7 Things Dating Couples Should Not Do | Kingsley Okonkwo

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  • @emastephen2607
    @emastephen2607 Рік тому +495

    7 Mistakes.
    1. Not Cultivating or
    Building Friendship
    2. Not having clarity or vision.
    3. Not having mentors
    4. Having sex before marriage .
    5. Waiting to Have all the Money before you Marry.
    6. Playing House
    7. No premarital counselling

  • @abigaildoraa
    @abigaildoraa Рік тому +57

    7 mistakes dating couples make.
    1. Not building friendship (prov. 17:17) TPT .... If ure not touching each other, can you spend quality time together easily?
    2. Not having clarity (prov. 29:18)... What are we doing? Where are we going? What's the plan? When are we planning to get married? How do we work towards it?
    3. Not having mentors (prov. 31:1)MSG... have distant mentors and close mentors. Accountability is key. Let there be people that can counsel both of you.
    4. Having sex
    ... kissing never satisfies, it brings the fire .. create boundaries... Sex before marriage affects intimacy. Sex affects the trust because the person that cheats with you will cheat on you. Sex brings disrespect. It dishonors God.
    5. Waiting to have all the money before you marry.
    6. Playing house. Moving in together before the time. It affects commitment. Prov. 25:17
    7. Not doing pre-marital counseling. Love is never enough. Pre marital counseling ensures safety for both parties.

  • @rossyprim2336
    @rossyprim2336 Рік тому +88

    Number one- Not building friendship proverbs 17:17
    A friend loves at all times
    Build your friendship
    Number two- Not having clarity Proverbs 29:18
    Not having vision the people perish
    Number three- Not having mentors proverbs 31:1
    Accountability is key
    Number four- Having sex before marriage
    Sex affects intimacy, respect, trust, good behaviour.
    Number five- waiting to have the money before marriage
    Number six- Playing house meaning moving in together, it reduces respect, motivation, anticipation, it brings challenges.Proverbs 25:17
    Number seven- They don't do premarital counselling.proverbs 15:22 Doing premarital counselling greatly reduces the chance of failing.

  • @byrnenoel6317
    @byrnenoel6317 Рік тому +45

    1. Not Building Friendship 10:57-- The love of a friend stands strong; romantic love fades. A friend loves at all times. Can you all talk
    without touching each other, having sex, or discussing wedding plans?
    2. Not Having Clarity 13:00-- Not having clarity of where we are going (marriage?). When are we getting married? 4 years? 5 years? 1 year? Let's start working towards it. Let's not keep checking each other out.
    3. Not Having Mentors 15:22--
    4. Not Staying Celibate 18:23-- For some, they keep kissing and touching completely out of their dating. "Let's just talk"
    5. Waiting To Have All the Money 20:37-- You don't need a big house.
    6. Playing House 24:44
    7. Pre-marital Counseling 29:35

  • @chrisax012
    @chrisax012 Рік тому +10

    I am 23 now and I promise myself that no matter what happens... whether I am rich or not i must marry before the age of 28... God willing... Thank you sir for your teaching....

  • @soulmatesempire
    @soulmatesempire Рік тому +28

    True, some churches don’t talk about marriage and relationship.
    Which is very bad

  • @haroldmartin3652
    @haroldmartin3652 Рік тому +13

    I really truly would like to get all of your book on relationship & marriage because I really truly want my second marriage to be very successful for a very long time

  • @EAtoons
    @EAtoons 11 місяців тому +12

    Cheating is a personal decision. Some people will never cheat no matter how hard things are; others will always cheat no matter how good they have it.
    This is where true beauty comes in!
    Beauty isn't about having a pretty face. It's about having a pretty mind, a pretty heart, and a pretty soul.
    ✨ if you played your part and loved someone with all your heart
    ✨ if you spoke on your feelings & tried to communicate
    ✨ if you waited for change & none came
    it’s not your loss, it’s theirs. let go, heal, & move on to someone that deserves you.
    You deserve someone who you were created for and who was created for you, to understand and love you properly

  • @irmamedom7256
    @irmamedom7256 11 місяців тому +8

    May God deliver us from useless friends

  • @kwobsiemarius9613
    @kwobsiemarius9613 Рік тому +23

    Pastor K ans his Kingso Kingso story is evergreen. Everything I listen to it i still enjoy jt

  • @peacegelwanmiwilfred7177
    @peacegelwanmiwilfred7177 Рік тому +37

    Knowledge is truly powerful... Thank you pastor K for saying yes to Jesus, listening to you and your wife helped me allot .... you are truly a blessing.... thank you sir

  • @Minister--pat
    @Minister--pat Рік тому +10

    I have made all this mistakes oooo...Thanks you pastor for teaching me this is basically for me.thank you so much....I am now single and will work it out ..

  • @agnesamitamasinde
    @agnesamitamasinde Рік тому +12

    His teachings blessed my life. It helped me know what marriage is. It enabled me choose the right man.❤🙏

  • @breatheeleganceheart-talk
    @breatheeleganceheart-talk Рік тому +17

    This is profound! Especially 3 and 7... young people don't seek knowledge anymore until they encounter problems in the marriage and most times its already too late.

  • @amawoobey
    @amawoobey 7 місяців тому +2

    Thank you , I never asked for clarity in the past but now am firm and stand with the Lord .

  • @kesienaemefe4582
    @kesienaemefe4582 Рік тому +43

    Every single person has to see this message 👏👏
    I feel so blessed after watching this

  • @oluwakemiakinwunmi1303
    @oluwakemiakinwunmi1303 Рік тому +12

    In the multitude of counselor there is safety...thank you so much sir.

  • @naongakalumbi8670
    @naongakalumbi8670 Рік тому +9

    I've been in a relationship and lonely before. Definitely being "married and lonely" must be worse

  • @nnaOnyebuchi
    @nnaOnyebuchi Місяць тому +1

    I'm so blessed to listen to this,God bless you

  • @OACTSPodcast
    @OACTSPodcast Рік тому +13

    Listening to Pastor K is bliss! Second time this video has popped up and it's so fresh like a reminder

  • @obenamaduprince608
    @obenamaduprince608 Рік тому +6

    I like the way he says "are you here somebody"😅

  • @missnuti
    @missnuti Рік тому +76

    Please do another video telling us how to correct these mistakes. When you are already in the relationship

  • @AnnetIyara-iu3ed
    @AnnetIyara-iu3ed Рік тому +10

    Supporters don't matter if you're not prepared 💓

  • @jareya
    @jareya Рік тому +3

    PK is so wise… his teachings are always a blessing

  • @cattyreals572
    @cattyreals572 Рік тому +15

    This video just motivated me. Now I'm certain that I'm doing the right thing 😊😊😊

  • @veronicachukwu31
    @veronicachukwu31 Рік тому +7

    I always feel blessed listening to you Pastor K & Pastor M.
    Truthfully, I'm amazed at how the world has changed so badly. It's so difficult to see a man that wants a relationship without sexual intimacy...
    I've had to give up several relationships because of the so-called sexual intimacy...
    It's so sad that very few ( so scarce to see) still understand and follow the standard already set by God ( Not defiling the bed).
    Too many misplaced priorities in today's worlds...
    God help we singles IJN

    • @theadunbarin
      @theadunbarin Рік тому +1

      There are sooooo many men that wants to be in a relationship without sexual intimacy.
      Don't have that mindset that they are scarce or else that would be my reality.
      BTW, change your circles, serve, have mentors, pray and go out
      I personally know so many men that are willing to wait o.

    • @veronicachukwu31
      @veronicachukwu31 Рік тому

      @@theadunbarin Beautiful piece! God bless you

  • @denikepriceless1450
    @denikepriceless1450 Рік тому +3

    God bless you Pastor K for this message. He that hath an ear let him hear what the spirit is saying. Every word is so true 💯

  • @TsholofeloHopeM
    @TsholofeloHopeM Рік тому +10

    I love your teachings. These are very important keys. As singles may we do the right the things so that we can have godly and successful marriages.

  • @jacobhumphreyd.6901
    @jacobhumphreyd.6901 15 днів тому

    Pastor k. I'm following from Liberia

  • @florenceadeoye17
    @florenceadeoye17 Рік тому +3

    Thank you Jesus for creating this wonderful head over us.

  • @marycrown6529
    @marycrown6529 Рік тому +5

    My ever able Counsellor sent by God
    God bless you Daddy
    I'm always inspired by your messages
    You'll live long and Mummy too with all your family members in Jesus Mighty Name. Amen.

  • @pauloluwaniyi6741
    @pauloluwaniyi6741 Рік тому +7

    Thank you very much Pastor, you are an answer to a generation. ♥️

  • @favournoah9598
    @favournoah9598 Рік тому +2

    Am always blessed whenever I listen to Pastor K

  • @AnnetIyara-iu3ed
    @AnnetIyara-iu3ed Рік тому +10

    A failure is known by his goals!💓

  • @PatriciaWilliam-n9h
    @PatriciaWilliam-n9h 10 місяців тому

    Thank you sir, thou am still single ,am believe God for marriage, my first marriage broke when I was 20 years old, now am 32 I haven't heard what I learned from your teaching thank you , God give you long life and good health. Now am ready now for marriage

    • @sandramatua6293
      @sandramatua6293 5 місяців тому

      My first mrg broke at 28 years. I am 31 now, waitin on the Lord.

  • @Xeik38
    @Xeik38 Рік тому +11

    He's so right ... Ladies we have the power !!!

  • @giftnjoku5609
    @giftnjoku5609 4 місяці тому

    You don't date to check people out, you check people out in friendship

  • @debbiemumba3040
    @debbiemumba3040 Рік тому +1

    I'm so encouraged by the message this video just popped up at random. 😊

  • @okoedionbridget5539
    @okoedionbridget5539 Рік тому

    0:15. People undervalue the principle of marriage.

  • @christakalembe241
    @christakalembe241 Рік тому +1

    Wow,I am so blessed to listen to this word of God!

  • @wezisiwale2354
    @wezisiwale2354 Рік тому +3

    Pastor please make this book available in Zambia

  • @adebanjomayowa3844
    @adebanjomayowa3844 Рік тому +1

    God Bless You For This Message Sire!!!

  • @jummyalfred2909
    @jummyalfred2909 Рік тому +2

    This message is Very awesome and full of wisdom. Listening to this message for the third time. Love you PK.

  • @tifarahola
    @tifarahola Рік тому +1

    Thanks for this teaching Pastor K.

  • @oseghaleebenezer8482
    @oseghaleebenezer8482 Рік тому +1

    I must admit you're funny... 🤣
    Nevertheless I love the simplicity of your messages. I glad to hear this.
    Thanks for making people have stable marriages.
    God bless you, sir!

  • @OboyiGift
    @OboyiGift 10 місяців тому +3

    How do i get some of this books 🤦
    I'm in a relationship and we're planning to get married

  • @michelleadebiyi2341
    @michelleadebiyi2341 Рік тому +4

    i love ur books❤️‍🔥🤲🏾,thank you for this video too and many more you’ve uploaded!

  • @sarahblessed-sayah
    @sarahblessed-sayah Рік тому +2

    Kinzo! Kim so!! 😂😂😂. Bless your hearts pastor K and M.

  • @didi_dickson
    @didi_dickson Рік тому +4

    Wow...value loaded man of God🙌🙌 Chai! I can't find The ways to be an attractive person on this channel, please where is it?

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  • @anthonianwaobioma
    @anthonianwaobioma 6 місяців тому

    This is amazing
    I grabbed it
    I just received the answers I needed 😌
    Thanks a lot 🙏

  • @giftnjoku5609
    @giftnjoku5609 4 місяці тому

    You don't start failing in the marriage, you start failing before the marriage

  • @laurynana843
    @laurynana843 Рік тому +2

    Shalom Pasteur, une fois de plus, je suis enrichie par ces enseignements. Merci, que Dieu vous benisse abondament

  • @asunganyirose
    @asunganyirose Рік тому +2

    This has really blessed me

  • @Haustine3507
    @Haustine3507 3 місяці тому

    I love your teachings

  • @FolakeAdunni
    @FolakeAdunni 10 місяців тому +1

    I love this message

  • @darlingtonodom6913
    @darlingtonodom6913 Рік тому +2

    God bless you for this, on the part of mentorship, I introduced her to my mentors and she did same, when she wouldn't agree that what she's doing is wrong, I would let her mentor know and when she is reprimanded, she will be angry with me for letting them know. She always wanted to put a saint picture and I don't get why

    • @theadunbarin
      @theadunbarin Рік тому

      Are they truly her mentors?
      Did you talk about the issue before taking it to her mentors?
      Just be wary.

  • @ifemizu82
    @ifemizu82 11 місяців тому +1

    Beautiful piece

  • @BlessingIhemekwelem
    @BlessingIhemekwelem Рік тому

    Thanks for these wise teaching...

  • @rianangaemaluta
    @rianangaemaluta Рік тому +6

    😂😂pastor K 30minutes of violence🤣🤣 thank you for the knowledge sir

  • @NatashaShapolaMwamba-ny9vy
    @NatashaShapolaMwamba-ny9vy 10 місяців тому +1

    Daddy has never not delivered o

  • @BerthaOrkar-wg7xe
    @BerthaOrkar-wg7xe Рік тому

    Thank you Sir..I'm so much blessed from this meeting. May God bless you.

  • @SpurgeonIloba-ip7wz
    @SpurgeonIloba-ip7wz Рік тому

    I want to view the fine girlfriend part Abeg😂
    Thank you Sir
    I’m blessed by the message

  • @chelumwenifumbo9983
    @chelumwenifumbo9983 Рік тому

    My mentor. Thank you for the teaching.

  • @Gift_Ikechukwu
    @Gift_Ikechukwu 11 місяців тому +3

    Amen 🙏
    I believe in the Lord our God

  • @paulzerina
    @paulzerina Рік тому +1

    Wonderful Teaching!❤

  • @gracekadiri2419
    @gracekadiri2419 Рік тому +3

    Wow!!!!!!
    This blessed me pastor k

  • @CassyAsensoboampong
    @CassyAsensoboampong 11 місяців тому +2

    So how can you avoid sleep in his house when is a distance relationship thank you

  • @Achieveress
    @Achieveress Рік тому +1

    Wonderful Message and humourous while at it😂

  • @Lisaarkaifie
    @Lisaarkaifie 5 місяців тому

    Great one Pastor Kay

  • @emmanuelorji7274
    @emmanuelorji7274 Рік тому

    God bless you Sir for the values shared.
    Pst, glad to know you're a fellow ex-commando.

  • @funepoweiminna6355
    @funepoweiminna6355 11 місяців тому

    God bless you for eye opening ❤❤❤.
    Thanks

  • @oresotutolulope6159
    @oresotutolulope6159 Рік тому

    Thank you so much sir. God bless you and ur household. This massage are all for me. Thanks a lot.

  • @ApiyoKevin-oq7fb
    @ApiyoKevin-oq7fb Рік тому

    Am really so blessed by this message

  • @EbereAkagha
    @EbereAkagha Рік тому

    Thank you very much sir it will really go a long way God help me 🙏🙏

  • @JanetJoseph-z3v
    @JanetJoseph-z3v 11 місяців тому

    Thank you so much sir. I am so blessed!

  • @Sibs_treats
    @Sibs_treats Рік тому

    This is really interesting.. I learnt alot .. thank you sir

  • @floraapi9431
    @floraapi9431 Рік тому

    I'm blessed. Thank you pastor sir

  • @ChairMan-f8u
    @ChairMan-f8u Місяць тому

    I have learnt alot

  • @Gift_Ikechukwu
    @Gift_Ikechukwu 11 місяців тому +1

    God will bless you 🎉❤

  • @vindyprecious1531
    @vindyprecious1531 Рік тому +2

    Am really blessed
    Thank you sir

  • @CatherineMwila-l5o
    @CatherineMwila-l5o Рік тому +1

    Powerful daddy thank you for the word 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @amarachimonicachristian7142

    Thank you sir... more anointing

  • @jesusmavericks
    @jesusmavericks 10 місяців тому +1

    Talking of point 2 - You made mentioned dating without a PLAN. My question is, how do you PLAN a relationship?
    I mean how to have a Relationship Vision?

  • @nextdigitalzone
    @nextdigitalzone Рік тому

    Thanks Pst. More grace

  • @nsonguruapeter4295
    @nsonguruapeter4295 Рік тому

    God bless you sir
    I’m blessed from the word

  • @johnuren4545
    @johnuren4545 Рік тому

    Am bless mum
    Thanks 🙏
    More grace

  • @victoriaoluwatimilehin8770
    @victoriaoluwatimilehin8770 Рік тому +1

    Wow
    These are all new and a direction
    The exact question I have been asking for a while . Since I gave my to Christ this year.
    I have been overthinking this relationship thing
    Thank you so much pastor
    You are now my distance mentor 😊

  • @Miracle-u3g
    @Miracle-u3g Рік тому

    Thank you so much sir for this message 🙇

  • @_QueenBell
    @_QueenBell Рік тому

    This was so good! Had me cracking up too 😂

  • @elyonolamide4561
    @elyonolamide4561 Рік тому +5

    I am always happy listening to ur sermons nd viewing ur posts. Thank you so much sir for your impact.🙏🏽

  • @tiygabaya1838
    @tiygabaya1838 Рік тому

    God Bless you sir for this message 🙏🙏🙏

  • @kiizaaldrich327
    @kiizaaldrich327 Рік тому

    I hear😂 its amazing 🎉 God bless you pastor kingsley

  • @djmukagallis9288
    @djmukagallis9288 Рік тому +1

    18:58 🤣🤣 I just had to subscribe at this point.

  • @user-qy6jd2lh2h
    @user-qy6jd2lh2h Місяць тому

    I'm so blessed 🙌 ❤🙏🏻

  • @iam-paulvocal
    @iam-paulvocal Рік тому

    Thank you so much sir for the advice

  • @KumbuPrecious
    @KumbuPrecious Рік тому

    Please sir what is the difference between having mentors in a relationship and having a relationship counselor

  • @rebeccamunyasia9498
    @rebeccamunyasia9498 Рік тому

    Very insightful 😊

  • @ExpressdeliveryService-l2r
    @ExpressdeliveryService-l2r Рік тому

    Thank you sir i really appreciate ur message

  • @JosephineDonkor-kk5rj
    @JosephineDonkor-kk5rj Рік тому

    God bless you Man of God🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @ramadhankibet
    @ramadhankibet Рік тому

    Be blessed man of God 🙏🙏