These types of simple slogans don't address the complexity of human interaction. For example- This slogan fits just fine for pets, since they are not credited with possessing disguised manipulation techniques, or fighting previous battles, or carrying emotional baggage. But people know people are self-unaware, and that the 'something wrong' is not really or only about what is immediately happening. Yet they don't know what to do about it, so they must let it slide, and try to earn trust, for the benefit-of-the-doubt about their true motivation. Without trust and appreciation providing 'the free pass' in judgment, it's all hopeless and pointless, anyway, problems or not.
Growing up in an alcoholic/addicted family this was almost every day from my parents.. they thought they were doing what was right by pretending the traumatic events I saw never happened but it was utter confusion.. but I choose to see it as an asset now that I have been healing.. I was raised to question everything but I still love and trust people because I am disabled and have no choice but to rely on others... I talked to the trees because they were always there and relatively constant.. I was never indoctrinated into a dogma and I naturally questioned authority... It was a confusing childhood but I think I woke up sooner than I would have if I hadn't gone through all that
Chisti Stackhouse......I think so too, its a whole new reality when you finally know that everything was always our own creation...blows my mind☮💜☯️🕉♾🙏
I too had similar childhood and I totally admit that my childhood experiences might have helped in accelerating my awakening process but I feel I will carry the experiences and their shadows in my whole adult life. Any tips for healing that or mindset shift advice ?!?!
My partner gives me a silent treatment, almost all the time. Every time I’m trying to TALK, kindly and respectfully, with love… he says we don’t have any problems to talk about and that I should stop looking for issues and “stop arguing” 😩 I am so frustrated, so lonely. Why do I even allow this in my life??? I do love him, he has a good heart, but I feel his childhood thought him to never show any emotions other than “happy ones”. He seems “happy” on the outside, but totally unavailable emotionally. It really is killing me, I have no idea how to deal with it, nothing seem to work.
I have a similar issue... and ended up cheating, to feel emotions and someone else's emotions... I don't know what to do, as it's been almost 2 years I tried to improve the relationship ☹️
Whoa! Thank you for sharing. This was literally my ex fiancé. I had a 5 karat 💍 and had let it all go. Didn’t get married. 1.5 year later, I am completely happy (single) but so enriched and open with emotion. It possible for you. 🙏🏼🪴☀️ wishing you everything you desire
You might want to learn about dismissive and fearful avoidant attachment styles, and see if that fits your situation. I wasted 10 yrs. on someone with dismissive avoidance w/o understanding what was wrong. I felt just like you, and could not stand living in an emotional desert.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉
I do agree that it means something to get in the ring with someone. It does show it is worth fighting for. Instead of walking away. But . Some people are just argumentative. They get some kind of enjoyment out of conflict? They love the drama? They love just messing and agitating others as a means of fun. That's an issue.
I spent 2 and a half hours last night watching your interview on what happened to you throughout your childhood. My heart goes out to you and I hope for healing in every way! I am so happy you’re here to spread your story!
This is one of your BEST videos about relationships! 🙌 Grateful for the many insights you've shared, which make me understand others, but most importantly myself better. ✨
This video reminds me of the meme of the dog in the burning house and he says "everything is fine" Edit: omg I made this comment halfway through the video and at the end they put the meme 😆
The more I interact with humans the less I want to!! My cat is so much easier to be in relationship with than all my previous relationships with men!! Love you Teal🙏💗💞
And women 😕 you think women have the best interest at heart until you get to know them. It's like meeting another person entirely, it's frustrating, and annoying,you just want to quit on the world and everything. I can't have a deep, serious conversation without a girl/women without being completely ghosted, ghastly,or given the silent treatment. You tend to be done with that BS,and leave frustrated and done with life; they'll blame you for leaving,for not working it out, understanding, being enough, strong or anything at this point,but never looked at themselves on what they did. And those that do just quit right away.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️🔥
There she is, calling me out again with the synchronicities and everything. *Sigh* Okay Teal, I understood. Guess I can't procrastinate no more and I got to apply that knowledge in practice. Real talk though, the synchronicity regarding your videos and my life is truly incredible. It's like for half a year you have been talking to me, choosing certain subjects that applied to my life specifically. It's uncomfortable, but it makes the expansion faster, not gonna lie. So thank you.
Perfect timing with this. Thank you! I have finally decided to heal these wounds within myself than trying to get my mother (who inflicted them initially) to understand...
I am in a 2year relationship and this has been happening since after the first 6 months of the relationship. I needed this video like i need air. Thank you 🙏🏻
100% describes my relationship to my step mother right now. she doesn't want resolve, she doesn't want to hear what hurt me. she just wants to pretend it never happened and move on. i can't. so we haven't spoken in over a year and i am at a loss as to how to continue a relationship if she just wants to pick up where we left off right before the fight.
"Why do you remember the bad stuff? I choose to remember the good stuff. I can't even remember anything you did bad to me because I make a choice not to hold on to those things."
Ive watched this bf. But this time Im in a totally different place. After abt 3 years of ruminating abt a person who "hurt" me, and discovering my blindspots, I had to accept a few unpleasant truths that Teal brings up here. 1) The person was in pain and was using me as supply to null the pain, 2) because of my codependency patterns of martyr and savior, i was willing to play the role of shameless supplier, 3) therefore when the person "hurt" me, I pretended nothing was wrong bc i was on my spiritual high horse and "healing this person (while neglecting myself), and 4) when i couldnt handle it anymore, I expected the other person to all of a sudden care abt me and my feelings yet not acknowledging the whole time I was pretending to be a Superhero I was not and not setting firm expectation verbally. Contrary to past unconscious perspectives, withdrawal is not an example of setting boundaries and confronting an issue! There's no coming back from this with a person who doesnt have a lot of tolerance for emotional pain and capacity for moving through feelings of shame and lacking the full ability to self-reflect. I, on the other hand, prob hurt this person even more by suggesting a personality disorder and the need to see a therapist. Im currently learning how to take care of myself by focusing on meeting my own needs, setting boundaries and letting others figure out how to heal themselves, and speaking up immediately when i feel taken advantage of, wronged, and hurt, and continuing to work through these codepen patterns and the shame that comes with it. Breaking this caretaking pattern and learning to tale care of my needs brings some tough grey days as I have to confront my own pain but I understand the necessity. Thank you, Teal, for affirming recent revelations and opening the space for courageous spirits to step in and heal for the betterment of humanity.🙏🏽
this made me realize i’m the one gaslighting when all along i was blaming him for it. time to slap myself awake again. thank you teal, i forever love your mirror
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥
Teal, You have become seriously good at creating videos that can be translated 100% from individual to collective - and then dropping hints along the way ; )
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥
Thank you a lot. This video showed me a light in an endless abyss in which I was for almost 3 years. Now I know the problem between me and my girlfriend with whom I have been together for 6 years. I cant thank you enough Teal❤️😭
Yes. Telling me how horrible I am one minute then sending me a nicey nice text a hour later “love you” finally at 39 years old I’ve realized wtf she’s been doing this entire time. Slowly backing away and setting boundaries as she is not willing to admit to any wrong doing in her mean words.
Goodness. This explains a lot about my relationship with my ex. I wish I could have seen this video years ago, but I am grateful to have this information now. Thank you, Teal 💚 one love
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉
Thanks for making this video. Each time someone hurt me pretty badly and gaslight me by pretending like nothing happen, I each time fight with the incredible desire to punch the person but I don't cause if I react they will instantly portray me as the "bad guy" for refusing to play their game. I thought for a while that this strategy was in fact a zero sum game. That is, by hurting me and later behaving like nothing happened they instantly shift the responsibility of the conflict on me and if I refuse I will instantly appear as the bad person but if I accept to play their game I lose my authenticity in the process so it was really a no win scenario for me
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉
First sentence _ totally description of my grannie. She would say something hurtful and then invite to the way table ... I felt as being turned into different sides ... Not one time experience
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️🔥
This happened to me yesterday when I told my mother that I was molested while the abuser was standing there and the whole time he kept saying that it never happened and threatened to shoot me and then the police did NOTHING , they kept coming more than three times and not only that they put the gun in the care of my abuser and told him that he can go and that they can’t take the gun from him even though I am stressed && that I fear for my life. The abuser abused me in more than one way and idk what to do I want to get out of this toxic Family, I am tired of having to be the parent and have to consider my abusers feelings and not “trigger” them. The police made me leave the house after when I told so that the abuser could calm down and relax when that night I never slept and kept trying to figure out where I can go or live. I’m willing to do whatever I have to , to get out of this abusive family....I’m ready to go....I can’t handle this anymore I feel like the world cares more about my abuser than me. I can’t heal in here...I need help but don’t know what to do
I am sorry you are going through this horrible experience. Try and find a teacher or someone you trust to talk to.I hope you get the help you need...stay strong.
Divine timing. Watched the movie Downhill (with Will Farrel) last night. Almost every if not all points mentioned here, came by. Very insightful. Thank you Teal
My husband is this way. And he is an alcoholic. He tries to make my adult daughter the reason for everything wrong in his life. He is digging deeper everyday. And everyday I contemplate leaving. My daughter doesn't live with us either. It's really messed up.
I pretended like everything was ok, get pushed, shoved, wake up the next day like nothing happened. Until one day, my daughter saw me in the floor screaming, and I felt swung around like a rag doll. My husband had no regard for my well being, I felt I could be killed if I pretended one more day. That was it. I should have left the first year, not more than a decade later.
I love all your videos and Learned very much thanks..Please raise the volume of the next videos or get the mic nearer to you because the volume is very low whatever I do and your videos needs alot of concentration ..thanks in advance
I feel how this resonates with the last live you did on Instagram. Thank you for sharing a hole video on it! I’ll need to rewatch this multiple time do assimilate everything on every story I lived ❤️
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪
THANK YOU TEAL SWAN, I am so greatful for your video's and your beautiful soul for helping me through what's become now my hardest time in life... thus far..I have yet to come across a video that I wasn't, very much and at times, in desperate need of. Your an Inspiration,( which I have seem to misplaced mine) so, I do greatly appreciate the way your helping with things that for far too long were unable to find help with, at all or even identify and be conscious of. with Wisdom & Grace you empower us all to empower,help & love ourselves as these things were not taught or demonstrated in alot of our childhoods..graciously,With Love & Light ......................Infinite 💫Star
I think this is actually a very common technique within our relationships to just keep going. Social relations are incredibly complicated I found. Instead of dealing with an issue or moving on with resolution, we tend to put a blind eye to things that bother us and that's considered also as a form of solution.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥
I have experienced this, and their denial is so small that it is actually easier to separate yourself from the completely because if they disappear into their own reality then I won't even have a problem with them reappearing in my life. The Dad who does this is completely different, you can't just get rid of him because his denial is so strong that he can ruin allot of stuff just from being around.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️🔥
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥
Wow! This just came up with a friend's friend. He took us out for a day trip and hijacked us for the whole weekend. It was horrible. He wouldn't listen to anything we told him. Finally, when he was passed out drunk, we drove home.
my boyfriend used to say to me that I am rude when I do not want to hug him and I have a bad day and I need personal space but he sheds his mental problems on me and I am fed up with being alone and I have not been able to stand alone for some time to work I'm afraid of people :(
Well, factually narcissists and codependents are not the same because there is empathy and a conscience, which separates them. You can discuss behaviours but putting them as one and the same is pretty heavy gaslighting. That being said, I really loved the video otherwise! Thank you for all these informations, especially the ones we might not see when we're in the situation. 👍🏻🙏🏼👏🏼💖 Thank you, that was one of the most helpful and insightful videos recently. ⚘🐞
I actually agree that codependency and narcissism are the same. Being a codepen, i watched one of her videos last year (forget which one) and was shocked to hear this. They are the same because the motives are the same--and that is the desire for validation and attention. Once i swallowed that bitter pill and studied my behavior objectively i was able to get better control of my relationships and break this self-defeating pattern.❤
@@aquariusstar7248 You didn't hear what I tried to say. We can argue that patterns and motivations are similar in many ways but it is factually incorrect to say that they're the same. The existence of a moral conscience and empathy is the distinct difference in both the psychology and the actions of a person. To say that this doesn't exist or doesn't make a difference is gaslighting and victim shaming.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪
I tend to acknowledge my emotions but not make much more of them than what they are, emotions or experiences wether spiritual or neuro-chemically; it doesn’t actually matter which. I also remember my past, but don’t dwell on it unless giving it a positive-comedic twist that aligns with the direction I am bringing my life in.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪
I have seen all these patterns with narcissitic individual yes that's true they dont want any relationship only supply. And when I realized that I left.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪
Solution #2 doesn’t work. A person who has anger & rage issues who gaslights you & blames you is NOT interested in hearing or acknowledging your perspective.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️
The samurai, in their practice would meditate on their death. They would visualize being dismembered in every with way. Swords, explosive, ripped apart. This way, when they came to battle they would have already experienced it, therefore fearless. A basketball player does the same laying in bed, visualizing three pointers. Actors will visualize scenes. The archer, a bulls eye. In this way, you can be prepared for anything tomorrow may bring. Maybe we can say dreams are a way of doing thos for us as well?
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️
Thank you Teal 💖 I know you’ve been moving away from esoteric talk but can you explain what’s happening during sleep paralysis? I just got it again after years of not, and it was horrifying. Luckily I called on God and it instantly stopped. Causes? Preventions? Thank you
I would like to hear her perspective too. I hadnt had one in years and had a series of them last year that was really intense! In the process i learned to surrender and use my mind to focus on a positive thought. Came again this year just a few months ago. This time both myself and the person in the dream experienced it. Was strange to watch sb else in the dream be paralyzed by an invisible entity. These moments lasted about 5 secs each and then gone. In the dream we just both looked at each other and telepathically decided to not give it attention to avoid giving it anymore power. Whatever the psych projection is must be diminishing.
Seriously - people can ‘debunk’ Teal all they like - but take some time to really absorb any one of her videos - this one was a doozy - and I defy anyone to say they don’t get some - or in fact immense - insight from it. Every. Single. Sentence. Delivers. Value. And. Truth. Anyone who can’t see this is either very inexperienced in life or very deluded.
I really, really wonder off soaking in these episodes. But, I set a stool in the corner of my room so if anything wants to, can sit down while I talk within the boundaries of my heart. Am I pretending and building a false reality for myself? Doesn't my heart know what is real?
“They don’t get to decide they didn’t hurt you. You don’t get to decide you didn’t hurt them.” Hits so hard.
These types of simple slogans don't address the complexity of human interaction. For example- This slogan fits just fine for pets, since they are not credited with possessing disguised manipulation techniques, or fighting previous battles, or carrying emotional baggage.
But people know people are self-unaware, and that the 'something wrong' is not really or only about what is immediately happening. Yet they don't know what to do about it, so they must let it slide, and try to earn trust, for the benefit-of-the-doubt about their true motivation. Without trust and appreciation providing 'the free pass' in judgment, it's all hopeless and pointless, anyway, problems or not.
Very true.
#PerceptionIsEverything
Growing up in an alcoholic/addicted family this was almost every day from my parents.. they thought they were doing what was right by pretending the traumatic events I saw never happened but it was utter confusion.. but I choose to see it as an asset now that I have been healing.. I was raised to question everything but I still love and trust people because I am disabled and have no choice but to rely on others... I talked to the trees because they were always there and relatively constant.. I was never indoctrinated into a dogma and I naturally questioned authority... It was a confusing childhood but I think I woke up sooner than I would have if I hadn't gone through all that
Sounds like we lived in the same house,growing up. I feel you and I get what you are saying.✌️♥️😊
@@christinahutton9983 ☮️❤️🕊️
Yes, honey I’m the same !!!
Chisti Stackhouse......I think so too, its a whole new reality when you finally know that everything was always our own creation...blows my mind☮💜☯️🕉♾🙏
I too had similar childhood and I totally admit that my childhood experiences might have helped in accelerating my awakening process but I feel I will carry the experiences and their shadows in my whole adult life. Any tips for healing that or mindset shift advice ?!?!
My partner gives me a silent treatment, almost all the time. Every time I’m trying to TALK, kindly and respectfully, with love… he says we don’t have any problems to talk about and that I should stop looking for issues and “stop arguing” 😩 I am so frustrated, so lonely. Why do I even allow this in my life??? I do love him, he has a good heart, but I feel his childhood thought him to never show any emotions other than “happy ones”. He seems “happy” on the outside, but totally unavailable emotionally. It really is killing me, I have no idea how to deal with it, nothing seem to work.
I have a similar issue... and ended up cheating, to feel emotions and someone else's emotions... I don't know what to do, as it's been almost 2 years I tried to improve the relationship ☹️
Whoa! Thank you for sharing. This was literally my ex fiancé. I had a 5 karat 💍 and had let it all go. Didn’t get married. 1.5 year later, I am completely happy (single) but so enriched and open with emotion. It possible for you. 🙏🏼🪴☀️ wishing you everything you desire
You might want to learn about dismissive and fearful avoidant attachment styles, and see if that fits your situation. I wasted 10 yrs. on someone with dismissive avoidance w/o understanding what was wrong. I felt just like you, and could not stand living in an emotional desert.
have you tried electrocution?
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉
Confrontation is caring. Confronting an issue is saying "this relationship matters." Don't avoid it. Care enough NOT to play along.
Thank you.
Yes ❤
I do agree that it means something to get in the ring with someone. It does show it is worth fighting for. Instead of walking away. But . Some people are just argumentative. They get some kind of enjoyment out of conflict? They love the drama? They love just messing and agitating others as a means of fun. That's an issue.
I spent 2 and a half hours last night watching your interview on what happened to you throughout your childhood. My heart goes out to you and I hope for healing in every way! I am so happy you’re here to spread your story!
really pisses me off when people do this, not just in relationships. Like so short sighted and ignorant. Thanks for the video!
Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/pretendingnothingswrong/
She is amazing, dedicated and what she talks about is spot on.
This is one of your BEST videos about relationships! 🙌 Grateful for the many insights you've shared, which make me understand others, but most importantly myself better. ✨
This video reminds me of the meme of the dog in the burning house and he says "everything is fine"
Edit: omg I made this comment halfway through the video and at the end they put the meme 😆
The more I interact with humans the less I want to!! My cat is so much easier to be in relationship with than all my previous relationships with men!!
Love you Teal🙏💗💞
Hey, I have kitties too.........
This ... people are utterly exhausting. Love my cat - he's _always_ a love. 💗
What men did you pick? Be accountable.
And women 😕 you think women have the best interest at heart until you get to know them. It's like meeting another person entirely, it's frustrating, and annoying,you just want to quit on the world and everything. I can't have a deep, serious conversation without a girl/women without being completely ghosted, ghastly,or given the silent treatment. You tend to be done with that BS,and leave frustrated and done with life; they'll blame you for leaving,for not working it out, understanding, being enough, strong or anything at this point,but never looked at themselves on what they did. And those that do just quit right away.
Gaslighted*
I always wanna talk to much about stuff..and it kinda has had the same effect... 😖
I feel you 😔
And if im too exhausted or intoxicated i have to spend more energy calming down internal problems and its quite a challenge.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️🔥
There she is, calling me out again with the synchronicities and everything. *Sigh* Okay Teal, I understood. Guess I can't procrastinate no more and I got to apply that knowledge in practice.
Real talk though, the synchronicity regarding your videos and my life is truly incredible. It's like for half a year you have been talking to me, choosing certain subjects that applied to my life specifically. It's uncomfortable, but it makes the expansion faster, not gonna lie.
So thank you.
Perfect timing with this. Thank you! I have finally decided to heal these wounds within myself than trying to get my mother (who inflicted them initially) to understand...
I am in a 2year relationship and this has been happening since after the first 6 months of the relationship. I needed this video like i need air. Thank you 🙏🏻
Lmk how it goes it sucks
100% describes my relationship to my step mother right now. she doesn't want resolve, she doesn't want to hear what hurt me. she just wants to pretend it never happened and move on. i can't. so we haven't spoken in over a year and i am at a loss as to how to continue a relationship if she just wants to pick up where we left off right before the fight.
"Why do you remember the bad stuff? I choose to remember the good stuff. I can't even remember anything you did bad to me because I make a choice not to hold on to those things."
Who is Mohammed Umar?
Ive watched this bf. But this time Im in a totally different place. After abt 3 years of ruminating abt a person who "hurt" me, and discovering my blindspots, I had to accept a few unpleasant truths that Teal brings up here. 1) The person was in pain and was using me as supply to null the pain, 2) because of my codependency patterns of martyr and savior, i was willing to play the role of shameless supplier, 3) therefore when the person "hurt" me, I pretended nothing was wrong bc i was on my spiritual high horse and "healing this person (while neglecting myself), and 4) when i couldnt handle it anymore, I expected the other person to all of a sudden care abt me and my feelings yet not acknowledging the whole time I was pretending to be a Superhero I was not and not setting firm expectation verbally. Contrary to past unconscious perspectives, withdrawal is not an example of setting boundaries and confronting an issue! There's no coming back from this with a person who doesnt have a lot of tolerance for emotional pain and capacity for moving through feelings of shame and lacking the full ability to self-reflect. I, on the other hand, prob hurt this person even more by suggesting a personality disorder and the need to see a therapist. Im currently learning how to take care of myself by focusing on meeting my own needs, setting boundaries and letting others figure out how to heal themselves, and speaking up immediately when i feel taken advantage of, wronged, and hurt, and continuing to work through these codepen patterns and the shame that comes with it. Breaking this caretaking pattern and learning to tale care of my needs brings some tough grey days as I have to confront my own pain but I understand the necessity. Thank you, Teal, for affirming recent revelations and opening the space for courageous spirits to step in and heal for the betterment of humanity.🙏🏽
this made me realize i’m the one gaslighting when all along i was blaming him for it. time to slap myself awake again. thank you teal, i forever love your mirror
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥
Teal, You have become seriously good at creating videos that can be translated 100% from individual to collective - and then dropping hints along the way ; )
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥
I am literally dealing with this in my marriage, today... I am amazed at your timing.
Thank you a lot. This video showed me a light in an endless abyss in which I was for almost 3 years. Now I know the problem between me and my girlfriend with whom I have been together for 6 years. I cant thank you enough Teal❤️😭
The definition of my mother. Yelling one minute, being sweet the next. 🤢
Yes! It makes an addiction and invisible strings. Our own sense of self will be SO UNIQUE 💛
This is my soon to be ex husband.
This is very disturbing for a child. My heart goes out for you.
Yes. Telling me how horrible I am one minute then sending me a nicey nice text a hour later “love you” finally at 39 years old I’ve realized wtf she’s been doing this entire time. Slowly backing away and setting boundaries as she is not willing to admit to any wrong doing in her mean words.
So she have trauma too. 😞
Goodness. This explains a lot about my relationship with my ex. I wish I could have seen this video years ago, but I am grateful to have this information now. Thank you, Teal 💚 one love
Timely gift, Devine synchrony, thanks beloved Teal, I owe you another one!
It's hard but true!!!
I forgot it was Saturday thank you for keeping me on track 😂
Me too haha!
Same 😂
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉
Thanks for making this video. Each time someone hurt me pretty badly and gaslight me by pretending like nothing happen, I each time fight with the incredible desire to punch the person but I don't cause if I react they will instantly portray me as the "bad guy" for refusing to play their game. I thought for a while that this strategy was in fact a zero sum game. That is, by hurting me and later behaving like nothing happened they instantly shift the responsibility of the conflict on me and if I refuse I will instantly appear as the bad person but if I accept to play their game I lose my authenticity in the process so it was really a no win scenario for me
This validated me. I was right for divorcing him. Nothing would have changed
Validation should come from within
Thanks Teal. You're brilliant !!!
YET AGAIN - this is about exactly what is going on in my life. Most helpful and informative and an interesting and different take on narcissism
I really needed this. Thank you infinitely.
THank you teal, I think the universe is helping me thru you. I really needed this advice , my relationship is a mess.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉
Beautifully explained once again! Thank you, Teal!
Wow this was the best relationship advice I have ever listened, need to listen every week. 🙏
First sentence _ totally description of my grannie. She would say something hurtful and then invite to the way table ... I felt as being turned into different sides ... Not one time experience
yes, mass confusion
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️🔥
I love you, Teal!
One of Teals best in my opinion. This is such a common thing.
This happened to me yesterday when I told my mother that I was molested while the abuser was standing there and the whole time he kept saying that it never happened and threatened to shoot me and then the police did NOTHING , they kept coming more than three times and not only that they put the gun in the care of my abuser and told him that he can go and that they can’t take the gun from him even though I am stressed && that I fear for my life. The abuser abused me in more than one way and idk what to do I want to get out of this toxic Family, I am tired of having to be the parent and have to consider my abusers feelings and not “trigger” them. The police made me leave the house after when I told so that the abuser could calm down and relax when that night I never slept and kept trying to figure out where I can go or live. I’m willing to do whatever I have to , to get out of this abusive family....I’m ready to go....I can’t handle this anymore I feel like the world cares more about my abuser than me. I can’t heal in here...I need help but don’t know what to do
I am sorry you are going through this horrible experience. Try and find a teacher or someone you trust to talk to.I hope you get the help you need...stay strong.
Divine timing. Watched the movie Downhill (with Will Farrel) last night. Almost every if not all points mentioned here, came by. Very insightful. Thank you Teal
My husband is this way. And he is an alcoholic. He tries to make my adult daughter the reason for everything wrong in his life. He is digging deeper everyday. And everyday I contemplate leaving. My daughter doesn't live with us either. It's really messed up.
I pretended like everything was ok, get pushed, shoved, wake up the next day like nothing happened. Until one day, my daughter saw me in the floor screaming, and I felt swung around like a rag doll. My husband had no regard for my well being, I felt I could be killed if I pretended one more day. That was it. I should have left the first year, not more than a decade later.
This is definitely one of your best videos
I love all your videos and Learned very much thanks..Please raise the volume of the next videos or get the mic nearer to you because the volume is very low whatever I do and your videos needs alot of concentration ..thanks in advance
Hands down your best video ever!!!! Explained to perfection Teal - thank you 🙏
I feel how this resonates with the last live you did on Instagram. Thank you for sharing a hole video on it! I’ll need to rewatch this multiple time do assimilate everything on every story I lived ❤️
I was just about to message my mum a really mean message. Luckily I watched this first. Perfect timing 👌
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪
Thanks teal, this is really applicable in my life right now and I definently needed this. Thank you!❤
THANK YOU TEAL SWAN, I am so greatful for your video's and your beautiful soul for helping me through what's become now my hardest time in life... thus far..I have yet to come across a video that I wasn't, very much and at times, in desperate need of. Your an Inspiration,( which I have seem to misplaced mine) so, I do greatly appreciate the way your helping with things that for far too long were unable to find help with, at all or even identify and be conscious of. with Wisdom & Grace you empower us all to empower,help & love ourselves as these things were not taught or demonstrated in alot of our childhoods..graciously,With Love & Light ......................Infinite 💫Star
I think this is actually a very common technique within our relationships to just keep going. Social relations are incredibly complicated I found. Instead of dealing with an issue or moving on with resolution, we tend to put a blind eye to things that bother us and that's considered also as a form of solution.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥
@@ollieewin4757 thank you Ollie, I will have a 👀 and I couldn't agree more with you ;)
Teal Swan is Much Loved 🥰
Hi Teal! The purse I bought from you is perfect for everything I need to do right now. I love having it with me everyday. :) ❤️
The universe.
This video's topic has been my concern and you have addressed it.
This video perfectly described my last relationship. I didn't even know people could deny a relationship has issues and this explains why.
Right on time. Thanks so much for sharing.
this is too accurate and really scary
I have experienced this, and their denial is so small that it is actually easier to separate yourself from the completely because if they disappear into their own reality then I won't even have a problem with them reappearing in my life. The Dad who does this is completely different, you can't just get rid of him because his denial is so strong that he can ruin allot of stuff just from being around.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉
You are awesome, this hit home in so many ways.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️🔥
Amazing juicy content! Another one to save!!! ♥️💯🙏🏾
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪
I love you teal. Thank God for you, for opening our eyes. ❤❤❤ I wish I could live in you community....
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥
Wow! This just came up with a friend's friend. He took us out for a day trip and hijacked us for the whole weekend. It was horrible. He wouldn't listen to anything we told him. Finally, when he was passed out drunk, we drove home.
Thanks Teal Swan your amazing...and I love the ending song 🎵 your 🎮 game
Thankyou teal and co 🙏
Literally 2 min in and I’m like >this is me🤔
For real, I’m having this exact problem right now in my life. Wow. Thanks for this video 😌
There is also the other side where instead of pretending like nothings wrong we can pretend like nothings right.
Victim mentality...two sides of a vicious cycle.
my boyfriend used to say to me that I am rude when I do not want to hug him and I have a bad day and I need personal space but he sheds his mental problems on me and I am fed up with being alone and I have not been able to stand alone for some time to work I'm afraid of people :(
Thank. You for confirming this.
Well, factually narcissists and codependents are not the same because there is empathy and a conscience, which separates them. You can discuss behaviours but putting them as one and the same is pretty heavy gaslighting.
That being said, I really loved the video otherwise! Thank you for all these informations, especially the ones we might not see when we're in the situation. 👍🏻🙏🏼👏🏼💖 Thank you, that was one of the most helpful and insightful videos recently. ⚘🐞
I actually agree that codependency and narcissism are the same. Being a codepen, i watched one of her videos last year (forget which one) and was shocked to hear this. They are the same because the motives are the same--and that is the desire for validation and attention. Once i swallowed that bitter pill and studied my behavior objectively i was able to get better control of my relationships and break this self-defeating pattern.❤
@@aquariusstar7248 You didn't hear what I tried to say. We can argue that patterns and motivations are similar in many ways but it is factually incorrect to say that they're the same. The existence of a moral conscience and empathy is the distinct difference in both the psychology and the actions of a person. To say that this doesn't exist or doesn't make a difference is gaslighting and victim shaming.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪
Go Teal. We love it.
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I tend to acknowledge my emotions but not make much more of them than what they are, emotions or experiences wether spiritual or neuro-chemically; it doesn’t actually matter which.
I also remember my past, but don’t dwell on it unless giving it a positive-comedic twist that aligns with the direction I am bringing my life in.
wow I needed this 😳
This is so in line with my Landlord situation right now. Thank you 🙏
Thank you teal I really needed to hear this.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪
You are such a gem! Love you and your work! Have been following you for the last 7 years! So much so rich such content 😻, amazing! Thank you ❣️
I have seen all these patterns with narcissitic individual yes that's true they dont want any relationship only supply.
And when I realized that I left.
It's so confusing because it seems like he really cares but obviously it's not real when he can discard me so easily.
Going through this right now
You’re “a sharp knife “I love you!!❤️Thank you!!🙏
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥
I think now childhood emotional neglect is the root of everything now. Fear of emotions and doing everything to get away from it.
Oh man. I needed this today! I was looking for this subject last night!!!
I want to ruin this relationship.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪
Solution #2 doesn’t work. A person who has anger & rage issues who gaslights you & blames you is NOT interested in hearing or acknowledging your perspective.
Interested? Or unable? Learning pains? Be the change. You get to choose to be a cause or an effect
I needed this. Thank you
This is your best relationship video so far
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️
this reminder came just at the right time :)
TEAL YOU ARE AN ANGEL 💛💛💛💛💛
When you grew up in an environment where getting angry is taboo. Pretending to be okay when not and tolerating disrespect, will become a second nature
Thank you Love !
I want to leave my husband but he doesn't want to talk, acting like nothing happens.
great video!!!!
Great video, thank you Teal.
Thank you so much. I shall do.
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️
The samurai, in their practice would meditate on their death. They would visualize being dismembered in every with way. Swords, explosive, ripped apart. This way, when they came to battle they would have already experienced it, therefore fearless. A basketball player does the same laying in bed, visualizing three pointers. Actors will visualize scenes. The archer, a bulls eye. In this way, you can be prepared for anything tomorrow may bring. Maybe we can say dreams are a way of doing thos for us as well?
Perfect timing
I adore you and your videos swan fantastic work that you do for humanity and the collective
Yeah I used think overly positive all the time so I could ‘manifest’ my dream, and it works, but there’s more to life than consciously planting positive thoughts! I had to let go of perfectionism to really move forward, I’ve also just posted a comedy skit on my UA-cam about letting go you might enjoy too! 🎉💥💪☯️
No I mean I'm tired of pretending I'm ok
I want to quit. It's hurting 💔
Thank you Teal 💖
I know you’ve been moving away from esoteric talk but can you explain what’s happening during sleep paralysis? I just got it again after years of not, and it was horrifying. Luckily I called on God and it instantly stopped. Causes? Preventions? Thank you
They’re psychological projections
I would like to hear her perspective too. I hadnt had one in years and had a series of them last year that was really intense! In the process i learned to surrender and use my mind to focus on a positive thought. Came again this year just a few months ago. This time both myself and the person in the dream experienced it. Was strange to watch sb else in the dream be paralyzed by an invisible entity. These moments lasted about 5 secs each and then gone. In the dream we just both looked at each other and telepathically decided to not give it attention to avoid giving it anymore power. Whatever the psych projection is must be diminishing.
@@aquariusstar7248 wow at you both experiencing 🤯 Mine are less than 10 secs too. I hear and feel things but thank goodness no visuals
Seriously - people can ‘debunk’ Teal all they like - but take some time to really absorb any one of her videos - this one was a doozy - and I defy anyone to say they don’t get some - or in fact immense - insight from it. Every. Single. Sentence. Delivers. Value. And. Truth. Anyone who can’t see this is either very inexperienced in life or very deluded.
A relationship must be based on something that is " real".....copied. Thank you very much for great video.
I've had bad blood one moment and then sought after the person or their supply, the next
Teal your gorgeous well put together . U look stunning I was think bang would be such a remarkable style and look
I really, really wonder off soaking in these episodes.
But, I set a stool in the corner of my room so if anything wants to, can sit down while I talk within the boundaries of my heart.
Am I pretending and building a false reality for myself? Doesn't my heart know what is real?
This video comes in my recommended while I was contemplating the situation with my supposed “twin flame”
Starting to reevaluate a looot of things…🧐🧐
Teal ✨🤩🤩🤩🤩✨