UNEQUALLY YOKED! Dating or Marrying an Unbeliever as a Christian
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- Опубліковано 5 бер 2024
- This episode has been highly requested for over a year, since many of you have heard Angela’s testimony with her husband Michael - how they were already engaged when she got saved, but he was still agnostic… and because of that, Angela wrestled for 9 months after her salvation over the biblical conviction of being unequally yoked, knowing she could not follow through in marrying Mike despite how much she loved him. But by the power of prayer and the Lord’s will, Mike DID end up getting eventually saved and the two were married shortly after - and at the time this video is released, their first child will have been born by the grace of God!
This episode addresses 4 different scenarios of the “unequally yoked” question:
1 - What if we just met and started dating, but they aren’t saved?
2 - What if we were already dating (and/or living together) when I got saved?
3 - What if we were already engaged when I got saved?
4 - What if we were already married when I got saved?
Angela breaks down each of these scenarios by sharing her testimony, but more importantly - by addressing the full truth of what God’s Word says on this matter.
Angela’s prayer with this episode is that you would ultimately take this topic to Scripture and your prayer closet, and that you would ultimately listen to the wisdom of the Holy Spirit above any other voice.
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I can vouch for that! I was SO fresh in the faith when my husband proposed. Been with him 20 years and still praying for him to be saved. It is NOT easy to raise kids unequally yolked. Especially in the world now. My faith has grown exponentially, so to say it’s a challenge is an understatement.
Do NOT marry an unbeliever! Save yourself, and your kids the pain. Trust God and obey His word. End of story.
Hello I was in a similar situation.
How do you keep your faith growing ?
@@sabrinavargas7368 Faith comes by hearing and hearing ..... Romans 10:17
Well, I take it one day at a time. Obviously continue focusing on your own relationship with God, staying in the word and prayer/time with God daily. Teaching my kiddos the word of God and taking them to a good bible based church. Trusting that God's way's are higher than mine and He has a plan. I have prayed and continue to pray for my husband daily. Plus, surround yourself with good support. I belong to a ladies group at my church and having that extra support is a blessing. Proverbs 3:5-6 Keep Trusting God. He never changes, never fails us, and always keeps His promises! @@sabrinavargas7368
Biggest mistake of my life was marrying an unbeliever. God warned me in dream not to even date him! I was a baby Christian and a bit rebellious. I nearly lost my life. Almost murdered. He was into Satanism. Also witchcraft is real. My ex-husband cast a spell on me. No joke.
I had 3 exes faking to be saved. It happens y'all.
Dear God, I ask that you please increase everyone that clicks on this video the Fear of the Lord in them. Amen
My man said he wanted Christ but when push came to shove...he didn't mean it. When he saw that I was on fire. That I loved the word. That I could & would intercede and cast out his demons..he got scared. VERY afraid. He uppped and left. I was upset but I will not marry a lukewarm or unbeliever.
They say follow your heart.WRONG! Follow and obey God.
Thank you Angela for this. I thought I disappointed God when my husband left me and filed for divorce due to my new faith in the Lord. I didn’t know abandonment of the non believing spouse were grounds for divorce. I just felt guilty even though he left and he filed. I wanted to spend forever with him bc I had faith he would come to Jesus eventually and we were married so I was going to fight for him. He threw in the towel quickly when he realized my faith wasn’t just a phase I was going through. We used to party pretty hard and i didn’t care to do any of that anymore. Like you said happened with you I got called names and boring and “do you ever do anything fun anymore?” And it made me question my faith. I stood strong and went to God though and he has gotten me through it all!! He has better plans for my life and I can feel it coming near! I appreciate this episode so much ❤ thank you!!
May the Lord bless and guide you✝❤
You are still in covenant with this man if this marriage was a first for you and for him. So your job now is to believe for him and follow what the word says. You must stay single. Divorce is in this realm only. In the spirit you two are one flesh For life.
daughterofthemosthigh needs to reread her bible; that is in fact grounds for annulment
Annulment are not biblical. There are something the Catholic Church made up. The Bible states that the one flash covenant is for life. The Bible states that only death breaks the covenant.
If he leaves you, God gave you peace. But you must continue to pray for him and shouldn’t make it your choice to leave him. And you are called to be a biblical wife even when your husband isn’t a biblical or godly husband. I know it’s hard. I’ve been the believer married to a non believer after I found Jesus. By the grace of God my husband found Jesus years later - after I stopped trying to force Jesus onto him.
I almost was engaged to a non believer….At the time I wasn’t saved…but right after I broke it off, the lord came into my life and saved me! Thank god !
I have a hard time with this subject because my ex husband who I married under God who was a believer. I got baptized with him, and everything. Would beat me once a month , cheated on me with men and women and tried to kill me. My boyfriend now. Is a skeptic and goes to church with me, is the sweetest hard working man I’ve ever met. He has blessed my life in a lot of ways. He’s the reason I go to church, he’s is respectful when I pray and I talk to him about God a lot. I listen to God about who is good for me because just because someone says they are a Christian doesn’t mean their heart is Christ like.
I really appreciated your comment. Not everyone will be blessed with a Christian spouse who is also Christ-like. I've heard of countless stories where couples met in a church community, married because it was time and families were on board, only to find themselves in misery because they were unequally yoked in other ways other than faith. I have also heard of many stories where faith isn't aligned, but the two people could not be better matched in terms of mutual love, respect, goals, etc. This is a very tricky topic in general. And taking a look at your partner's heart is important and listening to where God or the Holy Spirit is leading you. Some couples are both saved going into marriage and later, one spouse walks away from the faith entirely. In other relationships, one or both will get saved at some point after marriage. Every path is different. Sometimes what God is calling you to do will be different from another person. But what is certain, is we are called to love one another. I heard a story where a believing woman married an unbeliever and due to her Christ-like love towards him, he found God 20 or so years into the marriage and he said if it wasn't for his wife not giving up on him, he wouldn't have found his way to God. Trust where God is leading you.
I will also add, I recently listened to Gary Thomas' audiobook called Sacred Marriage and he strongly emphasizes that marriage is meant to be difficult and to transform you. It's part of your own sanctification process. He gave examples of believing couples and also marriages where one spouse was an unbeliever. And he explained that each marriage will have its own set of challenges. You will never meet someone who matches you exactly in all areas. But you are called to die to yourself daily to love your partner well.
@@aliciareszka I love that you comment back I am very passionate about women in DV marriages and what love looks like to each person. I’ll definitely look into that book to get more insight into what God wants for the women in Christ.
If your first marriage was a first for each you, you are in covenant with one another for life. I am sorry he was abusive. (Mine was, too) I am divorced and stay single as the word says to. I Cor 7:10-11 gives us our options. By dating, you are violating your covenant. If you marry, the marriage is adultery and that will take you and him to hell. He is also violating your covenant by being with you. I know this is hard to hear but it is the word of God.
@@daughterofthemosthigh3366 so you’re saying there is no grace for those who are remarried? So why would God put us in loving relationships after divorce? What authority do you have by God to know what is covered? Also I’m glad that you pointed out that scripture because it states in verse 12-13 that if an unbeliever marries a believer they are made holy by that believer… in verse14 it states that you can separate with an unbeliever because you are not enslaved. So leaving believing partners is not okay but it’s okay if they don’t believe. And what if they began to believe? Do you break up?… This is my point. Let’s not forget the Grace of Jesus Christ. Let’s not forget the sins that are covered for moments such as these where one walk may differ from another. The female homicide and DV in the world… the children who are forced to stay with abusive people because of other women and men telling their parents they will go to hell if they leave and find another partner… I’m tired of seeing it. I was just as blind. I would never condemn a person to the same thing.
I left my boyfriend of 7 years cause he wanted to keep having sex and he wasnt saved, I just couldnt wait for him to decide to do It. It was very painful but God gave lots of confirmations, dreams and revelations
And you can pray for his salvation honestly, knowing you have been obedient to God. God can use this to help bring him into God’s family, whereas it would be more difficult for him to see the importance of God if you’re not willing to follow Him fully.
I prioritized a husband that was born again and looking back it might have hands down been the best decision I ever made. Especially now that we have children. I feel like parents have to be on guard at all times and it is great to know my husband has my back.
“The more knowledge you have of God's will, the more you are accountable for doing it.” In Romans 1:18-23
This scripture comes to mind when hearing this word as much as it is hard to hear.
I was with a man for 10 years (engaged to them at one point then separated but continued living and dating each other “working on things”) both yoga teachers and meditators and all that new age religion together… but last year, when I was filled with the Holy Spirit in my car in April, listening to the gospel of John on UA-cam I became so convicted that I could no longer be in the relationship, and it was a very difficult conversation to have. Needless to say he was not very happy about it, but I am so grateful to the Lord for convicting me so very hard on that, and being alone during this whole time almost a year now I have been able to be in a relationship with only Jesus, and as lonely as it is sometimes and may appear to the world. I have the Holy Spirit. I have God the father and I have the best relationship I’ve ever had with Jesus Christ. He is everything to me, and if he wants me to be married, he will send me a God, fearing man who loves Jesus more than he’ll love me. Praise God hallelujah I am so very grateful. This is the greatest gift you could ever ever ever ever ask for.
It was one of the first things I was convicted of when I was saved in 2019 and I was definitely unequally yoked and he got so angry with me and mocked me for believing what I read in the Bible.
I love your honesty in there still being consequences. I got saved when I was 4 months pregnant, so we obviously got married a month later. He got saved probably 9 months into our marriage. Yes his conversion was miraculous. But a lot of my friends, who are maybe a little younger in the faith, just hear “well Wayne got saved and it worked for you guys,” not understanding that just because they are saved, and yes we rejoice, new frustrations emerge as you are now in different places of your walk. As women We don’t just seek to have a saved partner, that should just be the obvious non negotiable, we seek to be spiritually led. And when you are married to a baby Christian, you are not going to to have that spiritual theologian husband that an on fire Christian women craves, for probably like ten years if ever because some saved men never get to that level and you can’t force that 😅 and it even causes issues in your own heart of pride etc. I remember being so confused how my husband could be saved, but not wanting to read his Bible for 8 hours a day like I did the first year after I was saved 😅 I find most women go on fire right away because we fall in love with Jesus how we fall in love in “real life,” and men are a slower burn and that can be really hard for a very spiritual women to have to wait to grow in their husband. BUT it does cause the wife gain Humility and grace through the process. When you have a husband who isn’t as far along in their faith, it at times can still FEEL like you are unequally yoked. If you are a very spiritually inclined woman, I would very much not recommend you waiting for a man to be saved, or getting married just because they got saved, because eventually them just “being saved” is not going to be enough for you.
This was such a good podcast. I felt the Holy Spirit during this podcast. I have a friend who has just come to faith. It’s very new, she has a fiancé, they have a child together and living together. This podcast helped prepare me for that day when she comes to me for advice. She has not yet been convicted, it’s still early days. When the time comes I will send her the link to this podcast.
I was truly blessed. God was so faithful when it came to my marriage. My husband and I experienced warfare for a few months. I held faith, I knew God was doing a work in my marriage. He was leading me & comforting me through the warfare. On the day of my baptism was the day my husband came around. He started coming to church with me every single weekend. He started watching the chosen with me which made him fall in love with Jesus. The next day he started reading the bible, he was hooked, he couldn’t stop reading it. A few months later he got baptised. We have been Christian’s for a year now and our marriage is the best it’s ever been. He is the best he has ever been. He just loves & fears God so much. Our two boys were also recently dedicated and also love Jesus.
This is so very true. I have walked through this for almost 4 months until the Holy Spirit was telling me I could not compromise. The little voice kept getting louder and louder and one day I couldn't take it anymore cause I felt such conviction I said no more and never looked back. Please sister's I promise you it's not worth it. ❤ It hurt but I knew it had to be done.
The timing of this video whew!! God is so intentional and it’s so comforting to know that i’m not alone. I just walked away from a 5 year relationship because I want a Godly relationship/marriage and eventually a family but my partner did not want the same. Choosing Jesus isn’t the hard part for me, I don’t regret it, I know my future is in his hands…I’m just having such a difficult time with my feelings. I don’t think i’ve ever felt a heartbreak like this.
You have a soul tie is why your heart is shattered. Jesus can and will dismantle it so you can heal.
I just had to comment and share with you 1). Thank you for making this video and 2) watching you testify to the goodness of God between you and your husband pre-and post salvation really hit close to home for me. Before my husband and I were married, we fell into the engaged and living together scenario as we were living our relationship to worldly standards. My now husband and I had been together for almost 3 years both as unbelievers until in the beginning of 2023 God encountered me and I believed, and God changed my life. For almost a full year he and I had many many conflicts due to the fact that I was changing, and I was a different person. A lot of previous videos when you’ve talked about the conflicts you’ve had before his salvation and marriage, I was living in those exact conflicts as you were explaining that as your past, and it gave me a sense of hope, although I knew that I had to trust what God‘s will was, so I prayed, and I was patient and praise the Lord my husband is not yet baptized , but he is a believer, and his faith is becoming stronger every day, and we are now married. ❤️❤️
Please everyone listen to this message and heed the instruction of the Lord. You DO NOT want to be in any impactful relationship with an unbeliever. Truly, at best your life will be full of persecution and grief, very limited to achieve any (heavenly) rewards of value and at worst you will live in a state of compromise which will likely end up causing you to reject and despise your salvation, losing eternal life. It's so serious. Please seek the Lord.
Thank you for sharing this Angela. The episode was confirmation through and through for me. 🙏🏼
About a year prior my salvation through a supernatural meeting with Jesus, something (holy spirit) was nudging me into abstinence. The relationship I was in suffered, of course.
After my salvation I started to understand why.. After a few months in an on-off relationship the fear of God came over me one night when my boyfriend was staying over. I just could not sleep in the same bed, it was impossible! That was the end of it, he could not accept me being so ”radical”, and he left in the middle of the night to drive 90 miles.. For me it was not an option to choose intimacy over God. For him, it was not an option to choose God over intimacy…
2 months later he reached out to appologize. It felt really sincere, and I got my hopes up. But then it turned out he was in a new relationship, with someone who used to be a believer and now was into new age.. 😢
I will ask for prayer for my husband. It’s not easy for me to just leave the relationship because I met him before I was saved. We have a 14 year old son and a house together. He loves me and doesn’t want to leave me because of my faith, but his heart is so cold towards the lord! 😢 I have been praying for his salvation but sometimes I just feel so frustrated. We are only married through court therefore anytime there is sex I just feel so dirty and sinful, it’s becoming harder and harder to be intimate with him, because I feel like it’s separating me from God 😢
I got convicted and stopped fornicating in Nov/Dec. We had already bought a house together and did plan to get married. We are getting married in the next month or so. I was luke warm for the last 10 years.
Is he saved? Doesn't look like it. You should get counsel.
@@danilaroche1156 he is saved now. We just got married 8 days ago. And we did do counseling :)
Same situation for me, we have a house and want to get married. But, I can't marry someone who isn't actually Christian, it's always going to be a battle. It's un equally yoked. I highly suggest taking marriage from the Bible, to marry into an equally yoked marriage. It's tough but we can't follow our own hearts as our hearts deceive, we gotta follow God and he obedient, God knows what will make us truly happy ❤
@@danilaroche1156 Yes, he was saved before this post and we have now been married for almost a month. Was just saying how our relationship used to be like.
@@kingdomofgodisathanddid you just get saved? Had my now husband not have been saved, we should’ve sold the house and split. I always believed in Jesus and got saved at 12, but I was walking in sin and a compromised lifestyle. Once God drew me back in close last year, is when I got really convicted about fornicating and living together. So we stopped fornicating and started getting counseling with our pastor.
Thank you for this. I’ve carried a lot of shame over my divorce for the past 3 years. He was abusive and I literally fled after hearing God tell me ‘go’. I couldn’t understand why he would tell me to leave when all I felt afterwards was shame. Knowing that it was a biblically sound decisions frees me from that shame and reminds me that God was showing love when he told me to leave. He wasn’t punishing me.
That shame is from Satan.
I married my husband, knowing he was not a believer.. I've been saved for a long time.. I'm a pastor's kiddo. My heart is so heavy for him to be saved. It is a tricky and sometimes tense situation. I love him so very much, and he loves me. I ask for prayer for him and for me. I trust Jesus, and I see the consequences of being unequally yoked. Bless you and your family!
Your story is so much like Abraham’s sacrifice and God seeing you’re willing…you showed obedience. God bless youuu
Remember the song "Californication"? Just recently I realized how it's not "California-cation" but "Kali-Fornication".
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I am a married for 15 years mother to his three children ,and I came to christ 18 months ago .He is not a believer
It is extremely hard .....
Can you touch on when you already have kids with the unbeliever and are engaged to be married when you got saved?
The word directs us to not be unequally yoked. I know that is hard to hear.
Do not take UA-cam advice for such a situation. Talk to a pastor at your church.
The word is clear. You don't marry an unbeliever. Kids or no kids. Life will be misery. I've been there. It's pure hell. Everyday.
We married and didn’t have Christ. Until I started seeking him in 2020 and that’s when things went rocky. Currently separated with 3 kids and infidelity played a part on the separation. Asking the lord for answers.
Im so thankful my husband and I were saved, delivered and set free before getting married. Theres no way we could be as solid as we are now if it weren't for Jesus. He came into our ungodly relationship and made it a godly and beautiful marriage ❤️
‘You don’t lack favour for not being married’. I wish my single self could have heard your voice. This brought tears to my eyes hearing you say that.
Just joining!!! So happy to see you!!!! 🎉
Can’t wait!! Really need this!
Wow my situation is so different. I prayed in my situation and I hope I did the right thing by God and not just for our situation.
Welcome back ♥️
Looking forward to it!
❤ I am much older and did the same thing. Now I'm more in my faith but he is a always an angry man.
Wow, thank you for sharing your testimony, 🙏🏼
I am blown away by this video. Your best, so far.
Thank you for the confirmation 🤞😎🤞
Thank you Angela for your vulnerability about the consequences to compromise, and the beauty of obedience. I pray that point blessed many people into holiness & whatever God's perfect plan is!! 😍. I love this message💖🔥🙏
Ive been married and divorced twice. They both came to church and they BOTH pretended to be saved and they lied. No fruit and they both were addicts and beat me . Be careful.
Thank you Angela. I'm only 34 minutes in and I wanted to share that in that time I can relate to so much of what you're saying because I got saved while I was in a relationship and the relationship fell apart because my then partner believed in God but didn't want to take Jesus into his life. He said I was being religious abd qualifying out of my life. He took it all so badly it was awful. He's still hurting because of it. I pray everyday for him. The way you prayed for Mike has been the way I've been praying for this man for 6 months I've been so confused and it's all a big mess because I do love him but God is first. Thank you for doing this video it's such an important subject especially for newborn Christians. 😅 I've gotten so much clarity in that first half an hour. 🙏🏻 God is good. 🙌🏼🤍
You are a new inspiration for me, and I’m really glad that I found your channel! Like you, I became saved recently (December 2021) and was previously into astrology, occult & witchcraft and Buddhisn. You seemed to have come very far already in your Biblical leaning and I’m wondering if you could offer some suggestions for Bible studies or other ways to help my figure out my walk with the Lord. Thank you 🙏
Love you and bless you, my dear family-in-Christ ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Your delivery was very hard to hear or take in because you speak so many facts and truths, it was painful….I felt the Holy Spirit convicting me, but it’s exactly how I needed to hear it. I wish more people speak like you. I can tell you care so much about people and you’re just telling it exactly how it is: no sugarcoating. So thank you Angela, and may God continue to bless you, Mike, and your baby girl more abundantly. 🤍🤍🤍
Can you also address a spouse who left the faith and now marriage is unequally yoked? ♥️
Or when both were unbelievers but then one came to Christ?
Or when you were married, divorced, but now want to reconcile with your spouse; but the ex wife is still an adamant unbeliever.
I’ve always understood the Bible to say to stay with the unbelieving spouse if you’re already and still married.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
What if we already divorced our kids dad?... But could remarry...
The marriage covenant is for life. When a spouse goes wayward, in whatever way that occurs, we are to try to win them back to the Lord and to the marriage. Seek God daily for direction on how to proceed.
The timing!
Can you do this episode sooner? 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I converted after we were already married. It was very difficult, he had a lot of hostility towards my faith. I was in this for almost 10 years when we divorced. It wasn’t God’s will for my ex husband to convert at that time, for us to have a Christian marriage.
I know she is talking to women and I support that. I don’t know if she is rebelling against 1 Timothy 2:12 or not but doesn’t appear to. She is not taking a teachers position or usurping authority. However, as a man of God, it is encouraging to hear a woman who is believing and trusting in the biblical holy inspired word of God. And sharing the same scriptures to tell us believing ones what God is saying which is His Truth. Also, even though she is specifically speaking to women, their are points that men should practice as well because the men of God do the same and involved ourselves with women who want to live according to the world than trusting Gods word. I was that man that broke up with my fiancé for wanting to stop having sex. It wasn’t the only reason but because she cheated. And grief struck me and I dove head first in another relationship with a woman who did not believe the Bible was true but was a good woman with values. And 13 years later married we are clashing spiritually, emotionally and physically. I’m learning something from this but because of my disobedience the consequences sucks. However, my mission is to put God first not my wife who does not understand why I told her 15 years ago we can’t work because we are unequally yoked.
Thanks!
I have a good friend, a strong Christian who loves Jesus, that married a man who was raised Muslim. While he isn't what I guess you would call 'practicing' his faith, he isnt a believer in Jesus. She is believing he will come to be saved, and I think that is what greatly caused her to go forward in marrying him despite all her family and many friends cautioning her (to put it mildly) against it. I'm still not sure if she was following the Lord in marrying him, or if she just wanted to be married in her late thirties so much, that she overrode the knowledge that it wasn't the Lord's best for her. He is a really sweet man, who truly loves her, but I can only imagine how much better their relationship would be if he was a Christian who was in step with her spiritually. I have made my own mistakes in a past dating relationship, so I know emotions can override what you know to be right and cause you to sin, and literally become double-minded. I'm so thankful God showed me my error and forgave me, more quickly and fully that I was able to forgive myself for years! Thank you for sharing!
is it possible for You to have a talk with a "new-ager" who is still ultra attached to their new-age'ism and cover the topics of "loose your ego, open your chakras, etc..." for example with Dr. K or Teal Swan, or Gregg Braden... ?
My wife claims to be a christian but she also let alot of "denominations" influence her belief and she went after it like a project instead of with belief. Does not live like she follows at all.
She drinks all the time saying its for pain. Recently she was about 10 sheets to the wind and i was desperately praying for.god to deliver her from her pain and from drinking and she got angry at me.saying she could hear me.praying and to stop.....
I left my bf bc he said he is not a beleiver. I miss him so much, and he still love me after 9 monts break up. It's so sad for me :(
Hello feom BC Canada 🇨🇦
I know you said this was for the ladies, but I still found it very relatable and I really wanted to hear these perspectives as well. Great episode BTW. There is a situation you didnt address, that I would love to hear some feedback on. First, I am still fairly new on this journey. I was headed this way a few years ago, and in the last two years, I’ve been being really reshaped as I learn.
Many years ago I was married, we got divorced, and it was my fault. She remarried a short time after. I remain patient and know that God will send someone if thats where he needs me. Im trying to understand parts of the scripture I have read as to if that is even in the works for me to be remarried though. I just don’t know enough yet and thats an area I’m seeking clarity over. I know I hope for that companionship one day, but some things I’ve read, I’m not sure if that is an option.
If your first marriage was a first for you and your wife, you two are in covenant. She is now in adultery and that will take her to hell if she does not repent. You are to remain single or be reconciled. 1 Cor 7:10-11. Keep praying for your covenant spouse to repent of her sin. She may or may not return to you. You may or may not want that. It's so good that you are exploring God's word re this. Most believers just do what they want. Sadly, they will pay in the end if they don't repent.
I think you'd have to get the marriage annulled. You should try talking to a bishop or priest. They usually always open to questions.
@daughterofthemosthigh3366 it also says the husband must not divorce. Back then, I wouldn’t call either of us believers. We were living in all kinds of sin, and as the head, that was my fault as well. I said to her, I wanted a divorce and she filed if I remember correctly. But now that I am saved, does that leave me tied to that marriage? That’s what I’m really trying to understand. Am I a new creation bound by an old decision when I didn’t even know to follow the word? I mean honestly, if that’s truly Gods word, then I will have to accept it I guess. But I just hoped there was some road to redemption and companionship one day. I know you mentioned reconciling but I haven’t spoken to her in years.
@@midnightcamaro I, too, am a new creation bound by old decisions. There are plenty of believers that will tell you otherwise, but this is not what the Word says. The marriage covenant is for life. I am divorced (in this realm) but in spirit I am and you are in one flesh covenants. I was very upset when I first learned this. But over time I realized all that God has done for me and I surrendered to this truth. Again, if the marriage was a first for you and for her, you both are in covenant with one another. God bless you!
@@daughterofthemosthigh3366 I appreciate your input. I'm going to have to reference my Bible some more on this
Gems of wisdom embedded here, and flashes of insight.
_I hope you and the gift from Heaven are doing well._
Your bold fearlessness in speaking things anathema to saccular godless Leftists,
who willfully walk in darkness, is admirable.
_Best Regards,_ and much respect.
For this first scenario I think even if they're both believers. Be friends first
1:03:27 yes!
1:30:00 so good
I started to imagine all of the possibilities but then really thought about it……I’ll keep it it moving in my heathen ways 😂
Angela, thank you.
In the context of marriage, if a Christian woman married the man, thinking they were equally yoked but turns out they are not and he verbally abuses, would that fall under the abuse you are referring to?
A fundamental reason for chastity before marriage is that physical relations must be open to life. The act was created for both pleasure and procreation. Attempting to defy this joint purpose is contrary to divine design.
Hi Angela,
Luke 9: 51-56
Mistaken Zeal of James and John
“Now it came to pass, when the time had come for Him to be received up, that He steadfastly set His face to go to Jerusalem, and sent messengers before His face. And as they went, they entered a village of the Samaritans, to prepare for Him. But they did not receive Him, because His face was set for the journey to Jerusalem. And when His disciples James and John saw this, they said, “Lord, do You want us to command fire to come down from heaven and consume them, just as Elijah did?” But He turned and rebuked them, and said, “You do not know what manner of spirit you are of. “For the Son of Man did not come to destroy men’s lives but to save them.” And they went to another village.”
In this passage of story Jesus rebuked his disciples, because they envied for his sake. There, under colour of zeal for Christ, they were for silencing and restraining separatists, they were for putting infidels to death; and, as for that, so for this also, Christ reprimanded them, for a spirit of bigotry and persecution is directly contrary to the spirit of Christ and Christianity. There was a time fixed for the sufferings and death of our Lord Jesus, and he knew well enough when it was, and had a clear and certain foresight of it, and yet was so far from keeping out of the way that then he appeared most publicly of all, knowing that his time was short. He went cheerfully and courageously thither, though he knew the things that should befal him there. He did not fail nor was discouraged, but set his face as a flint. How should this shame us for, and shame us out of, our backwardness to do and suffer for Christ! We draw back, and turn our faces another way from his service who stedfastly set his face against all opposition, to go through with the work of our salvation.
The rudeness of the Samaritans in a certain village who would not receive him, nor suffer him to bait in their town, though his way lay through it. He sent some to make ready for him, not for state, but convenience, and that his coming might be no surprise. They did not receive him, would not suffer him to come into their village, but ordered their watch to keep him out. The great controversy between the Jews and the Samaritans was about the place of worship--whether Jerusalem or mount (John 4: 20). And so hot was the controversy between them that the Jews would have no dealings with the Samaritans, nor they with them. Yet we may suppose that they did not deny other Jews lodgings among them, no, not when they went up to the feast. But they were particularly incensed against Christ, who was a celebrated teacher, for owning and adhering to the temple at Jerusalem. When these two disciples (James and John) heard this message brought, they were all in a flame presently, and nothing will serve them but Sodom's doom upon this village: "Lord," say they, "give us leave to command fire to come down from heaven, not to frighten them only, but to consume them."
They showed a great confidence in the power they had received from Jesus Christ; though this had not been particularly mentioned in their commission, yet they could with a word's speaking fetch fire from heaven. They took it very ill that he who did good wherever he came and found a hearty welcome should be denied the liberty of the road by a parcel of paltry Samaritans; they could not think of it without indignation that their Master should be thus slighted.
These were Samaritans, from whom better was not to be expected, and perhaps they had heard that Christ had forbidden his disciples to enter into any of the cities of the Samaritans (Matthews 10: 5 “These twelve Jesus sent out and commanded them, saying: “Do not go into the way of the Gentiles, and do not enter a city of the Samaritans.”), and therefore it was not so bad in them as in others who knew more of Christ, and had received so many favours from him. Perhaps it was only some few of the town that knew any thing of the matter, or that sent that rude message to him, while, for aught they knew, there were many in the town who, if they had heard of Christ's being so near them, would have gone to meet him and welcomed him; and must the whole town be laid in ashes for the wickedness of a few? Will they have the righteous destroyed with the wicked? Their Master had never yet upon any occasion called for fire from heaven, nay, he had refused to give the Pharisees any sign from heaven when they demanded it; and why should they think to introduce it? James and John were the two disciples whom Christ had called sons of thunder (Mark 3: 17 “James the son of Zebedee and John the brother of James, to whom He gave the name Boanerges, that is, “Sons of Thunder””); and will not that serve them, but they must be sons of lightning too? Elijah was sent to display the terrors of the law, and to give proof of that, and to witness as a bold reprover against the idolatries and wickednesses of the court of Ahab, and it was agreeable enough to him to have his commission thus proved; but it is a dispensation of grace that is now to be introduced, to which such a terrible display of divine justice will not be at all agreeable. Jesus turned with a just displeasure, and rebuked them; “You do not know what manner of spirit you are of.” Or "You are not aware what an evil spirit and disposition you are of; how much there is of pride, and passion, and personal revenge, covered under this pretence of zeal for your Master." Or "You do not consider what a good spirit, directly contrary to this, you should be of. Surely you have yet to learn, though you have been so long learning, what the spirit of Christ and Christianity is. Have you not been taught to love your enemies, and to bless them that curse you, and to call for grace from heaven, not fire from heaven, upon them? You know not how contrary your disposition herein is to that which it was the design of the gospel you should be delivered into. You are not now under the dispensation of bondage, and terror, and death, but under the dispensation of love, and liberty, and grace, which was ushered in with a proclamation of peace on earth and good will toward men, to which you ought to accommodate yourselves, and not by such imprecations as these oppose yourselves."
He shows them the general design and tendency of his religion. He designed to propagate his holy religion by love and sweetness, and every thing that is inviting and endearing, not by fire and sword, by miracles of healing, not by plagues and miracles of destruction, as Israel was brought out of Egypt. Christ came to slay all enmities, not to foster them. Christ came, not only to save men's souls, but to save their lives too--witness the many miracles he wrought for the healing of diseases, it appears that Christ would have his disciples do good to all, to the utmost of their power, but hurt to none, to draw men into his church with the bands of love. Christ would not only not punish them for their rudeness, but would not insist upon his right of travelling the road, would not attempt to force his way, but quietly and peaceably went to another village, and went on his way. When a stream of opposition is strong, it is wisdom to get out of the way of it, rather than to contend with it, but leave not your place, or quit your post when rulers of the darkness of this world rises against you (Ecclesiastes 10: 4). If some be very rude, instead of revenging it, we should try whether others will not be more civil.
A few days ago before I went to bed I read Daniel chapter 7, then that night I saw a dream, facing Lucifer in a human form and few demons, one of the demon looked like a queen, they were trembling. A fierce battle is going on in the spiritual realm.
(James 2: 19 "You believe that there is one God. You do well. Even the demons believeand tremble!").
The Ancient of Days Jesus was with me, I didn't see Him, but I felt His presence in my right hand side, after I said the King is with me in a loud voice, I woke up, because I felt some fear. God is the one fighting our battle. There are two reasons we suffered by the enemies, 1. by our sins (God withdrawal his protection from us until we repent) or 2. God uses the enemies to serve his porpose in our life. Anyway my dream is a long story.
Daniel 7: 9, 10 “I watched till thrones were put in place, And the Ancient of Days was seated; His garment was white as snow, And the hair of His head was like pure wool. His throne was a fiery flame, Its wheels a burning fire; A fiery stream issued And came forth from before Him. A thousand thousands ministered to Him; Ten thousand times ten thousand stood before Him. The court was seated, And the books were opened.”
The Judge is called the Ancient of days, because he is God from everlasting to everlasting. Among men we reckon that with the ancient is wisdom, and days shall speak, shall not all flesh then be silent before God who is the Ancient of days?
The glory of the Judge is here set forth by his garment, which was white as snow, denoting his splendour and purity in all the administrations of his justice; and the hair of his head clean and white, as the pure wool, that, as the white and hoary head, he may appear venerable. The throne is very formidable. It is like the fiery flame, comes forth from his throne a fiery stream, a stream of brimstone, a fire that shall devour before him, dreadful to the wicked that shall be summoned before it.
God is not only Love, He is also vengeful and destroying fire. (Hebrews 10: 30-31, 12: 29)
What about if we're already married and we were on Nickelodeon before we got married
I married someone I really thought was a believer. I had conviction about sex before marriage and told him I couldn't keep doing it. We ended up getting married. We were going to church, doing ministry stuff, and here I am after 2 years is marriage, divorced. He choked me and I left and then he filed for divorce.
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The prospects don’t look good for Christianity where I live. (UK) The church-going community is much smaller than it was, and it has been reported that in the average congregation there are more women than men - and very often, most of the women are “of a certain age”, (as the old saying has it). How is a single Christian to find a believing partner in a situation like this? Another thing I have observed is that too many Christians seem very reluctant to have children, or even entertain the idea of it. Modern Christianity has reached the point where it is too heavily reliant on people converting to keep the numbers up. I feel sorry for my Christian friends. The prospects are not good if nothing changes. They need to get their "oomph" back.
ı left my bf because of this and now he blames me for his depression :(
Tough. Why even converse with him?
I am mad at him 😢it is so hard
If you mean Christ. --- What is carnal-"hard", then, is your heart.
You need to take a brave-look into the _"mirror"_ of God's illuminating Word.
Then reflect on what you see, God-willing.
Living in this fallen world is hard. Jesus is wonderful!!
I love your videos. Your phenomenal. I'd rethink the crosses, though. Can you picture Paul wearing a cross? Chile.....
Ik you're not a man, but I'm very curious what you'd say for the man's side of this, especially on the already married side.
My hubby searched and searched and was rejected, mocked, was made fun of, and was treated horribly by those of his own faith. I have been accepting, taken him to church, went with him, even welcomed him to teach my children his faith if they wished to learn and they have gone to church with him as well. And the most negative energy and nasty attitudes we have ever witnessed has always been with those who claim they are the most accepting and want to believe that the faith is so loving and want my family to convert. Also using manipulation tatics to make him feel bad about connecting with me in any kind of way whether it be emotional, physical or spiritual until I've accepted the faith screams narcissism and is very much so emotionally and mentally abusive. Just because someone doesn't have the same faith as their partner doesn't mean they aren't meant for each other, this kind of mindset is extremely toxic.
At any rate that's a service issue.
Salvation is absolutely free and not conditional upon service to God.
The good news is that Jesus is Lord God Almighty clothed in unsinful humanity and He is the author of *eternal life* to all who trust Him alone for salvation.
Jesus paid for all the sins of all the world at the cross (past, present, and future). That payment is put to your account when you have believed on Christ alone for salvation 💗💐💗💐.
*This means that saving repentance is realizing that you are a sinner deserving of God's just punishment in Hell and turn (repent) from whatever you trusted in before, if indeed you trusted in anything; to trusting in the person and finished work of Christ alone for salvation.*
We must also walk in obedience, take up our cross daily, and lay down our lives. This is not works. It is the obedience He requires of us.
@@daughterofthemosthigh3366 It is works plain and simple.
We are to present our bodies as a living sacrifice....
That's a service issue.
Salvation is absolutely free and not conditional upon service to God.
@@hogansheroes2793 Then why are there warnings in Scripture? If we don't forgive, we are not forgiven. If we are not forgiven, we will not see heaven. Sin does not go to heaven. I Cor 6:9-11 >> Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men[a] 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. >>> These verses are not addressing unbelievers. Unbelievers are already lost. This is addressing believers and says - DO NOT BE DECEIVED. Strong warning! Salvation is conditional based on our sin. Nowhere in the word does it say we say we can be in sin and still go to heaven. You have fallen into the sugarcoated teachings of our day. Please study this as your eternity depends on it.
@@daughterofthemosthigh3366 If we choose to be unforgiving then we lose temporal fellowship with God here on earth; nothing to do with salvation at all.
The sin lists are pertaining to the lost, *such as yourself,* who, according to James 2: 10 are guilty of all.
It's either by grace or by works but not both.
You've got another gospel of faith plus works equals salvation nonsense here 💯%.
@@daughterofthemosthigh3366 If we choose to be unforgiving then we lose temporal fellowship with God here on earth, nothing to do with salvation at all.
The sin lists are pertaining to the lost, *such as yourself,* who according to James 2: 10 are guilty of all.
It's either by grace or by works but not both.
You've got another gospel of faith plus works equals salvation nonsense here 💯%.
This was amazing but the only thing I will say once saved always saved . You will never be perfect enough to enter enough into the kingdom of heaven. It was Jesus sacrifice and all that he did as to why we can enter the kingdom of heaven. So sinning which has repercussions and you should be praying and fasting and overcoming it and it is wrong it won't compromise your salvation.
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What if we have kids? He wants to marry me but is an unbeliever.
If I don’t marry him will my kids be unholy?
will he embrace raising your children in the faith? will he go to church with you all as a family? those are the questions you two should discuss before marriage (my husband is not a believer but agreed to these things and that’s good enough for me right now… still praying for him though!)
@@mindysumoski2113 A Christian husband is supposed to lead his family in following Christ. If you marry an unbeliever, where will your husband lead you and your children?
The bible says be not unequally yoked.
It's the same answer she already answered. With all three situations, except where you're actually already married, it's a no.
It's harder with kids because those are the consequences of not being married before children. But the answer remains the same.
But you also can't force him to be Christian, especially if he's not going to take it seriously for himself because one that selfish for you to do that just to remain together. And two if he's the head of the household, the leader of the family and he's lukewarm and faking it. It'll affect the children ultimately.
Nope . Unevenly won’t work. Fundamentally flawed. Doomed. Speaking from experience.
There are no denominations..no title before or after follower and servant of christ.
Every one of those so called
Denominations sit on a seperate doctrine aside from the word and rely on that doctrine to explain itself. Does the word not say
Galatians 1:6-9
I am astonished that you are so quickly deserting the one who called you to live in the grace of Christ and are turning to a different gospel- 7 which is really no gospel at all. Evidently some people are throwing you into confusion and are trying to pervert the gospel of Christ. 8 But even if we or an angel from heaven should preach a gospel other than the one we preached to you, let them be under God’s curse! 9 As we have already said, so now I say again: If anybody is preaching to you a gospel other than what you accepted, let them be under God’s curse
Thus it is wrong.
It is said in many congregations today, that what God wants is often unclear.
That couldn't be further from the truth. What God wants (what is written throughout the tanakh -old testament- and new testament) is not only clear but is verified throughout both books multiple times, his commandments, telling us how he wants us to live and teach and treat others. Self admonishment as we go further in our walk with christ. Do away with pride. Stay away from those with bad morals.
All of which and more are stated clear as day throughout the word in the old as well as new testament. Christ brought us not new testimony to be mulled over and pondered on and argued, but fulfillment and explanation of all teachings already given.
Do not be like the so many who have set up "alternate ways" to heaven.
"For wide is gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and small is the gate and narrow the road leading to life." Matthew 17:13-14.
If you want to know how narrow the path is...put your feet together and put your bible down sideways infront of them...there is no deviation leading to eternal life.
So let us take the base teachings of faith in God and works through that faith, as well as unnecessary arguments about what was meant about a single verse, when taking a single step backwards can show you exactly what was meant.
If you intend to build yourself as a temple for God as we all should be.
1 Corinthians 3:16.
Do you not know that you are God's temple and that the Holy Spirit dwells in you?
Then don't focus just on the base teachings, the law, ways to live, who is your brothers your sisters, your neighbors. Where to look when you need advice. (The word or an elder in the faith who is versed in the word). But make those teachings the foundation for the temple!! For you do not lift away the frame of the walls and roof scaffolding so that you can re-examine the stone of the foundation. Chipping away at it over again, questioning yourself and the sound teachings within the word.
Let it sit and harden within you as your foundation, do not be as one hearing the word and examining it over and over every Sunday!
James 1:23-27
Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like.
After the foundation comes the walls and finally the roof! Then the furnishings being the good fruit of what following the word has done for you! Faith abounding, understanding. Spiritual gifts as we should all have, Discernment, wisdom, understanding of laying on of hands. All of which comes with the will of God and by the will of God. Meaning that it only comes how and when God deems we are ready.
When we've ceased to walk to a human standard and accepted the narrow road for what it is regardless of public view or persecution in its varying forms.
1 Corinthians 3:1-3
And I brothers and sisters was not able to speak to you as spiritual ones but as to fleshy ones, as to infants in christ. 2 milk I gave you to drink, not solid food, for you were not yet able to recieve it. But not even yet now are you able, for since among you there is jealousy and strife, are you not fleshly and according to a human. Standard walk
So let us move forward with our learning of the word. And not argue on denominations and alternate doctrines! For one doctrine includes one part but removes the other. This doctrine removes the base word but keeps the point to turn to their desire. Another doctrine is empty and shows only the appearance of godliness but is hollow.
We are taught that the word is a sword and God is our shield. Would you take only the handle of your sword into battle and risk being run through? Would you have only the blade and not a way to hold it? Or perhaps hold just the sheath of your sword in hopes that the enemy maybe thinks you have a weapon to fight with?
All of which will lead to spiritual death. Take the word as a whole, for the word is a double edged sword! When wielded as it should be it cuts away the brush to show the path. If you do not understand how to use the whole of it you yourself shall be cut by it.
As it is written in Hebrews 4:12
For the word of God is living, and active, and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing even to the dividing of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and quick to discern the thoughts and intents of the heart.
Wield your sword well..build on the foundation and let it stand within you. For the wird of God is good in its whole for building up and teaching. Not in part.
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I must say I think it’s very hypocritical for you to get on here and preach about a Godly subject and say “hey here’s what we did (which is against scripture” but don’t do what we did.
Hi can someone’s timestamp where she starts talking about being married and un equally yoked ? Pls and ty 🤍🤍