I Got My Stubborn Ex Back!
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- Опубліковано 14 жов 2024
- I got my stubborn ex back. Despite feeling you may never have a chance with someone, there is always a chance you can have a chance, even with the most stubborn ex! Staying motivated and doing the work after a breakup often pays off even when you least expect it!
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Going through a similar issue but a bit different. We've been together for 3 years (LDR). We've seen each other twice and had a great relationship overall. I was a bit insecure and needy because of the situations in her country, the lack of Internet so on. She was coming to the UK around January. Everything was smooth but like I said we had lack of interaction which was causing me to be anxious. However, because of my arguments she partially blocked me. Then sent a 35 minutes worth voice message telling me it's finished and I won't hear from her again. Despite that I wrote emails begging her to stay etc, she didn't give in and said Never again. It's been almost 2 weeks now and I don't even see the No contact a solution as she's too stubborn. Wish she could change her mind, I wanna work on myself but honestly love her to bits.
@@spiritualrituals9603 It's hard when your emotions are wrapped-up. But don't worry. Either she will come back, or you will meet someone nice in your neighborhood, not a foreign land with no internet! LDR is often a way for us to avoid confronting reality.
I dated a dismissive avoidant for a year, and he just broke up with me a few weeks back. I was initially reaching out, doing all the bad things you speak about, Coach Craig. LOL but I stopped, he reached out after only a few days. I still had some of his things and he had my house key, so I went to drop them off to him yesterday. What an eye-opener that was! He was so rude, cold, and disrespectful... That he suddenly became completely unattractive to me. I'm working on my anxious attachment style, and my self, overall, and this only made me realize that he is not the one for me. It's true, just stay and no contact, for yourself, and most likely you won't even want this person back for various reasons. Thank you guys, for all your fantastic videos. Therapy, and you, are helping me get through this difficult but expansive time!
Guys, I really think that I will have a good chance with my ex, even though I haven't heard from her since our last contact. I've had a couple of Skypes with Craig and have been working on the the workbooks AT LEAST 30 minutes a day. Both were/have been super helpful and insightful! Book a Skype with either or both Craig and Vicky if you can afford it. At the very least, get those workbooks! Until my opportunity comes, I am gonna keep working my ass off! Even when I have moments of weakness, I remind myself that I was never a bad partner to her and that sooner or later (even if she has to see another guy or two to see it) she is going to revisit the idea of giving me another chance. I don't know when its gonna come but I don't care, I am gonna blow this woman away! Stay motivated and stay positive guys! You WILL be a success story. You are not alone on this journey. Let's do this, one day at a time. 💪💪💪
@@jblasutavario9549 True, though she is is still in my mind and deep in my heart, hehe. Either way, I know I'm a catch and that I have taught/showed her how she should be treated by her partner. We are both great people and deserve the best, whether it is each other or not.
Nah. This ain’t it. Move onto someone else. You weren’t a bad partner and you’re ok with her going through 1/2 guys. Respect yourself man. You seem like you re going to get dumped again.
@@dylanmatipa136 Trust me, I respect myself plenty. Just because I wasn't a bad partner, doesn't mean I don't have flaws or that I didn't do things that led to the breakup. Especially since she did tell me about things that I would have to change, otherwise she couldn't keep up with the relationship, and I didn't. A few dates doesn't equate to being intimate with someone, lol. Even if that was the case, its not like I wasn't with people before I got with her but that didn't make her love me any less or our bond any weaker.
She wasn't a bad partner to me either and stayed with me for as long as she did, despite my lack of motivation to change the things I needed to so we could move forward together. Everyone has the right to make the decision for themselves, which I respect. Also, its because I know my value, what I bring to the table and that I'm not shallow or an asshole, that I know she will compare them to me more than likely and thats not a bad thing. If she even finds someone before revisiting getting back with me. We are both young and have been together for 4 years. Neither of us are perfect but we had an amazing relationship and connection, even up to the day before the breakup (and even somewhat after.) I have made my intentions clear, and told her that I can't be just friends with her and have told her also not to settle for what she doesn't want. If things don't work out with her at the end of the day, I'm okay with that, as hard as it right now. I'm focused on me, my healing, my personal growth and fixing my own issues right now. I'm not gonna use another person to make myself feel better or get over her. Thats pretty fucked up. If it happens organically, sure. Even if I did, that person that I moved on to could be with someone else at this very moment, yet I wouldn't let that bother me or stop me from getting with them.
But hey, I'm not gonna say that you don't have a right to express your opinion.
@dakota cole I love this response and your mindset in your break up… your not bashing your ex and your recognizing your flaws as well. No one’s perfect at the end of the day!!! I hope you and your ex get back together and because of all this and you working on yourself, I hope that your relationship will be stronger then ever and you both will be a better you for each other. I jam going through the same thing I’m a way except I’m married but had caught mg husband reaching out to girls sexually on social medias also back in Aug I had kicked him out cuz I found out the previous Dec he had hooked up with a girl he knew 2 different times. We have been together for 7 years and married for a little over 6. I am his longest relationship and only marriage and we both are in our middle 30s… my husband has cheated on every girl he has ever been with… it’s safe to say he has a sex addiction. We still are talking not being affectionate at all but are going to marriage counseling and he starts therapy soon for the problem he has. I can sit here and bash him for what he did but I love him and he’s willing to get the help and is trying and to me I think that’s great!!! He helps me still pay for stuff he comes over and we hang out I don’t see him everyday but we text and talk throughout the day. I’m hoping to get our connection back cuz we are amazing together so when you talk about the love you and you ex had, I totally get it!!!! I just wanted to say that the way you talked about your ex and you recognizing your flaws as well… I had to say something!!! Keep it up workin on yourself and trust me just by the response you had if I can see how mature and awesome you are and not even know you at all then your ex def will be able to see that!!! I wish you good luck with everything and I’m rooting for you both!!!!
@@JamieZarrr Well, its kinda both. But yes and I am a guy.
I’m in a similar situation where the father of my children cheated on me and left me for someone new. I am in the same boat where I am certain that he won’t come back, and I’m still worried about him being gone for good even though he betrayed me. And when I had my Skype with Victoria she also made this observation for me. My ex seems happier with this new girl. We broke up in August and they’ve been living together for two months now. I know it doesn’t seem that long, but to me it seems like his new relationship will never end. I can’t wait to be where this man is after I do the work, self confidence wise.
6 years on and I couldn’t care less about her. But thanks for these videos Craig still a good watch and helped during the early days of getting over her
I'm listening to your videos at the gym and even though I've broken up with my fiance, we did had a closure and we did end up hooking up and now we're talking. I take it a day by day by working on being better me both mentally and physically ( therapy and gym best combo)
Victoria is looking good
3 years not a word from my ex. Yet her sister stayed following me on instagram the whole time, scouting info if she needed it. Well i totally upgraded my appearance. The past three years were spent fixing my anxiety’s and fears, learning about what my mental issues are. 4 months ago i moved across the country, and posted tons of gorgeous photo’s of my adventures along the way. The sisters attention was grabbed by my most recent post and she finally un-followed me. Makes me wonder what went through her head😂🤭😮. I believe they both thought i would always be there, waiting. I hope they at least learned something from the experience.
I’m in the same boat, her cousin still follows me.
My ex told me to go out and date, move on, and to stop caring. Yet he still is holding onto a drawing I made for him that represent a family. Its us, his son and my pup. I told him he can throw it away, but he said it's fine, its a good drawing. Then he said he keeps in his closet now. We haven't spoken to each other for 2 months. Why would he hold onto something yet push me away?
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Also, it was a 7 year relationship, no one cheated
Wow no one cheated. That's rare
Hold on to no contact 'cause it really works. It worked for me and I'm sure it works for most. Your situation isn't as bad as it usually is, so don't lose hope!
It's great that he did the work! But her cheating is a RED FLAG. I don't think he should take her back...
It really. Made me feel good and I felt like there might be hope ❤
2 years apart and dating someone else?! Goodbye!
Seems like this man did nothing wrong but being available. She cheated broke up the family. He’s the prize. Why do people want unworthy people back? Be secure with yourselves. Keep your value and standards high.
She randomly sent me a Snapchat memory of me on thanksgiving and then thumbs upped my polite response. After never reaching out ever.
If somebody ever treated you that way, why would you want them back? 🤔
Exactly
Because forgiveness can be powerful
Exactly. I don’t understand some of the comments on this channel
My ex dumped me 4 months ago and I haven’t talked to her since. She emailed me a couple of days ago and said she was deleting all of my pictures on her phone if I wanted any then she said I hope you’re having a fantastic holiday season. I did not respond yet
She's missing you and it makes her feel like shit. So she's trying to move on by deleting the pictures. Reaching out to you is a way for her to alleviate her regret, not because she cares for you.
@@Polly1589 I emailed her about a week after I said no thank you and asked her how she was. She never responded back. I plan to just wait it out and stay no contact until she sends me something else. I don’t know what is going on with her the last I knew she was supposedly happy with the rebound and I didn’t want to put myself out there if all she was doing was being polite
Don’t ever respond back unless she ask’s something meaningful like can we talk or ect
I literally only get reach outs from the ex’s I don’t care about 💀. I haven’t heard from the one i’m dying to hear from in a year and a half. Ironic right?
Yep, I'm in the same situation. Women take so long to come around I'm hearing only from years ago and who've let themselves go and in debt, thinking I'll fix everything.
My ex saw me change my profile picture and he changed his to a pic of him and his new gf. He told me it was only because I told him to leave me alone. He also said the fact that I’m glowing up only motivates him to work out harder.. what does this mean? Why does he care if he has a new gf? Also, why is he trying to make the breakup a competition?
He's immature. He wants to make you feel bad because he's bitter and probs has some resentment. Good for you for not staying with a person like that anymore. I suggest you block him and move on with your life.
My ex is doing similar. She has copied me multiple times. She copied me when I change my bio on social media to a quote and my occupation then she did the same the next day. I posted a beach picture then she did the next day. She seems to make everything a competition. When I went on vacation overseas she reached out and bragged about how she’s been traveling so much too lol. It’s very weird and it’s immature in my opinion.
We hung out the other night 2 weeks after the breakup It was going well but we decided to talk about what happened and where it went wrong. She said shes just angry and upset at me for not listening to her needs. She said its not fair of her to ask me to wait but she wants me to. We hooked up that night but she told me she regretted it so now i guess i just do NC and try and let things play out
This guy sounds great, well done him.
Why would my ex block me DURING no contact after just shy of 2 months?
Haven’t spoken to her at all during this time.
What if he’s 22 AND stubborn? 😅
Do you think it's possible to get back someone if they ghosted you and began dating someone new?
I Love this!!!!!
The key word is EX !!!
Adios ex !
quick comment, My 11 year relationship ended a few months ago.. she just texted me brothers GF asking her how im doing, what ive been doing and if im seeing anyone? is there a way to take those questions? just curious, a nice gesture, feeling the water? thank you!
I mean I'm not Coach but I'd say at the very least it's a good sign. She genuinely cares about your well being. I'd stick with no contact still and not reach out but at the very least it shows you that she is thinking about you. Hopefully sooner or later, she'll text you (most likely with an indirect direct approach, haha.) Until then, keep working on yourself and your emotional self control. That way when and if she does, you don't panic, are cool about it and don't come on too strong. Good luck, stay strong and hope things go well for you!
@@dakotacole3713 thank you man, i appreciate you! What is an indirect direct approach? Still working on myself and feeling better each day. Just hope by the time she reaches i haven’t fully outgrown the relationship we once had but maybe it’s for the best?? Happy holidays man
Btw, since then haven’t heard a peep out of her, doesn’t reach out to my brothers gf anymore, doesn’t post on social media or anything at all. I’m just Vibing on my own now man!
@@KevinLavorgna Happy Holidays to you too, brother! The indirect direct approach is gonna be her reaching out to you but for something seemingly small, confusing or pointless. She may ask if you've seen a specific item of hers, or she may ask a question that she definitely didn't have to ask YOU about or mention that she has something of yours still and if you want it back. Its an excuse to contact you. Don't be too eager to respond or overexcited to talk about your feelings. Wait a good while to respond, maybe until the next day. Then after a bit of back and forth, try to set up a date. If she says no, just be casual and let her know, "okay. Let me know when you wanna get together." And then just leave her be.
@@dakotacole3713 i appreciate the insight. If it ever happens I’ll be sure to update you man. Been 3 months at this point but i did break NC like 2 weeks ago (no response)
But i do feel like the good days are starting to out weigh the bad ones. We will see what happens
Craig, my ex has blocked me in no contact!!
We’ve been broken up for about 2 months and I’ve been in no contact 7 weeks (54 days) and yesterday she blocked me.
One year ago to the day, we took some photos on her phone and they would’ve popped up one her “one year ago, today” memory.
I was abusive in the relationship and believe I should be the one to reach out but what should I do?
Please make a video on this
At least you acknowledged your actions, reach out and genuinely apologize to her
@@poweidethompson7256 thank you for your response. Do you think now or over Christmas is the right time to reach out? I’m just cautious of the fact that I’ve been blocked
why would you want her back anyways lol she clearly cant comprehend the complexity of life and values
Gives me some hope..
You have a lot of videos and you may have covered it. Should I reach out to be friends. It’s been 6 months. Only reason I ask is she is a great person and wouldn’t mind having her apart of my life in some aspect
I wouldn’t if you still have romantic feelings for her you will just get hurt all over again but if not go for it
@@Ben-ok5ps I still care for her but I don’t expect us getting back together
Using friendship as an excuse to contact her since she hasn’t reached out. Never accept friendship, let alone offer it, you will end up being disappointed.
@@skyfall1481 I agree but I’m not looking for a romantic relationship. I just think she a great person regardless of the break up and wanted to keep her apart of my life in some aspect
Why would he take back a whore?
I wouldnt take her back. lack of charaachter
First, lol.