@@hooklineandinker high rates? You really should go educate yourself before getting on someone's shit being a troll. You don't know what you're talking about.
@@hooklineandinker That is not at all true. It's like less than 1% of women that give birth that die in America. But that's from issues like hemorrhaging, infection, etc. It rarely happens. I've had 4 kids myself. I don't know or know of anyone to have died during child birth. No reason for the human race to stop reproducing. Life has it's risks. Everything has it's risks. I guess you never leave your house? Everytime you stand up to walk you risk falling. Should you go get a wheelchair?? Even then, you could get your finger caught in the wheel.. This arguement is dumb af 🤣 you're a troll. You're making something out of nothing.... all I said was being cheated on while pregnant is traumatic. Because it is. People suck sometimes. Life goes on 🤷♀️. I never regretted my child though.
Especially if that person doing the cheating is cheating with his own cousin. She might not have felt like she was good enough he has to turn to his cousin.
@@mcrchickenluvr Not him, he was overall just not a good guy to say the least. It wasn’t that type of relationship where he worked, brought in the money and did nothing when he got home. they both worked and she went to school. I think that’s why they said that’s a red flag because he wasn’t the only one bringing in the income🥲
My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant, with my sister. I survived. Here we are 33 years later. I see him at our grandchildrens bdays. I ignore him. He tried to get me back, no way.
I have trouble getting myself to class when I have a headache. THIS CHICK went to class while she was pregnant and her husband was cheating on her. Hella props
Him: This is my cousin Me: why the f*ck would you say that, literally the most basic ass lie ever. Jess:.......he wasn’t lying. Me: 🎶 Sweet Home Alabama 🎶
Brennah Rae my bio dad left his wife for his cousin, I laughed and laughed and laughed. He picked her up at her husbands funeral, his ex gf and I have been having all the fun. Her name is Sheila Diaz and grant G.
Laura Mcgrath well I guess how I would think of it is if he had a step mom, her sisters daughter would be like a step cousin. So you could just say a cousin by marriage, or another example is if his aunt or uncle married someone who already had children. Not 100% sure though. You’re right it’s confusing and not technically correct I guess. Lol
GUYS. When she meant she got back with him, she meant back then. She eventually found her WORTH. She know is really happy with her new husband and 7 kids.
Ironically...my ex husband cheated on me while I was pregnant...his name? Richard😂😂😂. Divorced shortly after that and no contact...he is now 70, his parents still supporting him financially...I own my own home...Thank you Jesus I got away from that loser👍
@@nothingbutthetruth7554 Woah... My uncle’s name is Stephen otherwise I would think you were his ex wife! He’s in his 70’s and my grandmother was still supporting him until she passed about a year ago. His payback for all that toxicity put out into the world is being in his 70’s without an actual life or any way to support himself. He’s getting his now! Eventually your ex will too. 👏🏼
I was confused i didn't know if they got back together like to go to the party as a family for the kids or if she got back together with him in a relationship.
Hahhahaa Alabama, here in Mexico there's a running joke where they say people on northern states marry with family, but I know people in my city which are second and third cousins married, a hand full of acquaintances.
The fact that you went to class, just amazes me. The strength and strategy that you demonstrated during pregnancy....I respect that so much. You were and are so brave.
@@Asa-tb3vl EXACTLY! My ex put something like this on my phone, but it was a little different in that somehow he could read texts that I had sent WAAAY before he and I even met.. He put that on my phone after only a couple months of dating and confessed to me that he had put it on there. But being the innocent and forgiving girl I am, I just shrugged it off because I didn't have anything to hide 🤦🏼♀️ 1 year and 1 abusive relationship later, turns out he was the one cheating on me 🙄 This all happened from 2017-2018, so I know there are still things like what she's talking about out there!! So yes , in the wrong hands this type of app or whatever it is can be used in the worst ways 😐
Hiding his phone is a crazy red flag. Every time I've been cheated on that's the first sign. Never believe a guy that hides it phone. Protect yourself.
My ex never hid his phone, insisted I put my fingerprint on to unlock it whenever I wanted and he still cheated on me. It wasn’t an ongoing thing, it was a stranger I’m assuming he never met again so his phone wasn’t an issue. Trust is a terrifying thing to feel for someone🙃
My BF cheated on me with my own step mom when I was 8 and 9 months pregnant with our son. I found out a week before I gave birth, I can absolutely relate
Taylor Stafford 🙈🙈🙈🙀🙀🙀omg!!!! I’m glad Jess in the end got the family and man she deserves. Sometimes we have to kiss many frogs before we find our prince.
I'm pregnant with my 3rd and watching this I was literally shaking towards the end. You are strong af. And the fact that he didn't even attempt to salvage your relationship says a lot about him. Oy.
@J V intuition doesn't neccesarily mean "psychic" and also it doesn't mean that emotions can't cloud what the gut is trying to tell you. Don't talk smack about something you would have not one clue about
@J V you must be bored, trying to argue or "prove" your point with a stranger who, quite frankly, can care less what you think because you would have no clue. Think what you want that's cool, but you're not swaying my thinking about intuition. Yes parts of yours have logic but trying to say. Women's intuition is basically a mind fuck is hilarious. Good day, I'm done wasting energy on this.
@@DarkKittycat she did say that she was like 6 months pregnant though, with twins, and like, that far in a pregnancy you'd definitely be attached to your children unless you've got some really bad brain issues or something
Haley Henderson they’re not sick. Though the child doesn’t deserve it, the child never deserves it. If I was in her situation I wouldn’t want such a horrible man’s baby in my body, I would much rather have a child that wouldn’t remind me of my horrible exhusband, and have a child that could have a stable family and actually good father.
I almost couldn't breath hearing this.. I felt this to my core. I've been cheated on, horribly and gaslighted. Awful feeling. Gave me shingles because I was so stressed over my ex. I swear these men that do this are sociopaths
I feel your pain!! Really!! My first husband also cheated while I was pregnant!! A man who cheats while his wife is carrying his baby (s) is the lowest kind of slug there is!!
@@kanatapaw are u crazy some women glow during pregnancy and look cute as hell. Don't let these men fool u a beautiful woman won't suddenly start looking ugly because pregnant and gain a couple pounds
When I was pregnant I didn't feel beautiful but my fiance was obsessed with me when I was pregnant. I think it's a subconscious thing knowing you are carrying their tiny human or growing a tiny human in general. Some women have a "glow" about them. I think pregnancy is just a beautiful thing and the man is garbage if he doesn't find his significant other beautiful while carrying his child/children.
My ex cheated while I was pregnant with our oldest I also found out a few weeks into our marriage. I was 17. I ended up sticking it out for 6 years. Yes I stayed too long but I am happy with how my life is going now.
So was that the guy was in the birth vlog of the twins ? I’m curious bc I saw everyone comment on that video like he looks heart less he wasn’t even holding your hand and I saw her recent vids and she looks happy w the guy she’s w now so they must be different guys right ?
denisss Olivia yes they are different guys. She has 3 different baby dads... this is about her second baby dad. The dad of the twins & Landon. Lila is by another man & then Addie is by Chris.
JESS! I remember the video, I was young and in middle school. All I could do was cry with you❤ I had just lost my great grandmother. Jess you're such an amazing person! You've come so far and worked hard to get here
This is my “how I found out my husband was cheating on me with females, couples and lots of guys”, story. .... So, we buy our second home, we ready for a new start a new chapter, he’s sober, promising me everything gonna be good again (there was domestic abuse that came with his excessive drinking and use of coke). He says quit your job babe, be a stay at home wife and mom, I got us, we’re good. So I quit working, doin the whole at home thing (I love to work, loved making my own money, never have I not worked or live on someone else’s money). So about 3 months later I start to notice things, but he’s a smooth ass talker/manipulative sob and so I cast away my doubts and issues. I start to become depressed, getting hit with anxiety, I can’t just leave and go buy what I want/need, I gotta ask him for it. He starts sneaking drinking again, he starts talking to me reckless, omg the things he would say to me, I swear if I wasn’t such a strong soul I would have taken my own life, I kid you not. All of a sudden I’m a burden, he’s the only one paying bills, my kids this n that, he’d take off, like disappear for a few days at a time, knowing I have no money on me n hardly any food in the house. I would go without food for a couple days just so my kids were eating good. Mind you were living in a luxury home in an affluent neighborhood, driving Mercedes, people thinking we living good when in reality it’s so bad behind those walls. I notice he’s always on his phone, he got codes on it, he always lays it down face down, he attacked me once for touching his phone and when I say attack I mean he flew over the couch, tackled me for his phone. But see he don’t do this shit around the kids, so my 16 and 18 yr daughters (I was a very young teen mom,), & 12 yr old son (my son had seen his bad side but not my daughters, they didn’t always live in our home, He’s giving them money, he’s nicey nice to them, he tells my 16 yr old he’s giving her our Lexus sports car (which I felt was inappropriate for a new driver). So what do they see, they see a depressed mom who lays in bed, hear me cry, see me try and talk to my husband, hear me pleading with him, etc. being the discipline parent while he’s the “cool” one. They then get from him words like “idk what’s wrong with your mom, I’m not a bad guy, I’m not cheating on her, she has a good life, what’s wrong with your mom”. I thought I was going crazy, and I seriously made myself crazy, what I was putting up with did indeed make my crazy. So my girls thinking moms just depressed and bitchy, step dad not doin nothin. So 16 yr old graduates and moves in with her bf. 18 yr old was staying for a few more months when her apartment would be available. She starts seeing through the fake facade my husband built for them, my son tells his sister “moms not crazy, you don’t know what it’s like living with him” (which by the way broke my fucking heart when my daughter told me that). So my daughter had to get up around 4:30am for her job, many early mornings she’d get up n my husband would be gone, like him and his car gone, yet he was on the couch couple hours prior. She’d also start seeing the fights, seeing & hearing just how abusive emotionally, mentally and physically he was. oldest daughter moved into her apartment & I sent my son to live with his dad, I was so beaten down by this point there was just no being a person, a mother. I was meeting the requirements but I wasn’t able to give my son the quality time a child needs and the house was so chaotic, felt like always walking on eggshells. So now no kids in the house, it’s summer time. So one night my husband decides to do one of his disappearing acts, he took off in his friends car, so that means his car is at our home, and the asshole parked it behind my car. So I’m like shit I can’t leave and then I remind myself “hey you got the extra key”, I grab the keys n move his car, as I was about to get out I hear this bangy rattling sound, so I’m like what is that, and guess what I find?? His other phone, ya know, the one he told me he lost awhile back and that’s why he needed a new phone. So I’m like hmmm 🤔 let’s take this baby inside and check it out. I sit on the bar stool at my kitchen island, and I stayed there for 8 hours, 8 FREAKING HOURS! I found that phone around 10pm (I remember this cuz I needed to get to the store before it closed) and stayed on it til like 6-7am. That is how much shit was in his phone and to be honest I still didn’t get through it all. There was over 2 years of cheating! There was hooking up with random people, mostly men, on Craigslist, then I saw he had Grindr and Grindr Chat, not to mention multiple apps on his phone that make it to where you can text, call, message people without it showing anywhere else and it be erased forever if wanted, type of apps. He had some of these men he was hooking up with in his regular phone contacts, he was having a relationship with one of the guys for at least a year. I couldn’t believe what I was looking at, what I was seeing, what I was reading, the pictures I had seen. I mean my god he had his own Craigslist ad with his fucking face on it and the caption read “looking to suck big dick in my Mercedes”. Now I can’t speak for everyone but for women I have talked to about this, it’s one thing to find out your husband is cheating on you and cheating with a woman, but, but when you find out your husband has been cheating on you with dozens (and I mean dozens) of GUYS, it really does something to you. Now my husband is like this ladies husband, where unless you have full blown proof, pictures, witnesses, blood and semen analyses, he is going to deny deny deny. So the first person I contact was my therapist, I remember I called her around 7am and she called me back at 7:30. I needed her to talk me down, I was so out of my head, the shock, the anger, disgust, (the things he would say about me to his friends, it was utterly disgusting and evil, disrespectful, the amount of lying he did on my name, I mean that alone was enough). He would scour the hook up sites then when I fell asleep he’d take off, go do loads of cocaine & alcohol, n then meet up with whoever. N let me tell you he didn’t care, had there been sheep and goats with their own ad he would have fucked em, he hooked up with males, females, couples, fat, skinny, old, young, didn’t matter. So about 11am he wanna hit me with a negative mean text, as I was used to getting, So, I text him with a simple “I know your secret”, he says back “what fuckin secret, there you go trippin again”, I text “so you wanna play dumb huh, you really wanna act like you ain’t out doin me dirty?” He says “nope I ain’t out here doin you dirty, I’m not a cheater, I don’t talk bad on you, you always like this, I’m tired of it, I ain’t got no secrets”. So, I say “okay then, well when I put all your shit on Facebook, instagram and any other social platform to show who you really are, I guess then you will know what I’m talking about”. And I’m not kidding, I couldn’t make this shit up if I tried, he texts me back and says this “You Must Have Found My Other Phone.” I could only think “wow the audacity to lie to me and then say that in a minutes time, just unreal. Now let me tell you he showed up to our house in record time, and the look on his face was like a sad lost child, thinkin he could manipulate/finesse his way out of all of this shit. So yeah, that is how I found out the person I had spent many years with, who told me if I kissed a girl that’s cheating and how awful it was to cheat on someone cuz he’d been cheated on and knows how it feels. The person who made me think I legit was going crazy and it was all in my head. All I can say for him is he walked out of it with no injuries and thank god for my therapist, I know had I not gotten her 3 months prior to me finding out all this, that I probably would have snapped and something bad could have happened. It’s taken awhile, lots of intense therapy, god, my kids and myself to get myself back up, to being a human being again. I didn’t have a support system, I didn’t have friends anymore, my family lives in another state. I know had I had my job, my independence, my own money, friends and family, I would have seen the signs & left, but I didn’t have anyone or anything, I fell into the deepest sadness n depression, and he wanted me there, cuz once he had me there he was able to do whatever he wanted whenever he wanted and knew I was stuck. I thought once married you tough it out through anything. I gave 150%, I kept changing myself until i was nothing but a shadow of what I once was, kept bending over backwards trying to get my husband to love me, to want me, to respect me, care about me, I had to realize that it did not matter what I did or said, he was the one that was the problem not me. I wasn’t the abusive one, I wasn’t addicted to drugs or alcohol or gambling like he was, I wasn’t the one cheating for years, I couldn’t fix something that he didn’t think was a problem. ... At some point we have to make ourselves see what our gut has been trying to tell us, even if we know it could break us, have us walk away from someone we loved so immensely. My daughter wrote this and shared it with me. ~ I am strong. I am worthy. I am loved. I am cared about. I am wanted. I am beautiful. I am with faults. I am human. I am woman. I am me. ~
Nine Wectawski you probably spent so much time on this and you got 6 likes (including me) but somebody said “don’t be a Richard!” And got literally 23k likes.
ZavalaLove I agree, but some situations are forced. Sometimes one of them don’t want to do anything (usually the girl, though it does happen to men too) but are forced by the other person, whether that be forced into a relationship, sex (which would be rape), etc.
The way my heart was racing with the video. Like the way I felt it when you said you started crying my heart sank for you. I'm glad you're onto better things ♥️
I was cheated on while I was 8 months pregnant and I literally started bawling when you said that you were 2 months from giving birth to twins because the pain from that night I was cheated on came back to me so strong I literally felt the pain and heartbreak all over again. I feel for you, truly. ❤️
I got cheated on when our 2nd child was a baby 10yrs ago. Pregnant or not it hurts the same I think especially when the other woman doesn't/didn't have children it makes you feel like your not good enough anymore. After I grew up and more confident within myself i started realizing alot... Flash forward 10yrs (yes we are still together) and 4 MORE children later, i just gave birth to #6 in September and she gave birth to #2 in August (My body looks WAY better hers I have a flat belly, she doesn't, I have no stretchmarks, she has them bad, i still look very young, she looks like shes aged 10yrs) I often get confused for our 13 year old sons sister the only part of me that changed the most was my boobs dropped😒 BUT that's nothing a breast reduction/lift cant fix😁 Other than that I look very well!😊 Looks like I got the better end of the gene pool! (I say that because we are sisters)
I’m so sorry you went through this! My oldest daughter’s father cheated on me while I was pregnant too, and mannnn it sucks. But you told your story so well, and you’re so sweet and likable and beautiful! 😊🙌
@Naomi Brown Not exactly, you have to be fulfilled with yourself first. I have accomplished more being single than in a relationship...i traveled to Hong Kong, saved lots of money, and bought a 2bd 2bth townhouse. The last relationship (boyfriend) I had, he crashed my car didn't even want to pay half the insurance deductible, and wanted his name on my townhouse(he wasn't paying or contributing to the morgage of the home) which I had bought years before meeting him..i said "no!! we aren't even married yet..and I would like us to start a new home and rent out the townhouse"....fast forward he became hostile, and argumentative over this which caused me to break up with him.
Naomi Brown if your happiness is defined by the presence of another being, YOU will end up the miserable, lonely old bitch. Find inner peace and happiness and nobody has the power to make you feel all these things.
I guess I don't understand going through all the trouble of catching him then putting yourself through the agony of moving out, all the pain and humiliation over the next several months or however long it was only to get back with him.
@@roxannebunn2697 people that are in those situations have a hard time mentally and sometimes aren't even aware of right and wrong because they are very focused on trying to make things better and forgetting to take care of themselves. You only become fully aware of the true damage once you're out of it unfortunately.
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@@Ha-rg9de I do talk to her, I see her at every family event. She's my sister and I'll always love her. It's hard to forgive but when it's someone you can't hate what do you do right.
@@PS1652 It's alright now, it's been 4 years, we talk almost every day. She was younger when it happened and pretty damn stupid. He was a master manipulator and I guess it was just a recipe for disaster. She had to go to therapy after, she felt so bad for what she had done, She even tried to kill herself. It was just thrown at me so i don't know how to deal with it except understand she was a young vulnerable girl who was manipulated by a sick man and move on. He's 100% out of my life for other reasons now but yeah i guess that helps us move forward.
True. I would have made a name up for the cousin, who is relatively unknown to us. He's very well-known to those who have followed along for a long time.
I was cheated on with a toddler & I was pregnant too! The other girl had destroyed 4 marriages before ours! She was addicted to Crack, got my husband on it & when I got the truth out of him it was extremely painful & stressful! We are now divorced & I I feel for everyone who goes through this.
Yes, I want to know that story. God bless you to take him back, but I understand how lonely and how much you wanted the father of the twins to be a freaking father. But then you wouldn't have had sweet Landon if I am following the story right. Bless you girlfriend. So happy you have found happiness with Chris!
I found my boyfriend texting someone he named ‘Brother’ in his phone. I never thought about it until I clicked it one day and saw explicit messages back and forth and my heart broke. Turns out he was cheating the whole time we were together.
Story time is not over the tea party is just beginning!!!! I NEED MORE TEA SIS!!!! I want to hear how you got back together and broke up for good. I was not ready for this video to be over :( just jesss is my favorite channel.
He was a Drake. My son's dad did the same thing during my pregnancy & got caught often & before our son's 1st birthday after I suffered a miscarriage was the last straw for me with his infidelity.
I had a Richard, too. Back in the day, when I was 19 and worked at DQ, his dumb ass came through the drive thru with his side chick because he didn't know I switched shifts with someone. And that's the day I got fired from my first job. Lol
*Someone* (not me!) put chewing tobacco under the cheese on their burgers... and added a little savory flavor to their drinks, but I ended up getting fired for all of that because HER mom called and complained. Long story short, he hasn't seen his son in 18 years, but I'm a successful, kick ass single parent who isn't single anymore. 👍
he was / is obviously an impulsive, immature man, and weak on top of it (so the lying), that does not mean he is a narcissist. Edit: reaction to being caught and other things she said: Yes he is highly manipulative, and maybe a narc in the clinicla sense of the word. He must have been very immatue (and not willing to listening to advice of his family too) - or a) he would not have rushed to marry her (they had married 3 weeks before and was 6 months pregnant when she found out. do the math) Of course as a narcissist he may not care about consequences, those are for other people, not for them. and b) would have made sure she did not get pregnant AGAIN. She was a teen mom with ONE child already and still in college. A quality man would get engaged if he sees a future with her, would be nice with her daughter. but he sure as hell would bide his time and not get her pregnant (as she TOO was too immature to handle contraception). Or SHE (subconsciously) wanted to speed up things and they married because she "happened" to get pregnant. another narc feature: very charming, can talk his way out of everything and will tell you the sky is green to your face. So she likely FELL for that charming man. Plus narcs have an antenna for people that are vulnerable, and as a good supportive bf / fiancé / husband sure would have been a godsend in her situation (not only emotionally but for very practical and financial reasons too) she was very willing to be receptive to his charm. Hungry people are uncritical buyers. her situation: till in college, single mom. Likely from a divorced househould as she moved in with her mother (not family) I assume her first teenage pregnancy was a shock for her, so you would assume she learned her lesson. When she is not rational about birth control later on, it is a sign that she is driven by underlying subconscious motivations. Being scared of being alone (in her situation) and "securing" herself a man. forcing his hand by getting pregnant. On the other hand if he is a narc that likes to gamble and does not think bad consequences apply to him - he might have entrapped her with his charm. Narcissists target (emotionally) vulnerable people and give a quick but impressive display of charm during courtship to lure them in. Still: getting pregnant again was highly irresponsible of her. Imagine the situatiion without the option of moving in with her mother. Verdict: he is weak, manipulative, selfish, stupid, and immature. At best. and bonus scumbag points for the cousin. That was a guest at their wedding 3 weeks before and the pregnancy must have shown. Whoever helped them pay for that wedding must have been pissed. I hope all her family learned about that detail of her love life.
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@@vkrgfan i caught that too! No one else mentioned it. Wth? This is why people keeep doing it. Now he knows he can and that she will use any means to catch him so he just ups his game. Remember, you are only treated the way you allow yourselves to be treated. Point blank
There’s a video about it, he was out somewhere and texted her saying he was coming to get his stuff and that he couldn’t do it anymore and walked out.... what an ass...
How could you go back to a person that would do that to you especially when you’re pregnant? How could you ever love and trust him again? You deserve so much more than that! He doesn’t deserve you! Believe me he will do it again!
Being cheated on sucks. Being cheated on while being pregnant suck even more. But be I cheated on while being pregnant with twins?!? And with his cousin!? That’s just wayyyyyy over the line!
This is by far the best story....I mean not the best story but storytime. It's not all dragged out and boring. You made it interesting. I know that sounds weird but I'm glad you found out about that loser. Glad you're still young fun and vibrant. His loss
Cousin?! Of course he left that out of his video 😂 This story was totally worth waiting all these years for Jess. Back then, you were so strong and graceful, and this story shows how much stronger you are than I ever thought. ♡
@@paigemullin9236 he made a video basically saying jess is a liar and she cheated on him but he says they weren't together but she was pregnant with his boys so that means she cheated on him 😒😒 you can smell the crap from his video
I listened to his video. All of the gaslighting and manipulation. And attempted-but-actually-blunt disinterest in being a legitimate father . So pathetic.
I was 7 months pregnant when I found out he was cheating. The other girl knew about me, his parents knew he was cheating on me and were admitting that girl into their home. His parents never liked me. He never came out to confront me that night like the coward he was.
Why? What the fuck would that do? Why do people allow others to control them? Evidently there were some SERIOUS fucking issues before the pregnancy that simply were ignored and/or were thought would go away once the babies were born.
Happened to my little sis. Young mom, married at 18 and her husband cheated on her while she was pregnant with baby #3. She found some Facebook messages I think. She made his ass move out immediately. They’re almost divorced. Unfortunately she had to wait a while to file the paperwork because she didn’t have a lot of money and it’s like $500 to get divorced where we live. I’m so glad she kicked his ass to the curb. Whoever said this happened to them - get out of there! It will keep happening.
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First red flag: you were a teen mom in school and had already ONE child. A responsible ! / smart man (even if young !) would not rush into marriage, and aim to have more kids. A quality man most likely would have friends and family to advise him. - "Do you think you two have a future ? You know that you have to treat her kid like your own if you get married even if you later have children together. And whatever you do, do not get MORE kids at the moment. She needs to finish school and get a job and you two need to financially establish yourself. You can train being a father by bonding with her child, your potential step child. Which will be a blessing, if you step up and test the waters of being a grown up. A quality man (that is capable to support her, her first child and now his twins) would also be a man that thinks ahead and listens to advice. He may have broken up with her even if he was more responsible (her situtaion was bad enough: going to school, one kid) but he would not be the scumbag if he had not rushed to marry her or if he had at least used condomes. So if you (the woman that risks more by getting pregnant and already had one pregnancy scare that lead to having one child) slacked on birth control - HE wouldn't. Of course he acted irresponsible IN the marriage and towards his pregnant wife. he was irresponsible to marry and irresponsible to father children. At the minimum someone that is impulsive and immature and had no family to give him good advice or he was not willing to consider it. Rushed into a marriage, rushed into fatherhood - and of course he then panicked and there was another female he felt attracted to. Impulsive. She did not have extra money. Yep, and you can bet he did not have extra money either. So being the provider for a family of 5 freaked out the young, impulsive man, that does not plan for the future.
Moral of the story: never underestimate a woman’s detective skills. 😂 and don’t be a RICHARD.
@Southern to my Soul oh they know ..they just think they're smart enough not to get caught being shady lol.
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Macy Barrio Please don’t be *that* cousin, to your cousin 😂😂
CasseyandFamily HAHA! TRUE !!!
Getting cheated on while pregnant is traumatic af
I'm traumatized by how disgusting people can be out there. Crippling TRAUMATIZATION. 😣😷😱😤
@@hooklineandinker You're right. No one anywhere should get pregnant because of the risks of being cheated on. 😐😐😐
@@hooklineandinker high rates? You really should go educate yourself before getting on someone's shit being a troll. You don't know what you're talking about.
i have never told anyone this but that happened to me when my mom was pregnant with my sister
@@hooklineandinker That is not at all true. It's like less than 1% of women that give birth that die in America. But that's from issues like hemorrhaging, infection, etc. It rarely happens. I've had 4 kids myself. I don't know or know of anyone to have died during child birth. No reason for the human race to stop reproducing. Life has it's risks. Everything has it's risks. I guess you never leave your house? Everytime you stand up to walk you risk falling. Should you go get a wheelchair?? Even then, you could get your finger caught in the wheel.. This arguement is dumb af 🤣 you're a troll. You're making something out of nothing.... all I said was being cheated on while pregnant is traumatic. Because it is. People suck sometimes. Life goes on 🤷♀️. I never regretted my child though.
Being cheated on shouldn’t be humiliating. The person who cheats is the only one that should be humiliated.
Laís Mesquita Boff ummm .. no
Catherine Celestin how is that “ummmm no”?
It would be humiliating if your being cheated on thinking you aren’t good enough
Especially if that person doing the cheating is cheating with his own cousin. She might not have felt like she was good enough he has to turn to his cousin.
Shoulda shoulda should but this is real life
I don’t even know her but I’m HERE FOR THE TEA
Vale Conti same!
Same
Lol same. Trish was talking about this story on her vlogmas so I came over to check it out.
Same
Sameeeee
Huge red flag: You’re pregnant, feeding a toddler while trying to get ready for school and he’s sleeping! So much selfishness.
Yeah, not always. There are real men who work overnight to support their family. My brother has been doing it for the last 19 years.
@@mcrchickenluvr Not him, he was overall just not a good guy to say the least. It wasn’t that type of relationship where he worked, brought in the money and did nothing when he got home. they both worked and she went to school. I think that’s why they said that’s a red flag because he wasn’t the only one bringing in the income🥲
@@mcrchickenluvr nobody cares about your brother. We're talking about this lady's ex husband.
@@doesnotFempute EXACTLY. The whataboutisms from pick-me girls and boy moms needs to STOP.
@@doesnotFemputewomen like you honestly eye roll from another woman
Bro when she said he cheated on her with his cousin really made my jaw drop to the FLOOR
@@abigailviljoen9188 Obviously don't read the comments to a video before watching it. That's 100% on you.
My jaw dropped when i read this comment...😂
@@TheSkyHazCloudz literally what I did😂
Disgusting guy
Not me. It's way way way more common than you think. The same thing happened to me. But I wasn't married to the purp.
Why is nobody talking about how Courtney the greatest friend you could possibly have? ....... we all need a Courtney in our lives
Zuania Morales I literally was like I love Courtney so much and I don’t even know her lolol
I’m a courtney and I’m up for new friends
Me want a corney
Hello 👋🏻
lol my names courtney
My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant, with my sister. I survived. Here we are 33 years later. I see him at our grandchildrens bdays. I ignore him. He tried to get me back, no way.
Holy molly balls.😳
Wtaf
That is my literal nightmare.
What about your sister?🙇🏼♀️
I'd be even more heartbroken that a "sister" did this to you. Sad. I'd never forgive.
I have trouble getting myself to class when I have a headache. THIS CHICK went to class while she was pregnant and her husband was cheating on her. Hella props
@@circlestrafe8355 she was just saying. Calm down, hun.
College is different. If you don't go and cant do a make up lesson shits gonna go down.
Circlestrafe are you speaking from personal experience? bc that reply seems personal
@@circlestrafe8355 what the hell are you on about?? She said something good and you got all in your feelings, for what??
@@coconutgirl816 hi are u okay
“It’s my cousin. You’ve met her.”
“He wasn’t wrong.”
My brain malfunctioned.
I got confused ew gross
Itsa_Maria YEEET
By marriage but stillll weird.
CHOCKED
Lmfaaaaooooo samee sis
Him: "This is my cousin!"
Jess: "He wasn't lying. It was his cousin."
Me: 👁️👄👁️
Same
June Bug lol ya maybe in America this is normal but I’m for Australia and u are a creep if u like your third cousin! Like I just find it creepy 😑😑
Horsey Genny incest isn’t normal in America 😐
@@binxbilovin actually look it up. in many states it is legal to marry your FIRST cousin in USA. gross but truth girl.
Tracy Wilkinson eh incest is illegal everywhere except Ohio since 2020🤷🏻♀️
Him: This is my cousin
Me: why the f*ck would you say that, literally the most basic ass lie ever.
Jess:.......he wasn’t lying.
Me: 🎶 Sweet Home Alabama 🎶
I’m from Alabama, we don’t do that shit.. but I still laughed 😂
I thought the same 🤣😂
🤣🤣
fr
😂😂😂😂
”This is my cousin”
Me: Come on, the oldest lie in the book, really?
Her: He wasn’t lying, it was his cousin.
Me: Oh shi-
That was shocking, but even more shocking was she got back together with him!!
Alabama
Sofia Törning *hi*
😭😭😭
fr
"He said 'oh babe this is my cousin'"
Me: lol that's such a dumb cover up is he that stupid
"He wasn't wrong"
Me: *he wHAT*
Brennah Rae my bio dad left his wife for his cousin, I laughed and laughed and laughed. He picked her up at her husbands funeral, his ex gf and I have been having all the fun. Her name is Sheila Diaz and grant G.
FACE=FLOOR
Abby Morris can you please explain a bit better I process things differently im having a hard time understanding
Oh my god I thought she was KIDDING. Then she brought up the family reunion aisheje
Same. So it was his cousin wth. ...
“It was his ******... he wasn’t lying” OMFG my jaw dropped
Edited: I felt bad it was a spoiler
SAAAAAMEEEE OMGGGGG
she said cousin by marriage but isn't that the same thing
Laura Mcgrath well technically yeah, but it would be worse if they were related by blood, cuz that’s nasty. Still horrible though.
@@chelsea2059 what's a cousin by marriage I'm so confused 😭
Laura Mcgrath well I guess how I would think of it is if he had a step mom, her sisters daughter would be like a step cousin. So you could just say a cousin by marriage, or another example is if his aunt or uncle married someone who already had children. Not 100% sure though. You’re right it’s confusing and not technically correct I guess. Lol
GUYS. When she meant she got back with him, she meant back then. She eventually found her WORTH. She know is really happy with her new husband and 7 kids.
O.K. I was like...WAIT, Oh no you didn't! I tried finding her 'other' channel (doesn't exist) to get the answer, but thanks to you, I know!!
Jesssfam is the other channel
@@sundown6748 Whats the name of the video I can't find it on the other channel
Thanks for the clarification
This is the only reason I went to the comments...I had to know! So glad she moved on.
Ironically...my ex husband cheated on me while I was pregnant...his name? Richard😂😂😂. Divorced shortly after that and no contact...he is now 70, his parents still supporting him financially...I own my own home...Thank you Jesus I got away from that loser👍
How old are his parents?
@@mcanna5115 early 90’s...isn’t that sad? He should be supporting them...
@@nothingbutthetruth7554 Woah... My uncle’s name is Stephen otherwise I would think you were his ex wife! He’s in his 70’s and my grandmother was still supporting him until she passed about a year ago. His payback for all that toxicity put out into the world is being in his 70’s without an actual life or any way to support himself. He’s getting his now! Eventually your ex will too. 👏🏼
@@edithtierce8209 agreed!!! Sad to know there are so many of these losers out there...sigh...
Did he ever pay child support?
i never would have gotten back with him even for 1 minute. anyone who cheats especially on a pregnant woman is pure garbage.
I was confused i didn't know if they got back together like to go to the party as a family for the kids or if she got back together with him in a relationship.
My mom got cheated on
@@1ala7js yea I'm confused too
Yup
@God'sdesire Tomquin .....wat??
Him: “ This is my cousin”
Her: “ that was his cousin ”
Me : well welcome to Alabama
Emily Ruiz LMAOOO
Emily Ruiz SWEET HOME ALABA-
Hahhahaa Alabama, here in Mexico there's a running joke where they say people on northern states marry with family, but I know people in my city which are second and third cousins married, a hand full of acquaintances.
My parents are from Alabama😐
J J and I oop 😮
The fact that you went to class, just amazes me.
The strength and strategy that you demonstrated during pregnancy....I respect that so much. You were and are so brave.
I wouldn't have been able to focus on class at all in any form that day.
THEY NEED TO BRING THAT APP BACK LOL
Malayna sounds like it was worth that $30
Malayna lol I agree!!
Oooo definitely not
Think of all the ways it could be misused (abusive relationships, abusive parents, etc)
@@Asa-tb3vl EXACTLY! My ex put something like this on my phone, but it was a little different in that somehow he could read texts that I had sent WAAAY before he and I even met.. He put that on my phone after only a couple months of dating and confessed to me that he had put it on there. But being the innocent and forgiving girl I am, I just shrugged it off because I didn't have anything to hide 🤦🏼♀️ 1 year and 1 abusive relationship later, turns out he was the one cheating on me 🙄 This all happened from 2017-2018, so I know there are still things like what she's talking about out there!! So yes , in the wrong hands this type of app or whatever it is can be used in the worst ways 😐
It’s a website on the internet and now it’s free
But you didn’t hear this info from me mk
My jaw literally dropped when you said cousin!! Years of watching you and I’m in shock!!! Spill more tea!!
Girl!!! Same!!! Like what the fuck!!!!!??🤢🤢🤢🤮
I literally gasped out loud!! 😱😱😱
It's been 8hrs since I watched and I'm still over here dying of laughter and in shock still.
Here is some tea - Step-Cousin.
Ioo Voo Oh well that changes everything 🙄
Hiding his phone is a crazy red flag. Every time I've been cheated on that's the first sign. Never believe a guy that hides it phone. Protect yourself.
KMB1414 every time u have been cheated on? Omg u have been cheated on more than once????? Must’ve been awful
KMB1414 my boyfriend always hides his phone but I guess Hiding mine too makes us equal
My ex never hid his phone, insisted I put my fingerprint on to unlock it whenever I wanted and he still cheated on me. It wasn’t an ongoing thing, it was a stranger I’m assuming he never met again so his phone wasn’t an issue. Trust is a terrifying thing to feel for someone🙃
Same!
ITS PHONE
If he has cheated once he will do it again. He'll just be more clever!
I DIED when you said, “he wasn’t lying- it was his cousin...” 😂😂💀
x Hal.Edits x my face was like 😯
My face went 💀 legit just that emoji like damnnnnnn it got juicy
And she took him back after that gross.
Same lol
K C she was a teen mom? Stfu you aren’t in her shoes
My BF cheated on me with my own step mom when I was 8 and 9 months pregnant with our son. I found out a week before I gave birth, I can absolutely relate
That's FUCKED up
No, not 8. He cheated on me during my 8th and 9th month pregnant.
That’s ok. And thanks but shit happens. I know I did nothing wrong so I’m not going to let it upset me anymore.
Iconic Women how old was my step mom? 35, 10 years older than me
Wowwww....that's even worse...what pos stepmother...so sorry
When she said “his cousin... he wasn’t lying... it was his cousin” 😳🤭🤯
Taylor Stafford 🙈🙈🙈🙀🙀🙀omg!!!! I’m glad Jess in the end got the family and man she deserves. Sometimes we have to kiss many frogs before we find our prince.
Taylor Stafford bro my first love cheated on me with his cousin I’m dead.
Taylor Stafford ugh i keep misreading your name as taylor swift
Taylor Stafford I had to rewind like what u say
Taylor Stafford wait what??!!!
I'm pregnant with my 3rd and watching this I was literally shaking towards the end. You are strong af. And the fact that he didn't even attempt to salvage your relationship says a lot about him. Oy.
Women's intuition is so strong.
@J V intuition doesn't neccesarily mean "psychic" and also it doesn't mean that emotions can't cloud what the gut is trying to tell you.
Don't talk smack about something you would have not one clue about
@J V whatever you think, it's cool
@J V you must be bored, trying to argue or "prove" your point with a stranger who, quite frankly, can care less what you think because you would have no clue. Think what you want that's cool, but you're not swaying my thinking about intuition. Yes parts of yours have logic but trying to say. Women's intuition is basically a mind fuck is hilarious.
Good day, I'm done wasting energy on this.
@J V "won"? Haha, won more time to not waste energy? Yeah okay
@J V bless your soul🤣
This guy cheated on his pregnant wife of three weeks with his cousin.*what*
@@DarkKittycat she did say that she was like 6 months pregnant though, with twins, and like, that far in a pregnancy you'd definitely be attached to your children unless you've got some really bad brain issues or something
Tigerlily you’re sick. it’s not their fault. wtf is wrong with you?
Haley Henderson they’re not sick. Though the child doesn’t deserve it, the child never deserves it. If I was in her situation I wouldn’t want such a horrible man’s baby in my body, I would much rather have a child that wouldn’t remind me of my horrible exhusband, and have a child that could have a stable family and actually good father.
Tigerlily my mom did that
@@wyaakk hi ur cute
“You remember my cousin,”
Me: wow he’s going to try to pull it off as a cousin?!?
Jess: “it was his cousin!”
Me: 😳😳😳😳😳
Literally same I was like....what
I thought the same way!
Hahaha i thought the same thing 😂😂
Cousin who attended the freakin wedding just 3 weeks ago as well I’m soooo bothered 🙃
Saaaame 😂😂
I almost couldn't breath hearing this.. I felt this to my core. I've been cheated on, horribly and gaslighted. Awful feeling. Gave me shingles because I was so stressed over my ex. I swear these men that do this are sociopaths
Being cheated on it’s NOT embarrassing!!! Cheating on your pregnant wife IS EMBARRASSING!
Love the new channel 💕
Thank you!!!
as soon as she started typing i literally whispered “chad” and a second later she said “chad”. i’ve been laughing for 10 minutes now.
100% Chad
cloudistudiez - my first husband’s name was/is Kyle.
I literally was going to comment the same thing but Jason 😂
GIRL SAME!!!!!!!!!
Was married to a Chad, can confirm. 100% asshole douche bag.
I feel your pain!! Really!! My first husband also cheated while I was pregnant!! A man who cheats while his wife is carrying his baby (s) is the lowest kind of slug there is!!
What a Douche I bet you looked so beautiful pregnant too. Waste man
U still together right?
@@EyeSpyBlackAmor how can a woman look beautiful pregnant?
I'm a woman,
@@kanatapaw are u crazy some women glow during pregnancy and look cute as hell. Don't let these men fool u a beautiful woman won't suddenly start looking ugly because pregnant and gain a couple pounds
When I was pregnant I didn't feel beautiful but my fiance was obsessed with me when I was pregnant. I think it's a subconscious thing knowing you are carrying their tiny human or growing a tiny human in general. Some women have a "glow" about them. I think pregnancy is just a beautiful thing and the man is garbage if he doesn't find his significant other beautiful while carrying his child/children.
My ex cheated while I was pregnant with our oldest I also found out a few weeks into our marriage. I was 17. I ended up sticking it out for 6 years. Yes I stayed too long but I am happy with how my life is going now.
You’ve gotta tell us how you guys got back together.
That’s the real story. Lol he must have been a fucking magician to get back in there for one more kid after that
So was that the guy was in the birth vlog of the twins ? I’m curious bc I saw everyone comment on that video like he looks heart less he wasn’t even holding your hand and I saw her recent vids and she looks happy w the guy she’s w now so they must be different guys right ?
denisss Olivia yes they are different guys. She has 3 different baby dads... this is about her second baby dad. The dad of the twins & Landon. Lila is by another man & then Addie is by Chris.
She got back with 'Richard' them broke up again and her current husband is another guy and her youngest daughter's dad
MANDUH M okay so that explains why the guy in the birth vlog with twins was so emotion less I was hoping she wasn’t w him 😂
Dead,because my cheating ex husbands name was Richard😂😂
His cousin?!? What?!? Girl I've been following since you first started dating "Richard" and was not expecting that one!
Disgusting!! My jaw completely dropped!!!
@@iloveupapi07 mine too🤮
@@octaviaj361 that's was me---->>🤮🤮🤮🤮
Me too! Ughhh
Same here!!!
Him leaving, That’s the trash taking itself out.
Me: *about to skip the mid roll ad*
Me: actually no, lady deserve the Ad sense to get her $30 back
Crystal Mather same, she deserves all the monies
Crystal Mather amen lol
I was going to skip until I saw your comment lol
when you skip they don’t get the money?
I watch all the ads on people's vids if I love them
when she said she was actually his cousin.... y'all my soul left my body
😂😂🤣🤣 I know the bottom dropped out for me too!
Shit happens
Actually she is his cousin by marriage so not bio related 😂😆
I seriously hope you're not back together with this guy. He IS going to cheat again.
She got remarried
Nah she hasn’t been with him for a long, long time
She said at the end they got back together? (To the two other comments)
@@leigha1467 read the description
Avaxx Msp well she did but not currently . I’m pretty sure she gave him a second chance but it didn’t work out
If he's saying to his fiance, "You can't see my phone. " that is a huuuuge red flag.
Girl us OG jessfam clan knows who “Richard” is lol
Sarah RaeAnn so true!
Ikr
Hells yes!!!!!!!
She has to protect the not so innocent lol
Sarah RaeAnn yeah we do
I just wanted to take a min and appreciate how freaking pretty she is 😍😂. Anyone else ?
I was thinking if someone as beautiful as she is can be cheated on, what hope is there for the rest of us?
Not really, she needs to wear her hair in the front because her head shape is wide. Then she'd look probably a solid 7
Kirsten Cummings could not agree more
Solarcry RUDE! She’s beautiful!
@@willfiegen8369 If you call every mediocre face beautiful you demean the value of true beauty.
We need a part 2 about how you and “Richard” eventually broke up for good ☕️☕️☕️
Then we need Chris to spill his tea too. We all know he didn't tell the full story on the Q and A.
Danyelle Jones What are you talking about?
@@rosetermidor8824 Chris caught his ex wife cheating. He gave some details in a video but we all know their is more tea.
Danyelle Jones idk if Chris is legally able to spill the tea on that or wants to but we could get surprised and he just might 👀
Chris isn’t going to spill the tea on all of the details regarding what happened. Plus it’s none of our business to know what happened.
JESS! I remember the video, I was young and in middle school. All I could do was cry with you❤ I had just lost my great grandmother. Jess you're such an amazing person! You've come so far and worked hard to get here
His cousin... sis I knew the tea would be hot but I have third degree burns now
F L 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Fricken honestly!
This is my “how I found out my husband was cheating on me with females, couples and lots of guys”, story. .... So, we buy our second home, we ready for a new start a new chapter, he’s sober, promising me everything gonna be good again (there was domestic abuse that came with his excessive drinking and use of coke). He says quit your job babe, be a stay at home wife and mom, I got us, we’re good. So I quit working, doin the whole at home thing (I love to work, loved making my own money, never have I not worked or live on someone else’s money). So about 3 months later I start to notice things, but he’s a smooth ass talker/manipulative sob and so I cast away my doubts and issues. I start to become depressed, getting hit with anxiety, I can’t just leave and go buy what I want/need, I gotta ask him for it. He starts sneaking drinking again, he starts talking to me reckless, omg the things he would say to me, I swear if I wasn’t such a strong soul I would have taken my own life, I kid you not. All of a sudden I’m a burden, he’s the only one paying bills, my kids this n that, he’d take off, like disappear for a few days at a time, knowing I have no money on me n hardly any food in the house. I would go without food for a couple days just so my kids were eating good. Mind you were living in a luxury home in an affluent neighborhood, driving Mercedes, people thinking we living good when in reality it’s so bad behind those walls. I notice he’s always on his phone, he got codes on it, he always lays it down face down, he attacked me once for touching his phone and when I say attack I mean he flew over the couch, tackled me for his phone. But see he don’t do this shit around the kids, so my 16 and 18 yr daughters (I was a very young teen mom,), & 12 yr old son (my son had seen his bad side but not my daughters, they didn’t always live in our home, He’s giving them money, he’s nicey nice to them, he tells my 16 yr old he’s giving her our Lexus sports car (which I felt was inappropriate for a new driver). So what do they see, they see a depressed mom who lays in bed, hear me cry, see me try and talk to my husband, hear me pleading with him, etc. being the discipline parent while he’s the “cool” one. They then get from him words like “idk what’s wrong with your mom, I’m not a bad guy, I’m not cheating on her, she has a good life, what’s wrong with your mom”. I thought I was going crazy, and I seriously made myself crazy, what I was putting up with did indeed make my crazy. So my girls thinking moms just depressed and bitchy, step dad not doin nothin. So 16 yr old graduates and moves in with her bf. 18 yr old was staying for a few more months when her apartment would be available. She starts seeing through the fake facade my husband built for them, my son tells his sister “moms not crazy, you don’t know what it’s like living with him” (which by the way broke my fucking heart when my daughter told me that). So my daughter had to get up around 4:30am for her job, many early mornings she’d get up n my husband would be gone, like him and his car gone, yet he was on the couch couple hours prior. She’d also start seeing the fights, seeing & hearing just how abusive emotionally, mentally and physically he was. oldest daughter moved into her apartment & I sent my son to live with his dad, I was so beaten down by this point there was just no being a person, a mother. I was meeting the requirements but I wasn’t able to give my son the quality time a child needs and the house was so chaotic, felt like always walking on eggshells. So now no kids in the house, it’s summer time. So one night my husband decides to do one of his disappearing acts, he took off in his friends car, so that means his car is at our home, and the asshole parked it behind my car. So I’m like shit I can’t leave and then I remind myself “hey you got the extra key”, I grab the keys n move his car, as I was about to get out I hear this bangy rattling sound, so I’m like what is that, and guess what I find?? His other phone, ya know, the one he told me he lost awhile back and that’s why he needed a new phone. So I’m like hmmm 🤔 let’s take this baby inside and check it out. I sit on the bar stool at my kitchen island, and I stayed there for 8 hours, 8 FREAKING HOURS! I found that phone around 10pm (I remember this cuz I needed to get to the store before it closed) and stayed on it til like 6-7am. That is how much shit was in his phone and to be honest I still didn’t get through it all. There was over 2 years of cheating! There was hooking up with random people, mostly men, on Craigslist, then I saw he had Grindr and Grindr Chat, not to mention multiple apps on his phone that make it to where you can text, call, message people without it showing anywhere else and it be erased forever if wanted, type of apps. He had some of these men he was hooking up with in his regular phone contacts, he was having a relationship with one of the guys for at least a year. I couldn’t believe what I was looking at, what I was seeing, what I was reading, the pictures I had seen. I mean my god he had his own Craigslist ad with his fucking face on it and the caption read “looking to suck big dick in my Mercedes”.
Now I can’t speak for everyone but for women I have talked to about this, it’s one thing to find out your husband is cheating on you and cheating with a woman, but, but when you find out your husband has been cheating on you with dozens (and I mean dozens) of GUYS, it really does something to you. Now my husband is like this ladies husband, where unless you have full blown proof, pictures, witnesses, blood and semen analyses, he is going to deny deny deny. So the first person I contact was my therapist, I remember I called her around 7am and she called me back at 7:30. I needed her to talk me down, I was so out of my head, the shock, the anger, disgust, (the things he would say about me to his friends, it was utterly disgusting and evil, disrespectful, the amount of lying he did on my name, I mean that alone was enough). He would scour the hook up sites then when I fell asleep he’d take off, go do loads of cocaine & alcohol, n then meet up with whoever. N let me tell you he didn’t care, had there been sheep and goats with their own ad he would have fucked em, he hooked up with males, females, couples, fat, skinny, old, young, didn’t matter. So about 11am he wanna hit me with a negative mean text, as I was used to getting, So, I text him with a simple “I know your secret”, he says back “what fuckin secret, there you go trippin again”, I text “so you wanna play dumb huh, you really wanna act like you ain’t out doin me dirty?” He says “nope I ain’t out here doin you dirty, I’m not a cheater, I don’t talk bad on you, you always like this, I’m tired of it, I ain’t got no secrets”. So, I say “okay then, well when I put all your shit on Facebook, instagram and any other social platform to show who you really are, I guess then you will know what I’m talking about”. And I’m not kidding, I couldn’t make this shit up if I tried, he texts me back and says this “You Must Have Found My Other Phone.” I could only think “wow the audacity to lie to me and then say that in a minutes time, just unreal. Now let me tell you he showed up to our house in record time, and the look on his face was like a sad lost child, thinkin he could manipulate/finesse his way out of all of this shit.
So yeah, that is how I found out the person I had spent many years with, who told me if I kissed a girl that’s cheating and how awful it was to cheat on someone cuz he’d been cheated on and knows how it feels. The person who made me think I legit was going crazy and it was all in my head. All I can say for him is he walked out of it with no injuries and thank god for my therapist, I know had I not gotten her 3 months prior to me finding out all this, that I probably would have snapped and something bad could have happened.
It’s taken awhile, lots of intense therapy, god, my kids and myself to get myself back up, to being a human being again. I didn’t have a support system, I didn’t have friends anymore, my family lives in another state. I know had I had my job, my independence, my own money, friends and family, I would have seen the signs & left, but I didn’t have anyone or anything, I fell into the deepest sadness n depression, and he wanted me there, cuz once he had me there he was able to do whatever he wanted whenever he wanted and knew I was stuck. I thought once married you tough it out through anything. I gave 150%, I kept changing myself until i was nothing but a shadow of what I once was, kept bending over backwards trying to get my husband to love me, to want me, to respect me, care about me, I had to realize that it did not matter what I did or said, he was the one that was the problem not me. I wasn’t the abusive one, I wasn’t addicted to drugs or alcohol or gambling like he was, I wasn’t the one cheating for years, I couldn’t fix something that he didn’t think was a problem. ... At some point we have to make ourselves see what our gut has been trying to tell us, even if we know it could break us, have us walk away from someone we loved so immensely.
My daughter wrote this and shared it with me.
~ I am strong. I am worthy. I am loved. I am cared about. I am wanted. I am beautiful. I am with faults. I am human. I am woman. I am me. ~
Nine Wectawski you probably spent so much time on this and you got 6 likes (including me) but somebody said “don’t be a Richard!” And got literally 23k likes.
I read the whole thing.
I read the whole thing..WOW...
I read it all dear.... feel for you... but u know what, m proud of you. Stay blessed. Tc
I'm really sorry for you. I can't imagine trough what he'll you had to go trough...im so sorry...
It's disgusting how cousins or family members could be attracted to one another like ughhh...
I think she said they're related by marriage... so at least it wasn't *technically* incest?
Cousins aren’t. But other family members yeah obvs
It’s a hillbillie thing
It’s actually really common to marry your cousin
ZavalaLove I agree, but some situations are forced. Sometimes one of them don’t want to do anything (usually the girl, though it does happen to men too) but are forced by the other person, whether that be forced into a relationship, sex (which would be rape), etc.
The way my heart was racing with the video. Like the way I felt it when you said you started crying my heart sank for you. I'm glad you're onto better things ♥️
I was cheated on while I was 8 months pregnant and I literally started bawling when you said that you were 2 months from giving birth to twins because the pain from that night I was cheated on came back to me so strong I literally felt the pain and heartbreak all over again. I feel for you, truly. ❤️
I'm tearing up and I'm a guy. And I have a punch.
Bless you. I hope he's long gone now and you have someone you deserve.
You are gorgeous! Some men are truly f*ck-ups! Hope you are living your best life without him!
Aww I'm so sorry. I hope things got better.
His cousin..... I’m done that’s great 😂😂😂😂
I NEVER saw that twist coming.... Lol like that is a real messed up twist.
Omg that’s all bad 😭
It could be HIS COUSIN , you never know .
It is his cousin that’s what she said it’s actually his cousin
If a man is going to cheat. It happens more often when his partner is pregnant....it's horrendous ,when a woman feels at her most vulnerable
Not always when she is pregnant but sometimes when she is not
I got cheated on when our 2nd child was a baby 10yrs ago.
Pregnant or not it hurts the same I think especially when the other woman doesn't/didn't have children it makes you feel like your not good enough anymore.
After I grew up and more confident within myself i started realizing alot...
Flash forward 10yrs
(yes we are still together) and 4 MORE children later, i just gave birth to #6 in September and she gave birth to #2 in August
(My body looks WAY better hers I have a flat belly, she doesn't, I have no stretchmarks, she has them bad, i still look very young, she looks like shes aged 10yrs)
I often get confused for our 13 year old sons sister the only part of me that changed the most was my boobs dropped😒
BUT that's nothing a breast reduction/lift cant fix😁
Other than that I look very well!😊
Looks like I got the better end of the gene pool!
(I say that because we are sisters)
Not all men cheat. My ex husband cheated on me when I was pregnant. So devastating. I hope you ladies understand it’s not your fault.
I’m so sorry you went through this! My oldest daughter’s father cheated on me while I was pregnant too, and mannnn it sucks. But you told your story so well, and you’re so sweet and likable and beautiful! 😊🙌
“That’s the tea sis” YOU HAVE TO SAY THAT AFTER EVERY SINGLE VIDEO!!! There is not a single way you could’ve hid that person from us og’s 😂
Can't get cheated on if you don't have a partner.
My logic.
@Naomi Brown Good one. It was just a singles joke.
@Naomi Brown
Not exactly, you have to be fulfilled with yourself first. I have accomplished more being single than in a relationship...i traveled to Hong Kong, saved lots of money, and bought a 2bd 2bth townhouse. The last relationship (boyfriend) I had, he crashed my car didn't even want to pay half the insurance deductible, and wanted his name on my townhouse(he wasn't paying or contributing to the morgage of the home) which I had bought years before meeting him..i said "no!! we aren't even married yet..and I would like us to start a new home and rent out the townhouse"....fast forward he became hostile, and argumentative over this which caused me to break up with him.
Your logic is unflawed. I like your logic.
Naomi Brown if your happiness is defined by the presence of another being, YOU will end up the miserable, lonely old bitch. Find inner peace and happiness and nobody has the power to make you feel all these things.
@Naomi Brown like you?
This is why I’m scared to get married lol
I guess I don't understand going through all the trouble of catching him then putting yourself through the agony of moving out, all the pain and humiliation over the next several months or however long it was only to get back with him.
@@roxannebunn2697 people that are in those situations have a hard time mentally and sometimes aren't even aware of right and wrong because they are very focused on trying to make things better and forgetting to take care of themselves. You only become fully aware of the true damage once you're out of it unfortunately.
Married 17yrs(we were young). Being married is worth the risk and his name is on the douche bag name list lol
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Don’t rush into it like they did...date for a while :)
Having the courage to figure out what’s happening and while being pregnant... damm you are so strong!!
I was also cheated on while I was pregnant, wasn't with his cousin but it was with my sister. worlds a wild place.
Wow
OMG I am so sorry. Do you even talk to your sister?
OUCH! Your sister? How's your relationship with sis?
@@Ha-rg9de I do talk to her, I see her at every family event. She's my sister and I'll always love her. It's hard to forgive but when it's someone you can't hate what do you do right.
@@PS1652 It's alright now, it's been 4 years, we talk almost every day. She was younger when it happened and pretty damn stupid. He was a master manipulator and I guess it was just a recipe for disaster. She had to go to therapy after, she felt so bad for what she had done, She even tried to kill herself. It was just thrown at me so i don't know how to deal with it except understand she was a young vulnerable girl who was manipulated by a sick man and move on. He's 100% out of my life for other reasons now but yeah i guess that helps us move forward.
Jess: "We're going to call him Richard."
Everyone else: "WE KNOW WHO HE IS JESS!"😂😂😂
True. I would have made a name up for the cousin, who is relatively unknown to us. He's very well-known to those who have followed along for a long time.
😂😂
who is he?
Yeah
I can't believe you got back together with that lying cheating bastard. You deserve so much better
Stephanie Ledogar read the description
She didnt
@@romanakhan9839 she did for a short time
Maybe he deserves so much better. Maybe it's unfathomable that HE got back with HER. Oh wait, I'm sure she was the perfect half of the relationship.
Circlestrafe no excuse for cheating 🤷🏻♀️
I was cheated on with a toddler & I was pregnant too! The other girl had destroyed 4 marriages before ours! She was addicted to Crack, got my husband on it & when I got the truth out of him it was extremely painful & stressful! We are now divorced & I I feel for everyone who goes through this.
“Snuck back “
“ wait
“ I WALKED MY ASS BACK INTO MY ROOM “
😶🙃🤣
😂😂
please do a story time about when how and why you and “richard” got back together
Yes, I want to know that story. God bless you to take him back, but I understand how lonely and how much you wanted the father of the twins to be a freaking father. But then you wouldn't have had sweet Landon if I am following the story right. Bless you girlfriend. So happy you have found happiness with Chris!
@zumzy u hey what are the fees with this cause i used spy2mobile before amd it was around $15 a month but sometimes the info that they get isnt enough
PLEASE! I need to know now!
What she got back with him?
you really squeezed “we got back together” at the very end like that wasn’t a big deal 😂
veronica vent is she still with him?! 🥴
amaclife2884 yea💀
I seriously was like WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK.
I know I was like wth why would you go back with him like I don’t understand!!
@@xoamac I hope not. If a man can get away with that!!!
Definitely need a part 2 because I cannot for the life of me understand why you would get back with Richard.
I found my boyfriend texting someone he named ‘Brother’ in his phone. I never thought about it until I clicked it one day and saw explicit messages back and forth and my heart broke. Turns out he was cheating the whole time we were together.
Oh babe I am so sorry, hope you are going to feel better soon! ❤️
I m so sorry , I feel you . I hope you have bless , health and true love with happiness
i dont understand, whyd a guy get together with a girl if he already has someone 🤨 or at least say its just a casual thing
Eww he was cheating with his brother
Mine called her Brad.
We ended up divorcing.
Story time is not over the tea party is just beginning!!!! I NEED MORE TEA SIS!!!! I want to hear how you got back together and broke up for good. I was not ready for this video to be over :( just jesss is my favorite channel.
Him: this is my cousin
Me: seriously, nobody’s going to believe that
Her: he wasn’t lying. It was his cousin
Me: ... SWEET HOME ALABAMA
So he is a coisin freaking freak. Dump him
Nancy Howard coisin?
😂😂🤣🤣
Ella Jarrett same 😂
That was my actual thought process, Sweet Home Alabama playing in the background
He was a Drake. My son's dad did the same thing during my pregnancy & got caught often & before our son's 1st birthday after I suffered a miscarriage was the last straw for me with his infidelity.
“He wasn’t lying, it was his cousin.”
😳😳😳🤢
Mexicans understand these relationships.
20alphabet actually the fucking don’t.
20alphabet wtf no we don’t that shit is not right 😠
I had a Richard, too. Back in the day, when I was 19 and worked at DQ, his dumb ass came through the drive thru with his side chick because he didn't know I switched shifts with someone. And that's the day I got fired from my first job. Lol
C Moss
I have some awful cheating/abusive ex’s as well! 😡
Why did you get fired! I want to know the rest of the story.. Please!
What did u do when u saw him
This is my favorite story. I hope you kicked his ass.
Wow,,,,, that man was a whole lot of stupid!
*Someone* (not me!) put chewing tobacco under the cheese on their burgers... and added a little savory flavor to their drinks, but I ended up getting fired for all of that because HER mom called and complained. Long story short, he hasn't seen his son in 18 years, but I'm a successful, kick ass single parent who isn't single anymore. 👍
Sorry you were married to a narcissist. The manipulation, gaslighting, cheating, & denying your reality for his own gain. Classic narcissistic moves.
"Denying your reality" ugh omg that's like sad poetry right there but those words are so honest. Best way I've ever heard it.
he was / is obviously an impulsive, immature man, and weak on top of it (so the lying), that does not mean he is a narcissist. Edit: reaction to being caught and other things she said: Yes he is highly manipulative, and maybe a narc in the clinicla sense of the word.
He must have been very immatue (and not willing to listening to advice of his family too) -
or a) he would not have rushed to marry her (they had married 3 weeks before and was 6 months pregnant when she found out. do the math)
Of course as a narcissist he may not care about consequences, those are for other people, not for them.
and b) would have made sure she did not get pregnant AGAIN. She was a teen mom with ONE child already and still in college.
A quality man would get engaged if he sees a future with her, would be nice with her daughter. but he sure as hell would bide his time and not get her pregnant (as she TOO was too immature to handle contraception). Or SHE (subconsciously) wanted to speed up things and they married because she "happened" to get pregnant.
another narc feature: very charming, can talk his way out of everything and will tell you the sky is green to your face. So she likely FELL for that charming man. Plus narcs have an antenna for people that are vulnerable, and as a good supportive bf / fiancé / husband sure would have been a godsend in her situation (not only emotionally but for very practical and financial reasons too) she was very willing to be receptive to his charm. Hungry people are uncritical buyers.
her situation: till in college, single mom. Likely from a divorced househould as she moved in with her mother (not family)
I assume her first teenage pregnancy was a shock for her, so you would assume she learned her lesson. When she is not rational about birth control later on, it is a sign that she is driven by underlying subconscious motivations.
Being scared of being alone (in her situation) and "securing" herself a man. forcing his hand by getting pregnant. On the other hand if he is a narc that likes to gamble and does not think bad consequences apply to him - he might have entrapped her with his charm. Narcissists target (emotionally) vulnerable people and give a quick but impressive display of charm during courtship to lure them in.
Still: getting pregnant again was highly irresponsible of her. Imagine the situatiion without the option of moving in with her mother.
Verdict: he is weak, manipulative, selfish, stupid, and immature. At best.
and bonus scumbag points for the cousin. That was a guest at their wedding 3 weeks before and the pregnancy must have shown. Whoever helped them pay for that wedding must have been pissed.
I hope all her family learned about that detail of her love life.
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She said they got back together at the end, not sure if they are still together. I certainly hope they aren’t together.
@@vkrgfan i caught that too! No one else mentioned it. Wth? This is why people keeep doing it. Now he knows he can and that she will use any means to catch him so he just ups his game. Remember, you are only treated the way you allow yourselves to be treated. Point blank
I can’t pay attention to anything for more than 2 minutes but I seriously held my breath and was IN THIS STORY WITH YOU! You strong girl!!
I would like the tea..on Richard leaving you while your only a couple weeks away from having Landen!!
yes I would also like this story
You should do a part two on why you guys broke up the second time!
He just walked out because j think he had gotten another girl pregnant
Natalie Bautista who is natalie?
@@moonchildd.89 who's Natalie. I joined jessfam when she was dating Chris so I'm a little behind
@@moonchildd.89 I don't know who that is? Was she a friend of Jess? Cousin?
BarbsLife Natalie is the mother of “Richards” daughter. I believe the little girl is about one year younger than Landen.
The fact she gave him a fake name when we all know who she talking about 😂😂 but the name suits him lmfao
I think she did that to protect herself. He cant get her for defamation of character/ slander since she didnt use his name.
Melissa Fiscus yeah I understand that. Just found it funny that even though she “changed” his name we still all know who it was regardless.
😂😂🤦♀️🙌🤪 this comments everything
Who is she talking about????
Melissa Fiscus slander/defamation only applies if you are lying about the other person, not if you’re telling the truth.
"you're being crazy what are you doing?" - So manipulative
I'm dying, you literally just named 4 of my exes with that Google search🤣🤣🤣🤣
Can you do an after the cheating story like how it lead to Landon and how it ended?
He dumped her
Yes!!! Please
There’s a video about it, he was out somewhere and texted her saying he was coming to get his stuff and that he couldn’t do it anymore and walked out.... what an ass...
The 2 thumbs down are Richard and the girl he cheated with. 🍵 JK... My boys are in bed and I’m here eating popcorn and enjoying this. 🍿
Girl!! The strength you have.. I would’ve blown up on my husband the SECOND I found out he was cheating 😩
All of us who know exactly who she's talking about😂😂😂
"This is my cousin". Totally thought it was a made-up-on-the-spot lie but NOPE! 🤢
SAMEEE
Girl just watching this gave me HELLA anxiety I’m shaking. I’d probably freak the hell out I’m proud about how calm you were
Haley Rae dude same ! I hella shake when my anxiety is triggered 💀
My pulse is going through the roof lmao. Kinda like when I go through my bf’s phone 🤫😂
How could you go back to a person that would do that to you especially when you’re pregnant? How could you ever love and trust him again? You deserve so much more than that! He doesn’t deserve you! Believe me he will do it again!
"Snuck back..... I walked my ass into my room." 😂😂😂
I cracked up for like 5 min at that idk why lol
Being cheated on sucks. Being cheated on while being pregnant suck even more. But be I cheated on while being pregnant with twins?!? And with his cousin!? That’s just wayyyyyy over the line!
Only Richard can get caught with his pants down and a girl running out the door and still deny it... wow.
This is by far the best story....I mean not the best story but storytime. It's not all dragged out and boring. You made it interesting. I know that sounds weird but I'm glad you found out about that loser. Glad you're still young fun and vibrant. His loss
My ex-boyfriend cheated on me with his step cousin too, so I felt that.
We all know why you picked "Richard" 😉
Cassidy Martinig I’m confused? And I’ve been watching forever lol
@@cassidy1454 a nickname for Richard is Dick lmao
😂😂😂
Ryland Lyric I know the nickname for Richard is dick but that always confuses me and I don’t know why it’s a nickname for Richard
@@telliiii2289 my dad's name was Richard and he was called Dick...He was like that song the wanderer by Dion...I called him dick the pr..k.
Cousin?! Of course he left that out of his video 😂
This story was totally worth waiting all these years for Jess.
Back then, you were so strong and graceful, and this story shows how much stronger you are than I ever thought.
♡
Laura Feltmate xox what video?
@@paigemullin9236 he made a video basically saying jess is a liar and she cheated on him but he says they weren't together but she was pregnant with his boys so that means she cheated on him 😒😒 you can smell the crap from his video
Omg where is this lying ass video?!
@@heatherbeavers7068 Here's the video for you, re-uploaded by someone else, as Drake's was taken down. ua-cam.com/video/3l3PCgHxdxk/v-deo.html
I listened to his video. All of the gaslighting and manipulation. And attempted-but-actually-blunt disinterest in being a legitimate father . So pathetic.
I was 7 months pregnant when I found out he was cheating. The other girl knew about me, his parents knew he was cheating on me and were admitting that girl into their home. His parents never liked me. He never came out to confront me that night like the coward he was.
I would have a mental breakdown if I found out I was getting cheated on while pregnant. Like I would probably commit murder
baby sam i-
Happened to me, I’m still with him.
@@kimberlyviguearmijo814 why lmao
Why? What the fuck would that do? Why do people allow others to control them? Evidently there were some SERIOUS fucking issues before the pregnancy that simply were ignored and/or were thought would go away once the babies were born.
Happened to my little sis. Young mom, married at 18 and her husband cheated on her while she was pregnant with baby #3. She found some Facebook messages I think. She made his ass move out immediately. They’re almost divorced. Unfortunately she had to wait a while to file the paperwork because she didn’t have a lot of money and it’s like $500 to get divorced where we live. I’m so glad she kicked his ass to the curb. Whoever said this happened to them - get out of there! It will keep happening.
Lmfaaaaooo was his name on the list?!? 😂😂 “Blake” *stares at the camera*
Amina Love drake
Or chris
@@8lavenderrose8 God I hope not Chris, Same name as my psycho ex boyfriend, and THIS is something he'd do. I'd pass out.
@@_-_LOL So it WAS? Lmao
@@8lavenderrose8 Chris is the name of her current husband.
Im literally shaking, this gave me so horrible anxiety. I am so sorry you had to deal with that....
Heather Renn girl same
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Same 😥😥😥
First red flag: you were a teen mom in school and had already ONE child. A responsible ! / smart man (even if young !) would not rush into marriage, and aim to have more kids. A quality man most likely would have friends and family to advise him. - "Do you think you two have a future ? You know that you have to treat her kid like your own if you get married even if you later have children together. And whatever you do, do not get MORE kids at the moment. She needs to finish school and get a job and you two need to financially establish yourself. You can train being a father by bonding with her child, your potential step child. Which will be a blessing, if you step up and test the waters of being a grown up.
A quality man (that is capable to support her, her first child and now his twins) would also be a man that thinks ahead and listens to advice.
He may have broken up with her even if he was more responsible (her situtaion was bad enough: going to school, one kid) but he would not be the scumbag if he had not rushed to marry her or if he had at least used condomes.
So if you (the woman that risks more by getting pregnant and already had one pregnancy scare that lead to having one child) slacked on birth control - HE wouldn't.
Of course he acted irresponsible IN the marriage and towards his pregnant wife. he was irresponsible to marry and irresponsible to father children.
At the minimum someone that is impulsive and immature and had no family to give him good advice or he was not willing to consider it.
Rushed into a marriage, rushed into fatherhood - and of course he then panicked and there was another female he felt attracted to. Impulsive.
She did not have extra money. Yep, and you can bet he did not have extra money either. So being the provider for a family of 5 freaked out the young, impulsive man, that does not plan for the future.