Tinder Is Brutally Annihilating Men’s Mental Health
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This was honestly my mindset 4 months. I was checking my tinder every day to see if someone matched me. It was becoming obsessive. I just end up deleting the app because I wasn’t liking how I was treating myself
How are you doing now?
I did to last month lol, thanksfully I stoped after like a week
Same, deleted Tinder after like 10 matches and a few boring conversations. It is best to keep your eyes on the prize in real life rather than Tinder - just don't be a whimp and make a conversation with a random girl, if you are not interested in her (or vice versa), keep moving forward.
Bro same
May I ask you what you are doing right now in order to achieve your goal in this regard ? Btw I respect that you are respecting yourself. Keep it up
It was nice while it lasted.
I really enjoyed my 20’s.
Can’t believe this is the reality.
My condolences to the future generations.
I work as nightclub bouncer, 90% of the girls I see on that app won’t swipe right, but then the same girls when they see me in the club want me. Go figure. Tinder is a crock of sh!z
Probably just need to take better pictures. There's a reason people are photographers as a career. It takes practice to take good pictures
Sleeping with a woman have a lot do with timing. Women have A LOT higher standards in the comfort on their own home sober than on a friday night at a club with a couple of drinks in them. If you are an average man you should delete all dating apps and get girls through timing (bars and clubs on nightouts)
@@Swan584 It is not pictures bro, it is 100% timing.
It sounds like they're attracted to a position/ display of power, I can definitely relate to the difference in response in different environments.
Unrelated example - when I'm out in the early day and I meet mostly elderly people outside, I try to not make them uncomfortable because I feel like sometimes they're slightly afraid due to me being an able bodied guy who trains often, meanwhile if I'm hanging out during evening hours, there are mostly highschool brats and people in their 20's who stare me down or try to taunt me or show off.
Circumstances play a big role.
because girls like bouncers in France also, not because you are handsome.
I went on two "dates" with a plan to hookup with two 3/10s from Tinder in the past. However, after the date they texted me to say that they "couldn't see anything romantic happening between/see us dating. It was brutal. Their egos are through the roof.
Never again.
Youre right bro its harsh but i want to tell you that if you were looking for sex and you had already met in person the you should have already had sex or established some bit of connection, these girls dont go on 4 dates with the same person to decide, you had one shot and its better to pull the first move, what do u really have to lose
Its interesting how often this happens, that when you go out with girl that is like 3/10, you are 5/10, it always from some reason results in them not interested, while if you who is 5/10 went out with 5/10 or higher it would be more succesfull. I read somewhere that you should aim at someone your level or higher, or it wont end well, maybe they think that you dont have serious intentions with them because they are less attractive so they want to avoid bad outcome for them (you leaving them for someone better)
90% of girls on tinder fuck on the first date, shouldve made the move sooner
“3/10” days the guy who’s a 2/10 lmao
@@sbo6477he’s gross and deserved to have his ego smashed
Online dating was a disaster for me.
Got a couple dates, one resulted in a long term abusive relationship that took a toll on me.
After that relationship, I put down the apps and started going out regularly and just putting myself out there.
Met my wife that way :)
W
Cause you aren’t that attractive
Mental health is not a destination but a process and it’s about how you drive not where you are going, take care of yourself.
Ironically, mental health is best attained by not thinking about mental health but by taking meaningful action. People obsessed with it going to therapists an all that modern nonsense usually end up worse off and on mind altering drugs.
@@Narasthenics “mental health is best attained by not thinking about mental health” I like that 🔝👑
very well said
Well said mate.
Women are more likely to end up in bad relationships they are picky because they need to be.
"it is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty of which his body is capable of" -socrates
@@antrace92 lol, how?
Misquote.
Its Caesars fault
What can a man do to be more beautiful? Hit the gym? Lmao. Vast majority of the time we are covered in clothes you can't see shit. I am jacked but it's dont nothing for me at all I was always good looking facially so my success levels are the same. All thr girls iv been with weren't even interested in my body it was a bonus to 1 or 2 them that's it. A jacked body does not compensate for an ugly face never will.
@@Aiden-cl7cz did you not read the quote?
honestly apps like tinder and other social media disgust me because they try to form relationships when all you have to go off are looks
edit: so theres a bunch of really stupid responses so let me explain. im not saying that physical appearance doesnt matter, or that you shouldnt care about how you look. what im saying is that, you cant build a functioning relationship off nothing but physical attraction. looks are usually what initiates a relationship but they arent what sustains one. apps like tinder use the loneliness of men (and women) and profit off the exploitation. if you want to use tinder for hookups or validation, sure, but dont try to create a serious relationship.
That’s how it’s always been. It’s not that deep tho you just need to improve your looks.
exactly. Problem with modernity....
@@-Plube- finally some common sense, people try to improve every obscure thing but looks jfl
Sorry to tell you it was always like that nothing really changed a lot of y'all just wanna believe in disney stories
That’s………that’s how it’s been for the entire existence of humanity.
It's not just Tinder. It's every app. I'm depressed as fuck. It's interesting how women have it so much easier than men. Imagine getting constant attention and compliments. They live in a different world.
It's not easier. It's just another kind of difficulty.
@@suziepeaches321 literally. I had a total walking red flag try to give me his number while I was at the park with my kid. Randomly came up to me 3x in a span of 15min with his dog on one of those giant chain leashes to ask "why didn't you text me?" Then just started talking about how much money he makes, how his "psycho ex girlfriend was this that & the other", had just kicked him out earlier that day, blah blah blah, & "why aren't you texting me?" I didn't want to leave because I didn't want him following me or knowing my vehicle, didn't want to go near my son because I wasn't sure if he'd follow & try to chat up my kid. Didn't want to accidentally piss him off either because for all I knew, his dog was trained to attack with a single word... I don't want to lose my face over a rejection. Took 30 minutes before he finally left. Several days later, I randomly spot him driving past my house. Again... & again. Come to find out, he also started making fake missed connections posts & telling his friends it was me looking for him, that he nailed me, blah blah blah. I've been single/ celibate for almost 5 yrs now, but apparently, I'm suddenly the neighborhood "slut". I had to file a report, a friend of mine called him out on missed connections which put an end to it all & I ended up getting a security system. My friend's friend looked into the guy & he'd been in prison for breaking & entering, assault. Also sent me a self-defense care package. The whole nonsense went on for about 3 weeks. I'm still worried to leave my house & definitely don't feel comfortable taking my son to that park anymore.
Nice guys don't approach me. Weirdos, players, cheaters do & they get unreasonably pissed when I'm not interested in being some rebound or side chick. I can count on 1 hand how many guys have respectfully asked me for my number or on a date. All but 1 guy I've dated, I've had to initiate & they all screwed me over somehow. "Well because I got you, I figured I could do better" or "because you approached me, I thought you were going to be easy. When I found out you weren't, I wasn't sure how to break it off so I disappeared." The only guy who didn't hurt me was the one who initiated so I don't approach men anymore. Men just seem to see it as p*ssy falling into their lap so of course they won't object. NOT a single bit of dealing with men has been "easy". Ever.
Staying single is way easier & way more peaceful.
We don't have it easier just because we're women, it depends on the person. And don't blame the women who do get lots of attention when it's guys giving it to them.
@@manuela1537 maybe start giving attention to guys that deserve to be given attention to instead of being so picky and only choosing 6”4 chads lol
@@tejj6jht46ybfhr5 hahaha not my case. I'm 5"10 so it's usually guys who don't like me because they're shorter.
For all the men out there, it's time for us to go old school. I recently deleted all the dating apps and went out in the real world to ask girls out, which took lots of effort but made some progress. Don't lose hope. It's not you. It's exactly what was explained in the video.
Fr bro! Dating apps just ruin our mental health! We deserve more! When 80% of woman go after the top 5% of men its bound to be fucked up!
Ya, after a while on these dating apps, it really makes you feel like a loser. Dating apps are not reality! I’m a fairly handsome guy, in good shape. Not a model, but above average and making good money. But on these apps, it’s like you’re a bucktoothed, zit-faced, fat, unemployed, star wars nerd…It’s insane man! I’m gonna delete this crap too.
@@dogsbeforedogma4402 fr! We dont need validation from some dumbass hoes with 1000 loosers who follow them on insta
Honestly, the best thing any guy can do for their happiness and sanity is to delete and stop using dating apps to try and find women. I've been using apps since around 2012, and the results have been abysmal. I've been stood up, no shows, rejected unfairly, and catfished numerous times. You name it all. And it has affected my own mental health in a bad way. F these women, they are so ungrateful.
The women on Tinder are the same single women you meet IRL, you know that right? Most women, who are not on any Dating apps don't need to be on these apps, because they are either fully taken or in FWB / situationship. But sure, you could try to "earn" a spot on their roster, I guess.
I can't tell just how much I improved myself after watching hamza's videos.. I've on self-improvement for 3 months and the results are unbelievable.. I want to say thanks to hamza from deep of my heart.. Thanks for changing my life
What have you changed?
@@Incog2024 3 things to focus on are sleep, mental health and exercise. They are the highest value in my opinion and pretty much encapsulate anything you want to improve
Yea man, iv struggled with this for awhile but when you get on something and you grind it even when you don’t feel like it, you can outpace most people. I got tired of my cycle of start something and go but when the motivation was gone I stopped, this time I’m going full on and working without motivation. Time to level up and move on!
@@Incog2024 my whole mentally has changed.. Back then I barely even think abt going gym, meditation, a self improvement routine but now it's like my mind is forcing me to do all things that benifits me and help me grow
Cringe
Online dating made me so numb, I don't even care about ghosting, unmatching etc. I just feel nothing.
Keep your head up. It is shit but don't let that stop you from working on yourself
We men are equally as bad though. Swiping left on fat chicks, having a list of favourites, then when it's a bit dry go back to the old matches when we're desperate.
I was on the receiving and giving end of this behaviour. I felt crappy doing it to the girls, and I felt crappy having it done to me
I will say that I get zero attention on dating apps from girls I’d actually be seen with. All my friends are like sometimes you gotta take what you can get. But since I’m a Christian guy I don’t sleep with women I wouldn’t marry.
When I’m at the beach running with my shirt off I get cat called and occasionally approached. So the beach running has become an addiction of mine. But the dating apps keep me humble. Cause I know they’d never pick me first and I’d rather die than be a woman’s backup pick.
But since I’m a Christian guy I don’t sleep with women I wouldn’t marry. Shouldn't it be; "But since I’m a Christian guy I don’t sleep with women I am not married.".
You are so brainwashed
@@Who_can_save_you_from_hell he didn't say he was a devout christian.
@@Who_can_save_you_from_hell I’m 27 and have had sex with one women. So in my mind those are practically the same thing. But I see your point.
@Autumn Leaves The data is pretty clear that women generally speaking are the ones who over value themselves. They rate 80% of men as physically unattractive with 15% of men being decent looking and only 5% of men are deemed attractive by the average women. Men tend to rate 60% of women as attractive and I swipe right about 50%-60% of the time when I’m on apps.
It took me years to accept it but the arrogance of women is something that’s become very clear to me lately and thank you for reminding of it with your comment. I’m sure the women would think they were giving me a chance. But seeing as I’m friends with the chads who are fucking 6 of those basic looking chicks while actively dating 2 or 3 very attractive ones iknow those women are only being pumped and dumped by the men they think are on their level.
Also when I say women I wouldn’t be seen with I’m talking about women who outweigh me and can’t walk up stairs without getting winded. I’m an 180 pound 12% body fat marine infantry squad leader who runs 6 miles a day. So yes I wouldn’t be caught dead with a fat chick. If that means I’m overvaluing myself oh well. I’ll still be ripped in 20 years and I’ll also have f who I want money by then too. So sure my value may be low now according to you and arrogant women. It won’t stay that way.
I’m 6.4 225.. always got pretty girls growing up.. I’m in my 30s.. dating apps destroyed my confidence when it shouldn’t have.. it’s crazy!
i already left all of those dating sites and started improving my lifestyle. Just need a way to finally stop thinking about women so much. This was one of the most relatable videos i've ever seen, thank you for spreading the truth
My reason for deleting is similar to yours. I was getting results, some fat chicks, some I found genuinely attractive.
But in the end I found it to be the biggest waste of time, swiping and swiping all day for that dopamine hit. It was an addiction consuming my life
For everyone considering to go on dating apps hear me out:
I actually dated a lot and i mean A LOT of tindergirls in the past and i texted with even more of them. I've never been more shocked in my life than back in the day when i used it regularly because of how toxic, delusional, narcistic and mentally ill most of these women were. Out of 200 women i texted and dated with, i only really felt some kind of vibe with 40 of them (at best) and actually dated like 30 or 25 of them over the span of 6 years. I can tell you that there was only a single girl out of 200 which i actually still think was worth the effort but sadly it didnt work out because of the distance between us and our jobs made it hard to meet each other.
Trust me guys. Its better to fight your inner demons and go out into the open world to meet new people.
Bro u are a real chad if you dated 200 woman. Are you very tall by any chance?
You must be really good looking and/or very tall?
Unless I see proof that's just a lie. This is the internet lelelelel.
I can relate to Kenji. I’ve had over 290 matches, but dated less than him (I’m more of a relationship guy, that’s why I keep it limited. Otherwise it would be too much for me) and I texted with a lot. Most of them just go for looks and taste of music. Conversations are kinda superficial and most of them can’t keep a conversation going but expect you to do that job. I can talk a lot about literally anything (thanks to my books) but most of them don’t know where to start because they’re mostly interested in binge watching Netflix or travelling. They aren’t capable of sticking to one guy, texting or following multiple guys that you have to compete with. You’re just one of many and very replaceable (even though I’m above average when it comes to hobbies, looks and style) They’re kinda addicted to keep on swiping and literally can’t get off that app. I have a gf now, but I met her in real life and deleting Tinder was way too easy for me. But I see some of the girls I know are still wasting their time on that. So guys, keep on improving your lifes and tell them your boundaries straight away. Most girls/women like more straight forward guys who tell them what they want.
Dude what really killed me was when I used Tinder for a year and I was proud of my 37 matches, went on 1 date but she ghosted me.
I made a new friend at the time and proudly showed him my matches and he says that's how much he gets in a week and he showed me his 200+ matches...
I felt like a part of me actually died and haven't been the same. Actually had to take therapy to make me realize that my manhood and self worth isn't based on how many women want me.
Most guys won't have as many matches as you, honestly wish I had that problem lol, but not anymore of course.
Deleted Tinder. Much better than ever. Thx Hamza
"Women rather share a high value man rather than saddled with a low"
this is dark reality we are living
Maybe dont take the musings of a UA-camr as absolute fact?
@@skateboarderlucc
It is a fact. That's how they behave
Its advertisers fault how they corrupted todays women, they advertised the "beauty of life" then the women forgot their role in society resulting in a false sense of women empowerment that brought out the entitled Karens to further hurt society, the "fab culture" destroyed the dating game, it made women lust for the top thereby distorting the stability below unknowingly, what they did was lure the women into the top then put estrogen hormones in mens food, what do you think will happen? America is slowly walking into a deep trap
@@skateboarderlucc I take women's behavior as a fact. Women would rather be "Thursday booty call 2" in a hot guy's phone than have Erkel or Poindexter all to herself, and you're completely full of it if you keep pretending otherwise.
Remember, women define being promiscuous as emancipation from their former slavery. They view being shacked up with normal men as literal slavery. Still don't believe me? Read up on the Sexual Revolution.
This is nothing new.
I agree, I can't help but think society is on the verge of something catastrophic. The modern dating game provides an adequate window to view our decline. I think most see it, but will this ever be addressed and discussed honestly beyond 'men have to do better' etc? Great video by the way, found you completely by accident.. I'm on board good sir! *hits subscribe
You know very well this is through the lens of the internet, everyone wears masks and pretends. Reality isn't like that.
Don't exaggerate catastophic is the climate change we are creating. Humanity will adapt and be around. It's just a trend like any other eventually we will invent something new.
@@jment34 It's no exaggeration. How do you think we go about changing the mindset of the vast majority of deluded single women from the ages of 18-40. No new form of technology will alter such rampant hypergamy. They're are all waiting for Elon Hemsworth at the finish line. That mindset isn't about to change any time soon. Not for a generation at least. Average men and average women are no longer starting relationships and families. Average men did not choose this however. Of course it will have a catastrophic effect on society. How could it not?
We are not on the 'verge' we are experiencing it now. The destruction of the family unit. The vast majority of men refusing to marry and setttle down.
@@gavinr9107 assuming it's the father's kid....ever wonder what percentage in the world of men are raising kids that aren't theirs...? The kids are a 100% the mothers'.... never guaranteed on the fathers' side
Holy shit man, you figured it out. Women believe they can get an 8 and their perceptions are inflated meanwhile the 8 man just wants to smash and the rest of the men below him are now “below her level” despite them being relatively matched. Now the women are frustrated with players, low value men are frustrated with eternal loneliness, and the 8 man runs through women with no incentive to settle down when dates are so available and women are told that they don’t need a good man long term.
The guy doing the channel figured none of this out, its a theory that's been around a while
Oh they need a good m an long-term. They don't want to maintain that good m an long-term.
That's why plenty got married, have the kid they want, then divorce and split custody with the ex husband.
That way the kid won't be fatherless and they can go back to sleeping with the bad boys again.
No men need to stop going out of their league
I made my decision not to use dating apps when I made a fake girl tinder profile and saw with my own eyes how absurd this is
How absurd is it bro? You’ve been to the other side. What are the ratios like?
@@nfdrzewiecki like within minutes you get tens of likes and guys are desperate as fuck. Makes sense that the girls ego is thru the roof. But also most of this thirsty dudes were not physcially attractive whatsoever, so if you manage to get in shape etc You should be good.
@nfdrzewiecki I've done it too. Mate u will get hundreds of matches in a couple hours and guys thirsting after you.
@@nfdrzewiecki make one yourself. It's pathetic. You get like 100 likes in less than 24 hours. In part i blames guys for not being selective enough and ego inflating women, but i suspect Tinder itself does this to inflate women's ego, make them feel desirable in their search for the best catch possible. That way they can extort them out of their money through premium currencies.
@@nfdrzewiecki i did too.... within a minute u have like a hundred likes.... and if u swiped right on any guy it would be a gauranteed match
top 5 reasons why everyone should be on self-improvement:
-it makes you happy
-it makes you calm
-it makes you socialized
-it brings peace
-it supports all other areas of life
Would you stfu, goddamn. You’ve spammed like 5 comments just to get likes
Also makes you wealthier
-it makes you more like adonis
Can you help me with the 3rd point cuz it's the opposite for me
@@realmarkoknezevic you can hit me up on discord if you want to connect!
This is my mark, I am leaving this comment as something to look back on, right now I'm in Brazil, just turned 16, about average for the people around me, but get 0 attraction, I will become Adonis and leave this country one day, have a brotherhood of good men, and a woman I truly love, and when that day comes, I will come back here, and tell my story, the journey starts now.
Good luck!
@@Samppa_linna thank you🙏
I have started my journey down this road, I am happy to also continue, so good luck, and don't stop this path.
@@FileFire good luck brother💪
É mano, vivendo e aprendendo.
If you're in your 20s-30s and you're not married, your ONLY purpose in life should be:
1. make more money faster
2. lift weights and get shredded
3. get smarter about everything
cope. you should find a girl while you’re young so you can build together. by the time you’ve finished learning all those things all your options left for you are gonna be overweight women or single mome
Gave up on dating years ago, not worth the time or effort and who wants to date a woman who slept with 400 guys...
Most of you. Most of you want to date a woman who slept with "400 guys." The amount of DMs that IG thots get prove this. You chase behind women like that constantly. The women who are modest and have low to non-existent bodycounts are invisible "prudes" to you. These are the beds you've made. Lay in them and contemplate your life choices while the decent "prudes" quickly get wifed up and build families with other decent men who don't buy into this manosphere, "woe is me" nonsense.
I’ve been in 3 long term relationships and each time tinder ruined me post break-up. It’s just another form of social comparison that doesn’t follow the natural course of socialisation. When I let go of trying so hard to meet people and instead relaxed into enjoying my own journey is when I met the coolest people.
Also, a side comment; I think Hamza’s message is so good because it literally slices through the noise. He’s like a cut throat version of buddha; as buddha can’t compete with today’s loud visuals and speed of the internet. Good job mate
Cutthroat Buddha, I like it.
top 5 books for self-improvement:
-why we sleep
-oxygen advantage
-millionaire fastlane
-100$ startup
-male advantage
The Way Of The Superior Man can go there too, make it a top 6.
Add The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn and How To Win Friends And Influence People
Who is the author of male advantage? Can’t find it
@@misterscent 1st man. I recommend checking out his UA-cam channel. Lots of great content, many of which inspired Hamza's own content.
I'm currently reading the millionaire fastlane and I highly recommend it
Hamza. Thanks for everything you've done man. Your a life changer.
I agree hamza has been great help in my life he’s honestly made me a better men
No, you have made yourself better because you’ve decided to make yourself better
I know but I would have never started it if it wasn't for him.
@@shayansafiullah5110 same men he give me that push
Very well said, an 8 guy normally doesn't want a relationship with a 5 girl, but for a one night stand he would go for it. Now that 5 girl thinks she is an 8 because an 8 guy approached her. Stupid situation
Problem is the 8 guy kept coming back and sleeping with her, some even hung out with the girl.
Plenty average w omen got fwb relationship with handsome guys. So it's not just a one night stand
Been on my own self-improvement journey (with ups and downs) since about 5 years ago. I can honestly say that it’s all worth it. Just get comfortable being alone for a while, and don’t expect results any time soon. And don’t expect validation for the progress you’ve made, especially from women. They just don’t get it. Get yourself up there and reap the rewards as they come in, don’t go chasing them. It’s about the journey of making it to the top from whatever low point you’re at. But keep in mind that the world is so big and nobody will care about that journey, so just stay quiet and prove to them every day that you’re worthy.
yeah, keep "self-improvement", "don't chase them" and you will stay alone till death when all your friends and relatives have already found their love. Man should meet more and more new people and than man could find love.
Brothers, my brief story with Tinder was the following. So when I was in my peak of attitude/physical form/confidence and looks I have been dating kinda hot women (I would say around 6 to 8 out of ten). I tried Tinder recently for 1 month (just as an experiment as I know all the bullshit these apps brings) and I barely got 4 matches from women that rating they photos were 5 at maximum (in person probably less) and I tried different kind of openers but received no response from none. Conclusion: Be at your peak in all aspects of your life and play the game in person, that's going to give you much more results than these evil apps.
This so much. Women and white knights deny this but as a guy on dating apps you can mostly date down. I'm no chad but muscular and 185cm and average face, yet i mostly attracted short and fat women. Dating apps inflate women's egos and deflates men's ego.
lies
@@Ariovistus50 I tried once some app like Tinder, only much uglier women that I normaly date replied :-D So that was the end of me being here.
Yeah, whatever you think of PUAs, it's just better to go learn how to talk to women in person
I love how hamza addresses most men so badly, but can’t call a fat women fat.
that cancel culture ya know
@Tony Montana fr.
@Tony Montana well said
And long live Hamza YT channel lol
@@hamzafiltered man your pfp and name made me laugh out loud :D appreciate it!
"If a man cannot feel the love of his tribe, he will burn down the village just to feel its warmth"
You need help with that?
Because i feel cold af.
sometimes you need the boyz
That ll be fun
Thats it
I will never date a good looking girl
Cause im 5'5
Time to rope
@@Ali-ir7le height cannot be controlled. what can be is mindset and strength. getting shredded homie
The problem with the theory of "working on yourself" is that there will always be an 80/20 rule, but we know now it's a 95/5 rule. I'm not an incel, but I can see that without good genes you simply cannot enter the top 5% no matter how much you lift, maybe if you have tens of millions that could be skewed, but that is very unlikely for the average man.
Choose women from different country, if you have money, you can be good provider for them. And if you dont have any moral problem, you can still pay for sex and you can have plenty of sex like women.
You're wrong. In the real world of face to face encounters you don't need to be 95/5. Getting a woman isn't the problem, it's all the risk associated
Are you American? If you're the middle class type, if you have the opportunity, go outside of your country. Meet people. Don't bring that arrogant attitude. Be polite in your demeanor. Don't judge people based on their look (other country probably have their own set of value they look for). *Pray* to find a wife if you want one, not go to the red light district (prostitute). You may be surprised that how American/west view these "average looking" people as someone pleasing to the eyes. Good luck. Best regard.
You may be surprised
I'd say a lot of what he says in this video is true. I'm old enough to remember what it was like dating in the 90's and 2000's, and it was totally different. When internet dating first started getting big 20 years ago or so, I remember I had a several dates per week because the women were still mostly "normal" and were still looking for love and would spend time with you in trying to attain that. Now most women are just cartoonish narcissists that are delusional, self-absorbed, and could give a f**k about understanding a man and being an equal part of a relationship.
@Autumn Leaves Degenerate male? LOL...what's the matter, you don't like females getting called out for their disgusting, self-absorbed behavior?
The modern struggle:
Lone individuals summoning inhuman willpower, improving, meditating, and exercising
Up against armies of scientists and statisticians weaponizing abundant food, screens, and medicine into junk food, clickbait news, infinite porn, endless games, and addictive drugs
You basically summed up the thruth of modern everyday life that most wont accept under any circumstances. lol .
If you are of the God fearing sort, you might think of this as a spiritual battle for our souls and that we are in the End Times. Heck, I am not even a believer, but it certainly feels like it is a battle for the future and souls of humanity.
Its so easy to unplug once you realize this. Stop consuming their drugs.
@@ligafftheindifferent3495 well the spiritual world exists for sure and I've been feeling similar, that someone on the top with money wants to kinda enslave humanity, thats how it looks like for me and it could have spiritual reasons too... I wonder if they do some rituals at huge events like superball tho or it would be too much
Hamza is grinding hard asf. He brings videos DAILY. What the actual fk. Full Jeffrey/Adonis skits, captivating story telling, new topics and a call to action. All with max 6 hours a day of work. Great man.
Facts but that new content comment is pure🧢. Love bros channel but he’s been posting the same exact content over and over for the past month with different titles. Self improvement is rlly broad so there’s not much to talk about unless you’ve done the extremes and have more life experience like 1stman for example.
@@Jdot2tact said the guy with a back profile picture on youtube
@@Jdot2tact nah dude I really like the fact that he repeats whatever message he has. That way it’s not like an info overload but instead he is sort of rewiring our neuropathways to know exactly how to improve our lives. He isn’t just giving tips and life hacks it’s so much more than that. He is inspiring us to become better.
@@brucepower3429 nxgga you’re name is Bruce. Transition outta my replies
I hope you understand that behind every successfull youtuber there is a TEAM of workers.
this is why i hate meeting people on social media. cause you can never really tell if you "vibe" with someone until you meet them face to face
I know a girl who once rejected a guy because he opened a packaged fork in a weird manner. With perceived abundance, women’s selectivity is running off the rails.
Even when women have the best man they’ve ever got they usually fuck it up and think they deserve even more.
LMAO!!!!! Oh man that is retarded. She definitely didn't like him to begin with. When they really like you, they'll let you do whatever you want (even to them...as bad as that sounds)
Obviously she has never smoked weed
In my teens and twenties it was easy to meet girls. These were the 80s and 90s. Forward 25 yrs later and divorced, I tried dating apps , very disappointed off the start. Now 58 I can care less what women want. Stay single men and have fun but don’t commit.
Same thing here, 52. Teens and twenties, never any shortage and there was no internet. Though I had two kids by 30. After that divorced at 35 I thought getting 3 out of ten women I was interested in on eHarmony was pitiful. I didn't know other guys got 3 in a hundred or less. But those 3 were always nowhere near the level I was used to, or if hot, just forever dating type. If I was looking again I would just focus on randomly meeting people or go to some bar like back in the day
And if you do commit don't do it on the master branch, that shit should be reserved for pull requests only
it used to be so easy as an average, regular dude... those were the days lol
Advising men to check out of life - to be a father, a husband, a provider…. That’s fucked up. There’s no future for us if we do that. It’s all for nothing.
I was on dating apps for a good year and a half and the last 3 months I was deleting and reinstalling and I noticed the week or so that I didn't have it I felt better so now I don't use them and advise people I know not to use them. Absolutely destroyed my confidence and self image. I feel much better mentally now.
"A man you know will kill himself in 2 to 3 years"
And that man is actually... me. No matter how hard i tried to improve my situation life always managed to turn it back and make it worse. I do want to kill myself, and self-improvement doesn't stop my suicidal thoughts
Yeah same here. I feel if things don't start looking up in the next few years I won't be able to take it anymore. The idea of not existing and not having to think of this shit anymore is so much nicer than powering through all the bullshit just to survive. What's the point of going on if I'm so unhappy or can't have the things I desire?
@@clownanonymous6174 let me guess u want a gf. they are overrated
Atleast wait for armageddon no point wasting your life. And if you don't want to wait bring the date closer for all of us.
@avoid the void what will your family think if you go through with it
Trust in the process.
All the girls on tinder are damaged, I never saw the appeal.
This is true, but I see it as a challenge to better myself.
I still remember I was heartbroken from being unmatched and decided to better myself by going to the gym a lot more and setting "realistic goals."
Many people fail, but few learn from it.
Modern dating apps are definitely one of those worse things you can do to your self esteem, it will crush it and you'll feel like you're nothing.
Men, don't stay on dating apps!!
Thats why I always recommend to engage with people in real life. There are so many more factors in your control
“Adonis uses tinder just as Asian men pay their taxes, he doesn’t.” 💀💀💀
Can someone explain the meaning of this? It's flying way above my head!
Hamza, thank you for constantly fueling us and believing in us. I'm usually a silent viewer but i want to thank you for your guidance in these trying times. your work safes the lives of young men metaphorically speaking but also probably literally speaking.
Thank you for your hard work.
I wanna share a bit of my personal self-improvement journey with this community to maybe help other young men too, especially regarding self-improvement and dating as a person with a disability. This is going to be a very long comment so to anyone reading this far feel free to skip.
I'm 24 years old and was born with a physical disability which, to put it simple, gave me weak-ass legs (for those interested my disability is an infantile cerebral palsy)
It was caused due to complications at birth, mainly lack of oxygen. So to clarify its not of a genetic cause
Using my legs in a functional way was basically not possible in my early years as a kid. I learned to walk a few steps when i was 6 years old, but i still was heavily dependend on a wheelchair (for example) to have a proper "walking range"
Needless to say that if i walked it looked really strange in comparison to everyone else. It still looks to this day but far less then back then.
I had a lot of physical therapy and could, over the years, walk further and more normal. The wheelchair was history and some doctors were proven wrong.
I luckily wasn't really bullied for beeing disabled and i am immensely gratefull for that. But i get stared at every time when im outside, dating girls seemed quite Impossible to me for mostly all my teenage years, because it was obvious that they couldn't handle the way i walked (with 2 or 3 exceptions). This and some other stuff regarding my family gave me hard times considering my self worth and overall mental health. I hadn't the ressources or knowledge to properly handle this state of mind and neither did the people close to me. I couldn't open myself up to these problems and it led to me almost commiting suicide after a girl dumped me in a very hurtful way and problems in my family were quite servere. I've sworn to myself that night to never feel that ashamed and worthless again, especially not because of actions from other people aiming towards me. So I got into meditating and journaling about 5 years ago (i stumbled upon Hamza rather recently). My mental health got a lot better and im feeling pretty good overall. I still have my insecurities but i can improve on them and dont let them interfer so much with my decision making.
Ive finished my Bachelors degree and continued leveling up my physique and mental health.
I got into a couple more "date-streaks" and achieved to get intimate with a few girls, although i didnt get a proper girlfriend to this day. I can assure you that putting in the work to improve yourself is always worth it.
Even though i leveled up my value in the single market and would consider myself above average (76 kg, pretty muscular, Safe and solid income, rather intellegent, sense of style.. you know the stuff) i think to reach 9/10 or 10/10 for me personally is not achievable (i know this sounds a bit "black-pillish" ) but frankly i don't care. I will keep improving myself and if its just for the sake of making myself feel better. I still have hope to find a girl that loves me for what i am, for what i have become and values "the distance of personal growth" I've covered from the beginning. knowing how far you have come and keep going forward is the most valuable rating you can put on yourself. You are more than your income, your muscle mass etc. You are more than numbers. How much you have gained is not truly telling how much you are able to give to the world around you.
You are worthy of a deep connection, a healthy relationship. You are worthy of love.
If i can improve, you can too.
You doing great. keep up the hard work especially when you don't feel like it.
Hang in there man. My other coach Dave is physically disabled and he's now a coach with me. He will reply here too.
Hey thanks for sharing your story. As White Pill Man said, I’m also disabled with a disease called multiple hereditary exostoses, which left me with physical deformities and a limp, I was a virgin until I was 26 and then went hard on leveling up my game with mentors and coaches. Now I’ve have a very successful dating life and sex life, more than most men. I work with White Pill Man as a coach helping other guys win. I’m always happy to see other disabled men taking action. If I did it so can you
Thank you for your kind words. Its helpful to know that
a) it is possible to achieve a fulfilling love life as a disabled Person (as proven by you @GhostDave)
and
b) one is not alone with his hardships.
I'm glad you two achieved so much. Thank you for giving me further motivation. I know in couple of years i can do it too. Stay strong you two;)
Read all of it. Thank you. Best regard to you. ❤️ I pray that you meet "the one" for you...
Never give up bro. Few people have the strenght and willpower to do what you did.
Great video! I deleted tinder some time ago because i think the same. It's degrading and it brings you low value women. Now I do only day game and not having tinder helps me having the right motivation to approach.
I'm still struggling to eliminate all the social media apps and binge watching apps, but I'll succeed.
Crazy how true this is! Subscribed my man.
This video hits home. Got a match a couple days ago, super cute. We were texting back and forth pretty well. Then her replies started going from every couple of minutes to hours. And it’s been mental torture checking the app every couple of minutes because I really want it to work out. She hasn’t responded in over a day but I’ve been driving myself crazy checking. I literally just deleted that shit. F*ck tinder and all these other bullshit apps.
like he said, if u arent an 8+ then dont even bother installing
The lesson here is don’t fall for people you’ve never met
You are honestly doing an amazing work by putting yourself against these big companies: congratulations
😂😂😂
Things it's also damaging female mental health which fucks all of us. We should stand strong
I TRIED Tinder as a woman. My friends who met each other by Tinder told me to give it a shot. After one weekend I deleted it, it gave me so much headache and I didnt feel "right". I like to meet people in real life, I think it is cuter to meet someone all by suddenly in the Park etc. 😊
Yeah, I hear you. But good luck with that😆
@@Kazo3708 met my ex SO after gym. Both were awkward as hell.
Until you stop getting approached regularly
Ya were not cold approaching anymore. Maybe you should try approaching men.
@@jorgelibarra459 I only talk to men when im outside with my friends, maybe i should turn gay
I never even bothered to install it. I remember once I met an average looking girl and she showed me her tinder messages and it was hundreds if not thousands of men. she just kept scrolling and scrolling down and I was like I can't even be bothered with this. imagine what a good looking girl would get. you're a needle in a haystack.
the reson its easier to meet girls just outside in a bar somewhere is because you're already there the entire texting process is skipped you are right next to her and can just make a move, the same reason something like free trials online are annoying when they require credit card info, if someone random on the street just told me he'd give me free netflix id be like hell yeah, but if i gotta do it online i just wont, its easier to just say no over text dont reply or block someone if you dont feel like talking than rejecting irl, and when u dont instantly reject someone because they're not 6'2 you can actually get to know the person and like them
I feel sorry for Jeffrey ngl
He probably had a bad family and experienced home violence
he was my best friend, he hasn't been the same since
Didn’t we all lmao
Your childhood shouldn’t be used as an excuse to just do instant gratification.
I think the point of his analogy is that it’s a spectrum kinda like sexuality in the sense we’re not 100% Adonis and not 100% Jeffrey, neither perfect nor completely flawed. They live within us. Some of us are more Adonis than Jeffrey and vice versa and the goal is to be more Adonis than Jeffrey. They way he utilizes that opening analogy is so good because of how many people can relate to the Jeffrey persona.
@@Lite727 How is sexuality a spectrum? Not being rude i just want to know
having a relationship with a women in 2022 where there is social media everywhere and DMS
is like trying to face a storm in the sea with a small tiny kayak boat
You are a good storyteller/teacher/speaker and are spreading good information about this important social issue, kudos
I got banned today for some unknown reason. Kinda sick that these dating apps control how we meet people nowadays
Yeah all tinder did was make me feel like shit about myself. I would only get a few matches here and there, and they would all ghost me after a few days of talking, every time. I deleted the app, I had to, and I've been happier ever since. The way women treated me on tinder was seriously making me question if something was severely wrong with me, I had to get off of there.
Don't want to break your heart further but those same girls may have been fake profiles too lool
I'm on Tinder to write/ meet/ talk with girls but it's doesnt effect my self improvement journey in a negative way at all. The app is based on looks etc and this is why you can't compare it with real dating life. I know that and I don't pay for things like this app. Still hitting the gym 5 times a week, learning my instrument + working on appearance and self confidence. Quitted video games and porn already 3 month ago. But everyone should do what he /she prefers to do or what's best for him/her.
Ay respect the grind homie! Amazing job!
"What is evil? Whatever comes from weakness." - friedrich nietzsche
Love this quote!
Beautiful never heard this
you are mistaken
I've heard this time tons of time, and agree with it all, I hold the same POVs. My comment though is that your video sums everything up perfectly in the right time frame. Perfect to share
Tbh I'm pretty much over dating or trying to have something fulfilling with a woman. Society has completely soured that for me. I have friends who are girls, and random hookups, but that's all I want anymore. Around the mid 2000s, especially once smartphones became widespread, humanity lost something and it's never coming back.
I am glad that the girl I am engaged to lives in a greenery village with beautiful glaciers, jungles and mountains. She never even had a smartphone in all her life and when she wants to video call me she gets smartphones of her friends and by talking more with her I realize that how much optimistic she is about life and everything while here I am so pessimist. Thanks Hamza for making me realize that my future with her will be so bright and amazing and I am genuinely grateful for what nature has blessed me.
Update:
I got married to her 🥳
@@xfu1993 100%
Thank you as always Hamza! Still Love this Style of your Videos and this Clear and direct messages every day. Keep going :)!
Top reasons why I quit dating apps as a man:
1. Time Consuming (scrolling for hours minimal results, not worth spending hours upon.)
2. The algorithm is unfair for men, women always get way more matches and more options than men.
3. The subscription (paying ridiculous money and buying boosts for your profile to be seen more.) At the end of the day the creators of app win.
4. Catfish profiles and unrealistic communication. (Rather meet someone in real life to see how they actually look then interact with them to see if our vibes match, this results in much more instant and authentic results, if they’re interested then you can escalate things, if not move on, at least this way you’re not texting for months and playing the waiting game and all that what you should text and not text bs. Too long and too time consuming.)
5. Affects on Mental Health and self esteem (Like it or not we subconsciously get attached to the results when we swipe, our ego and pride gets into it and when we can’t meet our expectations we start feeling bad about ourselves.)
*Bottom line, too time consuming, you can use that time to do something better and more productive like figure out your purpose, your passion and build a life that you actually enjoy, not saying don’t talk to girls but interact with girls irl getting their number is way better than texting on dating apps. Better authentic and instantaneous results. Also builds up confidence, social skills and reduces approach anxiety.
What do you guys think? Let me know.
Agree with all these mate.
2. The algorithm is unfair for men, women always get way more matches and more options than men. - It's not about alghoritm, it's hipergamy my friend
Thanks for everything Hamza 👍🏻
Great video! I have felt, implicitly, exactly what you articulate since I (someone married 25+ years) learned of the scope and dynamics of online dating. The level of psychological and sociological engineering is astounding. It really is starting to feel like powerful forces are at work to generate depopulation events. Crazy times indeed.
Now you understand why it's board of directors is made up of politically connected people like Hilary Clintons daughter.
Never used tinder, never saw the point of it and i am grateful that my ego didn t let me do that
Yessir prolly for the best
Congratulations bro! 🎉
Then how you found your love?? :D
i took your advice to heart i recently started doing these things to improve on myself
1.making my first yt channel
2.working out 5 times a week
3.eating healthy
4.reading a book 1 hour a day (self improvement book)
i appreciate all you do for us it really means a lot.
Can I know some of the self improvement books you have been reading
@@StoneColdJohnnySins1 I second this. Please let us know
Well done man, I’m glad to hear it.
I'm on a similar path. I'm also a youtube beginner, so I know the grind. But keep doing what you are doing and don't let the initial tough road discourage you
Keep self improving but you ll never be good enough for them.
Bar getting higher with each passing day
I was obsessed with tinder and dating apps since I moved to a new state and didn't make friends and worked at a slow restaurant and didn't know many people. I wasted months on tinder and got annoyed and just deleted it and low an behold I actually to my surprise lol started getting girls in person just by talking to them in person.
It's not been even a month that I started dieting,nofap, exercise, reading, journaling, meditating and I have lost few pounds and feel better than ever
I'm gonna this to rest of my life
My ex use to always catch me on datings apps when we were together it really ruins a lot of opportunities you don’t need it if you get girls already
What were you doing on dating apps if you were already in a relationship? lol
@@jcnba28 it was all lust. I had an amazing person in my life and at the time I didn’t value them
I need a 3 minute motivational speech by Hamza to use as an alarm clock. This man's voice just has a special power to motivate me and make me become the best version of myself
A bit nervous about leaving a comment here as a woman. But I want to do here it goes. I’ve used every damn dating apps and dated different types of men and realized the longer they are in these apps (and me too as a woman) the more they are attached to reality too. Because all of the frustration they are just projecting every experiences they had have with women on that single one who’s marching with them and goes on a date or even 2-3. I only have bad experiences to be honest, I know about the experience of men too as I watched my friend daily being crossed, lied to, ignored, etc… I am personally under a lot of pressure because of my medical problems that is a huge factor of rejecting but more often using me (not in sexual terms, but most recently financially and emotionally). Another thing is that not every women can have biological children and immediately are being rejected for that reason too. As many of you commented all together social media messes up any type of relationships, including friendships as well. And the urge for pretending to be someone else then feeling let down. I don’t know…it’s damn hard. But life is too short to pretend and not be happy and confident about who and what you are. If you are happy with your personality and look then just know that there’s someone out there for everyone. But definitely not on these apps. All the best finding it!!! ❤️
Gaslighting has been going on for decades. But social media and makeup has intensified it.
This is definitely something that NEEDS to be taught at life skills classes in high school. So many people are so easily exploitable, and that's not a criticism at them, it's a natural thing. Many people like myself really do suffer from lack of self confidence and self loathing, and a lot of that does come from dating apps like Tinder. Because of Tinder, it has played a big part in me thinking that the type of girls that I usually go for are way above my level, and the people I ended up matching with are people that on initial looks do not interest me which is heavily demoralising. Another reason is that I have been rejected by many girls in person which really doesn't help. All in all, I'm a 24 year old virgin who feels destined to be a lonely virgin for life.
The only advice I can tell you is : if you can't find a right woman in your country, try to find one somewhere else. It can take times, but it should be worthy. That's what I did, I don't regret it. I was in the same situation as you are except it lasted much more.
You should be happy because of it, do you know how much money do you need to throw when in reliationship! 😂
The RAIN is the MODERN MEDIA.
“Mental health problems don’t define who you are. They are something you experience. You walk in the rain and you feel the rain, but, importantly, YOU ARE NOT THE RAIN.” - Matt Haig
“It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable” - Socrates
😂
@@brucepower3429 whats so funny?
@@juliennacer8871 everything
@@brucepower3429 nothing about it is funny
@@jsgv7935 lol
The problem I see is that men and women start to develop standards based on the league they think they’re in. Tinder makes it easy to have a much more societally appealing representative - better job, better body, better charisma, better looking. So instead of people being appreciative of those who are willing to give the real them a chance, they fall into this trap of continuously swiping and believing they have unlimited options.
Exactly and when they were young Disney told them all they were princesses and this just reinforces that notion
Chad here. I've seen tremendous success on Tinder. However, even if these girls end up with a high value man like me, their ego is so massively inflated that I could never wife them up. These women act so entitled even though they are with me. I think there has only been one occasion where the woman was totally obsessed and submissive to me, but that's because she was 18 and I was 29. I had a great career and a nice physique so to her, I was an ultimate prize. That and well, at 18 you haven't really tested the waters and seen what kind of attention you can get.
I've just leveled up my profile to where I'm getting more matches than I can reasonably text and dates are still hard to get because so many women are using it for validation. I don't know if tinder is the play, even if you're a chad
lmaoo overwhelemed by dates that is a W
yeah same, I have about 200 unmessaged matches (only swiping right on girls I like) but it is so fucking hard to get even one date out of it. The conversation is good and suddenly they drop off, or you ask for a meetup and boom shes gone. Also, it seems as if the activity of girls is different during the course over of a month
@@thegritsch Chad problems :/
Nah brother. Bigger problem is guys dont have balls to ask a girl out in real life these days. They just try via Tinder and any other bs like that. Girl value self esteem. Just go out into the streets and talk to them...
Tinder robs your money and time worse than a casino.
You're right and it's pretty sad. Dating dynamics are now different and modern dating is pretty tough. We're all screwed.
The impact will be softened when we normalize prostitution in society. A single prostitute often sleeps with 5-10 men a day and doesn't make any demands of them other than money (i.e. be productive to society), they can be old, ugly, fat or even extremely socially inept nerds, she won't care.
All of this online social media dating ish is lame as hell! 6 to 10 years ago you had to meet a woman in person "like a human being" at a bar, club, party, mall etc. and it was more rewarding and organic ...all social media did was bring out the crazies and the rejects
I got very lucky, I met my fiancé through tinder. But it was a fluke, I spent years degrading myself on tinder. And I do not recommend it to anyone. This video is not an exaggeration, it is the truth. It’s possible to find good people on there, because those people struggle with the same issues. But dating apps are not a healthy way to find relationships unless your just looking for hookups
I blame the men. Look at any females Instagram and look at all the thirsty comments by men writing things like "marry me" "I love you" "you are so beautiful" "you are an awesome person" "you have a beautiful personality" they fall for these women just by looking at her pictures. When it comes to online dating men don't have any standards, they just take any woman that gives them some attention. If you are a man and watching this or reading this work on improving yourself, don't chase women, pursue them but don't make it your only thing you do. If a woman doesn't want, you brush it off and go after the next one. Improve your mental and physical wellbeing this way you can better be prepared to meet that woman of your dreams. Awesome video you made a lot of good valid points.
Same, men who like every profile they see are scum and have put us in this mess
Great video man. All truths.
From a guy who does not get a lot but what he does is high quality. Its actually painfull to see really great women have acces to unlimited hook ups yet they are lonely and sad because its devoid of actual intimicy. They are shutting down emotionally and because they start to think its all about sex they end up hooking up with losers waaaaay below their level because they show that moment of interest
I agree with the overall message of this video - don't be on Tinder if you are a straight man living in a city. You have lots of options to meet women in real life. However some statements really could do with some empirical evidence to back them up, such as "Women would rather share a high value man rather than have an average man exclusively". Without evidence, you are just basically believing what you want to believe.
Truth is, attraction and relationships happen naturally. Was never really about looking for it 🤷♀️
Respect homie
This is it right here
This is irrelevant to the vid, but I swear every time I watch Hamza, I just get so motivated to go do work and be like Adonis. Hamza is our generations leader
Fr man Adonis is a lifestyle that we have to be reminded of daily!
I'd say that I get quite a lot of matches and shit, but imo having this casual sex still isnt all that great for me, i always feel empty after it and still not really fulfilled, that's why I deleted tinder and shit and just go out to meet girls and try to build relationships ngl
This was one of the best videos on this topic .
Never downloaded it so I’m happy about that ( I know someone who does have it and he is obsessed with that app it’s a daily routine for him. I wish the best for everyone all it takes is a couple buttons to lighten up your life. 👑💪 Stay strong kings )
yessir same here. do not plan on getting it
I’m glad people like hamza exist. He gives me hope in my life.
I have dated 3 women in my entire life, hopefully marrying the third, I guarantee you they would never have picked me if they first saw me in Tinder. All the things they liked about me they saw it in their daily lives, they judged me by my actions and by how I treated others in my day-to-day, don't sell yourself short by putting yourself on sale, the only benefactor in this is the businesses that run the apps.