How to Be More Extroverted as an Introvert | LiJo
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- Опубліковано 5 лип 2024
- Welcome back to the channel! In today's video, I dive into a topic that resonates deeply with many of us: transitioning from introversion to extroversion. Whether you're an introvert looking to expand your social boundaries or simply curious about stepping out of your comfort zone, this video is packed with practical advice
A Few Key Insights to take away...
1. Environment - Start Comfortable, Alone: Learn to be at ease by yourself in social settings. This confidence alone can make a huge difference. Bring a book, listen to some music, or simply observe-these can be your initial steps into the social world.
2. Authenticity - Be Yourself: Authenticity wins every time. Don't hide your true self; genuine connections stem from genuine presentations. Remember, people appreciate and resonate with authenticity.
3. Accept Imperfection: Embrace the imperfections of social interactions. Missteps happen even to extroverts. The key is understanding that imperfections are a part of the human experience.
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You should make a video on how to be more introverted as an extrovert
Haha good idea!
Step 1: Put tape over mouth.
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I haven't been to your channel for quite a while and I'm genuinely surprised that you haven't blown up in the meantime!
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Hey! Thanks for checking in. Happy to blow up when the time is right 💣
#01, - GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD.
other people are NOT so much in their heads as we INTJs are. so in order to get on the 'same level' as everyone else, it is of PARAMOUNT IMPORTANCE to let go of the internal processing that we tend to go in and, simply, GO WITH THE FLOW more.
also, KNOW that nothing speaks higher of ANYone than being GENUINE.
so, at risk of sounding cliche; just, BE YOURSELF regardless of whatEVER.
THAT ABSOLUTELY IS >>>>>>> THE WAY
Be yourselffffff
In INTJ terms - Develop your Se using Te simultaneously, and you’re extroverted
As a bonus, I would actually study the extraverted version of my type. Because internally, u already respect the cognitive functions (particularly ur extraverted auxiliary function) even if u dont like the person of ur extraverted type. Ur 2nd function will naturally try to be responsible with its usage because thats what it does, so that helps regulate ur introversion and extraversion at the same time with no problem (if u allow it).
Being introverted is hard...
But I found that short small talk in the gym before fitness classes is a great excercise field. There is always a topic (the classes). Or gaming. You aren't physically with someone, so talking through a computer is easier to train talking and there is always a topic (the game).
And if you are a perfectionist - that kind of training is waaay more tiring and stressful!
But it pays of, speaking from experience. Now I'm way better at spontaneous contact, thought I still feel like I'm thinking a lot about standard phrases, like ,,have a good day". I feel like it's artificial coming from me, because I have to think about it, but people tell me they see me as a comfortable extrovert and it comes naturally. Hmmm...
Practice really makes perfect. But it's stressful. But with time it gets less stressful.
Hey talk about INTJ INFJ relationships! I hear that this pairing actually works out.
About the imperfections as extroverts and why they feel so comfortable with it. The moment you don't care what others think of you will lead to something similar, at least this is from my experience as an INTJ. This is also nailed on spot, you need to be comfortable in the place to start talking. There is something like a switch, that you can fire of when needed for a period of time and do some fun talk with people
Yes 🙌
As I realized: In workplace I have to behave, I have to act. Everyone is told to behave differently all the time. It looks like noone wants a genuen coworker. Which cost energy.
I won't claim this to be ideal, but for me - a somewhat mature INTJ who has developed some emotional intelligence, and who is considered quiet and completely inscrutable by some - I need a purpose for engaging people. If I have a reason to go all out, I can do it. I can get in front of a hundred people and deliver a briefing on a topic I am an expert in, or I can engage with a customer and push to learn their true needs. Once I super confidently introduced myself, and then extracted specific information, from an art gallery owner - I was trying to help a close friend get her art in a gallery, so I did have a purpose - and a few glasses of wine beforehand helped a bit. If I have a reason, if I can view this interaction as an operation designed to achieve a specific result, I can talk to anyone, anywhere, and get my job done. Casual chit chat about sports? nope, cant do that, however..
10/10 relatable Craig!!
3:36 I loved this. Thanks lijo😸
Yeeeeee!
Get a job as a cashier. Can't avoid people and the conversations (if any) are short. Personal experience.
True!!
@@InternetLiJo And then there's the coworkers.....
I did this, then a few customers said I had an attitude problem 😂😂😂
Interesting...It's always wonderful to see you!
Thank you!
Calling the introvert’s approach to social interactions ‘contrived’ really hits the nail on the head. God damn stupid unrealistic default expectations!
BTW that your examples for interaction gone wrong were super demon sensory was hilarious 😂
😂😂❤️❤️
But this social fluidity is not really the external object focus, as in Jung's extraversion. So maybe more learned skills rather than an actual persona adjustment? Like- one's type isn't going to actually change as a result of learning these techniques, right?
Learned skill 100%
Hey Lindsay thanks for the video. Euh is it me or has the 'coffee spilling on your backpack' really happened to you lol? As an introvert Fe user I kind of dread social interactions now. I learned the hard way that people indeed are not interested in a play. they wanna see YOU. Learn more about YOU! I'm trying hard not to let the narrative in my head take over. The :you are not wanted in the group, you do not fit in, or worse you are invisible. I am more, at least I try, to be my more autentic self, even if it means I show my Ti more. Like you said it well: beauty is in the imperfection, be imperfect trying :)
❤️❤️❤️😊
lol and maybe on the backpack bit 😎
I went from watching your videos from three years ago to a more recent one, and the sound quality seems worse. It's quieter and there's less clarity. Hope that's useful.
Hi, you do music stuff so probably know a lot about this but how does one actually improve sound quality. Se stuff is hard 😅
@@thatmbtiguy Better microphone, less background noise and certain effects (EQ, compression, de-esser) can all improve the quality of a vocal recording.
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**tips hat** well thank you 😎
In the offline world everyone seems to be busy and you cannot talk to them.
Can someone here help me? I'm also INTJ.
What are you trying to say to them?
@@InternetLiJo Not sure, maybe something like "Hi where are you going? can I come with you?".
With most people I don't even want to communicate, I think I'm too intuitive and they are lacking imagination.
@@InternetLiJo sorry for the strange question^^ I'm depressed currently
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The INTJ that wants to be more extroverted, that is....
Just playing devil's advocate here, but what if I'm being my best self with my introvertedness? Thus by being more extrovert it means I'm being less genuine and so having to put more of a persona on for the benefit of everybody else?
I agree. I ‘can’ be extroverted when I want to, but this is always an act for a particular purpose & it always comes at a cost for me - it takes a lot of energy. A friend once observed me doing this in a staff room at work & said it was fascinating to watch her usually introverted friend ‘work the room’. I hate doing it, but if I have to I will. It’s just that it feels very inauthentic & I feel similarly to how I would feel if I was lying to someone.
Being introverted doesn't mean you don't know how to be social, it just means you chose not to be, because it's better in 99% cases. So, I'm kind of confused about this video and title.
Sometimes introverts decide they want to be more social but feel as though they’re out of practice from rarely engaging socially
@@InternetLiJo Ok, fair enough
Saw the title and thought “oh heck no” 🤓
Do we all have the same eyes???
🥹💗 maybe?
@@InternetLiJo putting in the effort to reply to everyone 🥹 ♥️ as an INTJ, oh the effort it takes 🙃 much appreciated
Damn, I missed it.
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That would be fun!