Robyn's Story of Hope

This week's Story of Hope is with Robyn Tyers and when I went to Robyn's website (feelyourgood.com) she did such a great job introducing herself that I’m copying that here:
“Five years ago, I was deeply depressed and chronically anxious, my entire experience was consumed by self-criticism, and I thought this was normal.
I also had cancer spreading through my body and a one-year-old daughter I was struggling to love. This seemed less normal.
I knew something had to change - hopefully my trajectory - and in seeking help from my lifelong friend and alternative practitioner Ian Watson. Through working with Ian and his colleague Carol Boroughs I experienced a massive shift in perspective.
And EVERYTHING changed.
I fell in love with my daughter, left my husband and started living.
I fell in love with life.
Paradoxically, I felt less need to control everything and I breezed through cancer treatments with little attachment to the outcome. It is my belief that this was instrumental in my recovery. Loving ourselves deeply and allowing ourselves to BE fully is the best thing we can do for our health.
I found I could give myself permission to live, to love, and to feel and not only would I survive my feelings, but I would thrive.
Because of my experience I now really enjoy working with people facing disease and the psychological impact it has. I also enjoy working with those who find themselves struggling as parents. “
You do not want to miss this episode!
So many HUGE 🫳 🎤 insights. Here are a few of my notes:
Stage 4 cancer turned out to be the pathway to liberation.
I got to see that I was okay no matter what.
No feeling can be bigger than me because I’m creating them myself.
When you’re looking for the sense of safety coming from controlling the situation, there is no amount of information that will make you feel safe. The feeling of safety comes from total surrender as opposed to trying to control.
If I can’t control anything, what do I want to live?
My emphasis in my life is to what extent can I really experience each moment.
Parenting went from trying to push a string in a straight line to pulling it.
Safety doesn’t come from scans
Love fuels everything- love is running the show
Depression is another sensation.
Pain is resistance. You can’t be resistant and curious.
*Please note we do talk about suicidal ideation (I think in a very positive, light-hearted, hopeful way)