite. I want you to do a meet & greet!!!
My mental image right now is my puppies sleeping under my desk, coffee on my desk and my husband working in his office across the hall. So thankful ❤
Did anyone take notes? Some of this I've already put in place with my life, but other things I want to remember and put forward ❤️ amazing conversation, I felt so deeply connected to it. As someone living alone abroad, having a group of girls my age with my accent is a huge comfort. Hopefully soon I can find my own 20 whatever girls of my own.
This made me want to write down the things I have learned in my twenties!
I will be returning to this episode very often. What I am taking in presently is my beloved dog sleeping right next to me. It's snowing outside. I'm eating dried mango which is my favorite snack right now. I am looking at a stuffed animal my mom got me. I'm on the orange couch that's so soft that my mom reupholstered for me. The dishwasher is running.
This is possibly my favourite episode you ladies have done! So many important truths! 😊
Also a special thank you for your honest and candid comments re: belief. I have very similar views (liberal/progressive) and it’s so comforting to know that I am not alone in that. Sometimes it feels like you don’t fit with the “group” - but ultimately it’s not ABOUT that. So good!
A live show would be awesome. I am trying to remember to slow down and enjoy my 1 year old and 5 month old.
I remember sierra starting main channel videos to “subscribe we’re on the longggg road to a million subscribers” and we crushed it. OMG twenty whatever live show!!!
I’m not in my 20s yet but something I learned within the past few years is “your hobbies/interests are for your enjoyment. Don’t fear how your perceived or base your value on the things you enjoy” for example I love muppets, puppetry is one of my favorite things and I watch children’s puppetry shows quite often. I was always embarrassed to admit that I’d watch shows like Bear in the Big Blue House and Sesame Street as an older teen/adult because of how I would be perceived, but within the past year, I’ve gained a “who gives a fuck” mentality. It’s something that makes me happy, it’s something that is a big and important part of my life and has honestly helped me form my personality, and if other people think that’s childish or stupid, who gives a fuck?! It makes me happy, and that’s all that matters. Coloring? Makes me happy. You don’t like it? You think it’s dumb? Who gives a fuck?! My life my rules my happiness. Point blank period.
Sierra, thank you for what you said about religion. I’ve always struggled with the dichotomy of myself- Loving science, religion, gay & women’s rights
as an agnostic believer who was raised in a devoted Christian household (Australian)- I just wanted to say that I really appreciated the way you all discussed and conversed about your religious beliefs. I can find it to be uncomfortable majority of the time when religion is mentioned in the media I consume (on instagram/youtube etc) but I did not feel that in any way when I listened to this podcast. Although we follow different faiths, I do not feel as though that is something that has excluded me from relating to your experiences or is excluding me from the content. I just had to point out that I think this was done really well :)
100k subscribers party, please host another live show. I’d love to come and see y’all in person 🤍
I didn’t even realize I wasn’t subscribed!!!!! Hit that button immediately!
If you guys do a live show to hit 100k I will FLY from Michigan so fast
I just turned 24 and this podcast was exactly what I needed to hear today 💕💕
Favorite podcast ever we love the girlies ❤❤❤
Literally was about to say live show then Sierra said it 😂
100,000 would be great! Also advocating for a plaque for Jes (sp? Jess?)
i would like a full musical production 🥰 live performance and streamed on the channel!
26:40 Sierra I totally relate with you about religion!! Youre not alone! 100% agree with u
I completely agree with the religion one. In this past year I have grown so much closer to god but it look’s completely different then it used to when I went to church every week and did “typical” Christian things. I know that my relationship with god is special and that I love him and he loves me and that is exactly that! I don’t need to prove my love by going to church!
TWENTY WHATEVER LIVE OMGGGG I WANTT ITTT
Lawddd, y’all learned way more in your 20’s than I did lol 😂
Loved this so much, I turned 30 this year and have truly never reflected so much on my life and definitely wrote this all down ❤❤❤
I met my husband when I was working at Burger King in college and he came through the drive thru one day. Allowing things to happen the way they’re supposed to happen, it is wild to think about how life turns out!
The beginning don’t let your boyfriend stop you from finding your husband. I feel that on a person level. I met my husband my senior year of high school he was a junior. I was dating a friend from middle school and befriended my husband. Me and the guy broke up we were compatible friends but not romantic. Well semi shortly after the break up my husband and I started dating. DON’T LET YOUR BOYFRIEND STOP YOU FROM FINDING YOUR HUSBAND.❤❤❤
Sierra I thought I was on my own with my feelings on the religion/relationship with God!!!! Thank you for saying it out loud! ♥️
100k idea - meet up/ tour!!
The religion talk hit me hard! I’ve grown up in the Baptist church as well as the Pentecostal church, and I’ve battled for years trying to decide if I believe in God or not. Mainly due to childhood trauma, I’ve converted to eclectic paganism because their beliefs alogn much better with my personal beliefs.