Breeny said, "I've been unleashed." Let me remind these girls of their worth real quick!!!! You better talk about bare minimum ma! No more excuses. Actions speak louder than words always.
A text takes 30 seconds to send. Everyone can find 30 seconds in their day to reach out to someone who’s supposed to be important to them. I don’t care how “busy” they are.
Texting is so overrated. From my point of view, in relationships it should be used to set up a phone call which then would set up spending time together in person.
Everyone attracts good and bad people. The difference is that people with boundaries don't put up with bs and don't accept the bad people and keep the good ones.
I was just telling a friend of mine this!! We attract all kinds of things its what we choose to entertain which is based on how we feel about ourselves that’s the difference. If that’s not a reason to work on your inner self idk what is. Our choices are very telling of what we have going on internally.
@@alexatkins9515 I don’t think it’s good for people to think they “attract” bad people only. It’s having an external locus of control. Those are the same people that have a string of bad relationships and they say “I just haven’t been lucky”. I don’t buy it. Maybe there’s an unmet childhood need there because of a bad parent dynamic and they try to meet that need in their adult relationship or look for that same kind of relationship as adults because it’s familiar. I don’t believe some cosmic force keeps them from liking someone that’s good to them.
*WE CREATE THE STANDARD. A man will treat you poorly if you let him. A man will cancel and flake on dates if he believes you will let him get away with it repeatedly. The reason why the standard for men in dating is in the gutter is because we let it get there. As a female collective we have to start working as a team to stop allowing ourselves to be treated like peasants when we’re actually actually Queens. Start saying no to men who are not in a financial position to provide and treat you. Start saying no to men who only wanna watch movies after 9 pm. Start saying no to men who ghost you (the first time!) start saying no to men who don’t take you seriously. This is how we will raise the standard for women*
Women stay bc we don’t want to accept the bitter truth that he’s just not into you *anymore*. It’s a very bitter pill to swallow when you still freshly remember the flattery and the thrill of the chase. It’s a blow to the ego, you can’t blame yourself for trying to avoid it. The quicker you accept and grieve this, the quicker you can dump him in the dust.
Yes, as a man I think It is not inconsistent behaviour if someone always does it. That is just you not wanting to accept that you don't like the type of consistency he shows. Of course it is inconsistency, but that perspective brings you in a bad mindset about if somebody is tricking you or not. Instead let's define consistency not as what someone says, but as the things someone does. Could he be more clear about it and just simply say that he doesn't care about writing each day for example? Sure. But that is true for everybody, men and women, we always see ourselves as different from our actions. We always want to do more things than what we actually do. So the question if someone is lying or not is often even misplaced. Because that person might lie to you, to themselves or any combination of it. And it will just end up in arguments who is actually lying, exaggerating etc etc. However we all should accept that what matters for other people is never what we want to do, but only what we actually do. We should give the benefit of the doubt when deciding if someone did something with malicious intent. However we should not be just hoping that it changes. There only cold facts count. If s/he continues doing something, then it is our job to understand that this is how they are and we need to decide if we can live with it or not. No matter what is said or what their intentions are. We also put ourselves way too much in the center often and see lies that are no lies at all for other people. "I am too busy" is not a lie. He told you he has better things to do. The issue is that you can't accept that he actually thought about all the things he could do, and decided against you. That is not a lie. That is him choosing other priorities than you. Making things about truths and lies often distracts from what is actually going on. He clearly told you that he doesn't want to rearrange other stuff for you. You are the one not hearing what is said.
When you’ve experienced or have seen the highest form of treatment from a man to a woman, you no longer make excuses for the inconsistency and low efforts of a boy.
The audacity to give bare minimum yet still has a maximum expectation. We as women truly need to raise our standards to match our value. I'm happy being alone than to settle for the bare minimum. I'm not that desperate. Come on sisters, don't be so easily moved by words that are so light weighted. You are phenomenal...and that's a FACT.x
Even worse than the men that come up with the “I’m busy” excuse are the ones who text back eons later acting like nothing happened with no explanation of their absence
That's a 2-sided issue though. Women play those games as well. But even more-so especially the one's whom know their attractive *LIKE* those countless thotties on IG.... !!
Low standards produce low results. Thank you so much. We need to raise our standards. Again! Okay... so a standard I've been implementing is to reward their inconsistencies with my unavailability. It also comes from having an abundance mindset. When we realize that there are good men out there and that healthy love and relationships exist, we won't settle for all these funny treatments from guys.
Nowadays everything is below bare minimum in terms of dating, to the point that many men believe that it's a privilege for them to be faithful to a woman like really? Is that not the thing that you supposed to do in a monogamous relationship/marriage? Or many men of nowadays just believe by already dating you there are doing you a favour and you should be very grateful!! And when it comes terms of waiting to have sex before marriage is almost impossible nowadays: I know one of my friend that just turn 23 and is still a virgin and have been rejected by many men because she doesn't want to give up the cookie. Some men don't believe my friend because she is a very young beautiful attractive woman so for some men it's almost impossible to believe that she is a virgin and the rest don't care and only want to have sex with her
After hearing your friends story I kinda want to save my virginity for the right woman and honestly I find it hilarious how a ton of men demand more virgins but get mad when A virgin doesn't give it up like that's obviously not right
@@ghostboidream4067 that is what so many men are doing trust me; they complain that there is no virgin and nowadays all women are either promiscuous or sexually loose but if they find the girl that is sexually clean and is virgin after a while they want you to give it up for them or else will either cheat on you and start to insult you. I have seen and hear alot
@@katherinesamuel3700 Honestly I was so so tempted to go down this route lose my V card and have sex with whoever I could mess with but Thinking bout it I change my mind I hope God sends me someone who's meant for me that's a virgin because I rather lose my virginity to someone else who's a virgin because at least not only am I giving up something She is too and we both could lose it together and to be honest at 1 point I was gonna become one of those guys but I'm glad I decided not
Damn thats a story..yes men are oversexualizing women nowadays. Its also one of the reasons i got into anxiety. Because men just bomb you with attention you sometimes just want to be treated as human. But its because of social media and such i think...they are almost conditioned to think a certain way and dont understand boundaries no more. Also porn websites became normal websites. Can we imagine what it does to mental health for men! And no I am not a virgin..i had a healthy relationship with a sweet genuine guy but it didnt work out at the end and that was okay to both of us. But now Im single and actually... i somehow dont like it because i feel safer with a man on my side, while i just want to enjoy being me without a man and grow... thats mental!!
She isn’t missing out..she is being protected from the B.S. with that..when u tell most men you are virgin they realize if the last guy didn’t get it chances are I won’t either and if I do it will probably be lame because your not Experienced ..so they show their True intentions..that’s a gift..I get to avoid the drama of a no good dude anyway..she should Be careful b/c there are men on the other end..that will take the challenge..take the virginity ..marry her and still waste her time..a man waiting for sex is not enough..his consistent actions over time show you who he is every single time
Making excuses for men it’s ONE way to show them that you do not know your worth. Show them your worth by holding them accountable and walking away when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain. You are beautiful and you are enough don’t continue to fall for their “excuses”. From a self love content creator to another; great video Breeny!!! ❤️
To be Honest I admire and rather be with a woman who knows her worth and is worth it then somebody who claims they know their worth but really are worthless a woman with worth is a priceless woman and is definitely worth it
The advice applies to family as well. I’ve witnessed my mum lower her standards, sabotage her happiness and show extremely low self-esteem over the course of 14 years except it’s happening in the context of the family dynamic- not a romantic relationship. I’m going to share this with her. Sick and tired of “family” treating her like she’s downtrodden but I’m equally sick of her enabling them. Imma need her to have a little more respect for herself. It’s killing me inside.
I made a decision yesterday not to date untill I fall in love with myself and I find my worth again cause it's just some where in me and I got to find it. Self worth is the foundation of everything.
Ngl, I know people make fun of simps, but ima tell you right now, GET YOU A MAN THAT AIN’T AFRAID TO SIMP FOR YOU! Especially one that will do it in public. Someone that is not ashamed to show you how much your worth in front of all his friends and when your alone.
As someone who finally had the courage to leave a 15 year relationship, i thank you for these videos and I’m so happy I found them. They are strengthening me everyday!
Literally every long term married, long term relationship long term friendship is work empathy and compassion and encouragement. If you can't do that stay away from people. At this point Breeny, TG, RC Blakes and any other male or female professional counsellor and therapist will tell you the same thing. Men and women need to stop camping for dysfunction. The bare minimum stops the dysfunction.
This series has been amazing so far. I been dealing with this guy for 8 years up & down on & off.. I’ve gave him the benefit of the doubt for way too long! I admit i was content with his words but he wasn’t doing a got damn thing to change! I’m finally done with it. Ready for my self love journey to build myself back up ❤️. Thank you so much for this series! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
The WHOLE WORLD would change if women took this advice. These regular men would level up if women held their standards across the board. Also lol at “HE SAID,” so true!!!
Men are so spoiled these days...If we start to cut off their trashy behavior we will see their true intensions. I was texting multiple guys and one day I just tired to spend my time on empty texting with them. And I realized that no one wants to go out with me, lol.
These videos are everything right now and you’re truly hitting the nail on the head. I’m currently in a relationship of nearly 3 years and I put my partner to the test with all of the points you made in the video. I made sure my standards were HIGH as I was tired of how I had been treated previously. Nearly 3 years on and my partner still makes the odd joke about me making it so hard for him to pursue me in the beginning but although he found it hard that did not STOP him. He showed patience, understanding and he knew his actions was going to do the talking in the end. I didn’t have to chase, question or even wonder if he was into me, it all came naturally and before him I had never felt like that in a relationship before. So now when I have girlfriends ask for advice about why their new guy is not doing the BASICS I tell them to let it go, it’s not worth it and he’s really not that into you. Thanks for these videos Breeny you are really getting it spot on and I hope you are able to inspire some ladies out there because self love and value is very important
My dad taught me that a man shows you how he feels about you in how he treats you and that when his words and his actions match that’s truth. Then he tells you he wants to be with you, but is not investing in you, then that’s a lie.
I neeeeeeeddddded this video omg. I need to stop making excuses for these dudes. I’m doneee. I was supposed to see a guy I’ve been knowing for years on Saturday but he’s hella inconsistent and EFF that. I’m done. STANDARD RAISED. If you’re not consistent then I’m out. I’m too old for that ish. Edit: my big problem is I feel bad when I say no and I gotta stop doing that. I need to learn to be selfish.
I know this ain’t a “religious” topic but this goes very well to what Jesus said in Matthew Chapter 5 “But I tell you, do not swear an oath at all: either by heaven, for it is God’s throne; or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the Great King. And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.” So all in all don’t make promises you can’t keep. Actions speak louder than words. Prove it with your actions. Thanks Breeny for another amazing video. I barely comment but wanted to give my two cents from a spiritual perspective. 💗
Yass Breeny is back with another banger!! So true you teach men how to treat you. It’s important to have standards and to never be afraid to walk away when a man can’t give you the standard you deserve
Wish I could have seen this a year ago or more. My ex gave me constant attention when we started dating, but after a few months, he would almost never text or call me because he was too busy
Your advice is always on time! Current situationship that I’m walking away from. He started doing the slow fade, so I fell off the face of the earth ✌🏾. Thank you so much for your content! ❤️❤️
One time my ex told me he wants to get married just to get me back. Couple months down the road l brought up marriage and he literally said " you actually believed that???"
I love you so much so much. You helped me a lot after going through a breakup last year. I felt like nothing and now I have learned to know my worth because of you. Bare minimum is not enough. ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you so much❤️❤️❤️
My new guy has been super consistent. He says he'll do it, and then he does. He compliments and praises me all the time, and I still give him this look 👀😒 No one gets 100% of me anymore. I trust no one.
Watch for red flags and love bombing. I give guys 12-16 weeks to slip up when they do run. My former husband slipped up within that time frame but I was 26 and spent all my time studying my degree instead of studying people and relationships so I didn't know his behaviour was abnormal. I also have my own dysfunction as diagnosed with BPD. now I don't give myself a free pass to f up my life so why would I give a man a free pass. I'm 40 next week. Relationships crash and burn on all the same things and it is not a man thing or a woman thing it's a people thing. One thing men are super loyal to is their bag. Even if they waste it all on themselves they going to build bridges to get that schmoneee!
I was dating someone in 2019-2020. I have so happy and content. Life was making sense to me. My career was doing well and my love life was amazing. Haaaa he wke up one day and broke up with me. I wen through some mental break down and m still recovering after 1year. I have learned that he is living his best life and enjoying his summer with another lady. The pain is killing me. I feel like a failure. It’s breaking me all over again. I have prayed, fasted….. nothing is working. M miserable. Why do I have to keep hurting myself over a dude who doesn’t give a fuck about me. Y m I so naive to give him my heart from the start. Lord heal me. I am going crazy. The pain is a lot to carry. I am tired. I want this nightmare to end. Please pray for me. M just a girl who wanted to be loved and me appreciated.
I dont know why UA-cam always forces these videos in 480p but even STILL you're looking HD flawless, changed the settings and wow! Breeny you are looking GOOOOD!! and your messages ARE JUST mwah! Great content everytime.
I have been guilty of the offenses Breeny has listed out. I'm sick of the constant self destructive behaviour that ALWAYS (WITHOUT FAIL) end up badly for me. I need to step my game up. I KNOW better
I love these “LOW EFFORT, BARE MINIMUM GUY(S)”.... “A PROMISE IS COMFORT TO A FOOL”.. “LOW STANDARDS PRODUCE LOW RESULTS” thumbs up to you, very well defined 👍👍❤️💕
I feel sorry for us too Breeny! Many of us haven’t had good relationship role models & we’re suffering for it. We need to stop begging men to love us & learn to walk away when our standards are expected to be lowered.
Yea ladies. This is the best advise ever. In your relationship. Never concede. Never compromise. Never take a little today to get more later. Never adjust your hard lines. It must be your way or the highway. Never allow your man to have agency over his decisions. Never tolerate him addressing his own priorities. It just entirely be yours. Never allow him have the audacity to actually want something out of the relationship that isn’t exclusively for your benefit. Oh and then when you are tired of that all., come on UA-cam screaming and shouting and advising other women to be just as hurt and broken as you are.
I decided to leave things with a guy who wouldn’t even message back after reading mine. Needed to head this Breeny. I know I made the right decision!!!!! x
I ended my tumultuous three year relationship exactly one month ago. Last time I spoke to them was three weeks ago. Although things ended cordially this video has really sparked something in me to finally make the decision to block them out of my life. I’ve just blocked their number. I never need to hear from this person or communicate with them ever again. I was the girl that begged for them to stay many times in the relationship when the fight over how they were being shady etc. all of a sudden flipped onto me. Just like it was my fault. I was the girl that convinced/begged them to stay early on when they literally told me that they shouldn’t be in a relationship. It’s a bit fuzzy now but it was to the effect of them being immature or not ready. I made a lot of bad decisions. Am I’m still trying to make out why I allowed myself to be treated poorly for the length of time that I did. It’s just confusing when things are generally okay and you’re happy but they’re acting up and doing foul shit on the side. I can’t believe I’m sharing all this. Sending love to everyone and myself. I know I will be okay. For so long I felt TRAPPED. And now sometimes I’m lonely because I have no one to talk to. Not one friend. But I’m going to be okay. The dream is flourishing. Sorry if this is super long, I genuinely felt compelled to comment.
Girl I can relate so much. I broke off a 2 year and a half relationship a bit over 2 months now. We ended relatively okay, but I realized how much I tolerated the bare minimum he was giving me while I was like letting him LIVE with me for FREE for almost a whole year. He never thanked me for that. It's mind-blowing, because I thought he wasn't that kind of person when I started dating him. Maybe he got too confortable. At least now I know never to do that again. I've been more alone like you, not really close to any friends. It's hard but at least I enjoy my own company now. Anything is better than being in that hellhole of a relationship 🤣😭
@@Casxa LOL you better than me. You not finna live off of me as a man. If you cannot provide, you are not a man. Bare minimum is halvsies. I am so glad you left that loser.
Yesss!!! Men will keep taking advantage of you.... For as long as YOU let them. See and believe their actions for what they are. There are no buts or what ifs. Take that information as it is. And if it doesn't align with his words, keep it moving.
When you attempt to “nice” people into being nice, you have crossed the line from kindness to enabling-from helpful to harmful. Enabling is not loving. Trust people to be who they are and you will be less likely to be blindsided and disappointed. Some people are committed only to their own arrogance and deception. Being firm, fair and consistent with boundaries can help everyone around you to grow up. We cannot apply 'normal' standards/expectations/requirements to the 'abnormal'. Great video, Breeny and toasting Tony Gaskins.
You are fantastic girl!! Favorite vid of this series so far! SPOT ON!!! I told my ex that he was consistently inconsistent and he said yes, I know but I’m just busy…as Tony would say, Bockt!!! I am so empowered with this video and will watch again and again b/c “you saiddddddddddddd” lol Breeny! You are so real! Love it and you!
These are really helping my as I broke up with my boyfriend this week. There were quite a few things, but the final straw was his reply to me saying I love him. He said I know you do 🙄😂 but then said he doesn't believe in love, which is rubbish as he told me he loved his ex. He couldn't understand why I was upset smh
1. Look for the consistencies 👏🏾 2. Guilty until proven innocent 👏🏾👏🏾 Breeny is saying that men TELL us the red flags and we STILL give them benefit of the doubt 🥴
Nice! Yesterday’s video hit me hard - it’s totally true. You are a marvel, and your videos are a gem. Thank you got this! My standards are way higher now. You’re right - why shouldn’t us women expect effort? It’s natural that if you like someone you seek contact with them every day, as much as possible. Same with everything else. A bonus of nipping things in the bud quickly - men in the area will realise that you aren’t easy picking - the flaky one will back off, and the real men will show up, and treat you right. I bet word gets around fast - they’d know what mistakes not to make. Thank you for this video! So many of us need to hear this.
This is a really good video 👏🏾 honestly!! I just love how Breeny is honest and sets standards and it’s so inspiring. My new standard is effort. He has to call , take me on a date , respect me , be God fearing and genuine and faithful. I WILL NOT settle for less .
I’m so happy and grateful to be listening to your videos while I’m going through my journey of being single. Your videos are helping me grow and realize where I been screwing up at. Wish I seen these videos long ago ❤️
Mid video I went and texted this guy that I have been seeing but he hasn’t been consistent I told him and gave him a piece of my mind so whatever he does doesn’t matter any more I feel empowered thank you girl and I have watched the whole series where have you been my whole life
Lol Breeny, am I the only one who literally asks herself how many times he said you're the most beautiful woman on earth on the exact same day and just laugh it out! You are rockin' these series. ❤ Well done!
" I want you be a part of my life" Yet you don't text me, you don't check on my well being, you ignore my memes, and you remind me why you can't spend time with me?
PREACH SIS PREACH!!!!! Love It!!! "Ghetto-Low Standards = Ghetto-Low Results! Ladies.....DON'T LOWER YOUR STANDARDS!!!! Thanks Sis for this video! I'm a new subbie YAY!!!
Women stay bc we don’t want to accept the bitter truth that he’s just not into you *anymore*. It’s a very bitter pill to swallow when you still freshly remember the flattery and the thrill of the chase. It’s a blow to the ego, you can’t blame yourself for trying to avoid it. The quicker you accept and grieve this, the quicker you can dump him in the dust.
Breeny said, "I've been unleashed." Let me remind these girls of their worth real quick!!!! You better talk about bare minimum ma! No more excuses. Actions speak louder than words always.
A text takes 30 seconds to send. Everyone can find 30 seconds in their day to reach out to someone who’s supposed to be important to them. I don’t care how “busy” they are.
This^
Yesss !!!!!Yes!!!yes!!!yess!!!
Says they rarely text….when dating he texted more then get married he doesn’t text. When you complain they say when we dated I barely texted you. 🧐
Texting is so overrated. From my point of view, in relationships it should be used to set up a phone call which then would set up spending time together in person.
@@marcelzeigler631 I agree, but there aren't that many people who like to call, especially people my age (I'm 19)
Mom always said… a man is exactly where he wants to be. If he is not with you, he doesn’t want to be near you
Period. And then women still go and chase them oh lord😕 begging.
Everyone attracts good and bad people. The difference is that people with boundaries don't put up with bs and don't accept the bad people and keep the good ones.
I was just telling a friend of mine this!! We attract all kinds of things its what we choose to entertain which is based on how we feel about ourselves that’s the difference. If that’s not a reason to work on your inner self idk what is. Our choices are very telling of what we have going on internally.
@@alexatkins9515 I don’t think it’s good for people to think they “attract” bad people only. It’s having an external locus of control. Those are the same people that have a string of bad relationships and they say “I just haven’t been lucky”. I don’t buy it. Maybe there’s an unmet childhood need there because of a bad parent dynamic and they try to meet that need in their adult relationship or look for that same kind of relationship as adults because it’s familiar. I don’t believe some cosmic force keeps them from liking someone that’s good to them.
Agreed!
@@ladynottingham89 well fir me I attract losers that think they can control me. It's quite sad
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*WE CREATE THE STANDARD. A man will treat you poorly if you let him. A man will cancel and flake on dates if he believes you will let him get away with it repeatedly. The reason why the standard for men in dating is in the gutter is because we let it get there. As a female collective we have to start working as a team to stop allowing ourselves to be treated like peasants when we’re actually actually Queens. Start saying no to men who are not in a financial position to provide and treat you. Start saying no to men who only wanna watch movies after 9 pm. Start saying no to men who ghost you (the first time!) start saying no to men who don’t take you seriously. This is how we will raise the standard for women*
100% with you girl! Completely agree with you!
Preach Sis!!!! 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Have you ever heard an eye for an eye Will make the world go blind?
Women stay bc we don’t want to accept the bitter truth that he’s just not into you *anymore*.
It’s a very bitter pill to swallow when you still freshly remember the flattery and the thrill of the chase. It’s a blow to the ego, you can’t blame yourself for trying to avoid it. The quicker you accept and grieve this, the quicker you can dump him in the dust.
Preaaacchhh sis 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
When A Man is consistent in his inconsistencies...Believe him
...Actions speaks louder than words..Love this series somuch ❤
Yes it makes sens
Yes, as a man I think It is not inconsistent behaviour if someone always does it. That is just you not wanting to accept that you don't like the type of consistency he shows. Of course it is inconsistency, but that perspective brings you in a bad mindset about if somebody is tricking you or not. Instead let's define consistency not as what someone says, but as the things someone does.
Could he be more clear about it and just simply say that he doesn't care about writing each day for example? Sure. But that is true for everybody, men and women, we always see ourselves as different from our actions. We always want to do more things than what we actually do. So the question if someone is lying or not is often even misplaced. Because that person might lie to you, to themselves or any combination of it. And it will just end up in arguments who is actually lying, exaggerating etc etc.
However we all should accept that what matters for other people is never what we want to do, but only what we actually do.
We should give the benefit of the doubt when deciding if someone did something with malicious intent. However we should not be just hoping that it changes. There only cold facts count. If s/he continues doing something, then it is our job to understand that this is how they are and we need to decide if we can live with it or not. No matter what is said or what their intentions are.
We also put ourselves way too much in the center often and see lies that are no lies at all for other people. "I am too busy" is not a lie. He told you he has better things to do. The issue is that you can't accept that he actually thought about all the things he could do, and decided against you. That is not a lie. That is him choosing other priorities than you. Making things about truths and lies often distracts from what is actually going on. He clearly told you that he doesn't want to rearrange other stuff for you. You are the one not hearing what is said.
‘That’s the reason why men lie and women wear makeup.’ - that’s enough for me. Thank you for your time😭
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But it’s so trueeeee
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I saw Idris Alba tweet this lol
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When you’ve experienced or have seen the highest form of treatment from a man to a woman, you no longer make excuses for the inconsistency and low efforts of a boy.
"Do you like being disappointed?"
"A promise is a comfort to a fool."
LOL you must be Jamaican. We love saying that second phrase.
The audacity to give bare minimum yet still has a maximum expectation. We as women truly need to raise our standards to match our value. I'm happy being alone than to settle for the bare minimum. I'm not that desperate. Come on sisters, don't be so easily moved by words that are so light weighted. You are phenomenal...and that's a FACT.x
Even worse than the men that come up with the “I’m busy” excuse are the ones who text back eons later acting like nothing happened with no explanation of their absence
That is the most irritating thing ever
Nothing did happen. Because I’m never responding again😂🥰
Veeeery annoying!!
That's a 2-sided issue though. Women play those games as well. But even more-so especially the one's whom know their attractive *LIKE* those countless thotties on IG.... !!
They do that for sex or bc they outta options at the "buffet" 🤣🤣 smh.
The worst is "I'm busy" and then you see them doing whatever on social media. Boy bye🙄
‘We need to become deaf’ - is the best guy advice I’ve heard in a LONG time 🤣
Low standards produce low results.
Thank you so much. We need to raise our standards. Again!
Okay... so a standard I've been implementing is to reward their inconsistencies with my unavailability. It also comes from having an abundance mindset. When we realize that there are good men out there and that healthy love and relationships exist, we won't settle for all these funny treatments from guys.
Brilliantly and eloquently said thanks
@@marsham8902 ❤
Facts 💯💯💯
@@marsham8902. C
Another thing is... ladies do you want to be liked or respected? Some of these behaviours from men are a total disrespect!
Nowadays everything is below bare minimum in terms of dating, to the point that many men believe that it's a privilege for them to be faithful to a woman like really? Is that not the thing that you supposed to do in a monogamous relationship/marriage?
Or many men of nowadays just believe by already dating you there are doing you a favour and you should be very grateful!!
And when it comes terms of waiting to have sex before marriage is almost impossible nowadays: I know one of my friend that just turn 23 and is still a virgin and have been rejected by many men because she doesn't want to give up the cookie. Some men don't believe my friend because she is a very young beautiful attractive woman so for some men it's almost impossible to believe that she is a virgin and the rest don't care and only want to have sex with her
After hearing your friends story I kinda want to save my virginity for the right woman and honestly I find it hilarious how a ton of men demand more virgins but get mad when A virgin doesn't give it up like that's obviously not right
@@ghostboidream4067 that is what so many men are doing trust me; they complain that there is no virgin and nowadays all women are either promiscuous or sexually loose but if they find the girl that is sexually clean and is virgin after a while they want you to give it up for them or else will either cheat on you and start to insult you. I have seen and hear alot
@@katherinesamuel3700 Honestly I was so so tempted to go down this route lose my V card and have sex with whoever I could mess with but Thinking bout it I change my mind I hope God sends me someone who's meant for me that's a virgin because I rather lose my virginity to someone else who's a virgin because at least not only am I giving up something She is too and we both could lose it together and to be honest at 1 point I was gonna become one of those guys but I'm glad I decided not
Damn thats a story..yes men are oversexualizing women nowadays. Its also one of the reasons i got into anxiety. Because men just bomb you with attention you sometimes just want to be treated as human. But its because of social media and such i think...they are almost conditioned to think a certain way and dont understand boundaries no more. Also porn websites became normal websites. Can we imagine what it does to mental health for men! And no I am not a virgin..i had a healthy relationship with a sweet genuine guy but it didnt work out at the end and that was okay to both of us. But now Im single and actually... i somehow dont like it because i feel safer with a man on my side, while i just want to enjoy being me without a man and grow... thats mental!!
She isn’t missing out..she is being protected from the B.S. with that..when u tell most men you are virgin they realize if the last guy didn’t get it chances are I won’t either and if I do it will probably be lame because your not
Experienced ..so they show their
True intentions..that’s a gift..I get to avoid the drama of a no good dude anyway..she should
Be careful b/c there are men on the other end..that will take the challenge..take the virginity ..marry her and still waste her time..a man waiting for sex is not enough..his consistent actions over time show you who he is every single time
Making excuses for men it’s ONE way to show them that you do not know your worth. Show them your worth by holding them accountable and walking away when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain. You are beautiful and you are enough don’t continue to fall for their “excuses”.
From a self love content creator to another; great video Breeny!!! ❤️
To be Honest I admire and rather be with a woman who knows her worth and is worth it then somebody who claims they know their worth but really are worthless a woman with worth is a priceless woman and is definitely worth it
Women will not settle with less nowdays. Women want the best or are happy alone
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@@ghostboidream4067 Yes!! Absolutely!
@@reenaree5616 I agree much more women recognize their worth nowadays!
The advice applies to family as well. I’ve witnessed my mum lower her standards, sabotage her happiness and show extremely low self-esteem over the course of 14 years except it’s happening in the context of the family dynamic- not a romantic relationship. I’m going to share this with her. Sick and tired of “family” treating her like she’s downtrodden but I’m equally sick of her enabling them. Imma need her to have a little more respect for herself. It’s killing me inside.
I made a decision yesterday not to date untill I fall in love with myself and I find my worth again cause it's just some where in me and I got to find it.
Self worth is the foundation of everything.
I LOVE THIS FOR YOU!!
@@BreenyLee thank you breeny
Same here, but I decided to keep going on dates because I need scenarios for enforcing my boundaries 💪😁.
Same, today is my day❤️.
I have no idea where to begin, but I do know that not dealing with anyone for a while will be it!
Ngl, I know people make fun of simps, but ima tell you right now, GET YOU A MAN THAT AIN’T AFRAID TO SIMP FOR YOU! Especially one that will do it in public. Someone that is not ashamed to show you how much your worth in front of all his friends and when your alone.
he only does so, so that you like him. that's just no genuine
@@LY-js7ff and what if I like him back and would simp for him too?
As someone who finally had the courage to leave a 15 year relationship, i thank you for these videos and I’m so happy I found them. They are strengthening me everyday!
U are so strong I applaud you. I am getting ready to walk away from a 6month relationship.
@@PoeticJustic3I just walked away from a 8 month relationship. It’s been a month. Any update or tips for me?
This woman is just beautiful😩😍
Breeny Lee and Tony gaskins giving the best vibes for relationship advice these dayyyys 🔥 YAS BREEEENY
Literally every long term married, long term relationship long term friendship is work empathy and compassion and encouragement. If you can't do that stay away from people. At this point Breeny, TG, RC Blakes and any other male or female professional counsellor and therapist will tell you the same thing. Men and women need to stop camping for dysfunction. The bare minimum stops the dysfunction.
I literally just watched a couple of his videos last night.
YAASSS. MR TONY GASKINS IS EVERYTHING. BUT ALSO CHECK OUT 'KREW SEASON.' SRY, I DON'T KNOW WHY I'M WRITING IN CAPS LOOL
Don’t sleep on kev hicks he’s gives great advice too!
Right? I be hoppin back and forth between they videos 😂❤️
"You can't hear, you have to feel," my grandmother used to say this all of the time. Message received lol
This series has been amazing so far. I been dealing with this guy for 8 years up & down on & off.. I’ve gave him the benefit of the doubt for way too long! I admit i was content with his words but he wasn’t doing a got damn thing to change! I’m finally done with it. Ready for my self love journey to build myself back up ❤️. Thank you so much for this series! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
8 years.You deserve better!!
When he acts like he doesn't give a f***
He doesn't.
The WHOLE WORLD would change if women took this advice. These regular men would level up if women held their standards across the board. Also lol at “HE SAID,” so true!!!
I expect from guys and relationship to stay far away from me I don’t need anymore. Thank you Goodd
Same.
Same except now I'm only dating women from now on 😂
“A promise is a comfort to a fool”
Low standards = low results. Love it girl 🎀🌸🤍
Never let a man talk you into falling in love with him
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Actions over words. Actions prove all
Men are so spoiled these days...If we start to cut off their trashy behavior we will see their true intensions. I was texting multiple guys and one day I just tired to spend my time on empty texting with them. And I realized that no one wants to go out with me, lol.
Reminds me of the book called why men don't love women like you
@mz. white agreeing to meet somewhere and never actually doing it is the new normal on those apps, preach
These videos are everything right now and you’re truly hitting the nail on the head.
I’m currently in a relationship of nearly 3 years and I put my partner to the test with all of the points you made in the video. I made sure my standards were HIGH as I was tired of how I had been treated previously.
Nearly 3 years on and my partner still makes the odd joke about me making it so hard for him to pursue me in the beginning but although he found it hard that did not STOP him. He showed patience, understanding and he knew his actions was going to do the talking in the end. I didn’t have to chase, question or even wonder if he was into me, it all came naturally and before him I had never felt like that in a relationship before.
So now when I have girlfriends ask for advice about why their new guy is not doing the BASICS I tell them to let it go, it’s not worth it and he’s really not that into you.
Thanks for these videos Breeny you are really getting it spot on and I hope you are able to inspire some ladies out there because self love and value is very important
My dad taught me that a man shows you how he feels about you in how he treats you and that when his words and his actions match that’s truth. Then he tells you he wants to be with you, but is not investing in you, then that’s a lie.
You just look so good Bree. I love the hair and makeup.
I neeeeeeeddddded this video omg. I need to stop making excuses for these dudes. I’m doneee. I was supposed to see a guy I’ve been knowing for years on Saturday but he’s hella inconsistent and EFF that. I’m done. STANDARD RAISED. If you’re not consistent then I’m out. I’m too old for that ish.
Edit: my big problem is I feel bad when I say no and I gotta stop doing that. I need to learn to be selfish.
i feel you
“If you don’t hear you must feel” real talk
I know this ain’t a “religious” topic but this goes very well to what Jesus said in Matthew Chapter 5 “But I tell you, do not swear an oath at all: either by heaven, for it is God’s throne; or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the Great King. And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.”
So all in all don’t make promises you can’t keep. Actions speak louder than words. Prove it with your actions. Thanks Breeny for another amazing video. I barely comment but wanted to give my two cents from a spiritual perspective. 💗
Yass Breeny is back with another banger!! So true you teach men how to treat you. It’s important to have standards and to never be afraid to walk away when a man can’t give you the standard you deserve
Wish I could have seen this a year ago or more. My ex gave me constant attention when we started dating, but after a few months, he would almost never text or call me because he was too busy
I love the series....they are helping me heal after I ended my 8month relationship
Your advice is always on time! Current situationship that I’m walking away from. He started doing the slow fade, so I fell off the face of the earth ✌🏾. Thank you so much for your content! ❤️❤️
Same here✌🏿✌🏿
I love how you’re using “you” so the message can really get deep into our heads 😭😂🧡
Who else loves these series? Thumbs up
oyin you are soo beautiful
@@milaezar thank you babe
One time my ex told me he wants to get married just to get me back. Couple months down the road l brought up marriage and he literally said " you actually believed that???"
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Girllllll
They be selling dreams. Thats why actions over words and "potential" you have to look what they are giving NOW not imagining how they could be
Damn I RLY needed this today I was starting to beg and this video slapped me in the face
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I love you so much so much. You helped me a lot after going through a breakup last year. I felt like nothing and now I have learned to know my worth because of you. Bare minimum is not enough.
❤️❤️❤️ Thank you so much❤️❤️❤️
My new guy has been super consistent. He says he'll do it, and then he does. He compliments and praises me all the time, and I still give him this look 👀😒
No one gets 100% of me anymore. I trust no one.
Watch for red flags and love bombing. I give guys 12-16 weeks to slip up when they do run. My former husband slipped up within that time frame but I was 26 and spent all my time studying my degree instead of studying people and relationships so I didn't know his behaviour was abnormal. I also have my own dysfunction as diagnosed with BPD. now I don't give myself a free pass to f up my life so why would I give a man a free pass. I'm 40 next week. Relationships crash and burn on all the same things and it is not a man thing or a woman thing it's a people thing. One thing men are super loyal to is their bag. Even if they waste it all on themselves they going to build bridges to get that schmoneee!
@@marleyhill34 "my former husband..." 😂😂😂😂 ladies, failure shouldn't give advice, it should seek wise counsel.
@@banksy6462 it’s not a failure it’s a lesson. She clearly experienced a narcissist and is giving wise advice! Be quiet
@@banksy6462 you are weird. Ending a situation that was no longer benefiting you is not failing.
@@Myaccount923 Do you know Marley Hill personally? At what point did she claim her ex husband to be a narcissist?
I was dating someone in 2019-2020. I have so happy and content. Life was making sense to me. My career was doing well and my love life was amazing. Haaaa he wke up one day and broke up with me. I wen through some mental break down and m still recovering after 1year. I have learned that he is living his best life and enjoying his summer with another lady. The pain is killing me. I feel like a failure. It’s breaking me all over again. I have prayed, fasted….. nothing is working. M miserable. Why do I have to keep hurting myself over a dude who doesn’t give a fuck about me. Y m I so naive to give him my heart from the start. Lord heal me. I am going crazy. The pain is a lot to carry. I am tired. I want this nightmare to end. Please pray for me. M just a girl who wanted to be loved and me appreciated.
Gotta fast to bind up that soul tie. Soul ties crush your spirit and soul
I dont know why UA-cam always forces these videos in 480p but even STILL you're looking HD flawless, changed the settings and wow! Breeny you are looking GOOOOD!! and your messages ARE JUST mwah! Great content everytime.
This hair style is absolutely PERFECT for your face shape Breeny, cheekbones on fleek! Message on 💯!
“Too satisfied with an answer “ -BL 👏🏽👏🏽🥰
Thank You breeny for this series. You motivated me to create my own channel. Thank you very much❤️
Breeny you look absolutely amazing here 😍 and everything you’re saying is so true. Pleaseee never stop encouraging women to never settle. It’s needed.
I have been guilty of the offenses Breeny has listed out. I'm sick of the constant self destructive behaviour that ALWAYS (WITHOUT FAIL) end up badly for me. I need to step my game up. I KNOW better
Amen ! I felt this 😘
BREEENYYYYY I needed this. No more benefit of the doubt spirit!
I love these “LOW EFFORT, BARE MINIMUM GUY(S)”....
“A PROMISE IS COMFORT TO A FOOL”..
“LOW STANDARDS PRODUCE LOW RESULTS”
thumbs up to you, very well defined 👍👍❤️💕
You’ve made me feel so much better about leaving my situation-ship
I feel sorry for us too Breeny! Many of us haven’t had good relationship role models & we’re suffering for it. We need to stop begging men to love us & learn to walk away when our standards are expected to be lowered.
every time you say something that resonates, I wanna press the like button. done pressed bout 15 times.
This video called me out and I NEEDED to hear it. Thank you, as always
Yea ladies. This is the best advise ever.
In your relationship. Never concede. Never compromise. Never take a little today to get more later. Never adjust your hard lines. It must be your way or the highway. Never allow your man to have agency over his decisions. Never tolerate him addressing his own priorities. It just entirely be yours. Never allow him have the audacity to actually want something out of the relationship that isn’t exclusively for your benefit. Oh and then when you are tired of that all., come on UA-cam screaming and shouting and advising other women to be just as hurt and broken as you are.
I decided to leave things with a guy who wouldn’t even message back after reading mine. Needed to head this Breeny. I know I made the right decision!!!!! x
I ended my tumultuous three year relationship exactly one month ago. Last time I spoke to them was three weeks ago. Although things ended cordially this video has really sparked something in me to finally make the decision to block them out of my life. I’ve just blocked their number.
I never need to hear from this person or communicate with them ever again. I was the girl that begged for them to stay many times in the relationship when the fight over how they were being shady etc. all of a sudden flipped onto me. Just like it was my fault. I was the girl that convinced/begged them to stay early on when they literally told me that they shouldn’t be in a relationship. It’s a bit fuzzy now but it was to the effect of them being immature or not ready. I made a lot of bad decisions. Am I’m still trying to make out why I allowed myself to be treated poorly for the length of time that I did. It’s just confusing when things are generally okay and you’re happy but they’re acting up and doing foul shit on the side. I can’t believe I’m sharing all this. Sending love to everyone and myself. I know I will be okay. For so long I felt TRAPPED. And now sometimes I’m lonely because I have no one to talk to. Not one friend. But I’m going to be okay. The dream is flourishing. Sorry if this is super long, I genuinely felt compelled to comment.
Girl I can relate so much. I broke off a 2 year and a half relationship a bit over 2 months now. We ended relatively okay, but I realized how much I tolerated the bare minimum he was giving me while I was like letting him LIVE with me for FREE for almost a whole year. He never thanked me for that. It's mind-blowing, because I thought he wasn't that kind of person when I started dating him. Maybe he got too confortable. At least now I know never to do that again. I've been more alone like you, not really close to any friends. It's hard but at least I enjoy my own company now. Anything is better than being in that hellhole of a relationship 🤣😭
hope you’re doing better now queen. this resonated with me heavy
@@Casxa LOL you better than me. You not finna live off of me as a man. If you cannot provide, you are not a man. Bare minimum is halvsies. I am so glad you left that loser.
you’ve been preaching sisss 😭 so glad that you’re back ❤️
Yesss!!! Men will keep taking advantage of you.... For as long as YOU let them. See and believe their actions for what they are. There are no buts or what ifs. Take that information as it is. And if it doesn't align with his words, keep it moving.
I lost it at the "he saaaaaaid" oh Lord ahahahahahahh
What happens when your married to a person like this...like I don’t even know what to do at this point😩
When you attempt to “nice” people into being nice, you have crossed the line from kindness to enabling-from helpful to harmful. Enabling is not loving. Trust people to be who they are and you will be less likely to be blindsided and disappointed. Some people are committed only to their own arrogance and deception. Being firm, fair and consistent with boundaries can help everyone around you to grow up. We cannot apply 'normal' standards/expectations/requirements to the 'abnormal'. Great video, Breeny and toasting Tony Gaskins.
I’m loving this revenge series Breeny!!!!!❤️
I love how her videos literally speak to me directly as if she’s coming for me personally😅 I definitely love her videos and have learned so much
"Your standards are in the ghetto!" 🤣🤣🤣 I'm going to be saying that for the rest of my life!
You are fantastic girl!! Favorite vid of this series so far! SPOT ON!!! I told my ex that he was consistently inconsistent and he said yes, I know but I’m just busy…as Tony would say, Bockt!!! I am so empowered with this video and will watch again and again b/c “you saiddddddddddddd” lol Breeny! You are so real! Love it and you!
These are really helping my as I broke up with my boyfriend this week. There were quite a few things, but the final straw was his reply to me saying I love him. He said I know you do 🙄😂 but then said he doesn't believe in love, which is rubbish as he told me he loved his ex. He couldn't understand why I was upset smh
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1. Look for the consistencies 👏🏾
2. Guilty until proven innocent 👏🏾👏🏾
Breeny is saying that men TELL us the red flags and we STILL give them benefit of the doubt 🥴
Okay brenny posted this 58 seconds ago I haven’t watched but I know she has dropped a bomb. I love you sis. Totally my favorite UA-camr.
Had to watch it twice to let everything sink in! Love this series 😍😍
Nice! Yesterday’s video hit me hard - it’s totally true. You are a marvel, and your videos are a gem. Thank you got this! My standards are way higher now. You’re right - why shouldn’t us women expect effort? It’s natural that if you like someone you seek contact with them every day, as much as possible. Same with everything else.
A bonus of nipping things in the bud quickly - men in the area will realise that you aren’t easy picking - the flaky one will back off, and the real men will show up, and treat you right.
I bet word gets around fast - they’d know what mistakes not to make.
Thank you for this video! So many of us need to hear this.
I needed this, you basically saved me from myself.
My new standard is I’m not about to date a man with a baby mom or kid, no stability, and isn’t trying to heal himself… learned my lesson too hard
Yes, getting all this knowledge. Tony Gaskin is another favorite. Watch him religiously.
This is a really good video 👏🏾 honestly!! I just love how Breeny is honest and sets standards and it’s so inspiring. My new standard is effort. He has to call , take me on a date , respect me , be God fearing and genuine and faithful. I WILL NOT settle for less .
I’m so happy and grateful to be listening to your videos while I’m going through my journey of being single. Your videos are helping me grow and realize where I been screwing up at. Wish I seen these videos long ago ❤️
A promise is a comfort to a fool🤜🤛🙌
Wait, are we all gonna sit there and ignore how cute and glowing Bree is?😍🔥
BREENY!! WE NEED UPDATE MAKE UP TUTORIAL!😩😩😍😍❤️❤️❤️
Breeney Lee you are preaching up in here and i am forever thankful for the knowledge you give us
Mid video I went and texted this guy that I have been seeing but he hasn’t been consistent I told him and gave him a piece of my mind so whatever he does doesn’t matter any more I feel empowered thank you girl and I have watched the whole series where have you been my whole life
I'm definitely loving this series💯. The guidance you're offering is some real lifetime instructions. I love it Sis Breeny❤
Lol Breeny, am I the only one who literally asks herself how many times he said you're the most beautiful woman on earth on the exact same day and just laugh it out! You are rockin' these series. ❤ Well done!
" I want you be a part of my life"
Yet you don't text me, you don't check on my well being, you ignore my memes, and you remind me why you can't spend time with me?
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Girl wake up and dont even look for his attention. For the bare minium plz
@@cauha12 Girl I hear you
PREACH SIS PREACH!!!!! Love It!!! "Ghetto-Low Standards = Ghetto-Low Results! Ladies.....DON'T LOWER YOUR STANDARDS!!!! Thanks Sis for this video! I'm a new subbie YAY!!!
Can’t wait to take notes
This series is spot on. Thank you Breeny❤️❤️!!
A promise is a comfort to a fool 😢
How true! I have been a fool all along. Time to wake up and care for myself ❤
Women stay bc we don’t want to accept the bitter truth that he’s just not into you *anymore*.
It’s a very bitter pill to swallow when you still freshly remember the flattery and the thrill of the chase. It’s a blow to the ego, you can’t blame yourself for trying to avoid it. The quicker you accept and grieve this, the quicker you can dump him in the dust.
You're so gorgeous Breeny
Sending love from Jamaica 🇯🇲 💕
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breeny I feel like you’re literally in my head and my situationship .. dayum.
I CANT WAIT TO watch this whole before bed
These are past lessons I should have learnt years ago 💖💖💖