How a space can improve (or destroy) your life
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- Опубліковано 27 тра 2024
- Change your environment and you can change your life. The problem though is it’s not always for the better...
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When you are depressed, cleaning your room feels like climbing Mount Everest. The most difficult part is to start. Once you have started, then little achievements motivate you further until the job is done.
I agree. I also find that even doing 15 minutes of cleaning or tidying can be more palatable. Setting a timer helps too. Its amazing what can get done in a short period of time...and crazy how sometimes 15 mins can easily turn into a lot longer
@@curlycharlybrown A timer helps a lot!
A timer is the key. So powerful. And saying that's it for the day is helpful. 15 minutes every day. That's it. And just start with trash. Then dishes. No other advice because that could get overwhelming.
To anyone reading this, you got this. If throwing away trash is too hard, please reach out to a therapist so you can work through what you have going on.
A little bin for your room helps. And a laundry basket or two.
And when your cleaning it's okay to stop & allow yourself to get distracted for little bits of time. Try not to let it derail you progress. IF it does, cut yourself some slack & try again. NEVER stop trying, you got this! 🤗
"He didn't use willpower or discipline, he just outsourced it to his environment". That's a great line.
I do the exact same thing with ice cream and I’ve done it for years. But I learned that the hard way after buying a gallon of ice cream and eating it over two days.
You can pull yourself up by your bootstraps in almost any situation if you have an exceptional mind. However most of us have an average mind and the more counter our environment is compared to our ideal self the harder it is to lift ourselves out.
The term often used to describe this behavioral tweak is "friction".
It can even go both ways - you can also remove friction for stuff you want to do, like buying healthy foods for snacking.
Edit: Nvmd lol, it gets mentioned at 5:44
I think it still has a certain level of discipline involved, it still takes discipline to not go out and buy Doritos but the rule of not bringing them into the house enforces that rule
Dealing with Doritos was the classic abstinence vs moderation argument. At the core, moderation generally requires a lot more self-regulation skill than abstinence does.
i live with my parents and always felt like "oh i will change this and that when i have MY home" and that made me feel disconnected to my place and made me lazy to even try anything new. I changed this perspective lately and it is simply changing my life, my mental health and my relashionship with my family.
Same, tbh! Is moving out of the parents really worth that steep increase in rent? I keep being like, yes, my room is a mess and a constant reminder of who I was. Which wasn't bad, it just is a lot of history that clutters my mind. I'm excited to use some tips in this video to change my environment in the ways that I can.
@@Cozmonimbus if you have better use for that money eg tuition or just food, then no, not worth it. But if you don’t have that concern then totally worth it!!
I can totally relate to this!
Any ideas?
I resonate with this! Except I never thought about changing my attitude towards it. Thank you for sharing as you have sparked a desire for change in me!
One tip on habits: Look for what you are already doing in your living space and leverage that pattern. For example, I noticed I was having a hard time throwing clothes in a hamper, but I did tend to toss them in a certain area of my room. Rearranged my room to put the hamper there and the problem was solved.
Great concept, thank you for sharing!
this is great i do this too :D i sort my clothes into different bags so i dont even have to sort by colours after i put them in the hamper loool it's great.
Genius!
Yes! I've been trying to do this lately with some success might I add. Felt proud of myself to figuring that out o my own.
Same with taking morning vitamins, just put them next to the morning coffee area. Etc.
Honestly this is why I regard Architecture and Interior Design so highly, these designers really consider the smallest details like air flow just for a better human experience and it's so overlooked. A powerful thing to do is to design your space in a way that speaks to your heart individually; a lot of us are living in makeshift 'situational' rooms that meet our immediate needs, yet overlook our long term desires. Taking control over this small thing can make the biggest difference! 🏠✨
Makeshift 'situational' room hit me hard. Now I just need to find the energy to change it lel
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I never knew how all the most important things to look for when buying a house…. are in the air! Lots of natural light, airflow, and quiet neighbors make my 500-sq ft condo feel like a paradise retreat!
that is what all of our ancestors knew deeply i reckon. all we need to do is gaze apon the architecture of the old world to see this :)
@@gc1572 Yes I have found that the neighbours are one of the most important things about choosing a house. Doesn’t matter how nice the house is if you’re irritated by the neighbours every time you’re at home.
I've learned that clutter is a sign of trauma and buying in bulk is a form of hoarding. It's most likely from growing up poor and developing a fear of scarcity. I'm currently facing these issues and decluttering my house. It feels so liberating.
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People, environment really does matter! When I was living in my parents' house it was a complete disaster. My parents would always body shamed me, mocked me for my passions, and were saying all the toxic things to me 24/7 and I hated myself and my identity because I believed all the unpleasant things they were saying to me. Put simply, I was surrounded by negativity every single day. BUT when I finally moved out of my parents' house, my life got appreciably better. The first thing that changed was that I didn't have all the negativity around me any longer, and so without hearing disgusting words about me I could finally start to love myself. I established fruitful and supportive friendships, surrounded myself with positive people and good things and i had more time for myself that is, I could just sit in silence and reflect on life or whatever without getting distracted. I wasn't drowning in negativity any longer and the change of environments really healed me.
That’s true. My parents also body shame me and say all the negative things to me. I try to stay positive but it’s really hard 😭
@@waterlily9780 ohh, I'm so sorry that this is happening to you, stay strong!🫶🏻💞
I am SO happy to hear you freed yourself from the toxic relationships, and energy. I did this, and my whole family died. They were using my powerful, loving, healthy energy to stay alive, and continue their sickness and sick thinking. Without me, they could not live. There is no power in confusion, hate, and stupidity. I loved them, but they only knew how to live a lie, be parasites, and addicts and refused to tell the truth.
Thank you for your story. It encouraged me a lot with my planning of moving out as early as possible in the future. But I'm wondering if I could still live for myself in my own way but somehow still could maintain healthy relationships with my family members. How did you overcome this problem? Please tell me 😢
@@kimdungang4095 hmm, I don't know what your situation is, but in my case, I just limited my communication with my family members and we only talked on the phone, they were unkind towards me and toxic, so there was no point in communicating with them too much. Again, I really can't be much of a help, but if your relationships with your family members are already great and there are no big issues and everything is stable and healthy, then after moving out, you should call them and just chat with them, maybe you should meet up with them if you're not far away from them
As someone who grew up in a chaotic messy house this resonated with me so much.
I grew up this way too. Going back to my moms house always gives me anxiety so at home I try to be as organized and clean as possible but those habits I learned show up. Just have to keep trying.
@@OchioChan1325 🫂💛
Totally get that ! Me too
Our house was always a mess Mom worked and no Dad as well as 2 brothers that didn't help .
But years ago I changed my identity and said I'm a organized guy I'm a motivated guy and I'm a healthy guy. Years later I am in a great house and am Uber organized every Tool, sock and paperclip in its designated spot (almost) always
I went from 220 LBS to 150 LBs (although a recent medical problem and the pandemic set me back some but Im back to juicing physical therapy and walking) and along the way I did TV shows and movies performed for presidents and Kings well 1 king. and was able to call people like Michael Jackson friends. But this video is EXACTLY what I did to turn it around. Change your identity , Change your mindset and Change your environment and you change your life . And Bottom Line Anyone can do it.
Same
Oh man... your daughter's sound in the end was so so wholesome. And that really really moved me. You are such a huge inspiration. You got yourself out of your dark place. You're working towards building the version of yourself that you want and the life that you want. On top of that you are spreading your knowledge with other people along the way. You are amazing and I wholeheartedly thank you for all that you do.
What kind words! I totally agree with you :)
Great words, man. This channel brings me joy, perspective and lots of good reflections about life, work and family. Love the ideas, the personal tone and the way he tells stories.
I absolutely agree too! Also congratulations for the baby!
That sounds almost broke me, keep recording them! They are a finite and mystical resource
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That Doritos strategy is how I quit drinking and smoking. I just don’t buy it, and lean on my laziness to do the work for me 😂
I also quit weed that way, though I save that for last when I’m exiting a degenerate stint in life, since it helps me to mitigate the withdrawal of others and also adds extra laziness friction
I’m lucky out of the stage in life now where I pass through those phases, and it’s a tried & true method! Works every time, and it sticks as long as you make the decision to not go back
I think that’s why I never got into some of these things. If you’re gonna come to want cigarettes pretty often you need to remember to buy them, always have a lighter, grab them on your way out the door, buy extra if you’re going off the beaten path, plan to make time to go out for a smoke…. Too much work for me !
@@sablisland I never smoke-smoked, just either vaping or heated tobacco (IQOS). Part of the issue with vaping is that it’s just so damn convenient
I call it weaponizing laziness
Absolutely 💯
This shit is so true. I was hospitalized for nearly a week after I showed up at the ER in critical condition from sepsis. Within 4 days, I was ready to go home. I was in a spacious room with plenty of natural light and once I was strong enough, I could get out of my medical bed and SIT IN THE WINDOW. I have Lupus. I shouldn’t have recovered that quickly. I still firmly believe the environment played a huge role in my healing.
I moved my bed next to a huge window, and now I watch everything in nature, doing its thing, and I am so happy!
As a disabled person who has been housebound at many points, This calls to me in the deepest way. I know that putting my bed right next to my window and curating my space to be beautiful and soft was and is so helpful to my mental health in the times where I'm not able to leave.
I'm glad you've been able to make a soft haven for yourself😊 colours can make or break your mood too - I once had my living room a raspberry colour, then purple and it sent me over the edge! Now it's peach walls and sage or aquamarine throws and cushions, and it's such a soothing colours. What colours did you choose for your space?
Same here, the first step that I made into creating a prettier space for myself was paint cow prints and hung up CDs (the reflective side) on the wall in front of me which I'd look at whenever I was bed bound. It's funky and entertaining and unexpectedly at first made me so much less depressed during the times I couldn't even look at a tv/phone and just had to stare where my eyes landed because it was always that wall.
I'm moving into a new room soon and will put all of my effort into creating the perfect little space no matter where I sit or lay so I'll always have something to distract me. Maximalism if you will. Fun colours. Pictures and plants everywhere. 2 tvs, one in my bedroom and one in the living room, easily accessible no matter where I'm forced to be. Double skin care (or even toothbrushes), one part in my bathrooms and the other half next to my bed.
These are the most of my tips and recommendations. They have improved my life in so many ways and hope you're able to create the perfect little spot for yourself aswell because you deserve it!
@@daniellee.e_x it sounds lovely! As you say, maximalism! I hope having to change rooms isn't too chaotic for you. Do you have family or a friend to help at home? PS palo Santo wood is very soothing comforting aroma to have when you need to feel supported. Good luck with your new room!☺️💐💖🌿
@@puggilove I, luckily, do still live at home where I mostly have my parents to help out. My new room will be a secluded area in our house w one big space w a living room, kitchen & workspace all in one and then a small bedroom area. So I'll have support when I need it but can also get some privacy. It's really nice but so stressful. I've been preparing to decorate and move spots for months now and am still waiting on the room to be fully done but even then I'm scared I'll have a hard time furniture shopping & decorating it. But we'll see, I'm keeping an open mind 🥰
I've actually never heard of that wood before but I'll definitely look into it! I really like having non medical options to help with all sides of being sick, spiritual things or alternative medicine. So I appreciate you telling me about it! ❣️
You're the sweetest & I wish you the best! Please feel hugged ❤️
I am with you! I moved my bed right next to this big window a week ago, and I now spend all my free time sewing and relaxing in this window seat! It is so uplifting.
When I can’t get myself to do stuff, changing my environment by going outside, working in a coffee shop or at the office usually works like magic. Thanks for the reminder 😊
Yeah it's crazy how stepping outside can change your mood so quickly.
My husband and I are practicing Swedish Death cleaning: freeing yourself and your loved ones from a lifetime of clutter. We are 30 years old and have finally downsized after multiple yard sales, vanloads to Goodwill and nearly 2 tons of trash to the dump. 😭 Feels so good!
You don’t literally mean 2 tons right? You’re just using it as a figure if speech?
Good on you! My husband and I just moved into my childhood home which unfortunately has 2-3 generations worth of just...stuff. It's been a lot and I can't imagine doing the same to our children. Congrats on all your hard work and freedom 🙌
@spammusubbi8596 😂😅
There is so much truth to this. If your space is filled with things that makes you happy, and is tidy, I noticed that it really makes me feel so accomplished and peaceful.
I love tidy. I love artful purposeful items. I love space. I love light. I do not love things in my way, things calling for me to clean them up to linger, or to feel like my home is a mess. On extra creative or extra tired days, I let it all just be, and prioritize creating +/or resting, because it makes dealing with things better for me. I love feeling accomplished and peaceful!
If you have trouble with your environment, i'd recommend starting from scratch if you can. Either A) Throw or move out everything to another place or B) Move to a new place. Start from scratch and really be mindful about the things you'd want in your room. This'll massively change what influences you throughout the day. If you liked this video, you'll probably like the videos like "the right way to mediate" or "How to get happy slowly" on my channel. cheers!
We literally are doing this! We moved, packed everything up, and moved houses. We have a LARGE shop where most of our things are. What is in the house, we bring box by box (I'm talking about decor, non essential things, extra clothes) and are being mindful. We have been here 5 months, it's a revolving "mess" but it's not a stationary mess. I'm bagging my summer clothes in vacuum bags, I don't have room for them in the new small closet, then they will go back up to the shop.
It's a process, but after living the last 13 years in ONE HOUSE and having our 3 kids grow up and move out (and leave things behind) our house was big and cluttered. It's been a good move all in all.
When our flatmate moved out, my partner and I decided to move all our stuff into her empty bedroom to start fresh. Having a clean blank room to start from meant I didn't bring a single thing in without thinking it through. I dumped all the drawers out, moved the dresser in, moved the empty drawers in, then put only certain items in the drawers. It's starting to slide back again a bit now, but when overwhelmed I still find it easier to remove everything first, then decide what to put back.
@@Lyddiebits Congratulations! Sounds like a great move, and moving into a new awareness that brings you choices, and peace. Well done.
I like to watch Korean homemaking vlogs. The subtitles don't translate into English perfectly, and they actually end up being very insightful because of it. In one video I recently saw, a woman was trying to create an office space in her living room, because she didn't have an extra room to serve as an office. What she was saying translated to "I have to create my own creating environment." So spot on.
Same, i love them. For some reason i find them to be super calming
me toooo!! do you happen to remember which channel it was?
@@marla0412 I think this was actually a Japanese vlog from Niko Life.
Hehe i love them too. My favourites are: namis life, hamimommy and honeyjubu. I love to watch them when i want to relax❤
samee, the videos are so peaceful and they take such good care of their homes it's uplifting
This is exactly why i keep my room so nice and bright and exactly how I want it. My friends will poke fun saying im a clean freak/perfectionist but at the same time they also envy how beautifully kept my room is. Most common compliment I get is that its like an ethereal fairy land. The way I see it, if im spending most of my time in my room, I want it to be a the most calming, peaceful, enjoyable place for me to be. Same will go for when I get my own place aswell. I know some people who have their own place now but they keep is so messy and their energy is always chaotic and they seem stressed almost 24/7.. it makes me wonder, how can they live like this? A person's environment is soooo vital to their wellbeing.
oh my gosh now I want to see your room ! 😆😍
I also want to see your room now! UA-cam room tour!
Truly though, I love my room. It's so important to me. I really understand you. I don't understand people leaving their spaces desolate or dirty.
"Fix what bugs you" by Paul Akers is all about reducing friction. He started out mostly applying it to his business but then expanded it to his whole life. I have fun making little fixes like hanging my battery vacuum in my coat closet, with the plug next to the hook, so I plug in the vacuum every time I put it away. Got rid of all the cups I didn't love, kept the ones I did. Expand to the whole house and life gets pretty relaxing and entertaining at the same time.
Yes I'm slowly getting there. The small changes I did make has already been tremendously helpful. Glad to know there's a book. Now I can learn more tips
I started doing that this year. Replaced dead light bulbs. Put cooking oil in squeeze bottles. Got a new shelf to store the overflowing box of books, got a new keyboard that fit better on my desk… it really helps make things easier.
This reminds me that as a teenager I loved to sleep over at other places than at home. Some homes inspired me so much, they opened my eyes, so that I found peace and the hope that one day my life can be different.
I grew up with a hoarding mom in a really messy house. We were both horribly depressed. When I moved out on my own, I realized just how much it affected me and focused on keeping a tidy and cohesive space. My husband and I have moved into my grandparents house, which unfortunately has 2-3 generations of clutter, unfinished projects, and just...stuff. It's certainly taking its toll.
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Have you considered an estate sale? Vendors usually can help you sort and sell and just take a commission on what the profits made…. Might thin out some of it and make it a little easier and you have extra cash instead of extra stuff.
@jenniferbreininger6015 Well, my grandmother is still alive (she's 86) and living in the home with us. I've had conversations about her will and what to do with her things but a lot of it falls on my mom and her siblings who are reluctant to claim anything or sentimental to the point that change creates conflict. I think I'll mention the estate sale when the time is right. Thanks for your suggestion
@@jenniferbreininger6015 thank you!
Move out. Its gonna kill you. Literally. Im going through my moms stuff in her flat and its so depressing
This hits ridiculously hard for me, as someone who lives in a split home, I feel great when I’m at my mums, surrounded by excellent people, with brightly lit rooms, comfy places, etc
Then when going to my dads everything is just worse due to the environment, less good people, no natural light, animals everywhere etc
I feel like a different person in each place and it makes a lot more sense now why
I think a lot of kids of divorced parents can relate to this. I would feel like a zombie when I was at my dad’s. I’m an adult now, and I can guarantee you it gets better ❤
@Petra I haven’t and would like to know more?!
Just googled cptsd alone and that was very eye opening..
Labelling someone a narcissist on so little information is a reckless thing to do. The OP just mentionned a bad ENVIRONNEMENT.
Maybe the dad is a narcissist... or maybe he was gutted so hard in the divorce court (as men usually are, because the divorce court heavily favors women... and I'm a woman saying that) that he doesn't have any money left to afford a nice place, nice things, and the nice acquaintances that go with it, while the mom can, on the divorce money? Just food for thought...
(But maybe he IS a narcissist, what do I know 🤷♀️)
@Petra I am familiar with C-PTSD, I spent a lot of of time researching it to sort out my own family history. Nothing in the description of the OP is a clear indication that the dad is a narcissist. Maybe he is... maybe not. A lot of people throw the term of narcissist around very carelessly, without thinking about the consequences of putting this label on people who don't deserve it. You can suggest that maybe it could be narcissism, you can not affirm that it is.
And judging by your first commentary, do you make room for the possibility that you might be projecting your own family history on the OP because it reminds you of certain elements of your past? Beware of projection, it can cause a lot of damage.
But then, maybe the OP's dad is a narcissist. The point is that, on OP's description alone, it is impossible to tell, there could be other explanations...
I used to have a rlly messy room, hoarded a bunch and never used it so i slept in another room (my sisters' room after they moved abroad). But 2020 was when i started customising it and lemme tell you, having your dream room rlly improved my mental health. Got happier, helped me through my depression and especially my suicidal days. Now I'm very happy and kind of stressed due to finals but its fine, ill try my best.
I spent 2 wks, 10 hours a day, dumping 500 lbs of crap & paper from my bedroom. I donated a ton of my clothes & got my room & bathroom that I hadn't used for 5 YEARS back to a spotless room. I even painted the walls. It was so liberating.
I absolutely hate cleaning and organising I found that I have no “homeless items” in my house, everything has a place, and if I can’t find a place for it, it goes!
As well as that I call all the other tips in this video “mothering myself”, I set up my clothes I need for the next day, I prepare meals, I make my life easier for my future self!
It’s early days trying to perfect these tactics after giving in to my ADHD and depression for a long time and just being frustrated at everyday tasks! But it has already improved my life so exponentially!
"if I can't find a place for it it goes" love that. I have so many boxes of stuff , all good stuff that I maybe, might, someday need. Most of it has been there for years just sitting there making me uncomfortable. I have begun to toss everything that does not have a place . It really helps. Thanks.
Wow as soon as you said “your space should reflect the person that you want to be” it blew my mind… It is so true because it becomes a tangible reminder and manifestation of who you embody and who you think you are which = who you act like = who you ultimately really are … Gotta clean my room now
I have a brain tumour so suffer migraines nearly every day..and as a single mum I try to get through the migraines and live like an adult should, but today I couldn't find the willpower to get out of bed and even try.
You got me up.. your content has always been invaluable to me.
Thank you, another day saved by struthless
I couldn't get up aswell today. I found no help, my own fault. The rest of my day hasn't been good either. But i have the best life one could wish.
You’ve got this
Grounding/earthing works wonders for molecular inflammation, the cause behind so much. We don't realize the effects of the highly charged environments we're in, how it can effect underlying conditions, and how little we get outside and touch the earth - the most free radical reducing biggest antioxidant on the planet, Is the planet!
I wouldn't have believed it myself. Or rather I would've guess how crucial the outdoors are for health.
Finding out my daughter who suffered a traumatic brain injury is EHS (electromagnetic hypersensitive) and trying to help her led me to find out where my symptoms were coming from, and my other daughters. If feeling bad, have stress anxiety or fatigue, or migrain coming on, I run outside and ground at least 5 mins, sometimes more depending. Evem just a minute or two helps sometimes. After coming in from walking around in the yard for bit, within 15 minutes my whole mood will change.
I puchased grounding mats, gave up the many wireless devices like echos, speakers, smart bulbs & plugs etc... disabled unnecessary signals and set strength to low on one in the online dashboard of the modem /router (by defaut there are 3 signals set to full strength, complete overkill), plus turn it off regularly for breaks.
This may not be necessary for everyone. Grounding helps everything, and may be all you need to do. I had to super "uncharge" our atmosphere, and no longer heart palpations, weird leg pains, sleep issues and horrible depression like I did before. So I'm sharing just in case it may help someone.
But like I said just grounding alone can change your life and even help serious conditions. Their are people that take it seriously and have cured themselves of many things. If you have pain, and realize you don't get out and touch the ground enough, it could help you tremendously. We always hear nature is healing but we just don't give it the credit it deserves. We go from our indoor residence to our car, to work and the store, usually walking on paved surfaces plus wearing shoes that block the magnetic energy of the ground. We do this day in and day out. Add to that all of the polarized artificial manmade interference frequency pollution we're drowning in, and there is no way we won't be affected by it over time. The more you're exposed to it without reducing free radical accumulation, the more sensitive you become. Those who live in highly condensed areas and in apartments will be exposed to all of the neighbors signals too. The good news is the more you get away from the exposure, the more you will become less sensitive to it. Children shouldn't be exposed hardly at all and definitely have to get away from it as they are still growing, their cells are still multiplying.
Even spectrum disorders benefit from grounding. We all do! We've just forgotten.
Here is the fascinating, informative, life changing, award winning documentary on the subject called "Earthing -The Movie"
ua-cam.com/video/44ddtR0XDVU/v-deo.html
Another tip : Don't forget, the body uses a minimum of a liter of water a day just in respiration alone much less everything else. Not replacing it will cause problems. Even worse is these highly charged environments we're exposed to these days are also very dehydrating.
Enough good clean spring water daily is crucial for wellbeing and to avoid exacerbating underlying conditions.
I am so sorry.. God bless you and anyone who reads this or is in a similar situation 🌹❤️
I pray for your recovery. Keep fighting. You are an inspiration x
“Instead of using willpower or discipline, he just outsourced it all to his environment.” -Priceless
‘I think the thing that’s making me do more drugs is living in this drug house’ - that really made me laugh 😂 it’s actually amazing how stuff that should seem obvious can really creep up on you
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I had a chef in school who went to someone's work station that was just a mess. The chef placed his entire hand on the person's cutting board, palm down, lifted it up to reveal a whole bunch of crumbs, meats etc on it and said, "See this? This is your mind. Clean it up".
Damm if that's not true.
I actually found out that I already started doing it! I am changing my career from a programmer to an artist, and I placed my paintings all over my appartments here and there. Thus, they don't only inspire me and bring joy, but also remind me that I am an artist and my art work became much more regular since then. As well as my self-determination as an artist is more confident now.
Hey that's great! I just started painting and collage for the first time at age 62! I put a couple of strings along my walls, and I'm hanging my little paintings kind of like Tibetan prayer flags...I really love it!
from the depths' of hell I write to you, this comment. Change is absolutely critical to my survival at this point. I have been stuck in the rut of all ruts and know where I am at in life is not even close to where I should be. I have tried alot of different ways to improve my life and realize it is my environment is the biggest obstacle at this point. I am on my ass and had to rely on family for a place to live and while it was suppose to be a place to start a new, it instead has become like quicksand and needs to change for all involved. Desperate times call for desperate measures so this may change the course of our lives. Thank you, I hope.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 2 months ago about self development. Now I have 139 subs and almost 75 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
that is fantastic!
@@cathithomas2888 My channel has almost 200 subs and 84 hours of watch time although my next video completion progress has been pretty slow due to switching to another editing software and change of gears but no matter how slow it is to make videos, I do enjoy it. I know that my channel is way more low quality and not even close to other UA-camrs' success out there but really, I realized that the main reason for doing this is not about the success but the inspiration I've been providing some people with my stories and experiences. Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say based on what you said, I can say that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my UA-cam channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a UA-camr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this UA-cam thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support!
Yes. Slowly redecorating my bedroom and bathroom spaces over the last few years have done this for me. Environment matters.
Like, I heard someone call the bathroom the staging area for your day: you're getting ready in there, and the state of the room can really set your day's direction. I gave mine a theme and colors that still make me smile, and I'm intentional about keeping it clean and clutter free. It makes a difference. 👍
I gather my grooming supplies into baskets and buckets. Bathtime in one basket; morning/night grooming in another; hair in another. They keep my small bathroom counter easier to wipe down. I use buckets in my drawers - it keeps things like polish and remover and tubes of gel and lotion upright. And I can grab the entire bucket out of the drawer.
I actually started doing what my mom always told me to do, "Put things back where you found them." And this has helped me so much with dealing with depression. My space is almost always tidy because I don't mess up the space too much. So I haven't had a "depression room" for a while now.
Also, doing things now, if I can. For example, putting my clothes in the laundry basket when I take them off, making my bed when I wake up etc.
Putting things back where we found them is so underappreciated as a valuable part of life.
I use the phrase "don't put it down, put it away."
from my experience its the other way around😆 and its all 4 of them so imagine how stress i am im itching to kove buy rent is expensive
Every object has a home.
I am actually going through an injury/ surgery and I learned that being in my parents house/ that environment was getting me back to the depressed mindset I was in when I lived there as a teenager. Being in my own space is making it so much easier to go through this freif
I’m an empath and my surroundings really affect me. I need air flow, open windows, lots of plants, natural wood furniture, light, bright colors, no clutter and beautiful, soothing/ spiritual type of artwork and this is exactly how I keep my home. I love every room of my place and I take very good care of everything and it keeps me sane, more comfortable, relaxed and happy. When I’m in tight crowds or people’s homes where the blinds are all closed as are the windows it makes me want to run screaming into the streets! I don’t understand why people live like that and I can’t stand being in their spaces. Declutter and un-depress/ stress. Get fresh air and sunlight….we are human beings not friggin mole rats!
I was unhappy when my mum died and I moved to a different country and felt like I needed something outside myself I absolutely had to look after and be responsible for, to get me out of bed and moving every day. So I got a cat. I had her seven years and just looking after her needs every day helped me completely calm and reorganise my life. So, when she died I was really lost and felt like crashing again. So I got three more. Problem solved. Get something to care for that isn't yourself, something totally dependent on you getting your act together at least minimally every day, preferably something that has to be done at least a couple of times a day (feeding). Get a pet. Pets need you and looking after them forces you to regularise your life and create at least a rudimentary routine. Also, cuddling a pet basically eliminates cortisol.
This so much! My baby girl passed over the rainbow bridge a couple of years ago, but last year me and hubby felt ready to adopt two adorable little fur baby boys! I forgot how much love kitties can give and how much they brighten up every single day! Pets are life!
When I was going through my depression episode , I made myself get dress and go for a short walk. Just by getting dressed and going outside it slowly shifted my depression. By the end of the month I was feeling a lot better. So I pushed myself to go outside further into town and meet people, and I’m glad that I did . I needed to change my environment just being inside was making me depressed knowing that I was always inside the same four walls similar to the hospital.
I loved that. I love that my environment is my life's "dream-came-true!" I am nesting in my bed next to a 5' x 6' picture window overlooking a massive North Atlantic bay, surrounded by mountains, hills, ever-changing light and across a one-lane road from my house's stone -walled garden, living my best life, accepting this is my best version of myself, because it allows for all that I am navigating, digesting, and invoking through prayer, walking my songs, and listening.
I woke to my girl-dog growling a new growl. Well, it was the first time since 27 October 2023 that we have seen a massive girl-deer nibbling grass in our field, above our back yard. There she was. Clear, big, calm, oh, a little shake, brown fur rolling, twisting this way and then the other way, and back to nibbling.
The sound of grass being nibbled is the only noise. OK, add: dog licking, cleaning, yawning. Thank you, Tarkina. A few passing cars is nice, as we live in a village of 9, and I have yet to meet anyone while walking my dog, and I walk my dog every day. We walk around the bay, to the loch, up the creek, a 1/4-mile to The Glen, over the heather and bracken moors, up the mountains, over the rocks, a mile along the one-lane road, with Passing Lanes, to Cliff Beach, and we drive to stone circles, or to walk barefoot on the sand, but we always listen.
I always sing my songs.
My dog always sniffs, and smiles at me, and she always sits when a car passes.
I am grateful that after decades of doing what you share in this video, my life is easeful, smooth, jaggedy in moments, and that's when I take action, trust myself, and ask for help, as needed. I am here.
Life is beautiful in Uig, Isle of Lewis, Outer Hebrides, Scotland. We moved here knowing no one, from Maui, Hawaii, after 15 years in a stolen Kingdom.
I moved here to heal my Scottish, Irish roots, and bring the power of Celtic Mysticism Healing and Regenerative Farming Community Design to the wet desert of Scotland, that is still suffering under the grinding Spiritual poverty that grows from The Inquisition, The Scottish Highland Clearances, and the Wars' painful degenerative trauma.
I pray for all life to know love, freedom and truth. Thank you for your creative video here. I loved it.
Aloha, Claire
The dog tip is the best one on there, truly. I can't say enough good things about what getting my doggo did for my life- she was a rescue dog, but really its Her that rescued Me, and she continues to every single day!!! She's my biggest blessing, the greatest gift, the brightest light in my world!! Idk how I ever lived without her!!💜🐕💜💯
Sheesh. Despite the vast amount of content shoved into our internet-aged faces everyday, your videos still manage to hold my full attention from start to finish. Your storytelling is engaging and applicable. You are gifted and much appreciated. 💐
I just left home for uni, and its been fascinating to see how much a clean room helps my productivity. However, weirdly what helps my productivity more is cleanING my room. I think this is like what you were saying in the video. If I'm already up and doing things, I might as well do that assignment.
This video couldn't be more accurate, I was vaping for around 3 years and the last year of doing it I was slowly realizing just how much it negatively affected me, and just how much I wanted to stop.
I've preached health in so many different ways to my family yet my actions couldn't have been more hypocritical.
So i started sleeping on my floor and wearing minimalist/barefoot shoes ( because of the things i've learned) along with many healthy and not so known habits.
I successfully went 9 days, then 5 days then 28 days without vaping. I still don't vape, and have unfortunately relapsed 4 times which is unacceptable, but it happened anyway and i've moved on now.
In that time of actively trying to quit, I noticed how productive, spontaneous, and creative I became.
I now have completely gotten rid of my bed to sleep on the floor, wear only barefoot shoes, and have started cooking a lot :) I have many plants in my room now and have even created a traditional sourdough starter (meaning i can make authentic living yeast bread)
I couldn't be more happy with where my life is going, but I'd sure let the universe show me if I could 😉
This is genuinely the best video I have ever watched. Instead of flooding me with information about why I shouldn't be in this situation you gave practical step on how to get out of it! I will be sharing this with all of my friends and family. Thank you!
This reminds me of a quote "You are a product of your environment". I always thought it referred to people you surround yourself with, but this gives me new perception. Very helpful video!
The people you surround yourself with are just as important
I think it is interrelational rather than one sided influence
My go to's recently for when I'm depressed/unmotivated: get a shower and go for a walk.
Sounds completely stupid but works like 90% of the time for me.
If it doesn't work, I don't beat myself up about it and try again tomorrow.
This is something I really notice and struggle with the older I get. There's an immediate change in my mood when my environment is decluttered and reasonable structured - but doing that requires constant maintenance similar to working out and frankly money to afford the furnishings to structure your environment. So more time demands, after working a 8 + 1 (lunch) hour day + a 45 minute commute on either side plus all the other things adults have to do, let alone if you have kids. So in the 5ish "free" hours you have a day provided you're not just exhausted all the time or working overtime, you're basically a robot running constant maintenance on yourself and your environment. It's truly daunting. And god forbid you ever get sick or have a chronic ailment or anything like that.
It is interesting how many of these things I started using when I was very young. My childhood was chaotic, loud, and more. I was always creating small sanctuaries in every place we lived or finding them outside. In college I kept a very neat tiny apartment. My stuff might be thrifted,gifted,found,and repaired but it was taken care of. Also always had a dog. Addiction was common in my family so I refused pain medication prescriptions, kept booze out of the house and didn't go to bars.
Even now I chose a house that was semi rural so I have trees and wildlife, but also convenient to several towns for ethic grocers, museums, etc.
Now I am making endless small improvements on my house for our family. I definitely agree solving a issue, even a small one, is very rewarding.
Moving my desk/workplace out of the bedroom was the best decision of the year. The living room might be a bit crowded now, but my partner and I sleep so much better.
Also I quit trying to go to the gym and started a home yoga practice in the morning. I can stay in my Pyjamas a bit longer and have some extra time to fully wake up.
"Surface is not stoage" need to remember this mantra. Although since I have ADHD i like to keep necessary things right in front of me, I try not to keep unecessary things around. Also, feeling so validated by the room thing. I always say your room should reflect your personality.
Once in my mid-20s I was going through an extremely difficult time. One weekend morning I was lying on the dirty carpet floor of my apartment in overwhelm and misery and suddenly found myself looking around at my surroundings - all the dirty dishes in the sink, and piled on counters, the dirty bathroom, the lack of clean clothing, and had a moment of clarity.
"I'm making myself feel worse with all this," I thought, "I feel bad but I don't have to feel THIS bad."
I had zero energy that day but I thought, "I can do ONE thing. Then I'll stop." I cleared the counters and washed some of the dishes. Then I went back to the carpet and lay down for a while. Then I thought, "I could do another thing..." and cleaned the bathroom. In this way, laying down on the carpet between tasks, and riding that good feeling from improving something and from my space being less stressful as a result, I made my apartment clean and uncluttered before the end of the afternoon. I was young-person poor, too, had never ordered food before, (and hated phone calls), but I called a local delivery place and ordered pizza and pop (I was hungry, but I hadn't eaten that day) for supper. And ate that pizza the rest of the weekend, LOL.
Life still sucked but it made a huge difference, the change in my environment and instinct toward self-care. (For background, this was not normal for me - I have strong "keep going until you collapse while forgetting you need rest and food and fun and stuff" tendencies.) I never forgot that weekend or what I learned from it:
1. Exactly what you said - your environment impacts you (OK, it's bad, does it have to be this bad?)
2. You don't have to fix it all at once. Even one tiny thing makes a difference.
3. You can stop and do something nice just to make yourself feel better.
The unseen time you probably put in to diving down the immense rabbit hole that is controlling your environment visually and then distilling that into most common themes... Dude thank you so much. Seriously. You just saved me a heckuva lot of time scrolling in the future. I used to come across articles all the time and I'd read them about one trick or another, and definitely enjoyed Marie Kondo but all I needed that whole time was this one video. I am saving this to come back to over and over again when I need to remind myself what's up. Also, super congrats on the mini Struthless :D.
So I'm currently 8 weeks pregnant with our first child and the happy little noises of your daughter literally made me cry with happiness 😆
We are going through the whole redo thing atm as we are not who we want to be as parents either, in the process of finishing our house build 💜
May you have a healthy and beautiful pregnancy.❤
@@mysteriousbynature thank you very much 💜 we have our fingers crossed for good health
Best wishes for your pregnancy 💝. I'm a first time Mum my lil boy is 20 months. My best advice is to keep as active as possible in the pregnancy, plus SLEEP as much as u can while you still have a chance Hope baby arrives safely- relax and trust your body u got this! Oh BTW when the nesting instinct kicks in towards the end of your pregnancy you do the best decluttering EVER! It's good you are making a start on it now though 😃
@Sarah Roberts ahaha we've actually just done a massive declutter, I have adhd so kind of hoard many different hobbies impulsively 😆 😆 😆
So all the ones I haven't even looked at in over a year went into a charity shop lol
Luckily we will be in a new build by the time the baby is here so we will be going through everything we own as we move in
And I will definitely makes sure to stay as active as possible, thank you for the advice and kind words 🩷
It is greatly appreciated
Best of luck and happiness with your beautiful baby! Your new home will be such a sanctuary for your new family ❤️ I wish we'd managed to get our home comfortable and clean before our first, as it really does add such a burden to the overwhelm of parenthood, but I'm determined to get it done before we have another child!
Cleaning and keeping things minimal changes my mood godspeed.
This came at a perfect time for me. You have no idea. I have made so many life improvements in the last year. But lately I have been facing needing to make a ton more, feeling like I have laid the foundation for that and could... but simultaneously also feeling like I'm still that guy who can't. Like I'm a rubber band, that's still anchored there somehow. And it's been baffling and frustrating, like why don't I see myself as being capable, even though when I start to journal it, I do actually partially think I can do it? The usual internal hangups were not seeming to be at the core of the block this time, and I've been flummoxed about what else it could be.
But I saw this, and I watched it because it is you (and many of your vids have given me answers that I didn't know I needed and made so much progress from that). So anyways, I watched it, then I looked around and I went omg.. because MYSELF has changed so much... but my environment is still the same as how it was a year ago, (well, really longer let's be real here), but it's still the same as when I DIDN'T have anything together, didn't have hope, didn't know how to make goals, felt trapped and stuck and overwhelmed and failing.
So MYSELF has tools now, and habits, and more confidence. But my environment? Still piles of failed decisions, interrupted and procrastinated plans, chaos and dysfunction. So while your video was playing, I started clearing out two drawers in my desk. I use the desk constantly. The drawers had random stuff that didn't serve a purpose. Now one is empty, a few old projects that were in them are dismantled and put away, one of them is refilled with a few things that are actually useful to have within reach at my desk and those tools now are not taking up clutter space on top of it... and I just feel excited and energised. Barely made a dent but it still made me feel awesome. In fact, I then went out and did an errand I had been delaying, made a plan for tomorrow, and cleaned something in the kitchen that I never found the time to do.
It's like even that small amount of updating my environment gave me this huge boost of energy and motivation. It was amazing, and I am going to do even more of this. There is a lot to do, but it's what I needed, and it already is making such a big difference. I cannot wait to see how far I can go with this.
Thank you so much, and I just hope you have a fantastic day today!
As a UA-camr on self improvement myself, i can definitely vouch for this one here. De-cluttering your surroundings and watch your mind do the same with your thoughts. Cleaning my surroundings has almost become therapeutic and helps me reduce stress and focus more on my work. Before, I used to live in Miami being around street violence, guns, death, and I even used to eat $3 a day, 25 cents noodles, expired toast and canned campbell tomato soup when I lived in LA. I survived the Boston Marathon Bombing which was a few feet away and I saw all the blood the people screaming and I was alone at 18. I also used to live in a room with no kitchen, trash bag as a window and bugs crawling on me at night. I also took boxing to protect myself and learned how to defend against bigger threats. I ended up moving to a cabin in the north of Sweden where I go down to a lake to breathe and heal my past and I post on UA-cam to help others who need it the most.
Thanx 4 sharing your story.
I'll watch some videos in your channel.
Whoa
Wow! Breathing fresh air at a lake is beautiful. I'm happy for you 😊
@@ShiaGirl18 thank you so much!!
@@mehditate You're welcome!
My ideal version of myself's environment is too expensive to recreate 😂. I see myself sitting at an all white grand piano in a minimally decorated room with some really nice big plants and a lot of natural light coming in. With a black cat sitting on my lap listening to me play the piano. Away from traffic, all I hear is birds outside and a stream of water.
you could always get a white table and put one of those electric pianos on top, put some cheap plants in, open curtains / put a sun light inside or warm / bright lamps whichever u prefer, then have the cat
You can play the piano with a cat on your lap?
"Space can reinforce identify, which turns into your habits." SO true! This resonates with me so much lately!
Just discovered you with this video, and damn did it hit me. I've watched so many self improvement videos but you talking about growing up from a drug using kid to who you are now nearly made me tear up because I currently am that drug using 19 year old. I've chilled out on them lately, but I notice when I'm staying in a room that isn't what I'm use to, I crave drugs a lot more, spiral; and completely forget about what I want or need to get done. Just being in a familiar room or place makes your goals stick more because you associate the whole area with your identity. I plan on getting a house soon, but for now don't have much control over where I am so this is super helpful. Definitely going to come back to the video.
Hey there, it's been a year, you're 20 now, the same age as my youngest.
From this mom to you a young person, I truly hope you're in a better place this year💜
OMG, my entire channel is dedicated to a premise similar to this. I teach psychology for a living and I design and decorate spaces for fun. I've always known intuitively that the space you are in influences your mental space. I'm on a mission to transform my space. Thanks for making this video, it just confirms what I've been working on.
That personal story at the end was perfect portrayal of this whole idea that environment and identity go along. Environment is not something that you get or create once you become something rather creating an environment first ensures that you've taken the first step towards what you wish to achieve.
That part about changing your home to reflect wanting a nice stable family. That was so sweet. God bless.
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I've been feeling so lost and so down, i keep thinking about to give up in life, but your words makes me think that, maybe, I can find my path too.
I've been trying to declutter the house cuz it got bad while I was in a year long depression low, this hits home. Since it's already all here and I can't just throw out everything I've been trying "Would I buy this from a store right now?" If not it goes. It's slow because I work a ton too but progress is progress and it didn't get this bad overnight
Great reminder. I've been decluttering my space for nearly a year now and right now am half way through a kitchen refurb, good to focus on what I want my environ to be and not how I feel in this space right now.
I run a decluttering business, and recently had a client who's home was full of gimmick sports equipment, a cupboards were FULL of medicine and potions she had bought from a pharmacy & health food shop as had really bad depression and anxiety. The more she bought the more her anxiety increased. When I explained to her that the clutter and the let down when these things she bought didn't work were what was making her sick she suddenly had a lightbulb moment!!!
@17:35 ...never considered it my own favorite sound, but the way you presented it, and the joy behind it, omg, I totally get it!
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SUCH a helpful video. Someone linked to it on twitter and I had to watch right away. Having ADHD I’m truly terrible at keeping and getting my space clean and organized, but because of the space being in disarray I can literally get NOTHING done. This video was truly the motivation I needed today to just get started, because I know I’d feel so much better .
I learned this first hand. I lived in a shit hole house with my partners ex and everything was so triggering for me. Everything from her ex's assault on her and that whole process, the house literally falling apart and being impossible to clean, to my roommate letting her cat piss anywhere in the house. Everything about that place made want to run away. I repeatedly tried to and did for a minute break up with my partner, almost moving back in with my abusive parents. But last month we moved to a new spot that's small and new and clean and on a pond!! My brain is 30x happier now and I finally have a home for the first time in years and years
Environment is also not only about the objects, but about the people surrounding you too. I see the effect people from different groups have on me and when I spend time with said people I see their habits in my own reflection. It makes me chose people I surround myself with very carefully.
Besides that, yeah, where I live and how I decorate that space has an enormous impact on me too.
I put out my clothes for the next day every evening and it makes getting up in the morning a lot easier. It’s become a habit, just as I have one for going to sleep. Helps my brain turn off. :)
My kid recommended your videos, and being a frumpy over 50-year-old I tried hard not to like you, but I just couldn't keep it up. So here I am enjoying and benefitting from your delivery and well-researched advice. Damn you and love to your beautiful family.
Creating a positive healthy space is so important. I'm glad I've realized that and I consciously strive to make my surroundings better. I moved from an apartment on a busy street to a quiet neighborhood with a park like setting. The morning sun fills my bedroom and living room. The afternoon sun lights my kitchen and back deck. There are trails near me for walking and biking. I am remodeling and I am making everything more convenient and appealing as I go. Before I relax for the evening, I declutter my living space from the day's activities. Life is good. Some homes or public buildings you walk into are chaos and you feel a certain level of stress just from your surroundings. I'm very sensitive to my surroundings and how they make me feel. Making these changes might cost a bit more but some cost nothing at all and just require some thought. Getting rid of clutter is free. A new coat of paint doesn't cost much if you do it yourself. A few nice things on the wall instead of large blank spaces doesn't have to cost a lot. A different furniture arrangement can make a room feel better.
yes to all of this ❤
Love hearing your thoughts in these longer form docos - they're super informative and you're a great storyteller too!!
So true. I had been struggling with my energy levels, an injury, and really bad insomnia for months, so I got a low dose anti-anxiety med from my doctor and recently thought about finishing some decorating projects I let fall to the wayside. Nice to know I haven't totally given up on my apartment. This year I bought a houseplant, a pretty area rug, a new chair, a glitter canvas, a small statue, a dozen Christmas ornaments and a super cute T-Rex snow globe. Looking forward to setting everything up.
This is wonderful advice for people with chronic health issues, both mental health and physical health issues.
The stuff I have accumulated around me over the years now owns me, rather than the other way around. Decluttering, cleaning and resetting the spaces around me - and, man oh man, it’s taking a long time, lots of baby steps and persistent effort - is beginning to change everything for the better. Definitely a marathon, not a sprint: I’m trying to rewire my thinking after over forty years of accrued habit formation and unconscious acquiescence to living a disordered life. Thanks for this inspirational, informative and supportive vid.
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How long has it taken? I am just beginning to do what you did and it feels so hopeless. My stuff owns me also. But I quite like a lot of it. But there is boxes and piles of other crap too! So much effort to ditch it.
i tried to find this video again but kept looking up how “an environment” affects your life and not “a space” so i thought it disappeared, thank goodness i made it back!
This is one of the reasons I am considering leaving NYC. Very small living spaces are hard to live in without clutter building up and the walls feel like they’re closing in. Ask anyone who has lived in the city where the number of feet between the bed and the fridge is single digits, with no wall between, or where there’s no division between work area and sleep area. I could upgrade and spend EVEN MORE of my income on housing but at this point I’m wanting more space (in decent enough condition) than I could reasonably afford here while also saving something for the future.
I am in the process of doing this right now. This was a very timely talk. Thank you.
This entire video is a masterpiece. Thank you for the potent words, stories and visuals. The timing couldn’t be better. 🙏🏼
Your story about your addiction is so inspiring. Thank you. My dad passed away from addiction and your story meant a lot to me! I love this video and I plan to share it with friends! I have been studying this for 6 or 7 years since my dad passed away. Now my apartment is my oasis and I look for peace of mind every day. It's not easy but it's so worth it!
Oh wow and I just got to the end and see that you're a girl dad. She will grow up to be so lucky to have you as a dad! You're so inspirational and you and your wife look so happy together. I'll be rooting for your happiness.
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The concept of removing friction from your life goes back to the concept of "tolerances". Those annoying things that we tolerate that add to daily frustration. Like a drawer that sticks making it frustrating to put clothes way so they fall on the floor in a pile and you keep rewashing them--all over one stuck drawer. My motto is "fix that drawer!" Or get rid of too many clothes. Pick one tolerance a day and fix it. Too many dishes to put away? Get rid of them. This is what shifted me towards planned minimalism. I can pack all my clothes and shoes in a backpack and travel through four seasons. My "winter coat" is a hooded poncho that serves as a travel blanket. If it's extremely cold wear everything! Layers are my life strategy.
Hey campbell, this comment will probably get lost in the cosmos but i wanted to say thank you, so much. Theres no youtube channel that i come back more to than this one. Your outlook on life is truly beautiful and you're helping many generations to come that I'm sure of. Love you man, wishing you a winsome rest of the cold months ✨💞
Your content never fails to be thought provoking, entertaining and an absolute pleasure to watch. Keep up the amazing work!
It's really difficult to change your habits if you don't change your environment. Just a vicious cycle tbh. I really appreciate the research aspect of your videos, always learning something new from them! Also, your daughter sounds adorable; that audio clip was so cute! :)
I still have to watch the rest, but about 1:30 to 3:10, having people without sunlight VS with sunlight is already a HUGE difference. Days without going outside are always my worse days, so I try to at least go a bit on the balcony of my appartment block once a day.
Cleaning and decluttering is so wonderful for mental health. I have been cleaning my space this afternoon and I must admit I feel much better mentally
Another fantastic video - and very ADHD-friendly too. I turn 39 next month and was diagnosed with inattentive sub type earlier this year.
My meds help greatly, in that they fill the 'fuel tank' of my brain, but I still have to figure out the best way to 'drive the car' and get where I need to go.
So at the age of 40, me n' my newly-functioning frontal lobe are taking baby steps towards Actual Adulthood!
Environment design is so crucial for me because, even on meds, I have to consciously dismiss a lot of the things that neurotypical brains just automatically filter out. So everything I do in a day takes a bit more time and mental energy to do, from getting up and getting ready in the morning, to focusing on and completing complex tasks and projects.
The way you explain 'mental friction' and how our environments contribute to or alleviate it is just spot on. Mental friction - and the time it costs us - is a compounding thing too, so it can very easily derail your day/week/life.
Actual LOL @ the Atomic Habits klaxon 🤣 But you're right to link environment to habit - it's such an effective way to hack the brain's proclivity for automation. We basically create little 'templates' for ourselves and then ctrl-c, ctrl-v that shizz 😆
Anyway, thanks again for another great video - you honestly are my favourite creator on UA-cam; can't think of anyone else with such a genuinely original approach to self-improvement. 🙌🏻
Friction is executive function. As an autistic/ADHD person (only found out recently during lockdown while trying to recover from burnout) this can vary greatly from day to day.
Have been trying to hack my environment for ages but struggle just to clean the dishes. Can't find a job that fits my needs despite looking for over a year.
Would love to live rural as city is a stimuli nightmare. Even just going grocery shopping the fluorescence lights just hurt and drains.
The sound of birds has also been shown to improve moods.
The identity I do want is wealthy young retiree, what I got is burntout neurodivergent mess.
Sounds and music truly affect our moods. I recently made it easier for me to turn on youtube. No struggles with audio cables and having to turn on several devices to get to that point. Now when I get home, I turn on the sounds that help me get into the desired mindspace. Music can be distracting too, but some upbeat music helps me get up and get things done, whereas bird sounds are simply calming. Have you tried turning up some bird sounds on UA-cam and immerse your home a bit with that playing in the background? You're in control!
@@spacecatmowgli4723 it doesn't help me unfortunately, I know a lot of ADHD folk use music to get through chores.
For a lovely birdsong background, I can recommend the videos from the channel by Paul Dinning. They are videos of birds actually meant for cats, but they make for a lovely background that is relaxing and not distracting.
Gr8 video. My best tip being a hoarder is that divide your clutter into useful and non-useful stuff. Useful means whatever you use within 1 week. I found it hard to throw away non-useful stuff so I quarantined it in the backyard which was hard to access and was exposes to moisture and dust. That way I slowly distanced my self from that clutter and made it undesirable.
The sounds of your baby are so wholesome 🥹 congrats!!
really well put together video, loved the organization, pacing and visuals, new sub
But damn, this video made me realize that you can outsource happiness AND discipline. Thank you for the kick in the butt, Cam. I really needed it.
Im on the road full time for work. I always make sure my environments cozy no matter what
This was the best self help video I've seen. Very clear, clever, cute, and to the point. Love all the graphics. Who needs to read an entire James Cleer book? Just watch this video. Definitely saving this to my favourites.
Don’t know how I landed here, but it is definitely where I needed to be. Serendipity ( and algorithm) . Thanks for this great video.
We practice this with junk food. My husband and I don't buy junk food because we will both eat it, so we don't buy it. Recently, we repainted my husband's dark red office walls and omg, what a difference. He's so much happier, feels more productive as well. Amazing just even what a can of paint will do for your mental state.
this came at such a right time, as i just moved out of a student residence i used to live in for the past year. i just wanted to say thank you for sharing this kind of content, i've been watching your videos for a couple of years now and they have given me so much hope and so many tangible steps i can take to make my life better.
i've had alcohol (and some other drug) problems for the past two years or so: i used it as a coping mechanism (as anyone i guess). during the last year i also had pretty much no control over my living space because i had very little money, so i lived in a room with two other people (which means basically only my bed was the only thing in the whole room that actually was my own space). i was lucky enough that my first roommates were nice and respectful, but the ones that came after they left were really loud and dirty. because i could no longer stand to actually be in that room i ended up spending most of my time outside in bars or around other people's houses, the problem was that the people who were my friend group at the time were also drinking a lot and doing lines. i was constantly in situations that were compromising my safety and i was turning into a person i didn't quite recognize anymore.
this fall i was finally lucky enough to find an affordable space outside the residence; i now have my own space and being surrounded by my art supplies, books, pens, and nice things i feel so much more stable and happy. in a way i am also more lonely because i had to cut ties with my former friend group, but i am trying to use solitude to build a better version of myself.
either way, thank you so much struthless for being the person you are :)
I really hope that there is a special place in hell for bad roommates and neighbors
“Jazzercise on cocaine time” 😂 very relevant for the 80’s nail on the head with that one
Open space is my favorite way of decreasing friction. Less stuff in the way = its easier to clean more often. Flawless logic.
I like how you make everything into a story helps me relate more rather than be overwhelmed and frustrated when you can’t put it into an action plan.
Great videos keep them coming please