We need more information to make an informed decision. If she is failing to pay her bills and ditching quality time with her husband, spending their joint savings eg they saving for a house all because she is spending too much on the “Taylor swift lifestyle” then yes the wife is out of control. But if its a one off once in a lifetime concert (expense) and the rest of the “obsession” is listening to music and watching videos and its not costing anything then she if fine to do as she wishes.
Taylor Swift story: this is one of the rare times i disagree with Dusty. (I suspect he's got a slanted take because hes so close to several Swifties.) I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling and voicing discomfort over a loved one's obsession on something/someone. Maybe OP is on the ASCON scare-- its definitely possible. If it's a situation where she's just a big fan and he makes fun of her for it bc he's not, then yeah, hes the ASCON. But if she's exhibiting ovsessive behavior (which she very well might be according to his letter), then its perfectly reasonable for him to feel uncomfortable about the situation, and to voice his concerns. I say all this as a former megafan of a couple different people over the years when i was a teen. There is a point where you need to draw a line between what is and what is not acceptable behavior.
The plate story, I think the SIL is breaking plates that OP's Gma gave her because MIL compliments the plates. Personally, she wouldn't be eating with anything but plastic after the first time this happened in my home. I have always had dogs and grown ups not respecting broken glass being a hazard is a problem. When I had lots of parties in my 20/30's it was ALL unbreakable cups/plates for everyone. 🐶
I do definitely think, after hearing O.P talk about the swifty situation with their partner, its an obsession, even superfans from time to time think "right this is a bit much now" whereas she, according to op, shows no signs of stopping, it seems like the only time they want to watch something, it can only be recordings of taylor swift is insane. Story 5: ill just leave this alfred quote "some people just want to watch the world burn" and i loved that he revealed he did it😂
Story 7. NTA! My professors in college had us fill out comment cards after projects to grade everyones participation in the group. If we all graded each other decently we would all get the same final grade. However, if we all are honest about a slacker and submit that you didn't show up, or assist with the project, we would each get the same final grade and the slacker would be docked or failed. (This would only happen if it was unanimous) it made us all try and contribute equally to projects.
I think it is cute for couples to feed each other cake at their wedding. With a fork so they don’t ruin the makeup and very expensive clothes. You should never take joy in someone else’s embarrassment or pain
In the first story - it’s the 2k for me. Depends if that’s both their money or just hers. If it’s both than it’s impacting her husband financially at that point and it’s to me no longer super fan. I say NTAish so I’m going with a 4
*Story 4 |Wedding Cake:* I also HATE the cake cutting part. Idk why I let it happen but also warned my fiancé + he agreed w/a minor glint in his eye. We got to that part, the drunk DJ messed up the song so we suffered thru it + I could tell he wanted to smash mouth me to be an aśš + to liven the DJs mess up but I gave him the look he’d know all to well one day + just smooshed it enough on my lips and chin to mk ppl laugh + I was good with that compromise.
Ahhhh my fiance wouldn't dare, he knows how much my wedding dresses were and how important it is to me to have that not happen. But we also have a child and after seeing a lot of videos of men doing that it's really bothered me that that happens, nobody in my family, in all the weddings I've been to, have the groom done that or a variation of it.
Right?! Blasphemy! My first album I bought is a Beatles album and while I was pregnant three years ago I would listen to their music in the car everyday mixed in with newer music
I’m the same with Home Free. It’s isn’t just about the music; the music helped me heal while recovering from cancer; the hole left in my life by that; the friends I’ve made through the fans. Try being a Fry! If I had the £ I would fly to USA for their tours. 😊
I like most of Taylor swifts songs and really admire what she’s done, business-wise. But listening to her songs on a non-stop loop would drive me insane. Watching the same phone recording of a concert over and over? Why would you pay $2k to go to a concert and then watch it through your phone as you record it? Does he not get to pick any music to listen to around the house or tv shows to watch? A few of the comments on the actual Reddit post talk about how this wife sounds neurodivergent for being hyper-fixated and I agree with them.
I’m a huge fan of Dimash and my partner is not. When I’m home I wear my headphones which enables my partner to listen to what he wants or just have peace and quiet. There is fault on both sides here and some mutual respect wouldn’t go astray. Pooing all over her being a super fan is not the way to go about it. She needs to be more considerate. Just my view. Love you work Dusty, my son’s name by the way 😊
Dusty, I usually agree with most of your views. Not on the Taylor Swift thing. She is totally put of control and not listening to her partner. Of course she doesnt like his comments cause she wants to do what she wants to do. I would need to be medicates to have to live with all the crap she is doing. What about what he might like to wat h or listen to? Or maybe just some silence. That wife needs to get a grip before ahe drives him away. And yes, that's the dire tion she is headed.
The cheating story with shithead. Dusty, you didn't see the beautiful reason for OP to tell the ex. They now know that they outed themselves, the pain that is now in their minds as they really did everything to themselves even telling on themselves. It's beautiful revenge..
I understand being a fan, but if you make me listen ALL THE TIME to one artist in my home, we wont be in the same home anymore. I dont get along with the stuck mindset of only 1 decade music, 1 artist nor one type mindset. And i wont live in that nightmare. If you cant let me also live in our home with my likes. We are done. We have had headsets to listen longer than my 50 years. If your stuck then get a pair. Yes im mean. I also wont suffer 24/7 of anything. Veriety is what i need not just want.
Her sis or husband needs to know. What’s to stop him from continuing his behaviour and so putting the sis at risk? He’s a stalker online. He will act on it eventually
Dusty, I have to fully 100% disagree on the Taylor Swift one. I'm a kpop fan (not a stan) and you should see how bad some of these fandoms are *cough*BTS*cough*. I have seen people drops thousand upon thousands of dollars on the group. We call these stans... They are the extreme of the fandom. To listen to only Taylor, spend 2k on a single concert... To watch pretty much only Taylor. And then to come after the husband because he isn't joining in on this obsession.. nope the wife has gone way to far over the edge.. this isn't just a fan or a super fan... This is an absolute obsession and a very unhealthy one.
Tylor swift story. My husband is like the husband here. I love Harry Potter. We have separate rooms so we can have a place just for ourselves. I decorated in Harry Potter and he constantly looks down on me. He decorated in all HS football but I said nothing but cool
The men's thinking the wife from story one needs to grow up because she loves Taylor Swift but not saying anything about the man who smashed cake in wife's face, made fun of her on her period and didn't eat vegetables??? That man needs to grow up.
Sil is jealous of her. OP loves the plates, emotional meaning for her. So she’s getting back at OP emotionally. Seeking a response but didn’t like the type of attention she got
ON the Story with Shit Head, I couldn't agree more about there already being issues in the relationships when the cheating started. I have the dubious distinction of having Cheated, Been Cheated On, and Been the Other Guy, though I didn't know that until after, but from that I have learned that if someone cheats, it's because like you said, There is something wrong in the relationship.
In-story 1, the only reason her ex husband doesn’t want his ex-wife, 20:45 to tell her sister, because he doesn’t want the sister to be disgusted by him. He still wants to have a connection with her, and he will still be keeping in contact with her sister after the divorce, if she doesn’t say anything, because he still needs that, but if she tells her sister, that will be away from him! I bet he has her on his social medias there won’t be getting rid of her he’ll get rid of his ex-wife, but not the sister, so he can still have that connection. She needs to wake up! And needs to warn her sister! About creep! Because he’s not just going to go away, he will leave his ex alone, believe that, but he won’t leave your sister alone, he will befriend her, she needs to let her sister know! Destroyed his sick fantasy!
5:15 I think people are overlooking the difference in the way men and women tell a story, a woman would focus on talking about how their partners actions make them feel where as men talk about the actions assuming that you would just feel the same way they do. I think he is implying that all she talks about it Taylor swift or what if the only thing she watches is her shitting phone recording maybe this has been a gradual change, maybe she started off with other interests and he feels like she isn’t the person he married anymore. Just because he’s only talking about how much of a fan she is and not how it makes him feel doesn’t mean that it’s just malicious and he doesn’t want to support her. Maybe he just wants to talk to his wife about something other than Taylor swifts new hairstyle
I do not understand why would be school board even interested in people affairs or who is sleeping with who. Im not from america, so im kinda lost here. Can someone explain to me please?
School boards establish district policy, oversee resources, establish goals for the district. If it was known that someone from the school board was sleeping with a school administrator, especially an affair, it could present a perceived conflict of interest. There are school district staff in the US who are married to each other (I know a couple couples), but they're positioned such that conflict of interest is limited. School board and district admin is a lot harder to spin as anything else.
Taylor Swift story. I think the husband is right. The wife does seem out of control with it. He doesn't seem to be looking down on it at all, just saying it's too much. I didn't get any sense of him belittling her. He also SHOULD be telling her things like this. If it gets to the point of an argument, he's already let it get too far. Saying thus as soneone whos been with her husband for 20 years. We've 100% had our arguments in our early years and had to learn this. He seems to be doing this right. He just needs to keep communicating that he'll still support her love of TS but in a more acceptable level. He may see it getting to obsession level.
I obsess over Kpop, and I have spent SO MUCH MONEY to see my groups, travel, buy merch and albums. Swifties are a bit crazy about her, but I get their obsession. Would I do it for swift no, would I do it for Monsta X, Ateez, Stray Kids and more heck yes. SUPPORT YOUR PARTNER
I was about to say: He has never seen a Kpop stan lol. Personally not my taste but ive def. Seen enough of you fans to know the extent yall will go lol
I don’t get the Taylor Swift thing, I didn’t get the Beyoncé thing. I think they are just people. I don’t like listening to the same artist over and over again, all the songs start to sound the same and I don’t think the majority of their music is that good, obviously there are catchy or relatable or sentimental songs every now and then but eh. I think people just like the bandwagon stuff and it gives them a sense of commmuntiy but no artist is worth that much money. I also don’t think concerts are that fun, people are rude and selfish and that much selfish, screaming, shoving bright lights and not hearing the song at it’s best is just not the vibe. if i were the dude i just get her a really good pair of headphones and tell her “i love you so much and i’m so glad this makes you happy but i can’t hear it anymore”
I have to say, going off of Story #4, I *hate* how the word trauma just gets thrown around nowadays. You getting your face shoved in a cake, getting embarrassed, and getting a small cut on your forehead is /not/ trauma, and calling it that minimizes the experiences of people who have /actually/ suffered trauma.
Different things traumatize different people. For *you* that isn't trauma. That doesn't mean it isn't for her and how you've summarized her trauma has minimized it as you glossed over important details. Just like for a vast majority of people being hit in the knee with a fast pitch in third grade softball wouldn't be traumatizing. But it's triggered a full blown phobia of both softball and baseball for me since they are the same thing where I have full blown panic attacks if people tried to force me to play it (not an issue at all now that I'm no longer in school as I have no reason to be around it). People laugh at me all the time when I state that I have a softball phobia and they still minimize it after hearing the story saying that it's no big deal. Please stop minimizing other people's trauma because it isn't traumatizing to *you* or you don’t think it is "bad enough" to be traumatizing.
Trauma is literally defined as a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. Hell, I'm traumatized by something that happened 15 years ago. To you, it's nothing. To me, it's everything. Do better.
@@AngelJohnson66 I feel like being shown that your partner doesn't respect you in front of family and friends who then laugh about it would definitely be traumatizing. You've just been shown that you're alone.
@@AngelJohnson66 I was trying to agree with you. To add to both of our points, her now ex behaved the same way as her family, who have a pattern of behavior. No wonder they thought it was funny. They were her first bullies
Taylor Swift story: I disagree with you Dusty. I agree with the Husband. Wife is OUT OF CONTROL
She is missing something g in her life. Her fan ship is fulfilling that. Worse things to be addicted to.
We need more information to make an informed decision. If she is failing to pay her bills and ditching quality time with her husband, spending their joint savings eg they saving for a house all because she is spending too much on the “Taylor swift lifestyle” then yes the wife is out of control. But if its a one off once in a lifetime concert (expense) and the rest of the “obsession” is listening to music and watching videos and its not costing anything then she if fine to do as she wishes.
Taylor Swift story: this is one of the rare times i disagree with Dusty. (I suspect he's got a slanted take because hes so close to several Swifties.)
I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling and voicing discomfort over a loved one's obsession on something/someone. Maybe OP is on the ASCON scare-- its definitely possible. If it's a situation where she's just a big fan and he makes fun of her for it bc he's not, then yeah, hes the ASCON. But if she's exhibiting ovsessive behavior (which she very well might be according to his letter), then its perfectly reasonable for him to feel uncomfortable about the situation, and to voice his concerns.
I say all this as a former megafan of a couple different people over the years when i was a teen. There is a point where you need to draw a line between what is and what is not acceptable behavior.
The plate story, I think the SIL is breaking plates that OP's Gma gave her because MIL compliments the plates. Personally, she wouldn't be eating with anything but plastic after the first time this happened in my home. I have always had dogs and grown ups not respecting broken glass being a hazard is a problem. When I had lots of parties in my 20/30's it was ALL unbreakable cups/plates for everyone. 🐶
For me it looks like she's sleeping with OP husband 😭
I love when Dusty looks at the camera in surprise after reading a particular spicy line. 😂
Dusty so right. It’s a passion. No harm done. Support is what is needed. A lot of the issue is not including partner
Taylor Swift post: I think the Wife is wrong, she needs to grow up
Agreed. It's weird as hell, I'm 27 and I've never liked her music.
WTH was the plate breaking SIL trying to accomplish? Do plates have style? My plates have no style…..
I do definitely think, after hearing O.P talk about the swifty situation with their partner, its an obsession, even superfans from time to time think "right this is a bit much now" whereas she, according to op, shows no signs of stopping, it seems like the only time they want to watch something, it can only be recordings of taylor swift is insane.
Story 5: ill just leave this alfred quote "some people just want to watch the world burn" and i loved that he revealed he did it😂
Story 7. NTA!
My professors in college had us fill out comment cards after projects to grade everyones participation in the group. If we all graded each other decently we would all get the same final grade. However, if we all are honest about a slacker and submit that you didn't show up, or assist with the project, we would each get the same final grade and the slacker would be docked or failed. (This would only happen if it was unanimous) it made us all try and contribute equally to projects.
I think it is cute for couples to feed each other cake at their wedding. With a fork so they don’t ruin the makeup and very expensive clothes. You should never take joy in someone else’s embarrassment or pain
My wife was VERY specific in that she said DO NOT SMASH CAKE IN MY FACE. I picked up what she was putting down fairly quickly.
This guy was an AH.
In the first story - it’s the 2k for me. Depends if that’s both their money or just hers. If it’s both than it’s impacting her husband financially at that point and it’s to me no longer super fan. I say NTAish so I’m going with a 4
Thanks for turning down the volume of the music between segments. I no longer have to speed to the volume button😂
*Story 4 |Wedding Cake:* I also HATE the cake cutting part. Idk why I let it happen but also warned my fiancé + he agreed w/a minor glint in his eye.
We got to that part, the drunk DJ messed up the song so we suffered thru it + I could tell he wanted to smash mouth me to be an aśš + to liven the DJs mess up but I gave him the look he’d know all to well one day + just smooshed it enough on my lips and chin to mk ppl laugh + I was good with that compromise.
Ahhhh my fiance wouldn't dare, he knows how much my wedding dresses were and how important it is to me to have that not happen. But we also have a child and after seeing a lot of videos of men doing that it's really bothered me that that happens, nobody in my family, in all the weddings I've been to, have the groom done that or a variation of it.
Omg Michael Jackson had people passing out from his pure essence swift can never compare
BEYOND THE BEATLES?
Right?! Blasphemy! My first album I bought is a Beatles album and while I was pregnant three years ago I would listen to their music in the car everyday mixed in with newer music
I’m the same with Home Free. It’s isn’t just about the music; the music helped me heal while recovering from cancer; the hole left in my life by that; the friends I’ve made through the fans. Try being a Fry! If I had the £ I would fly to USA for their tours. 😊
Clumsy sister in law story, I really wish op had told her "but I thought you would like that dishware set, it really seemed to be your STYLE."
I like most of Taylor swifts songs and really admire what she’s done, business-wise. But listening to her songs on a non-stop loop would drive me insane. Watching the same phone recording of a concert over and over? Why would you pay $2k to go to a concert and then watch it through your phone as you record it? Does he not get to pick any music to listen to around the house or tv shows to watch? A few of the comments on the actual Reddit post talk about how this wife sounds neurodivergent for being hyper-fixated and I agree with them.
Thank you! I totally agree with your view on this!!!
She may need help. Her behavior is not healthy. Dusty missed the mark by miles.
Guys watch NFL over and over, yet they aren't neurodivergent. Stop being a sexist piggy.
I’m a huge fan of Dimash and my partner is not. When I’m home I wear my headphones which enables my partner to listen to what he wants or just have peace and quiet.
There is fault on both sides here and some mutual respect wouldn’t go astray. Pooing all over her being a super fan is not the way to go about it. She needs to be more considerate. Just my view.
Love you work Dusty, my son’s name by the way 😊
Dusty, I usually agree with most of your views. Not on the Taylor Swift thing. She is totally put of control and not listening to her partner. Of course she doesnt like his comments cause she wants to do what she wants to do. I would need to be medicates to have to live with all the crap she is doing. What about what he might like to wat h or listen to? Or maybe just some silence. That wife needs to get a grip before ahe drives him away. And yes, that's the dire tion she is headed.
I would get that marriage annulled glad she out of that one
The cheating story with shithead. Dusty, you didn't see the beautiful reason for OP to tell the ex. They now know that they outed themselves, the pain that is now in their minds as they really did everything to themselves even telling on themselves. It's beautiful revenge..
I understand being a fan, but if you make me listen ALL THE TIME to one artist in my home, we wont be in the same home anymore. I dont get along with the stuck mindset of only 1 decade music, 1 artist nor one type mindset. And i wont live in that nightmare. If you cant let me also live in our home with my likes. We are done. We have had headsets to listen longer than my 50 years. If your stuck then get a pair. Yes im mean. I also wont suffer 24/7 of anything. Veriety is what i need not just want.
Her sis or husband needs to know. What’s to stop him from continuing his behaviour and so putting the sis at risk? He’s a stalker online. He will act on it eventually
Dusty, I have to fully 100% disagree on the Taylor Swift one. I'm a kpop fan (not a stan) and you should see how bad some of these fandoms are *cough*BTS*cough*. I have seen people drops thousand upon thousands of dollars on the group. We call these stans... They are the extreme of the fandom.
To listen to only Taylor, spend 2k on a single concert... To watch pretty much only Taylor. And then to come after the husband because he isn't joining in on this obsession.. nope the wife has gone way to far over the edge.. this isn't just a fan or a super fan... This is an absolute obsession and a very unhealthy one.
THANK YOU
Seriously!! Mental issues if there ever was! Taylor freaking Spit!!! 😂😂😂😂😂
Tylor swift story. My husband is like the husband here. I love Harry Potter. We have separate rooms so we can have a place just for ourselves. I decorated in Harry Potter and he constantly looks down on me. He decorated in all HS football but I said nothing but cool
The men's thinking the wife from story one needs to grow up because she loves Taylor Swift but not saying anything about the man who smashed cake in wife's face, made fun of her on her period and didn't eat vegetables???
That man needs to grow up.
Sil is jealous of her. OP loves the plates, emotional meaning for her. So she’s getting back at OP emotionally. Seeking a response but didn’t like the type of attention she got
Freaks me out why the brother sticks up for sister rather than OP. It's weird.
ON the Story with Shit Head, I couldn't agree more about there already being issues in the relationships when the cheating started. I have the dubious distinction of having Cheated, Been Cheated On, and Been the Other Guy, though I didn't know that until after, but from that I have learned that if someone cheats, it's because like you said, There is something wrong in the relationship.
In-story 1, the only reason her ex husband doesn’t want his ex-wife, 20:45 to tell her sister, because he doesn’t want the sister to be disgusted by him. He still wants to have a connection with her, and he will still be keeping in contact with her sister after the divorce, if she doesn’t say anything, because he still needs that, but if she tells her sister, that will be away from him! I bet he has her on his social medias there won’t be getting rid of her he’ll get rid of his ex-wife, but not the sister, so he can still have that connection. She needs to wake up! And needs to warn her sister! About creep! Because he’s not just going to go away, he will leave his ex alone, believe that, but he won’t leave your sister alone, he will befriend her, she needs to let her sister know! Destroyed his sick fantasy!
I guess I'm the only person on the planet who doesn't get the Taylor Swift thing😮
5:15 I think people are overlooking the difference in the way men and women tell a story, a woman would focus on talking about how their partners actions make them feel where as men talk about the actions assuming that you would just feel the same way they do. I think he is implying that all she talks about it Taylor swift or what if the only thing she watches is her shitting phone recording maybe this has been a gradual change, maybe she started off with other interests and he feels like she isn’t the person he married anymore. Just because he’s only talking about how much of a fan she is and not how it makes him feel doesn’t mean that it’s just malicious and he doesn’t want to support her. Maybe he just wants to talk to his wife about something other than Taylor swifts new hairstyle
I do not understand why would be school board even interested in people affairs or who is sleeping with who. Im not from america, so im kinda lost here. Can someone explain to me please?
School boards establish district policy, oversee resources, establish goals for the district. If it was known that someone from the school board was sleeping with a school administrator, especially an affair, it could present a perceived conflict of interest. There are school district staff in the US who are married to each other (I know a couple couples), but they're positioned such that conflict of interest is limited. School board and district admin is a lot harder to spin as anything else.
Taylor Swift story. I think the husband is right. The wife does seem out of control with it. He doesn't seem to be looking down on it at all, just saying it's too much. I didn't get any sense of him belittling her. He also SHOULD be telling her things like this. If it gets to the point of an argument, he's already let it get too far. Saying thus as soneone whos been with her husband for 20 years. We've 100% had our arguments in our early years and had to learn this. He seems to be doing this right. He just needs to keep communicating that he'll still support her love of TS but in a more acceptable level. He may see it getting to obsession level.
Hope the hurt Husband is proud of himself
I obsess over Kpop, and I have spent SO MUCH MONEY to see my groups, travel, buy merch and albums. Swifties are a bit crazy about her, but I get their obsession. Would I do it for swift no, would I do it for Monsta X, Ateez, Stray Kids and more heck yes. SUPPORT YOUR PARTNER
I was about to say: He has never seen a Kpop stan lol. Personally not my taste but ive def. Seen enough of you fans to know the extent yall will go lol
@@vicmaruska3221 I recently added up most of my costs and have spent close to 15k on everything I own and shows. Not including travel expenses
Yeah spending the amount for tickets ect don’t blame him Taylor swifts cult it’s even ruined football
Hearing you talk about Taylor Swift is so refreshing, because it’s literally exactly how I feel about her. ♥️♥️♥️ I feel so understood!!!
Ew
I don’t get the Taylor Swift thing, I didn’t get the Beyoncé thing. I think they are just people. I don’t like listening to the same artist over and over again, all the songs start to sound the same and I don’t think the majority of their music is that good, obviously there are catchy or relatable or sentimental songs every now and then but eh. I think people just like the bandwagon stuff and it gives them a sense of commmuntiy but no artist is worth that much money. I also don’t think concerts are that fun, people are rude and selfish and that much selfish, screaming, shoving bright lights and not hearing the song at it’s best is just not the vibe. if i were the dude i just get her a really good pair of headphones and tell her “i love you so much and i’m so glad this makes you happy but i can’t hear it anymore”
Im a huge kpop fan. My husband hates it. He picks at me all thr time. I dont care. If it upsets you, maybe you need to reevaluate your obsession.
Story 4, it was probably her mother that put him up to it.😢
I have to say, going off of Story #4, I *hate* how the word trauma just gets thrown around nowadays. You getting your face shoved in a cake, getting embarrassed, and getting a small cut on your forehead is /not/ trauma, and calling it that minimizes the experiences of people who have /actually/ suffered trauma.
Different things traumatize different people. For *you* that isn't trauma. That doesn't mean it isn't for her and how you've summarized her trauma has minimized it as you glossed over important details. Just like for a vast majority of people being hit in the knee with a fast pitch in third grade softball wouldn't be traumatizing. But it's triggered a full blown phobia of both softball and baseball for me since they are the same thing where I have full blown panic attacks if people tried to force me to play it (not an issue at all now that I'm no longer in school as I have no reason to be around it). People laugh at me all the time when I state that I have a softball phobia and they still minimize it after hearing the story saying that it's no big deal. Please stop minimizing other people's trauma because it isn't traumatizing to *you* or you don’t think it is "bad enough" to be traumatizing.
Trauma is literally defined as a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. Hell, I'm traumatized by something that happened 15 years ago. To you, it's nothing. To me, it's everything.
Do better.
@@AngelJohnson66 I feel like being shown that your partner doesn't respect you in front of family and friends who then laugh about it would definitely be traumatizing. You've just been shown that you're alone.
@icygubler I don't disagree. In fact, I very much agree because that's bullying and being bullied IS traumatizing
@@AngelJohnson66 I was trying to agree with you. To add to both of our points, her now ex behaved the same way as her family, who have a pattern of behavior. No wonder they thought it was funny. They were her first bullies