Codependency - Loss of Identity
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Complex trauma destroys a child’s identity, even to the point where they will find their identity in something external or someone else. People from Complex Trauma often report feeling very out of touch with their own likes, dreams, emotions or opinions because these were never accepted and nurtured in them. Listen to more on UA-cam or visit timfletcher.ca . Link in bio.
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So far having researched since 2016, on psychology and spirituality. You explained it , connect the dots, and have pointed out things I've never heard of but know to be true.
You are by far one of the greatest teachers in our time.
Thank you
He has a lovely way of delivering such important information. Knows it from the inside out.
That moment in my 20's when I realized that all of my interests were just whatever my dad liked, in a futile attempt to get him to take interest in me
Same man
Well spotted. Well done.
Mine was what ever my sister liked or was into. We even got the same Christmas presents😕
Yup!
Same with my mum.. everything- and still if I won or succeeded it wasn’t even good enough.. love to you ❤
Yes SHAME … somehow I thought it my fault that my step mother locked me and my younger siblings in a hot garage every day my dad went to work and we had to put our faces down to the crack at the bottom to get air … it was hard to breathe.
You are precious soul ❤ I am so sorry for that you had to endure that 😢
I"m so sorry. You did not deserve that treatment You and your siblings deserve love.
I had complex trauma from being abandoned at birth by my birth mother (adopted as an infant). I was determined to be the best mother in the world to my son, so that he would never feel that, and always feel loved. But then my husband (his father) abandoned both of us, so he has complex trauma too. 😓
But he still has a loving mamma and a heavenly Father that heals all wounds. Continue the healing with these videos. You and your son are worth it.
spiritual abuse (aka narcissistic abuse) is by far the most damaging. makes common abuse look fun! ask someone who has had both like me..... i am so exhausted
I feel you your words so much, I just escaped out of the Land of the CULT OF MORMON LDS, Utah ❗️❗️❗️❗️ I’m exhausted as well😢😮❤❤
Shame really triggers Anger in me so fast & I’ve been trying to work on it for years never understanding I had CPTSD. My anger has gotten me arrested, when I really disassociate go numb, it’s like blacking out 😢 When someone Abandoneds me, it’s like my biggest trigger for Shame. Then I feel rageful at that person for leaving me. It’s just like Holly Fu*kin’ Hell ❗️💯How do I stop the triggers❗️❗️❗️❗️💯💯💯💯
Abandonment definitely causes the feeling of not being good enough and not feeling loveable which leads to shame. Thank you for this talk about complex trauma 💔💔💔
I only thought it because that's what they told me.
And why would the people who loved me despite my existence causing the ruination of their lives ever lie to me 😶
I was also told it’s my fault. I believed this lie for many many years
This man knows it all regarding these issues-amazing!
Now I know exactly what happened to me.
How do we heal
For me watching his videos have helped me heal and understand myself. With my relationship with Christ and these videos have helped me and my children heal.
Yesterday was Fathers Day, and I do not feel bad about not celebrating it. He is gone, been almost 3 years. When he passed, a whole new set of memories and reality set in. It is so very hard to forgive someone who would not care if I did or not.
I've been searching your channel...is there videos on complex trauma relating to childhood sexual assault (not from my dad btw given the video content)
Go on his channel there is a series on complex trauma there's one on shame as well
Which video is this from, Tim?
Even though I believe and know the Lord loves me, I still struggle with this at 67! Praise God for Tim's teachings!
I died inside, emotionally before I was even 2 years old. I told someone when I was 14 that I felt like I didn't have a personality, I was right. Wow.
I was 5yo
My identity has literally destroyed my life. I've hit rock bottom so many times. I'm 34 now and just starting to learn to battle the shame.
i remember deciding it was good and cool to be insanely short tempered and oppressive to others who disagreed me (felt like attacking me), when i woke up from it i couldnt necessarily stop right away but everytime i knee jerk react with bad behavior i realize its just me impersonating my dad, its not me, its weird how clear it is now, every outburst ive had feels like it could be an oscar award winning performance of my father.
love this , love you're stuff
This is how the narcissist is created
So glad to hear this. How many generations endured shame because of surviving constant trauma.❤
Spot On!
Learning so much
That’s because adults are idiots insulting kids and telling them they weren’t wanted or some other shit.
Shame, every day. Every time a trigger gets tapped, it feels like I’m getting hit with a red hot iron being pressed on the side of my head.
Would u be my therapist
Why does it have to be Dad?
I believe it was just an example, since tour dad is an authority figure in your life especially as a young child