If You're STUCK In Hybrid Freeze/Fawn Trauma Response
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- Опубліковано 3 жов 2024
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Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-brake on.
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My mind and body split all the time
dear Michele, one week ago, when I learned about fawn, and start to watch videos, your video was one of them, may be 5th, then I just start to breath goooood, after few decades I guess. For long period of time I could inhale like 1-1.5 counts out of 10.
I also have been doing few exercises for the cranial nerves and vagus from the Rosenberg book.
May be it's a hybrid effect, but I'm very happy! Thank you for providing these videos, I understand so much about my behavior, even nobody would say from looking to me, that's I'm fawning, but from the inside I very went through a lot of cases and I see clearly what I was doing, not consciously.
So thanks to your videos and some others on the UA-cam here, I found myself in constant fawn-freeze and faint afterwards-
Fawn - my learned behaviour from the childhood. This gives so much pressure to the body to live all the time with submission, so it's goes to the freeze with constantly muscles fatigue as you mentioned. I had all my front part - from the belly bottom to the neck contracted, so even my posture changed after years, but around 6 month I already changed my walking pattern to correct, and was doing a lot of excersises for the pelvis and neck. I want to cry when I think how much pressure I was living over decades and no one (fitness coach, chiropractitioners could not help)
Freeze - it's stuck and shock in body and you can not make any decision in mind, AND some of your muscles are extremely contracted (and as a result, others - started to be to weak, then effects the posture in the long term),
but freeze it's not that a lot of people say here on UA-cam as example that animals are using to not be eaten, muscles tight - it's freeze, all the muscles weak, pretend to be dead - is faint response
Faint - because of "reading the room", all the emotions of people around, I literally exhausted myself if I'm surrounded by people, plus constant muscle fatigue, I literally loose the conscious and fall down, faint, what they also call collapse/submit response.
All these states give so much dissociation - to your own body, to the time, to the reality, to life...
Depends on the situation I see that I can go to fight and flight, but previous ones are my "frame". So basically, it's totally dysregulated autonomous system, that's need to be shutdown in term of living, but functioning in terms of body functions, and we should use our new cortex consciousness.
Already one week I live more full and feel I can solve anything, because I can breath. Thank you!
Yes, it's exhausting 😢 . I'm soooo tired of it.😭
The silent treatment for me was always what I saw as safe. If Im not being yelled at I always thought that was a win because I didn't have to work or people please
You are so amazing! Wow!! You’ve saved my life Michele. I am so grateful for this information and validation. I just recently discovered you. It is SO amazing that there IS a name for this abuse and how the characteristics of these people are similar across the board. I can’t thank you enough for sharing your insights and wisdom!
Great video 💕
Yes, it’s like taking a job where you have all of the responsibility but none of the authority. Like being a pharmacist. Like being in the military. It sucks.
Thank you so much for this usefull information and understanding. You helped me already so much about all this trauma responses. Exactly like you described with toxic people...my brain says: it is enough, but my body isn't! Finally I understand through your explanation what happens.
I'm so glad!
about what you said about the mind knowing what to do but the body not responding, as a typical fearful-avoidant attached/freeze-fawn trauma response (it is genuinely mind blowing how they're all distinctive classifications that define those same issues) I struggle a lot with showing up for myself and setting boundaries, and of course I am in a relationship with a recovering narcissist. So, after an awful fight, I retreat and isolate for weeks and then reached him out to start a conversation about healthy boundaries. I certainly was anxious all day bc of it and when the night came, I went there, sit on the couch, and as I was speaking my whole body started to shake violently and uncontrollably, I was terrified, I felt like I just killed somebody and my body was in shock. Looking back it was funny, but it's actually not funny bc I couldn't make to end my statement and I had to call an uber and leave bc I was sooo triggered, my nervous system totally out of control and It took several days to go back to a more grounded state. So weird tho.
I'm doing this work, cause if I dont I'm going to die. Waking up with IBS this morning that's so bad , it feels like my stomach is going to explode whilst being on fire. . . .not fun at all. 🙏🏻😖🤦🏼♂️
Yes - this work is soo important. If we don't do it - it doesn't just affect us emotionally but physically as well.
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Thank you for explaining this.. was just talking to a counselor about feeling held back and not knowing how to correct this.
Being seen means danger. So you end up playing dead emotionally, and socially with the unsafe people in your life. Then it's hard to come alive with safe people and safe environments.
Is there any video about how we fix that?
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