SK-II: Marriage Market Takeover (Please turn on subtitle)
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- Watch how single women in China courageously #changedestiny by standing up against the pressure of being labelled “Sheng Nu”, or “leftover woman”. Learn more about SK-II’s #changedestiny movement: www.sk-ii.com.s...
Today, Chinese women face immense pressure to get married before they turn 27. In many Chinese cities, so called marriage markets are a common sight, where parents go to post and match personal ads. A number of brave Chinese women have finally stood up to speak their mind against society’s labels and their parents' pressures. A marriage market in Shanghai’s People’s park was taken over by personal messages from hundreds of independent women, stating that they want to control their own destiny.
Find out what these women courageously say to reconstruct the mutual respect between generations and increase society’s understanding to finally change their destiny in the film.
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I never understood the concept of marriage. People who want to get married as fast as possible. I am from Tunisia and my parents expect me to get married soon (after university) (I'm a 17 years old boy). What about no ? I don't want to get married nor do I plan to be married when I will be 18, 21 or 25. However, even if my family knows that I won't get married soon, they still use phrases like : Your wife will be so happy one day ! Do you have a girlfriend ? Or my favorite : You need to be married in order to be successful, but you are still too young to understand that.
It shouldn't be an obligatory step in your life to accomplish, I see it as an optional step, where marriage is something that will make you happy. Marry someone that you will love, you don't owe anything to anybody. But you will get married when you will want to with the person you love and you will know when it will be the right time.
+Cosmo Aero V2 Wow man, that's a very powerful statement and one worth sharing. I think it's really good that you stand up for your own opinion.
ur point
+Cosmo Aero V2 Can't agree more with you!! :D
+Cosmo Aero V2 what a deep speech from 17 years old boy. When I was 17 years old I was trashtalking to other dota players, until today...
+TitanSilencer exactely my point. i would only get .arried if I find the true love and this person wants to get married. it would actually be perfect for me to find someone who doesn't want to get married
That lady damn near called her daughter ugly while sitting across from her! That was so mean.
I was thinking the same thing. I have never heard a mother say that her daughter is ugly.
Yeah I know right thank God that not my mom.
+Shut up I'm pretty There is something wrong with the translation. The mother is saying that the reason why her daughter cant get married until now is because she is not pretty enough. Not ugly.
+Ziyi Huang what is 'not pretty enough' ??? what is the definition of
'pretty' ??? Who is the authority in this department ???
+Ziyi Huang that's still kinda rude, especially from your own mother.
I'm a digital marketer in China. Just so you know, this skii video really made a noise on Chinese social media. Many women thought it tells their stories and got touched. But more women felt angry and questioned why they have to get marry to be happy, they also felt upset because this "left women" concept were used by a skincare giant for selling their products.
Thanks for the insight. I lived in China for a few years and was really curious how this was received, especially since SKII is a Japanese company.
It seems like SKII is trying to market by saying if these leftover women used their overpriced products, they're going to be prettier and be able to get married. They'll have bright, pale, smooth, beautiful, glowing, youthful skin with their $200+ skincare products.
@@Sechari I believe Chinese, Taiwanese, and other Asians really like Japanese and Korean beauty products. They're considered better, higher quality, and more prestigious.
Well, it is good to have nice skin to look good and healthy in your own body!
'why they have to get marry to be happy' That's not the point. The point is that most women have unrealistic views and in stead of dating a kind and decent but not so popular and rich guy, they all go for the same guys and are surprised it won't work out for all of them.
Funny thing that if i look down into the comments, most hate comments are from people who are incapable of believing woman can live a happy life without a husband... or maybe "die alone" is too much a big thing to them. To me, I'd rather choose to die alone after enjoying a happy life, than spending 40 years sharing roof (and bed) with someone I don't like...
agreed
+Hope L Can't agree more!!!!!My Dad and mom used to push me to find a bf and they almost talked to me about this topic everyday, all the time. I was so depressed and annoyed by they. So when deciding whether go to HK University of Science and Technology，or go to a less famous University in NA for my master program, I chose NA because I could then get rid of them~ Now they know I enjoy living alone. And I won't marry anyone until I find someone that I love and loves me. Now every time when we chatting on video, they would just say: dont worry (actually, I'm not worried at all), he is somewhere waiting for you. Just dont miss him when you find someone that you love. Okay, that makes me feel better~~
Amen! The worst thing is to be with someone and still feel somewhat alone, when you could've been happier by yourself.
+Hope L strong cope lmao
+aQmohra 7382942290483294082394 people in this world and you can't find someone suitable for you, so picky!!
I'm Asian and my mom was forced to marry my dad. My grandfather literally threatened to not attend her wedding if it was with another man so she decided to make her dad happy and marry my dad. However, I have an older sister who would supposedly be called a "leftover woman". She's got a great job, she's beautiful and she's not married or dating anybody. But our parents, who weren't married because of love on their own or anything, aren't pressuring her into marriage because they understand the concept of "finding the one yourself". Same with me, one day they'll let me find love by myself and so on. I just want to say I hope more Asian parents come to terms that if you force your child to marry just for society, like you don't get any joy out of it at all.
May God Bless you and your Sister
jtan2010 wow we really got an optimist here... YOU can do that if you want but to me, dying alone is just as bad as dying after having to be with somebody you don't love for the rest of your life. also, I know I'm not the prettiest girl in the world, don't just assume I'm some self-centered person, you don't even know who I am. Also I want somebody who'll like/love me for my personality too not for my looks. I'm not dreaming of true love, I'm just expressing the fact that I have the chance to find love by myself, unlike a lot of girls who are forced.
tara yas girl preach, don't worry about what that person said. You go and find yourself a true love. Never settle for less than the best!!!! :)
jtan2010 Not trying to be mean, but it sounds like your bitter because you didn't find your true love. she should never settle for a guy who has the smallest interest in her, no one should do that. It's pathetic. You get one life, who wants to spend it with some one they don't really love. If you tried and fail. Try again :)
jtan2010 Trust me bro I'm not a lesbian and I understand marriage, family and culture very well. I just don't want the poor girl waking up each day to a man she can't stand. Would you want that? And I stand by what I said, she shouldn't settle. She deserves the best. And so do you. Beside who are you to give her such terrible advice " Catch the first guy that has even the smallest interest in you. Don't fool yourself. Your not that good looking". Who would say that to another person with a clear conscious. If she wants to risk her heart to find love that's a hard and good decision to make. Live with no regrets and go for the Gold......NOT the Bronze .
I was married for 13 years. There was too much pressure being married. I wasn't enjoying life. I felt as if I was back in school and being pushed to study for the next test. I'm alone finally, but not lonely. I am at peace and happy.
+ghostcar Nah, you were just selfish and never meant to be married.
+HermannTheGreat Oh - here comes the shaming language. You must be a man-gina ? A tool for the female. Step right up. Let's play.
+ghostcar OOOO HE BACKING DOWN OOO
Edit : its almost been an hour
+HermannTheGreat with an attitude like that, you must be permanently single.
+ghostcar Actually he has a point. That's the way you come off. And it's not far from the truth for most people these days.
My family is Muslim but from eastern Europe, and this pressure happens to girls over there too. I'm turning 27 in June and I feel like I've expired (too old, no more beauty) this video makes me empowered!! I want to hug every Chinese girl who is going through this! I love you:(
+lilly limani beauty comes from inside, and a strong woman is a beautiful woman. You don't need to marry a narrow minded person. If you want acceptance be that yourself by meeting other cultures maybe with a different way of thinking and value regarding to that. Be proud of yourself as you are created uniquely and perfect like a pearl. God bless.
Dont feel that, im a moroccan muslim, 30 years old, i married the man that i love a week ago and he is 3 years younger than me, muslim, handsome, polite, alhamdulilah❤ لما ربنا يقدر لك شيء راح يحصل مهما فقدت الامل فقط ادعوا الله
No need. There are more men than women there in China. They want a man to buy them an expensive house in Shanghai worth 1 million US dollars and to give them a car. This is the problem. Most people cannot afford those things in that country.
Wish I was just 27 😄
That’s crazy, age standards are so different in different cultures because I’m 28 and me and my friends are still considered young, nobody is asking us to marry anybody
I'm not crying, you are. 😭
+Emily Mei yepp, totally got to me. such an inspiring video!
hola mi amor hoy parece que va a llover espero que si lo necesitamos para mi es un honor poder hablar contigo me gustaria hablar todos los dias y espresarte como me encuentro espero que bien yo estoy muy contento de estar junto a ti y poder decirte que mi corazon va a mil cada vez que encuentra una carta suya y espera pronto reunirse con usted la amo y no puedo esperar mas creo que haremos una pareja perfecta y que todos nos miraran donde vallamos para mi es muy bonito lo que nos esta pasando te mando un millon de besos y abrazos fernando
This video literally breaks my heart into pieces. I wish I could tell these girls that being single in your mid-twenties inst easy anywhere, and that it takes courage not to conform with society. NEVER settle for anything less than what you deserve. You are defined by so much more in life than your relationship status.
+Amanda Smith Actually, being single in your mid twenties IS easy and socially acepted in the West.
These women aren't in their mid-twenties, they're 30+. In China, a leftover woman is a 30+ unmarried woman; a leftover man is a 30+ unmarried man.
Problem with modern women is they THInk they deserve way more than what they actually do. Makes their ego's inflated, having unrealistic standards for men, end up alone and by the age of 30-35 it's WhErE hAvE AlL GoOd mEn GoNe
These women are not anti-men- they are independent, strong and they want to wait for the right one instead of marrying for the sake of it. Wait for the right one..do not let your parents morally and emotionally hijack you. They are not left-overs but beautiful.
+Wendy M they are not against men but they want men to do the whole thing for them - i mean that phrase: leftover men need to try harder... as if it was their responsibility to do something about it...
Maybe the need to find the significant other is not so urgent after all if the women are just waiting for men to do something
+Idont GiveaFluck These women are mostly very beautiful and men are really not that picky. Maybe the reason they cant find a man is because they have a shitty personality, but ofcourse they will find a reason to blame that on men.
+viktorvaldemar What do you mean "men are not that picky"? Why can't guys be picky? And those women were choosing to be single, they weren't waiting for a husband;
+Idont GiveaFluck It was actually the mom that used the expression 'leftover men need to try harder'. The daughter didn't necessarily think that, it's the mom that thinks men should make the first move.
it's not important if the mother or daughter said it - it reflects what the majority thinks..
I remember when living in china actually going to one of these markets. In reality its quite creepy because everyone is anonymous..Behind paper, quite depressing actually; When income is more important than actual "love" then you have a problem.
Important for the men to have, not the women.
And THAT is the real reason why these women are single.
I'm a 29 year old guy from a Chinese family and believe me, it's not only daughters that feel this sort of pressure to get married....sons are also hounded by family for being single.....
+killbot86 its no different than in India then!
+killbot86 That's so awful, must make you feel so shitty. It's especially bad for women though, not to undermine men's feelings about this, but because female's have to hear the constant tick of the biological clock...
+Figjam Exactly. That added pressure is the worst. To be told your getting old and won't be able to have kids.
+killbot86 maybe so, but it is probably worse for women. Please don't make this about yourself (men) if the message was about women.
Hugo Reyes I knew that sooner or later someone like you would post a comment like that. All I said was that men feel the same pressure as well. It wasn't misogynistic in any way. What you just said was totally ignorant.....
beautifully done. i hope that chinese parents will understand that marriage does not always equal happiness, but thousands of years of tradition can not be wiped away from one inspiring video. i do however, have very high hopes. again. great work sk ii
+Juyi Li Wiping away thousands of years of tradition is a good thing? How sick are you?
No one wants to wipe away their traditions, but basically sacrificing your daughter's happiness for your own well being is pretty selfish. There needs to be a balance somewhere
+Blick Mang . Mr. Mang, your comment was rude. I hope you can take a moment to remind yourself that the video we both just saw was inspiring. perhaps my use of the "wipe" may not be the best choice. But that certainly does not warrant me a personal attack on my health. In any event, I wish you well.
+Candice Honeycutt thanks candice. I am of chinese heritage myself. and i am male. i support this video 100%. dont let negative people on here change what we believe in. best wishes to you.
+Joh1002mm come on man. im not interested in a bickering war over nothing. i am asian and i am male. I am fully in support of strong and independent women. best wishes to you bro.
it had me sobbing at the end wow, such a beautiful video with beatiful women
+Noelle gaaaay
Not till you see the other side of their "thing." Don't get me wrong, they are all beautiful and lovely women. I'm saying they are not the only victim of this unbelievable cruel society, so are the men. I don't wanna spend hours to go deep on this topic, you can check out the related video to find out more. Somehow, it is hard to date in western countries too. I think civil appeal itself, the more educated the nation is, the harder the people can get married.
They aren't looking for any guy. They are looking for a guy that meets their cultural standards and that they are attracted to. There are more men in China than women. People still think of China as this undeveloped 3rd world country but while there are still poor, rural areas, there are many very affluent people in China, and these days an urban Chinese man may be just as affluent as your average American man.
+SepherStar because of lots of reason, these poor men in China are looking for the women from poor country, such as Vietnam, Cambodia and Laos.
It will be more serious in the future, cuz the statistic demonstrates that there will be thirty million men that cannot find a woman to get marry.
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My sister has been called "Sheng Nu" by our family and it breaks my heart. I'm glad this video exists; it teaches girls to love themselves and that being married is not as important as being happy. I love it.
My heart breaks for the woman at 1:36; hearing those words from her mother. My mother is similar, very cold and quick to "diagnose the problem." Please understand to those who are not Chinese; do not be quick to judge or hate. This his is their culture, and as hurtful those words may seem, she is genuinely worried for the happiness of her daughter. Her words strike close to home for me.
and I hope the truthfulness however harsh doesn't change with time. We don't want everyone to be thr same otherwise there is no beauty in diversity. as a European male . I found this very moving and empowering.
I don't wanna know how many girls are unhappily married just because of that.
Half a billion probably.
I am a single woman of 34 years and I support you all. Be happy being who you are and love yourselves before other people, even your parents, they will eventually understand
+Lorena Flores Agüero you must be very happy
Freezing PT I am. Have a career, good job and my live on my own. :)
***** is it by choice you not having a family?
Freezing PT yes, i am not sure I want kids, i am too focus on studying (i wanna get a phd) and rescueing dogs and cats. I do have a boyfriend but we are not in a hurry to marry. First are our studies then, maybe, one baby but i am happy with my dogs and cats. :) He is too. Maybe adopt a child some day too. That would be great :)
***** good for you :)
FACT: If the world owes you nothing, then you owe nothing to the world
+1
+soisoisoisoisoisois0 if the world gave you nothing, then you owe nothing to the world
Thank you!
+soisoisoisoisoisois0 FACT: If the world keeps you alive, you need to give life back to the world.
I can pull shit out of my ass as well.
+Sam Robert The world doesnt keep you alive. You do.
I live in China too. It's great to see women standing up for themselves and expressing who they are. Don't be shamed, be proud!
My dad tells me all the time that to live a happy life I need to stop worrying about fulfilling others expectation of me whether its looks or being liked. whenever I'm sad I always find it hard sometimes to know for sure if I have expectation at all with myself or If I know for sure who I really am. It's hard with the media and I like that brand sending this type of positive message.
figure out what u expect of yourself every year and try to achieve. leave room for change since there is no fear in changing those expectations. like you're father. don't let outside influence waver your goal.
+Yeha Marin and worried and looking for someone to marry my e.mail is amarcos_13@hotmail.com
Anderson Marcos Castro
Marriage is slavery. Please don't waste your life. I hv a youtuber called SANDMAN. Listen to him.
If the Internet gave awards for best content in 2016....this piece should win. Amazing and inspiring. Great story telling and content Sk-II
+Tim Stanford meh. this is typical marketing scheme, ie using a non-issue shot in a way to stir up emotion, do you ever hear the plight of Chinese men in China, who cant marry because he has no million dollar apartments? or a decent car? or a high paying job?? of course not, not in a world ruled by manginas sjw and feminazi.
+obsidianstatue you cannot speak on an issue you do not understand just because you hate the fact that it's empowering women. I'm a Chinese man from Sichuan Province and the men do not have a hard time getting married if they are not rich as you say. A decent job that at least pays the bills and puts food on the table is all that suffices, especially if the man wants the woman to stay home he should have a good job. Am I a sjw mangina for being empathetic to unfair treatment to the opposite sex?
warmccl LOL WTF, the prerequisite for Chinese men to get married is AT LEAST owning an apartment, and a 2 bed room apartment in Beijing or Shanghai or Guang zhou WILL COST you millions. even cities like Chengdu is very expensive. so stop the bullshitting.
these women cant get married because their standard is too high. are you seriiously telling me that these middle class women with a Shanghai or Beijing Hukou cant find at least a decent guy from the country side? LOL NO they want to marry executives or high salary earning white collar city dwellers. LOL and those parents has the audacity to cry, can calling an unmarried daughter a "heart disease" do you know how much they would flip out if their daughter brought home a migrant worker? LOL THIS IS AN ad, SK II, a south korean make up company knows jack shit about the social dynamics of China. and neither do you.
+obsidianstatue I didn't write that they need an apartment because that's a given. Again everything you wrote tells us that you have no idea what it's actually like and that you have a personal vendetta to fill today.
+warmccl LOL WHAT?? it is a given that men must have an apartment to get married? and in China where apartments will cost your family millions? LOL what a typical mangina, crying about "oppression" suffered by the female, by oppressing male. LOL
Im glad that China is the last bastion for humanity's war against sjw and feminazis. China has more self-made female billionaires than the rest of the world combined. what does this tell you? China is a place that values talent, grit and savviness. in China you can't get in front of the line just because you have a vagina. or you skin colour is somehow different from the rest.
this is NOT gender discrimination, this is true gender equality.
Just sent Mom this video and told her how lucky I am to have an open-minded Mom like her who values my happiness way more than maintaining a social image.
I'm bawling my eyes out..beautiful message
ahh so good!!
you should do a video on this !
wow
+LeendaDProductions Wait... Are you single too? O_O
Leenda!!!
+LeendaDProductions I'll marry you
Very inspiring indeed. I am a single man. Men can live single and so can women. It is disgraceful to be referred to as 'leftover women'. The word 'powerful women' should apply to you all. Best wishes for a bright future regardless of whether you all will be singleton or married.
This made me cry and inspired me at the same time. I'm a single man, and my mom always wanted me to get married. I really love her but I don't want neither wife nor kids just to make her happy. It's my life and that's it. Love you girls!
I love this. I'm an American living in China and even I receive this pressure. I can't imagine if I was Chinese receiving this pressure. I'm NOT leftover! Being married for the sake of being married won't make me happy.
Wonderful strong independent women! You're not missing anything. Take your time and enjoy your life. Marriage is not always the right choice in life. Nice to see a cosmetic company with a conscience.
Thanks to SKII for making this video message. Yes we are not "left over," we didn't do anything bad or feel guilty about. We should be proud of the way we live, and we are the pioneer.
The feels. This was shot beautifully and edited really well.
2:04, it made me sad and pissed off that she wanted to apologize for maybe being selfish. Their is no reason to apologize for being successful or going for a career than marriage. Sometimes you have to be a little selfish to accomplish goals in life.
I understand your comment but this is the culture she was brought up it in & respecting your elders' wishes is part of it (hence her feelings of guilt)
Their parents pay all their tuition and life expense after 18, and will pay for their house, decoration, car and even take care of their children' children.
They don't get a right to disobey their parents, unless they choose to take nothing after they graduate from high school.
Neither Chinese, nor a woman. Touched anyways. Won't do this to my daughter.
I’m so proud of those women and every women that is alive today not letting those social pressure dictate their future. It’s your life, live it the way you want to!
This is a true story, and it happened to me: I was in an arranged marriage. It fell apart after 2 years. The saddest comment was from my grandfather, who told my father that my in-laws 'never treated us like family'. You can get married, but still be alone. Worse than alone even.
This video made me so sad. Those poor women. I'm over 25 but still in my twenties. I know how these women feel in a way, I'm not Chinese but respecting your parents/elders is a common trait in many cultures. I'm not picky, just waiting to find real love. Getting married for the sake of making others happy is not worth it. Who cares how many 'things' the man has? A house, car, well paying job, etc. Money can't buy love. Glad the parents of these women saw past the societal pressure and see their daughter's point of view.
Such a powerful message, I hope all these women find happiness (and love) on their own terms.
+littleangel12344 probs with a white guy then
I can 100% relate to this video. This is the same for Arab culture- get married young. Even my Pakistani friends have this in their culture but they don't think there's anything wrong with it. They clearly just want to get married.
I'm Pakistani and I can relate. I don't want to get married young tho. I'm only 21 and I want to live my life before settling done...if I ever do.
+RR R same, I don't want to get married just for the sake of getting married
If a person wants to get married, then it's fine to do so. However, being pressured to marry when you don't want to is leading to a disastrous future.
1:37 God, poor girl... It hurts to heart this kind of things from a stranger, can't imagine from your parents...
+Sora6893 my heart broke. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment, not even from parents! :'(
+Sora6893 She is pretty! Definitely by western standards.
Kate Rushton I thought it too! Maybe she wasn't that stunning but indeed pretty! And at the final, she looked more confident and even moooore pretty.
In Chinese society, parents can say it to their children; because they're your parents...😰
I don't know what to say. It happen to me right now. 28 and single , it's like you have a disease that more terrible than cancer. What makes me stronger is, I tried to enjoy every moment in my life, though sometimes I also get mad and disappointed. Take a deep breath and go on, it's not because we are not pretty enough, but it's our path of life. These girl on this video are pretty but I think they are enjoying their life as what they want. We also must bear on the society perspective, trying to smile on every negative perspective to us. Keep calm and be strong..
Thanks for SK-II to tell the world that single women can live with pride !
+FireflyInClearSky go and buy
I married a "leftover woman." She's beautiful, both on the outside and the inside, has a great personality, and has a PhD in mathematics. She's Vietnamese, but the cultural issue is more or less the same as China. I think Vietnamese men are/were mostly intimidated by her achievements and education, and so that made things hard for her. I have a similar level of education, so I view that as a positive--I like having a spouse who is my intellectual equal. In my country, men would literally have been tripping over each other to date my wife. I consider myself the lucky winner, but for the life of me I cannot understand how such an extraordinary woman could have troubles like that.
+Thomas Affolter If asians are more butthurt over something than their demographic crisis, it's your white fewer.
Hypergamy across whole culture is generally a great solution for leftover women, though, western man is less picky, and not bound by societal customs. However it is also too reminiscent of neo-imperalism and makes it even worse for western leftover woman.
ez diy Too bad, you're pissed cause you can't get a man. I'm not surprised.
+Thomas Affolter Thank you for also mentioning her character and appreciating her intelligence. Too many men just can't see past the image of women and only care about their attractiveness.
On a completely different note, I think ez diy is a man.
XRC, sure. I would not marry a woman who didn't have a good heart or a strong mind. What kind of man wants that?
Kill me? Why's that?
I personally loved it.. I got married at 32 for the first time for the wrong reasons. I had never actually lived my own life. The marriage was a disaster and 10 yrs of hell followed. Take the time to find whatever it I'd your looking for.. You get many changes at most thing's. We only get 1 life.. Live it as you see fit..
this is so beautiful and sad at the same time. made me cry
What a beautiful message, seeing how far we as women have come. Yet how far still we have to go.
Great angle and great story. Really tells the public what your brand stands for. Thank you SK-II for giving the spotlight to the strong independent women!
“a Woman Ain’t single and lonely because she is Strong and Independent..She is lonely because Nobody wants To Deal with her”
This video charges me up as a Westerner. There may be a lot more families with parents that do not have as much tolerance as these parents, and it hurts.
This is a problem pretty much across Asia. As a 30 yr old, i know my parents are concerned for me getting "too old" and in some ways so am I but to just get married to a "match" and be with them for 50+ yrs, its pretty daunting
my heart's crying out for this. such a great and touching campain!
This is amazing. Many of us all around the world feel the same and go through the same. It's good to feel that we are not alone.
Thank you for this video.
This is an important message. Society must wake up. these women are very brave and I respect them.
YES us girls are more than just labels .. this is such a beautiful message WELL DONE
Be independent, be brave, be free!!!
Awww I'm so touching.
💕💕My heart goes out to these women. You are stronger and more beautiful than you'll ever know! Thank you for beginning to challenge old, antiquated beliefs. Because YOU are enough. ❤️
+Lulu Magoo Would you be saying the same if men were the ones being shamed for not getting married (which is what's happening in the West)?
+Sam Robert of course. Shaming anyone bc they don't/ can't live up to others expectations is ridiculous. This video just happens to speak about Chinese women. But I know this problem goes on all over the world and effects both sexes. And it's definitely time for that to change.
+Lulu Magoo Shaming as its benefits. It could have evolved in humans (and other animals) in order to deter harmful for the group. For example, ancient humans since prehistory may have shamed those who strayed to have more cooperation. The same thing works in modern society. People choose not to partake in traditions are shamed, people date multiple people are shamed and those who remain single and don't start a family are shamed by society at large and their family. There are benefits and downsides to that. The downside is that shaming a scientist who could help cure cancer will have a tougher time on their hand (but that's unlikely that any of the women in the video are going to heavily contribute to society that way). The benefit is more people adhere to the notion of a family unit that is very good for any society (less single mothers happen as well, which is good).
From an evolutionary perspective, this makes a lot of sense. People reproduce to pass on their genes to the next generation. If the next generation doesn't reproduce, the parents have technically died from an evolutionary perspective. Shaming your children for not marrying ties into that.
+Sam Robert .....
exactly, since ancestral worshipping is still practiced widely it's the end of the generation.
This was a 4 minute emotional rollercoaster
This isn't something happening in China only, unfortunately. Hispanics have a term for this women too, "quedadas". It's true, times have changed but still it's something that people criticize a lot. Women shouldn't be told when to get married and we should not care about what others say, but still, it's hurtful to have your own family and friends, talking behind your back about how you don't get married or not have kids yet...
+Va Ar don't Hispanic women have a 70% of wedlock birth rate? in places like china marriage = family, that's not the case in Latin America.
+Va Ar not all hispanic, at least not in Argentina.
+di wang there is a lot of truth to this, but I see it a bit differently. A lot of women in the US do not marry because they want careers and really, that's been a great thing to bring equality as well as family power. A lot of men in the US only want women that bring in money, too, because many women now expect to be pampered because of the wealth (they are a drain on society) or because many jobs don't pay enough anymore to cover cost of living. Wealthy nations suffer very high cost of living. So, If women have their wealth, they are more attractive to men, too. Of course there are men that like their women like slaves, but that doesn't make for a very attractive woman in America, no matter how good looking because long-term, they don't bring much to the family wealth and power. I would never marry a woman that cannot work, also, and I make a lot of money and don't even need her money, but I want it because my goal is to have a very comfortable life and build a strong future for all of my children and grand-children, own land, develop businesses, etc.I don't need a trophy/slave wife. I want an equal to create a powerful team to compete with the world. I've married my best friend and we do our best to co-parent AND bring home money.So to me, the biggest problem isn't east vs. west, and it isn't which countries have more money, it's about greed and cost of living vs. financial freedom and strength. I'm greedy and the cost of living is high. I need a working wife that contributes to financial power for our family.countries that encourage the strength and financial power of a working woman WILL conquer all because you have 2X the power per person per capita.its' simple math.
+Va Ar Hey, girl. I'm from SPAIN and we don't have NOTHING like that.
Not necessarily. And what I mean is that it's looked as something to criticize, not that women are sold for marriage. And let me fix my first statement, I mean latin american countries, or at least where I'm from, sorry about the hispanic thing, I was really tired while writing lol.
I love that mother's exclaim: "Leftover men need to try harder!". Why should it be so one sided?
totally understand how they feel. It's hard to fulfill your own dreams when your parents have their own dreams for you.
+Tttracyk Right, "F YOU MOM AND DAD!" is a better solution than continuing your heritage. No one wants to marry a sterile, career-obsessed cat woman who rationalizes away every bad decision she's made.
dont let that mang guy get to you. i think he is leaving negative comments just because he can. this is a platform for positive change. not negative redicule. I am of chinese heritage myself and i am very much in support of strong, independent women.
+Blick Mang What does that even mean? Nobody in the video even remotely said something like that to their parents and anyone deciding to not marry doesn't mean they are sterile, loveless or denying their heritage. That's really just you projecting your own insecurities and on these women.
+Juyi Li oh yea. I don't care for stupid comments like that. For me it's not so much about family, it's more about social pressure. The social pressure that every women should be marry and have kids.
+Tttracyk Just wait until you're expecting a retirement check and there's no younger generation to pay for it. Zero idea how socialized states function and what's needed to ensure their continuation.
They are all so beautiful and seem to be so happy the way they are right now! Don't give up and don't give in. Cultures all over the world are shifting... don't waste your lives living a life you are expected, even if by your parents. You only get one chance in this world, make it worth for you and you only!
hola mi amor hoy parece que va a llover espero que si lo necesitamos para mi es un honor poder hablar contigo me gustaria hablar todos los dias y espresarte como me encuentro espero que bien yo estoy muy contento de estar junto a ti y poder decirte que mi corazon va a mil cada vez que encuentra una carta suya y espera pronto reunirse con usted la amo y no puedo esperar mas creo que haremos una pareja perfecta y que todos nos miraran donde vallamos para mi es muy bonito lo que nos esta pasando te mando un millon de besos y abrazos fernando
"Average looking"
I wonder whose fault that is...
Who ? Tell me.
+OG509 Parents'
Keefe Guadeloupe But she is telling the truth. I think most parents want a beautiful child.
黄华韵 But the beauty of the child is likely to be determined by the parents' genes, not so?
Keefe Guadeloupe you are correct. I am just saying her mom's intention is not to blame her daughter, but to state a sad truth.
"Happiness is very hard to find in yourself, and impossible to find anywhere else." (Not my quote. I forgot whose. But well worth keeping in mind.)
total apoyo a las mujeres chinas, las mujeres solteras no son sobrantes son valientes que se atreven a decidir que hacer con su vida, defender tus derechos no es ser defectuosa ni sobrante. todas tenemos derecho a esperar la felicidad y aplaudo que tengan el valor de luchar por ella. desde URUGUAY tengan nuestro total apoyo.
exacto :)
Not just a problem in China too, unfortunately. It's a shame that the mentality of women 'must get married' still exists today, as if they are somehow less woman for not doing so. Stop shaming women and men who aren't married for whatever reason.
+foreverfriendsg You're right, but it is a stronger problem in China than much of the Far East and Western worlds. Though, technically, this pressure is almost equally as high for men, they just have a few short years longer to find a wife before they're also ShengNan and pressured and left out in the same way.
+foreverfriendsg I started a new job 2 years ago when I was 33 and when asked if I was married and had children I said no. I was then asked if I was a lesbian. I'm not. Plus lesbians don't give up their wombs and ability to have children just because they love women over men.
I am in the UK and people here STILL think that there is something "wrong" with women who choose not to get married and have children. Personally I think there is something wrong with people who want so little in their basic predetermined lives that they are happy to live the same life as everyone else.
I want more. And I am going to get more. I want to see the world, I want to learn as much as I can about the world around me and I want to be surprised by something new every day. If I can find someone who shares this ethos with me, great. If I don't, that's fine too.
I find it hilarious that my co-workers who have never left the city they live in, bar their holidays to Majorca, or picked up a book since school are supposed to impart their "wisdom" on the babies they keep churning out.
+foreverfriendsg no, just china and india
ASloaneRanger Also a problem in Japan at least, unmarried women above 25 have the term 'Christmas cakes'.
Excellent message for people who lived believing that is more important what the people think or says. For all parents in China or anywhere in the world...Let their daughters (or sons) feels free to decide and live happiness.
I cried so hard it's so touching
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+JarrelGTV loool
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+galbitorix me too , i cried
I never cry when I watch this
As a Chinese American woman I can relate to what these women are going through. However, thankfully, for the American aspect of my upbringing I don't feel anywhere nearly as much guilt or sense of duty to get married as the women interviewed in this film clip. The Chinese national obsession with marrying off young people borderlines insanity. You can imagine all the twenty-something gays and lesbians walking around feeling the crush of social opression to get married as soon as possible to please their parents. This obsession to marry children off is foreign to me--I have never understood the purpose of doing this in Chinese culture.
children !!! if you're over 18 you're not a child .
wonderful, brave, and inspiring women.
This is very common in middle eastern cultures too:(
+Lola Anne it was true everywhere on the planet for the most part up until about 200 years ago. only in a few places has it changed.
+Lola Anne Indonesia and almost all of south east asia too.... I am 24 but still single, I knows their pain
+Paulo Ferreira yeah, I was being sarcastic. this is dark ages type stuff
+Lola Anne It's common everywhere where the disease called feminism has yet to take place.
It's common in Latin America and Eastern Europe too.
As someone who doesn't mind not getting married, who doesn't want children, and who is Chinese/Vietnamese, this is honestly one of my fears, that when I reach a certain age everyone in my family will talk and question why I haven't found someone yet or why I don't have children yet. Even if they don't say anything bad to me directly, I know they'll whisper it behind my back. I really like the message of this video and what SK-II is trying to do.
This ad makes me cry every time I watch it. It hits close to home.
Left over women are the ones that can be able to afford SK II products ;)
+Liz Nguyen Luu I don't think so.
yes!
+Liz Nguyen Luu Having cosmetic products beats birthing and raising beloved children and becoming an honored and respected grandmother any day right :^)
+Underyourbedeyes '
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No one should be forced into a relationship... cannot imagine that for myself, as someone who very much enjoys being single. The stigma of being single and "incomplete" should disappear, and i mean for everyone.
Hey i am a guy but is true sometimes do not rush find the person is serious about relationship. be strong ladies out there.
This was so moving. Powerful, Strong, Beautiful Women
These ladies are my role models. I’ve been single for 10 years after college and I’m happy. Yes I have that desire to be married and have children. I personally don’t feel the need to search for someone to have all that. I want to meet the best friend who will become my husband. Have children if not biologically then I’ll adopt. I understand arranged marriages I’m the second generation in my family that didn’t get forced into one but the option is still on the table if I want it. The first four years of my single life was hard and I almost took the offer. Being 32 on March 19th I will not take my singleness for granted. I’m free to come and go when I want, if I want and not have to worry about the other person. It was until the past two years that I accepted myself without having to wear makeup as well. I know I am beautiful with or without because what’s important is what’s within.
YES!!! It gets lonely but I will not go find someone just for one moment of happiness. To all you ladies out there if you want to wait for THE RIGHT PERSON, you wait and take your time. On the flip side if you are out there in the look out for someone. I will pray you through it. No matter what, each woman has the right to love and make their own decisions. 💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️
Oh gosh, shouldn't have watched this while I'm still in the office. Now I'm crying and I have a meeting soon.
This is what it is like in the Indian culture too. Whether you live in India or outside, marriage pressure will follow you. Change is needed!
so you want to marry much later in life when no one will want you because you are too old to marry?
+aQmohra nobody is "too old to marry".
Noelia Aguiar your chance of marrying when you are older diminish greatly because the guys you are attracted to and desire (high social status, successful etc) are not attracted to you. They want the younger prettier ladies to marry and they do because these women are also attracted to these guys (high social status, successful etc). Simply put, Things get worse for women the more they age, things get better for men the more they age.
aQmohra I see your point, BUT not every guy and every girl are attracted to the same things ;) The guys i'm attracted to might be more interested in an intelligent, cultivated woman with a great personality than in a young pretty and boring girl :)
If you only care about age and beauty, then i would not be interested in you anyway.
it kinda got me sad when the mom said that the reason why her daughter was a leftover woman cause she wasn't pretty just average :/
+Izamar Reyes made me angry! glass houses....
The mom is just keeping it real lol
My mother actually said that to me when I was 25 and told me I was getting old. I have fewer prospects than before so stop being picky.
im sorry for you hearing that. but the logic is flawed. what if by the time they are 4 years into the marriage, they hate each other? then they are stuck forever. it is better to meet someone when you are older, more mature and know who YOU are before you choose someone to spend your life with.
+Izamar Reyes
Not condoning it, but it's a cultural thing. Parents say this type of thing about their kids pretty frequently, regardless of age. It's not usually mean-spirited, it's just way more candid than western culture is used to.
God I teared up so much, I feel this way when people look at me too as if I should already be married and have my life situated. This was so moving.
This is so heartbreaking. No one should ever feel this way. Some people talk about tradition as if it was an untouchable topic, some kind of good social behaviour that is supposed to be followed without questioning. But if following a tradition means making other people's lives miserable for the sake of nothing, how can it be good? This kind of belief is so toxic that it even blinds parents for what their doing to their children. Tradition should have no power over respect, kindness and the willingness to build a society in which every single person can choose to live the way they want without being judged by it. If a tradition goes against this, then it should have no place amongst people's lives.
This happens in indian culture also...I'm in my early twenties yet it's very relatable :(
YOU GO GIRLS!! Live your own life the way you see fit... what's the big rush?
Let life proceed by your own design, THAT is true beauty
This ad is good , i think SK-II knows their target market very well - mainly financially independent women, modern etc...and they touched on a topic that is so relevant in Asia - China especially. Great ad.
To the women of the world, you are beautiful and can achieve everything if you work hard. Don't let pressure dictate your future.
Thanks to SKII for starting the movement, truly touching and needed for a country where family value still remain within the Dynasty era.
these women are beautiful n so good to see them not submitting to the shallow societal norms. i wish them all the best!
Yeah, they rather not marry low class men from small city and rural areas, just like Asian men are treated like horseshit in the West by the white women.
Watching this in 2016 is so heartbreaking... :(
+YanYan but that's the real realllllll realllllll life in our society. we suffer it everyday of life. And mature seems like to be terrible thing with this perception =))) so bitter
Thanh Luu Ha
I hope the things will change as this topic is more and more openly discuss in China.
Some of my friends are also struggling with this. :(
Touching video. Shocked that over 25 women are regarded 'the left women' in China. I'm 25, I don't feel I'm too old to have adventurous dream, and find my true love. Life is long, and we're still young.
You go girl! Never settle for loser men! You are much too precious, settles only for the likes of Chris Hemsworth or guys with gazillion dollars in his net worth.
Age is but a number, I know several women in their 60s still traveling and partying like it's 1999! 60 is the new 20 baby!
My own mother, blessed her heart and peace be upon her, got married when she was 96 and gave birth to me when she was 99. You're only 25, you still have like, a quarter of century to pursue your dreams to your heart's content! You go girl!
@@WalkerTexasWanker looool
Sorry more men are waking up to the fact, women after 25 most likely have a notch count of 50 and cant pair bond. As for true love lol yeah Disney is not real lol
I'm just a random American kid sitting here with a crumpled tissue, tears still in my eyes. This was so unutterably gorgeous and so important.
Touching story.I've grown up in this background.I highly doubt the pressures are now off those girls. Their parents will be proud of what they did but give them another yr. The pressure will be back on. An ad and a poster in a park isn't going to change a cultural tradition.They had speak about it, but those pressures will forever be present
All these women could really use a hug but all I can do is hug my monitor. Let's hope the intent gets that far, for what it's worth.
Me hizo llorar :” ) . Todas las mujeres son hermosas. 👏👏👏👏👏
A friend of mine, she's Chinese, got married two weeks ago. I have a feeling she only got married because of pressure from her parents / family. She turned 30 in February.
While in China on business I met a traditional China girl who fits your Sheng Nu category - divorced, over 30, with a son. We were married some while ago ( we both had previous unhappy marriages )
Important to her were a successful marriage and a home that reflects harmony.
She brought with her the results of a 5000 year culture, a subtlety derived from a language with 3000 basic symbols rather than 26, a sense of grace in floral arrangements, an enthusiasm for growing fresh vegetables in the garden, and amazing cooking skills (skills which we share ). She manages the interruptions to harmony that are inevitable in any relationship with view to repair, not victory - tho she's no pushover - one of her ancestors was Genghis Khan.
I am both grateful and appreciative of the gifts she has brought to our relationship.
So to the Sheng Nu girls out there, good outcomes are possible.
Possibly in proportion to giving up seeking them and allowing them to find you :-)
(I think Lao Tze gave advice along these lines )
bawled my eyes out. don't let them ever tell you about yourself! you are beautiful and strong, and your lifestyle is JUST as valid as the newlywed wife or mother next to you!
As an independent woman. we always have right to choose the life we want. It is all right only if you feel right.
How I'm so touched! it's enlightening. it's inspiring woman to change! no one could dictate our future! it's our own destiny!
+Venny F. Venistine
change so that you aren't women anymore
yeah, good going !!
This is beautiful, not very different from the culture of Pakistan.
More power to "Leftover women"!
+Ayesha Khalid There shouldn't even be a term: Leftover women. I can't fucking understand why people would consider that a woman HAS to find herself a man, and to make things worse... They make them despair because of this, it breaks them. I just can't bear something like that.
+TheSLK66 you're right there shouldn't be a term/label for us.
But that's how society considers independent women to be, shaming them of their mere existence, labeling.
+Kim Jong Un Who the hell are you to tell people when they should get married or do anything in life??? Live your own life end let the others do the same.
+Kim Jong Un yes, parents do help in the matchmaking but it's just as same as The Marriage Market in China. Most of us don't want to be married because it's same as selling the daughters by looking at a man's bank balance and his house/car. Resultantly, the divorce rate is increasing day by day. So I can totally relate to it, a woman should only get married if she LIKES/LOVES man of her choice(if at all she wants to be married)
secondly, you have got your reply for age limit in the above comment.
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***** Expiration date? You're either a piece of shit or a so not funny troll, both can be fixed if you take a good beating from people not so rational unwilling to listen to your crap.
Being single is fine. It does not stop me from caring. I care a lot. It does not stop me from doing good things. I do good things all the time. I am free and enjoy my freedom. My freedom harms no one.
Chinese girls, be strong. We are here for you. All the woman in this video are independent and gorgeous. Just continue and resist. My prays for you girls.