Superbly informative. I need to train myself to stop giving her the power. Hopefully it works with this very young 24 year old girl. I'm hoping to have her with me for the family Christmas stuff.
The only real way to have a strong frame is to either 1. Have complete control over everything at all times (this is impossible) or 2. Not care about anything.
I offer a third way, respectfully: To know what you stand for and believe in, and to be flexible in the give-and-take of relationships, communication, and life, but WITHOUT compromising/violating principles and core beliefs. And to be understanding of where others are coming from, but WITHOUT getting sucked into their mindset and frame. If your foundation is strong, you won't be blown to and fro by every wind that blows your way. Don't confuse having control over everything with being strong. But you can't be strong without having control of YOURSELF. But it's simply not true that the world divides into 1) those who are not strong in frame but care and 2) those who are strong in frame but don't care. But you want to know what's really challenging, what takes time and development and maturity and growth, and daily dedication to it? To both be caring and still in control of yourself, to know where you won't allow a line to be crossed. To be meek - a perhaps misunderstood term which really means to have and contain strength with kindness. This is what Jesus taught, and He is the foundation of my life. People who can bowl-over anybody and scorch the earth and are loud and pushy aren't strong. And those who care but don't know what they stand for and let others push them around aren't strong. The truth, as it often does, lies somewhere between two extremes. Peace and love.
Younger women love older men as especially if you're in shape and fairly handsome. They see the value in your long term genetics and inherently assume you have wisdom and the ability to lead her with your experience. Typically they also feel safer with a more mature man who doesn't carry himself like a fool which is how most young guys behave around them.
Bobby your the best dating coach outhier,for us Old School Guys that been around the block,your like medicine to us when it comes to dating younger women,thank you for your info,my respects
OH MY GOSH, THIS WAS RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME THE WHOLE TIME!!! I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW BLIND I WAS! YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I APPRECIATE AND THANKFUL I AM FOR THIS VIDEO!!! WHAT WAS I THINKING?!?! HAHA! I’M GETTING ALL WORKED UP OVER SOME YOUNG WOMAN WHO CHOSE A YOUNG GUY ASPIRING TO BE A MANAGER AT A FURNITURE STORE MAKING HER THINK HE IS GOING TO BE RICH! I ALMOST FELL INTO THAT SAME TRAP AGAIN!😂😂😂😂
My dad, uncles, and grandpas were never 40 or 50 year old men with 20 year old girlfriends. I had a friend in high school who's dad owned a logging company and was very rich, but his wife divorced him and he brought a prostitute to our graduation. Bobby's personality reminds me of his
I flirted with my coworker for a few months and I held the frame pretty well and escalated with touches and everything was good. She pulled away few times and I pulled away too and waited her to contact me first. One night we were on call and she said to me you are naughty and I said thanks I like when girl says me that. Week ago I pulled that as a callback in text like "I roll in my mind how you said to me that I am naughty. That was brave 😂" and she answered with "?" and I said ok you probably forgot nvm. Two day ago my coworker friends came to me and told me that she has reported me to my boss who passed it to HR. Now I am waiting for their response... So guys you can never know what is going to happen but I will not get angry on that and stay positive indifferent but I am highly affected 😅
@Jeff-qr9cg I think main problem in social circles is when other guys and girls see that you have success with some woman they start to gossip and turn against you and make her to change her mind.
Work is always a tricky place. Better avoid it. Stay away from texting as much as possible in the early phases. Should not have recalled her comment, it gave it importance. She should be the one thinking about your response not the other way around. Finally, all women have their own agendas. Find it out asap as soon as you get into the interaction. Learn for the next one.
"You roll on your mind how you said to me I was naughty?" You lost her bc you blew with that text. You should have closed the deal when she said it then not wait and text that bullshit. What is this how I met your mother? Is this story going to go 9 seasons before you actually make a move?
Pretty much act like you don’t care too much about them and your business is the main priority. Once you make them the main priority she’ll lose interest.
I am 50 and my girl just turned 22. She is crazy over me but she is not the only one. No cap. A lot women over 30 hit on me too as if they have a chance. I reject every one of them. No cap.
Aeswom video, thank you for the info. I would like your thoughts on something. It seems the only way to reach all these behaviors is to subscribe to constant personal growth and chase ones dreams and accept that a man must inevitably be happy alone, 0 dependence on a woman.
thanks for watching. I get why it might feel that way-it can seem like a lot at first. But this isn’t about pretending or playing a convoluted game. It’s about becoming the kind of man who naturally attracts what he wants, without chasing or relying on others for validation. When you focus on your own growth, happiness, and independence, you’re not just “acting” like you don’t care-you genuinely don’t need anyone else to complete you. That’s what women are drawn to: a man who’s already fulfilled, and whose life they want to be a part of. It’s not a facade; it’s a shift in mindset. You’re not trying to manipulate her into giving you something-you’re inviting her into a reality you’ve built, a reality that’s already complete. Yes, it takes effort. But the alternative-being dependent, chasing, and losing your sense of self-is far more exhausting. This isn’t about learning how to win her-it’s about learning how to stop losing yourself
Bobby, I run a couple of Domestic Discipline communities. In the last couple of years, there's been a noticeable increase in the number of women who are willing to try a Domestic Discipline relationship. I would love for you to make a video, giving your thoughts as to why this is. My personal thought is that at least half of the women out there would accept this kind of discipline from a guy if she liked the guy enough. But again...your thoughts on this would be appreciated. DD used to be something contained to Christian circles. Now its getting into the mainstream of relationships
The only objection I have to this video is that I have personally seen mentor game work like a charm numerous times. I dont do the mentor thing myself, but Ive seen guys do it. Yeah lots of guys fail with it. But I've seen it create incredible attraction too. Its the whole take charge thing
YES.... it can work. The issue is that too many guys go in with the 'mentor' role... without ever flirting or attempting to create any sort of vibe until its too late. If you've already established flirtation and a more intimate vibe, being a mentor is great. If you lead with being a mentor, and hide your sexual interest for months, and then try to change the nature of the relationship, it will be tough.
This is way too complicated. You're trying to make a man act like he doesn't care in order to get the things he's acting like he's not supposed to are about. This crazy convoluted game of having to maintain this facade with a female creature who's dangling her emotional resources in front of you is so stupid. All they have to offer is sex. That's it.
its about staying emotionally autonomous, this means ALL AREAS, not just with women. You know how many people I know who let a tweet ruin their whole morning? The idea is not to let other people dicate your emotions.
I think that all of this advice could and should be applied by a 20 year old man. Or a woman. Attractive behaviour is - in general - age neutral and gender neutral.
all of this behavior works for any age man, very true. the difference is. you can be a 20 year old guy who doesn't have his shit together, is immature, and still wind doing ok with women, because of the social realm you're in. But if you're a 40 year old guy, you can't get away with what a 20 year old guy can. That said, a 20 year old will do 10x better if he appliies this too. for a 40+ year old, its mandatory.
The lone wolves keep falling into the trap. There's millions of traps made for catching the lone wolf. Lots of them are sitting, just waiting for women and men to buy second hand, going all rusty. Being a lone wolf, I get nervous when I walk passed them. (I don't care if I've spelt past correctly or not) I think I should buy everyone I see. So take THAT! BAM!
The paradox for the guys who watch these videos. If your watching it means you want. When she sees and knows you "want". Your cooked. You lose. No woman wants to be with a guy who "wants". She want to be with a guy who Has what he wants already.
There's another form of riding that I prefer. And my happiness / contentment is self generated. I'm happy when I'm in a relationship. Happy when I'm not.
'be yourself' is shitty advice, because when someone says ' be yourself' most guys wind up being the version of themself society programmed them to be. mr. nice guy. I get the idea of 'be yourself'- and its true. except that most guys use 'be yourself' as an excuse to be lazy and follow bad advice like 'just tell her how you feel'
The squeeze is easy and its fun. It's as enjoyable to go out and interact with women / a woman as it is to stay at home, watching TV or youtube or whatever. There's nothing difficult in speaking and behaving as Bobby advises in this and other videos.
I have to say. There are literally 100s of youtube sites supposedly to help men. You actually make sense to me.
glad the videos resonate. thanks for watching!
"When you walk into a restaurant you don't ask the hostess"
"Is it ok to be here?"
That's all ya gotta know...
Yeah, "can I sit there on that hard wooden chair 💺 and hand over a small fortune?"
You have to know your value. Most men don't know their own value because they're constantly rejected.
Constantly rejected - usually - because they don't follow the great advice that Bobby Rio gives.
Pure gold. Many thnx 4 sharing!
All great points, keep on rocking great content!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Great advice. Great explanation. Another really well done video.
*Younger women are drawn to this because it exudes security and reliability - traits they may not find in younger guys.*
Superbly informative. I need to train myself to stop giving her the power. Hopefully it works with this very young 24 year old girl. I'm hoping to have her with me for the family Christmas stuff.
Good luck
glad you found it helpful, and make it happen!
Don't involve her in family stuff too early. It could scare her off going serious too early. Only do it on her initiative and if she really wants it.
The only real way to have a strong frame is to either 1. Have complete control over everything at all times (this is impossible) or 2. Not care about anything.
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Please stay strong friend
I offer a third way, respectfully: To know what you stand for and believe in, and to be flexible in the give-and-take of relationships, communication, and life, but WITHOUT compromising/violating principles and core beliefs. And to be understanding of where others are coming from, but WITHOUT getting sucked into their mindset and frame. If your foundation is strong, you won't be blown to and fro by every wind that blows your way. Don't confuse having control over everything with being strong. But you can't be strong without having control of YOURSELF. But it's simply not true that the world divides into 1) those who are not strong in frame but care and 2) those who are strong in frame but don't care. But you want to know what's really challenging, what takes time and development and maturity and growth, and daily dedication to it? To both be caring and still in control of yourself, to know where you won't allow a line to be crossed. To be meek - a perhaps misunderstood term which really means to have and contain strength with kindness. This is what Jesus taught, and He is the foundation of my life. People who can bowl-over anybody and scorch the earth and are loud and pushy aren't strong. And those who care but don't know what they stand for and let others push them around aren't strong. The truth, as it often does, lies somewhere between two extremes. Peace and love.
A blend of the two is probably the most healthy path.
Younger women love older men as especially if you're in shape and fairly handsome. They see the value in your long term genetics and inherently assume you have wisdom and the ability to lead her with your experience. Typically they also feel safer with a more mature man who doesn't carry himself like a fool which is how most young guys behave around them.
Bobby your the best dating coach outhier,for us Old School Guys that been around the block,your like medicine to us when it comes to dating younger women,thank you for your info,my respects
glad you're finding the videos helpful, thanks for watching
Very well done - very helpful!
Glad you found it helpful!
thank you for a lot of usefull and precious info :))❤
Glad it was helpful!
Love this! Been working on my inner game and it's crazy how much more confident I feel! #Habit10x
OH MY GOSH, THIS WAS RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME THE WHOLE TIME!!! I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW BLIND I WAS! YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I APPRECIATE AND THANKFUL I AM FOR THIS VIDEO!!! WHAT WAS I THINKING?!?! HAHA! I’M GETTING ALL WORKED UP OVER SOME YOUNG WOMAN WHO CHOSE A YOUNG GUY ASPIRING TO BE A MANAGER AT A FURNITURE STORE MAKING HER THINK HE IS GOING TO BE RICH! I ALMOST FELL INTO THAT SAME TRAP AGAIN!😂😂😂😂
I'm glad you found it helpful! Happy to hear you avoided the trap.
You don't need to YELL!!
This text alone suggests you’re too emotionally invested
My dad, uncles, and grandpas were never 40 or 50 year old men with 20 year old girlfriends. I had a friend in high school who's dad owned a logging company and was very rich, but his wife divorced him and he brought a prostitute to our graduation. Bobby's personality reminds me of his
Textbook advises...💯
Nice
I'm glad you liked it!
I flirted with my coworker for a few months and I held the frame pretty well and escalated with touches and everything was good. She pulled away few times and I pulled away too and waited her to contact me first. One night we were on call and she said to me you are naughty and I said thanks I like when girl says me that. Week ago I pulled that as a callback in text like "I roll in my mind how you said to me that I am naughty. That was brave 😂" and she answered with "?" and I said ok you probably forgot nvm. Two day ago my coworker friends came to me and told me that she has reported me to my boss who passed it to HR. Now I am waiting for their response... So guys you can never know what is going to happen but I will not get angry on that and stay positive indifferent but I am highly affected 😅
I have always stayed away from pursuing coworkers. It's tricky and can get messy as you now know. Good luck with getting through this unscathed!
@Jeff-qr9cg I think main problem in social circles is when other guys and girls see that you have success with some woman they start to gossip and turn against you and make her to change her mind.
Work is always a tricky place. Better avoid it. Stay away from texting as much as possible in the early phases. Should not have recalled her comment, it gave it importance. She should be the one thinking about your response not the other way around. Finally, all women have their own agendas. Find it out asap as soon as you get into the interaction. Learn for the next one.
@@detresge You mean on her "?" or this one on our call?
"You roll on your mind how you said to me I was naughty?" You lost her bc you blew with that text. You should have closed the deal when she said it then not wait and text that bullshit. What is this how I met your mother? Is this story going to go 9 seasons before you actually make a move?
Pretty much act like you don’t care too much about them and your business is the main priority. Once you make them the main priority she’ll lose interest.
I am 50 and my girl just turned 22. She is crazy over me but she is not the only one. No cap.
A lot women over 30 hit on me too as if they have a chance. I reject every one of them. No cap.
Gold. Pure gold, Bobby. Thank you!
I'm happy it was helpful!
Aeswom video, thank you for the info.
I would like your thoughts on something. It seems the only way to reach all these behaviors is to subscribe to constant personal growth and chase ones dreams and accept that a man must inevitably be happy alone, 0 dependence on a woman.
thanks for watching. I get why it might feel that way-it can seem like a lot at first. But this isn’t about pretending or playing a convoluted game. It’s about becoming the kind of man who naturally attracts what he wants, without chasing or relying on others for validation.
When you focus on your own growth, happiness, and independence, you’re not just “acting” like you don’t care-you genuinely don’t need anyone else to complete you. That’s what women are drawn to: a man who’s already fulfilled, and whose life they want to be a part of.
It’s not a facade; it’s a shift in mindset. You’re not trying to manipulate her into giving you something-you’re inviting her into a reality you’ve built, a reality that’s already complete.
Yes, it takes effort. But the alternative-being dependent, chasing, and losing your sense of self-is far more exhausting.
This isn’t about learning how to win her-it’s about learning how to stop losing yourself
Bobby, I run a couple of Domestic Discipline communities. In the last couple of years, there's been a noticeable increase in the number of women who are willing to try a Domestic Discipline relationship. I would love for you to make a video, giving your thoughts as to why this is. My personal thought is that at least half of the women out there would accept this kind of discipline from a guy if she liked the guy enough. But again...your thoughts on this would be appreciated. DD used to be something contained to Christian circles. Now its getting into the mainstream of relationships
How do you get your married ex back
Ill put your whole video in one sentence.
Be genuine, take care of yourself and dont take things to seriously.
Fantastic content. Great work.
I'm happy you found it helpful!
The only objection I have to this video is that I have personally seen mentor game work like a charm numerous times. I dont do the mentor thing myself, but Ive seen guys do it. Yeah lots of guys fail with it. But I've seen it create incredible attraction too. Its the whole take charge thing
YES.... it can work. The issue is that too many guys go in with the 'mentor' role... without ever flirting or attempting to create any sort of vibe until its too late. If you've already established flirtation and a more intimate vibe, being a mentor is great. If you lead with being a mentor, and hide your sexual interest for months, and then try to change the nature of the relationship, it will be tough.
@BobbyRio ur absolutely right. My bad. Btw do you accept content suggestions?
yes love recommendations for future videos, it helps provide me ideas of what guys want to know
This is way too complicated. You're trying to make a man act like he doesn't care in order to get the things he's acting like he's not supposed to are about. This crazy convoluted game of having to maintain this facade with a female creature who's dangling her emotional resources in front of you is so stupid. All they have to offer is sex. That's it.
its about staying emotionally autonomous, this means ALL AREAS, not just with women. You know how many people I know who let a tweet ruin their whole morning? The idea is not to let other people dicate your emotions.
@@BobbyRiofacts
I agree. Though everything said in this video is true, it's too much of a hassle needing to always keep your behavior in check.
how to stop being looked beta trough woman even if you don't give gifts etc ... they just lose interest very fast
I think that all of this advice could and should be applied by a 20 year old man. Or a woman.
Attractive behaviour is - in general - age neutral and gender neutral.
all of this behavior works for any age man, very true. the difference is. you can be a 20 year old guy who doesn't have his shit together, is immature, and still wind doing ok with women, because of the social realm you're in. But if you're a 40 year old guy, you can't get away with what a 20 year old guy can. That said, a 20 year old will do 10x better if he appliies this too. for a 40+ year old, its mandatory.
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The lone wolves keep falling into the trap.
There's millions of traps made for catching the lone wolf.
Lots of them are sitting, just waiting for women and men to buy second hand, going all rusty.
Being a lone wolf, I get nervous when I walk passed them. (I don't care if I've spelt past correctly or not)
I think I should buy everyone I see.
So take THAT! BAM!
What?
The paradox for the guys who watch these videos. If your watching it means you want. When she sees and knows you "want". Your cooked. You lose. No woman wants to be with a guy who "wants". She want to be with a guy who Has what he wants already.
This
Learning and understanding is a good thing.
You WANT to improve, so then you learn new things, and handle situations better the next time. That is how improvement works in all areas of life.
F all this shit..!!! Buy a FCKING motorcycle ride and be happy....
There's another form of riding that I prefer.
And my happiness / contentment is self generated. I'm happy when I'm in a relationship. Happy when I'm not.
NO……older woman bring more baggage and problems than a younger one
This is beta material once they start bringing up other men move on. Be yourself
'be yourself' is shitty advice, because when someone says ' be yourself' most guys wind up being the version of themself society programmed them to be. mr. nice guy. I get the idea of 'be yourself'- and its true. except that most guys use 'be yourself' as an excuse to be lazy and follow bad advice like 'just tell her how you feel'
what I get for most of these videos and their approach is that the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. Stop kowtowing to women. It’s embarrassing.
The squeeze is easy and its fun. It's as enjoyable to go out and interact with women / a woman as it is to stay at home, watching TV or youtube or whatever.
There's nothing difficult in speaking and behaving as Bobby advises in this and other videos.