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Cheating is a choice and leaves a deep impact on the partner, and the cheating partner is always aware of it. I don't think any Bollywood movie has ever sensibly depicted the trauma of the cheated partner😢
Don't know if this comes under "glorifying", but many movies (especially the comedies) do give the message that even if your partner cheats on you, you should try and get them back.
@@Musicraincthe first part of masti was opposite of glorifying cheating it actually shown the dangerous consequences of extramarital affairs in a comic light as in the end they changed there views and promise to never cheat on there wife . As per sequels of masti yes they were definitely the one glorifying the infidelity
You should add Bajirao Mastani to this! The one that got it right! The one which made you fully empathize with the wronged party even while trying to glorify the cheating pair!
@@Risingstar51 monogamy was not prevalent in those days anyway so what's the fuss? I am not saying it is totally justified, i only think according to their relationship Bajirao should have told Kashi about the whole thing and got her on board.
@@AmberlitArt Bajirao was scared to tell Kashi, but this supposedly bold mastani, was she also scared to tell Kashi ? Mastani's love wasn't love, how can anyone fall in love this fast, I think it was just lust.
@@Risingstar51 that's not true. She ultimately died too, and she knew what she was getting into, she did it anyway. Mastani is not responsible to tell Kashi anything, it was Bajirao's job, his decision. I am only saying this based on how things usually happened in history. I am not siding with anyone.
@@AmberlitArt gurl the problem is bajirao wasn't a king he was just a prime minister type, a Brahmin. He couldn't have a mistress but mastani and his TrUe lOvE made him marry her. And i agree with other commentator it was lust nor love
I hated KANK because they ended the movie with a happily-ever-after of the two cheaters and made it look like, "Oh, Dev and Maya finally found true love! How romantic!" People say it shows reality of society, but it doesn't at all.The movie does end with a slight note that cheating is bad, but it feels forced. The entire movie says otherwise. In my opinion, the movie should have focused on Preity and Abhishek's struggle instead of making it a Rani-Srk love story. They showed cheating in a positive light focusing on "true love, etc" instead of bringing light to the harm it caused to everyone else.
Agreed. Cheating does happen in real life but not with the singing and dancing they showed in KANK. Only a pure narcissist enjoy cheating. Others often go through periods of shame and guilt during affairs
@laranya5332 yup. They too tried to pull a bajirao mastani with that show but it backfired badly and show recieced do much hate that they had to shift it too ott. Aditi sharma who played the betrayed wife was phenomenal int he show and everyone rooted for her and hated the cheating couple.
Tbh i am still happy with the ending considering that two horrible piece of human garbage got married to each other and preity, her son and abhishek(the real victims) finally got out from this toxicity In that perspective its still happy ending😂😂
I found it to be realistic because they showed preity’s character leaving the marriage as soon as she found out. Usually they don’t show this, the woman always forgives. We have seen this in so many movies: masti, sandwich, garam masala, gharwali baharwali, biwi no.1, pati patni aur woh, life in a metro, and many more.. it also showed that the marriages were not working well, there were reasons the two marriages didn’t work. SRK and rani falling for each other was more organic and more realistic than a man just cheating because he’s horny.
Also worth including the story of Shilpa Shetty and KK Menon from Life in a metro. While Menon is sleeping around with his young employee Kangna, Shilpa is frustratingly resisting going intimate with Shiney Ahuja. Finally when Menon finds out about her and Shiney, he goes berserk to humiliate Shilpa.. but defends his own cheating as “purely physical nothing emotional”. Hypocrisy much?!
Yes, it was hypocrisy, and the movie never tried showing him in a good light. He was shown as one of the most despicable characters in the movie. That’s the point. The problem starts where/when a movie plot tries to justify one’s infidelity in the backdrop of the partner being this and that.
@@fuzzyrant but in the end he goes back to his wife not because he regretted his decision or was guilty but because kangna ran away and his wife accepts him
@@Characterarch Does the movie or the director show him as a good person? Does the movie try to lure the audience into having sympathy for him? No. A big no. He is shown as an extremely flawed person, and I don’t remember a single scene where the director tried showing him in good light. It doesn’t matter whether he had guilt or not, because the movie isn’t trying to portray him a moralistic guy. The director isn’t trying to virtue signal the audience about having pity for him, unlike Four more shots, in which the director is trying to justify the various unethical and immoral decisions taken by the 4 main characters.
@@fuzzyrant how the character is written is not so important, the important thing is the consequences faced by the character, good, bad, grey or whatever the character is the consequence faced by the character is the most important in story, if someone does something wrong he/she should face the karma atleast in the story.
Ranveer and Alia can dance around destroying and making fun of Dhanlaxmi's marriage but when Dhanlaxmi is against their month old relationship, she is cruel. Such entitlement and no respect for others relationship is downright disrespectful and really common.
@@bollywoodmamamoo4625 it's not shown anywhere When he got paralyzed she build up her own brand like a dutiful wife And even if she was he could have left her rather than being a whore and cheating on her
I felt the last season of Four More Shots Please also normalised cheating in an extremely weird manner when Damini cheated on Jeh, who was a total green flag, and then blamed him for her infidelity stating some obscure reason of coming on too strong/not giving her enough space, or something like that. That storyline left me disturbed and made me cringe.
💯 By the end of the last episode, Damini was so toxic to digest. I mean all the Main Leads in that drama are flawed when it comes to relationships but she was something else. She gaslighted herself to believe she was cheating because of Jeh 🤯
Glad it was a woman who pointed it out otherwise I have seen campaigns being run to defend her actions and rather blaming audience to be making too much noise as the cheating was done by a woman not a man
it becomes slightly unintentionally funny by the end of it tho. Plane crashes and all that make characters realise their love for their respective spouses.
@JillValentine-ix4qlLOL didn’t Ranbir cheat on Deepika with Katrina though? And after that he dated Katrina for 7 years only to end up marrying Alia. His mom still posts stuff on her insta like "just because he's dating you for a long time doesn’t mean he will marry you "
@@adiba_lekhahe didn't cheat katrina . Unka waise break up hua .aur ranveer apni pehli zindagi main 3 ladkiyon ko date kar chuka hai ek saath aur mere jaise loyal insaan ko ek bhi ladki nhi milti
For me, the infidelity shown in Masoom hits like a ton of bricks, because the affair is in the distant past but there's a byproduct of it infront of the wife's face. On one side she's shattered that her husband did this to her but the illicit child has a face that melts your heart.
@@sabeermuhammad5313 ok but in Main hoon Na the dad had his child SRK long before he was married na? I don’t get why she got soo mad that she ended their relationship
Towards the end of KANK, when Maya & Rhea meet again (after 3 yrs), Rhea tells Maya how she (Rhea) & Rishi have moved on, while Maya & Dev are still stuck in the past. This is another scene that shows how KANK doesn't glorify the cheating.
@@rajattyagi8963because they aren't meant to be defend. They are the villains of the movie and are shown as failures throughout. That is why their spouses are shown as great people while they suck.
@@rajattyagi8963 they aren't celebrated outside of their own perspective and that too crumbles towards the third act. In the first act we are meant to understand their loveless relationships and how they are also at fault for it. In the third act we are shown the consequences of their actions.
@@rajattyagi8963 you are missing everything that happens in between. The ending has them together not because them being in love was wrong, it was them betraying their partners.
@@anvitamohan7939they tried to generate sympathy for the cheaters by making Srk and Rani utter dialogues like "thank you for letting me live in your house Ria", " ab kyun mujhe hurt Kia Rishi" .
@@apurvashankaranarayanbhat2179 they were stuck in loveless marriages ,that was obvious. But at the end who is the one who is made narratively the bad person?
I think Dil Dhadakne Do shows a very realistic potrayal of cheating. Like how Anil Kapoor cheats on his wife but in the end his wife forgives him not because she loves him but that she has nowhere else to go. Likewise Priyanka's character is also seen cheating on her husband who is abusive, misogynist and controlling and she chooses the option of divorce because she can make that choice unlike her mother.
Reema and zoya are mature writers. Their characters have depth so their function is not just about justification but also the dichotomy and double standards
Wait I don’t remember PC’s character cheating on her husband. She asked for a divorce before anything even happened with Sunny. In fact they never showed her cheating, just admitting that she has feelings for him which were feelings from before not new feelings while she was married to someone else.
@@abhignaadhvaryu9581 but she has asked for divorce in front of everyone her husband her parents her mother in law all she got scolding and no one took her srsly she was trapped ahe wanted divorce she talked abt divorce with her mother , husband and everyone before kissing Sunny but everytime she talk abt divorce all she got was scolding .
@@elsa2885 i’m not blaming her for anything but it is still technically cheating and noone can deny that. In this case, the context really matters cause if you know the context then you can’t really blame priyanka’s character for kissing sunny
It's freaking mind boggling how Bollywood showcases cheating and justifies it that you actually end up thinking, it's fine to have a fling when married or committed!!! Kudos to you Jammy for having the balls to address this issue.
Me and my mom literally gasped when we saw the kissing scene in rocky and Rani we were so shocked and my mom instantly said “this is too much Han” while people were clapping and hooting.....and we thought that this is wrong on so many levels!!
That was my only concern with Rocky and Rani. They literally gave no redemption to Dhanlaxmi. When Dharmendra kissed Shabana, her reaction felt more like a son brought home a girl she didn't like, rather than a wife who was betrayed. I loved Dharmendra and Shabanaz's chemistry. While she was justified because her husband was abusive, Dhanlaxmi and Kanwal's dynamic was monotone. That being said, I love an old people romance story.
That justification itself was very shallow because of the moment it was placed and way it was delivered. She was like you guys think my cheatin is bad but nooo it isnt because heres mah sad backstory. If it was put in an apt way maybe it would have meant more
I get what you mean. I think divorce for any reason is more common and acceptable in todays generation. While of course it was wrong for Kanwal to cheat on his wife, it also begs the story of being in an emotionally unfulfilling relationship for him all his life. He was also unwell and unable to revive his memories so the whole : he could divorce her if he wanted Debate doesn't work here.
Exactly. Exactly. Exactly. The fact cheating is being so glorified and justified so massively and easily in Bollywood nowadays was being so overlooked. Thank you for this video.
I was thinking about it while watching Rocky and rani where jaya bacchan who made the whole empire was just disregarded and that point when mother of rocky yells at her husband after being obedient and suffering for so long and when he said sorry for all , she started shouting ..the reaction was over the top ....that sudden courage and his reaction to jaya ji...was like....wth !! Like one-sided story it felt
I don’t think so that cheating should be acceptable from any gender in a relationship even if it is a loveless relationship one should always be truthful to their feelings , also thank you for pointing out biwi no.1 , I absolutely hated the fact that despite the man being in the wrong Sushmita sen’s character becomes the villain (she does have some toxic traits) but nothing enough to label her as the vamp , but then again Salman Bhai k aage koi kuch Bol skta hai kyaa??😂
I watched Rocky aur Rani very recently online, and this issue really stuck out for me. I went through some of its reviews and was so perplexed that no one was talking about it!
I was really waiting for someone to talk about this topic. Why do directors or storywriters doesn't understand that a cheat is a cheat no matter what. Even when i watched kabhi alvida na kehna i never realized why no one talked abt this for these many yrs. Kudos to you bro❤️❤️❤️
@@TriedRefusedProductionsIt didn't but they somehow tried to show the relationship of srk and Rani as genuine. Every relationships has its ups and downs and Rani was really well treated by Abhishek although he had childish character still she left for srk. And srk himself had ego issues with his wife which is justifiable but cheating on her was kinda too much.
@@TriedRefusedProductionsthe ending should have been the opposite like have an happy ending for such a broken relationship really gives us a thinking about this
I think stable and happy relationships can come across as boring on screen, cheating is seen as a kind of emotional thriller too. That's why most romatic films are either of falling in love with someone new or cheating in relationships, long term great relationships are always the backdrop of a story and not the actual storyline. Also we Indians always root for the hero and heroine, so they have to make them somewhat redeemable and not make them be completely in the wrong, therefore glorifying them. Because you almost always see the story from their perspective and cheaters will always try to justify it somehow to reduce the guilt which comes with the affair. Like KANK for me did glorify it, the realistic approach would have been that one couple separates but the other for whatever reason does not, and therefore cheating just leads to hurt and there is no perfect happily ever after on the other side of it.
@@sahildas5840I think they gave real life ending instead of fairytale ending like they somehow realize they loved their partner and lived happily ever after.. That would have been too unrealistic.. 👀
Frankly the matter of cheating needs to be understood in the context of the times we live in. As a modern day woman, I believe its unacceptable. You should first separate from your partner in case of issues and then move on to someone else. But lets go back 30-40 years in a world where women weren't financially independent. Many women married to bollywood folks...Salma Khan, Raj babbar's wife, Mithun's wife, Dharmendra's wife etc gladly accepted their husbands simply coz they had kids with them. So a lot changes when you have a big family to support! I always feel that morals can be enforced only when you are comfortable with money.
Even in modern world, so many wives of Bollywood actors decide to ignore the cheating instead of divorcing their husband and attacking the other women. Like Twinkle Khanna, Gauri Khan and so on
Truth contex is important when dealing with cheating matters how much one's circumstances pushing them off too it do it spectrum of cheating differs one more thing isn't discussed here is emotional infedility
Actually Indian women are like that . 10 out of 8 women will not leave their husband they will beat them but not leave them whether they are financially independent or not . Where in west 8 out of 10 will file divorce.
Being cheated on by your partner is the most traumatising thing one has to go through. Imagine loving only one person with all your heart and sincerely, than all of a sudden wondering everytime if what wrong dud you do for this to happen.
I believe the question boils down to “What consequence do the characters face?” KANK and Gehraiyaan show that Dev and Alisha face consequences due to their actions. This isn’t glorifying but the other movies? Not so much
@@rajattyagi8963he suffered for 3 years all alone and even lost his son and mom. Thats not temporary punishment, he lost wayyy too much. He definitely suffered
No one does till they are trapped in the same situation themselves. There are very few salacious people out there, most people don't intend to cheat on their partners but a lot of cheating happens in this world, regardless. Human emotions are quite complicated.
Chokher Bali is a film that needs to be discussed I feel . Based on Tagore's novel of the same name, the various pov's baffle thr viewers. This film was a masterpiece regarding male infidelity
Chokher Bali did infidelity right . Mahesh had every damn intention of cheating on his wife and justified it with every reason he could come up with . Binodini wanted to flirt with this man and reject him ( instead of actually having an affair) because she blamed him for her widowhood . Asha desperately tried to win Mahendra back and she did but in the end she never trusted him fully and found happiness in herself rather than in her husband. Bihari who had a lot of insecurities, while blamed Binod for breaking a family, he could help wanting her for himself because nobody ever surrendered their love to him or chose him over Mahendra. Tagore never glorified cheating, but he also depicted the cheap thrill of a clandestine affair and the emotional complexities . That's why I loved that novel . It felt so real and fleshed out ,
This stuck out as such a sore thumb for me throughout rarkpk, the way cheating was not even questioned, and everyone loved the movie somehow! Thank you for putting the problematic way bollywood handles infidelity in a video
I was eagerly waiting for you to talk about this issue. KANK is personally one of my favourite SRK romantic movies along with KHNH and Veer Zaara. And those saying that is glorifies cheating, there's a closing dialogue by him in the movie where Dev says that although he and Maya found love in each other towards the end, he wished that it didn't have to come at a cost of breaking their respective partners' heart.
Its probably the most nuanced take regarding extramarital affairs. There was a constant burden of guilt and sadness that consumed both Dev and Maya. It broke their families, the acknowledgment is always there of its destructive nature rather than showcasing the same union as being something rosy and beautiful
Isn’t it better to break their heart rather than stay with them with disinterest ? I think it’s bad for both the parties. Maybe breaking their heart is a kinder option, so that they can find someone worthy of their love.
I did not like KANK as it had a happy ending for the cheaters. However Gehraiyan was more realistic in its ending, as so many such relations end in crimes. Rocky and Rani well I felt very bad for Dhanlaxmi as Bollywood always shows practical abd strong matriarchs as villians.
Finallyyyyy, someone in our generation spoke about this issue. Otherwise, people especially in our generation not only in movies but in real life also have started normalizing such things. Thanks for highlighting this.
Even Pati , Patni aur woh was also glorifying cheating...In the whole movie they justified Kartik's Character,compared him with PRABHU SRI RAM and at the end tried to balance it through a monologue of Bhumi..
He did not cheat, he was just a man looking for some companionship & as soon as he realized he crossed the line during the club scene and ananya's backstory, he backs off. Not to mention the amount of hell he had to go through after that mess up. 😂
@@chetanuniyal3428 He was happily married and still getting romantically involve with Annanya's character..When Annanya started to ignore him because he was married, he lied to Annanya that his wife is having an affair and going on vacation with Annanya also..Going on dates also and lying his wife about it.Just because he is not having s** doesn't mean it's not cheating.. Cheating is wrong whether it's physical or emotional..
@@ditipriyahazra3890 I'm not saying he was right by any means, but he was sensible enough to back off before he reached the point of no return. So, bhoomi's character also did the same, she spun a web of lies to make him suffer and pay for his actions. But bhoomi also didn't cross the point of no return. We can't always judge every comedic subplots with a critical eye, as comedy by its very nature is meant to be offensive.
Your research is commendable 👏 The way Bollywood has knowingly or unknowingly glorified cheating by men through comedic gags and chauvinistic portrayal is noteworthy. Of all the movies that you have mentioned here, I felt a sense of empathy towards Tabbu's character in Astitva, perhaps because of the way the film was narrated and how it ended.
I think since the 80s and 90s cheating and polygamy is often glorified in Indian cinema across Industries in the name of comedies and romance, and it has made the audience quite immune to it, But the irony is in slapstick comedies people will often take it as a comedic gag but the moment this subject is dealt in a more serious film it becomes a taboo or trying to ruin society🙄 I find movies like Kaathuvaakula Rendu Kaadhal(2022) more disturbing than movies like Gehraiyaan coz unlike the former the latter isn't rewarded for it 😅But the amount of hate Gehraiyaan got shows the double standard of the audience😢
Gehraiyaan hate is so surface level. I remember people simply dismissing it because Deepika was scantily clad. Absolutely no discussion of its themes and relationships explored
@@TriedRefusedProductionsMost people hate Gehraiyaan Not coz of the movie itself but coz of deepika the actor associated with it since Indian audience is far from mature enough to differentiate between reel and real life🙄 As for those who rage about the sex and kisses to lecture about Indian moral values, at night these same guys will search 'Hot kiss of deepika in Gehraiyaan' in incognito😂😂
@@TriedRefusedProductionsThat's true but my biggest problem with gehraiyaan was that it was inspired heavily from Match Point. I guessed the twist very soon which ruined the movie for me. And match point was way to superior.
@@Mira-pm3ni Yes, director of gehraiyaan is a huge fan of his work. So, he borrowed the the plot of match point. Woody's personal life is quite controversial but he is a great director.
Oh finally like I understand that Rani’s grandfather was abusive but what was the justification behind Rocky’s grandfather cheating on the grandmother Also the fact that the grandkids are actually helping them and shipping them
The justification is that it was a loveless marriage and the relationships more or less became that of a caretaker and patient rather than a husband and wife. A lack of acknowledgment of each other as partners. But it was a two way street : that's often overlooked
@@TriedRefusedProductions I get having a loveless marriage but they can't tell me that the grandfather as a man couldn't just leave that marriage instead of having an affair. The grandmother not having the option to leave would be understandable
You are right! Loveless marriage isn't a justification for cheating. Both the man and woman have the right and opportunity to end the marriage via divorce. More so in this day and age that the movie was depicted. It certainly didn't help that the lovable protagonist were shown to help them with the affair right under their parent's noses and that wasn't made an issue. Rather their cultural differences was the main point of focus.
@@TriedRefusedProductions1:51 u mentioned kanwal is still in the hangover of his love with Jamini while getting married to dhanalakshmi... but I remember Jamini telling Rani that both of them were already married at the time they met... so despite their love they went their separate ways
This video deserves a part two. In Humpty Sharma ki Dulhaniya, the girl was already engaged, still she had an affair with Humpty. In Love Aaj Kal, Meera sort of cheats on her partner and dumps him just after getting married. In Tamasha, Tara spends time with Ved 'Don' while she already had a boyfriend in India. This is much more common in Imtiyaz Ali films.
It's also noticeable that some directors just keep showing cheating, betrayal of partners in form of love stories ....a glorified director like SLB has done this repeatedly, many of David Dhawan's movies presented this with comic angle, KJo had this as main theme in movies like KANK , even in Student of the year , cheating was the thing what ignited the fire ....personal choice or something else?
Oh finallyyyyy . For years now I’ve seen movies which in the name of misunderstanding or comedy have glorified cheating and I would always wonder if the audience is expected to root for them . From movies like biwi number one in the 90s to RARKPK this was one thing that somehow didn’t change . I understand showing it in the movies that affairs are something that happen in real life but not giving it the explanation or conclusion it deserves and somehow we are expected to believe as if it is acceptable . Thank you for bringing it up
Finally someone called out the weirdness of Mahesh Bhatt presenting his affair with Parveen Babi. Like, imagine being broke and mentally unwell while someone you haven't met for ages is earning from your name and making steamy romance films about your affair.
I can't help but notice the irony in the casting of Rocky and Rani. Like Jaya is really the other woman in her own marriage even in real life. Dharmendra cheated on his first wife to marry Hema Malini and lastly Shabana Azmi had an affair with a married Javed Akhter until he eventually left his wife to marry her. It’s like they all have played that part in real life as well
My aunts used to watch Astitva multiple times as it used to be telecasted on Doordarshan several times back in the day. As a kid I used to get bored and never understood the depth of the movie. Now as an grown up, I understand the complications involved in relationships, commitments, infidelity.
Haven’t watched other movies but in Rocky and Rani, speaking on behalf of Dharmendra it’s essential to reflect on compassion, empathy and care that are cornerstones of relationship. She kept him parched of his deep emotional needs. If you don’t love don’t expect loyalty. She literally denied him the love of his son.
@@Tootiefootiesizindagi I think you need one first. He was confined to chair and had a mentally debilitating condition. Do you think he could have approached court and filed for a divorce. Very good analysis on your part. He slowly started recovering only after his past memories were revived and the associated sentiments stimulated. You need therapy bro for supporting toxic relationship.
He could have totally divorced her You justifying cheating in any case is wrong, also the affair started when he was totally fine, even if he wasn't, he should have left the marriage, his wife was loyal, she went out so much, didn't have a husband to satisfy yet she didn't cheat.
I remember watching Biwi no.1 as a kid and how difficult it was for me to watch the movie. I wonder how could Bollywood make a movie like that for a family watch and it was a huge hit that time... goodness!!!
Yes, that movie is toxic and cringe. watching such films, I just wonder the fate of many women, dancing like monkeys around powerful and rich men (producers).
Thank you for making this video Jammy and a big thanks to all the people who have commented condemning adultery. Lately I had become upset thinking that I am the only one who finds infidelity a deal breaker and I cringed through all the movies which tried to normalise it. For me what is worse than Bollywood's glorification of adultery is the expectation that a woman should readily accept and love her husband's child outside of marriage. Such a situation is beyond heart breaking for a woman but bollywood expects women to just get over it. It can be seen in movies like Main Hoon Na, Masoom and every other tv serial. The ONLY movie to show the reverse was Kya Kehna.
Finally someone talking about the absurd and impactical ending of manmarziyaan...both agreeing to keeping in touch and discuss their problems would have made way more sense...it was a total matlab-kuchh-bhi moment.
These were my thoughts when I watched bajirao mastani for the first time (because my friends were going Gaga over how great the movie was and love between bajirao mastani ) And after watching I said to them I didn't like the movie ( may be coz I was not able to digest Kashi Being treated that way and they were even justifying that with cringe worthy dialogues 🥴) I still remember all girls were climbing on me like " you don't understand how GREAT was the love of bajirao mastani " " they even secrifice their lives for each other " ... I was like chill girls I just didn't like you'll don't have to force me to like it. 😂 Seriously now I think of it Bollywood influencing so many adolescence specially girls... their ideas of love is so much in wrong direction 😪.
People should stop thinking of divorce as a drama. Unfortunately they prefer to dtay in an unhappy marriage than to move on. I love KANK a lot. Very honest film about relationships in a marriage
Just to correct you on your analysis of Kanwal and Dhanlaxmi. The affair between Kanwal and Jamini probably happened after their marriage ( As Shabana Azmi's character says to Rani, that "we were both married" and mentioned that they met in 1978, which I am assuming was after both were married according to everyone's age), so the disdain on Kanwal's face was not because he was hungover on Jamini
Thxx god finally someone spoke on these issues Cheating is wrong whether done by male or female. Marriage is based on trust this betrayal will not be tolerated... Saala ye Bollywood wale kuch bhi dekha dete hai cheating kai naam par Boycott kardo inko😂
Great video. This was needed to be called out. I also want to add another story which is rather forgotten or given not much thought. The characters of Shilpa Shetty and Kay Kay Menon in Life in a Metro. The ending of their story didn't sit well with me. Even of Shilpa realized that she needs to put effort in her loveless marriage, Kay Kay menon's character only "realized" when Kangana left him. It was more of a convenience rather than a realization. But it was showed as if he got the realization. This always irked me as how nobody really acknowledges Kay Kay's process of getting back together with Shilpa
You spoke my heart off! I was with Jaya’s character in the beginning she was happy bride and turned bitter as she did not get love from her husband. Then you brought her husbands love in fornt of her kissing her husband who would never have shown any such gesture towards her. I fell sick and my heart aced only for her character in the movie and the fact that everyone was okay with the story and enjoyed it made me sad. Thanks for speaking on this. I feel heard.
Hey Jammy, I know you did not include this particular scenario but do you remember the scene from Jab We Met where the Shahid tells her who he really is and then they talk about his mother’s cheating and Kareena justifies it by saying “woh pyaar mei thi”
Yup... If it wasn't for this part of the movie I'd rate it way higher always - but Imtiyaz trying to send a message that it's OK to play with someone's feelings whom you're committed to doesn't sit well with me.
Exactly my point guys and Shahid (Aditya K) says that she (his mom) was wrong in what she did. I’m not saying that the idea of falling out of love with someone and then falling in love with someone out of the marriage is completely alright but the idea needs to communicated in a particular manner I feel which was missing and yes love does not give you the license to cheat, if people understand infidelity, relationship dynamics then we can conclude that it was wrong on multiple levels and Shahid said about her mother in the start in right.
I wish if you could have included Tara from Made in heaven. I think she lost it all when her mother in law accepted her son's gf coz she was pregnant and also had a room getting ready for baby. Tara was negative but she was faithful in her marriage and was betrayed not only by her husband but also her mother in law who was ready to accept her son instead of dumping him and supporting Tara but that's Indian mind set coz beta to beta hota hai and bahu wahi jo bacha de.
Yes ! That's what she said to her MIL "I'm treating you just the way you treated me". She was a good DIL all in all before - made appearances before MIL's kitty party ladies, tried for baby because they were indirectly taunting her MIL, emotionally supported her MIL when her husband passed away (even though she was in the process of getting divorced). Her MIL basically made her go through all the emotional toil alongside her. In a way, she felt even more backstabbed and cheated by her MIL accepting another DIL than her own husband cheating.
@@PayalTravelToMuse I don't think Adil faced any karma. He lost his mansion but not like he was very fond of it. He got chick, baby, his mother on his side all his friends so technically he was not at loss. Tara as I said was a negativ3 character but when married to him she stayed faithful and did everything to make that marriage work and was even ok with divorce until she saw her MIL betraying her supporting her son and gf. She gave emotional support to her MIL aftr her husband demise while her son was busy making out with his gf than supporting his mom. Tara was heartbroken the time she saw how her MIL even knowing how it feels to be betrayed aftr marriage was easy on her son coz aftr all Tara was nothing more than DIL without a child. Women not supporting women is another level of betrayal and makes it easy for men to cheat and still not face any consequences.
@@darpanmahendrajamnik2914 and what karma did Adil face? Women for her 1 wrong act is called names but not men. Also I was calling out on how her MIL was quick to accept her son and his gf coz she was pregnant. I bet this would have been different if Tara had a son then MIL would have emotionally convinced Adil to be on her side and also he would have ditched his gf. How everyone is so offended when a women acts wrong that they are happy to see her getting served by karma but completely forget about men who did same and had to face nothing. That's what is wrong with our society.
Astitva was a traumatic part of my early childhood film-watching experience, especially as a kid with the constant fear that would happen to my family.
Really glad you made this video Anmol. Been mulling over the romabticizing of cheating in bollywood/ott for a while. The best arc I've seen although is in the hotstar series 'out of love'. It shows every emotion in the cycle and is carried by amazing actors as well esp. Rasika Duggal.
This is so beautifully explained. I also felt similarly about many instances in Made in Heaven- it somehow seemed to be the norm. In some cases it was also glorified.
Thank you for finding a way to discuss cheating despite reviewing forthcoming films and other things. Well, over the past few days, I've seen a variety of posts and articles on Instagram as well where the public is split over the Rocky and Rani plot. For some people, it was justified; for others, it wasn't. In my opinion, Bollywood tries to take this subject in some way every time, whether as the main plot or just a side plot, but they never manage to pull it off. It was Jaya Ji's character in the film Rocky and Rani, which may have been scripted to make us blame her.Bollywood films have somehow failed to do these serious and delicate subjects justice. If the film has a popular hero, the storyline will present him as a decent guy; if the film has a medical cast, the plot will simply leave the matter left to the viewers' decision. Cheating in any form is never justifiable, but if we look to Bollywood movies for a lesson in it, we will be disappointed. Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna was slightly better in this situation, but the background supplied to the characters was not up to par, but they managed to improve it in the end.
That was my biggest point against rocky weds rani. I was surprised none of the critics found it as bad messaging in a movie which was otherwise full of preachy messaging!!
Kabhi Alvida na Kehna is more nuanced, that's true. Yeah that scene from the movie wherein, Rani asks Srk, 'if they'd ever be together..' from the movie is simply heart-piercing 🙂
Finally heard what I have felt to be cringe since having watched KANK. I had felt the portrayal of extra marital relationship to be so romanticized and fulfilling as if what they was the only way and absolutely right. Still feel this kind of films to be bizarre. Thank you for telling me that I am not the only one repulsed by this theme in the movies.
While I agree with your thoughts in RRKPK because Jaya's character was almost always shown in a negative light... But but but, in half of the other movies we should be looking at these characters who cheat as characters, not the ideal beings. Its a movie theatre not a judge's court. It's high time we stop expecting films to portray ideal case scenarios or Karma coming the full circle by the end of the movie, because that isn't how life is.
No one is expecting movies to be ideal but it should have some sensibility. I don't believe in mindless watching. When something is produced at such a large scale it has the ability to influence people. The makers have the obligation to write a proper story and proper characters. Did RARKPKH show a real human character who was cheating like some nuanced works? They showed it like it was something to celebrate, all candy and fireworks. Showing consequences of cheating IS real not idealistic because it happens. Also when a movie is produced for the audience, the audience has the right to reject it as much as like it. That is why you cannot say that movies cannot be judged. That's what they are there for
Bollywood movies don't "glorify" cheating but they fail to show realistic consequences. It's never the act of the cheating that ruins a relationship, it's the betrayal. Regardless of the reason, if you shouldn't have to lie to your partner. There are valid reasons that may led someone to cheat but there is no justification for lying about it. Either leave or stop cheating, don't continue to lie. Once trust is broken, it's impossible to repair. A very nuanced example is The Lunchbox. You root for the couple because they aren't pursuing a relationship for selfish reasons. They have mutual respect for how their established lives will be affected.
In Life in a Metro, the plot between Shipla Shetty and Kay Kay Menon also suggests cheating. Even though they both cheat on their partners, I could totally relate to Shipa's yearning for a happy and fulfilling life. Particularly when "Hai tujhe bhi ijaajath karle tu bhi Mohobath." was playing. Although we are all aware that Kay Kay Meonon's actions were very unacceptable, I can't blame Shipla for wanting to be loved and respected given the circumstances she was in. For me, the movie's conclusion was really shocking. I was quite let down to see that Shilpa simply chose her loveless marriage for her daughter's sake. Although I didn't mind that she didn't end up with her love interest, it was completely unacceptible that she didn't get divorce. Considering Shilapa's background, I'm not sure if the movie romanticized infidelity or not.
Because that is what most people do in their lives. Once we have a child, its no longer just about us. My parents didn't have a good marriage, the only reason my mother chose to stay in the marriage was me and my brother. I didn't understand her decision back then but now that I am much older and though I am not married or have a child, I am old enough to understand her reason. Our generation likes to use fancy words and tries to find logic in everything but we forget that we still live in the same society and human emotions work the same way as it did for our parents.
@@rinidmoron Yes, and honestly, there's nothing much to expect from the society even if you dare to search for love after a loveless relationship or marriage. It might even harm the woman's life.
It's also interesting to see what the makers' perspectives are in real life. For example, we've seen Karan Johar on multiple occasions approve of infidelity in interviews, shows, etc., so it makes me think his movies incorporating infidelity may just justify the act of it as well, simply because he agrees with it in real life. I believe art is an extension of who you are, so in that sense, I believe many of these makers incorporate infidelity in a way that they agree with, which is problematic to say the least.
Depends... i think Karan Johar feels every infidelity occurs coz the partners are victims . People grow out of love or even suffering sometimes. But he never thought infidelity can be sometimes done with purpose, for some fun and even just getting the thrill of it.
@@mimis.5139 In my opinion, that just comes across as him making justifications for infidelity, and not necessarily something that comes across as naive.
If we talk about KANK, the whole idea was to say if you are unhappy in marriage, it's ok to end it and don't have to push it till old age. Shahrukh said this in an interview with komal nahta at the time of Don's release which was few months after KANK.
Well they didn't end the marriage but they cheated on their spouse. Also, SRK's character was as* so even in future is Maya start taking stand he going to wine or run from that relationship.
Yes correct thanks for addressing this. Certain people will start glorifying cheating. When you take your marriage vows, you’re supposed to follow them. If a union can’t be maintained first separate from the person instead of cheating.
You know the best case of affair outside marriage I've seen? Guide. Waheeda ji's character is in a loveless marriage with a walking red flag and when she discovers him red handed on his escapade, she leaves him and falls in love with Raju Guide, who cares for her at her lowest and sympathises with her. While her archaeologist husband tried to stifle her interests and personality to maintain an image in the society, Raju fights against the society to let her be herself after years. So ironic that such a great portrayal of love outside marriage came at a time when it was looked so negatively at, while the movies in this woke era are glorifying cheating for absurd reasons.
The Masti and rock aur rani is definitely glorifying. A lot of the other movies don’t necessarily glorify but they do forgive it a little too easily imo
Bollywood does glorify infidelity. And I think the kind of world that we live in is a testament to the trend and glorification of infidelity, with relationships classified as open, friends with benefits, etc. The result? People find long-term committed relationships boring and put the relationship label on the means that justify their cheating.
What a wonderful analysis. Bravo dude 👏👏👏👏. I feel like you called out this sometimes-hideous-sometimes-explicit feminist rant "my body my choice". It's is finally being called out. Yes, Indian films had been glorifying cheating over the decades and making audiences confused by these so-called choices made by the leads. Basically they're saying that cheating is OK but breaking the marital bond ( Divorce ) is not OK, because if you get divorced " what are people gonna say"? I feel like these filmmakers have their own agendas where they wanna come out clean on their messy past on the lead's morality and confusi g the audience. Even though men are equally wrong but I am seeing this hidden agenda where men are exploited the same way like women were exploited a few decades ago. That's exactly why I had a problem with Barbie. Why woman's freedom needs to come at a cost of a man's salvation? Men from the very beginning are pressurized about being a "man" . Maybe it's still not that prevalent in the Asian countries, but men are subjected to so much emotional torture in the Western countries just in the name of "women rights". I am sorry it's a long debate and I don't know how to comprehend it into one comment
Not to mention incredibly destructive and toxic. He was the mentally abusive one in the marriage. His issues were the reason why his marriage with Ria was not working. And he gets to cheat and have all the fun?@@TriedRefusedProductions
It actually goes way back... even to days of Sanjeev Kumar in Pati Patni aur Woh. Of course, there are other recent ones also like Salam e Ishq where Anil Kapoor is having a mid life crisis and gets emotionally confused and gets attracted to Anjana Sukhani.
In Rocky and Rani ki Prem Kahaani, the kissing scene felt overrated no doubt. Yes ! They loved each other but I feel that the kissing scene was not necessary as the potryal of affection was brilliantly shown via the "Medley" song. As far as Dhanlaxmi's character is concerned, such woman do exist in reality and even though the son's wife is part of the family, they are always an outsider in the eyes of "Dhanlaxmi". It is because of insecurity, selfish nature of "Everything is mine including the sons and no one is allowed to be shared with someone else" are a part of who they are. It is because of this, a family, no matter how good they are, break and the younger generations suffer due to unending family tensions, unnecesaary quarrels and many more. Also, this nature gets engraved in their soul so much that they never feel that they have done anything wrong. In their eyes, it was always right. So, eventually, the love and respect for them fades away from our hearts. Its true. A responsible family memeber will continue to support him/her financially or medically but the emotional connection is lost.
Clicked as fast as i could after reading the title Finally! Finally! Finally someone is talking about glorifying cheating in the name of love, with everything is fear in love crap. Cheating is never ok and cannot be justified! The entire arc of jamini and Wish-version papa coco annoyed the sanity out of me. I think it's just selfish n Irresponsible to its core "me me me, my happiness, and nothing else matter in the whole world, not my loved one, not my family, not the other stakeholders in this chain of relationship. Only me myself and I. Totally sick! Thank you for talking about it
The bangali film 'shah jahan regency' depicted the sadness in infidelity. An old woman finding her pleasure with young men or the alcoholic hotel owner who is stucked in a loveless marriage with her celebrity wife, who asks the man to cheat himself so she can file for a divorce without any issues.
One wonders if Karan Johar cooks up these relationship dynamics with a convoluted diabolical mindset or if these are reflective of what he has experienced around him in real life. As regards cheating on screen, these reflect the general happenings in Indian society albeit not necessarily in the exact same fashion as it is portrayed on film.
The only justification for Dharmendra not divorcing his wife was his last dialogue- ' beta ghar nhi toda karte'. That way of thinking may stem from the family dynamics he saw in his family or his dependence on money and business taken care of by Dhanalakshmi very well. But I feel that the kiss scene was unnecessary....is there only one way to show their soulmate bond? And jammy your thinking is just on point because I also hoped that there would be one scene where Dhanalakshmi and Dharmendra confront each other. But I don't have much sympathy for Dhanalakshmi... even after he died I couldn't see feelings on her face for once! I understand the marriage was loveless but this is pure arrogance.
I completely agree to with this. Finally someone in the comment section is sensible. Instead of bashing the characters left and right it's great to finally see someone talking sense as to where the characters were coming from. All the characters were flawed. Jamini was sane and having faced atrocities from her husband she atleast should have known better than to kiss another person's spouse. Rani questions her morals in the climax scence where she says to Jamini that she is not good at giving relationship advice coz she has cheated on Dadu. But Jamini justifies it by saying that her husband used to hit her. Dhanlakshmi also had to endure a loveless marriage but that does not justifies the way she treated her daughter in law. She could have easily been the better person. She could have chosen not to act like her mother in law acted towards her but she chose to follow in her mother in law's footsteps and treat her daughter in law like trash. So, yeah despite all that her character had to go through it did not generated any empathy at all.
Exactly, On this context, jammy's comment : dhanalakshi seeing the kiss like her son and daughter in law is kissing..... Is absolutely correct.... The thing is it could be a sensible relationship dynamic but these extravagant scenes ruined that. Otherwise I would love to see them together. There are loopholes in the film but somehow it has been successful to hit us because it has the heart in right place.
Exactly, they keep on justifying cheating through weird scripts which is spreading absurdity to the society to its highest level. Finally someone addressed it. Thank you.
Yes thank you for bringing this up. Dharmendra's character first has an affair with Shabana Azmi's character in RARKPK. Then at the end of the film, he tells his his son 'Ghar nahin tod te bete' 😑😑😑😑
Honestly I saw Rocky and Rani a few days ago and couldn't help but cringe throughout. I mean how is the main conflict of the movie Rocky and RAni and not the old people with Jaya Bachhan's character who is going through all the infidelity while the family supports and helps Dharmendra and Shabana Azmi's character. Just doesn't make any sense to me.
Not only cheating but topics like LGBT potrayal also need be highlighted... last n8 i am seriously watching kohrra and at some point i guessed the final plot twist which they are gonna show at the end...and i seriously hoped that ending should not be same as i expected but my god they have ended with same LGBT plot twist. I am seriously disappointed man....same concept in every alternative film or series.....seriously this should be changed.....
Strongly agree with Jammy here. Finally, someone is talking. I have been having discussions on these movies with my friends for so long, but Jammy put it very precisely.
We can always look for a moral high ground in movies.. but the fact is that these are stories about people.. those who also exist in real life ... that people are imperfect and always choosing based on their own way of making sense of things... it's not glorification unless u show it blatantly in movies like no entry. Life has nuances and movies are, after all, a mirror of society...
Great topic, brother! Our Manmarziyaan's POV is so similar. 😭 Recently I watched Majili, man it's irritating to watch and problematic to have such kinda movies in society.
Finally someone spoke about this issue.....I was wondering why no one raised this point in Rocky and Rani
@@satyajitshinde099well he has issues with everything. So ignore him. But he was right here.
@@satyajitshinde099true acc to him srk films propaganda and salmon bhai film good unique
It's women empowerment. Cheating is good
@@satyajitshinde099Pratik has issues with the concept of cinematic liberty. So leave that hate monger and his audience alone.
I have watched Rocky Rani 3 times and honestly i didn't liked the film. Pretty generic nothing extraordinary.
I felt bad for Jaya Bachchan in Rocky and Rani and felt that her hate for her husband’s mistress’s granddaughter (Rani) was fully justified 😢😢😢😢😅😅
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Acceptance left the chat as hate entered
Intelligence left the chat when your stupidity entered the chat.@@sharma_aurmakeup
Jaya faced it in reality is too sad.
Here real life story now
Cheating is a choice and leaves a deep impact on the partner, and the cheating partner is always aware of it. I don't think any Bollywood movie has ever sensibly depicted the trauma of the cheated partner😢
I think they did with especially Abhishek in KANK.
Watch arth starring shabana azmi the charector shabana azmi pooja shows the psychological and identity damage a cheated person face
@@TriedRefusedProductionsWhat about Bajirao Mastani??
@@souviksikdar1864For me Priyanka became the main character of Bajirao Mastani. She suffered so much 😢
Watch Jug jug jeeyo.
Don't know if this comes under "glorifying", but many movies (especially the comedies) do give the message that even if your partner cheats on you, you should try and get them back.
The classic movies even excused r*pe. So I don't think anyone is surprised!
Masti? 😂
Biwi no. 1 😂?
A person with pride should never do that.
@@Musicraincthe first part of masti was opposite of glorifying cheating it actually shown the dangerous consequences of extramarital affairs in a comic light as in the end they changed there views and promise to never cheat on there wife . As per sequels of masti yes they were definitely the one glorifying the infidelity
You should add Bajirao Mastani to this! The one that got it right! The one which made you fully empathize with the wronged party even while trying to glorify the cheating pair!
Mastani is a home wrecker
@@Risingstar51 monogamy was not prevalent in those days anyway so what's the fuss? I am not saying it is totally justified, i only think according to their relationship Bajirao should have told Kashi about the whole thing and got her on board.
@@AmberlitArt Bajirao was scared to tell Kashi, but this supposedly bold mastani, was she also scared to tell Kashi ? Mastani's love wasn't love, how can anyone fall in love this fast, I think it was just lust.
@@Risingstar51 that's not true. She ultimately died too, and she knew what she was getting into, she did it anyway. Mastani is not responsible to tell Kashi anything, it was Bajirao's job, his decision. I am only saying this based on how things usually happened in history. I am not siding with anyone.
@@AmberlitArt gurl the problem is bajirao wasn't a king he was just a prime minister type, a Brahmin. He couldn't have a mistress but mastani and his TrUe lOvE made him marry her. And i agree with other commentator it was lust nor love
I hated KANK because they ended the movie with a happily-ever-after of the two cheaters and made it look like, "Oh, Dev and Maya finally found true love! How romantic!" People say it shows reality of society, but it doesn't at all.The movie does end with a slight note that cheating is bad, but it feels forced. The entire movie says otherwise. In my opinion, the movie should have focused on Preity and Abhishek's struggle instead of making it a Rani-Srk love story. They showed cheating in a positive light focusing on "true love, etc" instead of bringing light to the harm it caused to everyone else.
Agreed. Cheating does happen in real life but not with the singing and dancing they showed in KANK. Only a pure narcissist enjoy cheating. Others often go through periods of shame and guilt during affairs
And then there was a serial after this cheat glorified movie called " silsila badalte rishte ka" Aired on colors.
@laranya5332 yup. They too tried to pull a bajirao mastani with that show but it backfired badly and show recieced do much hate that they had to shift it too ott. Aditi sharma who played the betrayed wife was phenomenal int he show and everyone rooted for her and hated the cheating couple.
Tbh i am still happy with the ending considering that two horrible piece of human garbage got married to each other and preity, her son and abhishek(the real victims) finally got out from this toxicity
In that perspective its still happy ending😂😂
I found it to be realistic because they showed preity’s character leaving the marriage as soon as she found out. Usually they don’t show this, the woman always forgives. We have seen this in so many movies: masti, sandwich, garam masala, gharwali baharwali, biwi no.1, pati patni aur woh, life in a metro, and many more.. it also showed that the marriages were not working well, there were reasons the two marriages didn’t work. SRK and rani falling for each other was more organic and more realistic than a man just cheating because he’s horny.
Also worth including the story of Shilpa Shetty and KK Menon from Life in a metro. While Menon is sleeping around with his young employee Kangna, Shilpa is frustratingly resisting going intimate with Shiney Ahuja. Finally when Menon finds out about her and Shiney, he goes berserk to humiliate Shilpa.. but defends his own cheating as “purely physical nothing emotional”. Hypocrisy much?!
Yes, it was hypocrisy, and the movie never tried showing him in a good light. He was shown as one of the most despicable characters in the movie. That’s the point. The problem starts where/when a movie plot tries to justify one’s infidelity in the backdrop of the partner being this and that.
I think Kay Kay menon patriarchal wrong man dikhaya hai .
@@fuzzyrant but in the end he goes back to his wife not because he regretted his decision or was guilty but because kangna ran away and his wife accepts him
@@Characterarch Does the movie or the director show him as a good person? Does the movie try to lure the audience into having sympathy for him? No. A big no. He is shown as an extremely flawed person, and I don’t remember a single scene where the director tried showing him in good light. It doesn’t matter whether he had guilt or not, because the movie isn’t trying to portray him a moralistic guy. The director isn’t trying to virtue signal the audience about having pity for him, unlike Four more shots, in which the director is trying to justify the various unethical and immoral decisions taken by the 4 main characters.
@@fuzzyrant how the character is written is not so important, the important thing is the consequences faced by the character, good, bad, grey or whatever the character is the consequence faced by the character is the most important in story, if someone does something wrong he/she should face the karma atleast in the story.
Ranveer and Alia can dance around destroying and making fun of Dhanlaxmi's marriage but when Dhanlaxmi is against their month old relationship, she is cruel. Such entitlement and no respect for others relationship is downright disrespectful and really common.
Kjo’s logic.. just like a stinking rich family doesn’t have servants at home or cook 😂
Is this your everyday family??
He is telling the story of his rich and privileged buddies 😂
Pretty sure Dhanlaxmi was abusive towards her husband
@@bollywoodmamamoo4625 it's not shown anywhere
When he got paralyzed she build up her own brand like a dutiful wife
And even if she was he could have left her rather than being a whore and cheating on her
I felt the last season of Four More Shots Please also normalised cheating in an extremely weird manner when Damini cheated on Jeh, who was a total green flag, and then blamed him for her infidelity stating some obscure reason of coming on too strong/not giving her enough space, or something like that. That storyline left me disturbed and made me cringe.
💯 By the end of the last episode, Damini was so toxic to digest. I mean all the Main Leads in that drama are flawed when it comes to relationships but she was something else. She gaslighted herself to believe she was cheating because of Jeh 🤯
Are wo series to waise hi feminism drug peddling thi
Glad it was a woman who pointed it out otherwise I have seen campaigns being run to defend her actions and rather blaming audience to be making too much noise as the cheating was done by a woman not a man
Four more shots please is a cringe fest in itself
The new season really went toxic in many ways
Silsila is literally a real life documentary...a lot of respect for Amitji...Jayaji and Rekhaji for actually working for YRF!!
it becomes slightly unintentionally funny by the end of it tho. Plane crashes and all that make characters realise their love for their respective spouses.
@@TriedRefusedProductions😅😅
@JillValentine-ix4qlLOL didn’t Ranbir cheat on Deepika with Katrina though? And after that he dated Katrina for 7 years only to end up marrying Alia. His mom still posts stuff on her insta like "just because he's dating you for a long time doesn’t mean he will marry you "
@@adiba_lekhahe didn't cheat katrina . Unka waise break up hua .aur ranveer apni pehli zindagi main 3 ladkiyon ko date kar chuka hai ek saath aur mere jaise loyal insaan ko ek bhi ladki nhi milti
For me, the infidelity shown in Masoom hits like a ton of bricks, because the affair is in the distant past but there's a byproduct of it infront of the wife's face. On one side she's shattered that her husband did this to her but the illicit child has a face that melts your heart.
JUGAL HANSRAJ and those BLUE EYES
How about Main hoo na?
@@sabeermuhammad5313 ok but in Main hoon Na the dad had his child SRK long before he was married na? I don’t get why she got soo mad that she ended their relationship
@@adiba_lekha yes you are right. Well I guess there needed to be drama!
@@adiba_lekhanot everyone is ready to raise someone's else child
Towards the end of KANK, when Maya & Rhea meet again (after 3 yrs), Rhea tells Maya how she (Rhea) & Rishi have moved on, while Maya & Dev are still stuck in the past. This is another scene that shows how KANK doesn't glorify the cheating.
@@rajattyagi8963because they aren't meant to be defend. They are the villains of the movie and are shown as failures throughout. That is why their spouses are shown as great people while they suck.
@@rajattyagi8963 they aren't celebrated outside of their own perspective and that too crumbles towards the third act. In the first act we are meant to understand their loveless relationships and how they are also at fault for it. In the third act we are shown the consequences of their actions.
@@rajattyagi8963 you are missing everything that happens in between. The ending has them together not because them being in love was wrong, it was them betraying their partners.
@@anvitamohan7939they tried to generate sympathy for the cheaters by making Srk and Rani utter dialogues like "thank you for letting me live in your house Ria", " ab kyun mujhe hurt Kia Rishi" .
@@apurvashankaranarayanbhat2179 they were stuck in loveless marriages ,that was obvious. But at the end who is the one who is made narratively the bad person?
I think Dil Dhadakne Do shows a very realistic potrayal of cheating. Like how Anil Kapoor cheats on his wife but in the end his wife forgives him not because she loves him but that she has nowhere else to go. Likewise Priyanka's character is also seen cheating on her husband who is abusive, misogynist and controlling and she chooses the option of divorce because she can make that choice unlike her mother.
Reema and zoya are mature writers. Their characters have depth so their function is not just about justification but also the dichotomy and double standards
Wait I don’t remember PC’s character cheating on her husband. She asked for a divorce before anything even happened with Sunny. In fact they never showed her cheating, just admitting that she has feelings for him which were feelings from before not new feelings while she was married to someone else.
@@easyveganfoodieshe did kiss sunny in his hotel room
@@abhignaadhvaryu9581 but she has asked for divorce in front of everyone her husband her parents her mother in law all she got scolding and no one took her srsly she was trapped ahe wanted divorce she talked abt divorce with her mother , husband and everyone before kissing Sunny but everytime she talk abt divorce all she got was scolding .
@@elsa2885 i’m not blaming her for anything but it is still technically cheating and noone can deny that. In this case, the context really matters cause if you know the context then you can’t really blame priyanka’s character for kissing sunny
It's freaking mind boggling how Bollywood showcases cheating and justifies it that you actually end up thinking, it's fine to have a fling when married or committed!!! Kudos to you Jammy for having the balls to address this issue.
Me and my mom literally gasped when we saw the kissing scene in rocky and Rani we were so shocked and my mom instantly said “this is too much Han” while people were clapping and hooting.....and we thought that this is wrong on so many levels!!
That was my only concern with Rocky and Rani. They literally gave no redemption to Dhanlaxmi. When Dharmendra kissed Shabana, her reaction felt more like a son brought home a girl she didn't like, rather than a wife who was betrayed.
I loved Dharmendra and Shabanaz's chemistry. While she was justified because her husband was abusive, Dhanlaxmi and Kanwal's dynamic was monotone.
That being said, I love an old people romance story.
That justification itself was very shallow because of the moment it was placed and way it was delivered. She was like you guys think my cheatin is bad but nooo it isnt because heres mah sad backstory. If it was put in an apt way maybe it would have meant more
I get what you mean. I think divorce for any reason is more common and acceptable in todays generation. While of course it was wrong for Kanwal to cheat on his wife, it also begs the story of being in an emotionally unfulfilling relationship for him all his life. He was also unwell and unable to revive his memories so the whole : he could divorce her if he wanted
Debate doesn't work here.
Exactly. Exactly. Exactly. The fact cheating is being so glorified and justified so massively and easily in Bollywood nowadays was being so overlooked. Thank you for this video.
I was thinking about it while watching Rocky and rani where jaya bacchan who made the whole empire was just disregarded and that point when mother of rocky yells at her husband after being obedient and suffering for so long and when he said sorry for all , she started shouting ..the reaction was over the top ....that sudden courage and his reaction to jaya ji...was like....wth !! Like one-sided story it felt
I don’t think so that cheating should be acceptable from any gender in a relationship even if it is a loveless relationship one should always be truthful to their feelings , also thank you for pointing out biwi no.1 , I absolutely hated the fact that despite the man being in the wrong Sushmita sen’s character becomes the villain (she does have some toxic traits) but nothing enough to label her as the vamp , but then again Salman Bhai k aage koi kuch Bol skta hai kyaa??😂
I watched Rocky aur Rani very recently online, and this issue really stuck out for me. I went through some of its reviews and was so perplexed that no one was talking about it!
I was really waiting for someone to talk about this topic. Why do directors or storywriters doesn't understand that a cheat is a cheat no matter what. Even when i watched kabhi alvida na kehna i never realized why no one talked abt this for these many yrs. Kudos to you bro❤️❤️❤️
I dont think KANK celebrated the cheating
@@TriedRefusedProductionsIt didn't but they somehow tried to show the relationship of srk and Rani as genuine. Every relationships has its ups and downs and Rani was really well treated by Abhishek although he had childish character still she left for srk. And srk himself had ego issues with his wife which is justifiable but cheating on her was kinda too much.
@@TriedRefusedProductionsthe ending should have been the opposite like have an happy ending for such a broken relationship really gives us a thinking about this
I think stable and happy relationships can come across as boring on screen, cheating is seen as a kind of emotional thriller too. That's why most romatic films are either of falling in love with someone new or cheating in relationships, long term great relationships are always the backdrop of a story and not the actual storyline. Also we Indians always root for the hero and heroine, so they have to make them somewhat redeemable and not make them be completely in the wrong, therefore glorifying them. Because you almost always see the story from their perspective and cheaters will always try to justify it somehow to reduce the guilt which comes with the affair. Like KANK for me did glorify it, the realistic approach would have been that one couple separates but the other for whatever reason does not, and therefore cheating just leads to hurt and there is no perfect happily ever after on the other side of it.
@@sahildas5840I think they gave real life ending instead of fairytale ending like they somehow realize they loved their partner and lived happily ever after.. That would have been too unrealistic.. 👀
Frankly the matter of cheating needs to be understood in the context of the times we live in. As a modern day woman, I believe its unacceptable. You should first separate from your partner in case of issues and then move on to someone else.
But lets go back 30-40 years in a world where women weren't financially independent. Many women married to bollywood folks...Salma Khan, Raj babbar's wife, Mithun's wife, Dharmendra's wife etc gladly accepted their husbands simply coz they had kids with them. So a lot changes when you have a big family to support!
I always feel that morals can be enforced only when you are comfortable with money.
This was the comment , I was looking for! Thanks for highlighting it.
Even in modern world, so many wives of Bollywood actors decide to ignore the cheating instead of divorcing their husband and attacking the other women. Like Twinkle Khanna, Gauri Khan and so on
Truth contex is important when dealing with cheating matters how much one's circumstances pushing them off too it do it spectrum of cheating differs one more thing isn't discussed here is emotional infedility
Actually Indian women are like that . 10 out of 8 women will not leave their husband they will beat them but not leave them whether they are financially independent or not . Where in west 8 out of 10 will file divorce.
@@KrishanKumar-ec1chbecause west is more acceptable of divorce and in india it is still a taboo. It will take some more time
Being cheated on by your partner is the most traumatising thing one has to go through. Imagine loving only one person with all your heart and sincerely, than all of a sudden wondering everytime if what wrong dud you do for this to happen.
I believe the question boils down to
“What consequence do the characters face?”
KANK and Gehraiyaan show that Dev and Alisha face consequences due to their actions.
This isn’t glorifying but the other movies? Not so much
@@rajattyagi8963he suffered for 3 years all alone and even lost his son and mom. Thats not temporary punishment, he lost wayyy too much. He definitely suffered
I will never understand the mentality of cheating after promising loyalty to your partner
No one does till they are trapped in the same situation themselves. There are very few salacious people out there, most people don't intend to cheat on their partners but a lot of cheating happens in this world, regardless. Human emotions are quite complicated.
@@rinidmoron its a choice no matter what it cannot be justified
Chokher Bali is a film that needs to be discussed I feel . Based on Tagore's novel of the same name, the various pov's baffle thr viewers. This film was a masterpiece regarding male infidelity
Chokher Bali did infidelity right . Mahesh had every damn intention of cheating on his wife and justified it with every reason he could come up with . Binodini wanted to flirt with this man and reject him ( instead of actually having an affair) because she blamed him for her widowhood . Asha desperately tried to win Mahendra back and she did but in the end she never trusted him fully and found happiness in herself rather than in her husband. Bihari who had a lot of insecurities, while blamed Binod for breaking a family, he could help wanting her for himself because nobody ever surrendered their love to him or chose him over Mahendra. Tagore never glorified cheating, but he also depicted the cheap thrill of a clandestine affair and the emotional complexities . That's why I loved that novel . It felt so real and fleshed out ,
This stuck out as such a sore thumb for me throughout rarkpk, the way cheating was not even questioned, and everyone loved the movie somehow! Thank you for putting the problematic way bollywood handles infidelity in a video
I was eagerly waiting for you to talk about this issue. KANK is personally one of my favourite SRK romantic movies along with KHNH and Veer Zaara. And those saying that is glorifies cheating, there's a closing dialogue by him in the movie where Dev says that although he and Maya found love in each other towards the end, he wished that it didn't have to come at a cost of breaking their respective partners' heart.
Its probably the most nuanced take regarding extramarital affairs. There was a constant burden of guilt and sadness that consumed both Dev and Maya. It broke their families, the acknowledgment is always there of its destructive nature rather than showcasing the same union as being something rosy and beautiful
The time taken to simplify wtf was KANK and KHNH
Isn’t it better to break their heart rather than stay with them with disinterest ? I think it’s bad for both the parties.
Maybe breaking their heart is a kinder option, so that they can find someone worthy of their love.
@@ayusharyan6127 what is kank
@@aniruddhamungekar8663 kabhi alvida na kehna
I did not like KANK as it had a happy ending for the cheaters. However Gehraiyan was more realistic in its ending, as so many such relations end in crimes. Rocky and Rani well I felt very bad for Dhanlaxmi as Bollywood always shows practical abd strong matriarchs as villians.
Finallyyyyy, someone in our generation spoke about this issue.
Otherwise, people especially in our generation not only in movies but in real life also have started normalizing such things. Thanks for highlighting this.
Even Pati , Patni aur woh was also glorifying cheating...In the whole movie they justified Kartik's Character,compared him with PRABHU SRI RAM and at the end tried to balance it through a monologue of Bhumi..
True
yes, that's a disgusting movie.
He did not cheat, he was just a man looking for some companionship & as soon as he realized he crossed the line during the club scene and ananya's backstory, he backs off.
Not to mention the amount of hell he had to go through after that mess up. 😂
@@chetanuniyal3428 He was happily married and still getting romantically involve with Annanya's character..When Annanya started to ignore him because he was married, he lied to Annanya that his wife is having an affair and going on vacation with Annanya also..Going on dates also and lying his wife about it.Just because he is not having s** doesn't mean it's not cheating.. Cheating is wrong whether it's physical or emotional..
@@ditipriyahazra3890 I'm not saying he was right by any means, but he was sensible enough to back off before he reached the point of no return.
So, bhoomi's character also did the same, she spun a web of lies to make him suffer and pay for his actions.
But bhoomi also didn't cross the point of no return.
We can't always judge every comedic subplots with a critical eye, as comedy by its very nature is meant to be offensive.
Your research is commendable 👏
The way Bollywood has knowingly or unknowingly glorified cheating by men through comedic gags and chauvinistic portrayal is noteworthy.
Of all the movies that you have mentioned here, I felt a sense of empathy towards Tabbu's character in Astitva, perhaps because of the way the film was narrated and how it ended.
As someone who doesn't watch nonsensical bollywood romcoms, I see this as an absolute win.
Great content once again.❤️
It happens in every movie industry so I don't think it's absolute win
@@Lucky-kc5mh Atleast they are better than Bollywood.
based man
Ye bollywood wale gaandu log love story banana band kare to achha hoga. Bas bohot ho gaya!
Hazaron genre pade hai aur in fudduoko love pelna hai.
@@nabeelmirza6060 lol South movies openly promotes 2 marriages at one time.. And in 90% of the movies women's are are treated as object
I think since the 80s and 90s cheating and polygamy is often glorified in Indian cinema across Industries in the name of comedies and romance, and it has made the audience quite immune to it, But the irony is in slapstick comedies people will often take it as a comedic gag but the moment this subject is dealt in a more serious film it becomes a taboo or trying to ruin society🙄 I find movies like Kaathuvaakula Rendu Kaadhal(2022) more disturbing than movies like Gehraiyaan coz unlike the former the latter isn't rewarded for it 😅But the amount of hate Gehraiyaan got shows the double standard of the audience😢
Gehraiyaan hate is so surface level. I remember people simply dismissing it because Deepika was scantily clad. Absolutely no discussion of its themes and relationships explored
@@TriedRefusedProductionsMost people hate Gehraiyaan Not coz of the movie itself but coz of deepika the actor associated with it since Indian audience is far from mature enough to differentiate between reel and real life🙄 As for those who rage about the sex and kisses to lecture about Indian moral values, at night these same guys will search 'Hot kiss of deepika in Gehraiyaan' in incognito😂😂
@@TriedRefusedProductionsThat's true but my biggest problem with gehraiyaan was that it was inspired heavily from Match Point. I guessed the twist very soon which ruined the movie for me. And match point was way to superior.
@@screensafari17the famous Woody Allen who married his own step daughter 🤔
@@Mira-pm3ni Yes, director of gehraiyaan is a huge fan of his work. So, he borrowed the the plot of match point. Woody's personal life is quite controversial but he is a great director.
Oh finally like I understand that Rani’s grandfather was abusive but what was the justification behind Rocky’s grandfather cheating on the grandmother
Also the fact that the grandkids are actually helping them and shipping them
The justification is that it was a loveless marriage and the relationships more or less became that of a caretaker and patient rather than a husband and wife. A lack of acknowledgment of each other as partners. But it was a two way street : that's often overlooked
@@TriedRefusedProductions I get having a loveless marriage but they can't tell me that the grandfather as a man couldn't just leave that marriage instead of having an affair.
The grandmother not having the option to leave would be understandable
You are right! Loveless marriage isn't a justification for cheating. Both the man and woman have the right and opportunity to end the marriage via divorce. More so in this day and age that the movie was depicted. It certainly didn't help that the lovable protagonist were shown to help them with the affair right under their parent's noses and that wasn't made an issue. Rather their cultural differences was the main point of focus.
@@TriedRefusedProductions1:51 u mentioned kanwal is still in the hangover of his love with Jamini while getting married to dhanalakshmi... but I remember Jamini telling Rani that both of them were already married at the time they met... so despite their love they went their separate ways
@@fandm_fun504 Did you forget the part where he's disabled...
This video deserves a part two. In Humpty Sharma ki Dulhaniya, the girl was already engaged, still she had an affair with Humpty. In Love Aaj Kal, Meera sort of cheats on her partner and dumps him just after getting married. In Tamasha, Tara spends time with Ved 'Don' while she already had a boyfriend in India. This is much more common in Imtiyaz Ali films.
It's also noticeable that some directors just keep showing cheating, betrayal of partners in form of love stories ....a glorified director like SLB has done this repeatedly, many of David Dhawan's movies presented this with comic angle, KJo had this as main theme in movies like KANK , even in Student of the year , cheating was the thing what ignited the fire ....personal choice or something else?
1:53 - Correction: Kanwal is not having a hangover from his affair before getting married. He meets Jamini after getting married to Dhanlakshmi.
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Oh finallyyyyy . For years now I’ve seen movies which in the name of misunderstanding or comedy have glorified cheating and I would always wonder if the audience is expected to root for them . From movies like biwi number one in the 90s to RARKPK this was one thing that somehow didn’t change . I understand showing it in the movies that affairs are something that happen in real life but not giving it the explanation or conclusion it deserves and somehow we are expected to believe as if it is acceptable . Thank you for bringing it up
Finally someone called out the weirdness of Mahesh Bhatt presenting his affair with Parveen Babi. Like, imagine being broke and mentally unwell while someone you haven't met for ages is earning from your name and making steamy romance films about your affair.
Finally someone spoke about it...i really feel very uncomfortable while watching thus kind of scenes where they shows cheating in a comic way 😢😢😢😢
This is literally a question that's been in my mind for years. But nobody acknowledges it. Kudos to you Anmol to bring this up for discussion 👍
I can't help but notice the irony in the casting of Rocky and Rani. Like Jaya is really the other woman in her own marriage even in real life. Dharmendra cheated on his first wife to marry Hema Malini and lastly Shabana Azmi had an affair with a married Javed Akhter until he eventually left his wife to marry her. It’s like they all have played that part in real life as well
My aunts used to watch Astitva multiple times as it used to be telecasted on Doordarshan several times back in the day. As a kid I used to get bored and never understood the depth of the movie. Now as an grown up, I understand the complications involved in relationships, commitments, infidelity.
Haven’t watched other movies but in Rocky and Rani, speaking on behalf of Dharmendra it’s essential to reflect on compassion, empathy and care that are cornerstones of relationship. She kept him parched of his deep emotional needs. If you don’t love don’t expect loyalty. She literally denied him the love of his son.
1st he could ve divorced her anyway and 2nd,u need therapy
@@Tootiefootiesizindagi I think you need one first. He was confined to chair and had a mentally debilitating condition. Do you think he could have approached court and filed for a divorce. Very good analysis on your part. He slowly started recovering only after his past memories were revived and the associated sentiments stimulated. You need therapy bro for supporting toxic relationship.
He could have totally divorced her
You justifying cheating in any case is wrong, also the affair started when he was totally fine, even if he wasn't, he should have left the marriage, his wife was loyal, she went out so much, didn't have a husband to satisfy yet she didn't cheat.
I remember watching Biwi no.1 as a kid and how difficult it was for me to watch the movie. I wonder how could Bollywood make a movie like that for a family watch and it was a huge hit that time... goodness!!!
Yes, that movie is toxic and cringe. watching such films, I just wonder the fate of many women, dancing like monkeys around powerful and rich men (producers).
I had the same feeling when I was watching Rocky Rani. Thanks for making the video. Well researched and made.
Thank you for making this video Jammy and a big thanks to all the people who have commented condemning adultery. Lately I had become upset thinking that I am the only one who finds infidelity a deal breaker and I cringed through all the movies which tried to normalise it. For me what is worse than Bollywood's glorification of adultery is the expectation that a woman should readily accept and love her husband's child outside of marriage. Such a situation is beyond heart breaking for a woman but bollywood expects women to just get over it. It can be seen in movies like Main Hoon Na, Masoom and every other tv serial. The ONLY movie to show the reverse was Kya Kehna.
Finally someone talking about the absurd and impactical ending of manmarziyaan...both agreeing to keeping in touch and discuss their problems would have made way more sense...it was a total matlab-kuchh-bhi moment.
These were my thoughts when I watched bajirao mastani for the first time (because my friends were going Gaga over how great the movie was and love between bajirao mastani )
And after watching I said to them I didn't like the movie ( may be coz I was not able to digest Kashi Being treated that way and they were even justifying that with cringe worthy dialogues 🥴)
I still remember all girls were climbing on me like " you don't understand how GREAT was the love of bajirao mastani " " they even secrifice their lives for each other " ... I was like chill girls I just didn't like you'll don't have to force me to like it. 😂
Seriously now I think of it Bollywood influencing so many adolescence specially girls... their ideas of love is so much in wrong direction 😪.
yes, exactly.
You as a man cheat on your woman, then these same girls won't support you.
Yeah I too felt bad for Kashi. That entire movie was saved by Priyanka's acting
KANK was not only about Dev and Maya love story, it was also about how Rishi and Ria were strong enough to forgive them and move on.
But their POV is given less focus, it would have been more ideal if director thought of it rather than adding cringe scenes in between 😅
People should stop thinking of divorce as a drama. Unfortunately they prefer to dtay in an unhappy marriage than to move on. I love KANK a lot. Very honest film about relationships in a marriage
Just to correct you on your analysis of Kanwal and Dhanlaxmi. The affair between Kanwal and Jamini probably happened after their marriage ( As Shabana Azmi's character says to Rani, that "we were both married" and mentioned that they met in 1978, which I am assuming was after both were married according to everyone's age), so the disdain on Kanwal's face was not because he was hungover on Jamini
Thxx god finally someone spoke on these issues
Cheating is wrong whether done by male or female.
Marriage is based on trust this betrayal will not be tolerated...
Saala ye Bollywood wale kuch bhi dekha dete hai cheating kai naam par Boycott kardo inko😂
Bol mat kuchh Chu gaali denge 😂
Great video. This was needed to be called out. I also want to add another story which is rather forgotten or given not much thought. The characters of Shilpa Shetty and Kay Kay Menon in Life in a Metro. The ending of their story didn't sit well with me. Even of Shilpa realized that she needs to put effort in her loveless marriage, Kay Kay menon's character only "realized" when Kangana left him. It was more of a convenience rather than a realization. But it was showed as if he got the realization. This always irked me as how nobody really acknowledges Kay Kay's process of getting back together with Shilpa
You spoke my heart off! I was with Jaya’s character in the beginning she was happy bride and turned bitter as she did not get love from her husband. Then you brought her husbands love in fornt of her kissing her husband who would never have shown any such gesture towards her. I fell sick and my heart aced only for her character in the movie and the fact that everyone was okay with the story and enjoyed it made me sad. Thanks for speaking on this. I feel heard.
Hey Jammy, I know you did not include this particular scenario but do you remember the scene from Jab We Met where the Shahid tells her who he really is and then they talk about his mother’s cheating and Kareena justifies it by saying “woh pyaar mei thi”
Woah… such an imp scene. This needs some highlight too.
Yup I also felt wtf....in that scene 😂
Yup... If it wasn't for this part of the movie I'd rate it way higher always - but Imtiyaz trying to send a message that it's OK to play with someone's feelings whom you're committed to doesn't sit well with me.
Ha yeh scene mujhe bhi kuch accha nahi laga.
Exactly my point guys and Shahid (Aditya K) says that she (his mom) was wrong in what she did. I’m not saying that the idea of falling out of love with someone and then falling in love with someone out of the marriage is completely alright but the idea needs to communicated in a particular manner I feel which was missing and yes love does not give you the license to cheat, if people understand infidelity, relationship dynamics then we can conclude that it was wrong on multiple levels and Shahid said about her mother in the start in right.
I wish if you could have included Tara from Made in heaven. I think she lost it all when her mother in law accepted her son's gf coz she was pregnant and also had a room getting ready for baby. Tara was negative but she was faithful in her marriage and was betrayed not only by her husband but also her mother in law who was ready to accept her son instead of dumping him and supporting Tara but that's Indian mind set coz beta to beta hota hai and bahu wahi jo bacha de.
Yes ! That's what she said to her MIL "I'm treating you just the way you treated me". She was a good DIL all in all before - made appearances before MIL's kitty party ladies, tried for baby because they were indirectly taunting her MIL, emotionally supported her MIL when her husband passed away (even though she was in the process of getting divorced). Her MIL basically made her go through all the emotional toil alongside her. In a way, she felt even more backstabbed and cheated by her MIL accepting another DIL than her own husband cheating.
But didn’t Tara begin her relationship on a betrayal? Everyone faced their karma in the end.
@@PayalTravelToMuse I don't think Adil faced any karma. He lost his mansion but not like he was very fond of it. He got chick, baby, his mother on his side all his friends so technically he was not at loss. Tara as I said was a negativ3 character but when married to him she stayed faithful and did everything to make that marriage work and was even ok with divorce until she saw her MIL betraying her supporting her son and gf. She gave emotional support to her MIL aftr her husband demise while her son was busy making out with his gf than supporting his mom. Tara was heartbroken the time she saw how her MIL even knowing how it feels to be betrayed aftr marriage was easy on her son coz aftr all Tara was nothing more than DIL without a child. Women not supporting women is another level of betrayal and makes it easy for men to cheat and still not face any consequences.
Tara was gold digger and fake right from the start she just got served for her actions .... Aise logo k saath aise hi hona chahiye
@@darpanmahendrajamnik2914 and what karma did Adil face? Women for her 1 wrong act is called names but not men. Also I was calling out on how her MIL was quick to accept her son and his gf coz she was pregnant. I bet this would have been different if Tara had a son then MIL would have emotionally convinced Adil to be on her side and also he would have ditched his gf. How everyone is so offended when a women acts wrong that they are happy to see her getting served by karma but completely forget about men who did same and had to face nothing. That's what is wrong with our society.
Astitva was a traumatic part of my early childhood film-watching experience, especially as a kid with the constant fear that would happen to my family.
Brilliant tho! Some of the conversations it was having in the year 2000 is truly praiseworthy!
Really glad you made this video Anmol. Been mulling over the romabticizing of cheating in bollywood/ott for a while. The best arc I've seen although is in the hotstar series 'out of love'. It shows every emotion in the cycle and is carried by amazing actors as well esp. Rasika Duggal.
Anmol, how about a video on the villainous roles of SRK in his earlier films?
His performances were iconic in them.
This is so beautifully explained. I also felt similarly about many instances in Made in Heaven- it somehow seemed to be the norm. In some cases it was also glorified.
Thank you for finding a way to discuss cheating despite reviewing forthcoming films and other things. Well, over the past few days, I've seen a variety of posts and articles on Instagram as well where the public is split over the Rocky and Rani plot. For some people, it was justified; for others, it wasn't. In my opinion, Bollywood tries to take this subject in some way every time, whether as the main plot or just a side plot, but they never manage to pull it off. It was Jaya Ji's character in the film Rocky and Rani, which may have been scripted to make us blame her.Bollywood films have somehow failed to do these serious and delicate subjects justice. If the film has a popular hero, the storyline will present him as a decent guy; if the film has a medical cast, the plot will simply leave the matter left to the viewers' decision. Cheating in any form is never justifiable, but if we look to Bollywood movies for a lesson in it, we will be disappointed. Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna was slightly better in this situation, but the background supplied to the characters was not up to par, but they managed to improve it in the end.
That was my biggest point against rocky weds rani. I was surprised none of the critics found it as bad messaging in a movie which was otherwise full of preachy messaging!!
Kabhi Alvida na Kehna is more nuanced, that's true. Yeah that scene from the movie wherein, Rani asks Srk, 'if they'd ever be together..' from the movie is simply heart-piercing 🙂
Finally heard what I have felt to be cringe since having watched KANK. I had felt the portrayal of extra marital relationship to be so romanticized and fulfilling as if what they was the only way and absolutely right. Still feel this kind of films to be bizarre. Thank you for telling me that I am not the only one repulsed by this theme in the movies.
While I agree with your thoughts in RRKPK because Jaya's character was almost always shown in a negative light...
But but but, in half of the other movies we should be looking at these characters who cheat as characters, not the ideal beings. Its a movie theatre not a judge's court. It's high time we stop expecting films to portray ideal case scenarios or Karma coming the full circle by the end of the movie, because that isn't how life is.
No one is expecting movies to be ideal but it should have some sensibility. I don't believe in mindless watching. When something is produced at such a large scale it has the ability to influence people. The makers have the obligation to write a proper story and proper characters. Did RARKPKH show a real human character who was cheating like some nuanced works? They showed it like it was something to celebrate, all candy and fireworks. Showing consequences of cheating IS real not idealistic because it happens.
Also when a movie is produced for the audience, the audience has the right to reject it as much as like it. That is why you cannot say that movies cannot be judged. That's what they are there for
I am so so glad you talked abt this! This is the content for which we follow you ♥
Bollywood movies don't "glorify" cheating but they fail to show realistic consequences. It's never the act of the cheating that ruins a relationship, it's the betrayal. Regardless of the reason, if you shouldn't have to lie to your partner. There are valid reasons that may led someone to cheat but there is no justification for lying about it. Either leave or stop cheating, don't continue to lie. Once trust is broken, it's impossible to repair.
A very nuanced example is The Lunchbox. You root for the couple because they aren't pursuing a relationship for selfish reasons. They have mutual respect for how their established lives will be affected.
In Life in a Metro, the plot between Shipla Shetty and Kay Kay Menon also suggests cheating. Even though they both cheat on their partners, I could totally relate to Shipa's yearning for a happy and fulfilling life. Particularly when "Hai tujhe bhi ijaajath karle tu bhi Mohobath." was playing. Although we are all aware that Kay Kay Meonon's actions were very unacceptable, I can't blame Shipla for wanting to be loved and respected given the circumstances she was in. For me, the movie's conclusion was really shocking. I was quite let down to see that Shilpa simply chose her loveless marriage for her daughter's sake. Although I didn't mind that she didn't end up with her love interest, it was completely unacceptible that she didn't get divorce. Considering Shilapa's background, I'm not sure if the movie romanticized infidelity or not.
Because that is what most people do in their lives. Once we have a child, its no longer just about us. My parents didn't have a good marriage, the only reason my mother chose to stay in the marriage was me and my brother. I didn't understand her decision back then but now that I am much older and though I am not married or have a child, I am old enough to understand her reason. Our generation likes to use fancy words and tries to find logic in everything but we forget that we still live in the same society and human emotions work the same way as it did for our parents.
@@rinidmoron Yes, and honestly, there's nothing much to expect from the society even if you dare to search for love after a loveless relationship or marriage. It might even harm the woman's life.
It's also interesting to see what the makers' perspectives are in real life. For example, we've seen Karan Johar on multiple occasions approve of infidelity in interviews, shows, etc., so it makes me think his movies incorporating infidelity may just justify the act of it as well, simply because he agrees with it in real life. I believe art is an extension of who you are, so in that sense, I believe many of these makers incorporate infidelity in a way that they agree with, which is problematic to say the least.
Yeah... If Bollywood movies are a hint, South Bombay people aren't exactly faithful in their relationships.
Depends... i think Karan Johar feels every infidelity occurs coz the partners are victims . People grow out of love or even suffering sometimes.
But he never thought infidelity can be sometimes done with purpose, for some fun and even just getting the thrill of it.
@@mimis.5139 In my opinion, that just comes across as him making justifications for infidelity, and not necessarily something that comes across as naive.
Very well written
If we talk about KANK, the whole idea was to say if you are unhappy in marriage, it's ok to end it and don't have to push it till old age. Shahrukh said this in an interview with komal nahta at the time of Don's release which was few months after KANK.
Well they didn't end the marriage but they cheated on their spouse. Also, SRK's character was as* so even in future is Maya start taking stand he going to wine or run from that relationship.
If audience doesn't get the point, it was def not the movie's point
Thank you. You're absolutely right
Yes correct thanks for addressing this. Certain people will start glorifying cheating. When you take your marriage vows, you’re supposed to follow them. If a union can’t be maintained first separate from the person instead of cheating.
You know the best case of affair outside marriage I've seen?
Guide.
Waheeda ji's character is in a loveless marriage with a walking red flag and when she discovers him red handed on his escapade, she leaves him and falls in love with Raju Guide, who cares for her at her lowest and sympathises with her. While her archaeologist husband tried to stifle her interests and personality to maintain an image in the society, Raju fights against the society to let her be herself after years.
So ironic that such a great portrayal of love outside marriage came at a time when it was looked so negatively at, while the movies in this woke era are glorifying cheating for absurd reasons.
Amazingly put across the whole concept!
I don't think they're glorifying it, they are just showing us the reality of the society.
"They're showing what they do" would be more accurate
The Masti and rock aur rani is definitely glorifying. A lot of the other movies don’t necessarily glorify but they do forgive it a little too easily imo
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As if Kabir Singh didn't had multiple se* partners 😅
@@sanakxzbut in the end they showed shabana husband was abusive. Give it a reason agr woh nahi hota toh Karan Johar world
@JillValentine-ix4ql exactly lol
Bollywood does glorify infidelity. And I think the kind of world that we live in is a testament to the trend and glorification of infidelity, with relationships classified as open, friends with benefits, etc. The result? People find long-term committed relationships boring and put the relationship label on the means that justify their cheating.
Thank you for talking about jaya's character. I personally don't think kjo can do complicated arcs like these at all.
What a wonderful analysis. Bravo dude 👏👏👏👏.
I feel like you called out this sometimes-hideous-sometimes-explicit feminist rant "my body my choice". It's is finally being called out. Yes, Indian films had been glorifying cheating over the decades and making audiences confused by these so-called choices made by the leads. Basically they're saying that cheating is OK but breaking the marital bond ( Divorce ) is not OK, because if you get divorced " what are people gonna say"?
I feel like these filmmakers have their own agendas where they wanna come out clean on their messy past on the lead's morality and confusi g the audience.
Even though men are equally wrong but I am seeing this hidden agenda where men are exploited the same way like women were exploited a few decades ago. That's exactly why I had a problem with Barbie. Why woman's freedom needs to come at a cost of a man's salvation? Men from the very beginning are pressurized about being a "man" . Maybe it's still not that prevalent in the Asian countries, but men are subjected to so much emotional torture in the Western countries just in the name of "women rights". I am sorry it's a long debate and I don't know how to comprehend it into one comment
Even in Made-in-Heaven S2, Neelam's story made me think about cheating without any consequences.
Haseen Dilruba really can make any boy insecure about their bodybuilder cousin 👀👀
kank is a masterpiece for me. the way srk played the anti rahul role to the tee and can't even forget the movie album
I have never found an SRK character more irritating! He really played a guy one can immediately get annoyed of cause he is always complaining!!
@@TriedRefusedProductionsbrother, you clearly haven't watched "hum tumhare hai sanam" 😅
Not to mention incredibly destructive and toxic. He was the mentally abusive one in the marriage. His issues were the reason why his marriage with Ria was not working. And he gets to cheat and have all the fun?@@TriedRefusedProductions
@@chetanuniyal3428 Yeah Kank and Hum tumhare hai sanam can really give each other a run for the money
It actually goes way back... even to days of Sanjeev Kumar in Pati Patni aur Woh. Of course, there are other recent ones also like Salam e Ishq where Anil Kapoor is having a mid life crisis and gets emotionally confused and gets attracted to Anjana Sukhani.
In Rocky and Rani ki Prem Kahaani, the kissing scene felt overrated no doubt. Yes ! They loved each other but I feel that the kissing scene was not necessary as the potryal of affection was brilliantly shown via the "Medley" song.
As far as Dhanlaxmi's character is concerned, such woman do exist in reality and even though the son's wife is part of the family, they are always an outsider in the eyes of "Dhanlaxmi". It is because of insecurity, selfish nature of "Everything is mine including the sons and no one is allowed to be shared with someone else" are a part of who they are. It is because of this, a family, no matter how good they are, break and the younger generations suffer due to unending family tensions, unnecesaary quarrels and many more. Also, this nature gets engraved in their soul so much that they never feel that they have done anything wrong. In their eyes, it was always right. So, eventually, the love and respect for them fades away from our hearts. Its true. A responsible family memeber will continue to support him/her financially or medically but the emotional connection is lost.
Clicked as fast as i could after reading the title
Finally! Finally! Finally someone is talking about glorifying cheating in the name of love, with everything is fear in love crap. Cheating is never ok and cannot be justified!
The entire arc of jamini and Wish-version papa coco annoyed the sanity out of me.
I think it's just selfish n Irresponsible to its core "me me me, my happiness, and nothing else matter in the whole world, not my loved one, not my family, not the other stakeholders in this chain of relationship. Only me myself and I.
Totally sick!
Thank you for talking about it
The bangali film 'shah jahan regency' depicted the sadness in infidelity. An old woman finding her pleasure with young men or the alcoholic hotel owner who is stucked in a loveless marriage with her celebrity wife, who asks the man to cheat himself so she can file for a divorce without any issues.
I was waiting for this video to be made! Can never digest why they glorify cheating in movies!
One wonders if Karan Johar cooks up these relationship dynamics with a convoluted diabolical mindset or if these are reflective of what he has experienced around him in real life. As regards cheating on screen, these reflect the general happenings in Indian society albeit not necessarily in the exact same fashion as it is portrayed on film.
Thanks for bringing it up. Bollywood is trying to normalize it.
The only justification for Dharmendra not divorcing his wife was his last dialogue- ' beta ghar nhi toda karte'. That way of thinking may stem from the family dynamics he saw in his family or his dependence on money and business taken care of by Dhanalakshmi very well. But I feel that the kiss scene was unnecessary....is there only one way to show their soulmate bond? And jammy your thinking is just on point because I also hoped that there would be one scene where Dhanalakshmi and Dharmendra confront each other. But I don't have much sympathy for Dhanalakshmi... even after he died I couldn't see feelings on her face for once! I understand the marriage was loveless but this is pure arrogance.
Dharmedra ka jaisi halat hai waisa character tha warna main soch Raha tha dharmedra ab acting kaise karenge
I completely agree to with this. Finally someone in the comment section is sensible. Instead of bashing the characters left and right it's great to finally see someone talking sense as to where the characters were coming from. All the characters were flawed.
Jamini was sane and having faced atrocities from her husband she atleast should have known better than to kiss another person's spouse. Rani questions her morals in the climax scence where she says to Jamini that she is not good at giving relationship advice coz she has cheated on Dadu. But Jamini justifies it by saying that her husband used to hit her.
Dhanlakshmi also had to endure a loveless marriage but that does not justifies the way she treated her daughter in law. She could have easily been the better person. She could have chosen not to act like her mother in law acted towards her but she chose to follow in her mother in law's footsteps and treat her daughter in law like trash. So, yeah despite all that her character had to go through it did not generated any empathy at all.
Exactly, On this context, jammy's comment : dhanalakshi seeing the kiss like her son and daughter in law is kissing..... Is absolutely correct.... The thing is it could be a sensible relationship dynamic but these extravagant scenes ruined that. Otherwise I would love to see them together. There are loopholes in the film but somehow it has been successful to hit us because it has the heart in right place.
Thank you so much for talking about the rocky aur rani ki prem kahini, it really bothered me, glad someone sees it too
You didn't mention the most problematic one...bajirao mastani💀
Exactly, they keep on justifying cheating through weird scripts which is spreading absurdity to the society to its highest level. Finally someone addressed it. Thank you.
I don't remember last time when was the last time Bollywood preached good values
OMG 2, SATYAPREM KI KATHA: THATS JUST THIS YEAR ❤
@@TriedRefusedProductions needle in a haystack kind of situation. And still that is still not what we call PREACHING MORALS
@@indrajeeth7so you want movies to be sermons?
I dont know why OMG 2 doesn't get the praise it should. I was surprised by how well the story was written and its character.@@TriedRefusedProductions
Yes thank you for bringing this up. Dharmendra's character first has an affair with Shabana Azmi's character in RARKPK. Then at the end of the film, he tells his his son 'Ghar nahin tod te bete' 😑😑😑😑
Honestly I saw Rocky and Rani a few days ago and couldn't help but cringe throughout. I mean how is the main conflict of the movie Rocky and RAni and not the old people with Jaya Bachhan's character who is going through all the infidelity while the family supports and helps Dharmendra and Shabana Azmi's character. Just doesn't make any sense to me.
Not just Bollywood. For example one of the most popular romantic movie of all time from hollywood is The Notebook
Not only cheating but topics like LGBT potrayal also need be highlighted... last n8 i am seriously watching kohrra and at some point i guessed the final plot twist which they are gonna show at the end...and i seriously hoped that ending should not be same as i expected but my god they have ended with same LGBT plot twist. I am seriously disappointed man....same concept in every alternative film or series.....seriously this should be changed.....
Strongly agree with Jammy here. Finally, someone is talking. I have been having discussions on these movies with my friends for so long, but Jammy put it very precisely.
They are not glorifying, they are just showing what is already present in the society, they are the reflection of the society
that's one way to look at it also
We can always look for a moral high ground in movies.. but the fact is that these are stories about people.. those who also exist in real life ... that people are imperfect and always choosing based on their own way of making sense of things... it's not glorification unless u show it blatantly in movies like no entry. Life has nuances and movies are, after all, a mirror of society...
Great topic, brother!
Our Manmarziyaan's POV is so similar. 😭 Recently I watched Majili, man it's irritating to watch and problematic to have such kinda movies in society.