Women look for confidence and competence. Guesses using too little information shows the opposite of competence. He’s dating not raping and hasn’t said where he lives.
"Think of a seasoned ship captain during a storm". This cuts to the core of it all, in one sentence you distilled all there is to it. The more phylosophical question is whether we care to always sail in storm as we age. My current answer is fair weather or none at all.
Your point re establishing a flirty dynamic early on and keeping it going is *KEY* to avoid getting friendzoned. You are also 100% correct about avoiding a mentorship role in her life. I learned these lessons the hard way, unfortunately. Guys, listen to his advice. He knows WTF he’s talking about.
Bobby Rio is telling the "TRUTH", listen to Bobby Rio. For the 💯 % advice that Bobby is giving, men need to pay attention and watch his videos. I am The Midnight Cowboy, and I approve this message...🤠👍🏻
Gotta be yourself, and let it stand or fall, but be good with that and move on. The minute you are trying to "play" something you are not naturally, the "good ones" will know, because they are looking for it. The vid brings to light many great traits, for sure, but for many of them, you have them or you don't, playing them will result in fails more than anything. Be yourself, you will find the best for YOU. Use what the vid gives you to be aware.
Bobby your the best dating coach outhier,for us Old School Guys that been around the block,your like medicine to us when it comes to dating younger women,thank you for your info,my respects
Jesus what a headache. Interpersonal relationships with women are utterly exhausting. Everything is a god damn quiz, like I haven’t taken enough of those
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain dear one, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
I’m 64. Figure out if you really need someone else to complete yourself or be “happy”. I enjoy doing different things with different women depending on my mood and never lack female company when I desire it. Don’t look to someone else to complete yourself. Find it within yourself and you won’t need any coaching….
I'm 70. I figured out I didn't need a woman about 30 years ago. No dates since then. It makes it simple when talking to a woman, knowing nothing will come of it.
Superbly informative. I need to train myself to stop giving her the power. Hopefully it works with this very young 24 year old girl. I'm hoping to have her with me for the family Christmas stuff.
I have a friend who’ll be 74 this month. He lost his wife in 2021. Several months later he started talking to young (20s) women as they worked. Not in a pick-up way. He is just friendly. But he does throw in a flirty line when an opening presents itself. After a number of friendly encounters he asks if he could take out for dinner or a ball game. Then back to his place. Okay, it helps that he looks 60… He has banged about half dozen 20 year olds and two in their 30s. One of the 30s moved out of town, but she set him up with a horny friend of hers….the other 30. Of course, he doesn’t plan on marrying any. He assumes they’ll find someone younger. Maybe that’s what gives him power.
The only real way to have a strong frame is to either 1. Have complete control over everything at all times (this is impossible) or 2. Not care about anything.
I offer a third way, respectfully: To know what you stand for and believe in, and to be flexible in the give-and-take of relationships, communication, and life, but WITHOUT compromising/violating principles and core beliefs. And to be understanding of where others are coming from, but WITHOUT getting sucked into their mindset and frame. If your foundation is strong, you won't be blown to and fro by every wind that blows your way. Don't confuse having control over everything with being strong. But you can't be strong without having control of YOURSELF. But it's simply not true that the world divides into 1) those who are not strong in frame but care and 2) those who are strong in frame but don't care. But you want to know what's really challenging, what takes time and development and maturity and growth, and daily dedication to it? To both be caring and still in control of yourself, to know where you won't allow a line to be crossed. To be meek - a perhaps misunderstood term which really means to have and contain strength with kindness. This is what Jesus taught, and He is the foundation of my life. People who can bowl-over anybody and scorch the earth and are loud and pushy aren't strong. And those who care but don't know what they stand for and let others push them around aren't strong. The truth, as it often does, lies somewhere between two extremes. Peace and love.
This is all good advice but the real core of the issue is self esteem. Good self esteem you do these thing’s naturally, you can not fake it by following rules or formulas. Energy psychology can change the subconscious programming that determines your self esteem. Some examples are Psych-K, NLP, EFT Tapping, hypno therapy and many more. The one I have found most effective is the Landmark Forum.
I've always taught that I'm more mature than the other guys (I've read a lot, been at a lot of places, etc) but since I've started to follow these rules I've just realized how wrong I was. Great life advices not just for dating, thank you!
Though insecurity and competition anxiety aka she’s to satisfy her hypergamy - once you commit to her and focus on her - She will replace you - hypergamy isn’t satisfied
Younger women love older men as especially if you're in shape and fairly handsome. They see the value in your long term genetics and inherently assume you have wisdom and the ability to lead her with your experience. Typically they also feel safer with a more mature man who doesn't carry himself like a fool which is how most young guys behave around them.
Facts. If you’re established and confident it’s very grounding for a young girl and makes them feel very safe and comfortable. Ofc you need to pay attn to her needs and emotions
Spot on. I’m an older guy (early 30s) who looks much younger (mid 20s) but consider myself the type of man who aims to improve myself, both physically and in maturity every year. The ladies- young ladies in 20s specifically are loving it more than ever. I wish I’d had this since I was younger but- better late than never!
Bobby, I run a couple of Domestic Discipline communities. In the last couple of years, there's been a noticeable increase in the number of women who are willing to try a Domestic Discipline relationship. I would love for you to make a video, giving your thoughts as to why this is. My personal thought is that at least half of the women out there would accept this kind of discipline from a guy if she liked the guy enough. But again...your thoughts on this would be appreciated. DD used to be something contained to Christian circles. Now its getting into the mainstream of relationships
A quick question to a specific situation. In a group that girl comes who i was flirting with the past week, and i begin nudging her and says to me please im not in the mood at all today. But starts speaking and laughing with the other colleges. I understood she was testing me to make me feel sorry or bad but is it still a test so much so she starts in front of me gaslighting full throttle? Probably yeah ?
Great content Bobby! I read a funny book few years ago called "shit my dad says" and one quote dad said reminded me of some of your tips - "That woman was sexy........ Out of your league?" "Son, let women figure out why they won't screw you. Don't do it for them." 😀
hey, curious what book you think I've read. I've read them all over the years, none recently. But curious what book this reminds you? Deida? It took me years to fully grasp what Deida was saying, but once I did, it changd everything for me.
I flirted with my coworker for a few months and I held the frame pretty well and escalated with touches and everything was good. She pulled away few times and I pulled away too and waited her to contact me first. One night we were on call and she said to me you are naughty and I said thanks I like when girl says me that. Week ago I pulled that as a callback in text like "I roll in my mind how you said to me that I am naughty. That was brave 😂" and she answered with "?" and I said ok you probably forgot nvm. Two day ago my coworker friends came to me and told me that she has reported me to my boss who passed it to HR. Now I am waiting for their response... So guys you can never know what is going to happen but I will not get angry on that and stay positive indifferent but I am highly affected 😅
@Jeff-qr9cg I think main problem in social circles is when other guys and girls see that you have success with some woman they start to gossip and turn against you and make her to change her mind.
Work is always a tricky place. Better avoid it. Stay away from texting as much as possible in the early phases. Should not have recalled her comment, it gave it importance. She should be the one thinking about your response not the other way around. Finally, all women have their own agendas. Find it out asap as soon as you get into the interaction. Learn for the next one.
"You roll on your mind how you said to me I was naughty?" You lost her bc you blew with that text. You should have closed the deal when she said it then not wait and text that bullshit. What is this how I met your mother? Is this story going to go 9 seasons before you actually make a move?
The only objection I have to this video is that I have personally seen mentor game work like a charm numerous times. I dont do the mentor thing myself, but Ive seen guys do it. Yeah lots of guys fail with it. But I've seen it create incredible attraction too. Its the whole take charge thing
YES.... it can work. The issue is that too many guys go in with the 'mentor' role... without ever flirting or attempting to create any sort of vibe until its too late. If you've already established flirtation and a more intimate vibe, being a mentor is great. If you lead with being a mentor, and hide your sexual interest for months, and then try to change the nature of the relationship, it will be tough.
Money is relative- a 22yo who still lives at home and has a shit job is impressed if you have your own place and pay for dinner. They are way easier and cheaper to date
I'm 63, in fantastic shape (profile pic is this year in Thailand), single, own my own business, living in Asia for the last 25 years. Smorgasbord here. I could do PhD level class on this.
They are only after you because you are in a 3rd world country and they see you as a meal- ticket. They have been selling their bodies since before they were legal. Of course it seems easy there. Try your charms in the USA or other highly developed countries.
Aeswom video, thank you for the info. I would like your thoughts on something. It seems the only way to reach all these behaviors is to subscribe to constant personal growth and chase ones dreams and accept that a man must inevitably be happy alone, 0 dependence on a woman.
thanks for watching. I get why it might feel that way-it can seem like a lot at first. But this isn’t about pretending or playing a convoluted game. It’s about becoming the kind of man who naturally attracts what he wants, without chasing or relying on others for validation. When you focus on your own growth, happiness, and independence, you’re not just “acting” like you don’t care-you genuinely don’t need anyone else to complete you. That’s what women are drawn to: a man who’s already fulfilled, and whose life they want to be a part of. It’s not a facade; it’s a shift in mindset. You’re not trying to manipulate her into giving you something-you’re inviting her into a reality you’ve built, a reality that’s already complete. Yes, it takes effort. But the alternative-being dependent, chasing, and losing your sense of self-is far more exhausting. This isn’t about learning how to win her-it’s about learning how to stop losing yourself
Pretty much act like you don’t care too much about them and your business is the main priority. Once you make them the main priority she’ll lose interest.
There's another form of riding that I prefer. And my happiness / contentment is self generated. I'm happy when I'm in a relationship. Happy when I'm not.
That's what I'm talking about. Been riding on the road since I was 18. Having a cool motorcycle satisfies more carnal desires than just one, lol. The wife i wound up with hopped on mine the first night I met her & is now the mother of our 3 kids who LOVE to see smoke come from the tires! Ride on!
OH MY GOSH, THIS WAS RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME THE WHOLE TIME!!! I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW BLIND I WAS! YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I APPRECIATE AND THANKFUL I AM FOR THIS VIDEO!!! WHAT WAS I THINKING?!?! HAHA! I’M GETTING ALL WORKED UP OVER SOME YOUNG WOMAN WHO CHOSE A YOUNG GUY ASPIRING TO BE A MANAGER AT A FURNITURE STORE MAKING HER THINK HE IS GOING TO BE RICH! I ALMOST FELL INTO THAT SAME TRAP AGAIN!😂😂😂😂
This is way too complicated. You're trying to make a man act like he doesn't care in order to get the things he's acting like he's not supposed to are about. This crazy convoluted game of having to maintain this facade with a female creature who's dangling her emotional resources in front of you is so stupid. All they have to offer is sex. That's it.
its about staying emotionally autonomous, this means ALL AREAS, not just with women. You know how many people I know who let a tweet ruin their whole morning? The idea is not to let other people dicate your emotions.
Keep in mind, this guy does this for a living. He's not about to tell you to just be yourself or genuine. That said, manipulating people by adjusting your behavior is definitely one way to help you get what you want in any situation.
Yeah I’m 40 with a 21 year old. It’s easy for me because I’ve studied this since 2013. I still watch the videos for reminders. She doesn’t test you consciously, it’s built into them to protect themselves.
I think that all of this advice could and should be applied by a 20 year old man. Or a woman. Attractive behaviour is - in general - age neutral and gender neutral.
all of this behavior works for any age man, very true. the difference is. you can be a 20 year old guy who doesn't have his shit together, is immature, and still wind doing ok with women, because of the social realm you're in. But if you're a 40 year old guy, you can't get away with what a 20 year old guy can. That said, a 20 year old will do 10x better if he appliies this too. for a 40+ year old, its mandatory.
Younger women magnify and repeat everything you say. There's a fine line between the handsome older guy and creepy pervert.And everyone will publicly know if you cross that line. Be a gentleman with younger women.
The irony is these guys who were like dorks and worked behind a computer all their life need this advice and will be fine with a younger girl. I never had problems with chicks. But at this point in my life after the insane and crazy life I’ve had, the last thing I want is a YOUNGER woman. Holy hell no
All this may be true in the human-animal world but you can have it...its all Maya....human beings are defined by non-duplicity. Period. Oh, and there are only a few of those on the planet unfortunately.
I am 50 and my girl just turned 22. She is crazy over me but she is not the only one. No cap. A lot women over 30 hit on me too as if they have a chance. I reject every one of them. No cap.
This has been scientifically proven to be wrong. Women are more attracted to men of their equal age. The truth about humanity is that we have a breeding season just like everything on earth has a season. Our breeding season is in our 20s. It starts in our late teens and it ends in our early 30s with a peak in our mid and early 20s.
The paradox for the guys who watch these videos. If your watching it means you want. When she sees and knows you "want". Your cooked. You lose. No woman wants to be with a guy who "wants". She want to be with a guy who Has what he wants already.
If you’re not getting laid and are thirsty on your date she will know. Women smell desperation like dogs smell fear. If you’re getting it they can feel it and they are more comfortable
Not agree this not necessary natural evolution as in the jungle young 25 years old will more be able to protect physically...but since women evolve in artificial city environment...now protection isnt about young is about wealth...so yes 40 is better for that😅
@BobbyRio yes exactly what I was saying because after 30 a Man loose his strength and his immune defenses slowly ...if you had a sickness or injured you were most likely to die after 30... So isn't about physicality...or for protect woman ...is because today artificial society focused woman to evolve toward Wealth than Health....what isn't healthy...and why you have 30 years old woman with 50 years old men...something you will Have NEVER see even 2 century ago
For a man to get financial estabilidad or possibilities to form a family...has never took so long in modern society...they have to wait almost 35...to have some estability as a business take 10 years to grow...how do you want man to start a family at 25 in today age ? Well you can but will mostly finish in breakup
'be yourself' is shitty advice, because when someone says ' be yourself' most guys wind up being the version of themself society programmed them to be. mr. nice guy. I get the idea of 'be yourself'- and its true. except that most guys use 'be yourself' as an excuse to be lazy and follow bad advice like 'just tell her how you feel'
The lone wolves keep falling into the trap. There's millions of traps made for catching the lone wolf. Lots of them are sitting, just waiting for women and men to buy second hand, going all rusty. Being a lone wolf, I get nervous when I walk passed them. (I don't care if I've spelt past correctly or not) I think I should buy everyone I see. So take THAT! BAM!
Sorry, like all these "5 masculine traits..." videos, you are just describing what it would be like like to be THAT guy. How to get there remains a mystery. If you just try to be strong, decisive etc. you are simply going to fail.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.......... Exciting Thx for tge laugh tho .... And I'd love to thank you and the rest of the Simps which is 80% of men now for making the competition so much easier
The squeeze is easy and its fun. It's as enjoyable to go out and interact with women / a woman as it is to stay at home, watching TV or youtube or whatever. There's nothing difficult in speaking and behaving as Bobby advises in this and other videos.
Showing self confidence without arrogance is one of the most attractive things to a woman.
I am 64, I am dating quite a few women in their 30s and 40s... I have to tell you, Bobby : what you say is SPOT ON ! Bravo !!!
raping is not dating
@emillsommer-kt4mbhe’s probably in a third world country
Women look for confidence and competence.
Guesses using too little information shows the opposite of competence.
He’s dating not raping and hasn’t said where he lives.
@@skillfuldabest in France. You could argue that it's becoming a third world country..but that's another debate 😂
You have to know your value. Most men don't know their own value because they're constantly rejected.
Constantly rejected - usually - because they don't follow the great advice that Bobby Rio gives.
Best advice is to work on yourself. Your emotions, your EQ, your IQ, your experience, your finances, etc. most importantly, learn self love.
I have to say. There are literally 100s of youtube sites supposedly to help men. You actually make sense to me.
glad the videos resonate. thanks for watching!
Masculinity is a virtue. Patience within, strength outward
"Think of a seasoned ship captain during a storm". This cuts to the core of it all, in one sentence you distilled all there is to it. The more phylosophical question is whether we care to always sail in storm as we age. My current answer is fair weather or none at all.
Your point re establishing a flirty dynamic early on and keeping it going is *KEY* to avoid getting friendzoned. You are also 100% correct about avoiding a mentorship role in her life. I learned these lessons the hard way, unfortunately.
Guys, listen to his advice. He knows WTF he’s talking about.
Bobby Rio is telling the "TRUTH", listen to Bobby Rio. For the 💯 % advice that Bobby is giving, men need to pay attention and watch his videos. I am The Midnight Cowboy, and I approve this message...🤠👍🏻
Gotta be yourself, and let it stand or fall, but be good with that and move on. The minute you are trying to "play" something you are not naturally, the "good ones" will know, because they are looking for it. The vid brings to light many great traits, for sure, but for many of them, you have them or you don't, playing them will result in fails more than anything. Be yourself, you will find the best for YOU. Use what the vid gives you to be aware.
Pure gold. Many thnx 4 sharing!
Bobby your the best dating coach outhier,for us Old School Guys that been around the block,your like medicine to us when it comes to dating younger women,thank you for your info,my respects
glad you're finding the videos helpful, thanks for watching
"When you walk into a restaurant you don't ask the hostess"
"Is it ok to be here?"
That's all ya gotta know...
Yeah, "can I sit there on that hard wooden chair 💺 and hand over a small fortune?"
And when you order, you don't say, "can I get....? Just tell them what you're having.
Esa parte del video me hizo entender TODO
Jesus what a headache. Interpersonal relationships with women are utterly exhausting. Everything is a god damn quiz, like I haven’t taken enough of those
It's not that complicated. Let them do the work. If they are not prepared to do that then no amount of coaching strategy will help unfortunately.
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain dear one, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Great advice. Great explanation. Another really well done video.
I’m 64.
Figure out if you really need someone else to complete yourself or be “happy”.
I enjoy doing different things with different women depending on my mood and never lack female company when I desire it.
Don’t look to someone else to complete yourself.
Find it within yourself and you won’t need any coaching….
I'm 70. I figured out I didn't need a woman about 30 years ago. No dates since then. It makes it simple when talking to a woman, knowing nothing will come of it.
Superbly informative. I need to train myself to stop giving her the power. Hopefully it works with this very young 24 year old girl. I'm hoping to have her with me for the family Christmas stuff.
Good luck
glad you found it helpful, and make it happen!
Don't involve her in family stuff too early. It could scare her off going serious too early. Only do it on her initiative and if she really wants it.
I have a friend who’ll be 74 this month. He lost his wife in 2021. Several months later he started talking to young (20s) women as they worked. Not in a pick-up way. He is just friendly. But he does throw in a flirty line when an opening presents itself. After a number of friendly encounters he asks if he could take out for dinner or a ball game. Then back to his place. Okay, it helps that he looks 60…
He has banged about half dozen 20 year olds and two in their 30s. One of the 30s moved out of town, but she set him up with a horny friend of hers….the other 30.
Of course, he doesn’t plan on marrying any. He assumes they’ll find someone younger. Maybe that’s what gives him power.
The only real way to have a strong frame is to either 1. Have complete control over everything at all times (this is impossible) or 2. Not care about anything.
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Please stay strong friend
I offer a third way, respectfully: To know what you stand for and believe in, and to be flexible in the give-and-take of relationships, communication, and life, but WITHOUT compromising/violating principles and core beliefs. And to be understanding of where others are coming from, but WITHOUT getting sucked into their mindset and frame. If your foundation is strong, you won't be blown to and fro by every wind that blows your way. Don't confuse having control over everything with being strong. But you can't be strong without having control of YOURSELF. But it's simply not true that the world divides into 1) those who are not strong in frame but care and 2) those who are strong in frame but don't care. But you want to know what's really challenging, what takes time and development and maturity and growth, and daily dedication to it? To both be caring and still in control of yourself, to know where you won't allow a line to be crossed. To be meek - a perhaps misunderstood term which really means to have and contain strength with kindness. This is what Jesus taught, and He is the foundation of my life. People who can bowl-over anybody and scorch the earth and are loud and pushy aren't strong. And those who care but don't know what they stand for and let others push them around aren't strong. The truth, as it often does, lies somewhere between two extremes. Peace and love.
A blend of the two is probably the most healthy path.
This is all good advice but the real core of the issue is self esteem. Good self esteem you do these thing’s naturally, you can not fake it by following rules or formulas. Energy psychology can change the subconscious programming that determines your self esteem. Some examples are Psych-K, NLP, EFT Tapping, hypno therapy and many more. The one I have found most effective is the Landmark Forum.
All great points, keep on rocking great content!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I've always taught that I'm more mature than the other guys (I've read a lot, been at a lot of places, etc) but since I've started to follow these rules I've just realized how wrong I was. Great life advices not just for dating, thank you!
thanks for the comment, glad you found the advice helpful.
Oh man, I just love you for this hopeful message you're sending. One love from France
Excellent video, rings true in many ways
glad it resonated.
*Younger women are drawn to this because it exudes security and reliability - traits they may not find in younger guys.*
Though insecurity and competition anxiety aka she’s to satisfy her hypergamy - once you commit to her and focus on her - She will replace you - hypergamy isn’t satisfied
You can summarize these tips in 1 word "confidence"
Younger women love older men as especially if you're in shape and fairly handsome. They see the value in your long term genetics and inherently assume you have wisdom and the ability to lead her with your experience. Typically they also feel safer with a more mature man who doesn't carry himself like a fool which is how most young guys behave around them.
even if youre broke AF it works
Facts. If you’re established and confident it’s very grounding for a young girl and makes them feel very safe and comfortable. Ofc you need to pay attn to her needs and emotions
Spot on. I’m an older guy (early 30s) who looks much younger (mid 20s) but consider myself the type of man who aims to improve myself, both physically and in maturity every year.
The ladies- young ladies in 20s specifically are loving it more than ever. I wish I’d had this since I was younger but- better late than never!
@@diegohurtado4560 dont forget to go no fap bro
Bobby, I run a couple of Domestic Discipline communities. In the last couple of years, there's been a noticeable increase in the number of women who are willing to try a Domestic Discipline relationship. I would love for you to make a video, giving your thoughts as to why this is. My personal thought is that at least half of the women out there would accept this kind of discipline from a guy if she liked the guy enough. But again...your thoughts on this would be appreciated. DD used to be something contained to Christian circles. Now its getting into the mainstream of relationships
This is what I thought could be important is something that sounds more practical
Good content...good advice !
Thanks! I'm glad you found it helpful.
Nice hair style Bobby 💫
A quick question to a specific situation. In a group that girl comes who i was flirting with the past week, and i begin nudging her and says to me please im not in the mood at all today. But starts speaking and laughing with the other colleges. I understood she was testing me to make me feel sorry or bad but is it still a test so much so she starts in front of me gaslighting full throttle? Probably yeah ?
She playin u
Love this! Been working on my inner game and it's crazy how much more confident I feel! #Habit10x
Bobby's vocal inflections remind me of Humphrey Bogart. I guess I an old
Very well done - very helpful!
Glad you found it helpful!
Good stuff, sir!
What do you do if it's someone you work with? We are flirting, but I have a no dating coworkers rule.
Great content Bobby! I read a funny book few years ago called "shit my dad says" and one quote dad said reminded me of some of your tips - "That woman was sexy........ Out of your league?" "Son, let women figure out why they won't screw you. Don't do it for them." 😀
ha great quote
Very well done and said - very helpful thanks a lot greeting all the way from east Africa Eritrea.
glad you found it helpful!
I can see what book you read before you made this video. ;) What you're saying makes perfect sense, but in reality things are not always that easy.
hey, curious what book you think I've read. I've read them all over the years, none recently. But curious what book this reminds you? Deida? It took me years to fully grasp what Deida was saying, but once I did, it changd everything for me.
Thanks Bobby!
I'm glad you found it helpful!
I flirted with my coworker for a few months and I held the frame pretty well and escalated with touches and everything was good. She pulled away few times and I pulled away too and waited her to contact me first. One night we were on call and she said to me you are naughty and I said thanks I like when girl says me that. Week ago I pulled that as a callback in text like "I roll in my mind how you said to me that I am naughty. That was brave 😂" and she answered with "?" and I said ok you probably forgot nvm. Two day ago my coworker friends came to me and told me that she has reported me to my boss who passed it to HR. Now I am waiting for their response... So guys you can never know what is going to happen but I will not get angry on that and stay positive indifferent but I am highly affected 😅
I have always stayed away from pursuing coworkers. It's tricky and can get messy as you now know. Good luck with getting through this unscathed!
@Jeff-qr9cg I think main problem in social circles is when other guys and girls see that you have success with some woman they start to gossip and turn against you and make her to change her mind.
Work is always a tricky place. Better avoid it. Stay away from texting as much as possible in the early phases. Should not have recalled her comment, it gave it importance. She should be the one thinking about your response not the other way around. Finally, all women have their own agendas. Find it out asap as soon as you get into the interaction. Learn for the next one.
@@detresge You mean on her "?" or this one on our call?
"You roll on your mind how you said to me I was naughty?" You lost her bc you blew with that text. You should have closed the deal when she said it then not wait and text that bullshit. What is this how I met your mother? Is this story going to go 9 seasons before you actually make a move?
thank you for a lot of usefull and precious info :))❤
Glad it was helpful!
Gold. Pure gold, Bobby. Thank you!
I'm happy it was helpful!
Textbook advises...💯
The only objection I have to this video is that I have personally seen mentor game work like a charm numerous times. I dont do the mentor thing myself, but Ive seen guys do it. Yeah lots of guys fail with it. But I've seen it create incredible attraction too. Its the whole take charge thing
YES.... it can work. The issue is that too many guys go in with the 'mentor' role... without ever flirting or attempting to create any sort of vibe until its too late. If you've already established flirtation and a more intimate vibe, being a mentor is great. If you lead with being a mentor, and hide your sexual interest for months, and then try to change the nature of the relationship, it will be tough.
@BobbyRio ur absolutely right. My bad. Btw do you accept content suggestions?
yes love recommendations for future videos, it helps provide me ideas of what guys want to know
Reality check: Looks and money are all that matter.
its a convenient excuse
Money is relative- a 22yo who still lives at home and has a shit job is impressed if you have your own place and pay for dinner. They are way easier and cheaper to date
@@Devin-Michael that is true
yes this is true. One thing I always ask guys who say "you need money" is How much? How much do you think you need? Saying "money" can mean anything.
I'm 63, in fantastic shape (profile pic is this year in Thailand), single, own my own business, living in Asia for the last 25 years. Smorgasbord here. I could do PhD level class on this.
Are you a white American/ European guy (in Thailand)? Sounds creepy
@@eugene1197 whats creepy about dating? You don't like women? Sounds creepy
They are only after you because you are in a 3rd world country and they see you as a meal- ticket. They have been selling their bodies since before they were legal. Of course it seems easy there. Try your charms in the USA or other highly developed countries.
Aeswom video, thank you for the info.
I would like your thoughts on something. It seems the only way to reach all these behaviors is to subscribe to constant personal growth and chase ones dreams and accept that a man must inevitably be happy alone, 0 dependence on a woman.
thanks for watching. I get why it might feel that way-it can seem like a lot at first. But this isn’t about pretending or playing a convoluted game. It’s about becoming the kind of man who naturally attracts what he wants, without chasing or relying on others for validation.
When you focus on your own growth, happiness, and independence, you’re not just “acting” like you don’t care-you genuinely don’t need anyone else to complete you. That’s what women are drawn to: a man who’s already fulfilled, and whose life they want to be a part of.
It’s not a facade; it’s a shift in mindset. You’re not trying to manipulate her into giving you something-you’re inviting her into a reality you’ve built, a reality that’s already complete.
Yes, it takes effort. But the alternative-being dependent, chasing, and losing your sense of self-is far more exhausting.
This isn’t about learning how to win her-it’s about learning how to stop losing yourself
Pretty much act like you don’t care too much about them and your business is the main priority. Once you make them the main priority she’ll lose interest.
F all this shit..!!! Buy a FCKING motorcycle ride and be happy....
There's another form of riding that I prefer.
And my happiness / contentment is self generated. I'm happy when I'm in a relationship. Happy when I'm not.
My Ducati definitely helps more than my Prius to get girls turned on lol
That's what I'm talking about. Been riding on the road since I was 18. Having a cool motorcycle satisfies more carnal desires than just one, lol. The wife i wound up with hopped on mine the first night I met her & is now the mother of our 3 kids who LOVE to see smoke come from the tires! Ride on!
Nice
I'm glad you liked it!
When i do get that feeling, I run 😂 I dont need the drama.
Fantastic content. Great work.
I'm happy you found it helpful!
This really only works if you're at least something resembling handsome. In shape, jock, at least some muscle. No string beans.
OH MY GOSH, THIS WAS RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME THE WHOLE TIME!!! I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW BLIND I WAS! YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I APPRECIATE AND THANKFUL I AM FOR THIS VIDEO!!! WHAT WAS I THINKING?!?! HAHA! I’M GETTING ALL WORKED UP OVER SOME YOUNG WOMAN WHO CHOSE A YOUNG GUY ASPIRING TO BE A MANAGER AT A FURNITURE STORE MAKING HER THINK HE IS GOING TO BE RICH! I ALMOST FELL INTO THAT SAME TRAP AGAIN!😂😂😂😂
I'm glad you found it helpful! Happy to hear you avoided the trap.
You don't need to YELL!!
This text alone suggests you’re too emotionally invested
Ill put your whole video in one sentence.
Be genuine, take care of yourself and dont take things to seriously.
This is way too complicated. You're trying to make a man act like he doesn't care in order to get the things he's acting like he's not supposed to are about. This crazy convoluted game of having to maintain this facade with a female creature who's dangling her emotional resources in front of you is so stupid. All they have to offer is sex. That's it.
its about staying emotionally autonomous, this means ALL AREAS, not just with women. You know how many people I know who let a tweet ruin their whole morning? The idea is not to let other people dicate your emotions.
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I agree. Though everything said in this video is true, it's too much of a hassle needing to always keep your behavior in check.
Keep in mind, this guy does this for a living. He's not about to tell you to just be yourself or genuine. That said, manipulating people by adjusting your behavior is definitely one way to help you get what you want in any situation.
I tried to discourage a 23 year old by saying : Did I tell you I am 68 years old? Her response was: But you look young and fit!😅
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Yeah I’m 40 with a 21 year old. It’s easy for me because I’ve studied this since 2013. I still watch the videos for reminders.
She doesn’t test you consciously, it’s built into them to protect themselves.
me too
how to stop being looked beta trough woman even if you don't give gifts etc ... they just lose interest very fast
Got and accomplish something hard
How do you get your married ex back
Would you go back in the bin for a half eaten sandwich
I think that all of this advice could and should be applied by a 20 year old man. Or a woman.
Attractive behaviour is - in general - age neutral and gender neutral.
all of this behavior works for any age man, very true. the difference is. you can be a 20 year old guy who doesn't have his shit together, is immature, and still wind doing ok with women, because of the social realm you're in. But if you're a 40 year old guy, you can't get away with what a 20 year old guy can. That said, a 20 year old will do 10x better if he appliies this too. for a 40+ year old, its mandatory.
The don't give a crap attitude applies to all ages.
Younger women magnify and repeat everything you say. There's a fine line between the handsome older guy and creepy pervert.And everyone will publicly know if you cross that line.
Be a gentleman with younger women.
Step one: find your life's purpose.
Step two: work towards that goal for at least a year.
Step three: start thinking about dating a girl or woman.
If your on a date with a younger women then...hint...She likes you.
Ah I see lol
The irony is these guys who were like dorks and worked behind a computer all their life need this advice and will be fine with a younger girl. I never had problems with chicks. But at this point in my life after the insane and crazy life I’ve had, the last thing I want is a YOUNGER woman. Holy hell no
I get that.
All this may be true in the human-animal world but you can have it...its all Maya....human beings are defined by non-duplicity. Period. Oh, and there are only a few of those on the planet unfortunately.
Cut to the chase too long video
I am 50 and my girl just turned 22. She is crazy over me but she is not the only one. No cap.
A lot women over 30 hit on me too as if they have a chance. I reject every one of them. No cap.
No one over 50 says “no cap” 😂
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@@f0yen4right he’s confused after watching an informative video
@@f0yen4hilarious
@@f0yen4 is it illegal ?
This has been scientifically proven to be wrong. Women are more attracted to men of their equal age. The truth about humanity is that we have a breeding season just like everything on earth has a season. Our breeding season is in our 20s. It starts in our late teens and it ends in our early 30s with a peak in our mid and early 20s.
My friend had kids when he turned 40 with an early 30's woman. There's is no set thing.
People who make UA-cam videos love to talk and never get to the point. I quit listening and turned off this video before he ever got to the point.
"Have you ever gotten a signal from a woman"
No lol
The paradox for the guys who watch these videos. If your watching it means you want. When she sees and knows you "want". Your cooked. You lose. No woman wants to be with a guy who "wants". She want to be with a guy who Has what he wants already.
This
Learning and understanding is a good thing.
You WANT to improve, so then you learn new things, and handle situations better the next time. That is how improvement works in all areas of life.
If you’re not getting laid and are thirsty on your date she will know. Women smell desperation like dogs smell fear. If you’re getting it they can feel it and they are more comfortable
I think you're confusing "want" with " need or have to."
NO……older woman bring more baggage and problems than a younger one
Not agree this not necessary natural evolution as in the jungle young 25 years old will more be able to protect physically...but since women evolve in artificial city environment...now protection isnt about young is about wealth...so yes 40 is better for that😅
Back in the days of the Jungle, 25 was basically 50 since the lifespans were so short 😅
@BobbyRio yes exactly what I was saying because after 30 a Man loose his strength and his immune defenses slowly ...if you had a sickness or injured you were most likely to die after 30...
So isn't about physicality...or for protect woman ...is because today artificial society focused woman to evolve toward Wealth than Health....what isn't healthy...and why you have 30 years old woman with 50 years old men...something you will Have NEVER see even 2 century ago
For a man to get financial estabilidad or possibilities to form a family...has never took so long in modern society...they have to wait almost 35...to have some estability as a business take 10 years to grow...how do you want man to start a family at 25 in today age ? Well you can but will mostly finish in breakup
This is beta material once they start bringing up other men move on. Be yourself
'be yourself' is shitty advice, because when someone says ' be yourself' most guys wind up being the version of themself society programmed them to be. mr. nice guy. I get the idea of 'be yourself'- and its true. except that most guys use 'be yourself' as an excuse to be lazy and follow bad advice like 'just tell her how you feel'
Be true to yourself
The lone wolves keep falling into the trap.
There's millions of traps made for catching the lone wolf.
Lots of them are sitting, just waiting for women and men to buy second hand, going all rusty.
Being a lone wolf, I get nervous when I walk passed them. (I don't care if I've spelt past correctly or not)
I think I should buy everyone I see.
So take THAT! BAM!
What?
Sorry, like all these "5 masculine traits..." videos, you are just describing what it would be like like to be THAT guy. How to get there remains a mystery.
If you just try to be strong, decisive etc. you are simply going to fail.
its a muscle you build every day. being non-reactive is something you practice, day by day until it becomes part of who you are.
@BobbyRio *yawn*
What an annoying voice this guy have on this video?
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂..........
Exciting
Thx for tge laugh tho ....
And I'd love to thank you and the rest of the Simps which is 80% of men now for making the competition so much easier
what I get for most of these videos and their approach is that the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. Stop kowtowing to women. It’s embarrassing.
The squeeze is easy and its fun. It's as enjoyable to go out and interact with women / a woman as it is to stay at home, watching TV or youtube or whatever.
There's nothing difficult in speaking and behaving as Bobby advises in this and other videos.
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