My Husband Is Cheating on Me (Is It My Fault?)
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- My Husband Is Cheating on Me (Is It My Fault?)
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He SMILED and said “you had nine years to be the woman I loved”.
Girl, run like hell. Get an attorney. You deserve more than this sickness.
That sounded super creeper. He sounds abusive.
Evil
Absolutely abusive
He should be saying, “I’m sorry, I had nine years to be the husband you deserved”, as he now claims to want her back. Too late, the damage has been done.
Demon possessed
How evil do you have to be to blame your wife AND taunt her
While she’s postpartum at that. Hopefully Karma spins the block for him soon.
Narcissism, he is a narcissist
Why tf would she date and marry someone like this? Was she tempted by his money, height, looks? This seems so incredibly common. Its like women desire absolute scumbags instead of a decent person.
My husband did
So women cheat it’s human nature, men cheat, it’s EVIL. Duly noted.
To cheat on your wife while she’s 8 months pregnant is one of the most heinous acts humanly possible. Absolute scum of the earth.
HAPPENS A LOT, MORE THEN YOU THINK
@@kaidiver4306 To betray your wife is one thing horrible as it is, but to betray your unborn child and hurt their mother like that is unspeakably evil. I’m not a religious person but sometimes I kinda wished I believed in hell
Mines cheated on me when I was 2 months post partum it's absolutely horrendous
@@kaidiver4306 *than
Most men cheat… yes its disgusting but it is also very common. What is truly disgusting to me is that our society perpetuates the lie that marriage or family means anything at all to men.
Affairs don't just "happen." They are planned. The husband deserves no mercy.
Wrong. When women cheat it's premeditated & planned. Sex for men is like a hand shake, that's why it's much much worse when a women cheats.
i’ve always hated the “it just happened! ” excuse. such BS
Never just happens there's a lot of cunning coniving lying going on.
Please hold that same energy when a woman cheats.
@@tyrabandz2845
Exactly. This “doctor” makes me sick. He has his doctorate in EDUCATION counseling, NOT psychology on any level & boy does it show. He does this podcast for entertainment only. Disgusting.
This guy might think this girl from the gym is perfect in every way his wife isn’t, but no perfect woman would get with a married man.
I’m sure she’s a 304
That's why he put out the wife. He was going to try to make it work with the gym chick.
@@ineedhoez I find it unlikely that he has only one side chick. And the marriage was likely never important to him. Her being what he wanted, when he wanted was the important piece to his puzzle. When her reality came out and she probably claimed some of her independence; he decided she didn't fit in his puzzle anymore., so he went and found other pieces.
@@ineedhoez well it sounds like it didn’t work with the gym girl if he was calling his wife back to try and make it work with her.
Sometimes people meet their best match after they are already in a LTR. It isn’t fair but it happens.
The 31 year old with 3 kids having an affair with a married man needs to listen to this call. This caller deserves so much better.
Do y'all ever get tired? Of not holding men accountable???
@@graciousgrace7509 *The person who's knowingly involved with and sleeping with someone else's spouse is just as pathetic as the spouse who's cheating. The easiest way to hold cheaters accountable is to cut ties, go no contact and simply let the other person have them. Revenge or trying to make a cheater feel ashamed or notice their wrongdoings is completely meaningless. Cheaters demonstrate that you don't matter and that's exactly why they made a series of well thought-out decisions to betray you.*
@@standground8284 The other woman is not the ones who made vows. She owes the wife nothing.
The caller's husband is the one who stepped out of their marriage. Her husband is the one who owes her not the other woman. Her husband is the one risking his wife's health, risking bringing home disease, STDs.
I bet it's the husband who pursued the other woman, since it's men who usually pursues and probably told the other woman a whole bunch of lies about how their marriage is over and how he is gonna get a divorce.
The husband is the main one at fault here.
@@monas *The husband is pathetic and a sorry excuse who no one should seek a relationship with, that’s obvious. If you’re dating or sleeping with someone who’s telling you that their marriage is over or they’re getting a divorce, etc… you’re still sleeping with a married person. Whether or not he’s lying to you, you still have no moral standards or integrity if you’re dealing with a married person. The cheating spouse is a dirtbag, the person he’s cheating with is also scum, they deserve one another and the affair partner will soon be in the same boat as the ex spouse. The husband owes her nothin except granting her a divorce and taking care of his responsibilities after. She should be relieved to let the other woman have him. People should seek to never remain with a cheater.
@@standground8284 Real talk💯
Her voice, trying to hold it together, is heartbreaking.
I can’t stand listening to it. It absolutely breaks my fucking heart. Idk how someone can do this to another person.
That's all I could think of. Her quivering, but beautiful voice absolutely gutted me.
@@eljoshsfgaming6335 That's what a narcissist can do. They don't have empathy. They don't care if they hurt you. They only care about getting whatever they want. So many people have gotten broken hearts because of a narcissist.
I was on bed rest for a pregnancy, and was told if I couldn’t satisfy him he’d just have to go somewhere else. Being young and dumb I panicked and did things I shouldn’t do.. surprise surprise he cheated the next pregnancy to, men like that don’t deserve to have their genetics passed on. I’m sorry I have no sympathy anymore.. it’s NOT YOUR FAULT.
Your ex-husband??
Many people, men and women, believe that the husband’s sexual urge is above all things. I’ve heard many blame the women when the men step out.
After the first one you had another??!?!??
Personal responsibility does play a part too. Another kid with a man who acted like that before the first was even born? Why?
Unbelievable! I’m sorry Krystal .
This husband sounds like a guy who never got punched in the damn mouth. HIS family should give him a little lesson about how to treat this lady.
Amen
@ASouthernBoyCanSurvive I completely agree!! I have been through exactly what this woman has been through and I agree with you 💯.
Exactly, where the hell is his father!
Exactly what I was thinking. 😤
Oh so now we’re inciting violence towards men. WONDERFUL.
I don't usually condone divorce, but not only did he cheat and gaslight her about it, but once she found out the truth, he had the gaul to blame her for it, AND kicked her and his tiny son out of the family home for good measure. That player used up all of his lives on those loser moves. It looks like it's game over. Thank you, Dr. John, for helping her seek the counseling she needs so much. She deserves to heal, become strong, and move on. ❤
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
And that was what she found, he'll keep lying, she can't trust him. I always think of money but she can't stay just for that and her son needs good role models.
I was kicked out with a baby in my belly and a 1-year-old in my hand. He changed the locks. He said he did not want the kids. Then went for full custody
@@JannjariI am sorry that happened to you. I hope you doing well now.
@@Jannjari That's horrible. I'm so sorry. Are you able to fight this?
He sent her to CA for a while hoping that if he divorced her and ended up working out with the other girl she would already be out of his hair. Cold blooded for sure.
This "husband" is an absolute narcissist. Cheating is an active DECISION made and to talk down to her and make her feel like its all her fault is fucked up... especially when she was 8-9 months pregnant.
I’d say he is a low life
100% NPD. Was thinking that while listening.
And probably only wants her back because side chic doesn’t want him full time because he’s too much. Typical narc move!
Well what about her? She PICKED HIM.
@@dcg590 Don't victim blame.
I want to give this woman a hug….I understand that every story has at least two sides but if what she is saying is accurate, her husband is heartless.
I can’t believe you mentioned two sides when she’s clearly heartbroken 💔….there is no two sides to cheating. PERIOD!!!! The cheater is the problem!!!
@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Listen snowflake, there are always multiple side. You’re the kind of woman that falls for the “believe all women” BS! I’m not. Let’s not act like men are always bad and women are always good. Her being broken doesn’t mean she’s completely innocent. How do you know she hasn’t cheated in the past? How do we know what else has happened in their marriage. I feel for her and I wish her the best.
@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 You're coming at it from purely a Emotional standpoint where as the OG poster is coming from a more logical standpoint.
@@Girlgonewise Not too sure how you can justify cheating when your wife is 9months pregnant and shipping your new born child to a different state miles away. People with morals and integrity have standard of behavior.
@@itachi65ful Not quite logical, with that type of reasoning, any harm or atrocities is justified when others hurt you or make mistake. Last I checked, cheating on your pregnant wife is a disgrace and a sin.
My mom told her daughters. "Have cash stashed. You just never know" this is one of the reasons she advised us
yep! always be able to take care of YOURSELF! so you can leave the minute things get nasty! people are not trustworthy nowadays and good ones are few and far between.
My mom told me don't have money stashed because a woman will take it if things go south. It goes both ways, not tied to a gender.
Your mother was a smart woman...I have always advocated for women to build and live on their own before marriage. They'll know they can survive if the marriage fails or any other unforseen event ocvurs.
One has to have "f-k off money".
That’s exactly what my mum said and I have my own banking account he has no access to it or knows how much I have in it..
The hurt in her voice is tearing my heart apart. Her husband is disgusting! She needs to leave him.
He wants to work it out bc the girl probably don’t want him anymore
This is exactly what I was thinking. The side chick probably had enough of him and now he wants his wife back.
Yeah he kicked his girl out and the baby out so he could bring another woman over to screw.
Now that he is available, she doesn't want him. They deserve each other.
Obviously she is in deep pain, we can hear how distressed she is, how can you not have some empathy for the wicked behavior her husband is putting her through. My heart goes out to that poor young women with a very young baby.
I believe this other woman didn't want him anymore (she saw his true colors), so he figured, "I'll go back to my wife. Someone is better than no one. I'll act like I'm sorry. Maybe she'll buy that story!" But he doesn't deserve her. He's a terrible person. Men who act and talk like him don't deserve a good wife!
I always empathize, but this was the first call that made me teary. The pain in this woman's voice is heartbreaking. Anna, please don't go back to him. This monster has no remorse for what he did and he does not deserve you. ❤
The fact that he smiled 🤬 run and never look back.
I'm going to scream this so those in the cheap seats can hear me: IT IS NEVER YOUR FAULT! DECENT PEOPLE DON'T CHEAT!
There are some people out there that cannot commit and they feel better about themselves when they can attract other people and most of the time they're not going to change I always tell people that if you met somebody and they cheated on their partner to be with you they're going to end up cheating on you
They don’t !!!! They solve their issues within the marriage.
Time to end it. Once a cheater always a cheater. Say it louder for the ones in the back.
AMEN
@Texas Gina Then don't commit. Being non-committal is not the same thing as lying to somebody and cheating on them. It's really not hard.
He doesn’t deserve you or your son! You can hear the pain in her voice
This is almost the same thing I went through. My husband started cheating on my when I was six months pregnancy. I found out when my daughter was 2 months. He told me “what do you expect, you weren’t putting out”. Like, ya, I was pregnant and giant and then postpartum and crazy hormones. I never withheld sex from him, it was the first time I couldn’t even force myself to I wanted to. I left him a year later and finally healed and moved forward. It was hard and painful but better than trying to stay in a relationship that was shattered long before.
I can hear the pain in this woman’s voice and know it all to well. It’s going to be ok, it doesn’t get better.
My dad gave my mom chlamydia while she was pregnant...so much for oh its just cheating...you're putting people's lives at risk with that behavior.
I came out ok but the antibiotics back then to treat the std could have done some real damage...maybe they actually did I'm just in denial thinking I'm actually normal 😆
Same here. He left me in the hospital with my baby on life support when he was the one who hit me and slam me down because I found out he was cheating. Sent me into premature labour at 7 months pregnant.
@@aprilchow-chee5281 wow girl, that's terrible. Are you and the baby doing ok now?
yup I was on bedrest for pregnancy complications and he told me “if you can’t satisfy me I’ll have to go somewhere else to get my needs met”
He cheated on me both times I was pregnant. They don’t change.
@krystalgardiner5591 absolutely vile. I'm so sorry. I hope he is miserable.
My husband said to me after I complained he never complimented me, "You look good, for a woman your age." I found out 3 days later he was cheating on me with a woman 14 years younger than me. It hurt but now I think - damn straight I do.
Your husband had nine years to be the man you loved and in that one moment he showed what a callous a-hole he could be...it hurts like hell but you can get through this. Hold your head up high and take care of you! You deserve better!!
Lol please tell me that other woman dumped his sorry butt
Same here😂 now he's alone...begging for coming back!
I'm biased against cheaters and I'm almost always to say leave them. But it's next level malicious to use your affair to hurt your spouse. This dude is not worth rebuilding something with. He took pleasure in hurting her (ie: "the most evil smile") Leave, he's garbage
Women who tolerate cheating are enabling bad behavior. She needs to get rid of him or she will never respect herself.
Exactly. Too many people tolerate it and forgive over and over. I hope this poor woman doesn’t take the loser back.
@@liz-vr2gzAgreed! Your forgiving is despised because they see you as weak. Run, run , run. Is what I wish I had done years sooner . Just run! Don’t stop to doubt or blame yourself.
Or playing the victim becomes their identity and instead of becoming stronger they get better at playing that role and never stop
@@amyeastman8764 Good point
@@amyeastman8764
100% agreed with you.
Some women, instead of leaving the cheater, they choose to become the victim and they use that victimhood mentality to gain sympathy and pity, instead of choosing to become a strong woman for herself and her kids.
In life, we don't get what we deserve, we get what we're willing to tolerate.
I know the word psychopath get thrown around alot but this guy fits the bill with that smile
Facts!
Sociopath
To the absolute tea..... that's exactly what I was thinking .,,he discarded he...r he's a narcissist sociopath he discarded her and the children... he probably had been treating her like s*** for years so she probably been in devaluation from the moment she married... and after a couple of months with the new Supply one-on-one he's bored ....and now wants to try to Hoover her back in
Definitely a sadist.
Man. This has me tearing up. He has destroyed her at the moment and we can hear the devastation in her voice. The smile that she mentioned makes me ill.
HUGS momma!! You deserve better.
CLASSIC narcissist! she needs to leave yesterday!! things never get better with men/women like this!!!
Self-esteem is so important..the pain she is feeling u can feel it..
My heart breaks for her. I want to give her the biggest hug.
Oh my God! I am in tears for this young woman and mother. To this woman, I say do not look back and walk through the fire again! Let him go. He does not deserve you or his child. It is his loss. I ask God to give you strength and mercy to move forward with your life without him. Your child needs a strong parent to show him how to love. Please get help to wash away the hurt you have felt ever since you were a child. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!! God's blessings be upon you.
I actually teared up listening to this. Her pain is palpable
Her voice at the start got me…
How people can cheat knowing the hurt it causes is completely beyond me.
I pray you’re doing ok and an even more beautiful life unfolds for you after this.
He is evil, disgusting and immature. You are so much better off without him. I know it hurts and unbearable right now esp with a new baby. Trust me it gets better. You deserve so much better. We are all praying and rooting for you. Good luck, you got this.
Cheating is a choice not a "Mistake"
A choice can be a mistake.
@@vaska1999 If you say so..😮💨
@@minajan4316 You've never made choices you subsequently realized were mistakes?
@@vaska1999 Yes I have but I know the difference between a choice and a mistake big difference. Cheating is a choice not a mistake but to each their own.
@@vaska1999after the fact , it’s still a choice
He had 9 years to act like a man. Don’t give me that bull crap. That sounds like a man that doesn't want to take responsibility and accountability.
Exactly he should have communicated effectively that he was unhappy years ago no excuses
@@kimberlyWard8152 💯 .
@@kimberlyWard8152 he probably expected his wife to turn into someone else for him, and when she failed, he got a side piece and rubbed her face in it.
But when women say that, she’s seen as a patient saint who is innocent. His side doesn’t matter, apparently.
DO NOT GO BACK!!!
My ex did the same thing. He had several affairs and when I found out, he blamed me!! He is a pastor and was able to turn church members and my own children against me. I am so sorry this happened to you, Anna. This is not your fault. Your ex has shown you his character. You are not responsible for his repulsive behavior. Run! And do not give him the time of day!! ❤
My prayers go out to her. I’m glad she’s back with her family. I’m glad she only has 1 child with this person. Cheating is a choice it’s actually a series of choices because there is always a point the person can stop and redirect, which is why I think it’s the ultimate betrayal because someone is consciously making the decision to break their vows. Fortunately Karma is like a boomerang, things will get better for her.
This isn't fixable. Take your baby and run.
And I say this as someone who was cheated on. My ex lied about it for over a year and then blamed it on me when I found the proof. People like that are absolute scum and will not change. Run. Run. Run.
This poor women may not have the choice financially, it’s not so cut and dry there is way more to understand about this poor women’s situation.
I’m so sorry, mama :’( No matter what he or other people say, it was his choice and NOT your fault. What he did and said was evil. He doesn’t deserve you.
i just want to give Anna a hug, feel so bad for her
John won't tell anyone to leave their spouse unless there is abuse. I think this is one of those times when he, or someone needs to tell her to run. This is not going to get better. Just by everything she has said about this guy, this whole thing has probably been pretty sick right from the beginning.
the husband sounds like a textbook narcissist! and no, things NEVER get better with men/women like this!! she needs to jump ship like yesterday!
He is a textbook narcissist. He cant change. Dont let him hear this call or he will rage. Lawyer. Full custody. Counseling. Dont go back dont give in.
Exactly this. Get the best lawyer you can find. Do it for yourself and for your son so that you are equipped to give him the best life possible.
Sounds like she married a psychopathic cheater.
She's going 'round and 'round the loops, repeating and lementing about the emotional abused she suffered and how much of a cheater her husband is.
Girl... you're marriage is over.
How about you stop enabling a cheater and leave him. If you're not strong enough to leave for your own self respect, then be strong enough to leave for your kids sakes.
In life, we don't get what we deserve, we get what we are willing to tolerate.
yep!!! and trust me, it NEVER gets better with people like that guy-- just a life of misery if she stays! he will continue to do exactly what he wants! I've seen it many times!
@@EadsB7002
Exactly! 💯💯💯
He'll never change.
If she stays, she's choosing a life of misery. If I was her, I'd leave. Kids or no kids, I'm gone.
Leave that dude and take EVERYTHING. I usually don’t say this, but this call has me triggered bc of what I went through.
I can feel that this woman is literally sick about this. Her husband sounds cruel - how dare he say he wants to fight for his family and then summarily dismiss her by saying he doesn't want to deal with her. What a jerk.
Her nervous system is in overdrive, bless her heart
You have all the power. Own it and leave him.
Praying for you Ana ! May God wrap you up in His strong arms and comfort you ❤
Yes, the one who can !!!
😅
God could have prevented her pain.
Amen!
He SMILED and said “you had nine years to be the woman I loved”.
He hates her. He feels contempt and obviously never wanted to have kids with her.
Men like this need to be dumped. Divorce and take everything in a California court.
He hates and doesn't love himself.
He's a sadist.
yes, it's called 'dupers delight', which is a definitive demonstration of a sociopath.
Please contact an attorney today. Divorce him DO NOT attempt to reconcile.
She said: “he wants to be in MY babies life” not our babies life. That’s a sign of how disconnected they are. She doesn’t even view their child as his. She needs to leave him and focus on raising her baby.
Congratulations, Dale Valskov I am relieved that you are out there fighting these thugs, We musttake every precaution to protect the elderly and the general public from these despicable con artists. Congratulations to You!! You deserve the Nobel Peace Prize for ensuring our security.
Do not go back to this guy!! He sounds exactly like my ex husband! He said the same things, almost word for word. I am much happier without him. Please move on. I also had children, they were older than yours but it was devastating. I really thought we were a happy family we were not. My kids are both in college now and the 3 of us are great. At the beginning of our he pandemic he moved to Nevada from where his kids live. Our son was in his last year of high school. We are all much better off without his drama and psychological abuse.
IDK if my heart has ever broken for anyone on this show, like it broke for Anna!!!
My husband left me when i was 6 months pregnant for another woman. The last trimester was hell. My obgyn was so concerned about my health, she was calling regularly between visits to make sure i was eating and getting enough rest. I had no job, no $$, an 18mo and pregnant. No child support either. After our 2nd daughter was born, he felt bad enough that he wanted to reconcile but by then my heart was too shattered to put anything into the marriage. It was over. True colors are shown crisis moments. I learned who he really was and we divorced. Sadly he carried the guilt the rest of his life and his parents never let him forget it. I'm sorry they did that to him. Took me 5 years before i was healed enough to date again. But the sun does rise and better days are ahead. All my best to the caller. To the cheater, I hope his eyes are eventually opened.
In other commen you stated your husband confessed his infidelity on Halloween morning 20 year ago , and you are still living with him and this comment you are saying different story that you divorce him , both comments are posted 5 month ago on UA-cam, why are you lying
I'm sorry to have confused the issue. My first husband left me when I was 6 months pregnant with 2nd child, also unfaithful. We divorced. Lived 9 years as a single mom. I married my present and current husband who also confessed infidelity on Halloween. We have been married now nearly 30 years. Hope that clarifies Paul Diroc.
@@pauldirc.. she’s lying and another comment that she made three months ago she said that she had to get to know the affair partner of her ex because they were going to be spending so much time because the court order that the ex has to have split custody of the children. so she had to get to know the partner because she was going to be with her kids so much she called the fair partner his girlfriend/wife. How was that possible? If this man was trying to get back to you right after your second daughter was born. She also said she only got a crappy 185 a month for child support and a comment she made for months ago but apparently got nothing here.😂😂
You also said another comment you got a crappy $ 185 for child support which is it
@@uhhggg9335 truth!
Honestly, I'm crying for her. She felt so hurt that she had to put the blame on herself. I'm crushed, and I hope she leaves this guy and lives such a happy and free life with a man that will treat her better.
I wish for no one to end up trusting their life to one person whom they marry to go through this. Like he was supposed to be the ONE person to never betray you and equally evil enough to make you feel like you betrayed him!
Absolute trash…
Being that the majority of men cheat it is crazy that we’re still taught to trust them.
Gather all the evidence you can and spend more than you think you should on a lawyer. My wife was in almost the same exact situation. The ONLY person who is at fault is him.
Fight like hell for that kid. Keep track of literally everything he does thay could be used against him
Husband flat out told her he did not want his own son.
@@jeromehenry4484 Yeah, now when she's not fighting him. That may change later.
Run. My ex was like that too. And he is a cop. Did all that "overtime" coming home drunk or not at all....The smirk..... when confronted with his wrongdoing, then turn it around and blame it on me. He's a sick man. You deserve better. Get away before you get deeper and keep trying and your kid grows up to be like him or furious with you for putting up with it for too long. If not for yourself, do it for the future of that baby.❤
Run! Run like your hair is on fire! He cheated, rubbed it in your face , then sent you away! This very same thing happened to my sister. Trust me, this guy is a sociopath and a liar! He does not love you. It sounds like he's not capable of love. You can do so, so much better. Please do yourself and your child a big favor and get as far away from him as you can. Oh, and he still needs to pay child support.
Yes, I agree with you Pamela. When my husband left me for another woman I didn't make him pay child support. I now see that that was a huge mistake! I felt sorry for him for some personal reasons. But now I see that he didn't deserve my kindness!
There's no doubt in my mind that through neglect and mistreatment we can do things to make it easier for our spouses to step out on us but at the end of the day everyone has a choice. You can choose to try to work with a spouse that is mistreating you and if it seems like there's no hope, you can choose to leave. No one HAS to cheat.
Yes women often do “make it easier” to be cheated on, by expecting fidelity at all. I have come to the conclusion that men are mostly just trash anymore. I know only one man who has chosen to remain faithful to his wife, out of the hundreds I have met in this lifetime. Infidelity is essentially a given in this day and age. Heck it has gotten so bad that women are cheating regularly too now.
@@sarahalderman3126or men turn to porn and totally neglect their wife and other obligations in order for their instant pleasure. It's disturbing how easily men are able to stray in various ways, punishing their wife in the process
Exactly. You can always walk away.
SHE picked him. She has responsibility in this too
@@summersalix exactly. Though to be fair “using” porn or any other form of sexual release is technically just a form of infidelity. It may not be the worst example of infidelity but it certainly is a form of infidelity. Fidelity in marriage is paramount.
What a piece of work, what he said to her was so callous. I wish this lady all the best. May you heal and find someone who will truly treasure you.
I can understand why she blames herself. I did after I found out my wife cheated on me for over two years shortly after our twins were born. It is easy to blame yourself.
She blames herself because she has no self worth.
@@ineedhoez
Agreed.
She blames herself because she has low self esteem. Even on the phone call, you can hear her going on and on about his cheating but never actually deciding what she's going to do about it until Delony pressed her on it. It doesn't sound like she's ready to divorce him yet even though he kicked her and their kids out of the house. I mean, what more does he have to do before she decides to leave him?
Especially if you're all wrapped up in how much you care for them. My ex didn't cheat. He just treated me like absolute garbage but rode in on his high horse being like "Well atleast I don't cheat. Atleast I don't beat you up" Like really? These are the standards you compare yourself too? This isn't even bare minimum of healthy marriage :/
Ofcourse it took me some time to realize how much I lost myself :/
It was thanks to Jesus and loving friends and family who kept my confidence.
@@terriesmith2616Some people just need a little love spoken into their lives. She might have a history amd is unaware what real love and respect is. What real love and self-respect is.
I hope she finds that love somewhere.
@davidsollers4435 *Did you divorce your wife who cheated? Are the twins your biological children or the affair partners children?*
Poor lady. i feel her pain. Her husband does not want her and the baby. He shipped his wife and kid out to run with strange and random women. Cheating is not a mistake. It is like you go to a party and the host of the party offers you liquor. You drink the alcohol, the police pulls you over and you put the blame on the host of the part. Cheating is not a mistake. He has caused some serious mental health issue to his wife and child.
Ana, I hope you read all our comments bc you deserve SOOOOOO MUCH BETTER!!!
I know right now, the pain and with a 8 month old baby, is no words…
This man never deserved you and I hope you will realize one day that you’re going to do so much better in the future! This marriage needs to end, he isn’t remorseful and completely gaslighting and blaming you! He will continue to do this in the future and the faster you get out, the better it will be for you and your baby… I’m cheering for you! 👏🏻❤️👏🏻
Amen I agree with everything you said and she's never going to be able to trust him as long as she's with him and she can't work on her self-esteem being with someone like him who's going to put her down and she can't trust. I wouldn't think twice about getting a divorce. My dad was married at least six times he cheated he abandoned his children and he didn't have one child at his funeral
@@texasgina you went through it and saw it first hand and what it can do to your mental health. It’s very hard to leave, but at this point it’s either your well being or being unhappy as long as you are with him.
Your work speaks volumes of the kind of man you are. efficient, organized and result oriented well done , Dale Valskov you're soo good at what you do
When mine cheated on me im glad he at least kept the blame on himself. I guess there are layers to bad situations. I feel for this woman 😢
Man, I just wanna give this woman a hug.
It's so hard cause you think "If I did this or that better, would he have stayed faithful?"
This is the most vile cheater I have ever heard about. And that's saying a LOT
The anxiety will never go away and I can’t live like that.
😭 Anna I'm so sorry. You deserve better. You didnt do anything to cause this. Stay safe. 💜
This is just about the most deranged husband I have ever heard about in my life. Geez.
I cry with you. This isn’t your fault. Sending you love!!
Dr John is just amazingly understanding and compassionate.
I wonder if he is related to my ex husband??? He said word for word he said. I told him he was a coward for having an affair instead of telling me he wanted out. That is exactly what yours is A COWARD! Please please do not go back or let him back. You do not see this now, but he is doing you a favor. My ex told me that I changed after I had the my kids. I said if course I did I became a mother and a really Good one.
There’s nothing wrong with change just make sure you mention that upfront because I’m absolutely certain you were doing some wild things in the beginning to retain him
If people don’t change over the years that means there was no growth. As for the topic you’re insinuating…. Female hormones peak in their early 20s. After the first baby those hormones drop because another hormone sky rockets to encourage newborn bonding and then milk. Those hormones stay high for a couple years. OF COURSE the “fun” hormone doesn’t kick back in until that first baby is weaned. Then it starts all over… “FUN” and boom pregnant again. 🤣
After the first 2-3 kids that woman is phasing out of those peak hormones. Usually by then she’s hitting 30 which means the reproductive hormones start to decrease consistently. 35-40 is where women will see a rapid decline.
So yeah…. Not being a wild young woman with the drive of a teenager @ 30 isn’t a bad thing. To expect that is delusional and and and…. FUN isn’t meant to retain anyone. FUN is for reproduction.
Being “the woman he loves” is obviously a scam if whoever that is gets cheated on and betrayed at such a vulnerable time as pregnancy and newborn child…
He actually think that makes him such a gem?!
Shows what he knows.
Poor guy.
This won’t end well - for him.
I’ve seen these guys get old. It gets worse. It only gets worse from here, Love.
Let him go, now. Do yourself that favor.
He’s not worth it.
He’s not man enough to face his responsibilities that he has created and signed up for.
That’s what that means.
That’s ok.
We need to stop focusing on him, now. Let him be dead to you.
Mourn the marriage. Let it go. Nails are in the coffin of that thing, thankfully. Better to find out now than after he does potentially more damage when your now newborn becomes a difficult toddler…
Better this way. Trust me.
Seen women go through this. You are sharp to catch it this early! Sharp tack! He picked a winner too smart for him. Oops. Let that be his problem.
Now, you need to focus on envisioning what you want your life to look like just you and your kid. You can. Get help, a safety plan, build support… you can and you will, Pretty Momma. No need to worry. Envision it and work towards that as soon as you can because the faster you build raising this kid on your own 2 feet, the faster you’ll gain confidence in you and those helpers around you waiting to pitch in. It won’t be easy or perfect at first but you can make it good. You can and it can be sooooo much better! And it will ;) you’re not alone. Women will come out of the woodwork to help you who have been there. Let them.
It just kept glitching on me when I tried this video tutorial so firstly I would say thank you for the video and secondly, thank you Dale Valskov meeting you was a blessing in disguise keep up with the good work I'm sure a lot of people will be needing your assistance iin the nearest future after seeing this
It's amazing what you do Dale Valskov We need a lot of people with your skills and set who have good intentions and spread love
My mouth was agape when I heard this. I feel like this is something you hear in a movie/TV show so to hear it in reality is crazy.
My heart. I had tears in my eyes and so grateful she has a support system. I wanted to be on the first flight out … to kick her husband’s ass. Her husband is a total douche.
He is gaslighting you. My daughter’s father cheated while she was a newborn. He was verbally and emotionally abusive. Walk away. I promise you that you will be ok.
yes! this is narcissistic behavior 1000%...and it only gets worse! they will just keep doing whatever they want...they don't care who they hurt!
Your fault? Did you tie him up, blindfold him, make him think you were going to do something to him, and then have someone else come in and do it? His actions are on him, not you.
This is funny yet very true. This man is so disgusting. Karma will gets him back big time
typical narcissistic brainwashing...they make the victim out to be the villain!
He's a classic manipulator, and she's easily manipulated. That's a destructive combination for her.
Account of mine also got hacked and I followed the method as explained in this video but I'm unable to proceed after recording the selfie video. Thank you Dale Valskov . It brings me immense joy to witness his name appearing frequently in comments, a clear indication of the commendable work he’s been doing.
Oh mama, no. This was not your fault. It will never be your fault. 💔
It’s her fault she picked him.
@@dcg590 are you saying she is responsible for his actions?
@@dcg590It’s your fault you victim blame.
Im actually concerned for her safety. Who knows what he’s really capable of. Hoping she is safe and keeps him away for good.
This poor woman!!
I was I could hug her! 😢
You are better with out him keep your head up and be the amazing woman and mother the I'm sure you are! ❤
Oh beautiful girl. I know the feeling. I was there myself. 13 years later what I can tell you. Is that you will be ok. I had a 4 year old and a 5 month old when it happened. And now I have lived the most beautiful life alone as a single mom. He also wanted us back at one point and I realized that he was asking me to do all of the changes and I couldn’t. I knew who I was. And I wasn’t going to change for him. You’ll be ok. I promise. Live your life away from him. He’s a terrible person and you’ll be ok.
I wish I could give her a big hug. I hate what this man has done to her. Once she pulls herself out of this initial shock and pain, she will realize she is infinitely better off without this nasty man in her life.
My friend’s husband is currently threatening her, if she doesn’t do what he wants exactly how he wants it he’s going to “win this game” …………………. Basically alluding to hooking up with other women who would do exactly what he wants. I’m quiet and support her, because the decision is hers and hers alone to make but he doesn’t deserve a wife or to be loved.
Thank you for being there for her. Encouragement to leave and support for a new and better life is what she needs most. Every now and then remind her of her value, and encourage her to pursue counseling, too.
@@megalopolis2015 Thanks. I push for therapy, which she has started and for her to never forget who she is and to prioritize her mental peace. I just don’t suggest a divorce or leaving, because that’s something she has to want and I don’t want anyone to blame me for the demise of their marriage even if I mean well.
Just hearing the caller say her husband told her she had 9 years to love him right, brought me back to my friend bc her husband said something very similar to her. Some of these men are more alike and using the same manipulation tactics.
@@GreekYogurtGranolaAt a minimum, not pushing divorce, just let her know whatever she does with her marriage (and I mean “with” not “in”) you won’t look at her any less and you will be there to help and support her. It’s alluding to it that she has your friendship and support if she isn’t sure, but isn’t you telling her “You really need to divorce that guy”
@@GreekYogurtGranola I'll pray for her, that she makes the right decisions at the right time, and that she is reinforced and fortified in those choices.
Your friend has self love deficit disorder. Look up Ross Rosenberg. The codependency cure. Game changer. Total game changer.
Make sure your friend knows what to expect when she starts to set boundaries.... She also has to approach it from the perspective that this may be a sociopath and he may kill her. Better to plan for the worse and hope for the best.
When you set boundaries with an emotional manipulator, this is the behavior you should expect. Knowing what will happen will make you stronger. It is called predictive awareness.
Increased manipulation/ increased gas lighting
Increased aggression and threats
Passive/covert aggression
Sabotage, triangulation, poisoning minds
Sudden willing but insincere agreement to negotiate
Agreeing to stop the problem (stop drinking, gambling, cheating)
Agreeing to go to therapy/treatment
Humanizing themselves by suddenly disclosing abuse
Begging
Suicide threats and attempts
All out attacks and destruction
Replacement
Dale Valskov . I really appreciate your efforts and dedication towards the work. May God bless you to keep showing your worth and skills like this in the future
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
@@peterwilliams6361 Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@@TrentReeves-c2k Her name is chamani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@@peterwilliams6361 Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
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Take it from someone whose family was completely ripped apart by a police officer who carried on affairs from the time he was in high school to present: this is a character issue.
If I could go back and do it all again I would have waved a magic wand to have the relationship end the first time there was evidence of infidelity.
The reason Anna's husband has started making noise about fighting for his family is because he got what he wanted - unfettered, uninterrupted access to the affair partner - for sex, for all sorts of support and unpaid labor, and validation. It's probably all starting to become too mundane for him. Now he's looking back in his wife's direction because she's been dancing pretty for him and he likes it.
I could go down a rabbit hole about how terrifying it is to know how many cops and firefighters so easily defraud their spouses and children but think they can be trusted with public property, money and power. But I won't.
It's possible to rebuild a marriage after infidelity. But I think the cost is far, far too high. Anna will become the marriage police and will live in a state of hypervigilance. The likelihood that this man will continue to cheat is insanely high.
From what she's describing, he's the type of cheater who would go through the motions of working things out to get another supply of attention adoration and submission, but will continue to see, have sex with, and dissipate marital funds to the affair partner.
I hope the caller understands that her cheating husband probably sent that text while lying in bed next to the affair partner. They probably just had sex, and she's asleep and stupidly believing her soulmate isn't pulling the puppet strings on both of them.
Anna, imagine that evil smile. This man is absolutely fine with devastating you. Part of the high of his affair is conspiring against you.
Get out now. Get the best settlement you can. You probably won't have to fight much for custody. Our cheating cop was always happy to pawn off his children on his mom or his partner or his partner's mom while he helped himself to a buffet of strange.
There's no rebuilding of anything with a sadist.
Honestly, Dale Valskov I'm amazed by your consistent ability to deliver exceptional work every single time. Your willingness to lend a helping hand during my time of need is deeply appreciated. Thank you for your support and kindness.. I take pride in your capability to overcome any challenge and consistently achieve outstanding results regardless of the circumstances.
I wish this woman the best, hopefully she can find happiness 🥺
What's the meaning of that statement?
My goodness my heart is broken for this woman. To cheat when your wife is 8 months pregnant and postpartum is the most sick and cruel thing you could ever do. Foul. It is NOT your fault sweetheart. Not in any form on any planet.
Thank you i needed to here this, discovered recently that my husband was on a dating website when i was in hospital having life saving surgery and then when he left me 9 weeks later he carried on visiting the sites until he met a woman who he had an affair with he even spent his birthday with her and our wedding anniversary as well. He is divorcing me and i am trying my best to pick up the pieces and move on after being with someone for sixteen years and thinking we were each others "the one". Totally blind sided but i am a believer in karma.
How were you blindsided and how did you continue to think you were each other's "the one" even after he had the affair with the woman he later hooked up with again? Or did I get all that tangled up?
Omg that is extremely hurtful ….. “you had 9 years to be the woman I love” .. that’s so hurtful. I’m sorry babe ☹️
What garbage husband and human. I hope she and her baby stay far away from him because he has a lot to prove himself for. But considering how callous he was, I wouldn’t be surprised if he doesn’t.
File for divorce ASAP in Texas , Texas will split everything in half! Take it all! No people I'm not being rude, I divorced my other half many decades ago and got together right away. Guess what every is still to be split in half. That's the law in Texas and everything I've inherited he has sign when I sell, done it twice. So, lady take charge of your life.
I'm praying for you. I was cheated on in my marriage, but I didn't have a child. I feel for you
Oh lord. I understand her pain to some level but truly no one deserves this.
Cheating is very lousy. That is for sure. It happens, but indeed it is lame as heck. But it takes a special kind of jerk to cheat on a pregnant wife. Come on, something like this makes me embarrassed to be a man. Despicable.
I have always said this, and I still believe it to this day: cheating shouldn’t be a thing. If there is a void that starts developing in a relationship, instead of trying to fill it up with false hope, just accept it and leave. It’s disrespectful and disgusting for you to go have fun with someone else outside, have 50% of your needs met, and then come back to your house slave to have the other 50% of your needs met. It’s inhuman and unfair for you to think you have the right to toy with people like that. Just leave them, and give them and yourself the chance to meet the person you and they belong to. Cheating is unnecessary. It’s over? Have the conversation, break up and just leave. And, if you have been cheated on, don’t overthink it. It’s not a conversation. No one deserves that. Pack up and leave.
Easy to say when xx always marry up. I bet if you were the breadwinner an knew you were going to see your kids 4 days a month, lose 70 percent of your assets plus 25 to 40 percent of future assets you wouldn't be so quick to end it.
I’ve listen to the same story over and over again. But these married women swear that they live the happiest lives, ladies, you have to properly vet a man and understand that you have to put yourself first always. This prevents situations like this from happening, when you’re much more aware of what’s really going on around you you can properly navigate and make the best move without so much emotion.🙏🏾.
It sounds like she has a really low self-esteem, and unfortunately, many men use that against weak women, and that’s why he’s asking for her to come back, because most likely she will, and she will tolerate the cheating in the abuse all in the name of marriage. It’s not worth it. My grandmother was abused for years, and didn’t have any rest until my grandfather finally died, she was 75 years old by that time.