I will admit, however, that some people get weird with the entire thing and it becomes a competition of who is mote trad as opposed to living out the role of a good mum and wife.
I got here from the feminist side of UA-cam. Their main argument against tradwife aesthetics is financial. Even if you don’t work you need your own bank account and part of husbands paycheck direct deposited to it. Even if you never have to use the Emergency Fund it’s better to have it than not; it makes your husband consider that you staying is a choice so he’ll be on better behavior. Anyway your skin is gorgeous! 😮 goals for myself lol!
I think having back ups is important 100%. But I would never marry someone I don’t trust either. I just think it’s a shame to tell women like me that my husband is going to die or he’ll leave and therefore that’s why you need a backup. A woman who works, and goes 50/50 with her partner is in as much danger, especially in scenarios where the mortgage is based off both incomes. Women are resilient, and when put in hard spots they figure it out and do what they can in the situation. Thank you for your compliment 🫶🏻
@@Thatjoyfilledhome I don't actually worry about him leaving it's getting hurt at work. I don't think anyone who hasn't worked alongside side men realize just how many things can go wrong no matter what and each are life changing. Careless for a moment a lifetime with the blues is a decades old saying in construction for a reason 😢I can do anything for the house outside of the main electrical panel so if he ever got hurt I'd be able to take care of everything just like I did for myself before I took on house roles. I live very modestly so I don't need a piece of his pay or anything hehe ❤ my car gets 60 miles for 7$ and no payments. It's extremely important to remember that even though he is the sun and the moon of your life he's not immortal and you must be able to take over if he gets hurt 🥺❤️
I think people are entitled to live how they want to live, but like every effort to be "traditional", unfortunately that time in tbe past is gone. Nothing you do will ever be "traditional". The fact that you have a youtube channel where you are communicating what you want to say, because you have that freedom to do so, is not traditional
@@dijahsyoutubechannel the premise of the above commenter is that because I have social media, therefore I’m not traditional because women in times past didn’t have internet to social media. My refutation was that women have always used whatever technology was available to them. Hence why their premise isn’t true. I’m not referencing having access to technology
Essay ahead: Nuianse involved. The problem, for me, is two fold. 1. This ideology assigns cooking and cleaning as feminine traits, instead of seeing them as something that is necessary or nice for the family from someone regardless of gender. You wouldn't say a "trad husband" does the same things as you, showing that the work is inherently divided by gender. This, by extension, means that: 2. The idea that you are serving god or "being good" to your family as a woman, specifically, by doing these "womanly" things sometimes silently and sometimes not so silently pushes the idea that by not doing these things, you are not serving god/"being good" for your family the correct way as your gender dictates. If there is "woman's work" and "man's work," then women are seen as less of a woman when they do "man's work." And vice versa.
I def agree with the first point that it is wrong to portray these as feminine traits. They are life skills for all people which is why I intend to teach all my children the basics. I do disagree however with the idea that God has not ordained natures of men and women. Women naturally are oriented to these tasks, are more nurturing etc. My calling a woman of God is to oversee my home, but that doesn’t mean one is bound to the home, just that it is our responsibility to steward it properly
Very well said. I will say that it's just a fact that homecooked meals in general are likely going to be healthier (if not less costly) than anything you just buy at the grocery store already cooked. So it is technically a higher standard whether we like it or not.
The whole "cosplay" accusation is interesting to anyone that follows Johnathon Pageau or Paul Vanderklay. Is a cathedral cosplay? Is wearing your Sunday best to Church cosplay? Alley Beth Stucky's critique struck me as very modernist because it seeks to separate the aesthetic of something from the thing itself (whatever that is). Perhaps that's how we ended up with such ugly cities, by separating form and function and thinking things would still work out the same.
I love Allie so much but, the sentiment reminds me of modesty arguments and, some people's insistence that it's the heart that matters, forgetting that the outward is, more often than not, a representation of the inward. The tradwife aesthetic is simply a representation of the yearning that a lot of women have for a simpler time when society acknowledged the significance of "womanly work" and, concentrated it's efforts on the home front. If we can bring back even a little bit of that sentiment..... Also, the dresses are cute and fairly modest. An absolute sweet spot for many Christian and, non Christian women, who are into modest styling.
What law was passed forbidding women to stay at home with the kids....? When were you told you weren't allowed? Funny that mother's who go to work are shamed more than women who stay home..... But yea. Sure. Keep your delusion. Also, women. Have. Always. Worked. Outside. The. Home. Sorry you fell for 50's propaganda that was actively trying to bring women back home from the factory jobs they took up in the war.
@@Nopee906 This isn't about laws and, of course women have always worked outside the home. However, my point was that housework and typical wife duties have been devalued due to a combination of technological advancements making work easier to the general push towards the knowledge economy. I understand your gripe and, I am absolutely not in the business of shaming working women but, it's dishonest to pretend that there isn't a lot less appreciation for homemakers in mainstream society.
@@theyellowleaflassie5757I do agree that homemaking is devalued, but I don't think homemaking was ever valued as much as it should be. Homemaking was delegated to women historically because women have been considered weaker historically, which is ridiculous, because taking care of the home (and children, if there are any) is hard work. That has never really been acknowledged.
What I feel about the Trad wife movement is nothing but love. However, I will say there are a few content creators that I actually have seen that make comments like "I'm so glad that I'm a tradwife so my husband can make all the decisions so I don't have to think." That is literally out there. But overall, they are few and far between the wholesome authentic ones. I speak this as aChristian woman, but God gave us free will and the power to choose and often times other people want to gate-keep because of a deep rooted insecurity and you touched on this subject briefly. But if someone is triggered by a content creator and their tradwife aesthetic and choices, they need to look deep within themselves to see the insecurity that is triggering this anger/hate/judgemental comments. Immaturity and insecurity runs rampant with this discussion especially when someone wants to gate-keep others with very judgmental words. I wish more people would just let people, be people.
I’m not sure what is wrong with saying “I’m glad my husband is making all the decisions”. I guess it might strake some women as “oh, man is taking all power. You should be free and do everything yourself”. But personally… I’m so anxious that I prefer when someone is deciding on my behalf. When it’s something big lie moving states for example
@@ekaterinalysykh4161Because married couples should make big decisions together. Both members of the couple should have input. I get not liking making decisions - I am also very anxious and don't like making decisions, but it's unfair to both members of a couple if all the decisions fall on one person.
but how is it unfair if one person doesn’t want to make a decision and another person likes doing it and is comfortable doing it? Only in this specific scenario. I get that if both have an input then it’s unfair. In my view, in a healthy couple, when man (or woman) is the decisive and dominant figure, they understand that power comes with responsibility. They don’t just decide and announce that decision. At least in my case he decides, presents me with an option and we see if I’m comfortable with it. I’m comfortable with most things anyway. But if I’m totally against something, we don’t do it. I fail to see how this particular thing is a problem when one likes to do what the other doesn’t. It’s like saying “both should file taxes manually, instead of one person doing it for both. Even though one is great at it and looooves filing taxes and another hates doing it”
Insecurity? No income in case of divorce? Not even have access to an account to pay for a lawyer? Not developing other competencies outside of home if the marriage comes to an end Yeah insecurity of being financially dependent seems legitimate don’t you think?
@@ekaterinalysykh4161 But that is making decisions together. Maybe he is coming up with options, but then he is presenting it to you, and you are deciding together if it's something you both want to do. If he was making all the decisions, he wouldn't be asking for your input, or even if he did, what he decided would be what happened regardless of whether you were comfortable or not. Sure, it's a more passive way of participating in making the decisions for your family (and that's ok!), but you are participating. Give yourself a little more credit. 😀
I will admit, however, that some people get weird with the entire thing and it becomes a competition of who is mote trad as opposed to living out the role of a good mum and wife.
I got here from the feminist side of UA-cam. Their main argument against tradwife aesthetics is financial. Even if you don’t work you need your own bank account and part of husbands paycheck direct deposited to it. Even if you never have to use the Emergency Fund it’s better to have it than not; it makes your husband consider that you staying is a choice so he’ll be on better behavior. Anyway your skin is gorgeous! 😮 goals for myself lol!
I think having back ups is important 100%. But I would never marry someone I don’t trust either. I just think it’s a shame to tell women like me that my husband is going to die or he’ll leave and therefore that’s why you need a backup. A woman who works, and goes 50/50 with her partner is in as much danger, especially in scenarios where the mortgage is based off both incomes. Women are resilient, and when put in hard spots they figure it out and do what they can in the situation. Thank you for your compliment 🫶🏻
@@Thatjoyfilledhome I don't actually worry about him leaving it's getting hurt at work. I don't think anyone who hasn't worked alongside side men realize just how many things can go wrong no matter what and each are life changing. Careless for a moment a lifetime with the blues is a decades old saying in construction for a reason 😢I can do anything for the house outside of the main electrical panel so if he ever got hurt I'd be able to take care of everything just like I did for myself before I took on house roles. I live very modestly so I don't need a piece of his pay or anything hehe ❤ my car gets 60 miles for 7$ and no payments. It's extremely important to remember that even though he is the sun and the moon of your life he's not immortal and you must be able to take over if he gets hurt 🥺❤️
I think people are entitled to live how they want to live, but like every effort to be "traditional", unfortunately that time in tbe past is gone. Nothing you do will ever be "traditional". The fact that you have a youtube channel where you are communicating what you want to say, because you have that freedom to do so, is not traditional
Women have always used whatever technology they had available to them, so what you are saying simply isn’t true
@@Thatjoyfilledhome women haven't always had equal access to technology though...
@@dijahsyoutubechannel no one is saying they have
@@Thatjoyfilledhome im sorry ??? did i miss the entire point of your above comment ????
@@dijahsyoutubechannel the premise of the above commenter is that because I have social media, therefore I’m not traditional because women in times past didn’t have internet to social media. My refutation was that women have always used whatever technology was available to them. Hence why their premise isn’t true. I’m not referencing having access to technology
Essay ahead: Nuianse involved.
The problem, for me, is two fold.
1. This ideology assigns cooking and cleaning as feminine traits, instead of seeing them as something that is necessary or nice for the family from someone regardless of gender. You wouldn't say a "trad husband" does the same things as you, showing that the work is inherently divided by gender. This, by extension, means that:
2. The idea that you are serving god or "being good" to your family as a woman, specifically, by doing these "womanly" things sometimes silently and sometimes not so silently pushes the idea that by not doing these things, you are not serving god/"being good" for your family the correct way as your gender dictates. If there is "woman's work" and "man's work," then women are seen as less of a woman when they do "man's work." And vice versa.
I def agree with the first point that it is wrong to portray these as feminine traits. They are life skills for all people which is why I intend to teach all my children the basics.
I do disagree however with the idea that God has not ordained natures of men and women. Women naturally are oriented to these tasks, are more nurturing etc. My calling a woman of God is to oversee my home, but that doesn’t mean one is bound to the home, just that it is our responsibility to steward it properly
Very well said. I will say that it's just a fact that homecooked meals in general are likely going to be healthier (if not less costly) than anything you just buy at the grocery store already cooked. So it is technically a higher standard whether we like it or not.
We need more long youtube videos❤
The whole "cosplay" accusation is interesting to anyone that follows Johnathon Pageau or Paul Vanderklay. Is a cathedral cosplay? Is wearing your Sunday best to Church cosplay?
Alley Beth Stucky's critique struck me as very modernist because it seeks to separate the aesthetic of something from the thing itself (whatever that is). Perhaps that's how we ended up with such ugly cities, by separating form and function and thinking things would still work out the same.
I love Allie so much but, the sentiment reminds me of modesty arguments and, some people's insistence that it's the heart that matters, forgetting that the outward is, more often than not, a representation of the inward. The tradwife aesthetic is simply a representation of the yearning that a lot of women have for a simpler time when society acknowledged the significance of "womanly work" and, concentrated it's efforts on the home front. If we can bring back even a little bit of that sentiment.....
Also, the dresses are cute and fairly modest. An absolute sweet spot for many Christian and, non Christian women, who are into modest styling.
What law was passed forbidding women to stay at home with the kids....? When were you told you weren't allowed?
Funny that mother's who go to work are shamed more than women who stay home..... But yea. Sure. Keep your delusion.
Also, women. Have. Always. Worked. Outside. The. Home. Sorry you fell for 50's propaganda that was actively trying to bring women back home from the factory jobs they took up in the war.
@@Nopee906 This isn't about laws and, of course women have always worked outside the home. However, my point was that housework and typical wife duties have been devalued due to a combination of technological advancements making work easier to the general push towards the knowledge economy. I understand your gripe and, I am absolutely not in the business of shaming working women but, it's dishonest to pretend that there isn't a lot less appreciation for homemakers in mainstream society.
@@theyellowleaflassie5757I do agree that homemaking is devalued, but I don't think homemaking was ever valued as much as it should be. Homemaking was delegated to women historically because women have been considered weaker historically, which is ridiculous, because taking care of the home (and children, if there are any) is hard work. That has never really been acknowledged.
What I feel about the Trad wife movement is nothing but love. However, I will say there are a few content creators that I actually have seen that make comments like "I'm so glad that I'm a tradwife so my husband can make all the decisions so I don't have to think." That is literally out there. But overall, they are few and far between the wholesome authentic ones. I speak this as aChristian woman, but God gave us free will and the power to choose and often times other people want to gate-keep because of a deep rooted insecurity and you touched on this subject briefly. But if someone is triggered by a content creator and their tradwife aesthetic and choices, they need to look deep within themselves to see the insecurity that is triggering this anger/hate/judgemental comments. Immaturity and insecurity runs rampant with this discussion especially when someone wants to gate-keep others with very judgmental words. I wish more people would just let people, be people.
I’m not sure what is wrong with saying “I’m glad my husband is making all the decisions”. I guess it might strake some women as “oh, man is taking all power. You should be free and do everything yourself”. But personally… I’m so anxious that I prefer when someone is deciding on my behalf. When it’s something big lie moving states for example
@@ekaterinalysykh4161Because married couples should make big decisions together. Both members of the couple should have input. I get not liking making decisions - I am also very anxious and don't like making decisions, but it's unfair to both members of a couple if all the decisions fall on one person.
but how is it unfair if one person doesn’t want to make a decision and another person likes doing it and is comfortable doing it? Only in this specific scenario. I get that if both have an input then it’s unfair. In my view, in a healthy couple, when man (or woman) is the decisive and dominant figure, they understand that power comes with responsibility. They don’t just decide and announce that decision. At least in my case he decides, presents me with an option and we see if I’m comfortable with it. I’m comfortable with most things anyway. But if I’m totally against something, we don’t do it. I fail to see how this particular thing is a problem when one likes to do what the other doesn’t. It’s like saying “both should file taxes manually, instead of one person doing it for both. Even though one is great at it and looooves filing taxes and another hates doing it”
Insecurity? No income in case of divorce? Not even have access to an account to pay for a lawyer? Not developing other competencies outside of home if the marriage comes to an end
Yeah insecurity of being financially dependent seems legitimate don’t you think?
@@ekaterinalysykh4161 But that is making decisions together. Maybe he is coming up with options, but then he is presenting it to you, and you are deciding together if it's something you both want to do. If he was making all the decisions, he wouldn't be asking for your input, or even if he did, what he decided would be what happened regardless of whether you were comfortable or not. Sure, it's a more passive way of participating in making the decisions for your family (and that's ok!), but you are participating. Give yourself a little more credit. 😀