Man I never comment on anything but this deserves to be talked about, to be praised. This video was informative, entertaining, emotional. It honestly blows my mind how much thought you've put into this and how much empathy and understanding you have for the world as a whole. Thank you for this touching message!
It still missed the entire point. The argument the commentor was making was an "anti natalist" one not an environmentalist one. They were saying it was immoral to have kids because the child will have to suffer greatly during their lifetime, not that them existing will contribute to climate change.
On the reply to this first: regarding the comment guy's anti-natalism views, from reading his writing and reddit history I can say with confidence that he is a vocal and staunch anti-natalist. He's also all the other things I mentioned at the end. On the comment itself: thank you so so much - this is lovely. It was a hard video to make, so this really hits home.
@@struthlessI understand that, most anti-natalist have a bleak view of the world. That being said, since you're a new father, I'd really like to see your take on that concept because I'm kind of on the fence with anti natalism. Thank you for the response
This was a really good and informative look into these comminties, and its getting worse. These and doom communities on utube is REALLY bad. There's one I've been paying Attention to, minutesofhorror, that posts daily paranoid Schizophrenic rants, and has a HUGE following. All cus of these scared, God fearing people, looking for answers. I swear the way he interacts with his commentors, that it's like a borderline cult. They're afraid of everything from 5g, to testing the emergency system and it's ALL connected. And u can't try and talk logic with them. Fr.
You know what gives me hope and a sense of connectedness? That in your example videos from Dust to Digital was someone from my family. I'm one of 7 billion humans watching a random youtuber from a different country than mine, and that youtuber found a bit of my little family on the internet. Isn't that insane? Nice video man
The real ending of this short doc was the most important lesson of all and I’m so glad you kept the camera rolling and kept learning about this human being who’s just in a lot of pain and has a lot of healing ahead of them❤✌️
Though I do wish he hadn't misunderstood the guys point. The guy was still wrong, but he didn't believe having kids was causing these disasters. He believed that kids wouldn't want to be born into a world with these disasters in them. Thats a subtle but important difference. I'm glad he called himself out at the end there, but even then he didn't quite realise that he'd strawmanned the poor guy.
@@ASpaceOstrichyo, just want to add some context here. The guy is a vocal anti natalist who has a history of this type of comment. Originally i went into that but I cut it out in the edit coz it felt too much, but now I see i should have added more context. Sorry about that, my bad. My logic: I realised the extra comments made him easy to google, so you know... I figured it was a better move to keep it civil. Fwiw your interpretation is also correct! But I just figured I'd give some more details. In any case, I appreciate what you're writing coz you're trying to find the truth here, and potentially reveal a nicer picture. On the strawman note, I did consider using the term strawman instead of one-dimensionalising, but it wasn't accurate with the truth of his anti-natalist/anti population beliefs, however it does make sense with what I've presented. That is all to say, totally get ya and ty
@@struthlessI still think that guy didn't see your kid as the bad guy, but you, for supposedly making another person "experience the climate apocalypse", and for adding fuel to the fire. I think that kinda thinking is really unhelpful though, because - as some other commenter mentioned - if people can't have kids, who are we saving the planet for? That type of thinking takes away a lot of motivation to tackle climate change. And if he did mean that we shouldn't create more sufferers, that also takes away motivation. If none of us have kids because "the world's ending anyway" then that's kind of a self fulfilling prophecy, as opposed to actually having a kid (or at least being okay with others having them) and working towards a better future for those upcoming generations. Anyways, really amazing and extraordinarily valuable video, thanks!
The bad news without the possibility of doing something against it has severely impacted my mental health. Feeling helpless is incredibly triggering to me due to childhood trauma and I have struggled with depression for years, but I also feel guilty when I try to "ignore" bad news. This video was so helpful and healing, thank you!!
A solution may be to make it a goal to move to a smaller community in a foreign country and interact and help those in need. You will feel som sense of purpose without always suffering from doomscrolling.@@redomisia
I know this is late but I wanted to let you know I relate to that helpless feeling. Whenever I get sad about that I try to follow Stoicism. It’s basically this mentality where you acknowledge what you can’t control vs. what you can. In this case you can’t control the outside world but you can control your reaction. So with that try to accept things out of your hand and focus on things that are and maybe that can help.
Once when I rented a home, I discovered some newspapers in the attic from the late 50s. When I read them, I saw they had posted achievements of the locals, a list of the straight A students at the high school, and an assortment of other uplifting news. I can get sucked into doom scrolling, but see it and hop back off the merry-go-round
I bought a property with piles and piles of newspapers from the 1940s till the 2010s. Unfortunately, he took out the important ones such as the moon landing, etc... However, what got me was how similar the stories were today. Outrage at immigrants... Italians and Germans back then. Nauru, where Australia sent refugees to imprison them, was actually in a 1950s paper. Teenagers were out of control, all horrible, disrespectful and destined to destroy the country. It was kind of funny to see how little we have progressed.
There is actually a video somewhere about this exactly how newspapers have always regurgitated the same stuff since over hundred years. It's always "oh no in ten years we are going to die!"
Heard a great saying that came from someone who’d had enough of the doom media during covid and just stopped going online for news: “if something is so important, someone will tell me”. The sentiment was that we can’t concern ourselves with every single crisis across the globe. We have to do our thing, in a way that’s responsible and considerate, and that’s enough.
This is pretty much how I live my life now too! If something truly significant happens, locally or globally, it will find its way to me via the people in my communities.
This is actually the same way, I describe my media consumbtion. As someone who wants to help everyone, who actually swang into the oppsite side once (the nihilism), I heavly started to reduse my media consumbtion and the amount of things I get to know, day to day. Funny thing is, since I started doing that, it seems way more important things happend. Covid, Wars, etc, but the more I think about it, its probably just the thing, that I don't have much that "overrides" these things. I don't have the small news, that immeadly override the large news. That helps me, in particuar.
My grandmother use to say “if it ain’t life threatening, don’t let it worry you” “there’s going to be times when you need to worry so save the worry for that”
Very true! Though I think something that should also be considered is not just not letting doom-scrolling take over your life, but also consider having relationships with people that help bring more positivity in your life (and/or, if you're an empath, learning to not take on other people's pain/issues/struggles as a form of IRL doom-scrolling). It's good to sometimes be someone friends can turn to for comfort and support, but setting boundaries are also extremely important and can help with dealing with friends that have a lot of drama/issues in their lives, they're doomers, and/or place too much emotional responsibility on you that shouldn't be yours to carry. Speaking as someone that was a big empath as a kid/teen and sometimes still has struggles not taking on other people's issues as an adult.
This is what I've resorted too. I've stopped doomscrolling (though I admit I probably spend a bit too much time on YT) but I don't go on reddit or instagram. I used to go there for news, not anymore. If something is important enough I will hear it from a person.
That ending made this video a thousand times more impactful, and it was already a thousand time more impactful than most other videos I've watched lately. Well done.
yeah... just lacked the comment that probably the dude was saying that HE'S INRRESPOSIBLE for puting a kid in this uncertain future world, and not saing that he and his family was CAUSING of he problem... TOTALLY DIFERENT STUFF ... But honestly good video just kinda pissed me of seing him picturing the dude as an " populations it's gona kill earth " dude. The point of " show the way to save the world not just say it's fated to doom " plus the " people are not causing doom, greed of the economic system it's causing doom " kinda saved the video.
My mother was in recovery herself and became a family therapist in a recovery treatment center. We grew up surrounded by people in recovery, I would not have changed any of it. Some of the most loving, loyal humans I still know to this day. My mother caught Covid and passed away in 2020, she is missed daily by her family and also her recovery family.
Amazing stuff, I had a dumb phone for two years, then returned to a smartphone and social media world. I was genuinely amazed how pessimistic and angry I became in such a short period of time. Love this message!
It’s crazy how vulnerable we are to succumb to this easy access by having technology on us at all times. I feel like there’s a shift happening with people and not having your phone on you can be seen as a healthy thing. It’s something that I’m trying to do more often.
@@AikiraBeats❤ I have had a glitchy phone this past year and I used to panic thinking I'm going to end up stranded helpless Lost... But a few times that I've had it die on me while away from my charger and such once when I had to remember how I found my way through the world before GPS etcetera or when I moved to my last apartment needing to knock on a neighbor's door ask to borrow a charger before I could move on my way back the day I picked up the keys my new church became that because my phone died after services but before I could summon an Uber back and it was suddenly torrential downpour so I ended up going into the parish office to see if anyone had a charger or I might use their phone and that's how I join the parish I met a couple of my new neighbors and I think God is almost trying to tell me to ditch my f****** phone forever cuz I just bought a new one and damn it I can't even get the damn display to stop popping up while I'm doing my talk to text it's frustrating as hell anyway to talk to text because sometimes I'm not enunciating properly or whatever like the f*** now it's making me crazier than it's worth to just make it 2 second comment that's taking 20 minutes because I don't know how to get this freaking display to stop displaying popping up and can't watch a video I pay for UA-cam premium for this kind of headache what the hell it's just stupid I'm not that old but I'm not invested in all this technology that's supposed to make life easier but it complicates things and I really took for granted the feel of in-person meeting life up close with your eyes and your hands or those first few employment experiences that were so physical when I was so new to the working world I actually invested a lot of energy in showing older adults on my shift that I was just as capable as a young teen teenage girl of doing what they were doing in whatever that job called for whether landscaping or taking over the dishwashing position previously occupied fireman twice my height twice my age who had been postal worker prior to that... I never realized how much the rest of us took him for granted and how much work he did and did well until he walked out and I had to pick up the slack but it was wonderful to be that exhausted at the end of the day except for those horrible fever dream style dreams when you have a tedious job and then you finally fell asleep after working a 12-hour shift I'll need to dream about doing your tedious job.,.. Bwah😢 the proletariat to cry of my working😊clss Blue collar roots
I've done nothing but doomscroll since covid started and I've had the worst 3 years of my life, I began chancing my algorithm and I haven't felt this good in who knows how long, also made me want to quit weed for good. Left a like for the algorithm!
Why are people like Norman Borlaug who literally saved millions of people from starving not so much more known? It annoys me how the media focus so much on the negatives and not on the many inspiring people who everyday everywhere make the world better. I often look up sites on positive news as a pallette cleanser. Edit: just discovered the channel Good News here on youtube, can really recommend it :)
Probably because it doesn't cause as much fear and doesn't sell as well, also, it depends on what you seek, news tend to me mostly negative because it's things happening in the world, depending on where you are there isn't a lot of positive happening, I'm Brazilian, I live in Rio, my government is in an almost war with the militia and the cartels, people die every day because of it, it's relevant, but people can watch other things, people can ignore, most people do.
I become a bigger fan of yours with each video you release. Thank you for modeling empathy and introspection. Your practice of soul searching is inspiring because a lot of us are not doing much of that. I also deeply appreciate your intentional choosing to seek hope. We need that. And I'll also add, having children can be the most hopeful act one can do.
Thank you so much for this. I have family members who are addicted to this kind of negative news and it makes them miserable. I appreciate your tools to heal from this.
Beautifully said, great timing and so relatable. I literally wrote on my dry erase board yesterday “Does this come from a place of love or fear?’ Because as someone diagnosed with CPTSD and anxiety, fear tends to cloud my perception at times, so I like to remind myself through meditation to focus first on love and what I can do to impact those, in my immediate environment out of a place of love. That perception and shift in behavior is more life enriching than doom scrolling.
I have CPTSD and joined an online support group.... it was a nightmare! I had never shared a corner of the internet with meaner, more argumentative, touchy and negative people. I mean, the saying is right, Hurt people really DO hurt people. It's so good to hear that someone with a similar diagnosis can choose a more healing and loving path and that we are not all doomed to be people-hating internet trolls.
❤❤❤ This is beautiful; thank you for sharing this with us. I share those diagnoses as well and really love that quick perspective check. Saving that one!!
As a historian, it is a consistent struggle convincing students that our world is getting better. As a media historian, I at least have the tools and awareness. Thank you for doing this. Its a good fight. We have to build awareness of our neighbors, because we too easily find ourselves alone.
So good! The first ending left me feeling like you were using your platform for personal catharsis. I was standing on my "judgment carpet" just judging away. Then you came back and pulled it right out from underneath me, lol! Which, by the way, evoked the very introspective experience that I think you were trying to convey in the entire video. Brilliant! Pure metaphorical artistry.
Struthless, I think your videos are so nuanced, vulnerable and deeply optimistic. You are part of the solutions you talk about in the video. Thank you for taking the time to make this.
I just wanted to tell I have been clean for almost 9 months. I feel amazing and I'm actually happy and accomplishing the things I dreamt of partly because of you. I found you a year ago and you mentioned addiction a few times and I thought that being sober was never possible. That ending brought a tear to my eye
Unfortunately your child will have to deal with RFID inside herself to shop for goods and deal with a World economy. That my friend is even more scary then starving!! # save a life by not making one.
Every time I watch one of your videos, I get emotional - but in a good way. As a person who tries to avoid mainstream media, the parts that do filter through is normally filled with doom, which fills me with sadness and anxiety. Thank you for always adding a positive perspective to my human experience. Good vibes only🌈
I personally got really tired of being angry and pessimistic all the time several years ago. I looked at why I was feeling this way, and decided it was two things - social media in general and news programming. I quit both, and feel much better. Seriously though, my wife thinks I'm a pessimist. I claim I'm actually an optimist, just really dark. I don't need outside help to be pissed and depressed.
What I really appreciate about your work is the "wholeness" of it. You present things in a very non-dual way and I think that's why no matter the topic, your videos always resonate with me. You seem to have a genuine grasp on things and you can really feel it in the message. You are a light ❤ much love
I absolutely love the way you emphasize beauty and good things in the world. I am 23 and not gonna have a kid any time soon, but I do want kids at some point and people (including my own mother) constantly keep telling me it would be cruel of me to put a child into this world. I started to believe the same, because even I have often thought I would have prefered to not have been born. I only think that on my bad days though, because I know the planet and humans are beautiful and it is a privilege to experience it all. Most of my friends are so negative about the future that I often find myself crying about the planet as if it's already gone, and I really have to actively remind myself that honestly... all is well. Sure, some shit's fucked. But I am alive and I am okay. I am looking forward to the future, looking forward to being a mother and a grandmother and one day being very old, laughing at my younger self for being so silly and negative. If we all die because of an apocalyps or whatever, that's sad but it would be so much sadder to just give up now because ''maybe the world is going to end''. Thanks for all your videos man, they really help❤
@@cutelittledevil88 I would say, for the animals, the plants, other life forms, whatever humans are out there, I don't need to contribute genetically for the human race, people are going to keep having children even if some people choose not to do it, it's a personal decision, I personally won't have any because they would have a much worse life than I had, but, I find it annoying when people try to prescribe life decisions to others, people can make their own decisions and if they want to have children or not is their prerogative.
So all is well because you are alive and okay. That’s a nice shortcut from personal to general. Also, I don’t think most people fear the end of the world, which won’t happen anyways, they just fear waking up in it everyday, right now, with no escape plan (except maybe in Canada in a few years, we’ll see). I know my friends and I do.
I don’t know how you’re able to keep this pace of such well-crafted, provocative, insightful, inspirational videos. You’ve taken us to church again with this one (I mean that in a good way). Thank you for making a difference.
I took your advice a while ago and bought a phone jail. The only problem is, I need a big case on my phone and it often won't fit - its a process to take it out. But by employing similar tactics I've definitely increased happiness, productivity and decreased anxiety. I continue to praise you and am so stoked to see you back posting a little more, you're a legend. Congrats on the kiddo and fam too! ❤️
i really like the forest focus app, it covers your screen and is like "stop looking at me!" for the timer you set, and if you go back into your apps before the timer is up, your little tree dies lol. might be another tactic to add to your arsenal:)
I literally clicked on reply to recommend forest app and I saw the other comment. it's actually really good and helps me a lot. also whenever you grow virtual trees you get some coins at the end which let's you plant real trees (they plant it on your behalf and there is a limit to how many you can plant but I'm not sure how many.) It also helps with tracking time and seeing how long has been spent on what and what things need improving or what things you need to do less of
Great message. Came at the right time for me. I am also in recovery and the one message I hear often in meetings is that the opposite of addiction is connection. Your video exemplifies that perfectly. I often lose sight of that, but I will carry it with me today. Thank You.
There's a fantastic nonfiction book called How To Be Miserable by Randy J. Paterson that has a chapter on almost exactly this topic. In it, he discusses the lack of relevancy most news stories have to our daily lives; how often "breaking news" stories are actually just repetition of one negative event, over and over again; the bias towards doom and the unwillingness to show a complete picture the 24-hour news cycle has; and--ha!--the similarity between many news programs and reality TV. The whole book is well worth a read if you're interested in psychology with a touch of humor. The conceit is that it's an instruction manual on--as the title says--how to be miserable, with the understanding that you should do the opposite to what he says. Entertaining, informative, and possibly life changing!
Second video of yours and I'm duly impressed. Especially with that final bit of commentary. The dehumanization of each other is one of the many reasons why we doomscroll. It's painful to be dehumanized, so we look for scapegoats. Actually REhumanization each other is much more effective at solving the worlds problems than any of the technology that we think will save us. Re-sacralizing life in all its complexity, beauty and contradictions is how we expand our consciousness and create a better future.
Seeing the music restoration part had me crying a bit. I just felt so much love for all these people everywhere like me. Like we're made of the same stuff and i need to take care of us in small ways or big ways. Your video shining light on focusing on doing better is part of taking care of all of us. Meant to say thank you, your work is important, keep going and congratulations on being a father
In a society that has become more and more pessimistic and torn apart… this video is a breath of fresh air. Love the ending part of the video.. it’s a core message that should be in everyone’s mind when we discuss things that matter for our society. But almost never discussed. Superb documentary @struthless
Thank you so much for making this video. It was deeply personal and relatable. Hurt people, hurt people- it's a cliche but it's true. There is an overwhelming amount of misinformation and doom and we owe to each other to be more intentional, discerning, and curious w what we take in and share/comment on. I'm really happy I clicked on this video bc now it's one of my favorites. I've been really lost lately and this video reminded me that there are efforts always being made to preserve what's good and worth fighting for in the world. Your video truly made me tear up. Thank you 🥺💓
I absolutely appreciate this video. Well rounded commentary on doom addiction. I definitely avoid the news at all cost. Everything is always horrible everywhere & my depression & anxiety multiply the experience. But I've found that intentionally seeking out the nice & good things in life definitely makes life worth living. Even if it's just small things.
I am extremely happy I clicked on your vid. Congratulations on your recovery. My stepdaughter still struggles with addiction. I like everything about the video. It's very engaging. I hope more people get to see it. You're very focused, knowledgeable, sincere & articulate. I'm going to check out more of your channel.✌🏽🖖🏻
My friends really started telling me I was a doomer when I became extra invested in the recent AI news cycles because I was buying into the hype. I found the best method to helping me degrade my doom, was seeking out the opposing opinion’s and takes. Most definitely, in this world where “news seeks you out” instead of “you seeking the news” you find it hard to be recommended something that will stop you from buying in as a bigger believer. So additionally, if there’s a specific sub-topic of news you find hard to get away from, maybe try to “find the grey”. I know when I start thinking in black and white my attention becomes captive.
If you want a positive data point on AI: I'm going back to university this year to do data science after failing out of a science bachelor about 10 years ago because of ADHD (among other things). I have taught myself to code using AI and have built a "tutor bot" to help me bridge the gap between my potential and my learning disability. There are tools that exist today that didn't exist ten years ago for people like me. Traditional learning is built for those who learn in a certain way and I had given up on ever making it in traditional education. I am so happy that this technology developed because it has literally changed the course of my life. My plan is to become a statistics specialist and uncover fraudulent science before it can be disseminated. If we could go back in time and catch that "vaccines cause autism" scientist before his fraud got so far it would have a huge impact on todays world. I hope I can prevent that kind of bad science making it out into the world in the future.
That’s awesome! Maybe this can help my nonverbal autistic nephew.. the boy is brilliant in so many ways but doesn’t communicate verbally. I saw an article about a nonverbal autistic girl who learned to communicate with her computer and it changed her whole family’s world. Good luck to you😸
@@katnoto8993 Lovely!!! And I totally understand positive cases like this very specialized learning mode that completely couldn’t exist before. It means a lot to hear a direct testimony that it is going well. I wish you the best in your journey! Have some friends who work in anti-fraud (for social media) and the arms race is complex and fascinating.
Good luck!!!!!! I have adhd and didn’t make it through uni because of it. And because of some pretty crazy personal stuff, but honestly for me adhd was up there with that. I get bad fatigue from it and I couldn’t prioritise or organise myself to save my life 😅 I’m so happy that you’ve found a way to get a second chance and that you’ve got such an amazing goal!!! It literally makes my day to know that you exist somewhere and that you’re devoting so much time and effort to this issue
I came a little late but i still wanted to say that this video really hit me. I realized a while ago that bad news are one of the things are breaking my mental health. I even came to a point where i started to think that maybe isn't worth living because it seems that everything is getting worse in the world every day, but this video really helped me to have a different perspective which i needed. I almost drop a tear with that 22:24 message. Thanks. :')
Deleted all my socials a few months ago. Fully deleted, not put on standby, and not just taking the app off my phone. Best decision I’ve made in YEARS.
@@lizzylouisewoo just press the button it feels kinda crap at first but a day or 2 later and you dont care anymore, if you really care go through and check if there's anything precious you want to keep and save that, but recognise how little most of it really matters and you'll be much better for it
Find yourself a motivation. I deleted mine 8 years ago.. my ex broke up with me, and I didn't want to see posts related to her, and honestly, I was initially doing it to bug her by not being connected anymore. I felt like maybe it would make her miss me but I ended up just living without it! All I have is UA-cam. Find your motivation! Good luck.
I did this a while ago, but UA-cam and UA-cam comments became the norm (UA-cam is just as bad as instagram and the others due to comments and shorts) and as you may or may not have noticed you’ll subconsciously read and comment on videos such as this. No diss just something I’ve personally noticed in myself and I honestly hope this isn’t the case for you. UA-cam is the last frontier for me, and from that point I’m done with it for good. I’m actually scared because i feel disconnected but I know that’s the addiction talking. Best of luck with your journey and I hope a tonne of positivity follows.
this would make some really impactful required viewing before getting access to youtube or tiktok. i absolutely love this entire concept. everything from talking about the troubles of this kind of information, to how to inspire us to do better, to a doom-poster being a dude just like you. i'll be thinking about this for a while. thank you for the effort and for making such a powerful piece.
that last part got to me. it's so easy to crystallize a person's entire being through a negative comment on the internet. or hell, if someone makes a bad take (tm) and gets raked over the coals for it--likely that's the only thing we remember about that person. tbh this is a byproduct of doomscrolling--we're more likely to remember the bad things a person does online, even if it was just an isolated incident all that isn't to excuse people who deliberately, repeatedly, and willfully inflict misery upon people. but moreso it's an observation that doomscrolling removes nuances from people
Second time watching this and I just have to say, this video is the literal reason I stopped doom scrolling. It is the reason when I get sucked into watching a depressing video, I know when to click off. When I see videos that simply exist just to cause outrage, or reaction, I mark them as not interested. This was the first step for me, then I watched another video about getting off of social media. I was never really on social media in the first place, only youtube. But I added an extension that blocks the website after I've been on it for a certain amount of time. My productivity and mental health just got better. It isn't peak by any means, but it is way better than it used to be. I've recommended this video to my significant other because they constantly still doomscroll, and I want them to not feel burdened by it either, unfortunately I don't know if they'll watch this, but I just want to say you've done me a great service by creating this video. You showed me the light at the end of the tunnel, and I am forever grateful!
Key points Doom Scrolling and Media Impact: The video highlights how doom scrolling, the habit of constantly consuming negative and sensational news, has become prevalent in today's media landscape. It emphasizes how media often prioritizes negative content to capture attention and generate revenue. Balanced Reporting: The video underscores the importance of balanced and solution-oriented reporting. It suggests that media should not just focus on problems but also provide solutions and progress to inspire and inform the audience. Media Literacy: Media literacy is crucial to combat doom scrolling. People can be more selective in their media consumption, seek slow journalism, and look for news that offers solutions to better understand the world. Positive Perspective: The video encourages individuals to seek a more accurate and balanced view of the world. The idea is to fill gaps in understanding with positive and informative content, focusing on progress and solutions rather than pessimism. Recognizing Humanity: The video concludes by emphasizing the importance of recognizing the humanity behind negative comments and the need to see people as individuals rather than scapegoats for doom. It encourages a more empathetic approach to online interactions.
Thanks for that extended ending, it tied up the whole message you are trying to get across very nicely. I actually started to cry a little thinking about the times I've lashed out when having a bad day. May your path find you
Particularly loved how you ended this one. Really changed my perspective on the commentator and comments in general. I appreciate your insight, hard work, and creativity.
Something that might help with that as well is that the comment wasn't quite as bad as it sounded. He wasn't blaming Struthless having kids for these disasters. He was saying that kids wouldn't want to be born into a world with these disasters in them. Essentially taking the "I didn't ask to be born" attitude that a lot of struggling people have and projecting it onto newborn kids. Don't get me wrong, its still a wrong worldview, but its nowhere near as bad as "you having kids is dooming the world".
Really appreciate the insight about addiction and how it can impact one's mindset, and especially appreciate that (at the end of the video) that one really doomy comment is more about what's going on with that individual than to whomever it's addressed to. Cuz (speaking as someone who works in a mental health situation) when people get decompensated, it isn't always a personal attack. It has more to do with unmet needs.
Glad you added the ending because yes that rude comment i could tell was not about you being "bad" or contributing to those crisis they mentioned, but instead them seeing and experiencing an unjust world and not wanting that for another human (your baby being born into an unjust world). It was definitely an unhinged way to put it though.
Powerful video. I actually resonate quite a lot with the persona who doesn't catch up with the news anymore because they're often times too depressing. This genuinely had negative impact on my mentality which is why I've opted to avoid most forms of news. I've even gone so far as to delete almost all of my social media channels to "escape" the never ending flow of trashy and doomsy content. I loved the suggestions for "healthier" media/news consumption, especially the "offline news" one. It may be a challenge to allow news back into my schedule and implement them according to these "guidelines", but I'm definitely willing to give them a try again. Thanks a lot!
Another great video! If you have never read Noam Chomsky, read his book, Manufacturing Consent. Great book to help people see that whatever message we are being peddled by the media, friends, family, etc., are all coming through biased filters. When consuming information, this book helped me to read between the lines to try to understand the underlying biases on the information presented. Cheers!😀
This video was massively insightful. My partner has ADHD, so doomscrolling is something she's very much aware of, she feels she needs that constant income of dopamine, and feels that constantly scrolling on social media is how she can achieve it... She also knows this isn't the healthiest way about it. More recently though, in the midst of the conflict between Israel and Gaza, she's *constantly* scrolling for updates (and, in turn, bad news). First thing in the morning, all throughout the day, even as I'm trying to get to sleep. She'll then constantly feed me each and every tidbit of information she's finding on it, how many casualties there are, what large cap companies are doing in reaction, what the governments are doing about it, what this means for our country, what this means for the world, what this means for us as individuals, the list goes on. And whilst I can see the importance of educating oneself and how dangerous and easy it is to bury our heads in the sand and pretend it isn't happening (I'm much more the modest approach of offline news I seek myself and slow-journalism intake), but I've realised just how hard and fast the sense of depression has begun sinking in, courtesy of my partner constantly shoving this news down my throat, and if/when I communicate that I'd rather not talk about it, or get into a full-blown discussion of it, she'll respond with, "I'm sorry THIS is an inconvenience on your day when there are people out there dying!" or she'll respond in a way that my stone-walling or deflection is me telling her she's wrong. She isn't wrong, but her approach to expecting me to absorb ALL of this news at the pace she is, that's wrong. Whilst I feel I could do more to educate myself on the world's current events, I'm glad doom-scrolling isn't nearly as prevalent in my life as it is in hers. I genuinely feel as though it massively feeds anxiety and depression, and that opting not to sink into that side of social media or any media in general is healthy. Everything in moderation, basically!
Read metaphysics book transurfing section on pendulums or atleast youtube video on it, to understand how toxic this type of news can be, i fall for it sometimes too but it's poison
Ah man. Going back to the commenter made me cry. I am not a doom scroller, but my personal identity often makes me feel doomed. It's hard not to feel doomed when a lot of media and loud people are screaming hate. But seeing you reach the end with some hope in both the commenter and the survey really hit me. That maybe we can educate and it'll be fine.
This was some really good stuff. Thanks for putting into words many things I’ve been realizing as I get older. I have younger brothers. Starting to care more spurred me on mentally to try and be a better example. Thinking the world is getting better has done wonders for my mental health. Thanks for sharing 🍻
That bit at the end was hands down THE BEST thing I’ve seen in a while. The more we learn about one another, the more we understand that we’re not the focus of anyone else’s thoughts (I HOPE) the happier we’ll be. I’m so glad you tacked that on at the end ❤
I quit watching the news in 2019 when I was preparing for a big test and a big career advancement. I also stopped social media. After I passed the test, I discovered that I had developed an allergy to the news and to social media. Even the thought of it made me feel ill. I’ve never looked back and I preach, to anyone who’ll still listen, the virtues of an extended media fast. I liked your video. But I think the doom scrolling thing is worse than just the doom part. It’s the infinite scroll. My family and my wife’s brothers family went on a trip to Michigan a couple years ago with our 4.5 kids. As folks would slowly rise in the morning, I’d go out on the patio and pull up UA-cam. I found myself watching shorts, which is something that I NEVER do. Next thing I know, 45 mins had passed. This happens a couple of times on the trip. At one point, I looked at my history. It absolutely blew my mind. I had watched a couple hundred shorts in that week. The content was really inconsequential. Some tool tips, some fool trips. Some cruel quips…(sorry) Nothing controversial. Nothing doomy. But when I looked at that list, I felt so small. I felt like I had given part of myself to the algorithm. I had wasted valuable time with my family. I felt terrible. I believe we create the world that we want to live in. What I mean is: We SEE what we expect to see. What we WANT to see. And we feed our desires with the things that we want to fill our world. If we don’t do this deliberately, then it gets done for us. And if it’s being done for us, it’s being done by someone(a system) that has a financial or social interest. So I decided, as much as I could help it, that I would be the one filling in my world. It’s amazing how the world appears when you stop letting social media create it for you. You see others through a lens of love and empathy. You see people in your neighborhood as neighbors, not strangers. “Global events” are replaced by the important things happening in your home. The time frame for thought or response goes from immediate to eternal. Thanks for starting a dialogue and for helping some people stop the scroll. You know what would be cool? Find the commenter and interview him or do some kind of collab.
It’s always amazed me how deep people get into doom scrolling. I tend to take my mums stance on news and such. “If it’s something that’s important enough for me to know/ to affect my life, I’ll find out when I need to.” The most social media platform she has is UA-cam and she uses it for exercising and hair tutorials. Focus is on friends, family and trying to live as good a life as possible. I stick with this because my brain always creates enough negative energy on its own for a multitude of reasons. I know the news will make it worse and put me in a bad place. So instead of focusing on that or trying to solve the huge problems, I try to spread joy and care. In my neighborhood I’ve started giving baked goods and sharing what I grow in my garden. It’s led to some amazing memories already. I feel like these little things done enough will make big change. I’ve also learned that too many ppl are surprised when someone does something nice with zero motivation and expect nothing in return.
Great video Dude! I've watched a lot of your content and it's clear to me that you've come out of the other side of struggle and hardship and appeared as a wise and thoughtful leader that your daughter, family and audience are fortunate to learn from. Thanks for your effort and caring.
UA-cam had removed my subscription to your channel 😭 I’d dawned on me this morning when I was reading through my 6 month reset journaling exercise, I knew my feed seemed super gloomy! Now I know why. Glad to have you back 😃💚
22:56 THANK YOU so much for not ending the video early. The whole video I was hoping you would get back to the post one more time to address the human behind the vitriol. I'm somehow so happy you actually did, I got a tear in my eye and I'm not entirely sure why. Cheers mate, keep up the amazing videos.
Amazing video! I noticed the media making negative reports on the state of NYC, like it was going down in flames. However, I watch Terry B’s channel and he just makes cool videos following fixed gear cyclists through NYC. When I watch the news, the city is falling apart. When I watch a Terry B video from a day or two ago, it looks like life is going on as usual. It was very eye-opening to make this realization. I am becoming more and more aware of the content I am consuming. It is good to be skeptical, and it is also good to be optimistic. Doom scrolling is not good food for the psyche.
The end of this video actually touched my heart, I don't think I've cried in years, but the ending got me. I've had very similar struggles to you, I'm now clean but I have always tried to stay positive and to give people the benifit of the doubt. Not many people in this world are actual monsters, but if you look at most people in a certain light, they will seem to be monstrous. Keep up the good work my dude 👌
Only 10 minutes into the video and I still feel a hot hot rage seeing that comment you got on your photo! 😡 Edit: what a fantastic ending to the documentary. I hope that commenter heals, and that he can spread positivity and see the good in people (like you did with him!).
When you get to O, I hope that you'll cover Otherisation-- the way that we categorise people as Other, as Less Than, as Not Like Us, that so often ends in cruelty and genocide. Your last point speaks so perfectly to the cure for otherisation-- humanisation. Realise that even people who are behaving badly are still human, still like us, still having joys and sorrows and needs, which leads us to develop grace. I really appreciated this documentary. Thank you.
I was doomscrolling religiously during the pandemic just like everyone else but then I got sick of it and stopped watching/paying attention to the news altogether. I know it’s not right to avoid the world that way and purposely be ignorant but I literally can’t avoid the news even when I’m not looking for it. I just hear stuff here and there and if I can donate to a cause to help, I would. Btw, the ending to the video is everything and made me proud to be your subscriber. 😊
Why is it not right? Does it actually help anyone for you, specifically, to know about all those things? If the only change it causes is making you feel shittier, then there's no reason for you to keep doing it.
@@KaterynaM_UA Bruh, this isn't a high school test. I'm not asking if OP can take the "right" answers from the video. I'm asking for OP's answer. Whether they're staying informed because they "should" stay informed (because someone else said that staying informed is What Good People Do), or because them staying informed leads to an actual tangible benefit which serves a purpose.
There are two specific things I've realized regarding the news, or doom grifters in general: 1) A more dramatized version of reality creates a more dependable audience 2) You will hear little about the good (or mundane) in the world, because when people feel things are "okay" they feel less of a need to follow the news or doom grifter as closely. The mentality that news outlets promote is definitely seeping into people's minds in a big way...I am constantly hearing from younger people on the internet that they are literally "doomed" and "have it worse than any other generation". These are people who aren't from war-torn or extremely poverty stricken countries . The unique struggles we face change over time, but overall the world isn't any worse than it has been for previous generations. These challenges shouldn't be ignored, but addressed with the care they deserve rather than us using them as fuel to lash out or an excuse not to try.
Outstanding. I deeply believe in something I call “rational optimism” - basically, we have real, logical reasons to believe that all the bad news we hear is massively exaggerated and that our media consumption patterns are to blame. I often use the Paul Ehrlich example to drive my point home. We need more people telling this point of view in the way this video does so thoughtfully and beautifully. I really appreciate that you reached out to the gentleman who wrote the note that kicked off the piece. We need a whole lot more of that, too.
Seriously. Thank you so much for this. I really really struggle with hopelessness looking at the world. It's nice to see that others also struggle with it, but that they have ways to deal with it
I feel for your hopeful optimism. While Ehrlich was wrong on his predictions, the mechanisms he described are very much in effect. In the 70s, a group of researchers published Limits to Growth, with a model predicting civilizational collapse due to depleting resources and population growth. In short, the theory is that if you overshoot your environment's ability to sustain you in a large enough way, the population doesn't experience a return to the mean by a smooth descent down a nice slope: but rather systematic collapse. Every few years, various researchers attempt to disprove the model (as they should), but have failed to do so. Anyway, I finished watching this, and really enjoyed it, the end, and post-end in particular. I agree it's important to always try to include in your thoughts, the positive motivation behind it all, humanity
I improved my mental health considerably by stopping watching/reading news and carefully curating my social media so that I'm seeing the good stuff that's good for me... like your UA-cam channel. Thanks for being a good human.
Oh dude! This is exactly what happened to me. I couldn't take it away more! I quit watching the news 100%. Now I'm not longer a rage fill trolls desperately trying to make everyone wake up. I had lost all hope or motivation. Now I watch happy people doing their own thing.
Man, that ending was just brilliant. Thanks for another banger! You really inspire me. I actually thought doom scrolling was just scrolling mindlessly as it can be so addictive. With the recent conflict in the middle east, I realise I have been caught up in something I used to judge my parents for. I guess we all get old.
The ending of your video, adressing that person's comment and humanizing the guy behind it, is exactly what I was hoping it would be. Thank you for that. Your content is so insightful and it gives me a lot to think about whenever I watch it. Lately I've bee thinking about the kind of person I want to be for myself and for others. I've actively made a change to how I engage with social media for my health, but it's easy to stumble or forget not to let all that bad in. Your short documentary came at the perfect time and reminded me that there is hope, and that there are ways to overcome that near constant stream of negativity.
I have just deleted twitter sorry X , I have been scrolling obsessively with this war and ended up so depressed and terrified I could barely get out of bed. All the hate , all the horror , it was overwhelming.
Thank you very much for this video. It is a great reminder how being "chronically online" and consuming news to ease my sense of lack of control makes it worse. I often paint a bleak forecast about the future because the information I have is skewed to the negative side of things, and sometimes ruin it for people when I feel it is my duty to "let people know". We should continue to encourage ourselves and the people around us to solve problems instead of preparing for a helpless and hopeless future. Perhaps when people consciously seek good news instead of bad news, news companies will be incentivized to flip the valence of the kinds of news they publish, ending this negative spiral. Thank you also for walking the talk with what you did at the end of the video and inspiring every viewer here. Cheers mate
This was beautiful. So engaging and so wholesome and just so wonderful. And I'm so happy about the ending because the entire time I felt bad for the commenter as they're just a person - thanks for humanizing them, that was unexpected and beautiful.
You are such a smart and empathic person and you really express things so eloquently. Also your story is so inspiring. The world needs more people like you. Thank you for your work and all the best to your beautiful family. :)
That mentality accomplishes nothing except making it easier for evil to rule. You might as well just unalife yourself and get out of the way of people trying to contribute rather than being dead weight, right? Or you can decide to be positive for your own benefit because it's nobody else's job or duty. C'mon, don't be stupid.
Wow this video not only confirms what I have been thinking about social media and shows exactly why I got rid of social media (except youtube) some years ago, but that last part opened my eyes again about how easy it is to judge others. Even though I try not to, that trap is constantly there to fall into. I think you are a very interesting beautiful man and I am sure you are, and will continue to be a great parent.
i think the point the baby comment person was making was less "if you see a baby, punch it," and more "the baby existing means it has already been punched by the future, adopt and prevent a time-punch instead of time-punching more babies"
I absolutely loved this video ❤ there was a period when I was reading news every day and I was getting so depressed from all the negative news that I stopped reading any. But then I was struggling between wanting to be informed about what's going on in the world and not getting depressed from it 🤷🏻♀️ Adding positive news channels helps a lot, for example I added on my social media channels that talk about innovations in combating climate change, recycling plastics etc 😊
I deal with CPTSD and Object Permanence issues so it's quite often that it feels difficult to get back into a positive headspace and not keep on the lookout for negative patterns unless I'm almost being constantly reminded. Your videos like this have always been a breath of fresh air and I always come out feeling lighter from them, they're like their own form of meditation. I knew I had a problem getting caught up in negative news and stories so I've had to unsubscribe from things like "AITA" because it would just make me see more awful stories about people. I used to tell myself it was like some kind of research, like I was looking out for signs so they wouldn't happen to me. But now I'm in a truly healthy relationship, not just one I thought was healthy because I was lying to myself. Things are good for me and I don't need to continue to poison my mind with doom and gloom. I used to think couples posting romantic things or pages filled with only the wholesome were cringe and they made me uncomfortable. But letting all of that into my life now only makes my existing love grow stronger. Not only for my partner but for myself and others, it brings me far more hope and happiness than trying to "look out for the bad" ever had.
Thank you. I feel like giving you a big hug, striking light at this venom but doing so with love and positivity. My wife taught me, that love prevails, that love wins against hate in the end. hate only destroys whereas love creates and empowers.
I'm an anti-natalist myself but I would never comment that to a new parent. WTF. Thanks for spreading the positivity dude- you're doing good for this world.
Same here. I believe anti-natalism is generally a personal philosophy that people tend to come to on their own. I wish all prospective parents would really consider their choice in the context of their child's potential suffering, rather than just their own desires about 'wanting a mini me' etc. But proposing it as actual legislation will always have dire consequences and, like you say, to scream at someone for having kids AFTER the fact is completely pointless.
You can just not want kids, and that's fine. But anti natalism is a self defeating ideology, as if it propagates to its conclusion, there will be nobody to continue the idea. An idea that cannot continue into the future is a dead idea.
@@joriankell1983 I don't think they are gonna punch the babies, don't worry I don't share the same ideologies at all, but I don't think it just means that they hate children and want them gone, maybe it's more about thinking twice before having children? Idk, but I don't think they are a threat to kids overall
"The world has a lot of urgent problems, but things don't get solved if we forget why we're trying to solve them." I loved this whole mini-doc. I have consumed a lot of educational, inspirational, "self-help" (don't love the term but you know) type of content, and I am serious that no one else's videos have resonated with me the same way yours have. I really appreciate you and everything you do online. Thank you for this and all of your work!
Wow. This was exactly what I needed to hear. Amazing video, great research, relevant topic, personal touches and GROWTH - 20/10. I’m sharing this with everyone.
The way you see things is refreshing and we need people like you. You brought a smile to my face and I felt a bit of warm reflection. Sometimes we forget to look at things with a more positive, compassionate, twist. Thank you
I dont think that comment was trying to say that your daughter was going to cause climate change or the water wars, but that she'll have to live through them
exactly, he's interpreted the comment completely incorrectly. Still a childish thing to say to someone who's just had a kid. They're probably not wrong but there's no point in saying that to someone with a kid.
@@ladamita_exe the point is that adopting would mean you still get a kid but don't cause a new one to have to live through climate change, just making the time until that more comfortable for one who exists.
This type of commentary is the reason I subscribe to your channel and the reason why I really hope you continue to share your thoughts and talents with the world. Once again thank you.
I loved this. Especially that bit at the end. Humanizing the individuals who sometimes run into these traps or habits you touched on. It's not people who are the problem, but the habits when left unchecked.
Saw a sign on a church that says "Stop watching the " news " and just love thy neigbor again" Love is literally what we need right now. Not being cheesy. Everyone is hurting bc everyone thinks they live in hell. Why do we want to live in hell together? Lets be kind. Lets help each other. Lets give people a chance to smile again. It wont hurt us to breathe for a while
I hate this point because it's technically not wrong, but the problem isn't that simple. Nazis and capitalism cannot be solved by "love" and neither can climate change. It's kind of a centrist take honestly. We can't exactly come together and sing kumbaya when one group is trying to kill all the other groups
Cam, this hit me at exactly at the right time. Being a trans girl in America is uh…stressful rn to say the least. There’s a lot of hurt that we experience, but it’s good to have a reminder that there’s a lot of joy to be experienced too. Thanks a million ❤
Thank you so much for going to the end of your own process of thinking and feeling this message, it got me trying in the end, to witness you so raw, being curious about someone you hated and making it obvious that curiosity can be one of the solutions that makes us softer on each other, makes us look for things we have in common, and shift perspective on ourselves and others. You are so fucking brave, thank you for your deep work and sharings 🙏🏼✨❤️❤️❤️
every doco in this series so far is so unexpectedly beautiful and profound. can't tell you enough how grateful i am for you and your work, and I'm so excited for the rest of this series !!
Man I never comment on anything but this deserves to be talked about, to be praised. This video was informative, entertaining, emotional. It honestly blows my mind how much thought you've put into this and how much empathy and understanding you have for the world as a whole. Thank you for this touching message!
It still missed the entire point. The argument the commentor was making was an "anti natalist" one not an environmentalist one.
They were saying it was immoral to have kids because the child will have to suffer greatly during their lifetime, not that them existing will contribute to climate change.
I concur
On the reply to this first: regarding the comment guy's anti-natalism views, from reading his writing and reddit history I can say with confidence that he is a vocal and staunch anti-natalist. He's also all the other things I mentioned at the end.
On the comment itself: thank you so so much - this is lovely. It was a hard video to make, so this really hits home.
@@struthlessI understand that, most anti-natalist have a bleak view of the world. That being said, since you're a new father, I'd really like to see your take on that concept because I'm kind of on the fence with anti natalism.
Thank you for the response
This was a really good and informative look into these comminties, and its getting worse. These and doom communities on utube is REALLY bad. There's one I've been paying Attention to, minutesofhorror, that posts daily paranoid Schizophrenic rants, and has a HUGE following. All cus of these scared, God fearing people, looking for answers. I swear the way he interacts with his commentors, that it's like a borderline cult. They're afraid of everything from 5g, to testing the emergency system and it's ALL connected. And u can't try and talk logic with them.
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You know what gives me hope and a sense of connectedness? That in your example videos from Dust to Digital was someone from my family. I'm one of 7 billion humans watching a random youtuber from a different country than mine, and that youtuber found a bit of my little family on the internet. Isn't that insane? Nice video man
That is insane! Wow.
I love that. Hope you're doing well out there :)
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i might be one of the 35 billion who die before the end of this. remember me
I will remember and witness you
The real ending of this short doc was the most important lesson of all and I’m so glad you kept the camera rolling and kept learning about this human being who’s just in a lot of pain and has a lot of healing ahead of them❤✌️
Though I do wish he hadn't misunderstood the guys point. The guy was still wrong, but he didn't believe having kids was causing these disasters. He believed that kids wouldn't want to be born into a world with these disasters in them. Thats a subtle but important difference. I'm glad he called himself out at the end there, but even then he didn't quite realise that he'd strawmanned the poor guy.
@@ASpaceOstrichyo, just want to add some context here. The guy is a vocal anti natalist who has a history of this type of comment. Originally i went into that but I cut it out in the edit coz it felt too much, but now I see i should have added more context. Sorry about that, my bad. My logic: I realised the extra comments made him easy to google, so you know... I figured it was a better move to keep it civil.
Fwiw your interpretation is also correct! But I just figured I'd give some more details. In any case, I appreciate what you're writing coz you're trying to find the truth here, and potentially reveal a nicer picture. On the strawman note, I did consider using the term strawman instead of one-dimensionalising, but it wasn't accurate with the truth of his anti-natalist/anti population beliefs, however it does make sense with what I've presented.
That is all to say, totally get ya and ty
@@struthless No worries. And good on you again for the ending to the video.
Capitalism is a cancer. It's feeding off of humanity and making us all sick.
@@struthlessI still think that guy didn't see your kid as the bad guy, but you, for supposedly making another person "experience the climate apocalypse", and for adding fuel to the fire.
I think that kinda thinking is really unhelpful though, because - as some other commenter mentioned - if people can't have kids, who are we saving the planet for? That type of thinking takes away a lot of motivation to tackle climate change. And if he did mean that we shouldn't create more sufferers, that also takes away motivation. If none of us have kids because "the world's ending anyway" then that's kind of a self fulfilling prophecy, as opposed to actually having a kid (or at least being okay with others having them) and working towards a better future for those upcoming generations.
Anyways, really amazing and extraordinarily valuable video, thanks!
The bad news without the possibility of doing something against it has severely impacted my mental health. Feeling helpless is incredibly triggering to me due to childhood trauma and I have struggled with depression for years, but I also feel guilty when I try to "ignore" bad news. This video was so helpful and healing, thank you!!
Same here! I feel like I am ignorant if I don't look at the bad stuff that is happening to other people around the world.
There’s ways to fight back just have to keep pushing
A solution may be to make it a goal to move to a smaller community in a foreign country and interact and help those in need. You will feel som sense of purpose without always suffering from doomscrolling.@@redomisia
I know this is late but I wanted to let you know I relate to that helpless feeling.
Whenever I get sad about that I try to follow Stoicism. It’s basically this mentality where you acknowledge what you can’t control vs. what you can. In this case you can’t control the outside world but you can control your reaction.
So with that try to accept things out of your hand and focus on things that are and maybe that can help.
Once when I rented a home, I discovered some newspapers in the attic from the late 50s. When I read them, I saw they had posted achievements of the locals, a list of the straight A students at the high school, and an assortment of other uplifting news. I can get sucked into doom scrolling, but see it and hop back off the merry-go-round
I bought a property with piles and piles of newspapers from the 1940s till the 2010s. Unfortunately, he took out the important ones such as the moon landing, etc...
However, what got me was how similar the stories were today. Outrage at immigrants... Italians and Germans back then. Nauru, where Australia sent refugees to imprison them, was actually in a 1950s paper. Teenagers were out of control, all horrible, disrespectful and destined to destroy the country.
It was kind of funny to see how little we have progressed.
There is actually a video somewhere about this exactly how newspapers have always regurgitated the same stuff since over hundred years. It's always "oh no in ten years we are going to die!"
Heard a great saying that came from someone who’d had enough of the doom media during covid and just stopped going online for news: “if something is so important, someone will tell me”. The sentiment was that we can’t concern ourselves with every single crisis across the globe. We have to do our thing, in a way that’s responsible and considerate, and that’s enough.
This is pretty much how I live my life now too! If something truly significant happens, locally or globally, it will find its way to me via the people in my communities.
This is actually the same way, I describe my media consumbtion. As someone who wants to help everyone, who actually swang into the oppsite side once (the nihilism), I heavly started to reduse my media consumbtion and the amount of things I get to know, day to day. Funny thing is, since I started doing that, it seems way more important things happend. Covid, Wars, etc, but the more I think about it, its probably just the thing, that I don't have much that "overrides" these things. I don't have the small news, that immeadly override the large news. That helps me, in particuar.
My grandmother use to say “if it ain’t life threatening, don’t let it worry you” “there’s going to be times when you need to worry so save the worry for that”
Very true! Though I think something that should also be considered is not just not letting doom-scrolling take over your life, but also consider having relationships with people that help bring more positivity in your life (and/or, if you're an empath, learning to not take on other people's pain/issues/struggles as a form of IRL doom-scrolling). It's good to sometimes be someone friends can turn to for comfort and support, but setting boundaries are also extremely important and can help with dealing with friends that have a lot of drama/issues in their lives, they're doomers, and/or place too much emotional responsibility on you that shouldn't be yours to carry.
Speaking as someone that was a big empath as a kid/teen and sometimes still has struggles not taking on other people's issues as an adult.
This is what I've resorted too. I've stopped doomscrolling (though I admit I probably spend a bit too much time on YT) but I don't go on reddit or instagram. I used to go there for news, not anymore. If something is important enough I will hear it from a person.
That ending made this video a thousand times more impactful, and it was already a thousand time more impactful than most other videos I've watched lately. Well done.
yeah... just lacked the comment that probably the dude was saying that HE'S INRRESPOSIBLE for puting a kid in this uncertain future world, and not saing that he and his family was CAUSING of he problem... TOTALLY DIFERENT STUFF ...
But honestly good video just kinda pissed me of seing him picturing the dude as an " populations it's gona kill earth " dude.
The point of " show the way to save the world not just say it's fated to doom " plus the " people are not causing doom, greed of the economic system it's causing doom " kinda saved the video.
My mother was in recovery herself and became a family therapist in a recovery treatment center. We grew up surrounded by people in recovery, I would not have changed any of it. Some of the most loving, loyal humans I still know to this day. My mother caught Covid and passed away in 2020, she is missed daily by her family and also her recovery family.
Amazing stuff, I had a dumb phone for two years, then returned to a smartphone and social media world. I was genuinely amazed how pessimistic and angry I became in such a short period of time. Love this message!
It’s crazy how vulnerable we are to succumb to this easy access by having technology on us at all times. I feel like there’s a shift happening with people and not having your phone on you can be seen as a healthy thing. It’s something that I’m trying to do more often.
@@AikiraBeats❤ I have had a glitchy phone this past year and I used to panic thinking I'm going to end up stranded helpless Lost... But a few times that I've had it die on me while away from my charger and such once when I had to remember how I found my way through the world before GPS etcetera or when I moved to my last apartment needing to knock on a neighbor's door ask to borrow a charger before I could move on my way back the day I picked up the keys my new church became that because my phone died after services but before I could summon an Uber back and it was suddenly torrential downpour so I ended up going into the parish office to see if anyone had a charger or I might use their phone and that's how I join the parish I met a couple of my new neighbors and I think God is almost trying to tell me to ditch my f****** phone forever cuz I just bought a new one and damn it I can't even get the damn display to stop popping up while I'm doing my talk to text it's frustrating as hell anyway to talk to text because sometimes I'm not enunciating properly or whatever like the f*** now it's making me crazier than it's worth to just make it 2 second comment that's taking 20 minutes because I don't know how to get this freaking display to stop displaying popping up and can't watch a video I pay for UA-cam premium for this kind of headache what the hell it's just stupid I'm not that old but I'm not invested in all this technology that's supposed to make life easier but it complicates things and I really took for granted the feel of in-person meeting life up close with your eyes and your hands or those first few employment experiences that were so physical when I was so new to the working world I actually invested a lot of energy in showing older adults on my shift that I was just as capable as a young teen teenage girl of doing what they were doing in whatever that job called for whether landscaping or taking over the dishwashing position previously occupied fireman twice my height twice my age who had been postal worker prior to that... I never realized how much the rest of us took him for granted and how much work he did and did well until he walked out and I had to pick up the slack but it was wonderful to be that exhausted at the end of the day except for those horrible fever dream style dreams when you have a tedious job and then you finally fell asleep after working a 12-hour shift I'll need to dream about doing your tedious job.,.. Bwah😢 the proletariat to cry of my working😊clss Blue collar roots
I've done nothing but doomscroll since covid started and I've had the worst 3 years of my life, I began chancing my algorithm and I haven't felt this good in who knows how long, also made me want to quit weed for good. Left a like for the algorithm!
Why are people like Norman Borlaug who literally saved millions of people from starving not so much more known? It annoys me how the media focus so much on the negatives and not on the many inspiring people who everyday everywhere make the world better. I often look up sites on positive news as a pallette cleanser.
Edit: just discovered the channel Good News here on youtube, can really recommend it :)
Probably because it doesn't cause as much fear and doesn't sell as well, also, it depends on what you seek, news tend to me mostly negative because it's things happening in the world, depending on where you are there isn't a lot of positive happening, I'm Brazilian, I live in Rio, my government is in an almost war with the militia and the cartels, people die every day because of it, it's relevant, but people can watch other things, people can ignore, most people do.
I was literally taught about Borlaug in public middle school lol
Do you mind please pointing us at some of your favourite positive news sites?
@@briarbarbour7341First week of freshman history class he was mentioned lol. I'm from Texas too, and we have terrible education lol
I become a bigger fan of yours with each video you release. Thank you for modeling empathy and introspection. Your practice of soul searching is inspiring because a lot of us are not doing much of that. I also deeply appreciate your intentional choosing to seek hope. We need that. And I'll also add, having children can be the most hopeful act one can do.
Easily one of my favorite videos you've ever made.
Almost makes me forget about how your infant started the Australian bushfires...
context?!?
@@sippingthe I believe it's what's called a joke.
@sippingthepeachsoda the literal video we're commenting on.
this made me laugh SO GODDAMN LOUD AHAHAHAHAHAH
Hahahaha 🤣
Thank you so much for this. I have family members who are addicted to this kind of negative news and it makes them miserable. I appreciate your tools to heal from this.
Beautifully said, great timing and so relatable. I literally wrote on my dry erase board yesterday “Does this come from a place of love or fear?’ Because as someone diagnosed with CPTSD and anxiety, fear tends to cloud my perception at times, so I like to remind myself through meditation to focus first on love and what I can do to impact those, in my immediate environment out of a place of love. That perception and shift in behavior is more life enriching than doom scrolling.
I have CPTSD and joined an online support group.... it was a nightmare! I had never shared a corner of the internet with meaner, more argumentative, touchy and negative people. I mean, the saying is right, Hurt people really DO hurt people. It's so good to hear that someone with a similar diagnosis can choose a more healing and loving path and that we are not all doomed to be people-hating internet trolls.
❤❤❤ This is beautiful; thank you for sharing this with us. I share those diagnoses as well and really love that quick perspective check. Saving that one!!
great approach and important question, thank you for sharing ❤
But that perceptual shift isn’t half as stimulating as doomscrolling 😭 I swear it preys on my ADHD
As a historian, it is a consistent struggle convincing students that our world is getting better. As a media historian, I at least have the tools and awareness. Thank you for doing this. Its a good fight. We have to build awareness of our neighbors, because we too easily find ourselves alone.
So good! The first ending left me feeling like you were using your platform for personal catharsis. I was standing on my "judgment carpet" just judging away. Then you came back and pulled it right out from underneath me, lol! Which, by the way, evoked the very introspective experience that I think you were trying to convey in the entire video. Brilliant! Pure metaphorical artistry.
Well stated. Genuine introspection is something we all can easily forget to do. A reminder like this video and your comment is helpful.
Struthless, I think your videos are so nuanced, vulnerable and deeply optimistic. You are part of the solutions you talk about in the video. Thank you for taking the time to make this.
I just wanted to tell I have been clean for almost 9 months. I feel amazing and I'm actually happy and accomplishing the things I dreamt of partly because of you. I found you a year ago and you mentioned addiction a few times and I thought that being sober was never possible. That ending brought a tear to my eye
@johnm4912 you are incredible! I am so proud of you. Keep going, we are all rooting for you.
Yes we are!! And if you slip, get right back at it!!
Well done!!
Unfortunately your child will have to deal with RFID inside herself to shop for goods and deal with a World economy. That my friend is even more scary then starving!! # save a life by not making one.
YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH CONGRATS!!! I hope you're doing well, stranger!! :)
Every time I watch one of your videos, I get emotional - but in a good way. As a person who tries to avoid mainstream media, the parts that do filter through is normally filled with doom, which fills me with sadness and anxiety. Thank you for always adding a positive perspective to my human experience.
Good vibes only🌈
I personally got really tired of being angry and pessimistic all the time several years ago. I looked at why I was feeling this way, and decided it was two things - social media in general and news programming. I quit both, and feel much better. Seriously though, my wife thinks I'm a pessimist. I claim I'm actually an optimist, just really dark. I don't need outside help to be pissed and depressed.
Glad to hear! I won't lie though, I genuinely laughed reading your comment. In a good way.
Good to see a fellow dark optimist 🙋♀
You sound like my kind of person. Have a good one 😊
What I really appreciate about your work is the "wholeness" of it. You present things in a very non-dual way and I think that's why no matter the topic, your videos always resonate with me. You seem to have a genuine grasp on things and you can really feel it in the message. You are a light ❤ much love
I absolutely love the way you emphasize beauty and good things in the world. I am 23 and not gonna have a kid any time soon, but I do want kids at some point and people (including my own mother) constantly keep telling me it would be cruel of me to put a child into this world. I started to believe the same, because even I have often thought I would have prefered to not have been born. I only think that on my bad days though, because I know the planet and humans are beautiful and it is a privilege to experience it all. Most of my friends are so negative about the future that I often find myself crying about the planet as if it's already gone, and I really have to actively remind myself that honestly... all is well. Sure, some shit's fucked. But I am alive and I am okay. I am looking forward to the future, looking forward to being a mother and a grandmother and one day being very old, laughing at my younger self for being so silly and negative. If we all die because of an apocalyps or whatever, that's sad but it would be so much sadder to just give up now because ''maybe the world is going to end''. Thanks for all your videos man, they really help❤
Yeah though I won't have kids I think the "who are we saving the planet for" is justified
Having a Child now is an incredibly blind, selfish, narcissistic act. Use your forebrain, not your dumb animal instincts.
@@cutelittledevil88 I would say, for the animals, the plants, other life forms, whatever humans are out there, I don't need to contribute genetically for the human race, people are going to keep having children even if some people choose not to do it, it's a personal decision, I personally won't have any because they would have a much worse life than I had, but, I find it annoying when people try to prescribe life decisions to others, people can make their own decisions and if they want to have children or not is their prerogative.
So all is well because you are alive and okay. That’s a nice shortcut from personal to general.
Also, I don’t think most people fear the end of the world, which won’t happen anyways, they just fear waking up in it everyday, right now, with no escape plan (except maybe in Canada in a few years, we’ll see). I know my friends and I do.
I don’t know how you’re able to keep this pace of such well-crafted, provocative, insightful, inspirational videos. You’ve taken us to church again with this one (I mean that in a good way). Thank you for making a difference.
I took your advice a while ago and bought a phone jail. The only problem is, I need a big case on my phone and it often won't fit - its a process to take it out. But by employing similar tactics I've definitely increased happiness, productivity and decreased anxiety. I continue to praise you and am so stoked to see you back posting a little more, you're a legend. Congrats on the kiddo and fam too! ❤️
i really like the forest focus app, it covers your screen and is like "stop looking at me!" for the timer you set, and if you go back into your apps before the timer is up, your little tree dies lol. might be another tactic to add to your arsenal:)
@@verthandijal that sounds both adorable and helpful! Thanks for sharing 💕
I literally clicked on reply to recommend forest app and I saw the other comment. it's actually really good and helps me a lot. also whenever you grow virtual trees you get some coins at the end which let's you plant real trees (they plant it on your behalf and there is a limit to how many you can plant but I'm not sure how many.)
It also helps with tracking time and seeing how long has been spent on what and what things need improving or what things you need to do less of
Great message. Came at the right time for me. I am also in recovery and the one message I hear often in meetings is that the opposite of addiction is connection. Your video exemplifies that perfectly. I often lose sight of that, but I will carry it with me today. Thank You.
There's a fantastic nonfiction book called How To Be Miserable by Randy J. Paterson that has a chapter on almost exactly this topic. In it, he discusses the lack of relevancy most news stories have to our daily lives; how often "breaking news" stories are actually just repetition of one negative event, over and over again; the bias towards doom and the unwillingness to show a complete picture the 24-hour news cycle has; and--ha!--the similarity between many news programs and reality TV.
The whole book is well worth a read if you're interested in psychology with a touch of humor. The conceit is that it's an instruction manual on--as the title says--how to be miserable, with the understanding that you should do the opposite to what he says. Entertaining, informative, and possibly life changing!
Second video of yours and I'm duly impressed. Especially with that final bit of commentary. The dehumanization of each other is one of the many reasons why we doomscroll. It's painful to be dehumanized, so we look for scapegoats. Actually REhumanization each other is much more effective at solving the worlds problems than any of the technology that we think will save us. Re-sacralizing life in all its complexity, beauty and contradictions is how we expand our consciousness and create a better future.
Seeing the music restoration part had me crying a bit. I just felt so much love for all these people everywhere like me. Like we're made of the same stuff and i need to take care of us in small ways or big ways.
Your video shining light on focusing on doing better is part of taking care of all of us.
Meant to say thank you, your work is important, keep going and congratulations on being a father
In a society that has become more and more pessimistic and torn apart… this video is a breath of fresh air.
Love the ending part of the video.. it’s a core message that should be in everyone’s mind when we discuss things that matter for our society. But almost never discussed.
Superb documentary @struthless
Really a great video, man. The way you ended it really touched me. Thank you for humanizing things the throw us off kilter all too often.
Thank you so much for making this video. It was deeply personal and relatable. Hurt people, hurt people- it's a cliche but it's true. There is an overwhelming amount of misinformation and doom and we owe to each other to be more intentional, discerning, and curious w what we take in and share/comment on.
I'm really happy I clicked on this video bc now it's one of my favorites. I've been really lost lately and this video reminded me that there are efforts always being made to preserve what's good and worth fighting for in the world. Your video truly made me tear up. Thank you 🥺💓
I absolutely appreciate this video. Well rounded commentary on doom addiction.
I definitely avoid the news at all cost. Everything is always horrible everywhere & my depression & anxiety multiply the experience.
But I've found that intentionally seeking out the nice & good things in life definitely makes life worth living. Even if it's just small things.
I am extremely happy I clicked on your vid. Congratulations on your recovery. My stepdaughter still struggles with addiction. I like everything about the video. It's very engaging. I hope more people get to see it. You're very focused, knowledgeable, sincere & articulate. I'm going to check out more of your channel.✌🏽🖖🏻
My friends really started telling me I was a doomer when I became extra invested in the recent AI news cycles because I was buying into the hype.
I found the best method to helping me degrade my doom, was seeking out the opposing opinion’s and takes. Most definitely, in this world where “news seeks you out” instead of “you seeking the news” you find it hard to be recommended something that will stop you from buying in as a bigger believer.
So additionally, if there’s a specific sub-topic of news you find hard to get away from, maybe try to “find the grey”. I know when I start thinking in black and white my attention becomes captive.
If you want a positive data point on AI: I'm going back to university this year to do data science after failing out of a science bachelor about 10 years ago because of ADHD (among other things). I have taught myself to code using AI and have built a "tutor bot" to help me bridge the gap between my potential and my learning disability. There are tools that exist today that didn't exist ten years ago for people like me. Traditional learning is built for those who learn in a certain way and I had given up on ever making it in traditional education. I am so happy that this technology developed because it has literally changed the course of my life. My plan is to become a statistics specialist and uncover fraudulent science before it can be disseminated. If we could go back in time and catch that "vaccines cause autism" scientist before his fraud got so far it would have a huge impact on todays world. I hope I can prevent that kind of bad science making it out into the world in the future.
That’s awesome! Maybe this can help my nonverbal autistic nephew.. the boy is brilliant in so many ways but doesn’t communicate verbally. I saw an article about a nonverbal autistic girl who learned to communicate with her computer and it changed her whole family’s world. Good luck to you😸
@@katnoto8993 Lovely!!! And I totally understand positive cases like this very specialized learning mode that completely couldn’t exist before. It means a lot to hear a direct testimony that it is going well.
I wish you the best in your journey! Have some friends who work in anti-fraud (for social media) and the arms race is complex and fascinating.
Good luck!!!!!! I have adhd and didn’t make it through uni because of it. And because of some pretty crazy personal stuff, but honestly for me adhd was up there with that. I get bad fatigue from it and I couldn’t prioritise or organise myself to save my life 😅 I’m so happy that you’ve found a way to get a second chance and that you’ve got such an amazing goal!!! It literally makes my day to know that you exist somewhere and that you’re devoting so much time and effort to this issue
It works because once you find the nuance most of the flat takes look too shallow to engage with
I came a little late but i still wanted to say that this video really hit me. I realized a while ago that bad news are one of the things are breaking my mental health. I even came to a point where i started to think that maybe isn't worth living because it seems that everything is getting worse in the world every day, but this video really helped me to have a different perspective which i needed. I almost drop a tear with that 22:24 message. Thanks. :')
Deleted all my socials a few months ago. Fully deleted, not put on standby, and not just taking the app off my phone. Best decision I’ve made in YEARS.
How did you finally delete the accounts? I delete the app, but can’t get myself to delete the account.
@@lizzylouisewoo just press the button
it feels kinda crap at first but a day or 2 later and you dont care anymore, if you really care go through and check if there's anything precious you want to keep and save that, but recognise how little most of it really matters and you'll be much better for it
I thought about doing that. But then the action part is hard... That's probably how I know that these apps are a problem... 😂
Find yourself a motivation. I deleted mine 8 years ago.. my ex broke up with me, and I didn't want to see posts related to her, and honestly, I was initially doing it to bug her by not being connected anymore. I felt like maybe it would make her miss me but I ended up just living without it! All I have is UA-cam.
Find your motivation! Good luck.
I did this a while ago, but UA-cam and UA-cam comments became the norm (UA-cam is just as bad as instagram and the others due to comments and shorts) and as you may or may not have noticed you’ll subconsciously read and comment on videos such as this. No diss just something I’ve personally noticed in myself and I honestly hope this isn’t the case for you. UA-cam is the last frontier for me, and from that point I’m done with it for good. I’m actually scared because i feel disconnected but I know that’s the addiction talking. Best of luck with your journey and I hope a tonne of positivity follows.
this would make some really impactful required viewing before getting access to youtube or tiktok. i absolutely love this entire concept. everything from talking about the troubles of this kind of information, to how to inspire us to do better, to a doom-poster being a dude just like you. i'll be thinking about this for a while. thank you for the effort and for making such a powerful piece.
that last part got to me. it's so easy to crystallize a person's entire being through a negative comment on the internet. or hell, if someone makes a bad take (tm) and gets raked over the coals for it--likely that's the only thing we remember about that person. tbh this is a byproduct of doomscrolling--we're more likely to remember the bad things a person does online, even if it was just an isolated incident
all that isn't to excuse people who deliberately, repeatedly, and willfully inflict misery upon people. but moreso it's an observation that doomscrolling removes nuances from people
Second time watching this and I just have to say, this video is the literal reason I stopped doom scrolling. It is the reason when I get sucked into watching a depressing video, I know when to click off. When I see videos that simply exist just to cause outrage, or reaction, I mark them as not interested. This was the first step for me, then I watched another video about getting off of social media. I was never really on social media in the first place, only youtube. But I added an extension that blocks the website after I've been on it for a certain amount of time. My productivity and mental health just got better. It isn't peak by any means, but it is way better than it used to be. I've recommended this video to my significant other because they constantly still doomscroll, and I want them to not feel burdened by it either, unfortunately I don't know if they'll watch this, but I just want to say you've done me a great service by creating this video. You showed me the light at the end of the tunnel, and I am forever grateful!
that ending was so incredibly human, and profoundly mature
Key points
Doom Scrolling and Media Impact: The video highlights how doom scrolling, the habit of constantly consuming negative and sensational news, has become prevalent in today's media landscape.
It emphasizes how media often prioritizes negative content to capture attention and generate revenue.
Balanced Reporting: The video underscores the importance of balanced and solution-oriented reporting.
It suggests that media should not just focus on problems but also provide solutions and progress to inspire and inform the audience.
Media Literacy: Media literacy is crucial to combat doom scrolling. People can be more selective in their media consumption, seek slow journalism, and look for news that offers solutions to better understand the world.
Positive Perspective: The video encourages individuals to seek a more accurate and balanced view of the world. The idea is to fill gaps in understanding with positive and informative content, focusing on progress and solutions rather than pessimism.
Recognizing Humanity: The video concludes by emphasizing the importance of recognizing the humanity behind negative comments and the need to see people as individuals rather than scapegoats for doom. It encourages a more empathetic approach to online interactions.
Thanks for that extended ending, it tied up the whole message you are trying to get across very nicely. I actually started to cry a little thinking about the times I've lashed out when having a bad day.
May your path find you
Glad you didn't end the video there. The very last message is super powerful, it makes me rethink a lot of things in life. Thank you!
Particularly loved how you ended this one. Really changed my perspective on the commentator and comments in general. I appreciate your insight, hard work, and creativity.
Something that might help with that as well is that the comment wasn't quite as bad as it sounded. He wasn't blaming Struthless having kids for these disasters. He was saying that kids wouldn't want to be born into a world with these disasters in them. Essentially taking the "I didn't ask to be born" attitude that a lot of struggling people have and projecting it onto newborn kids. Don't get me wrong, its still a wrong worldview, but its nowhere near as bad as "you having kids is dooming the world".
Really appreciate the insight about addiction and how it can impact one's mindset, and especially appreciate that (at the end of the video) that one really doomy comment is more about what's going on with that individual than to whomever it's addressed to. Cuz (speaking as someone who works in a mental health situation) when people get decompensated, it isn't always a personal attack. It has more to do with unmet needs.
Thanks for this episode, I’ve been feeling really grey the past few months. I needed this
This is an incredible video. Congrat on sobriety, I've always had tremendous respect for people overcoming addiction, no matter what it is.
Glad you added the ending because yes that rude comment i could tell was not about you being "bad" or contributing to those crisis they mentioned, but instead them seeing and experiencing an unjust world and not wanting that for another human (your baby being born into an unjust world). It was definitely an unhinged way to put it though.
@@merleginsbergofficial 100%
Powerful video. I actually resonate quite a lot with the persona who doesn't catch up with the news anymore because they're often times too depressing. This genuinely had negative impact on my mentality which is why I've opted to avoid most forms of news. I've even gone so far as to delete almost all of my social media channels to "escape" the never ending flow of trashy and doomsy content.
I loved the suggestions for "healthier" media/news consumption, especially the "offline news" one. It may be a challenge to allow news back into my schedule and implement them according to these "guidelines", but I'm definitely willing to give them a try again. Thanks a lot!
Another great video! If you have never read Noam Chomsky, read his book, Manufacturing Consent. Great book to help people see that whatever message we are being peddled by the media, friends, family, etc., are all coming through biased filters. When consuming information, this book helped me to read between the lines to try to understand the underlying biases on the information presented. Cheers!😀
This video was massively insightful. My partner has ADHD, so doomscrolling is something she's very much aware of, she feels she needs that constant income of dopamine, and feels that constantly scrolling on social media is how she can achieve it... She also knows this isn't the healthiest way about it.
More recently though, in the midst of the conflict between Israel and Gaza, she's *constantly* scrolling for updates (and, in turn, bad news). First thing in the morning, all throughout the day, even as I'm trying to get to sleep. She'll then constantly feed me each and every tidbit of information she's finding on it, how many casualties there are, what large cap companies are doing in reaction, what the governments are doing about it, what this means for our country, what this means for the world, what this means for us as individuals, the list goes on. And whilst I can see the importance of educating oneself and how dangerous and easy it is to bury our heads in the sand and pretend it isn't happening (I'm much more the modest approach of offline news I seek myself and slow-journalism intake), but I've realised just how hard and fast the sense of depression has begun sinking in, courtesy of my partner constantly shoving this news down my throat, and if/when I communicate that I'd rather not talk about it, or get into a full-blown discussion of it, she'll respond with, "I'm sorry THIS is an inconvenience on your day when there are people out there dying!" or she'll respond in a way that my stone-walling or deflection is me telling her she's wrong. She isn't wrong, but her approach to expecting me to absorb ALL of this news at the pace she is, that's wrong. Whilst I feel I could do more to educate myself on the world's current events, I'm glad doom-scrolling isn't nearly as prevalent in my life as it is in hers. I genuinely feel as though it massively feeds anxiety and depression, and that opting not to sink into that side of social media or any media in general is healthy. Everything in moderation, basically!
Read metaphysics book transurfing section on pendulums or atleast youtube video on it, to understand how toxic this type of news can be, i fall for it sometimes too but it's poison
@@arete7884could you provide any link?
@@deathlove-ep3hw transurfing books by vadim zealand long volumes of books
Ah man. Going back to the commenter made me cry. I am not a doom scroller, but my personal identity often makes me feel doomed. It's hard not to feel doomed when a lot of media and loud people are screaming hate. But seeing you reach the end with some hope in both the commenter and the survey really hit me. That maybe we can educate and it'll be fine.
Made me cry too, glad I'm not the only one. Wow! What a doco
This was some really good stuff. Thanks for putting into words many things I’ve been realizing as I get older. I have younger brothers. Starting to care more spurred me on mentally to try and be a better example. Thinking the world is getting better has done wonders for my mental health. Thanks for sharing 🍻
That bit at the end was hands down THE BEST thing I’ve seen in a while.
The more we learn about one another, the more we understand that we’re not the focus of anyone else’s thoughts (I HOPE) the happier we’ll be. I’m so glad you tacked that on at the end ❤
I quit watching the news in 2019 when I was preparing for a big test and a big career advancement. I also stopped social media. After I passed the test, I discovered that I had developed an allergy to the news and to social media. Even the thought of it made me feel ill. I’ve never looked back and I preach, to anyone who’ll still listen, the virtues of an extended media fast.
I liked your video. But I think the doom scrolling thing is worse than just the doom part. It’s the infinite scroll.
My family and my wife’s brothers family went on a trip to Michigan a couple years ago with our 4.5 kids. As folks would slowly rise in the morning, I’d go out on the patio and pull up UA-cam. I found myself watching shorts, which is something that I NEVER do. Next thing I know, 45 mins had passed. This happens a couple of times on the trip. At one point, I looked at my history. It absolutely blew my mind. I had watched a couple hundred shorts in that week. The content was really inconsequential. Some tool tips, some fool trips. Some cruel quips…(sorry)
Nothing controversial. Nothing doomy. But when I looked at that list, I felt so small. I felt like I had given part of myself to the algorithm. I had wasted valuable time with my family. I felt terrible.
I believe we create the world that we want to live in. What I mean is:
We SEE what we expect to see. What we WANT to see. And we feed our desires with the things that we want to fill our world. If we don’t do this deliberately, then it gets done for us. And if it’s being done for us, it’s being done by someone(a system) that has a financial or social interest. So I decided, as much as I could help it, that I would be the one filling in my world.
It’s amazing how the world appears when you stop letting social media create it for you. You see others through a lens of love and empathy. You see people in your neighborhood as neighbors, not strangers. “Global events” are replaced by the important things happening in your home. The time frame for thought or response goes from immediate to eternal.
Thanks for starting a dialogue and for helping some people stop the scroll. You know what would be cool? Find the commenter and interview him or do some kind of collab.
Wow, thanks for including the story at the end. Don’t know what it was but made me tear up. It’s so good to remember we’re all in this together.
It’s always amazed me how deep people get into doom scrolling. I tend to take my mums stance on news and such. “If it’s something that’s important enough for me to know/ to affect my life, I’ll find out when I need to.” The most social media platform she has is UA-cam and she uses it for exercising and hair tutorials. Focus is on friends, family and trying to live as good a life as possible.
I stick with this because my brain always creates enough negative energy on its own for a multitude of reasons. I know the news will make it worse and put me in a bad place. So instead of focusing on that or trying to solve the huge problems, I try to spread joy and care. In my neighborhood I’ve started giving baked goods and sharing what I grow in my garden. It’s led to some amazing memories already. I feel like these little things done enough will make big change. I’ve also learned that too many ppl are surprised when someone does something nice with zero motivation and expect nothing in return.
i cant get out ofg it ahah
Great video Dude! I've watched a lot of your content and it's clear to me that you've come out of the other side of struggle and hardship and appeared as a wise and thoughtful leader that your daughter, family and audience are fortunate to learn from. Thanks for your effort and caring.
UA-cam had removed my subscription to your channel 😭 I’d dawned on me this morning when I was reading through my 6 month reset journaling exercise, I knew my feed seemed super gloomy! Now I know why. Glad to have you back 😃💚
22:56 THANK YOU so much for not ending the video early. The whole video I was hoping you would get back to the post one more time to address the human behind the vitriol. I'm somehow so happy you actually did, I got a tear in my eye and I'm not entirely sure why. Cheers mate, keep up the amazing videos.
Amazing video! I noticed the media making negative reports on the state of NYC, like it was going down in flames. However, I watch Terry B’s channel and he just makes cool videos following fixed gear cyclists through NYC. When I watch the news, the city is falling apart. When I watch a Terry B video from a day or two ago, it looks like life is going on as usual. It was very eye-opening to make this realization. I am becoming more and more aware of the content I am consuming. It is good to be skeptical, and it is also good to be optimistic. Doom scrolling is not good food for the psyche.
The end of this video actually touched my heart, I don't think I've cried in years, but the ending got me. I've had very similar struggles to you, I'm now clean but I have always tried to stay positive and to give people the benifit of the doubt. Not many people in this world are actual monsters, but if you look at most people in a certain light, they will seem to be monstrous. Keep up the good work my dude 👌
Only 10 minutes into the video and I still feel a hot hot rage seeing that comment you got on your photo! 😡 Edit: what a fantastic ending to the documentary. I hope that commenter heals, and that he can spread positivity and see the good in people (like you did with him!).
When you get to O, I hope that you'll cover Otherisation-- the way that we categorise people as Other, as Less Than, as Not Like Us, that so often ends in cruelty and genocide. Your last point speaks so perfectly to the cure for otherisation-- humanisation. Realise that even people who are behaving badly are still human, still like us, still having joys and sorrows and needs, which leads us to develop grace.
I really appreciated this documentary. Thank you.
I was doomscrolling religiously during the pandemic just like everyone else but then I got sick of it and stopped watching/paying attention to the news altogether. I know it’s not right to avoid the world that way and purposely be ignorant but I literally can’t avoid the news even when I’m not looking for it. I just hear stuff here and there and if I can donate to a cause to help, I would. Btw, the ending to the video is everything and made me proud to be your subscriber. 😊
Why is it not right? Does it actually help anyone for you, specifically, to know about all those things? If the only change it causes is making you feel shittier, then there's no reason for you to keep doing it.
@@lilowhitney8614he literally answers why it's important to stay informed at 19:15.
@@KaterynaM_UA Bruh, this isn't a high school test. I'm not asking if OP can take the "right" answers from the video. I'm asking for OP's answer. Whether they're staying informed because they "should" stay informed (because someone else said that staying informed is What Good People Do), or because them staying informed leads to an actual tangible benefit which serves a purpose.
There are two specific things I've realized regarding the news, or doom grifters in general: 1) A more dramatized version of reality creates a more dependable audience 2) You will hear little about the good (or mundane) in the world, because when people feel things are "okay" they feel less of a need to follow the news or doom grifter as closely.
The mentality that news outlets promote is definitely seeping into people's minds in a big way...I am constantly hearing from younger people on the internet that they are literally "doomed" and "have it worse than any other generation". These are people who aren't from war-torn or extremely poverty stricken countries . The unique struggles we face change over time, but overall the world isn't any worse than it has been for previous generations. These challenges shouldn't be ignored, but addressed with the care they deserve rather than us using them as fuel to lash out or an excuse not to try.
Stopped my doomscrolling to watch this 😂 yaay
Lmao samee
I cant lie, same here :|
Really nice content. Right in a spot where it's needed 🧠
You stopped learning to get a fake hug, you mean..
I thought doomscrolling was when you couldn't stop scrolling through youtube shorts
Outstanding. I deeply believe in something I call “rational optimism” - basically, we have real, logical reasons to believe that all the bad news we hear is massively exaggerated and that our media consumption patterns are to blame. I often use the Paul Ehrlich example to drive my point home.
We need more people telling this point of view in the way this video does so thoughtfully and beautifully. I really appreciate that you reached out to the gentleman who wrote the note that kicked off the piece. We need a whole lot more of that, too.
Seriously. Thank you so much for this. I really really struggle with hopelessness looking at the world. It's nice to see that others also struggle with it, but that they have ways to deal with it
Just smile😊
I feel for your hopeful optimism. While Ehrlich was wrong on his predictions, the mechanisms he described are very much in effect. In the 70s, a group of researchers published Limits to Growth, with a model predicting civilizational collapse due to depleting resources and population growth. In short, the theory is that if you overshoot your environment's ability to sustain you in a large enough way, the population doesn't experience a return to the mean by a smooth descent down a nice slope: but rather systematic collapse. Every few years, various researchers attempt to disprove the model (as they should), but have failed to do so.
Anyway, I finished watching this, and really enjoyed it, the end, and post-end in particular. I agree it's important to always try to include in your thoughts, the positive motivation behind it all, humanity
I improved my mental health considerably by stopping watching/reading news and carefully curating my social media so that I'm seeing the good stuff that's good for me... like your UA-cam channel. Thanks for being a good human.
Oh dude! This is exactly what happened to me. I couldn't take it away more! I quit watching the news 100%. Now I'm not longer a rage fill trolls desperately trying to make everyone wake up. I had lost all hope or motivation. Now I watch happy people doing their own thing.
Man, that ending was just brilliant. Thanks for another banger! You really inspire me.
I actually thought doom scrolling was just scrolling mindlessly as it can be so addictive. With the recent conflict in the middle east, I realise I have been caught up in something I used to judge my parents for. I guess we all get old.
The ending of your video, adressing that person's comment and humanizing the guy behind it, is exactly what I was hoping it would be. Thank you for that.
Your content is so insightful and it gives me a lot to think about whenever I watch it.
Lately I've bee thinking about the kind of person I want to be for myself and for others. I've actively made a change to how I engage with social media for my health, but it's easy to stumble or forget not to let all that bad in. Your short documentary came at the perfect time and reminded me that there is hope, and that there are ways to overcome that near constant stream of negativity.
“We suffer more in imagination than in reality”
I loved this... Especially the extra ending. Thanks so much for taking the time to share your insights on the tough topics. It gives me so much hope.
I have just deleted twitter sorry X , I have been scrolling obsessively with this war and ended up so depressed and terrified I could barely get out of bed. All the hate , all the horror , it was overwhelming.
Thank you very much for this video. It is a great reminder how being "chronically online" and consuming news to ease my sense of lack of control makes it worse. I often paint a bleak forecast about the future because the information I have is skewed to the negative side of things, and sometimes ruin it for people when I feel it is my duty to "let people know".
We should continue to encourage ourselves and the people around us to solve problems instead of preparing for a helpless and hopeless future. Perhaps when people consciously seek good news instead of bad news, news companies will be incentivized to flip the valence of the kinds of news they publish, ending this negative spiral.
Thank you also for walking the talk with what you did at the end of the video and inspiring every viewer here.
Cheers mate
This was beautiful. So engaging and so wholesome and just so wonderful. And I'm so happy about the ending because the entire time I felt bad for the commenter as they're just a person - thanks for humanizing them, that was unexpected and beautiful.
You are such a smart and empathic person and you really express things so eloquently. Also your story is so inspiring. The world needs more people like you. Thank you for your work and all the best to your beautiful family. :)
I’ve become a Doomer, and just when I’d stared to become more positive…WAR.
That mentality accomplishes nothing except making it easier for evil to rule. You might as well just unalife yourself and get out of the way of people trying to contribute rather than being dead weight, right? Or you can decide to be positive for your own benefit because it's nobody else's job or duty. C'mon, don't be stupid.
There's always some war going on somewhere.
You grew up in one of the most peaceful periods of human history. A little reversion to the mean is to be expected.
@@personzorzNo, it is unacceptable
Wow this video not only confirms what I have been thinking about social media and shows exactly why I got rid of social media (except youtube) some years ago, but that last part opened my eyes again about how easy it is to judge others. Even though I try not to, that trap is constantly there to fall into.
I think you are a very interesting beautiful man and I am sure you are, and will continue to be a great parent.
i think the point the baby comment person was making was less "if you see a baby, punch it," and more "the baby existing means it has already been punched by the future, adopt and prevent a time-punch instead of time-punching more babies"
I'll adapt the Expression "to time-punch someone". :-)
Will have to find an applicable place, though.
I absolutely loved this video ❤ there was a period when I was reading news every day and I was getting so depressed from all the negative news that I stopped reading any. But then I was struggling between wanting to be informed about what's going on in the world and not getting depressed from it 🤷🏻♀️ Adding positive news channels helps a lot, for example I added on my social media channels that talk about innovations in combating climate change, recycling plastics etc 😊
I deal with CPTSD and Object Permanence issues so it's quite often that it feels difficult to get back into a positive headspace and not keep on the lookout for negative patterns unless I'm almost being constantly reminded. Your videos like this have always been a breath of fresh air and I always come out feeling lighter from them, they're like their own form of meditation.
I knew I had a problem getting caught up in negative news and stories so I've had to unsubscribe from things like "AITA" because it would just make me see more awful stories about people. I used to tell myself it was like some kind of research, like I was looking out for signs so they wouldn't happen to me. But now I'm in a truly healthy relationship, not just one I thought was healthy because I was lying to myself. Things are good for me and I don't need to continue to poison my mind with doom and gloom. I used to think couples posting romantic things or pages filled with only the wholesome were cringe and they made me uncomfortable. But letting all of that into my life now only makes my existing love grow stronger. Not only for my partner but for myself and others, it brings me far more hope and happiness than trying to "look out for the bad" ever had.
AKIN!!!
Thank you. I feel like giving you a big hug, striking light at this venom but doing so with love and positivity. My wife taught me, that love prevails, that love wins against hate in the end. hate only destroys whereas love creates and empowers.
I'm an anti-natalist myself but I would never comment that to a new parent. WTF.
Thanks for spreading the positivity dude- you're doing good for this world.
Same here. I believe anti-natalism is generally a personal philosophy that people tend to come to on their own. I wish all prospective parents would really consider their choice in the context of their child's potential suffering, rather than just their own desires about 'wanting a mini me' etc. But proposing it as actual legislation will always have dire consequences and, like you say, to scream at someone for having kids AFTER the fact is completely pointless.
You can just not want kids, and that's fine.
But anti natalism is a self defeating ideology, as if it propagates to its conclusion, there will be nobody to continue the idea. An idea that cannot continue into the future is a dead idea.
You're the kind of people who need to stay away from other people's kids
@@joriankell1983 I don't think they are gonna punch the babies, don't worry
I don't share the same ideologies at all, but I don't think it just means that they hate children and want them gone, maybe it's more about thinking twice before having children? Idk, but I don't think they are a threat to kids overall
@@joriankell1983stop omg
"The world has a lot of urgent problems, but things don't get solved if we forget why we're trying to solve them." I loved this whole mini-doc. I have consumed a lot of educational, inspirational, "self-help" (don't love the term but you know) type of content, and I am serious that no one else's videos have resonated with me the same way yours have. I really appreciate you and everything you do online. Thank you for this and all of your work!
Wow. This was exactly what I needed to hear. Amazing video, great research, relevant topic, personal touches and GROWTH - 20/10. I’m sharing this with everyone.
The way you see things is refreshing and we need people like you. You brought a smile to my face and I felt a bit of warm reflection. Sometimes we forget to look at things with a more positive, compassionate, twist. Thank you
I dont think that comment was trying to say that your daughter was going to cause climate change or the water wars, but that she'll have to live through them
My thoughts exactly
Doesn’t make it any less stupid.
Yeah but the thing about adoption was ¿?
exactly, he's interpreted the comment completely incorrectly. Still a childish thing to say to someone who's just had a kid. They're probably not wrong but there's no point in saying that to someone with a kid.
@@ladamita_exe the point is that adopting would mean you still get a kid but don't cause a new one to have to live through climate change, just making the time until that more comfortable for one who exists.
This type of commentary is the reason I subscribe to your channel and the reason why I really hope you continue to share your thoughts and talents with the world. Once again thank you.
I loved this. Especially that bit at the end. Humanizing the individuals who sometimes run into these traps or habits you touched on. It's not people who are the problem, but the habits when left unchecked.
Saw a sign on a church that says
"Stop watching the " news " and just love thy neigbor again"
Love is literally what we need right now. Not being cheesy. Everyone is hurting bc everyone thinks they live in hell. Why do we want to live in hell together? Lets be kind. Lets help each other. Lets give people a chance to smile again. It wont hurt us to breathe for a while
I hate this point because it's technically not wrong, but the problem isn't that simple. Nazis and capitalism cannot be solved by "love" and neither can climate change. It's kind of a centrist take honestly. We can't exactly come together and sing kumbaya when one group is trying to kill all the other groups
Cam, this hit me at exactly at the right time. Being a trans girl in America is uh…stressful rn to say the least. There’s a lot of hurt that we experience, but it’s good to have a reminder that there’s a lot of joy to be experienced too. Thanks a million ❤
Thank you so much for going to the end of your own process of thinking and feeling this message, it got me trying in the end, to witness you so raw, being curious about someone you hated and making it obvious that curiosity can be one of the solutions that makes us softer on each other, makes us look for things we have in common, and shift perspective on ourselves and others. You are so fucking brave, thank you for your deep work and sharings 🙏🏼✨❤️❤️❤️
Dude, the last two minutes when you humanised the commenter just brought tears to my eyes! What a great human you are!
every doco in this series so far is so unexpectedly beautiful and profound. can't tell you enough how grateful i am for you and your work, and I'm so excited for the rest of this series !!
Doomscrolling on reddit is the worst. Everyone is so pessimistic on that site.
Actually not Reddit is one of the few sites where you actually see all types of communities. It depends on which sub you are.