Autism & Processing Big Emotions | My Experience/Thoughts
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- Опубліковано 5 лип 2024
- This is my experience with processing big emotions, trying to walk through things changing, disruptions in life, etc., and a simple piece of advice or two for you if you're like me and seem to take a longer time to process these things.
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I so relate to that way of hopelessness, its very modern the way you describe it. You do great work amd inspire plenty of people you hang in there Steph. We're all with you.
Hopelessness is part of our DNA and it can keep us down for a long time if we focus on how the world has gone wrong in general but also to us specifically. We really need to band together and be leaders to the girls in high school who are about to face this world. We need to show them that we have gifts and a very necessary place in this world!! They Need us far more than they realize right now
I've honestly still been in shock about Andy passing away to where I haven't fully processed it yet. Grief and 'Big Emotions' are processed so differently by everyone. I can definitely see where you're coming from, as of right now, and I hope that you're able to take all the time you need to best move forward into the rest of the year with what's in store for you. PLEASE reach out to me (on Discord, UA-cam) if you just need someone to talk to or be there for you somehow. I am here for you, Stephanie.
Thank you so much 💛 and feel free to reach out to me if you need someone to talk with as well. I feel like it's even harder when people irl don't know the person you're grieving. Much love 💛
He was so wonderful! I am sad.
I'm a 70 year old orphaned widower. I agree, take your time. Sometimes you can't keep all the plates spinning (if you've seen the circus act). Best wishes.
I can understand this way of feeling, and the decisions that came from that... it is the force that shaped my earlier life. For better but mostly for worse. 🙂
Please don’t disappear. You have been so important to my learning, and probabky many other peoples’
I also STRONGLY resonate with the everpresent knowledge that the future is amorphous, or that “i don’t really have one”.
It was so strong back in school, i didn’t want to live any further past finishing school. I had no idea that there Was a future j could live in, outside of school routine
Stephanie, you help so many people with every video! My condolences for your loss of your mentor and friend. ❤️
I'm 38, and I struggle with not seeing a future for myself... Thank you for sharing that, it actually makes me feel a lot, and that's a good thing.
You’re absolutely right my friend! Take it easy! Don’t be so hard on yourself! You already done great things for your age. I saw how supportive Andy was with you and I still can’t believe that he is gone. It doesn’t feel that way to me 😔
I just keep breathing and don't put words to my emotions. I use many distractions. I am not trying to understand the situation, not turning it into something good, not trying to understand life. Just breathing and living enough moments so that time will pass and I will have adapted to this new world. Thank you for your channel, I just bought 3 t-shirt. "BeAUTIful" is so good.
The big emotions that feel like it will always be this way is exactly how it feels. I’ve been able to finally “know”, if not “feel”, that it will be ok again in time. A little at a time, I’m learning to get through those coffin black moments without destroying things that are actually important to me!
I know this won’t help a lot, and you absolutely need to do what is going to be best for your health and goals, but I will say this, and I mean it. Your videos have helped me and my family a lot. You do a lot of research, which you share on here in a way that is deform what others are doing. Not that they aren’t researched or good, they are. But I really like to get different ways of something to be explained to me, I feel like I get the best understanding that way. I have learned so many useful things that I couldn’t have gotten anywhere else, and that means a great deal to me.
Processing events, and especially with the other stress you have rn, it’s totally normal for it to take a long time. Even NTs have a difficult time, and often a long time, to process loosing a loved one. So, try not to push yourself in areas that will impede that process for you, don’t end up in burn out. This is one area that NTs understand, if you need to cry or show emotions, I’ve found anyway, most people understand loss like this will take time, will end up in outbursts of tears especially if something else stressful is added suddenly, even small things.
Tbh, when my sister died, I was able to process some other things because people understood if I was crying, it was accepted and I didn’t feel pressured to hold back, like with the smaller things. I could show how I felt without feeling like I had to mask it.
You’ve lost someone you care about immensely, it’s not a little thing to be gotten over or processed quickly by anyone’s standards.
And just because you didn’t feel like those other people right away, isn’t bad. If you had a closer connection especially, it’s going to take awhile to deal with how that empty place he left is impacting you. But once the bulk of that blackness clears a little, you will be able to see how you personally want to commemorate your relationship with him. You seem like a very resilient and strong person, sending any encouragement and hugs that may help you through all this. 💜💜
-We learned to go through it.. not over it or around it
- We are a species of humans who are having to learn to unmask as adults... this is part it. Grieving is legit and different for all of us.
- Andy made me want to be a better person but hopefully we all make each other want to be better people
- Society encourages us to give up we should be encouraging each other to take baby steps so we can look back later and see how much we accomplished... In spite of what the world tries to force us to believe.
- Big hugs...you sound wiser than you know.
- Sometimes doing NOTHING is actually doing something.
- Failure is just an opportunity to cross that option off the list (or work to improve skills)
-self care
I am experiencing different circumstances, but similar emotions and concerns.
Thank you for letting me know that I'm not alone.
And, I'm sorry for the loss of your friend.
God bless you and heal your grieving heart.
Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. A lot for you to process. Take as much time as you need.
Yeah, condolences to your friend and it takes a lot for somebody on the spectrum to really process grief and it’s just heartening to hear that someone of the autistic community has passed away because there’s not a lot of people who are on the spectrum out there but you realize that it’s hard to Process emotions when you’re on the spectrum
Hi Stephanie, I relate to this. When I lost my brother to suicide I made a big life decision to move my family to be closer to my parents so that I could be there for them. I am glad I can be near my parents and think that it has helped them but it wasn't necessarily the right decision for my kids and husband or me. I regret taking them away from their friends and my husband has to travel further to work. I wish I had thought more about moving, weighed it up more. I was also sort of running away from my life there, thinking that I would be happier where I grew up. Trying to go back to the past I guess, but that's not possible. My feeling's of regret are quite overpowering sometimes and I just have to block them out to get on with life.
Thank you for your videos. The content you have put on You Tube has been so helpful.
You’ve changed my life and that of my mother. I have learned so much from you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Please keep making these extraordinary intelligently and compassionately composed videos. I am eternally grateful. You are clearly capable of ANYTHING!, Stephanie!!
This video means a lot to me. I'm currently in the worst burnout of my life. I've been nonspeaking for 62 days and I haven't been able to work. But it's given me a lot of time to process and reflect, and I'm coming to peace with things from like 6/7 years ago that I still hadn't resolved.
In particular, I understand what you said about feeling like you 'have to succeed' by a certain age. I studied my passion at university (linguistics) but had such a bad experience there that it shattered my confidence, and I was convinced I could never go back to university. Now, finally, with this extra space to grieve and reflect, I'm realising that I CAN do this, and I'm going to apply for Master's this year.
I know this is quite a different context, given you're grieving an actual person, but I think it's so important and healthy to let the emotions flow, and really sink into them.
Great wisdom, that I won’t be feeling this forever. My mom has literally told me this before and it helped me a lot! Wishing you all the best with school, Stephanie! Just focus on being yourself and doing your best - that’s all you can do, and whatever happens from there will be found out in the next chapter! You’ve got this.
Yes I will support you all the way as a fellow subscriber and make sure our voices are heard because we should never learn to be silenced
I've been feeling some...pretty big emotions over the past week and a half or so-not as-as big as the multiple instances of loss-related grief that just kept...stacking, but it's big enough to challenge and corrode the mental and emotional resilience I've been working so hard to build up.
Something told me to go watch one of your videos. I'm glad it was this one I found. Thank you so much for sharing and for not giving up on us-or, more importantly, yourself. You've given great advice. (From my grief, I've also gained another one: "at your own pace".)
My absolute deepest condolences. I knew Andy's username when I saw it, but I guess I hadn't watched a video with him yet. I started watching that last video, and he seemed so lively. The audacity for death to extinguish such life so quickly. Though I personally believe that you have established yourself within the community in your own right, I completely understand and respect you feeling otherwise.
Best to you with school, too! While I appreciate my current OT, I wish I could see you as my OT! I hope people are patient with you in field!
Hi Stephanie. Loved your video and found it helpful. I can totally relate to what you said and I felt less alone listening to you. I'm from UK and almost 48, had late diagnosis ten years ago. I too have mental health conditions. Very wise words about not making big decisions when you are overwhelmed. I hope you have a good week too and I wish you well for the future. Love your hair by the way :) Yes, is sad about Andy, I only discovered his channel a few weeks before he passed and he seemed like a really nice person.
If you want to help yourself look at things from an outside point-of-view, try emotion dump journaling whenever you feel choked up with emotions. And write with your hand in a physical journal. It helps your brain work hard.
It's been my saving grace.
Yes. Wise words. Waiting is the wise way to go. Bless you, dear Bethany, you're brave and beautiful. Recently I was rewarded for not giving up my writing aspirations. I remember the moment when I was tempted to give up my website etc. In that moment I reminded myself that the difference between those who succeeded and those who didn't is that the successful don't give up. (A few days later I got signed up with a literary agent of my dreams.)
Stepping back can be the best self-care. But we don't need to quit to do that. This is the lesson that took me forever to learn. It's okay to take a break. It's better than breaking.
I'm adding your name to my permanent prayer list. I'm cheering for you. 🙏💌
So sorry about the loss of your friend. What a sweet person he was.
Peter/ ‘Rainman’ thank you for sharing your struggles with us I hope you always have motivation to move through your feelings, and get to the other side
Putting all thoughts on the paper , all pros and cons helps me a lot with making decisions. Also writing down all dark views , hopelessness and self hatred when I’m depressed and reviewing all of that after the storm passes and writing down bright hopeful view of my life helps.
It turns out that “dark me” exaggerates problems and “normal me” ignores real problems . Useful dialogue between two states/perspectives.
Hey Stephanie, didn’t know this loss of Andy happened. I’m so sorry for your personal loss and the loss of a beautiful person in the world. I didn’t watch Andy’s channel but after this video I hopped over. Now, I too am so very sad. I can see how he was an influencer for you and your styles are similar. What a gift he was to bring you to us here. The suddenness does feel impossible to process such a tragedy. We feel so very deeply and we process emotions like the depth of the sea. And yes, falling into the void of hopelessness. The struggle is so real. Being in that space when others are able to continue to function and move on and they are frustrated you are not add weight to a person floating on the sea waxing and waining between trying to hold on when really just wanting to let go. I recently lost a friend and yes for two months it was like drowning. Nothing seemed to make sense or matter. Thank you Andy for building that bridge that brought you to us. Hugs ❤️❤️❤️
Your thumbnail looks so honest about your mood, I can appreciate that+
Hi, this is the first comment I ever wrote. I am 56 and diagnosed 7 years ago.
I wanted to thank you for your work and be so honest in such a heavy situation! Although I do not know who Andy was, but my sincere condolences. He seems to have touched many life and made them better.
Your insights are very true and I think it is just the right way to work through these ordeals. You analyzed all of your emotions very clearly and comprehensive- and, yes, it is very hard for us, to funktion in times like that. I hope, you will find the strength to continue your work on this channel, because you DO belong and you DO help people! And every second of your life, also the drowning ones, give you more insight in this mystery called life and make you a more mature person, that can help to better the life of other autistic people. I send you love , respect and the strength to go through this mourning process- take your time and stay such a wonderful beeing . Thank you.
Thank you so much 💛
Youzers! Hate to see you hurting so deeply. Unfortunately, your feelings are valid and completely normal. I’m not On the spectrum my husband is) , but I’ve suffered the same thoughts for decades before diagnoses of adhd and dyslexia. Stephanie, I don’t get to tell this to many people, and im a people person, but…Now Listen Closely… and this is no bs… “ You…Are…Magical.” You helped me to understand the Asperger’s world so much. Maybe even saved my marriage or helped my husband understand that Aspergers is a “ thing” and not the end of the world, Im sure Andy played a huge part of that but remember, Andy also had you!! And with that love you both delivered pieces of knowledge that brought insight, understanding, calm and countless other positive parts to make us feel a little more whole. It’s not your burden to carry any of us, we appreciate you passion’s effort to be here. We apply your words because we are seeking something in our own lives. So no pressure here to continue the channel. But Remember this, love is the better version of yourself…ourselves! So, consider, if you don’t “feel” love, just know you are love and…AND you are loved! Lastly, we all have felt these feelings, especially about school. These times is when you continue what your doing in parenting yourself or what I call talk to yourself like a stranger. That is, continue to be kind to yourself. XO, M
I am sorry for your loss. I wish you a sense of peace and comfort as you think about him. I think we all go through spurts where we need to step away from things and take a breather. I enjoy watching your content and have found specific things that fit the needs of us as a couple and my fellows own needs so thank you..
While I would say I have gotten over the shock (possibly because I've tried to move on to other things) I still find it hard to comprehend the fact he's gone. We were just acquaintances so I would never understand the pain his family and friends (including you) went and still are going through.
Sometimes I can feel that way about processing big emotions at times, also I know it's not forever and it will move on in it's own time (although I can struggle to do that).
Please don't give up, you have contributed so much positivity to this world, sadly the brain focuses all it's energy into negative thoughts and emotions (not helped by media romanticization of negativity), autistic people even more so because we tent to latch on to said emotions strongly and find them harder to comprehend when compared to our non-autistic peers. We shouldn't latch on to the mind set that life isn't worth continuing with because you will never know what you're missing if you throw it away.
I'm sorry things are so hard for you right now. I can relate. I'm trying to get my teaching certification for ESE. And, I feel like I'm falling apart right now. I have been having doubts about if I can do this. If I can keep myself together and find my own words and help my kids. And if I can just do my job. It's a lot. Thanks for the reminder about things being temporary.
I will be keeping you in my prayers. You are really inspirational. More than you realize.
Hugs!!! Sending lots of love!!!
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss.
it is relatable, very much relatable. i hope you can allow yourself the help from others and put your own advice to work aswell. im proud of you for not quitting it sounds like a big win for you personal. (it would be a big win in my life as in... not quitting things) take as long as you need to get yourself in a better place youtube can wait and even if after all of the heavy emotions you decide not to go further at least you decided it not in a moment of crisis but in a rational state of mind. (i hope you would never quit but thats my opinion... it matters way more how you feel and what you feel capable off) grief can hit you sometimes in ways you dont espect so even after a while it can hit again and is very normal. try not to beat yourself up when it comes back. its not a thing of not dealing well its a human thing that happens and means you loved someone.
Look after yourself, you will be a great OT (the work is quite varied so find out what area suits for personality best) and it's ok to focus on your studies for now. You remind me of a little person I'm trying to help so I do find your video helpful but you need to do them when it's right for you and not for others all the time. I hope your studies go well. Sorry about your friend dying he sounded like a nice person, I liked his video too.
I completely relate to what you're saying and I'm so sorry about your friend. I have watched some of his videos here and there over the years and thought he seemed really nice and cool.
I really like your videos and they make my days better. I would be very happy if you keep going. So if you need a break, go and take it. And when you feel ready I will be here and keep watching.
Also I really liked hearing that I am not the only person who can tell others that they're emotions are valid, but at the same time not permanent and totally forget that when I experience something like that.
Thank you so much for opening up and sharing with us all. While I'm unsure what to say next, what I can say is thank you for making these videos. They are a life line for my wife and I, as we figure out life together with me being autistic.
Thank you, take care!
So sad to see how burned out you feel. Sending expressions of care.
I'm a people pleaser, a coping strategy ingrained for decades before my ASD diagnosis, and I decided to do a night class on psychology to understand myself and other people.
This, trouble understanding my experience and other people, was a struggle due to my then undiagnosed ASD. I loved it! I can help me and others! With the insights of all these theories things are starting to make sense! It was an ASD special interest.
I struggled with the out of class people-ing activities of my progression with my counselling classes too, also the break time interactions, and as it became more anxiety provoking and the more I thought "Maybe this thing I love isn't for me".
I struggle with clinical depression, anxiety, panic attacks and back pain so while I don't know your experience I identify with the deep feeling, I struggled after my dad died much the way you are describing your grief over Andy. When I would feel emotionally catastrophically overwhelmed I'd retreat, and stay in bed. Ironically, I have sensory processing issues so maybe that experience plus burn out was the depression with all the overlap and the incidental fix for my low was to mitigate my sensory overload.
I found meds then counselling I wasn't ready for lead to my mother pushing me to a help group that helped me see I wasn't alone in the extended low mood and, once you learn and practice the tools, it wasn't unmanageable. That is tricky with ASD as managing them and their overlaps and roadblocks is tricky. It's manageable in the limitations our ASD puts on us I guess.
Reminds me of this scene from 1.1 of Netflix's Daredevil:
‘"You know, I'm supposed to say I don't miss it. That's what they teach you in trauma recovery. Define yourself by what you have, value the differences, make no apologies for what you lack. And that's all true for the most part... but it doesn't change the fact that I... I'd give anything to see the sky one more time.’
I don't want to give a bunch of advice but I would suggest, when you are ready, have a look at Carl Rogers' idea of 'Locus of Evaluation' and Viktor Frankl's Logotherapy.
You are a good person Stephanie, take your time. The best way passed is through.
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change. -Carl Rogers
When/if you decide to come back I will watch, you AND your work have value.
I love you! Thank You so much!! 👍👍❤️❤️‼️
I'm really glad you're here. I benefit from all you share, even how you grieve. I would understand if you had to take a break, I would miss you very much. Your work is beautiful, like you.
Putting words to big emotions is very difficult for me. I have or I've had a tendency to make big decisions during such times but have learned and still learning not to do so. Thank you so much for being here. I encourage you to take care 🖤
I understand not completely I feel like that too when I was younger I wanted to do something amazing and I felt like I needed to do that at a particular time but I felt disappointed that I didn’t achieve anything . But I did achieve a lot and I had to realise that this sadness was not forever. One of my friends passed away last year and I felt so depressed like the grief was to hard to handle but it’s important to keep going no matter how hard it is and our feelings are valid .
I first heard about it, when Samantha tweeted it on Twitter about Andy, it felt so weird and not real.
The videos I liked the most was when Andy spoking of gaming, a lot of the games I could relate to, I found The Sims really difficult to get into. He mentioned how he and Nicola loved playing it together.
Your hair, wig if it was all red, it would be identical to Jenny Ryan, from tv series "the Chase".
I'm so sorry for your loss
I really needed to hear this, thank you Stephanie! Idk if that means it is an autism thing, but you are definitely not the only one who experiences this. I have talk myself down from changing my number and going off to live in a mud hut every other week lol. You should take all the time you need, school is so tough while grieving and nobody (with a sense of decency) will be mad if you prioritize your other responsibilities and wellbeing. Sending healing wishes
I think that Stephanie does help people through this youtube channel, but I think that when she becomes an Occupational Therapist assistant, she will be able to help more people, and should focus on her schooling until she can make more videos without it getting in the way of her priorities. I am cheering for her to get her degree, and I want the best for Stephanie, so I also want her to work through her grief.
You make every day a special day just for being you
It’s going to be ok , don’t worry, keep going xx
I relate to this so much, to the point that I have been talking to a therapist about this.
I am being told by some here to "Shut up and go away" and "Not to comment unless asked." For which I will oblige. Have always had the highest respect for Stephanie's intellect, drive, and desire to make a difference by bringing knowledge to the conversation.
Sadly, although there are those who appreciate knowledge as a tool for self improvement, there are still those who prefer to take a fatalist view of their lives and complain how broken they are. The internet is becoming saturated with sites and channels that feed those simply looking for a quick label and sympathy. I will continue my push for and championing for those with complex Autism and those who are non-verbal.
For those who distain or loath my existence; my diagnosis of "Inadequate Personality Disorder", "Aspergers/ASD", "SPD", and "ET", were not given because of my looks. My error was in the expectation others on the spectrum would recognize my differences and traits and understand my type/style of delivery was strongly influenced by those differences. I stand corrected.
As time permits, all of my content/contribution will be removed.
Failure does not mean the end. If you learn from your mistakes, they can be a stepping stone to your success. Grief is felt differently by different people, but for me, it helps to dive straight in to my special interests to the point where it overpowers my thoughts about what happened. My Uncle committed suicide, and my grandpa died of cancer around the same time, and when that happened, I dove my head straight into my schooling so that my thoughts about school would overpower my thoughts about what happened. I guess my coping mechanism is denial. I was at my Uncle's funeral, but it was still hard for me to believe that he was actually dead. I am not really in shock, but I am more in disbelief. Sometimes I create false realities for myself when I am grieving too. When my mom, and I were staying at a cabin with limited food, water, it was freezing in the winter, I lost half my bodyweight, my step dad sent divorce papers, and I knew that I was probably going to die, I thought of home, and how I was going to make it out of that cabin so that I could tell a girl back home that I loved her, and to see all of my family again. My mom was there too, and she fell victim to some scammers in Africa who she barely knew, and gave them money that could have been spent better to help us survive. Anyways, the point is that even for autistic people, we all handle grief differently. I very much appreciate your videos because they are so helpful in understanding what is going on with me. Most people who are in grief need to talk to people who understand them. I recommend talking about how you are feeling about this with some people who understand you. If I could reach through this screen, and give you a hug, and just sit with you, and grieve with you about Andy, I would. I know that you might want to stay away from people because you are grieving, but I promise that it helps to talk about it. I was traumatized because my mom was moving to Africa, and because of what had happened at the cabin, but now I feel better because I talked to people about it. I hope this helps. You are wonderfully, and fearfully made the way that you are, and you are perfect the way that you are, and the world would be missing out on such a gifted young woman if you weren't here with us. I care about you Stephanie, and I hope that you will be ok. Maybe it helps to be happy with the memories, and time that you had with Andy. Every moment that you had with him was orchestrated by God, and that makes it very special. It might also help to try not to think about the time that you didn't have with him, and to be grateful for the gift of the time that you did have with Andy. I don't know if you've seen it, but the movie Courageous teaches a great example of how to deal with grief. I also deal with grief in unhealthy ways like denial, and creating a world that doesn't exist in my mind to not deal with the real world, but I don't recommend it. That road requires more counselling to figure out how to get back into reality even though reality is painful. The thing about pain is that the bible says to be happy to go through the tuff times because it teaches you perseverance so that you are stronger to go through tougher times. (James 1) It also says that pain creates perseverance, and perseverance creates character, and character creates hope And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. (Romans 5:3-5) When Jesus went to be with the father, he sent down the holy spirit as a teacher, a counselor, and a comforter, so I would also tell you to draw near to the holy spirit so that he can comfort you, and all those who loved Andy. (John 14:25-27)Right now you may feel weak, but I would suggest that you take this time to rely on Gods strength because in your weakness is where God shows you his strength best.(2 Corinthians 12:8-10)What Life Would be like by big daddy weave is a great song that drives home this point of what we can do about our grief. I love you, stay strong in the lord, rest in him, he will comfort you, thank you for this video. Everything about you is amazing. Because of the holy spirit being there with you to get through this, I know that you will get through this I think that part of what you are going through is autism, but grief is something that all people go through, and understand.
I just found out that the reason that I dive straight into my school work might not be because it is a special interest, but because I am experiencing smiling depression.
I love your videos, I'm undiagnosed, been searching my whole life what's 'wrong' with me. Your videos provide a great measure of comfort and understanding etc. Be gentle with yourself. Sorry about beautiful Andy, his videos are fabulous too, and I appreciate him because you introduced me to his videos since he has passed. See how important your videos are?? Much love and acceptance to you my friend. 💕 Make a pot of chicken soup and heal. :)
I can definitely relate to that experience of being hit by a big wave of emotions and feeling like this pain is now all there is. I'm sure most people can relate in some way, but I do think the relationship that an autistic person has with their emotions can make this extra challenging (i.e. alexithymia or slower processing speed). In reevaluating my whole life in context of my recent autism diagnosis at 30, I've noticed a delay in the way I experience and process strong emotions. It's like they happen in my body first, manifesting as physical symptoms, and I might not recognize them as emotions at all. Then the wave hits and all I feel is the pain and overwhelm, but I still may not be able to process what emotions are coming up for me and why until hours or days or even weeks later. Being in that stage where you're just stuck in this seemingly unending pain where everything is overwhelming and it feels like nothing will ever be right again is so hard. Please don't feel like you owe anyone anything right now; take whatever time you need to rest and grieve. Your videos were part of my journey to self-discovery and subsequent diagnosis, and I really appreciate how much educational work and advocacy you've done for this community. Sending love and prayers for you during this difficult time 💙
❤❤❤🫂 Thank you.
I relate, like a lot. But I have nothing to say about how to deal/overcome? idk. I started going back to college a few years ago, but the last two years has been hard due to art classes going online. So, it's just taking such a long time now I don't know if I should just stop all together or not. My wife is helping me stay the course, just taking it a day at a time. But it feels like there is no point. idk. But yeah, I feel similar.
Honestly, i had no idea what you were talking about
Now i know what you were referring to with the supportive friend part
Some things just happen though, disregarding our human sensibilities to the limit. Lets hope the afterlife is sweet, from his vibes i would say definitely.
The power of always getting the memo last... sigh
Personally i simply procrastinate the big feelings until they burst out all at once when say i watch something sad. Its like.... you have sustained emotional damage beyond your limits, it will be postponed until you are ready to face it, a sense of gloom and dread will follow you for a month or three.
Basically for instance the funeral of a close one to me, i didn't cry at the funeral, but about a month later i had a dream of meeeting the person and all those feelings just burst out and i woke up crying
But it is as you say, nothing lasts forever, even the worst will always come to pass
Let the emotions that are, eventually flow as they will
cherish the memories that were made, not those which you wished you have
Upset about Andy, I think back the live streams.
Don’t give up- this is a valley right now but keep walking and look for the hill back up again!! Your research is awesome and I could really benefit from all your research. Yes we often overreact but I can introduce you to a living non-judgmental group. If interested send me a message. I’m a life coach and your work has been awesome. I found out at 51 that I have Asperger’s!! I’m right behind you and I can help as a college grad.
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It seems like Andy was a bridge not only connecting you and the UA-cam community but connecting several autistic persons as well. I too have made decisions when in a deep emotional storm and done some things I regret. Sometimes I take a long time, in some cases absurdly long, time to process things, especially a death. You may have made a video about this before, but are there any examples of linking autism to anxiety and/or depression? For me it seems consequences of autism only make these two things worse and increase my belief that they will never subside.
Yeah mental health issues of anxiety and depression are really high in autistic people - considering the two most common reasons autistic people's life expectancy is shorter than average is due to seizures or ending their own life. I'm not sure if I shared a lot of info on anxiety and depression and the rates connected to autism or not in that video, but I did go over it to some extent in my video on autism life expectancy.
Great vid3o 😊😊😊😅
I'm sorry I have to ask... But which Andy are you referring you? A well known person in the community?
Yes, Andy of IndieAndy
@@StephanieBethany I just found him.. Will watch a few videos from him. I want to know what kind of person he was.
I'm sorry that this did so much to you. I lost someone in August 2021 and still haven't processed it. Now I'm burnt out and the sadness comes out every now and then.
I hope you can continue your life and channel. ❤️
No, I failed at all the big emotions and you know Stephanie? It does not matter, look at the world, who really cares?
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haha congrats