I don't know how you do it Teal. I was just now screaming and crying in a broken heap on my living room floor after the pain of finally ending the toxic relationship between myself and my partner of 2years, who has made it quite clear that no matter what he says after a blow out, he will never really change. I chose to leave the situation rather than live with the pain, disappointment and unreliability of an alcoholic boyfriend. I was just now collapsed in a heap over the grief for what he could have been if he had chosen to stay sober, and the anguish of knowing he will never change, and then you put up this video. You are amzing and I don't know how you do it. But thankyou, I am now washing my face and going for a walk in the winter sun on the beach outside my home. Thankyou. 🙏👏⭐🕉🌈🌟🕯
I once went through the same thing after 10 yrs. of loving someone who was totally unemotional, but I was sure he was 'the one'. I kept waiting for him to open his heart, finally realizing he just didn't have much of one to open and facing the fact that he viewed emotions with disgust. I think most women tend to fall in love with potential at some point. We need to realize that the person standing right in front of us, right NOW, is the real person. It is so obvious in hindsight, but oh so hard to see in the light of our intense feelings of love. After experiencing this intense pain, we can learn to look for what we really need, without letting desire fill in the blanks with what we want. Learning about attachment styles can help too, especially if we have a pattern of doing this. Sending virtual hugs.
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Relationships are hard …… I’m 53 and am now in a relationship with the girl who took My virginity and I hers in jr high…. We have much in common and many shared memories… we are family yet unmarried…. I feel as safe as I can in this relationship and pray 🙏 We grow old together with out any major upsets but with blessings
My husband and I are similar to you but we stayed together and are now 60. Don’t be too concerned about the difficult times. They were necessary for us to grow and we became even closer afterwards. Just honor yourself and your partner as much as possible during them including honoring their need to leave if that is the best thing for their happiness. That’s the tough part. When we gave each other to be free to be ourselves it got rough but then we concentrated on how we could adapt so both of us were happy. I tended to be too clingy ( lots of abandonment in my past) and my husband wants complete freedom. So we worked hard to find a balance to where we both felt comfortable. Then we found our accomplishments were actually helping us in other relationships outside of ours. I hope you and your beloved find the love you desire.
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And this definitely plays into people being highly agreeable or not. Agreeability. Able to compassionately listen empathise and understand and even meet someone else's needs and visa versa.
Try being 50 with a "nice" but dull boring disconnected 65 yrs husband who had a sudden heart attack xmas day, now I'm his carer for at least another 6 weeks. I'm desperate to leave but also financial complexities. If I sound cold I assure you its the reverse. He literally never wanted to go out and do ANYthing. And Lawyers and courts during covid times?? Snails pace.
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That's the saddest truth I've ever realized... when you do all the things that you could do to make things work and got tired of fixing it, you changed how you deal with things, changed how you see things... until you end up adapting to their so called unworkable behavior. You ended up being used to it, so when the time comes when they finally changed, you just "ehh", it's not pleasing to you anymore... what remains is disappoinment.
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Classic example: You want the house way cleaner than your live-in person does. Or they are way cleaner than you. Neither of you can compromise, as the neater one feels like they're living in a dump, and the messier one feels the constant pressure of resentment or nagging. A way to work around that unworkability is hiring a cleaner.
Try adding: "one person is cheap and won't pay for a cleaning person" or "one person is so particular and an*l in their cleaning ways, no cleaning person is ever good enough" to the mix and you are back to unworkability.
First, Teal. Thank you so much for posting this video. You actually described my exact situation as an example. I am so grateful; I've been stuck for so long. Second, I really appreciate the visual quality of your videos getting better. It's cool to watch! Third, your fashion is so on point. You look amazing. I really respect you. Thank you for all that you do.
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*NOTES:* *+* Call out and draw attention to the unworkability first = dealing with the resistance first. e.g. someone is unworkable relative to an opinion they may be holding. Instead of arguing what that exact opinion is draw their attention to the fact that they are being unworkable relative to their opinion. *+* From there - make the person become aware (or yourself) of what the consequences of that unworkability factor might be (negative for you, for them, for other people involved etc.). Drawing the conscious awareness to that unworkability is like a high-intensity light beam on a block of ice = it melts. Figure out what positive purpose that unworkability itself serves and what positive purpose being unworkable serves. e.g. someone is unworkable considering other people's opinions. His positive purpose behind that could be that he feels like he can keep sense of himself and keep his own truth which is the opposite of his eneshment in childhood. Ask yourself: Is there a different way to go about meeting the need or fulfilling the want that is inherent in that positive intention that is gluing the person to their unworkability? The person has a choice then. *+* Make sure that something is genuinely unworkable. Many people decide that a situation is unworkable when it totally IS workable. Also, if the person still communicates that he/she won't change a thing, ACCEPT the fact that the situation actually IS unworkable. AND you're gonna have to accept unworkability when your effort you keep putting forth to make sth change is causing far more suffering than you would be caused by just accepting that something is just unworkable and trying to work around it. Trying to change something unworkable = resistance = what you resist, persists *+* Genuinely accepting unworkability puts you in a powerful choice point. Accept that what you wanna change, will not change. You have 3 powerful choices: 1) remove yourself from that situation entirely 2) keep suffering there 3) see that you have all kinds of options in between. An alternative to those two previous extremes.
I love this! The example of the man who became paralyzed and having to adapt to that because it's unworkable creating modification/making things accessible to the person is so crucial but people rarely get it!
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14:22 How can we tell the difference between un workability and personal boundaries? I think there are layers of toxicity in my relationship, and one thing I’m struggling with is that we seam to want different things… my boundary of holding my non-negotiables could be seen as unworkable to my partner. Thanks for all your wonderful content Teal!
I understand completely what you mean. I wanted to say this at the start of the video but I thought I'd better wait until the end. For example like accepting my Mom for who and what she is so all her traits good and negative ones together it means I have no desire to want to or feel the need for her to change, and it does put me in control because I don't waste my time getting hurt and I can get a better grip on the situation and for me not to get hurt by her being be who she's not. Mom is who she is but cycle going around within her, her desire to want to shape and mould me into place...
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Your videos are magic. Truly, the sort of insight and understanding I get is not something I've gotten in other places. I do have one feedback to give - the audio quality is not great in most videos. It would be immensely helpful if you could use the sort microphones built for podcasting and YT video creation.
Thank you for helping me in writting an email to my dad and sister that took a week to do and it was hard! I know was not working to know what can work and not work in my family! I appreciate the insights of words of wisdom!
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Teal, how the heck do you do this! You are both a Spiritual Shaman and Psychological Wizard all in one! Words of wisdom just pour out of you endlessly! I'm jaw on the floor every time I listen, I've never heard such profound Truths compressed into every post! So glad I found you. Now I just have to pay attention and figure out a way out of my Relationshit.
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True beacon of awaked awerness on this planet...thx for every beam of light and love that is emanating from your being...btw your name should me Real not Teal couse u are 4REAL😁💗
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And feeling stuck not able to go anywhere in life and just going round and round ,,,,,,,,knowing what needs to be done but never acting on it......what is it I'm very miserable
I've noticed with myself that until the misery is not absolutely devastating very often I'm not able to do much. The pain has to become large to break that cycle
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This is the most effective priceless. Pre- holidays Therapy session any one of us could have access to. A True Fishbone for all those of us facing a constant and obstinate life case of unworkability. I personally take the entire presentation and filling in the blanks with everything fitting the description of unworkability In and around me , that is how I drink the poison and chase it with the remedy, This presentation if applied is The pill that heals many ill.
i am unworkable but not because I don’t want to be workable, I was just always working towards the wrong thing or the wrong way. thank you, now I know to work around things with others!
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Lmao I was listening to your video about anger and thought oh right I do feel angry because things seem unworkable in my family and relationships. How fitting
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Teal, maybe can you talk about Surrender? Like surrender to who or what? but what about take-over? what about evil and hostility? Surrender seems to be a common recommendation in certain spiritual circles, but I can't just blindly obey... Could you shed some light on how to ... surrender ... properly, if it's really in our and everyone's best interests? -- On second thought, maybe a #short... ?
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I feel I can look at my own unworkabilities because I am willing. People who come to you are on the spiritual growth path and leaving with a better understanding of their self, of life and of people. So that portion of the population is coming to you, but then you have another population of people who tend to go nothing wrong with me, and, if there is a problem it's now become your problem because they blame you, basically, now you're their scape goat
My mom gossips nonstop about me and the other people she looks down upon and is completely unworkable in that aspect. She turned basically everyone in my immediate family against me and now my extended family needs to choose between a relationship with my mom or with me. Ugh. I know it’s a lack of significance that she has but there’s nothing she is willing to do. I was always the one to initiate therapy and have the harder conversations. I’ve basically begged her to change to no avail. Idk I might still try some of these things but really I think there’s nothing to be done but accept she is the way she is and doesn’t really have a place in my life anymore. I believe it is wrong to gossip badly about your own children... Like talking to get advice from a select few is one thing but to simply talk bad without any real advice reflected back is just not helpful.
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This is a great talk! So unworkability can mean death or hibernation? Depending on if you are Willing to see it in your Self. Put your mask on first and love your Self like no one else. Be the water 💧 🙈🙉🙊 Free Will is my super power
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@@TealSwanOfficial I have watched it but u can't move forward and work with those...... actually I know everything that needs to be done but u still can't do those things
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Wow, what serendipitous timing, Teal! I have a daughter who has come to hating me from divorcing her mother. It seems "unworkable" in every way, including the manifesto of ugliness she wrote to me on Thanksgiving. I thinknyou have given me the right tools to work through this unworkable situation, correctly. Thank you!
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Thank you Teal. I've realized thanks to some good people in my life and you and your videos that I have been unworkable in possible romantic relationships because of deep seated fear and using painful methods to avoid pain.. your videos give me hope. I've been doing the work since March 2020 with a good therapist, but when I asked if I need to unpack my childhood trauma again for healing, she told me we need to do it when it comes up.. last week I got triggered so bad and i was looking for answers and I found your video about completion process. Read the book in one day and started the work. It's been up and down since.. but i feel like I will finally be able to put this all behind me and help others even.. thank you for changing my life ♥️ I wish you came to India soon
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Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together.
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together.
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My girlfriend is the type you can't confront, because when you do she makes excuses or changes/dodges the questions. I don't know if it's possible to fix her. I wonder if it's a trama in her life that caused her to be like this?
Sounds like she doesn’t feel safe being authentic or with conflict. My husband tried to fix me and it didn’t work. He then just created an environment where I could fix myself if I chose. Finally I decided I wanted to be a different person and I found my way out. Perhaps you can try and make a safe environment where she can deal with confrontation or feel confident to confront others?
@@miffedmicrobiologist6595 That's the problem I'm not trying to fix or change her I'm just not going to waste my time anymore trying to get her to answer why she has done the things she's done and why she is acting like she does.
@@supaipai420 yes because confrontation just can’t work for her. So another strategy is needed. Caesar Milan the dog whisperer had a very touching video about a dog who was abused in a research lab. No one could approach the dog, he was terrified of people. Caesar put him in a large pen and sat with his back to the dog on the ground. Finally after hours the dog slowly approached him and stood next to him. People were absolutely shocked. They has worked with this dog for years with no luck. Caesar said he created a place where the dog could feel safe. That’s all he did. Find a way to create a safe environment for your girlfriend with no expectations and see what happens.
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I want a video session with Teal because I feel safest with someone who understands what Im facing and I've seen the work she's done on some... Im just afraid that a therapist won't heal deeply or maybe quickly enough - I'm impatient now. I made a stupid mistake and it caused me to be hyper alert and amped my anxiety to the roof that I only could feel my thoughts and feelings in a very strange way. The effect is gone but I still have some awareness about it and its mega freaking me.
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processing processing processing: trying to untangle the mess in my mind while I watch this video... how did I create this? and why? why why why? why oh why God why? what's the lesson? what must I unlearn? falling for a man: obsessed with health and fitness. and me? diabetic. fat. overweight: my whole life. he's vegan. I love meat. he's a fitness trainer. leisure walks are the only exercise I get. I have a bad back, I can't do much. fitness is far from my thing. for him: fitness is EVERYTHING. why would I do this to myself? why why why? fall for a man that would/could never: fall for me back?
I am dealing now with the unworkability of a neighbour who is purposely parking on my parking lot and listening to tv LOUD for hours at nights and i cannot rest in peace in my own home. I am looking for solutions to talk to him or to move again which I hope it's not gonna be because of his unworkability to live in harmony in a community of people. I will talk to him again and other people to him and see if he can really realize the consequences of his behaviour
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I'm tired of people being lazy. I like to be busy and I usually don't complain about work. It has to be done. Someone's got to do it. It's especially nice when people pick up after them selves, ADULTS! I make huge messes but I clean them up. I can't imagine going to someone's house and just leaving a mess I made. But you know what I learned, I won't have nothing to do if someone else does it 😁 it's a conundrum. However, when i do that, i enable people to be lazy. It's about setting small goals for your self. If you do one thing a day, look what you did in a year. Be more disciplined it's your life no one else's. What really burns me up when someone what's me to clean their room. It's YOUR SPACE make it as inviting as possible...❤️🤷 I can't IMAGINE someone cleaning my room. Smh.
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you could apply the principle of unworkability to your own personal dynamics. What if the part of your personality that persists in unsuitable, self-destructive, or addictive behaviors, feels unworkable to the rest of you that is trying to reform your life? Sounds like some therapy or a lot of meditation on this might be required.
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“ Unworkability “ is a gibberish word...just throwing that out there. It is renaming an unhealthy relationship to “unworkable “. It is fascinating to see Teals life problems turned into gawbulltygoop for people who are looking for answers in the wrong place. It must be such a satisfying way to release your “insight” to adoring fans. You really are fascinating Teal.
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I would have appreciated some depth around communicating the behavior adjustments to the unworkable person. Obv you cant be malicious here, there is a lot of nuance. They might keep trying the behavior, and at some point it will come up that you need to explain why you are doing things differently.. yeah i can feel a lot of detail there. would have wished for that in this episode. also, when someone says you are hte one being unworkable, but you feel it comes from their projections, how to deal with that?
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Heres a shortcut way: Make something deliberately bad, on purpose. Like, worst possible things you can think of. Then another, then another. Have actual fun, and stop judging what youre making. Enjoy the process, enjoy making mistakes, and you begin to free yourself to create. Check out the book 'immediate fiction' by jerey cleaver. Its intended for creative writers, but his understanding of the creative process is superb, and he lists techniques and methods for getting over writers block, which is basically the exact same issue. Its one of my highest regarded books. Its well-explained, easy to understand and easy to use.
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Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together.
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Thank you Teal, you are incredible. Can you do a video on Emotion Code magnetic healing? Does it work? Is integration work different? Thank you for everything you do!
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it's 2021, we still talking war or asymmetrical adaptation? Not the way it works, it cannot not work anymore. It's really time we all download that full round respect for all thing and keep it.
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I don't know how you do it Teal. I was just now screaming and crying in a broken heap on my living room floor after the pain of finally ending the toxic relationship between myself and my partner of 2years, who has made it quite clear that no matter what he says after a blow out, he will never really change. I chose to leave the situation rather than live with the pain, disappointment and unreliability of an alcoholic boyfriend. I was just now collapsed in a heap over the grief for what he could have been if he had chosen to stay sober, and the anguish of knowing he will never change, and then you put up this video. You are amzing and I don't know how you do it. But thankyou, I am now washing my face and going for a walk in the winter sun on the beach outside my home. Thankyou. 🙏👏⭐🕉🌈🌟🕯
You got this xo
I once went through the same thing after 10 yrs. of loving someone who was totally unemotional, but I was sure he was 'the one'. I kept waiting for him to open his heart, finally realizing he just didn't have much of one to open and facing the fact that he viewed emotions with disgust. I think most women tend to fall in love with potential at some point. We need to realize that the person standing right in front of us, right NOW, is the real person. It is so obvious in hindsight, but oh so hard to see in the light of our intense feelings of love. After experiencing this intense pain, we can learn to look for what we really need, without letting desire fill in the blanks with what we want. Learning about attachment styles can help too, especially if we have a pattern of doing this. Sending virtual hugs.
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Your brave - peace and love!
Super big hugs to you dear. Sending so much love your way 💞
I don't just watch a Teal video. I turn off all other distractions, sit down, focus, and take notes. Then watch it again, and again.
And this is how brainwashing happens folks...
@@kulaniwarner7262 why not try and look at the quality of the content rather than assuming
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Thats the right way to do it
Relationships are hard …… I’m 53 and am now in a relationship with the girl who took My virginity and I hers in jr high…. We have much in common and many shared memories… we are family yet unmarried…. I feel as safe as I can in this relationship and pray 🙏 We grow old together with out any major upsets but with blessings
My husband and I are similar to you but we stayed together and are now 60. Don’t be too concerned about the difficult times. They were necessary for us to grow and we became even closer afterwards. Just honor yourself and your partner as much as possible during them including honoring their need to leave if that is the best thing for their happiness. That’s the tough part. When we gave each other to be free to be ourselves it got rough but then we concentrated on how we could adapt so both of us were happy. I tended to be too clingy ( lots of abandonment in my past) and my husband wants complete freedom. So we worked hard to find a balance to where we both felt comfortable. Then we found our accomplishments were actually helping us in other relationships outside of ours. I hope you and your beloved find the love you desire.
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And this definitely plays into people being highly agreeable or not. Agreeability. Able to compassionately listen empathise and understand and even meet someone else's needs and visa versa.
Life is too short to be around people who generate such negativity and sap your energy who let you down. Bin them and move on.
Unless it's your mother haha
Try being 50 with a "nice" but dull boring disconnected 65 yrs husband who had a sudden heart attack xmas day, now I'm his carer for at least another 6 weeks. I'm desperate to leave but also financial complexities. If I sound cold I assure you its the reverse. He literally never wanted to go out and do ANYthing. And Lawyers and courts during covid times?? Snails pace.
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That's the saddest truth I've ever realized... when you do all the things that you could do to make things work and got tired of fixing it, you changed how you deal with things, changed how you see things... until you end up adapting to their so called unworkable behavior. You ended up being used to it, so when the time comes when they finally changed, you just "ehh", it's not pleasing to you anymore... what remains is disappoinment.
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Oh my God... you just put my life in words. I'm leaving him.
My wife and I needed to hear this. Thank you Teal Swan!
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"People try to create an outwardly perfect life, but the quality of life is based on the inward."
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Classic example:
You want the house way cleaner than your live-in person does. Or they are way cleaner than you. Neither of you can compromise, as the neater one feels like they're living in a dump, and the messier one feels the constant pressure of resentment or nagging. A way to work around that unworkability is hiring a cleaner.
True...it fixes everything haha.
Try adding: "one person is cheap and won't pay for a cleaning person" or "one person is so particular and an*l in their cleaning ways, no cleaning person is ever good enough" to the mix and you are back to unworkability.
These are the 2 sides of brain lol
First, Teal. Thank you so much for posting this video. You actually described my exact situation as an example. I am so grateful; I've been stuck for so long. Second, I really appreciate the visual quality of your videos getting better. It's cool to watch! Third, your fashion is so on point. You look amazing. I really respect you. Thank you for all that you do.
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Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/unworkability/
*NOTES:*
*+* Call out and draw attention to the unworkability first = dealing with the resistance first.
e.g. someone is unworkable relative to an opinion they may be holding. Instead of arguing what that exact opinion is draw their attention to the fact that they are being unworkable relative to their opinion.
*+* From there - make the person become aware (or yourself) of what the consequences of that unworkability factor might be
(negative for you, for them, for other people involved etc.).
Drawing the conscious awareness to that unworkability is like a high-intensity light beam on a block of ice = it melts.
Figure out what positive purpose that unworkability itself serves and what positive purpose being unworkable serves.
e.g. someone is unworkable considering other people's opinions. His positive purpose behind that could be that he feels like he can keep sense of himself and keep his own truth which is the opposite of his eneshment in childhood.
Ask yourself: Is there a different way to go about meeting the need or fulfilling the want that is inherent in that positive intention that is gluing the person to their unworkability?
The person has a choice then.
*+* Make sure that something is genuinely unworkable. Many people decide that a situation is unworkable when it totally IS workable.
Also, if the person still communicates that he/she won't change a thing, ACCEPT the fact that the situation actually IS unworkable.
AND you're gonna have to accept unworkability when your effort you keep putting forth to make sth change is causing far more suffering than you would be caused by just accepting that something is just unworkable and trying to work around it.
Trying to change something unworkable = resistance = what you resist, persists
*+* Genuinely accepting unworkability puts you in a powerful choice point.
Accept that what you wanna change, will not change.
You have 3 powerful choices:
1) remove yourself from that situation entirely
2) keep suffering there
3) see that you have all kinds of options in between. An alternative to those two previous extremes.
Your notes are impeccable, I read these before watching the video whew you’re an excellent note taker
Nice. It helps.
Thank you for these notes. They are very helpful!
You're welcome 🤓
The time was 5:55 as I finished watching this & boy was it divine timing to see this.
I love this! The example of the man who became paralyzed and having to adapt to that because it's unworkable creating modification/making things accessible to the person is so crucial but people rarely get it!
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@@mariaedwar1709 what are you not understanding?
@@mariaedwar1709 you didn't comment on the main video you replied to a comment on it.
Every video is an eye opener, what a video, need to watch it over and over, thx you for being there for us
Congratulations on 1 million subscribers! 👏🏽 🥳
You came out with this right when I needed it. Thanks Teal! ♥︎
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This is a severly relevant and timely revelation. Thank you. Brilliant.
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14:22 How can we tell the difference between un workability and personal boundaries?
I think there are layers of toxicity in my relationship, and one thing I’m struggling with is that we seam to want different things… my boundary of holding my non-negotiables could be seen as unworkable to my partner. Thanks for all your wonderful content Teal!
I understand completely what you mean. I wanted to say this at the start of the video but I thought I'd better wait until the end. For example like accepting my Mom for who and what she is so all her traits good and negative ones together it means I have no desire to want to or feel the need for her to change, and it does put me in control because I don't waste my time getting hurt and I can get a better grip on the situation and for me not to get hurt by her being be who she's not.
Mom is who she is but cycle going around within her, her desire to want to shape and mould me into place...
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Your videos are magic. Truly, the sort of insight and understanding I get is not something I've gotten in other places.
I do have one feedback to give - the audio quality is not great in most videos. It would be immensely helpful if you could use the sort microphones built for podcasting and YT video creation.
Thank you for helping me in writting an email to my dad and sister that took a week to do and it was hard! I know was not working to know what can work and not work in my family! I appreciate the insights of words of wisdom!
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Teal, how the heck do you do this!
You are both a Spiritual Shaman and Psychological Wizard all in one! Words of wisdom just pour out of you endlessly! I'm jaw on the floor every time I listen,
I've never heard such profound Truths compressed into every post! So glad I found you.
Now I just have to pay attention and figure out a way out of my Relationshit.
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Morning Tea love the rings the peacock shirt and the sun hitting the red highlights. Looking like a beautiful day.
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Teal dropping this gem just in time for the holidays.
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Serenity prayer!
True beacon of awaked awerness on this planet...thx for every beam of light and love that is emanating from your being...btw your name should me Real not Teal couse u are 4REAL😁💗
Blessings to all ,this come at the exact moment I needed it, you are something else Teal, thanks!
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Just what i needed!
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Thank you, Devine timing, I can only change myself. 🦋
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I cannot thank you enough your a genuine geenyes !!
And feeling stuck not able to go anywhere in life and just going round and round ,,,,,,,,knowing what needs to be done but never acting on it......what is it I'm very miserable
I've noticed with myself that until the misery is not absolutely devastating very often I'm not able to do much. The pain has to become large to break that cycle
Maybe try finding the benefit for yourself of not acting.
@@lesaspravka1173 the benifit is my emotional needs are getting met
Earlier those were never met as I had childhood neglect trauma
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This is the most effective priceless. Pre- holidays Therapy session any one of us could have access to. A True Fishbone for all those of us facing a constant and obstinate life case of unworkability. I personally take the entire presentation and filling in the blanks with everything fitting the description of unworkability In and around me , that is how I drink the poison and chase it with the remedy, This presentation if applied is The pill that heals many ill.
i am unworkable but not because I don’t want to be workable, I was just always working towards the wrong thing or the wrong way. thank you, now I know to work around things with others!
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Thank you, Teal. 🙏
Omg congratulations on 1 million subscribers. Long overdue ♥️✨
Have a good week 😊🙏
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Lmao I was listening to your video about anger and thought oh right I do feel angry because things seem unworkable in my family and relationships. How fitting
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This is perfect and right on time. Give thanks. 🙏🏾
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Love the new background 🥰
Needed this today❤️ Thank you Teal
This is very helpful!💕
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Teal, maybe can you talk about Surrender?
Like surrender to who or what?
but what about take-over?
what about evil and hostility?
Surrender seems to be a common recommendation in certain spiritual circles, but I
can't just blindly obey... Could you shed some light on how to ... surrender ... properly, if it's really in our and everyone's best interests?
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On second thought, maybe a #short... ?
Sometimes I just can't keep in track with your words because you're so beautiful ❤️ you go girl
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Your hair looks awesome Teal!
I feel I can look at my own unworkabilities because I am willing. People who come to you are on the spiritual growth path and leaving with a better understanding of their self, of life and of people. So that portion of the population is coming to you, but then you have another population of people who tend to go nothing wrong with me, and, if there is a problem it's now become your problem because they blame you, basically, now you're their scape goat
My mom gossips nonstop about me and the other people she looks down upon and is completely unworkable in that aspect. She turned basically everyone in my immediate family against me and now my extended family needs to choose between a relationship with my mom or with me. Ugh. I know it’s a lack of significance that she has but there’s nothing she is willing to do. I was always the one to initiate therapy and have the harder conversations. I’ve basically begged her to change to no avail. Idk I might still try some of these things but really I think there’s nothing to be done but accept she is the way she is and doesn’t really have a place in my life anymore.
I believe it is wrong to gossip badly about your own children... Like talking to get advice from a select few is one thing but to simply talk bad without any real advice reflected back is just not helpful.
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Love you Teal 🙏❤️
Incredible thank you. Very relevant and beautifully resonant.
This is a great talk! So unworkability can mean death or hibernation? Depending on if you are Willing to see it in your Self. Put your mask on first and love your Self like no one else. Be the water 💧
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Free Will is my super power
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I loved the background in this video.
I need this so so much
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Hey teal we need something on loneliness
www.amazon.com/s?k=anatomy+of+loneliness&i=audible&ref=nb_sb_noss
@@TealSwanOfficial I have watched it but u can't move forward and work with those...... actually I know everything that needs to be done but u still can't do those things
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Wow, what serendipitous timing, Teal! I have a daughter who has come to hating me from divorcing her mother. It seems "unworkable" in every way, including the manifesto of ugliness she wrote to me on Thanksgiving. I thinknyou have given me the right tools to work through this unworkable situation, correctly. Thank you!
My daughter has 'divorced' me. It's the least easy thing. I've ever had to live with
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This was very helpful!
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I was just thinking about this... TY
Thanks for the awareness 🙏🏻
Love and gratitude 🖤
THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ❣️
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The timing of this.
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Thank you thank you thank you ❤️
Thank you Teal. I've realized thanks to some good people in my life and you and your videos that I have been unworkable in possible romantic relationships because of deep seated fear and using painful methods to avoid pain.. your videos give me hope. I've been doing the work since March 2020 with a good therapist, but when I asked if I need to unpack my childhood trauma again for healing, she told me we need to do it when it comes up.. last week I got triggered so bad and i was looking for answers and I found your video about completion process. Read the book in one day and started the work. It's been up and down since.. but i feel like I will finally be able to put this all behind me and help others even.. thank you for changing my life ♥️ I wish you came to India soon
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Dear Teal i am eagerly waiting for you predictions on 2022. You were always right in your predictions.
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Thank you Teal, you give me more information to decide want need to do next.
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Thank you 😊
Thank you.
6:31 most important point
LETS GO TEAL!!!
Love you Teal Swan
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🙌🏼 thankyou ❤️🤗
I've done what Teal has suggested on my lying, cheating partner. Now after a decade, I am done with my unworkable partner.
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Keen for your 2022 video, please may there more fun exploration, and technological advancements
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My girlfriend is the type you can't confront, because when you do she makes excuses or changes/dodges the questions. I don't know if it's possible to fix her. I wonder if it's a trama in her life that caused her to be like this?
Sounds like she doesn’t feel safe being authentic or with conflict. My husband tried to fix me and it didn’t work. He then just created an environment where I could fix myself if I chose. Finally I decided I wanted to be a different person and I found my way out. Perhaps you can try and make a safe environment where she can deal with confrontation or feel confident to confront others?
@@miffedmicrobiologist6595 That's the problem I'm not trying to fix or change her I'm just not going to waste my time anymore trying to get her to answer why she has done the things she's done and why she is acting like she does.
@@supaipai420 yes because confrontation just can’t work for her. So another strategy is needed. Caesar Milan the dog whisperer had a very touching video about a dog who was abused in a research lab. No one could approach the dog, he was terrified of people. Caesar put him in a large pen and sat with his back to the dog on the ground. Finally after hours the dog slowly approached him and stood next to him. People were absolutely shocked. They has worked with this dog for years with no luck. Caesar said he created a place where the dog could feel safe. That’s all he did. Find a way to create a safe environment for your girlfriend with no expectations and see what happens.
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How do you know what we need exactily? 😲❤️
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I want a video session with Teal because I feel safest with someone who understands what Im facing and I've seen the work she's done on some...
Im just afraid that a therapist won't heal deeply or maybe quickly enough - I'm impatient now.
I made a stupid mistake and it caused me to be hyper alert and amped my anxiety to the roof that I only could feel my thoughts and feelings in a very strange way.
The effect is gone but I still have some awareness about it and its mega freaking me.
Well regarding the video , I opted all three , well ,depends on the person.
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give thanks
processing processing processing:
trying to untangle the mess
in my mind
while I watch this video...
how did I create this?
and why? why why why?
why oh why God why?
what's the lesson?
what must I unlearn?
falling for a man:
obsessed with health and fitness.
and me? diabetic. fat. overweight: my whole life.
he's vegan.
I love meat.
he's a fitness trainer.
leisure walks are the only exercise I get.
I have a bad back, I can't do much.
fitness is far from my thing.
for him: fitness is EVERYTHING.
why would I do this to myself? why why why?
fall for a man that would/could never: fall for me back?
I am dealing now with the unworkability of a neighbour who is purposely parking on my parking lot and listening to tv LOUD for hours at nights and i cannot rest in peace in my own home. I am looking for solutions to talk to him or to move again which I hope it's not gonna be because of his unworkability to live in harmony in a community of people. I will talk to him again and other people to him and see if he can really realize the consequences of his behaviour
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I'm tired of people being lazy. I like to be busy and I usually don't complain about work. It has to be done. Someone's got to do it. It's especially nice when people pick up after them selves, ADULTS! I make huge messes but I clean them up. I can't imagine going to someone's house and just leaving a mess I made.
But you know what I learned, I won't have nothing to do if someone else does it 😁 it's a conundrum. However, when i do that, i enable people to be lazy.
It's about setting small goals for your self. If you do one thing a day, look what you did in a year. Be more disciplined it's your life no one else's. What really burns me up when someone what's me to clean their room. It's YOUR SPACE make it as inviting as possible...❤️🤷 I can't IMAGINE someone cleaning my room. Smh.
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you could apply the principle of unworkability to your own personal dynamics. What if the part of your personality that persists in unsuitable, self-destructive, or addictive behaviors, feels unworkable to the rest of you that is trying to reform your life? Sounds like some therapy or a lot of meditation on this might be required.
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“ Unworkability “ is a gibberish word...just throwing that out there. It is renaming an unhealthy relationship to “unworkable “. It is fascinating to see Teals life problems turned into gawbulltygoop for people who are looking for answers in the wrong place. It must be such a satisfying way to release your “insight” to adoring fans. You really are fascinating Teal.
Your trauma is showing
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I would have appreciated some depth around communicating the behavior adjustments to the unworkable person. Obv you cant be malicious here, there is a lot of nuance. They might keep trying the behavior, and at some point it will come up that you need to explain why you are doing things differently.. yeah i can feel a lot of detail there. would have wished for that in this episode. also, when someone says you are hte one being unworkable, but you feel it comes from their projections, how to deal with that?
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Can you speak about overcoming art block in a video? 🙏🏼
Heres a shortcut way: Make something deliberately bad, on purpose. Like, worst possible things you can think of. Then another, then another. Have actual fun, and stop judging what youre making. Enjoy the process, enjoy making mistakes, and you begin to free yourself to create.
Check out the book 'immediate fiction' by jerey cleaver. Its intended for creative writers, but his understanding of the creative process is superb, and he lists techniques and methods for getting over writers block, which is basically the exact same issue. Its one of my highest regarded books. Its well-explained, easy to understand and easy to use.
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I imagine that these examples are too, too real for Teal.
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Yes!
Nothing allowed to change
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I have a child with an unworkable man. I feel completely stuck for so many reasons.
hugs honey , me too
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How do you deal with unworkablity on communication with someone, or they just no longer want to talk anymore
Thank you Teal, you are incredible. Can you do a video on Emotion Code magnetic healing? Does it work? Is integration work different? Thank you for everything you do!
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The pyramid with the All-Seeing eye... (Background) just like in the US 1 Dollar bill.
Be blessed
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What's that triangle painting with and eye in the middle in the background? Lol 😳
I want to live in your reality, Mary.
This is helpfu
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Love ❤️ Me some Teal
it's 2021, we still talking war or asymmetrical adaptation? Not the way it works, it cannot not work anymore. It's really time we all download that full round respect for all thing and keep it.
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Namaste 🙏❤☝👊
Please turn up the talking volume when you’re editing. I always have to turn it up to hear and them commercials are so loud.
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