What Is My Ex Feeling During No Contact?
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- Опубліковано 12 січ 2020
- In this video, Coach Lee discusses what your ex feels while you are using the no contact rule.
As Lee points out in this video, what your ex is feeling during no contact is usually the polar opposite to what you are feeling after being dumped by them.
The reason for that is because the breakup was a decision for your ex which put them in control of the situation.
Your ex felt that they were able to dictate what would happen because they were the one who informed you of what was going to happen.
You, on the other hand, felt helpless and at the mercy of your ex. In this way, the two of you were on polar opposites in terms of the feelings of power and control.
The person being dumped felt at the mercy of the one initiating the breakup. That is the reason that so many people who have been dumped tend to beg. They are basically begging for mercy because they feel they have no power or influence over the situation.
Coach Lee will explain further what an ex is feeling during no contact and how it can help to turn the tables in terms of the sense of who is at the mercy of the other person's decisions and desires. This change is often due to the No Contact Rule allowing the person who initiated the breakup to feel loss instead of control. This extremely important realization is key to re-attracting an ex after a breakup or separation.
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She’s reached out through her ex bf & texted him to get to me cause I blocked her. & we haven’t seen each other since we ended I’ve been focused on myself working out at the gym everyday doing a little better
Coach lee i have a question…im doing all your advices to no contact and it works really good…she calling me often and she even said to me that she really miss me..the only words that she is not asking me if is she want me to get back at her….she even invited me on her birthday this coming may in colorado because she leaves in colorado…now coach lee the problem is she is not calling me now often like before and she souds mad now saying that what if she is not gonna call me anymore and i said thats your decision i will respect that and then she hang up on me…now 1 day that she is not calling me what would i do coach lee??.please help me…i don’t know if im still going to do the no contact rule or just talk to her??…please help me
@@jayviray6231 to me it sounds like she’s leading u on because she likes the chase it’s a game sadly I’ve done it to it’s an ego stroke don’t fall for it cuz once she knows you’ll chase her she won’t won’t u I promise u that! We all want what we can’t have that’s why it’s driving her crazy u keep doing u if she wants u great if not move on don’t play the game cuz it will NOT work in your favor and you’ll lose her completely
How long did it take before the tables turned. Ive been in NC for about 21/2 months. We have children together and she staying at her moms. Shell text about money, kids, house etc and i reply with a short answer. Couple of days ago she texted me "let me know when youre going to work or at work so i can come to the house and feed the cats! Idk, that text really brought me down. I replied back" im at work, youre good!
@@carterwatson1949 Good for you Carter. BLOCK HER TOO. You deserve better.
No contact makes 2 wise ways:
- soon ex will come back to you and you could be together again,
- soon you forget about ex and you will not care ex will come back or not :)
You can't just forget or stop caring for someone that you have been with for 27 years.
@@wrangler4me everything is possible Dear. I loved somebody for 10 years and I stopped when I stopped to lie myself and believe that I can change him or he can change. I try to love people who deserve it ❤. Doesn't matter how long I know them. Sometimes we know somebody shorter time but this relationship is much deeper than with somebody who we know for years. Time doesn't matter, more important is respect, deeper contact and being strong / making strong for each other, etc.
Trea Moore yes you can
Trea Moore if they did it to you why can’t you ?
@@themoonbleu627 , I beg to differ. I can't just stop loving or caring for my husband. I feel that today's society rather have a quick fix to their relationship than to take the time and work on it.
for those who in no contact, be strong, it works for me the table has turned, he's chasing me now!
jalin chen how long did it take lol ? It’s been a few months and no chase for me...I don’t really care anymore but just wondering if it’d actually happen
@@_Nawbro remember no to tell your friends about it, that you dont care or you are are dying.
@@_Nawbro after one month NC he reached out to me, I tried so hard not to be needy and keep my options open, then he text me almost everyday, have met few times.
it doesnt working for everyone
I’m only 4 days In an I’m crumbling big time constantly reminiscing about all the good times an how nice she was but she’s doesn’t seem interested 😞
Its going to be amazing when my ex starts to feel guilty. Ik it makes me sound like an asshole but people that have been dumped will know where I'm coming from.
@@frankleger3657 we me and my ex ended on good terms. She has said multiple times she will always have feelings for me and that she wants me as a friend. When she reaches put she will ask me to come out with her and her friends. When that happens I will tell her that I have plans and if would like to catch up over coffee. I will tell her that there is still strong feelings between us and because of our history I have to be true to myself and to her and that we can't just go back to being friends and if she changes her mind to give me a call. The number you sent me, how did he help you?
@@seanrooney170 beware! Frank Martins is a troll! Don't fall for the SCAM!!!
@@bg104 thanks. I thought so
@@seanrooney170 You're welcome! This troll is all over Coach Lee's comment sections (under several different user names) on many of his videos. Several people have reported this troll. It pisses me off when trolls try to hijack Coach Lee's good work and advice which he is providing to us for free here on UA-cam!
@@bg104 on a serious note the whole no contact thing I really hope she returns to me. We had a good long relationship 😔😔
No contact is to get yourself back (: getting your ex back is only the byproduct of the process of you regaining who you were. I'm still in that process. Almost on 2 months of no contact. Anyone else struggling dont feel alone. There are many of us right in that boat with you. Much love everyone. Remember you are worthy dont let one person define that worth we all have and are capable of increasing.
thank you so much Mam..its very painful💔💔💔😭😭😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I sleep with my heart crumbling but yes I hope someday it will be fine.
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@@navgunsingh7287 Don't worry yourself anymore there is a powerful man who helped me get my ex back even less than 48 hours faster. This is my story ; I and my ex have been together for about 20 years and I will finally have agreed to get married and I was very happy when he told that the will should get married and I was totally satisfied with the joy of finally getting married to the man of my dreams...A week before the day of our wedding my ex called me and said he will not continue the weeding, I was shocked and he ended the call. I tried to control myself so I wouldn't end up in the hospital because of the shock, although I called for help every night to get my ex back. Then I heard everyone in South Carolina USA testifying from a powerful man who did a good job helping them get back there ex permanently and tried to get touch with this man because I had no hope of getting my ex back. Finally, I quickly got in touch with this powerful man on Whatsapp for help and he told me not to worry anymore, that my ex is coming back to me permanently in less than 12 hours. I didn't believe, but I tried. Surprisingly, after this powerful man helped me in 48 hours, just like he the powerfull man who helped me... Send him a message immediately on whatsapp with +2349063731650....Now I am finally married to the man of my dreams and make sure you don't lose hope in getting your ex back and make sure to send this powerful man on whatsapp the number I just gave you if really want your ex back.... Good luck +2349063731650
The no contact rule does work.he broke up with me 3 months ago.recently he phones and asks to meet,eventually i agreed.when we met he told me he misses us and is considering his decision.i realised that i do not feel the same about him anymore.i am actually enjoying my life without him.
No contacts always for a good reasons
I noticed girls have a hard time in the initial stages of the break up while guys enjoy after breaking up with the girl. But few mos pass, they start missing the girl and girl is almost over and feeling more stronger and indifferent. I guess for guys, they don’t know what they have til it’s gone.
why did you guys break?
@@frankleger3657 i am working on myself for now.i m using this time just to do an introspection.yes for the next guy but not for him🤗
Steph V my ex is a girl and she seems to be living her best life after the break up. Not Sure if I was suffocating her so much or if it’s that she’s like a guy in this thing although she always said she’s like a guy in relationships. Lol it’s been 6 weeks now since the break up and she still seems like she doesn’t mind I’m gone. But then again I’ve been gone for like 3 weeks of those 6 bc I started NC later so
I can say from my own experience that 'No Contact' works. After 2 months of strict no contact, my ex contacted me, showing obvious signs of regret and remorse. We talked thoroughly, and now we're working on fixing what was wrong on the relationship. I know is hard not to contact, but it works. These videos from Coach Lee really helped and encouraged me through that time. Don't lose hope.
Any updates?
updates？
Thank you so much..its very hard to move on!!💔💔💔😭😭😢😢😢😢😔😔
Cristine Verzosa we have to move on
@@gaoang3391 😢😢😢😢⚘⚘ thank you so much right now i feel like i am useless i give everything even you become angel for someone still not enough they dont care about us....😢😢😢😢 I hope i can heal soon...thank you so much Gao Ang🤗😔😔😔😔😔😔⚘⚘⚘
My feelings of love are slowly dwindling but he is still on my mind everyday.
frank martins shut up and atop trying to scam people for money
azizajewelry till will heal you 🥰🥰 sending you love ❤️ in this difficult time your not alone
@Jason R999 good idea ill report him to
@Jason R999 so did I - it pisses me off that trolls try to hijack and piggyback off of Coach Lee's good work here. He has a heart for the hurting and offers his expertise for free via his UA-cam videos. He deserves our support!
azizajewelry me too sweet pea, don’t worry.
Main points:
1.Relief stage= you’re hurting the most
2.Don’t make your ex your dictator= you lose power and became a slave.
3. Focus on yourself and give yourself more credit.
4. They feel control because they know they can come back whenever they want
5. Everybody likes to be chased.
6. Give them an opportunity to miss u.
7. It’s a dangerous thing to give them control. Don’t give in so quickly b/c they don’t value you in the future.
8. Getting you back easy is unattractive
9. You should have caution because they severed a tie.
10. Keep moving forward with your other relationships.
11. Jealousy is not the route to go; it will help them move on & backfire.
🤝👌
I failed lol. We were no contact but over time I realized I don’t want him back. I accepted be breakup. So I sent him an email saying I was over him and finally understood why we were so incompatible but I would pray and love him from a distance. Did I give him control here?
Dominique, you are beautiful 😍
@@ddwow566 no
You sure did. You let him know that he is on your mind lol. You lost. Dead silence would have been best but you took the time to think and wrote a letter lol. You lost.
I feel like you're talking to me personally...anytime I get the urge to break NC and reach out to my ex , I come here and watch your videos and you set me straight. Thanks coach! lol
"Anytime I get the urge to break NC and reach out to my ex, I come here and watch your videos."
- Oh my God same for me!
So what happened? Did they come back??
@@storageunit2683 Don't worry yourself anymore there is a powerful man who helped me get my ex back even less than 48 hours faster. This is my story ; I and my ex have been together for about 20 years and I will finally have agreed to get married and I was very happy when he told that the will should get married and I was totally satisfied with the joy of finally getting married to the man of my dreams...A week before the day of our wedding my ex called me and said he will not continue the weeding, I was shocked and he ended the call. I tried to control myself so I wouldn't end up in the hospital because of the shock, although I called for help every night to get my ex back. Then I heard everyone in South Carolina USA testifying from a powerful man who did a good job helping them get back there ex permanently and tried to get touch with this man because I had no hope of getting my ex back. Finally, I quickly got in touch with this powerful man on Whatsapp for help and he told me not to worry anymore, that my ex is coming back to me permanently in less than 12 hours. I didn't believe, but I tried. Surprisingly, after this powerful man helped me in 48 hours, just like he the powerfull man who helped me... Send him a message immediately on whatsapp with +2349063731650....Now I am finally married to the man of my dreams and make sure you don't lose hope in getting your ex back and make sure to send this powerful man on whatsapp the number I just gave you if really want your ex back.... Good luck +2349063731650
@@_mcknight Don't worry yourself anymore there is a powerful man who helped me get my ex back even less than 48 hours faster. This is my story ; I and my ex have been together for about 20 years and I will finally have agreed to get married and I was very happy when he told that the will should get married and I was totally satisfied with the joy of finally getting married to the man of my dreams...A week before the day of our wedding my ex called me and said he will not continue the weeding, I was shocked and he ended the call. I tried to control myself so I wouldn't end up in the hospital because of the shock, although I called for help every night to get my ex back. Then I heard everyone in South Carolina USA testifying from a powerful man who did a good job helping them get back there ex permanently and tried to get touch with this man because I had no hope of getting my ex back. Finally, I quickly got in touch with this powerful man on Whatsapp for help and he told me not to worry anymore, that my ex is coming back to me permanently in less than 12 hours. I didn't believe, but I tried. Surprisingly, after this powerful man helped me in 48 hours, just like he the powerfull man who helped me... Send him a message immediately on whatsapp with +2349063731650....Now I am finally married to the man of my dreams and make sure you don't lose hope in getting your ex back and make sure to send this powerful man on whatsapp the number I just gave you if really want your ex back.... Good luck +2349063731650
@Destiny I will not be calling that number he charges $100 to do spells sorry I’m not into that thank you anyway
Trust me. The no contact rule works wonders. But the thing is.....you might realize youre not in love with him anymore... like in my case. I've realized i want a man that loves me and that wants me and not someone that doesn't know what he wants. You are worth so much more. And someone will see that and cherish that.
Omg a month ago I was here watching this video after being dumped and didn't believe Coach Lee. But I still went on one month no contact. One month later my boyfriend comes back. This is just magical.
This is wonderful news ♥️ happy for you
Good luck!
all the people saying someone came back are women telling us how the men came back....... yeah because us men are dumb and will come back. Women don't...... just once i'd love to see her chase me..... she won't
I regret SO DAMN MUCH not going into 100% no contact from the second she dumped me. I should have had more faith in the process and in me being able to move on. She is the one who's losing the most. After 12 years, she doesn't deserve me or my daughters who loved her like a second mom. Her loss.
It sounds like it was truly her loss Joe.
Just letting you know Joe I instantly went no contact when my fiance of 7 years dump my ass. She walked out the door and dumped me through text messages and I said "ok bye"
It's been 55 days since The Break-Up and 55 days of no contact.
I really highly doubt I will ever see her again I just feel it in my stomach.
So even if you didn't beg for her back what I'm trying to say is if she wants you back even if you did beg or you did not beg doesn't matter if she wants you back she will take you back.
Don't beat yourself up
Kids always suffer through selfishness but somtimes you have go be selfish
@@theseattlegreen1871 update?
No contact worked for me. Two months and my wife came back. Things are better than ever now.
Do you have any idea how lucky you are? That's awesome!!
@@theseattlegreen1871 I do. I thank God every night, even after 3 months if her being back. It seemed utterly hopeless, but this can really work.
@@Nomad-yn7pv
I hope my fiance comes back to me..... it's been 54 days! Since the breakup amd 54 days of no contact.
@@theseattlegreen1871 Imo no contact gives you the very best chance of getting her back. It'll either work or it won't but pursuing her will definitely only push her away. Stick with it and make her miss you.
@@Nomad-yn7pv
Thanks for the advice ! I will do no contact until she reaches out, if she ever does.. .
Either way she dumped me so I cant reach out to her.
Good luck with your relationship...
I am envious of you!
No one will be back unless there is feelings and emotions from their side not ur side only !!!
Coach Lee is very insightful and I watch all his videos. After six months of breaking up. My ex came back and I rejected him! I moved on and met someone much better than him. Stay strong everyone and stick out with NC. This is too shall pass!
Thats the way to go! Good for you!
I'm trying moving on as well. She found someone else right after we ended it. Not worth my time! Things get better!
I came to the realization that no contact is to maintain your dignity, to get your power back, to learn more about ourselves, to recover our dignity. It is not to get an ex back... Once they tell you they are not longer in love with you...You gotta move on.
I noticed girls have a hard time in the initial stages of the break up while guys enjoy just right after breaking up with the girl. But few mos pass, they start missing the girl and girl is almost over and feeling more stronger and indifferent. I guess for guys, they don’t know what they have til it’s gone.
girls be like that too
if they had a good thing the real realize it
Yeah, not in my situation
Steph V this is TRUTH! Haha spot on - how’d you know
So true
10 days into NC... he used to say I can never leave him alone.... guess who finally left him alone ! I am not contacting him myself ever... Im done begging pleading being disrespected losing my pride my dignity.... not anymore... done putting him before my own self
Any update?
@@ivanjeffersons1125 yeah he reached out after a month... sent me a birthday wish and sent me an insta request ... i wanted lil more effort so I didn’t accept that as i shud hv i guess but i was hurting and i wanted him to say something ... now we are done again... he pulled back again and i gave him an ultimatum but he didn’t respond to it or care about it...i cant do this anymore... it just hurts too much to keep holding onto that thought of him.... im solely focusing on moving on now.... i just can’t take it anymore... id recommend focus on moving on and not cling to that hope... he reached out yes but I couldn’t play the game of pull push anymore or weigh how much to give to the situation and not... it shouldn’t be this hard... we are all adults ... he is 41 im 31... we should have be able to speak our minds to eachother !!!
@@ivanjeffersons1125 focus on moving on and yourself.... these pull push strategies can really work but it gets too draining because then u cant be yourself... i just wanted him and i was done with the bread crumbs... been surviving off them for 5 months now.. gets really draining... him reaching out just brought me back to the start again... that one month of NC was the longest month of my life where id watch clock... dont do this to yourself.. work on yourself and if its meant to b it will work out ! Good luck
@@jyp12328 thank you for sharing the insight, it was very helpful in helping understand my emotions during these tough times. My situation gets tough because she wanted a break up, but then called two days later asking for a break instead and said she wants to be with me and only me, but that we need time for ourselves. NC has made things much easier once I decided to implement it, going into day 9 right now. I just don’t know what to expect, our anniversary is coming up on May 21. And I have no idea how emotional I’m going to be, or if things are made worse if I don’t contact or do contact idk
@@ivanjeffersons1125 everyon and every situation is different my friend... your’s sounds much simpler thn mine.. i would suggest u keep NC and don’t expect anything... its not ok for one person to put the relationship on the back burner and just put u on a “hold” while u r left confused... relationship requires work and effort from both ends its not something you can turn off or on as one pleases... one can’t be in and out... u either in or u out... thats me view... just stay low dont wish her happy anniversary or anything as she is the one who asked u for break you didn’t... just try focus on yourself and try not to expect.. i know its easier said thn done but try ok !!! Keep watching these videos... when u see others going thru hardships like yours you’ll feel better knowing u r not alone 🤗
Day 15 into NC. its real hard. Been crying everyday and praying and praising. But still determined. I know he will come back soon.
lois cruz you need to do your personal growth first.
Dont hope for a person that left you.Move on and find the right guy
I feel your pain...
Did he contact you? I just started NC
Just remember - the process of self healing and the process of potentially getting an ex back are the same ones. Don’t feel bad if you miss your ex for ages and don’t feel bad if you don’t. You don’t have to feel anything but what you feel
I don't want my ex back. I feel good knowing he wants me and I'm done with him. I'm engaged and getting married to a man who values me. Thank God.
1. Relief Stage
2. At first, your ex feels "Control"
3. Curiosity
4. They will start Chasing YOU
@@lukarandy7676 Hi Luka Randy... Yes,I do trust Coach Lee... No matter what it is, stay grounded dear.. just listen to what coach lee is saying and be patient.. Good luck to you... ☺😘
My ex had me replaced in a month. this march will be there 1 year. I am over her now. If someone can replace you so quick, they arnt worth the effort. While going through no contact I relaized the issues she had with me stemmed from her and her habbits/behavior
Same here. I believe he moved on instantly and i chased. I definitely lost control.
That's been my experience also!
Same thing happened to me bro..not even a month she moved on..almost a year now she gone..BUT I KEEP MY HEAD UP..LIFE GOES ON
Mate the same 20yrs marriage walked out on me within 2months shes got a bloke. NC is more like just don't bother if the past relationship doesn't mean anything to her Which it couldn't of I'm so much better without. As you said I'm more seeing almost the negatives which she brought to the marriage. keep strong billion women in sure we alm will be ok
Same :(
I had 2 choices:
To Walk away and Risk Everything,
Or Stay and try to hold onto nothing...
Stay....i would suggest...u dk...what future holds for u ...if u make wrng decision
I got her talking after a month of no contact, now trying get her to dinner so I can make the proposal, wish me luck!
Thanks Coach!
No contact is the answer to everything.. if they care they care.. focus on you...
I don’t know. It’s been almost 5 months and I’m over her. Coach Lee has helped me in so many ways and I watch the videos to give him a view, like, and a comment to help boost the videos. Now that I’m done with my ex I want to promote his videos for the next person, because there will always be someone who’s going to soon have a broken heart.
@@frankleger3657 who can help?....
For me it filed for you and you trying to convince yourself you won...
For me to win and would not need all these videos and actually spending money on coaching as I have had other relationships that finished and after a while we are over it!! Allways happens sooner or later...
Put ourselves to Forget the ex is a failure for this reason
*it failed
It's been 8 months and I went NC and watching these videos gave me hope and made me stay at ease. But, now I just lost hope and just I guess moving on. Nothing i can do about it, weather she felt these feelings I will never know, maybe she forgot about me and what she was thinking probably happy or who knows.
Did ur ex reach out?
It works and after 2month he contacted me , so ladies don't check on him don't watch him delete his contact rebound move on they will definitely come back.
I failed lol. We were no contact but over time I realized I don’t want him back. I accepted be breakup. So I sent him an email saying I was over him and finally understood why we were so incompatible but I would pray and love him from a distance. Did I give him control here? Or did I help him realize he lost me?
@@ddwow566 should have just left it nc cause silence is the actual closure
@@r.y4240 yep eh i dont care any how shows the kind person I am at the end of the day. Whats the worst that can happen? He stays away? Shit good.
It’s 8 months past the breakup. And I changed my number even 2 times because I don’t care anymore.
My life changed in so many ways since then. No contact saved my dignity and helped me love myself. Thank you for the positive vibes ✨
Amen🙌
Did he ever.reach out
@@crystalclimenhage9980 if he didn't reach out he didn't care if he cared he would have reached out or may be he thinks he is right & you r the 1 that was wrong so he doesn't need to reach out but if you were right then you got to stick to your guns & have no contact if they don't comeback they doing you a favor😉
Looking like u r a narcassist,,not him,,got some brain u poor lady..ur reaction implies that u r so toxic & cheat on him,,that's why u don't care about him,,90% narcassist are lady & they thinks like u,,whatever u thinking right now,,
That’s great!!!
I love my ex. He's the most attractive man in the world to me and I felt like we could conquer every problem. But I'll be damned if I let my life stop because he chose to walk out. I went back to the gym, I'm eating better, I'm taking lessons in skills I've wanted to develop for years. I'm fresh out of school and pounding the pavement to find a full-time job so that I can get my own apartment and my sense of independence back. If he wants to come back, that's great, I'll be happy to speak to him and see where his head is at. If not, I'll live.
Christ! marry me already hahaha
Kat G never overrate anyone they will underrate you and walk out..
My ex was just an average girl whom i told she is the most beautiful girl i ever met (still for mw she is) ...
And boost her confidence... But now she just left me saying you are just average😭
He's feeling nothing. He started dating and hasn't looked back. This just doesn't always work.
But it's ok. Im so much better after seeing his toxicity and am really happy now.
That woman is a rebound.
He might be punishing you.
But dont let him control you.
Update please
@@brielleharmony7568 read below.
@@porschecollector727 during what looked like a very tumultuous and toxic relationship and many breakups, they got married at the end of last year, because he will deploy to another country and this would allow her to move at some point with him on the navy's dime. What I have realized is he is very much in a broken feminine mindset, and needs constant validation. Not a very emotional healthy masculine man. They very recently, in the last week, "broke up" again, and I know all of this because every single time she splashes it across her social media in very obvious attempts to shame and reprimand him. I could never be like that, so it wouldn't have ever worked with us. Also I can't be someone's validation. I want a whole healthy person who loves themselves and KNOWS they want me too.
I'm so happy and carefree and at peace now.
I feel happy that it's not me going through such hell over a toxic man any longer.
@@jessicataylor1775 how long did it take you to get over him and finally be at peace after the break up?
3 months of NC and the breakup, it has been tough but it's given me so much insight about what I've done wrong my entire dating life. Once I un learned everything I had picked up from romantic comedies etc. I can't believe the changes that have happened: I've dated/hooked up with a few women, upped my gym time, eliminated redundancies etc. I'm starting to transition away from NC videos...I had been binging them for months but now I think they've served their purpose..I'm a better person for the breakup (kinda want to give my Ex props for pointing some things that she didn't like and really didn't benefit me) Too bad for her that she has just helped me improve for the next woman I have in my life.
What were you apparently doing wrong?
Finally she texted me after 2 weeks of no contact rule
4 weeks of no contact and my ex is chasing me ❤❤❤ i booked a call with Coach Ken.
Thank you Coach Lee 🙏🔥
My call with Coach Ken went great !!!. He’s very knowledgeable and was 110% worth it.
I booked another call for next week.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. We’re not back yet, but I can smell the cake and is ready 🙏❤️🔥
That's really great to hear and I am with you that Coach Ken is an amazing coach! If you want to see more of him and Coach Lee, here's the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need
every time i’m thinking of reaching out i watch coach lee talk
about the concepts and it soothes the mind and heart.
Bro, your videos have been the best things I've heard right now. I feel like you've really got it right and I've been doing what you said. You totally help me to be strong, man. Thanks for this.
You sir have just earned yourself a subscriber. So easy to understand you and get straight to the point unlike these other coaches.. and you make me feel hopeful and have faith on positive outcomes.
Coach Lee is a Genius and the way he breaks the ‘break up’ down is so difficult than the other Coaches. He’s just awesome! 🙌
Tomorrow I’ll be exactly 7 weeks since I last tried to contact her. I couldn’t have imagine making it this far on day 3 or 4 but I feel better than I ever did. I’m living my best life, hanging with friends, laughing it up and even met another girl who is 100x better than my ex! NC helped me become a stronger and more in control person. Thank you coach 🙏🏾
Dylan Hettinger Yes. She contacted me via text about a month after making this post. Which was about 4 months after the breakup. It was when covid precautions first became widespread and she hoped i was ok and being safe. I replied saying I hope she’s being safe too and haven’t heard from her since.
@@dcunngaming7556 thats pretty cool she reached out. ive read a lot of comments where they didn't even reach out. pretty darn sad. thanks for the reply buddy
Every time I wanna call my ex, I hear one of your videos and I decide not to call. I have no chances of him coming back, but I doing it for myself. Thank you coach Lee.
I bet he’s called you by now.
@@jamiereneemilligan no
Sarah Sar keep going
You’re amazing! Thank you so much. You helping heal hearts in the world. You deserve the best and much success.
Great vídeo coach Lee, going threw hard times.
Thank you coach, its been three months and I've grown so much and realised so many things about her and myself. No contact is the way to go always, whether they're coming back or not. You figure out that you are strong on your own by not keeping in touch with them and you get to see the bigger picture. Thank you for keeping me in the right path Coach 💞
Hi, Coach Lee! You are the only one, who help also people, who were in relationship with married person. Could you please make one more video about it? It opened my eyes so much! Thank you!
Honestly i dont want to tell u that this video made me fell better. I'm gaining my power back incrementally in my mind. Thanks
Damn, this guy knows his stuff. So much better than anything else I researched
Btw Coach Lee, you are a gift to this world. Thanks for sharing your knowledge! Love the intro song too
Good to see a recent video about what dumper exes go through during No Contact, I really needed this... Almost 2 months of NC since our last conversation now and I still miss her, it often comes in waves at unexpected moments. I can feel pretty good one day, and utterly depressed the next when memories come floating to the surface. I'm trying to move on and even date other women, but somehow I can't get her out of my mind... she really is special to me, always has been. To all people in NC, good luck and strength to you. Thanks again for your effort and free content Coach!
I wish you the best in 2020 Ray!
I appreciate the kind words Coach, the same to you!
I too feel like i am in a rollercoaster. One moment I'm crying and wishing I would just drop dead and disappear, after that I am thinking of how disappointed I am of what he did and my pride is taking over. But it's been 20 years and he is all that i know, from 25 to 35 he was my life and all that i did and thought was about us and for us. It is so damn hard.....
Never use someone as a rebound
Hang in there buddy. I know exactly what you mean and how you feel.
A 1/2 hour of Coach Lee breaking down relationships and re-attraction. I love it. I actually moved on and met another woman. I was with my ex for 6 years, now I wouldn't take her back
MaxsMovieChannel not so sure if you are watching this video 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@LindaCoelli Actually Linda, I was leaving a progress update on Coach Lee's most recent video. As a testament to his kind words and general understanding of relationships. He helped me immensely. Also I think it's rude to make half-cocked assumptions and snarky comments to someone who may be going through a difficult time. Luckily I am not. Goodluck.
@@theseattlegreen1871 well my brother I'm sorry to hear that. I can say that the best thing that helped me is taking it one day at a time man. And do things you love to do, and stay strong!
@@maxsmoviechannel2025 my ex blocked me on everything she wasn't talking to anybody during this time it's been 8 days now and I'm wondering if I'm going to hear from her because the first time she told me not to contact her I talked to her and left a voicemail after 4 days and then we start hanging out again then this last time she told me that she's done and she will press charges if I try to call her and on top of that she sent me that mean text message 7 hours after she got off the phone with me asking me to come over her house on Wednesday
@@maxsmoviechannel2025 how are you doing now man? Your comment is my life actually. My 7 years gf dumped me for being emotionally abusive. Only cried twice, when I lost my cat and broke my hand due to anger (instead of blaming her because it was kind of her fault but anyway) and when she said that she doesnt want to put more effort in our relationship. I was living in France back then, we are Moroccans, I left her to go there to study and have a better job opportunity and therefore make more money for both of us. But I became too lazy and lost interest in studies when I went there and went through a lot of psychological issues during lockdown all by myself in a country which is not mine. We spent a whole year without seeing each other, 3 months ago was when she decided to get over with it. I stopped her, begged her to wait until I come back, so we could meet and figure this out. I gave up everything there and came back, met her and then eventually broke up. It's been a week now, when I finally stopped stalking her and contacting her, after she changed her phone number and stopped replying to me in Facebook/Instagram. She didnt unfollow me or unfriend me, her sister doesn't reply to me neither. So I would really appreciate if you told me how you were doing, because I read your comment and I felt like you and I went through the same stuff
Perfect timing, Coach. 52 days no contact and pressing onward. I still miss him at moments and I’m sorting myself out still but am also getting fit and feeling better in the process. Was looking and feeling great today and unexpectedly saw him. We didn’t speak but he definitely saw me. It didn’t rattle me like it has before.
Jason R999 Thank you!
T Mac makes sense. Thank you!
That's awesome that you look great!
@H H4 Thanks I do! That was over a year ago and I have moved on and am happy! 🙂
I'm the 100th like
you have a real gift for this coach lee. funny thing, i don't want my ex back, lol. I just find your videos soothing and motivating. Thank you.
LEE, YOU HAVE BEEN GETTING ME THROUGH TOUGH TIMES. SENDING LOVE AND POSITIVE VIBES, MY FRIEND.
You've been saving my life, God bless you man!
Your videos have helped me more than any other. You’ve helped me regain my power. I no longer feel panicked and worried about the outcome. If he sees what an amazing person I am, he will be back. If he doesn’t come back, he will save me a whole lot of time and trouble. Thank you coach Lee.
Man!! this video right here left me speechless.I now have a superpower of encouragement Coach, you are the man👍🙏💪
Coach Lee, thank you for this channel! 🙏🏻. It helps a great deal. My breakup has been since February (right before the quarantine), of this year. I can admit it, I was needy due to her being very avoidant. She blocked me on everything except email and we’ve had he said/she said, aggressive correspondence until May. I started nc 45 day’s ago. I realize this is not a sprint, rather a marathon, so I’m not sitting around waiting for her. I’ve been doing a lot of self care and personal development. I hope we can reconcile, but regardless I will be fine. When she comes back, and she will. They always do. She will need to prove to me why I should take her back and how things will be different. Stay strong everyone! If this just happened to you. I empathize. I know the pain and anxiety you are experiencing. I promise you it will get better, but only if you focus on yourself. Don’t wait around and give them that power over you. Be patient, your ex will see the light. Remember you don’t need them. You have YOU and YOU are amazing just as you are! Good luck!
Update?
update??
Did she come back?
Timely and very appreciative advice. Thank you💖couch Lee
Coach lee I just want to thank you so much man I binge your videos everyday I really miss my ex. But no contact the ONLY way I will be able to take back power your advice helps me every single day thank you again
Mine dumped me and started with someone else who he feels makes him more comfortable. He was with her and they are even getting married. The beauty of no contact is also helps you to heal. It hurts me so bad.
Is Like The More You Really Over Them, Move On And Meet Someone Else. BOOM! She Calling You After 5 Months Of No Contact
Thank you Lee your advice has given me a fresh perspective and a great sense of peace and calmness !
One month NC thanks to Emergency Breakup kit. It’s really difficult but I’m staying strong. Thanks Coach Lee.
The fact that you take the time out to acknowledge those voices in the back of peoples heads is awesome.
You Are #1 Coach Lee. Protect This Man At All Costs
Coach you have a lot of experience I love ❤️ your channel you’re truly professional 🙏🏿
Coach Lee, you made me realize that I don't really want to get my ex back anymore. He reached out after no contact and after two times face to face, I just see now that I deserve so much better than him. I lost the interest in the process of getting him back. You made me realise that I'm so much better than he made me feel. Coach Lee, you made me stronger. You also made me see how much better I'm and how I don't need and shouldn't waist my time and energy towards a disrespectful and unconsidered person as him. I'm so much happier without him and the drama that he brought in to my life. Thank you so much for everything. THANK YOU FOR OPENING MY EYES AND MADE ME APPRECIATED MYSELF. I want to have you as my life coach if possible. AFTER WATCHING ALL YPOUR VIDEOS , AND ACTUALLY HSAVE HIM CHASING ME BACK, I REALIZED THAT I want and deserve to find a better man who deserves my love, kindness and attention. :)
How long was it before he reached out? Day 4 for me. So it’s been tough.
Lia Marry me x
@@chezarechapman9429 lets go
Lia if I had the chance I would .I'd love a decent person in my life .getting away from a narcissist is the hardest thing ever to do .
@@sergiogodinez2496 he started to reach back out I would say four days of no contact. ones or two times per week until he started to reach out everyday. Than he recently asked to go leave together again and I said no. I'm ok and I'm happy. The thing is that I'm not even mad at him at all.
This guy has made me learn so much I never realised. How emotionally immature I was till I started to Follow lee about a year ago , wisdom really does come with age once u get closer to 40 for me everything makes so much more sense
@@davepotter1564 I don’t want my ex back she was a life lesson learned I gained very important wisdom from it
I've used the no contact rule 3 times. Hes right. It definitely works. In all 3 cases I got them back then eventually dumped them. Guess what happened after. They chased me and pushed me further away. Use it!
Are you serious?! Damn I’m on day 36 of nc.
Went into no contact after trying to talk to her about for a month after break up. So I deceived to give it a try.
I left him a year ago blocked him immediately but his messages come thru my MacBook I never responded then yesterday I FaceTimed him to wish him happy birthday(just found u today) oops and he didn’t respond
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wish i could comment on all your videos, but guys do everything coachlee says..hes a magician
Can't stop watching your videos. Definitely helping my get over my ex.
Lee Coach is the best of all videos from different people. His theory works
so I commented a day ago. This is an update. when I was at school, minding my own business walking to lunch, he came up to me and started jus crying and asked me to talk. We did and we’re working it out now.
thank you so much for making these videos!! It helped me a lot!!
He sounds Gay!
Rocky Waters LMAOOO I REALIZED MY WORTH AND ENDED UP DROPPING HIM
@@mixedchickULike 😂🤣
a total Lifesaver wish I could hug you brother applying your advice asap may God bless your work and passion to help others
Coach you’re speaking to my soul. I’ve followed everything you’ve said thus far, my ex asked if I can please consider giving him a chance. I’m considering.... Thank you😘
@survivors sadly but, true or maybe it can be a different story this time around.
survivors He’s a nice respectful guy. Things happen in relationships some can withstand some crumble.. Doesn’t mean he’s not worth giving a second chance. Time will tell.
jack Lim not true at all. There was no cheating involved. Now that would be me making a mistake to give another chance. Not the case. But we all entitled to an opinion.Thank you though .
U have a photo?
Jayne fernandez hey, how long did the no contact last for for your ex to reach out? Thanks
Never been dumped before... This is very enlightening... Thanks... Your voice is so calming
This guy always make sense🌟🌟🌟
Thank you, I felt so much better after I watched your video ❤️
My boyfriend broke up with me suddenly and I don't know if I want him back, but watching these help mitigate the pain, etc, of a sudden loss. Thanks for doing these so authentically. I've gotten so into them they have been a great distraction. Your delivery is *chef's kiss*
Thank you for posting this helpful video. I really appreciate your time and effort putting out this great content.
the missing part makes so much more sense now, before i was so confused as to why when i was saying "hey i miss you" and they were so cold back but its because i was constantly there, there was nothing to miss. yes i felt like they were the dictator because so much was in their hands but this puts so much pressure on someone. in my mind i'd love to be chased but probably not to the extent i did, it would start getting boring because it was too easy. that's what was so fun about the chasing when first got together, the mystery behind it. thanks for being able to put it all into words. only wish i got here earlier and would've had better chances but you're right, focus on ourselves, put in the work to learn from those mistakes to better ourselves. stupidly i remember now, a thing an ex said was something they found attractive about me at first was the "mystery" so of course losing that, its no wonder they feel like this now.
Wise words from a wise man
Together for 3.5 years. He broke up with me 3 weeks ago (lol Christmas day). I cried and begged him to change his mind for a week. And i have been NC for 2 weeks ever since. It’s really tough, but it’s been getting easier.
Thanks coach lee for making this situation easier! Idk what i’d be doing if it weren’t for all your helpful videos :)
ella A the same exact thing happend to me. Also 3 1/2 yrs...
Wrote her a letter, bought her flowers and left them at her door and went into no contact....
She reached out after 3 days, told me she missed and loved me & wanted to meet me.
I was too enthusiastic and she just went back into the breakup....
Now I‘m in NC since a few days again & I can say, it does get easier, but will always leave me hurt.
The same happened to me. Just before Christmas she broke it off saying she didn’t love me anymore after four years. I think she was cheating but the evidence is circumstantial. I tried no contact once, lasted a week and then contacted her. It was good but then I ruined it with a plea of sorts. Now I’m back in no contact for the last four days. I’m going to do it this time and see what happens while concentrating on improving myself for me.
Geek at 40 lets keep going!!! 😊✌🏻 we can do this
She ended it with me on my birthday! That really hurt and i don't think i will ever forget that. Things get better trust me, have faith in Jesus everything will be alright.
Nelson Nolasco Christmas for me 😂🤦🏻♂️ and then new years again, after cominh back.... next weeks my BD, so yeah 😂😂👍🏻 I feel u bro
Coach Lee I follow your videos for about 5 weeks now and I'm from South Africa. Keep it up mate you're the best.
Love thise Man saving lives healing wounds in real time.
I've just opened yr video dear Coach and I cannot describe how surprised I am with every word that you spell... from the start.. it's as if you've been spying on us.. on the pair of us.. looking inside my soul.. feeling exactly the way I did when he announced him breakingup from me.. his mindset.. my emotions.. everything.. word by word!!!! I am so happy to have found you... finally! .. I have been listening to so many coaches on utube till I found you. Lucky me!!!
Again in the nick of time coach Lee. Thank you for your latest video
Thank you for being such a great help.
You're a great coach.
Currently on day 2 of NC but it feels like day 20 or something. I’ve been improving myself and started going to the gym properly, focusing on my uni studies etc. I just want her to come back though and I’m always so close to contact her. The thought of her being with someone else kills me inside.
I love these videos. She told me it was just the loss of our connection/feelings for me that caused her to break up with me.
The tought of partner being with someone else kills inside...it does 😭😭
I failed today, Valentine’s Day, 2022! 14 days of no contact down the drain. I took her bait hook and sinker… I pleaded and gave my case and realized it was useless!!! 🤦🏻♂️
She gave me all the lip service, for sure! She’s dating an orbiter ( this hurts like hell) and now it’s back to day one of NC! 😫
I remember in my younger days when I first started to navigate the waters of dating, I thought I was being weak by just rolling over and accepting the break up. Cause at the time I thought the guys I had gone out with I thought they were testing me and seeing if I would fight for them. But it’s good to know from Coach Lee that by just doing nothing that I was doing something.
#1 focus on yourself! Get in the gym 💪🏾 feel good about yourself with or without them
I hear this guy because he has a good grasp on understanding human nature in relationships.
I'm so glad I've stumbled upon your videos , they have gave me some strength the last few weeks, on day 40 still no contact. It's very hard but hopefully it pays off , thanks lee your a tower of strength 👍
Im in day 5 after 9 yeras with her, did nothing wrong . I didnt ask for marriage but proof a future plan with her. I hope i ger her back
@@ricardoperez8866 I pray you get what you want.. im now in a new relationship engaged to be married, never been happier, my ex came back but only let me down again so good riddance, I wish you well
@@ricardoperez8866Update ?
@Ricardo Perez I would get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. You will find it very interesting since it shows strategies on every situation.
http:/Emergency Breakup Kit/myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Sometimes you have to realize when it is time to let go. Especially when you see that the character of your ex, is not up to par with yours. There is no way to fix stupid. Would you ever do the things to your ex that he did to you? If the answer is no, you should examine your motivation wanting someone like that back, and in the first place, for allowing someone to disrespect you in that manner. I learned the hard way and am in counseling. I have been totally heartbroken, but this realization hit me at the 6 month mark. Enough hurt is enough. It has been 6 months of NC here and not a word, except when I saw him and new GF at the lingerie dept. of a store. He did say hello. I was chill and said hello too and left the store a bit later. I know at 4am he thinks about what he did. Honestly today, I feel that if he did come back, there is REALLY too much water under the bridge. He does not DESERVE me. I am better than that and will never let anyone ever disrespect me again. It is his lost- I am a good, clean girl, make 6 figures, have home and all set up. I am kind, gentle, loving and beautiful inside. I was loyal and did everything he wanted and even put up with his Narcissistic behaviors for 7 years. He is on his own now and good luck replacing me. This is my situation and do want to say that Lee saved me from some very dark spaces caused by this breakup. I had hope and prayed, but it was not meant to be after 7 years... Please know that one way or another, it will get better. Thank you so much Lee. You did save my life.
Coach Lee I been following for a long time! Watch most of your videos! And you give me so much strength thank you 🙏 by the way your so handsome and love your new hair cut 💇♂️
I love you coach Lee you are right I'm not letting him back I wanna be alone and if it's God's will for us I will take my time I need to heal blessings to you sir ♥️🍰💝
Its been like 6 months for me. Id like to say i dont fully care anymore but part of me still does. It hurts that he hasnt reached out. I have grown so much in this period, im not even sure if we’d be compatible anymore because I have realized a lot of his past behavior was unacceptable and i put up with it cause i cared too much. I guess it just bothers me cause it feels like such a soulless act. I never thought he’d just get up one day and leave and never want to talk to me again. Thats what still hurts.
Other than that imma live my life. Im still lookin for my own happiness for now.
Emily My girlfriend of 3 years dropped me for another guy immediately. I moved my stuff out and he was over her place within a day. If someone does not want you in their life they do not deserve you. I was in love with the idea of who I thought my ex was, but reality is much different.
@@shav12 I'm really sorry to hear you went through that. I can't imagine being replaced so quickly like that. but you're right, and its their problem and not ours. I've more or less accepted what happened but it is hard to come to terms with that betrayal.
Emily He showed you who he really is. Take something positive out of it and be grateful it happened earlier rather than later. You are now free to find someone who deserves you and if you would have stayed with your ex that person could have passed along without you realizing.
did he ever reach out? any update?
Its like my story...don worry..lobe yourself
Great advice. I just started a no contact with my ex. Its very difficult, but necessary. Its the perfect approach for me to catch my ex off guard. As I'm usually a very vocal and dramatic person. Time to stop that crap. Take the power back. Silence can be deafening ;)
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You're so wise, I really understand your logic!
Thank you soooo much coach lee I was just about to text my ex but listen to this video it will keep me goin for another day ❤️