1. Freedom to Walk away 2. No Divorce 3. Joint Account 4. Communication 5. No passwords, shared devices 6. Exchanged parents 7. No quarreling 8. Intentional with Intimacy 9. Looking after each other 10. Running the marriage by the word.
"Prayer does not change your Selection" Pastor K.... this captured my attention the most..my fellow Christian ladies while we're praying and trusting God for Kingdom marriage..it is upto us to still be intentional in selecting..so help us Holy Spirit in Jesus name amen.
1. Agreeing to hault the relationship when you see that it's not going to work. 2. Agreeing that if the relationship end up in marriage, divorce is not an option. 3. Agreeing to have a joint account (make everything finance transparent). 4. Agreement on communication (communicating more). 5. Agreement on no keeping of secret, password (building trust). 6. Agreement on exchange of parents. 7. Agreement on quarrel free marriage. 8. Agreeing to be intentional with intimacy. 9. Agreeing that nobody looks down on the other(more selfless and less selfish). 10. Agreement on using the Bible to work the marriage.
1. When uncertainty of conviction comes, never leave each other hurt 2. Divorce is abolish (Same as threatening to leaving the relationship isn't healthy) 3. Having Joint Account.(building Trust, Money will never be an issue) 4. Communication is the key ( communicate your pains and hurts often and don't keep silence) 5. No secrets especially on social media handles 6. Exchanging parents 7. No quarreling (we mustn't be mad at the same thing) 8. Mutual intimacy intentionality (Kissing and hugging each other every day) 9. Looking out for each other (Not been selfish, always asking questions of what do you want me to do for you. Are you happy?) 10. Word Center
Wow...I just heard everything that was wrong in my previous relationship. My priest who is also a marriage counselor told me I dodged a bullet; I didn't understand it. My ex fiancee just hated the fact that I listened to Pastor K's teaching too much, I was like, what's wrong with trying to know how to love you better.
Love them,may GOD ALMIGHTY CONTINUE BLESSING them,and giving them wisdom,protecting them to continue enlightening us all..IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME OF NAZARETH AMEN. 🙇🙇
I'm a muslimah but I'm so much inspired by these marriage guilines. May Allah SWT continue to keep you strong and safe for each other. Thank you Mr and Mrs Kingsley.
My future marriage is blessed. I will marry right. I will marry my best friend. I will marry a lover of God and true believer of Christ. My future marriage will be a great achievement to me and i will be super proud of my spouse🙏🙏🙏
One thing this message has helped me understand is: in marriage it’s two halves that come together to make one. The ability to see yourself as incomplete without the other person is very important.
One thing I conclude with this is that everything from a to z has to be intentional, it's risky to act on your feelings i.e doing what you feel like doing in the marriage.
I will marry right.. I will be a good and kingdom wife to my future husband & kids,and he will be a kingdom,good and kindhearted husband to me and our kids.. We will make it right with God.. We will Train an amazing kingdom children for God and the society We will love and cherish each other, looking out for each other, fulfill God's purpose for each other while we build a good, healthy and amazing home for us and our children...Amen God bless you dear pastors for this wonderful piece.❤
I used to sulk too because I felt that it was better than talking out my emotions and it was definitely worse. But now I talk and sometimes I over talk, so, I just keep praying to know 'WHAT TO SAY AND HOW TO SAY' when angry!😊 We all really need to unlearn and relearn in this thing called marriage. 😅
I'm single and watching this ahead of time. I've learnt that communication is the key in the relationship. And to always look out for each other in the relationship.
Wow! I love this teaching, i have never heard it in this version. Exchange parents, look out for each other, be intentional about intimacy etc. God bless you sir/ma, for letting people like us into some of the secrets to your marital success/bliss.
~Nobody has successfully begged for love......not for long.... ~Marriage won't give you what you don't have..... Have a life. ~when you have self-esteem and self-value, you'll become very selective of the person you journey with in marriage... Nuggets from Pastor K.❤😊
I needed these secrets shared I have been selecting wrongly and God has been faithful to be saving me from the relationship. I knew God has a better plan for me. I just have to wait build my capacity to be the right person while the right person comes
I agree for joint account only for contributions to run the family. Joint accounts and also to have individual accounts. I like to help people around me so I still need my own money.
No matter how you explain it, you want to live an individual secret life. There's no way, your partner will say don't help except it's at the expense of the family which is a foolish idea to begin with
I don’t think it’s about being insecure, I don’t see anything wrong with keeping personal accounts, like me for example i like to plan surprises and it’s easier to do that when you have a separate account
This time ???? Oh women . Your statement is a show of relief that ur late husband was a pain. Na waoooo. Won't you stay. Why do you want to marry again.
1 be contend with yourself and be able to walk away from the relationship. 2. Once married, there's no room for divorce. Divorce is not an option 3. When angry or upset, talk, don't sulk. 4. No quarrels. We can't both be angry at all. 5. Exchange parents and only intervene when there's a problem 6. Joint account and joint accountability. 7. Look out for each other. The other person is responsible for the other's well-being. 8. The marriage must be Word-ruled. 9. No password or no secret. Know each other's passwords and have each other's accounts. Transparency
When you are both inlove with each other, almost all of these rules/agreements comes naturally. Respect will make it come naturally. Love will make one be patient till the other partner can accommodate his/her presence. Etc
I was blinded, I regretted fighting for the love I knew it won't work, but holy spirit opened my eyes,yet I learned so much from it that I'm also grateful for today, to God be the groly 🙏
Divorce is not an option my marriage will work it shall be heaven on earth from today I change my mentality toward getting married because it is a beautiful thing to get married
I really don't see any agreement very important than the other. They are actually completing one another. I can envisage a happy marriage built from following and respecting these agreements all. Thanks very much pastor Kingsley and your lovely wife.. I'm following you from Rwanda.
Thank you Jesus, I don’t know how God does it… but everytime I need clarification on something especially relationship, I just open UA-cam and God leads me to a message or preach I should listen to. I especially love the part you said ‘’WE would not think of divorce no matter what happens, we are in this for life. I also learnt about the sulking, that’s me .. but I have changed now… because it’s not a good character. God will help me Thank you so much.
I've gone back n forth on this finance (especially the matter of prenup) issue a lot. I wish I cld send him a question directly. It's not that u don't trust the person but rather u cannot control how the person will change 10 yrs from now. Even God said he regretted creating man at some point. Of course the person u marry today is someone u trust but if that person gets up 10 yrs from now n walks out regardless of counseling etc., u can't force them to stay. Why are we ok with every kind of insurance (life, home, car) but not a prenup😢 which is pretty much a financial insurance? Like he mentioned person can be determined to fight for the marriage when the other one mentally left a long time ago n nothing can change their minds.
@@petakiliyaonlinetv2051an agreement entered into by a couple - preferably in good time before a marriage - which sets out how assets will be divided if they divorce or the marriage is dissolved
Having the idea of prenup before getting married shows that you're already thinking of divorce happening at any point in time and you don't totally trust this person.
@yomide_naturals while I absolutely respect your views, I don't agree and I don't think having a prenup is a sign of distrust. I live in the US so I'll speak only concerning the laws here, anyone who is married here is required by law to have the marriage registered at a court, whether it's signed at a church, at Vegas...wherever. Now, what do u that is? It's a contract; we don't have contracts because we expect everything to go right, contracts by their very nature r created to protect each party in case something bad happens. Are you therefore saying that every Christian who's had their marriage registered (bcoz it's required by law) did so bcoz they want a divorce? No, that's not the case at all. I don't hv the time go into this n even show u a place in the Bible where God protected the property of women bcoz of marriage but like I said, I do respect your views. At the end of the day, those who believe a prenup signifies divorce will not do it and the rest of us who think about it practically and not emotionally will go for it. Everyone will do what makes them happy n that's what counts
Thank you pastor for this greAt message i really learnt a lot from it on how to handle my family in the future. God bless your family with more wisdom.
Many men who are impotent (inability to sustain erection during sex is an aspect of impotency) don't know as they haven't had sex before. So it is either your suggestion is for every man to explore their sexuality and to then disclose that in their next relationship. Mind you sex is an aspect of marriage in the realm of the spirit as abortion is an aspect of child sacrifice (or murder) recorded in the realm of the spirit.
@@factsandopinions577 You have the right to your choice. I was clear that in the realm of the spirit abortion is a child sacrifice. Just as in 50 years time marriage will be seen by people thinking like you as between any two consenting adult either woman-woman, man-woman or man-man.
Pastors, thanks for this session. This was so educational and as someone intending to be married someday, I’ve learned allot. You guys are so admirable.
1. Freedom to Walk away
2. No Divorce
3. Joint Account
4. Communication
5. No passwords, shared devices
6. Exchanged parents
7. No quarreling
8. Intentional with Intimacy
9. Looking after each other
10. Running the marriage by the word.
Thank you for the collaboration
Thank you
You do all ❤
I knew a blessed soul would have extracted the points
This is so heart touching. Thank you pastors
For those of us who are listening to this message as singles, we are luckily blessed 🎉
Yes!
So true....I wish I had heard these earlier. The one time I celebrate social media
"Prayer does not change your Selection" Pastor K.... this captured my attention the most..my fellow Christian ladies while we're praying and trusting God for Kingdom marriage..it is upto us to still be intentional in selecting..so help us Holy Spirit in Jesus name amen.
Amen 🙏
AMEN
Amen n amen
Amen
Amen
1. Agreeing to hault the relationship when you see that it's not going to work.
2. Agreeing that if the relationship end up in marriage, divorce is not an option.
3. Agreeing to have a joint account (make everything finance transparent).
4. Agreement on communication (communicating more).
5. Agreement on no keeping of secret, password (building trust).
6. Agreement on exchange of parents.
7. Agreement on quarrel free marriage.
8. Agreeing to be intentional with intimacy.
9. Agreeing that nobody looks down on the other(more selfless and less selfish).
10. Agreement on using the Bible to work the marriage.
Thank you for the summary
It’s helpful
Thank you
Thanks 🙏
Thank you
Thank you for the summary
1. When uncertainty of conviction comes, never leave each other hurt
2. Divorce is abolish (Same as threatening to leaving the relationship isn't healthy)
3. Having Joint Account.(building Trust, Money will never be an issue)
4. Communication is the key ( communicate your pains and hurts often and don't keep silence)
5. No secrets especially on social media handles
6. Exchanging parents
7. No quarreling (we mustn't be mad at the same thing)
8. Mutual intimacy intentionality (Kissing and hugging each other every day)
9. Looking out for each other (Not been selfish, always asking questions of what do you want me to do for you. Are you happy?)
10. Word Center
😊
Much appreciated ❤
PST K knows how to lighten up the mood of the room. His sense of humor is great!!!
Absolutely, he's really good at reading the room! As for his Sense of humor,he's a pure & proper Sanguine😂!
LAPD OOOO
Communication is the life of every relationship. 🤔
It takes two intentional people to build a great marriage and marriage is between two givers
You don't SULK, you TALK 📌
Wow...I just heard everything that was wrong in my previous relationship. My priest who is also a marriage counselor told me I dodged a bullet; I didn't understand it. My ex fiancee just hated the fact that I listened to Pastor K's teaching too much, I was like, what's wrong with trying to know how to love you better.
All Pastor K's messages I sent to my own he didn't even care to listen to them
Currently
Wow!! Imagine
Aah... I'm surprised o
I'd definitely love me a man that listens to Pastor K
Same here as well.
I love the fact that when she talks he rarely obstruct her
*interrupts not obstructs.
Couldn't drop my phone down till I finished listening. Guess what! My Wife sent this to me
May your marriage continue to wax strong
Wow! She's such an amazing soul!
She did well ❤
God bless her😂❤
Nice
"It takes two intentional people to build a marriage but takes one to scatter "
Thank you Sir
😊😊
Listening to Pastor K and Pastor M has made me grateful for all the broken relationships I have had.
Love them,may GOD ALMIGHTY CONTINUE BLESSING them,and giving them wisdom,protecting them to continue enlightening us all..IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME OF NAZARETH AMEN. 🙇🙇
I'm a muslimah but I'm so much inspired by these marriage guilines. May Allah SWT continue to keep you strong and safe for each other. Thank you Mr and Mrs Kingsley.
Sister Fatima thank you for acknowledging this divine wisdom
Whoever is earning more is not superior to who is earning less
Say that again
My future marriage is blessed.
I will marry right.
I will marry my best friend.
I will marry a lover of God and true believer of Christ.
My future marriage will be a great achievement to me and i will be super proud of my spouse🙏🙏🙏
It works, am excited for you
🙏🙏
Amen 🙏
Amen
The family you build is of more priority than the family you're from.
Most men, especially mama boys don't understand that!!!
@@StarrStuddedEntso true
@@StarrStuddedEntGod bless you 🙏🏾😊 my thoughts exactly
One thing this message has helped me understand is: in marriage it’s two halves that come together to make one. The ability to see yourself as incomplete without the other person is very important.
I'm blessed. Though I'm single now but I trust God to be a great partner to my spouse when God settles me in Jesus Name,Amennnn.
Amen
Amen
Amen
Amen amen 👏👏
Amen dear
One thing I conclude with this is that everything from a to z has to be intentional, it's risky to act on your feelings i.e doing what you feel like doing in the marriage.
Right intentional
This couple has blessed the kingdom proud of you more grace
I will marry right..
I will be a good and kingdom wife to my future husband & kids,and he will be a kingdom,good and kindhearted husband to me and our kids..
We will make it right with God..
We will Train an amazing kingdom children for God and the society
We will love and cherish each other, looking out for each other, fulfill God's purpose for each other while we build a good, healthy and amazing home for us and our children...Amen
God bless you dear pastors for this wonderful piece.❤
I used to sulk too because I felt that it was better than talking out my emotions and it was definitely worse. But now I talk and sometimes I over talk, so, I just keep praying to know 'WHAT TO SAY AND HOW TO SAY' when angry!😊 We all really need to unlearn and relearn in this thing called marriage. 😅
Lord give me my own, intentional, Godly, ready to listen to me every time 🙏, never get tired of me God i will not marry rubbish in Jesus name 😭🙏
Amen
Amen
Everyone, yet to be married or married needs to watch this. If you've missed it already, it's not late to realign with God's intentions
Very true
Marriage without tolerance will not work, no body is perfect
Tolerance is not a virtue, Patience and Acceptance is a great virtue.
I'm single and watching this ahead of time.
I've learnt that communication is the key in the relationship. And to always look out for each other in the relationship.
Wow! I love this teaching, i have never heard it in this version. Exchange parents, look out for each other, be intentional about intimacy etc. God bless you sir/ma, for letting people like us into some of the secrets to your marital success/bliss.
No secrets,no password and no hidden things
Finally i have found people who think like me
~Nobody has successfully begged for love......not for long....
~Marriage won't give you what you don't have..... Have a life.
~when you have self-esteem and self-value, you'll become very selective of the person you journey with in marriage...
Nuggets from Pastor K.❤😊
Never beg for love. Have self esteem & value yourself
Better half brought me here 😊! Ready to learn! Pen 🖊️ and paper 📑 here
True
Oh nice! Not all the better halves take things their partner shares seriously
God bless you
Kingdom marriage is the way to go. No other way. Thanks for your exemplary marriage. God bless you both.
I needed these secrets shared
I have been selecting wrongly and God has been faithful to be saving me from the relationship.
I knew God has a better plan for me.
I just have to wait build my capacity to be the right person while the right person comes
The family you build is better and more important than the family you're from
I agree for joint account only for contributions to run the family. Joint accounts and also to have individual accounts. I like to help people around me so I still need my own money.
😂😂😂
No matter how you explain it, you want to live an individual secret life.
There's no way, your partner will say don't help except it's at the expense of the family which is a foolish idea to begin with
You are still giving excuses...
Pick the right partner, heal from your insecurity and you won't have to have "your own money"...
I don’t think it’s about being insecure, I don’t see anything wrong with keeping personal accounts, like me for example i like to plan surprises and it’s easier to do that when you have a separate account
Perfect example of kingdom marriage. Pst K and Mama, your home is forever blessed in Jesus name 🙏.
I'm preparing to be married again after the death of my husband, thank you pastor K and wifey, I will be more intentional about my spouse this time
This time ????
Oh women . Your statement is a show of relief that ur late husband was a pain.
Na waoooo.
Won't you stay.
Why do you want to marry again.
Did your late husband die due to your unintentionality?..
This comment though
Llljjkj
I'm here for you ❣️
Anyone about to go into relationship should watch this very helpful ❤
Am tremendously blessed...I pray the Lord give me a partner that we would both serve God together ❤🙏
1 be contend with yourself and be able to walk away from the relationship.
2. Once married, there's no room for divorce. Divorce is not an option
3. When angry or upset, talk, don't sulk.
4. No quarrels. We can't both be angry at all.
5. Exchange parents and only intervene when there's a problem
6. Joint account and joint accountability.
7. Look out for each other. The other person is responsible for the other's well-being.
8. The marriage must be Word-ruled.
9. No password or no secret. Know each other's passwords and have each other's accounts. Transparency
Q❤
Alisca babe🫡
@jasonokie 🙌. I greet you bros
Great write-up sis. I love it 🔥
@@jasonokie I'm always blessed listening to them 🙏 😌
When you are both inlove with each other, almost all of these rules/agreements comes naturally. Respect will make it come naturally. Love will make one be patient till the other partner can accommodate his/her presence. Etc
Love is more than a feeling, it's a choice. You choose to love, you also choose to be intentional.
@@sannom5467 Your statement is just powerful
I was blinded, I regretted fighting for the love I knew it won't work, but holy spirit opened my eyes,yet I learned so much from it that I'm also grateful for today, to God be the groly 🙏
Divorce is not an option my marriage will work it shall be heaven on earth from today I change my mentality toward getting married because it is a beautiful thing to get married
I really don't see any agreement very important than the other. They are actually completing one another. I can envisage a happy marriage built from following and respecting these agreements all. Thanks very much pastor Kingsley and your lovely wife.. I'm following you from Rwanda.
The part of exchanging parents is 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌 God bless you
Thank you Jesus, I don’t know how God does it… but everytime I need clarification on something especially relationship, I just open UA-cam and God leads me to a message or preach I should listen to. I especially love the part you said ‘’WE would not think of divorce no matter what happens, we are in this for life.
I also learnt about the sulking, that’s me .. but I have changed now… because it’s not a good character. God will help me
Thank you so much.
Wow! So you share accounts PK & PM, very good to hear. I thought my husband was stubborn by insisting on it. Thank you so much for sharing 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
You have a good man, daughter of God
Watching this makes marriage interesting to me.
I love this man, that's marriage.... Now I'm ready
Thanks pastor. I've learnt greatly here. Imagine I just shared this with my fiance
Kingdom marriage is better. God bless you both Pastor K &M
I hear you Sir!!!!! The choice of partner is the foundation!!!!!
I've gone back n forth on this finance (especially the matter of prenup) issue a lot. I wish I cld send him a question directly. It's not that u don't trust the person but rather u cannot control how the person will change 10 yrs from now. Even God said he regretted creating man at some point. Of course the person u marry today is someone u trust but if that person gets up 10 yrs from now n walks out regardless of counseling etc., u can't force them to stay. Why are we ok with every kind of insurance (life, home, car) but not a prenup😢 which is pretty much a financial insurance? Like he mentioned person can be determined to fight for the marriage when the other one mentally left a long time ago n nothing can change their minds.
What is prenup about?
@@petakiliyaonlinetv2051an agreement entered into by a couple - preferably in good time before a marriage - which sets out how assets will be divided if they divorce or the marriage is dissolved
Having the idea of prenup before getting married shows that you're already thinking of divorce happening at any point in time and you don't totally trust this person.
@yomide_naturals while I absolutely respect your views, I don't agree and I don't think having a prenup is a sign of distrust. I live in the US so I'll speak only concerning the laws here, anyone who is married here is required by law to have the marriage registered at a court, whether it's signed at a church, at Vegas...wherever. Now, what do u that is? It's a contract; we don't have contracts because we expect everything to go right, contracts by their very nature r created to protect each party in case something bad happens. Are you therefore saying that every Christian who's had their marriage registered (bcoz it's required by law) did so bcoz they want a divorce? No, that's not the case at all. I don't hv the time go into this n even show u a place in the Bible where God protected the property of women bcoz of marriage but like I said, I do respect your views. At the end of the day, those who believe a prenup signifies divorce will not do it and the rest of us who think about it practically and not emotionally will go for it. Everyone will do what makes them happy n that's what counts
It's easy to do marriage if you do what Jesus says,... make your marriage word ruled👍
Lord i pray u give me a understand man 🙏 bcos i know i will be a Great partner to my spouse 💯by his Grace
I love the part about being open with your phones. No passwords or secrets. Sin actually thrives in secrecy
Communication is the life of every relationship
Thanks so papa❤ and mama❤
This is good advice for my children in Jesus name.
Communication is the life of every relationship.
It takes two intentional people to build a marriage and it takes only one to scatter the marriage.
Communication is the birth of any relationship
I really enjoy watching your teaching .. I just call my friend and say let’s learn ahead of times 😅😂😂.. God bless you both .. love you two ❤
"For a hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet "
This was very helpful. Never heard of him but I completely agree with both of them. Such a blissful marriage. Its easy to tell they’re best friends
Communication is the key to any relationship
Our marriage will be word-built!!!!!!!!!
The Word of God is our Marriage manual!.... Kai
Thank you pastor for this greAt message i really learnt a lot from it on how to handle my family in the future. God bless your family with more wisdom.
Transparency will save you from temptations by pastor k 🙏 I hear that word
Communication is the life of every relationship
God bless Mr and Mrs Okonkwo
Prayer cannot change your selection. "WEAK SELECTION." You can't pick a weak team and act surprised.
My heart melted for this things that was outlined,I never really thought of them.... Thank you Pastor for sharing
Doing what you don’t feel like helps build your discipline 🔥
I pray God give me a husband that will understand the things of God, when the time comes.
I'm grateful that I came across this message, God bless you pastor K and Mrs M, God will continue to grant you more wisdom
I enjoyed this preaching. Very enriching and alot of lessons to learn for marriage couple.
Thank u pastor and wife
This is powerful
God bless you sir
Thank You Ma for opening up about your Mother-in-Law. More tips of how you went about it. Thank you ma
Transparency even your health is perfect. If a man is impotent he should also disclose it
Many men who are impotent (inability to sustain erection during sex is an aspect of impotency) don't know as they haven't had sex before. So it is either your suggestion is for every man to explore their sexuality and to then disclose that in their next relationship. Mind you sex is an aspect of marriage in the realm of the spirit as abortion is an aspect of child sacrifice (or murder) recorded in the realm of the spirit.
@@Godlove-Johnimpotency can be checked through medical tests, go to the hospital.
and abortion is not child sacrifice
@@factsandopinions577 You have the right to your choice. I was clear that in the realm of the spirit abortion is a child sacrifice. Just as in 50 years time marriage will be seen by people thinking like you as between any two consenting adult either woman-woman, man-woman or man-man.
@@Godlove-John realm of the spirit kill you there.
Abortion is not child sacrifice!
I thoroughly enjoyed this. Ps Mildred and Kingsley are a blessing to the Christian community 🫶🏽
This made so much sense and yea… the Holy Spirit is the Spirit of truth.
Thank God I came across this now that I'm still single... Thanks for sharing 🥰 Lovely couples.
Pastors, thanks for this session. This was so educational and as someone intending to be married someday, I’ve learned allot. You guys are so admirable.
"Only what the bible says goes on in our marriage " this is grt...
I thank God for you speaker, we need more of this for our young ones who believe in prenup.
How do you not love these guys 😭🥹🤞
Please how do I like this message more than once ?! 🙆🏽♀️
Powerful presentation. Very impactful. Thank you for sharing. God bless you and your family
I bless the day, I cross path with pastor K and his wife..
May God continue to bless & protect your marriage Sir.
This is probably one of the best videos I have watched on marriage/ relationships...
My future husband must watch this too and be encouraged
Its easy to do marriage if you do what Jesus says you should do💯
I'm really blessed with the teaching...
God bless you Pastor Kay and Pastor Mee
WOW ooooo am blessed kingdom marriage is wat I am going for by his grace Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I love the balance in your agreements.
Pastor Mildred 8 years , had no idea ❤ wow
Unique arrangement.
Thanks for sharing.
Good job Pastor Kingsley and Pastor Mildred❤❤❤❤
I'm glad that I am listening to your teaching at this phase in my life❤❤❤. God bless Pastor K and M
So many thing to Emulate here. Thank you mummy and daddy I'm blessed
Marriage is all understand and to have a fear of God